In the beginning he said along the lines of “his ex and her friends are the type to get angry if a man opens the door for them, but get angry if a man doesn’t open the door for them”. Instantly knew this woman was mad.
I genuinely don't understand how people like that are made. Do they think they're some sort of protagonists that can never be in the wrong? Or in a porn video where the partner won't get mad at them for cheating on them. I just don't understand how people can be this distant from reality. I hope no one i know grows up to be like these people
@@Konomidebanshouwashikisesur thank God you'll never meet one, bc their delusions can make them obsessive and unstable. Especially when they're a relative..... they demand your time, your partner/spouse's time, your children, etc., bc "we're family". Personally, I thank God for this, dealt with some relatives who have serious Narcissistic Personality Disorder and try to destroy my life bc they can't control me then blame me that we're not close or that I'm "bitter" and "immature" for not giving them, a predator, access to my life, my partner's life, my kid's life. I went little to no contact, no one has time for that level of madness. On top of that, they get worse with time.
Everyone in this guys life besides his wife is actually great. Great family, great friends. Hope he gets better and grows to appreciate the people he still has around him.
Honestly feel bad for the wife, it's sad to see someone succumb to self delusion. Even worse when it was totally avoidable. There are few people who make me angry cheaters are those people, but feminists make me feel pity not anger.
@@jesschen5513 Do you realize that those women aren't feminists, right? And that most feminists aren't drug addicted prostitutes? One of the women herself said they use feminism as a cover for their pride and they actually don't care about it.
@@techdiyer5290Bacterial ones specifically, like: syphilis, gonorrhoea, chlamydia and trichomoniasis. Although the damage they've done is often permanent.
It makes me think of my own support system. I am very on my own but if need be I can contact just my brother and my father and can have 50+ people helping me out if need be. I still have my mother and a sister for female support and insights. I have some friends who are pretty well connected too. I am a loser and live like one, but somehow managed to befriend many well connected people. I guess its because I am loyal, dopey and kind because other than that I have nothing to offer anyone.
He mentioned that his friend insisted on paying him back for all the beatings he took protecting his friend. It is safe to assume his network is from a lifetime of helping other people. He was there when they needed him and they jumped at the chance to repay the favor.
@@ade8890 There are actually people who are decent generous folk. And at least 30% of the people they help are willing to pay them back for their kindness.
OP your father is a legend for gathering 28 family members to support you OP UR MUM is legend backbone behind the legendary father no wonder you wanted to work things out with xwife before she went crazy
@@g.frankenbergbecause bob was also a victim in this it’s easy to to support someone who’s went through damn near the same shit you went through and worse.
As an ex addict of strong opioids and as a married woman, I'm so happy I had/have enough awareness to see the destruction I can cause around me if not careful. I was addicted towards the start of my marriage, but after 2 years of heavy use, it's like a ton of bricks hit me all at once in the face. I could see the distance I was building between my husband and I as well as my closest friends and I. I could see the damage I was doing to myself and my life. I spiraled a bit from there into some pretty deep depression, but still decided a few months later to get help immediately. I would sooner die than lose my husband. It's RARE you are ever able to find that person who fits in your life like a glove, someone who brings out the best qualities in you, makes you laugh and smile year after year, and always brings joy to each day, and that is my husband. Hell, we've never even been so mad as to yell at each other. I wasn't about to fucking give that up. As my favorite quote ever goes: you want my husband, you're gonna have to fucking kill me. I got clean of drugs, still go to therapy, was treated for severe depression, and 8 years later I'm still happily married to the love of my life and pregnant with our second daughter, the other 2 loves of my life. I did hit a rough patch 3 years ago in December 2020 when my best friend of 10 years took his life and I nearly relapsed after another spiral, but ended up composing a song as venting method, stuck to everything despite the hurt and pain, and came out the otherside with my husband standing right there the whole time, helping me work through it (they weren't as close, but he was also still very affected as well, so I know it wasn't easy to pull me from the brink). I'd die for my husband and my family. To throw your family away, your children away, your friends away all for sparkling trash and shit is absolutely disgusting, weak, cowardly, and shameful. Even after experiencing addiction myself, I still think anyone willing to do the things this woman did are fucking disgraceful and deserve every last bit of misery, backlash, and consequence coming at them. I've also had a mother use false allegations to attempt to win a divorce and it is absolutely DISGUSTING to use such abhorrent claims against an innocent person. That woman was lucky her kids aren't like me because once I found out she falsely claimed my dad was abusive to her and us, I slapped her so hard that it bruised for 3 days. I don't tolerate false claims or domestic violence against either men or women, so I don't mind being the one to slap a bitch as a woman myself since I'm more able to get away with it. Honestly, good riddance. She was a horrible wife, a horrible neglectful mother, and a sad excuse for a woman and I spit on her grave.
An idea that could use some troubleshooting: Custody should go with the breadwinner, unless they are within 10k of eachother (below 100k) or 30k (above 100k). If they're equal, they divy up themselves, with equal joint custody being the default agreement.
Why do things like this happen in this world? They were happily married for an entire decade! Then it all just unravels over the course of a couple of months.
It’s unbelievable really. I have to say though, it seems that from 2020 up until now, the number of cases like these have skyrocketed. Really put a strain on families
It sounds like that 1 harpy bitch that was the ring leader had essentially coerced a bunch of women to start taking hardcore drugs manipulated them to the point where they were completely dependent on her and then fucked them over in such a brutal way nearly killing one of them then tried to get away with it. I just feel like there was a bunch of victims and one evil woman who was essentially creating more and more chaos and conflict it was absolutely terrible and the fact that the woman waked up and wanted to be dead was just sad. That being said I still think the husband is the biggest victim here and the most honorable
I don't want this to sound controlling but guys, remember this: ALWAYS pay attention to your wives friends. if their friends do anything like start shouting things like men are the problem or men are always holding are holding them back, tell her to cut them off or start gearing up for a divorce because you will not tolerate this bs from these loose 304s
@vincentcleaver1925 is it manipulative though? He had text proof that she wanted nothing to do with them and considered him and especially the kids a burden.
That was the best way OP could have handled it. A lot of people would sugarcoat it, and let the kids think that “Mommy just has to go away for awhile, but she loves you very much.” Kids are very perceptive, though. Plus, if Mommy never comes back, the kids will eventually become resentful due to being lied to. Sometimes tough love is best.
Ending was bittersweet. Kids and ex husbands came out smelling like roses and ex wife is fertilizer. Sad to think that those kids don't have a mother in their lives just because of their mom's selfishness. I keep seeing a lot of stories like this and it just keeps making modern feminism look like a joke and excuse to act like spoiled, rotten children.
Use his Ex-wife as a way " NEVER agree to Feminist crap " or as a sign of " this person is mad " as 99% of them are mad. Equal rights should be equal fights. Equal time spent as well.
Considering the last update, it was really the druggie "friends" that destroyed her, not this kind of feminism (that was just an excuse not to admit she was high on drugs - they created excuses for themselves, in the form of this type of feminism, just so they wouldn't own up to what was truly the problem.. the drugs; junkies make up excuses, everyone else is the problem to them).
This guy is smart, he's got evidence, and support from family and friends. But when his ex died, that's when she finally started to wake up to everything, she finally realized near the end that she fucked up bad. She ruined her marriage, her children, her family, her friends, and lost everything around her, and when she finally realized she lost everything she had going in life, that she could've been living a peaceful tranquil, and happy life, she decided that there was no coming back and she would never be loved by her husband, her family, and friends every again.
No she probably was just in too much pain from not being able to take meth and decided irrationally to end it. Drug abuse is not the same as movies make it look. There is no satisfying ending, just bad decisions to feed the addiction
@@alecmartin8543whenever it comes to addicts, it's only ever pain. There is no rationality, no true justification, just the agony that they leave to feed their addiction.
@alecmartin8543 your not wrong....but at times and I've seen it people take a good long look especially towards their family and realize...I failed you....then believe there's no coming back and continue the destructive habit/behavior....or decide to end it.
Can you imagine trying to get this put out? Unending screeching on the internet about how the movie hates women rather than portraying specific group of women as being terrible people.
It's scary how often 'feminism' is just a thin veil over blatantly toxic misandry. I had an almost-GF in my late 20's that toted herself a feminist, things were nice for about a month but after a while it started to become apparent who she really was underneath. Constantly reminding me of my 'privilege', using tragedies certain women have endured as crimes from me and my entire gender, the never-ending 'just because you're a man' statements, etc. The day I tried to turn it around and talk about some of the horrors men have gone through from women was the angriest I've ever seen a human being.
Yeah... makes genuine feminists seem batsh*t crazy to anyone basically. It's supposed to be equality, not reverse subjugation. Sorry for the crazy psycho you had to deal with.
Honestly, that's so fucked up how a great thing, a movement against women being oppressed, gets reduced to a stupid fucking hate group, how things like meaningless sex are sold as empowerment and how it damages the actual fucking struggle of the actual victims by putting them alongside people like these
It’s not feminism, it’s humanity. Raise a child to have no consequences and often, punishments are erased away and something others have to deal with. They become adult monsters with the temper of toddler but the adult violent bodies
It’s literally the female equivalent of that “alpha/sigma male” stuff. Like Imagine arguing over which type of male has more “social marketplace value” or some nonsense. It’s a little fruity if you ask me. And I’m gay.
>nearly dies in car crash >wakes up in hospital >offers nearest man BJ for $20 >refuses to elaborate HOLY GIGACHAD But in all seriousness, this one was just really sad. I can't imagine having my wife turn herself into a meth addicted prostitute. Like, damn. I don't know how someone could convince me to sell my body for money. Especially if I had a loving husband, children, and a home. I've also never done meth, so there that.
So causually too. Like this is routine for her when she wants a fix. The only independent thought she has is her sharing her feelings of lonliness and shame when no one came to see her bc of her bad behavior. She didnt have to say that to OP, but i guess she wants her story to be heard. Very sad indeed.
It's because it's like something imaginary it's forcing you to do it. But it's not something imaginary, is the need of your brain to feel those sensations again That's why is so effective, because it's not something like you can turn off and on, drug reach into your brain, forcing your body and itself to have chemical reactions that are new and virgin to the body, like scratching that spot on your back you can't never seem to find, but once it wears off, it's like a large dumb kid version of yourself, who is stronger and no reasonable is physically pushing you to do it again and again
I don't know what it is about these that's so interesting, is it because we abhor cheating that much? Or because of things in our own lives? I have no idea tbh but addicted as well xD
That poor husband and his kids, put through hEll from the urful wife/mother, then instead of taking ownership of her actions takes the easy way out and self delete. Hope OP and the kids find the peace after this undeserved nightmare.
"She knew about the chlamydia and didn't tell me" is guaranteed full custody, because she'll be in prison. That's a felony, and you have evidence + can pull her medical records of treatment
This is a perfect example of choosing your circle. OP had great friends and family members to back him up during his lowest while his ex’s connections ruined her life as well as his. While his ex is not innocent at all you can understand what ruined her by the end of the video
Honestly one could say she was killed by those people or more specifically who she was a sad fact is we humans are more fragile then we think and people with annove skill can mold people like clay once they get there hands on them. though it doesn't absolve her of fault it just that monster she became was created in large part by worse monsters
I just sat here & watched a 38 minute video of a Reddit story it sure didn’t feel like 38 minutes. Also the fact that women can lie about abuse & it will destroy a man life without any evidence is super sickening
@@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami I find it interesting that you say India is gynocentric cause I’ve only ever heard that it’s the total opposite, like a full on patriarchal society. Do you think your society/court system is more geared towards favouring women in general or only where you are from? I don’t mean to be offensive or anything so you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to.
This whole story is just tragic. A mother pushed into drug addiction and ruins her whole life with her choices, children who have now lost a mother to addiction in such a small span of time, a father who lost his wife to her mistakes, another father who didnt get to see his own children for years based on a lie, and a whole group of women who would turn on eachother for anything. The whole thing is just sad. I hope Op, Henry, the ex wifes family, and all the children move on. Despite how awful that woman was to her husband at the end of the day her parents lost a child, her children lost a mother.
god man I'm super sorry for what OP goes through but man listening/reading how nice his environment is actually makes me smile. It's good to know that despite tragedy people are in good hands.
Because it doesnt always end up like this? Like playing a game of poker can be fun as long as its once in a while with friends and not every night with strangers at a casino. You just have to take everything seriously and be honest with yourself, if an addiction is developping you need to stop, no buts no ifs. If its not an addiction, then have some fun every once in a while
Self-mediacating, a lot of addicts deal with mental disorders and either cant afford proper treatments or they're ashamed or confused, so they resort to illegal drugs, because sometimes they do help, thougg the cons are so so so much worse than any inkling of a pro.
For me it started out small my parents would give me one every now and then but nothing to bad I was in senior year I started to take the tramodal I guess regularly I started getting withdrawals if I went without I was already depressed when I went on these and I would drink them sometimes with a bar of Xanax god it was bad one day I lost my great grandmother who I took care of till her last breath now this broke me then with in a month I lost my grandfather who meant the absolute world to me and he went so fast I couldn’t cope I still don’t think I wanted to die that day but looking back taking 9 pills of 100 mil was like asking for death thank god I got out my room and tried going to the kitchen but I would pass out every few steps I had bruises all on my back I sadly still take them now but not to the degree I did then seeing my parents next to me on the hospital bed made me realize how stupid and selfish I was to try and feel better I know it’s still bad that I take them I did go cold turkey and that was the hardest thing to do it last for close to 4 months but then when I saw an opportunity to take them again I did it’s like I want that euphoria of feeling good instead of feeling like shit u know idk well sorry for ranting I never get to talk about my feelings with anyone
Honestly, I think it's a good thing that she met those "friends". They encouraged her to finally show everyone her true character and what sort of abysmal creature she actually is, behind her mask of a loving and caring wife and mother. While it is obviously sad because of the unimaginable pain that OP surely had to go through, I think this is actually a pretty nice story, with all his friends and family pitching in so much to help and support him. Very heartwarming. I hope he will eventually manage to heal and move on from this horrible situation.
That's not who she was from the sounds of it she was smoking meth regularly probably always high the drugs took over her life and by time she started getting sober she realized everything she had done and seen no way back
nah this is a case of “you become like those you hang around”. drugs and alcohol can completely change a person, his wife could have lived a happy life had she never gotten involved with those “friends”. They preyed on someone weak, and it destroyed her. thats not to say she isnt responsible for her own actions, but we dont know her story. henrietta could have threatened her, manipulated and lied, sucked her into a cult-like mindset
Honestly, my very unpopular opinion, but I am glad ex-wife, joined this cult. It allowed a father to be reunited with his children after 5 years, It cleared the record of a poor man, who was falsely accused and convicted It saved children from a neglectful and abusive household It brought back the future of these children and returned their happiness.
Whole this story sounds like "realistic epilogue of almost every NTR manga from cheated on guy's perspective" and gives a strong vibes of "matemorphosis" which a felt when i read it
Some people cannot stop living on the edge. Either you die young or you change your ways. My brother was the same way. Got in to drugs, gangs, partying hard until he hard a severe car accident that nearly killed him. Took him months to recover, etc Changed his ways.
I was hesitant at the start when OP said the work friends were hardcore SJW feminists. My initial thought was “damn, is this just gonna be dunking on feminism or something?” Then as the story continued, I thought “wait, these women are deliberately screwing themselves over? This isn’t real feminism.” Once it got to the “my body my choice” is just a mask to save their egos I realized this is just an incredible tragedy. The wife was lured with feelings of female empowerment and was dragged down into the hell that is meth addiction. It probably started as just the wife wanting new friends that were liberal and progressive (not a bad thing), but didn’t see the hole she was digging until it was too late to get out. As awful as her actions were, and as unforgivable her final act was right as she was recovering and her children were coming to grips with it all, she was still a victim of the scum that poisoned her. My heart breaks for OP. He and his children deserved a better end to the story.
@@sunnyztmoney You clearly don't know what true feminism is all about then, coz this isn't it, which one of the women said in the vid if you remember. They admitted it was an excuse they used. The issue here is addiction, and I don't say issue in the sense that we should be judging, but an issue that more of us need to have an understanding for. You need to know this, as to totally get and understand your views, you need to understand the facts. If you assume for whatever biases, that the problem here was feminism, well you'll be way off track, coz 1) the biggest problem were the damaging effects of addiction on the person addicted and their loved ones. 2) The fact she got manipulated into that circle, under the pretence of feminism, that is the second most important of something we need to understand, because feminism and what happened here are not things that align. That puts feminism in a bad light unnecessarily. If people would take the time to know what true feminism is all about, then people would know when they're being manipulated with a false version like in this story, which became the beginning of the end for the OP's wife.
@guyperson754 no i will not grant you an augment bc your whole comment is based on "whataboutism" feminism is a part of lefist cancer that destoys the family
I strive to be a good friend like Bob. Those are the real unsung heroes in situations like this one. The parents on both sides, Bob, and the honesty the one friend showed in the end is refreshing. Ngl I would have started healing much sooner if I had know the truth of my own situation so this story is going to stick with me.
I am not a man with an abundance of life experience, but do people’s personalities really do such a 180 just due to joining a new friend group? This question isn’t rhetorical I’m earnestly asking if such things happen.
Yeah some people do. Willing to bet she didn’t change overnight though she changed over time and he only truly noticed once she passed a certain threshold. Sometimes people change but only show it when they feel they comfortable.
One of the big things about this story is the meth. Hard drugs like that will turn you into a complete shell of your former self, so yeah. 180's like this are very possible. Seen a few friends die over the years to drugs, whether through un-aliving themselves, overdosing, or car crashes while under the influence.
A big factor is the addiction. My area has a lot, and I mean at lot of addicts. They all behave crazy like this woman. They'd do anything to get their fix, and I mean ANYTHING. All the inhumane actions. I understand his love for his spouse. It hurts to see you loved one turn into monster.
for youngins that make a mockery of the wife and make this about women, i want you to know this story is only about drugs, even the henrietta part, drug addiction is a monster that if left out of its cage, noone can face alone, not a single person, and i invite you to give me a personal story you know that disproves this. the reason most of us grew up hearing "dont do drugs" "dont gamble" is because its quite literally the only advice to deal with those things when your parents won't or cant be there to help you. "do, not, do"
"You don't have the right to control me" Wtf your cheating on him. You don't have any rights you broke your marriage and now your blaming your husband cause he's telling you NOT to cheat on him. People like this make me so fucking angry because you know they dont care or think they did anything wrong.
The best answer he can give his kids when they ask if mommy loves them is to make it a teachable moment about addiction & how it destroys the lives of everyone around the addict asa well as the addicts, themselves .
The only other solution is allowing abusers to hold on to their abuse victims in a dangerous marriage. I know it sounds hyperbolic but it’s an absolute truth in the dichotomy
"Regret" is a powerful word... I doubt the STBXW has come to that point. She is REALIZING that actions (or lack thereof for her) have consequences. And consequences are far reaching and cover most life aspects.
OP, I know you're suffering a lot, but I hope you can take 1 very positive win from your divorce/ ex-wife's affair. You allowed a father to finally be reunited with his children after 5 years, You cleaned his record and reputation, and he will no longer be viewed as an abuser and he will no longer have a criminal record so he can now find a job and home. And, You saved several children from an abusive and neglectful household, You have given them back their happiness, and you have given them a future. You are a hero 🙌 And i wish you and your children the best!!!
I went through almost this exact same thing this year minus the drugs and prostitution. Thankfully I was not married to this woman but we were engaged and she was the mother of my only child. The pain was unbelievable. I haven’t cried in over 21 years but the thought of my 4yr old son growing up in a broken home because of her worthless decision broke me down to tears. Idk I guess I’ll be alright. I’ll always be there for my son regardless.
I absolutely love to break these stories down to see if they are fake. He should be the writer for gta 6 or its real. Nearly everything this accounted for. One thing i look for to see if its fake is how deep does the emotional turmoil goes, to see how it affects everyone. He made an appropriate response to everything. Not like some obvious fake ones where their husbands does the worst of the worst crimes to the whole family their response is like "i guess we should kick him out of the house before it gets worse" after m**esting their daughter. Obviously im exaggerating but you should get the point.
Not me continuously yelling "idiot" every time dude says "i StIlL lOvE hEr" like c'mon dude, how much does she actually have to hurt you and your kids/family/friends before you just give up Oh shit, as I'm typing i hear she managed to OD and perish while in rehab? Well shit, the least she could've done was take Henrietta with her 😑
It's weird. As things slowly turn to shit it reminds you more about the qualities you love about her, even if she doesn't possess them anymore. So everytime you see her you see the person she used to be, even if that person is dead.
Nah, anyone who thinks it’s ridiculous he still loves her has only had shallow relationships. This is the person he was thrilled to spend the rest of his life with, and she was too. This is the person who shared his pain on the bad days at work, and shared the joy when something good happened. This is the person that gave birth to his two favorite people in the world. Love is not just romance. Love is not just sex. Love is giving of yourself willingly to support your other half, to share their pains and joys. To watch her self-destruct would be absolutely brutal. This is your best friend hurting themself, and anyone you truly love you would feel so bad seeing how low they’ve become. It’s true, she was the one who chose to spend time with these coworkers, but from the outside looking in you can see as they’re being fooled and lied to and you want to help that person. Even knowing he never wanted to get back together, that doesn’t mean you can’t still love someone and wish they’d take steps to turn their life around and stop hurting themselves. This is the kind of love that keeps people together for life. But both individuals need to have it.
@@UpsideDownCanoe so you're saying he doesn't see the person she is now, but instead is stuck with "nostalgia goggles" on? That he only sees the wife he fell in love with? It's an interesting thought. You're probably right on it too. Lord knows I understand being stuck in the past But I'm just having a hard time understanding it in this case. If he was just daydreaming of how she used to be and they had no contact, I'd get it. But with her being this openly hostile _to his face?_ I don't know how he isn't more *angry* than wistful. I guess I'm more confused by his behavior because _i_ would be angry, so his reaction kind of baffled me Still, thanks for the reply. It helped getting a different view on it.
My aunt left my uncle and her kids in similar fashion when I was about 8 years old. It’s the reason I NEVER liked the word “Feminist”, because as the only girl in the family (to that point), she would always talk to me about “girl power” and other buzzwords that always seemed so cringe. My uncle has since remarried, and had two girls with my new aunt and I could not be happier for him.
Anyone that lies about SA or the likes should face jail time, AND have to register just like an actual SAr so everyone that may cross their path in the future will know they may try and lie about that crap.
Weird last minute hold up pot twist, but this is probably my favorite reddit story now, i love how henry finnaly was able to do something good for the OP, to pay him back, he is so lucky to be surrounded by such great people, and be a great person, Satisfying! SO SATISFYING! I hope he's doing amazing right now. Still a long way to Go
These women will destroy their families over attention from random dudes...they have zero accountability. They will lie to manipulate the courts and destroy relationships between father and children.He should have dropped the insurance immediately.
I remember seeing another post that has the same MO, starting with wives taking up feminism then wives ask for open marriage, men see through the lie and divorce her, and it ends up they been doing drugs, wonder if it's the same group of women
I love it when the husband gets justice against their wife who abused, cheated, ect. that causes a divorce. When the husband gets the kids, house, and other stuff. It even happened to my dad. My mom abused him and they spent 17-18 years building an amazing credit score and within less than a year she ruined it by buying lots of alcohol (mostly vodka) and cigarettes. She also trashed the house and made the house a storage place. The living room was boxes with a path to the dining room 2 couches and hallway with bedrooms. My dad got the house and me and my siblings. I have no clue where my mom is.
Bob is the real one he not only helped OP with his tough situation with support but also with Money which is alot of Money actually Bro even set up a Lawyer Bro has 7 kids and Helped OPs kids too that's Generous asf Bro is literally a Angel to OP Bless Him Man
It's always this way, he hates the person she has become. But he has lived a life with the version of her that he loved. He loves his wife and forever will, but the person that destroyed his life wasn't his wife anymore, she wasn't the woman who he had kids with. She had become a stranger.
The influence of her friends ruined not only her own life because she is dead now but also this man’s life but also the kids lives along with her parents and all of the other families involved… make sure you have a good friend circle everyone
So what does Bob do for work haha? This is all tragic, and the end was a shocker. But like another commentor said - everyone in this guys life aside from his ex, are incredible. "Henriettta" is the devil and desrves everything karma has in store for her.
Feminism rots the mind. My condolences to OP and his family and especially his children since their mother doesn’t care about them anymore and probably never did.
She got the feminismitis. Side effects may result in mood swings, man hating, blatant self sabotage, lack of coherent thoughts, lack of accountability, and increased sexual promiscuity.
Why can't women like this get dragged through the courts like they do with men? Courts drag and beat men down just by the words of a woman with NO PROOF. But when men have all the proof and evidence of what's being done to them and they get told to be a man and deal with it and coddle the women. Marriage laws need to be redone. Women don't always deserve every in a divorce, especially when they are the cause of said divorce. Women who lie and make false accusations about DV or SA towards kids and all need to be charged and sent to prison. You shouldn't be able to royally screw someone over and just get away with it.
I don't think he ever got the chance to even pay her. She was in rehab and died pretty quickly. Outside of the 15k that they used for her bail and his insurance money I bet he never paid the rest.
Wow. I know this guy probably is distraught about her passing, but it’s probably for the best. Saved him a lot of heartache in the long run. I just hope the kids will be okay.
He lost his wife the moment she had hardcore feminist "friends". Literally, it's the single bitter women that like to ruin things for others. Then show no remorse as if they did a world saving accomplishment.
In the beginning he said along the lines of “his ex and her friends are the type to get angry if a man opens the door for them, but get angry if a man doesn’t open the door for them”. Instantly knew this woman was mad.
it's crazy how many people are like that
@@Ojajjajaj too many in fact, but thank the Lord Jesus they expose themselves. It’s a choice to be wise or get comfy with demise.
I genuinely don't understand how people like that are made. Do they think they're some sort of protagonists that can never be in the wrong? Or in a porn video where the partner won't get mad at them for cheating on them. I just don't understand how people can be this distant from reality. I hope no one i know grows up to be like these people
@@Konomidebanshouwashikisesur thank God you'll never meet one, bc their delusions can make them obsessive and unstable. Especially when they're a relative..... they demand your time, your partner/spouse's time, your children, etc., bc "we're family". Personally, I thank God for this, dealt with some relatives who have serious Narcissistic Personality Disorder and try to destroy my life bc they can't control me then blame me that we're not close or that I'm "bitter" and "immature" for not giving them, a predator, access to my life, my partner's life, my kid's life. I went little to no contact, no one has time for that level of madness. On top of that, they get worse with time.
and considering the ex wife is 40. A full grown woman acting like a child
Everyone in this guys life besides his wife is actually great. Great family, great friends. Hope he gets better and grows to appreciate the people he still has around him.
Bob seems like a cool dude. " Yeah, you helped me when I was a kid, anyway, her tens of thousands of dollars. Have a nice day "
@@TheSpongebob1919"Bob is minted he just doesn't know it yet 🎅🏿🎅🏿🎅🏿🤑🤑🤑"
Henrietta was worse than the wife imo. She drugged and pimped women and even falsely accused her ex husband. She is pure evil.
Honestly feel bad for the wife, it's sad to see someone succumb to self delusion. Even worse when it was totally avoidable. There are few people who make me angry cheaters are those people, but feminists make me feel pity not anger.
@@jesschen5513 Do you realize that those women aren't feminists, right? And that most feminists aren't drug addicted prostitutes? One of the women herself said they use feminism as a cover for their pride and they actually don't care about it.
I heard this one before. This poor man has been through to much for to long. On top of the STD he got. But at least he and Henry finally got Justice.
I heard this guy before he keeps talking about how he heard this one before.
Atleast the the std he got was curable
@@Lloyd_JaneI think Stds are curable, its a bacterial infeciron, and infection, but on annother level.
@@techdiyer5290 Herpes is not, HIV is not, ...
@@techdiyer5290Bacterial ones specifically, like: syphilis, gonorrhoea, chlamydia and trichomoniasis. Although the damage they've done is often permanent.
this man has a multiversal, god-tier, support system
yeah, I wish to have friends like his and to be a friend like his friends are.
His wife died, He has started to get mental, He wants to die but can't, He has to live for his kids
@@hyakkimaru1057did you not watch the whole video
It makes me think of my own support system. I am very on my own but if need be I can contact just my brother and my father and can have 50+ people helping me out if need be. I still have my mother and a sister for female support and insights. I have some friends who are pretty well connected too. I am a loser and live like one, but somehow managed to befriend many well connected people. I guess its because I am loyal, dopey and kind because other than that I have nothing to offer anyone.
Well put.
Dang this guy was absolutely carried through this entire fiasco... Where can I get a support network like that??? Jeez
He mentioned that his friend insisted on paying him back for all the beatings he took protecting his friend. It is safe to assume his network is from a lifetime of helping other people. He was there when they needed him and they jumped at the chance to repay the favor.
@@TheGankednoob and then everybody clapped.
@@ade8890 There are actually people who are decent generous folk. And at least 30% of the people they help are willing to pay them back for their kindness.
@@ade8890 Go out there, and do some good. You'll see how people repay that kindness when you need it.
@@ade8890 i u werent a piece of shit u might actually believe that people normally do repay your favors
OP your father is a legend for gathering 28 family members to support you OP UR MUM is legend backbone behind the legendary father no wonder you wanted to work things out with xwife before she went crazy
Don't forget Bob, Bob's loyal AF.
@@nikolapetrov7970Bob really is the MVP. THe Dad is a close second
@@g.frankenbergbecause bob was also a victim in this it’s easy to to support someone who’s went through damn near the same shit you went through and worse.
Triple S tier family right there. Wife might have been a 1 star, but the family are the real champions.
As an ex addict of strong opioids and as a married woman, I'm so happy I had/have enough awareness to see the destruction I can cause around me if not careful. I was addicted towards the start of my marriage, but after 2 years of heavy use, it's like a ton of bricks hit me all at once in the face. I could see the distance I was building between my husband and I as well as my closest friends and I. I could see the damage I was doing to myself and my life. I spiraled a bit from there into some pretty deep depression, but still decided a few months later to get help immediately. I would sooner die than lose my husband. It's RARE you are ever able to find that person who fits in your life like a glove, someone who brings out the best qualities in you, makes you laugh and smile year after year, and always brings joy to each day, and that is my husband. Hell, we've never even been so mad as to yell at each other. I wasn't about to fucking give that up. As my favorite quote ever goes: you want my husband, you're gonna have to fucking kill me. I got clean of drugs, still go to therapy, was treated for severe depression, and 8 years later I'm still happily married to the love of my life and pregnant with our second daughter, the other 2 loves of my life. I did hit a rough patch 3 years ago in December 2020 when my best friend of 10 years took his life and I nearly relapsed after another spiral, but ended up composing a song as venting method, stuck to everything despite the hurt and pain, and came out the otherside with my husband standing right there the whole time, helping me work through it (they weren't as close, but he was also still very affected as well, so I know it wasn't easy to pull me from the brink). I'd die for my husband and my family. To throw your family away, your children away, your friends away all for sparkling trash and shit is absolutely disgusting, weak, cowardly, and shameful. Even after experiencing addiction myself, I still think anyone willing to do the things this woman did are fucking disgraceful and deserve every last bit of misery, backlash, and consequence coming at them. I've also had a mother use false allegations to attempt to win a divorce and it is absolutely DISGUSTING to use such abhorrent claims against an innocent person. That woman was lucky her kids aren't like me because once I found out she falsely claimed my dad was abusive to her and us, I slapped her so hard that it bruised for 3 days. I don't tolerate false claims or domestic violence against either men or women, so I don't mind being the one to slap a bitch as a woman myself since I'm more able to get away with it. Honestly, good riddance. She was a horrible wife, a horrible neglectful mother, and a sad excuse for a woman and I spit on her grave.
Once again, the marriage laws need to be rewritten.
It's as if the victims never, NEVER, get justice, regardless of whether they are men or women.
@@laylachristina5605 the fact that she gets 60k for this lmfao
@@korisnickoime571she killed her self before she ever received the money i think
An idea that could use some troubleshooting: Custody should go with the breadwinner, unless they are within 10k of eachother (below 100k) or 30k (above 100k). If they're equal, they divy up themselves, with equal joint custody being the default agreement.
bullshit, women ALLWAYS get privileges
Why do things like this happen in this world? They were happily married for an entire decade! Then it all just unravels over the course of a couple of months.
It’s unbelievable really. I have to say though, it seems that from 2020 up until now, the number of cases like these have skyrocketed. Really put a strain on families
Drugs and ego. The same as every other fucked up thing in this world.
A bad batch dragged an apple from other tree down to hell, it happens all the time.
I can't think of a good enough reason tbh
because Adam ate the forbidden fruit
I don't wish death on anyone...often. but the friend being in critical condition is just dark humor at its finest.
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It sounds like that 1 harpy bitch that was the ring leader had essentially coerced a bunch of women to start taking hardcore drugs manipulated them to the point where they were completely dependent on her and then fucked them over in such a brutal way nearly killing one of them then tried to get away with it.
I just feel like there was a bunch of victims and one evil woman who was essentially creating more and more chaos and conflict it was absolutely terrible and the fact that the woman waked up and wanted to be dead was just sad.
That being said I still think the husband is the biggest victim here and the most honorable
Death is generally or always I should say is a better state than life but okay
she was the nicest one of the group, I hope she recovers from the crash and the addiction
@@potatoheadpokemario1931 Maybe she was. We didn't get to hear much from the others.
ODing in rehab proves she was a strong woman. She sure showed her ex husband. 💪🏻
SLAYING yourself is the ultimate QUEEN move
wait what does od mean i forgot
@@arizonaicedtea-jw2lg It means Overdose.
That's fucked, but true
@@BasedPoliwhirl I keep coming back to read this comment
I don't want this to sound controlling but guys, remember this: ALWAYS pay attention to your wives friends. if their friends do anything like start shouting things like men are the problem or men are always holding are holding them back, tell her to cut them off or start gearing up for a divorce because you will not tolerate this bs from these loose 304s
That “Mommy doesn’t wanna be a family anymore” hit hard 😢
That is the haunting part.
Raw and maybe a little manipulative, but the b had it coming. I hope the children don't think it was, later, is all
@vincentcleaver1925 is it manipulative though? He had text proof that she wanted nothing to do with them and considered him and especially the kids a burden.
@@vincentcleaver1925Free thinking isn't your strong suit is it?
That was the best way OP could have handled it. A lot of people would sugarcoat it, and let the kids think that “Mommy just has to go away for awhile, but she loves you very much.” Kids are very perceptive, though. Plus, if Mommy never comes back, the kids will eventually become resentful due to being lied to. Sometimes tough love is best.
Very well handled all round. His lawyer is a star. I had hoped to hear the wife would come crawling back apologetic but you can't have everything
She overdosed in rehab
To be fair the ex wife and her friends are idiots so the lawyer had easy time dealing with them.
@@captainxzavier1299good 😊
Ending was bittersweet. Kids and ex husbands came out smelling like roses and ex wife is fertilizer. Sad to think that those kids don't have a mother in their lives just because of their mom's selfishness. I keep seeing a lot of stories like this and it just keeps making modern feminism look like a joke and excuse to act like spoiled, rotten children.
Use his Ex-wife as a way " NEVER agree to Feminist crap " or as a sign of " this person is mad " as 99% of them are mad. Equal rights should be equal fights. Equal time spent as well.
Considering the last update, it was really the druggie "friends" that destroyed her, not this kind of feminism (that was just an excuse not to admit she was high on drugs - they created excuses for themselves, in the form of this type of feminism, just so they wouldn't own up to what was truly the problem.. the drugs; junkies make up excuses, everyone else is the problem to them).
This guy is smart, he's got evidence, and support from family and friends. But when his ex died, that's when she finally started to wake up to everything, she finally realized near the end that she fucked up bad. She ruined her marriage, her children, her family, her friends, and lost everything around her, and when she finally realized she lost everything she had going in life, that she could've been living a peaceful tranquil, and happy life, she decided that there was no coming back and she would never be loved by her husband, her family, and friends every again.
No she probably was just in too much pain from not being able to take meth and decided irrationally to end it. Drug abuse is not the same as movies make it look. There is no satisfying ending, just bad decisions to feed the addiction
@alecmartin8543 no. She took a bad of drugs and it burst open. That was clearly a mistake.
@@alecmartin8543whenever it comes to addicts, it's only ever pain. There is no rationality, no true justification, just the agony that they leave to feed their addiction.
@alecmartin8543 your not wrong....but at times and I've seen it people take a good long look especially towards their family and realize...I failed you....then believe there's no coming back and continue the destructive habit/behavior....or decide to end it.
It's sad to say that this mental illness society ruined everything.
Wife had a mid-life crisis and gave her family a trauma for life.
a 40 year old woman acting like this is insane. The fact she think it’s controlling to not have her cheat is ridiculous
Hormones can go real wild at that age. Like a teen boy.
Probably a mid life crisis
@@MsWill813that's zero excuse.
This would make one hell of a movie, especially that last part with Henry.
Ryan Hurst (Opie from Sons of Anarchy) for Henry!
might be too sad to watch
Sadly this kind of story (husband is the good guy and wife is the villain) will not be made in this current era of Hollywood
Can you imagine trying to get this put out? Unending screeching on the internet about how the movie hates women rather than portraying specific group of women as being terrible people.
It's scary how often 'feminism' is just a thin veil over blatantly toxic misandry. I had an almost-GF in my late 20's that toted herself a feminist, things were nice for about a month but after a while it started to become apparent who she really was underneath. Constantly reminding me of my 'privilege', using tragedies certain women have endured as crimes from me and my entire gender, the never-ending 'just because you're a man' statements, etc. The day I tried to turn it around and talk about some of the horrors men have gone through from women was the angriest I've ever seen a human being.
Yeah... makes genuine feminists seem batsh*t crazy to anyone basically. It's supposed to be equality, not reverse subjugation. Sorry for the crazy psycho you had to deal with.
Honestly, that's so fucked up how a great thing, a movement against women being oppressed, gets reduced to a stupid fucking hate group, how things like meaningless sex are sold as empowerment and how it damages the actual fucking struggle of the actual victims by putting them alongside people like these
lol idk why feminists have sex if they hate men
It’s not feminism, it’s humanity. Raise a child to have no consequences and often, punishments are erased away and something others have to deal with. They become adult monsters with the temper of toddler but the adult violent bodies
It’s literally the female equivalent of that “alpha/sigma male” stuff. Like Imagine arguing over which type of male has more “social marketplace value” or some nonsense. It’s a little fruity if you ask me. And I’m gay.
>nearly dies in car crash
>wakes up in hospital
>offers nearest man BJ for $20
>refuses to elaborate
HOLY GIGACHAD
But in all seriousness, this one was just really sad. I can't imagine having my wife turn herself into a meth addicted prostitute. Like, damn. I don't know how someone could convince me to sell my body for money. Especially if I had a loving husband, children, and a home.
I've also never done meth, so there that.
If thats a feminist powered life she wants, men, i dont want it
So causually too. Like this is routine for her when she wants a fix. The only independent thought she has is her sharing her feelings of lonliness and shame when no one came to see her bc of her bad behavior. She didnt have to say that to OP, but i guess she wants her story to be heard. Very sad indeed.
I have done meth and I can still agree that this is crazy. It's not THAT good, like holy damn.
It's because it's like something imaginary it's forcing you to do it. But it's not something imaginary, is the need of your brain to feel those sensations again
That's why is so effective, because it's not something like you can turn off and on, drug reach into your brain, forcing your body and itself to have chemical reactions that are new and virgin to the body, like scratching that spot on your back you can't never seem to find, but once it wears off, it's like a large dumb kid version of yourself, who is stronger and no reasonable is physically pushing you to do it again and again
This just fuels my hate toward open marriage and cheating.
been addicted to these for a while now 😂
facts 😂
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Even though if I've heard the story in a different voice I listen as if I never heard it before
Should get a patch to help wean off
I don't know what it is about these that's so interesting, is it because we abhor cheating that much? Or because of things in our own lives? I have no idea tbh but addicted as well xD
oh god that makes sense@Huehue-qf1ri
That poor husband and his kids, put through hEll from the urful wife/mother, then instead of taking ownership of her actions takes the easy way out and self delete. Hope OP and the kids find the peace after this undeserved nightmare.
"She knew about the chlamydia and didn't tell me" is guaranteed full custody, because she'll be in prison. That's a felony, and you have evidence + can pull her medical records of treatment
Chemical/Biological warfare
This is a perfect example of choosing your circle. OP had great friends and family members to back him up during his lowest while his ex’s connections ruined her life as well as his. While his ex is not innocent at all you can understand what ruined her by the end of the video
Honestly one could say she was killed by those people or more specifically who she was a sad fact is we humans are more fragile then we think and people with annove skill can mold people like clay once they get there hands on them.
though it doesn't absolve her of fault it just that monster she became was created in large part by worse monsters
She was broken by peer pressure, and put back together with drugs, sex and a superiority complex.
@@Olimar92 All in the name of "feminism"
If u offered 10k instead of 60k she would have accepted anyway.
True, but he also had no idea she was a drug addict yet lol
And besides she shwacked herself at the end so it doesn't matter anyway
5 minutes in I hope he can contact the ex husband on the one who accused of abuse to counter sue.
He did, they are best friends now.
I just sat here & watched a 38 minute video of a Reddit story it sure didn’t feel like 38 minutes. Also the fact that women can lie about abuse & it will destroy a man life without any evidence is super sickening
It's more sick that they encourage each other to do it too
@@isaiahthomas4444 yes it is i think if you like about abuse & get caught you should be thrown in prison
That super lawyer of his being female herself is just awesome. Definitely one of the few good ones these days.
My country india is a 10x worse gynocentric hell, like courts dont even allow paternity tests😢
@@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami I find it interesting that you say India is gynocentric cause I’ve only ever heard that it’s the total opposite, like a full on patriarchal society. Do you think your society/court system is more geared towards favouring women in general or only where you are from? I don’t mean to be offensive or anything so you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to.
He has horrible taste in women but god damn his friends are out of this world, he won the jackpot over 20 times with those friends
Not just 20 jackpots...but a free chance to life as well.
This whole story is just tragic. A mother pushed into drug addiction and ruins her whole life with her choices, children who have now lost a mother to addiction in such a small span of time, a father who lost his wife to her mistakes, another father who didnt get to see his own children for years based on a lie,
and a whole group of women who would turn on eachother for anything. The whole thing is just sad. I hope Op, Henry, the ex wifes family, and all the children move on. Despite how awful that woman was to her husband at the end of the day her parents lost a child, her children lost a mother.
"You dont control me."
"I dont. But you cant make me care about a cheater."
Brother man, Bob is a real homie
Another case of bitter single friends keeping people single
Please pray for OP and Henry. God bless these men.
god man I'm super sorry for what OP goes through but man listening/reading how nice his environment is actually makes me smile. It's good to know that despite tragedy people are in good hands.
I'll never understand why anyone takes any type of illegal drugs unless they want to end up dead.
Because it doesnt always end up like this? Like playing a game of poker can be fun as long as its once in a while with friends and not every night with strangers at a casino. You just have to take everything seriously and be honest with yourself, if an addiction is developping you need to stop, no buts no ifs. If its not an addiction, then have some fun every once in a while
Self-mediacating, a lot of addicts deal with mental disorders and either cant afford proper treatments or they're ashamed or confused, so they resort to illegal drugs, because sometimes they do help, thougg the cons are so so so much worse than any inkling of a pro.
For me it started out small my parents would give me one every now and then but nothing to bad I was in senior year I started to take the tramodal I guess regularly I started getting withdrawals if I went without I was already depressed when I went on these and I would drink them sometimes with a bar of Xanax god it was bad one day I lost my great grandmother who I took care of till her last breath now this broke me then with in a month I lost my grandfather who meant the absolute world to me and he went so fast I couldn’t cope I still don’t think I wanted to die that day but looking back taking 9 pills of 100 mil was like asking for death thank god I got out my room and tried going to the kitchen but I would pass out every few steps I had bruises all on my back I sadly still take them now but not to the degree I did then seeing my parents next to me on the hospital bed made me realize how stupid and selfish I was to try and feel better I know it’s still bad that I take them I did go cold turkey and that was the hardest thing to do it last for close to 4 months but then when I saw an opportunity to take them again I did it’s like I want that euphoria of feeling good instead of feeling like shit u know idk well sorry for ranting I never get to talk about my feelings with anyone
@@alecmartin8543 Most people can't just stop when they get addicted so in my opinion most drugs aside from maybe weed is just to risky to try.
@@alecmartin8543Cope
Wife's new friend: Divorced, feminist, mentally insane.
OP: "it's totally fine"
I mean there's not much to do, you cant force her to cut ties, can talk to her and all that but its her choice at the end.
I remember hearing this one before in this channel and one day it disappeared. This one is one of my favorites
I remember this story from strong successful male
Honestly, I think it's a good thing that she met those "friends". They encouraged her to finally show everyone her true character and what sort of abysmal creature she actually is, behind her mask of a loving and caring wife and mother.
While it is obviously sad because of the unimaginable pain that OP surely had to go through, I think this is actually a pretty nice story, with all his friends and family pitching in so much to help and support him. Very heartwarming. I hope he will eventually manage to heal and move on from this horrible situation.
It could have just never happened and her 'true' character wouldn't have mattered at all.
That's not who she was from the sounds of it she was smoking meth regularly probably always high the drugs took over her life and by time she started getting sober she realized everything she had done and seen no way back
nah this is a case of “you become like those you hang around”. drugs and alcohol can completely change a person, his wife could have lived a happy life had she never gotten involved with those “friends”. They preyed on someone weak, and it destroyed her.
thats not to say she isnt responsible for her own actions, but we dont know her story. henrietta could have threatened her, manipulated and lied, sucked her into a cult-like mindset
Nah, it's a classic matter of bad influence. Everyone can be corrupted under the right circumstances.
Honestly, my very unpopular opinion, but I am glad ex-wife, joined this cult.
It allowed a father to be reunited with his children after 5 years,
It cleared the record of a poor man, who was falsely accused and convicted
It saved children from a neglectful and abusive household
It brought back the future of these children and returned their happiness.
Woman looked for excitement end up dead in rehab. It actually shows how drug addiction effect more than one person
Whole this story sounds like "realistic epilogue of almost every NTR manga from cheated on guy's perspective" and gives a strong vibes of "matemorphosis" which a felt when i read it
exactly
In metamorphosis, MC tried to crawl out. Not in here.
Some people cannot stop living on the edge. Either you die young or you change your ways. My brother was the same way. Got in to drugs, gangs, partying hard until he hard a severe car accident that nearly killed him. Took him months to recover, etc Changed his ways.
of all the cheating stories that I've read and seen... this has to be the second worst one so far...
What's the worst?
@@gachakris2924 u/Jasoninhell
Whats the worst
I gotta say the real MVP is this man's father and his childhood friends
Even his new friends and not to mention all the family that helped with the house.
I was hesitant at the start when OP said the work friends were hardcore SJW feminists. My initial thought was “damn, is this just gonna be dunking on feminism or something?” Then as the story continued, I thought “wait, these women are deliberately screwing themselves over? This isn’t real feminism.” Once it got to the “my body my choice” is just a mask to save their egos I realized this is just an incredible tragedy. The wife was lured with feelings of female empowerment and was dragged down into the hell that is meth addiction. It probably started as just the wife wanting new friends that were liberal and progressive (not a bad thing), but didn’t see the hole she was digging until it was too late to get out.
As awful as her actions were, and as unforgivable her final act was right as she was recovering and her children were coming to grips with it all, she was still a victim of the scum that poisoned her.
My heart breaks for OP. He and his children deserved a better end to the story.
This is what feminism brings
@@sunnyztmoney You clearly don't know what true feminism is all about then, coz this isn't it, which one of the women said in the vid if you remember. They admitted it was an excuse they used.
The issue here is addiction, and I don't say issue in the sense that we should be judging, but an issue that more of us need to have an understanding for.
You need to know this, as to totally get and understand your views, you need to understand the facts. If you assume for whatever biases, that the problem here was feminism, well you'll be way off track, coz 1) the biggest problem were the damaging effects of addiction on the person addicted and their loved ones. 2) The fact she got manipulated into that circle, under the pretence of feminism, that is the second most important of something we need to understand, because feminism and what happened here are not things that align. That puts feminism in a bad light unnecessarily.
If people would take the time to know what true feminism is all about, then people would know when they're being manipulated with a false version like in this story, which became the beginning of the end for the OP's wife.
@WittyWalnut-d5m hey i didnt read all that but i stand by my statement. Modern divorce laws and female hypergamy comes from feminism
@@sunnyztmoney you just admitted to ignoring a counter argument so you could still say you’re right.
@guyperson754 no i will not grant you an augment bc your whole comment is based on "whataboutism" feminism is a part of lefist cancer that destoys the family
For Henry this was truly a lifesaver
You can tell he's an honorable man by how everyone rallied together to support him in his time of need. No ifs, ands or buts about it.
I strive to be a good friend like Bob. Those are the real unsung heroes in situations like this one. The parents on both sides, Bob, and the honesty the one friend showed in the end is refreshing. Ngl I would have started healing much sooner if I had know the truth of my own situation so this story is going to stick with me.
I am not a man with an abundance of life experience, but do people’s personalities really do such a 180 just due to joining a new friend group?
This question isn’t rhetorical I’m earnestly asking if such things happen.
Yeah some people do. Willing to bet she didn’t change overnight though she changed over time and he only truly noticed once she passed a certain threshold. Sometimes people change but only show it when they feel they comfortable.
One of the big things about this story is the meth. Hard drugs like that will turn you into a complete shell of your former self, so yeah. 180's like this are very possible. Seen a few friends die over the years to drugs, whether through un-aliving themselves, overdosing, or car crashes while under the influence.
A big factor is the addiction. My area has a lot, and I mean at lot of addicts. They all behave crazy like this woman. They'd do anything to get their fix, and I mean ANYTHING. All the inhumane actions. I understand his love for his spouse. It hurts to see you loved one turn into monster.
Yeah, bad influence can change a person a lot. Some people are more sharp minded, others are sheep like that woman.
You'd be surprised how often it happens...
"I told her, I wasn't interested in her hobbies!" LMFAO!!!! I've listened to this over 20 times and this is the first time I heard that!
for youngins that make a mockery of the wife and make this about women, i want you to know this story is only about drugs, even the henrietta part, drug addiction is a monster that if left out of its cage, noone can face alone, not a single person, and i invite you to give me a personal story you know that disproves this. the reason most of us grew up hearing "dont do drugs" "dont gamble" is because its quite literally the only advice to deal with those things when your parents won't or cant be there to help you. "do, not, do"
loads of strength for op, and his kids. I am so sorry for you, and hope that you guys can pull threw this shit.
"You don't have the right to control me"
Wtf your cheating on him. You don't have any rights you broke your marriage and now your blaming your husband cause he's telling you NOT to cheat on him. People like this make me so fucking angry because you know they dont care or think they did anything wrong.
The best answer he can give his kids when they ask if mommy loves them is to make it a teachable moment about addiction & how it destroys the lives of everyone around the addict asa well as the addicts, themselves .
Lmao, you do whatever you want but don’t expect to maintain a solid healthy relationship if you demand things from your partner
OP's description about Henry made him look like an absolute unit while catching up butterflies and sniffing flowers
I know I'm going to hell with the way I laughed at that final update.
The fact the woman could have gotten anything out of this divorce is a clear sign that our justice system and marriage laws are fraudulent and flawed.
The only other solution is allowing abusers to hold on to their abuse victims in a dangerous marriage. I know it sounds hyperbolic but it’s an absolute truth in the dichotomy
"Regret" is a powerful word... I doubt the STBXW has come to that point. She is REALIZING that actions (or lack thereof for her) have consequences. And consequences are far reaching and cover most life aspects.
This kind of friens and family the OP has are golden. That kind of support is crutial for life. He is blessed
OP,
I know you're suffering a lot, but I hope you can take 1 very positive win from your divorce/ ex-wife's affair.
You allowed a father to finally be reunited with his children after 5 years,
You cleaned his record and reputation, and he will no longer be viewed as an abuser and he will no longer have a criminal record so he can now find a job and home.
And, You saved several children from an abusive and neglectful household,
You have given them back their happiness, and you have given them a future.
You are a hero 🙌
And i wish you and your children the best!!!
Shes incredibly impressionable. Good thing for her if she gets into a support group it’ll work better than most people.
…yeah about that.
Umm did you finish the video
@@davidhamilton6883yea shes in rehab wym?
ohhhhhh boy, I have some news...
I went through almost this exact same thing this year minus the drugs and prostitution. Thankfully I was not married to this woman but we were engaged and she was the mother of my only child. The pain was unbelievable. I haven’t cried in over 21 years but the thought of my 4yr old son growing up in a broken home because of her worthless decision broke me down to tears. Idk I guess I’ll be alright. I’ll always be there for my son regardless.
I absolutely love to break these stories down to see if they are fake. He should be the writer for gta 6 or its real. Nearly everything this accounted for. One thing i look for to see if its fake is how deep does the emotional turmoil goes, to see how it affects everyone. He made an appropriate response to everything. Not like some obvious fake ones where their husbands does the worst of the worst crimes to the whole family their response is like "i guess we should kick him out of the house before it gets worse" after m**esting their daughter. Obviously im exaggerating but you should get the point.
Not me continuously yelling "idiot" every time dude says "i StIlL lOvE hEr" like c'mon dude, how much does she actually have to hurt you and your kids/family/friends before you just give up
Oh shit, as I'm typing i hear she managed to OD and perish while in rehab?
Well shit, the least she could've done was take Henrietta with her 😑
It's weird. As things slowly turn to shit it reminds you more about the qualities you love about her, even if she doesn't possess them anymore. So everytime you see her you see the person she used to be, even if that person is dead.
It happens dude you can't forget stuff that easily he was in pain a lot of pain
Nah, anyone who thinks it’s ridiculous he still loves her has only had shallow relationships. This is the person he was thrilled to spend the rest of his life with, and she was too. This is the person who shared his pain on the bad days at work, and shared the joy when something good happened. This is the person that gave birth to his two favorite people in the world.
Love is not just romance. Love is not just sex.
Love is giving of yourself willingly to support your other half, to share their pains and joys. To watch her self-destruct would be absolutely brutal. This is your best friend hurting themself, and anyone you truly love you would feel so bad seeing how low they’ve become. It’s true, she was the one who chose to spend time with these coworkers, but from the outside looking in you can see as they’re being fooled and lied to and you want to help that person. Even knowing he never wanted to get back together, that doesn’t mean you can’t still love someone and wish they’d take steps to turn their life around and stop hurting themselves. This is the kind of love that keeps people together for life. But both individuals need to have it.
@@UpsideDownCanoe so you're saying he doesn't see the person she is now, but instead is stuck with "nostalgia goggles" on? That he only sees the wife he fell in love with?
It's an interesting thought. You're probably right on it too. Lord knows I understand being stuck in the past
But I'm just having a hard time understanding it in this case. If he was just daydreaming of how she used to be and they had no contact, I'd get it. But with her being this openly hostile _to his face?_ I don't know how he isn't more *angry* than wistful. I guess I'm more confused by his behavior because _i_ would be angry, so his reaction kind of baffled me
Still, thanks for the reply. It helped getting a different view on it.
@@CHADFUTUREHAN that is fair.
Guess I'm just more confused his anger doesn't outweigh his "nostalgia" at this point is all 😕
My aunt left my uncle and her kids in similar fashion when I was about 8 years old. It’s the reason I NEVER liked the word “Feminist”, because as the only girl in the family (to that point), she would always talk to me about “girl power” and other buzzwords that always seemed so cringe.
My uncle has since remarried, and had two girls with my new aunt and I could not be happier for him.
This dudes support system is not that far off from the final battle of Endgame when everyone shows up.
Anyone that lies about SA or the likes should face jail time, AND have to register just like an actual SAr so everyone that may cross their path in the future will know they may try and lie about that crap.
Weird last minute hold up pot twist, but this is probably my favorite reddit story now, i love how henry finnaly was able to do something good for the OP, to pay him back, he is so lucky to be surrounded by such great people, and be a great person, Satisfying! SO SATISFYING! I hope he's doing amazing right now. Still a long way to Go
It's almost like meth should be illegal or something.
I'm guessing it's meth and h3roin since he mentioned methadone.
These women will destroy their families over attention from random dudes...they have zero accountability. They will lie to manipulate the courts and destroy relationships between father and children.He should have dropped the insurance immediately.
This should be a warning to everyone to be careful who your friend 😬🥺
She had perfectly good life, a husband, kids, house,
thrown everything away for being feminine and getting dragged whole mess. And OD
I remember seeing another post that has the same MO, starting with wives taking up feminism then wives ask for open marriage, men see through the lie and divorce her, and it ends up they been doing drugs, wonder if it's the same group of women
I love it when the husband gets justice against their wife who abused, cheated, ect. that causes a divorce. When the husband gets the kids, house, and other stuff. It even happened to my dad. My mom abused him and they spent 17-18 years building an amazing credit score and within less than a year she ruined it by buying lots of alcohol (mostly vodka) and cigarettes. She also trashed the house and made the house a storage place. The living room was boxes with a path to the dining room 2 couches and hallway with bedrooms. My dad got the house and me and my siblings. I have no clue where my mom is.
Holy Fuck! OP's wife turned into a Grand Theft Auto NPC.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your wife to drugs. I was going to pray for her until I got the final update.
This ain’t feminism it’s insanity.
W Guy I wish him the best
This IS Feminism.
@@TheHelper151 it’s not traditional feminism
@@LoveYouLittleLoveYouLots Bub, trad feminism was about BOMBING SCHOOLS for not getting what they wanted.
@Orthodox-Against-UTTP it's the modern one
The Industrial Revolution and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race.
Damn, his dad really hit her with the “you aren’t welcome for Christmas”
Fuckin A makes me think of an Ex i have. I broke up with her in HS and saw her years later. Became a Radical Feminist. Dodged a 50 cal bullet!!!
Bob is the real one he not only helped OP with his tough situation with support but also with Money which is alot of Money actually
Bro even set up a Lawyer
Bro has 7 kids and Helped OPs kids too that's Generous asf
Bro is literally a Angel to OP
Bless Him Man
"You hash-currency-percent-currency-hash🤣🤣". Such vicious words!
Like what the hashtag dash is so talkin abt fr
This 1 is one of the saddest because the destruction it wrought.
I think the writers jumped the shark with this plot.
I love how this guy handled it. No softballing. Just straight to the point
I have no idea how he can still love her after all of that.
It's always this way, he hates the person she has become. But he has lived a life with the version of her that he loved. He loves his wife and forever will, but the person that destroyed his life wasn't his wife anymore, she wasn't the woman who he had kids with. She had become a stranger.
The influence of her friends ruined not only her own life because she is dead now but also this man’s life but also the kids lives along with her parents and all of the other families involved… make sure you have a good friend circle everyone
So what does Bob do for work haha? This is all tragic, and the end was a shocker. But like another commentor said - everyone in this guys life aside from his ex, are incredible. "Henriettta" is the devil and desrves everything karma has in store for her.
Bro he's such a goat for saving the other guy who got falsely accused, genuinely such a refreshing story.
Feminism rots the mind. My condolences to OP and his family and especially his children since their mother doesn’t care about them anymore and probably never did.
She got the feminismitis. Side effects may result in mood swings, man hating, blatant self sabotage, lack of coherent thoughts, lack of accountability, and increased sexual promiscuity.
Can i just say this dude has some amazing friends and stuff.
Why can't women like this get dragged through the courts like they do with men?
Courts drag and beat men down just by the words of a woman with NO PROOF.
But when men have all the proof and evidence of what's being done to them and they get told to be a man and deal with it and coddle the women.
Marriage laws need to be redone. Women don't always deserve every in a divorce, especially when they are the cause of said divorce.
Women who lie and make false accusations about DV or SA towards kids and all need to be charged and sent to prison. You shouldn't be able to royally screw someone over and just get away with it.
Op should sue the ex for the transmission of the gonorrhea to cancel out the 45k
NVM got to the last minute
Still having to pay some money in the divorce is wild. I hate that he still had to give her 45k.
I don't think he ever got the chance to even pay her. She was in rehab and died pretty quickly. Outside of the 15k that they used for her bail and his insurance money I bet he never paid the rest.
Wow. I know this guy probably is distraught about her passing, but it’s probably for the best. Saved him a lot of heartache in the long run. I just hope the kids will be okay.
That dude should be in Therapy already, and the kids aswell so they can heal together
He lost his wife the moment she had hardcore feminist "friends". Literally, it's the single bitter women that like to ruin things for others. Then show no remorse as if they did a world saving accomplishment.
Yup. "Misery loves company"
Bob is a real one like he's legit supporting everyone with anything possible