Well it's a problem I've seen a lot of INFPs struggle with. I should say that it's by no means a restriction on you or a box you're stuck in, it's just an indication that it might be an area you need to invest more energy in to in order to solve it ~ Nathan
Wowww I’m an ENFP and most of my friends are INFPs👀 (I never do any of that adopting stuff tho cause I am too shy 👉👈 most of my friends actually thought I was an introvert before they found out otherwise🤣🤣🤣)
Ive been getting infp for years on end. But during those times i was in a darker place, i also struggled with social anxiety from childhood. The past years, I've been doing so well and been getting enfp results every time. After a bunch of research it seems like I've shifted from infp to enfp. It shouldn't be possible, but one thing is that even in my most low times when I was trapped by anxiety , i still needed communication and conversation to reflect my ideas and thoughts i was having.
Sometimes I feel like a jumping yoyo from infp to enfp back to infp... Depending on my level of energy. It's like switching between an excited golden retriever who wanna play with everyone (enfp) and an Edgar Allen Poe's black cat daydreaming and opening inter-dimensional portals (infp)
As an INFP, I get stuck in a loop where I have a lot of things I want to do but don't have the energy to start them and then scolding myself, saying, 'go out there and start being productive already,' which then results in me feeling overwhelmed by taking on everything all at once and burning out. 😅
@@danika9411 yoooo same, i thought i was infp but i'm not that certain about my views. Also i watched a video about how the functions work with enfp and i could relate and i was almost convinced i'm enfp but then the thought that enfps are, like, active and energetic makes me go back to thinking i'm infp so im hella confused >:(
@@basmalatareq6629 i’m going through the same thing i’ve always typed myself as an infp but over the years when i was younger i used to force myself to be more social and extroverted so now i kinda am a lot more sociable but i still see some infp in me so i’m torn
The part about Enfps regretting not taking certain paths is very accurate. I often rethink about the conversations I had and feel like I missed so many opportunities, like I took the wrong turns and didn’t make the most out of the exchanges I had. It’s like playing a story in witch you make the choices and end up regretting not choosing certain options. I feel guilty for not doing or saying certains tings, just like when you come up with the perfect argument but it’s too late to say it.
Same! Which is, now that I think of it, why I just LOVE to play a videogame over and over but changing the path I chose ever so slightly just to explore a new outcome
ENFPs are impulsive and blow it many times, screw relationships and so on....then years pass by they regret it and reflect on how their lives would have looked if they took another turn....perspectives change, it happens to everyone...
As an enfp, I just feel like adopting every single Infp in this world. I enjoy their company so much and I tend to feel like they feel comfortable around me. I surely noticed the differences you mentioned, each one of them! And we always make fun of me starting different projects and not finishing then and them NOT EVEN starting their ideas! Thank you for your informative videos!
I had an ENFP friend at work once. We spent our shifts coming up with the funniest, most fucking insane and absurd ideas and concepts. She’s an artist and she’s pretty awesome. Double Ne convos are amazing. - ENTP
klj788986sbb you are right, Entps are fun to debate with, in fact they are one of the few ones who will go deep into the arguments, even if it’s pointless insted of saying « ho wathever who cares».
My discussions/ debates w entps feel to me like 2 archeologists digging together for an item and as we dig more is revealed about the truth of it. Sort of refining principles by identifying downstream effects of ideas. "What if the greatest value was beauty? How would that effect x y and z? What would have to change to be consistent with it?" But then one of us will say something absurd.
In a holy war INFP would be a deadly sniper in the shadow, while an ENFP would parachute stealthily and unexpectedly behind the enemy lines with a shotgun. Without strategy you fail against both of them.
As an INFJ almost all of my friends are INFPs and ENFPs and I swear I worship the ground they walk on. I adore them so much and all of their chaos. It gives me life.
ENFP here, and I have a couple of tight INFJs in my life, and I think they are the loveliest. Nothing like people watching or talking about books or anything psychology related with an INFJ. And that whole being comfortable in silence with another person thing, I can feel that with my INFJs. Probs INFPs and INFJs (and, somehow, INTJs) are the ones I just want to talk to for hours. I mean, I want to talk to everyone, obviously. But you guys especially💜
ENFP-INFP seem very simpatico (infp here, close friend is enfp)....Same top 4 functions bring a natural, almost telepathic understanding, but different order means that each can help pull the other out of a “rut” of their type. ENFP enthusiasm can help energize the INFP; talking about a thousand wild ideas is stimulating and offsets inertia. OTOH, being constantly awash in a thousand possibilities can make one feel dizzy; INFP’s Fi and Si can help “center” the ENFP. When my ENFP friend feels totally confused by the beehive of wild thoughts in her head (“I don’t know what to DO....X seems good, but then Y also seems good, and what about M,N, Q, A and Z?”), I ask things like “How does X make you feel?”....”Why do you feel that? What are the feelings beneath the topmost feelings? What images, memories and words pop into your mind when you think of X?” “Feeling” can mean both an emotional state (tied to values) and physical sensations within the body that can accompany/signal an emotional state. Physical sensations and emergent memories seem to involve an interplay between Fi and Si. Untethered Fi can lead to a depressive funk, a paralyzing existential disillusionment; the cynic is often a disillusioned idealist, and cynicism can lead to inertia (“Why bother?”). Ne is my favorite place to play; it expands the field from a claustrophobic box to a limitless universe, all things are possible and this vast possibility ignites me out of inertia. When I can’t easily find a door to Wonderland on my own, I know that my enfp friend will offer me exciting catalysts. Also useful to have an enfp around for social situations; she pulls me out of my hermit’s cave, does most of the talking, and I thus can hear interesting new ideas. Another interesting difference seems to involve trust; I’m not sure if this relates to the differing positions of Fi and Si in “the stack”. I approach other people with a kind of pessimistic caution....possibly Fi interacting with Si “storehouse of past experiences”.. I’ve explored the underworld of my own “shadow stuff” often, have even found unraveling and analyzing my darker emotional tendencies intellectually interesting. In addition, I often play “observer” and “anthropologist” - watching groups and individuals, actively looking for “the motivations underlying the superficially obvious motivations”, the undisclosed wounds and emotional patterns, the often repressed needs....and speculating how this emotional template could reveal itself in “dark (shadow) form”. So, with awareness of subtler, usually covered-up “darker” emotions and motivations, I often find myself in a situation where I’m thinking “Jane is really nice and interesting” while another inner voice says “Yes, but she’s doing X, Y, Z to emotionally manipulate you into following agenda A”; likewise, I approach people with wariness, step very slowly into the waters of a relationship. By contrast, my ENFP friend seems to jump into friendships with unbridled enthusiasm, on the assumption that the person is pure and benevolent (until proven otherwise). So, while disappointed, I’m not surprised by betrayal (for example); I could always foresee this as one outcome, given my “analysis” of the other’s psychology. By contrast, my ENFP friend is shocked; meanwhile, I’m thinking “Well, it’s not a total surprise” and, when she’s had time to recover and recalibrate, I may (if I don’t choose to keep my insights to myself) divulge a long “deep dive” into the possible and probable “why”s behind the betrayal - where, how and why the other felt threatened at a core “ego survival” level. My ENFP friend says to me “You’re much more comfortable delving into the dark stuff”. I think (but don’t say), “Happy Land is fun, but sometimes one needs to look at the foundations - to be sure that Happy Land is structurally sound, and to identify where the weak spots are.” But I need her Happy Land “Everyone’s good and the world is essentially good” optimism to pull me out of my natural pessimism. Interesting, harmonious and productive (Is that Te?) symbiosis between these 2 types.
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I’m an INFP and have known several ENFPs, including my closest friend and work colleague, and all of this resonates as very true. Well done. I might just add a couple of other differences that I think are significant: 1) INFPs are very prone to daydreaming, which is something ENFPs don’t spend so much time doing. ENFPs might do it a bit when they’re alone, but INFPs do it all the time, often accidentally drifting into it when they’re out with other people. 2) ENFPs really wear their heart on their sleeve, perhaps more than any other type. They are the epitome of ‘what you see is what you get’. This is very different from INFPs, who are often described as having a cold exterior and are often very uncomfortable sharing their emotions. 3) Related to the above, ENFPs are incredibly blunt and need to fight against themselves not to say what they feel people need to hear. INFPs are a bit less effective at solving people’s problems than ENFPs are, but they’re a bit more effective at listening to them without expressing judgement, whether in their words or in their manner. 4) ENFPs want to be there for everyone emotionally all of the time, to the point that it drains them. INFPs tend to have a ‘live and let live’ mentality with people they perceive to be doing all right, and tend to focus their attention on the underdog. That desire to stand up for the underdog is really strong in INFPs. 5) You touched on this in terms of INFPs being misfits and ENFPs finding it easier to fit in, but I think it’s worth driving home that INFPs are generally very shy, one of the shyer if not the shyest of types. ENFPs can experience a bit of shyness but it’s usually nowhere near what the INFP experiences.
Underdog. Yes. I hate it, in nearly any situation, I always have a desire to say something to help and or explain the underdog. Idk, but I always got bias for the underdogs. It’s kinda nice tho
As an ENFP, I'd disagree with the less daydreaming part and the helping-everyone-equally part, though the rest I agree with! I just like to think of ENFPs as an INFP in a clown costume: I personally think INFP and ENFP are by miles the most close MBTIs.
This is the one that confused me as well. I fully relate to INFP on most points, except the first and fourth point. I was jumping more from project to project when I was little, while now I'm battling inertia, and although I have strong beliefs, I always second-guess myself and can never come to a decision.
I am pretty confused, each time I do a personality test it shifts between the two. Most of the points sound closer to an INFP, but put me in a group of people who are interested in the same things as me and my shyness goes out of the window, I love being the centre of attention in such a group. Yet when I was stuck in isolation, completely alone for two weeks straight, I didn't miss company even one bit, in fact I enjoyed the heck out of it. Anyone else is still confused?
its hard to tell because enfps are the most introverted of all the extraverts and infps are the most extraverted of all the introverts. Im an enfp and spent a whole week in isolation and felt fine without social interaction. I think Its because enfps arent extraverted in a people sense but more extraverted with external ideas. If an enfp has access to tons of ideas (via the internet) then theyre fine by themselves.
@@ellier2018 I've been mulling it over for a while. I guess here it'd need to come down to which cognitive function one prefers. For example my mum is an ENFP and no matter who she talks to, she just blurts out the most random things as soon as she thinks of them. While I think of the most random things, but I wouldn't say them out loud unless I am absolutely sure they'd be accepted.
@@heri4313 Nope. You're right that ENFP are the most introverted among the extraverts. However, INFJs are the most extraverted among the introverts. INFPs are extremely introverted. We come across as stoic, serious, introspective when out in the social world, but with people we trust, we become ourselves and switch into ENFP mode. This is especially tough for an INFP male because society thinks men should display their masculinity, however, INFPs are very sensitive souls and the INFP male, more often than not, got bullied in school because of this sensitivity and trying to fit in. This causes INFP males to come across as aggressively stoic and almost intimidating. I have 3 very close friends (ENFP, ENFJ and INFJ). I'm an INFP. I can certainly relate to my ENFP friend, however, people see him as quirky and funny. But as a close friend, I see the quieter side of him as well. ENFP are quirky and funny with most people, but sensitive and introspective with people they know and trust. While, INFP are seen as artistic and serious by most people, they are actually quirky and chaotic with people they trust. ENFP is a rubber-ball with a hard stone in the centre, while INFP is hard stone on the outside, but a rubber-ball on the inside. Hope that helps!
I thought for a really long time I was an infp but it didn't really feel like this is truly me so I did some research about extroverts that suffer from depression and social anxiety. Then I took the test again and it turned out I'm an enfp. Being an extrovert with social anxiety sucks because you're afraid of what makes you happy. Around 6 months ago I met my now boyfriend and from the first time we talked I felt a connection almost immediately. We just clicked. I made him take the 16 personalities test because I was sure he's an enfp and I was right. I see so much of myself in his behavior, the way he thinks and feels that because of him and through him I'm finally starting to become myself🥰 I think it's a really rare talked about topic that there are extroverts with social anxiety because it seems so paradox but it is a real thing.
I feel you girl. Going through this as well. The hardest part is wanting to reach out to people and be bubbly, but then the insecurity kicks in. Even replying to your comment makes me feel anxious, but the enfp in me says "hey go vibe with this person". Much love fam. You gots this 🙏
@@Raftiano hey thank you so much for your reply. It took a lot of courage for me to post this but I felt like maybe it would help someone. I'm in therapy so I think maybe one day I'll be free from all of this anxiety and all my insecurities and can finally be myself.
girl this is me too!!!! i struggled with social anxiety, and still do sometimes, for so long that i thought i was an introvert. but now that i am more confident and have accepted my extrovertedness i am so much happier
Good one! ENFPs are much more likely to show their Te to people: sooo...debates, discussions, arguments, facts, "i've read this thing and therefore...", I feel snowed under the facts when I discuss things with them ;(( Also their Ne is very active, catching possibilities in the moment, spontaneously (in contrast to Ni, which consideres alternatives to map a certain path - we can't say that Ne PoLRs can't look at things from different perspectives, they just don't do it spontaneously and they want to have a goal in it, get somewhere). INFPs want to show much more of their Fi-Si: keeping to their values, important people in their lives, maintaing relations, staying true to themselves, valuing comfort and lack of preassure, looking for their own place in the world. Nathan, keep going, you're doing a great job ❤
even though I am extremely certain of my type (INFP) I just really love watching this kind of video just to relate more to the people I know who happen to be ENFPs (or whichever other type being made distinct from INFP)
I’m an INFP and I’ve always felt like ENFPs are so like me, but ‘out loud’. They are probably my favorite type to be around. The one extrovert that isn’t draining. I’ve have learned to actually start things thanks to ENFP energy and it’s been so good for me :)
As an INFP and my interactions with ENFPs, it feels like ENFPs are able to drag out my latent energy where as I'm able to help them sort of find a part of themselves, thus making for some of the best chemistry between two types that I have ever seen and experienced.
Great video. I would also request you to make a video series about mbti types under stress, or depression. How they approach and react to stress/depression. Overall, love your channel, great stuff!
If I ever doubted I was an enfp this has put it to bed... "don't finish things they start", "constantly doing things and perpetually starting projects", "neglecting physical needs" (like sleep!!) and very especially "have taken on too many things and are overwhelmed"
My percentages on the official Myers Briggs that I took at work were - if I recall correctly (20 years ago! ) - 51/49 Extrovert/Introvert. Always score as an ENFP but wonder how much this close split affects me. I need A LOT of alone time and prefer it to being around people. But when I am around others, I’m really engaged and bounce about from idea to idea. It’s almost like I’m either out there letting it all flow and making connections with abandon or am shrinking back in horror at having done so. 😂
Funfact my brother and I are INFP/ENFP respectively and I feel like we really complement each other a lot of times especially since we're both pretty close and get along pretty well
That's really interesting, I imagine that it's handy to have someone you're close to when growing up be similar to you in that made. It's definitely a recipe for avoiding lots of the usual sibling arguments ~ Nathan
I'm an ENFP and my mom is an INFP... It is really crazy to me how accurate your observations for both types are! Accurate in a way that makes me feel super seen. Awesome job. Great video!
I have always identified with INFP and all my test results recently also said so. But 2 years ago I had always been tested out as an extrovert personality, ranging from ESFP to ENFP, never as an introvert until I became aware of how much unfair judgement and criticism I was receiving every day. I became more reserved after my first year of high school and since then my test results changed from ISFP to INFP now. In daily life, I still struggle to make decisions rather than settle down with something. I think both my Ne and Fi are dominant. So I really can't tell whether I was originally an ENFP who turned INFP because of my surroundings and what happened to me, or I am really and INFP.
Yeah, I’ve wondered about “shy” extraverts (who type as introverts) as well. Early life traumas leading to withdrawal and social wariness. I seemed extraverted until age 12, introverted after; at the time, in reaction to bullying and parental fighting, I made a conscious decision that people were dangerous and relationships with them painful.....consciously chose to be a loner (emotionally safer). So, I’ve also wondered if I’m actually a closeted enfp. The “inertia” bit rings true, but that could also be the product of a pessimistic world view related to imprinted early experiences. OTOH, I don’t seem to need the level of external stimulus that my extraverted friends do. Also, possibly, I seemed extraverted in grade school because that was when my Ne was being developed.....and I was perhaps busy “practicing Ne”, which might have made my behaviors look extroverted. Interesting topic for a future video it seems......Can you be a closeted extravert, and how would you know?
Yeah same. I was in a bad life phase when I was young and tested as INFJ/INFP. Then I was in a great phase of my life at uni and started testing as ENFP. Idk man haha
I am an INFP and my sister is an ENFP and this was pretty bang on about our differences. She always got frustrated about inert I could be (although she may have used use words more like 'lazy bitch'). She was always easier to like than I am since I am more of the misfit. She was also way more adventurous than me, she loved rock climbing and I find the second rung of a ladder a challenge. I'm sure my ENTJ mother gets frustrated with both of us.
This video reinforced my belief that I am an ENFP. Good point in how Te is the most extroverted function. I do value my Te, however, I am often overwhelmed with to be done. So many options. It's awesome and frustrating at the same time.
Yes! ENFPs definitely will ebb and flow when it comes to starting things then being overwhelmed but that's just a part of their approach to life! There's wisdom in the craziness ~ Nathan
This video is incredibly helpful! I can come off as introverted, but am definitely an ENFP. Jumping from one project to the next, never completing anything. I am trying to narrow down my projects to things I actually care about, be more realistic, use the time I have on said projects and stop replaying fallout 4.
About projects and not getting them done for me usually comes down to not having enough money or something being to hard to find though the stop and go is kinda refreshing. ENFP gamer rage is hilarious lol and kinda do the same myself sometimes.
"So if you find yourself constantly doing things, perpetually starting projects..." Me: Oooh yes, I do "... Engaging with the world..." Me: Yes! "... Enjoying accomplishing things" Me: YES!! "... That could indicate you're more likely to be an ENFP than an INFP" Me: *Happy cause I'm once again reassured that I'm actually an ENFP and not "faking" it* Okay well, 1 min later and I see myself in both types again, I'm confused😂😂 *Part about uncertainty starts* Me: (again) Jep, ENFP applies
Same here 😆 which makes me doubt my type more is due to my sis who constantly saying I'm an INFP and not and ENFP saying that INFJ can know personality types of people better than others and she did type many people correctly. So the confusion is still there 😅
Do you feel like you're more judgy, than not? ENFPs tend to understand others ' perspectives much easier, than INFPs, who may usually state their opinion about how they "wont deal with something" all the time (either verbally or physically). INFPs are generally more judgmental, due to leading with Fi (their values/ feelings/standards trumping everything before they act). I kept getting INFP then ENFP, and this-- among other things-- finally helped me realize I'm enfp, not infp.
@@achilleaben4761 you probably are lol. INFPs can see others perspectives too, but just not as frequent as we can I think. I think their's is more conscious
I don't think one can differentiate ENFP from INFP by doing that. Understanding people's perspective comes very natural to me, an INFP, and people been telling me how non judgemental I am. Maybe the INFPs you had been encountered so far are not really that healthy? To me, it's more by looking the energy level and how I get recharged. Though most of the time I appear to be social & outgoing, I'm basically a very home person. I feel most peaceful at home. I maybe don't have many problem with social interaction, but if I can choose, I like to remain in the shadow. Traveling sounds like a great idea, but more often than not, my energy level is not on par to actually execute it.
This is absolutely accurate. Absolutely spot on for both types! I'm an INFJ, but two of my closest friends are INFP and ENFP and this describes the difference between them to a T.
Im not quite sure how this works but I have found myself fitting both of these molds in my life. I find myself relating to the INFP type while experiencing breakups or feeling generally down, however I am a very ENFP type person when I get out of that period of depression/sadness/"funk."
Thank you for mentioning our Te function as ENFPs, I haven't really pondered on that much. It's clear I love making ideas, thinking of the future, planning and it is also clear that i struggle to then implement that effectively (my weak Si) but I did not think about the fact that I actually to a certain degree find pleasure from taking action, that contrast of disliking not being able to finish what you started (ENFP) and disliking not starting at all (INFP) hit home for me. It makes sense why, though I do not do it nearly as often enough, I feel alive when I have a to do list and actually tick everything off it
I'm an ENFP and my encounters with infps are usually pretty good although they get really annoyed with me and assume that I'm being a know-it-all when it comes to how well I can read them and sometimes they're in denial about who they are LOL and they hate being called out. like sometimes I'm simply just sharing my thoughts and it's really just my ideas and they think that I'm trying to know everything about them when really I'm not thinking about it that hard.
Haha as an INFP I can say some ENFPs have made me feel this way. I wonder if it has something to do with Te being higher in the function stack for ENFPs than INFPs, so while you're making judgement calls based on what you see, we feel like there is more to the story that you're not giving the full treatment. And we know you're capable of it. So it's irritating :)
@@jaydock1 Idk. For me, l just lay out a bunch of possibilities that l surmise only from a series of events and observations. I get it may feel like assumptions which is rightfully annoying, but an enfp typically seems to lay it all out in front of you simply so you can point out what's right and what's not in an attempt to understand and reiterate their own ideas of you.
Yeah but you really can’t ‘read’ them. You never really know, and that’s what ticks off INFP’s. You think you know, no you believe, and sometimes turn out to maybe be right? Jesus
@@odst2247 yeah this is a classic case of "projection". If either party are stubborn about their opinion, the other side WILL get annoyed, especially when than opinion is about the other person. Stubborn beliefs should be about one's own values.
Same. Lol I experience a lot of inertia, but only because I'm so uncertain and change my mind all the damn time. By the time I finally get started on something I can see 100 different ways it could be different and then I can't figure out which path is even worth pursuing anymore so I just give up and move onto something else for a while until I inevitably repeat the cycle again. **Sigh*
Inertia vs Chaos I'd say is a pretty good way to figure it out lots of the time! That being said, these are still very tricky types to tell apart even with the questions so I wouldn't be to hasty to rule things out yet! ~ Nathan
Yeah, me too. I think INFPs could be very uncertain at some point too, as they have Te as their last function. It makes question their views (Fi) on everything with facts and logic. With the use of Ne, it makes them really uncertain.
I felt that. It makes a lot of sense; enfp and infp share the same cognitive functions stack, so if your first two functions (Ne and Fi) and/or your last two functions (Se and Ti) are both developed about the same, the only difference is which functions you prefer to use. The use of inward vs outward functions changes a lot because of anxiety, and whether you're commonly in a social situation or not.
I'm an ENFP 4w5 sp/sx and it's a weird combination. I am MUCH slower and more introspective than other ENFPs, especially the 7s. I spend most of my time alone...I like having like-minded friends to chat to online or on the phone, but I don't care for physically/sensorily chaotic situations. I'm realizing how this combo has so many contradictions, and maybe that's why I never feel "right" in the world. I want more human connection, but not at the expense of my alone time/time to work on my own projects. I want to express my Fi creatively, but there are so many other things to explore and try. I sign up for a million online courses at once and then it takes me ages to even get to them. I feel overwhelmed by the Si details of life, but love list-making, strategizing and planning with Te. (that doesn't mean I follow my own plans...90% of the time) I daydream mostly nonstop, although I'm working on being more present. I start a lot of things and don't finish. It's sort of like Fi and Ne are vying for dominance in my personality, but I'm swimming in Ne in the way I approach life...so much so I wasn't able to see that it was my dominant function. My Fi is very strong compared to most ENFPs, but I'm more pushy, assertive, distracted, and restless than the INFPs I know. They often feel I'm pushing my ideals/ideas on them. As a 4, this leaves me envying both the ENFP 7s, with their pure ENFP expression, and the INFP 4s, with their pure Fi creative self-expression. I guess I'm a hybrid ambivert hermit... lol
@@phunkymicrowave5033 Very cool! I don't think I've met another of us, especially SP 4. Boontarika Sripom on UA-cam is also ENFP 4w5, not sure about her Enneagram instinct.
Oh yeees. I would love this! I am an infp but I have a few isfp friends and they're always saying there's not enough isfp content out there, I totally agree.
My ENFP wife and INFP brother are VERY different from one another. They are both incredibly idealistic and passionate, but about completely different things/concepts. And they don’t understand each other at all. Love them both, mind you. I adore both personality types.
Alexandra my INFP brother is about very deep and involved ideas of right vs wrong, but no action attached. My ENFP wife is about more action on her ideals, but more specific and easy-to-achieve (not as deep) ideals. That sounds rough to INFPs, but they are very strong in other areas.
Ah, before I end up surrendering to the feelings of confusion that this video has kindled in me, I'll argue that there are limits to self-cognition. Bye, bye feelings! :)
@@karolinasowinska you know, the purest evidence of effective humor is being asked to explain it (my fault, my joke, isn't for everyone). ok, somebody says something really dark or sad, and i say "hallmark card"? as in, "did you get that from a Hallmark card (they make very tame, banal, comforting cards). You then picture receiving a consolation or Get Well card that reads "Bye, bye feelings!:)". Which is either funny to you, or you just don't "Karolina" for it.
I was always a bit confused because I like physical activities a lot. Usually that seems to be more of a sensing-type-thing, but none of the sensors fit me in other areas (or don't fit as well as ENFP). Adventuring is amazing, I wanna go on long-distance hikes, customize a van, cycle to Denmark, go cliff jumping (did my first head-first dive from 3m yesterday so that's gonna be a looong way)... Compared to my friends I'm pretty daring, especially when it comes to spontaneous ideas😅😂 Last year I almost missed the application deadline for colleges when I couldn't decide which one of the 1000 possibilities to pick. One year in and I feel like I've wasted other talents by picking one. I feel like I could constantly change my path and try 1000 careers. On one hand I hate this feeling of constant uncertainty & feeling drawn to a lot of different things but on the other hand it gives me so much novelty, open-mindedness and excitement in life, which I'd never trade in
Adopting the opposing introverted or extroverted version of yourself at times is common. But think about whether you relate to other EPs or IPs to get a fix on your cognitive preference and persona.
OMG yes! Maybe being INFP, we suffer more so at the hands of our mood more than others. The oversensitivity to environment and people in our orbit really can alter my mood and linger with me for days. I know in myself, it can suddenly occur to me how overwhelmed I am, stretched myself too thin, absorbed too much of other peoples problems and emotions around me, exhausted myself sharing counsel and wisdom with others when I see their struggle or a need in them I can help with, but not give myself the same love or care. When I've reached that point there are times, particularly when I'm avoiding myself, that my body just shuts down, I am physically reacting to distress inside, and I MUST let the tears flow, I MUST allow the fears and conversations I store inside but don't voice for fear of rejection to play out, in my mind at least, and embrace this physical and emotional coming together so that I can release so much I hold tight. It's like I have reached melting point and I the relief I need from everything is to cleanse and then I reset, to lick my wounds, rest, then steady myself again to join the battle of life once more. physically and emotionally drained, yet always surprised at how that snuck up on me again. My husband is an ENFP, and we really used to connect and work so well together, a really good little team, I think because we recognised a lot of ourselves in each other, and would pick up the slack for each other if the other was struggling, take the lead and bring strength for a while. Problems came when ENFP boredom and desire to capitalize on all the opportunities his personality and charm created that he started to second guess his lot, to wonder emotionally, trigger his internal struggle with making choices and decisions, and this triggered so many fears and anxieties in me. Over thinking in me caused him to need to avoid me and make more space for himself, and my reactions became a self fulfilling prophecy of pain and unworthiness. I now see we were both suffering under the same delusions of not opening up and growing together for fear of falling short with each other and not living up to a love we both didn't quite trust in, but really truly wanted with each other. Both very similar but different at the same time and came down to personality and unable to bridge differences and help each other grow and embrace our true selves, at least the ones we had the potential to be together.
This was good. I'm an ENFP who spend 12 years thinking he was an INFP. Turns out my anxiety and depression, that I've overcome through healing my body, made me feel like an introvert and also numbed my Ne used. It totally killed my imagination and left me obsessive and withdrawn. I'm also a 9w8 on the Enneagram. ENFP 9s will seem more introverted than 4s and 7s. The giveaway for me was my overwhelming Ne, my lack of consistency and poor memory and clumsiness. My Ne is definitely dominant and my Si inferior. Strength of Ne and relationship with Si are the big giveaways. For INFP vs ENFP, don't rely on your own idea of what introversion and extroversion are because they are hard to tell apart sometimes in an ENFP.
My husband is an INFP and I am an ENFP and I think this totally fits us, people always think I am the crazy one and he is very quiet, but we are very similar actually, both individualistic, eccentric, with creative needs, and much more similar than we would think at the first look. Also yes he always says I bring chaos into his life, and I am much more in action before thinking and him in thinking so much that the action may never occur... spot on!
accurate! I don't know why people say INFJs are the best fit for ENFPs , they're too sensitive bleeding hearts for the blunt bully tactless ENFPs....I think the best fit for ENFPs is chaos :)) just kidding... I'm an INFP quite self-absorbed and individualistic and still feel like ENFPs are too much!!
Very helpful! Sometimes I will think, God maybe I am an INFP because I *really value alone time, but then I remember I need to interact with others pretty frequently or I'll get maudlin *quick, and, oh yeah, I couldn't come to a conclusion if you paid me in gold.
I redo the 16 personalities test every 6 months and i keep switching between extroversion and introversion. Its almost a 50/50 split between introverted and extraverted in some cases.
So cool. I am INFPa mama with ENFP son and INFPt daughter. They are both fledgling adults and living at home. I work away a lot now. Very enlightening.
What is so obvious about me an INFP and my sisters ENFP is... Yes, the energy level. They are more likely to go outside and socialize than me.. I got tired easily...
I'm an ENFP and my sister is in INFP. We're both eccentric and love hanging out together. But I try to make sure I leave a space in the conversation because, when I do, I find that she ALWAYS has more to say. I just have to give her a chance. So true about me starting too many things without finishing them, while she can't get up the energy to do more than think about them.
You know one thing I noticed with my ENFP friend that helped me determine my own type a bit more; it was when we first started hanging out. We decided to go to the mall and enjoy each others company, spent most of the day there, then proceeded to head to her parents place. From there we talked until just about 2am. In total we had spent 14 hours together that day. And as the night went on... i still had energy and she was waning. When in a larger crowd of people like the mall; she had ample opportunity to speak to new people or exercise her options for trinkets and new clothing. So this is what seemed to keep her energy quite high. On the other hand when it became a one on one session between her and I; the roles reversed. Now I was in my element. The energy slowly trickling back in. It was a very interesting dynamic to follow and experience. It helped me to see some of the clear differences in real time. Something to note about anyone who is still between these two types.
I’d say your last point is reversed. ENFPs are more likely to settle in on one decision than INFPs. That is because Ne expands on the possibilities, while Se narrows it down into one thing. So when someone does come to a conclusion, they’re actually using their shadow Se to calm Ne down. As such, because INFPs have Se PoLR, they’re more likely to struggle with settling in on one decision. Not saying ENFPs are great at it, but they’re still better than INFPs because they have better control over Ne.
Where does Nathan say INFP settle in on one decision more than ENFP? He says INFP can have strong views and a sense of who they are in the last point, but that isn't anything about decision making. Also, Se doesn't narrow down possibilities. It is an extroverted, 'expanding' function... it is also a perceiving function, which means it is how information is taken in, not how conclusions are drawn (that would be be the domain of the judging functions).
Briana That’s kind of true, but not entirely. Ne and Ni are constantly expanding, while Se and Si close in on specific possibility. It’s because intuitive perceiving functions lack a certain level of detail due to the very wide nature of the scope. A lot of people think that Ni closes in on possibilities, but that’s actually Se transporting information to Ni. Anyway, Se doesn’t expand on possibilities. That’s sort of the opposite of what the function is. Se and Si are essentially the same function, the only difference is that one is directed internally, while the other one is directed externally.
@@Anonymei S = details focused and N = big picture focused, but I disagree that this is synonymous with narrowing vs. expanding. Se doesn't expand on possibilities or narrow them (possibilities => future oriented, intangible = N use). Se 'expands' or shows outward focus in seeking a variety of tangible experiences. It prioritizes in-the-moment, actionable responses but doesn't necessarily constrict them. Se doms can sometimes appear as adrenaline junkies for that reason.
Brilliant! I am an extroverted INFP; I was worried I might be an introverted ENFP. But since I sleep almost as much as my cat, is he a Leo too?, I figure I am INFP. NOW LIFE MAKES SENSE AGAIN! Kidding aside, great video!
I think I'm an INFP (even though I've thought I was an ENFP for a while.) My good friend is an ENFP. One thing I've noticed is that she will immediately take action to meet new people. If she's interested in someone, she has the confidence to strike up a conversation. She said that to her, no one is a stranger. While I can be very social at times, I tend to take a more observational approach and see how they talk to others, what their mannerisms are, etc. I will often imagine myself talking to someone, but have little desire to talk to them in reality, perhaps because I have this feeling that they won't be what I expected, or I will just get super awkward and embarrass myself. When I'm surrounded by people I already know, I can be seen as very extroverted though because I can skip the observational step and use my Ne to be witty and quirky and present. Another thing I noticed is that she asks way more questions out loud and talks about all of her ideas without thinking about them first. Sometimes when we are planning a weekend she will spout out 10 different ideas before asking "what do you want to do?" I then have to think about everything she just said, figure out how I feel about each of them, decide if I want to do any of them, and then get overwhelmed and simple say "I'm not sure..." If I am thinking of things to do I'm thinking about them internally, assessing how I feel about them, how they will work out, and what the likelihood is that everyone else will be on board with it (this could be seen as Fe, but it is very Fi because I put myself in other peoples shoes and understand that I want to be considered in making decision, so I try to extend the same respect to others) before I will address it to the group. If I have already had the time to think through an idea, I can talk to her about them very passionately and certain about it, and then I can appear like I'm taking charge. But the difference is that I already thought through the details. Also, if she comes up with an idea I've done before, I already know if I like it or not and can come to a decision immediately. If it is a new idea, it is as if I need to imagine myself doing it and envision myself enjoying it before I am willing to say yes. She just assumes EVERYTHING is a good idea and we should just go do it. Lol.
You got it all right, as usual. I will say that growing up, I did notice when he developed te, because he developed a hobby I couldn't use.... chess. And then I think I watched him work on developing si, but I won't talk about that. And it's not so much that infps aren't willing or even eager to go on adventures, it's just the enfps will be the one suggesting it. And enfps are MUCH more sociable than infps are. So in a group of people, an enfp will be in the center doing stuff, and the infp will be on the edge watching them and wishing they could join in. But yeah, enfps and infps are very similar, and if they're lucky enough to know each other, you won't think you're the same, but you'll absolutely love being together because the other one has all you need.
Ok Great video. I have wondered whether I might be an ENFP even though tests say I am INFP who is “expressive” since I am not shy or reserved-people who don’t know me think I am an extrovert. It in reality I choose to spend most of my time alone and avoid social gatherings like the plague. Still, ironically, on the few times I have not been able to avoid parties, I can be the life of the party-like to make people laugh. But then I am exhausted and vow never to go to another party. I guess I am not a true INFP? But I can sure relate to most of what you say about them, like yeah that’s me for sure. Thank you for your work. You rock!
My girlfriend is an INFP and I am an ENFP, but when we are only together, I'm very quiet and she gets really energitic, which literally reverts the balance between us.
@@oddment7 it's because of contextual things which imply private life matters, well, not really related to MBTI things :) She's introverted, I'm extraverted, but we're both like crazy monkeys inside so.. in the end I think I'm energetic too when we're together and she can be quiet.. I mean whatever lol
I have a GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) and the way I act when Im anxious versus when Im not is very different, so its hard to see how I am overall and consistently. Im feeling more lost after watching this :(
Wow, didn't think a video like this one would make it so clear to me. I've been tryping as INFP for a couple of years but I'm certainly more like an ENFP now that I see the difference. My Ne goes all over the place as soon as I wake up and I just need to start new projects to feel good and keep being productive. I got away of most social interactions during high school and that made me more introverted, but now in uni I'm very active with friends and I'm much happier, so I guess being extroverted is healthier for me and thus the right classification. Weirdly, almost all of my best friends are Sensors and I really like the more practical approach they have to life, it keeps me grounded. But nothing like having a good deep talk with an Intuitive, I miss that
I'm an young INFP and suscribed. Thanks for helping me in that. It's very hard for me to start to a thing. But I'm trying to push myself as much as possible. I should be drawing rn but I can't start.
I'm an ENFP with an INFP dad, and I see how we're so similar yet...not. We both love ideas and gagets and electronics... and we both like helping people and are passionate about our faith. But we bore and exasperate each other. I can't keep his attention talking about complex things like MBTI, deep spiritul things or computer programming (for a few examples)... but he wants to tell me root canal stuff like driving directions when I'd rather just use my gps. And he likes physically working on things like remodeling his house or working on his guitar. We both live in houses and play guitar, but I'd prefer not to work on either and he has to work on both. Bottom line, he doesn't like to think and I don't like to sense. 🤷♂️
Such a great video and thurraly explained difference between those two types! I'm a ENFP but I'll type as a INFP as well sometimes, that's why I'm not sure myself sometimes. 😅
I'm clearly an infp and my closed friend who called me her soulmate and texted me almost everyday for helping her to decide things is undoubtedly an enfp. Accurate! :')
Nice! Yeah. Just confirms. I'm INFP and my boyfriend's ENFP. It's nice to have somebody to learn on when I don't feel like being too social when we meet up with people. But sometimes he also takes over somewhat, but I guess that's just because he's a strong personality with great leadership-qualities that sip out naturally hahah.
Nathan, I swear I was focusing on what you were saying but I can't help but be endeared by your right eyebrow?? It's got its own rebellious attitude going on haha
I don't feel like I more accurately fit either. I feel like I'm a cross between the two. And honestly, in a way, that's a much more comforting feeling than being confined to one. I could go on and on comparing and contrasting what I relate to most and least on both personality types, but all it would lead to is me being anxious having a personality type crisis.
I think a lot of ENFPs often feel misidentified because, yes, we are extroverts and get energy from being around people but our interests are usually very introspective by nature (poetry, music, journaling) which can require alone time to think and process our emotions. I think the difference is that as an ENFP I would much rather go to a cafe to write in my jorunal and get inspiration than be home alone because I would feel drained. A lot of my friends dont share my interests so i usually explore the world and see what's out there. In the video you mentioned that we connect with people well, I agree somewhat... we are good at vibing with people but usually feel out of sync when the conversations aren't mentally stimulating and focus on small talk (I don't mind small talk, i actually enjoy it but usually prefer deep, emotional convos that require a lot of thinking) ESFPs are usually better at group conversations (but not very keen on theoretical or ...not sure that ENFPs are masters at it! I say that because we usually focus on how things make us feel (introverted feeling) and sometimes that means we have strong feelings about something we DONT like. Ultimately, I know im an ENFP because I seek energy and inspiration from other people.
I don't like to start things. I hate cleaning and I have to force myself to do that, but I'm glad when it's done. If someone interrupts me during cleaning and I don't finish, I'm angry that I was interrupted and I just have to finish it.
I feel like I am completely split down the middle. I know I am introverted when I go home but when I am at work, I am a complete extrovert, I interact with anyone who wants to talk to me, a lot of the time I am the one starting up the conversation. I am also the one I start the work or I finish the work
This has helped me clear up whether or not my husband is an INFP or an ENFP. I am an ENFP and we are so similar so I was really confused, but he is definitely an INFP...he doesn't get the same thrill that I do from ticking things off my list and he is very sure about the choices he makes, I envy his ability to dive into something, not being plagued with doubt the whole time, like I am. It's such a relief to know and it makes so much sense how I have a stronger desire to satisfy my Te and he doesn't...also he is much more of an observer than I am... it's so annoying when we're in a group conversation and he just disengages from conversing and he's just taking it all in while I have to do the heavy lifting in the conversation haha. I will say that neither of us is keen on doing mundane tasks or chores so just imagine how our apartment looks when we both are being lazy...after a while my Te will kick in and I speed clean the whole place in 1 hour haha. Meanwhile I will be at work and come home and there's still a sink full of dishes and he's been watching Survivor all day on his day off. *Facepalm*
My whole life I thought, I was an introvert.. I did the test with a very good friend yesterday, rethinking every question.. turns out I‘m an extrovert. And listening to this it‘s very clear. I start new projects every day.
How did this make me even more confused aha. I relate to both sides of the coin on every topic. Oh lord, this is probably why I either get 51% extroverted or 51% introverted every time I've taken the test. I think I am legitimately halfway in between and I am CONFUSED.
I think I'm an INFP because I'm always attracted to Se types. They always encourage me to step into the real world, but often times they are deceptive and manipulative at my expense.
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Nathan. That is not an attempt at being artsy. That is *art* and it is beautiful and amazing so have more confidence in your awesomeness please
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Please make videos on ISFP too !!! Me (INFP) and wife (ISFP) have been waiting for you to cover her type and she is getting annoyed now.
“an infp might dislike the fact that they can’t get started to begin with.” who are you and how do you know so much about me?
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Well it's a problem I've seen a lot of INFPs struggle with. I should say that it's by no means a restriction on you or a box you're stuck in, it's just an indication that it might be an area you need to invest more energy in to in order to solve it ~ Nathan
Love Who bless🙏 it’s something i feel like i’ll never defeat, but i’m trying
And then once things get started you never finish it and then feel frustrated that the thing is unfinished
As an infp, enfps just seem to find me,like me and decide that I'm now their friend. Not complaining tho, it makes life much easier :)
Ah yes, we ENFPs just locate every introvert within a 20 foot radius and adopt them as our friend
Same here, I had an enfp gf for 3 years.
Wowww I’m an ENFP and most of my friends are INFPs👀 (I never do any of that adopting stuff tho cause I am too shy 👉👈 most of my friends actually thought I was an introvert before they found out otherwise🤣🤣🤣)
Love ENFP's❤
~INFP
@@ZekeMan62 same bro!
Such a great video! I think ENFP/INFP are so so so similar. As an ENFP, if I'm isolated for a really long time I'll type INFP on all the tests.
You're right, isolation can make any type feel more introverted and can cause many issues! ~ Nathan
I found myself here
I think ENFPs and ESFPs are more similar than INFPs and ENFPs though
Ive been getting infp for years on end. But during those times i was in a darker place, i also struggled with social anxiety from childhood.
The past years, I've been doing so well and been getting enfp results every time.
After a bunch of research it seems like I've shifted from infp to enfp. It shouldn't be possible, but one thing is that even in my most low times when I was trapped by anxiety , i still needed communication and conversation to reflect my ideas and thoughts i was having.
@@amalie5172 Most MBTI tests are not that accurate, apparently. They got me thinking that I was an INFP for the longest time.
Sometimes I feel like a jumping yoyo from infp to enfp back to infp... Depending on my level of energy.
It's like switching between an excited golden retriever who wanna play with everyone (enfp) and an Edgar Allen Poe's black cat daydreaming and opening inter-dimensional portals (infp)
exactly
I feel ya
THIS
XD same here.
I'd like to say ONFP lol. Omnivert.
As an INFP, I get stuck in a loop where I have a lot of things I want to do but don't have the energy to start them and then scolding myself, saying, 'go out there and start being productive already,' which then results in me feeling overwhelmed by taking on everything all at once and burning out. 😅
You just described my whole life, thank you.
wait as an enfp thats kinda me-
Same that is my main problem! But I always type as ENFP? I'm one of the quieter ENFPs though.
@@danika9411 yoooo same, i thought i was infp but i'm not that certain about my views. Also i watched a video about how the functions work with enfp and i could relate and i was almost convinced i'm enfp but then the thought that enfps are, like, active and energetic makes me go back to thinking i'm infp so im hella confused >:(
@@basmalatareq6629 i’m going through the same thing i’ve always typed myself as an infp but over the years when i was younger i used to force myself to be more social and extroverted so now i kinda am a lot more sociable but i still see some infp in me so i’m torn
The part about Enfps regretting not taking certain paths is very accurate. I often rethink about the conversations I had and feel like I missed so many opportunities, like I took the wrong turns and didn’t make the most out of the exchanges I had. It’s like playing a story in witch you make the choices and end up regretting not choosing certain options. I feel guilty for not doing or saying certains tings, just like when you come up with the perfect argument but it’s too late to say it.
Ne is cursed to see too many possibilities ~ Nathan
Love Who but it is a blessing too 😊 I see the good side of every situation
Same! Which is, now that I think of it, why I just LOVE to play a videogame over and over but changing the path I chose ever so slightly just to explore a new outcome
ENFPs are impulsive and blow it many times, screw relationships and so on....then years pass by they regret it and reflect on how their lives would have looked if they took another turn....perspectives change, it happens to everyone...
I never have that as an INFP-A. I'm extremely patient. If something comes to mind later, I'll be like "Oh. Gotta bring that up next time."
As an enfp, I just feel like adopting every single Infp in this world. I enjoy their company so much and I tend to feel like they feel comfortable around me. I surely noticed the differences you mentioned, each one of them! And we always make fun of me starting different projects and not finishing then and them NOT EVEN starting their ideas!
Thank you for your informative videos!
Where do i fill up the adoption form?
@@zulasyrafismail791 For real, though
@@zulasyrafismail791 you don't have to fill anything! it's enough not to be a mistyped infp xD
@@BiRainbow29 oh hello there! xD
@@kiokuart how can we(where can we) all Lovely HooMans connect???
I had an ENFP friend at work once. We spent our shifts coming up with the funniest, most fucking insane and absurd ideas and concepts. She’s an artist and she’s pretty awesome. Double Ne convos are amazing. - ENTP
klj788986sbb you are right, Entps are fun to debate with, in fact they are one of the few ones who will go deep into the arguments, even if it’s pointless insted of saying « ho wathever who cares».
My discussions/ debates w entps feel to me like 2 archeologists digging together for an item and as we dig more is revealed about the truth of it. Sort of refining principles by identifying downstream effects of ideas. "What if the greatest value was beauty? How would that effect x y and z? What would have to change to be consistent with it?" But then one of us will say something absurd.
In a holy war INFP would be a deadly sniper in the shadow, while an ENFP would parachute stealthily and unexpectedly behind the enemy lines with a shotgun. Without strategy you fail against both of them.
Love this analogy ~ Nathan
This is oddly specific lol. Sniper here.
INFPs struggle to start. ENFPs struggle to finish. Seen it with my own eyes (as an ENFP).
As an INFJ almost all of my friends are INFPs and ENFPs and I swear I worship the ground they walk on. I adore them so much and all of their chaos. It gives me life.
ENFP here, and I have a couple of tight INFJs in my life, and I think they are the loveliest. Nothing like people watching or talking about books or anything psychology related with an INFJ. And that whole being comfortable in silence with another person thing, I can feel that with my INFJs. Probs INFPs and INFJs (and, somehow, INTJs) are the ones I just want to talk to for hours. I mean, I want to talk to everyone, obviously. But you guys especially💜
At first I was so certain that I was an INFP. I still do but currently I seem to share a lot it the traits of an ENFP
Interesting, it's a tricky one to tell apart. Feel free to check out our other ENFP videos, you can find them on the playlist section ~ Nathan
same.. and i still can't tell👀
i'm the opposite. i still feel very extroverted but relate so much more to infps
We are just XNFP, that s all ! 🤨 ...in between two categories !
@@eliott5540 I start to think I am sort of a hybrid as well.
ENFP-INFP seem very simpatico (infp here, close friend is enfp)....Same top 4 functions bring a natural, almost telepathic understanding, but different order means that each can help pull the other out of a “rut” of their type. ENFP enthusiasm can help energize the INFP; talking about a thousand wild ideas is stimulating and offsets inertia. OTOH, being constantly awash in a thousand possibilities can make one feel dizzy; INFP’s Fi and Si can help “center” the ENFP. When my ENFP friend feels totally confused by the beehive of wild thoughts in her head (“I don’t know what to DO....X seems good, but then Y also seems good, and what about M,N, Q, A and Z?”), I ask things like “How does X make you feel?”....”Why do you feel that? What are the feelings beneath the topmost feelings? What images, memories and words pop into your mind when you think of X?” “Feeling” can mean both an emotional state (tied to values) and physical sensations within the body that can accompany/signal an emotional state. Physical sensations and emergent memories seem to involve an interplay between Fi and Si.
Untethered Fi can lead to a depressive funk, a paralyzing existential disillusionment; the cynic is often a disillusioned idealist, and cynicism can lead to inertia (“Why bother?”). Ne is my favorite place to play; it expands the field from a claustrophobic box to a limitless universe, all things are possible and this vast possibility ignites me out of inertia. When I can’t easily find a door to Wonderland on my own, I know that my enfp friend will offer me exciting catalysts. Also useful to have an enfp around for social situations; she pulls me out of my hermit’s cave, does most of the talking, and I thus can hear interesting new ideas.
Another interesting difference seems to involve trust; I’m not sure if this relates to the differing positions of Fi and Si in “the stack”. I approach other people with a kind of pessimistic caution....possibly Fi interacting with Si “storehouse of past experiences”.. I’ve explored the underworld of my own “shadow stuff” often, have even found unraveling and analyzing my darker emotional tendencies intellectually interesting. In addition, I often play “observer” and “anthropologist” - watching groups and individuals, actively looking for “the motivations underlying the superficially obvious motivations”, the undisclosed wounds and emotional patterns, the often repressed needs....and speculating how this emotional template could reveal itself in “dark (shadow) form”. So, with awareness of subtler, usually covered-up “darker” emotions and motivations, I often find myself in a situation where I’m thinking “Jane is really nice and interesting” while another inner voice says “Yes, but she’s doing X, Y, Z to emotionally manipulate you into following agenda A”; likewise, I approach people with wariness, step very slowly into the waters of a relationship. By contrast, my ENFP friend seems to jump into friendships with unbridled enthusiasm, on the assumption that the person is pure and benevolent (until proven otherwise). So, while disappointed, I’m not surprised by betrayal (for example); I could always foresee this as one outcome, given my “analysis” of the other’s psychology. By contrast, my ENFP friend is shocked; meanwhile, I’m thinking “Well, it’s not a total surprise” and, when she’s had time to recover and recalibrate, I may (if I don’t choose to keep my insights to myself) divulge a long “deep dive” into the possible and probable “why”s behind the betrayal - where, how and why the other felt threatened at a core “ego survival” level.
My ENFP friend says to me “You’re much more comfortable delving into the dark stuff”. I think (but don’t say), “Happy Land is fun, but sometimes one needs to look at the foundations - to be sure that Happy Land is structurally sound, and to identify where the weak spots are.” But I need her Happy Land “Everyone’s good and the world is essentially good” optimism to pull me out of my natural pessimism.
Interesting, harmonious and productive (Is that Te?) symbiosis between these 2 types.
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I’m an INFP and have known several ENFPs, including my closest friend and work colleague, and all of this resonates as very true. Well done. I might just add a couple of other differences that I think are significant:
1) INFPs are very prone to daydreaming, which is something ENFPs don’t spend so much time doing. ENFPs might do it a bit when they’re alone, but INFPs do it all the time, often accidentally drifting into it when they’re out with other people.
2) ENFPs really wear their heart on their sleeve, perhaps more than any other type. They are the epitome of ‘what you see is what you get’. This is very different from INFPs, who are often described as having a cold exterior and are often very uncomfortable sharing their emotions.
3) Related to the above, ENFPs are incredibly blunt and need to fight against themselves not to say what they feel people need to hear. INFPs are a bit less effective at solving people’s problems than ENFPs are, but they’re a bit more effective at listening to them without expressing judgement, whether in their words or in their manner.
4) ENFPs want to be there for everyone emotionally all of the time, to the point that it drains them. INFPs tend to have a ‘live and let live’ mentality with people they perceive to be doing all right, and tend to focus their attention on the underdog. That desire to stand up for the underdog is really strong in INFPs.
5) You touched on this in terms of INFPs being misfits and ENFPs finding it easier to fit in, but I think it’s worth driving home that INFPs are generally very shy, one of the shyer if not the shyest of types. ENFPs can experience a bit of shyness but it’s usually nowhere near what the INFP experiences.
This is a golden mine of truth, your words are just perfect, thanks
Great explanation! It’s weird how I relate to both of them in a certain level :3
This completely clears up my confusion 100% thanksss
Underdog. Yes. I hate it, in nearly any situation, I always have a desire to say something to help and or explain the underdog. Idk, but I always got bias for the underdogs. It’s kinda nice tho
As an ENFP, I'd disagree with the less daydreaming part and the helping-everyone-equally part, though the rest I agree with! I just like to think of ENFPs as an INFP in a clown costume: I personally think INFP and ENFP are by miles the most close MBTIs.
I'm an infp and I am grounded in my beliefs, but I'm also very openminded. I don't have a lot of confidence so I'm always second guessing myself.
This is a very INFP comment ~ Nathan
This is the one that confused me as well. I fully relate to INFP on most points, except the first and fourth point. I was jumping more from project to project when I was little, while now I'm battling inertia, and although I have strong beliefs, I always second-guess myself and can never come to a decision.
I am pretty confused, each time I do a personality test it shifts between the two. Most of the points sound closer to an INFP, but put me in a group of people who are interested in the same things as me and my shyness goes out of the window, I love being the centre of attention in such a group. Yet when I was stuck in isolation, completely alone for two weeks straight, I didn't miss company even one bit, in fact I enjoyed the heck out of it. Anyone else is still confused?
Yuuuuupppppp. All of this, lol
its hard to tell because enfps are the most introverted of all the extraverts and infps are the most extraverted of all the introverts. Im an enfp and spent a whole week in isolation and felt fine without social interaction. I think Its because enfps arent extraverted in a people sense but more extraverted with external ideas. If an enfp has access to tons of ideas (via the internet) then theyre fine by themselves.
Same …..
@@ellier2018 thank you
I think I’m an enfp then. Cause I normally get infp but what you said just hit the nail on the head for me. 🙏🏾🤗😘
@@ellier2018 I've been mulling it over for a while. I guess here it'd need to come down to which cognitive function one prefers.
For example my mum is an ENFP and no matter who she talks to, she just blurts out the most random things as soon as she thinks of them. While I think of the most random things, but I wouldn't say them out loud unless I am absolutely sure they'd be accepted.
Ehehe, yeah... Enfp! Although I can be very introverted and need alot of me time.
ENFPs are indeed often quite 'introverted' in the stereotypical sense of the word ~ Nathan
@@lovewho so it means that: INFP the most extroverted among the introverts type of personality and ENFO is the most introverted among the extrovert?
@@heri4313 Nope. You're right that ENFP are the most introverted among the extraverts. However, INFJs are the most extraverted among the introverts.
INFPs are extremely introverted. We come across as stoic, serious, introspective when out in the social world, but with people we trust, we become ourselves and switch into ENFP mode. This is especially tough for an INFP male because society thinks men should display their masculinity, however, INFPs are very sensitive souls and the INFP male, more often than not, got bullied in school because of this sensitivity and trying to fit in. This causes INFP males to come across as aggressively stoic and almost intimidating.
I have 3 very close friends (ENFP, ENFJ and INFJ). I'm an INFP. I can certainly relate to my ENFP friend, however, people see him as quirky and funny. But as a close friend, I see the quieter side of him as well. ENFP are quirky and funny with most people, but sensitive and introspective with people they know and trust. While, INFP are seen as artistic and serious by most people, they are actually quirky and chaotic with people they trust. ENFP is a rubber-ball with a hard stone in the centre, while INFP is hard stone on the outside, but a rubber-ball on the inside.
Hope that helps!
I thought for a really long time I was an infp but it didn't really feel like this is truly me so I did some research about extroverts that suffer from depression and social anxiety. Then I took the test again and it turned out I'm an enfp. Being an extrovert with social anxiety sucks because you're afraid of what makes you happy. Around 6 months ago I met my now boyfriend and from the first time we talked I felt a connection almost immediately. We just clicked. I made him take the 16 personalities test because I was sure he's an enfp and I was right. I see so much of myself in his behavior, the way he thinks and feels that because of him and through him I'm finally starting to become myself🥰 I think it's a really rare talked about topic that there are extroverts with social anxiety because it seems so paradox but it is a real thing.
I feel you girl. Going through this as well. The hardest part is wanting to reach out to people and be bubbly, but then the insecurity kicks in. Even replying to your comment makes me feel anxious, but the enfp in me says "hey go vibe with this person". Much love fam. You gots this 🙏
@@Raftiano hey thank you so much for your reply. It took a lot of courage for me to post this but I felt like maybe it would help someone. I'm in therapy so I think maybe one day I'll be free from all of this anxiety and all my insecurities and can finally be myself.
girl this is me too!!!! i struggled with social anxiety, and still do sometimes, for so long that i thought i was an introvert. but now that i am more confident and have accepted my extrovertedness i am so much happier
I just find it funny that people with depression get mistyped as infp 😂
Like we (infps) are so melancholic that to other types it’s pathological 🤣 I’m glad you guys are healing tho 🥰 💕 ❤️
Good one!
ENFPs are much more likely to show their Te to people: sooo...debates, discussions, arguments, facts, "i've read this thing and therefore...", I feel snowed under the facts when I discuss things with them ;(( Also their Ne is very active, catching possibilities in the moment, spontaneously (in contrast to Ni, which consideres alternatives to map a certain path - we can't say that Ne PoLRs can't look at things from different perspectives, they just don't do it spontaneously and they want to have a goal in it, get somewhere).
INFPs want to show much more of their Fi-Si: keeping to their values, important people in their lives, maintaing relations, staying true to themselves, valuing comfort and lack of preassure, looking for their own place in the world.
Nathan, keep going, you're doing a great job ❤
I can be bossy too with this Te 😅
even though I am extremely certain of my type (INFP) I just really love watching this kind of video just to relate more to the people I know who happen to be ENFPs (or whichever other type being made distinct from INFP)
Im infp
And me too i like to understand people more and like to have an idea about what problems they might face and how do they think
That's great and is indeed one of the best applications of learning about the personalty types ~ Nathan
I’m an INFP and I’ve always felt like ENFPs are so like me, but ‘out loud’. They are probably my favorite type to be around. The one extrovert that isn’t draining. I’ve have learned to actually start things thanks to ENFP energy and it’s been so good for me :)
As an INFP and my interactions with ENFPs, it feels like ENFPs are able to drag out my latent energy where as I'm able to help them sort of find a part of themselves, thus making for some of the best chemistry between two types that I have ever seen and experienced.
Great video. I would also request you to make a video series about mbti types under stress, or depression. How they approach and react to stress/depression.
Overall, love your channel, great stuff!
That's an excellent idea, I will add that to my list! ~ Nathan
If I ever doubted I was an enfp this has put it to bed... "don't finish things they start", "constantly doing things and perpetually starting projects", "neglecting physical needs" (like sleep!!) and very especially "have taken on too many things and are overwhelmed"
Glad to hear this video helped you confirm it more! ~ Nathan
My percentages on the official Myers Briggs that I took at work were - if I recall correctly (20 years ago! ) - 51/49 Extrovert/Introvert. Always score as an ENFP but wonder how much this close split affects me. I need A LOT of alone time and prefer it to being around people. But when I am around others, I’m really engaged and bounce about from idea to idea. It’s almost like I’m either out there letting it all flow and making connections with abandon or am shrinking back in horror at having done so. 😂
Exactly as me! Life is hard as an ambivert... I'm an ENFP but sometimes I do feel like an INFP
Well in polling there is usually a 3% degree of error so I can imagine the same applies here. I think you know if you're extravert or not
Funfact my brother and I are INFP/ENFP respectively and I feel like we really complement each other a lot of times especially since we're both pretty close and get along pretty well
That's really interesting, I imagine that it's handy to have someone you're close to when growing up be similar to you in that made. It's definitely a recipe for avoiding lots of the usual sibling arguments ~ Nathan
ENFP gang!!!
We have a big ENFP gang developing on our discord too, feel free to join it if you haven't already ~ Nathan
Hey fellow!!!!
I'm an ENFP and my mom is an INFP... It is really crazy to me how accurate your observations for both types are! Accurate in a way that makes me feel super seen. Awesome job. Great video!
I have always identified with INFP and all my test results recently also said so. But 2 years ago I had always been tested out as an extrovert personality, ranging from ESFP to ENFP, never as an introvert until I became aware of how much unfair judgement and criticism I was receiving every day. I became more reserved after my first year of high school and since then my test results changed from ISFP to INFP now. In daily life, I still struggle to make decisions rather than settle down with something. I think both my Ne and Fi are dominant. So I really can't tell whether I was originally an ENFP who turned INFP because of my surroundings and what happened to me, or I am really and INFP.
Yeah, I’ve wondered about “shy” extraverts (who type as introverts) as well. Early life traumas leading to withdrawal and social wariness. I seemed extraverted until age 12, introverted after; at the time, in reaction to bullying and parental fighting, I made a conscious decision that people were dangerous and relationships with them painful.....consciously chose to be a loner (emotionally safer). So, I’ve also wondered if I’m actually a closeted enfp. The “inertia” bit rings true, but that could also be the product of a pessimistic world view related to imprinted early experiences. OTOH, I don’t seem to need the level of external stimulus that my extraverted friends do. Also, possibly, I seemed extraverted in grade school because that was when my Ne was being developed.....and I was perhaps busy “practicing Ne”, which might have made my behaviors look extroverted.
Interesting topic for a future video it seems......Can you be a closeted extravert, and how would you know?
Yeah same. I was in a bad life phase when I was young and tested as INFJ/INFP. Then I was in a great phase of my life at uni and started testing as ENFP. Idk man haha
@@charmainefrostwait is ne developed for infps when they’re younger
I’m INFP and my daughter is ENFP. This is a wonderful explanation of our likenesses and differences.
This video just raised another identity crises for me😩😩😩, now I'm even more confused because I'm having behaviors from both
Lol, You're probably an ambivert, maybe that's why. IXFP here still trying to figure out if I'm a sensor or intuitive but leaning more towards N
I am an INFP and my sister is an ENFP and this was pretty bang on about our differences. She always got frustrated about inert I could be (although she may have used use words more like 'lazy bitch'). She was always easier to like than I am since I am more of the misfit. She was also way more adventurous than me, she loved rock climbing and I find the second rung of a ladder a challenge. I'm sure my ENTJ mother gets frustrated with both of us.
This video reinforced my belief that I am an ENFP. Good point in how Te is the most extroverted function. I do value my Te, however, I am often overwhelmed with to be done. So many options. It's awesome and frustrating at the same time.
Yes! ENFPs definitely will ebb and flow when it comes to starting things then being overwhelmed but that's just a part of their approach to life! There's wisdom in the craziness ~ Nathan
This video is incredibly helpful! I can come off as introverted, but am definitely an ENFP. Jumping from one project to the next, never completing anything. I am trying to narrow down my projects to things I actually care about, be more realistic, use the time I have on said projects and stop replaying fallout 4.
About projects and not getting them done for me usually comes down to not having enough money or something being to hard to find though the stop and go is kinda refreshing. ENFP gamer rage is hilarious lol and kinda do the same myself sometimes.
"So if you find yourself constantly doing things, perpetually starting projects..."
Me: Oooh yes, I do
"... Engaging with the world..."
Me: Yes!
"... Enjoying accomplishing things"
Me: YES!!
"... That could indicate you're more likely to be an ENFP than an INFP"
Me: *Happy cause I'm once again reassured that I'm actually an ENFP and not "faking" it*
Okay well, 1 min later and I see myself in both types again, I'm confused😂😂
*Part about uncertainty starts*
Me: (again) Jep, ENFP applies
Same here 😆 which makes me doubt my type more is due to my sis who constantly saying I'm an INFP and not and ENFP saying that INFJ can know personality types of people better than others and she did type many people correctly. So the confusion is still there 😅
Do you feel like you're more judgy, than not? ENFPs tend to understand others ' perspectives much easier, than INFPs, who may usually state their opinion about how they "wont deal with something" all the time (either verbally or physically). INFPs are generally more judgmental, due to leading with Fi (their values/ feelings/standards trumping everything before they act).
I kept getting INFP then ENFP, and this-- among other things-- finally helped me realize I'm enfp, not infp.
@@kellikakes81 I'm not judgy and it is easy for me to understand others' perspective. So I guess I'm Enfp after all.
@@achilleaben4761 you probably are lol. INFPs can see others perspectives too, but just not as frequent as we can I think. I think their's is more conscious
I don't think one can differentiate ENFP from INFP by doing that. Understanding people's perspective comes very natural to me, an INFP, and people been telling me how non judgemental I am. Maybe the INFPs you had been encountered so far are not really that healthy?
To me, it's more by looking the energy level and how I get recharged. Though most of the time I appear to be social & outgoing, I'm basically a very home person. I feel most peaceful at home. I maybe don't have many problem with social interaction, but if I can choose, I like to remain in the shadow. Traveling sounds like a great idea, but more often than not, my energy level is not on par to actually execute it.
"riding a wave of chaos" accurately sums up my approach to life; thank you. If you make a t-shirt I'll buy it
This is absolutely accurate. Absolutely spot on for both types! I'm an INFJ, but two of my closest friends are INFP and ENFP and this describes the difference between them to a T.
I never knew I could get a psychic reading for free. Thanks for saving my life! -INFP
Glad you found it useful ~ Nathan
Im not quite sure how this works but I have found myself fitting both of these molds in my life. I find myself relating to the INFP type while experiencing breakups or feeling generally down, however I am a very ENFP type person when I get out of that period of depression/sadness/"funk."
Thank you for mentioning our Te function as ENFPs, I haven't really pondered on that much. It's clear I love making ideas, thinking of the future, planning and it is also clear that i struggle to then implement that effectively (my weak Si) but I did not think about the fact that I actually to a certain degree find pleasure from taking action, that contrast of disliking not being able to finish what you started (ENFP) and disliking not starting at all (INFP) hit home for me. It makes sense why, though I do not do it nearly as often enough, I feel alive when I have a to do list and actually tick everything off it
I'm an ENFP and my encounters with infps are usually pretty good although they get really annoyed with me and assume that I'm being a know-it-all when it comes to how well I can read them and sometimes they're in denial about who they are LOL and they hate being called out. like sometimes I'm simply just sharing my thoughts and it's really just my ideas and they think that I'm trying to know everything about them when really I'm not thinking about it that hard.
Haha as an INFP I can say some ENFPs have made me feel this way. I wonder if it has something to do with Te being higher in the function stack for ENFPs than INFPs, so while you're making judgement calls based on what you see, we feel like there is more to the story that you're not giving the full treatment. And we know you're capable of it. So it's irritating :)
@@jaydock1 Idk. For me, l just lay out a bunch of possibilities that l surmise only from a series of events and observations. I get it may feel like assumptions which is rightfully annoying, but an enfp typically seems to lay it all out in front of you simply so you can point out what's right and what's not in an attempt to understand and reiterate their own ideas of you.
Yeah but you really can’t ‘read’ them. You never really know, and that’s what ticks off INFP’s. You think you know, no you believe, and sometimes turn out to maybe be right? Jesus
@@odst2247 yeah this is a classic case of "projection". If either party are stubborn about their opinion, the other side WILL get annoyed, especially when than opinion is about the other person. Stubborn beliefs should be about one's own values.
I was sure I was INFP until the certainty prompt damn lol.... Although when it comes to Te I'm 100% sure I experience more inertia than chaos
Same. Lol I experience a lot of inertia, but only because I'm so uncertain and change my mind all the damn time. By the time I finally get started on something I can see 100 different ways it could be different and then I can't figure out which path is even worth pursuing anymore so I just give up and move onto something else for a while until I inevitably repeat the cycle again. **Sigh*
Inertia vs Chaos I'd say is a pretty good way to figure it out lots of the time! That being said, these are still very tricky types to tell apart even with the questions so I wouldn't be to hasty to rule things out yet! ~ Nathan
Yeah, me too. I think INFPs could be very uncertain at some point too, as they have Te as their last function. It makes question their views (Fi) on everything with facts and logic. With the use of Ne, it makes them really uncertain.
lol i’ve been wondering if i’m actually an infp or an enfp with anxiety and a lack social of social skills
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I felt that. It makes a lot of sense; enfp and infp share the same cognitive functions stack, so if your first two functions (Ne and Fi) and/or your last two functions (Se and Ti) are both developed about the same, the only difference is which functions you prefer to use. The use of inward vs outward functions changes a lot because of anxiety, and whether you're commonly in a social situation or not.
I'm an ENFP 4w5 sp/sx and it's a weird combination. I am MUCH slower and more introspective than other ENFPs, especially the 7s. I spend most of my time alone...I like having like-minded friends to chat to online or on the phone, but I don't care for physically/sensorily chaotic situations. I'm realizing how this combo has so many contradictions, and maybe that's why I never feel "right" in the world. I want more human connection, but not at the expense of my alone time/time to work on my own projects. I want to express my Fi creatively, but there are so many other things to explore and try. I sign up for a million online courses at once and then it takes me ages to even get to them. I feel overwhelmed by the Si details of life, but love list-making, strategizing and planning with Te. (that doesn't mean I follow my own plans...90% of the time) I daydream mostly nonstop, although I'm working on being more present. I start a lot of things and don't finish. It's sort of like Fi and Ne are vying for dominance in my personality, but I'm swimming in Ne in the way I approach life...so much so I wasn't able to see that it was my dominant function. My Fi is very strong compared to most ENFPs, but I'm more pushy, assertive, distracted, and restless than the INFPs I know. They often feel I'm pushing my ideals/ideas on them. As a 4, this leaves me envying both the ENFP 7s, with their pure ENFP expression, and the INFP 4s, with their pure Fi creative self-expression. I guess I'm a hybrid ambivert hermit... lol
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@@phunkymicrowave5033 Very cool! I don't think I've met another of us, especially SP 4. Boontarika Sripom on UA-cam is also ENFP 4w5, not sure about her Enneagram instinct.
Can you do a video to figure out if you are an INFP or an ISFP please?
Oh yeees. I would love this! I am an infp but I have a few isfp friends and they're always saying there's not enough isfp content out there, I totally agree.
I will definitely do that video as some point! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho
Ok, i will wait for it. :)
Great points, totally attest! Enfp novelty wave rider here! How could you not when your brain is constantly exploding ideas?
Exactly! Very well said indeed ~ Nathan
My ENFP wife and INFP brother are VERY different from one another. They are both incredibly idealistic and passionate, but about completely different things/concepts. And they don’t understand each other at all. Love them both, mind you. I adore both personality types.
What are the differences that you've noticed between INFP and ENFP ideals?
Alexandra my INFP brother is about very deep and involved ideas of right vs wrong, but no action attached. My ENFP wife is about more action on her ideals, but more specific and easy-to-achieve (not as deep) ideals. That sounds rough to INFPs, but they are very strong in other areas.
Ah, before I end up surrendering to the feelings of confusion that this video has kindled in me, I'll argue that there are limits to self-cognition. Bye, bye feelings! :)
hallmark card?
Oh... Karolina the ENFP? I can see it being possible ~ Nathan
@@blackoceancreativeuniverse What do you mean by that? :)
@@karolinasowinska you know, the purest evidence of effective humor is being asked to explain it (my fault, my joke, isn't for everyone). ok, somebody says something really dark or sad, and i say "hallmark card"? as in, "did you get that from a Hallmark card (they make very tame, banal, comforting cards). You then picture receiving a consolation or Get Well card that reads "Bye, bye feelings!:)".
Which is either funny to you, or you just don't "Karolina" for it.
@@blackoceancreativeuniverse Ah ok, I think I can see the joke now! I didn't know about Hallmark cards, so I couldn't get the reference! :)
I was always a bit confused because I like physical activities a lot. Usually that seems to be more of a sensing-type-thing, but none of the sensors fit me in other areas (or don't fit as well as ENFP). Adventuring is amazing, I wanna go on long-distance hikes, customize a van, cycle to Denmark, go cliff jumping (did my first head-first dive from 3m yesterday so that's gonna be a looong way)...
Compared to my friends I'm pretty daring, especially when it comes to spontaneous ideas😅😂
Last year I almost missed the application deadline for colleges when I couldn't decide which one of the 1000 possibilities to pick. One year in and I feel like I've wasted other talents by picking one. I feel like I could constantly change my path and try 1000 careers. On one hand I hate this feeling of constant uncertainty & feeling drawn to a lot of different things but on the other hand it gives me so much novelty, open-mindedness and excitement in life, which I'd never trade in
Adopting the opposing introverted or extroverted version of yourself at times is common. But think about whether you relate to other EPs or IPs to get a fix on your cognitive preference and persona.
Well said and yes agreed ~ Nathan
OMG yes!
Maybe being INFP, we suffer more so at the hands of our mood more than others. The oversensitivity to environment and people in our orbit really can alter my mood and linger with me for days.
I know in myself, it can suddenly occur to me how overwhelmed I am, stretched myself too thin, absorbed too much of other peoples problems and emotions around me, exhausted myself sharing counsel and wisdom with others when I see their struggle or a need in them I can help with, but not give myself the same love or care.
When I've reached that point there are times, particularly when I'm avoiding myself, that my body just shuts down, I am physically reacting to distress inside, and I MUST let the tears flow, I MUST allow the fears and conversations I store inside but don't voice for fear of rejection to play out, in my mind at least, and embrace this physical and emotional coming together so that I can release so much I hold tight.
It's like I have reached melting point and I the relief I need from everything is to cleanse and then I reset, to lick my wounds, rest, then steady myself again to join the battle of life once more.
physically and emotionally drained, yet always surprised at how that snuck up on me again.
My husband is an ENFP, and we really used to connect and work so well together, a really good little team, I think because we recognised a lot of ourselves in each other, and would pick up the slack for each other if the other was struggling, take the lead and bring strength for a while.
Problems came when ENFP boredom and desire to capitalize on all the opportunities his personality and charm created that he started to second guess his lot, to wonder emotionally, trigger his internal struggle with making choices and decisions, and this triggered so many fears and anxieties in me. Over thinking in me caused him to need to avoid me and make more space for himself, and my reactions became a self fulfilling prophecy of pain and unworthiness.
I now see we were both suffering under the same delusions of not opening up and growing together for fear of falling short with each other and not living up to a love we both didn't quite trust in, but really truly wanted with each other.
Both very similar but different at the same time and came down to personality and unable to bridge differences and help each other grow and embrace our true selves, at least the ones we had the potential to be together.
This was good.
I'm an ENFP who spend 12 years thinking he was an INFP. Turns out my anxiety and depression, that I've overcome through healing my body, made me feel like an introvert and also numbed my Ne used. It totally killed my imagination and left me obsessive and withdrawn.
I'm also a 9w8 on the Enneagram. ENFP 9s will seem more introverted than 4s and 7s.
The giveaway for me was my overwhelming Ne, my lack of consistency and poor memory and clumsiness. My Ne is definitely dominant and my Si inferior. Strength of Ne and relationship with Si are the big giveaways. For INFP vs ENFP, don't rely on your own idea of what introversion and extroversion are because they are hard to tell apart sometimes in an ENFP.
My husband is an INFP and I am an ENFP and I think this totally fits us, people always think I am the crazy one and he is very quiet, but we are very similar actually, both individualistic, eccentric, with creative needs, and much more similar than we would think at the first look. Also yes he always says I bring chaos into his life, and I am much more in action before thinking and him in thinking so much that the action may never occur... spot on!
accurate! I don't know why people say INFJs are the best fit for ENFPs , they're too sensitive bleeding hearts for the blunt bully tactless ENFPs....I think the best fit for ENFPs is chaos :)) just kidding...
I'm an INFP quite self-absorbed and individualistic and still feel like ENFPs are too much!!
Very helpful! Sometimes I will think, God maybe I am an INFP because I *really value alone time, but then I remember I need to interact with others pretty frequently or I'll get maudlin *quick, and, oh yeah, I couldn't come to a conclusion if you paid me in gold.
I redo the 16 personalities test every 6 months and i keep switching between extroversion and introversion.
Its almost a 50/50 split between introverted and extraverted in some cases.
So cool. I am INFPa mama with ENFP son and INFPt daughter. They are both fledgling adults and living at home. I work away a lot now. Very enlightening.
What is so obvious about me an INFP and my sisters ENFP is... Yes, the energy level. They are more likely to go outside and socialize than me.. I got tired easily...
I'm an ENFP and my sister is in INFP. We're both eccentric and love hanging out together. But I try to make sure I leave a space in the conversation because, when I do, I find that she ALWAYS has more to say. I just have to give her a chance. So true about me starting too many things without finishing them, while she can't get up the energy to do more than think about them.
You know one thing I noticed with my ENFP friend that helped me determine my own type a bit more; it was when we first started hanging out. We decided to go to the mall and enjoy each others company, spent most of the day there, then proceeded to head to her parents place. From there we talked until just about 2am. In total we had spent 14 hours together that day. And as the night went on... i still had energy and she was waning. When in a larger crowd of people like the mall; she had ample opportunity to speak to new people or exercise her options for trinkets and new clothing. So this is what seemed to keep her energy quite high. On the other hand when it became a one on one session between her and I; the roles reversed. Now I was in my element. The energy slowly trickling back in. It was a very interesting dynamic to follow and experience. It helped me to see some of the clear differences in real time. Something to note about anyone who is still between these two types.
I’d say your last point is reversed. ENFPs are more likely to settle in on one decision than INFPs. That is because Ne expands on the possibilities, while Se narrows it down into one thing. So when someone does come to a conclusion, they’re actually using their shadow Se to calm Ne down. As such, because INFPs have Se PoLR, they’re more likely to struggle with settling in on one decision. Not saying ENFPs are great at it, but they’re still better than INFPs because they have better control over Ne.
Where does Nathan say INFP settle in on one decision more than ENFP? He says INFP can have strong views and a sense of who they are in the last point, but that isn't anything about decision making. Also, Se doesn't narrow down possibilities. It is an extroverted, 'expanding' function... it is also a perceiving function, which means it is how information is taken in, not how conclusions are drawn (that would be be the domain of the judging functions).
Briana That’s kind of true, but not entirely. Ne and Ni are constantly expanding, while Se and Si close in on specific possibility. It’s because intuitive perceiving functions lack a certain level of detail due to the very wide nature of the scope. A lot of people think that Ni closes in on possibilities, but that’s actually Se transporting information to Ni.
Anyway, Se doesn’t expand on possibilities. That’s sort of the opposite of what the function is. Se and Si are essentially the same function, the only difference is that one is directed internally, while the other one is directed externally.
@@Anonymei S = details focused and N = big picture focused, but I disagree that this is synonymous with narrowing vs. expanding. Se doesn't expand on possibilities or narrow them (possibilities => future oriented, intangible = N use). Se 'expands' or shows outward focus in seeking a variety of tangible experiences. It prioritizes in-the-moment, actionable responses but doesn't necessarily constrict them. Se doms can sometimes appear as adrenaline junkies for that reason.
Well, now can someone advise how to overcome this INFP inertia? Sigh
trick question.
I've done videos on INFP weaknesses and how to solve them, it's a few videos back - feel free to check it out ~ Nathan
enfp w. social anxiety 🎈🦃✨
Brilliant! I am an extroverted INFP; I was worried I might be an introverted ENFP. But since I sleep almost as much as my cat, is he a Leo too?, I figure I am INFP. NOW LIFE MAKES SENSE AGAIN!
Kidding aside, great video!
I think I'm an INFP (even though I've thought I was an ENFP for a while.) My good friend is an ENFP. One thing I've noticed is that she will immediately take action to meet new people. If she's interested in someone, she has the confidence to strike up a conversation. She said that to her, no one is a stranger. While I can be very social at times, I tend to take a more observational approach and see how they talk to others, what their mannerisms are, etc. I will often imagine myself talking to someone, but have little desire to talk to them in reality, perhaps because I have this feeling that they won't be what I expected, or I will just get super awkward and embarrass myself. When I'm surrounded by people I already know, I can be seen as very extroverted though because I can skip the observational step and use my Ne to be witty and quirky and present.
Another thing I noticed is that she asks way more questions out loud and talks about all of her ideas without thinking about them first. Sometimes when we are planning a weekend she will spout out 10 different ideas before asking "what do you want to do?" I then have to think about everything she just said, figure out how I feel about each of them, decide if I want to do any of them, and then get overwhelmed and simple say "I'm not sure..." If I am thinking of things to do I'm thinking about them internally, assessing how I feel about them, how they will work out, and what the likelihood is that everyone else will be on board with it (this could be seen as Fe, but it is very Fi because I put myself in other peoples shoes and understand that I want to be considered in making decision, so I try to extend the same respect to others) before I will address it to the group.
If I have already had the time to think through an idea, I can talk to her about them very passionately and certain about it, and then I can appear like I'm taking charge. But the difference is that I already thought through the details. Also, if she comes up with an idea I've done before, I already know if I like it or not and can come to a decision immediately. If it is a new idea, it is as if I need to imagine myself doing it and envision myself enjoying it before I am willing to say yes. She just assumes EVERYTHING is a good idea and we should just go do it. Lol.
You got it all right, as usual. I will say that growing up, I did notice when he developed te, because he developed a hobby I couldn't use.... chess. And then I think I watched him work on developing si, but I won't talk about that. And it's not so much that infps aren't willing or even eager to go on adventures, it's just the enfps will be the one suggesting it. And enfps are MUCH more sociable than infps are. So in a group of people, an enfp will be in the center doing stuff, and the infp will be on the edge watching them and wishing they could join in. But yeah, enfps and infps are very similar, and if they're lucky enough to know each other, you won't think you're the same, but you'll absolutely love being together because the other one has all you need.
This makes sense, ENFPs are instigators and initiators ~ Nathan
Ok Great video. I have wondered whether I might be an ENFP even though tests say I am INFP who is “expressive” since I am not shy or reserved-people who don’t know me think I am an extrovert. It in reality I choose to spend most of my time alone and avoid social gatherings like the plague. Still, ironically, on the few times I have not been able to avoid parties, I can be the life of the party-like to make people laugh. But then I am exhausted and vow never to go to another party. I guess I am not a true INFP? But I can sure relate to most of what you say about them, like yeah that’s me for sure.
Thank you for your work. You rock!
Glad you enjoyed it and I hope you found it useful ~ Nathan
Also, your IG account is my favorite aspect of your social media
My girlfriend is an INFP and I am an ENFP, but when we are only together, I'm very quiet and she gets really energitic, which literally reverts the balance between us.
I wonder why this is!
@@oddment7 it's because of contextual things which imply private life matters, well, not really related to MBTI things :)
She's introverted, I'm extraverted, but we're both like crazy monkeys inside so.. in the end I think I'm energetic too when we're together and she can be quiet.. I mean whatever lol
I feel as if people think I am or expect me to be an INFP but my real personality is an ENFP.
I have a GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) and the way I act when Im anxious versus when Im not is very different, so its hard to see how I am overall and consistently. Im feeling more lost after watching this :(
Wow, didn't think a video like this one would make it so clear to me. I've been tryping as INFP for a couple of years but I'm certainly more like an ENFP now that I see the difference. My Ne goes all over the place as soon as I wake up and I just need to start new projects to feel good and keep being productive. I got away of most social interactions during high school and that made me more introverted, but now in uni I'm very active with friends and I'm much happier, so I guess being extroverted is healthier for me and thus the right classification.
Weirdly, almost all of my best friends are Sensors and I really like the more practical approach they have to life, it keeps me grounded. But nothing like having a good deep talk with an Intuitive, I miss that
I'm an young INFP and suscribed. Thanks for helping me in that. It's very hard for me to start to a thing. But I'm trying to push myself as much as possible. I should be drawing rn but I can't start.
This has been source of confuzzlment for me. So thanks for your thoughts.
Hopefully it gave some clarify or extra information ~ Nathan
You sir... are a man of great brain... love... love... your content....
Wow! This was a super analisis. Now I am pretty sure I am more a ENFP. I've always questioned it because my extroversion is not that high
God dude, IDK almost everything you said made me think I'm an INFP, but the struggle to choose a direction, and I have a broad set of interests.
You're spot on! I think you have the best grasp or explain the cognitive functions the best
I'm an ENFP with an INFP dad, and I see how we're so similar yet...not.
We both love ideas and gagets and electronics... and we both like helping people and are passionate about our faith. But we bore and exasperate each other.
I can't keep his attention talking about complex things like MBTI, deep spiritul things or computer programming (for a few examples)... but he wants to tell me root canal stuff like driving directions when I'd rather just use my gps. And he likes physically working on things like remodeling his house or working on his guitar. We both live in houses and play guitar, but I'd prefer not to work on either and he has to work on both.
Bottom line, he doesn't like to think and I don't like to sense. 🤷♂️
So I used to think I was an INFP but now I feel like I’m more of an ENFP because I clicked every ENFP box you mentioned.
Such a great video and thurraly explained difference between those two types! I'm a ENFP but I'll type as a INFP as well sometimes, that's why I'm not sure myself sometimes. 😅
I am very firmly an ENFP and I have a long time friend who is very firmly an INFP. I agree with everything you said.
I'm clearly an infp and my closed friend who called me her soulmate and texted me almost everyday for helping her to decide things is undoubtedly an enfp. Accurate! :')
Glad you liked it! ~ Nathan
Nice! Yeah. Just confirms. I'm INFP and my boyfriend's ENFP. It's nice to have somebody to learn on when I don't feel like being too social when we meet up with people. But sometimes he also takes over somewhat, but I guess that's just because he's a strong personality with great leadership-qualities that sip out naturally hahah.
Nathan, I swear I was focusing on what you were saying but I can't help but be endeared by your right eyebrow?? It's got its own rebellious attitude going on haha
I don't feel like I more accurately fit either. I feel like I'm a cross between the two. And honestly, in a way, that's a much more comforting feeling than being confined to one. I could go on and on comparing and contrasting what I relate to most and least on both personality types, but all it would lead to is me being anxious having a personality type crisis.
I think a lot of ENFPs often feel misidentified because, yes, we are extroverts and get energy from being around people but our interests are usually very introspective by nature (poetry, music, journaling) which can require alone time to think and process our emotions. I think the difference is that as an ENFP I would much rather go to a cafe to write in my jorunal and get inspiration than be home alone because I would feel drained. A lot of my friends dont share my interests so i usually explore the world and see what's out there. In the video you mentioned that we connect with people well, I agree somewhat... we are good at vibing with people but usually feel out of sync when the conversations aren't mentally stimulating and focus on small talk (I don't mind small talk, i actually enjoy it but usually prefer deep, emotional convos that require a lot of thinking) ESFPs are usually better at group conversations (but not very keen on theoretical or ...not sure that ENFPs are masters at it! I say that because we usually focus on how things make us feel (introverted feeling) and sometimes that means we have strong feelings about something we DONT like. Ultimately, I know im an ENFP because I seek energy and inspiration from other people.
It depends so much on my mental health and how I’m feeling 🥺 i relate with both of them so much and at the same time I don’t
I don't like to start things. I hate cleaning and I have to force myself to do that, but I'm glad when it's done. If someone interrupts me during cleaning and I don't finish, I'm angry that I was interrupted and I just have to finish it.
I feel like I am completely split down the middle. I know I am introverted when I go home but when I am at work, I am a complete extrovert, I interact with anyone who wants to talk to me, a lot of the time I am the one starting up the conversation. I am also the one I start the work or I finish the work
This has helped me clear up whether or not my husband is an INFP or an ENFP. I am an ENFP and we are so similar so I was really confused, but he is definitely an INFP...he doesn't get the same thrill that I do from ticking things off my list and he is very sure about the choices he makes, I envy his ability to dive into something, not being plagued with doubt the whole time, like I am. It's such a relief to know and it makes so much sense how I have a stronger desire to satisfy my Te and he doesn't...also he is much more of an observer than I am... it's so annoying when we're in a group conversation and he just disengages from conversing and he's just taking it all in while I have to do the heavy lifting in the conversation haha. I will say that neither of us is keen on doing mundane tasks or chores so just imagine how our apartment looks when we both are being lazy...after a while my Te will kick in and I speed clean the whole place in 1 hour haha. Meanwhile I will be at work and come home and there's still a sink full of dishes and he's been watching Survivor all day on his day off. *Facepalm*
My whole life I thought, I was an introvert.. I did the test with a very good friend yesterday, rethinking every question.. turns out I‘m an extrovert. And listening to this it‘s very clear. I start new projects every day.
I probably was just shy (which changed)
But I also think I‘m kind of in the middle going more to the E
THANK YOU. I was having a personality crisis. I'm still indeed an INFP 😌 My life is not a lie!!!
I’m sorry I had to pause when you said “chaos monkey” I had to cackle!!! I’m an ENFP and I can confirm the accuracy smh
Just a check, most of the enfp's are confused between enfp & infp. 😅
Enfp's are a mess
How did this make me even more confused aha. I relate to both sides of the coin on every topic. Oh lord, this is probably why I either get 51% extroverted or 51% introverted every time I've taken the test. I think I am legitimately halfway in between and I am CONFUSED.
I think I'm an INFP because I'm always attracted to Se types. They always encourage me to step into the real world, but often times they are deceptive and manipulative at my expense.
After this video, it is now certain that I am an ENFP
I identify with INFP. I love your videos. So informative!