duuuuude I just got a new job filling in for an elderly housewife while she helps her adult daughter with some health issues out of state. I knew it was going to be work but it’s wild how much she’s still on the clock while her husband is fully retired. The other day before she left he was asking “what’s this aspirin doing here, we don’t use this?” And she was like “you take it every day because of that heart attack you had.” Not only is she doing everything including filling his daily pill organizer with all his medications, he’s not even 100% sure what he’s taking. She loves him very much but it’s crazy to me that she’s literally keeping him alive while he’s on vacation mode for the rest of his life
You have this right. I was married 36 years & now am widowed. I worked full time and did everything in the home, cooking, cleaning, laundry, kids, gardening and holiday magic, as well as the emotional labor for a stunted man. We were supposedly “50/50” but since I worked much longer days 7 days a week with no time off (vacations and weekends are not time off for moms), I came to see it as 80/20. I’m not sad he’s gone. The whole thing of marriage is a scam on women. If I were young today, I’d stay single and take occasional lovers. I would never live with a man again.
I felt like the leech and the parasite in my marriage for 20 yrs because I only worked casual hours and my husband paid all the bills, all I did was run the household and care for our daughter (my husband was away on business trips a lot and over the summer I felt like a single mom), but now I’m realizing that he was the leech 🤯
💯 this is what i do now! i wfh full time, contribute to the household but the VAST majority of my income goes right into savings + retirement accounts. mr. pays the lion’s share of expenses and we split domestic responsibilities + household mental load based on strengths/preferences. we constantly communicate and readjust chores every couple of weeks so neither of us feel burned out on 1 task, and it gives us a chance to figure out how to optimize the way we do the tasks with swapping. this is until we can comfortably afford a housekeeper to do deep cleaning a few times a month, but honestly it’s easy enough to do on our own now. we’re childfree but have cats, and the setup i described includes their care. im the happiest i’ve ever been and he would tell you the same, we’re more connected than ever AND AND that translates to more intimacy as well. this is the way for modern relationships im telling you now, im 28, he’s 33, THIS works. ❤
Employed is okay if necessary. But really, owning one's own business, especially a family business, is the way to go. There are a lot of trolls and shills out here disparaging the family business saying he can always leave you and take it all. Well baby, that is what a contract is for. A post nup if necessary. Business partners draw up contracts all the time. This is de rigur. To build a family business means there will be something for the children if they want it. And the way the workforce is going, trust me, they will want that option in a great deal of cases. Furthermore, moms who can stay with their kids and avoid sending them to government indoctrination centers known as schools are doing a good thing. Many cannot afford it, and that's not their fault. I'm just saying that if you can swing it? Swing away. So it's all about having someone you can trust. The answer isn't necessarily just to be on a W-2 as a woman. It can be much more nuanced than that. It just depends on the dude being a decent person. And that is the big gamble, isn't it? And finally, I have posted a bunch of video content about the many facets of the topic of patriarchy, and a lot of it gets pulled. It's amazing that our gal and the video gets to stay up.
@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969 I would not want to burden my children with the obligation to take over a 'family business', I would much rather take the money I make and put it in their college fund. Owning your own business is absolutely not the best guarantee to make wealth, the vast majority of startup businesses never turn a profit, ever.
YES!!! Once he takes everything he can get he will leave and make every attempt to annihilate you in the way out! There is absolutely no reason to learn these things the hard way. Wake up!
This is such a needed addition to the discourse. I in theory want 50/50 (no kids for me; with kids it's inherently impossible) but your make a great point with the other "skills" in which men lack and make 50/50 not worth it. Silly me growing up with a widowed mom who managed everything on her own assumed that in partnered relationship life is easier, half the work. No, being in a relationship adds to women's workload and reduces men's, statistically
I'm gay, but me and my husband each strive for 60/40 us each fighting over who gives 60. It's like a competition to do more for each other and be nicer to each other. So men definitely can give more than they get. Lots of men just think women are less than them, so they don't see y'all as equal to them. Narcissism really.
Just saying. Any hint that a man thinks he's better or more capable than you as a person, leave his dumbass, because he's not going to ever value you as an equal.
A masterclass! Every woman, young or old (yes old, bc it's never too late to improve your life) needs to learn this! This should be shown in middle-school classrooms for girls to understand about their value and for boys to recognize & break the toxic cycle.
I had to beg my ex to smooth out his nails. He was a dirty bastard. He literally only changed his hygiene routine by observing how I did my hygiene. My moisturizer, my deodorant, me using a rag in the shower, me double cleansing... He copied it all from me. I should've left him way sooner, but I didn't realize the cleanliness he showed in the beginning of me knowing him was not normal. He literally told me "men don't smooth out their nails" meanwhile he's wondering why I don't want him to touch me down there.
Omg my skin is crawling. My mom told me she got infections every time she and her boyfriend had sex because of HIS HANDS. I screamed inside. I have a thing about hands. If the hands aren’t beautiful they are not touching me. I can’t. I just can’t. I guess I don’t need to worry any more since I’m 4B now but omg OMG!!!! So vile!!!!!!!
@Not_That_Karen_Bih I assumed he was clean from the beginning. I didn't visit his place until he invited me (of course he cleaned it before I got there). A year passed after he deployed for 6 months. He got a new place, and every time I brought up a concern about his cleanliness he'd make an excuse, claiming he was too depressed or busy to pick up trash or dirty clothes. Then I started to notice the state of his hands, saying he should have a manicure. He told me men don't get those. He was a literal child and I didn't notice because I had my own life to worry about (I was in the Army).
Dude. I was trying to tell a dude that 50/50 was bunk and 100/100 was the way to go and he legit tried to use the laws of math to say they both equal 1 so they are the same. 😂😂😂😂 Like dude are you purposely misunderstanding me?
THANK YOU SO MUCH. THIS IS IT. THIS IS THE VIDEO THAT LAYS IT ALL OUT THERE AND EXPLAINS IT ALL SO WELL!!!! GAWD I have been trying to wrap my head around the entire 50/50 topic bc I wanted to believe in it but I couldn’t bc I was raised in a hardcore “50/50 is feminist” mentality. And I watched many videos on the topic but NONE have really explained it with data and facts and visual logic and clarity and with realistic examples. THANK YOU SO MUCH LISA. I swear you are doing Goddess’ work and I am having such an empowering, feminist awakening that is already changing my life for the better. Your wisdom and your work are so important. Keep sharing it with us. Much much love
In the 1950s, women’s husbands died sooner. Their lives started THEN. And I’ve seen they live up to about age high 90s. So they would have on average 30 to 20s years of happiness after their husband was gone. In the 90s when middle management was getting laid off and men were offered early retirement, they would be home with their wives, shortening HER life. The whole 50/50 thing is such a scam, i am shocked that people fall for that crap. Even with men that are rich!! I’ve heard of women going into debt after they get a rich partner!! Like what a scam?? These men are straight up fleecing women, destroying their lives. Why be with someone that is using you!!?
For me therapy is no longer a plus. Unless he see’s his therapist at least twice a month and has done so for at least a year or longer. His demons can still hurt me. The last man I dated, went to one session of therapy and tells everyone he’s pro therapy. Trust me ladies that wolves clothing is difficult to see through. It’s scary!!! I knew you had to have a supportive man! Queen!
Yep, and most of them go to therapy, pick up the lingo, and then regurgitate them to see emotionally intelligent and evolved. Prime example: Jonah Hill
@@Not_That_Karen_Bih no but I am also not about to date a man who will abuse and use me in a relationship in order to fix his issues or “figure out his relationship style” or boost his EGO
A guy who grew up trained to clean the house messes up the coffee bar spilling coffee and beans everywhere and when told, "You need to clean this up." he says "I always clean up the coffee after myself." no he doesn't you can watch him spill and mess up in real time and he does zero cleaning but will lie even when you call him out in the same hour.
As someone who hasn’t prioritized her finances and has prioritized always being in shape and looking good, I am trying hard now to find a job. I have a degree but it’s been hard to find work since graduating two years ago. I also am 32 and went back to college at 26 and graduated at 30 so I feel I’m late to the game. I mean thankfully I’m not fat and unkempt but I need to have my own finances and move out. I work out twice a day. I am very strict and keep up my appearance which isn’t something many men do, so at least I have that. I also don’t have any friends and rely on myself, but haven’t felt compelled to make friends because I had terrible friendships growing up
The ambition framing sucks. The pressure women feel to "be" something in life, as if being themselves wasn't enough, is something I see among many of my friends, and it leads to a lot of anxiety. Instead of hoping that men were ambitious (what for? And I do think they are, just in pretty destructive ways) I wish people didn't have the need to prove their worth to society
There are far too many expectations placed on people, particularly women and most of all modern women to have it all. I think as a result of women having far more opportunities there's an expectation that ALL women must be ambitious and driven. Because that's what men are like, at least those that we see as successful.
There are far too many expectations placed on people, particularly women and most of all modern women to have it all. I think as a result of women having far more opportunities there's an expectation that ALL women must be ambitious and driven. Because that's what men are like, at least those that we see as successful
Let's talk about nervous systems and energy. Women's nervous systems and energy are geared toward harmony. Men's nervous systems and energy are geared toward disharmony. Who brings peace and harmony to the household and the relationship? Who brings chaos, stress, and disharmony to the household and the relationship? Just our presence is calming to men. Their presence is stressful to us. So without doing anything else, all we have to do is exist and we are bringing valuable peace of mind to a man. Why does he get to benefit from our calming presence, while we have to tolerate the detrimental effects of his stressful presence?
Stop with all this gender essentialist b s. Do you even realize you fit right in with 'trad wives' with this comment? The most stressful person I ever met in my life, by a LOT, was my ab*sive mother. I am a feminist who supports this channel, but feminism is just believing in equality, not any natural superiority to one gender or another. Your gender does not dictate who you are, and being born female certainly doesn't turn you into some angel as you claim here.
Actually, what you're saying makes a lot of sense ⊙︿⊙ To be honest, I never really thought about it that way, but even then, I think I may consider these tips for myself, since I'm still trying to work on my own stuff ^-^
Not everyone ends up happy with a significant other.. if you do, well you are blessed. Life’s a journey everyone has a different path. Be happy with yours. VIVA YV_edit VIVA AZTLAN
There's kind of a lot to unpack here. I'll start saying I agree with you 100% that patriarchy is disgusting and its legacy in financial and social control over the years has really allowed men to get away with not just the minimum but below it. I think women should ask for more but maybe its a semantic thing but I assumed 50/50 meant 50/50 share of effort and power in the relationship where no party should have the upper hand. Both legally the loss of rights for women and the social acceptance of less for women, violence against them and dismissing their needs or wants is gross. Idk if its intentional but a few points, trans men can get pregant and have to deal with hardship of being pregant even if its less common. Gay men are your allies and are fighting the same struggles as you against cis normality, heteronormality, white supremacy, patriarchy and capital rule. Gay men really want to reach out and help you but we are not feeling the intersectional struggle if you hyper fixate on gender as a concrete war, society and hierarchies make those differences cruel and unjust but men and women outside of our biased socialization really aren't that different. I get its not your intention here and you give pockets of good advise to young women who feel taken advantage of and ignored by society but I can't help but feel like you are erasing trans and gay struggles if you're lumping those men with the F boys. Side tangent also, I don't see how partaking in drugs makes someone lesser, as someone who first hand experiences social stigma and legal recourse on what you do or put with your own bodily autonomy I would be hoping you'd have some empathy for people who choose to put substances in their body. I get preferences so if it's not your thing more power too you but lets not say they lose social value or people points please.
This is a problem. Often, they never deal with intersectionality. Most of all, they NEVER mention the challenges of low status, working class, men. The patriarchy relies on men with low agency. It always has. They're not as privileged as is made out to be. Lisa actually mentions a few things like having very few friends/relationships, low motivation/drive. What's the most common word used by male su*cide victims - 'worthless'. They're not worthless, they are humans and have value too.
Lol yeah totally forget about the good, avg men out there who get played by pretty girls all the time. Not sure why youtube keeps recommending me this channel. I disagree 99% of what she said in like 4 vids I watched out of curiosity. Obviously if a girl goes after a guy who is WAY out of her league and he has a bunch of girls already chasing him , OBVIOUSLY he might treat her like this girl describes how "all men treat girls". But there r a lot of good guys who get played too by girls who think they are too good for them. And she is taking advantage of stereotyping all men as someone "who are out to get u" It breaks MY heart, how young, impressionable girls start believing that and then start clump all men as a**holes. I'm sure lots of girls, who have been hurt by some dude in the past, who listen to content like this and are like "yeah, all men r sh*t", and when u start thinking that, u attract more losers, and then u tell urself u were correct. It's called CONFIRMATION BIAS, people, wake up. Like lmao okayyy, I'll back off , to each their own, but it's sad to see content like this divide people and makes people be suspicious of the other gender that they can't even enjoy a good relationship when it comes their way cuz they are like "hmmmmm, I'm waiting for this guy to trip up soon cuz after all, all men r shtt and tryna take advantage of me." I've met great guys in my life, and some who were COMPLETE jerks, who just wanted to use and move to the next cuz the grass is greener on the other side syndrome. I would like youtube to stop suggesting me useless content like this that adds no value and makes others forget that we are all human at the end of the day, and there r good and bad people in both genders, and all men aren't sh*t and "out there trying to swindle u and take advantage of u" her words The men who u allow to use u are the ones who don't like u and u aren't their dream girl. Girls use men too to get emotional support, make him think he has a chance, then friendzone him. But of course, no one cares about that. And I'll just be labeled a hater, so ok people , u do u
It’s not a coincidence that most cr!m!n@ls in the whole world are mn, there is something in mn that makes then do more Ev!l than wmn general speaking. You do know that married wmn regardless of how their husbands look like, don’t live as long as single wmn. Divorce attorneys are saying the mn are the problem nit wmn. Go do your research. An unattractive mn is not a better person just because wmn are out of their league. Jay z is significantly worse looking than Beyoncé but still che@ted. Nicki minaj dated a normal guy who still cheated. You obviously don’t understand mn. Go do your research about how many mn leave their wives after the wives get cancer. There is research that shows that most std patients are married wmn who got it from their mn. This has nothing to do with being out of somebody’s league.
It’s not a coincidence that most cr!m!n@ls in the whole world are mn, there is something in mn that makes then do more Ev!l than wmn general speaking. You do know that married wmn regardless of how their husbands look like, don’t live as long as single wmn. Divorce attorneys are saying the mn are the problem nit wmn. Go do your research. An unattractive mn is not a better person just because wmn are out of their league. Jay z is significantly worse looking than Beyoncé but still che@ted. Nicki minaj dated a normal guy who still cheated. You obviously don’t understand mn. Go do your research about how many mn leave their wives after the wives get cancer. There is research that shows that most std patients are married wmn who got it from their mn. This has nothing to do with being out of somebody’s league.
It’s not a coincidence that most cr!m!n@ls in the whole world are mn, there is something in mn that makes then do more Ev!l than wmn general speaking. You do know that married wmn regardless of how their husbands look like, don’t live as long as single wmn. Divorce attorneys are saying the mn are the problem nit wmn. Go do your research. An unattractive mn is not a better person just because wmn are out of their league. Jay z is significantly worse looking than Beyoncé but still che@ted. Nicki minaj dated a normal guy who still cheated. You obviously don’t understand mn. Go do your research about how many mn leave their wives after the wives get cancer. There is research that shows that most std patients are married wmn who got it from their mn. This has nothing to do with being out of somebody’s league.
“Used by a pretty girl” is always so funny to me because it glosses over the fact that MEN are the ones that continue to place such a high value on women’s beauty. God forbid a woman takes advantage of someone objectifying her.
Do provide specific examples so we can demonstrate with sources how men have systematically excluded women from any work that would fall into this category. I dare you.
My sister taught her sons how to mow the yard. I taught them how to build furniture, my brother taught them how to lay floors. Their daddy is just there not knowing or doing anything. So please... Tell us what men do that women could never.
Is that the best comeback you've got? Can't invalidate or debate any of her actual points, so you resort to low IQ, low effort insults? That's sad. My dude, that's embarrassing for you, yikes. I am embarrassed on your behalf.
I deadass had to get nasty hard plaque off of my ex's teeth because it was just disgusting to kiss him & he wasn't going to the dentist. He would get angry at me when I told him it smelled bad in the morning. Then he'd have the audacity to tell me mine smell bad too so I shouldn't have complained. 🤢 Never again
This woman is the High Priestess of common sense
Alot of this stuff is her being downright misandristic, she is a misandrist
@@abbeyjane5014 What is untrue? Is the truth misandristic? Or are we simply not used to NOT overrating males and seeing them as they are instead?
@@abbeyjane5014 She's saving lives and you're jealous
duuuuude I just got a new job filling in for an elderly housewife while she helps her adult daughter with some health issues out of state.
I knew it was going to be work but it’s wild how much she’s still on the clock while her husband is fully retired.
The other day before she left he was asking “what’s this aspirin doing here, we don’t use this?” And she was like “you take it every day because of that heart attack you had.”
Not only is she doing everything including filling his daily pill organizer with all his medications, he’s not even 100% sure what he’s taking.
She loves him very much but it’s crazy to me that she’s literally keeping him alive while he’s on vacation mode for the rest of his life
My God…this is traumatizing. He’s her child.
He's living the dream.
@@eliza6971 this is why married men live longer…. And why single women live longer…it’s been scientifically proven.
You have this right. I was married 36 years & now am widowed. I worked full time and did everything in the home, cooking, cleaning, laundry, kids, gardening and holiday magic, as well as the emotional labor for a stunted man. We were supposedly “50/50” but since I worked much longer days 7 days a week with no time off (vacations and weekends are not time off for moms), I came to see it as 80/20. I’m not sad he’s gone. The whole thing of marriage is a scam on women. If I were young today, I’d stay single and take occasional lovers. I would never live with a man again.
I totally agree with you. It's a scam.
same, I would never ever live with a man again. I'd rather live in a tiny studio apartment on my own than in a mansion with a man.
When my son moves out that will be it for me. I will never live with a man again.
I felt like the leech and the parasite in my marriage for 20 yrs because I only worked casual hours and my husband paid all the bills, all I did was run the household and care for our daughter (my husband was away on business trips a lot and over the summer I felt like a single mom), but now I’m realizing that he was the leech 🤯
I fully endorse women also always staying employed, and putting the majority of their income into savings! 🙂
100%!!!
💯 this is what i do now! i wfh full time, contribute to the household but the VAST majority of my income goes right into savings + retirement accounts.
mr. pays the lion’s share of expenses and we split domestic responsibilities + household mental load based on strengths/preferences. we constantly communicate and readjust chores every couple of weeks so neither of us feel burned out on 1 task, and it gives us a chance to figure out how to optimize the way we do the tasks with swapping.
this is until we can comfortably afford a housekeeper to do deep cleaning a few times a month, but honestly it’s easy enough to do on our own now.
we’re childfree but have cats, and the setup i described includes their care. im the happiest i’ve ever been and he would tell you the same, we’re more connected than ever AND AND that translates to more intimacy as well. this is the way for modern relationships im telling you now, im 28, he’s 33, THIS works. ❤
Employed is okay if necessary. But really, owning one's own business, especially a family business, is the way to go. There are a lot of trolls and shills out here disparaging the family business saying he can always leave you and take it all. Well baby, that is what a contract is for. A post nup if necessary. Business partners draw up contracts all the time. This is de rigur.
To build a family business means there will be something for the children if they want it. And the way the workforce is going, trust me, they will want that option in a great deal of cases.
Furthermore, moms who can stay with their kids and avoid sending them to government indoctrination centers known as schools are doing a good thing. Many cannot afford it, and that's not their fault. I'm just saying that if you can swing it? Swing away.
So it's all about having someone you can trust. The answer isn't necessarily just to be on a W-2 as a woman. It can be much more nuanced than that. It just depends on the dude being a decent person. And that is the big gamble, isn't it?
And finally, I have posted a bunch of video content about the many facets of the topic of patriarchy, and a lot of it gets pulled. It's amazing that our gal and the video gets to stay up.
@@veri.contrary That's fantastic! Good for you guys 🙂
@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969 I would not want to burden my children with the obligation to take over a 'family business', I would much rather take the money I make and put it in their college fund. Owning your own business is absolutely not the best guarantee to make wealth, the vast majority of startup businesses never turn a profit, ever.
There is nothing 50 / 50 about a 50/50 relationship especially when there are children involved.
Same. I will die on this hill too.
THANK YOU!!! 🫂🩷✨
YES!!! Once he takes everything he can get he will leave and make every attempt to annihilate you in the way out! There is absolutely no reason to learn these things the hard way. Wake up!
Do not do anything for a man. Do it because you want to. If he doesnt like any of those things tell him he can leave.
I did not have the language for what I was feeling when dating men. Thank you for breaking this down so clearly.
They don't have survival skills, so they create a lots of survival games.
All the veils have been lifted off women’s eyes.
@@amazinggrace313 we need to reach the women in their 20s because they are ripe for manipulation
This is such a needed addition to the discourse. I in theory want 50/50 (no kids for me; with kids it's inherently impossible) but your make a great point with the other "skills" in which men lack and make 50/50 not worth it. Silly me growing up with a widowed mom who managed everything on her own assumed that in partnered relationship life is easier, half the work. No, being in a relationship adds to women's workload and reduces men's, statistically
Living with a man is MORE work than living alone
That part
Thank you Lisa. This is why men are so pissed off now. They are starting to figure this out.
I'm gay, but me and my husband each strive for 60/40 us each fighting over who gives 60. It's like a competition to do more for each other and be nicer to each other. So men definitely can give more than they get.
Lots of men just think women are less than them, so they don't see y'all as equal to them. Narcissism really.
Just saying. Any hint that a man thinks he's better or more capable than you as a person, leave his dumbass, because he's not going to ever value you as an equal.
what makes them think women are lesser?
Another sermon 🔥
Pantaloons🤣
This should be shown in school. Thanks for doing this and giving a really good run down of what is what.
Women also like to have a man that takes care of his apereance. We like it a lot. We also apreciate when he's a good cook. Like, very much
This.
❤❤❤💯💯💯
Awesome on-point content like always
girl i think i love you 😭
Very insightful
this is brilliant!
A masterclass! Every woman, young or old (yes old, bc it's never too late to improve your life) needs to learn this! This should be shown in middle-school classrooms for girls to understand about their value and for boys to recognize & break the toxic cycle.
❤❤❤💯. No lies told here 👀
I had to beg my ex to smooth out his nails. He was a dirty bastard. He literally only changed his hygiene routine by observing how I did my hygiene. My moisturizer, my deodorant, me using a rag in the shower, me double cleansing... He copied it all from me. I should've left him way sooner, but I didn't realize the cleanliness he showed in the beginning of me knowing him was not normal. He literally told me "men don't smooth out their nails" meanwhile he's wondering why I don't want him to touch me down there.
Ewwww 🤢
Omg my skin is crawling. My mom told me she got infections every time she and her boyfriend had sex because of HIS HANDS. I screamed inside. I have a thing about hands. If the hands aren’t beautiful they are not touching me. I can’t. I just can’t. I guess I don’t need to worry any more since I’m 4B now but omg OMG!!!! So vile!!!!!!!
Why'd you stay with him if he was that nasty?
@Not_That_Karen_Bih I assumed he was clean from the beginning. I didn't visit his place until he invited me (of course he cleaned it before I got there). A year passed after he deployed for 6 months. He got a new place, and every time I brought up a concern about his cleanliness he'd make an excuse, claiming he was too depressed or busy to pick up trash or dirty clothes. Then I started to notice the state of his hands, saying he should have a manicure. He told me men don't get those. He was a literal child and I didn't notice because I had my own life to worry about (I was in the Army).
Love to see your channel growing nicely ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks!
thank you so much 🩷🫂✨
Dude. I was trying to tell a dude that 50/50 was bunk and 100/100 was the way to go and he legit tried to use the laws of math to say they both equal 1 so they are the same. 😂😂😂😂
Like dude are you purposely misunderstanding me?
So, so many truths. I wish I knew this when I was younger.
Bedankt
Every woman on this planet needs to hear this!!
merry christmas Lisa, its been amazing watching all your vids this past year
this is so true 😢❤ her pillars of patriarchy videos rocked my world and just when i needed it 😊
@@adhiambogwengwalchen
I will be listening to this daily to ensure all of the points stay top of mind!
Yes! Thank you for speaking on anger!
I like the way this was broken down, thank you!
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
THIS IS IT. THIS IS THE VIDEO THAT LAYS IT ALL OUT THERE AND EXPLAINS IT ALL SO WELL!!!!
GAWD I have been trying to wrap my head around the entire 50/50 topic bc I wanted to believe in it but I couldn’t bc I was raised in a hardcore “50/50 is feminist” mentality. And I watched many videos on the topic but NONE have really explained it with data and facts and visual logic and clarity and with realistic examples.
THANK YOU SO MUCH LISA. I swear you are doing Goddess’ work and I am having such an empowering, feminist awakening that is already changing my life for the better.
Your wisdom and your work are so important. Keep sharing it with us.
Much much love
In the 1950s, women’s husbands died sooner. Their lives started THEN. And I’ve seen they live up to about age high 90s. So they would have on average 30 to 20s years of happiness after their husband was gone.
In the 90s when middle management was getting laid off and men were offered early retirement, they would be home with their wives, shortening HER life.
The whole 50/50 thing is such a scam, i am shocked that people fall for that crap. Even with men that are rich!! I’ve heard of women going into debt after they get a rich partner!! Like what a scam?? These men are straight up fleecing women, destroying their lives.
Why be with someone that is using you!!?
I think we have found our leader 😄
😂😂😂i think so too
1:55 Not the cargo shorts and Sports Clips hair cut 😭 So true
Yes!!!!!! Thank you for posting on youtube 🎉🎉🎉🎉 sharing with my non-TikTok friends asap
For me therapy is no longer a plus. Unless he see’s his therapist at least twice a month and has done so for at least a year or longer. His demons can still hurt me.
The last man I dated, went to one session of therapy and tells everyone he’s pro therapy. Trust me ladies that wolves clothing is difficult to see through.
It’s scary!!!
I knew you had to have a supportive man! Queen!
Yep, and most of them go to therapy, pick up the lingo, and then regurgitate them to see emotionally intelligent and evolved. Prime example: Jonah Hill
Are you paying for his therapy?
Also, at what point can someone STOP going to therapy?
@@Not_That_Karen_Bih no but I am also not about to date a man who will abuse and use me in a relationship in order to fix his issues or “figure out his relationship style” or boost his EGO
@@Not_That_Karen_Bih if you have major childhood trauma and also hate women and your mother one session will not cut it.
This so so good!!!!!! All women need to realize this 🤯
Loving all these videos!!!
Speak on it, Sista! ❤💯😄👌🏾
The cargo shorts pic ong 😂😂😂😂😂
Lisa you’re amazing! I love your work. You brighten my day with your content 🥰💥💃
So good
This is so real!!!! Lordy. I am so good without relationship bullshit. Hard pass.
A guy who grew up trained to clean the house messes up the coffee bar spilling coffee and beans everywhere and when told, "You need to clean this up." he says "I always clean up the coffee after myself." no he doesn't you can watch him spill and mess up in real time and he does zero cleaning but will lie even when you call him out in the same hour.
Well done 💜🙏🏽🕊
The mic drop heard around the world.
As someone who hasn’t prioritized her finances and has prioritized always being in shape and looking good, I am trying hard now to find a job. I have a degree but it’s been hard to find work since graduating two years ago. I also am 32 and went back to college at 26 and graduated at 30 so I feel I’m late to the game. I mean thankfully I’m not fat and unkempt but I need to have my own finances and move out. I work out twice a day. I am very strict and keep up my appearance which isn’t something many men do, so at least I have that. I also don’t have any friends and rely on myself, but haven’t felt compelled to make friends because I had terrible friendships growing up
What you look like is not as important as you think it is.
Sis you Don't Miss!!🔥🔥🔥‼️💪🏾
The ambition framing sucks. The pressure women feel to "be" something in life, as if being themselves wasn't enough, is something I see among many of my friends, and it leads to a lot of anxiety. Instead of hoping that men were ambitious (what for? And I do think they are, just in pretty destructive ways) I wish people didn't have the need to prove their worth to society
just maintain frame. thats it.
There are far too many expectations placed on people, particularly women and most of all modern women to have it all.
I think as a result of women having far more opportunities there's an expectation that ALL women must be ambitious and driven. Because that's what men are like, at least those that we see as successful.
There are far too many expectations placed on people, particularly women and most of all modern women to have it all.
I think as a result of women having far more opportunities there's an expectation that ALL women must be ambitious and driven. Because that's what men are like, at least those that we see as successful
Let's talk about nervous systems and energy. Women's nervous systems and energy are geared toward harmony. Men's nervous systems and energy are geared toward disharmony. Who brings peace and harmony to the household and the relationship? Who brings chaos, stress, and disharmony to the household and the relationship? Just our presence is calming to men. Their presence is stressful to us. So without doing anything else, all we have to do is exist and we are bringing valuable peace of mind to a man. Why does he get to benefit from our calming presence, while we have to tolerate the detrimental effects of his stressful presence?
Stop with all this gender essentialist b s. Do you even realize you fit right in with 'trad wives' with this comment? The most stressful person I ever met in my life, by a LOT, was my ab*sive mother. I am a feminist who supports this channel, but feminism is just believing in equality, not any natural superiority to one gender or another. Your gender does not dictate who you are, and being born female certainly doesn't turn you into some angel as you claim here.
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Actually, what you're saying makes a lot of sense ⊙︿⊙
To be honest, I never really thought about it that way, but even then, I think I may consider these tips for myself, since I'm still trying to work on my own stuff ^-^
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Not everyone ends up happy with a significant other.. if you do, well you are blessed.
Life’s a journey everyone has a different path.
Be happy with yours.
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“Do not be one parasite food.” Too late for me, but not for thee. Stay safe out there ladies & femmes. 🫶🏽✨
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There's kind of a lot to unpack here. I'll start saying I agree with you 100% that patriarchy is disgusting and its legacy in financial and social control over the years has really allowed men to get away with not just the minimum but below it. I think women should ask for more but maybe its a semantic thing but I assumed 50/50 meant 50/50 share of effort and power in the relationship where no party should have the upper hand. Both legally the loss of rights for women and the social acceptance of less for women, violence against them and dismissing their needs or wants is gross.
Idk if its intentional but a few points, trans men can get pregant and have to deal with hardship of being pregant even if its less common. Gay men are your allies and are fighting the same struggles as you against cis normality, heteronormality, white supremacy, patriarchy and capital rule. Gay men really want to reach out and help you but we are not feeling the intersectional struggle if you hyper fixate on gender as a concrete war, society and hierarchies make those differences cruel and unjust but men and women outside of our biased socialization really aren't that different. I get its not your intention here and you give pockets of good advise to young women who feel taken advantage of and ignored by society but I can't help but feel like you are erasing trans and gay struggles if you're lumping those men with the F boys.
Side tangent also, I don't see how partaking in drugs makes someone lesser, as someone who first hand experiences social stigma and legal recourse on what you do or put with your own bodily autonomy I would be hoping you'd have some empathy for people who choose to put substances in their body. I get preferences so if it's not your thing more power too you but lets not say they lose social value or people points please.
This is a problem. Often, they never deal with intersectionality.
Most of all, they NEVER mention the challenges of low status, working class, men. The patriarchy relies on men with low agency. It always has. They're not as privileged as is made out to be. Lisa actually mentions a few things like having very few friends/relationships, low motivation/drive.
What's the most common word used by male su*cide victims - 'worthless'. They're not worthless, they are humans and have value too.
Clone your husband please!!❤
Congrats! you understood nothing 🤷♀️
I don't want him cloned but his mentality needs replication something fierce ❤
Well, men do most of the driving, and take spiders outside. So, there’s that.
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LOL wut? I have never met one single woman who doesn't just take care of their own spiders.
The "crazy" 👀 don't lie! You've been " chaded out" and dogged out and haven't recovered since!😂
You're really just mad at Chad ... u know 100% of women are only sleeping with the same Chad now.
@@heidithesausagehi, you here? See you at the next PO Live! 👋
Lol yeah totally forget about the good, avg men out there who get played by pretty girls all the time. Not sure why youtube keeps recommending me this channel. I disagree 99% of what she said in like 4 vids I watched out of curiosity. Obviously if a girl goes after a guy who is WAY out of her league and he has a bunch of girls already chasing him , OBVIOUSLY he might treat her like this girl describes how "all men treat girls". But there r a lot of good guys who get played too by girls who think they are too good for them. And she is taking advantage of stereotyping all men as someone "who are out to get u" It breaks MY heart, how young, impressionable girls start believing that and then start clump all men as a**holes. I'm sure lots of girls, who have been hurt by some dude in the past, who listen to content like this and are like "yeah, all men r sh*t", and when u start thinking that, u attract more losers, and then u tell urself u were correct. It's called CONFIRMATION BIAS, people, wake up. Like lmao okayyy, I'll back off , to each their own, but it's sad to see content like this divide people and makes people be suspicious of the other gender that they can't even enjoy a good relationship when it comes their way cuz they are like "hmmmmm, I'm waiting for this guy to trip up soon cuz after all, all men r shtt and tryna take advantage of me."
I've met great guys in my life, and some who were COMPLETE jerks, who just wanted to use and move to the next cuz the grass is greener on the other side syndrome. I would like youtube to stop suggesting me useless content like this that adds no value and makes others forget that we are all human at the end of the day, and there r good and bad people in both genders, and all men aren't sh*t and "out there trying to swindle u and take advantage of u" her words
The men who u allow to use u are the ones who don't like u and u aren't their dream girl. Girls use men too to get emotional support, make him think he has a chance, then friendzone him. But of course, no one cares about that. And I'll just be labeled a hater, so ok people , u do u
It’s not a coincidence that most cr!m!n@ls in the whole world are mn, there is something in mn that makes then do more Ev!l than wmn general speaking. You do know that married wmn regardless of how their husbands look like, don’t live as long as single wmn. Divorce attorneys are saying the mn are the problem nit wmn. Go do your research. An unattractive mn is not a better person just because wmn are out of their league. Jay z is significantly worse looking than Beyoncé but still che@ted. Nicki minaj dated a normal guy who still cheated. You obviously don’t understand mn. Go do your research about how many mn leave their wives after the wives get cancer. There is research that shows that most std patients are married wmn who got it from their mn. This has nothing to do with being out of somebody’s league.
It’s not a coincidence that most cr!m!n@ls in the whole world are mn, there is something in mn that makes then do more Ev!l than wmn general speaking. You do know that married wmn regardless of how their husbands look like, don’t live as long as single wmn. Divorce attorneys are saying the mn are the problem nit wmn. Go do your research. An unattractive mn is not a better person just because wmn are out of their league. Jay z is significantly worse looking than Beyoncé but still che@ted. Nicki minaj dated a normal guy who still cheated. You obviously don’t understand mn. Go do your research about how many mn leave their wives after the wives get cancer. There is research that shows that most std patients are married wmn who got it from their mn. This has nothing to do with being out of somebody’s league.
It’s not a coincidence that most cr!m!n@ls in the whole world are mn, there is something in mn that makes then do more Ev!l than wmn general speaking. You do know that married wmn regardless of how their husbands look like, don’t live as long as single wmn. Divorce attorneys are saying the mn are the problem nit wmn. Go do your research. An unattractive mn is not a better person just because wmn are out of their league. Jay z is significantly worse looking than Beyoncé but still che@ted. Nicki minaj dated a normal guy who still cheated. You obviously don’t understand mn. Go do your research about how many mn leave their wives after the wives get cancer. There is research that shows that most std patients are married wmn who got it from their mn. This has nothing to do with being out of somebody’s league.
“Used by a pretty girl” is always so funny to me because it glosses over the fact that MEN are the ones that continue to place such a high value on women’s beauty. God forbid a woman takes advantage of someone objectifying her.
Um... is anyone going to say it?
You've spoken like the pretty girls that you speak of.
You forget all the things men do for women that women don’t want to do.
Anything that needs to be done at least once a week pops into your head?
Do provide specific examples so we can demonstrate with sources how men have systematically excluded women from any work that would fall into this category. I dare you.
Oh and what is that? Huh?
Not all men.
My sister taught her sons how to mow the yard. I taught them how to build furniture, my brother taught them how to lay floors. Their daddy is just there not knowing or doing anything. So please... Tell us what men do that women could never.
Who hurt this woman?
Is that the best comeback you've got? Can't invalidate or debate any of her actual points, so you resort to low IQ, low effort insults? That's sad. My dude, that's embarrassing for you, yikes. I am embarrassed on your behalf.
Your question says so much more about you than it does about her. Plus you prove her points 👌🏼
The male population.
@@ruby-fx2eo😂 it’s typical of them.
Did you learn this phrase from your typical red pill podcast who profits out of your mediocrity?
I deadass had to get nasty hard plaque off of my ex's teeth because it was just disgusting to kiss him & he wasn't going to the dentist. He would get angry at me when I told him it smelled bad in the morning. Then he'd have the audacity to tell me mine smell bad too so I shouldn't have complained. 🤢 Never again
You don't need to go to the dentist to keep plaque buildup away. You just need to brush every day.
Thank God he's an EX now. 😡
Thanks!