After 30 years with my husband, he left me for a family crisis therapist that he’d been having an affair with for six years. Broke my heart. It’s been 6 1/2 years now and in order to live my best life (and have two cents to rub together) I moved into a 250 sq ft off-grid cabin in the woods of Maine. I love the solitude, peace, and freedom. I am healing. Thank you for this video. Feel better soon! ❤
I am 80 now & love the peace & quiet of living BY MYSELF 😂. I’m very active, the legs still work well! I dog-sit my daughter’s lovely pet & love being out but also in🤓. I eat good freshly cooked foods, keep slim, get regular short haircuts on healthy grey albeit thinner than before hair, & enjoy fashion. Read a lot & watch interesting programs on streaming. All in all nothing to complain about 😀. My mantra: enjoy the good moments that are now, they won’t last forever 😳. All the best to you.
Read you enjoyed streaming good programs, if you have access to PBS I just watched a great 4-part series you might enjoy called Mr. Bates vs the Post Office.
I’m surprised no one talks about leaning on their faith in God. I know not everyone believes but for me, it is a blessing and a source of tremendous peace, guidance, and comfort.
I’m living by myself now after 60 years of living with someone, incl dogs. I can rest. I have no responsibility than for me. A weight is lifted off me. I can dance in the living room. I can sing out loud. I’m FREE to live in my own rythm. It feels so good.
After being in an abusive relationship for 15 years, I've now been by myself for 30 years and feel so blessed to be by myself and enjoy life with positive friends and family!
Excellent topic! I was widowed almost 2 years ago after 44 years of marriage. He was starting down the path to dementia and just failing due to years of a chronic illness. What I miss - his intelligence, ingenuity, his wisdom, his handyman and building skills and his techie skills - he was in IT. Our shared love and joy owning a farm and the farm animals and crops. We had a great life there for a while, eventually moving as his health got worse. In a way I was lucky, I had a couple years to plan for living alone as I took on more responsibility. What I don't miss - the noise of the TV on every waking hour, worrying about finances (he was not financially responsible and I was), his often sour moods and depression and complaining as he got older. I know part of that was his illness but it was hard on me nonetheless. I'm not a natural caregiver! What I am liking about living alone - discovering I can do a lot of handyman jobs myself. Love the silence in the house. Mowing and doing outside chores that used to be his sole domain. No more need to please others. What's scary about living alone - personal safety, though I live in a very safe neighborhood. (My husband was former military and a large, formidable guy.) A little worry that something is going to go haywire with the house and I don't have the strength to fix or that I can pick up on - though I have friends and neighbors more than willing to help. If I have a medical problem or surgery where I need to have someone with me for a few days, that will take some arranging for the care and also the often quick/unplanned trips to town, which I did for my husband a lot during his final years. Although people are a phone call away, I'm not used to asking someone for help. Bottom line - I plan to live alone as long as I can. I wake up each morning with gratitude and don't listen to the news, LOL. Life is good.
I use Shipt to order groceries if I am ill since I live by myself. Also got a dog and put smart locks on all doors and don’t answer the door if I don’t know who it is. Found some younger women in the neighborhood that will come help me if recovering from surgery but I do have to pay them. Hope this is helpful and you seem to have a pretty good grip on what you need to do as well. All the best ❤
@@AyaSmith-rb2hp yes, I also have a little schnauzer who thinks she's a pit bull and is a wonderful alarm. I don't answer the door unless I'm expecting someone - I do keep pepper spray within reach too that I wouldn't hesitate to use. I have a little gal who cleans for me every 2 weeks and I'm sure I could hire her to help me on her off hours if needed. Finding someone to let into our homes that we can trust can be a challenge, and I got lucky when I found her several years ago. And ASKING for help is the hurdle I'd have to overcome, lol. Part of me thinks I'm still 30 instead of 72 and can bounce back from anything in a day or two.
I adore living by myself because I cherish the complete freedom it offers . I can do w whatever I want to do , whenever I want to do it . I don’t have to drop what I’m doing to make dinner , I can eat anytime . I don’t have to exhaust myself cooking multiple items for other people . I can wear whatever I want to when I’m at home . I can stay in my pajamas all day if that’s my inclination . I don’t have to worry about looking pretty & put together when it’s my relaxation time . I do not have to push myself to clean the house or do the laundry . Because I’m alone there’s nothing that has to be done that can’t wait until tomorrow . I do not need to endure the annoying sound of professional sports blasting for hours . I can play my music and watch TV that is to my preference . Best of all , I have unlimited time to indulge in self care . I can take an hour long bath with candles or do a perfect pedicure . I practice yoga in the middle of the living room floor and never have my mindfulness meditation interrupted by noise from others . I can nap in the middle of the day , eat a snack at midnight and don’t have to entertain someone else’s friends . Yes , I do get lonely sometimes . Especially when day turns to night , but when I start my enjoyable nighttime routine , the feeling disappears . If anyone has loneliness issues I strongly suggest that you keep busy . I planted an incredible garden that takes a lot of time & effort to maintain , but I enjoy it . I read a lot , try new recipes , change up my house and buy inexpensive new things that delight me such as sheets or a colorful door mat . I love being able to follow my whims and indulge my passions .
All these comments and yours as well,,,, it is sooo stirring how many of us, have had these same "late in life" separations from our long-time spouse or mate. Your story is uplifting for me. thank you for sharing. I too, am alone, 65, children gone, husband left,,, lives now, with another woman and her children(!!!!) ,,,,, but unfortunately chose to buy a house JUST UP THE STREET,,,, as if to 'show off,,,,,' in my face.
None of us know what tomorrow holds. We might plan, we might hope, we might wish, but we don't KNOW. My life now is so far from what I imagined. Its' a bit scary, its' a bit tough, it's a bit strange. But I am doing it and surprising myself by how much I am loving it:) I am a full time traveller. There is no one to criticise, no one to tell me I can't. Its not perfect, but I am learning to be me and that is priceless. Thank you for your wisdom Margaret x
Loved your comment, Jay; not word did not resonate with me. I am a Patreon member and hope we catch up on chat without being unkind to those in different situations/circumstances. Heaven knows, we may find a way to help ... a contest? Just a thought...but who knows Howard thought can devine itself. ( bty: I was thinking about travel with Margaret, herself, and yes it will take a few and many of us in this wild world economy) Get back to me at your convenience and let's run it by Margret....it ' all good win or fail.. Love fom Canada 🇨🇦, Jay
@@Barbara-jd5lb Hi Barbara, thank you for your comment. I am travelling at the moment so wifi not great. It was lovely to hear that what I said resonated with you. When I was young I thought that by the time I was 60 I would be ready to put my feet up, but nothing could be further from the truth :). I am just finishing writing a book Growing Old, Growing Free, which tells the story of my last few years, as I feel many people may feel the same way. All it takes is one small step... who knows where it could lead! x
I hope I get the chance to live by myself these last years of my life. So tired of cleaning after others and trying to please others. Just nice to do want you want without anyone else watching. Fingers crossed my daughter will move out.
My husband is 78 years old, which is 22 years my senior, so we’ve had a pretty strong feeling I would be on my own sooner rather than later. The sooner came after a diagnosis of aggressive cancer. I grew up in foster care and had a couple previous marriages to lazy, unmotivated man-children, so I learned independent living early on. For me, I have always had difficulties allowing my husband to help me, and I have a habit of just solving my own problems without consulting him. Just like any person, men (husbands) need to know they are needed. I’m also a nurse. At this moment I care for my husband full time, and it is hard work but it is an absolute joy. He deserves the best, and I give my best for him. I’ll miss him terribly when the inevitable happens, but I won’t be unprepared for the life of a woman living by herself. That helps bring a little peace to my planning for the future.
I have basically lived along my entire life from 19 to 80, with a few brief stints at living with someone. Could not wait to get out of those live-in situations and back to my own place. I love not having to compromise, do what I want when I want. I travel and enjoy traveling alone although now, at my age, have switched to tours for many longer trips for the convenience, but I maintain my separation from the group for the most part. Love having single accommodations, would never share a room. I go off to see what hidden secrets I can find on my own or for my love of photography. Even as a young child I loved searching the woods behind my house for hours with my dog. Yes, you have to learn to be independent and a Jack of all trades but that is just how many of us like it.
Living with myself alone 😀 has proven the happiest time in my life. I can be as untidy or tidy as I want. I only pick up after myself (but I do say thank you!), I decorate totally to my taste & am the captain of my ship & soul. Women unite and stand up for your rights …. Best wishes from 🇨🇭.
I can identify with most everything you mentioned. I'm stronger because of it but sometimes it would be nice for someone to be there to have my back, so to speak.😊
I lived on my own in my 20's and enjoyed it then. Now I'm in my 60's and am again on my own after the death of my husband. In a perfect world my husband would still be here. But since I can't have that I am embracing living on my own again, I'm an only child and have always enjoyed time on my own so I think that does help.
Thanks for a very upbeat video on living by myself. I'm 64 and have had 4 husbands and 2 children, but recently found myself living (and thriving) on my own. If I'd known how liberating, peaceful and financially rewarding it would be to live by myself..... I would have stopped getting married after husband number one (with whom I had my children). Life is really good on my own. Thanks again for a lovely video. Get well soon xxx
❤ thriving! Wish my mom would have experience that, too, after four husband's. Her mother instilled that she was nothing without a man. How wonderful for you to have many more years ahead of you to make that time to love you 🌻
Hi Margaret. I have lived on my own for over 40 years. I am extremely independent but I do tend to retain knowledge in bite sized pieces when trying to find how things work etc. A lot of information at once becomes overwhelming and people can get impatient with me. This is good in one way because I try to figure out the solution myself rather than bother people. I love google and it has helped me solve practical problems so many times as I can go back to it several times without feeling like I am silly for not getting it the first time. ☺
I have lived by myself for the last forty years since my divorce at the age of 23. I raised my daughter on my own. She turned 40 today. 😊. I have loved it. Yes I have dated but did not meet anyone I wanted to spend my life with. I have a nice home and still work. I take vacations by myself nd with friends. Next week I am going to Europe for two weeks. Most of my friends are divorced and happy. The few that are still married stayed because they were afraid to be on their own. Sadly they even put up with cheating husbands. I am thankful that I was always confident, independent and comfortable with myself.
I really appreciate this video, Margaret. Also, the sharing from other ladies who live alone. I’m still trying to adapt after loosing my mum over two years ago and I’ve never lived alone until she passed. At the moment, it’s hard to see many positives but that may be grief. I’ve our two little dogs for company but they are both older too now and I sometimes think about the time when they may not be with me here. I do find it hard financially as I do think sometimes living as a single person is more expensive, similarly, like another lady here has said, some worries for the future, what happens if I’m ill or in need of hospital care etc. I try each day to think it’s a start for a better day. I’d like to be able to make better decisions for myself and find that hard when I’ve always been used to chatting things through with my mum. Wishing all the ladies here who live alone, much happiness. 💕
May I suggest that you add another, younger dog to your pack. You will need him or her, and it will be a helpful distraction in the moment. My condolences on the loss of your mother.
I'm not always by myself, but very often. It suits me. 😄 My question: Why do people assume I'm lonely? A couple people often text me to ask what I'm doing and make suggestions for me to engage in certain activities. I've told them that I like being by myself. Great topic and discussion here, Margaret.
Love this video. My husband has been very ill for 3 years now, it's very hard as far as his illness however, I find myself so happy that I am learning how to do so many things on my own i.e. caulking the tub! I will be ok no matter what! Thanks for reminding me...feel better, thanks for being a part of my life!
Am thinking of you. My husband was ill for three years and died three years ago- time has gone by so quickly. It is difficult at the beginning but I am feeling much better nowadays. 🫂 for you.
I've been my husband's caregiver for over a decade and can get down about it from time to time. However, I've learned the satisfaction also of fixing and providing small tasks for him to do, as well. Sorry for your loss and thankful for your courage.
It's a grey rainy day here in Augusta, Ga, and was feeling a bit down. Played your video, and l felt better as it reminded me of the many things that I enjoy about being the director of my own life, and the gratefulness I feel for being able to do so. I find it amusing when a male friend makes a comment about what I "should" do, then has no real answer when I ask "Why?". While I welcome other points of view, I do my research before making major decisions, so am comfortable with my decisions.
I've been living by myslef for almost 20 years now. On those days when I feel lonely, I take a real assessment - and let it pass. Living with someone brings more challenges than an occasional lonely feeling - it always passes and I get on with the enjoyment of my life. Although I hurt someone in making the decision to live by myself, I have no regrets the the decision was the right one. Again, thank you Margaret for paving a path to my own future in such a positive way.
Wonderful video Margaret! You really know how to touch our hearts with your wisdom. So happy to have you in my life. I approach each day as a new adventure and a gift. Love to everyone fron Albuquerque NM 💙🌶🌞
I look at my schedule, that I set up for myself. I love organizing things, including my time. Right now, I'm shopping around at different grocery stores to see what I like and where to buy what I want. ..and trying different recipes. It's freedom to do what I want, when and where. I love it. Thanks, Margaret!
I can relate to so many of your lessons Margaret. At 71, apart from a brief marriage and no kids in my 20s, I’ve lived by myself. It was difficult at first but I can’t imagine any other lifestyle now. I also mostly travel solo and prefer the freedom of going where I want and doing what I want. I’ve learned the best relationship is with myself.
Living by myself 2 yrs before divorce and 24 years after. I liked it before marriage age 17 to 21 as well. Not lonely. I like picking and choosing what I do and don't do without having to consider anyone else. Considering what I need to do to continue aging in place as long as possible but also keeping in mind a plan if that is no longer possible. Living within my means has been a priority for many years.
I hope you feel better soon !!! I live with myself. Past years were so challenging as I was renting rooms and always a nightmare. I worked hard to get into affordable housing and did it on my own and I believe with the help of Gods blessing. I am so happy in my lovely apartment . I learned my capabilities how I never gave up and my determination. I don’t feel lonely and just so grateful with my peace and joy which was a long time coming. There was a time I thought I needed to be in a relationship and the relation with myself and self discovery is priceless.
I needed to hear this today.On my way into the city for an appointment about an hour away.After almost 10 years of being widowed that is one of the hardest for me.I still don’t like going anywhere by myself. I keep telling myself after my appointment I can have lunch where I want and shop wear I want.lol.There are pluses. I hope you’re feeling better today.Thanks Margaret.
Hi Margaret! I appreciate the positivity 😍 Treasure every single moment … Love it! Wonderful video. Lessons I have learned include to Start each day with a Positive thought and Gratitude … also to try to slow down time by treasuring every moment. Enjoy your day Margaret 😊 Big Like number 101 👍 🌹
I have lived ALONE very happily for 20 years. I am a solitary person, and I need way more time on my own than most people I know. I'm not going to change my language to go along with other people's perceptions of what "alone" is. Alone is terrific.
Good 🌞 Sunday morning Margaret. I love living just with myself, now I pay attention too the little things that I had never noticed before, now I move at my own pace🎉 discovering new things and still learning. Not having to run though life anyone ❤but living my life now, they way chose. Have a 😊 good day on purpose🎉☕
I so love living "with myself". It's been 17 years since I left my husband. What do I have? I have serenity, freedom, peace, calmness, tranquility, solo traveling and most especially, JOY!. My life is quite exciting, as I do more mission trips to see children in different countries.
I live with my two pit bulls - just them and me! I have my daughter and grands close by and I have plenty of friends and good activities. I’ve been on my own for 25 years now. It’s good although I sometimes wish for an extra set of hands to get stuff done!
I have been married 30 years but we have been separated for 2 1/2. Mostly I love living alone. I have always had lots of interests and am never bored. There are times when I 'm lonely for shared experiences and conversations but that has more to do with not having any friends than living alone. Margaret I appreciate what you do so much. You inspire me to stay positive and appreciate my life, thank you!
I live *by myself* too. Can be tough at times but your channel and others are a source of encouragement and provide companionship ,as we can identify with others.
Thank you for your strong and supportive videos Margaret. I live by myself and I love it. I make noise while making tea at 3.30am if I wake up. I sneeze Very loudly and don’t have to worry about anybody other than the dog.
I’ve been on my own for 14 months now. I was able to successfully open a large jar of pickles today all by myself!! (with the help of a jar opener which I highly recommend to all those living by themselves).
Another wonderful,, warm and wise upload. Living with myself is a joy... the peace and autonomy are priceless. I feel we are never more authentic than when we are alone, never have more headspace or opportunity to listen to our hearts. Ultimately we are ALWAYS alone inside our meatsuits and heads, an internal universe. Living with ourselves might just be the full harnessing of self appreciation. Thank you for all you do Margaret, yours is an important contribution
I am 72, learning to live by myself very quickly, as my hubby passed away 9 months ago. I had to sell all his assets, including our home, which I'm still working on. I had to find financial advisors, probate attorney, and other help so I could learn to make good decisions on everything, and make sure I have something to make a life for myself, possibly in a new town, and even state. Most days I am proud of myself for being brave, forging ahead responsibly, and keeping faith and gratitude to whom I owe it. Other times I feel lost and don't know where I will end up because I have not been able to decide where I can and want to go and make a new life for myself. Many choices, decisions, and pros and cons anywhere I look.❤
Doing so well. I really am proud of you. Stay strong and enjoy your beautiful new life and folding. I’m sure your husband would want you to be happy and you’ve got a beautiful attitude wishing you well. Take care.
@creativelady7; hmmmm, interesting! Been there, done that. It eases over time as you learn to accept, acknowledge, and grow in wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Safe journey!
@sixtyandme: Have visited your site before, and enjoy learning new things here. As a man I appreciate the similarities in the sexes' thought processes, (we are all humans), and love the differences, of course, of our genders. Come, let us reason together, Isaiah 1:18.
My condolences on the loss of your husband. May I suggest that you take all the time you need for the decisions ahead. If anyone asks, simply say that you are working on it.
Thank you Margaret! Well said and completely agree. I have been learning to appreciate, as much as possible, and look for the lessons I needed from all situations that I have found myself in over the years. The lessons are many, and some I really needed and pray that I learned.
I am living by myself since October 2023. My partner passed away so I have brief bouts with memories of how things were when he was here. I live in a fairly new modular home, it was brand new when I purchased it in 2006. Its roomy but I have accumulated so much things I am cleaning and getting rid of things I do not use anymore. I still get scared of personal safety at times but just pray and make it through. Its a struggle because I have arthritis in my knees and diabetes, but love my independence.
I've lived alone more than partnered, and I love alone. I'm not answerable to anyone, and I value this. Nowadays I quickly tire of people and chat. Always eager to get alone and make stuff!
I have lived alone for much of my last 45 years and it is so much more preferable to living with a partner who is needy, disruptive or childish. I'm a retired lady in my 70s and own my home, have adequate emotional support and financial income. I live a modest life in a sprawling old house way out in the country. I don't fear being alone (we all keep loaded guns at the ready here) and I accept the good times with the bad. I love the calm and the serenity. And the spiritual experiences you might.miss if you were living with a poorly matched partner.
Thins will get better. Just take it one day at a time OR just one hour at a time. Are there kind caring people near you that you can reach out via phone, in-person, ZOOM etc.? If so, connect with them. Get out in nature everyday..... weather permitting. Walking every day during cancer recovery was a boost to my spirits and energy too. God loves you and so do we.
I am so sorry. This will be a very hard road to walk. Reach out to others when you are ready. It's okay to say, "I just need to hear a friendly voice." Ask people to tell you something about what's going on with them. Tell them that the distraction will help; it will, if only for a moment. Hugs to you.
Very good advice. I too really enjoy solitude. Women are somehow made to feel they're being selfish if they prefer solitude, as though serving, compromising and considering the preferences of others instead of yourself is virtuous behavior required of women in particular. While it's in women's nature to be nurturing that is not our only purpose in life. I hope to live long enough to one day enjoy the kind of life you describe and enjoy.
Thanks Margaret. Those were really great and meaningful transformations! Some of them match mine eg: inner strength (I'd like to add peace, love my solitude, become stronger inspite of what I've been through, joy from simple things, daily meditation and practice!❤
I'm retired and still live with my husband. I miss him so much when he isn't here, I can't imagine life "by myself" I'm lonely even now and it will be way worse without him.
What a lady, well done you for your positive attitude, growing daily, I hope. How difficult times have been for you, but, so pleased thay you are "up and running", it's so strange how life's downers can bring inner strength. Good luck to you and happiness for your future. X
I have been by myself for 20 years , I have a loving family and so enjoy my time with them all. I see them most days to help with my grandchildren but I still feel I’m missing out on some things , having a companion to share the nice things couples do ie meals , travel walks that to me are more enjoyable when there’s someone with you . But certainly not to interfere with my way of life 😳😁
Anne. A companion is to share the "nice things" and those not so nice moments. Life is an exercise in dealing with reality, the day to day. The wine and roses aspect is simply that. An aspect.
My second marriage ended because of his affair. He was living away and I thought I would be with him but after our divorce I thought I would get remarried but 21 years later and having a number of male partners I am beginning to realize I am not sure I could enjoy having someone here all the time. The only thing I miss besides the double income is the reliable partner to travel with, go to dinner, friends and other outings. Yes I can search for someone or go solo.
Wonderful video Margaret. Thank you so much. I have learned that I am financially much better off without my ex husband. He never worked , ate all the food and stayed in bed all day all day with the heating on. Now my hard earned income is all mine. Happy days 🎉
All good points. I’m very independent and wrestling with these positives of singlehood right now vs being in a relationship. I don’t want a job taking care of a man. I need a self sufficient man if I live with anyone. I’m not going to wear myself out for someone. ❤❤❤
Czarina. No self-respecting man Wants to "be taken care of". Certain dysfunctiomal types possible yes. But I am sure you have excellent radar at knowing the difference?
As a single woman I lived by myself. In fact I never shared accommodation. It was a very good time, I am an independent sort of person, but also companionable. But would never ever exchange married life for those single days. As the saying goes: horses for courses.
Margaret I know you had your gallbladder out awhile ago you seemed like you did well. I’m having mine out next week and I’m a bit nervous. How are you now months later? Any effect from having no gb? Thank you in advance❤️…I admire you, your a strong and independent woman
Hi Vicki. Please don’t worry. It’s a very straightforward operation. I had a very good experience communicated with the doctors or the time and they were very responsive. If you feel any discomfort at all after the operation, it will only be for a short time. For a few days after the operation, I had to watch my liver liver enzymes, it takes a few weeks for the liver to get back into rhythm so you might experience a little bit upset stomach and diarrhea months later I feel great. It helped me to get into a healthier eating rhythm and so I lost about 15 pounds. That impacted positively my blood pressure and my health in general. So all in all it was a very good experience for me. Try not to worry. The only thing I must admit was a little nerve-racking was the anesthetic. I’ve never had that happen before and I was a little nervous, but the nurses were just so helpful and patient and calm. There was honestly a little pain. The scars healed very quickly and I feel great. I hope it’s a good experience for you too. Let me know how you do. You can send me a message to margaret@sixtyandme.com. It’s gonna be OK.
Margaret I have learnt that I'm much stronger than I knew. Been alone almost eleven years. I do as I wish. I can do my yoga and meditation in peace, I have a very nice male companion who excepts as I am.
😂I never had kids. I wanted too but was put in a mental hospital and they aborted it. I was told I shouldn’t have kids. I learned that you can think the universe is in a conspiracy for your benefit or your demise. It is up to me or you.
Hey, Scorpio: Bet you lived all by yourself even when you weren't alone. I respect your discipline and self-reliance. However, get thee to bed with a giant mug of chicken broth. Your eyes show me how ill you are. Sending love and light for a speedy recovery. Take care. xoxox
After 30 years with my husband, he left me for a family crisis therapist that he’d been having an affair with for six years. Broke my heart. It’s been 6 1/2 years now and in order to live my best life (and have two cents to rub together) I moved into a 250 sq ft off-grid cabin in the woods of Maine. I love the solitude, peace, and freedom. I am healing. Thank you for this video. Feel better soon! ❤
he is a poop head. karma will take care of him.
What a wonderful attitude and smart move. Your comment is very inspirational 🌻💚
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@@shallimolinda Thank you xoxo
My ex ‘corrected’ me from sun up to sun down. Living by myself is a gift
The Internet has helped me learn how to fix things in my home: plumbing, caulking, concrete crack repair, growing plants, etc. Never stop learning!
Thanks for sharing!
I am 80 now & love the peace & quiet of living BY MYSELF 😂. I’m very active, the legs still work well! I dog-sit my daughter’s lovely pet & love being out but also in🤓. I eat good freshly cooked foods, keep slim, get regular short haircuts on healthy grey albeit thinner than before hair, & enjoy fashion. Read a lot & watch interesting programs on streaming. All in all nothing to complain about 😀. My mantra: enjoy the good moments that are now, they won’t last forever 😳. All the best to you.
Read you enjoyed streaming good programs, if you have access to PBS I just watched a great 4-part series you might enjoy called Mr. Bates vs the Post Office.
Well done you, wish you all the health, and happiness for eternity
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Thanks for the video!
I love “by myself” vs. “alone”. Much more positive!
I’m surprised no one talks about leaning on their faith in God. I know not everyone believes but for me, it is a blessing and a source of tremendous peace, guidance, and comfort.
I think, Rett, that It is not because they don't believe, but because faith is a very private Matter.
These are the spiritually rich individuals that rely on their own strengths! God has enough on his list!
I’m living by myself now after 60 years of living with someone, incl dogs.
I can rest. I have no responsibility than for me. A weight is lifted off me.
I can dance in the living room. I can sing out loud. I’m FREE to live in my own rythm. It feels so good.
After being in an abusive relationship for 15 years, I've now been by myself for 30 years and feel so blessed to be by myself and enjoy life with positive friends and family!
Excellent topic! I was widowed almost 2 years ago after 44 years of marriage. He was starting down the path to dementia and just failing due to years of a chronic illness. What I miss - his intelligence, ingenuity, his wisdom, his handyman and building skills and his techie skills - he was in IT. Our shared love and joy owning a farm and the farm animals and crops. We had a great life there for a while, eventually moving as his health got worse. In a way I was lucky, I had a couple years to plan for living alone as I took on more responsibility.
What I don't miss - the noise of the TV on every waking hour, worrying about finances (he was not financially responsible and I was), his often sour moods and depression and complaining as he got older. I know part of that was his illness but it was hard on me nonetheless. I'm not a natural caregiver!
What I am liking about living alone - discovering I can do a lot of handyman jobs myself. Love the silence in the house. Mowing and doing outside chores that used to be his sole domain. No more need to please others.
What's scary about living alone - personal safety, though I live in a very safe neighborhood. (My husband was former military and a large, formidable guy.) A little worry that something is going to go haywire with the house and I don't have the strength to fix or that I can pick up on - though I have friends and neighbors more than willing to help. If I have a medical problem or surgery where I need to have someone with me for a few days, that will take some arranging for the care and also the often quick/unplanned trips to town, which I did for my husband a lot during his final years. Although people are a phone call away, I'm not used to asking someone for help.
Bottom line - I plan to live alone as long as I can. I wake up each morning with gratitude and don't listen to the news, LOL. Life is good.
I use Shipt to order groceries if I am ill since I live by myself. Also got a dog and put smart locks on all doors and don’t answer the door if I don’t know who it is. Found some younger women in the neighborhood that will come help me if recovering from surgery but I do have to pay them. Hope this is helpful and you seem to have a pretty good grip on what you need to do as well. All the best ❤
@@AyaSmith-rb2hp yes, I also have a little schnauzer who thinks she's a pit bull and is a wonderful alarm. I don't answer the door unless I'm expecting someone - I do keep pepper spray within reach too that I wouldn't hesitate to use. I have a little gal who cleans for me every 2 weeks and I'm sure I could hire her to help me on her off hours if needed. Finding someone to let into our homes that we can trust can be a challenge, and I got lucky when I found her several years ago. And ASKING for help is the hurdle I'd have to overcome, lol. Part of me thinks I'm still 30 instead of 72 and can bounce back from anything in a day or two.
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I adore living by myself because I cherish the complete freedom it offers .
I can do w whatever I want to do , whenever I want to do it . I don’t have to drop what I’m doing to make dinner , I can eat anytime . I don’t have to exhaust myself cooking multiple items for other people . I can wear whatever I want to when I’m at home . I can stay in my pajamas all day if that’s my inclination . I don’t have to worry about looking pretty & put together when it’s my relaxation time . I do not have to push myself to clean the house or do the laundry . Because I’m alone there’s nothing that has to be done that can’t wait until tomorrow . I do not need to endure the annoying sound of professional sports blasting for hours . I can play my music and watch TV that is to my preference . Best of all , I have unlimited time to indulge in self care . I can take an hour long bath with candles or do a perfect pedicure . I practice yoga in the middle of the living room floor and never have my mindfulness meditation interrupted by noise from others . I can nap in the middle of the day , eat a snack at midnight and don’t have to entertain someone else’s friends .
Yes , I do get lonely sometimes . Especially when day turns to night , but when I start my enjoyable nighttime routine , the feeling disappears . If anyone has loneliness issues I strongly suggest that you keep busy . I planted an incredible garden that takes a lot of time & effort to maintain , but I enjoy it . I read a lot , try new recipes , change up my house and buy inexpensive new things that delight me such as sheets or a colorful door mat .
I love being able to follow my whims and indulge my passions .
All these comments and yours as well,,,, it is sooo stirring how many of us, have had these same "late in life" separations from our long-time spouse or mate. Your story is uplifting for me. thank you for sharing. I too, am alone, 65, children gone, husband left,,, lives now, with another woman and her children(!!!!) ,,,,, but unfortunately chose to buy a house JUST UP THE STREET,,,, as if to 'show off,,,,,' in my face.
Thank you so much for sharing the beautiful life that you have created. You seem very happy. I’m so glad for you. Have a beautiful week.
Thank you so much for sharing your story said that he’s moved in so close but you can handle this. You’ll be OK.
So pleased for you x
That sounds just perfect Rosemary♥️
Margaret, thank you for being there.
You are so welcome
I’m living on my own, I choose that!
None of us know what tomorrow holds. We might plan, we might hope, we might wish, but we don't KNOW. My life now is so far from what I imagined. Its' a bit scary, its' a bit tough, it's a bit strange. But I am doing it and surprising myself by how much I am loving it:) I am a full time traveller. There is no one to criticise, no one to tell me I can't. Its not perfect, but I am learning to be me and that is priceless. Thank you for your wisdom Margaret x
Loved your comment, Jay; not word did not resonate with me. I am a Patreon member and hope we catch up on chat without being unkind to those in different situations/circumstances. Heaven knows, we may find a way to help ... a contest? Just a thought...but who knows Howard thought can devine itself. ( bty: I was thinking about travel with Margaret, herself, and yes it will take a few and many of us in this wild world economy) Get back to me at your convenience and let's run it by Margret....it ' all good win or fail..
Love fom Canada 🇨🇦, Jay
@@Barbara-jd5lb Hi Barbara, thank you for your comment. I am travelling at the moment so wifi not great. It was lovely to hear that what I said resonated with you. When I was young I thought that by the time I was 60 I would be ready to put my feet up, but nothing could be further from the truth :). I am just finishing writing a book Growing Old, Growing Free, which tells the story of my last few years, as I feel many people may feel the same way. All it takes is one small step... who knows where it could lead! x
I hope I get the chance to live by myself these last years of my life. So tired of cleaning after others and trying to please others. Just nice to do want you want without anyone else watching. Fingers crossed my daughter will move out.
My husband is 78 years old, which is 22 years my senior, so we’ve had a pretty strong feeling I would be on my own sooner rather than later. The sooner came after a diagnosis of aggressive cancer. I grew up in foster care and had a couple previous marriages to lazy, unmotivated man-children, so I learned independent living early on. For me, I have always had difficulties allowing my husband to help me, and I have a habit of just solving my own problems without consulting him. Just like any person, men (husbands) need to know they are needed.
I’m also a nurse. At this moment I care for my husband full time, and it is hard work but it is an absolute joy. He deserves the best, and I give my best for him. I’ll miss him terribly when the inevitable happens, but I won’t be unprepared for the life of a woman living by herself. That helps bring a little peace to my planning for the future.
Such a sincere, honest & inspirational comment! Despite his prognosis, he's a very lucky man. :)
I agree with everything, i'm by myself almost 24 years, probably not what i would have chosen but here i am.
Always such a joy
I have basically lived along my entire life from 19 to 80, with a few brief stints at living with someone. Could not wait to get out of those live-in situations and back to my own place. I love not having to compromise, do what I want when I want. I travel and enjoy traveling alone although now, at my age, have switched to tours for many longer trips for the convenience, but I maintain my separation from the group for the most part. Love having single accommodations, would never share a room. I go off to see what hidden secrets I can find on my own or for my love of photography. Even as a young child I loved searching the woods behind my house for hours with my dog. Yes, you have to learn to be independent and a Jack of all trades but that is just how many of us like it.
Thank you for keeping me company when I am home living by myself! I always feel powerful after listening to you! You are an inspiration.
You are so welcome
Yes, I am on my own too. Pros and cons. Mostly pros. Freedom! But finances are quite challenging. I pray your cold clears up quickly Margaret.
Living with myself alone 😀 has proven the happiest time in my life. I can be as untidy or tidy as I want. I only pick up after myself (but I do say thank you!), I decorate totally to my taste & am the captain of my ship & soul. Women unite and stand up for your rights …. Best wishes from 🇨🇭.
I can identify with most everything you mentioned. I'm stronger because of it but sometimes it would be nice for someone to be there to have my back, so to speak.😊
I lived on my own in my 20's and enjoyed it then. Now I'm in my 60's and am again on my own after the death of my husband. In a perfect world my husband would still be here. But since I can't have that I am embracing living on my own again, I'm an only child and have always enjoyed time on my own so I think that does help.
I live WITH myself and i love it🤍
I am likely to be living by myself in the near future- this is such a useful, pragmatic talk, thank you so much. I feel inspired
I too am living by myself! I too love being by myself!❤
WITH myself🤍
Thanks for a very upbeat video on living by myself.
I'm 64 and have had 4 husbands and 2 children, but recently found myself living (and thriving) on my own.
If I'd known how liberating, peaceful and financially rewarding it would be to live by myself..... I would have stopped getting married after husband number one (with whom I had my children).
Life is really good on my own.
Thanks again for a lovely video.
Get well soon xxx
❤ thriving! Wish my mom would have experience that, too, after four husband's. Her mother instilled that she was nothing without a man. How wonderful for you to have many more years ahead of you to make that time to love you 🌻
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Hi Margaret. I have lived on my own for over 40 years. I am extremely independent but I do tend to retain knowledge in bite sized pieces when trying to find how things work etc. A lot of information at once becomes overwhelming and people can get impatient with me. This is good in one way because I try to figure out the solution myself rather than bother people. I love google and it has helped me solve practical problems so many times as I can go back to it several times without feeling like I am silly for not getting it the first time. ☺
I have lived by myself for the last forty years since my divorce at the age of 23. I raised my daughter on my own. She turned 40 today. 😊. I have loved it. Yes I have dated but did not meet anyone I wanted to spend my life with.
I have a nice home and still work. I take vacations by myself nd with friends. Next week I am going to Europe for two weeks. Most of my friends are divorced and happy. The few that are still married stayed because they were afraid to be on their own. Sadly they even put up with cheating husbands.
I am thankful that I was always confident, independent and comfortable with myself.
I really appreciate this video, Margaret. Also, the sharing from other ladies who live alone. I’m still trying to adapt after loosing my mum over two years ago and I’ve never lived alone until she passed. At the moment, it’s hard to see many positives but that may be grief. I’ve our two little dogs for company but they are both older too now and I sometimes think about the time when they may not be with me here. I do find it hard financially as I do think sometimes living as a single person is more expensive, similarly, like another lady here has said, some worries for the future, what happens if I’m ill or in need of hospital care etc. I try each day to think it’s a start for a better day. I’d like to be able to make better decisions for myself and find that hard when I’ve always been used to chatting things through with my mum. Wishing all the ladies here who live alone, much happiness. 💕
I miss my mum's wise counsel, my very best friend.❤
@@jennywren8937 Bless you, Jenny. True and meaningful words. 💕
Wishing you happiness too ♥️ The 60 and me community will help you through - I hope.
So sorry for your loss.😢
May I suggest that you add another, younger dog to your pack. You will need him or her, and it will be a helpful distraction in the moment. My condolences on the loss of your mother.
I love living alone!! ❤ I am never lonely because I’m always with my best friend!
I'm not always by myself, but very often. It suits me. 😄 My question: Why do people assume I'm lonely? A couple people often text me to ask what I'm doing and make suggestions for me to engage in certain activities. I've told them that I like being by myself.
Great topic and discussion here, Margaret.
Love this video. My husband has been very ill for 3 years now, it's very hard as far as his illness however, I find myself so happy that I am learning how to do so many things on my own i.e. caulking the tub! I will be ok no matter what! Thanks for reminding me...feel better, thanks for being a part of my life!
Am thinking of you. My husband was ill for three years and died three years ago- time has gone by so quickly. It is difficult at the beginning but I am feeling much better nowadays. 🫂 for you.
I've been my husband's caregiver for over a decade and can get down about it from time to time. However, I've learned the satisfaction also of fixing and providing small tasks for him to do, as well. Sorry for your loss and thankful for your courage.
It's a grey rainy day here in Augusta, Ga, and was feeling a bit down. Played your video, and l felt better as it reminded me of the many things that I enjoy about being the director of my own life, and the gratefulness I feel for being able to do so.
I find it amusing when a male friend makes a comment about what I "should" do, then has no real answer when I ask "Why?". While I welcome other points of view, I do my research before making major decisions, so am comfortable with my decisions.
I've been living by myslef for almost 20 years now. On those days when I feel lonely, I take a real assessment - and let it pass. Living with someone brings more challenges than an occasional lonely feeling - it always passes and I get on with the enjoyment of my life. Although I hurt someone in making the decision to live by myself, I have no regrets the the decision was the right one. Again, thank you Margaret for paving a path to my own future in such a positive way.
Wonderful video Margaret! You really know how to touch our hearts with your wisdom. So happy to have you in my life. I approach each day as a new adventure and a gift. Love to everyone fron Albuquerque NM 💙🌶🌞
You are so welcome
I look at my schedule, that I set up for myself. I love organizing things, including my time. Right now, I'm shopping around at different grocery stores to see what I like and where to buy what I want. ..and trying different recipes. It's freedom to do what I want, when and where. I love it. Thanks, Margaret!
I can relate to so many of your lessons Margaret. At 71, apart from a brief marriage and no kids in my 20s, I’ve lived by myself. It was difficult at first but I can’t imagine any other lifestyle now. I also mostly travel solo and prefer the freedom of going where I want and doing what I want. I’ve learned the best relationship is with myself.
"The days that break me are the days that make me" 😊
Isn’t that the truth.
Living by myself 2 yrs before divorce and 24 years after. I liked it before marriage age 17 to 21 as well. Not lonely. I like picking and choosing what I do and don't do without having to consider anyone else. Considering what I need to do to continue aging in place as long as possible but also keeping in mind a plan if that is no longer possible. Living within my means has been a priority for many years.
i like living by myself,, and enjoy the independance
Yes love living by myself 7 years now.
I hope you feel better soon !!! I live with myself. Past years were so challenging as I was renting rooms and always a nightmare. I worked hard to get into affordable housing and did it on my own and I believe with the help of Gods blessing. I am so happy in my lovely apartment . I learned my capabilities how I never gave up and my determination. I don’t feel lonely and just so grateful with my peace and joy which was a long time coming. There was a time I thought I needed to be in a relationship and the relation with myself and self discovery is priceless.
I needed to hear this today.On my way into the city for an appointment about an hour away.After almost 10 years of being widowed that is one of the hardest for me.I still don’t like going anywhere by myself. I keep telling myself after my appointment I can have lunch where I want and shop wear I want.lol.There are pluses. I hope you’re feeling better today.Thanks Margaret.
This is a wonderful video. Makes ya think…. Thank you.
This was a terrific video, Margaret. Thanks so much. Hope you’re feeling better soon.
Hi Margaret! I appreciate the positivity 😍 Treasure every single moment … Love it! Wonderful video. Lessons I have learned include to Start each day with a Positive thought and Gratitude … also to try to slow down time by treasuring every moment. Enjoy your day Margaret 😊 Big Like number 101 👍 🌹
You are so welcome
@@sixtyandme 😊 Have an awesome week 😊
I have lived ALONE very happily for 20 years. I am a solitary person, and I need way more time on my own than most people I know. I'm not going to change my language to go along with other people's perceptions of what "alone" is. Alone is terrific.
Good 🌞 Sunday morning Margaret. I love living just with myself, now I pay attention too the little things that I had never noticed before, now I move at my own pace🎉 discovering new things and still learning. Not having to run though life anyone ❤but living my life now, they way chose. Have a 😊 good day on purpose🎉☕
I so love living "with myself". It's been 17 years since I left my husband. What do I have? I have serenity, freedom, peace, calmness, tranquility, solo traveling and most especially, JOY!. My life is quite exciting, as I do more mission trips to see children in different countries.
I live with my two pit bulls - just them and me! I have my daughter and grands close by and I have plenty of friends and good activities. I’ve been on my own for 25 years now. It’s good although I sometimes wish for an extra set of hands to get stuff done!
I have been married 30 years but we have been separated for 2 1/2. Mostly I love living alone. I have always had lots of interests and am never bored. There are times when I 'm lonely for shared experiences and conversations but that has more to do with not having any friends than living alone.
Margaret I appreciate what you do so much. You inspire me to stay positive and appreciate my life, thank you!
What an interesting video!
I live *by myself* too. Can be tough at times but your channel and others are a source of encouragement and provide companionship ,as we can identify with others.
I really enjoyed this video. Thank you! So inspiring, comforting and thoughtful.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I like being by myself when I Want to be by myself. Good for those who prefer to be by themselves full time. And good for those who do Not like it!
It is empowering!
Thank you for your strong and supportive videos Margaret. I live by myself and I love it. I make noise while making tea at 3.30am if I wake up. I sneeze Very loudly and don’t have to worry about anybody other than the dog.
Wonderful!
Tks you
Valuable lessons to ponder, Margaret!
Bless you dear Margaret I so Love your channel, and you NEVER disappoint 🎉❤ Thank you for your sage advice and your positivity!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are so welcome
I loved this. I also have been on my own for just over 18 years. I love being on my own. ❤
I’ve been on my own for 14 months now. I was able to successfully open a large jar of pickles today all by myself!! (with the help of a jar opener which I highly recommend to all those living by themselves).
Look for the mark on the jar lid sometimes like ^ this and slip a knife sidewise under the lid and pop the seal. I see all jars have this.
Great video!
Another wonderful,, warm and wise upload. Living with myself is a joy... the peace and autonomy are priceless. I feel we are never more authentic than when we are alone, never have more headspace or opportunity to listen to our hearts. Ultimately we are ALWAYS alone inside our meatsuits and heads, an internal universe. Living with ourselves might just be the full harnessing of self appreciation. Thank you for all you do Margaret, yours is an important contribution
I am 72, learning to live by myself very quickly, as my hubby passed away 9 months ago. I had to sell all his assets, including our home, which I'm still working on. I had to find financial advisors, probate attorney, and other help so I could learn to make good decisions on everything, and make sure I have something to make a life for myself, possibly in a new town, and even state. Most days I am proud of myself for being brave, forging ahead responsibly, and keeping faith and gratitude to whom I owe it. Other times I feel lost and don't know where I will end up because I have not been able to decide where I can and want to go and make a new life for myself. Many choices, decisions, and pros and cons anywhere I look.❤
Doing so well. I really am proud of you. Stay strong and enjoy your beautiful new life and folding. I’m sure your husband would want you to be happy and you’ve got a beautiful attitude wishing you well. Take care.
@creativelady7; hmmmm, interesting! Been there, done that. It eases over time as you learn to accept, acknowledge, and grow in wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Safe journey!
@sixtyandme: Have visited your site before, and enjoy learning new things here. As a man I appreciate the similarities in the sexes' thought processes, (we are all humans), and love the differences, of course, of our genders. Come, let us reason together, Isaiah 1:18.
My condolences on the loss of your husband. May I suggest that you take all the time you need for the decisions ahead. If anyone asks, simply say that you are working on it.
@@creativeman17Yes, conversation (in any form) is so important.
Thank you Margaret! Well said and completely agree. I have been learning to appreciate, as much as possible, and look for the lessons I needed from all situations that I have found myself in over the years. The lessons are many, and some I really needed and pray that I learned.
You are so welcome!
By myself I enjoy , along with cooking,calling friends ,gardening, the cats, to read the scriptures. I recommend the Gospel of John.
I am living by myself since October 2023. My partner passed away so I have brief bouts with memories of how things were when he was here. I live in a fairly new modular home, it was brand new when I purchased it in 2006. Its roomy but I have accumulated so much things I am cleaning and getting rid of things I do not use anymore. I still get scared of personal safety at times but just pray and make it through. Its a struggle because I have arthritis in my knees and diabetes, but love my independence.
Good Morning, Margaret, from Eastern Canada :)
Nova Scotia here✌️
CanadaWest now _. From Cape Breton 🎻. _ love Margaret !
I've lived alone more than partnered, and I love alone. I'm not answerable to anyone, and I value this. Nowadays I quickly tire of people and chat. Always eager to get alone and make stuff!
I have lived alone for much of my last 45 years and it is so much more preferable to living with a partner who is needy, disruptive or childish. I'm a retired lady in my 70s and own my home, have adequate emotional support and financial income. I live a modest life in a sprawling old house way out in the country. I don't fear being alone (we all keep loaded guns at the ready here) and I accept the good times with the bad. I love the calm and the serenity. And the spiritual experiences you might.miss if you were living with a poorly matched partner.
Your life sounds so interesting!
Boy, being minus a needy , childish partner says it all! Thanks!
Love this.. By myself and I like it.
Wonderful!
I am a recent widow since January 2024. After 50 years it is a black hole.
I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for your inner peace, and much love to you 🙏❤️
🫂It will be so for a little while - but there’s an inner core you’ll find…❤
❤️I too am very sorry for your loss and will keep you in my prayers.🤍🙏
Thins will get better. Just take it one day at a time OR just one hour at a time. Are there kind caring people near you that you can reach out via phone, in-person, ZOOM etc.? If so, connect with them. Get out in nature everyday..... weather permitting. Walking every day during cancer recovery was a boost to my spirits and energy too. God loves you and so do we.
I am so sorry. This will be a very hard road to walk. Reach out to others when you are ready. It's okay to say, "I just need to hear a friendly voice." Ask people to tell you something about what's going on with them. Tell them that the distraction will help; it will, if only for a moment. Hugs to you.
Good information 😊
Thank you Margaret. I so enjoy your thoughtful and respectful presentations. Have a lovely day.
Thank you! You too!
Very good advice. I too really enjoy solitude. Women are somehow made to feel they're being selfish if they prefer solitude, as though serving, compromising and considering the preferences of others instead of yourself is virtuous behavior required of women in particular. While it's in women's nature to be nurturing that is not our only purpose in life. I hope to live long enough to one day enjoy the kind of life you describe and enjoy.
Love the by myself rather than alone 😁
Great Margaret
Thank you for this information information 🥰
You’re welcome 😊
Thanks Margaret. Those were really great and meaningful transformations! Some of them match mine eg: inner strength (I'd like to add peace, love my solitude, become stronger inspite of what I've been through, joy from simple things, daily meditation and practice!❤
Good Morning From Maine 🩷
Morning!
Indeed, it is better to say by myself.
I'm retired and still live with my husband. I miss him so much when he isn't here, I can't imagine life "by myself" I'm lonely even now and it will be way worse without him.
Totally understand Linda! I feel much the same. Then you and I obviously made good choices.
Hope you are feeling better having a cold is not fun!
Great video ♥️ I’m not by myself yet. We never know what life holds. It could all change tomorrow.♥️
Absolutely!!
What a lady, well done you for your positive attitude, growing daily, I hope. How difficult times have been for you, but, so pleased thay you are "up and running", it's so strange how life's downers can bring inner strength.
Good luck to you and happiness for your future.
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Thank you so much!
I have been by myself for 20 years , I have a loving family and so enjoy my time with them all. I see them most days to help with my grandchildren but
I still feel I’m missing out on some things , having a companion to share the nice things couples do ie meals , travel walks that to me are more enjoyable when there’s someone with you .
But certainly not to interfere with my way of life 😳😁
Thanks for sharing!
Anne. A companion is to share the "nice things" and those not so nice moments. Life is an exercise in dealing with reality, the day to day. The wine and roses aspect is simply that. An aspect.
@@doloresaquines1529 I don’t think I explained that well what I meant but Thankyou for enlightening me
@@annefinley5596I aim to please!! Hit a nerve did I??
My second marriage ended because of his affair. He was living away and I thought I would be with him but after our divorce I thought I would get remarried but 21 years later and having a number of male partners I am beginning to realize I am not sure I could enjoy having someone here all the time. The only thing I miss besides the double income is the reliable partner to travel with, go to dinner, friends and other outings. Yes I can search for someone or go solo.
Wonderful video Margaret. Thank you so much. I have learned that I am financially much better off without my ex husband. He never worked , ate all the food and stayed in bed all day all day with the heating on. Now my hard earned income is all mine. Happy days 🎉
You are so welcome
Clyd. And you actually married this gem of manhood?!
@@doloresaquines1529 yes sadly I did because I wanted to be loved by someone. Very bad choice!
@@clydareJust sending you a Big hug. You deserved better! Being bereft of LOVE majes one so vulnerable. Xx
This year 20 years living alone after 32 years of marriage. It got easier every year, first few years very painful.
All good points. I’m very independent and wrestling with these positives of singlehood right now vs being in a relationship. I don’t want a job taking care of a man. I need a self sufficient man if I live with anyone. I’m not going to wear myself out for someone. ❤❤❤
Czarina. No self-respecting man Wants to "be taken care of". Certain dysfunctiomal types possible yes. But I am sure you have excellent radar at knowing the difference?
As a single woman I lived by myself. In fact I never shared accommodation. It was a very good time, I am an independent sort of person, but also companionable. But would never ever exchange married life for those single days. As the saying goes: horses for courses.
Margaret I know you had your gallbladder out awhile ago you seemed like you did well. I’m having mine out next week and I’m a bit nervous. How are you now months later? Any effect from having no gb? Thank you in advance❤️…I admire you, your a strong and independent woman
Hi Vicki. Please don’t worry. It’s a very straightforward operation. I had a very good experience communicated with the doctors or the time and they were very responsive. If you feel any discomfort at all after the operation, it will only be for a short time. For a few days after the operation, I had to watch my liver liver enzymes, it takes a few weeks for the liver to get back into rhythm so you might experience a little bit upset stomach and diarrhea months later I feel great. It helped me to get into a healthier eating rhythm and so I lost about 15 pounds. That impacted positively my blood pressure and my health in general. So all in all it was a very good experience for me. Try not to worry. The only thing I must admit was a little nerve-racking was the anesthetic. I’ve never had that happen before and I was a little nervous, but the nurses were just so helpful and patient and calm. There was honestly a little pain. The scars healed very quickly and I feel great. I hope it’s a good experience for you too. Let me know how you do. You can send me a message to margaret@sixtyandme.com. It’s gonna be OK.
Margaret I have learnt that I'm much stronger than I knew. Been alone almost eleven years.
I do as I wish. I can do my yoga and meditation in peace,
I have a very nice male companion who excepts as I am.
Can you recommend a good book on stoicism?
@pierrettehebert3044; The Daily Stoic, Ryan Holiday and one other.
@@creativeman17 thank you 😊
Any book at all by Ryan Holliday. I consider him the expert and he has such a wonderful way of explaining and approaching this topic.
Main lesson : everything is temporary.
You are not by yourself . Your grandkids are almost there and your son. Alone is where no kids or grandchildren are close to visit.
I think the point there was I lived by myself. I do understand your situation is different and I hope that you’re OK.
😂I never had kids. I wanted too but was put in a mental hospital and they aborted it. I was told I shouldn’t have kids. I learned that you can think the universe is in a conspiracy for your benefit or your demise. It is up to me or you.
Hey, Scorpio: Bet you lived all by yourself even when you weren't alone. I respect your discipline and self-reliance. However, get thee to bed with a giant mug of chicken broth. Your eyes show me how ill you are. Sending love and light for a speedy recovery. Take care. xoxox
Thanks so much kitty for your kind words