Paula Hurlock "Sex With The Wrong Person Can Cause Chaos In Your Life And Psyche" Pt.2
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In this clip Paula Hurlock speaks about spiritual and psychological dangers of having numerous sexual partners.
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May you please provide the pt. 1 of this? Thanks
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How do I cleanse
@@Carlos-od7jr there are so many ways fam. Truly it depends on your level if you don't eat shellfish and swine or things that carry a lot of parasites You can start by drinking alkaline water and going on a fruit fast
@@castrodomino5972 ill try a fruit cleanse, do you think grounding works aswell
I’ve always felt this to be true. People are so casual about sex and think you are not sexual if you are not. You can be a deeply sexual being and still choose not to sleep around.
Absolutely 💯....
That’s me
Exactly 🌸
Sexual energy is sacred and very powerful when engaged with the right person.
Exactly
As an empath, when your partner flirts, gives attention or has sex with others, you can feel all of it even though you do not have any evidence to accuse them, the energy is just all around them. It just drains you with endless anxiety, sadness and feelings of self loathing which over time lead to depression and low self-esteem, you always know....
ACCURATE
Definitely went through this
Yesssssssss❤ @Steve Ndungu
Facts!
Yup
That’s why I permanently got off the dating apps. Got tired of men trying to bully me into having sex without any build up, or connection. I love sex but I genuinely feel that sex is a gift from me. I love it. It’s one of my favorite ways to reveal myself. I don’t want to cheapen that experience. And the apps were so destructive to my spirit in so many ways. I feel better now
Real talk woman i is a man and I love sex also pleasuring a woman's body is heaven for me after i finish I feel happy and the woman feels happy also is like a stress reliever and a calories burner
Women on dating sites are just as nasty n bullies too...
Been attempting dating apps for over 15 years and still single due to the assumption that I'm from the porn site they were just visiting. I've rejected more men because of this..it's not like I haven't had opportunities. But I'm ok being alone now . Men asking me about sexual things before they even know my last name FFS.
@@shhh3185 not ALL MEN just the ones you're meeting...
Can I ask you, how did you manage to process the experiences you had? My friend had a similar experience of being bullied into sex by a man over one of these apps and it was quite traumatic. Trying to recover
I have been bullied for staying clean and not sleeping around. This is exactly why I do it. Why I am the happiest person. It works ladies!!! Don’t mix your energies 😍
I can definitely relate. If you're not a follower a lot of people will shame and judge u for it. Don't let these people shame or make u feel awkward for your choices. 😊
Good for you!!!!♥️♥️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I am a proud celibate for years! Best feeling ever. I am so happy and peaceful.
Happy to say I am experiencing this clean energy life now!
Same ❤
I knew this ever since I was a young girl. Not sure how I knew but I just did. I had a relationship with my boyfriend for years and he was sleeping around and I didn’t know but I could feel it every time he touch me . I felt an energy I couldn’t understand. I would be angry during sex for no reasons. everything I try to accomplish something around him he would just Ruin it , it’s like taking 3 steps backwards. As I got older and with Tremendous trauma my prayer life increased. I started noticing that when he’s not around I’m happy and flourishing . I am still praying for a full release in Jesus name.
And I hope you get it in Jesus name 🙏🏾
AMEN 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
It is done in Jesus name we pray 🙏🏽
@@ruthfrank8106 AMEN 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I pray for this for you. May you be free hermana. God wants the very best for you.
Grandmother, who will be 96 tomorrow always said, "everyone you sleep with, you are giving them a part of your soul". She is right. Beware, ladies and gentlemen!
Everyone who has been baptized into Christ is a new Creation! The old is gone and the new is come..
@@larkireri2012 what that has to do with the comment.
@@dramese That those who are in Christ can get everything they lost back.... EVERYTHING
This is the reason why there is a very high rate of depression, addiction and even suicide in fields like porn and prostitution where sex is the actual occupation!
yup but if you say that *truth* ppl riot.. it’s time we stop normalizing things that destroy our spirit
Yes and no. They often already had traumas to begin with.
This is very true. I laid down with a toxic guy back in 2015 who had alot of emotional issues and traumas. And I ended up feeling how "lost and confused" he was. I remember feeling like I wanted to die and I had nothing going for myself. But I never felt this way prior to messing with him. So it's true, you become ONE flesh with whoever you lay with.
This is true . It is yuck contracting someone else's yuck
That happened to me!
Does anyone know how to get rid of it? How to get rid of that energy now when we know better and when we are not together with those persons?
@@gizlamcdobby9408 Praying to God
@iamBLUSH I feel like this now!! I want it to go away
She’s speaking spiritual facts. I’ve been abstaining 6 years, I’m always happier when I do (this isn’t the first time I’ve abstain). You literally take your power back. 💙🖤
I agree wholeheartedly!!Everytime I abstain I feel so much peace.
7 years going on 8. I have a lot of clarity. I miss the physical at times, but it’s not worth doing that when the energy is dark. I’m past those days. So sad how people are just going through the motions knowing the person they’re with is no good.
2 years in
May the Almighty Creator bless all of my sisters with righteousness and righteous husbands to share this journey of life, and that you no longer have to abstain. 🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾
Abstinence is amazing and it heightens your spiritual awareness. Discernment be on point, it makes me afraid to go back the other way.
Actually the signs are clear but we choose to ignore them because like she said they put on an appearance but on the inside they are rotten to the core. Signs like narcissism, machiavellianism & psychopathy are reflections of a dark inner core. You give someone enough time during dating and those personality traits rise to surface especially when they don't get what they want. It's important to not only see when they get angry (which is key) but also how they react with regards to sympathy and empathy. Just don't give into the grand emotional delusion. If you ask me the human race has been hijacked by something sinister and now is not the time to be promiscuous.
100% had this experience. You definitely right on focusing on when they get angry
Very helpful and insightful comment.
So true that happened to me. My ex was a narc. I also notice every man I've been with was married or in some relationship. Folks think it was my dad's and moms karma passed on to me. I always wondered what i do to deserve this? Now im taking back my power.
I am constantly attacked by these type of men , I'm convinced enough after being harvested on for years that I will find my true love in the next realm Now's not the time for me to look for it on this plane. I love this comment a thousand times 🎯🔥 blessed be to you 💚
So so true!!
This is VERY true!! When I got with my youngest daughter's father, I had my own apartment, my own car, a good job etc. etc, but a few months after dating him, I lost my apartment, I lost my car AND I ended up having to let my job go because we moved to another state (to get a fresh start from everything that was happening). 🥺🥺😥😢 I had NEVER been in a place so LOW in my life.....had I known THEN, what I know NOW, I would have "proceeded with caution" with him because it felt like my life went from "sugar to shi× overnight. 😔🥺 When we started dating, he didn't have himself together AT ALL (he didn't have a car, he didn't have his own place) & everything that he was going through was transferred right over to me (spiritually/energetically) so I became everything that he was/wasn't. I should have known better than to mess with a guy that didn't have anything going for himself, BUT (there's always a but), we had known each other since we were 16 (we started dating at 32), we went to high school together, he was a good/loyal/honest guy that treated women well etc. etc. so it was almost like I couldn't help myself. 😕😕 We stayed together for 10 years (I left him in 2020, the relationship became stagnant & everything that was needed to maintain a relationship was GONE), we had a lot of fun, we did a lot of things etc. etc, BUT it taught me a valuable lesson....be VERY mindful of who you are intimate with because that person can/will destroy you if their energy/frequency is bad/low. 🤔🤔 I became a Reiki healer in 2019 & I think that once I became more conscious & I started vibrating on a higher frequency, the feelings that I had for him changed. I knew that he wasn't going to do anything to better the relationship & I wasn't going to do anything to better it either because I was ready to leave so that's when I decided to go. I stayed by myself for 3 years (just me & my 2 girls) so that I could HEAL from the relationship & in January 2023, the Universe sent me the man that I've been waiting for (he's like minded, he doesn't smoke/drink, he doesn't eat meat, he has 2 cars, his own house, his own business etc. etc.) & we've been going STRONG for the past 5 months. I knew that my patience would pay off, I feel like one of the luckiest women on the planet for having such a GREAT man by my side......I'M GRATEFUL!! 😊😊🤗🤗
Good job girlie ❤
Are you still going strong?
@elbert3987 Grand rising!! YES, we're still going strong & it's been a year since we've been together. 😊😊 As a matter of fact, we're going so strong that we're talking about getting married. 💚💚🤵🏽♂️👰🏽 I know that a year of dating isn't that long, but when you reach our age (I'm 46 & he'll be 53 in May) & you find someone that "does it" for you....why wait because when you KNOW, you KNOW. Thanks for asking!! 🙂🙂
@@dyoung2178 Totally agree, happy for you and stay strong 🤗
She ain’t lying. I just went through this and as of now I’m staying away from sex until I’m fully cleansed spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. I’m gonna be careful that I don’t get caught up in this mess again nor pass on bad vibes/energy to someone else.
do men also get this?
@@rajendrabiswas Of course they do, and every man honest and sincere enough to admit to and even speak openly about it and to do the work deserves the utmost respect for it, and more so because there are hardly any real men left anyways.
FAKZ. 💡
I’m cleansed spiritually, mentally however my ex is trying to keep me attached emotionally.
I pray he leaves it alone.,
I read an article titled “sexually transmitted demons”. I must say that’s a real thing because it happened to me. Through that horrible situation and experience, I learned how truly sacred sex is. I’m on my fourth year of abstinence. I will go to my grave staying absent if I must. My soul is worth it. The flesh is nothing but a lie. Great video! Thank you! God bless!
Same
same here, my 4th year too without sex, and I dont even miss It, I wish I knew then what I know now
I have been 10 years or more, got involved with someone I shouldn't have, but I did, and when it ended I ask God to turn off all sexual desire.
I have been praying for a Godly man. One where we are truly compatible.
Flesh is nothing but a lie! Our souls are precious indeed. Jesus Christ did not die that we may suffer like this 🙌🏾
Can you tell us what happened if you don't mind ? Did you have a demonic possession or something ?
This isn't limited to sexual experience, boundaries are important in every aspect.
literal opening doors to people can potentially distort energy in the house/rooms. I've experienced this before and confirmed it
not everybody means you well
@@bri.mainaa this is beyond true ! Certain people I definitely won't let in they leave an evil Ora.
Correct!
Very true
Agreed! Everything carries energy! One must protect their enegery in ALL aspects, not just sexually. I don't even accept things from certain people because of the energy they carry and not wanting that in my house.
Very true. Whenever I'm in any sexual relationship. I feel sad and depressed but whenever I'm out of that relationship I regain myself. I feel much happier, both physical and mentally. No wonder GOD said we should abstain from sexual sins.
Well, CHOOSE a partner which will UPLIFT YOU... God invented Sex, so he (she) loves it! But, you MUST CHOOSE a right partner. You uplift a partner, and, in the same time, the partner UPLIFTS you.. Cheers!
Yeah, I believe you are misinterpreting what she is saying. She never said sex is a sin OR meant for you to interpret sex in that light. She is just educating everyone to be cognizant of who you have sex with and the many breakdowns of why you as a person should be aware of who you are intimate with.
If you're feeling sad and depress when having sex that means either youre choosing the wrong partner OR your energy towards sex in a negative space(sex is a sin, etc) is bringing your overall sexual experience down. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable to both parties as it has literally been proven to lower stress and anxiety. It's literally what brings "life" into the world and should NEVER be considered a sin. Peace
Sex before marriage is a sin
This is so true. The last time I was with someone they drained me. I quickly got into an accident, lost money and got into deep debt. They literally stole my luck. It's taken years to do some recovery financial wise.
The Freedom is in Christ. Foe everyone who is Baptised into Christ has become a new NEW creation, the old is gone and the new has come.Yes the old will go completely and you will be free.
I approve this message... Abstinent for 10yrs, got my peace back, untethered some soul ties.
Amen 🙏🏾 7 years going on 8
That's sad and reaks of low self esteem
Those soul ties are real.😭
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@@FatherDIVINE. because someone is celebate, not married and is deciding to do the right thing and be obedient they reak of low self esteem? Wtf father divine of what? Sir
we absorb trauma, emotions and intelligence from other's field of energy.
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I’m recovering while another person is absorbing his lack of intelligence 😂 sad cycle
Period
My parents taught me this at a very young age nearly word for word. Be careful with who your spirit mixed with. Sex is a scared powerful act, so much so that it's the only act that pulls a spirit from heaven to form a human.
I wish my parents had taught me this!
This is profound and beautiful.
thats beautiful
If someone showed me this video 2-3 years ago, I would have laughed off what she was saying. Why? Because I was sleeping casually with boyfriends and I didn't want to believe this...but it is absolutely true. Sex is the most vulnerable physical, emotional, and spiritual act you can do with someone and it is an energetic exchange. I always felt so low after having sex with these loser guys. It's like the act would pull you down to their hellish level. Sex without commitment is so, so harmful. Not even to mention STDs and pregnancy - that's a whole other concern.
I know a friend going through a similar process.. could you tell me what did do you to overcome that negative energy? I would appreciate it
Wow
Sex before marriage. Not just commitment
Don't overate SEX. SEX isn't anything but hormonal satisfaction. Marriage is honorable for fine families. Domestic violence exist bcos we aren't trained to honor ourselves and one another righteously. 😊
She is 100000 percent right on everything! We needed to learn this when we were very young, the world probably would be in a happier place.
Ain't no "probably" G 💯💪🏽that would DEFINITELY make an impact alone. Less births out of wed-lock
(marriage is not necessary at ALL), less 'fornication', more 'sex', less toxic soul ties, Healthy mother and father relationships, etc. List goes on.
Yup💯💯
Ooh, I didn’t listen..
I cannot say folks never tried to tell me something..
Some of us DID learn it, but at the end of the day, kids are going to make their own decisions and live with the consequences of their actions so 🤷♂️
Nonsense - where the spiritual aspect of sex as it relates to other animals
Nothing but pure facts! As a woman we're carriers. When we have sex with a man. We intake everything that's attached to them rather it's depression, karma, or happiness. It's a soul tie! I've been practicing abstinence for 4 years now. I can't allow myself to be attached to anything. When I choose a man I literally must watch, look, and pray. I need to see his behaviors, actions, and reactions. I've been attached to an unclean spirit before and it's hard as hell to get rid of it. Sex is powerful with the right appointed person. I'm not taking any chances.
I agree but i would say that men carry souls too, they just don't realise it on a conscious level. Even more so for them as they seem unable to control themselves. A Woman's copulin is very powerful.
Ya ya exactly! I had a first date with a man the other day, and he kept trying to get me to kiss him. I felt so uncomfortable I don’t know him.
@@katherinewilliamson1884 don't even allow an unwanted kiss. Spirits can be transfered through that. You gotta take your time and it's ok to be aline until then. However, I do believe that we all should date. ❤
If women were the only carriers sex wouldn't be dangerous because men would have nothing to pass on to the woman 🙄. I'd say everybody is a carrier of disease, curses, toxicity that's why sex is dangerous.
Agree 👍
I'm celibate for 2yrs. Men basically make me sick. Not wasting my precious energy on any of them. Staying asexual, happy & wrinkle free.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 i like this, same here 😂😂😂 oh god help us all
ALL men make you sick? - there are some men who share similar values, just keep looking, carefully 😘
You just need therapy
Oh sister, I love you!! I'm 45, not married yet, but never had sex with a man before, because I have always believed that sexual intercouse only belongs in a marriage! I'm in love with a man right now and God showed me three years ago, that he's the man I'm going to marry. I have never felt embarrassed to still be a virgin. Actually, both men and women have applauded me, that I'm still a virgin at this age.
YOU are a unique individual, a rare gem who will be loved deeply, I do admire your strong values
@@kennydee8296 Thanks a lot Kenny! 🥰🥰❤❤🧡🧡💛💛
45 and still a virgin?
I'm sure deep down you resent yourself
Bless you ! Your a special Gem !
@@ZIONHIGHER Thank you! 🥰🥰🥰🍀🍀🪷🪷
“When people have multiple partners to others they appear happy physically but in reality, mentally they are a mess”
Speaking from my own experience. When I was younger, I used to do things because I thought it was “normal” and everybody else was doing it too.. After a very negative encounter with a man one night I felt so dirty and sad. And so ashamed of myself. I just slept with that messy guy… why? For what reason? Was I so desperate at my young age to sleep with anybody regardless how that person made me feel? How that person treated my body?
I swore to myself I would never ever in my life sleep with a person who doesn’t have love for me, who doesn’t love me for me. And whom I loved too.
1 year after that I met my husband, we’ve been married for 9 years now. Everything really starts with a decision. Now I feel every sexual experience before him was useless. Know your worth 💕
thank you and congratulations 🎉
I pray to be on that path and coming into that journey yet it is earlt days and it hurts like hell the breaking up
Tankyou❤
@@felicitygrace5113I can relate as I’ll be going through it soon
My best friend died by suicide in January. Her husband was physically, emotionally & mentally abusive towards her. The week she passed I tried telling her to stop sleeping with him. She told me I didn't understand as I'm not married. But I've always felt that sleeping with a man who cheats, hits you & swears at you will surely drain your energy & finish your self worth ... I wish she was still here, to learn, to grow, to raise her sons, to live 💔😓
I'm so very sorry for your loss. You tried. All you can do now is strive to be a friend to her sons. That is what any woman leaving children behind would want. God bless you for caring.
@@talllala Thank you for your kind response 💚 it's just that they're so young (4 & almost 2). They won't even understand who I am & why I care 😭
Married to a very verbal,cheating and some times abusive man,had to end the relationship wasn't happy at all,now I understand why.
@@chosenqueen5109 Ahhh😢 but one day they will. You're their angel.
Sorry for your loss ☹️
So true. It's no joke. Sex exposes you to so much of the person's energy. I'm currently trying to rebalance myself after being with someone that has a lot of emotional and unresolved issues that they haven't addressed.
I approve of this message, I've been celibate for the last 4 1/2 years. Best decision ever.
So glad to be in the sacred space of abstinence for a few years now. I've learned my lesson. Thankfully no diseases, no pregnancy, no abortions. But the pain cycles those situations left me in weren't worth it. I'd rather have my peace of mind and unadulterated connection with God. My time will come when the Higher Up ordains it.
You Betta speak on it sis💯👊👏👏👏
How is healing done especially when the other generation lived careless lives and their children copied same lifestyles with consequences!
Amen
@MySultrySounds Thank you my sister,am well.
Thank you for answering my question,i'm in deep prayer to Abba YAHU'AH for my family whose moral foundations were not that good .
Please keep me in your prayers to be set free from those chains.
May Abba YAHU'AH baruk you.
@MySultrySounds Thank you,i'm very much humbled.All praises to The Most High Yah.
I'm a college student and being around so many people of the opposite sex almost had me forgetting about this fundamental principle. Thank you for bringing me back🙏🏿
I'm happy to see this comment, I mean no offense but this point is lost on a lot of guys. Women may be beautiful and scantily clad but it's not worth your body, your soul or your future! Beautiful women with light spirits will come if you hold on and keep that attitude, I promise!
@@nicoleowens2318 Always good to be fed hope
"Being around" is that your euphemism of having sex with them?
Pray for men omg yes we all need deliverance
The spirit of perversion break sexual immortality generation curse ijmn
As a divorcée, I can attest that marrying the wrong person, can not only be chaotic to one’s life, but completely ruin it.
Hence why I'm still virgin at the age of 24 n tbh I have no regrets 😊
She is 10000% !!! I’ve experienced that with my ex. Trust me, I left him. Since I got with him so much turmoil and anxiety. When I left him, I had so much peace. My suggestion is take sea salt bath 🛁 or get someone to mix a bath mix for you to remove negativity. Especially if you’re a Empath like myself. We absorb energy easily.
Sound's interesting
What about cleansing abortions ? Just asking.
Yes those banos be the truth! And they work!
@Andilena if you have a botanica in you area , they can make one for you or have you buy the items in the store and show you how to mix it to create a bath for you.
No botanica stores, that's power from the left that u will receive, and it will back fire. Only God's Laws. The Laws of the Thorah are NOT DONE AWAY WITH
I learnt this in my late 40s. Spread the word, people perish because of lack of knowledge.👍🏾
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I totally agree
Better to know it later than never 💯
Same here . I am in my mid 40s. Don’t want to tie souls with anyone anymore . It was hard to get rid of the demons attached from previous sexual encounter partners. I feel peaceful.
♥️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This is why it is also important to know your partner's family and ancestral history😮 You do not know what spiritual blessings/ curses they carry on so always take your time in relationships. This was such a learning for me in my early adulthood.
My ex-best friend slept with the wrong men and she ended up becoming schizophrenic. Smh. When I slept with the wrong men, I started failing at everything in life and I'm still here picking up the pieces. I've been celibate now for over 2yrs, my PH balance has returned to normal, my grades are up, and things are getting better for me slowly but I'm not gonna lie, it's hard remaining celibate.
No way thats possible ??
Sexual desire starts from the thoughts and emotions...if you manage yourself in a certain way, the desire will be zero.
True, it's actually funny to hear men whine about how they absolutely need sex because.. men. I have also dealt with those compulsions, but I have been lucky to have been introduced to the discovery that if I entertain other things actively with my mind, for me usually abstract ideologies, I will literally forget to remember to be horny for longer periods of time. It be like that sometimes
Truth
Facts.
Yep
I knew this but I never thought so deep that we take on another’s ancestral lineage. Wow that’s deep.
Especially when you have kids with them.
@@patricerenee1717 true but you can’t leave your kid or kids?
@Welcome's House good for you
I experienced this with my daughter's father. After he and I broke up I went into a dark place for a long time. That soul tie I created with him almost caused me to lose my mind. I went on a deep healing and discovered that he and I both hade unhealed trauma. But he went on and didn't care. However with me being an empath I had to cleanse spiritually and emotionally. And when I went through the change I became much more focused and I understood why I accepted what I accepted. Now I'm in a new relationship and spiritually it's peaceful and loving.
I've always felt I've given myself away with my ex partners, and not in a good way. Unfortunately it's taken me over 30 partners later to realize this was something sacred and special meant for someone who shared the same values I do.
Whitney Tiarra, God is a healer, we live and learn hopefully 🙏 Life’s a journey 🙏🙏🙏🤣
30 partners, you got to be kidding me 😅
😂😂😂😂😂
Everyone who has been baptized into Christ is a new Creation! The old is gone and the new is come..
@@SA-iu7xj🌙
Soo true ♥️ my mother (may she Rest In Peace) has been telling me this since I was a young girl. She told me, “when you have sex with a person-you’re having sex with every person that person has sex with because it’s a spiritual portal. People don’t want to believe because they want to be like a dog who returns to its own vomit. When you know better, you do better. Peace and Blessings. 🙏🏽✨♥️
Yo this is deep 💀💀💀
Chill😭😭😭
Dat is it
Hi, thanks for this saying as I've never heard it outside of our culture which is Maori, the indigenous people of Aotearoa/New Zealand.
We in our language say;
Ko te kuri anake, ka hoki ki tona ruaki.
Only a dog returns to it's vomit.
A whakatauki/proverb used in maoridom.
This is exactly what I'm telling my kids. Let me screenshot this rat now!
I'm Christian and thanks God I always knew this. I remember when one day the wife of a pastor was preaching about sex with random people. She said "having sex with random people or with someone who sleeps with others people can give you not only STD, but can also open the door for demons in your life. I never forget that!
- the one who sleeps with a sorcerer become a sorcerer, camerounian proverbe.
People are married to devilish minded individuals that's why we have domestic violence among married Christians. Bcos someone isn't really right or righteous in the marriage. 😆 Good to know some. realities
Queen is telling the truth. I had a situationship with an older guy and when I tell you I was drained, depressed, & felt many energies I could not explain. When I finally Ghosted him, It was literally a huge weight off my mind, body, spirit & soul. A year later we spoke and my entire womanhood felt like it jumped at his voice. At that moment I knew I needed every aspect of him off of me spiritually.
I agree with everything but minimizing.. Marrying is the answer! It doesn’t get purer then practicing self-control till u meet someone like-minded, same morals, knowledgeable, ready to commit, good role model/leader if male, etc.
AMEN!! I was 14 years celibate, this person chased me for 3+ years, I finally dated, got engaged in less than six months only to discover WRONG PERSON, GOD gave me TWO dreams , I didn't ignore the dreams, just thought I could make a difference, pay CLOSE ATTENTION to your Dreams, both Dreams have come to past 🙏🏾
Hmmmm....I would like to talk to you.
Tells us more… what we’re the dreams ?
@@ofiskitchen5462 GOD showing / telling me Exactly what would happen, Scripture says that " I your GOD will not let anything happen on this Earth until He (GOD) reveals it to HIS PROPHETS first
Yes I had a dream that a guy I like was a wolf. I didn't listen then God showed my mom I looked like a monkey and I had a disease if I messed with him.
Care to share a bit about that warning dream?
THIS 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 A great reminder for me to stay a virgin until I (hopefully) get married. I don't want to carry any of that baggage into a relationship. I was raised in church so I was always told to wait. I thought I was missing out but then saw how much emotional pain and drama my friends went through who had various sexual partners. I had peace.
yes you had literal peace and you are so wise to see that
Always follow your heart because you can't go wrong. You are on the right path.
The Most High knows best.
@@CeeceeH1819 all praises to him
Cultivate clarity mentally, spiritually, pure emotions with or without sex/ partner. Marriage will be abundant.
Don't wait for marriage to be all of you. Cultivate your greatness and a partner will reflect back.
My mom actually shared this awesome video with me! ❤️ She’s always sending me little gems 💎 I’m 21 and have never had a boyfriend ( I share my story on my channel) and this video here has also been so instrumental to my journey. The words spoken here hit my soul a certain way.. I’m listening ❤️ Thank you for teaching us! Aloha 🤙🏾 from Hawai’i 🧘🏽♀️🌸🫖🪄
Please Start Back Posting ❤
Please girls, this is as true as truth can be. Be mindful of your hearts, of your body. Your body is your first home, having access to your body is having access to your whole being. Very few people are deserving of that, please be mindful. I wish all the best and that god can lead the path of your life for you! ❤
This message is needed‼️Have you ever had sex with a narcissist (a real life demon)? You loose everything good around you including you spirit.
Karma is real, you have now experienced the karma that was meant for the narcissist. If I were you, Cut-off sex and communication immediately
I feel attacked lol . This blunt truth was very much needed 😫🙏.
THIS happened to me i dated a narcissist a real demon like you say and actually he was. I lost everything i tought i was driving myself crazy. Sickness poverty my exhusband almost died. I almoat died. I came back to the Lord and after 3 year later i am becoming who i was. I made myself an exorcism it was really real. I am celebre 3 years and 2 months now. I wanna stay like this untilbtje Lord hgive me the sign i am curated.
I have felt this actually! It messed me up pretty bad… but i cut-off every possible way of communication and ive been getting better every day! Its been a year now and after a lot of reflection and relearning self love things are finally better!
Yes, they are evil spiritual vampires. They suck out your soul & grow stronger while you become a weak, empty shell
I married one and I became a stranger to myself - 99% of the turmoil in that 25 year relationship was centered around sex! I am so much more at peace and the peace really started before the divorce once the sex stopped. I thought that no longer having sex was going to be an issue once he left me - but I rarely think about sex, though I am a very sexual person. When I think of love and a future marital relationship I don’t even think of sex. I think of the physical connection being a result of the deep spiritual and emotional connection we will have. And I will not ever again be pressured into any kind of physical connection.
It’s so beautiful seeing all these black goddesses in the comments practicing celibacy/abstinence. I thought I was the only one. It was rare. Now I feel so happy to see so many on the same spiritual path. I refuse to be sexual with anyone until it’s divine timing with my divine partner 🥰
It’s comforting to see as a non black goddess also 💜🙏🏼 we are all souls in garments of flesh and blood
Why make it a RACE issue...sheesh. Why not just say "goddess".
@@tombstone4986 for the black woman who feels unseen for hundreds of years, she is simply seeking an affirmation of herself, little does she realise that her blackness is a new form of oppression. It’s not black vs the rest.... there are several ethnicities with various experiences, all of which are valid.
@@tombstone4986 Let her express herself how she wants. Go to the white page ugh!
@@ninaboston4714 I'm not white! What is the white page? Why do you all have to always make it a " black thing"? Get over it already. There are others that have gone through the same thing, but you don't hear us saying "brown, yellow, red "!!! U all do it to yourselves a lot of times... Statistics show proof!
I love her analogy with the soda fountain. That is so true. I've always hated entertaining more than one person at a time. You just invest so much energy, that to mix spirits like that causes chaos in your mind.
This is why I am remaining celibate until the other partner I chose is healed, cleansed, intune with himself, emotionally mature and sent by the most high! Scary things out here in the world...
I always say that sex is the 1 act that literally join man and woman together to make 1 so it should not just be a casual thing and must be taken seriously.
What if he or she is gay?
@@cecegiles7753Thats another level of sin, LGBT is a woke movement and the spiritual aspects was sent by a greater negative power. Don't engage in such please and get therapy to be straight cause ask yourself why did God destroy Sodom and Gomorrah
Thank you. Your body is sacred, your soul is sacred, energy changes during sex and soul ties are real.
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DEEP. AND men laugh at me when I tell them I'm single. I'm just tired of people not realizing how serious messing with people energy. That's how a lot of people get killed when the ready to leave or cheat on that person. That's why I'm just tryna give my energy to the Most High
This is SOOOO true & something I’ve always known except I never spoke it as eloquently as Ms. Hurlock! Since my early 20’s, I have always been one to take years of celibacy when I felt the need. I, too have been in relationships that were not good for me nor to me….., thus the need to take as much time as I needed to recover, reconstruct & grow from a relationship that never should have happened in the first place!
Never one to be afraid to seek my alone time, enjoying the peace & tranquility of reclaiming my energy and making it stronger and more vibrant than ever! Not selfish, but love, love, LOVE me some ME, and am so grateful that every experience has indeed brought knowledge so that I can see almost right away when someone is NOT for me. I know without a shadow of a doubt that I am not the woman for just any man, and am ready, willing and able to sit in the knowledge that I’ll KNOW him when I see him….., whenever that is! Oh yes!
Peace & Blessings to you all!
True words ✨
Only the spiritually inclined people understand this ancestral language☀️ thank you ma'a 💫
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Indeed
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Mark 10:8 kjv
And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.” The word of God never fails.
Amen!
HalleluYahuah...the word of Yah never fails
Amen
I've been abstinent for years too.
I'm so much happier, my mind, body and spirit are so much more calmer and peaceful than ever.
I can stay this way forever and be very content and happy with my life.
This is facts! I love this knowledge. I have been abstinent for 1.5 years and I will remain abstinent until marriage. I had an experience with a narcissist and it drained me to my core. I never believed in soul ties until I had sex and experienced it for myself. After I had sex for the first time, I changed and not in a good way. I picked up on his emotions and my peace had seemed to vanish. As an empath, I could intuitively tell when he would be intimate with others or give his attention to others. I felt disgusted when he would touch me and often times ended up crying after intimacy. It was painful but through the experience I learned how sacred my temple is and how sacred sexual energy is. Also the dualistic nature of such a powerful potent force of energy. I am excited to continue my journey until marriage. Life is finally peaceful again. And I refuse to exchange my peace again for the simple purpose of getting off. “Peace is not the highest goal in life. It is the most fundamental requirement” - Sadhguru
Soul ties are broken in the name of Jesus.thank you Lord .I went through this she is telling the truth 🙏.
I embraced abstinence and my life changed immediately for the better. I enjoyed more personal peace, avoided drama, focused more in work, significantly increased my income and accomplished so much. Connecting outside of a committed relationship, or any other unhealthy/unbalanced unequally yoked situation is NOT WORTH IT.
Yes I totally agree people sometimes pretend that they are fine but on the inside they are damaged all because of the people they are sleeping with. "Not all that glitters is gold" let's choose carefully who we associate with they can set us back for years
i listened and i’m taking it into consideration , im only in my 20s and i don’t want bad energy from multiple partners
This is something that was instilled in me as a child from my Caribbean grandparents and my Southern mother. Truth in every word.
My background is the same. Caribbean and Southern. 🇯🇲🇺🇲
I've known this for years. Exactly why I don't play that cheating stuff. Or rebound junk. I stopped association with some energies because they mix with unstable energy and its transferred to me. I want no parts of it.
These videos are so calming. I'd like to imagine this subject matter being mainstream as opposed to the typical garbage we see on the regular.
This is exactly why I'm abstinant now. I don't want anymore of the wrong ties. It's very empowering. I have slowly gained back what I was losing giving away...joining with energy and spirit I wasn't meant for
Great information! Thanks for sharing! Yes. Sex is much more than physical pleasure, it is a spiritual act.
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So true. These negative energies are evil spirits around the individuals. Be careful who you yoke with, become friends or take what belongs to another person. Friendships as well as intimate relationships need to be sanctified in Christ in mind body and soul otherwise you’ll have problems. You don’t want a Cain and Abel situation.
Amen🙏
She is literally speaking the truth.. When you're engaged in a sexual relationship with the opposite sex you are tied spiritual for 7 years, "good bad or indifferent". (You own it ) Not all energies can be washed off 😮. Stay strong -Stay pure - Vibrant high❤
Been molested in the past several times and just grew up thinking that being fanatical about sex was just how I was. This video really helps to get a better perspective on what exactly sex is, seeing as I never really got “the birds and the bees”.
How many people have u slept with
This energetic dynamic happened to me. Prior to being with said person, I was making $240K and my career was flourishing. I was happy and full of energy. After our relationship, I became unemployed, had fights with friends, etc. My life was ruined in a matter of a few months.
How are you now?
Wow
@@CC-br9qg I have a few interviews lined up. I'm just trying to conserve my energy and focus on myself.
Hi MC, I hope everything will be positive for you again. Keep your head up. God bless you. 🙏🏾💙
How did you get back coz this is the exact story of my life.celibate 2yrs now but some days are hard hard.
I’m going into my fifth month of abstinence. Admittedly, it’s difficult, and I am STILL fighting off soul ties. If I would have known that a few minutes of pleasure would leave my spirit in shackles, I would have never engaged! I like so much better who I am Becoming, but my healing journey remains far from over. My last long term relationship nearly ended my life… and like the speaker said, no one would have EVER suspected the pain I was enduring because I looked perfectly healthy on the outside. I had a thriving career, business, money, a good social circle, travels… physical health… anyone who knew me would have told you I was the coolest person, but behind closed doors, I was sleeping with the devil (naively). Even after the relationship ended, the energy didn’t. I continued to meet the same type of person although the toxicity/poisonous nature gradually became more apparent with each subsequent person. The mental anguish/noise/confusion consumed me until what was almost the very end. Energy is not to be played with. We MUST be careful who we allow in.
Greetings Nah Fam. I would just like to share this with you out of love.
Jesus said"I am the way, truth and life. No man comes to the father except through me. John14:6 jesus is the only one that will truly heal, deliver and make you whole. Please if you like watch this for more info on soul ties/incubus spirit and how a women got rid of it. 🙏 ua-cam.com/video/tuo-A4c4Fok/v-deo.html
Agree 💯 percent
It is called Men’s the devil sent my way. Wait on God. Men from Satan is half human or beast. The Bible called them beast.
Five months is nothing. Try 2 years. Then you will know who you are & what you need
She's bang on with what she's saying. I've experienced this. It's not pretty at all. Took lots of prayers to move past all the trauma. I blame myself as well. The day he and I met, I felt something was off. In every single interaction with him, I felt something off. My gut instincts kept screaming at me to run in the opposite direction. I didn't listen and I'm paying a high price. Whatever he has transferred to me.
My mind was literally racing everyday. He's a disorganized person. Always doing several things at once and never completing anything. Can't stay on topic in a conversation.
I kept getting into arguments with my mom. Shouting at her...never before had that ever happened between us. He and his mom are always going at it.
I blew up at people several times. Never happened before. I am not a quarrelsome person. He's always arguing with someone.
All of this in the space of 3 months.
THIS IS REAL. Please be careful folks. I have since put in the work to heal and I'm better now emotionally etc. Won't happen again.
This is so true and such a traumatic thing to go through. Drained me of all energy, totally wracked havoc in my life. I am rebuilding without that terrible mistake of a human in my life. From the very first night without them, there was positivity. Their demons were gone with them and I had to do the work and pray to God to cleanse me of it all!
The Freedom is in Christ. Foe everyone who is Baptised into Christ has become a new NEW creation, the old is gone and the new has come.Yes the old will go completely and you will be free.
This is why The Holy Creator instructs His children to be “equally yolked”. Well said lady!
MESSAGE!!! Teach
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Yes!!!
" MEMORIZE THIS TRUTH "
( 1 Corinthians 7:39 )
The wife is bound by the law
as long as her husband liveth :
but if her husband be dead, she
Is at liberty to be married to whom
she Will :Only in the Lord.
Sexual intimacy is the easiest way to exchange or siphon energy!!!! She is so dead on point with this. People thought I was crazy when I would say this. I'm so glad that when I learned how important this was I applied it to my life and will continue to do so. Guard your peace and energy at all costs peeps we are worth it!💯💯👊🌟💖 AND the rewards are so much better than that 12 seconds of so called pleasure😁😁😁
Animals have sex too. Do they siphon energy. Are we trying to over spiritualone a normal aspect of life.
@@kaymsov hi. Can an animal bear curses? Can an animal have sex with it's mum or sis or dad or bro. No. It knows better. Imagine having sex with a man or woman who has been in incest?
people can bear curses. People can bear karma. Animals can't. Animals have sex for recreation not for comfort and oneness. We are not animals. We are highly intelligent beings with super brains. So we know better.
@@charitymulindwa5240 exactly we are intelligent so we make deeper meaning for simple animalistic behavior like sex. It's just how we create babies and it's enjoyable. Animals have sex instinctually for procreation and recreation cause it feels good like humans. We are all animals. Logicalise it how you want.
@@kaymsov Do animals have precognitive dreams? I don't know but people do. I sure know I do. There seems to be something different about humans where we have access to a sort of information highway that gives us insight into different things. I don't thing there is only necessarily that type of difference between humans and most other creatures. We could have many differences between us. Just my thought
@@seismicvertigo345 interesting. Who knows
Reminds me of a toxic situation I got myself into with a girl,literally after our honeymoon phase everything came down in my life my finances health and brain,she was onto the next when she saw me like this but I know what a toxic person can do they can turn you toxic
My mom's friend was talking to me about this very thing a couple weeks ago. Everybody is connected within 6 degrees of separation but sexual intercourse makes you a zero degree person. You literally become the person you have sex with and vice versa. Really look at the people you keep company with and also the company your partners keep and ask yourself if you'd really want to be their friends and family. I saw this girl at my local motorcycle shop and she's really cute. I chatted her up to find out how close she is with her family. Her energy was so positive everytime she talked about her dad and family that it just crushed me as my family is anything but functional. Feeling this energy has made me a 30 year old virgin but I really don't care; I'm gonna defend positivity and healthy relationships no matter how much I have to suffer.
From a 41-year-old virgin: stay strong... you will soon look around and see that the suffering you are enduring to do RIGHT will pay off in PEACE and FREEDOM. As you get older, you will see how discipline SAVES your life. Seek circles of people who are disciplined but also peaceful for encouragement.
“keep yourself pure. pure as possible.”-
I remember in my teens a male teacher of mine told us in class never have sex as if it's wearing everyday cloth, Sex is something far more deeper than the physical pleasure we get as a quick pay off, sex is more of a spiritual interaction between two souls, a sought of dialogue that only u and partner can have alone and understand, both urslefs interlinked, but sleeping around can actually disrupt ur inner spiritual core and can be used for sinister purpose, what this lady said is very much right.
It's an eye opener....staying pure is essential
I love hearing the knowledge she speaks. For quite some time, my peers have seen me as obscure because I was never the type to have multiple partners because I was always subconsciously protecting my energy. Now that i've stumbled across this channel, my decisions and make more sense to me. Thank you so much for sharing the content that is shared on this channel. It is indeed greatly appreciated.
This is why promiscuous women invite chaos into their lives (I am a female) I remember my party days, I may have gone out and had fun but I didn’t sleep around because I’ve always felt sex was an exchange of energies and I can’t have sex without having a deep emotional connection with someone… but I did witness how promiscuity took a toll on my friends I couldn’t believe that no one else in the group noticed it but after a while I started detaching myself it was painful to watch
That’s how I feel about sex too. Kudos to you for still having fun ( partying) but staying true to yourself at same time ❤
This is so true, I abstained for 5 years and just got married last December. It was worth the wait 🙏🏽
Also to anyone else that’s abstained would you say it made you more sensitive / discerning to people spiritually?
I found I was. I’d either get dreams of insight or warning to leave certain people alone early into knowing them or made aware that they had demons with them and those demons didn’t like me lol
Yes!!!!!
Agreed 1000%
Yes!! This 100%
Most definitely to everything you've stated. I've noticed my visions become more clear and my discernment and how I use to think has changed. I'm also placing myself first and really doing more research before I do anything or meet anyone.
Wow 👏 it’s nice to see I’m not the only one! Do you all have any experiences in particular that stood out to you?
SEX - Sacred Energy Xchange
That is SEE….. Sacred energy exchange…
@@moirarising3363 🤣🤦🏾♀️
Nah bro you reaching
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@@moirarising3363 “EX”and “X” both have the same RESONANCE. If you understand energy and vibrations of words…they are the same
Soul ties are real! & everything she spoke on surrounding that is so true. Hearing this makes me want to learn more about spirituality
The Freedom is in Christ. For everyone who is Baptised into Christ has become a new NEW creation, the old is gone and the new has come.Yes the old will go completely and you will be free.
I’m 21 years old. I’ve never had sex and sure I’ve had guys interested me and I’ve been interested in them too as well. But growing up my mother always talked about the importance of keeping my womanhood untouched, I mean mainly cause I was a teenager and she probably didn’t want me to mess around and ruin my education growing up in a Catholic Afro-Brazilian household 😅. Still, I interested myself more and asked around for people I knew who already had experienced sex wether they were my age or older. Seeing them attached to people who were no good and had a dark aura around them scared me. I saw women and girls with great potential casting their life away to be committed to cheaters and fraudsters. I also saw that along with sex that they would either drink or smoke. Needless to say the lifestyle was never appealing to me. For me sex is a very scared union where two become one. One big soul. Transferring energy to one another. If you choose a soul that is unbalanced or dark you can see people “losing their jobs” or “relationships failing” and it’s never easy cause come people can lie about that too. Especially with social media, people can make others feel like they’re missing out on physical pleasure by not having a sexual partner. But I think there’s still a way to know your sexuality and embrace it and explore it without the need of someone else. Like for me I like to dance in my room in front of the mirror. At times growing up I felt ashamed when people would ask me if I did it and having to explain afterwards that I was in no rush cause I was just waiting till I felt ready and found my someone on the same match as me. Eventually I threw away the shame when I realised that thanks to waiting that I never developed an unhealthy attachment to someone else, sure I’ve met people that I became emotionally attached to but it was easier to heal from those experiences knowing I didn’t give myself up to them before I could find out what they’re really like.
Overall I feel as if my life is just as thrilling and exciting if not more knowing I’m keeping myself spiritually clean from abstaining. I loved the video!
This is so true! As a gay guy, I was never interested in the ‘hook up’ culture. I know hook up culture exists in the heterosexual world too. It just seems so soulless and disconnected, more geared towards validation rather than a genuine connection. I’ve had so many people telling me to “get on apps” but it’s not what I’m after or what resonates with me, it never has.
Same as a lesbian woman ! Keep standing in your power x
@@moniqueabundance Yes, ma’am! Wishing you all the best, love. ❤️
Good for you, Josh! Hope you find someone who has the same self respect.
@@Gay-Icon thank you 😊❤️
Exactly. People who tell me to “get out there, do this, do that” in order to meet people have no right to give me advice when they’ve not met their divine equal, remain single and clueless, and still entertain BS people and situations.
Yup I ain't been right since. Sex would make me physically sick to my stomach my head would hurt and my energy would be the thoughts of just feeling like I was dirty with this individual. Having sex with the WRONG person for me has made the act just seem so deplorable.
Physically sick? Wow. Sorry to hear. I'm glad I'm reading these comments and learning from others experiences
I feel you on this. The times in my past where I had sex with an sexually immoral man. I’d leave feeling disgusted with myself 😣 Feeling drained, used & not right! I learned real quick that I have to be careful to whom I open myself up too! With my Husband I feel beautiful. I feel good and happy to be alive. The sex just feels so right 🥰 Sex is a spiritual connection and it can be a good connection or a bad one, depending on the Person you’re with. Always Be careful & use discernment in choosing your partners…
AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER, I went #THROUGH THAT WITH MY #EX BOYFRIEND 😇🙏💯
Sex always creates problems after a while if you’re not careful and don’t know when to get out
Finally someone expressing in words what I've experienced several years already. Thank you! 🙏❤️
I agree with all of this but the guilt of having made these soul ties is not worth it either. If you slip up. Forgive yourself say positive affirmations and have faith in the process that those ties will be broken.
I have been celibate for three months now and I’m trying to cleanse myself, I think my family lineage is curse but I ask god to put on me and end with me so my kids can have a beautiful, healthy, and prosperous life. My ex literally ruined every aspect of my life. I don’t want to transfer that energy, I want to
Cleanse myself. Please most high help me 🙏🏽
prayer, fasting, and meditating on Bible scripture will help!! just make sure you renounce all your sins and ask for forgiveness for the wickedness that those around you, especially in your family, have partaken in. GOD will surely deliver you. there are also some really good videos that go more in depth about the deliverance process. i suggest minister Kevin LA Ewing’s teachings (this is if you believe in and have already given your life to Christ)
He will help you, and lead you on the right path, my daughter, just trust him, your YAHUAH.
Don’t cast your pearls before swine. Know your worth. Protect your sacred being.
Finally someone put this into words so perfectly. Thank you.
This is true. My soul still walks with my ex. I can feel him energetically and most my exes know when I’m going through it. The minute I’m happy they feel and they come in the numbers 🤣 they know because it’s the bond. I don’t have time. I’m saving mine energy for God.
Take a spiritual bath for 9 days, the waning moon is perfect to cut cords. Pray Psalm 91 while u r making it. You will feel the effects immediately.
@@SiriusBMermaid hi thank you. What’s a spiritual bath? My aunt says bath in blue but I have idea what that means lol
Hi Leisha, you can just start by giving your life to Jesus Christ, read His word and fellowship with those who love Him.
That's the surest route to the deepest of deliverances 💖
That is some crazy shit
Fast and pray. God is able. He is and always will be the healer
@@testimonytime5981 facts. Thank you but I’m a guardian. Sent here to heal and guide. I’ll walk with them but I won’t get defeated again. I just wished I picked better lol
Wow. The analogy she used with the kid and the soda really opened my eyes. Anything you mix with a lot of different things loses it’s pureness. It does not matter what it is. I’d love to just sit down with her and just listen all day to her teaching on spiritual and physical health for hours.
Anything you mix with a lot of different things loses its purity. I’ll remember this for life!
She is telling the truth I was with someone each time I sleep with him He would prosper and I would suffer real bad since then I abstain from having sex and now I am extremely happy