10 Secret Things Girls deeply CRAVE in the Bedroom but Will NEVER Tell you

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  • @xeropunt5749
    @xeropunt5749 3 роки тому +2212

    She's the Assange of WomenLeaks.

    • @naughtyUphillboy
      @naughtyUphillboy 3 роки тому +24

      YUP

    • @robertwilkerson6062
      @robertwilkerson6062 3 роки тому +57

      I love your rawness in what you share. It's helpful, informative and a bit of a turn on. Thank you. Please keep it up.(no pun intended)

    • @fdre3wsd
      @fdre3wsd 3 роки тому +18

      she's gonna get "dissapeared" by the rest of her gender lol

    • @michaelrmurphy2734
      @michaelrmurphy2734 3 роки тому +13

      HAHAHA!!!

    • @darrenjoness2397
      @darrenjoness2397 3 роки тому +8

      Lmfao!!

  • @esjaja777
    @esjaja777 3 роки тому +1319

    Protect this woman at all cost.

    • @prometheus9443
      @prometheus9443 3 роки тому +21

      @@vltruan The people that sold you all your clothes and every single object in your house were also trying to "milk you".
      There's nothing bad in getting value when providing value. It's trading, child.
      EDIT: In fact, if you're getting significant value from it, you should want to pay some money to her to encourage more of the same insights and honesty. Jesus, you people truly don't get how capitalism and behavior reinforcement work! Children indeed...

    • @wilsonclaire3352
      @wilsonclaire3352 3 роки тому +3

      @@prometheus9443 Dumb fucks don't deserve your time, bro

    • @whitewolf6730
      @whitewolf6730 3 роки тому +3

      @@prometheus9443 Agree.

    • @steviepigford2356
      @steviepigford2356 3 роки тому +2

      She got a nice big rack 👍

    • @minnielee8861
      @minnielee8861 3 роки тому

      Protect this woman at all cost......!!Dilly Dilly!!!

  • @AngelCoyoteMusic
    @AngelCoyoteMusic 10 місяців тому +513

    As a female, I crave all the things you described… Thank you for talking about this.

    • @BlackoutPatriot
      @BlackoutPatriot 9 місяців тому +48

      Tell your man this

    • @beyondthesacrosanctbreeze
      @beyondthesacrosanctbreeze 9 місяців тому +67

      ​@@BlackoutPatriotExactly. Such a paradox, on one hand women claim they are the emotionally intelligent ones who communicate better, but then fail to communicate what they want and need, and don't recognize that men have emotions.

    • @melaniejean85
      @melaniejean85 9 місяців тому

      @@beyondthesacrosanctbreezeEver think about the differences in the way we raise boys & girls? Girls are sluts and guys are praised. Talk about a paradox! Be demure and keep mouth shut.

    • @spxram4793
      @spxram4793 9 місяців тому

      @@beyondthesacrosanctbreeze completely agree. Total mindtwist required. Watching Alexander Grace's YT channel (recommended) one comes to the same conclusion. So women are weak in body and mind, long to be dominated, but feel insecure due to this and pretend to be "on the high side" of things to confuse men. Come on! Complete mindf*ck.

    • @spxram4793
      @spxram4793 9 місяців тому +9

      well - understood. As a man, I have to say it does not speak for you. tbh, at the end the video describes a rape kind of scenario. Either we have to hope that not too many rapists read this, or you're simply waiting to be raped all the time. Great stuff, man.

  • @johnsteele8073
    @johnsteele8073 3 роки тому +607

    99% of the time I say never take dating advice from women... But this girl is spilling the beans gentleman. So basically be an alpha man be dominant be confident and be competent. This will serve you in the workplace as well as in relationships and your entire life

    • @whitewolf6730
      @whitewolf6730 3 роки тому +6

      I agree, what a great find.

    • @partlysimpson5154
      @partlysimpson5154 3 роки тому +11

      be alpha man, are you wearing a character?

    • @greentraderAl
      @greentraderAl 3 роки тому +30

      @@johnsteele8073 lol be 'alpha' - yeah whatever that means - i'll be honest the men who have the worst luck with women is those trying to be someone they're not - women smell that quicker than you think, when they say just be yourself it means that....but when you curl up into a little fluffy ball of insecurity she can smell that too and that's a massive turn off. Doesn't matter who you are, have belief in yourself and so will women. NO SUCH THING AS AN 'ALPHA' - the dominant men and women in society are those who believe in themselves enough that if they get rejected they don't get effected and move on. THAT'S THE SECRET lol, men try make it so complicated

    • @johnsteele8073
      @johnsteele8073 3 роки тому +12

      @@greentraderAl people who always complain about the term alpha... It's just sour grapes. I didn't say pretend to be something you're not.

    • @TheBikerjim666
      @TheBikerjim666 3 роки тому +3

      Sounds like you like bondage

  • @frohnzy04
    @frohnzy04 26 днів тому +33

    Love how the hair and the bed make it seem like she just got done with the stuff and had to make an instant video about it.

  • @yopaullowe
    @yopaullowe 3 роки тому +313

    The dynamic between male and female is optimal when it is primal . You do a fantastic job explaining real sexuality.

  • @Lukearthwalker
    @Lukearthwalker 3 роки тому +779

    When a woman tells you to just be yourself, *THIS* is what she means. Don't be what lamestream society tells you women want, be who you are at your *core*.
    Great video Victoria, thanks.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +87

      very good point actually. I think u must be right

    • @jaybee2402
      @jaybee2402 3 роки тому +44

      Why the fck have they never just said that? When they just vaguely blabber, "Be yourself" every man thinks, "I've been myself since I was born".

    • @milkywaymusic
      @milkywaymusic 3 роки тому +4

      @@mynonleatherlife I've got this "friend" who is not interested in being in a relationship because of the fear of being hurt, although she already knows I recently told her that I want her, she enjoys spending time with me but no longer visits me to keep me from heartache. I believe I can make her mine if I can convince her to continue her visits for the hobbies that we both enjoy together. I want to ask her, do you enjoy spending time with me? Assuming she answers "yes" I would then say, ok then let that be our only focus right now but I know she is going to be struck with hesitation at that point, this woman is extremely unique also outrageously beautiful and the thought of leaving her alone kinda stings a bit is it possible to command her to continue her visits or do you think I should just try to forget about her?

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +28

      @@milkywaymusic very painful situation milkywaymusic, I really don't know if this girl has already deeply decided she is never going to want to be with you or is there is still a chance, it could be either depending on the situation. Very hard cause there's plenty of fish in the sea but people are also unique and irreplacable and I am sad just hearing about this situation because I can tell u really care about her

    • @milkywaymusic
      @milkywaymusic 3 роки тому +14

      @@mynonleatherlife ok, well thank you for responding.

  • @VictoriaWilder95
    @VictoriaWilder95 3 роки тому +402

    I love that you don’t use clickbait titles and you don’t have anything to sell. Just pure wisdom and class. Thanks girl

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +39

      Victoria, thank you so much. This was my best attempt at a clickbait title so I'm going to have to up my game haha.

    • @soulbasedliving
      @soulbasedliving 2 роки тому +4

      I would be happy for you to have products or seminars or such...actually if you hosted singles events would be perfect.

    • @florenceandrews2526
      @florenceandrews2526 Рік тому

      @@soulbasedliving agreed

    • @jim-se5xc
      @jim-se5xc 9 місяців тому +2

      That little smile when she talks of discipline.

    • @kisms8590
      @kisms8590 9 місяців тому +2

      Nothing wrong with promoting backend products to monetize on the channel. Truthslayer

  • @darrylsenior2055
    @darrylsenior2055 Місяць тому +9

    I’m 81, I’ve seen a lot of female commentators, but I love the way you talk to us! You are such a turn-on! You’re honest and ordinary but powerful. Thank you!!!❤

  • @clubadv
    @clubadv 3 роки тому +499

    1. Power of giving orders
    2. saying it and meaning it ( 💯 belief if what you're saying)
    3. More agression more strength
    4. Power of the threat do discipline
    5. Power of rising to a challenge not backing down

    • @clubadv
      @clubadv 3 роки тому +114

      6. Power of erotic stories in dirty talk
      7.power of pet names and name calling
      8. Power of " i got this" handle it for her
      9. Lust and objectify her body 👅
      10. Deep empathy seeing and understanding her..

    • @bigdadyyb143
      @bigdadyyb143 2 роки тому +35

      You shouldn't be rising to her challenge you should be above her challenge already.. and you should instinctively know it from the core of your being that you own her.. you love her and respect her but you own her and you are the man and she is here to do what you say.. and if she cant then she will not receive what you can give her.

    • @GMacII
      @GMacII 2 роки тому +10

      @@bigdadyyb143 “Way of the Superior Man”?

    • @xeeng10
      @xeeng10 Рік тому +71

      @@clubadv 10. Call her by her sister’s name.

    • @maxingmust2264
      @maxingmust2264 Рік тому +25

      Don't be afraid to say do it like your mom does it and mean it!

  • @Armando_Lara
    @Armando_Lara 3 роки тому +539

    in these times of extremist feminism, your voice is very valuable

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +104

      Thank you but I am also a feminist

    • @kugelschreiber5678
      @kugelschreiber5678 3 роки тому +26

      @@mynonleatherlife and a redpill man like Kevin Samuel is also a feminist. The only issue is, in today’s society, if you want to be accepted by said movement, you MUST hate men. Gone are the days when feminism fought for the rights of all. 4th wave feminism is a stain on our social and political culture of today. I hope you’re not one of those feminists.

    • @GabiN64
      @GabiN64 3 роки тому +4

      Extremist feminism is not the reason you cant get laid lmao

    • @SilverShamrock71
      @SilverShamrock71 3 роки тому +13

      @@mynonleatherlife I'm a feminist, my poly BDSM partner is also a feminist, she is very comfortable with the use of pet names like sl*t, wh*re, etc. go figure

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +44

      ​@@SilverShamrock71 there's no contradiction there at all...bdsm is a feminist activity...non consensual bdsm is what feminism is fighting against

  • @chrisgordon2307
    @chrisgordon2307 9 місяців тому +58

    Thank you for this honest video that lifts the veil to 2 things that I have noticed when a woman is aroused: 1) There is a primal, and natural biological action/reaction and 2) there is a psychologically learned arousal behavior that has manifested and probably goes back to childhood. My GF is what you labeled as "sassy". She's strong, independent, and a lot like the snow leopard you described. She still tests me after 2 years of being exclusive but once she surrenders, then she really transforms and gets into the moment. She'd never be submissive like that to me outside the bedroom but when she surrenders, the kinks and fetishes come out and it's game on! When you remove all the cultural and religious dogma, there is a primal desire that is rooted deep in our DNA!

  • @robertwiegman1
    @robertwiegman1 3 роки тому +194

    Telling a woman what to do verbally or non-verbally to me is the essence of sexual dominance with women.

  • @Lionlovesunity
    @Lionlovesunity 3 роки тому +191

    I remember dating this girl years ago and she would always say something like “I love how you always know what to do and make the decisions for me. I feel safe and secure”. She didn’t understand exactly what it was, but she loved it

    • @Thepinkxx
      @Thepinkxx 3 роки тому +17

      Coming from a girl yes we love it even the most assertive ones

    • @andrewevans6826
      @andrewevans6826 2 роки тому +1

      I need more experience but i fee likes its almost to late cause im 24 and dont have much at all lol

    • @tombarac8253
      @tombarac8253 8 місяців тому +2

      ​@@andrewevans6826 no. Many of guys don't and can't develop that before mid 20s to 30s. I would suggest spending less time with girls before you ripe. Just observe your inner process, observe other people's relationships and people in general. Women, how simple actually they are under all that acting.

    • @Pajune
      @Pajune 2 місяці тому +1

      Yet she didn't want to keep dating, or did you drop her off?

    • @Lionlovesunity
      @Lionlovesunity Місяць тому

      @@Pajune I moved across the country. Lol

  • @patricktyner9080
    @patricktyner9080 2 роки тому +102

    As a husband, who has been married for 36 years. I am working to change the dynamic of our relationship. And I think listening to your advice is making some other things clear, that maybe she has expressed but not as clearly. Will definitely watch more to arm myself to change places in me to be more attractive to her.

    • @matthewscott4629
      @matthewscott4629 Рік тому +3

      Check out Sterling Cooper

    • @davidkanalos6710
      @davidkanalos6710 9 місяців тому

      Have a three some she love it and has Fantasy is about it😊

    • @alwaysradical1613
      @alwaysradical1613 8 місяців тому

      Or a 4some. 1 for each hole

    • @johntorrington2672
      @johntorrington2672 4 місяці тому +2

      It's too late for that. Need to find another woman and start anew.

    • @KingPorter
      @KingPorter 4 місяці тому +1

      I wonder if this dude is divorced now. After 36yrs it's to late to apply any of this stuff. Just get a new woman if possible

  • @maddart4445
    @maddart4445 3 роки тому +101

    You are helping women understand themselves. We want to loved and desired. Thanks for helping men out.

    • @RR-et6zp
      @RR-et6zp Рік тому +5

      they biologically lack introspection

  • @akingspalace4050
    @akingspalace4050 3 роки тому +186

    So true on orders, it immediately sets the tone and makes the woman intense, almost as if she now has to live up to orders like a challenge for her. Not just to do it, but do it good.

    • @akingspalace4050
      @akingspalace4050 3 роки тому +3

      @WINDOWS MINUS yeah but I don't agree with him smacking females for no reason. Not sayin you can't smack them but he did it for no reason. But u right

    • @akingspalace4050
      @akingspalace4050 3 роки тому +6

      @WINDOWS MINUS lmfao true , they knew what they got into when they chose him. Thanks for reminding me. 💯

    • @TL-ki2rz
      @TL-ki2rz 3 роки тому

      Go Twins!!!

    • @akingspalace4050
      @akingspalace4050 3 роки тому

      @@TL-ki2rz Nah bro!

  • @pollopollo3531
    @pollopollo3531 Місяць тому +4

    This is the realist video from a woman I have ever seen. Nothing but respect here

  • @richardviramontes1133
    @richardviramontes1133 3 роки тому +67

    In the beginning of any intimate relationship, I believe we as men have the capabilities to heal women emotionally in the bedroom- she will recognize and be grateful for it and will reward you for your unselfishness thereafter.

    • @Jdb63
      @Jdb63 3 роки тому +5

      Can you go into more detail on this?

    • @dantedrowson2511
      @dantedrowson2511 3 роки тому +1

      I Completly agree.

    • @richardviramontes1133
      @richardviramontes1133 3 роки тому +14

      ​@@Jdb63
      Most if not all women have been either emotionally, physically or spiritually hurt or damaged by their previous unhealthy relationships either due to wrong choices or no fault of their own.

    • @MrElephantLevitation
      @MrElephantLevitation 3 роки тому +2

      @@richardviramontes1133 I agree these woman will most likely sleep with the first man to give her loving attention kind of like the rebound guy after a bad relationship

    • @sirmeurtrier6951
      @sirmeurtrier6951 3 роки тому +8

      Even a doctor can’t heal you, they just put you in the right environment. True healing comes from within.

  • @_flex5k
    @_flex5k 3 роки тому +222

    I recognise all of these aspects with how women have responded with me in the past. I find it hilarious that modern culture tells you the complete opposite to this - Rather than taming and understanding our primitive urges and the nature of our sexuality, people would rather shut it down or pretend it doesn't exist. It goes against our instincts, completely divides us or leads to lackluster relationships between both sexes.
    Never stop making these videos. You deliver this information is a very clear and concise way.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +11

      thanks Felix

    • @bigdadyyb143
      @bigdadyyb143 2 роки тому +1

      It's all in how you present it..

    • @powersportsenthusiast1986
      @powersportsenthusiast1986 10 місяців тому +7

      division seems to be the plan..

    • @melaniejean85
      @melaniejean85 9 місяців тому +3

      If we could get over the puritanical bs and educate our 12 yr. olds without being called groomers, about their own bodies, that sex is normal and how to communicate with each other...BUT NO!! Just teach them abstinence and all will be well, right? This particular site disgusted me. No mention of women with a high drive who lets you know what she likes and ask you the same. WTF?

    • @DeuceGenius
      @DeuceGenius 9 місяців тому +5

      One thing I learned in life. You mostly have to ignore what women say and know what she really needs.

  • @tiffanim547
    @tiffanim547 9 місяців тому +124

    45 year old female here, extremely connected and comfortable with my sexuality.. every item you described was spot on.

    • @ramitasdegardenia.9495
      @ramitasdegardenia.9495 9 місяців тому +2

      Hey, how did you get that? I think I have a lot of problems with it

    • @Pyrrhic537
      @Pyrrhic537 4 місяці тому

      ​@@ramitasdegardenia.9495Perhaps you feel shame at having sexual needs. Many women do. But your needs and desires are not sins.

    • @kweku144
      @kweku144 4 місяці тому +2

      Wow! Our beloved females are very complicated.

  • @Atlantico56
    @Atlantico56 3 роки тому +63

    She speaks like an academic for us understanding deeply like a woman.

  • @davidcoleman9317
    @davidcoleman9317 3 роки тому +369

    This girl is telling you guys nothing but truth here. I have been doing this to women for over 40 years and I have never had any problem getting women to do anything I want her to do. She is basically telling you guys to Be A Man. They love men when you just be A REAL MAN not a boy.

    • @screwston713SUC
      @screwston713SUC 3 роки тому +22

      jesus yall sounds creepy as hell

    • @thecurrentmoment
      @thecurrentmoment 3 роки тому +27

      It sounds creepy because this is how people who don't know what they're doing sound - they make up this huge elaborate situation that is very contrived, and it would come across like that in real life, probably. If you can pull it off, good for you, but it sounds very artificial and contrived. Not at all natural and authentic.
      But don't worry, everyone starts off naive and then as you get experience and you know what works and what doesn't, you will get confidence and it will be authentic confidence because you will KNOW what works, no guessing or speculating
      Part of your issue is thinking that increasing your chances of getting consent is a good thing, as though it would be a failure not to, and failure would be bad. Sounds like you need to develop more confidence in yourself, which honestly only comes from practice.
      Don't worry, I used to think like that too, when I was a virgin and inexperienced. I've found out that if a woman is attracted to me, then she is very receptive, I.e. the answer is nearly always yes to my suggestions. I used to think up scenarios like what you described, sort of, but at the end of the day this stuff is actually really simple. You can just ask her something or 'suggest' (sometimes non-verbally) that she do something, and if she is into you, she'll say yes. If you have to convince a woman to have sex with you then she isn't that into you. It doesn't sound like you're trying to convince a woman to have sex with you, just checking it's ok with her. But you make it sound really dramatic, like out of a movie.
      Here is a good but of advice: LIFE IS NOTHING LIKE THE MOVIES. If you ever feel like what you're thinking would fit in a movie scene DON'T DO IT! Movies are fantasy and mostly bear nothing in common with real life. Which is fine, because they are fantasy, that's what they are there for.
      What you're describing might actually work, depending on the mood you set, but it could also easily come off as creepy and controlling.
      You don't need to ask her "can I have sex with you?" that makes it sound like are you are asking your mum for some ice cream. Maybe a better way to ask (if you really feel you have to ask) is, "Do you want to have sex?" or "are you ready for sex?"
      This takes the pressure off her doing something for you and focuses on what she wants and how she feels. Realise that she is dying to have sex with you too, it's not just something that she is doing for you.
      Maybe that is why this comes across as creepy, you are trying to GET a certain outcome, not realising his much she wants that too. Sounds like you are thinking of her teasing you, but if you tease her she might be asking you for sex. Give her a hint of something she wants (like a kiss) and then take it away, leave her wanting more.
      You are probably focusing too much on the 'spectacle' or show of dominance, with the while kneeling thing. And the whole getting pre-approval for everything that you might want to do during sex sounds so contrived it makes me want to vomit.
      If you want to know if she is ok with something, you can just ask her in the moment, "do you mind if I do this?" "Do you like ____?" and if you're going to spank her or something you can tell her to let you know if/when it is too hard. It is amazing what most women can take, almost to the point of hurting them (which you don't want to do).
      You can also let her know that she doesn't have to do anything uncomfortable and to let you know if she doesn't like something, is uncomfortable or in pain, etc. Sometimes it's hard to know if she is moaning from pain, pleasure or pleasurable pain, you want to make sure she is comfortable letting you know what she likes and doesn't like.
      You need to be paying attention to her the whole time, this is why asking her can be a bit over the top. You should be able to figure it out. If you are unsure, just ask her.
      Of course you don't need to all the crazy stuff in the first time. You can try new and more adventurous stuff as you get to know each other better and are more comfortable with each other. You aren't going to live out your wildest fantasies in the first date (well you might, but don't count on it). Good sex comes from an understanding, which is usually built up over time.
      Anyway, I hope that helps you understand why your suggestion sounds creepy to some people and was of value to you

    • @screwston713SUC
      @screwston713SUC 3 роки тому +14

      @@youtubedeletedmyrapmusicch2682 Sorry didnt man to come off as a dick by saying you sound creepy. What Dale said is spot on. Getting women to do whatever you want is not an accomplishment, doing something you both want to do is really the key. Manipulating a women in to doing what you want is in my opinion, creepy.

    • @birdbig1
      @birdbig1 3 роки тому

      @@thecurrentmoment Who are you talking to? "They" "your" wow

    • @FoxyBoxery
      @FoxyBoxery 3 роки тому

      @@thecurrentmoment
      I want to ask a question. I have gotten casual sex plenty of times, but not a single time have I been able to get an actual girlfriend.
      How do you get a girlfriend, not just a one night stands?

  • @DELTA_77805
    @DELTA_77805 3 роки тому +31

    *You're videos are very powerful. I'm so sick of dating coach BS. You tell it like it is ... this is So helpful in understanding the female mindset!!!*

  • @Big_Bamboozle
    @Big_Bamboozle 3 роки тому +221

    No makeup on she is naturally beautiful

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +19

      Thank you Jahmeal!

    • @Hombre_Astuto
      @Hombre_Astuto 3 роки тому +30

      It’s something about a woman that doesn’t try to be beautiful. No weaves no makeup no fake finger nails. It’s communicates something.

    • @misterrea861
      @misterrea861 3 роки тому +35

      Yes she's naturally beautiful, but the sexiest thing about her is her intelligence and directness. This video is a gift to the world.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +11

      @@misterrea861 Thank you Mister Rea

    • @alejodurancardona8490
      @alejodurancardona8490 3 роки тому +7

      I was about to make the same comment really, she doesn't really need makeup to be a ten! And she is intelligent and genuine. Very few girls are like that.

  • @ShipreckGames
    @ShipreckGames 3 роки тому +86

    Women crave masculine men, today's men are broken. I've watch a few of your videos and they've been very interesting to think about. I grew up without a masculine role modal. spent most of my 20s very lost and broken. 0 confidence in myself. I've only had 1 relationship that lasted 6 months and it ended in disaster. Been stumbling through life trying to figure myself out. I've practically have given up on dating and trying to attract a women that would be compatible and good for me. Just focused on myself for right now and relearning to embrace my masculinity. I now live alone, with barely any friends or family to rely on. Solitude has been hard, but a rewarding experience.
    Society is an asylum. One that is best for men to walk away from completely when it no longer serves the best interest of its men. To then I say make something new, which in turn women will eventually follow.
    Become the master of your own destiny men, no man, and especially no women, will help you in this path.
    The man walks alone, and in this solitude path, he finds himself, his true masculine power. With out giving a single flying fuck about everyone else.
    He rises to the universes challenges, which is his only friend and ally.
    Women are attracted to the idea of a man, not the man himself.
    Wake up everyday ready to fuck the world, literally take your raw masculine sexual energy and fuck the world with it. Create and build a better future and society with this energy that you are so afraid of. Instead of wasting it on porn, masturbation, and worthless women.
    You are already enough, the ego can cloud your vision.
    Never settle for less then what you are deserving of.
    Be strong and dangerous. Be smart and resilient.
    Above all else, never, ever....give up on yourself.
    (lol thank you for coming to my TedTalk)

    • @namename3139
      @namename3139 3 роки тому +1

      I domt have anyone either, just me

    • @BreezeeGreenz
      @BreezeeGreenz 2 роки тому +4

      Well said, my friend.

    • @WhyDidIEvenBother602
      @WhyDidIEvenBother602 2 роки тому +4

      I love it man.
      I've become ready to challenge the world. I'm realising woman's attraction is just a by product of that. LETS FUCKING TACKLE THE WORLD. (24yr old)

    • @bladelazoe
      @bladelazoe 2 роки тому +2

      Smart and dangerous is a unique combo. Iv tried telling others my thoughts on dominating the world. Iv openly joked about owning everything the world has to offer but at the same time…I couldn’t have a better dream. I’ll rise to the top and show the world how it’s down. Even if it’s only in one industry.

    • @TeamProU
      @TeamProU Рік тому

      Wow that was amazing. Thank you. Saving this!

  • @Thrizzle-eo2gs
    @Thrizzle-eo2gs 9 місяців тому +58

    Guy: slaps girlfriend
    Gf: why did you do that :(
    Guy: I Rose To The Challenge 😏
    Police: 911 what’s your emergency ?

    • @dub1951
      @dub1951 Місяць тому +6

      😂 Exactly we're not fkn snow leopards

  • @otooj2314
    @otooj2314 3 роки тому +97

    crazy how youtube started putting out your "raw attractive power that all men have" video and your channel kinda blew up. I'm 21 and I literally started binging on all your videos, they're so personable/relatable. It's really cool hearing the perspective of a woman on a topics that aren't talked about enough. Keep up the good work!

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +7

      Thanks John for watching, your perspective and encouragement and yea the fact that that video blew up is very very wild to me

    • @quammutenauqed6511
      @quammutenauqed6511 3 роки тому +2

      @@mynonleatherlife agree.

    • @prometheus9443
      @prometheus9443 3 роки тому

      You didn't LITERALLY binge on her videos.

    • @johnpgabriel5935
      @johnpgabriel5935 3 роки тому

      @@prometheus9443ok do it

    • @prometheus9443
      @prometheus9443 3 роки тому

      @@johnpgabriel5935 Do what, stupid?

  • @xsoimmaculate3135
    @xsoimmaculate3135 3 роки тому +46

    Keep spreading that Gospel so many men need to hear this especially coming from a women’s perspective it doesn’t challenge their masculinity it’s able to be absorbed without resistance

  • @njohnwagner
    @njohnwagner Місяць тому +4

    Never shorten your videos to please anyone. The longer, the better.

  • @kicklux280
    @kicklux280 3 роки тому +360

    This women is killing it Bro she everywhere LOL

    • @vnusfmtv
      @vnusfmtv 3 роки тому +36

      The fact that she puts what she says in the vid into the description too... she’s a real one ☝🏾

    • @thorthegodofthunder6694
      @thorthegodofthunder6694 3 роки тому +4

      😂

    • @AutomationDnD
      @AutomationDnD 3 роки тому +7

      LOVE Victoria
      We need a LOT more of her speaking up

    • @tell-it7649
      @tell-it7649 3 роки тому +3

      @@vnusfmtv rigggggghhhhhhhhtttttt like damn she's good

    • @barrymcmahon4517
      @barrymcmahon4517 3 роки тому

      It’s that amazing outgoing personality that does it for me! Or maybe it’s the excitement in her voice or wait maybe it’s her gorgeous smile lol how the hell did I get here!!

  • @davideggleton5566
    @davideggleton5566 3 роки тому +23

    >>> Regarding your last point >>>
    I always remember one of my past girlfriends had a great definition of "intimacy = into me see". It's not all about the physical, but all about the deep connection -- physical, emotional, intellectual and even spiritual
    I'm always looking to improve as a masculine lover. I don't consider myself kinky, but open minded and a giver. I get genuine pleasure and satisfaction from creating the best experience I can for women -- it goes both ways. So if a woman craves or desires something in particular, I'm very interested in learning how to give her exactly that. When I see and feel a woman's intense pleasure, that turns me on -- it's empathy :)

  • @darrelray4673
    @darrelray4673 9 місяців тому +106

    I am a 70+ year old male. I've had 70 plus partners in my life. I would say that everything Victoria says here is accurate. The primal is powerful. No two women are exactly alike, so if you find the combination that works for a woman, work with it. Most men are far too timid. Women DO NOT like timid. They like strong, powerful, and direct. I realize it is hard because our culture had vilified this kind of masculine power but it is what most women crave. The first time I looked a woman directly in the eyes while pulling a handful of her hair, I felt her massive erotic response. That was the day I knew the secret to her. She was putty in my hands after that. It was almost scary how docile and submissive she became. Much later she told me, that was all she wanted was a man to take charge and mean it. To be in control and yet, at the same time, she felt safe to release her own control and be a full woman. This is hard for many men and it is not easy to fake, women can sense hesitancy or timidity. For me, it is the essence of male self control. I know my power, yet I use it judiciously in a way that makes her know that she is both safe but dominated. Thanks, Victoria, this is powerful information. At the same time, I honestly don't think many men have the self-discipline, and self-awareness to do what you are suggesting. I suspect that 50% of men could learn to do this but the other 50% simply don't have it in them to assert their power convincingly - an iron fist inside a velvet glove.

    • @andevipertraderpfeiffer8787
      @andevipertraderpfeiffer8787 8 місяців тому +8

      Excellent commentary very well stated I could not agree more based on my experience

    • @mariuschirita187
      @mariuschirita187 8 місяців тому +2

      you amature. wither she likes it or not, by law the female can press charges for such silly game. its a great money maker for the current legal system unless laws are changed. till then many females will just have to go without such privileged treatment.

    • @nitswaa1935
      @nitswaa1935 8 місяців тому +3

      I am fairly young and just getting into things, but I was lucky enough to find a much more experienced partner who was patient (and self-aware) and taught me to do these things she liked and to have the confidence to make it work so to speak, and I believe I've had that moment of 'the massive erotic response' you mention. At the very least, things got very wet... The problem is, the moment I did, I felt truly disgusted. Not by the physical aspect of the response, mind you, haha. I couldn't really tell if it was with myself or with her or what, exactly, but... even when I've tried to frame it as '"this makes her happy, this is what she wants and has asked for", it just honestly hurts my heart? my soul? to perform. And then on top of that seeing how empty they become when trying to 'give back'.
      I've had other partners since then, and it's been much the same. The worst is when they act like they want what I want to give them (presumably because that's what they've been told to want to want or whatever), but actually don't, I can clearly tell, and then they fold immediately as soon as I pull on the 'machismo' and repress myself to be 'in control'. I can't seem to derive any personal joy from it; I'm willing to do it because I want to see my partner happy but it is so utterly unsatisfying to me that I soon stop initiating. I think part of it is the issue that I've always seen leadership as a form of sacrifice, not reward... but I am constantly led away from what I want to give. into 'selfishness'. expect it doesn't even feel like selfishness, because I don't WANT to constantly be in control... she's the one who wants that!? It feels like they only want the mask and not the reality. Perhaps I do too, and they are similarly unwilling to put it up. Or even more unwilling, in this cases of those I've met.
      I guess I don't really know what I'm asking but maybe these words mean something to you... if you have any advice. I'm consistently losing interest in pursuing...

    • @stephanerone
      @stephanerone 8 місяців тому +1

      @@nitswaa1935 Having a long term relationship with the same partner enables me to be closer to myself. My partner and I can have several different attitudes. So it gives space and air to the dilemas you express. I felt like what you talk about when I had mostly one night stands / very short relations.
      But long term generates other dangers. Complicated / subtile topic

    • @daviddimbleby6725
      @daviddimbleby6725 8 місяців тому +1

      70 partners , who are you man Hugh heffner , some good points made , you either have it or you don't, lots of women will settle for a sweetheart and crave the manly man in her secret life lol

  • @juanfigueroa-serville2465
    @juanfigueroa-serville2465 3 роки тому +110

    At times, after we get a woman, we can become complacent and “lazy” as men and forget what we did at first to excite her to wanting to be with us. I needed to hear this and be reminded. Im grateful for the advice and I just subscribed.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +10

      Thanks Juan for your comment and thanks for subscribing

  • @sleepysleepy9913
    @sleepysleepy9913 3 роки тому +95

    If you get negative comments that's baffling to me. You have the most organic, legit, and helpful. It's not a bunch of fluff like the other channels so it really resonates. Each time I watch a video I feel like a sexy super human for the rest of the day

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +18

      incredible! that makes me so happy and inspired, thank u

    • @Timithos
      @Timithos 3 роки тому

      I'm not seeing but maybe one negative comment that was left up. It looks like everything is being censored/deleted to control the narrative.

    • @area51sea
      @area51sea 3 роки тому +1

      Wow you have made every relationship/sex advice pick up whatever seem fake as fuck, you give real advice

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +4

      @@Timithos they're mostly on some other videos where I was telling guys some more in your face stuff about what they're doing wrong. Trust me I get a lot. I did recently start blocking some people cause it was just getting to me too much and making me depressed. I got everything and anything you can think of about my looks, rating, delivery, personality, content, face, body etc..I've heard it now. Which I think has been very good experience in a way but also at times it's just too intense like getting kicked in the stomach over and over.

    • @marcmays48
      @marcmays48 3 роки тому

      @@mynonleatherlife Do not pay attention to the idiots serving up the Hater-ade. There are plenty of them out there. Your advice is solid platinum, and I know it will help me tremendously. Keep going girl, you are a treasure!

  • @stefanblue660
    @stefanblue660 9 днів тому +1

    This is the deepest, truthful description of female sexuality I saw on UA-cam. If you ever saw a woman crying during sex because of feeling being touched or having the best sex of her life, you will never forget it.

  • @knight2003w
    @knight2003w 3 роки тому +20

    This is great knowledge for men to understand. Men just have to remain respectful about it.

  • @coastcity7029
    @coastcity7029 3 роки тому +19

    I had a gf in college who taught me how women playfully challenge you or be aggressive with you as an invitation to "play the game". It's a double-edged sword because these games sometimes come-off as a direct challenge to a man's ego. Occassionally women take it too far, esp if they're under the influence. The challenge for men is maintaining control over your emotions and the situation as a whole in those moments.
    I had a women who liked playing lots of these games say something to me on a date the other night that I found offensive. Rather than let it rile me up, I got up, went to the bar and had a shot, then went to the restroom as a way to create some distance between us. When I got back to the table, she was all over me again. I hadn't let that moment where she crossed the line get the better of me or our evening.

    • @cordariusniter5735
      @cordariusniter5735 3 роки тому +1

      Have fun with it.
      Ex. The girl tell me to be quiet
      I tell her to say another word
      She says something
      I tell her that right you better said something
      You win either way. She don’t say anything you win but if she say something you win.

    • @ghfjfghjasdfasdf
      @ghfjfghjasdfasdf 3 роки тому +9

      They’re called shit tests, dude.

    • @RR-et6zp
      @RR-et6zp Рік тому +3

      its frame testing

    • @dudeinoakland
      @dudeinoakland 8 місяців тому +1

      The games women play are _not_ fun at all.

  • @StevenBradley-sq6kg
    @StevenBradley-sq6kg 3 роки тому +9

    I worship this womans honesty.

  • @robnelson6545
    @robnelson6545 3 роки тому +21

    Here’s guys list: 1) physically fit 2) cares about self 3) cares about you 4) shared values 5) respects what a guy has to do. If a woman wants a guy to commit to her then she can’t make it all about this testing. It’s fine if it is limited, but if she’s constantly testing him, he isn’t going to have time or energy left to compete out in the world. He knows this and has to decide how much he likes a girl vs how much this is going to cost him. Largely she has to get behind him, men can’t afford to be tied to someone trying to rip them down not only to test them but out of malice I get what you are saying, but I think it can be taken too far.

    • @dantedrowson2511
      @dantedrowson2511 3 роки тому +9

      As a lady here I agree, dear. And I believe girls need to decide or understand what they want. So the men involved with them dont have to stress or be confused with the vague or missed "signals".
      Communication needs to be honest, women need to stop being so sensative/offended and men need to not take things as personally; to be able to speak straightforward without fear; more matter of fact.

    • @ghfjfghjasdfasdf
      @ghfjfghjasdfasdf 3 роки тому +6

      Shit tests are for the birds.

    • @robnelson6545
      @robnelson6545 3 роки тому +2

      @@ghfjfghjasdfasdf yeah, it seems like more than a few people use this as justification for their bad behavior. It sure would be nice though to speak to the thought behind the bad behavior rather than the bad behavior itself. However, speaking to this triggers nihilism often where people keep expecting more and more in a way because they want to think everything is hopeless. I’d say the answer to this is to call them out on it and tell them they are setting themselves up for a lot of pain if they have such high standards in life that nothing can satisfy them. This takes the fear out of it and you begin to have compassion on them.

    • @ibelieveinsomething3895
      @ibelieveinsomething3895 3 роки тому +2

      I was wondering where is the guy with list so I don't watch 20 mins hahaha There he is! Thx!!!

    • @un0RRS
      @un0RRS 3 роки тому +2

      She's not talking about daily shit tests, she's talking about being a brat in the bedroom. It's a dom/sub thing. She acts like a brat when she wants daddy to punish her.

  • @sschario60
    @sschario60 3 роки тому +92

    This is not color-by-numbers art, gentlemen. There are degrees and nuances. Just like not every woman is going respond identically; not every guy is ready to implement these valuable suggestions. Don't dwell on the comments, Victoria. This was a wonderful video. We both thank you.

  • @shinzoruck7050
    @shinzoruck7050 9 місяців тому +13

    As a husband married for 23 years - these seem common sense if you pay attention to your spouses needs vs. wants.

  • @mauispurs
    @mauispurs 3 роки тому +140

    Don’t get down your helping so many people!!!
    You would get bad comments (trolled) if gave them Gold.
    Remember their all wankers
    Well done girl you got this!!!

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +31

      Thanks Chas that really means a lot, I will remember your words of wisdom when I need to

    • @Sammie_E_Tellem
      @Sammie_E_Tellem 3 роки тому +8

      @@mynonleatherlife i can tell you are very spiritual. God's gift. When you mentioned a woman crying during sex, I know what you mean. It is a deep releasing cry of so many emotions!!!

    • @maddart4445
      @maddart4445 3 роки тому +3

      @@Sammie_E_Tellem I’ve cried during sex with my last boyfriend. He was really hard to break up with.

    • @OldSchoolStrength
      @OldSchoolStrength 3 роки тому

      @@maddart4445 🤣😂

  • @Raymond-rr5iv
    @Raymond-rr5iv 3 роки тому +30

    "Rising to her challenge" is one of my favorites. So much fun to satisfy. I get excited when I feel something is in play. Seducing her mentally and unexpectedly to what gives pleasure is a sure fire turn on. When she over enjoys getting exactly what she wants and preferably more .... or something unexpectedly new on the menu that surprises and rewards her sense of adventure !!♡!!
    Love your program Victoria.
    Your questions and proposals are intriguing stimulating thought and memories in a way where I can identify having gone through that kind of experience and I relook and think yes or what if. I kind of fall into a zone thinking about it especially when I'm tuned.
    The Jefferson Airplane said "life is change... that's how it differs from the rocks"
    Thanks !!♡!!
    And yes the closest experience is when she cries and just about everything else when she let's go with all she's got. And it can happened in one night and she would leave a 5 year going to be married to boyfriend. Some experiences are life changing . And if you really want it Nature can bring you and her there. God bless it all its so beautiful and I'm so happy.

  • @shadieossei4336
    @shadieossei4336 Рік тому +12

    This is amazing! A woman who taught me new things I never knew before in the bedroom! Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @alancrandall3863
    @alancrandall3863 3 роки тому +12

    Guys, this is primal. Take charge. Be her man. Treat her like your woman. Especially in bed.
    Never let her push you around. She must always know you will walk away if she doesn’t act right.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +3

      I agree with the first part for the most part, but the second part I feel is a bit more nuanced personally. I feel like if u do the first part the second part won’t be much of a problem and u can talk things out in a mature way but deep down u want to not let anyone push u around I agree

  • @HosseinMeeks
    @HosseinMeeks 3 роки тому +56

    this is great content Victoria, a lot of us guys don't get real authentic perspectives from women about sex and dating almost anywhere so i really appreciate what you're doing keep it up.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +3

      Thanks a lot Hossein, any other topic you would be especially interested in?

    • @OyePapaJi
      @OyePapaJi 3 роки тому +1

      @@mynonleatherlife I really want to ask this, If women like these things, why they consider it a taboo in their daily life. Being aggressive,qnd more masculine and things like that. Being Aggressive is called toxic masculinity. This is a genuine question.

    • @Greenrivers14
      @Greenrivers14 3 роки тому +2

      @@OyePapaJi Being too aggressive and unable to communicate properly is a turn off. Being able to express yourself without being rude is an art and being confident in your decisions and knowing exactly what you want is a turn on.

    • @OyePapaJi
      @OyePapaJi 3 роки тому +1

      @@Greenrivers14 thank you

  • @simpagomina8898
    @simpagomina8898 3 місяці тому +1

    I don't like the things you say
    They make me angry and i borderline hate them but they make sense and i know one day I'll appreciate them. Thank you for spreading this knowledge and never be discouraged by people struggling to accept what you have to say

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 місяці тому

      Ok well a lot of people misinterpret what I say so be careful about that. Come to a live I do sometime and ask ur questions and see if u still hate it

  • @SexySimon69
    @SexySimon69 3 роки тому +12

    Hi Victoria,
    I’m 20 years old and found your videos a few months ago. It doesn’t seem this way in the comments, but your videos make perfect sense to me. I’ve seen positive responses in women to my primal behavior before, but I was too young and stupid to figure it out. As I get older, primal instincts and testosterone are starting to take over my young brain and it makes more and more sense every day. I have kinks of my own and was too afraid to let them enhance my sex life, but now I feel confident in my ability to do so. Thank you and keep up the good content.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +2

      sam that makes me soo happy to read. I'm so glad especially u feel confident in ur ability to explore ur kinks. Ur going to make someone very happy that u let it out. Any other topics u are interested in or would want a female perspective on?

    • @SexySimon69
      @SexySimon69 3 роки тому +1

      @@mynonleatherlife How to verbally seduce/wordplay and dirty talk 101. Sometimes it’s hard to say exactly what I want from a woman and paint pictures in her head of what I want to do to her without fear of judgment/rejection. think lack of confidence has something to do with it.

  • @valerietuckler8571
    @valerietuckler8571 2 роки тому +18

    Hey! I'm a girl and found your video by accident, but I find that your advice is very true, I'm gay and I have more masculine energy in me than I ever wanted to accept, so, I have been rethinking my behavior, ideas and everything and found that as I get more assertive and commanding women tend to respect me more and some girls even flirted with me, which gave me the courage to ask for this girl's number before even knowing if she was into me or not, I just went and did it and she BECAME excited about spending time with me because I would initiate everything and organize everything for her. All of this, of course, after accepting that I may not be classically femenine or like being submissive.

  • @judsonmontemagno
    @judsonmontemagno 3 роки тому +16

    I truly appreciate this channel. Its a go to for any friend of mine that needs some guidance.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +4

      thank you Judson and thanks a lot for recommending it to your friends too

  • @jerrywphillips
    @jerrywphillips 4 місяці тому +3

    This woman is extremely knowledgeable and spot on! Being upfront and talking about these kinds of things with your partner BEFORE you do them is critical. Sometimes in the middle of a "session", I will even lightly remind my partner that this is play and not real. I want my partner to always know that I love and respect her mind, body, and all her amazing talents but ultimately this is about role play and really getting into a fantasy. I try to pay close attention to what really strikes a chord with my lover and then I go with it in real time. It's sort of like being a conductor of a symphony. I want to discover my lover's wildest fantasies and play them out with her as long as it is done safely and in the spirit of love. Last but not least I focus on bringing my lover intense pleasure and joy, and without fail, it comes back to me tenfold!!!

  • @brett6048
    @brett6048 3 роки тому +20

    Hey Victoria, great video! I really like your relaxed, empathetic, raw and honest communication. You make your ego take a back seat and speak from presence without fear of being judged, because you are coming from a place of honesty and true respect. Do you know how FEW people can do that? Even for a brief moment, let alone 18 min video. For that, you have my respect, appreciation and admiration. Well done, girl. On a side note, if you have never read any of the books (or Audio books) by Eckhart Tolle, can I strongly suggest you do... Start with "The Power of Now" (it's long but we'll worth it) and if you want to continue, "A new Earth" next.
    Peace, Love and Respect

    • @serenityinside1
      @serenityinside1 8 місяців тому +2

      Victoria please avoid the books by the overhyped and promoted fool Tolle. !! 🤨

  • @alphashark9766
    @alphashark9766 2 роки тому +15

    6. Taking care of things or the power of I gut this
    7. Cute names
    8. Objectifying her body
    9 exploring her fantasies
    10 empathy

  • @shiskeyoffles
    @shiskeyoffles 3 роки тому +6

    I think I should stop regretting all the times I've messed up in the past and learn the right knowledge from people like you and grow...

  • @JG-vj7lm
    @JG-vj7lm Рік тому +22

    We must protect this woman at all costs.

  • @mr.objective6936
    @mr.objective6936 3 роки тому +7

    You’re the most honest and helpful woman I have ever known.
    Thank you.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +5

      wow wow thank you

    • @meenki347
      @meenki347 2 роки тому

      Dear@@mynonleatherlife,
      I stumbled upon your videos about a year ago. I'm an old man, twice married and twice separated and have 2 kids. My son, whose almost 30 is a self made $millionaire and now pays both my and his mom's rent. So, not so bad as a father. I took him every other weekend and honestly, we agree on everything 90% and we both have the same hobbies. So, we're basically bestfriends. However, I was raised by a single mother uber feminist. And I was a total simp. But after watching your videos, I understand what I did wrong with my wives and many other chicks. But adopting your general advice I now have a FWB, who does exactly what I tell her to do sexually. She's now a sexual fantasy come true. But she must leave in the morning. And I can now see that I'm also her sexual fantasy come true. All I can say to you is a huge Thanks and I ♥️ you!

  • @siobhanrachel2969
    @siobhanrachel2969 3 роки тому +51

    This girl knows what she's talking abt 💯🔥

    • @Nicholes-Dad
      @Nicholes-Dad 3 роки тому +4

      Glad to see a female weigh in on this.

  • @jasonnowland5652
    @jasonnowland5652 3 дні тому

    Good stuff. Men being confident, masculine leaders in the bedroom is the game!

  • @zonker-TM
    @zonker-TM 3 роки тому +5

    Your man is extremely lucky.
    Not only are you beautiful, but you care enough to let him know how to be a better man, and lover...
    And you help other men to be, by sharing your insights with the world!
    I'm 57, and have been not just a world traveler, but been worldly all my life... I can affirm that your advice is right on target!
    Thanks for another great video!

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +4

      thank you Scott! Anything you would add from your world travels and life experiences?

    • @zonker-TM
      @zonker-TM 3 роки тому +3

      @@mynonleatherlife, you're very welcome, Sweetheart.
      Add? If anything, I would add that once you've established, and make it a habit of utilizing your wonderful techniques...that showing you can be playful, with a sense of humor, while still being steamy is attractive, is contagious...and makes your partner look forward to a repeat performance.
      Lastly...or maybe it should be firstly...I think that a.) a man should be skillful at, and enjoy foreplay...which leads to b.) as a woman often takes longer to be satiated than a man...he should always see to her desires, and not just his own.
      Not 100% sure that's what you're looking for...but, as a man I can tell you that one of the sexiest things to ME, is when a woman tells me what SHE likes! That's heaven!
      Thanks for asking...I look forward to your opinion. 🌹

  • @JB-op4ty
    @JB-op4ty 3 роки тому +16

    In my experience, as these things unfold organically, in what passes for relationships these days it can be like a series of vignettes, like nine and a half weeks. What is truly inspirational about your channel, and very satisfying, is that what is left unspoken (just as much as a magic spell requires an unbroken stream of actions) in these situations is being revealed by you, and at a certain level that's very validating. And pleasing.
    I find your channel to be an incredible resource for tons of younger guys that, due to the nature of our times are living in the most atomized state that our culture has ever seen and we cannot comprehend the vastness of the benefit to society.
    xxo

  • @zanitzeuken
    @zanitzeuken 8 місяців тому +7

    For number 5, "rise to her challenge", another frame of mind for a male is this: she wants you to play her game. It's sort of like being a kid again when you wanted an adult to play along with you, like wrestling, building forts, plastic army men battles. Do you remember feeling rejected when they said no? I think for some women, this is taking place. It really is a low stakes game for you as the male (play along) and high stakes game for her as the female (rejection). And if the game gets out of hand there's always #4, threat of dicipline...

  • @davidneilblanchard1807
    @davidneilblanchard1807 3 роки тому +21

    I was aimlessly doing these 10 things all along. Glad to know, for sure, I am doing it right and now I can keep aiming on!!!iii!!!

  • @JohnCola9393
    @JohnCola9393 3 роки тому +4

    Amazing video! I think I will slowly start using some of your ideas with my wife. You have such a deep understanding of the female psyche that I am floored! I don’t read all of the comments but realize that an a-hole is just an a-hole, they will not act differently. You are that female cougar. Shrug off the negative comments and be yourself! Key in on the positive and intelligent comments! As you rise the idiots will try to pull you down. But they cannot stop you from rising. The cream rises to the top and you were helping a lot of people. The momentum is with you! You go get them little darling !!!

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +3

      Thank you so much JohnCola your encouragement really means a lot and is very helpful to me

  • @Bill-qt3hs
    @Bill-qt3hs 9 місяців тому +2

    Incredibly courageous. You're restoring humanity. Very well constructed.

  • @13lood13ath
    @13lood13ath 3 роки тому +88

    Women: "Talk dirty to me."
    Men: "Says dirty things."
    Women: "Ugh, I didn't want you to use THOSE words!!"

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +13

      what words did they want??

    • @isaacmadhavan
      @isaacmadhavan 3 роки тому +4

      @@mynonleatherlife Exactly. Very curious about the particular language/phrasing that they wanted.

    • @thewolfofjerseyfx
      @thewolfofjerseyfx 3 роки тому +9

      They want to be called ,slut , bitch etc but keep that only in the bedroom . Women do not like to feel judged so Make sure you keep this in bedroom . I’m 20 years old letting you know this .

    • @isaacmadhavan
      @isaacmadhavan 3 роки тому +2

      @@thewolfofjerseyfx Oh, I knew that. But that's too generalized. I'm curious about the poster's specific instance. :)

    • @cchgn
      @cchgn 3 роки тому +9

      @@isaacmadhavan IMO, the women who say that will say, "Well I don't know, but not that! You should know!" My guess is that they watched porn when they were younger and got the idea that that would be hot, but in reality, when it actually happened, they hated it.

  • @winston1359
    @winston1359 3 роки тому +21

    Your doing so much more good than you could ever imagine! There’s always going to be the negative group...got to ignore these guys. Been married for 16 years and your channel is helping tremendously! Thank you so much for everything you do.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +5

      that makes so happy to hear...just wow. how is the advice helping?

    • @jrhawk
      @jrhawk 3 роки тому +2

      @@mynonleatherlife
      Affirmative feedback.
      Thanks again!

  • @douglaspage2398
    @douglaspage2398 4 місяці тому +32

    Every woman is different. And in my experience, most women won't tell you a thing about what they like, they somehow believe that you should be able to just know. In my opinion, the best partners are the ones who are just as willing to conduct the symphony as they are to be a part of it. That in my experience extremely rare, as is loyalty, commitment, and reciprocation these days.
    Funny thing is, I haven't had a woman ask me what I like, what turns me on, or off, since the 1980s. Since then it seems that all woman care about is what you can do for them. I just stopped dating after I turned 50, In long term relationships they have been too quick to cheat, take advantage, or try to control like a narcissist, and FWBs are just either lousy friends or selfish lovers.
    Happier now than I have ever been.
    Society now punishes the best behavior and rewards the worst.

    • @heraldo623
      @heraldo623 4 місяці тому

      That's because women have their sexuality supressed when they are yong. They really dont know what they like, that's why they expect the man to know because they are sexually free.
      Older woman has a lot more sexual awareness.

    • @Pajune
      @Pajune 2 місяці тому +2

      THIS! I never even thought about the fact I've never been asked what I like 😂😂😂

    • @sarahalderman3126
      @sarahalderman3126 Місяць тому

      Lol, yes this is what never marrying or even growing up will get you.😂

    • @douglaspage2398
      @douglaspage2398 Місяць тому +1

      @@sarahalderman3126 who says I never married? I was married for 4 years, served for four years in the USMCR, spent most of my life running crews of up to 20 men, and when I went back to school, carried a 4.0 GPA.
      I think you might be projecting a bit.

    • @sarahalderman3126
      @sarahalderman3126 Місяць тому

      @@douglaspage2398 not sure what you’re going for here… okay, good boy!🤣

  • @centurionstrengthfitness3671
    @centurionstrengthfitness3671 3 роки тому +33

    The vids keep getting better, Victoria. This was the best yet.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +3

      ok wow, that is great to hear, thanks. What did u think was better about this one?

    • @centurionstrengthfitness3671
      @centurionstrengthfitness3671 3 роки тому +2

      @@mynonleatherlife The list really resonated with my experience. It's a very strong list, and you covered each point enough to convey the essence of it. You could actually do deeper dives into each, but I'm not sure you need to.
      I also think your confidence is improving with each video. I'd love to see where you're at in a year or two. Guys are really digging your work already, but I expect your channel will grow a lot.
      Keep smashing it!

  • @agomez8131
    @agomez8131 3 роки тому +85

    Thank you so much, you have no idea. I’ve never heard a women talk so plainly.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +22

      Awesome thanks so much I am very flattered cause I really like plain speaking people too

    • @ola...o1009
      @ola...o1009 3 роки тому +10

      @@mynonleatherlife you truly want to help relationships succeed. Especially with all of the trending mgtow and low key gender wars going on.

    • @evitimirp
      @evitimirp 3 роки тому

      we welcome her with open arms but I think she may be a traitor to her kind :-). Although I do feel such good self awareness is like a progress of humanity.

    • @topenoel1931
      @topenoel1931 3 роки тому

      @@mynonleatherlife You r amazing. We love you.

    • @enigma9971
      @enigma9971 3 роки тому

      Speaking of plain

  • @JosephMcbeth
    @JosephMcbeth Місяць тому +2

    I loved the snow leopard analogy. It’s a test to see how strong the man is. Hence how strong his offspring is going to be.

  • @pouyanejati7068
    @pouyanejati7068 3 роки тому +21

    I hated dating advice specially online, months ago i found Dan Bacon, hes truly amazing and helped me a ton. He was real.
    You are the first woman i see who isnt afraid to be real. Thank you.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +7

      Wow I checked out Dan bacon... I was somewhat amazed, thanks for that rec

    • @pouyanejati7068
      @pouyanejati7068 3 роки тому +3

      @@mynonleatherlife told ya hes amazing! Keep up the amazing work 👍

  • @rocker199326
    @rocker199326 3 роки тому +14

    I have to say, you are spot on with these! Luckily I've done this since I was a lil buck!

  • @giovannicortes6731
    @giovannicortes6731 4 дні тому

    About time!! First time i ever hear an Alfa woman speak from the deepness of her passion. It looked and sounded like a "word orgasm". Thank you for sharing. I felt the frequency!

  • @Kenscialoia
    @Kenscialoia 3 роки тому +114

    To Bad "Feminism" and "Me 2" has killed most of your list.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +39

      the list lives on...

    • @massimo7219
      @massimo7219 3 роки тому +18

      @@mynonleatherlife it’s not worth catching a case or losing your job.

    • @Anar-hk5rv
      @Anar-hk5rv 3 роки тому +30

      Wtf? Theres a huge difference between sexual assault and what this woman was saying

    • @Timithos
      @Timithos 3 роки тому +23

      @@Anar-hk5rv No there is not. Not anymore. Western feminism has ended this. Congratulations.

    • @E_free90
      @E_free90 3 роки тому +3

      @@Anar-hk5rv a man gave a feminazi a compliment in a lift, and that was "sexual assault" or "rape" (and hebwas persecuted for it iirc); your definition of these words are outdated, you are living under a rock

  • @SilverNova111
    @SilverNova111 3 роки тому +34

    No matter what you tell some of these men . Some won’t listen and just want to come up with excuses n be a victim of the culture. Men in our time are broken and the only thing that will change them is going to be a event big enough to change their way of thinking.

    • @TSMPimpDaddyPain
      @TSMPimpDaddyPain 3 роки тому +9

      A youtube suggestion is all fine and dandy, unfortunately the law, society and culture tell men (with legal force) to act the exact opposite of this.

    • @user-jj4bv5yk5k
      @user-jj4bv5yk5k 3 роки тому +4

      @@TSMPimpDaddyPain Exactly! Legal force IS the thing that broke the whole equilibrium

    • @richardwilliamjohnson8566
      @richardwilliamjohnson8566 3 роки тому +7

      100%. The failure in our western culture is totally men's fault. We have failed to lead.

    • @x97s
      @x97s 3 роки тому

      @@richardwilliamjohnson8566 exactly..

    • @TSMPimpDaddyPain
      @TSMPimpDaddyPain 3 роки тому +3

      @@richardwilliamjohnson8566 No, the failure of western culture is the marxist feminist men that have infiltrated politics and implemented all of these anti-male, anti-family laws and customs over the past several decades. There is no way for a man to "lead" in the modern environment where the natural order of things doesn't even exist anymore and women wield all of the legal, social, and emotional power.

  • @chadwiley5201
    @chadwiley5201 3 роки тому +3

    Why can't all woman be this beautiful and have the same mentality I would never get bored of this one

  • @javierborda8684
    @javierborda8684 3 роки тому +20

    So true that she’s holding herself from showing us how incredibly excited she is about it. What a great girl.

  • @Feezwa
    @Feezwa 3 роки тому +28

    I haven't even noticed the video was almost 20 minutes.
    The points and themes presented were interesting and my attention got caught. Time flew ! And it felt good.
    Nicely done !

  • @feloniousmonk3049
    @feloniousmonk3049 8 місяців тому +4

    I've been pursuing women since I was 13. I've lost count of the lovers in my life, at 65, pretty sure its either just below or above triple digits now. This lady is probably 95% or more spot on with this. Men, there are so many actions and words that you feel like doing, or saying, that religion, laws, and the government say are wrong, immoral or illegal. It's a fine line, discuss it with your partner, be strong, firm and assertive like a male should be. However, always discuss beforehand with your partner, and have a "safe" word you both agree to, that for certain means "stop" not slow down, not proceed even when she shit tests you. Many times, women will say "no" and "no" means not right now, maybe in a few minutes, maybe in 20 minutes, maybe in an hour, maybe tomorrow morning if you're spending the night. But it doesn't mean "Never" So, discuss before hand what that "safe" word is. You need to make her feel safe, but by the same token, there needs to be communication when she needs to feel safe from your primal masculine darkest fantasies coming to life, exceeding her boundaries.

  • @andresingram3559
    @andresingram3559 3 роки тому +16

    watching your videos, as a man (21 years old) i began to understand my own dominant innate nature. I became red pill aware. read the rational male. and I must say your content is helpful like from 1 to 10..its a 10! so bany blue pilled crap from society, thanks for your insight and honestry. This is helping me as a young man

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +3

      very cool Andres, was there anything in particular u heard or read that made u start to feel that shift

    • @andresingram3559
      @andresingram3559 3 роки тому +2

      @@mynonleatherlife being completly honest in terms of Social Dynamics it was the Rational Male. In terms of Sexual Dynamics, it was you . I knew women had those preferences, but I never internalized it on me, " I am not like that" I had to take a step forward and say " What am I" and "Who am I?" and once I accepted my supressed nature (Supressed by social media, society etc..) I understood. The polarities are real...

    • @wilsonclaire3352
      @wilsonclaire3352 3 роки тому +1

      @@andresingram3559 Want to come over to my place? JK XD Glad you're finding this stuff out. As a girl I kinda had to remove my head from the ass of pc dating dynamics that it had been shoved up. I never looked back

    • @teller121
      @teller121 3 роки тому

      @@wilsonclaire3352 outstanding!

  • @mikeguitar9769
    @mikeguitar9769 3 роки тому +5

    Mind-blown as usual at your candid insights, empathy and helpfulness. Thanks

  • @phvalue323
    @phvalue323 3 роки тому +6

    You should do an entire video about number 10 on empathy in the bedroom and what that's like for you. I need more.

  • @noobie7719
    @noobie7719 3 роки тому +21

    WRITE A BOOK...PLEASE!!! ❤️ this is the ONLY video I’ve EVER watched twice!

  • @asdnetwork4268
    @asdnetwork4268 3 роки тому +11

    Pinning her hands down seems to do the trick.
    Also a light hand on the throat works too.
    That's also displaying the power that she described.
    That's for the reminder. I need to do this again on the wife to keep her mentally wanting more. Thanks

  • @wastelander3116
    @wastelander3116 8 місяців тому +1

    I'm so glad you took the time to let us in about this subject. It's more important than I bet you thought.

  • @vanessak7069
    @vanessak7069 3 роки тому +8

    I love that my man & I have a very equal relationship, same interests/age/intellectual level etc. But for the sexual dance a bit of dominance/power play feels nice because it gives you the feeling of being truly wanted in the moment and that's powerful

    • @johannesswillery7855
      @johannesswillery7855 3 роки тому +5

      She is right. Most women feel this way.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +5

      great to hear from u vanessa and get your POV. I totally agree the feeling of being wanted and desired is so powerful

  • @robertbarnum7541
    @robertbarnum7541 3 роки тому +20

    It takes true courage for a sensitive being to be openly truthful, to be the best of this planet: a very sensitive vulnerable woman.

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +4

      I appreciate that wonderful and memorable compliment a lot Robert

    • @robertbarnum7541
      @robertbarnum7541 3 роки тому +2

      @@mynonleatherlife Really exploring your deepest femaleness is a thing of beauty in itself.

    • @theseattlegreen1871
      @theseattlegreen1871 3 роки тому

      We don't live on a ball where every ocean is curving 8 inches per mile squared sorry to tell you this

    • @dk2614
      @dk2614 3 роки тому

      @@theseattlegreen1871 this is a hysterical comment. She's talking about the best realities of human relationships and sex and you are worried about what people believe about a flat earth.

    • @theseattlegreen1871
      @theseattlegreen1871 3 роки тому +1

      @@dk2614
      I'm so happy to make you laugh. You're welcome

  • @kurt2800
    @kurt2800 День тому

    I like and appreciate your suggestions on what a woman wants and needs. Thank you, a bunch will definitely give these a try

  • @StannisHarlock
    @StannisHarlock 3 роки тому +7

    You've got a calming voice.
    I know what channel to go to when I'm angry.

  • @ericstaples7220
    @ericstaples7220 3 роки тому +48

    She's articulated it so well.

  • @younggrasshopper3531
    @younggrasshopper3531 3 роки тому +5

    Hi Victoria in response to your opening disclaimer I 100% intend to treat my future dates and wife and children as well as I can, and use your power for good. God is good to me so I delight in His ways and love His righteousness.
    Thank you for your help! I love how you include summaries in your descriptions for a concise read. You rock!

  • @goodboyconformist
    @goodboyconformist 3 роки тому +15

    Thank you. Your info is really putting things into perspective and helping hone a deeper experience. I am dating a woman online, and it is already so unusual, so the context and explaining has shed some serious and playful light on many things that have already arisen.
    Her response has obviously been very noticeable, and the vulnerability and progression are expanding.
    :) Keep up the great work~~!!!

    • @mynonleatherlife
      @mynonleatherlife  3 роки тому +2

      could we get an example of something that has arisen, so curious now...and thanks 🙏🏼

    • @goodboyconformist
      @goodboyconformist 3 роки тому +2

      @@mynonleatherlife *She has said that she wants to be commanded, outright!
      *Pet names and erotic poetry, taking her deeper.
      *Ordering her to fulfil promise, the taking of sensual photography. (Great pictures, by the way!!! :) )
      *Not rising to her challenge = not getting what i am asking (Bring out your sex toys)!
      *Not quite following through fully with her emotions, has created subtle and yet tangible kinks in the sexual flow.
      So many subtle things that would usually fly under the radar unnoticed, can now find new light of awareness and be explored to the fullest!

    • @goodboyconformist
      @goodboyconformist 3 роки тому +1

      @@mynonleatherlife With knowing how to adjust, with the info you "lay out" so clearly ( ;) ), things are moving forward in wonderful ways. Discipline, watching her open her emotions and having such endless patience with her timing and being able to adjust for trust... it is all just so amazing. All of this over online communication, and we haven't met physically yet!
      Potent and so clear.
      Between yours and Coach Corey Wayne's work, this is assisting me in deep and marvellous ways!!!
      Thanks-a Billion.

  • @Brookzplayzmuzic
    @Brookzplayzmuzic 3 роки тому +135

    While this is informative. I think I'd rather spend my time making sure all my guitars are in tune and taken care of.🤣🤣

    • @davidqheffner
      @davidqheffner 3 роки тому +21

      Dude, if you're a good guitar player I think that'd be enough to woo women.

    • @noobie7719
      @noobie7719 3 роки тому +7

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 can you SING though?? 👍

    • @brianhyland4140
      @brianhyland4140 3 роки тому +3

      Guitars tuned, what pedal /amp will I buy next🎼🎸

    • @Mr._Knight_138
      @Mr._Knight_138 3 роки тому +1

      @@davidqheffner Bassist here. You are right!!!!!

    • @upchuck6969f
      @upchuck6969f 3 роки тому +1

      Ha swap guitars for motorcycles

  • @My_oh_face
    @My_oh_face 2 місяці тому +6

    “I don’t chase no woman, I’m out” 😂😂

  • @chasing_dragons
    @chasing_dragons 3 роки тому +7

    Remember guys, before any of this, the "raw power" to get out of the Friend Zone FIRST.

  • @oscareduardo5411
    @oscareduardo5411 3 роки тому +4

    An honest woman goes a looooooong way! 💙💙💙

  • @jeffhiggins808
    @jeffhiggins808 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for being so real and honest about this subject. You have confirmed for me some things I already knew and some things I only suspected. Solid gold.

  • @ivandiaz3372
    @ivandiaz3372 3 роки тому +8

    Ovation, her own motivation👏 keep up the great work! Its, a fresh perspective into the female psyche.

  • @1StepForwardToday
    @1StepForwardToday 3 роки тому +163

    It's really difficult to hear with such low volume recording. I'd recommend a lapel clip on mic, or larger external mic for your videos.

    • @macleoddj
      @macleoddj 3 роки тому +22

      Thanks for mentioning this. The volume was very low.

    • @bannedmann4469
      @bannedmann4469 3 роки тому +2

      I'd say speaking up in general, but it might be hard for a sub. So maybe the ASMR route of getting stupidly close to the mic.

    • @hornplayz8968
      @hornplayz8968 3 роки тому +6

      I can hear it fine on half volume

    • @1StepForwardToday
      @1StepForwardToday 3 роки тому +6

      @@hornplayz8968
      On my phone I can hear 99% of UA-cam videos perfectly fine. But, her videos are always difficult to hear on my android. This video, even moreso.

    • @blazingblazers14
      @blazingblazers14 3 роки тому +4

      Turning on captions helps