The REAL Reason 90% Of Men Are Lost In Life | Scott Galloway

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  • @TheDiaryOfACEOClips
    @TheDiaryOfACEOClips  Рік тому +28

    Check out the full episode here ➡
    ua-cam.com/video/KRxhnSkgxtk/v-deo.html

    • @johnsnyder3443
      @johnsnyder3443 11 місяців тому

      So smart...yet so stupid...

    • @hamidahamidovic7909
      @hamidahamidovic7909 2 місяці тому

      I was horrified to listen to this talk that man Scott Galloway after I listen to him speak I understood just like in the book concerning violence. It is the white man. It is the white slave master, who believes that his story in his way is always the right way, this man should never speak on the Middle East that would be like China deciding how America should live shame on him. This is a horrible disgusting person. He is a white colonialist.

  • @BodyByBenSLC
    @BodyByBenSLC Рік тому +1294

    He is right about being paternal. I work in the trades and started noticing the young guys following me around the shop or the grounds. It took a few years to realize this 18 19 20 year old dudes were desperate for some guidance, for an older man to take interest in them. Now when I hire these young guys I realize I am not just a boss, I am a big brother.

    • @amars7941
      @amars7941 Рік тому

      I had this in my reserve unit. I chastised this young 18 year old about his finances and personal decisions, which to my surprised caused him to reach out to me for guidance. We eventfully got him to understand how to budget his money, refinance his car, and move out on his own. But his personal life -- relationship decisions really annoyed me -- as he thought the Plan B pills are an acceptable for of birth control. I tried and tried to get this line of thinking out of his head to no avail. I shunned him and left the reserves and never reached out.
      I wish I hadn't done that. He has no men in his life, no adult man to get him to think, and understand the difference between reacting and responding and how decisions he makes even if not directly related to him in this very moment, will come back to haunt him. I wish I hadn't done that. So, my advice to you, and keep big brothering them, even if they act like knuckle heads because eventually you'll breakthrough and the lessons will stick.

    • @fibbs6533
      @fibbs6533 Рік тому +92

      Bless you for influencing young men in positive ways.

    • @HughJass-313
      @HughJass-313 Рік тому +15

      ❤❤

    • @chadwilliams9141
      @chadwilliams9141 Рік тому +25

      This I was so lost and in mid 20s just wanted some guidance. Mainly in my career but also like you said mentors become family more than anything.

    • @diane9247
      @diane9247 11 місяців тому +10

      Thank you so much for understanding the task, sir.

  • @ALTheFreeMan
    @ALTheFreeMan Рік тому +1104

    What he says about boys not having male role models is 100% true. It’s like the entire school system made a pact to uplift and encourage the girls, while ignoring the boys. I’ve never had a mentor, teacher, counselor, no one who ever took me under their wing and gave me some good advice. For most guys, the heroes we saw in sports and movies were who we strived to be like. I’m now in my 40s, doing okay for myself, but definitely under-achieving. I was a decently smart kid back in my school days, but, where were the real-life role models that could’ve helped steer me in the right direction?? It’s a travesty, smh.

    • @DanielleAlt
      @DanielleAlt Рік тому +8

      ​@@derek4412wow super interesting! .

    • @danzwithizabel1175
      @danzwithizabel1175 Рік тому +82

      I agree with everything you say about the boys not having that in the schools are not having role models. But you say that as if the girls had that. We didn’t. We had to work very hard to find our place in the school system. Education was not given to women. Women had to take education in their own hands and fight against a system that didn’t want to educate them. This is a problem for both males and females and as long as we keep talking about it as if the males don’t have it then we are going to keep them divided.

    • @ALTheFreeMan
      @ALTheFreeMan Рік тому +87

      @@danzwithizabel1175 I disagree. I’ve had this discussion with my sisters as well as female friends, and they actually agree with me. They can rattle off this mentor, or this professor who helped them along the way, and for them to hear that so many guys like myself were ignored throughout school blew their minds, they had no idea! So, now that so many women today are successful and wondering why so many men have fallen behind, look no farther than the school system. I’m not sure how old you are, but, it sounds like you may be speaking of previous generations of students. Presently, there is an obvious difference in the time and investment given to girls versus boys in the school system, so much so, that college enrollment for boys are at an all-time low. To deny that there is a gender bias within the school system is just (with all due respect) plain ridiculous.

    • @PURAHOUSEDERESTREPO
      @PURAHOUSEDERESTREPO Рік тому

      They have idiots like Rogan, Tate and Peterson unfortunately

    • @davidlamb7524
      @davidlamb7524 Рік тому +27

      Boomer here. No role models Made my own way. I'm fine thanks 😊

  • @stephaniel2525
    @stephaniel2525 4 місяці тому +35

    100% agree. My father confessed to me that he met his role model, his mentor at the army. Growing up in a large family and working parents, my father started acting up at school, his parents had no time to understand why he was acting up and shipped him to the army. There, he met a man, black man like him who told him he could be someone, that he was a talented mechanic, showed him how to avoid conflict and sometimes out of respect turn the other cheek. Thanks to this man, my dad found his passion and profession. He has his own business, 50 years in and going. To give back, my dad takes troubled young men as apprentices. Some stay, some leave and come back. The door is always open. The army has given so much to him, I can see the difference between his critical thinking and that of my uncles who didn't enlist. I really think it should be mandatory like in Greece.

    • @kevinweber5129
      @kevinweber5129 3 дні тому

      From WW2 onto the end of the Cold War the Army helped to make boys into disciplined men. We should at least increase the number of Recruits to 500,000 yearly.

  • @laStar972chuck
    @laStar972chuck Рік тому +382

    "We've decided, when it comes to men, that compassion is a zero sum game. And that if you feel bad for men, it immediately out you as someone that could be anti-women."
    DUDE, PREACH !!!

    • @reginasemenenko148
      @reginasemenenko148 Рік тому +5

      What if there were groups for guys that might revolve around sports or fitness, but included a lot of mentoring? And perhaps getting this type of thing monetized?

    • @laStar972chuck
      @laStar972chuck Рік тому +17

      @@reginasemenenko148 That would be nice.
      But the monetization part tends to corrupt things in my experience.

    • @reginasemenenko148
      @reginasemenenko148 Рік тому +4

      @@laStar972chuck I know. I just don't know how you could attract all the help that would be needed. I think you are on to something that could be really helpful.

    • @ThePharphis
      @ThePharphis 8 місяців тому +6

      Worse, I think it's a negative-sum game. People actively care less about issues that effect both men and women once they're aware that men are suffering in some way. Most people simply deny it or blame men, even when they are the disproportionate sufferers for many issues.

    • @michaelgarrett139
      @michaelgarrett139 8 місяців тому +2

      ​@@reginasemenenko148thats called a coach lol

  • @bitterpaul6151
    @bitterpaul6151 8 місяців тому +190

    I got my ideas about masculinity from my dad, who rarely tells me how he feels but is always showing me and others by going out of his way to help them.

    • @Boghopper9999
      @Boghopper9999 5 місяців тому +13

      My Dad was the same; consequently I judge people based on actions, not just words (words are cheap)

    • @Ed-ig7fj
      @Ed-ig7fj 5 місяців тому +8

      I was a boomer, so all of our dads had grown up in the Depression, and then went off to fight WW-2. Talk about tough, masculine, men. They were surprisingly gentle and humorous despite their screaming nightmares. --Old Guy

    • @hildahilpert5018
      @hildahilpert5018 2 місяці тому

      My dad was the same way.He once told me that he modeled his life on his father,s family who military men, petty court officials,landholders and artisans.

    • @kennethsilvestri5874
      @kennethsilvestri5874 Місяць тому

      That's me to a T and many women don't want that, they want feelings and emotions yet they also want you to be hyper masculine which those two often conflict. Some even want you to love bomb them which is unhealthy.

    • @Prometheus100110
      @Prometheus100110 Місяць тому

      @@Ed-ig7fj Yes, better a warrior in a garden then a gardener in a war. The world and women wanted gardners and are surprised that that can't deal with life.

  • @robbielanoue2690
    @robbielanoue2690 8 місяців тому +133

    I was a high school English teacher in a low income area of NC. I had a group of young boys who were in my classroom before/after school and in between classes. They were like glue - being around me whenever they could. Part of that may have been that I was young and fun - but I know for sure that all of those guys lacked male role models. It's a problem that has serious real-world consequences. Boys need good male role models.

    • @darbyheavey406
      @darbyheavey406 3 місяці тому

      We killed Boy Scouts because of gay rights activists.

  • @mozar5175
    @mozar5175 8 місяців тому +92

    I grew up in a family as the only boy with 3 sisters and my mother of course. My father was more or less present and didn’t like me so much, he was hitting me physically from time to time. My parents divorced when I was 15. My father and I didn’t see eye to eye so I left home at 18. I was surrounded by my 3 sisters who gave birth to 6 girls (my nieces), not a single boy in the family besides me. When there is a family reunion, I’m surrounded with 10 women (mother, 3 sisters and 6 nieces)! Needless to say that I am the black sheep in the group, they ignore me totally like they have always done. I avoid those family reunions now, I don’t attend them. I went on to succeed the most compared with my siblings, graduated from university, had a great career in commercial real estate, married a great wife and we live in a very upscale neighbourhood. The message is take control of your life, don’t give a f_ck about people who ignore you and be strong.

  • @t.michaelbodine4341
    @t.michaelbodine4341 Рік тому +81

    Every time Galloway opens his mouth he says something challenging and thoughtful and pretty brilliant. This guy really has a handle on where relationships are at and where men are at right now.

    • @Matanumi
      @Matanumi 8 місяців тому +1

      And sadly nothing is gonna change it to make it better in the major

    • @trydowave
      @trydowave 2 місяці тому +1

      i dont find anything new here. If anything, Galloway has to censror himself a lot, due to being more mainstream, which i find a bit infuriating.

    • @peterstafford4426
      @peterstafford4426 Місяць тому

      Does he do anything other than talk and write books?

    • @smokeykitty6023
      @smokeykitty6023 13 годин тому

      I feel like it's the older men who need to be paying attention to his words. My FIL died when my husband was 3. The father of his best friend from kindergarten on stepped into that role and it made a huge difference. His brother didn't have a man to step up for him. Their lives were drastically different in the forms of personal relationships, education, financial success, class of friends, longevity of relationships with both men and women in their lives, etc. It was very stark.

    • @peterstafford4426
      @peterstafford4426 12 годин тому

      He knows how to sell books.

  • @mickygarcia4251
    @mickygarcia4251 Рік тому +534

    I left teaching because of the "creep" factor. You hardly make enough to live on, so women don't want to date you. You're constantly being watched because no one can believe you'd devote your time altruistically. If you spend too much time with a particular student ( because they're the only one who is listening to you) you get accused of favortism. Ulimately, there are too many downsides, so when I stopped teaching and went into IT, it all turned around. I spend most of my time alone, but the peace is irresistible.

    • @gevans5446
      @gevans5446 Рік тому +44

      And the paycheck must be better, too. It's almost like the educational system is designed to break you. smh

    • @Matanumi
      @Matanumi 8 місяців тому

      Modern education is a scam and it's total trash
      Made to serve a by gone era of the old industrial world order

    • @BeYourself-jk5xo
      @BeYourself-jk5xo 8 місяців тому +18

      Women don’t date you because you are a teacher and make no money! lol that’s not true guys who are broke are always dating you need to look at yourself and find out why you can’t date a woman. Dating is easy but you need to master being comfortable talking to women. If you don’t you will be lonely most of the time

    • @elise9537
      @elise9537 8 місяців тому +18

      ​@@BeYourself-jk5xoppl who are not well adjusted always blame it on the others. I have my bad days and want to isolate from ppl. Its me not them. Some ppl just accept how the world is and survive it and I cant always do that.

    • @QoraxAudio
      @QoraxAudio 8 місяців тому +28

      Yes according to society, the sole value of men is the value of their bank account.
      I just stopped caring about what others think of me, made life much more fulfilling.

  • @kristjan304
    @kristjan304 Рік тому +190

    My view of masculinity is : thoughtfull, wise, rational, objective, expressive

    • @friarnewborg9213
      @friarnewborg9213 8 місяців тому

      View of Females: Privileged beyond belief, and still claiming to be Victims,

    • @elise9537
      @elise9537 8 місяців тому +4

      Yes wish guys where like that.

    • @QoraxAudio
      @QoraxAudio 8 місяців тому +2

      That's basically the description of a nerd. Rational and objective in particular.
      No one likes nerds, except the fake ones.

    • @silentx
      @silentx 8 місяців тому +3

      @@QoraxAudioyou can still like and enjoy “nerd” like activities, just be man about it i guess, stoic?
      Idk where i was going with this, anyway, im high, have a good-day/night who ever is reading! ❤️🙏

    • @QoraxAudio
      @QoraxAudio 8 місяців тому

      @@silentx Well, you'd definitely need to be stoic... especially nerding out on some complex stuff is really hard!

  • @dyson716
    @dyson716 Рік тому +136

    I think this is one of the most balanced opinions I’ve heard around masculinity and being a young man, this is seriously an antidote to the current environment and I welcome it’s approach as a 25 year old trying to navigate my place in the world . I’ll be buying this mans book as soon as it’s available as I think / hope it will make me a better person and a better man

    • @painunending4610
      @painunending4610 Рік тому +7

      Itll make you a better worker drone. Thats what Scott wants you to be, he wants you to make money, not be happy

    • @vladimir.putinn_007
      @vladimir.putinn_007 Рік тому

      are your fk ing series man you just cant be men dont you any self worth or pride in you how can any men take this advice its just a slave to left thinking and just promote them

    • @EGH181
      @EGH181 Рік тому +1

      Unfortunately, balance doesn’t move the needle.

    • @gauravthadanii
      @gauravthadanii 9 місяців тому +7

      @@painunending4610 I think you missed his point. After a certain point, money doesn't bring you happiness, however, a lack of it can make you very unhappy.

    • @MrFrankEast
      @MrFrankEast 8 місяців тому +3

      @@gauravthadanii Agreed. For most of society you HAVE to be a worker. Find your happiness AFTER you have a steady income.

  • @UncleChisel
    @UncleChisel 8 місяців тому +84

    Scott is 💯 on point. Get out of the damn house, breath air, live life, be with friends. FIND A PASSION

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 7 місяців тому +7

      Too expensive...

    • @rodan2852
      @rodan2852 7 місяців тому +1

      Learn skills first. Those help you get friends, and will get you into groups for ex. The muscisians pool sharks, mechanics/ restorers etc. Im sleeping out of a truck just to afford a $6k TIG welder To get started. F*ck what people tell you, do what you gotta do and dont take no sh*t from nobody young or old.

    • @Jamhael1
      @Jamhael1 7 місяців тому +3

      @@rodan2852 too expensive as well...

  • @DarkoNomad
    @DarkoNomad Рік тому +75

    I'd say that technology, trends and ease of access is the main reason behind, but also the trends of influencers and celebrities. In 70's for example you would got all the music, sports and activism to meet people, get together and find a proper roll models because celebrities were vocal about social injustice. Today kids have everything within a reach of their phones where they get influenced by people who are constantly looking for sponsors. Today we live in a society where most celebrities and influencers would sell anything for money, including themselves. That leaves so many young people attached to narcistic people who only care about their image in media, without doing much to protect, provide and serve those who need attention and help the most.

    • @LisaFenton-h7f
      @LisaFenton-h7f 7 місяців тому

      You've madae such a sharp & critical point!!! Thanks.

    • @almaguapa-sailboatliveaboa440
      @almaguapa-sailboatliveaboa440 7 місяців тому +1

      In absence of fundamentals like male role model boys turn to anything that is currently accessible and accepted such as technology, laziness, drugs and estrogen like attitudes. 😢

    • @dtoad5576
      @dtoad5576 4 місяці тому

      Narcissistic

  • @arnoldvilleneuve8397
    @arnoldvilleneuve8397 Рік тому +86

    Scott
    The number three item "look after yourself" I believe should be number one. You cannot look after others until you can look after yourself first.

    • @silentx
      @silentx 8 місяців тому

      Very true. 🫡

    • @ashtonso6662
      @ashtonso6662 8 місяців тому +3

      That's been my motto throughout my adult life. I've got to take care of myself first so I can take care of others: family, friends, colleagues, community, etc. My ex wife kept accusing me of being selfish...that's one of the reason we're ex !

    • @pedgarage
      @pedgarage 6 місяців тому +1

      You can't pour from an empty cup.

    • @karineaghajanyan
      @karineaghajanyan 2 місяці тому

      were you unaware of this simple idea before? ??

    • @Nickelodeon81
      @Nickelodeon81 Місяць тому

      ​@@karineaghajanyan It was simply pointed out that it should be number 1 not number 3. And I agree. Hey that rhymes...

  • @oeckstei
    @oeckstei Рік тому +152

    The issue I see amongst some men and voices online respond to that question of be a protector is…”well what’s in it for me? Why do I need to sacrifice my life for a society that hasn’t done anything for me in return “. I don’t know how big of an issue this is but if things continue the way they.

    • @endlessgaslight
      @endlessgaslight Рік тому +1

      exactly, what reason do men have to serve a society that openly hates them?

    • @painunending4610
      @painunending4610 Рік тому +43

      Literal this. Men are waking up and people like Galloway want to put them to sleep

    • @James_36
      @James_36 Рік тому

      This guy is so weak I am amazed he thinks he’s an expert on it. I’m so bored of social intellectual people who alll they do is read books and study - that is NOT masculine . The guys getting action are the OPPOSITE of that lol

    • @ree4214
      @ree4214 Рік тому +18

      What’s in it for them? Idk, ummm, maybe a stable society?

    • @dk.3138
      @dk.3138 Рік тому +49

      @@ree4214 , then go ahead and be the one to put your life on the line for a stable society that couldn't be there for you prior.

  • @ashtonso6662
    @ashtonso6662 8 місяців тому +21

    Great presentation. Nailed it on the head on every point IMHO. I'm 68 yrs old. Had a successful career and 3 boys who are now successful men. I must admit that growing up today is much more challenging than back in the 60s, 70s, even 80s. Just too much distraction and rapid changes. I'll try to help bring my very young grandson along the proper masculine path...as I did with his dad.

  • @nerlind
    @nerlind 11 місяців тому +15

    This guy is so well spoken

  • @Mary-il6zz
    @Mary-il6zz 8 місяців тому +76

    Even when there is a father in the home working full time and a mother working full time (which there basically is no choice) workers have barely any vacation time to spend with their kids. Hard to be a good model when your burnt out all the time! Europeans get 5 weeks off when they start a job. We are lucky to get one. Time to advocate for our workers.

    • @stoicepictetus3875
      @stoicepictetus3875 7 місяців тому +1

      So right !!

    • @BaiMengLing
      @BaiMengLing 7 місяців тому +8

      Even if we get vacation with kids, marriages are breaking off for the very same reason as in USA : half of the population was psychologically damaged by immature parents and can not get along with each other. Men blame women, women blame men, but this does not do the hard work of looking at your broken heart, acknowledge that mom and dad were far from perfect, having the courage to put YOUR own shit together, and maybe getting enough empathy to be able to truly love someone.

    • @Boghopper9999
      @Boghopper9999 5 місяців тому +3

      Having lived in the US and Europe, I found in the US people live to work but Europeans work to live. The US is a wealthier country, but Europeans tend to prioritise quality of life, rather than amassing wealth and buying status. Simple example, when I worked in the US, I drove a beat up (but well maintained) old car while one of my peers bought a new Audi A4; I got endless crap from people about being a cheapskate but after a few years I had a house deposit while my peer had a depreciated car. I bought a modest house and now I'm nearly mortgage free so I can focus on saving money to pay for my kids education (school, sports and skills) which makes me happier than a shiny car ever would. Work to live, don't live to work

    • @k0pera
      @k0pera 5 місяців тому +3

      As a European who makes 2.2k $ a month working 60 hours a week. I can tell you that I can only get half the money that I make a month. We have a minimal amount of 20 "work days (not a normal days but a day between Mondays and Fridays + you can use also Sunday and Saturday for a rest)" bur all of this comes on a big cost. You let atlleas half of yours salary for taxes and insurance. For a young man USA is better becouse if I had this energy that I have between 18-35 to work in USA I would get better standard of living and I will earn more. EU is cool for older people and probably young people with kids but for young people is a nightmare. You pay the bill for the others, and I tell you this by the prespective of and east European with very communistic and solidarity mindset.

    • @Scar-jg4bn
      @Scar-jg4bn Місяць тому

      ​@@k0pera yeah, Europe is dystopian. I grew up poor and worked my way to making 6 figures in my late twenties in the USA, which is almost impossible in Europe. I wish we could ship all our liberals to Europe.

  • @jocalvo
    @jocalvo Місяць тому +4

    100% agree we are in urgent need of that book to redefine masculinity in a positive, realistic but progressive way

  • @MrRGBTV
    @MrRGBTV 2 місяці тому +4

    As I've gotten older, I have found that it's quite rewarding to help steward young men into becoming better versions of themselves in whatever method I can help them. People did it for me as a teen and it was tremendously beneficial. We owe it to the next generation to continue the trend. Scott nailed with one of my favorite quotes. "A society grows great when old men plant trees in whose shade they shall never sit."

  • @gevans5446
    @gevans5446 Рік тому +238

    The moment that we accepted the outlandish idea that fathers are irrelevant, we placed that last nail on our collective coffin as a society.

    • @tiana2906
      @tiana2906 Рік тому +8

      Exactly 💯

    • @missfaztudo9312
      @missfaztudo9312 11 місяців тому +43

      When a father decides to abandoned his kids, he is doing this, my friend.

    • @gevans5446
      @gevans5446 11 місяців тому +32

      @@missfaztudo9312 A father who willingly abandons his kids is no longer a father.

    • @ChillSydneyWebSurfer
      @ChillSydneyWebSurfer 8 місяців тому +1

      sure

    • @TschernoBill
      @TschernoBill 8 місяців тому +12

      Seeing Fathers as irrelevant is grounded in the Post WW period, where fathers just werent there and after that lost the connection to their families. Just being the financial supporter was an image, that grew out of necessity.

  • @j72ashley
    @j72ashley 8 місяців тому +18

    Lead with strength, governed by empathy.

  • @ismaelhall3990
    @ismaelhall3990 Рік тому +181

    There is no shame to be a man. Stand tall for yourself.

    • @bensheard3969
      @bensheard3969 8 місяців тому +1

      ​@josiah_jacksonwhy would someone feel shame for being born something? It makes no fucking sense

    • @bryangary2270
      @bryangary2270 8 місяців тому +2

      @@bensheard3969 Who's saying that?

    • @vicbauwens
      @vicbauwens 8 місяців тому

      Porn and weed are just bad for young men, I was also part of it.

    • @bensheard3969
      @bensheard3969 7 місяців тому

      @josiah_jackson in what logical way does it make sense to respond to a comment about being proud and confident as a man with some men have no shame. It's so obviously a sassy comeback that in some way involves your personal life and contributes nothing to the conversation

    • @bensheard3969
      @bensheard3969 7 місяців тому

      @josiah_jackson using obscure words doesn't make you sound smarter it makes people think you care a lot about people viewing you as smart which is objectively worse than just having a below average IQ. What I interpreted them as saying is that you shouldn't feed into the Kool aid belief that it's shameful to be a man and that you can be inherently toxic like many Torah want you to believe

  • @Sailingbill1
    @Sailingbill1 11 місяців тому +10

    This is the type of direct and to the point discussion that needs to hit the road! SO much of this resonates with the reality of my 13 year old son's life and what I run into in the business world while I visit the US. Men will no longer get on an elevator alone with a younger woman, I get comments and looked at from women some times because I am not only masculine I revel in it. Why do they look at me...? Society has taught them that men are predators and they should be more like women. I will pause here but Scott thank you again for being out there and for being so direct with your message!

  • @GuineaPigEveryday
    @GuineaPigEveryday 11 місяців тому +17

    i think an important thing to consider is that in the past, the great inventors, sports figures, astronauts, businessmen, artists, but also ofc actors were THE role models, and in many films certain actors would embody this healthy masculinity, or at least with positive attributes. Nowadays, the biggest role models are influencers, many also young or without much education tbh, but more importantly they are not the great entrepreneurs or innovators of the past, they're not groundbreaking artists, no longer are the role models for young men people who achieve great things. I mean what you have one or two famous rich ppl like Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos, but u look at any alpha male influencer video and its these sort of unachieving youtubers or twitch streamers who are presented as role models of excellence. However problematic past role models could be, they were better than this.

  • @robertlevy9412
    @robertlevy9412 8 місяців тому +22

    Marriage and love require and demand strength and it takes work and courage to grow up. It’s the power to endure emotional pain, to sacrifice for a loved one to openly communicate. Mature relationships only come from those qualities and a desire to support each other long past the stage of physical looks and expectations of perfection.

    • @phillynurse9492
      @phillynurse9492 8 місяців тому

      Beautifully stated ❤

    • @BaiMengLing
      @BaiMengLing 7 місяців тому +1

      Many men in my generation (born in the 80s) prefer the instant gratification of video games to the hard work of building a business or a homestead, and then wonder why they can't attract / retain a partner. Most women want a man who can be a good father and that means taking care of her when she is disabled by pregnancy / breatsfeeding, not a man-child game partner. But there are exception, I have a couple of friends who are both 50 and grossly out of shape, both are childless and addicted gamers: they chose not to have kids despite a 20 year long marriage so they could play in their freetime.

  • @robertlevy9412
    @robertlevy9412 8 місяців тому +8

    Mental health counseling is very important as is a reading the great philosophers of all ages.
    I never had a male role model who offered me a complete picture of the best facets of behavior but with the above help I was able to
    Integrate into my own life the best of what I saw from the men within my life. No one is perfect but it’s vital to strive to be a better person. That’s how civilization gets better.

  • @johnnygilling
    @johnnygilling Рік тому +82

    It just gets exhausting reading and watching over and over again the negativity that is used to describe masculinity in the West today. I can't help but find it harder and harder to find examples of positive masculinity to hold as a goal and to aspire to, in education, media etc

    • @bernstock
      @bernstock Рік тому +3

      Agreed. Personally I find Bedros Keiulian is a massive help in this way. A great man

    • @jatrodai8921
      @jatrodai8921 Рік тому

      Me too. I really struggle as a young man to find a-role model i like and wanna be

    • @CMS_10
      @CMS_10 Рік тому +1

      Or become the role model you wish you had? For yourself and for others.

    • @johnnygilling
      @johnnygilling Рік тому +1

      @@CMS_10 it's hard to know exactly what that role model should be when I find constant critiquing of masculinity causes a lot of self doubt within myself

    • @James_36
      @James_36 Рік тому +1

      @@johnnygillingpart of being masculine is saying fck u to society’s bs - good starting point if you ask me

  • @jhwilson00
    @jhwilson00 Рік тому +77

    Even if a boy has a positive role model (aka as a Dad of boys I can vouch for) they can still struggle. I have noticed if boys are not athletic or academic, they can easily be left behind in school.

    • @CMS_10
      @CMS_10 Рік тому +8

      Some of the greatest men I know, didn't have good male role models growing up... some did. It's a compound problem. Sadly, a perfect storm.

    • @SabzKhumalo
      @SabzKhumalo Рік тому +9

      @@CMS_10 we all know why! They cut out physical subjects in schools like woodwork, electricity

    • @wendwllhickey6426
      @wendwllhickey6426 11 місяців тому +4

      Men need to build things to feel validated and do good work that no one will question

    • @Matanumi
      @Matanumi 8 місяців тому +5

      school today is largely day care and a poor waste of youths time

    • @saregama-r8td
      @saregama-r8td 8 місяців тому +2

      Really? So boys can have great fathers, uncles, grandfathers, male teachers, male coaches, and male role models on TV, yet still struggles. Huh. Makes no sense what so ever.

  • @RichardAlaskanforaPassing
    @RichardAlaskanforaPassing 8 місяців тому +105

    Men are discriminated against in higher education. A few years ago I applied for a Respiratory therapist program at a college after meeting all the criteria. I worked in the government, I was an EMT, I had worked at a hospital at the time and had been in healthcare for 6 years, I had excellent grades and grants too. When I went to the interview the Female interviewer said this program wasn't for every body and gave such condensing tones and even called me "dude" this grown 40 year old woman telling a 28 year old man he was a dude. I then talked to a lady who interviewed next after me who had worked as a CNA for 2 months and told me she got the spot in the program even after she said she had no idea what she was doing. Granted she was a nice lady but the discrimination was very apparent.
    If you ever want to see what female on male discrimination looks like, work in the hospital field. If you aren't a doctor you are essentially at the bottom of the pyramid. There truly is a class system.

    • @shin-ishikiri-no
      @shin-ishikiri-no 8 місяців тому

      I've heard more than once that the medical field and hospitals are essntially glorified harems for male doctors.

    • @Missy35249
      @Missy35249 8 місяців тому +3

      🎻

    • @shin-ishikiri-no
      @shin-ishikiri-no 8 місяців тому +7

      @@Missy35249 The faintest melody plays for you, onyx.

    • @ddduhawk3111
      @ddduhawk3111 7 місяців тому +7

      Yes, you hit the nail on the head. Try pleasing a divorced female principal, as a single male.... Good luck bc you will need a lot!! of it

    • @nonamewillbegiven9989
      @nonamewillbegiven9989 3 місяці тому

      ​@@shin-ishikiri-nocope

  • @CMS_10
    @CMS_10 Рік тому +114

    My 14 year old son is going through a truly rough time right now. We're going through a rough time. I see so much of the struggles Scott describes, in my son... it breaks my heart every minute of everyday. I wish the men in his life were brave enough. I wish they cared enough to be better men.

    • @addyolo9968
      @addyolo9968 Рік тому +7

      Going through the same with my 15 yr old x

    • @jhwilson00
      @jhwilson00 Рік тому +3

      Same…

    • @CMS_10
      @CMS_10 Рік тому +2

      @@addyolo9968 Sorry to hear 😔

    • @CMS_10
      @CMS_10 Рік тому +7

      @@jhwilson00 I hope and pray we all find a way forward.

    • @deantatlow4021
      @deantatlow4021 Рік тому +18

      Try and enroll your son in a sport or other activity outside the house.

  • @virginiamoss7045
    @virginiamoss7045 8 місяців тому +15

    Being a provider can mean providing full support for women making more money, making it possible for her to reach her full potential. My female doctor has a "house husband" who manages the entire family, kids, finances, housework, errands, cooking (a great chef), shopping, social arrangements, etc. so she can meet the overwhelming demands of taking care of other people and still have work/life balance.

    • @frontdeskstaff9359
      @frontdeskstaff9359 8 місяців тому

      You're a clown

    • @DEBrown1971
      @DEBrown1971 Місяць тому

      Her husband is a true example of a great guy who has self esteem and self confidence to be the house husband...a show of true masculinity

    • @virginiamoss7045
      @virginiamoss7045 Місяць тому +1

      @@DEBrown1971 indeed. I'd be happy with a man who simply voluteers to do his share of life after work, you know, the bare minimum of fairness.

  • @Miltonuts
    @Miltonuts 6 місяців тому +5

    I think one of the most important traits of masculinity is emotional maturity/control. Men can be dangerous, and should be. But they need to be in control of all of their actions and emotions because of that.

  • @touristtea6076
    @touristtea6076 Місяць тому +2

    This is a great way to get this information through. I’ve done exactly what he said in the past when I’d hear others cover the male crisis. They’d always come with women hate speech first. I couldn’t hear the really message. Men failed men and women were busy taking care of her own struggle.

  • @jamesw7609
    @jamesw7609 8 місяців тому +5

    As a male therapist that works with kids, I appreciate the last two minutes. Totally agree.

  • @51marigold
    @51marigold Місяць тому

    As a mom of two sons and a school counselor for 30 years ….. Galloway you are right on !!! Keep on speaking up for our young men !!!

  • @verdiwyld
    @verdiwyld Рік тому +9

    Thank you so much for shining a light on this and opening up the conversation. Healing this is vital for healthy society and a future living Earth.

  • @cks2020693
    @cks2020693 Місяць тому +1

    Ive been battling depression for 2.5 years since my daughter's birth, because we had 0 help from our parents, with my parents being on the other side of the planet, and my in-laws saying they would help but then decided not to.
    I was starving for guidance, support and validation, nobody has ever asked how im doing, how im feeling as a first time father, if i needed help. For 2 years ive been taking it out on my wife from time to time because shes the only one that cares but theres only so much she can do because shes also mildly autistic.
    I just realized last week that i was acting and seeing myself as someone who needs to be comforted, and thats the source of the problem, as when i see myself as a vulnerable being, i cant help but seek protection, and when that protection is not given, comes fight or flight.
    This is the sad reality we live in. As a man im not allowed to be vulnerable, im not allowed to be sentimental because nobody cares.
    Ironnically the way to combat all the problems as a male is to embrace male toxicity, because only when we dont see ourselves as vulnerable beings, when we dont expect love and care from others, we cant be hurt and fall into depression

  • @TimC-cn1vi
    @TimC-cn1vi 8 місяців тому +14

    I was lucky, my male role model was my father. Not a perfect person, but the best man I ever knew. I think many boys today don't have a father in their life. They don't how to be a man because there is no man in the household.

  • @immortalmkd1867
    @immortalmkd1867 Рік тому +48

    I fear that if this trend of men being ignored in this time of crisis goes on for another 10 years or more, I only see the majority of average men in the future eventually becoming so violent and filled with rage that they will lash out on the few top 1% of men seeing no other option then to eliminate the competition to be able to even have a chance at a normal life. It is an extremely dark road we are headed for.

    • @JohnSmith-ks5xw
      @JohnSmith-ks5xw 8 місяців тому

      Nah

    • @babyboijeremy
      @babyboijeremy 8 місяців тому +9

      Its not that serious. Most of these guys would rather off themselves than off someone else. You have to put into perspective. Even if those 1% guys are gone, the women still wont want them.
      This is less of a threat on them, but more a threat on society. Because society needs them to be productive in order to function.

    • @yeetyeetonthestreet-colinm1186
      @yeetyeetonthestreet-colinm1186 8 місяців тому +1

      true damn…

    • @yurigansmith
      @yurigansmith 8 місяців тому +4

      I think a scenario according to Chris Williamson's "male sedation hypothesis" is much more realistic than an actual revolt of "angry young men". It will constitute a huge cost problem for society as a whole, but probably not an existential threat.

    • @immortalmkd1867
      @immortalmkd1867 8 місяців тому +5

      @@yurigansmith the problem with this theory is you and everyone who is saying it’s not possible are not “angry young men” so how can you say for certain that 10 years of not getting laid and treated like a slave to society won’t cause mass shootings, riots, and all out war. Lol 😂

  • @AidenMarcelle887
    @AidenMarcelle887 Рік тому +57

    Some things are spot on. Others, fly in the face of logic and reason. As a 30 yo male, I completely understand the trans position. I just think they should wait until their prefrontal cortex has finished developing. You don’t want to make permanent, life-altering decisions while your brain and emotions are in flux. His emotion is getting the best of him here.

    • @carlosalexander6448
      @carlosalexander6448 Рік тому +8

      Exactly and considering the suicide rates are already high as is w/ the trans community it’s probably best not to complicate things for a child, especially as he stated earlier in his talk, biological males tend to mentally mature slower than biological females.

    • @spencervanhauter
      @spencervanhauter Рік тому

      It’s not a man’s job to protect trans people.

    • @dalewetzel3029
      @dalewetzel3029 Рік тому +18

      Yes. He refers to the protective instinct. My protective instinct kicks in when someone is abusing a teenager by feeding them drugs and hormones and exposing them to disfiguring surgery. NO

    • @hermann5347
      @hermann5347 Рік тому

      @@dalewetzel3029 That was my first thought as well: I oppose the Trans issue (particularly for minors) BECAUSE I have a sense of protection. I think what they are doing is child abuse of the worst kind. Probably on par with sexual abuse of minors, maybe worse. Another point is: I also value TRUTH as a pillar that men should strive for. And I just don´t think it is true. To pretend that gender is only socially constructed, completely divorced from biological sex. Or that you can easily change you sex by chopping of some body parts and taking hormones. You are not changing your sex, you are just mutilating your body to look a certain way.
      Also, his argument of protecting despite you don´t understand is so awful. If you support something and take actions with potentially serious outcomes you should better be sure you know what you are doing.

    • @wilmarkjohnatty4924
      @wilmarkjohnatty4924 8 місяців тому +11

      He is a progressive and a feminist. What he says about andrew tate applies to him as well - he is coming from a good place and he gives alot of good advice but he goes off the rails when it comes to his politics. There is no accountability for his side and he fails to realize that they are dismantling institutions that took thousands of years to build.

  • @aaronmhowe
    @aaronmhowe 8 місяців тому +49

    "You don't have to understand something to be a protector" should resonate with every man everywhere.

    • @derkcast620
      @derkcast620 8 місяців тому

      it has! I've been feeling it but i didnt have the words.

    • @thrall1342
      @thrall1342 8 місяців тому +5

      Yeah, I'd put a boatload of nuance on that:
      You'll have a hard time protecting somebody from themselves if you don't understand them and their situation, since you'll have no idea where the damage is.

    • @UnrealTransformer
      @UnrealTransformer 7 місяців тому +3

      Protect yourself first.

    • @thrall1342
      @thrall1342 7 місяців тому +1

      @@UnrealTransformer Sry, that sounds feminine. Men protect their values first and care about the consequences to themselves only after that.

    • @thrall1342
      @thrall1342 7 місяців тому

      @@winterwulf1995 Well put, I completely agree.
      That doesn't change what it means to be masculine though:
      knowing your values, project them onto the world and be ready to suffer for it.

  • @veritaspk
    @veritaspk 2 місяці тому +3

    Everyone tells guys that they need to up their game...that they need to be at the top to be successful, to be noticed - but the top is a very small place. Only the best are there, and they push everyone else down - because space is limited. This has always been men's reality - only now it has become too obvious for them - and it hurts. That's why so many people give up on climbing towards the top. I found a comfortable place along the way... and that's enough for me.

  • @Standardqueso
    @Standardqueso 7 місяців тому +2

    The part when he describes what is wrong on the right and left visions of modern masculinity it's just perfect. 6:09

  • @MichaelLabriola-f8s
    @MichaelLabriola-f8s 8 місяців тому +3

    The men in my family taught me what not to do by their careless, undisciplined behaviour. But that's better than not learning anything. I was blessed not to confuse dysfunction from functionally positive behavior.

  • @cartrefproperties
    @cartrefproperties 9 днів тому

    I volunteered to be a big brother when i was in my 20s. It was great experience and made me a better father when I had my own kids.

  • @snowbob78
    @snowbob78 8 місяців тому +11

    Did he say that we're supposed to understand if a 15-year-old boy wants a sex change where just ten minutes earlier, he said their frontal lobes were not fully formed?

    • @R._L.
      @R._L. 3 місяці тому

      Careful, friend. You may end up shattering the veneer of this controlled opp...
      🤭

    • @DeeJaan380
      @DeeJaan380 Місяць тому +3

      This guy is a walking contradiction. He made absolutely no sense. Then he told men to make money, give it to the woman and get out of her way. This guy is trying to sell books and coaching..

  • @MsJoyce31202
    @MsJoyce31202 8 місяців тому +1

    Be accountable where you can, not for anyone else's mistakes but your own. But young men (boys) need guidance (to be raised) too.

  • @slowrunn3r88
    @slowrunn3r88 8 місяців тому +11

    One of the biggest challenges I’ve noticed is “men vs women: who has it worse?” Is a stupid competition to have, but unfortunately a lot of women (understandably so) are frustrated seeing men complaining about men’s issues, because of all the hell most of them constantly go through. And then men (also understandably!) are frustrated when women say “men can’t have problems!!!” ….yeah, we absolutely do have problems
    I understand women wanting men to speak up and stand up for women, but women often say “it’s not our responsibility to rescue men.” And like in the one hand I get that, but at the very least, if a man is “whining” (I hate when people call it that 🤮), please please please do not “kick him when he is down.” If a woman can’t rescue him, that’s fine, but please don’t say “hahahaha you don’t have problems, and if you do, it’s the fault of men! Deal with it on your own!”

    • @BaiMengLing
      @BaiMengLing 7 місяців тому

      Most guys have the opposite problem in my experience, they refuse to acknowledge their problems, and therefore fail to take action to remediate. As any recovered addict knows, you can't heal as long as you do not have the courage to face your addiction. It all start with being humble rather than "fake strong", men who pretend to have it all together and it's only the women in his life who whines get nowhere else than losing their marriage, their kids, and even their friends.
      Read Gottman 7 rules for marriage

    • @linusmayhem1160
      @linusmayhem1160 4 місяці тому +3

      It’s so not a competition, you’re right. We need to strive to understand and have compassion for one another.
      Problems are relative. We all just want to be acknowledged and heard.

  • @druminusr1968
    @druminusr1968 Місяць тому

    We need more intelligent respectful conversations like this

  • @cuts240
    @cuts240 7 місяців тому +5

    I truly appreciate this interview and various insights . As an approaching 56 year old male I admit - I do not grasp “TS”- at all. At all.
    And I am masculine , provider and protector.
    And how it is made sense to protect that “group”- made sense .
    And I have a step son who has transitioned- and “she” has never been able to express or explain to my wife or me - what is this all
    Yet, I can see how I can “accept” and my role…
    And I got through college and graduate school - bc I wanted access to females
    I was the same . Same motivation

  • @frankpalancio8471
    @frankpalancio8471 8 місяців тому +24

    We grow up to find out our role models are very flawed.

    • @jaamall
      @jaamall 7 місяців тому +4

      Sounds like they're human.

  • @nathamara
    @nathamara 8 місяців тому +12

    As a woman who does not have a children, I am observing families, mothers, fathers, parenting,... The thing that does not feel right today, is that exaggerated role of a obsessive & devoted mother, that is formed in recent decades as a kind of cultural role model ... She and her kids ... As the highest possible love union, to the point like there was never ever a father, or any of his importance ... As much as there is a beauty and strength and devotion and sacrifice in being a mother, & in her expressing natural tendency to care for little human beings, this trend towards new matriarchy is a way to new imbalance in our society on many levels ... And for sure, in creating insecure young men ...

    • @robertzabinski6083
      @robertzabinski6083 7 місяців тому +4

      Idiocracy flourishes when the best and brightest remain barren while the flotsam and jetsam mix like so many turds in the punchbowl.

    • @linusmayhem1160
      @linusmayhem1160 4 місяці тому

      @@robertzabinski6083and yet, can you blame women when this is the standard that you’re supposed to live up to? It’s signing up for a life of depression. I feel for everyone today just trying to make it when we are so disconnected and divided.

    • @LaurenMilla
      @LaurenMilla 3 місяці тому +1

      It's such a misrepresentation to think matriarchy is the same but opposite extreme as patriarchy. That's not true matriarchy. Studies show actual matriarchal societies are co-working and inclusive, it's not viewing men as "lesser" the way patriarchy puts down women and femininity.

    • @nathamara
      @nathamara 3 місяці тому +1

      @@LaurenMilla We don't need patriarchy no matriarchy, we need free human beings, who has developed and balanced their inner female & male sides*

  • @DrCharlesParker
    @DrCharlesParker 11 місяців тому +2

    Well said Scott, clearly a significant problem - accountability in the context of having an internal structure in which the guy is accountable to himself, but he has no training on *How* to handle himself.

    • @elise9537
      @elise9537 8 місяців тому

      Thats what ppl need to learn from a young age. I didnt experience any favoritism from being a girl/ woman. Wish I did. It was quite the opposite. Even nice guys have a hard time telling me when they are not mentally well though I initiate the conversation because I notice when something is wrong.

  • @witwisniewski2280
    @witwisniewski2280 8 місяців тому +7

    Algebra of wealth is what schools are not teaching. Hardly any citizens understand how money works, and that is why laws and politics are enabling evisceration of most peoples economic basis.

  • @aaronmhowe
    @aaronmhowe 8 місяців тому +5

    I don't necessarily agree with everything this guy says, but I think he brings a positive voice to this important subject.

  • @trevdean540
    @trevdean540 Рік тому +20

    Worked for Morgan Stanley & BA in Economics & MBA! Started a Marketing Consultancy firm in 1997! Elected in 1999 to the WEF gobal leaders of tomorrow! Tells me all i need to know about him.

    • @joepeake8972
      @joepeake8972 8 місяців тому +16

      Yes, he's made his money in the system and is now in a comfortable enough position to criticise it without hurting his own chances. He's admitted on tv interviews that our society is rigged in favour of people like him. I wish all our elites were this honest.

    • @GazGuitarz
      @GazGuitarz 8 місяців тому

      @@joepeake8972 The UN/World Enslavement Forum are pretty "honest" about their intentions. They don't try to hide the fact that they want to micro rule the world nor do they hide the fact that they absolutely bitterly hate us and will use any means to achieve their vile agendas, including the use of bioweapons and the use of "directed evolution" to fulfil their fascist trans humanist agendas. Most of what this guy says is common knowledge and I doubt his sincerity. He hasn't given us any Achilles' heel that will allow us to bring the beast down ... just the same ol' same ol' that most of us have been aware of for many years now .. but were called derogatory names and censored. He is however certainly correct about the massive siphoning of monies from the public purse into the hands of the already uber wealthy .. but then he should know about that as he's a member of their vile club. It's a big club but most of us aren't nor ever will be in it.

  • @jessemiller7471
    @jessemiller7471 6 місяців тому +2

    As a high school teacher I agree 100% with this interview. I see so many young fellas in all sorts who just need guidance. But yeah no way would I be a primary/elementary teacher 😂 hats off to those brave men

  • @QoraxAudio
    @QoraxAudio Рік тому +37

    Real reason 90% of men are lost in life: low wages, high cost of living.
    Nowadays, you can work your ass off for years and never get closer to owning your own roof over your head, which is the most fundamental thing in life.
    If you can't be owner of the most fundamental part of your life, then what's the point of living?

    • @reneemac111
      @reneemac111 11 місяців тому

      If you vote for Trump, you will pay lower taxes and less on electricity and have more money to afford a house. If you vote for Biden , your tax money goes to illegal immigrants

    • @ChatGPT1111
      @ChatGPT1111 8 місяців тому +2

      All of the things Scott talks about in this video go back way farther than the recent high cost of living. Men have far more challenges than that. Did you even watch the video?

    • @QoraxAudio
      @QoraxAudio 8 місяців тому +5

      @@ChatGPT1111 Go away chatbot.

    • @ChatGPT1111
      @ChatGPT1111 8 місяців тому

      @@QoraxAudio Make me slimeball

    • @shaymalchione809
      @shaymalchione809 8 місяців тому +1

      Yes the wages they offer adult men is downright degrading.

  • @nickdutz
    @nickdutz 8 місяців тому +2

    I'm glad Scott is sharing his nuanced and caring perspective in this conversation that often gets polarized. And I'm glad that he's out there trying to help young people, regardless of what's going on between their legs. The vacuum of positive, healthy mentors and role models for young people under the influence of testosterone can lead to some pretty awful sh*t. So, trying to outline healthy, societally beneficial masculinity seems worthwhile and challenging. Although "protecting, providing and procreating" all seem to be pretty universal human inclinations regardless of whatever reproductive organs a person has, but I get what he's saying. For me what also might be helpful is to study what are (in general) the irrefutable hormonal and biological byproducts of having whatever sex organs you might be born with, (especially for young people) and try to identify how to positively channel those behaviors in our culture. Until we collectively get better at that, if I had to pick my poison, I think I'd rather have young testosterone-influenced people like my kids err on the side of watching a little too much porn and being a bit more passive in romantic pursuit than buy into misogynist, narcissistic, objectifying rape culture. Of course, it isn't an "either/or" path, which is part of his point, but I think it's something worth bringing up.

  • @Anonym-gg1gt
    @Anonym-gg1gt Рік тому +40

    This guy says a lot of truth. The thing I don't agree is the role of the protecter as a men. I have done my share of protecting ppl beeing assulted on the streets, got beaten up while doing so. Since they attack in groups of 4+ ppl. Even got stabbed once, trying to help. But if society rejects male in general and you get yelled at, when you hold a door open for a women, why should I risk my life for a stranger? Im at the point where I protect my famelly and frends, thats it.

    • @mrcheeks7335
      @mrcheeks7335 Рік тому +12

      I was just about to say this. You got me fucked up sideways if you think im getting stabbed by someone by sticking up for a stranger. Fuck that shit. Run.

    • @Jeremy-ql1or
      @Jeremy-ql1or Рік тому +9

      Not to mention if you do end up saving someone from an attack, you will very likely end up being vilified by the exact people you saved.

    • @painunending4610
      @painunending4610 Рік тому +7

      YES! Men are waking up!

    • @James_36
      @James_36 Рік тому

      Here is a good idea, DONT ever ever ever listen to an intellectual about dating they have no clue. Stop trying to work stuff out and just talk to plenty of women and use your instincts combined with some big balls - to any men out there STOP thinking over and over again what SHE wants. You will notice if you ever stop your constant overthinking that dumb asses who have 10 iq get WAY more women then the smart geeks out there

    • @GuineaPigEveryday
      @GuineaPigEveryday 11 місяців тому

      @@painunending4610 ??? waking up from what, dont be decent to other ppl? thats not male specific, plenty ppl dont trust others or wont stand up for strangers. not that its good,

  • @victormontalvo8144
    @victormontalvo8144 7 місяців тому

    Excellent conversation on today’s young men struggles. I really enjoyed professor Galloway’s ideas … congratulations for your channel!

  • @Jeremy-ql1or
    @Jeremy-ql1or Рік тому +147

    Woman: "Men need to open up and be emotionally vulnerable."
    Man: "Well, sometimes I feel like...
    Woman: "Awww...did you whittle man-child fee-wings get a boo-boo? MAN UP, LOSER!!"
    Man: "Well, I guess I will see what Andrew Tate has to say."

    • @dinos9607
      @dinos9607 Рік тому +39

      Yep, as funny as it is, that sums it up.

    • @grahamstrouse1165
      @grahamstrouse1165 Рік тому +6

      Unfortunately, that’s how things tend to play out.

    • @mbg9650
      @mbg9650 Рік тому +2

      Little boys are raised as defective girls in the school system but once adult, they still have the burden of performance cuz hypergamy does not care.

    • @truettadevil
      @truettadevil Рік тому +11

      In a patriarchal society, if women used your rationale, women would be the most suicidal demographic... not men.

    • @BVN-TEXAS
      @BVN-TEXAS Рік тому +21

      Women today have created men like Andrew Tate.

  • @cartrefproperties
    @cartrefproperties Місяць тому +1

    I have enjoyed coaching my boys in sports as they grew up and many of the kids i coached as well respected me as male role model other than their dad in their lives. I encourage my kids to ask their friends dads who they respect questions if they don't like my reply. Grandparents can also fill this role sometimes. It is affecting young men a lot today.

  • @9686-n3l
    @9686-n3l Рік тому +35

    Women are the perfect “yes men” and it lends to an easier entry into the middle management work force

    • @twainalex996
      @twainalex996 Рік тому +3

      Yes 👏🏽 it’s women’s fault.

    • @9686-n3l
      @9686-n3l Рік тому +15

      @@twainalex996 placing blame and noticing patterns are different but I understand why you think that

    • @Tendomcgoobin
      @Tendomcgoobin 11 місяців тому

      ​@@9686-n3l Your "patterns" are anecdotal and without ground. You aren't as intelligent as you see yourself.

    • @ChatGPT1111
      @ChatGPT1111 8 місяців тому +11

      At my last 3 companies, women were chosen to be the leaders (from supervisors to CEOs) simply because they are women. Had one rank tenth out of ten on the totem pole, get the job over the 9 men who put in for it.

    • @shaymalchione809
      @shaymalchione809 8 місяців тому +6

      Men have a harder time with authority.

  • @smokeykitty6023
    @smokeykitty6023 13 годин тому

    Great conversation. Very informative.

  • @jrod3260
    @jrod3260 8 місяців тому +6

    One thing about accountability, is to stop looking at it as punitive and start looking at it as a responsibility. Through accountability one grows, learns and understands to be an adult or a Man. "Save our boys 👍😎👍"

  • @dunmatta2670
    @dunmatta2670 Місяць тому

    I have considered myself pretty lucky. My dad wasn't always there for me because he was a workaholic trying to support the family. But I can empathize with many folks who feel they've underachieved in life. I definitely feel that for myself in my mid-thirties. I do count my blessings in life and appreciate everything that's come my way as they've helped build character. It won't be the same for most folks, so just know there's another stranger in your corner rooting for you to make it in life. I can't promise things will get easier but I can say there is light at the end of the tunnel if you can find it.

  • @piccolafamiglia3063
    @piccolafamiglia3063 Рік тому +13

    The biggest attractive characteristics of masculinity that would group in it all is courage, something missing completely in our society

  • @qbee53
    @qbee53 13 днів тому +1

    Self awareness and accountability. That is what is missing from childhood on. I disagree with Galloway on this subject but admire and agree with him and many others.

  • @KenLangdon-mq5nx
    @KenLangdon-mq5nx Рік тому +9

    As you go through your research there is one big category you didn't mention that I believe you need to address-on-line betting and gambling. The companies and apps that support that industry are targeting young men...I believe it has the potential to be more dangerous than porn

    • @C17HNO
      @C17HNO 8 місяців тому

      Let them, we make a lot of money on that sh*t. Young college aged males have always been the demographic to historically take risks and come out better on the other side.

  • @DavidMcmillan-e6i
    @DavidMcmillan-e6i 2 місяці тому

    Well done. This PODCAST hit a raw nerve.

  • @ilmostro16
    @ilmostro16 8 місяців тому +3

    Have you noticed how all the popular movies and TV shows over the past few years have female heroes and female geniuses while the men are either the bad guys or bumbling and incompetent? It seems very common now in media.

  • @phillynurse9492
    @phillynurse9492 8 місяців тому +1

    Who’s having a difficult time talking about men’s issues? It’s to the contrary, women have been saying that men need to deal with their issues just keep our name out of their your mouths. This conversation is refreshing and need to go nationwide ❤

  • @kanekeller3022
    @kanekeller3022 8 місяців тому +4

    I would caution against intervening on a fight, especially on a subway, unless you know you can win, or you will inspire support from other passengers.

    • @mr.mayhem7402
      @mr.mayhem7402 8 місяців тому +1

      Agreed. Read "How to live safely in a dangerous world" by Geoff Thompson to know why this is terrible advice and why he cautions against it. The likelihood is that both were turn on you. Some people have that type of relationship.

  • @edschell9411
    @edschell9411 8 місяців тому +2

    I was in sports in school, army then fraternity and there is nothing like being around your boys and comrades when you're young. We mostly give that up for family which is goof but we should still have those places to be.

  • @gualbertogarcia305
    @gualbertogarcia305 8 місяців тому +28

    There are Very Few RealMen that can Teach and Lead young Men Today.

    • @benjierodriguez6518
      @benjierodriguez6518 Місяць тому +1

      What do you mean by Real Men? What is a real Man? Please explain and elaborate with no generalizations. According to what or whom have you come to this concept. I'm interested.

    • @gualbertogarcia305
      @gualbertogarcia305 Місяць тому

      @@benjierodriguez6518 Just because a Male is GROWN, does “NOT” Make Him a RealMan. A few things about a RealMan is He TAKES RESPONSIBILITY for EVERYTHING He SAYS, DOES, HAS and OWNS. ALSO He TAKES FULL RESPONSIBILITY for His MISTAKES. NO EXCUSES !

  • @importedtv
    @importedtv 5 днів тому +1

    “BeyyyyyTUH!” - Jesse Lee Peterson 😂😂

  • @AsifK-tg7oz
    @AsifK-tg7oz 8 місяців тому +6

    Society's doing men a disservice , and then he proposes men should step up and protect those around him.

  • @SimonTemplarDude
    @SimonTemplarDude 8 місяців тому +1

    This prof is my new hero

  • @redreuben5260
    @redreuben5260 7 місяців тому +5

    I blame the Catholic Church and MeToo for the lack of male role models, men are no longer trusted in those positions. And those good men who can take those positions are avoiding the target on their backs.

  • @airplane2425
    @airplane2425 2 місяці тому

    I really like this. I like when men are open, caring, creative etc. but I NEED them to be protectors, providers and to pursue (not in a predatory way).

  • @nathanielbaker2093
    @nathanielbaker2093 5 місяців тому +3

    The only thing I really disagree with is that men’s role is automatically protect essentially everyone, primarily my disagreement with his point about the trans community. As a man if you see someone unjustifiably being harmed without the ability to protect themselves, you should intervene but with caution. In regards to men transitioning into women, men aren’t naturally inclined to protect all men, our natural proclivity is to protect women, not men who cross dress or may be taking hormones. Furthermore, our protection extends beyond the physical to the mental or psychological. As men we are tasked with helping people from harming themselves or getting themselves into trouble. And just automatically affirming trans individuals and providing physical protection with no questions asked is NOT a masculine thing to do. At all.

  • @tomchurch2285
    @tomchurch2285 7 місяців тому

    Excellent video! More videos like this are needed, as are books such as Richard Reeves’ “Of Boys and Men” in those physical spaces still operating as bookstores!

  • @pzmoore007
    @pzmoore007 8 місяців тому +3

    The national Guard was a great place for young men to find role models in real life.

  • @karlahnee
    @karlahnee 10 місяців тому +2

    "every digital version of your life is a shittier vision of the analogue version" 🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @OGmediahub
    @OGmediahub Рік тому +5

    Great vid 👍.
    Direct explanation of a manhood 💪

  • @michaelsantangelo6192
    @michaelsantangelo6192 Місяць тому

    I don't know how I got where I am in life. My grandmother used to call me "the child who rose from the ashes." My good friend once asked me, given my upbringing, how I'm even a functional adult. I never had a positive male role model. My father was a drug addict and a criminal. My mother divorced him when I was a baby and then immediately got with (and eventually married) and alcoholic who she allowed to abuse me horribly from as far back as I can remember until I left the house at 17. I'm talking physical injuries, not to mention the intense verbal and psychological abuse. I managed to graduate college and grad school (with degrees in psychology and mental health counseling), then had a complete mental breakdown and was diagnosed with a schizophrenia spectrum disorder. Luckily, I respond extremely well to antipsychotic medication. Today, I have a masters and a good job. I'm almost completely debt free (co-signed a small student loan for my brother). I have no relationship with my father, step father, or mother. I was married, but my ex-wife cheated on me so I divorced her. I'm lucky I have friends.

  • @martyevans1
    @martyevans1 Рік тому +41

    Enjoyed up until 9:20. No, children cannot consent to being put on chemical castration drugs.

    • @Jeremy-ql1or
      @Jeremy-ql1or Рік тому

      I think Galloway means well but he is really scared of the left and feminists. Any time he starts agreeing with men's issues too much, he will randomly throw out some progressive talking points about abortion rights or transgender issues.

    • @milosbulatovic3000
      @milosbulatovic3000 Рік тому

      A non-American comment here, he says men should be protective over trans people. But parents and doctors are subverting minors to gender-change operations. So, a logical conclusion is that men should protect them against parents and doctors, which translates they should protect them from their own ideology. That's tricky...

    • @ChatGPT1111
      @ChatGPT1111 8 місяців тому +2

      You're right. It takes approval from their teachers, principals and the school nurse.

    • @martyevans1
      @martyevans1 8 місяців тому +7

      @@ChatGPT1111 You missed my point ChatGPT. No child should be allowed to do this until they reach adult hood. The brain doesn’t finish developing until 25.

    • @ChatGPT1111
      @ChatGPT1111 8 місяців тому +1

      @@martyevans1 if that is the point you were making, I agree with you.

  • @travisclements1032
    @travisclements1032 20 днів тому

    ideaology clouding the conversation. Was hoping for more...

  • @michaelodom8490
    @michaelodom8490 Рік тому +13

    The distruction of the nuclear family

  • @Brian-os9qj
    @Brian-os9qj 8 місяців тому +2

    Galloway makes excellent points

  • @Landis_Grant
    @Landis_Grant Рік тому +40

    As a man ages in America, he realizes that starting a relationship with a woman isn’t worth it.

    • @createone100
      @createone100 8 місяців тому +4

      Well, I met my partner when he was 62 and I was 64. We are very happy.

    • @The_Chide
      @The_Chide 8 місяців тому +5

      Brother, did you not watch the whole video?

    • @Landis_Grant
      @Landis_Grant 8 місяців тому +1

      @@createone100 How’s the sex?

    • @shaymalchione809
      @shaymalchione809 8 місяців тому +5

      So be with a man

    • @andrewevans7992
      @andrewevans7992 7 місяців тому

      Fr.. men would watch stop watching pron if women would stop making it and being 304’s, theres literally no incentive to being with a woman these days, due to the government and how society treats women way better for being degenerates and shits on men

  • @o2Monster_X
    @o2Monster_X Рік тому +2

    Scott, all the best mate, you're content is phenomonal.

  • @henrikelanschuetzer4261
    @henrikelanschuetzer4261 Рік тому +5

    So glad to have had totally different raw models as male protagonists . Grandpa, father, uncles, husband etc. were all galaxies above such a chaotic negativ data collector.

  • @marcgoldstein2957
    @marcgoldstein2957 8 місяців тому +1

    This needs half a million views.

  • @forrestsmith4963
    @forrestsmith4963 8 місяців тому +4

    Why can’t we just call “a male role-model” “a father”? Many of our social problems will solve themselves if we can just start promoting fatherhood and male leadership.

    • @_melvonty
      @_melvonty 7 місяців тому +1

      I hear you…but try to think further than our society just doesn’t promote it. Men don’t have the right to demand a place in the mother of their child’s life, they don’t even get a say in whether the child is or isn’t terminated. Majority of custody goes to mothers (many reasons) and in the worst cases, fathers can be alienated from their children at no fault of their own. And yes, dead beats. I was raised by my father and grandmother…women can be deadbeats too. Male role models are simply that, a model of hopefully a moral and righteous man in society. There are many for the fatherless, filling the void for boys and girls. It’s just not so simple. Be well ✌🏾

  • @stephaniegrabreck7379
    @stephaniegrabreck7379 4 дні тому +1

    You’re right a 19yr old or young adults in general should not have to pay for the sins of their father or grandfather or culture or heritage or whatever that’s screwed up… everyone goes “oh it’s responsibility” like it’s that simple

  • @UserName1234
    @UserName1234 Рік тому +3

    He's a treasure.