My doctor was surprised when I asked “How are you?” She said “Fine”, but it was said by rote. My voice tone dropped and I asked again, “No really, how are YOU doing?” She was surprised and almost cried. I won’t go into anything more … but I appreciate her
That is really lovely of you. I do that with my dr too, I go through a list of things, home life, work & just in general as I am his last patient & everyone has gone, he will sometimes tell me, he can sound a bit pissed off because he still has loads of calls to patients, he would be there for 7am & leaves well after 7pm, plus he works one or two shifts in emergency at the weekend, he does way too much & I know he is pissed off about being vaccinated, he said he had to otherwise he wouldn't be helping people like me, he warned me NO, glad I didn't get it.
My daughters neurosurgeon committed suicide after he operated on her we were devastated .He was a lovely caring man who suffered from depression .sometimes we forget they are humans who have illnesses too .
Sage choice for topic; I’ve worked in hospitals for 21 years and this is the first time I’ve heard this topic addressed. Veterinarians have high rates of suicide as do dentists. Two years ago our chief of outpatient medicine, a resident, committed suicide - a heart rending loss to his colleagues, nurses, and patients. You, Dr. K., are a breath of fresh air.
What an incredible doctor you are to be able to talk about this problem.I see an anaesthesiologist ,who runs a pain clinic ,and I don’t know how he does it,so just to show my appreciation I take him afternoon tea as I know he gives his all to making his patients feel better.It’s just one way I can say thank you and I always ask how he is,I have put my life in his hands ,so I hope one day it doesn’t get too much and he takes his life. Then I would be finished and my life would be over.❤
May I humbly share as a Registered Nurse and devout Christian, we are living in a fallen world. Healthcare providers are far from perfect, but are forced to portray that we have all the answers. God help us to be real and do the very best that we can under the realistic circumstances. This is a wonderful share. Thank you!
I could not agree more with you. We have - my husband and I - been unbelievably, miraculously blessed with Christian physicians. I had a very big valve sparing root aneurysm repair. The large ATAA that I had was found accidentally and caused by a congenital BAV which I never knew i had my whole life. I was referred to Tomas Martin, director of the heart hospital, at UF Shands, Gainesville, FL. I researched him and he always prays with his patients. I don't see how a surgeon, for any amount of brilliance, could do such amazing work without believing it 'isn't just me'. Dr. Martin believes that his shills are all for God's glory. Knowing his faith gave such peace to me going into surgery. As a cardiothoracic surgeon responsible for this kind of surgery, knowing where his abilities come from must be a real comfort for him as well.
Sadly these issues are similar in Australia. I worked for many years with highly esteemed university's medical school. I was genuinely shocked at the unwritten rules of hierarchy that fostered an underlying culture of bullying. Insidious and hard to define. No education for staff or students around this subject either even in the 21st century. Doctors (and nurses and allied health and their support staff ) are humans. The Oncologist who treated the breast cancer I experienced killed himself a few years ago at age 50. All those years studying and then gaining experience lost. Yes I cried when I heard. He was also affiliated with the same university. Thank you for speaking with us about this difficult and sad subject.
The bullying in professional industries from higher education to medicine is another whole can of worms.. another video. I thi k he may have touched on at times but not an overview. It's so true that there are tons of forums for people to try to support each other through it before they break
My granddaughter's dentist father-in-law took his own life 3 weeks ago. Crushing. Terribly sad. Her little man just turned one and grandpa is on the other side. He had published a book about depression a couple years ago. Thought he beat depression. Pray for these families. 💙
I had one doctor in the military that actually was concerned about my well being after another surgeon botched my hip surgery. Their is a code of silence which I've noticed within the doctor community that they will not speak ill of another severe errors. Thats the problem is this quota system that harms people.
I was always concerned just as much about our Soldiers mental health as much as physical health. Especially Medic who has so much to deal with. Even years later the PTSD affects health. The ability to access healthcare. I made a nurse cry by just asking her how she was doing today. How are you coping. She said no one has asked her how she was for weeks. Now I always ask how my Doc is doing. Acknowledging healthcare systems do not look after the physicians well being.
That goes for most professions I would think. It would be incredibly unprofessional anywhere to speak ill of a peer, even more so if they were not present during the procedure or involved in any way. Even if a doctor did internally question the judgement of another doctor who performed a procedure, it would be incredibly rash for them to make an assumption and if they expressed that to a patient I would consider that a big red flag!! Talking badly of a peer, especially a doctor who went through just as much training and education as you did, and to a patient??! To me, as a patient, that would signify some sort of fragile ego, lack of confidence, narcissistic traits, unprofessionalism and questionable judgement. There would just be no useful purpose in talking badly of a peer to a patient
I've learned every professional I dustey has a code .. of silence thats upheld or you will lose everything you worked your whole life to achieve.. I also learned there ARE ways to put sand in fears to minimize harm and change small things without being a whistle-blower . Protecting the patient despite the code
COULD YOU DO A SHOW ON PTSD. I NEVER WENT TO WAR OR I AM NOT MILITARY, BUT I SPENT 25 YEARS IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP MOSTLY MENTALLY. WE ARE BLESSED TO HAVE YOU IN OUR LIFE. 🎉❤
Hi Dr. I'm really surprised that you're talking about such a sensitive but, important issue. People that are slightly older are used to thinking of doctors as being perfect. I struggle with my parents to help them to understand that they're just people too and you can ask them questions. I remember my late husband telling me that dentists were among the highest in suicides. I never really thought about doctors. My daughter is in the medical field and I can tell how much of her heart she puts into her job and that it's easy to get burned out. Also, when one of her patients passes away it hits her hard and there's no time to recover. I think it's really brave of you to make this video. My Hope Is that people will be more sensitive and patient with their doctors. It can't be easy having to be so strong and reassuring to everyone all the time. They have to remember to take time for themselves. My late husband was a psychotherapist and he used to tell me that doctors often have to seek therapy. Everybody needs to vent. Thank you for another awesome video!!
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I hope your daughter is empowered to advocate for herself. You have great wisdom and insight into the medical profession, I can tell! 🙏
KNOW THAT: YOU ARE CREATED BY THE SAME CREATOR As Everyone Else... AND YES, YOU ARE HUMAN. You Do Need to Decompress Often. Please Do This for Yourself. ❤ BLESSINGS OF SHALOM.
We dont have time to be patient when we're with the dr we have 15 min at the most to relay whats going on with our body. Since the pandemic we have discovered it doesnt matter how you feel or whats going on your dr is required to prescribe whatever meds they are currently selling and they must relay the same propaganda as the media or lose their license I never ever go to the dr and I've instructed my family in the end Do Not take me to a hospital. I have plenty of horror stories over the year with physicians Im 62 now and I do not trust the medical profession and caution anyone I can you are literally putting your life in the hands of a very corrupt profession God Bless
Veternairy Medicine also has seen many suicides. We lost a veternairian in my hometown who took his life. Fortunately the community of other vet professionals stepped in to help his family who his clinic employed, to help keep the practice going.
When I was in early 20's our family dr who was treating me admitted he made a mistake in my diagnosis. I thanked him for telling me. It was no big deal. Kept going to him til he retired. To me he was an excellent doctor, never in a rush, listened & cared. He was more of a father to me than my dad.
I usually get my doctors laughing and feeling appreciated by the time I leave my appointment. They start paying better attention before the appointment ends.
When Dr Eric S Williams (Electrophysiologist) in St. Louis died a few years ago by suicide it was heart breaking. He had top notch credentials. When brilliant Doctors like you guys fall victims to mental illness, it give us less gifted people feelings like we are all doomed. You are a genuine dude. And, us patients need you and truly respect your abilities. USA health care is a screwed up mess. Thank you for practicing medicine. I had total knee replacement one month ago. I loved my Anesthesiologist.
The US medical system seems to be collapsing. Most probably because physician practices are being bought out by humongous companies (hospitals, too). I loved the small-town general practitioner. The best I've ever had.
Wow that is shocking. I can see where drs might have anxiety and depression because of lack of quality sleep, super long and irregular hours, marriage problems due to partners having so little time together. It must be rough
It’s exactly the same in Canada. You’re rich, an athlete, politician......you don’t have to wait for anything you go right at the top of the list. Sickening when other have to wait weeks and month in other to have an MRI or wait to see a specialist.. Keep up the good work Doctor, love listening to you.💖🇨🇦
I hope with all my heart you don't get banned for your transparency .... I love your honesty. Honesty never hurt anyone more than a lie.... I need to return to my comment after listening to this entire video ... I just want to thank you with some depth of appreciation... The world seems to believe cover-up the errors because people will lose trust in the medical field ..."flaws should never be revealed". That doesn't make sense ... transparency corrects mistakes and helps people get well. Damn I have so much to say here.... this brokenness is not just limited to healthcare... banking, judicial system, pilots, flight, attendants etc... this is a pandemic of broken trust... how do we establish trust.... by honesty... I'm going to return and add some personal experiences. You're the BEST!!!
Yes honesty when mistakes or wrong doing in business, hospitals, politics, police and banks it's just standard operating procedure to lie and denying. They don't think twice about it while looking you in the eye with a smile.
I have always said that “I am my best advocate.” No one knows your body than you! You live in it 24/7 and the physician only gets to see you for 15/30 minutes at a time. Always tell your doctor “Thank you” if he/she has helped you in anyway no matter how slight, it’s still to make you feel better.
I am going through this right now. I am changing my PCP due to lack of care, being dismissed, not listening to me(I know my body) AND absolutely NO follow-up. I received an email from the owner of the clinic wanting me to take a survey on my care from my doctor. (There are 15 PCP's in this clinic - 10-15 minutes per patient) I was honest about what I have endured for a year and a half including medical gaslighting. All of a sudden, the doctor is calling wanting to see me for a 30 minute visit because he was concerned about my health (NO. HE LOST MY TRUST). His nurses called everyday for a week. I've found a new PCP I see next week. I feel bad for the PCP I left. He is in a business pressure cooker, that I had to suffer for. Physician, DO NO HARM, TO ME OR YOURSELF. SAD😔
I am sorry for what you have/are going through. Is a PCP a Personal Care Physician? I know what you are talking about, I am so lucky to have such a great dr who is so open minded, he is English like me, he does his own research he even mentioned micro dosing with magic mushrooms to me last visit 2 weeks ago but he said he still needs to do more research, I doubt they have become legal here in Australia. I did watch the dock on Netflix called "Changing Your Mind" I think. I referred my son in laws' cousin to him, I could read into the questions she was asking me about him that she had breast cancer & she said she hates drs, I never let on to her I guessed. Moving forward 4 years & because of her hate for drs she refused to go for chemo, he isn't a big believer in chemo, I think he tells me these kind of things because a) he can trust me & b) because of my previous position as Practice Manager, paying, hiring & firing drs, plus I knew his brother who is also a dr. There is a very tight click where I live, yes a massive country but they all know of, or heard of each other from referrals or medical conventions etc. He was telling me at one visit quite some time ago that a hospital Oncologist had reported him to AHPRA --- Australian Health Practitioner Regulation Agency who can & do strip drs of their medical licence. He had been reported because his patient refused chemo at the time, I said well that's the patient's decision, you can't force them to go. I guessed the patient was the culprit. I saw her at soccer sitting in the passenger seat with a carer at the wheel watching her daughter from the car as she could no longer walk as the cancer had spread quite some time previous to her pelvis. I guess she felt she could confide in me telling me that the cancer had now spread to her brain because of my own brain tumour. She also told me how she got our dr in trouble by refusing chemo & then changed her mind, I guess this Oncologist thought she may have had more of a chance doing the treatment. The point I am trying to make is it's simple, they can't do anything to him, the patient supports him, it was her choice BUT because he is known for his alternative treatments he is hated by the rest of the medical profession & they want him gone. Sorry to carry on but an example is, he believes me when I told him that Gadolinium (MRI Contrast) does not leave the body like they say "the kidneys will remove it from your body in 24hrs, drink plenty of water. Which is total BS. I have it in writing from a Radiology Lecturer & Researcher that there is no biological pathway for it to excrete. My dr is happy to treat me if I could get more information. I was in touch with "world expert" on Gadolinium Deposition Disease in the US Dr Richard Semelka who advised me not to try chelation therapy because of my anaphylaxis to it a couple years back, I was at high risk maybe even being fatal trying to remove this rare earth metal which is used to make microwaves & freezers from my body. So I know what it means especially talking to & reading the stories of the desperate people in America who are in so much pain as it stores everywhere in the body. A Neurosurgery Reg told me my brain lights up like a Christmas tree. So to have a good dr is such a privilege. One dr I worked with said so many drs only qualify because they have a good memory. And finally this Oncologist told the cousin "you only have a few weeks to live". I asked if he told her just like that, she said "exactly like that." Good luck with your new dr, I would be intrigued though what your previous dr has to say after requesting half hour consult with you.
Your story mirrors the experience of so many- and unfortunately is way more widespread and prevalent than just in medicine. I left my former job because of a similar situation- but as an employee. Never in my six years working there, did the regional manager or any of those "big dogs" ever try to speak with me. The one time they came to the office I worked in, they looked like kids in a field trip- they had absolutely no prior experience in the field of the business they were running- not a single clue what was going on. When I got sick of decisions being made by dissociated suits and ties and put in my notice, all of a sudden they were emailing me and calling me and sending me surveys every other day, for months. Surveys! 😂 If they had a clue about the field of business they claim to be running or bothered to ever meet or listen to the people who worked there day after day, they wouldnt need a survey. And good workers wouldn't be quitting. It's almost comical how frantic they get the second they actually listen to the people. Where was all that time and effort when it counted?
Hey doc I’m really glad you did this live, omg it’s such an important issue! To reiterate what was kinda said over and over, doctors (you) are human beings, like me and your patients, and these mental health problems can creep up and then boom 💥!! You advocate for so many things, I have no doubt this is included. There couldn’t be a better person to advocate, I wish you and your fellow providers nothing but the best, I hope if ANYONE NEEDS HELP THEY GET IT BEFORE THE DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR BEGINS! Take care of yourself Doc K…
I had a Chiropractor who commited suicide. I went to him for several years and felt like I knew him. I had a very hard time processing the shock and sadness. I hope you're voice is heard in the halls of our government.
I knew an anesthesiologist who was a fentanyl addict. It really sucked because he was a good anesthesiologist that had back issues. The hospital we worked for was great, they sent him for treatment. He couldn’t practice anymore in surgery and that sucks! He was well liked by everyone. I left the Health System so I don’t know what happened to him outside of hearing he became a consultant. Drs are put under so much pressure and I’ve seen some changes in the health care system but not enough. Drs are still paid less to do more and it’s a messed up system all together. This is why there is such a shortage of some types of physicians. PCPs, Family practice, and more. You are a good man for talking about this because it’s not something that is widely known. ❤
DR CAVEH , THANK YOU FOR BEING SUCH AN AMAZING DOC ,AND FOR GIVING US ALL THIS NEW WELL EXPLAINED IMFORMATION , LOVE YOUR TRANSPARENCY . MAY GOD BLESS YOU.
I’m a retired RN. I worked on a cardiac stepdown unit with a brilliant young cardiologist who was sought after for his knowledge and wonderful bedside manner. We were all shocked and saddened to find out one morning that he had committed suicide over the weekend. The truth finally came out - he had become addicted to painkillers. This young man was the last person in the world we would have suspected. Our community lost a brilliant, caring doctor that day. I will withhold his name for privacy but want to say RIP Dr. *******
Thank you for being brave enough to speak up. The 'leaders' in our country have let us down on so many different levels. Nursing homes are broken, too.
I really appreciate my physician, I saw a video how he did my operation online! And I thought how awesome, the skill the wisdom and the knowledge! I pray for my doctor, all my doctors. That God would keep them and take care of them physically emotionally mentally and spiritually. I appreciate you to doctor oh, God bless you!
I really appreciate all this and I hope you are doing well take care of yourself not only for your sake but your family and your patients we don’t need to lose good Doctors like you
Thank you for this video. I had my doctor of 15 years use me to get his drugs legally. I broke my femur due to a horse accident then rebroke it 2 more times in 6 months. I spent a year in the hospitals over this. After I got out my doctor wanted to write meds for pain, but I was not doing it. He then wrote meds under my name and had another pharmacy send them to his office. The DEA wanted to know why I was taking extreme amounts of pain meds. That's when my doctor got arrested and confessed he has strung out on them himself. He had to go to treatment and be disciplined. I had to get another doctor because of him. I'm in control of my health but trust is gone.
I am now disabled/retired, but as an RN that had such a stressful job. For example as the only RN (BSN) in the facilities I worked in, mostly with geriatric residents and over time transitioned to less nurses and more rehab and increased acuity of patients, the entire staff would be riding my license, I'd be the supervisor, and at times I would have up to 53 residents assigned to just myself that included an locked down dementia unit! One CNA per hall when we were lucky, but often they had a hall and a half to round on. During the evening meal I had to stop, lock up my medication cart (with a 2 hour window to still finish passing med.'s for all my residents), and feed 2 - 3 patients. And put on top of that emergencies, answering call lights, directing the staff, and putting out all kinds of fires. And the staff were often not supportive to each other, but just nasty. I've even had my life threatened by a male tech that I caught suffocating a helpless resident. So I totally get the stress aspect! On top of all the nursing alone duties WE NURSES were responsible for the orders the Dr.'s wrote or called in...yep. If they got it wrong it was up to us to catch their mistakes and tell them what to order! We were always the scapegoats and caught all the blame for every single little thing. In the mornings as we got off work on the 13 hour+ night shifts it felt like I had a thousand daggers in my back. I decided at some point to try to turn the attitudes around with positive reinforcement. I struggled to find staff doing something good and catch them at it and give them a good word, smile, pat on the back...whatever it took. I would stand at the time clock and thank each person as they left. Sometimes putting up a sign I made to say you are the best team! Great job tonight! anything to bring us up and out of that back biting and negative attitude that short staffed, overworked, and physically in pain and exhausted nurses and techs would be. I really tried hard to be not just a good nurse but a good leader. It was HARD. I pushed myself so hard, and I was a tiny person but I did the work of a grown man when it came to lifting patients and doing team work with my techs and other nurses. Pushing heavy beds and med carts and lifts...my little back is a mess and my hips are bone on bone...I have to use a wheelchair to leave the house in now to go to Dr.'s appointments...the only time I leave my home. I have had, and do have suicidal ideations...but would prefer it if Jesus would call me home before I have to do it myself. No need to report me, I'm not going to kill myself...that is a plan if something were to happen to my husband. I have no loved ones or friends that care about me that would come help me. I have no one, nor could I manage on my own in this state. I've suffered in chronic severe pain for decades now and I'm just done. DNR would be the tattoo for me! lol right on my chest. Seriously though, I hope I go first, as my husband is still able to handle things. I wouldn't be able to. No pity party, I didn't mean to write all that. I'm just venting and this is what little old people do I guess when they live mostly isolated.
Love this. When I went through my cancer journey 20 years ago learning how some of my self care attributed to me getting g cancer, I noticed when friends died loved ones wanted to blame someone & often it was the dr. they blamed, when it wasn't the dr.s fault. So complicated
The stress is real!!! Because of the times we're living in, it's not surprising that depression is off the charts. I'm a retired nurse and have worked with doctors and nurses who committed suicide. They just know couldn't handle living anymore. anymore. I totally get it.
Hello Dr, I’m new here. A cousin of mine recommended me watching you because I’m on the path of going to med school to be an anesthesiologist as well. I work right now as a surgical tech currently and I absolutely love you videos. I’m currently binge watching all of them lol. Very informative and thanks alot for this.
Why isn't this part of the national conversation. Is this the reason I feel that I have been getting poor treatment that has nearly harmed me. Luckily my daughters are nurses and when I described the symptoms from the antibiotics that the doctor kept telling me to continue told me to discontinue asap. I left those doctors alone from this point. That can give a person PTSD and no trust in any doctor. You sound like a dedicated doctor who is getting a bad name from those who you speak of that have given up on patients and themselves. Their will always be an appreciative patient doc that will let you know that you are👍👍👍🥇🥇🥇
So interesting to listen to. What a brilliant person you are. I have myself lived briefly in the US, lived and worked in hospitals in England, and now live and work in my own country Norway. We have much room for improvement here too, but I am so glad we have a National Health Service, paid for by our taxes.
I have asked my Dr's how they are ever since I had a major injury. As the years have gone on, they look more worn. Both of my sons are in the medical field and I am passing this video on. God bless all of you.
You're the first person I've ever heard mention this subject. It's going to take some time to be with. I see a difference between a doctor and a healer. Rarely they come together in a single package. You are very much both.
Some times I have doctors speak briefly about their health issues. As a patient it’s my responsibility to respond in a caring way by listening to them. Let them know I care for them as a person. They normally do not involve their personal issues. Very sad to hear 1 in 7 harm themselves.
Thank you so much for your informative videos, your compassion, your passion for giving the best care possible and for helping patients understand the different aspects of the medical field. 2 days ago I underwent double radical mastectomy with lymphnode removal. Somehow one of your videos came up in suggested videos without my even searching for the topic of anesthesia. I call it a God thing. Your videos helped make my surgery less scary and helped me trust my surgeons, anesthesiologist, and nurses more than before. God bless you and yours❤😊 🙏🤗
This is why we loose combat medics after they finish military service. PTSD Arthritis painful conditions. Cancers due to exposure to Chemical weapons. Survivors guilt. Not being able to treat and save everyone in the field. My heart goes out to All Doctors/surgeons. Field medics. EMTs Trauma staff.
Truer words have never been spoken! I cannot disagree on any of your points. The system is broken. I’m currently looking for PCP #8. The important thing is Patients should be their own advocate especially when you get to be a senior adult. Thank you again for all wisdom you share.
Great live stream man!! I learned a lot! I really wanted to be a anesthesiologist, I really enjoy donating to the anesthesiologist Foundation, since it was hard for me to go to college because of my cerebral palsy! I would have been a great anesthesiologist physician, I can handle stress really well! I don’t get stressed out!! I look up to anesthesiologist! You rock man!
As a nurse practitioner I often put on a happy face while secretly suffering from crushing depression. I am going for my first ketamine treatment on Monday. 🙏
Thank you. I recently started watching your videos. Really opening my eyes. I will be having surgery April 24th. Mass on my Pancras, Dr doesn't think cancerous. But will be talking the tail end and my spleen out. Spleen due to blood issue. I must say I'm very concerned after watching different videos. Especially now that it's getting closer. Your videos are needed. Much success with your continued work. And if you're not busy on the 24th come on over to Cleveland Clinic. My pleasure. Lol. 😊😊
Excellent channel! Love all the enlightenment in a very approachable healthy conversational experience! I love how your open and educational topics always draw me in to hear more! Your truly a great doctor!
You are so interesting and particularly genuine. The world needs more people like yourself. Thank you for being transparent about “The unattractive truth” of the matter.
I worked in the medical field as a medical lab technologist and have seen firsthand what the stress and demand on medical professionals does to their physical and mental health. I also have learned that I have to be an advocate for my own health. I have taken family members with me to be extra ears and eyes, when contemplating surgeries/procedures. I had a surgeon I have worked with and known for a long time tell me that it is your body and your money and you need to make decisions of who you see, what you have done to your body and not be bullied by a medical professional. I have been fortunate to have some wonderful medical professionals caring for me, but I also take time to care for them with cards of appreciation, words of appreciation, and some treats dropped off/given at the time of the visit can turn their day around. Thank you for speaking on this sensitive but very important topic. Enjoy your videos and keep educating/informing us.👍👏😊❤️
Interesting things I learned when I volunteered at a Crisis Clinic Line in the states back in the 90's. At that time Doctors' had the highest suicide rates, followed by Police and then I think lawyers. I stopped here to google what the rate is today (as I haven't as yet listened to this post). Turns out Doctors' are still the highest, that just breaks my heart and boggles my mind. But now Dentists' have joined the list at No 2 and Lawyers' have jumped up from No 8 to No 3. The other thing of note that stuck with me is that if it is suicide by gun, men shoot themselves in the head (to make sure its done right) and women shoot themselves in the heart bcos they don't want their face to be decimated. I also learned of how people will overtly tell you that's what they are going to do or they will covertly show you that's what they are planning to do by giving you nice memories or trinkets of theirs you liked or photos of you together younger etc. They will literally sign post that they are planning suicide and if you don't recognise the signs and intercede, they will commit suicide. One of the biggest indicators of this, is a huge lift in mood shortly before their suicide along with the gift giving or great memory making. The reason for this lift is because they have sorted the problem out, there is an end in sight now and they want their last days or weeks with loved ones to be happy. That is why it is always a good thing to ask them what is going on with them and also ask if they are planning suicide.The mind is a fascinating thing.
Dr. I really appreciate your talks and honesty about various subjects. You seem to be such a kind and caring person, I pray that this broken system doesn’t harm you. I’m 60 yo and recently disabled and am I’m chronic pain for the last 3 years. You are so spot on about the importance of advocating for yourself as a patient. Sometimes when I see a new specialist since many of my systems are failing I almost don’t have the energy it takes to get to the office let alone carefully ask questions in such a way as not to make the dr not want to provide care or go the extra mile that I require. Bless you.❤️
Wow Doctor K, I’ve been waiting your vids for over a couple months now. I live in NY state, I wish all doctors were exactly like you! Your very truthful! I have been waiting for five years to get my hip replaced. I want a certain anesthesiologist that saved my life back twenty years ago. I have been from orthopedic doctor to doctor. I cant get the a doctor I want for an anesthesiologist I Do you travel? Lol just joking. I’ve had many surgeries I know a good doc from a just so doc upon wake up. Im glad for the information you provide! Only one doctor went thru the explanation of the meds used during surgery! That was years ago in North Carolina! But Im watching you and sharing your videos with my friends and family! God bless you buddy!🙏👍
Whats up Doc . You are the epitomy of an amazing doctor as well as an amazing human being. Currently binge watching your videos. Spent many years in health care and i appreciate your honesty. You are a legend for educating and sharing your knowledge with us all. In case you cant tell I am now a devoted subscriber. Thank you Doctor.....🥰
When big business took over healthcare and obliterated sole practitioners by giving them incentives to join groups or making it too expensive to continue as sole practitioners i.e. having to convert to electronic medical records etc., healthcare took a turn for the worse (it went pear shaped) The whole system is falling apart. So everyone may now have healthcare insurance (maybe) but there is not sufficient healthcare for everyone.Sad and scary.
Thank you for this video. Doctors truly give so much time to their work. I didn’t realize they get in trouble for not seeing enough patients. No wonder they are always in a rush. This is not a humane way for doctors to be forced to work under. I have been fortunate to see some really good doctors who take the time and listen to my concerns and questions. I had one doctor put his hand on my arm and tell me to let him worry about my health. He told me it was his job to worry and figure things out. I was so comforted by this but after listening to this video I understand just how under appreciated and overworked they are. It’s heartbreaking.
Maybe it’s time to stop calling it “committing suicide” and instead call it “ending one’s life”. It is no longer considered a crime and never should’ve been considered one. Someone suffering so greatly deserves respect and compassion. Not condemnation.
It must be a very difficult career, drs, surgeons, dentists etc etc etc....i cant imagine the stress snd expectations. What a heavy heavy load. One slip, an accidental death under your csre.......
Thank you dear doctor. I went for decades with symptoms that finally were diagnosed as MS by MRI. I cannot tell you how many times I felt that the chart notes must have included (this woman is crazy). I am sure there were times they thought I was seeking drugs, and I have to laugh because I do not even take acataminaphen for a headache. It took a nurse practitioner in a very back water small town, to send me to a neurologist for the MRI, when I called her in a panic because I felt so dizzy I thought we were having an earthquake and was afraid to drive home. She did not brush me off, even though it was at the end of the day. She believed me that my symptoms were real and quite severe at that point. She had to be tired from seeing patients all day, but she found that human part of her and treated me accordingly. I am forever grateful to her for her professionalism and kindness, and for ignoring some derogatory chart notes that might have been lurking there. No one was more bowled over by this diagnosis than I was, but on the other hand, I wanted to send these results to every doctor who could not think out of the box at all, and imagine that perhaps I was not imagining my symptoms. I cried, more from relief, than grief, that this was going to change my life in ways I could not imagine. OK, so all this was the result of physicians not listening to me, and I suffered a long time for it. My hat is off to all the hard working nurse practitioners and doctors, who still manage to retain their hearts, and their humanity, when the truth is, this profession is not fit for anyone with an ounce of compassion. Something has got to chance for us all.
I have met many anesthesiologists who committed suicide over the years with medications obtained through work environment. It is very sad, as a healthcare provider, we are all affected by this. Thanks for bring attention to his matter.
Thank you so much for all you do as an exceptional doctor and AMAZING you tube creator. Your videos are so informative and it would be wonderful if more doctors were like you. I really wish you were the anesthesiologist for my surgery.
Thank you, I agree with you I'm not ok with this broken system! Let's all use our voice and speak out, keep bringing your voice to open forum, you have everyone's attention and is highly needed to to shine light, what's been hush, hush under the table. I've been speaking out and it's great when I hear other's are speaking up talking on sensitive subject that's more common then might think, helps keeps me encouraged. Bless you brother
Thank you for addressing this. I'm an RN and yes, where I receive care, the MD must see a pt for 10 minutes then move on. I'm surprised my Dr. even knows me.
Young Sir: I am hearing you and feeling deeply concerned about you (and others). What you are saying could be about you! I am seeing this time/money crunch in real life. Even there, it is ugly and as an older (73) person, I observe with deep concern. It must be possible to CHANGE professions or go back n sabbatical as a mental health "treatment". God bless you. Love you all.
This is fantastic this is better than just a comment this meant a lot hopefully people understand that isn't just you it's the bureaucrats that decide what you do
It’s very difficult when your scheduled to go in for surgery at 8am and it’s after Noon and have gone threw a shift chance and haven’t seen your Dr. or anesthesiologist as I’m trying to control my growing anxiety and nurses are very busy and have no information. Finally I went into a full blown embarrassing panic attack, one were it’s hard to catch your breath and your crying and only thoughts were to leave. Next thing I remember, I’m in the recovery room crying hysterically, Etc! Etc! NOW I’m supposed to go in for a breast biopsy. It’s been 3 months and trying to overcome this fear! My hospital experiences have not gone well for me! Anyways, glad I found your podcasts, your knowledge and explanations has helped but still at this point I still would rather get hit by a bus than go to a hospital for anything! If your not one to speak up for yourself in my 72 years of life and healthcare has become overwhelmingly frustrating and inhumane and insurance companies are an impossible nightmare to try an navigate. Also just a note, I don’t remember ever meeting my anesthesiologists before surgery or after, only nurses unless they didn’t identify themselves.
Yes! We don’t get introduced to the anesthesiologist. My last surgery was a room filled with 10+ people and the only one I knew was my doctor. All the rest never spoke to me.
I highly appreciate your videos Dr. K. I watched quite a few before going in to my procedure. Very routine, but it involved my spine, and it was my first time under anesthesia, so I was Terrified. But, I said a Prayer, went under, woke up next to my gf (who I proposed to 3 times under anesthesia), and for some reason I feel this overwhelming sensation of Empowerment. Thank you for your very insightful videos. I'm going to keep watching
Doctor you are the best.. The anaesthesiologist is the most important during the operation and I bow to all anaesthesiologist in the waist..❤️❤️❤️❤️thank you Doctor you save many life’s..😘😘😘
Thank you for your honesty and bravery in posting this! It may take me some time, but I hope it's okay if I contact you off this public forum, say your website.😀 Sadly, advocating for yourself is not enough, even in DC.
I worked in a drs offices for years. They're human, they lose their cool at times. They hurt their office staff. I also went to a course about activated patients the only dr who has patients that can't or won't tell them what they feel is a vet.
Thank you so much for sharing this information.everyone talk about how much many doctors do but nobody talk about this really. Now I understand that some time I see doctors who looks the doesn’t understand or doesn’t care what information I given about my symptoms and ending up going to see another doctor because the first one did find any good treatment for me . Thank you so much for educational videos.
My husband was a D.O. and basically committed suicide. My son who wasn't a doctor fought the devil. My favorite statement..." suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem"
One of my 2nd cousins was a neurosurgeon and we lost him 15 years ago. His son is now at Tulane to become a Dr, possibly surgeon. I've also worked in the veterinarian field, as a vet tech and unfortunately Veterinarian suicide is also very common and extremely overlooked
My doctor was surprised when I asked “How are you?”
She said “Fine”, but it was said by rote.
My voice tone dropped and I asked again, “No really, how are YOU doing?”
She was surprised and almost cried. I won’t go into anything more … but I appreciate her
That is really lovely of you. I do that with my dr too, I go through a list of things, home life, work & just in general as I am his last patient & everyone has gone, he will sometimes tell me, he can sound a bit pissed off because he still has loads of calls to patients, he would be there for 7am & leaves well after 7pm, plus he works one or two shifts in emergency at the weekend, he does way too much & I know he is pissed off about being vaccinated, he said he had to otherwise he wouldn't be helping people like me, he warned me NO, glad I didn't get it.
Thank you so much.
Bless you. Thank you 💜
My daughters neurosurgeon committed suicide after he operated on her we were devastated .He was a lovely caring man who suffered from depression .sometimes we forget they are humans who have illnesses too .
So 😢sad!!!
That is devastating, I'm so sorry.
Everyone is so much more sad and feeling powerless in this industry than ever before
Sage choice for topic; I’ve worked in hospitals for 21 years and this is the first time I’ve heard this topic addressed. Veterinarians have high rates of suicide as do dentists. Two years ago our chief of outpatient medicine, a resident, committed suicide - a heart rending loss to his colleagues, nurses, and patients. You, Dr. K., are a breath of fresh air.
What an incredible doctor you are to be able to talk about this problem.I see an anaesthesiologist ,who runs a pain clinic ,and I don’t know how he does it,so just to show my appreciation I take him afternoon tea as I know he gives his all to making his patients feel better.It’s just one way I can say thank you and I always ask how he is,I have put my life in his hands ,so I hope one day it doesn’t get too much and he takes his life. Then I would be finished and my life would be over.❤
May I humbly share as a Registered Nurse and devout Christian, we are living in a fallen world. Healthcare providers are far from perfect, but are forced to portray that we have all the answers. God help us to be real and do the very best that we can under the realistic circumstances. This is a wonderful share. Thank you!
I could not agree more with you. We have - my husband and I - been unbelievably, miraculously blessed with Christian physicians. I had a very big valve sparing root aneurysm repair. The large ATAA that I had was found accidentally and caused by a congenital BAV which I never knew i had my whole life. I was referred to Tomas Martin, director of the heart hospital, at UF Shands, Gainesville, FL. I researched him and he always prays with his patients. I don't see how a surgeon, for any amount of brilliance, could do such amazing work without believing it 'isn't just me'. Dr. Martin believes that his shills are all for God's glory. Knowing his faith gave such peace to me going into surgery. As a cardiothoracic surgeon responsible for this kind of surgery, knowing where his abilities come from must be a real comfort for him as well.
Anesthesiologists ROCK! You guys play such a pivotal role in medicine!!!
Thank you for the kind comments! 🙏
@@MedicalSecrets I agree
Sadly these issues are similar in Australia. I worked for many years with highly esteemed university's medical school. I was genuinely shocked at the unwritten rules of hierarchy that fostered an underlying culture of bullying. Insidious and hard to define. No education for staff or students around this subject either even in the 21st century. Doctors (and nurses and allied health and their support staff ) are humans. The Oncologist who treated the breast cancer I experienced killed himself a few years ago at age 50. All those years studying and then gaining experience lost. Yes I cried when I heard. He was also affiliated with the same university.
Thank you for speaking with us about this difficult and sad subject.
The bullying in professional industries from higher education to medicine is another whole can of worms.. another video. I thi k he may have touched on at times but not an overview. It's so true that there are tons of forums for people to try to support each other through it before they break
My granddaughter's dentist father-in-law took his own life 3 weeks ago. Crushing. Terribly sad. Her little man just turned one and grandpa is on the other side. He had published a book about depression a couple years ago. Thought he beat depression. Pray for these families. 💙
That is so sad. They go to college for years and years. Why? Because they wanted to help people. They wanted to make a difference. 🙏🏼
So sorry for your loss.
@@1houndgal 💞Bless your heart.
Prayers
@@cherylkat2342 💞
I had one doctor in the military that actually was concerned about my well being after another surgeon botched my hip surgery. Their is a code of silence which I've noticed within the doctor community that they will not speak ill of another severe errors. Thats the problem is this quota system that harms people.
I was always concerned just as much about our Soldiers mental health as much as physical health. Especially Medic who has so much to deal with. Even years later the PTSD affects health. The ability to access healthcare. I made a nurse cry by just asking her how she was doing today. How are you coping. She said no one has asked her how she was for weeks. Now I always ask how my Doc is doing. Acknowledging healthcare systems do not look after the physicians well being.
That goes for most professions I would think. It would be incredibly unprofessional anywhere to speak ill of a peer, even more so if they were not present during the procedure or involved in any way. Even if a doctor did internally question the judgement of another doctor who performed a procedure, it would be incredibly rash for them to make an assumption and if they expressed that to a patient I would consider that a big red flag!! Talking badly of a peer, especially a doctor who went through just as much training and education as you did, and to a patient??! To me, as a patient, that would signify some sort of fragile ego, lack of confidence, narcissistic traits, unprofessionalism and questionable judgement.
There would just be no useful purpose in talking badly of a peer to a patient
It's the same in the lab. You're not supposed to question the results turned out by another tech. I, however, did.
I've learned every professional I dustey has a code .. of silence thats upheld or you will lose everything you worked your whole life to achieve.. I also learned there ARE ways to put sand in fears to minimize harm and change small things without being a whistle-blower . Protecting the patient despite the code
So sad to think of these doctors taking their own lives. God have mercy on them and on their heart broken families.
COULD YOU DO A SHOW ON PTSD.
I NEVER WENT TO WAR OR I AM NOT MILITARY, BUT I SPENT 25 YEARS IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP MOSTLY MENTALLY.
WE ARE BLESSED TO HAVE YOU IN OUR LIFE. 🎉❤
Same here
Hi Dr. I'm really surprised that you're talking about such a sensitive but, important issue. People that are slightly older are used to thinking of doctors as being perfect. I struggle with my parents to help them to understand that they're just people too and you can ask them questions. I remember my late husband telling me that dentists were among the highest in suicides. I never really thought about doctors. My daughter is in the medical field and I can tell how much of her heart she puts into her job and that it's easy to get burned out. Also, when one of her patients passes away it hits her hard and there's no time to recover. I think it's really brave of you to make this video. My Hope Is that people will be more sensitive and patient with their doctors. It can't be easy having to be so strong and reassuring to everyone all the time. They have to remember to take time for themselves. My late husband was a psychotherapist and he used to tell me that doctors often have to seek therapy. Everybody needs to vent. Thank you for another awesome video!!
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. I hope your daughter is empowered to advocate for herself. You have great wisdom and insight into the medical profession, I can tell! 🙏
KNOW THAT:
YOU ARE CREATED BY THE SAME CREATOR As Everyone Else... AND YES, YOU ARE HUMAN.
You Do Need to Decompress Often. Please Do This for Yourself. ❤
BLESSINGS OF SHALOM.
We dont have time to be patient when we're with the dr we have 15 min at the most to relay whats going on with our body. Since the pandemic we have discovered it doesnt matter how you feel or whats going on your dr is required to prescribe whatever meds they are currently selling and they must relay the same propaganda as the media or lose their license I never ever go to the dr and I've instructed my family in the end Do Not take me to a hospital. I have plenty of horror stories over the year with physicians Im 62 now and I do not trust the medical profession and caution anyone I can you are literally putting your life in the hands of a very corrupt profession God Bless
Veternairy Medicine also has seen many suicides. We lost a veternairian in my hometown who took his life. Fortunately the community of other vet professionals stepped in to help his family who his clinic employed, to help keep the practice going.
When I was in early 20's our family dr who was treating me admitted he made a mistake in my diagnosis. I thanked him for telling me. It was no big deal. Kept going to him til he retired. To me he was an excellent doctor, never in a rush, listened & cared. He was more of a father to me than my dad.
I usually get my doctors laughing and feeling appreciated by the time I leave my appointment. They start paying better attention before the appointment ends.
You are such a genuine, empathetic doctor. Take care of yourself and take Karma for outings you both enjoy. Self care so important.
Thank you for the kind comments! 🙏 Self preservation is so important, for all of us
When Dr Eric S Williams (Electrophysiologist) in St. Louis died a few years ago by suicide it was heart breaking. He had top notch credentials. When brilliant Doctors like you guys fall victims to mental illness, it give us less gifted people feelings like we are all doomed. You are a genuine dude. And, us patients need you and truly respect your abilities. USA health care is a screwed up mess. Thank you for practicing medicine. I had total knee replacement one month ago. I loved my Anesthesiologist.
I agree the U.S. is a messed up medical system.
The US medical system seems to be collapsing. Most probably because physician practices are being bought out by humongous companies (hospitals, too).
I loved the small-town general practitioner. The best I've ever had.
Wow that is shocking. I can see where drs might have anxiety and depression because of lack of quality sleep, super long and irregular hours, marriage problems due to partners having so little time together. It must be rough
I love your honesty! You are a wonderful anesthesiologist and any patient is blessed to have you. 💖💖💖💖💖
I love this podcast. Thanks
Agreed 👌.
It’s exactly the same in Canada. You’re rich, an athlete, politician......you don’t have to wait for anything you go right at the top of the list. Sickening when other have to wait weeks and month in other to have an MRI or wait to see a specialist..
Keep up the good work Doctor, love listening to you.💖🇨🇦
I hope with all my heart you don't get banned for your transparency .... I love your honesty. Honesty never hurt anyone more than a lie.... I need to return to my comment after listening to this entire video ... I just want to thank you with some depth of appreciation... The world seems to believe cover-up the errors because people will lose trust in the medical field ..."flaws should never be revealed". That doesn't make sense ... transparency corrects mistakes and helps people get well. Damn I have so much to say here.... this brokenness is not just limited to healthcare... banking, judicial system, pilots, flight, attendants etc... this is a pandemic of broken trust... how do we establish trust.... by honesty... I'm going to return and add some personal experiences. You're the BEST!!!
Yes honesty when mistakes or wrong doing in business, hospitals, politics, police and banks it's just standard operating procedure to lie and denying. They don't think twice about it while looking you in the eye with a smile.
I have always said that “I am my best advocate.” No one knows your body than you! You live in it 24/7 and the physician only gets to see you for 15/30 minutes at a time. Always tell your doctor “Thank you” if he/she has helped you in anyway no matter how slight, it’s still to make you feel better.
Very powerful experience!
I am going through this right now. I am changing my PCP due to lack of care, being dismissed, not listening to me(I know my body) AND absolutely NO follow-up. I received an email from the owner of the clinic wanting me to take a survey on my care from my doctor. (There are 15 PCP's in this clinic - 10-15 minutes per patient) I was honest about what I have endured for a year and a half including medical gaslighting. All of a sudden, the doctor is calling wanting to see me for a 30 minute visit because he was concerned about my health (NO. HE LOST MY TRUST). His nurses called everyday for a week. I've found a new PCP I see next week. I feel bad for the PCP I left. He is in a business pressure cooker, that I had to suffer for. Physician, DO NO HARM, TO ME OR YOURSELF. SAD😔
IMO PCP's are the worst. I don't even have a PCP as of now.
I am sorry for what you have/are going through. Is a PCP a Personal Care Physician? I know what you are talking about, I am so lucky to have such a great dr who is so open minded, he is English like me, he does his own research he even mentioned micro dosing with magic mushrooms to me last visit 2 weeks ago but he said he still needs to do more research, I doubt they have become legal here in Australia. I did watch the dock on Netflix called "Changing Your Mind" I think.
I referred my son in laws' cousin to him, I could read into the questions she was asking me about him that she had breast cancer & she said she hates drs, I never let on to her I guessed. Moving forward 4 years & because of her hate for drs she refused to go for chemo, he isn't a big believer in chemo, I think he tells me these kind of things because a) he can trust me & b) because of my previous position as Practice Manager, paying, hiring & firing drs, plus I knew his brother who is also a dr.
There is a very tight click where I live, yes a massive country but they all know of, or heard of each other from referrals or medical conventions etc.
He was telling me at one visit quite some time ago that a hospital Oncologist had reported him to AHPRA --- Australian Health Practitioner Regulation Agency who can & do strip drs of their medical licence.
He had been reported because his patient refused chemo at the time, I said well that's the patient's decision, you can't force them to go. I guessed the patient was the culprit. I saw her at soccer sitting in the passenger seat with a carer at the wheel watching her daughter from the car as she could no longer walk as the cancer had spread quite some time previous to her pelvis. I guess she felt she could confide in me telling me that the cancer had now spread to her brain because of my own brain tumour. She also told me how she got our dr in trouble by refusing chemo & then changed her mind, I guess this Oncologist thought she may have had more of a chance doing the treatment.
The point I am trying to make is it's simple, they can't do anything to him, the patient supports him, it was her choice BUT because he is known for his alternative treatments he is hated by the rest of the medical profession & they want him gone.
Sorry to carry on but an example is, he believes me when I told him that Gadolinium (MRI Contrast) does not leave the body like they say "the kidneys will remove it from your body in 24hrs, drink plenty of water. Which is total BS. I have it in writing from a Radiology Lecturer & Researcher that there is no biological pathway for it to excrete. My dr is happy to treat me if I could get more information. I was in touch with "world expert" on Gadolinium Deposition Disease in the US Dr Richard Semelka who advised me not to try chelation therapy because of my anaphylaxis to it a couple years back, I was at high risk maybe even being fatal trying to remove this rare earth metal which is used to make microwaves & freezers from my body.
So I know what it means especially talking to & reading the stories of the desperate people in America who are in so much pain as it stores everywhere in the body. A Neurosurgery Reg told me my brain lights up like a Christmas tree. So to have a good dr is such a privilege. One dr I worked with said so many drs only qualify because they have a good memory. And finally this Oncologist told the cousin "you only have a few weeks to live". I asked if he told her just like that, she said "exactly like that." Good luck with your new dr, I would be intrigued though what your previous dr has to say after requesting half hour consult with you.
@@trishlett40 Yes, Primary Care Physician. I am only going to deal with Specialist till I find a good one.
Stfu
Your story mirrors the experience of so many- and unfortunately is way more widespread and prevalent than just in medicine. I left my former job because of a similar situation- but as an employee. Never in my six years working there, did the regional manager or any of those "big dogs" ever try to speak with me. The one time they came to the office I worked in, they looked like kids in a field trip- they had absolutely no prior experience in the field of the business they were running- not a single clue what was going on. When I got sick of decisions being made by dissociated suits and ties and put in my notice, all of a sudden they were emailing me and calling me and sending me surveys every other day, for months. Surveys! 😂 If they had a clue about the field of business they claim to be running or bothered to ever meet or listen to the people who worked there day after day, they wouldnt need a survey. And good workers wouldn't be quitting.
It's almost comical how frantic they get the second they actually listen to the people. Where was all that time and effort when it counted?
Hey doc I’m really glad you did this live, omg it’s such an important issue! To reiterate what was kinda said over and over, doctors (you) are human beings, like me and your patients, and these mental health problems can creep up and then boom 💥!! You advocate for so many things, I have no doubt this is included. There couldn’t be a better person to advocate, I wish you and your fellow providers nothing but the best, I hope if ANYONE NEEDS HELP THEY GET IT BEFORE THE DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR BEGINS! Take care of yourself Doc K…
I have to say, after watching many of Dr. Kaveh’s videos, He is a positive and genuine role model.
I had a Chiropractor who commited suicide. I went to him for several years and felt like I knew him. I had a very hard time processing the shock and sadness.
I hope you're voice is heard in the halls of our government.
I wish you were my doctor! You're the exception to the rule..I've looked long and hard for a compassionate doctor that isn't burned out.
I knew an anesthesiologist who was a fentanyl addict. It really sucked because he was a good anesthesiologist that had back issues. The hospital we worked for was great, they sent him for treatment. He couldn’t practice anymore in surgery and that sucks! He was well liked by everyone.
I left the Health System so I don’t know what happened to him outside of hearing he became a consultant. Drs are put under so much pressure and I’ve seen some changes in the health care system but not enough. Drs are still paid less to do more and it’s a messed up system all together. This is why there is such a shortage of some types of physicians. PCPs, Family practice, and more. You are a good man for talking about this because it’s not something that is widely known. ❤
DR CAVEH , THANK YOU FOR BEING SUCH AN AMAZING DOC ,AND FOR GIVING US ALL THIS NEW WELL EXPLAINED IMFORMATION , LOVE YOUR TRANSPARENCY . MAY GOD BLESS YOU.
I’m a retired RN. I worked on a cardiac stepdown unit with a brilliant young cardiologist who was sought after for his knowledge and wonderful bedside manner. We were all shocked and saddened to find out one morning that he had committed suicide over the weekend. The truth finally came out - he had become addicted to painkillers. This young man was the last person in the world we would have suspected. Our community lost a brilliant, caring doctor that day. I will withhold his name for privacy but want to say RIP Dr. *******
Thank you for being brave enough to speak up. The 'leaders' in our country have let us down on so many different levels. Nursing homes are broken, too.
Thank you for the kind comments! 🙏and yes, they certainly are
Love this guy. TRUE PHYSICIAN BY BLOOD!!!!
I really appreciate my physician, I saw a video how he did my operation online! And I thought how awesome, the skill the wisdom and the knowledge! I pray for my doctor, all my doctors. That God would keep them and take care of them physically emotionally mentally and spiritually. I appreciate you to doctor oh, God bless you!
I hope you have all the support and down time you need Dr K.
I really appreciate all this and I hope you are doing well take care of yourself not only for your sake but your family and your patients we don’t need to lose good Doctors like you
Thank you for this video. I had my doctor of 15 years use me to get his drugs legally. I broke my femur due to a horse accident then rebroke it 2 more times in 6 months. I spent a year in the hospitals over this. After I got out my doctor wanted to write meds for pain, but I was not doing it. He then wrote meds under my name and had another pharmacy send them to his office. The DEA wanted to know why I was taking extreme amounts of pain meds. That's when my doctor got arrested and confessed he has strung out on them himself. He had to go to treatment and be disciplined. I had to get another doctor because of him. I'm in control of my health but trust is gone.
I am now disabled/retired, but as an RN that had such a stressful job. For example as the only RN (BSN) in the facilities I worked in, mostly with geriatric residents and over time transitioned to less nurses and more rehab and increased acuity of patients, the entire staff would be riding my license, I'd be the supervisor, and at times I would have up to 53 residents assigned to just myself that included an locked down dementia unit! One CNA per hall when we were lucky, but often they had a hall and a half to round on. During the evening meal I had to stop, lock up my medication cart (with a 2 hour window to still finish passing med.'s for all my residents), and feed 2 - 3 patients. And put on top of that emergencies, answering call lights, directing the staff, and putting out all kinds of fires. And the staff were often not supportive to each other, but just nasty. I've even had my life threatened by a male tech that I caught suffocating a helpless resident. So I totally get the stress aspect! On top of all the nursing alone duties WE NURSES were responsible for the orders the Dr.'s wrote or called in...yep. If they got it wrong it was up to us to catch their mistakes and tell them what to order! We were always the scapegoats and caught all the blame for every single little thing. In the mornings as we got off work on the 13 hour+ night shifts it felt like I had a thousand daggers in my back. I decided at some point to try to turn the attitudes around with positive reinforcement. I struggled to find staff doing something good and catch them at it and give them a good word, smile, pat on the back...whatever it took. I would stand at the time clock and thank each person as they left. Sometimes putting up a sign I made to say you are the best team! Great job tonight! anything to bring us up and out of that back biting and negative attitude that short staffed, overworked, and physically in pain and exhausted nurses and techs would be. I really tried hard to be not just a good nurse but a good leader. It was HARD. I pushed myself so hard, and I was a tiny person but I did the work of a grown man when it came to lifting patients and doing team work with my techs and other nurses. Pushing heavy beds and med carts and lifts...my little back is a mess and my hips are bone on bone...I have to use a wheelchair to leave the house in now to go to Dr.'s appointments...the only time I leave my home. I have had, and do have suicidal ideations...but would prefer it if Jesus would call me home before I have to do it myself. No need to report me, I'm not going to kill myself...that is a plan if something were to happen to my husband. I have no loved ones or friends that care about me that would come help me. I have no one, nor could I manage on my own in this state. I've suffered in chronic severe pain for decades now and I'm just done. DNR would be the tattoo for me! lol right on my chest. Seriously though, I hope I go first, as my husband is still able to handle things. I wouldn't be able to. No pity party, I didn't mean to write all that. I'm just venting and this is what little old people do I guess when they live mostly isolated.
Love this. When I went through my cancer journey 20 years ago learning how some of my self care attributed to me getting g cancer, I noticed when friends died loved ones wanted to blame someone & often it was the dr. they blamed, when it wasn't the dr.s fault. So complicated
Thanks for being so honest it's not easy, but it goes to show that doctors are human also. May God have mercy on you all! 🙏🙏🙏
The stress is real!!! Because of the times we're living in, it's not surprising that depression is off the charts. I'm a retired nurse and have worked with doctors and nurses who committed suicide. They just know couldn't handle living anymore. anymore. I totally get it.
Hello Dr, I’m new here. A cousin of mine recommended me watching you because I’m on the path of going to med school to be an anesthesiologist as well. I work right now as a surgical tech currently and I absolutely love you videos. I’m currently binge watching all of them lol. Very informative and thanks alot for this.
Thank you for your time and devotion to your patients. Keep up the honesty.
Why isn't this part of the national conversation. Is this the reason I feel that I have been getting poor treatment that has nearly harmed me. Luckily my daughters are nurses and when I described the symptoms from the antibiotics that the doctor kept telling me to continue told me to discontinue asap. I left those doctors alone from this point. That can give a person PTSD and no trust in any doctor. You sound like a dedicated doctor who is getting a bad name from those who you speak of that have given up on patients and themselves. Their will always be an appreciative patient doc that will let you know that you are👍👍👍🥇🥇🥇
So interesting to listen to. What a brilliant person you are. I have myself lived briefly in the US, lived and worked in hospitals in England, and now live and work in my own country Norway. We have much room for improvement here too, but I am so glad we have a National Health Service, paid for by our taxes.
Thank you for the kind comments! 🙏
I have asked my Dr's how they are ever since I had a major injury. As the years have gone on, they look more worn. Both of my sons are in the medical field and I am passing this video on. God bless all of you.
You're the first person I've ever heard mention this subject. It's going to take some time to be with.
I see a difference between a doctor and a healer. Rarely they come together in a single package. You are very much both.
Some times I have doctors speak briefly about their health issues. As a patient it’s my responsibility to respond in a caring way by listening to them. Let them know I care for them as a person.
They normally do not involve their personal issues.
Very sad to hear 1 in 7 harm themselves.
Thank you so much for your informative videos, your compassion, your passion for giving the best care possible and for helping patients understand the different aspects of the medical field.
2 days ago I underwent double radical mastectomy with lymphnode removal. Somehow one of your videos came up in suggested videos without my even searching for the topic of anesthesia. I call it a God thing. Your videos helped make my surgery less scary and helped me trust my surgeons, anesthesiologist, and nurses more than before. God bless you and yours❤😊 🙏🤗
This is why we loose combat medics after they finish military service. PTSD Arthritis painful conditions. Cancers due to exposure to Chemical weapons. Survivors guilt. Not being able to treat and save everyone in the field. My heart goes out to All Doctors/surgeons. Field medics. EMTs Trauma staff.
Truer words have never been spoken! I cannot disagree on any of your points. The system is broken. I’m currently looking for PCP #8. The important thing is Patients should be their own advocate especially when you get to be a senior adult. Thank you again for all wisdom you share.
Great live stream man!! I learned a lot! I really wanted to be a anesthesiologist, I really enjoy donating to the anesthesiologist Foundation, since it was hard for me to go to college because of my cerebral palsy! I would have been a great anesthesiologist physician, I can handle stress really well! I don’t get stressed out!! I look up to anesthesiologist! You rock man!
Wow, thank you for sharing this information with us.
As a nurse practitioner I often put on a happy face while secretly suffering from crushing depression. I am going for my first ketamine treatment on Monday. 🙏
Good for you for tackling this elephant in the room. Doctors are under more pressure than ever before. Our healers need healing.
You have no idea how much I appreciate it what you do for us,with all the information you give us.God bless you always 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for your support, I hope you learned something new and feel empowered to advocate for your health 🙏
Thank you. I recently started watching your videos. Really opening my eyes. I will be having surgery April 24th. Mass on my Pancras, Dr doesn't think cancerous. But will be talking the tail end and my spleen out. Spleen due to blood issue. I must say I'm very concerned after watching different videos. Especially now that it's getting closer. Your videos are needed. Much success with your continued work. And if you're not busy on the 24th come on over to Cleveland Clinic. My pleasure. Lol. 😊😊
Excellent channel! Love all the enlightenment in a very approachable healthy conversational experience! I love how your open and educational topics always draw me in to hear more! Your truly a great doctor!
You are so interesting and particularly genuine. The world needs more people like yourself. Thank you for being transparent about “The unattractive truth” of the matter.
God Bless You for the discussions here 🙏🙏🙏
I worked in the medical field as a medical lab technologist and have seen firsthand what the stress and demand on medical professionals does to their physical and mental health. I also have learned that I have to be an advocate for my own health. I have taken family members with me to be extra ears and eyes, when contemplating surgeries/procedures. I had a surgeon I have worked with and known for a long time tell me that it is your body and your money and you need to make decisions of who you see, what you have done to your body and not be bullied by a medical professional.
I have been fortunate to have some wonderful medical professionals caring for me, but I also take time to care for them with cards of appreciation, words of appreciation, and some treats dropped off/given at the time of the visit can turn their day around.
Thank you for speaking on this sensitive but very important topic. Enjoy your videos and keep educating/informing us.👍👏😊❤️
Interesting things I learned when I volunteered at a Crisis Clinic Line in the states back in the 90's. At that time Doctors' had the highest suicide rates, followed by Police and then I think lawyers. I stopped here to google what the rate is today (as I haven't as yet listened to this post). Turns out Doctors' are still the highest, that just breaks my heart and boggles my mind. But now Dentists' have joined the list at No 2 and Lawyers' have jumped up from No 8 to No 3.
The other thing of note that stuck with me is that if it is suicide by gun, men shoot themselves in the head (to make sure its done right) and women shoot themselves in the heart bcos they don't want their face to be decimated. I also learned of how people will overtly tell you that's what they are going to do or they will covertly show you that's what they are planning to do by giving you nice memories or trinkets of theirs you liked or photos of you together younger etc. They will literally sign post that they are planning suicide and if you don't recognise the signs and intercede, they will commit suicide. One of the biggest indicators of this, is a huge lift in mood shortly before their suicide along with the gift giving or great memory making. The reason for this lift is because they have sorted the problem out, there is an end in sight now and they want their last days or weeks with loved ones to be happy. That is why it is always a good thing to ask them what is going on with them and also ask if they are planning suicide.The mind is a fascinating thing.
Loved your disclosers. It definitely, opened my eyes and fell compassion for doctors. Please keep us informed.
Dr. I really appreciate your talks and honesty about various subjects. You seem to be such a kind and caring person, I pray that this broken system doesn’t harm you. I’m 60 yo and recently disabled and am I’m chronic pain for the last 3 years. You are so spot on about the importance of advocating for yourself as a patient. Sometimes when I see a new specialist since many of my systems are failing I almost don’t have the energy it takes to get to the office let alone carefully ask questions in such a way as not to make the dr not want to provide care or go the extra mile that I require. Bless you.❤️
Wow Doctor K, I’ve been waiting your vids for over a couple months now. I live in NY state, I wish all doctors were exactly like you! Your very truthful! I have been waiting for five years to get my hip replaced. I want a certain anesthesiologist that saved my life back twenty years ago.
I have been from orthopedic doctor to doctor. I cant get the a doctor I want for an anesthesiologist I
Do you travel? Lol just joking. I’ve had many surgeries I know a good doc from a just so doc upon wake up. Im glad for the information you provide! Only one doctor went thru the explanation of the meds used during surgery! That was years ago in North Carolina! But Im watching you and sharing your videos with my friends and family! God bless you buddy!🙏👍
Thank you,so very much .sincerely Chicago
I’ve had so man amazing doctors in my life and care. It’s very difficult when I do encounter one that does not see me as a human that needs care.
Whats up Doc . You are the epitomy of an amazing doctor as well as an amazing human being. Currently binge watching your videos. Spent many years in health care and i appreciate your honesty. You are a legend for educating and sharing your knowledge with us all. In case you cant tell I am now a devoted subscriber. Thank you Doctor.....🥰
Dear Dr. Kaveh,
thanks for your thoughts about this "shadow-theme".
Best wishes for you
and the folks you love from Germany.
Thank you for the kind comments! 🙏sending you positive vibes from San Francisco
Ah Germany. One of the coldest countries of depression
Great video and thanks for sharing the human side of your and other medical professionals. Enlightening.
When big business took over healthcare and obliterated sole practitioners by giving them incentives to join groups or making it too expensive to continue as sole practitioners i.e. having to convert to electronic medical records etc., healthcare took a turn for the worse (it went pear shaped) The whole system is falling apart. So everyone may now have healthcare insurance (maybe) but there is not sufficient healthcare for everyone.Sad and scary.
Thank you so much for all you share with us!!
Thank you for this video. Doctors truly give so much time to their work. I didn’t realize they get in trouble for not seeing enough patients. No wonder they are always in a rush. This is not a humane way for doctors to be forced to work under. I have been fortunate to see some really good doctors who take the time and listen to my concerns and questions. I had one doctor put his hand on my arm and tell me to let him worry about my health. He told me it was his job to worry and figure things out. I was so comforted by this but after listening to this video I understand just how under appreciated and overworked they are. It’s heartbreaking.
Thanks, Dr., for always sharing. I really appreciate your work and your care. It helps me to feel less anxious❤️😊
Maybe it’s time to stop calling it “committing suicide” and instead call it “ending one’s life”. It is no longer considered a crime and never should’ve been considered one. Someone suffering so greatly deserves respect and compassion. Not condemnation.
It must be a very difficult career, drs, surgeons, dentists etc etc etc....i cant imagine the stress snd expectations.
What a heavy heavy load. One slip, an accidental death under your csre.......
Thank you dear doctor. I went for decades with symptoms that finally were diagnosed as MS by MRI. I cannot tell you how many times I felt that the chart notes must have included (this woman is crazy). I am sure there were times they thought I was seeking drugs, and I have to laugh because I do not even take acataminaphen for a headache. It took a nurse practitioner in a very back water small town, to send me to a neurologist for the MRI, when I called her in a panic because I felt so dizzy I thought we were having an earthquake and was afraid to drive home. She did not brush me off, even though it was at the end of the day. She believed me that my symptoms were real and quite severe at that point. She had to be tired from seeing patients all day, but she found that human part of her and treated me accordingly. I am forever grateful to her for her professionalism and kindness, and for ignoring some derogatory chart notes that might have been lurking there. No one was more bowled over by this diagnosis than I was, but on the other hand, I wanted to send these results to every doctor who could not think out of the box at all, and imagine that perhaps I was not imagining my symptoms. I cried, more from relief, than grief, that this was going to change my life in ways I could not imagine. OK, so all this was the result of physicians not listening to me, and I suffered a long time for it. My hat is off to all the hard working nurse practitioners and doctors, who still manage to retain their hearts, and their humanity, when the truth is, this profession is not fit for anyone with an ounce of compassion. Something has got to chance for us all.
I have met many anesthesiologists who committed suicide over the years with medications obtained through work environment. It is very sad, as a healthcare provider, we are all affected by this. Thanks for bring attention to his matter.
What a kind caring professional person you are Keep up the good work you are doing
Thank you so much for all you do as an exceptional doctor and AMAZING you tube creator. Your videos are so informative and it would be wonderful if more doctors were like you. I really wish you were the anesthesiologist for my surgery.
Thank you, I agree with you I'm not ok with this broken system! Let's all use our voice and speak out, keep bringing your voice to open forum, you have everyone's attention and is highly needed to to shine light, what's been hush, hush under the table. I've been speaking out and it's great when I hear other's are speaking up talking on sensitive subject that's more common then might think, helps keeps me encouraged. Bless you brother
Wow - what an amazing insight into what it is like for physicians in the pressure cooker of medicine. Thank you very much - was so well done.
Thank you for addressing this. I'm an RN and yes, where I receive care, the MD must see a pt for 10 minutes then move on. I'm surprised my Dr. even knows me.
Young Sir: I am hearing you and feeling deeply concerned about you (and others). What you are saying could be about you! I am seeing this time/money crunch in real life. Even there, it is ugly and as an older (73) person, I observe with deep concern. It must be possible to CHANGE professions or go back n sabbatical as a mental health "treatment". God bless you. Love you all.
This is fantastic this is better than just a comment this meant a lot hopefully people understand that isn't just you it's the bureaucrats that decide what you do
It’s very difficult when your scheduled to go in for surgery at 8am and it’s after Noon and have gone threw a shift chance and haven’t seen your Dr. or anesthesiologist as I’m trying to control my growing anxiety and nurses are very busy and have no information. Finally I went into a full blown embarrassing panic attack, one were it’s hard to catch your breath and your crying and only thoughts were to leave. Next thing I remember, I’m in the recovery room crying hysterically, Etc! Etc! NOW I’m supposed to go in for a breast biopsy. It’s been 3 months and trying to overcome this fear! My hospital experiences have not gone well for me! Anyways, glad I found your podcasts, your knowledge and explanations has helped but still at this point I still would rather get hit by a bus than go to a hospital for anything! If your not one to speak up for yourself in my 72 years of life and healthcare has become overwhelmingly frustrating and inhumane and insurance companies are an impossible nightmare to try an navigate. Also just a note, I don’t remember ever meeting my anesthesiologists before surgery or after, only nurses unless they didn’t identify themselves.
Yes! We don’t get introduced to the anesthesiologist. My last surgery was a room filled with 10+ people and the only one I knew was my doctor. All the rest never spoke to me.
Take care of yourself, Doc. You are appreciated.
I highly appreciate your videos Dr. K. I watched quite a few before going in to my procedure. Very routine, but it involved my spine, and it was my first time under anesthesia, so I was Terrified. But, I said a Prayer, went under, woke up next to my gf (who I proposed to 3 times under anesthesia), and for some reason I feel this overwhelming sensation of Empowerment. Thank you for your very insightful videos. I'm going to keep watching
What a caring and honest human being.I wish the world had more doctors such as yourself
I truly appreciate all of your videos.😘
Well thank you for being honest about the two tier thing. That's pretty shocking and absolutely disgusting.
Thanks for the honesty. Honesty is the best policy. ❤
Doctor you are the best..
The anaesthesiologist is the most important during the operation and I bow to all anaesthesiologist in the waist..❤️❤️❤️❤️thank you Doctor you save many life’s..😘😘😘
I need to overcome my fears! Going to be watching the videos on that. Thank you so much!!!
Thank you for your honesty and bravery in posting this! It may take me some time, but I hope it's okay if I contact you off this public forum, say your website.😀
Sadly, advocating for yourself is not enough, even in DC.
I worked in a drs offices for years. They're human, they lose their cool at times. They hurt their office staff.
I also went to a course about activated patients the only dr who has patients that can't or won't tell them what they feel is a vet.
Thank you so much for sharing this information.everyone talk about how much many doctors do but nobody talk about this really. Now I understand that some time I see doctors who looks the doesn’t understand or doesn’t care what information I given about my symptoms and ending up going to see another doctor because the first one did find any good treatment for me . Thank you so much for educational videos.
Sir you are so refreshing to restore trust in the medical field Thank You sir!
you are exceptional,Thank you for all you do
You are the best! Thank you. ❤
My husband was a D.O. and basically committed suicide. My son who wasn't a doctor fought the devil.
My favorite statement..." suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem"
I’m so sorry for your loss. My Doctor from 4 yrs old to 26 yrs old killed himself. He too was a D.O. I’m in my 50’s and I still miss him.
@@LastingHope hugs. Sorry for your life changing event, and the family
I’m so sorry. Prayers for your family. Hugs being sent.
One of my 2nd cousins was a neurosurgeon and we lost him 15 years ago. His son is now at Tulane to become a Dr, possibly surgeon. I've also worked in the veterinarian field, as a vet tech and unfortunately Veterinarian suicide is also very common and extremely overlooked
Tough subject, well expressed. Thank you!
Thank you for speaking the truth!!!