Honestly fascinating how this low fi corner of youtube has the deepest most honest takes on not just the female angle but the whole of human sexuality. Im here for it.
As a 45yo man trying to reclaim some sort of masculinity I can’t express enough my appreciation for your honesty. I promise you men these days have no clue about any of this. I’m not sure why women keep all this such a secret or even lead you down the wrong path purposefully. Please keep going
Honestly i appreciate the fact that your secure in yourself enough to elaborate on the choice of content it's honorable, not alot of women can just say it how is without any fear but really unless your dead life is never over ,there's always a brighter side,keep up the good work.
I’m a 52 year old guy and I wish I heard this stuff when I was younger. I had to learn it through life - mistakes and whatnot. And now I’m having to unlearn things I thought I should do. You’re accelerating my process. You put out amazing content delivered in an authentic and vulnerable way. Really... thanks.
Animalistic in some ways.. I wouldn't call it barbaric. I'm still not sure where men go during sex.. but women enter a beautiful and spiritual place during sex. Although society definitely sugarcoat relationship and love. Sex can b beautiful even without relationship
Great point around 10:00 in. Women don't want to be appreciated only for their looks in many situations, their careers for example, but they definitely do want to be appreciated for their looks in romantic situations and relationships. Great job highlighting this distinction!
Yes we enjoy attention and to b objctified but not in professional situations. Bec both men and women ate most importantly human. With interests and knowledge and desire for purpose
1 Tamed by Alpha (to be outAlpha’ed) 2 Masculinity 3 To be owned (by one man), owned body, mind and soul. 4 To be objectified, controlled and sexualised 5 To be Competed for by top men 6 INTENSITY Wild, passionate, intense sex ( Emotional rollercoaster (highs and lows) 7 Deep emotional trust and healing +
I would leave out emotional rollercoaster - highs and lows happen automatically in life. I'm more turned on by competence. Maybe switch out the rollercoaster for spontaneity.
Well it depends on the context but I agree there can be some unconscious deception involved or even conscious. at the same time sometimes they will tell u straight up
But the prerequisite to that is that you actually give a shit how she does feel about it. Suggest shit and decide shit, but if she doesn't like what you pick, you better notice and adjust yourself. Too many broken marriages where the husband had zero idea the wife was as unhappy as she was. Pay attention. Decision-making means taking responsibility for the consequences, and being able to face when you decided wrong and pivot without condescension, denial, or pettiness. Hank Hill's sexist dad may have a point about women needing a leader, but he uses that as an excuse to be a pushy crybaby who flat-out ignores everyone around him. Never use truisms as a get-outta-jail; truisms like that, if true, are only so with a hefty responsibility at the other end.
I call it sexual enlightenment. It's a level or two beyond being just a great smasher, though that is certainly part of it. It's almost like magic, when you two are so in tune, so in the moment, so accepting of passions with absolutely zero reservations that you can stand in front of each and just touch palm to Palm and feel a electric pulse through your whole body and soul and you can't help but exclaim "oh my God do you feel this" and you come together fully and both your entire personhoods meld into one as travel through the heavens. This can only happen when two are emotionally and spiritually (for lack of a better word) inline. Also being a giver and not just a taker is so big nowadays. Lots of men only care about getting off, it is absolutely secondary to me. If she's not calling me her hero by the end then it ain't over yet... Lol And that means a total willingness to put in the correct work, anywhere and everywhere 😉 Like a jackhammer of love... Lol
Thank you for sharing these videos, even though I have been married for 38 years I have been helped from your honesty. I am always trying to improve my relationship with my wife. Thanks for giving me good ideas and understanding.!!!
Right? These things are just what we are born with most natural and easiest thing men can do. She just telling us to act according to our natural instincts isn’t it?
Your amazing! Your not like other people in your class. So many people in your group are hungry for money and want to convert their viewers into customers for their products. But I can tell you are doing this simply from the goodness of your heart and your not trying to sell anything and I love how it seems like your just an ordinary girl and how you could be someone’s older or younger sister. That makes everything your saying in your videos all the more appealing. Thank you so much and I like you so much I wrote a whole song about you! :) (I’m a musician so whenever I feel inspired by someone or something I usually write a song about it).
Excellent break down. My wife always tells me I'm the only man thats been able to tame her & I never understood why that was such a big deal or if its even a good thing. I attribute taming to taking away freedom but this helps me to understand at a deeper level. I'll own it now :0)
really interesting. yes many women want to see themselves as wild and they want the man to be like a horse whisperer or a horse breaker even. (I'm very against taming or riding horses IRL but this is still a fantasy for many)
Bec we are uncomfortable with our own darkness hardness wildness. It's something we struggle with.. at least I have. And we feel men won't accept us bec of it. Some men complain about nonsubmissive women those men don't realize that it's them who don't have the power to make these woman want to submit. When a woman finds a man who is not afraid of this raw power but can ride the waves with her And se through it to her inner true softness. She is grateful bec. That goodness and softness is who we really want to be. Just as a man may want to b strong but when a woman gives him softness he becomes even stronger. Abd the strength feels good for a man. There's something strange in this. That woman are quite hard without being tamed and men are quite soft without a woman who believes in him. But woman feel so wonderful when we can find our softness. And men feel so wonderful when they can grind their hardness!!!
@@artofmybody2882and it does the opposite when reversed. Meaning, a Hard woman will grind a man down to nothing, resent him for being soft, and never think twice. He just couldn't handle her. Well, we handle Problems, we don't want to Handle the woman, too. She becomes a problem. The "like" polarities repel, after all. I have a hard woman now, I can't "out alpha" her - it would require physical force. She's unwilling to follow, can't lead, and the facts that I'm smarter, earn more, more organized, taller, higher social status, better educated - none of it matters. The fact I didn't corral her from day 1 is a problem. But she wanted a short term fling, so I didn't invest the effort because she'd be leaving - why pick fights, just enjoy the ride. Turns out a man should ALWAYS be shutting her down. Which with my upbringing means, you're abusive. Can't win. You have to treat her with kid gloves, but out-Alpha her at the same time. Know where she wants to go, then take her there before she knows what's happened. Mean time, while trying to provide the container where she can feel safe, she's burning your world to the ground, completely out of control, and blames you for her containment (imprisoning, to her) but also for NOT controlling her (you don't care enough to HANDLE her). Gen X from Jersey. Both of us, but she's a bit older. 20 years ago, a "summer fling" lead to bankruptcy and foreclosure, and I haven't gotten free yet. But she refuses to be lead, and will not follow, and we both need a place to live, so does her daughter (now 28, btw). How do you make someone feel safe when they're so damaged? Not by being genteel, that's for certain.
You learn so much form someone who speaks on both genders without bashing either of them. The best out there, your videos have more meaning than those fake dating coaches out here. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
The problem is a lot of the guys that have all these awesomely masculine traits are complete jerks and end up abusing their girlfriends and wives. I've viewed several of your videos, and I don't dispute anything you've said, you are being completely honest and that is a rare thing. I was fortunate and lucky enough to have been born with some abilities and physical "looks" that allowed me to just be "myself" and not have to pretend that I was something I was not. I got pursued just because of my looks when I was younger, which makes things much easier, you don't have to bother putting on all these different "masks" to convince a girl you can "protect and provide" for her. I'll be honest, that shit gets tiring. I think girls pass on a lot of really good guys simply because they are not "aggressive" or "cool" enough.
@@mynonleatherlife It's somewhat "analogous", but not perfectly so. Guys can be "superficial" like that, no doubt. But when a girl rejects you, it cuts much deeper, because she is not necessarily only rejecting how you look, she is rejecting "you". And that's why many guys are so "gun shy" about asking girls out, it hurts on a very deep level to be rejected like that. Girls, IMO, have too many unconscious "hoops" that they make men jump through, some of them not all that crucial in the modern world. On the deepest level, they are wired to "protect their eggs", but don't even realize it. As I said before, I think it results in many of them making poor decisions in who they choose to date.
@@gilgamecha Where in my comment did I say that? Of course, women can be hurt as much as a guy, but it's much easier for a girl to find somebody else. To "paraphrase" something I saw once, Women go "shopping" and men go "hunting", and that is not all that far from the truth. Women can always "find" a guy, whereas the converse is not necessarily true.
it resonated well with me, really clear and well expressed. Some woman aren't able to articulate this, i love the passion you put into your videos; it makes a BIG difference to show you enjoy sharing this stuff so honestly.💯
Men like wild passionate reckless abandonment sex too, but I believe many men are afraid in the modern world that nearly and sometimes literally criminalizes aggressive masculine behavior.
They want to criminalize heterosexuality. Still you save your aggressiveness for your enemy. Remember she is the alpha MEMD ELT a and omega. She is not brute like him but of course she can have a wild spiritual and physical dominance.. Is a spiritual sexual dominance And authority. Don't confuse the humanbeing wish for thrills with ignoring will and boundaries
I appreciate you making this video and revealing this, there is definitely lots of truth to this. However this poses a challenge for most men. We don’t think like this, to my male brain this sound largely irrational (yet I acknowledge its true from my past relationship experiences). I know women are operating off their evo-wiring but regardless this is too demanding for most men. But that could explain the dynamic of 80% of women wanting 20% of men, given that the 20% of men are the ones who understand this and are willing to live up to all the unrealistic expectations 80% of women have.
Thank You! AND Thank YOU! I See your struggle and fierce efforts to reach your place of revealing in your talks here. Impressive!!! I just turnt 62yo and your heart felt sharing of; "core, foundational desires of women explained" and your others, hits like a canon ball to the chest. I've been lied to my whole life and only on very rare occassions allowed anything other than "Candle lit gentle affection with women, and immediately STOPPED EVERYTHING at the hint of : "Ouch, I'm tired, I have a headache you smell like sweat, you're dirty." That whole wrong value system has had me mindtwisted and afraid of expressing with women with whom we share an established intimacy, my own genuine emotion and sexuality. For context: I'm retired US Army, Cavalry Scout, and from another hellish extremely dangerous job as well. My current wife Validates a lot of what you reveal!
Every time I’ve ever been a gentleman and then turned it into a fall on blanketyblank session, I was always complimented on the transition. Your right, make it a full on Event, and they never forget you.
@@mynonleatherlife There is this overwhelming feeling that my sexual desires are bad and shameful. I believed women didn't want sex, it was just something men tricked them into. I feel this when I so much as make eye contact with a woman I find attractive. It crushes my energy and fills me with anxiety. I wasn't introduced to this concept that women like sex and they enjoy the sexual energy they get from men until a few years ago. Thank you youtube for that. I've been slowly letting go of the shame ever since.
I hate that we live in this society where everything is safe and people don't need to rely on their physical strength and prowess anymore and yet we're still expected to have all of these traits and exhibit them. It's like our physiology of psychology hasn't caught up with our evolution yet.
You’re awesome Victoria. I completely understand what you’re speaking of. Human beings have so many inputs and outputs and shades of emotions and traits. But, I agree with everything you said. Keep up the great work!
Victoria thank you for the great content. JustPearlyThings used your content but was hammered with negative response, thankfully your channel has a different audience. I am 40, always had to go against the grain by instinct, be confident about masculinity, and you are the first woman to confirm what all men feel. On behalf of men, thank you.
Thank u for alerting me eugen, I am watching her vid now. I didn’t think the response was too negative… I have seen far worse on my channel lol. I am glad u like the vids eugen!!!
After reading all the comments lol eugen I see what u mean more they really insulted me in 100 different ways but like I said luckily I’ve already become immune to the exact same insults on my channel. But I agree she does have a different audience like I have probably blocked most of those types on my channel but she has them coming by the horde commenting on her vids I don’t know how she takes it but then again I didn’t see her respond or engage with a single comment
Thank you, Victoria. You made me understand women so much better. I realize that I lived my life believing all kinds of shit, or not knowing exactly what I was dealing with. My life could've been different if I knew these things years ago, that's how much impact knowing things about the other can have.
This Is a spot on commentary, unfortunately I began to understand the emotional side of my wife too late. As I focused too much on being a provider, and wasn't able to fully comprehend being emotionally engaged to her needs. The passion was gone and I'm left with the learning process of a new me.
Thank U for commenting and sharing some of your story, What do u mean emotionally engaged to her needs.. what do u think she was lacking...ur passion for her and emotional support? Did she try to explain it to u and u couldn’t understand or did she just never come out and be truly honest with u about what she needed.
@@mynonleatherlife I believe she tried some, but I just didn't understand. Maybe I didn't want to understand.?? Maybe she didn't explain where I could understand??
@@mynonleatherlife Honestly I didn't get much help from my Dad on that area. He is a great man, but oblivious to a woman needs. So I had a huge lacking in that area
every time you make a TOP, my mind says, this is probably either in the description or in the comments, but then I remember how honest you are, and I watch all the 15 minutes of video
You confirm things that I have been thinking about for a while… We have a veneer of civilised behaviour, but underneath we are driven very much by our basic biology. That includes competition for mates, the drive to have sex (and procreate), and security for the family.
I love your comments... I think your talking about is a short-term type of thing. It's now trendy for beautiful women to be business owners... Woman have taken away a man's primeval need provide and protect. This is what makes us men. We feel useless now... on a whim, a woman with money and beauty has no problem leaving you for another man and 70 to 80% a woman do because they're bored and want excitement. They're proud of their body counts. More and more are not having children. In Japan, they have night clubs that are exclusive to women only.
2 major experiences. Growing up on R&B. Women singing about "love me for what's on the inside, and not the outside" with such passion and force. My wife's mom advising her to present herself to me on our first date, looking tore up. That way I'm forced to focus on what's on the inside and NOT the physical. It would SEEM that women are obsessed with NOT being physically/sexually objectified. But at age 37, this is what I find. Many, many women really don't have this profound depth or intellect that the R&B singers impressed upon me as a kid. Also, when there is an emotional disconnect in a relationship... sex, sensuality, and objectification is the first weapon of choice to get things on track. My wife and I had a disconnect, she b-lines to Victoria's Secret. Her Mother had a disconnect with her husband, b-line to Victoria's Secret. My wife's girlfriend dealing with her men when they get tired of her, Victoria's Secret. They don't know what else to do with a man! Mixed message?... All that Ra-Ra mess about Manji83, the possible sexual objectification thirsty wolf preying on a woman, out the window! But in order for these 3 women to succeed, they need a sex crazy, tongue wagging goof, not a cerebral man who's been conditioned by upbringing, religion, society, and entertainment to peer deeply into your inner person. I'm not saying all women are lame brains. My situation is an extreme case. But yes physical objectification is a positive. This is my long winded way of agreeing with you.
very interesting thoughts manji83. I sympathize cause on the one hand women want to be loved for what's on the inside, but they also want to be loved for what's on the outside and sexual objectification is actually very important as well for many of them I totally agree. It must be really confusing to most guys.
@@jkd9637 dude, I love your perspective. I understand. My dear brothers and sisters can be quite one dimensional and boring to the point of depressing me. But 1Peter 3: 3, 4 is what influenced me despite what we may have witnessed in PEOPLE in religion, "3 Do not let your adornment be external-the braiding of hair and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothing- 4 but let it be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible adornment of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God." So that's what I meant. I think us thinking men can agree on that even if we are atheist. Don't get it twisted though. I love a woman who can hold a conversation. Not a quite little mouse, but not one of these belligerent loud mouth ones who THINK they're strong for being distasteful either.
@@manji83 I apologize for my comment. It was inappropriate of me to question your intelligence, due to my opinion. Search out the woman who is as close a friend as a lover. Eyes should be what you find most attractive about her, physically. Eyes are the one thing that never changes with age.
Thank you Victoria for your reply, its a breathe of fresh air to come across a woman like yourself, down to earth and a good looking woman to add. You are very deep that is a sexy quality, I believe you should branch out and get into other topics of interest to include in your repertoire....
I always feel really manly when im dating a girl. And i feel like other girls notice that. I wanna come to the point where i feel really powerful even single. Does anyone else have this problem?
No attention from girls make you feel unManly basically. My opinion is to always have some type of female interactions, even if single. Make alot of female friends if single. A man can't get that joy from of being around a soft woman, unless he is actually around a soft woman.
@@archangel_gold2451 yeah thanks idk id rather just be in a relationship i know im only 23 but im tired of just changing girls id rather look for something serious.
I like this chick we need more of them out there. I knew alotof this stuff but the woman needs to know what the woman needs to be to make a man be more like what the woman is describing.
Wow this makes so much sense! Like why women seem to be super attracted to men who seem to be assholes, even bad. When in reality they protect their own while not letting strangers affect their mindset. BTW Victoria are you familiar with Jordan Peterson? The main thing he preaches to men especially is to take on responsibility and bear the burden of life. The lessons from you two go a long way dispelling all the bullshit that society has forced down our throats. You're doing so much good for us men. We are lied to everyday and made to believe what people, especially women THINK they want. Thank you so much Victoria Love and appreciation from a fan of yours from Iceland
I didn't know that was one of Jordan Peterson's main messages. I listened to one interview with him and kinda got turned off by him so I didn't listen to anything more. That is interesting. I'm so glad u like the vids and find them helpful. Also I am a YUUUUUUGE fan of Iceland. I wan't to go back badly. It's so incredible.
@@mynonleatherlife Nice! Not everything Jordan Peterson says is helpful but he does preach some important rules for life. Also you're very much welcome in Iceland anytime. We would love to have you
then i'm gonna tell u the truth that women are not liars 🤯 it's your own blindspots keeping u from understanding the truth. check out my latest vid on male blindspots
Kudos on your thumbnail. Intense, slightly hidden but still knowing your appeal. I know much of what you speak is true from my own life experiences. Way to go!
@@mynonleatherlife most men and women are very basic creatures and when they try to deny their intuitions and instincts, they go awry. Basic Primal urges are always there even if you cover them up.
@@mynonleatherlife I've recently just discovered your channel so I've only watched a few videos so far. I'm slowly going through the channel, the videos so far have been gems. I think you're amazing and I wish you the best on UA-cam, I hope you can make some good money from it. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Your analysis on the subconscious psychology of women's emotions resonates with that of Professor Jordan Peterson. Are you by any chance a student of psychology?.. 😀 Anyhow, your honest no bullshit breakdowns are very informative and quite helpful in understanding the female character too... Do continue your good work. Thank you.
men do want that devotion. I'm building eveything to share with and to give protection to my woman,kids. It's sacred and i dont offer it to anybody, only who qualifies to.
So I hope you answer this to me...I grew up very quickly..I looked mature beyond my age...and so I got a lot of rejection from girls my actual age....a ton..until I discovered that I should seek out older females...but it also never feels right....but as I got older I realized that the same younger women who rejected me when I was their age in our 20s...they are now attracted to me cos am older and more established...unfortunately tho..these days I see those women as ..mentally immature..its like what are you gonna offer me outside of your body?...and then also I have a long memory and I never forget things. I have hi IQ and ..a memory like an elephant...so how can I get over that? I also dont want a younger female that I cant connect to mentally. The older women ..well they are older..and usually have kids..aka...another mans kids...😂😂
So go for it Cashcow nothing wrong with liking older women, you will get a leg up from them anyway cause they can teach you stuff and know themselves better as well. Is the problem u want kids but they already have kids? Or just the idea of being with them when they have another mans kids?
Find an attractive woman a couple years younger then you or possibly a woman your age that doesn't have kids. Maybe you need to ask yourself are you in a position and/or high value enough to get an attractive girl in your age range that doesn't already have kids. From what your saying, your high value enough for an older woman and a much younger woman but maybe you need to work on yourself so you can get an attractive women in your age range that you can connect with and she would be winning by choosing you to have children with.
@@nicholasrocco5084 great advise is great advise...I can get the youngins.. i am not desperate enough to entertain their youngish ways...and drama....we will see how it plays out tho....
The problem with all those novels is that they end at the beginning of longer relation with a woman. The trick is to play the novel plot, but never get to the happy end.
@@jfo3000 That's because women are biologically programmed to find reasons to DISqualify a man from mating consideration. Think about it. For most women, most men would/could have sex with her. There's no way she has the time or energy to have sex with even a fraction of a percent of the men that want sex with her. A woman that doesn't have an innate desire to "weed out the losers" will have less descendants than a woman that has that genetic characteristic. This is why women typically lose most of their sexual desire for their husbands after around 10 years of marriage, and men keep theirs with only a slight drop, even though after 10 years she's probably way less physically attractive than she was at the beginning.
I discovered your channel earlier this week. I'm impressed by your raw articulation and insight to what men need to know in regards to being competent men as a whole and competent suitors for that woman. Keep up the content. I will try to find some constructive criticism for you. t/y again.
@@mynonleatherlife Yes, I can imagine. People can be brutal on mundane topics: this subject matter and your intuitive perception is going to trigger people and some will bust a vein. Simply don't read comments until you are in the right state of mind. Ignore comments until you feel strong and powerful and can perceive that negativity from a position of strength. A time when you can realize they aren't attacking you but your narrative and that these people are having a rough time in life as it is and you are the focus of them releasing their pent up negativity. I think choosing the time you read comments will allow you the control you need to keep things in perspective and not be emotionally drained. You have and display so much courage by putting yourself on camera and sharing your perspective. That in itself is threatening to many who don't have that courage, that confidence. Stay on point. You are doing well and providing a unique service for many. thank you
I'm under the impression that whether the pace in the bedroom is slow or fast, the crucial ingredient is the 'oomph', which isn't necessarily a physical thing. In my mind, the 'oomph', is non-physical. It's hard to describe in words, but we could say it is "psychological", perhaps coming from that intense energy of domination and submission, which is much more the result of a way of relating to each other than it is the result of physical actions. I think when men in our culture think "making love", they foolishly throw domination out the window, under the assumption that domination and love don't go together, so therefore, lovemaking is understandably perceived as "weaker" than animalistic sex. But when a male has mastered his role, he can 'oomph' his way through the whole encounter whether he moves fast or slow, lovingly or dryly, and every move he makes is imbued with it. He can then, by making love to her, send her brains into orbit better than a porny-but-oomphless display of acrobatics can. What do you think about this, Victoria?
ur absolutely right, and pointing out something very important. I kinda made it seem like "lovemaking" is sub par and boring but it absolutely does not have to be, whereas I was making it seem like domination is everything, whereas I so agree with you that if you just go through the motions without any psychological depth or passion or oomph to it it is not good at all. For example much of the kink content online does absolutely nothing for me because it seems so lacking in depth, nuance, psychology, and the oomph like you're saying...just hitting someone with a paddle but where is the chemistry, truth, passion, connection, flow etc. I was thinking like u said that men are foolishly throwing intensity and domination out the window and wanting to inform them that gentle and soft are not all women like. But ur right, there is something else there...do u think people can improve their oomph or is it just chemistry with the right person?
@@mynonleatherlife First of all, you're great. I love that you're so open and generous in thoroughly sharing your thought process with everyone, both in the videos and in replies to comments. Honestly, I think the oomph is actually something that would *naturally* be there in male-female relations in Homosapiens groups untouched by modernity, but we as a civilization have immense baggage and conditioning, and are too smart for our own good; we have conditioned ourselves out of it. In comparison to an animal (who would do it naturally), we're so smart we're dumb. The genders have to unlearn all of our conditioned crap and re-learn what's natural, with the help of information ambassadors like yourself. I think a girl can absolutely improve her oomph if she chooses to be more submissive, and by golly that's fucking hot. And men can, too. The challenge we all face isn't in the act of choosing to dominate/submit in itself (that part is easy); the challenge is in the mental barriers: unlearning all the false beliefs that make one afraid of doing it. I can't speak for women (although I imagine it boils down to shame and fear), but I can speak for men, and I know that growing up in our culture, we develop by default a sense that being dominant is wrong and mean and we shouldn't do that; in fact we develop the opposite view: be as nice to her as possible. Guys intuitively know that niceness is attractive (to us), so we try to *be* that which we like in girls. And since we lack the female perspective, we're clueless about the fact that domination is what is wanted. What's funny is, I think the same phenomenon happens in the inverse: Girls intuitively/subconsciously know that being dominant is hot, so they try to be a "boss bitch" to impress men, which really isn't that attractive to us at all (lol). And since they lack the male perspective, they're clueless about the fact that submission is what's wanted. But if a girl figures it out and she talks to us with that nice weak, helpless, receptive and submissive puppy-eyes voice and body language, it's done. I want her.
@@mynonleatherlife After read the book The Dominated Men from Ester Villar, i acknowledge that I can't love woman the way I used to love, showing the way a woman use to control man and offer to little. But after this video i can love again a submissive woman without fear of being dominant, that something the society and my woman parents teach me is bad. Thanks again.
This answers the question that’s always eluded me and confused me! The fact that women put up with bad guys, abusive disloyal behaviour, because this is basic and primal, she is physically attracted to him for starters, how he acts how he looks how manly he is. Yet he is impossible to live with or have a relationship, yet they put up with it and become depressed oppressed and abused. It’s such common place with many of my girlfriends, who are just not interested in good caring considerate respectful nice guys! 🤷♂️🤦🏼♂️ So confusing and messed up.
yep. Men need exposure to the primitive side of themselves: Gym/fitness time, hunting, making fire and the somewhere they can learn raw masculinity. Then, how to exercise that part of their brain/knowledge without going to prison.
@@onealaska lol 😆 the prison bit cracked me up! Don’t forget drugs alcohol 🍺 and philandering/lying/cheating... God forbid if children are involved and he doesn’t get attention anymore!!
Very helpful as a Christian man I see that we are really missing it; we are allowing ourselves to be watered down to weakness and that is not what GOD wants for He men.
This is more of a sexual fantasy for women and not something to take literally and use an excuse to be more controlling or domineering or anything like that. A balance of strength and kindness/flexibility is good for every human being man or woman.
My gf and I ‘made love’ once at the end of a very tumultuous day: she found out she was pregnant in the morning and called me about it at work and I spent the next 12 hours stressing about it. By the time I got home I had gone through all 7 stages of grief and making love was the sweetest acceptance I’ve ever experienced
Yep. You understand the animal side of us humans that the world wants to ignore and forget. You can't get rid of it. It's in our genes. And I have also experienced what you're talking about first hand. What I and women both want is to give her freedom in the outside world while giving her structure and rules in our world. A place to feel safe and recharge for the next day of going out into the world and conquering like her man does, day to day. Nice work.
@@mynonleatherlife yeap the thing that surprasing me is that MUSCULINITY and becoming dominant in sexual activty also being protective ...unfortunetly strong dominance confident man is rare in modern era
This explains why women try to take control of the relationship, and push boundaries which is really annoying. It's because they are testing you to see if you can "tame" them.
The modern world is stressful enough for a man to make a decent living and have a career, and women want more out of them. Why not commit to a man around your age and build that alpha life together?
I didn’t know most of what you say, we men need to know everything, be raw and truthful and tell us more, don’t hide anything from us, we men need to know it all, we can handle it, as long as we use it for good ann not evil it is good , tell us more, tell us more , tell us more……..
Figuring out women never made any man alpha or legend some of the greatest men to exist didn't even bother with women fuck all this kings 👑 rise up if shes not cooperative you leave and move on with purpose a man without purpose will focus on these women videos which is bullshit men stay in frame always be a man and have purpose
You can do both. Having a better understanding of how women think is only going help.. Once you master the understanding then you can go back to not focusing on these types of videos, and still be armed with knowledge in case you need to use it at a later time.
Agree with your points but sometimes, strength is walking away when things are not going the way you want them to, cuz you are dealing with another human not a machine. You can't force submission or cooperation from a woman, You might even come off worse if you try that. she has to do that on her own.
For women to stop desiring other men, that primal femininity must be met. Women can sense a mans level of masculinity. It is a God given sense that ALLLLL women have and the opposite it true for men.
I'm 23 years old and never been in a relationship what am i doing wrong What i know for sure is i over think and dont know what to say to get a girl friend
Alright well never having been a guy I never had to go through this and I know for certain it’s not easy and almost every guy I’ve ever heard says they struggled in the beginning trying to understand women and understand what they want. I will think about some tips I would give u in case any of my tips can help u get a gf. I will consult with my bf as well and get back to u.
Be the leader, decide where u want to take her or do. Have the mindset that u want to have fun and if she wants to join it won't add any value to ur fun. I show my feelings in words and action how she means to me but not like very single minute like a simp.
Honestly fascinating how this low fi corner of youtube has the deepest most honest takes on not just the female angle but the whole of human sexuality. Im here for it.
A wiser man once said.. Its not where you bring a woman, its how you bring her and make her feel on the way there.
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Ahhh,💯 this is pure gold
ull get a lot of them that way, but u may not keep a lot of them for long. but as long as all parties agree, its aokay.
Only somebody with a close mind would say something like that.
Wise
As a 45yo man trying to reclaim some sort of masculinity I can’t express enough my appreciation for your honesty. I promise you men these days have no clue about any of this. I’m not sure why women keep all this such a secret or even lead you down the wrong path purposefully. Please keep going
I don't think woman know either. I didn't understand or enjoy sex until 34 as a woman. Still learning
You cannot speak for all men. You can only simp for yourself
Natural selection
Be a drug addict, heavy drinker or a jerk and you will find plenty of women.
Romance is such a cluster FFFF
I wish I were asexual.
Honestly i appreciate the fact that your secure in yourself enough to elaborate on the choice of content it's honorable, not alot of women can just say it how is without any fear but really unless your dead life is never over ,there's always a brighter side,keep up the good work.
@@mynonleatherlife youre a freaking hero , theres nothing better than the truth , it makes all the confusion go away
@@mynonleatherlife Victoria; would you say that most of your co-workers at the Clubs would concur with your opinions in this video?
The greatest part is that she’s not trying to sell you something
I’m a 52 year old guy and I wish I heard this stuff when I was younger. I had to learn it through life - mistakes and whatnot. And now I’m having to unlearn things I thought I should do. You’re accelerating my process. You put out amazing content delivered in an authentic and vulnerable way. Really... thanks.
Thanks so much Doug...like what were some of the things you thought you should do?
Look up MGTOW and red pill content
On UA-cam
@@bleblee732 nah that stuff makes you hate women... she has the best content
MGTOW also teacher you to be 10 moves of what woman are going to say! And how you can get them easily!
And not to send them money for nothing
Read then
Finally someone that dives deep and keeps it real thank you
Thank you Rae Jae
I like how honest you are. I think society sugar coats sex and attraction too much. Most of this stuff is barbaric and animalistic.
true
read the unplugged alpha
Animalistic in some ways.. I wouldn't call it barbaric. I'm still not sure where men go during sex.. but women enter a beautiful and spiritual place during sex. Although society definitely sugarcoat relationship and love. Sex can b beautiful even without relationship
@Art of My Body
Men DON'T go ANYWHERE during sex that is your problem right there. You assume men are like women and "go" somewhere, we do not.
@@MrParkerman6 Speak for yourself. I've had multiple "Out of body" experiences during sessions.
Great point around 10:00 in. Women don't want to be appreciated only for their looks in many situations, their careers for example, but they definitely do want to be appreciated for their looks in romantic situations and relationships. Great job highlighting this distinction!
Yes we enjoy attention and to b objctified but not in professional situations. Bec both men and women ate most importantly human. With interests and knowledge and desire for purpose
1 Tamed by Alpha (to be outAlpha’ed)
2 Masculinity
3 To be owned (by one man), owned body, mind and soul.
4 To be objectified, controlled and sexualised
5 To be Competed for by top men
6 INTENSITY Wild, passionate, intense sex ( Emotional rollercoaster (highs and lows)
7 Deep emotional trust and healing
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If she is a wild animal she wants a wilder animal to dominate her
I would leave out emotional rollercoaster - highs and lows happen automatically in life. I'm more turned on by competence. Maybe switch out the rollercoaster for spontaneity.
L.A. I believe the reference was to passionate sex, specifically
@@danielleadair7394 You can have mad passion without emotional contrast
Yes, she literally put this info in the video description -_-
a wise man once said: never ask a woman what she wants, because she doesn't know, it's up to you to show them what she wants ?!
Well it depends on the context but I agree there can be some unconscious deception involved or even conscious. at the same time sometimes they will tell u straight up
yeah but need to be careful
But the prerequisite to that is that you actually give a shit how she does feel about it. Suggest shit and decide shit, but if she doesn't like what you pick, you better notice and adjust yourself.
Too many broken marriages where the husband had zero idea the wife was as unhappy as she was. Pay attention. Decision-making means taking responsibility for the consequences, and being able to face when you decided wrong and pivot without condescension, denial, or pettiness.
Hank Hill's sexist dad may have a point about women needing a leader, but he uses that as an excuse to be a pushy crybaby who flat-out ignores everyone around him.
Never use truisms as a get-outta-jail; truisms like that, if true, are only so with a hefty responsibility at the other end.
That person was a fool. She knows what she wants. Types about not knowing what's available
@@mynonleatherlife if there's deception involved, she's a liability, not a partner.
I call it sexual enlightenment. It's a level or two beyond being just a great smasher, though that is certainly part of it. It's almost like magic, when you two are so in tune, so in the moment, so accepting of passions with absolutely zero reservations that you can stand in front of each and just touch palm to Palm and feel a electric pulse through your whole body and soul and you can't help but exclaim "oh my God do you feel this" and you come together fully and both your entire personhoods meld into one as travel through the heavens. This can only happen when two are emotionally and spiritually (for lack of a better word) inline.
Also being a giver and not just a taker is so big nowadays. Lots of men only care about getting off, it is absolutely secondary to me. If she's not calling me her hero by the end then it ain't over yet... Lol And that means a total willingness to put in the correct work, anywhere and everywhere 😉
Like a jackhammer of love... Lol
Give that puss a good pounding!
I like your unbias authentic perspective
Thank u very much
@@mynonleatherlife NOOO.. THANK YOUUU! Im not sure you know how much weight this stuff really holds.. Salute!!👏🏾🙏🏾
your ability to communicate things we only suspect, and women DO NOT say, and we find ourselves doing intuitively, is amazing. Keep it up!
thanks a lot eric
Thank you for sharing these videos, even though I have been married for 38 years I have been helped from your honesty. I am always trying to improve my relationship with my wife. Thanks for giving me good ideas and understanding.!!!
All these natural things are now called “controversial”!!
Right? These things are just what we are born with most natural and easiest thing men can do. She just telling us to act according to our natural instincts isn’t it?
exactly! :-)
Cos they want to destroy the West.
@@smartwater598 can I ask you how to become a man like she mentioned in this video?
Simp
Your amazing! Your not like other people in your class. So many people in your group are hungry for money and want to convert their viewers into customers for their products. But I can tell you are doing this simply from the goodness of your heart and your not trying to sell anything and I love how it seems like your just an ordinary girl and how you could be someone’s older or younger sister. That makes everything your saying in your videos all the more appealing. Thank you so much and I like you so much I wrote a whole song about you! :) (I’m a musician so whenever I feel inspired by someone or something I usually write a song about it).
Excellent break down. My wife always tells me I'm the only man thats been able to tame her & I never understood why that was such a big deal or if its even a good thing. I attribute taming to taking away freedom but this helps me to understand at a deeper level. I'll own it now :0)
really interesting. yes many women want to see themselves as wild and they want the man to be like a horse whisperer or a horse breaker even. (I'm very against taming or riding horses IRL but this is still a fantasy for many)
@@mynonleatherlife Now I understand why they like it when the horse whip comes out
@@dbabini1 haha😉
Bec we are uncomfortable with our own darkness hardness wildness. It's something we struggle with.. at least I have. And we feel men won't accept us bec of it. Some men complain about nonsubmissive women those men don't realize that it's them who don't have the power to make these woman want to submit.
When a woman finds a man who is not afraid of this raw power but can ride the waves with her
And se through it to her inner true softness. She is grateful bec. That goodness and softness is who we really want to be. Just as a man may want to b strong but when a woman gives him softness he becomes even stronger. Abd the strength feels good for a man.
There's something strange in this.
That woman are quite hard without being tamed and men are quite soft without a woman who believes in him.
But woman feel so wonderful when we can find our softness. And men feel so wonderful when they can grind their hardness!!!
@@artofmybody2882and it does the opposite when reversed.
Meaning, a Hard woman will grind a man down to nothing, resent him for being soft, and never think twice. He just couldn't handle her. Well, we handle Problems, we don't want to Handle the woman, too. She becomes a problem. The "like" polarities repel, after all.
I have a hard woman now, I can't "out alpha" her - it would require physical force. She's unwilling to follow, can't lead, and the facts that I'm smarter, earn more, more organized, taller, higher social status, better educated - none of it matters. The fact I didn't corral her from day 1 is a problem. But she wanted a short term fling, so I didn't invest the effort because she'd be leaving - why pick fights, just enjoy the ride. Turns out a man should ALWAYS be shutting her down. Which with my upbringing means, you're abusive.
Can't win. You have to treat her with kid gloves, but out-Alpha her at the same time. Know where she wants to go, then take her there before she knows what's happened.
Mean time, while trying to provide the container where she can feel safe, she's burning your world to the ground, completely out of control, and blames you for her containment (imprisoning, to her) but also for NOT controlling her (you don't care enough to HANDLE her).
Gen X from Jersey. Both of us, but she's a bit older. 20 years ago, a "summer fling" lead to bankruptcy and foreclosure, and I haven't gotten free yet. But she refuses to be lead, and will not follow, and we both need a place to live, so does her daughter (now 28, btw). How do you make someone feel safe when they're so damaged? Not by being genteel, that's for certain.
You learn so much form someone who speaks on both genders without bashing either of them. The best out there, your videos have more meaning than those fake dating coaches out here. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you!
Dude your channel is growing rapidly by the day, keep it up
thanks...it's intimidating, gonna try to film 1 today
The problem is a lot of the guys that have all these awesomely masculine traits are complete jerks and end up abusing their girlfriends and wives.
I've viewed several of your videos, and I don't dispute anything you've said, you are being completely honest and that is a rare thing.
I was fortunate and lucky enough to have been born with some abilities and physical "looks" that allowed me to just be "myself" and not
have to pretend that I was something I was not. I got pursued just because of my looks when I was younger, which makes things much easier, you
don't have to bother putting on all these different "masks" to convince a girl you can "protect and provide" for her.
I'll be honest, that shit gets tiring. I think girls pass on a lot of really good guys simply because they are not "aggressive" or "cool" enough.
I agree, very similar to how many guys pass on girls with a great personality because they’re not good looking enough
@@mynonleatherlife It's somewhat "analogous", but not perfectly so. Guys can be "superficial" like that, no doubt. But when a girl rejects you,
it cuts much deeper, because she is not necessarily only rejecting how you look, she is rejecting "you". And that's why many guys are so "gun shy" about asking girls out,
it hurts on a very deep level to be rejected like that. Girls, IMO, have too many unconscious "hoops" that they make men jump through, some of them not all that crucial in the modern world. On the deepest level, they are wired to "protect their eggs", but don't even realize it. As I said before, I think it results in many of them making poor
decisions in who they choose to date.
@@jaykay6387 why would you think it hurts a girl any less to be rejected than it hurts a guy???
@@gilgamecha Where in my comment did I say that? Of course, women can be hurt as much as a guy, but it's much easier for a girl to find somebody else.
To "paraphrase" something I saw once, Women go "shopping" and men go "hunting", and that is not all that far from the truth. Women can always "find" a guy, whereas the converse is not necessarily true.
@@jaykay6387 "when a girl rejects you, it cuts much deeper"
my testosterone level is sky high after watching this,hell ya ,keep up the good work woman
yeah she is a diva in a good way.
Dude look at MGTOW. And RED PILL
Content on youtube and learn brother
@Bleblee hell no most is complaining and no solution.this is the closest thing to an answer
@@bleblee732 MGTOW is terrible, al least as a final stage, but try, why not, some might need it for a while.
@@bleblee732 I second this. Most people are mentioning that you may develop toxic behaviors and tendencies, but it’s been quite beneficial to me.
it resonated well with me, really clear and well expressed. Some woman aren't able to articulate this, i love the passion you put into your videos; it makes a BIG difference to show you enjoy sharing this stuff so honestly.💯
Men like wild passionate reckless abandonment sex too, but I believe many men are afraid in the modern world that nearly and sometimes literally criminalizes aggressive masculine behavior.
Strong, intelligent women like it though
Societies with weak, feminine men will fall to masculine ones
They want to criminalize heterosexuality. Still you save your aggressiveness for your enemy. Remember she is the alpha MEMD ELT a and omega. She is not brute like him but of course she can have a wild spiritual and physical dominance.. Is a spiritual sexual dominance And authority. Don't confuse the humanbeing wish for thrills with ignoring will and boundaries
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@@vanessak7069 untill they say they didnt like in in the first place, or their mind has changed and now they dont like it. Why risk that? :)
Your advice is very knowledgeable and really different from others
Thank you
I think if our society is to survive we need more of the base feelings and actions you are describing! Nice videos Victoria!
literally seen Vicky’s subs jump by 3,000 in a day , almost unheard of , including “Pewdeepie” & “Milo” , that proves honesty is the best policy !!
it's very surreal
I appreciate you making this video and revealing this, there is definitely lots of truth to this. However this poses a challenge for most men. We don’t think like this, to my male brain this sound largely irrational (yet I acknowledge its true from my past relationship experiences). I know women are operating off their evo-wiring but regardless this is too demanding for most men. But that could explain the dynamic of 80% of women wanting 20% of men, given that the 20% of men are the ones who understand this and are willing to live up to all the unrealistic expectations 80% of women have.
Thank You! AND Thank YOU! I See your struggle and fierce efforts to reach your place of revealing in your talks here. Impressive!!! I just turnt 62yo and your heart felt sharing of; "core, foundational desires of women explained" and your others, hits like a canon ball to the chest. I've been lied to my whole life and only on very rare occassions allowed anything other than "Candle lit gentle affection with women, and immediately STOPPED EVERYTHING at the hint of : "Ouch, I'm tired, I have a headache you smell like sweat, you're dirty." That whole wrong value system has had me mindtwisted and afraid of expressing with women with whom we share an established intimacy, my own genuine emotion and sexuality. For context: I'm retired US Army, Cavalry Scout, and from another hellish extremely dangerous job as well. My current wife Validates a lot of what you reveal!
Every time I’ve ever been a gentleman and then turned it into a fall on blanketyblank session, I was always complimented on the transition. Your right, make it a full on Event, and they never forget you.
Everything is primal
probably!!
Everything???
"A lot of these things I just assume men know" 😂🤣😂🤣 if only. I used to think I had to protect women from my sexuality. I felt it in my bones.
What was the worst or main things u felt u had to protect them from
@@mynonleatherlife There is this overwhelming feeling that my sexual desires are bad and shameful. I believed women didn't want sex, it was just something men tricked them into. I feel this when I so much as make eye contact with a woman I find attractive. It crushes my energy and fills me with anxiety.
I wasn't introduced to this concept that women like sex and they enjoy the sexual energy they get from men until a few years ago. Thank you youtube for that. I've been slowly letting go of the shame ever since.
@@ahrengroesch8774 it’s so good for me to hear this stuff
@@ahrengroesch8774 I got to make another vid on this topic, thx for inspiring me yet again
@@mynonleatherlife Hi well you are not the average woman, I guess you are gifted with a high I.Q., aren't you (if not indiscreet) ?
I learn something new from you every time. Thanks for sharing.
I hate that we live in this society where everything is safe and people don't need to rely on their physical strength and prowess anymore and yet we're still expected to have all of these traits and exhibit them. It's like our physiology of psychology hasn't caught up with our evolution yet.
I appreciate your honesty, you're speaking stuff I wished I knew seven years ago
You’re awesome Victoria. I completely understand what you’re speaking of. Human beings have so many inputs and outputs and shades of emotions and traits. But, I agree with everything you said. Keep up the great work!
Absolutely I agree that everyone is different, and I realize this is a massive generalization... but thank u very much
Victoria thank you for the great content. JustPearlyThings used your content but was hammered with negative response, thankfully your channel has a different audience. I am 40, always had to go against the grain by instinct, be confident about masculinity, and you are the first woman to confirm what all men feel. On behalf of men, thank you.
Thank u for alerting me eugen, I am watching her vid now. I didn’t think the response was too negative… I have seen far worse on my channel lol. I am glad u like the vids eugen!!!
After reading all the comments lol eugen I see what u mean more they really insulted me in 100 different ways but like I said luckily I’ve already become immune to the exact same insults on my channel. But I agree she does have a different audience like I have probably blocked most of those types on my channel but she has them coming by the horde commenting on her vids I don’t know how she takes it but then again I didn’t see her respond or engage with a single comment
Thank you, Victoria. You made me understand women so much better. I realize that I lived my life believing all kinds of shit, or not knowing exactly what I was dealing with. My life could've been different if I knew these things years ago, that's how much impact knowing things about the other can have.
wow! this is so amazing. what kind of things did u understand from the vids?
@@mynonleatherlife Mainly, why they don't behave according to my logic :)
Same story here. I believed the Feminist/Leftist lie about women.
Excellent idea summarising your presentation in text below!!! :)
This Is a spot on commentary, unfortunately I began to understand the emotional side of my wife too late. As I focused too much on being a provider, and wasn't able to fully comprehend being emotionally engaged to her needs. The passion was gone and I'm left with the learning process of a new me.
Married almost 8 years, definition of a slow learner😂
Thank U for commenting and sharing some of your story, What do u mean emotionally engaged to her needs.. what do u think she was lacking...ur passion for her and emotional support? Did she try to explain it to u and u couldn’t understand or did she just never come out and be truly honest with u about what she needed.
@@taylorhuff2228 I realize these are somewhat intrusive questions but I am just very curious.
@@mynonleatherlife I believe she tried some, but I just didn't understand. Maybe I didn't want to understand.?? Maybe she didn't explain where I could understand??
@@mynonleatherlife Honestly I didn't get much help from my Dad on that area. He is a great man, but oblivious to a woman needs. So I had a huge lacking in that area
Thank you for the dose of honest talk to masculine men!!! Love these videos you do! Rocket 🚀
I love your content, you are sincere and thats great! Thanks to you!!
Thank you David I appreciate that, thx for commenting
Your videos are helping me a lot. Thank you 🙏❤
This channel is pretty good you keep things real and insightful. Its pretty amazing seeing different perspectives of these things now
I appreciate that and so glad it is helping u see things differently
@@mynonleatherlife Yes indeed
@@mynonleatherlife oh yeah I'll be watching more of your content later on to catch up
Thank you for more hearts!!!
BAM you are on it now. You are crystallizing the formation of that book. You have spelled out . Congratulations. Mindgasm coined here first ?
hahah thank you!!
Simply straight to the point . Love u🌸
every time you make a TOP, my mind says, this is probably either in the description or in the comments, but then I remember how honest you are, and I watch all the 15 minutes of video
Thank u for that!
You confirm things that I have been thinking about for a while…
We have a veneer of civilised behaviour, but underneath we are driven very much by our basic biology.
That includes competition for mates, the drive to have sex (and procreate), and security for the family.
i agree
I love your comments... I think your talking about is a short-term type of thing. It's now trendy for beautiful women to be business owners... Woman have taken away a man's primeval need provide and protect. This is what makes us men. We feel useless now... on a whim, a woman with money and beauty has no problem leaving you for another man and 70 to 80% a woman do because they're bored and want excitement. They're proud of their body counts. More and more are not having children. In Japan, they have night clubs that are exclusive to women only.
2 major experiences. Growing up on R&B. Women singing about "love me for what's on the inside, and not the outside" with such passion and force. My wife's mom advising her to present herself to me on our first date, looking tore up. That way I'm forced to focus on what's on the inside and NOT the physical. It would SEEM that women are obsessed with NOT being physically/sexually objectified. But at age 37, this is what I find.
Many, many women really don't have this profound depth or intellect that the R&B singers impressed upon me as a kid. Also, when there is an emotional disconnect in a relationship... sex, sensuality, and objectification is the first weapon of choice to get things on track. My wife and I had a disconnect, she b-lines to Victoria's Secret. Her Mother had a disconnect with her husband, b-line to Victoria's Secret. My wife's girlfriend dealing with her men when they get tired of her, Victoria's Secret. They don't know what else to do with a man! Mixed message?...
All that Ra-Ra mess about Manji83, the possible sexual objectification thirsty wolf preying on a woman, out the window! But in order for these 3 women to succeed, they need a sex crazy, tongue wagging goof, not a cerebral man who's been conditioned by upbringing, religion, society, and entertainment to peer deeply into your inner person.
I'm not saying all women are lame brains. My situation is an extreme case. But yes physical objectification is a positive. This is my long winded way of agreeing with you.
very interesting thoughts manji83. I sympathize cause on the one hand women want to be loved for what's on the inside, but they also want to be loved for what's on the outside and sexual objectification is actually very important as well for many of them I totally agree. It must be really confusing to most guys.
@@mynonleatherlife Confusing? Absolutely.
Religion is not the best example of being cerebral.
@@jkd9637 dude, I love your perspective. I understand. My dear brothers and sisters can be quite one dimensional and boring to the point of depressing me. But 1Peter 3: 3, 4 is what influenced me despite what we may have witnessed in PEOPLE in religion, "3 Do not let your adornment be external-the braiding of hair and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothing- 4 but let it be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible adornment of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God." So that's what I meant. I think us thinking men can agree on that even if we are atheist. Don't get it twisted though. I love a woman who can hold a conversation. Not a quite little mouse, but not one of these belligerent loud mouth ones who THINK they're strong for being distasteful either.
@@manji83 I apologize for my comment. It was inappropriate of me to question your intelligence, due to my opinion.
Search out the woman who is as close a friend as a lover. Eyes should be what you find most attractive about her, physically.
Eyes are the one thing that never changes with age.
Interesting and honest. Greetings from Poland
Thank you Victoria for your reply, its a breathe of fresh air to come across a woman like yourself, down to earth and a good looking woman to add. You are very deep that is a sexy quality, I believe you should branch out and get into other topics of interest to include in your repertoire....
Thank you Louis for those kind words...what other topics do u think I should cover
Whatever topics you feel that you can offer help to people in general .
Your insight has enhanced my life. Thank you
thank u for telling me that danny. was there anything in particular that helped the most? 🙏🏼
I always feel really manly when im dating a girl. And i feel like other girls notice that. I wanna come to the point where i feel really powerful even single. Does anyone else have this problem?
No attention from girls make you feel unManly basically. My opinion is to always have some type of female interactions, even if single. Make alot of female friends if single. A man can't get that joy from of being around a soft woman, unless he is actually around a soft woman.
@@archangel_gold2451 yeah thanks idk id rather just be in a relationship i know im only 23 but im tired of just changing girls id rather look for something serious.
I totally get that to. I feel most feminine when I’m dating as well. That polarizing energy centres me in my feminine nature.
Simp
@@bleblee732 the message show no simp traits. You must be a female.
This longing to be yours is beyond age....I have seen it even more expressed into women after the menopause.
I like this chick we need more of them out there. I knew alotof this stuff but the woman needs to know what the woman needs to be to make a man be more like what the woman is describing.
I love your presentations Victoria. And I especially love that you don't use annoying music xoxo
Its like, after listening to your videos i like females even more. Its because i understand alot now
That is wonderful to hear
Wow this makes so much sense! Like why women seem to be super attracted to men who seem to be assholes, even bad. When in reality they protect their own while not letting strangers affect their mindset. BTW Victoria are you familiar with Jordan Peterson? The main thing he preaches to men especially is to take on responsibility and bear the burden of life. The lessons from you two go a long way dispelling all the bullshit that society has forced down our throats. You're doing so much good for us men. We are lied to everyday and made to believe what people, especially women THINK they want.
Thank you so much Victoria
Love and appreciation from a fan of yours from Iceland
I didn't know that was one of Jordan Peterson's main messages. I listened to one interview with him and kinda got turned off by him so I didn't listen to anything more. That is interesting. I'm so glad u like the vids and find them helpful. Also I am a YUUUUUUGE fan of Iceland. I wan't to go back badly. It's so incredible.
@@mynonleatherlife Nice! Not everything Jordan Peterson says is helpful but he does preach some important rules for life. Also you're very much welcome in Iceland anytime. We would love to have you
Women want a want to admire, to rebel against, while denying both. Give her the gift of discomfort.
This is so true
What does this mean? Specialy the rebel against part
you the first woman that tells the truth about women want, i love it❤
then i'm gonna tell u the truth that women are not liars 🤯 it's your own blindspots keeping u from understanding the truth. check out my latest vid on male blindspots
Girl, your an angel
Look up MGTOW and red pill content
On UA-cam
Kudos on your thumbnail. Intense, slightly hidden but still knowing your appeal. I know much of what you speak is true from my own life experiences. Way to go!
thank u Russell! I am glad u know what I am talking about
@@mynonleatherlife most men and women are very basic creatures and when they try to deny their intuitions and instincts, they go awry. Basic Primal urges are always there even if you cover them up.
greatly appreciate everything you do stay the path. My only thing is i hear and believe all of this but i have trouble putting it into practice
@100percent Venyah thanks venyah💯!!
5:15 yeah I mean ITS in every thing! Love it
Thank you, commenting for better reach/algorithm!
Hope you keep making these honest genuine videos and steer clear of the online hate!
Thanks Shyam, I really appreciate your support. Luckily so far people haven’t been too critical heh I hope that continues 😅😅
Is there any video topic u are curious about from a girls perspective or anything u would like to see
@@mynonleatherlife I've recently just discovered your channel so I've only watched a few videos so far. I'm slowly going through the channel, the videos so far have been gems. I think you're amazing and I wish you the best on UA-cam, I hope you can make some good money from it. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I really learn so much from your videos....Thanks Victoria
Your analysis on the subconscious psychology of women's emotions resonates with that of Professor Jordan Peterson. Are you by any chance a student of psychology?.. 😀
Anyhow, your honest no bullshit breakdowns are very informative and quite helpful in understanding the female character too... Do continue your good work.
Thank you.
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you're so precious because of you honesty about attraction between men and women
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Truly wonderful video 😍
Thanks a lot balaG
Learning new stuff. Great video.
Women wants freedom, a guy who gives it all freedom by protecting her in all ways . ❤️
no, because she can get her own freedom
You have opened my eyes to lot of things . I really wish i known years ago . you are great
I love hearing that, so happy. which things did ur eyes get opened to?
Men know absolutely nothing of what you talk about. Please keep it coming, thank you so much!!!!
haha are u serious? none? which part did u find most surprising I am curious
I disagree. Some men, myself included, found some relief knowing that their strongest sexual desires are actually normal and not degrading women.
Thanks for another great episode.
You're almost to 1000 subs :)
Very wild. Very grateful to you and fearless man.
men do want that devotion. I'm building eveything to share with and to give protection to my woman,kids. It's sacred and i dont offer it to anybody, only who qualifies to.
So I hope you answer this to me...I grew up very quickly..I looked mature beyond my age...and so I got a lot of rejection from girls my actual age....a ton..until I discovered that I should seek out older females...but it also never feels right....but as I got older I realized that the same younger women who rejected me when I was their age in our 20s...they are now attracted to me cos am older and more established...unfortunately tho..these days I see those women as ..mentally immature..its like what are you gonna offer me outside of your body?...and then also I have a long memory and I never forget things. I have hi IQ and ..a memory like an elephant...so how can I get over that? I also dont want a younger female that I cant connect to mentally. The older women ..well they are older..and usually have kids..aka...another mans kids...😂😂
So go for it Cashcow nothing wrong with liking older women, you will get a leg up from them anyway cause they can teach you stuff and know themselves better as well. Is the problem u want kids but they already have kids? Or just the idea of being with them when they have another mans kids?
Find an attractive woman a couple years younger then you or possibly a woman your age that doesn't have kids. Maybe you need to ask yourself are you in a position and/or high value enough to get an attractive girl in your age range that doesn't already have kids. From what your saying, your high value enough for an older woman and a much younger woman but maybe you need to work on yourself so you can get an attractive women in your age range that you can connect with and she would be winning by choosing you to have children with.
@@nicholasrocco5084 great advise is great advise...I can get the youngins.. i am not desperate enough to entertain their youngish ways...and drama....we will see how it plays out tho....
You are a true master at giving a highly intellectual perspective
The problem with all those novels is that they end at the beginning of longer relation with a woman. The trick is to play the novel plot, but never get to the happy end.
So true, in marriage it's tough to sustain a woman's interest.
@@jfo3000 That's because women are biologically programmed to find reasons to DISqualify a man from mating consideration. Think about it. For most women, most men would/could have sex with her. There's no way she has the time or energy to have sex with even a fraction of a percent of the men that want sex with her. A woman that doesn't have an innate desire to "weed out the losers" will have less descendants than a woman that has that genetic characteristic.
This is why women typically lose most of their sexual desire for their husbands after around 10 years of marriage, and men keep theirs with only a slight drop, even though after 10 years she's probably way less physically attractive than she was at the beginning.
I discovered your channel earlier this week. I'm impressed by your raw articulation and insight to what men need to know in regards to being competent men as a whole and competent suitors for that woman. Keep up the content. I will try to find some constructive criticism for you. t/y again.
I’m kinda overloaded on criticism right now so maybe wait a couple weeks but I really thank you for the kind words and compliments.
@@mynonleatherlife Yes, I can imagine. People can be brutal on mundane topics: this subject matter and your intuitive perception is going to trigger people and some will bust a vein. Simply don't read comments until you are in the right state of mind. Ignore comments until you feel strong and powerful and can perceive that negativity from a position of strength. A time when you can realize they aren't attacking you but your narrative and that these people are having a rough time in life as it is and you are the focus of them releasing their pent up negativity. I think choosing the time you read comments will allow you the control you need to keep things in perspective and not be emotionally drained. You have and display so much courage by putting yourself on camera and sharing your perspective. That in itself is threatening to many who don't have that courage, that confidence. Stay on point. You are doing well and providing a unique service for many. thank you
It’s really simple it’s primal
That’s my best guess
All I can say to You is
“THANK YOU “💚💯
I'm under the impression that whether the pace in the bedroom is slow or fast, the crucial ingredient is the 'oomph', which isn't necessarily a physical thing. In my mind, the 'oomph', is non-physical. It's hard to describe in words, but we could say it is "psychological", perhaps coming from that intense energy of domination and submission, which is much more the result of a way of relating to each other than it is the result of physical actions. I think when men in our culture think "making love", they foolishly throw domination out the window, under the assumption that domination and love don't go together, so therefore, lovemaking is understandably perceived as "weaker" than animalistic sex. But when a male has mastered his role, he can 'oomph' his way through the whole encounter whether he moves fast or slow, lovingly or dryly, and every move he makes is imbued with it. He can then, by making love to her, send her brains into orbit better than a porny-but-oomphless display of acrobatics can. What do you think about this, Victoria?
ur absolutely right, and pointing out something very important. I kinda made it seem like "lovemaking" is sub par and boring but it absolutely does not have to be, whereas I was making it seem like domination is everything, whereas I so agree with you that if you just go through the motions without any psychological depth or passion or oomph to it it is not good at all. For example much of the kink content online does absolutely nothing for me because it seems so lacking in depth, nuance, psychology, and the oomph like you're saying...just hitting someone with a paddle but where is the chemistry, truth, passion, connection, flow etc. I was thinking like u said that men are foolishly throwing intensity and domination out the window and wanting to inform them that gentle and soft are not all women like. But ur right, there is something else there...do u think people can improve their oomph or is it just chemistry with the right person?
@@mynonleatherlife First of all, you're great. I love that you're so open and generous in thoroughly sharing your thought process with everyone, both in the videos and in replies to comments.
Honestly, I think the oomph is actually something that would *naturally* be there in male-female relations in Homosapiens groups untouched by modernity, but we as a civilization have immense baggage and conditioning, and are too smart for our own good; we have conditioned ourselves out of it. In comparison to an animal (who would do it naturally), we're so smart we're dumb. The genders have to unlearn all of our conditioned crap and re-learn what's natural, with the help of information ambassadors like yourself.
I think a girl can absolutely improve her oomph if she chooses to be more submissive, and by golly that's fucking hot. And men can, too. The challenge we all face isn't in the act of choosing to dominate/submit in itself (that part is easy); the challenge is in the mental barriers: unlearning all the false beliefs that make one afraid of doing it. I can't speak for women (although I imagine it boils down to shame and fear), but I can speak for men, and I know that growing up in our culture, we develop by default a sense that being dominant is wrong and mean and we shouldn't do that; in fact we develop the opposite view: be as nice to her as possible. Guys intuitively know that niceness is attractive (to us), so we try to *be* that which we like in girls. And since we lack the female perspective, we're clueless about the fact that domination is what is wanted.
What's funny is, I think the same phenomenon happens in the inverse: Girls intuitively/subconsciously know that being dominant is hot, so they try to be a "boss bitch" to impress men, which really isn't that attractive to us at all (lol). And since they lack the male perspective, they're clueless about the fact that submission is what's wanted. But if a girl figures it out and she talks to us with that nice weak, helpless, receptive and submissive puppy-eyes voice and body language, it's done. I want her.
@@abfdy hardly someone can give a better answer than that. Thanks bro.
@@mynonleatherlife After read the book The Dominated Men from Ester Villar, i acknowledge that I can't love woman the way I used to love, showing the way a woman use to control man and offer to little.
But after this video i can love again a submissive woman without fear of being dominant, that something the society and my woman parents teach me is bad.
Thanks again.
@@richardgomesarruda5590 Glad to contribute, bro.
This answers the question that’s always eluded me and confused me! The fact that women put up with bad guys, abusive disloyal behaviour, because this is basic and primal, she is physically attracted to him for starters, how he acts how he looks how manly he is. Yet he is impossible to live with or have a relationship, yet they put up with it and become depressed oppressed and abused.
It’s such common place with many of my girlfriends, who are just not interested in good caring considerate respectful nice guys! 🤷♂️🤦🏼♂️
So confusing and messed up.
yep. Men need exposure to the primitive side of themselves: Gym/fitness time, hunting, making fire and the somewhere they can learn raw masculinity. Then, how to exercise that part of their brain/knowledge without going to prison.
@@onealaska lol 😆 the prison bit cracked me up!
Don’t forget drugs alcohol 🍺 and philandering/lying/cheating...
God forbid if children are involved and he doesn’t get attention anymore!!
Very helpful as a Christian man I see that we are really missing it; we are allowing ourselves to be watered down to weakness and that is not what GOD wants for He men.
This is more of a sexual fantasy for women and not something to take literally and use an excuse to be more controlling or domineering or anything like that. A balance of strength and kindness/flexibility is good for every human being man or woman.
My gf and I ‘made love’ once at the end of a very tumultuous day: she found out she was pregnant in the morning and called me about it at work and I spent the next 12 hours stressing about it. By the time I got home I had gone through all 7 stages of grief and making love was the sweetest acceptance I’ve ever experienced
@#Here's Your TRIGGERWARNING why is that so triggering?
Yep. You understand the animal side of us humans that the world wants to ignore and forget. You can't get rid of it. It's in our genes. And I have also experienced what you're talking about first hand. What I and women both want is to give her freedom in the outside world while giving her structure and rules in our world. A place to feel safe and recharge for the next day of going out into the world and conquering like her man does, day to day.
Nice work.
Thank u victoria for helping to be true men that women crave..
Thank you very much Maxamed and thanks for commenting, did u know all this already or was any of it surprising to you?
@@mynonleatherlife yeap the thing that surprasing me is that MUSCULINITY and becoming dominant in sexual activty also being protective ...unfortunetly strong dominance confident man is rare in modern era
@@maxamedkhadar1454 very interesting and very good to know that that is what was surprising to you. thx a lot for letting me know.
This explains why women try to take control of the relationship, and push boundaries which is really annoying. It's because they are testing you to see if you can "tame" them.
The modern world is stressful enough for a man to make a decent living and have a career, and women want more out of them. Why not commit to a man around your age and build that alpha life together?
I have a bf
I didn’t know most of what you say, we men need to know everything, be raw and truthful and tell us more, don’t hide anything from us, we men need to know it all, we can handle it, as long as we use it for good ann not evil it is good , tell us more, tell us more , tell us more……..
Figuring out women never made any man alpha or legend some of the greatest men to exist didn't even bother with women fuck all this kings 👑 rise up if shes not cooperative you leave and move on with purpose a man without purpose will focus on these women videos which is bullshit men stay in frame always be a man and have purpose
@@jakienobyzwas I'll try that thank you
You can do both. Having a better understanding of how women think is only going help.. Once you master the understanding then you can go back to not focusing on these types of videos, and still be armed with knowledge in case you need to use it at a later time.
@@lazygam3r183 very true very true indeed💯
@@lazygam3r183 very true very true indeed💯
It’s has to be a balance if your a heterosexual man dealing with women is in inevitable
Agree with your points but sometimes, strength is walking away when things are not going the way you want them to, cuz you are dealing with another human not a machine. You can't force submission or cooperation from a woman, You might even come off worse if you try that. she has to do that on her own.
The one thing I still can't figure out is why women want to have lots of different men it seems to contradict a lot of the rest of the stuff
For women to stop desiring other men, that primal femininity must be met. Women can sense a mans level of masculinity. It is a God given sense that ALLLLL women have and the opposite it true for men.
I’ve never heard everything you’ve said in your videos. Thanks a ton!
In my experience here in California, the number one item is money.
yeah you should move out of there ASAP california has turned into a cultural wasteland.
It's slowly happening all over the world , not only in California , even in remotest area in this world it's slowly and surely spreading.
We love your hair Victoria, btw. And no makeup ❤
thank u!
One of few women dating advisers, who speaks the truth.
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More like fantasy
I can't thank you enough for this video
It's honest and well explained
thank you very much, I am glad u liked it
I'm 23 years old and never been in a relationship what am i doing wrong
What i know for sure is i over think and dont know what to say to get a girl friend
Alright well never having been a guy I never had to go through this and I know for certain it’s not easy and almost every guy I’ve ever heard says they struggled in the beginning trying to understand women and understand what they want. I will think about some tips I would give u in case any of my tips can help u get a gf. I will consult with my bf as well and get back to u.
Be the leader, decide where u want to take her or do. Have the mindset that u want to have fun and if she wants to join it won't add any value to ur fun. I show my feelings in words and action how she means to me but not like very single minute like a simp.
@@arezxx5244 it sounds like it would be an effective strategy imo
Stop watching porn helps, stop putting women on this pedestal they are just human beings
Don’t be afraid of rejection, JUST KEEP SLAYIN