Hey Victoria, I don't think u realize how truly impactful this content really is to straight guys like me. Like really, THANK YOU. Way better than those fake alpha male videos. You speak facts with no bs even though it might require you to be vulnerable. I truly think this channel will be way bigger than what it is right now. Hope the best for you and your fam! Cheers
Thanks so much bob john. I really appreciate that. I dislike many of these channels myself. I get a very bad distasteful feeling after watching some of them with the takeaway that they still know very little about women.
@@mynonleatherlife your channel is great . Fantastic . You are honest person. However I do have some doubts . Do all women think like yourself or there are some exceptions . Example . Many channels, movies , theories propagating femdom , strapon etc. Are these women also exist or is it just fiction of media. Please explain .
@@logicalindian9227 these are primarily male sexual fantasies and women engaged in them are mostly enabling male fantasies. While dominant women do exist, they tend not to be interested in the various fetishes that submissive males get obsessed with
@@logicalindian9227 She put in the description that about 58% of women have BDSM fantasies and that there are plenty of women with different opinions. I think a large portion of women think like her, but of course there are plenty with different, maybe even opposite, opinions
When I first watched your videos, my thought was that you seem t reinforce the basic manosphere traditional intersexual concepts. But the difference seems to be that they can paint women in unflattering ways. It is still striking how much you align with them even though the strategies you recommend are not misogynistic like those of the manosphere.
I just discovered your channel recently, about 2weeks ago, and I can't get enough of it . Thank you Victoria for your insights and advice on the nature of women.
I hope you know that your honesty is literally saving the lives of many men who have been misled by modern society. Thank you for what you're doing, it is more important than you realize.
This is so ridiculously valuable. I haven’t heard someone articulate these ideas so clearly and packaged them in such a digestible and relatable way in my life. And you’re just doing from what looks like your phone in your bedroom...lol. The internet is weird. Seriously though, thank you.
@@mynonleatherlife you re very intelligent.. What have you studied dear? You re a social psychologist ? a philosopher...? both.? The way you think, brings a relief for many of us. ..cause many is us are dark, we are made to think so... But no woman or girl has ever said such things, so don't be embarrassed if the most of us fall in love with you... Not in flesh, sexually, but platonish mentaly... Keep on thinking... please...
Rewatching this and again I'm struck. Your mind is incredible. You've literally deconstructed the very essence of our relationship culture. Like the great minds of history, you can see what no one else can - and you're able to explain it. You're a genius.
@@mynonleatherlife Well the traditional wedding is still the centerpiece of our relationship culture. But in most cases, it's just a show. It's not real because very few men can maintain masculinity in a positive way and keep their wives turned on over time. So the fantasy soon disappears, women lose their attraction, men become confused cos they're doing what society teaches them, which is basically to simp. Then comes relationship counseling, which does nothing to reactivate her attraction, and they separate. 80% of divorces are initiated by women (and 90% if the women have tertiary education). A woman's attraction is the man's responsibility, and men seriously need your insights!!
Thank you Babe!!! 81 yr old again. This is the very thing I have been trying to figure out my whole adult life!!! WOW!!! Thank you a thousand times! Bless you!
I came across your vid’s a couple days ago and I’m a single guy that just can’t seem to find that one female. Taking in the knowledge you have hopefully will help a whole lot. I’m that nice guy that gets left all the time. So I’m binge watch to learn the knowledge that I thought I had. Lol hopefully it pays off thx
I am just discovering you Victoria. I learn so much from you. You teach us in a way that communicates so well. You are really a wise person with so much depth. I have so many more Victoria videos to watch. You are truly a whole person. I am so happy that you have found your man. You deserve all the good that comes to you.
@@mynonleatherlife It's funny. I've been unconciously doing what Victoria advises intermittently my whole life. But hearing her say it makes it much clearer. I've been married twice (2 kids). And, I can now see where I didn't understand what was going on. I was just going on instinct. Chicks are always trying to crawl in my bed (even my ex-wife). One is quite rich. And I now know exactly what to do. Huge thanks Victoria! Been binge watching your videos. I'm really so tired of whining guys. But so is everyone. But I'm glad they're around. Because it's too easy to be different and refreshing. My motto is to "stay away from the crowd". Go along with any crowd and you'll be boring as Hell. In a world of lies and self deception. Honesty is surprising, entertaining and so very refreshing. However, as a man, I'd prefer if Victoria didn't teach all these fools her wisdom. Look, I don't care how many men cut off their cocks and pretend to be women. Males in the animal kingdom are natural competitors. And every guy who cuts off his own penus is doing me a huge favor! 😉
I Binged watched most of the videos at 1.5 speed. I'm going to binge watch then again, and again, write notes, condense it into a mind map because dominating is complex.
Hi Victoria. I recently came across your videos. Wish I had earlier. During Covid I got into the manosphere and it changed my life. I have to say your videos has such excellent content. You explain these complex relationship concepts so clear. I completely understand your message! You are top 3 in manoshpere content I’ve seen and I’ve watched over 1000 videos. Keep up the great work!
One thing I appreciate about the bdsm community, is that they bring their subconscious desires to the surface with honesty. That attitude will have to spill over to the vanilla side more. It is happening gradually.
The BDSM community can be such a wholesome place for this reason. it draws attention to and acknowledges the primal urges and fantasies that men and women have had for thousands of years, but which society has recently begun to shun out of a misplaced desire for social justice.
Great content. I love the Frederick Nietzsche quote, "those who were dancing were considered fools by those who could not hear the music." Many of us consider women to be crazy because we do not understand where they are coming from, can't hear the music.
I may not agree with every single thing you say, but I'm loving the content and the sheer honesty and openness. Thank you for doing this we need more people like you!
You actually make it easy to intuit. You can't do much with just one of these points, maybe get in trouble but put together will get things working. Finally what my other has been trying to say, but not say, makes so much sense.
Great video. This may be used even on a date. Take a woman to a place or in social circle where you are confident, respected or skilled. Make her feel hyper feminine like princess and tease her , dominate situation. Create some sort of competition you can win , display your worth in this environment. Take her by the hand and be protective of her, even if it’s just crossing busy road or moving through a crowd , lead her. Then go for the kiss and always try to go to the next level so she sees you want her and confident and dominate about winning those “primal” rights.
This is a side topic, but I believe '50 Shades of Grey (Gray?)' is widely misunderstood. It's the story of a woman who agrees to be a submissive to a very powerful man, yet not really. What she actually does is whittle away at Christian Grey's dominant position in their relationship by 'topping from the bottom', rather than simply accepting her role as submissive. Ultimately, Grey understands that, and says as much. So the story is a subtle feminist takedown of male dominance, within the context of the ultimate male dominated setting. It's a clever way of presenting a 'strong, independent woman' defeating a man's attempt to control her. Naturally, she still gets to fulfill her submissive sexual fantasies, but on her own terms. In doing so, the story clearly illustrates the internal feminist conflict, whether it intends to or not. It's an X-rated Disney fantasy for adult women, attempting to reconcile that conflict. The problem is that, like all Disney stories, it's unrealistic.
Spot on me and my brother in laws was talking about this same thing a couple years back. When the dumb movie came out we saw exactly what it was about.
I've heard people comment that Fifty Shades is a terrible example of teaching how to dominate. Christian Grey is pretty weak and one sided in the relationship and as you mentioned it mostly centers on her wanting to submit. Maybe it was that the movie just brought that part out more and it was more detailed in the book.
Devouring all of your content! You are amazing and I really hope the men and women discover your and open up to the dynamics that play so deeply within all of us. Thanks’
@@mynonleatherlife You pretty much have a chapter in the description of this video. You could pretty much take all your videos convert them to text, edit them down, compile it and you'd have a book. You could have major sections related to everything you discuss as it incorporates so many things. 👍🏽👍🏽
Thanks for the detailed description under the video! I always appreciate it very much when I see it on youtube. Especially when it comes to quality movies like yours.
@@mynonleatherlife - I’m still working through all of your content as l’m a new subscriber. Let me see what topics you’ve already covered, but l’ll definitely let you know. Cheers!
I came across one of your videos this morning and been watching them all day non-stop. Your honesty and insights are amazing. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, experiences and wisdom. Very impressive. Much respect for you
i love your content. your video quality reminds me of the early days of youtube when ppl just made helpful videos without all the glitz and glam. also, your insight is very honest, raw and easy to understand.
On the issue of women wanting to feel safe, I suspect they also fantasize about the world outside their safety bubble being unsafe. Reinforcing the safety of their immediate environment through contrast.
Absolutely, often when I chat with my girl on insta I write erotic stories to her. It almost invariably has to do something with a dangerous world in which she is scared and hopeless but there's this masculine figure (prince, knight, could be a phantasy creature - demons and vampires work very well) that just keeps her safe, obviously has a dark side to him and kind of takes advantage of her vulnerability, but just to bring her in his frame and like Victoria puts it in the video, it all leads to a fullfilled traditional relationship. No bullshit, whatever is in these videos is pure gold. We even act out these stories sometimes me and my girl, it just makes her fall into my arms and act all fragile and vulnerable, saying she feels so safe with me and what not ( I am not a very tall guy , at 179 cm for the record, just somewhat muscular so that it provides a wide enough frame).
Great vid. In relation to the bride being carried over the threshold after her wedding, is very ancient symbolism, ritualistic of the primal nature of the human evolutionary history.
Victoria.. You are precious!! We NEED you to keep spreading your message. PLEASE3..PLEASE do not ever hold back on what you want to share with us and secrets you feel we need to know it's for the betterment it's for the Improvement of the relationships between men and women your message is really helping all of society it's more important than you know.. thank God for you beautiful woman thank God for you.
@@noyouareracist4431 Daddy doesn’t tell stories very well. Trashy romance novels are read by very intelligent women, it’s part of the limbic system and hormonal. If you don’t know how to make a woman go crazy with written words Abu has some things to learn.
I wish I had someone like you who could guide me because all you find in the internet that's worth of something comes with money I don't have. But a possible friendship and guidance is worth so much more and doesn't cost anything. Would be truly grateful for that. But I don't want to push you to anything. All the best to you. Love and respect 🙂
Keep bringing that heat! Can you explain next time how often you post on your patreon and what you will be discussing there that you might not know youtube. It'll probably motivate me and other people to subscribe.
Knew this since my late teens. Male Archetypes are the compliment to the themes you often give. You just need to play different roles for different women while not sacrificing your own unique personality. Great video by the way!
I wanted to let you know how much I like your videos. You are SO HONEST and very HOT! Not that I’m being creepy but OMG your honesty! You look SO MUCH like my ex wife and I miss her SO MUCH. Your honesty and CLARITY about the female mind is AWESOME!! I’m learning so much from you and I appreciate what your videos are providing for me to understand your female thoughts and MIND. Your boyfriend is such a lucky man! Please don’t stop what your doing. I just found your posts and feel blessed by them. Thank you so much for what your teaching US MEN!! I sure wished I knew some of these things a few years ago maybe my sweetheart would still be mine. I’m not giving up on her. I’m gonna try to assert what I’m learning from you. PURE GOLD!!
So correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems to me that what you refer to as dark monogamy from my perspective at least sounds like you're describing traditionalism? Or something closely akin to that. Male dominated society, female beauty is valued over other traits, male "ownership" of wife via marriage ... Or am I missing the point ?
thanks victoria for this video it is amazing and i will tell you that the wedding is exist in middle east and im from it im surpdised from this information
@@mynonleatherlife everything that people do has a reason, so look deeper at the stuff that you may consider just stupid at a glance like a disney or soap opera movie
Thanks for the advice. I think youtube started to circulate your videos because I am Greek watching from Greece. Keep talking about sex matters and you will make some serious money. Try to give some advice online to guys as a therapist. above all stay safe. nice meeting you. ...ah and get an HD cannon camera with a port for the mic. You deserve all the good things!
Hi Victoria! I recently came across your UA-cam channel, and I have to say your videos are very helpful and insightful (I subscribed!). You've made videos about dominance/submission and complements etc, I'd just like to ask you about your thoughts on these things below: 1) You say that it's nice to compliment a girl for having beautiful hands, I agree. A few years ago, I noticed that my hands were actually huge (I have NEVER met anyone with bigger hands than me). I have a feeling that a girl will think you're superior if she sees that your hands are far bigger than hers, so I thought about how I could get her to acknowledge this. What I'd do is this: I'd say that I thought the girl had beautiful hands, and then show her that I have massive hands. I'd spread my hand out and point my fingers vertically upwards, and get her to press against my hand with hers so she could see that my hands are massive compared to her's. Once she saw this, and our hands were still in contact, I'd 'scrunch' my hand, placing my fingers in between her's to interlock our hands. I do this as a way of trying to get her to subconsciously see me as dominant as she knows I have huge hands, but then I also do the 'size comparison' as a technique to ultimately hold hands. Does this sound like a good thing to do? I kinda came up with it in my head, but if I'm then holding her hand to lead her somewhere, I think she'd submit to that, accept the hand-holding and walk with me to wherever I'm leading her. I love to hear your view on this technique! 2) What do you think about complimenting a girl's bum? The thing is, I like a nice, big bum and girls know that guys are looking at it but almost no one directly complements it verbally, So if I'm talking to a girl, and she's reciprocating flirting, would it be a good idea to say 'by the way, I think you have a great bum/incredible ass' (or some variation of it)? I'd love to hear your opinions of these! Thank you, and keep up the good work!
Hello Elliot, for your first point I think it is a great trigger and one that many girls are into but it's not gonna be that easy...like she's almost certainly not just going to fall completely under your spell right after that. I think it can definitely trigger something primal but you will have to build upon that. But I think you definitely have a good thing going on with big hands and should make that known somehow for sure! 2. It really depends on how heated and comfortable u have gotten with each other. Like it could be a FANTASTIC thing to say but the moment has to be right and you have to have worked up to that kind of familiarity and intimacy. There are situations where it could work like a club but in general u would usually have to build up to that a little.
@@mynonleatherlife Thank you for the response! Yeah, I'll definitely use the large hand thing in conjunction with other dominant behaviours. It's funny, I used to be extremely shy but- since doing things like karaoke at my university's social club in front of a crowd- that sparked my confidence. I'm even more confident after I've had a few drinks. One time in a nightclub, I just yolo'd it... I went up to a girl who was sitting down and said 'excuse me, do you have a man tonight?' to which she replied 'no'. I then reached my hand out and said 'I can change that, let's dance!', and she willingly took up my offer. We only danced briefly, but I was testing myself to see if I can push my bravery boundaries! Your videos are gonna be very helpful for me moving forward, thank you! x
I was actually aware of these points before watching this video, and after watching you confirming my thoughts, i 'm more than ever convinced that i'll probably will be mostly a single male throughout my life, just because i don't want to be her hero, and i don't want to be the alpha male, i don't want to compete with other men to earn the princess, and i don't see a point in being the protective male in a relationship. My observation is that this is how the majority of men behave, and apparently exactly what the majority of women request, its a match. I can't fake or change the way i think, so i guess the only option left is to get used to it. Lastly i should say thank you :)
Ok well this is not all women. These are bdsm themes that 58% of women often have a deep hidden interest in sometimes just fantasizing about. Doesn’t mean u have to LIVE this out in your relationship. You could merely play with the themes occasionally or not at all or find someone who has zero interest in any kind of kink ever!! Many of those out there too. So don’t mistakenly give up assuming this is a definite necessity to have a relationship cause that would be absurd.
@@mynonleatherlife hahaha thank you for making me feel special, like a man in a strip club! I have so many questions... it seems like there are so many contradictions in the realm of relationships. Let me formulate some questions and I'll ask later.
Of all your videos that I've seen this is my favorite for many reasons. It's the heart of attraction, compatibility and probably what keeps romance alive over time .....essential and profound !!♡!! I have a lot of thoughts on this one. You touched my curiosity and personal realizations and memories so much so that I Googled BDSM. You have described primordial landscapes within us and with the simplicity of a children's story including easily understandable excellent illustrations that anyone can relate if they have a minimally open mind. This is so powerful as you hit all the genetically ingrained expectations told in a story form over the eons of time to our present day. You have created a veritable handbook on what women desire, expect and hope to have come true in their primordial hearts and souls. Victoria you very clearly spell out the goals a woman wants and they are not that difficult to make come true.... Ultimately dark monogamy . You're so brilliant that after I read this the first time ... I thought "of course" and then I thought "I'm so glad you presented this because it's so obvious but escaped my complete realization until you put this into words. ... and then all the pieces fit together"!! Thank you so much !!♡!!
Your videos are incredible. Not often is there a woman who is willing to spell out in detail what women want and give men tips and pointers as well as you. I'm assuming a lot of men appreciate these videos. That being said, I think the majority of your videos can actually only truly help about 20% of the male population. 20% being the top half of the hierarchy. As you go down the hierarchy to the beta males, it isn't really going to matter to them because they will not be able to apply your tips with any type of sustainable success. Some beta males will always be beta no matter how hard they try to become alpha. It is just a reality that the bottom half hierarchy of men will need to accept.
well what ur saying is interesting and does seem to make sense but I think if they really work at it, they can gain the skillsets needed. But they will have to go really hard to make a total transformation. It won't be easy. But no I definitely think they should not accept that. Why do you think they can't have sustainable success?
@@mynonleatherlife Again, I just want to emphasize again how great your videos are. I believe what you are saying is truly what a lot of women want and think. Kudos to you for being able to explain it so well. This is a great channel and I am looking forward to watching more videos of you. So far, I have watched only a few of your videos but plan to watch more. I guess I am trying to understand the goal of your channel. Is it to explain "what women want and feel" or is it to "help men understand what women want so that they can land a woman". These sound the same but they are kind of two different things. I think understanding what a women wants is definitely helpful but, at the end of the day, it seems to me that it takes an extreme amount of concentration, energy and commitment that a man has to take to truly make a woman happy. You have to win contests, understand the vortex, be able to read her, be flexible, understand her sex brain vs. normal brain, etc. The list seems to go on and on. It seems that only Alpha males have the stamina to keep that level of energy up for a sustainable amount of time. In the beginning of the relationship, navigating the intricacies of a woman seems like an endeavor worth pursuing. However, I am not sure if matches reality especially for long term relationships like marriages that last for decades. Unless if I am not interpreting this correctly? Maybe, this is what is going on in a woman's brain but she never will be fully satisfied because real life is not a romance novel or a fairytale. I guess maybe if you did a video explaining how to live the fairytale while at the same time navigating the everyday ins and out and realities of everyday life could be helpful.
@Finbar McCallister Sweet response Finbar. But I am confused, how are you able to easily spot the bottom 80% when you go to grocery stores, parks and schools? Are you basing it on physical appearance or are you basing it on the content of their character?
Just want to say I appreciate the fact that you have a lot put in the description of your videos! I have noticed strongly the dark monogamy in my ex gf, when a woman have profound level of respect they always like to trigger the pure feminine game, and awaiting for your word in how to submit. Also there is probably a correlation with woman in gaming community/other STEM field, with the “patriarchy” fantasy. This may not be explicitly erotic, but subliminally I am sure there are aware exactly of where they are, and what this mean.
Interesting points... I agree that the respect is KEY. If they truly admire u, and see u as worthy, deserving because they truly think u are stronger than them in certain ways mentally, socially and physically like U said that is when the dark monogamy fantasy can be real and pure feminine game is triggered. Fantastic points. The other thing u said, I know I would feel the patriarchy fantasy being triggered personally as a dull awareness in back of my head but I would do everything I could to ignore, suppress it and camouflage it. I don’t know about other girls or if it has any subconscious influence on them going into the field haha interesting ideas
I listen to a lot of psychology, the things you are saying resonate with it. It's a very good look into the deeper psychology of women. It's also the reason why I don't believe in feminism. We are not equals. Equal to the law? Absolutely. Equal opportunities? Absolutely. But we are not equals. Apples and oranges are not equal. The genders do appear to have roles to play. And everything you're saying is pointing to that.
It seems like we should keep our primitive selves only in the bedroom, but nowhere else in life. I think our brains are finding this separation VERY new and we all are living in a transition point.
I think that the one place where people don’t want too much modernity is in the bedroom. No one wants to talk about it though because it conflicts so much with our modern pop culture. I think that it’s not easy for a woman to agree with #metoo and SJW narratives and then also be honest about wanting a masculine, dominant male in private. That separation between the public and private self is probably the source of a lot of inner conflict.
@@karagumruk7330 That’s interesting because I was reading something recently about how Eastern Europe is now doing much better than Western Europe. The article said that countries like Poland and Hungary still have their own people getting married and having babies where in Germany and France they are not. If women there are open about preferring masculine men then it sounds like the future of the EU is in the East, if those countries will even want to stay in the EU.
Your show is cool to me because I have been a Tv and film producer all my life. Your show makes the guy feel Like he’s getting the inside track on what women are doing. It’s very rare that a women would bust the cherry of female behavior, but you did.
They want us to get it. They don't know how to ask for it. And they're rooting for us. That bit about "let fantasies be fantasies" is a really important point. I love the window you are giving us into core female desires, but I'm struggling to figure out how to make this information actionable. I feel like I'm starting to get it but I don't know what to do with it.
Yea... definitely. This vid was not very actionable but more about philosophy. I want to try buying some of these different courses for men and reviewing them to see how actionable their steps are.
@@mynonleatherlife You're giving us the foundation and that's key. Understanding first. And a lot of this is about unlocking our desire for women that triggers many of these feelings for them. But I feel like I need some direct steps to take to really get a feel for this stuff.
Hahaha that Nietzsche quote lmao amazing, thank you .... could you (if you haven’t already) talk about the best ways to ask a girl to come inside your place. What ways have you found that have made you most comfortable and at ease? Thanks again you are great!!!
I have a question. So there is this thing called semen retention, now its pretty self explanatory. But when a man does this he gets more energy, and feels "full" so to speak. I was wondering can a women feel the energy subconsciously? Because there a lot of men who try this, and I get this too, that women some how find them more attractive, or they find more women are drawn to them and approaching them. Can you feel when a man is "full" compared to " empty"?
I never noticed this before but I've heard a lottt of guys on my raw attractive power vid talking about it and they have many convincing anecdotes! I guess I don't have a way of knowing if they are retaining to compare with how attracted I am or how intensely drawn to them I am....but what are ur thoughts on it?
Women will naturally be more drawn to you because it shows a control over your emotions, and overrall the retention of semen is actually healthy for your body, which is attractive for obvious reasons. They aren't attracted because you're retaining your seed, they're attracted because of what retaining your seed does to you.
It might give you stronger urges to try, but I doubt it will give you more confidence or game. Plus if you really need to do to make girls think you're attractive, you might need to improve other areas of yourself and not just looks. So it seems kinda silly
Being on semen retention has its benefits, but once you enable this inner masculine confidence, it will always project outwardly. Meaning you can bust a nut & still be confident with no anxiety or have a problem making eye contact. I know because I'm proof of that.
Definitely, a fairytale that captures this really well with the theme of ownership and being held captive in his mansion and the polarity between hyper feminine beauty and the primally dominant beast and of course the themes of patriarchy are in there with her love for and intense relationship with her father
Hey Victoria, which you lots of success with your Patreon(s)...you maybe should consider to have a better camera and microphone which will improve the overall quality of your content and It's not "that" expensive though... just 100 bugs and you get some allrighty stuff to start off... Best, Sascha
oh darn I got a mic but maybe I need a better one. I have blue yeti...what do u think of it and what camera do u think i should get, I just use photo booth on my laptop
@@mynonleatherlife Just looked up your mic, it's more than enough lol and sound quality is good in this video but have watched another video of yours where volume was low and it was hard to understand you properly....For the camera you don't have to dig deep into the pocket... just have an camera which has a better resolution as 360p (480 pixels x 360 pixels) and maybe you can adjust that with your phone booth suite there but maybe your laptop camera is too old to support higher resolutions! I would recommend a camera which can do 1080p (1920 x 1080) which we call FullHD ("Full high definition")...on the smart phone 360p looks somewhat allrighty but on larger screens like desktop-pcs or tablets it will look kinda blurry..such a camera which will meet your needs you can already get for 40 bugs which you can plug via usb to your machine...if you wanna go pro in a sense lol you might wanna use a Blackmagic Pocket Cinema for example (low budget high quality cameras) but here we talking about making movies ^^ You can even think about lightning, having a ring light for example...just suggestions here...and thank you for your content...not many women name the things how they are but wanting to be shine in a certain light which is totally okay ofc but it's good when the genders are up to understand each other as to create even more confusion! Best, Sash
Regarding this idea of women wanting to feel safe with their man... I once had a girlfriend tell me she was afraid of me. Now I will swear on a mile high stack of Bibles that I was always respectful to her and never deliberately did anything to make her feel threatened or unsafe. She just out of nowhere one day told me that I scared her, but she has also told me that she feels safe with me. Was I missing something there?
Well do u get angry frequently but not at her? Just one possibility I’m throwing out there that could explain it but there could be so many other reasons
@@mynonleatherlife I always went out of my way to not openly show any of my negative emotions to her, at least until I had a cooler head and I had a grasp on why I was feeling that way. Certain thing's she told me about her childhood and her previous relation ship made me suspect she had been through some emotional trauma she wasn't ready to talk about, so I was careful not to lash out in anger. Tbh though, I suspect holding back my emotions so much played a part in our eventual breakup.
@@mynonleatherlife It's been a few years obviously, but I just happened to be watching this video again, and I saw this old comment I had forgot about. I wanted to stop and say thank you for taking the time to reply. Your explanations are always insightful and easy to understand.
Hey thanks for the advice. what do you think about the movie 50 shades of gray, I just saw the movie recently and notice that he was being needy in the movie is that a turn off for woman or what do you think about the movie I’m confused.
I hated the movie and walked out of the theater towards the end cuz it was getting so annoying. The guy they cast as Christian grey was not convincing as a dominant guy at all in my opinion. Fantastic looking but barely exuding any raw attractive power. I forgot what happened towards the end but I think it turns into a “dark monogamy” style relationship where he becomes really possessive and a lot of drama ensues. Unfortunately I couldn’t get thru the whole book either cuz the writing is terrible!!
@@mynonleatherlife well at the end of the day it’s a movie I stopped watching any type of movies because of how wrongly it influences us to be like, I rather read self improvement books.
My experience is total opposite. My gf loved me when I was chubby, unemployed, ugly looking guy. But then I got fit, got good job and income and started dressed well, and could support her financially then she just dumped me saying I am not the man she wants.
Saame bro i used to shit on the floor and she loved it. Like when i didnt shower or brush my teeth. Maybe we are just the normal guys and your gf totally didnt look like a pig. But yea Biden right
I feel like you are so genuine that is great to see. All the vids are eye openers I’m gonna try real hard to think of an inquisitive question to ask just bc I think I am kind of turned on by this whole concept of you a woman telling us what women really want it just seems like new territory and there is sexual energy involved, killer stuff for reals thank you!
That's what i do naturally. I create an environment where my woman is safe and protected by me. She's mine, and I can protect her with or without a weapon. It's not a problem.
i cant say this enough: from behalf of ALL straight men, thank you.
But Barry isn't a man. Big mike isn't a woman.
Yes, it's true, but it's also outdated and it's erotic to both men and women, but we really really don't live in that kind of society anymore..
@@disinformer4421 Dingle Barry the shitiest president the U.S. ever had.
And on behalf of gay men.
@@formallyknownasjojoemc3174 He's still president, working through Xiden.
Hey Victoria, I don't think u realize how truly impactful this content really is to straight guys like me. Like really, THANK YOU. Way better than those fake alpha male videos. You speak facts with no bs even though it might require you to be vulnerable. I truly think this channel will be way bigger than what it is right now. Hope the best for you and your fam! Cheers
Thanks so much bob john. I really appreciate that. I dislike many of these channels myself. I get a very bad distasteful feeling after watching some of them with the takeaway that they still know very little about women.
@@mynonleatherlife your channel is great . Fantastic . You are honest person. However I do have some doubts . Do all women think like yourself or there are some exceptions . Example . Many channels, movies , theories propagating femdom , strapon etc. Are these women also exist or is it just fiction of media. Please explain .
@@logicalindian9227 these are primarily male sexual fantasies and women engaged in them are mostly enabling male fantasies. While dominant women do exist, they tend not to be interested in the various fetishes that submissive males get obsessed with
@@logicalindian9227 She put in the description that about 58% of women have BDSM fantasies and that there are plenty of women with different opinions. I think a large portion of women think like her, but of course there are plenty with different, maybe even opposite, opinions
When I first watched your videos, my thought was that you seem t reinforce the basic manosphere traditional intersexual concepts. But the difference seems to be that they can paint women in unflattering ways. It is still striking how much you align with them even though the strategies you recommend are not misogynistic like those of the manosphere.
I can’t get over how intelligent and well spoken you are!! ❤️❤️
Thank u Victoria! I feel I am not well spoken at all so I thank u for that compliment
You have quite a few subs for having no videos out Victoria. Impressive
@@formallyknownasjojoemc3174 thank you!! I really have no idea why or how that happened in the 5 years of my no-content-account 😅😅
@@VictoriaWilder95 I could make a guess.., but chances are you know what I'm thinking. Have a good one. And enjoy your weekend.
Yeah. No videos. Subscribers. I should try that. :-)
I just discovered your channel recently, about 2weeks ago, and I can't get enough of it . Thank you Victoria for your insights and advice on the nature of women.
thank u so much Peter, that makes me veryy happy to hear
Honestly, you're brilliant. Your ability to see what is right in front of us but which so few people actually see. It's genius!
Thanks so much Eli Ezra, can’t tell u how much I appreciate that thought, gonna screenshot this and use it for inspiration
Exactly this
I hope you know that your honesty is literally saving the lives of many men who have been misled by modern society. Thank you for what you're doing, it is more important than you realize.
Thank you for your insight honey it's awesome your truths are totally inspiring and sexy
Victoria you’re a true teacher. Many men need to check out your videos/speeches.
thank u so much
@@mynonleatherlife Thank YOU
I agree ☝️ with you
This is so ridiculously valuable. I haven’t heard someone articulate these ideas so clearly and packaged them in such a digestible and relatable way in my life. And you’re just doing from what looks like your phone in your bedroom...lol. The internet is weird. Seriously though, thank you.
Thanks a lot Ben A. I’m glad u see what I’m trying to say. Have u noticed these things in ur experiences?
@@mynonleatherlife you re very intelligent..
What have you studied dear?
You re a social psychologist ? a philosopher...? both.?
The way you think, brings a relief for many of us. ..cause many is us are dark, we are made to think so... But no woman or girl has ever said such things, so don't be embarrassed if the most of us fall in love with you... Not in flesh, sexually, but platonish mentaly...
Keep on thinking... please...
Yea you got one thing right. "The internet it weird". You can say that over and over again till the net falls and social media crumbles with it.
Rewatching this and again I'm struck. Your mind is incredible. You've literally deconstructed the very essence of our relationship culture. Like the great minds of history, you can see what no one else can - and you're able to explain it. You're a genius.
oh wow thank you so much for this fantastic comment!! 😅So do you see these themes in relationship culture as well?
@@mynonleatherlife Well the traditional wedding is still the centerpiece of our relationship culture. But in most cases, it's just a show. It's not real because very few men can maintain masculinity in a positive way and keep their wives turned on over time. So the fantasy soon disappears, women lose their attraction, men become confused cos they're doing what society teaches them, which is basically to simp. Then comes relationship counseling, which does nothing to reactivate her attraction, and they separate. 80% of divorces are initiated by women (and 90% if the women have tertiary education). A woman's attraction is the man's responsibility, and men seriously need your insights!!
On par with Jung and Freud
'dark monogamy'......wowwwwwww!!! Victoria you are on another level! Keep it going!
Thank you Babe!!! 81 yr old again. This is the very thing I have been trying to figure out my whole adult life!!! WOW!!! Thank you a thousand times! Bless you!
I came across your vid’s a couple days ago and I’m a single guy that just can’t seem to find that one female. Taking in the knowledge you have hopefully will help a whole lot. I’m that nice guy that gets left all the time. So I’m binge watch to learn the knowledge that I thought I had. Lol hopefully it pays off thx
you have to be a bad guy bro, I learnt the hard way
I am just discovering you Victoria. I learn so much from you. You teach us in a way that communicates so well. You are really a wise person with so much depth. I have so many more Victoria videos to watch. You are truly a whole person. I am so happy that you have found your man. You deserve all the good that comes to you.
Thank u so much John, can’t tell u how much I appreciate your kind words. how did u find my channel
Thank you! I am learning a lot from you. Wish you all the best.
I am glad to hear that Ryu! thank you
@@mynonleatherlife It's funny. I've been unconciously doing what Victoria advises intermittently my whole life. But hearing her say it makes it much clearer. I've been married twice (2 kids). And, I can now see where I didn't understand what was going on. I was just going on instinct. Chicks are always trying to crawl in my bed (even my ex-wife). One is quite rich. And I now know exactly what to do. Huge thanks Victoria! Been binge watching your videos. I'm really so tired of whining guys. But so is everyone. But I'm glad they're around. Because it's too easy to be different and refreshing. My motto is to "stay away from the crowd". Go along with any crowd and you'll be boring as Hell. In a world of lies and self deception. Honesty is surprising, entertaining and so very refreshing. However, as a man, I'd prefer if Victoria didn't teach all these fools her wisdom. Look, I don't care how many men cut off their cocks and pretend to be women. Males in the animal kingdom are natural competitors. And every guy who cuts off his own penus is doing me a huge favor! 😉
Thanks for all the insights you share :)
oh wow thank you so much Michael! I really appreciate your super thanks very much!!!
I Binged watched most of the videos at 1.5 speed. I'm going to binge watch then again, and again, write notes, condense it into a mind map because dominating is complex.
Awesome video. I love the fact that you threw a study in there to back up your ideas. I also loved that last quote by Nietzsche at the end too 🙏🏾
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Hi Victoria. I recently came across your videos. Wish I had earlier. During Covid I got into the manosphere and it changed my life. I have to say your videos has such excellent content. You explain these complex relationship concepts so clear. I completely understand your message! You are top 3 in manoshpere content I’ve seen and I’ve watched over 1000 videos. Keep up the great work!
thank you very much oliver!!! which part of the manosphere specifically changed your life i'm curious
One thing I appreciate about the bdsm community, is that they bring their subconscious desires to the surface with honesty. That attitude will have to spill over to the vanilla side more. It is happening gradually.
The BDSM community can be such a wholesome place for this reason. it draws attention to and acknowledges the primal urges and fantasies that men and women have had for thousands of years, but which society has recently begun to shun out of a misplaced desire for social justice.
Great content. I love the Frederick Nietzsche quote, "those who were dancing were considered fools by those who could not hear the music." Many of us consider women to be crazy because we do not understand where they are coming from, can't hear the music.
Thanks a lot, I’m very happy that you understand that concept
He also said, "When you go to women, take a whip." Which I think he meant as a joke but with a small kernel of truth.
@@deselby9240 I don't think he was capable of telling jokes lol
@@theodoretheelder6248 Oh! Well you misunderstand him. He's actually very funny. Specially in the Gay Science.
@@deselby9240 maybe I do.
I may not agree with every single thing you say, but I'm loving the content and the sheer honesty and openness. Thank you for doing this we need more people like you!
Thank u empty arms I appreciate that
this is one of my favorite videos ever, it's a real gem! To be understood in the right way of course
This is my new favorite channel
You actually make it easy to intuit. You can't do much with just one of these points, maybe get in trouble but put together will get things working. Finally what my other has been trying to say, but not say, makes so much sense.
All your videos are so on point. You explain the female mind so well.
I haven’t seen a new video in a while. I hope you’re still doing these. I think you’re just beginning to finally hit your stride.
Great video. This may be used even on a date. Take a woman to a place or in social circle where you are confident, respected or skilled. Make her feel hyper feminine like princess and tease her , dominate situation. Create some sort of competition you can win , display your worth in this environment. Take her by the hand and be protective of her, even if it’s just crossing busy road or moving through a crowd , lead her. Then go for the kiss and always try to go to the next level so she sees you want her and confident and dominate about winning those “primal” rights.
i think what u said is very genius....ur right
This is a side topic, but I believe '50 Shades of Grey (Gray?)' is widely misunderstood. It's the story of a woman who agrees to be a submissive to a very powerful man, yet not really. What she actually does is whittle away at Christian Grey's dominant position in their relationship by 'topping from the bottom', rather than simply accepting her role as submissive. Ultimately, Grey understands that, and says as much.
So the story is a subtle feminist takedown of male dominance, within the context of the ultimate male dominated setting. It's a clever way of presenting a 'strong, independent woman' defeating a man's attempt to control her. Naturally, she still gets to fulfill her submissive sexual fantasies, but on her own terms.
In doing so, the story clearly illustrates the internal feminist conflict, whether it intends to or not. It's an X-rated Disney fantasy for adult women, attempting to reconcile that conflict. The problem is that, like all Disney stories, it's unrealistic.
Spot on me and my brother in laws was talking about this same thing a couple years back. When the dumb movie came out we saw exactly what it was about.
on point.
Honestly sir .I don't get this
Kindly help rephrase for better understanding.
Thnks
Tell me the story again, except where the man is poor.
I've heard people comment that Fifty Shades is a terrible example of teaching how to dominate. Christian Grey is pretty weak and one sided in the relationship and as you mentioned it mostly centers on her wanting to submit. Maybe it was that the movie just brought that part out more and it was more detailed in the book.
Devouring all of your content! You are amazing and I really hope the men and women discover your and open up to the dynamics that play so deeply within all of us. Thanks’
I think you should definitely compile your thoughts into a book, I imagine it selling very well 👍🏽👍🏽
Thanks Mike K, what should it be about? Helping men with women?
@@mynonleatherlife You pretty much have a chapter in the description of this video. You could pretty much take all your videos convert them to text, edit them down, compile it and you'd have a book. You could have major sections related to everything you discuss as it incorporates so many things. 👍🏽👍🏽
@@mynonleatherlife It could be about anything you wish, your thoughts on the female condition could be the whole thing or just a part.
@@mynonleatherlife female nature
Thanks for the detailed description under the video! I always appreciate it very much when I see it on youtube. Especially when it comes to quality movies like yours.
I am very glad you appreciate that...I was wondering if I should continue doing that.
I make a point not to skip the ads played before your video.
As always, excellent video, please keep it up!
Wow thank u for that, that’s really nice of u... any topic u would want to see covered in the future?
@@mynonleatherlife - I’m still working through all of your content as l’m a new subscriber. Let me see what topics you’ve already covered, but l’ll definitely let you know. Cheers!
For whatever reason the volume sounds so much better. Thank you ❤🙏
I got a mic :)
@@mynonleatherlife get a cam and you become literally my favorite YTer
I came across one of your videos this morning and been watching them all day non-stop. Your honesty and insights are amazing. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, experiences and wisdom. Very impressive. Much respect for you
Wow Steve M thank you much appreciated
Today I found your channel. It's pure gold! Been watching all day. Please keep releasing such wonderful and very needed information ❤️
Thanks Raul!!
i love your content. your video quality reminds me of the early days of youtube when ppl just made helpful videos without all the glitz and glam. also, your insight is very honest, raw and easy to understand.
Thanks a lot Desmond!
@@mynonleatherlife do you have any links to patreon, instagram etc? i dont see any in your description section. :)
On the issue of women wanting to feel safe, I suspect they also fantasize about the world outside their safety bubble being unsafe. Reinforcing the safety of their immediate environment through contrast.
Absolutely, often when I chat with my girl on insta I write erotic stories to her. It almost invariably has to do something with a dangerous world in which she is scared and hopeless but there's this masculine figure (prince, knight, could be a phantasy creature - demons and vampires work very well) that just keeps her safe, obviously has a dark side to him and kind of takes advantage of her vulnerability, but just to bring her in his frame and like Victoria puts it in the video, it all leads to a fullfilled traditional relationship. No bullshit, whatever is in these videos is pure gold. We even act out these stories sometimes me and my girl, it just makes her fall into my arms and act all fragile and vulnerable, saying she feels so safe with me and what not ( I am not a very tall guy , at 179 cm for the record, just somewhat muscular so that it provides a wide enough frame).
You are raw and authentic, qualities rarely seen on social media. Thank you for being real :)
Thanks!
wow thank you so much Ramon!!! I really appreciate that greatly!!
Great vid.
In relation to the bride being carried over the threshold after her wedding, is very ancient symbolism, ritualistic of the primal nature of the human evolutionary history.
You are so awesome. You teach us how to be respectful, yet carry out female's fantasies at the same time 😁.
Victoria..
You are precious!!
We NEED you to keep spreading your message.
PLEASE3..PLEASE do not ever hold back on what you want to share with us and secrets you feel we need to know it's for the betterment it's for the Improvement of the relationships between men and women your message is really helping all of society it's more important than you know.. thank God for you beautiful woman thank God for you.
thanks Rico!! ok ur message is inspiring me to not hold back the secrets. Is there anything in particular u are most interested to hear about?
Give this lady a trophy. We should appoint a damn body guard for this queen!
Thank you Abu
She's got her shit together. It excites me lol
@@mynonleatherlife abu literally means daddy.
:)
Thought about telling you .
@@noyouareracist4431 Daddy doesn’t tell stories very well. Trashy romance novels are read by very intelligent women, it’s part of the limbic system and hormonal. If you don’t know how to make a woman go crazy with written words Abu has some things to learn.
@@Mett19 trashy romance novels aren't read by very intelligent women, they don't waste their time with stuff
Nothing like having my arms wrapped around my princess after a hard days work building castles. 🏰
I had been exploring these concepts like a man exploring an over filled second hand furniture store in the dark. You put the lights on.
Thank you.
Haha I love it hehehe
I wish I had someone like you who could guide me because all you find in the internet that's worth of something comes with money I don't have. But a possible friendship and guidance is worth so much more and doesn't cost anything. Would be truly grateful for that. But I don't want to push you to anything. All the best to you. Love and respect 🙂
@@fuzkforyou , your mom maybe. How is the old girl, junior? Still on the same corner is she?
Keep bringing that heat! Can you explain next time how often you post on your patreon and what you will be discussing there that you might not know youtube. It'll probably motivate me and other people to subscribe.
Great advice ok I will do that thank u
Knew this since my late teens.
Male Archetypes are the compliment to the themes you often give.
You just need to play different roles for different women while not sacrificing your own unique personality.
Great video by the way!
what are the male archetypes?
@@mynonleatherlife the typical, jockey, badboy, Chad, good guy, power ambitious, smart guy, ya know the basics.
Animus
I like your raw, unedited videos. It’s just real. I like it
I wanted to let you know how much I like your videos. You are SO HONEST and very HOT! Not that I’m being creepy but OMG your honesty! You look SO MUCH like my ex wife and I miss her SO MUCH. Your honesty and CLARITY about the female mind is AWESOME!! I’m learning so much from you and I appreciate what your videos are providing for me to understand your female thoughts and MIND. Your boyfriend is such a lucky man! Please don’t stop what your doing. I just found your posts and feel blessed by them. Thank you so much for what your teaching US MEN!! I sure wished I knew some of these things a few years ago maybe my sweetheart would still be mine. I’m not giving up on her. I’m gonna try to assert what I’m learning from you. PURE GOLD!!
Fascinating insights and The Princess Bride is a masterpiece, inconceivable!
Total masterpiece and the more I think about it the more it captures the deepest elements of romance and true love. So epic!!! And thank u
So correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems to me that what you refer to as dark monogamy from my perspective at least sounds like you're describing traditionalism? Or something closely akin to that. Male dominated society, female beauty is valued over other traits, male "ownership" of wife via marriage ... Or am I missing the point ?
Thanks!
Thank you so much!!
@@mynonleatherlife you are the most insightful lady on youtube. you and that Khan woman have given me much education.
Sadia Khan@@MalickMan
thanks victoria for this video it is amazing and i will tell you that the wedding is exist in middle east and im from it im surpdised from this information
Excellent video. Highly recommended.
First time I understood how to study women in my entire Life
Oh wow so what did u learn about how to study them
@@mynonleatherlife everything that people do has a reason, so look deeper at the stuff that you may consider just stupid at a glance like a disney or soap opera movie
Yea, you need skilled fingers. ;)
Never have I seen such an honest woman. Just subscribed.
thanks for subscribing Victor
Thanks for the advice. I think youtube started to circulate your videos because I am Greek watching from Greece. Keep talking about sex matters and you will make some serious money. Try to give some advice online to guys as a therapist. above all stay safe. nice meeting you. ...ah and get an HD cannon camera with a port for the mic. You deserve all the good things!
Thank you and very good advice. I want to visit Greece once more, it is incredible
Victoria is a legend for sharing this with us
Thanks Walter
Hi Victoria!
I recently came across your UA-cam channel, and I have to say your videos are very helpful and insightful (I subscribed!). You've made videos about dominance/submission and complements etc, I'd just like to ask you about your thoughts on these things below:
1) You say that it's nice to compliment a girl for having beautiful hands, I agree. A few years ago, I noticed that my hands were actually huge (I have NEVER met anyone with bigger hands than me). I have a feeling that a girl will think you're superior if she sees that your hands are far bigger than hers, so I thought about how I could get her to acknowledge this. What I'd do is this: I'd say that I thought the girl had beautiful hands, and then show her that I have massive hands. I'd spread my hand out and point my fingers vertically upwards, and get her to press against my hand with hers so she could see that my hands are massive compared to her's. Once she saw this, and our hands were still in contact, I'd 'scrunch' my hand, placing my fingers in between her's to interlock our hands. I do this as a way of trying to get her to subconsciously see me as dominant as she knows I have huge hands, but then I also do the 'size comparison' as a technique to ultimately hold hands. Does this sound like a good thing to do? I kinda came up with it in my head, but if I'm then holding her hand to lead her somewhere, I think she'd submit to that, accept the hand-holding and walk with me to wherever I'm leading her. I love to hear your view on this technique!
2) What do you think about complimenting a girl's bum? The thing is, I like a nice, big bum and girls know that guys are looking at it but almost no one directly complements it verbally, So if I'm talking to a girl, and she's reciprocating flirting, would it be a good idea to say 'by the way, I think you have a great bum/incredible ass' (or some variation of it)?
I'd love to hear your opinions of these!
Thank you, and keep up the good work!
Hello Elliot, for your first point I think it is a great trigger and one that many girls are into but it's not gonna be that easy...like she's almost certainly not just going to fall completely under your spell right after that. I think it can definitely trigger something primal but you will have to build upon that. But I think you definitely have a good thing going on with big hands and should make that known somehow for sure! 2. It really depends on how heated and comfortable u have gotten with each other. Like it could be a FANTASTIC thing to say but the moment has to be right and you have to have worked up to that kind of familiarity and intimacy. There are situations where it could work like a club but in general u would usually have to build up to that a little.
@@mynonleatherlife Thank you for the response! Yeah, I'll definitely use the large hand thing in conjunction with other dominant behaviours. It's funny, I used to be extremely shy but- since doing things like karaoke at my university's social club in front of a crowd- that sparked my confidence. I'm even more confident after I've had a few drinks. One time in a nightclub, I just yolo'd it... I went up to a girl who was sitting down and said 'excuse me, do you have a man tonight?' to which she replied 'no'. I then reached my hand out and said 'I can change that, let's dance!', and she willingly took up my offer. We only danced briefly, but I was testing myself to see if I can push my bravery boundaries! Your videos are gonna be very helpful for me moving forward, thank you! x
I'm taking notes to re-ignite relation with my wife. This is PURE GOLD.
I was actually aware of these points before watching this video, and after watching you confirming my thoughts, i 'm more than ever convinced that i'll probably will be mostly a single male throughout my life, just because i don't want to be her hero, and i don't want to be the alpha male, i don't want to compete with other men to earn the princess, and i don't see a point in being the protective male in a relationship. My observation is that this is how the majority of men behave, and apparently exactly what the majority of women request, its a match. I can't fake or change the way i think, so i guess the only option left is to get used to it. Lastly i should say thank you :)
Ok well this is not all women. These are bdsm themes that 58% of women often have a deep hidden interest in sometimes just fantasizing about. Doesn’t mean u have to LIVE this out in your relationship. You could merely play with the themes occasionally or not at all or find someone who has zero interest in any kind of kink ever!! Many of those out there too. So don’t mistakenly give up assuming this is a definite necessity to have a relationship cause that would be absurd.
Your channel is amazing, keep telling! We are always learning
thanks Bash AR
Thanks so much Victoria! I love your content and I've been watching it non-stop.
Oh wow thanks so much powerdump3000! I’m so glad ur enjoying it
@@mynonleatherlife hahaha thank you for making me feel special, like a man in a strip club! I have so many questions... it seems like there are so many contradictions in the realm of relationships. Let me formulate some questions and I'll ask later.
I never thought of it like this and the whole wedding concept is very interesting to think about.
Of all your videos that I've seen this is my favorite for many reasons. It's the heart of attraction, compatibility and probably what keeps romance alive over time .....essential and profound !!♡!!
I have a lot of thoughts on this one. You touched my curiosity and personal realizations and memories so much so that I Googled
BDSM. You have described primordial landscapes within us and with the simplicity of a children's story including easily understandable excellent illustrations that anyone can relate if they have a minimally open mind.
This is so powerful as you hit all the genetically ingrained expectations told in a story form over the eons of time to our present day. You have created a veritable handbook on what women desire, expect and hope to have come true in their primordial hearts and souls. Victoria you very clearly spell out the goals a woman wants and they are not that difficult to make come true.... Ultimately dark monogamy .
You're so brilliant that after I read this the first time ... I thought "of course" and then I thought "I'm so glad you presented this because it's so obvious but escaped my complete realization until you put this into words. ... and then all the pieces fit together"!!
Thank you so much !!♡!!
oh wow Raymond thank you so much!! amazed and grateful to u for ur comment
Thanks for the knowledge, Professor Victoria
Thanks for the cheat code. BTW I like your voice and your action which i found very appealing.
thank God you finally bought a decent microphone hehehe thanks for your knowledge Tori, its worth gold
Haha yes I had about 1000 people telling me to on my last vid, I’m glad it is sufficient! :)
Your videos are incredible. Not often is there a woman who is willing to spell out in detail what women want and give men tips and pointers as well as you. I'm assuming a lot of men appreciate these videos. That being said, I think the majority of your videos can actually only truly help about 20% of the male population. 20% being the top half of the hierarchy. As you go down the hierarchy to the beta males, it isn't really going to matter to them because they will not be able to apply your tips with any type of sustainable success. Some beta males will always be beta no matter how hard they try to become alpha. It is just a reality that the bottom half hierarchy of men will need to accept.
well what ur saying is interesting and does seem to make sense but I think if they really work at it, they can gain the skillsets needed. But they will have to go really hard to make a total transformation. It won't be easy. But no I definitely think they should not accept that. Why do you think they can't have sustainable success?
@@mynonleatherlife Again, I just want to emphasize again how great your videos are. I believe what you are saying is truly what a lot of women want and think. Kudos to you for being able to explain it so well. This is a great channel and I am looking forward to watching more videos of you. So far, I have watched only a few of your videos but plan to watch more. I guess I am trying to understand the goal of your channel. Is it to explain "what women want and feel" or is it to "help men understand what women want so that they can land a woman". These sound the same but they are kind of two different things. I think understanding what a women wants is definitely helpful but, at the end of the day, it seems to me that it takes an extreme amount of concentration, energy and commitment that a man has to take to truly make a woman happy. You have to win contests, understand the vortex, be able to read her, be flexible, understand her sex brain vs. normal brain, etc. The list seems to go on and on. It seems that only Alpha males have the stamina to keep that level of energy up for a sustainable amount of time. In the beginning of the relationship, navigating the intricacies of a woman seems like an endeavor worth pursuing. However, I am not sure if matches reality especially for long term relationships like marriages that last for decades. Unless if I am not interpreting this correctly? Maybe, this is what is going on in a woman's brain but she never will be fully satisfied because real life is not a romance novel or a fairytale. I guess maybe if you did a video explaining how to live the fairytale while at the same time navigating the everyday ins and out and realities of everyday life could be helpful.
@Finbar McCallister Sweet response Finbar. But I am confused, how are you able to easily spot the bottom 80% when you go to grocery stores, parks and schools? Are you basing it on physical appearance or are you basing it on the content of their character?
@Finbar McCallister Thanks Finbar McCallister. When you say Red Pill gurus are not attractive, are you referring to their physical appearance?
@Finbar McCallister OK. I will stop listening to the Red Pill Gurus and I will leave my house more often.
Just want to say I appreciate the fact that you have a lot put in the description of your videos!
I have noticed strongly the dark monogamy in my ex gf, when a woman have profound level of respect they always like to trigger the pure feminine game, and awaiting for your word in how to submit.
Also there is probably a correlation with woman in gaming community/other STEM field, with the “patriarchy” fantasy. This may not be explicitly erotic, but subliminally I am sure there are aware exactly of where they are, and what this mean.
Interesting points... I agree that the respect is KEY. If they truly admire u, and see u as worthy, deserving because they truly think u are stronger than them in certain ways mentally, socially and physically like U said that is when the dark monogamy fantasy can be real and pure feminine game is triggered. Fantastic points. The other thing u said, I know I would feel the patriarchy fantasy being triggered personally as a dull awareness in back of my head but I would do everything I could to ignore, suppress it and camouflage it. I don’t know about other girls or if it has any subconscious influence on them going into the field haha interesting ideas
I listen to a lot of psychology, the things you are saying resonate with it.
It's a very good look into the deeper psychology of women.
It's also the reason why I don't believe in feminism. We are not equals. Equal to the law? Absolutely. Equal opportunities? Absolutely. But we are not equals. Apples and oranges are not equal.
The genders do appear to have roles to play. And everything you're saying is pointing to that.
I couldn’t disagree more
@@mynonleatherlife please elaborate.
Another awesome video, Victoria,. Maybe you should try your hand at writing women's fiction, given your deep understanding of the subject.
Who says I dont ;))) but thank u so much Centurion Strength & Fitness
@@mynonleatherlife Guessing some of your 31k subscribers would be interested to read your work. :D
As always.... Thanks a million for sharing truthful insights 🙏🙏🙏
thx kwok one...did u learn anything u didn't know from it?
It seems like we should keep our primitive selves only in the bedroom, but nowhere else in life. I think our brains are finding this separation VERY new and we all are living in a transition point.
Amen to that we got to follow the shift, because nobody is dealing with me too.
interesting idea
I think that the one place where people don’t want too much modernity is in the bedroom. No one wants to talk about it though because it conflicts so much with our modern pop culture. I think that it’s not easy for a woman to agree with #metoo and SJW narratives and then also be honest about wanting a masculine, dominant male in private. That separation between the public and private self is probably the source of a lot of inner conflict.
@@karagumruk7330 That’s interesting because I was reading something recently about how Eastern Europe is now doing much better than Western Europe. The article said that countries like Poland and Hungary still have their own people getting married and having babies where in Germany and France they are not. If women there are open about preferring masculine men then it sounds like the future of the EU is in the East, if those countries will even want to stay in the EU.
@@karagumruk7330 it is definitely a lot worse now than in 2014
Pearl's of wisdom. Subbed. 🌹
Mystery in my experiences provokes a woman's deepest interest.
I pull out the guitar, play a few notes and sing a few words and the rest is history...
@@bikercat4138 haha u must be a fantastic musician
@@mynonleatherlife I'm very good with my fingers 👋😏
This is an Original lecture.
You so spot on.
Well done.
thank you Keith
@@mynonleatherlife my pleasure
Your show is cool to me because I have been a Tv and film producer all my life. Your show makes the guy feel
Like he’s getting the inside track on what women are doing. It’s very rare that a women would bust the cherry of female behavior, but you did.
Great video, your a kind soul! 💜
Thanks Michael
Welcome back love.
Gracias por romper el código femenino . Por ayudarnos a ser mejores hombres. Sigue así nunca cambies.Saludos desde Colombia.
They want us to get it. They don't know how to ask for it. And they're rooting for us.
That bit about "let fantasies be fantasies" is a really important point.
I love the window you are giving us into core female desires, but I'm struggling to figure out how to make this information actionable. I feel like I'm starting to get it but I don't know what to do with it.
Yea... definitely. This vid was not very actionable but more about philosophy. I want to try buying some of these different courses for men and reviewing them to see how actionable their steps are.
@@mynonleatherlife You're giving us the foundation and that's key. Understanding first. And a lot of this is about unlocking our desire for women that triggers many of these feelings for them. But I feel like I need some direct steps to take to really get a feel for this stuff.
You are too kind, what a wonderful gift from a wonderful woman. Thank you!
You are absolutely awesome! Keep the videos going beautiful!
Hahaha that Nietzsche quote lmao amazing, thank you ....
could you (if you haven’t already) talk about the best ways to ask a girl to come inside your place. What ways have you found that have made you most comfortable and at ease? Thanks again you are great!!!
Lol thanks Steven... ok I will think about this one and maybe poll my friends too
@@mynonleatherlife you’re the best!
Excellent and interesting upload.
I have a question. So there is this thing called semen retention, now its pretty self explanatory. But when a man does this he gets more energy, and feels "full" so to speak. I was wondering can a women feel the energy subconsciously? Because there a lot of men who try this, and I get this too, that women some how find them more attractive, or they find more women are drawn to them and approaching them. Can you feel when a man is "full" compared to " empty"?
I never noticed this before but I've heard a lottt of guys on my raw attractive power vid talking about it and they have many convincing anecdotes! I guess I don't have a way of knowing if they are retaining to compare with how attracted I am or how intensely drawn to them I am....but what are ur thoughts on it?
Women will naturally be more drawn to you because it shows a control over your emotions, and overrall the retention of semen is actually healthy for your body, which is attractive for obvious reasons. They aren't attracted because you're retaining your seed, they're attracted because of what retaining your seed does to you.
It might give you stronger urges to try, but I doubt it will give you more confidence or game. Plus if you really need to do to make girls think you're attractive, you might need to improve other areas of yourself and not just looks. So it seems kinda silly
Being on semen retention has its benefits, but once you enable this inner masculine confidence, it will always project outwardly. Meaning you can bust a nut & still be confident with no anxiety or have a problem making eye contact. I know because I'm proof of that.
@@jmecklenborg lol. You have no idea what it is or does and you are acting like you know all about it. How ignorant are you
"Primal feats for breeding rights".
Very interesting thought, Victoria.
They say men chase championships, women chase champions.
I didn't find a video of this topic. Could you please make a guideline on what to do when you get a girl back to your place?
That's actually a really really good idea, thank you
Wow so true about us women. Be dominant but respect us. Be protective but don't enslave us. Be strong but to protect us.❤
"Oh. Just scratched myself!"
😂 that was funny and adorable...I really don't think we were judging you for a little itch
Dark monogamy = Beauty And The Beast
Definitely, a fairytale that captures this really well with the theme of ownership and being held captive in his mansion and the polarity between hyper feminine beauty and the primally dominant beast and of course the themes of patriarchy are in there with her love for and intense relationship with her father
Thank you 🙏. Much love from Melbourne Australia 🤙
If you wrote a book, I would buy it right now!
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏🥰
@@mynonleatherlife Do that
Incredible unique content. Thanks a lot Victoria )
Thanks Tiago
Hey Victoria,
which you lots of success with your Patreon(s)...you maybe should consider to have a better camera and microphone which will improve the overall quality of your content and It's not "that" expensive though... just 100 bugs and you get some allrighty stuff to start off...
Best,
Sascha
oh darn I got a mic but maybe I need a better one. I have blue yeti...what do u think of it and what camera do u think i should get, I just use photo booth on my laptop
@@mynonleatherlife Just looked up your mic, it's more than enough lol and sound quality is good in this video but have watched another video of yours where volume was low and it was hard to understand you properly....For the camera you don't have to dig deep into the pocket... just have an camera which has a better resolution as 360p (480 pixels x 360 pixels) and maybe you can adjust that with your phone booth suite there but maybe your laptop camera is too old to support higher resolutions! I would recommend a camera which can do 1080p (1920 x 1080) which we call FullHD ("Full high definition")...on the smart phone 360p looks somewhat allrighty but on larger screens like desktop-pcs or tablets it will look kinda blurry..such a camera which will meet your needs you can already get for 40 bugs which you can plug via usb to your machine...if you wanna go pro in a sense lol you might wanna use a Blackmagic
Pocket Cinema for example (low budget high quality cameras) but here we talking about making movies ^^ You can even think about lightning, having a ring light for example...just suggestions here...and thank you for your content...not many women name the things how they are but wanting to be shine in a certain light which is totally okay ofc but it's good when the genders are up to understand each other as to create even more confusion!
Best,
Sash
@@saschaketzel6624 thanks a lot for that advice
Regarding this idea of women wanting to feel safe with their man...
I once had a girlfriend tell me she was afraid of me. Now I will swear on a mile high stack of Bibles that I was always respectful to her and never deliberately did anything to make her feel threatened or unsafe. She just out of nowhere one day told me that I scared her, but she has also told me that she feels safe with me.
Was I missing something there?
Well do u get angry frequently but not at her? Just one possibility I’m throwing out there that could explain it but there could be so many other reasons
@@mynonleatherlife I always went out of my way to not openly show any of my negative emotions to her, at least until I had a cooler head and I had a grasp on why I was feeling that way. Certain thing's she told me about her childhood and her previous relation ship made me suspect she had been through some emotional trauma she wasn't ready to talk about, so I was careful not to lash out in anger.
Tbh though, I suspect holding back my emotions so much played a part in our eventual breakup.
@@mynonleatherlife It's been a few years obviously, but I just happened to be watching this video again, and I saw this old comment I had forgot about. I wanted to stop and say thank you for taking the time to reply. Your explanations are always insightful and easy to understand.
Hey thanks for the advice.
what do you think about the movie 50 shades of gray, I just saw the movie recently and notice that he was being needy in the movie is that a turn off for woman or what do you think about the movie I’m confused.
Yeah, I sensed it too, he started becoming more simp like. :/
I hated the movie and walked out of the theater towards the end cuz it was getting so annoying. The guy they cast as Christian grey was not convincing as a dominant guy at all in my opinion. Fantastic looking but barely exuding any raw attractive power. I forgot what happened towards the end but I think it turns into a “dark monogamy” style relationship where he becomes really possessive and a lot of drama ensues. Unfortunately I couldn’t get thru the whole book either cuz the writing is terrible!!
@@mynonleatherlife well at the end of the day it’s a movie I stopped watching any type of movies because of how wrongly it influences us to be like, I rather read self improvement books.
My experience is total opposite. My gf loved me when I was chubby, unemployed, ugly looking guy. But then I got fit, got good job and income and started dressed well, and could support her financially then she just dumped me saying I am not the man she wants.
Saame bro i used to shit on the floor and she loved it. Like when i didnt shower or brush my teeth. Maybe we are just the normal guys and your gf totally didnt look like a pig. But yea Biden right
I feel like you are so genuine that is great to see. All the vids are eye openers I’m gonna try real hard to think of an inquisitive question to ask just bc I think I am kind of turned on by this whole concept of you a woman telling us what women really want it just seems like new territory and there is sexual energy involved, killer stuff for reals thank you!
thanks James!
That's what i do naturally. I create an environment where my woman is safe and protected by me. She's mine, and I can protect her with or without a weapon. It's not a problem.