I work full time and I’m a full time single parent to two disabled kids without any in-person support while in grad school. I’m pulling a perfect 4.0 without a single point in any class taken off right now but I’m only going part time and I feel like I’m ALWAYS behind my classmates. I needed to hear ALL of this. Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It gives me hope that I’ll be able to succeed without being “perfect.”
That’s awesome work you’re doing. Keep going it does pay off in the end it’s definitely worth it. I thought it would be interesting to look back at my experience and share it with my people on here :)
@@kdcounseling I sincerely appreciate it. There is so much pressure to be perfect and it’s exhausting and self-imposed. I’m NOT perfect and I need to remember that no one expects me to be. I always appreciate your videos!
I'm so glad you covered this topic! I am in graduate school now and my husband is always telling me, "It doesn't have to be perfect!" For some reason, I often think, "Everything needs to be exactly perfect before I can submit it." It causes a lot of stress. Something I am working on in myself for sure!
It’s a good think when we can catch ourselves in the act and stop the behavior. It’s almost like an automatic thing. I hope your grad school experience is going well
@@kdcounseling Thanks. It is. I am beginning my Practicum class on Monday. I just need to continue working on that perfectionism, lol! I love your videos! I've watched many of them and find them super helpful. I appreciate you sharing your experience. It's so nice to find your videos and be reminded that many of us are experiencing the same things. Being an online student, it is easy to feel like you're the only one struggling with things, like perfectionism. Keep up the great work! You are certainly motivating the future of this field!
I’m graduating in December so I’m finishing practicum and starting internship 1 and I’m honestly so ready to be done with school! Dragging myself over the finish line
You got this! I can definitely relate. It’s that point where you can see the end and have an idea what things will look like after graduation but it’s the last push. Keep me updated on your progress 😊
As always, your video has been very helpful. For me, you are helping set the stage for what is to be an intense period of growth. Sometimes I feel I might be 'already grown' and good already...but Im sure my professors will put me in my place when the time comes. 🌊
Hi! Yeah I found that there is always something to learn about myself. Things that I haven’t thought about would come up and I had to reflect on how I need to shift my perspective. Professors have a way of doing this for sure 👍
Thank you so much for this video & sharing your experience. I am about to finish up my first semester in grad school and this is something I’ve been thinking about and reflecting on lately along with experiencing some imposter syndrome. I find all of your videos to be so helpful. ❤
Hi! I really appreciate you watching my videos. I truly means a lot. I am planning on doing another video on imposter syndrome because I find myself working through this with my clients. Self-care balance is so important and knowing when to stop and just submit the assignment is also key to a less stressful time in grad school.
ngl sometimes i feel like youtube is another discussion post exercise... been writing so many of them. 😆 but great thoughts as always. i'm without a doubt a perfectionist, but also have areas where i suspend those behaviors (yay). also i love your point about planned early failure as a mechanism to say "i didn't even try." i'll remember that! ❤
I really relate to a lot of this. I've been going back and forth about trying for a third recording for ONE assignment that's due next week. The first recording was GREAT but I accidentally only recorded the audio and I need audio and visual. The second is pretty good but my cat kept hopping in the background and I might get dinged for that, and I just didn't explain some things quite as well but still can see all the skills I needed to show. So, I'm like, do I do yet another mock session to see if I can get it really really good or do I just accept this might not be as high of a grade as I want. I also was NEVER a perfectionist in undergrad and felt pretty low about my low GPA and never thought I'd make it in grad school. Which means it feels so damn good to get those 100% and I hate letting that go.
Thanks for sharing. I can also relate to this. There was a thing a teacher said to me a 90 is still an a 80 is still a B. If we are going to stress over a 90 vs a 100 it’s the same thing. Is it worth the stress ? Not sure that makes sense but something clicked for me when I heard that 😃
I can relate to this, I start practicum /internship in August. I feel like I have to be a perfectionist, especially with my cohort being the first at my university.
Do the best you can. Don’t burn yourself out. An A is an A if it’s a 90% or a 100%. So what you can, rest, spend time with people, don’t forget all the other things while your in the program
I work full time and I’m a full time single parent to two disabled kids without any in-person support while in grad school. I’m pulling a perfect 4.0 without a single point in any class taken off right now but I’m only going part time and I feel like I’m ALWAYS behind my classmates. I needed to hear ALL of this. Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It gives me hope that I’ll be able to succeed without being “perfect.”
That’s awesome work you’re doing. Keep going it does pay off in the end it’s definitely worth it. I thought it would be interesting to look back at my experience and share it with my people on here :)
@@kdcounseling I sincerely appreciate it. There is so much pressure to be perfect and it’s exhausting and self-imposed. I’m NOT perfect and I need to remember that no one expects me to be. I always appreciate your videos!
@@lindsayreetz504 exactly it’s good to check in on our own “self imposed” rules and goals and see if we need to make changes
You ma’am are impressive!
I'm so glad you covered this topic! I am in graduate school now and my husband is always telling me, "It doesn't have to be perfect!" For some reason, I often think, "Everything needs to be exactly perfect before I can submit it." It causes a lot of stress. Something I am working on in myself for sure!
It’s a good think when we can catch ourselves in the act and stop the behavior. It’s almost like an automatic thing. I hope your grad school experience is going well
@@kdcounseling Thanks. It is. I am beginning my Practicum class on Monday. I just need to continue working on that perfectionism, lol! I love your videos! I've watched many of them and find them super helpful. I appreciate you sharing your experience. It's so nice to find your videos and be reminded that many of us are experiencing the same things. Being an online student, it is easy to feel like you're the only one struggling with things, like perfectionism. Keep up the great work! You are certainly motivating the future of this field!
I’m graduating in December so I’m finishing practicum and starting internship 1 and I’m honestly so ready to be done with school! Dragging myself over the finish line
keep dragging! make dragging look good! your so close! you owe it to yourself to finish!!!
You got this! I can definitely relate. It’s that point where you can see the end and have an idea what things will look like after graduation but it’s the last push. Keep me updated on your progress 😊
This is such a good comment. Keep it going for sure 😀
As always, your video has been very helpful. For me, you are helping set the stage for what is to be an intense period of growth. Sometimes I feel I might be 'already grown' and good already...but Im sure my professors will put me in my place when the time comes. 🌊
Hi! Yeah I found that there is always something to learn about myself. Things that I haven’t thought about would come up and I had to reflect on how I need to shift my perspective. Professors have a way of doing this for sure 👍
Thank you so much for this video & sharing your experience. I am about to finish up my first semester in grad school and this is something I’ve been thinking about and reflecting on lately along with experiencing some imposter syndrome. I find all of your videos to be so helpful. ❤
Hi! I really appreciate you watching my videos. I truly means a lot. I am planning on doing another video on imposter syndrome because I find myself working through this with my clients. Self-care balance is so important and knowing when to stop and just submit the assignment is also key to a less stressful time in grad school.
ngl sometimes i feel like youtube is another discussion post exercise... been writing so many of them. 😆 but great thoughts as always. i'm without a doubt a perfectionist, but also have areas where i suspend those behaviors (yay). also i love your point about planned early failure as a mechanism to say "i didn't even try." i'll remember that! ❤
Thanks for the feedback this is awesome 😀
@@kdcounseling oh shit i forgot my citation: (KD Counseling, 2024)
I really relate to a lot of this. I've been going back and forth about trying for a third recording for ONE assignment that's due next week. The first recording was GREAT but I accidentally only recorded the audio and I need audio and visual. The second is pretty good but my cat kept hopping in the background and I might get dinged for that, and I just didn't explain some things quite as well but still can see all the skills I needed to show. So, I'm like, do I do yet another mock session to see if I can get it really really good or do I just accept this might not be as high of a grade as I want. I also was NEVER a perfectionist in undergrad and felt pretty low about my low GPA and never thought I'd make it in grad school. Which means it feels so damn good to get those 100% and I hate letting that go.
Thanks for sharing. I can also relate to this. There was a thing a teacher said to me a 90 is still an a 80 is still a B. If we are going to stress over a 90 vs a 100 it’s the same thing. Is it worth the stress ? Not sure that makes sense but something clicked for me when I heard that 😃
I can relate to this, I start practicum /internship in August. I feel like I have to be a perfectionist, especially with my cohort being the first at my university.
I start in august too...the hours needed are feeling daunting on top of classes and work
Do the best you can. Don’t burn yourself out. An A is an A if it’s a 90% or a 100%. So what you can, rest, spend time with people, don’t forget all the other things while your in the program
You got this! It can be done. Focus on self care it’s soooo important 😀