I FELL off my celibacy journey so you don't have to...
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- Prayer for Deliverance and Renunciation of Sexual Sin:
I renounce all sexual sin that I have been involved with in the past, including fornication, masturbation, pornography, perversion, fantasy, and adultery in the name of Jesus.
I break all curses of adultery, perversion, fornication, lust, incest, rape, molestation, illegitimacy, harlotry, and polygamy in the name of Jesus.
I command all spirits of lust and perversion to come out of my stomach, genitals, eyes, mind, mouth, hands, and blood in the name of Jesus.
I present my body to the Lord as a living sacrifice (Rom. 12:1).
My members are the members of Christ. I will not let them be the members of a harlot (1 Cor. 6:15).
I release the fire of God to burn out all unclean lust from my life in the name of Jesus.
I break all ungodly soul ties with former lovers and sexual partners in the name of Jesus.
I cast out all spirits of loneliness that would drive me to ungodly sexual relationships in the name of Jesus.
I command all spirits of hereditary lusts from my ancestors to come out in the name of Jesus.
I command all spirits of witchcraft that work with lust to leave in the name of Jesus.
I take authority over my thoughts and bind all spirits of fantasy and lustful thinking in the name of Jesus.
I cast out all marriage-breaking spirits of lust that would break covenant in the name of Jesus.
I cast out and loose myself from any spirit spouses and spirits of incubus
and succubus in the name of Jesus.
I cast out all spirits of perversion, including Moabite and Ammonite spirits of lust, in the name of Jesus.
I receive the spirit of holiness in my life to walk in sexual purity in the name of Jesus (Rom. 1:4).
I loose myself from the spirit of the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life.
I overcome the world through the power of the Holy Spirit (1 John 2:16).
I am crucified with Christ. I mortify my members.
I do not let sin reign in my body, and I will not obey its lust (Rom. 6:6-12).
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You know I love y’all when I still put out the video even though my makeup wasn’t trying to act right! 😫 anyways this isn’t about me and it definitely isn’t about makeup.
Hope you all take away the MESSAGE in this.
I love you all and want the best for you!
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You still look gorgeous Breeny 😍🥰 We love you more 😘♥️
Aww Breeny - thanks so much for sharing! Praying we would all win in this area, together 💕
This was a really amazing and needed topic. Thank you sooo much for posting. I haven't been this engaged in sometines comments section in a long time. People from all beliefs really benefited. God bless you 🙏🏽💕💕
Trying to find the flaw in your makeup……🧐
Breeny you look like a doll...stop playing
I ended my celibacy after 6 months and I honestly regretted it. Ended up feeling used in the end and it reminded me how at peace I was (emotionally) when I was celibate.
hey I am in the same boat, I feel you on this. I have had so much thoughts about this past mistake and going down the wrong road. God does not want us looking back at the past. satans wins when we lose ourselves on what could have been. 7 months later I have still been struggling to leave this relationship. Dealing with many hardships
Look at both the positive, and negative in the experience. Celibacy is for ourselves, because most guys don't seem to appreciate it. Just get back on track, it's all for you wanting to move forwards, not backwards in your, "Spiritual" journey for, "Yourself". Any guy that can't hold us until morning, and see us everyday isn't doing anything for us that we can't handle ourselves with a trip to the toy shop. The purpose of the Man being involved is supposed to be for our mental and spiritual stimulus to go along with the physical experience, that we can already provide for ourselves.
Sorry boo
samez. dats why i’m here rn :(
i was so upset & hurt, but at him & not myself bc it was consensual. i just would prefer when i say i’m celibate for them to adopt it too but not everyone will & i need to understand & respect that too 😭💀
Same here and NEVER AGAIN!!😢
I'm a guy and I've been celibate for 9 years now going for ten. It's a very difficult journey, most of my friends still radicule the idea, even women but it has taught me self-value. My level of discernment and wisdom is on a level I could have never imagined.
Respect to you
@@bm5_5_5 Thank you. God bless you
Keep going...
This is a beautiful message... I feel like the abstinence or celibacy is supposed to be for the glory of God not for our future husbands. The day I started thinking about it in this way, it made my abstinence journey easier. When you think you are keeping pure for your husband, as you get older it becomes frustrating. What if you never get a partner? You will start being mad with God. So make sure you are being celibate for God not for a husband. I almost fell with that mindset but now I know better, I'm in my late 20's and never had sex before.
Don't boast.
@@kimberlyturner820 they are sharing a mindset. It may help some of us. Saying that you never had sex before is hard too. Some people do look down on others for being a virgin.
@@kimberlyturner820 I'm not boasting, I'm sharing my experience. That's what comment section is for.
To say you haven't had sex? Your not missing nothing. Society glamourizes it, it's seriously over rated.
@@sanitationEng i kept my virginity for long and lost for a fool.
Celibate for 15 years and I’m about to turn 40. Single with no kids and I’m enjoying life to the fullest. It’s truly God’s grace and power that has sustained me over the years. I look forward to continuing this celibacy journey and prayerfully one day I’ll be able to marry and have a beautiful family.
Thanks for sharing your story. It’s beautiful and powerful! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🥰🥰
You are my inspiration for sure...wow, that's a long time.
I am a celibate for over a year now
yesssss. i can feel your peace through the screen. This is where i aspire to be. The dating pool is just not good and it’ll get worse. Stay solo and be careful out here. People are ruthless and don’t let anyone conquer you
As a Muslim woman in her mid 20s who’s never had sex before, I appreciate this video a lot. Never lose hope in the lord🤍 his light is bright enough to deplete all darkness.
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Amen sister 💕
stay clean sister
There is no stress! You cant feel the sex unless your in a stable relationship that will end up in marrige! There is a reason why studies show in the modern hookup culture 80% women dont orgasm. Thats because their unsure about the person and where the relationship is going.
Me too : muslim woman of 38 years old and never slept with any man. When your train your brain it becomes a habbit
The timing of this is crazy.. last night I fell off my celibacy journey of 8 years and I woke up to this video. God is so loving that he positioned you to post this video in particular at this very time
You are loved and cherished by the Most High God! He knew you would need that spiritual motivation and provided it for you. I pray you renew your celibacy journey and grow stronger in your relationship with Christ ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@tjb6993 thank you!!
stay focused and intensify your prayer (with fasting) esp these next few months as your mind is vulnerable at this point and the devil will like to take advantage here after staying on track for so long. you've got this :)
Did God condemn you? I bet he didn't.
Sit down and have a talk with the Lord. Talk about the things you enjoyed, what you need and how you want him to step in.
Don't cloud your sanity with guilt cos you don't need that.
God knows you'd rather be married than doing it randomly.
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Not having sex has saved me from so much heartbreak because a couple of the guys later on I found out they were having sex with other women so it really saved me from heartbreak. I didn't form a soul tie and it was so much easier to walk away thank you Jesus 🙌🏿🙏🏽👍🏾
2 years celibate here and I can’t honestly say I would rather stay celibate for the rest of my life instead of giving my whole self to someone who’s not worthy of me or the wait. Stay strong brothers and sisters.
going on seven years for me. You also stay strong fam, do not let anyone change you
@sports guru thank you fam 💚
@@carollann26 You bet, It's not to many people I know who are on this type of journey. So it's good to encourage one another.
Definetly concur🤞🏾🤞🏾
Do you mean can?
My husband and I were Virgins, we waited till marriage to have sex and we were together for 5 years before we married. SISSSSSS it was HARDDDDDD .. it was so hard for me, it reached a point for me that I just thought we are going to marry anyways so why not but my Husband is very disciplined so it never happened. THANK GOD for that cause I prayed for someone that was stronger in christ than me
My mind went straight into the gutter when I first read the part with how harddddd it was🤦🏾♀️
Wow!!!!!! Thats.. remarkable
@@Goldan1 😂
@@Goldan1 💀💀💀💀
Why didn’t you get married sooner?
Hey Breeny! In this hypersexual society I just wanted to let you know that honest women of God like you are appreciated ❤
Thank you so much 🙏🏾
Like finding a lil diamond at the floor of the ocean.
Yes it’s a rare! 💜💜💜
Indeed, you are soo brave.
@@beckysouthlondon He probably enjoys your company, but still wants his needs met in the meantime.
4 years of celibacy without sex now and I totally agree with what you said: we have to stay pure, not for a husband, but to honor God. That’s my motivation. Be blessed
I'll be 5 years celibate this summer.
Almost 29 and a virgin. The way I see relationships going in todays world, I’m so happy I’m waiting. I don’t feel the pressure to have sex and every time a guy backs away because I’m a virgin I’m grateful because I see the weakness in him. I’m not Christian, I was born into a Muslim family although I haven’t practiced religion in almost 20 years. Im a virgin because I don’t see a future with most men I meet and when I meet that man that wants a future with me and we marry then we will walk this path. I feel like no one should have access to my mind, body and soul like that until he is my equal, my partner! 🙏🏽
AMENNNN !!!! You spoke so many facts .
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Im 31..and holding on. It might not be a popular opinion but im staying put
Very well said!!!
@Miss R I love this! Women like you and the original commenter inspire me. Y’all are awesome 👏🏾 😎
You’re so brave Breeny, thank you for always being so open, it really helps us young Christian women. There’s no point in pretending trials and temptations don’t exist, none of us are perfect and we only get by with strength from God
This 🙏🏾🤍
“When you are worshipping another person by engaging in sexual intercourse, you’re being unfaithful to God.” Preach that word sis 🙌🏾
Amen sister…I’ve been abstinent for 2 years. I’m 32 years old. It’s freakin hard, but it’s harder to give yourself to boys that don’t love you.
Do u love yourself?
Amen! 👏🏾👏🏾
Father, I’m praying for every daughter reading this, supply grace and wisdom for the next steps you have ordained us to walk in , forgive us and restore unto us a contrite spirit that seeks you with all our might.
strengthen our faith in this journey for we have chosen not to trust in chariots nor in horse but in you Yahweh,
Above all we ask for your providence that continuously guides us
In Jesus name
Amen
Amen 🙏🏽
Amen
Not a Christian but I couldn’t agree with you more, soul ties are a very real thing and I love how passionate you are about your beliefs!
After 6 years of having sex I finally see that
I am not a Christian, but I am on a journey of not having any sexual relationships until I meet someone who I am very serious with and plan to be with for a long time, maybe for marriage. I don’t need to wait for marriage personally, but I absolutely feel as though our society has put too much emphasis on casual hooking up as if it doesn’t have any consequences.
Same here. 5.5 years now
I love and respect this comment. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Great comment. I don't understand how the greatest act of creation ( bringng a new life into this world), has been reduced to lust. I would also be remiss if I didnt encourage you to not have sex before marriage. Men don't act like us and giving over your body usually slows a man down from moving forward. I know you aren't Christian but that's also my unsolicited advice as a woman who cares about women. Good luck to you!
Me neither, I don't know what I am, I like gardening and making things. I found Breenys "You don't need to be a ho" video really helpful. Marriage isn't something I want, it's not the most important thing to me. Someone that has my best interests at heart I suppose.
I completely agree!!!
I was celibate for a year and 10 months and I relapsed with my baby daddy after I had him come over my house to help me with something.. I felt really guilty and dirty after the act. And when I went online to look for scriptures on forgiveness the first thing that popped up was proverbs 24:16 For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief. This scripture confirm to me that it’s okay to make mistakes when you’re trying to do better.
You were too vulnerable and negligent, I wouldn’t allow that bs in my life.
I haven't let any man into my home who isn't a professional. My best friend wanted to come and stay and bring her boyfriend. I had to tell her no. I've never met him and I don't want to be bumping into him in the middle of the night in my nightgown. My home is my safe place so I don't want to let any man in really. I'm Christian but I don't define myself as celibate. I have a diagnosed personality disorder which makes things even worse. It is the lack of intimacy in my life that makes me fall off being celibate.
@@us7wqtrnek7uu I pray the Lord keeps me from Baby Daddy's. Let me go to the sperm bank instead or be an adoptive or foster mother.
Ik🤣
I feel so sorry for you that you felt dirty and guilty simply because you had some sex. This is a sick mindset indeed. You need to get therapy ASAP sis... And in case you're wondering, I'm also celibate lol
From a Christian sister to another: please keep Christian content coming 🙏 it helps so much to edify our Spirit according to the Word!
Last year I fell off so hard but I’m reclaiming my celibacy journey and time 💕 I’m 2 months strong of no sex etc!! 🙌🏾❤️
It gets easier over time and I'm so glad I don't have to disappoint myself. The gratification of sex is no longer stronger than my self esteem.
Do u mind sharing the details
right thing to do it will set you back from your blessings
Same sis 🥲❤️
3 months and going ❤️👏
The fact that you made it through 11 years with the Lord's strength is Amazing! Don't worry Breeny, God loves you so much! We all stumble sometimes! Jesus loves you!
I think us ladies need to be honest with ourselves when it comes to sex. Sex is a powerful thing, chemicals are released, and we feel closer to people after the fact. It can create physical bonds with people we have false emotional and spiritual bonds with. Soul ties are so real and can take a while to get over. Knowing Breeny was having sex with her ex this whole times makes sense. She overlooked all the red flags because of the intimacy, that happens a lot.
It happens to us women and girls who are fatherless. My father was/is an abusive alcoholic who never married my mother. Basically, I know now that these adverse childhood experiences set me up for a lot of pain in my adult life.
@Kay A keep that man. My husband pretended to be good but ended up putting his hands around my neck. I'm not an angel but I try to work on my sins and unhelpful, u healthy behaviour. I'm also diagnosed with a mental illness so it is incredibly challenging. My husband never took responsibility for his actions, he wouldn't take his own therapy, our priests, my psychologist or our couples counsellors seriously. He kept blaming me until it became quite clear to me that he was out of control. First and last time he physically harmed me. I left within the week while he was on police bail. The neighbours called the cops.
Very true sadly 😫🥴
@@marleyhill34 I have a father a good one it still happen to me don't feel bad
@@godsgirl7201 I think that we are programmed not to see deficiencies in our parents. My mother would often say that I was lucky to have a father because she didn't have one. But it's not a case of any father "who sticks around" is a good father. From the outside maybe my father looked like a good father because he stayed with my mother, didn't cheat, didn't put his hands on my mother and always provided financially. But unfortunately, he was very lacking in developing my emotional intelligence, my adversity intelligence and my social intelligence which leaves me and many people at a disadvantage.
I wept as you spoke sis!! Thank you. Been getting weary on this virgin/ celibacy journey as i get older (about to turn 40) and sometimes I feel resentful about all those who dropped off and now have their husbands. Started to feel embarrassed about it even. So recently I found myself dating some dusties and playing with fire and pushing the limits. But you’ve reminded me. Like Mary. I chose the better thing. And even if my choice to honour God means lifelong celibacy. I will honour Him with all of me and continue this journey cheerfully and thankful that He has kept me this long!!
Because it is only Him who did it. You are so blessed sis and i’m praying for you as you recommit to this journey! Also praying the next guy who finds you puts your virtue ahead of his desires!😘
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It is easier to become a nun and be celibate than it is to be in the world and be celibate. The loneliness and the lack of intimacy and companionship is what gets a lot of us in the end. I find that if I fill my time up then I don't think about what I'm missing. That way when I get home and get into bed, I'm just grateful to go to sleep instead of thinking about things sexually. In some ways, it's easier for me. I was married before to someone who was a weaker Christian than me. I think he was just going through the motions just for me and not really developing a relationship with God. We didn't have sex a year before our marriage but I think we both still masturbated so not exactly pure in spirit. I'm now a lot older and wiser. Thankfully my libido is waning and I don't invite attention from men. so I live alone in my own little bubble. I still masturbate but it's becoming less and less as I enter peri-menopause.
I pray in Jesus name that if God wills, he will send you a spouse after God's own heart that will love you like Christ loves the church. Amen :) Peace be with you sister!
Have you tried travelling ? Sometimes we need to make opportunities for ourselves. Pray to God and ask him to guide you to the right places to go and network - you never know your future spouse might be in another country 😊
stay on the path God chose for you. God bless you
As a Christian woman I have been celibate for 3 going on 4 years. So far so good, meaning, I am not struggling to stay celibate at the moment. My problem is food; I am a chronic over eater and I am really struggling with the spirit of gluttony right now. All of these are lusts and I am determined to complete at least a 3 day fast. May The Lord will it...
"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me 💕💕"
Praying for you ❤️
@@jenthegem_ Thank you very much. God Bless you.💕
The lord knows what is going on, you are replacing food with lack of sex. Pray, draw closer to the lord seek him and the Holy Spirit will overpower you to help you.
You got this
Friendly Neighborhood Muslim here: I noticed you kept calling yourself a "Weak Christian". This seems like remnants of your shame pushing through. You were not a "weak Christian" you were a child. Give yourself some grace. At 18 I wasn't even sure that there was a God. Then I lived some and vowed to never make the same mistakes again. Not only have your learned your lesson, but you are now teaching others. Following God is a journey in every religion and that is why he is the most patient. He knows that you are human and that you must grow over time. You will have a lightbulb moment that reminds you why you chose celibacy and believe me it will be on Gods time. Keep doing what you're doing Breeny baby. There is nothing "Weak" about you. :)
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My question is. Are you really celibate or have you never been tested? A lot of people say they are celibate because they do not have a boy/girlfriend/a love interest, as soon as they get a love interest, they "fall". You didn't fall, you were not really in it in the first place. This is not to Breeny by the way, just anyone who wants to pursue celibacy.
You never know what you truly are until you are tested in that regard - its like saying "money can't buy me" but someone asking you to do something for a few millions, thats when you'll know whether money truly can't buy you lol.
Exactly, you better preach !!! So many women in these comments fail at celibacy multiple times and then have the audacity to claim that it doesn’t work no ma’am you couldn’t control the situation.
You speak the truth...
I like this take because it’s making me question myself thank you.
@@Oristarz I'm really glad to hear that! xx
This is it 💯💯💯
I've had a UA-cam account since 2012 and this is my first time ever commenting. I am so thankful for people like you, this video is everything.
I think it’s also about disciplining your mind. That starts when you are single. If you’re single and fantasizing about sex though you’re celibate, you will play out those fantasies in a relationship. Eyegates, eargates matter too!
Yeeesss!
What steps and boundaries do you live by in order to abstain from sex?
@@LC-ru1xl Boundaries definitely around being alone with men in my place or his. I would
Set a personal curfew. And knowing your body helps. Hormones make some times of the month more difficult. So if you have to be extra careful with your boo around that time, communicate it. And just staying in prayer... bc it’s mostly mental, even if you’re single. Literally asking God for strength when your mind starts to wander. AND have ppl around with the same values that you can be vulnerable with. There are so many women who will try to talk you out of it, so make sure the girls you go to will uplift you and encourage you.
This helps thankyou so much;
Wow wow wow this was so deep.
“Repenting is changing direction not just getting up and doing the same thing”
God bless you for this Breeny!
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This is so accurate. Ads, music, etc are bombarded with suggestions and you don't even realize it. I stopped using social media 7 months ago. I've been celibate unintentionally for 4 months. Coincidentally, this is the happiest I've (genuinely) been in awhile.
This came at the right time for me. I feel like this is a cautionary message from God. I’m going on a first date after 8 yrs tomorrow. Been celibate for that long as well. Unlike many, I have avoided dating anyone in order to remove all temptations. However, my decision to step out is not solely to find someone to hopefully marry but to make an effort to start meeting people. The message I received from this video was, “while you’re out there, remember who’s child you are”. I usually do not allow myself to be in a confined space, one on one with a man and I have to remember that tomorrow. Thanks and Good bless!!!
Came across your comment a whole week later and just writing this to remind you "don't forget whose child you are✝️💕".
God bless you and don't forget to pray to ask if this new person is His will for you.
How/ when do you the guy that you're dating?
Girl It’s hard.. I am a virgin and it’s because of God I have been able to go this far…people call me crazy, i loss many boyfriends but I will continue until marriage
I can relate even though I’ve never had a boyfriend for this reason and I’m 27. It’s hard finding a man willing to wait
Same but never had a BF. I'm 25. LOL
@@babyc.3015 love trust me that’s not a bad thing… saves u a lot of hurt
@@blackbutterfye yes it is but just trust God and He will make a way
@@babyc.3015 Never had a boyfriend and I just turned 23.
I was celibate before I got married. He proposed after 6 months of dating and we were married 7 months later. It was hard but we did not fall and that was because of me. Because he did try. I had made that decision and I wasn’t going to break it. We did not partake in any sexual activity at all, nothing, the only thing we did was a peck on the lips. I also made sure not to hang out with him late at night or stay at each other’s apartment. I made sure to not put myself in situations that would cause temptation.
I kind of figured you were no longer celibate especially when it’s years in but it’s okay. We’re human and 11 years is a long time to be celibate.
Sis, same here there's this guy who's interested in me , I kinda like him too. He really been trying, trying. I have made the decision not to go engage in anything sexually related before marriage. This year I had to let him the facts that bro there got to be boundaries. If I realise he can't deal with it, I know what to do.
@@ReenelT Yes, you have to set boundaries if your goal is no sex before marriage. I made sure that we only hung out with each other during the day and no other forms of sexual activities because that will just set you up for failure even if it’s not “sex” it’s still tempting. I was only tried once and when he saw that I was serious he never tried me again. Men usually test us but if he’s persistent and not respecting your boundaries then that could be a red flag.
@@kaywisseh Thank you so much sis. I know that this guy must go.
@@ReenelT sweetie don't put yourself into the lion's den. If he hasn't proposed or asked to speak to your father/uncles to marry you, get out. We can be tempted and fall. You have done a great job so far. Don't be with a man that makes you stay on defense. It's a dangerous and slippery slope for someone who isn't stepping up to show you how a God fearing man acts. God bless you 🙏🏽💕💕
Thank you so much for sharing. We all need to see more real life examples of this working out because it DOES! God bless your marriage 🙏🏽💕💕
Thank you for this Breeny💓 I’m 17 and never had s*x but chileee I’ve done other things I regret. And I used to think that, well as long as I don’t have s*x then I’m good with God. Nope!! Because I fall at other s*xual things. It’s not even always physically, but also mentally!! I’ve read and absorb so manyy things. It’s hard, but that’s why I can’t rely on my strength. Relying on my own strength has got me nowhere and I fall so often. It’s a daily battle but we got this🥰
I relate
This is exactly why you’re my big sis Breeny , because this as real as it gets ! I’m a 21 year old virgin girl and I’ve never had a bf but that doesn’t mean everything is right. Recently I’ve been battling a porn addiction and I understand the shame it feels when you repent to God and than go on and keep doing it the following days. It brought so much shame that I stopped talking to God all together😞I ask myself am I actually repenting ? Or am i just repenting because it makes ME feel better not that I’m actually doing it for my God? These are questions that I am seriously asking myself and this year for me it’s all about taking this issue heads on and not shying away from God (because that’s what the enemy wants!) and instead having the will power to actually overcome this.
It took me years to stop watching porn and it has just got to a point that porn did not excite me and it felt quite disgusting to watch. It takes time though.
I used to watch porn years ago. Once I went to the Lord about it, HE completely delivered me. 100%. Be honest with the Lord. He will deliver you.
It's not about will power. Apart from Christ we can do nothing. That's in the gospel of John. We overcome as we ABIDE in Him. Also, spend more time in the word. Also stay in fellowship regularly with other strong believers.
Ive been dome with porn for a few months...I can say it's okay, BUT is is NOT OKAY...Meaning...you will eventually get rid of the urge! Now I get attacked in my dreams w. It..smh.. cuz the enemy is mad that I'm not doing that anymore!! So he's weak & want to attack In dreams/Spiritual realm.
I was virgin at 21 but then lost my virginity to an older man who I thought was mature but in the end He was just an evil man who was lying and wanted to use me, and then just abuse me and leave. I wish I could go back to 21 but now I just can't
Fellow Christian here. This is a wonderful topic. I'm 41 so I feel like your big sis/auntie. I've been watching you because you are Christian and have lots of positive messages. You are still 100% still saved. To be saved is not to be perfect but to strive to he perfect through Christ and Holy spirit who strengthen us. In the Bible, David is the apple of God's eye yet took his friend/soldiers wife and sent him to his death (Bathsheba). He did pay for it with the death of their first child but God never left him. Being a Christian won't let you have peace with sin. You will feel COMPELLED to repent because it just doesn't feel right.
I would say moving forward to prevent this is keep your boundaries high, don't put yourself in compromising situations. Dating is for gathering information, gather quickly ask these questions and more:
-Is this person Christian and what does his walk look like? (WHAT are his actual actions...not what he says)
-Did you meet his parents within a month or so? (A husband isn't going to waste time, the most important people in his life will know you)
- Does he see you as his wife? (He will literally talk about a timeline for marriage and kids, home, etc.
-What is his relationship with money? Is everything on credit? Does he own a vehicle, home, investments, etc.
-Does he take on provider responsibilities towards you without prompting? Does he ask about your bils and then provide money? Does he pay for dates? Does he ask about helping out your mother or family members?
-Does he have drug, alcohol or other vices?
-Does he deal with you in a gentle way or is there manipulation, physical, emotional abuse?
Dating doesn't need to drag on and prolong your lust. A man knows if you are his wife very quickly. If you keep your legs closed then you can maintain impartiality and SEE his true intentions. Men always show their hand, don't be filled with lust and miss the glaring red flags. I was married and in a relationship for 21yrs. My ex knew he wanted to marry me within the first few minutes of meeting. Now I definitely failed at seeing red flags with him. But he is a great father and was serious about marrying me..staying married is whole different matter. But those tips I left should get you a great foundation and they are Biblical in principle. Keep reading the Bible. Good luck and keep walking in faith. 🙏🏽💕💕💕💕
Thanks so much ma’am🙂
@@precioustormale2895 I hope something in there will help you on your journey. God bless you 🙏🏽💕
I appreciate this post, thank you.
❤❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💪🏾💪🏾😘
Thank you, Auntie! The advice I really needed to hear. ❤️🥺
I don’t follow celibacy. Will i still listen to Breeny’s full video? Absolutely🥰
Sis you’re PREACHINGG! Love to see you maturing spiritually 🔥🤩
Thank you for sharing! This message was so needed. I've dealt with falling into fornication most of my life. I had been trying to stop on my own forever, but I just couldn't. I was in a relationship for almost 3 years and ended it last September. I had to walk away for a number of reasons. One of the reasons was because I did not want to fornicate anymore and he was too willing to continue. I can't judge him, but I just knew it wasn't something I could keep doing. It was hindering my relationship with God and my goals is always to get closer to him. I pray for my ex everyday because I know the spirit of lust can have a great stronghold on us. I knew it was time for me to walk away from the relationship when we woke up one day after being intimate and I started praying repenting and asking God to forgive us for sinning. When I said this, my boyfriend says, "Oh, it's okay. I asked God about it and He said it was okay." I responded with "God said what was okay...US COMMITTING SIN??!!" WHHHHAAATTTTT??!!! 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ THAT WAS MY QUE TO GET OUT!!! I immediately ended it and I have not been sexually active since then. I feel so much better. There was so much shame, confusion and feelings of lust that has been lifted off me. God doesn't condemn us for our sin, but he does convict us. I was tired of being convicted about the same thing over and over again. I had been praying for so long for God to give me the strength to stop but I couldn't do it on my own. I don't blame my ex, but he was definitely NOT helping. I will continue pray for him and myself everyday because the enemy is busy but GOD IS SO GOOD!! It hasn't been very long for me, but it's been a long time for me (4 mo.) today and I'm grateful and so proud of myself. I know that I couldn't do it without God guiding me, protecting me, and giving me his strength during this time. Thank you again for being so transparent. I believe the devil hates transparent Christian's because that's when chains fall off. May God's grace, mercy and favor continue to follow you on your journey. GOD'S GOT US!!! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Best of luck in your journey ❤️ my ex tried something similar talking bout sex won’t hurt nobody, the d-word is trying to break us up 🥴 the lord was not about to bless that union lol
@@bfree4830 I agree! Thank you, same to you and everyone on this journey. The devil is a liar!! God ain't gon bless no mess!! Either we are hot or cold, but the lukewarm stuff ain't gon cut it. HELP US LORD, WE NEED YOUR STRENGTH!! 🙏🏾
Still on the celibacy journey.. It's been almost seven years.. 🤗😊
Me too.Are you Muslim?
@@tabitaeguangs I'm Christian hun.. 🤗😘
@@isatubundu1074 so proud for you 😍😍😍 God bless you !
@@doratf4804 thanks hun.. Bless you too.. 🤗😘❤
Well done keep going 👏🏾
I've never had sex but I struggle with impurity when it comes to porn and masturbation. They're vices I have a very hard time stopping. Sins of the flesh tend to be very pleasurable which is one of the reasons why it's been hard for me to stop even though I'm always ashamed afterwards. Thank you for your honesty and prayers 💖.
@Mj Tbh masturbation it is not mentioned anywhere in the Bible. But thanks for being honest lol. It is real hard. Avoiding sex tho weeds out the men with bad intentions
@@babyc.3015 masturbation is abusing yourself,metioned in the section of abusers of humanity i believe and tails with the spirit of homosexuality, being attracted to yourself and body parts are seen as that spiritually. you guys check out robert clancy and his prayer video on masturbation and lust on youtube
@@aoyamiuriko5059. Thanks, I will. Yall Pray for me LOL
@Mj Hi! Masturbation and pornography are definitely sinful and if you are engaged in these things you are not truly celibate/abstinent. Jesus said in Matthew 5:30 that if your right hand causes you to sin then you should cut it off because it would be better to lose one body part than for your whole body to be cast into hell. Many people view that scripture as being about masturbation. He also said that if you even look at someone and think lustful thoughts you have already committed adultery in your heart. So what kind of thoughts are you thinking while both masturbating and watching people have sex for pleasure?
I say this not to condemn you because this used to be a HUGE problem of mine for years as well. However, after I got saved and gave my life to Jesus and my relationship with God grew, I began to feel more convicted about it and started to cry out to the Lord for forgiveness and deliverance (after many attempts at trying to stop by my own willpower).
Since then, God has FULLY delivered me of all sexual immorality including masturbation and pornography! It’s has been over a year and I have very little desire to do any of those things, it’s miraculous. I encourage you to really search your heart and call out to God in repentance as well as for deliverance because if you come to him with a contrite heart he is able to fully deliver you! God bless.
I’m a 27 year old virgin, and God broke me free from the chains of masturbation and porn last year. You got this sis, praying for you 💗
This is why i started watching you 2 years ago. You always seem to talk about the things i've gone through and struggle with, and this has helped me so much already! I love your wisdom, God is clearly blessing you and I will continue to pray for you to be strong and for you to resist temptation 🤍 thank you for your content Breeny! I love you 🤍 God bless!!
Really love your transparency every single time! Blessed to have you spread the word like that.
I’m approaching my late twenties and I’m still a virgin. Mostly due to my faith, but also due to the fact that I haven’t met the man I want to marry. I‘ve had so many guys who wanted to sleep with me, but I knew deep down that they don’t really love me for me, they just wanted my body. I feel proud that I haven’t let a man trick me into bed, but in the same way, I feel like time is passing me by and I’m missing out. I don’t want to be so tied to this virgin identity into my thirties. I almost want to just get it over with and be free.
Same here just the fact that I haven't seen anyone worthy enough
I wholeheartedly relate to this comment. I’m in my late 20s as well and still a virgin. I would like have my own family someday but i know that is something I can’t rush. I also find it extremely frustrating that women are to wait until marriage but it’s rare or impossible even to find a guy that is waiting until marriage as well. I have yet to find a man that truly loves and is crazy about me fr either. A lot of men want to smash by the second date is wild to me tbh.
If u have sex with just anyone it can mentally destroy you! Wait for marriage, God’s timing🙏🏾.
Yes turning 30 this year and still a virgin. Ugh my body is craving sex so bad and it’s only by the grace of god that I’m not consumed. This year I made an agreement to stop masturbating to please fix. So hard because I loved feeling sexual and sensual and womanly when I did it. But god told me to stop. I pray my husband comes in the next 2-3 years because I’m ready to be free from this identity and have sex with someone I love. It’s so hard to go against your body’s natural cravings, especially when you been doing it for almost 30 years!!!
This is so me right now and so hard…I’m tired of waiting but I can’t do it also…I made a vow to God and can’t break it
I am muslim myself and I ABSOLUTELY LOVE your content. There are so many similarities in our religion, and i feel like youre one of the only youtubers on love-relationship-and-innergrowth that talks about the god aspect of it wich i find so so so important. I can find myself in so many things you say and speak about. Thank you breeny for being you, unapoligatically. And thank you for talking and being so vuleranable about this topic that i feel no one talks about out of shame, you have no idea how many people you are helping with regarding this, including me. Helping them grow, accept their mistakes, forgive themselves, turn to god. Youre like a big sister to me, thank you so much ❤️
🙏🏾 Amen
Breeny, you have influenced my life a lot! I started following you from one of your pep talks. I'm not christian at all, but now I have been celibate for 1.5 years and it changed my life. My dating life has changed a lot thanks to you. It's hard, but I will not have sex until I meet the right person and I will take my time. Thru this 1.5 years I was focused on myself and my spirit and I feel like different person. Sex has got lot of influence over our lives and I'm glad I broke the Soul ties and didn't create new ones. Thanks to u! And thanks for the video and your honesty!
Fasting helps a lot, praying without ceasing, social distance, I will say " don't get too close physically ". I remember the movie "patriot" Ann and Gabriel had good idea preventing fornication...and then married.
I’m 31 I went celibate in 2016, fell off in 2017. I cried so much, felt so bad (on contrary to Breeny my intercourse wasn’t pleasant which I think helped me go back to God) but God told me "get right back up" Still waiting till marriage till this day so everyone CAN start again!
Your salvation & celibacy are the same date can be tricky but also powerful! You're courageaous to tell it publicly you go Breeny Lee!
I know exactly what you’re talking about. I had preserved my v card til I was 28 when I gave it to this guy in September 2020, whom I thought was the one lmao. The intercourse was sooo bad, it was enough to convince me that there’s really nothing special about segggs. I’ll be turning 30 this year (2022) and I can proudly say I have made a decision to wait for marriage.
@@casuallythandeka45 segggs lol 😁it defo helps when the intercourse is bad 😌I'm happy for you that you got back up ❣️
I've been celibate for 10 years now and thought I was a weirdo for not wanting to have casual sex for this long.
You’re not a weirdo, everyone else is just brainwashed. Most people I know who have casual sex are deep down unhappy and wish they could bond with someone on a deeper level
No!! I prayed to stop having certain problems while dating men... God told me immediately "stop having sex" things changed
Brought nothing but drama, self-hate, unwanted enemies, etc. I didn't't want any of those things because I knew thats not who I am
The thought of casual sex is so disturbing and belittling to what we truly deserve.
@ exactly like if you don’t have the audacity to give me a healthy marriage leave me ALONE ! I’m not gonna be used for a pleasurable moment . Ridiculous
@@Sandrinarhonda 🙌🏾
Facts!!!💯💯💯
Thank you for you truth Breeny, your a real one! Keeping you in prayer🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
The journey is not easy but it's worth it🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
OMGGG!!! I’m so in love with this message. Only God could’ve sent you at this precise moment. Thank you soo much !! 🙏🏿🙏🏿 I actually feel like there’s a light coming up real soon.
I am a Christian and on a celibacy journey as well and understand that the struggle is real! Thanks for sharing.
I’m a Christian as well🤦🏾♀️ I feel like churches don’t emphasize about fornications as much, us young women need prayers in this society
@@ashd5326 The word of God does to anyone who reads it. Be encouraged and let the word of God be your guide.
Yess
I just begun. And this is maybe the only time since my divorce 6 years ago that I feel serious about it. The conviction is
was way too strong to the point I just couldn’t continue on sinning against God that way. It became so painful even an orgasm couldn’t mask the shame. But I have to say I am so so glad I got this far. I have way more work to do than this but I am glad I’ve gone this far
@@ashd5326 they don’t bcz they don’t want to lose followers and they know how mainstream fornication has become
I love the honesty!! I’m working on my celibacy currently 😊😊
I’m Muslim and Breeny, thank you so so much. I’m literally crying, these reminders were so important to hear. I really, really appreciate you making these video. May God bless you!
sister!!! I praise Jah for this content, keep your lamp burning let everyone see it, keep this Christ centered content coming, us a young generation need voices like yours. Multiply this talent the Lord has given to you, Glory to God!
Breeny, I jus want to say that I am so grateful for this video. As a 21 year old, being a virgin has not always been easy. And even though I have participated in one sexual act, it’s good to know that God has enough grace for me. And that we should use that conviction from the Holy Spirit to draw us closer to God and not away from Him. So many guys have decided they didn’t want anything to do with me because of my refusal to engage in sex or sexual activities. It’s been hard, but like you said they are actually doing me a favor. Please pray for me on my journey of abstinence as I try to honor God with my purity.
You already failed at abstinence so I’m very confused at this many guys have tried when you already did the sexual act ! I’m 20 and I have never been PRESSURED to engage in any sexual act because the Lord knows Satan and his BS won’t contradict and take me away from my abstinence journey.
@@Sandrinarhonda I think you are confused sis. You can engage in other sexual activities without loosing your virginity. And that’s happened with me. But because I made a commitment to God to not loose my virginity until I’m married, many guys have stopped talking to me as a result. I hope that makes sense.
@@Sandrinarhonda lol that you have not been pressured by guys or that guys have never tried to pressure you into sexual acts is YOUR experience. That doesn't make you a better or more faithful Christian just means you had more luck than other young girls
@@samanthaetchie9212 may the Holy Spirit continue to uphold you in your journey as a virgin. Be your strength at all times in Jesus name✝️💕
@@pelindalivesonmychannel4191 thank you! :)
I went through this aswell!! Attached my celibacy and relationship with Jesus, so after many many years of faithfulness I fell into temptation, my faith hit rock bottom. And thats where I found the next level of God's love and mercy!! And some religious and hurtful people in church. But God is soo good, ALL THE TIME!! Nonetheless that feeling of having broken my own biggest relationship rule, the way I let myself down, has kept me going strong 🙏
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Breeny, 11 years is sooo long I’m proud of you ❤️ God’s will must prevail🙏🏾 thank you for your honesty
That was a remarkable video. Thank you so much Breeny for sharing your thoughts with us. Your honesty and bravery melts our hearts. I'm getting through the same journey, Ι also fell off celibacy and that made me so weak, you can't imagine! I was feeling empty deep inside and couldn't pray to Lord because of guilt. I was blaming Jesus that he didn't protect me from those temptations but that way of thinking is so wrong. In the end, we choose the path of our life. We pray for you!
Love,
Maria from Greece
As a celebate muslim women this is very close to me as well, I love hearing ur thoughts about it! Thank you breeny for sharing ur journey and experiences💕 May Allah/God bless you 🤲🏽
Soooooo refreshing to see a young person talking about sexual morality 🤔🤔❤️🇯🇲🌺🙏🏽
This video was the push I needed to mature my relationship with God in 2022. I’m 19, just got out of my first relationship and chileee!! I’ve learned a lot about myself and I’m thinking about celibacy. Sex never really was my love language so I’m hoping it’ll be a bit easier for me😭 Thank you for this video!! Wish me luck sis💓
This was so enjoyable to watch. I love your honesty and the humor. Thank you for telling your story!💕
Girl give yourself credit sis. I was celibate for three years and feel off and it's okay. You are human at the end of the day. I'm just taking it one day at a time .
23 years on this journey what advice wld u give me..I used to say that if I ever fall I wld never forgive myself..I even use to want to cut all.males off cause someone tld me 90 percent of men want sex
Seriously appreciate your transparency. Thank you so much for sharing!! It really helps💛💛
Thank you for sharing God's word, Breeny! This is my favorite video by far!🧡
I can't even put into words how much I needed to hear this right now. Thank you for this video!❤️
Brenny is the big sister we all need❤️ thanks for being so open girl!!!!
This video made POINTS! So happy to see someone actually talking about this from a biblical perspective ❤️❤️
Come throughhhhh Breeny! Preach the heck out of this message. Loved this so much, truth upon truth! Your transparency is a whole testimony and it's helping so much! ❤️
So happy to hear this message from you, Breeny! Your honesty is empowering and healing. God's grace is definitely evident in your life.
Girl I feel you! I’ve been abstinent for almost 2 years and there’s no doubt that it’s hard. I give you so much credit for abstaining for 11 years! Every video I feel I relate to you more and more. Much love to you!
You’re an amazing soul, and I bless the day I found your channel.. you inspire in so many ways.. thank you
Thank you for sharing sis 🙏🏾❤️ it’s not easy, I stand by you, will be praying for you and God leaves the 99 for the 1. He will never give up on you and loves you sooo much 💕💕
So good! The LORD ALMIGHTY is your strength Breeny!🙏🏼♥️
Girl your transparency is soooooo appreciated !! I like using the term abstinence instead of celibacy. Celibacy I feel is so permanent but abstinence just states that I’m abstaining as of now until whatever reason. Thanks for sharing
Yesss celibacy is for priests, nuns, monks who refrain from sex for life. We have to be careful what we speak over ourselves
Yes the correct term is abstinence not celibacy
I agree, I think celibacy is the incorrect way to phrase it when your just choosing to abstaining for the time being. I also think saying celibacy rather then abstinence can put a lot of pressure on yourself and add fear
Exactly to me abstinence is for freedom of drama, STDs, unwanted pregnancies, and better self worth. Celibacy on the other hand is heavily for religious reasons
Breeny,
Thank you for this! I'm only a year and a few months in and I feel so much better about it BUT there are moments where I think, "What happens when I find someone I really connect with." I love how open, raw and honest you are. You're much more than an influencer--you're family! We love you and thank you.
First off, your makeup looks so FLAWLESS! Love the vulnerability and the realness in this video!! Thanks for your awesome content
Hey girl I love your videos and I appreciate your vulnerability. As a newly celibate woman it is helpful to see that even with as many years as you have under your belt that sin can still tempt you as we are all fallen people. I’m praying for you to find faith and restoration in your path forward no matter which way you choose. 💗
Thank you for being transparent Breeny. Sexual sin is by far the hardest for me to overcome since its so acceptable in society.
“You cannot do celibacy in the flesh”
That’s the truth!
Can you explain pls what does that mean
@@misszn9191 having God's spirit holds you up.
Giiiirl, we need more videos like this!! This journey is not easy trust me. This is why it says that the narrow road leads to Christ. It’s not just a physical thing, it’s spiritual. When you sin, it removes your hedge of protection and allows the enemy to attack you.
Oh my word Breeny!!!! For a while I thought I was in church, this video gave me church vibes! And even better!! I felt like I was in church but a church that doesn’t shy away from things like these. I’m so glad I came across you in this platform. I have a lot to say but I’m honestly out of words… GOD BLESS YOU & I’ll definitely pray for you Sis🍃💞💪🏽.
Praise God for this video, clarity and confirmation. I ended a relationship with my ex a month ago. I can relate to everything you expressed Breene. I'm seeing clearly how my own lust has played into my broken celebacy aswell. My ex had porn issues that made him weak. We will be healed accountable for ourselves to God.
Thank you for posting
That prayer at the end was so powerful. Thank you for posting this. I’ve been celibate for 4 months too, but still struggle with my heart posture. It’s a journey and this was so well spoken and helpful. Love your Christian content
I subscribed today. In life we must surround ourselves with people who build us and not break us and I definitely feel like your channel builds me. Thank you for your prayer and for your inspirational words.
this was uploaded at the perfect time, as I have made the decision to become celibate. I had lost myself for several months. I’ve always been a believer, raised in a Christian household, and I recently started talking to God more. I somehow had this awakening like I’m seeing life through a different lens. I’m so grateful because even after everything He has never abandoned me. I’m dedicated to building a closer relationship with Him, and I’m so excited for this journey. God bless 🙏🏽
Thank you for being honest and vulnerable! This is so appreciated
This video was so loving, caring, educational, and spiritual! I appreciate your honesty and prayer 🙏🏿💕
Thank you so much for sharing Breeny, this word pierced my heart and the prayer at the end just sealed it for me❤🫂, Oh Lord I start again on my journey 🥺🙌
You made me cry at the end with the prayer. I can't thank you enough Breeny. Keep shining! With loooveeee, tons of love!
Breeny,
First, may God bless you 10 fold for your obedience and making yourself vulnerable to help others.
I needed this like NOW! I’ve been celibate for 5 years and I started to revert back to lustful thought. I knew that even these thoughts were me playing with fire because if put in the wrong situation, I may be too weak to stand. Thanks for this reminder and conviction to cry out to God for help, to not feed into the temptation, so I may stand and not fall.
I just wanna hug you right now!!!!
This video was exactly what I needed. Thank you Breeny❤️.
Many great points raised and it was the realest and honesty for me. We need more spaces and discussIons like these as young, single, Christian women. I am all of the girls you spoke about, especially the point on watching other people who were not celibate find husbands and wanting to give up.
I also find that I link my celibacy to righteousness which I’m on the journey of unlearning.
Thank you for your honesty and truthfulness around this subject Breeny! The struggle is real. May God bless you!
Thank you so much for that beautiful prayer Breeny! 🙏🏼🥰 praying for you, too!
Side note: your hair looks amazing!
In 2017 your celibacy and soul tie videos really helped me on my journey and even though I fell off the wagon in 2019, through the Grace of God I was able to repent and be celibate again… and I just celebrated 2 years of being celibate. So I thank God that He’s still using you to encourage his daughters (and sons) on the importance of celibacy, may He continue to bless you Sis! ❤️ And to anyone who has fallen off the wagon, it’s not the end of the world, like the prodigal son, the Lord awaits with open arms for you to come back, and He will strengthen you on this journey! God bless you all. With love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤️
You go girl! You got this! The lord is your strength!
Thank you for making this video ❤️ it’s rare to find such candid conversation regarding sex, celibacy, (problematic) purity culture and the lack of transparency that exists in some Christian spaces. I’m a 28 yo virgin who was on the brink (when I say on the brink I mean the briiiiiiiiiiink 🥴) of throwing in the towel. It was all getting a bit much, and my thirst was growing, and a bih was just tired 😓.
Then this video appeared.
It popped up on my suggested videos and I am so so grateful. Thank you. I had lost sight of some of God’s Word, His authority, and His heart. I feel renewed anchoring in Him, which has fortified my decision to remain celibate and date with a marriage-minded lens.
Amen and amen to the prayer, and I pray God blesses you and continues to embolden you to create such raw content. I also pray that God gives you the capacity and resilience to turn away from temptation.
Thank you Sis ❤️