Suicide, It's Time to Talk About "IT" | Barb Smith | TEDxTraverseCity
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- Barb Smith advocates for change in the way we talk about and respond to suicide. Barb Smith has served Michigan since 1989 through the Barb Smith Suicide Resource & Response Network focusing on suicide prevention and aftercare. Barb's drive and passion for suicide prevention came through her personal experience of losing her 20-year old brother, John, to suicide. Her pain became purposeful as she continues to partner and advocate for change in the way we talk about and respond to suicide. Her founding network provides prevention and aftercare training to people where they live, work, play, and learn. From a grassroots organization to being named as a partner with CMU College of Medicine, a faculty member at the National Suicidology Training Center and newly appointed by the Governor of Michigan to the Suicide Prevention Commission. Her grief journey has been life-changing, not only for herself but for the many other people's lives she has impacted along the way. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
As a psychologist who works primarily with middle and high school students, I can testify that there needs to be a bigger emphasis on mental health.
Spend all your time waiting
For that second chance
For a break that would make it okay
There's always some reason
To feel not good enough
And it's hard at the end of the day
I need some distraction
Oh a beautiful release
Memories seep from my veins
Let me be empty
Oh and weightless and maybe
I'll find some peace tonight
In the arms of the angel
Fly away from here
From this dark cold hotel room
And the endlessness that you fear
You are pulled from the wreckage
Of your silent reverie
You're in the arms of the angel
May you find some comfort here
So tired of the straight line
And everywhere you turn
There's vultures and thieves at your back
And the storm keeps on twisting
You keep on building the lies
That you make up for all that you lack
It don't make no difference
Escaping one last time
It's easier to believe
In this sweet madness
Oh this glorious sadness
That brings me to my knees
In the arms of the angel
Fly away from here
From this dark cold hotel room
And the endlessness that you fear
You are pulled from the wreckage
Of your silent reverie
You're in the arms of the angel
May you find some comfort here
You're in the arms of the angel
May you find some comfort here
There needs to be an emphasis on loving each other, and none of us can do this without FIRST loving and following God.
Suicidal thoughts from my experience,is pressure into believing that there is no way out ive been there,,,
But here you are. Proof that there is a way out, right? Or did i miss something?
Vanda S Yes bullying drove me down and I had a huge breakdown and couldn’t cope with my problems and self harmed myself but I cannot say that I recovered but I’m stronger now even though I’m crippled physically,i developed multiple sclerosis so I’m not a positive person but I’m a survivor of a situation that led me to think that the only way was kill my self but I would say keep the faith because Jesus Christ loves you
Agree
There's a large range of reasons. Often it IS the means to an end of pain and/or suffering when someone has tried EVERYTHING to try and cope. Depression. PTSD. Severe OCD(there's a disorder called suicidal OCD now...that's how they try to make it comfortable for THEM to deal with someone who's so miserable they think of nothing else from morning through night). Complex Greif is a big one. It certainly is for me. Chronic pain. Betrayal. Mental illness. Severe physical or emotional trauma. Chronic illness. Guilt. Shame. LOVE. Age. Loneliness. Abuse by someone you Love or has power over us abusing us.
I am a SUICIDE SURVIVOR since 5 years ago.
I understand it all
Why? Only we know.
No God knows, HE saw and sees you. HE had His arms open then, and HE has them open now.
I love that line you just said people do not commit suicide because they want to die they do it because they’re tired of their suffering that really hit home for me
I struggled with my depression and anxiety since i was 8 or 9 im 30 now.
I try hard every day to stay strong but theres days were im about ready to break.
Right there with you bud, almost word for word x
i been depressed over 1 year and a half its hard sometimes staying strong ok!
Hey man, I hope that you are doing better these days. Please be safe and remember that people care about you, even if it may not feel like it sometimes. Maybe professional help is the answer, or talking to a trusted friend about what you are going through. Wish you the best.
You "educated" your brain cells to live with it. Didn't rid of the feeling on time.
Thirty is your last chance. SEE reality, deny lies. Live the truth to combat that gummy heavy lazy pet on tour back.
We all, the ones that listened to this talk, we feel you.
Thank you for sharing.
@@raulramos5246 Hope you are doing okay man, take care.
Long covid has stolen my life. People don't even think it exists, I don't care because they're afraid it could happen to them? Who knows? I'm not sure I can live anymore with it. I'm thinking my bday... and I'm scared.
Same here. And nobody believes me, except one or two. Long Covid is real, it steals people's lives. I was strong before, now I think about suicide everyday.
I'm so grateful that I found this channel ❤️💗
do not feel bad if you lost someone to suicide
it is not your fault, you could not have saved them
sometimes we have no other choice, regardelss if you do or do not understand
my fam. knows one day ill be gone, simply because i have no other choice
even my doctor knows everyone knows
there simply is no place for me to live, and i am only existing not living
just existing takes everything from me, just to do the bare minimun to get through a day takes everything from me
i suffer from autism
if you are feeling like death is your only way out, talk about it like i have, with everyone, your loved ones, your doctors
make sure no one is left behind with questions (that imho is your responsibility)
be sure to tell them everything, so everyone feels that they really had a fair chance to do everything they could have to enable you to have a better life
I think.hope cases like mine are rare and few, i do think for a lot of people there will be help to enable you to live a better life
Spend all your time waiting
For that second chance
For a break that would make it okay
There's always some reason
To feel not good enough
And it's hard at the end of the day
I need some distraction
Oh a beautiful release
Memories seep from my veins
Let me be empty
Oh and weightless and maybe
I'll find some peace tonight
In the arms of the angel
Fly away from here
From this dark cold hotel room
And the endlessness that you fear
You are pulled from the wreckage
Of your silent reverie
You're in the arms of the angel
May you find some comfort here
So tired of the straight line
And everywhere you turn
There's vultures and thieves at your back
And the storm keeps on twisting
You keep on building the lies
That you make up for all that you lack
It don't make no difference
Escaping one last time
It's easier to believe
In this sweet madness
Oh this glorious sadness
That brings me to my knees
In the arms of the angel
Fly away from here
From this dark cold hotel room
And the endlessness that you fear
You are pulled from the wreckage
Of your silent reverie
You're in the arms of the angel
May you find some comfort here
You're in the arms of the angel
May you find some comfort here
I believe that in certain situations suicide is the most effective way to die. If someone is extremely sick, don't feel well because of mental illness and other reasons it works. What needs to be understood is life is not a great to some people and I believe that is true. Why are people so afraid to die, death is not that bad and sometimes letting go is ok. Not all situations are solvable.
i want to die from my depression but suicide is not the answer, i don't want to die by suicide!
Suicide is something that people can do one day that they would never choose for themselves in the future. Don't cut your life short when changes are ahead. Your future life is never what you think it will be. There is hope.
@@jenniferlee1399 spoken like someone who has never suffered serious depression.
There is no hope or solution.
Some situations are so sudden so shocking to the mind that dealing w them is too much. I’ve never been in a state of mind as I am now
@@jenniferlee1399 - if you have depression like mine. You would not be saying this.
My li'l brother was 21.
My mother doubled over in pain. I felt like a thousand needles on her head. Her breath escaped from her mouth, saying no words. We all felt the same around her. No one of us saw a sign. Not a clue, not a glimpse.
Do. Act. Go.
Love
Glad I found this channel... I struggle with "IT" and have chronic depression and other issues. I think I'm going to call the number at the end of this video.
Check your thyroid, it is the often cause
@@dariobotkuljak9673 I know it's been a year but man you're right about the thyroid
@@jessiea4250 hope you have resolved it
I love ted talks
she sounds like one of those readers on the map tests
why would you want to resuscitate someone who already hated life and its pressures?you will never understand suicide until you have been that depressed.mental health is like regular health here .the US does not understand either.taalk about death....it's not understood either...it is part of life.EDUCATE everyone.big pharma will love you
I thought about it since I was 10 yrs.old. I was molested by two stepbrothers who were in the navy, I was only three and still potty trained. then no one believed me. so I grew up and then my baby daddy of 17yrs. ran off with my real brother's wife of 20 yrs. , they had a baby, that baby grew up and my mom baptized that baby, I am my mom's only daughter,... then my real dad asked me when I stopped peeing my pants, I said the 6th grade because I was still afraid back then, he said I am sick... that was gut wrenching, .. so I have no parents or family, its like I don't exist anymore. or ever did anyways..but i am still here.. trying to make my life a better brighter place, for myself, i made it this far. holidays are lonely, but making plans.
Lorrie Chacon I am so sorry for what happened to you. You exist. The suffering is horrible but hopefully we will all pull through.
@Linn Nilsson I am dealing with it, my mom took her second covid shot and got real sick, I moved in to take care of her, it was a terrible time for her for she lost oxygen at the doctors and I gave her CPR while the doctors and nurses stood by and watched as I begged them to help me not let her die, then a couple weeks later she passed away. I am now taking care of my step dad, but my nightmare is not over, my real brother wants to evict me but if I go, then my 80 yr.old dad has to go to a nursing home. My mom wanted me to have the house but two days after my mom passed, I got attacked by my brother while I was sleeping and then attacked again by my 2 nieces on the evening of my mom's memorial service. its a never ending twilight zone for me. sleeping with pepper spray and a hammer for safety now, my brother is here sleeping on my expensive couch. He is the power of attorney and even cops can't do anything.
@@lorriechacon2731 so sorry. Prayers
I struggle with the monster that is depression and suicidal thoughts/ideation a lot; including today. It's painful and if you are thinking of suicide, please don't do it. There is hope; you can fight this; you are not alone. Live!! I know it's hard but please choose to stay. **Hugs**
This sweet. The pain is unbearable tho
The thing about talking about talking about sucide, id this is almost a departure of emotions in our presentation. Please those who talk about this subject, show your heart. It will make all the difference to the ones listening.
Walking daily on it and it’s hard to be normal again
My deeply loved partner be forced suicided by family member Financial abusive. This kind of suicide was worse than criminal.
So sorry
Great talk
I am mentally ill. Sorry to say this video is not helpful.
What a great lady
I am so sorry to hear - condolences. This is the most painful form of loss. the worst.
Yes, this is truly a necessary, great talk. It should be an accepted fact of life-one day! Please!
How can we provide support to a loved one who has a hard time opening and sharing?
This is a very interesting topic but the sound as the beginning is very bad
Great Talk ... we all should be talk about it
Hello
❤️
dk why i think am bipolar
Timing is key 😉
No I don't wanna talk about it..
I'm on a ship. I need help
She looks good.
🖤
is there such a thing as the "joy of depression"
Like the lyric goes, “I miss the comfort of being sad.” It’s true nothing stays the same. They can always get worse, and sometimes people push it that way as well. Sometimes the isolation of depression can be helpful.
@@melissagreenwood1717 Hi sweetie the negative forces of depression want to rob us of our joy, love and our lives we fight these forces everyday and it very hard sometimes but we can't give up, please remember you are a god and nothing can take that away from us so keep fighting i'm thinking about you MERRY CHRISTMAS!
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All this has done has made me feel more guilty for not doing or saying the right things.
I was so caught up in my own pain that I didn't see that the person helping me get through each day was struggling himself.
I'm so sorry Robbie 💔
I wish I could have been been there for you as you were for me.
Remember he helped u because he cared, therfore he would want u to b happy not sad ☺
You failed him. The one person you we’re supposed to help.
His blood is in your hands. Hope it haunts you forever.
Missed, 2nd Nonetheless
A person should be allowed the end there life at anytime.. it is an existential right.. 👍