What Men Need To Know About LUST And SHAME

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  • @jakesaquarium199
    @jakesaquarium199 8 місяців тому +3010

    Quitting the pornography addiction is hard. But with Christ Jesus of Nazareth we will win this battle. God bless and keep all of you☦️☦️☦️

    • @mulenga.lwanga6207
      @mulenga.lwanga6207 8 місяців тому +21

      Amen

    • @Mavvyd96
      @Mavvyd96 8 місяців тому +19

      Based ☦️

    • @jakesaquarium199
      @jakesaquarium199 8 місяців тому +9

      @@Mavvyd96 it's a blessing to be a based orthadox man in 2024.

    • @Z3AL316
      @Z3AL316 8 місяців тому +3

      Amen

    • @mube8885
      @mube8885 8 місяців тому +3

      Amen ❤❤❤

  • @benkai343434
    @benkai343434 8 місяців тому +1302

    I still haven't beaten back anything, and I'm not going to pretend that I'm even remotely close to it, but I refuse to stop struggling. All those who have already managed to fight off temptations and allow Christ to lead them out of the mire are truly blessed, and I hope no further troubles come their way.
    Please, pray for my success in overcoming the temptations that have assailed me for the last 25 years of my life.

    • @dongdong9582
      @dongdong9582 8 місяців тому

      What really helped me in my battle against lust are the videos of "IMBeggar" on UA-cam, his videos on how to overcome temptation and how god sees us. They are really helping me right now. Hope I could help you my brother in Christ.

    • @SVN62534
      @SVN62534 8 місяців тому +62

      You got this. Keep persisting. You're on the right path.
      ''but I refuse to stop struggling''. This is why you'll make it.

    • @pieterlindeque7798
      @pieterlindeque7798 8 місяців тому +37

      The fact that you refuse to give up proves that you are a warrior. Be gentle with yourself brother and remember you are only human. Stay strong, take small steps and keep being a warrior. God will does not punish us for our failings, but He certainly will bless you for wanting to overcome. I'm also fighting. Remember you are not alone. Let's fight together. It's not about winning it's about desiring to be better, so let's always try to be better.

    • @The_WanderArt
      @The_WanderArt 8 місяців тому +34

      Try to remove the "proxies" or "gateways." The easiest way to stop behavior is to Not Think about it. Instagram does this to me, so I removed it. Anything that shows you hot women too often should be removed.

    • @The_WanderArt
      @The_WanderArt 8 місяців тому +6

      Less will power more environment design

  • @thenarrowdoor7
    @thenarrowdoor7 8 місяців тому +1104

    What really helped me is fasting and prayer with watchfulness GOD helped me . Be strong , man up ☦️

    • @juanmap9213
      @juanmap9213 8 місяців тому +39

      It's really impressive how fasting weakens the desires of the flesh and make us more humble

    • @thenarrowdoor7
      @thenarrowdoor7 8 місяців тому +42

      @@juanmap9213 jesus christ said some things cannot get out , they get out only by fasting and prayer ☦️

    • @FlockOfYahweh
      @FlockOfYahweh 8 місяців тому

      ⁠@@Soyebakhtar0105stop yapping Islam is Anti Christ. 600 years after Jesus. Nothing but violence and lust. Just another false Christ that Paul warned us about. No different then the Jehovah Witness Jesus, Mormom Jesus, Hebrew Israelite Jesus, and your Jesus, all fake Jesus’s. Except Islam, is the worst kind of them all. In John, Jesus tells us that you will kill us and think your doing the service of God and your Quran chapter 9 verse 29 literally tells you to kill us.

    • @laurencescrenci1460
      @laurencescrenci1460 8 місяців тому

      May God be with you

    • @henriquegodinho4655
      @henriquegodinho4655 8 місяців тому +2

      How do i fast, really want to add that in my life but, google doesn't even explain that well

  • @shivabreathes
    @shivabreathes 8 місяців тому +382

    “Society has decided to do away with shame rather than the thing that’s causing the shame” really nails it.

  • @MrWhocares51
    @MrWhocares51 8 місяців тому +1016

    I’ve completely removed it from my life. It can be done fellas. The holy way is the only way! 💪

    • @Malek_XV
      @Malek_XV 8 місяців тому

      ​@Mdsoyabaktar I can't tell if you're a muslim or making fun of islam 😂

    • @ChillestForm
      @ChillestForm 8 місяців тому +1

      How’d ya do it? Fasting and prayer?

    • @duke_paxley
      @duke_paxley 8 місяців тому +41

      ​@@Soyebakhtar0105notice how Quran also said that Allah (God) is the First and the Last. Every prophets never claimed that They're the First and the Last (even Muhammad, your prophet). In the Old Testament, The LORD said that He is the First and the Last (Isaiah 44:6). But Jesus in (Revelation 1:7) and (Revelation 22:13) also said that He (Jesus) is the First and the Last.This means that Jesus is more than a prophet. Jesus is God, the LORD.
      Christian worship in spirit (with the Holy Spirit inside of us), but Muslim didn't even know the Holy Spirit. Muslim also didn't know the Truth (Jesus Christ). How can Muslim worship in the spirit and truth?
      John 16:7-14 is about the Holy Spirit, not Muhammad. The Spirit of Truth is Holy Spirit. Muhammad is a man, not spirit. Muhammad didn't glorify Jesus, but that Spirit Glorify Jesus (John 16:14). See also John 14:17-26, especially in John 14:26 it says that the Spirit that Jesus sent to us is the Holy Spirit. Muslim doesn't even recognize this Spirit (the Holy Spirit or the Spirit of God). Muslim believe that God created the spirit, and Muslim also believe that God doesn't have a spirit.
      Yeah. That's the Quran. Not the Bible. Jesus will judge the world. It's true. But those who believe that Christ is The Lord will be saved (Rome 10:9-10). Muslim doesn't believe that Jesus is The Lord.
      If you seeking Muhammad's prophecy in the Bible, well, yeah, there's. Matthew 7:15, Galatians 1:8, and many more verses about the false prophet.
      Come to Jesus bro. No one can go to the Father (God) except through Jesus, because He's the Son of God, He is the Word of God. He came from Heaven for our salvation (John 6:38). No prophets came down from Heaven.

    • @zrjz340
      @zrjz340 8 місяців тому +34

      @@duke_paxley there is no way this guy will reply to you, you told him brother, lets pray for him to come to Christ☦️☦️

    • @duke_paxley
      @duke_paxley 8 місяців тому +4

      @@zrjz340 Amen ☦️

  • @luigipride6205
    @luigipride6205 8 місяців тому +353

    Quitting Social Media significantly helps

    • @neohleza24
      @neohleza24 6 місяців тому +17

      It's part of fasting my friend..

    • @glennzagelasius643
      @glennzagelasius643 5 місяців тому +1

      Yesss

    • @bigniftydude
      @bigniftydude 4 місяці тому

      The thirst traps

    • @GarrettGlauser
      @GarrettGlauser 2 місяці тому +4

      Seriously, instagram is basically soft porn now

    • @bigniftydude
      @bigniftydude 2 місяці тому

      @@GarrettGlauser everything's a thirst trap now

  • @finalbossoftheinternet6002
    @finalbossoftheinternet6002 8 місяців тому +312

    I’m not Orthodox I’m Roman Catholic but he’s speaking real facts, God bless

    • @christianfilsouf3345
      @christianfilsouf3345 8 місяців тому +11

      Same, someone recommended this video in a comment on Pints with Aquinas and that’s how I found it. Powerful truth indeed. God bless

    • @aesopivan
      @aesopivan 8 місяців тому +5

      Same here, God bless brother

    • @thegamedudeguy
      @thegamedudeguy 8 місяців тому +21

      there is no Orthodox nor Catholic, all are One in Christ

    • @WiggleJimmy
      @WiggleJimmy 7 місяців тому +7

      Didn't Paul say that we are supposed to ignore superficial differences like denominations and the like?

    • @veniaminchira7740
      @veniaminchira7740 7 місяців тому +5

      ​@@WiggleJimmy
      No, he didn't.

  • @seeker2219
    @seeker2219 8 місяців тому +466

    I quit that cold turkey instantly.
    I was kneedeep in that addiction but Jesus helped me leave that behind.
    The fear of god will force you out of that swamp SO fast...
    And to all thous stuck, i testify to the benifits of quitting fully.
    You will be envigirated, stronger and more drivven then before. It is all positivs when leaving sin.

    • @seeker2219
      @seeker2219 8 місяців тому +1

      @@Soyebakhtar0105 nope.
      Mohammed is a false prophet i do not recognize.
      And looking at his fruits, it is all bloodshed and death from his time until now.
      More likely it was Baal who sent mohammed.

    • @DannyDL1ght
      @DannyDL1ght 8 місяців тому +1

      Your quran is a lie, it was invented 5-6 centuries after Christ, Muhammad is teaching how to wage wars, collect taxes and have multiple women, the bible is written by the word of God through his disciples that lived and walked with Jesus, God in the flesh.

    • @Victo-3r
      @Victo-3r 8 місяців тому +4

      That’s just not true for everyone

    • @marleybanda7859
      @marleybanda7859 8 місяців тому +14

      ​@@Soyebakhtar0105u use a bible verse to prove your point. but u then ignore what the bible says about Jesus being God. baffling

    • @laurencescrenci1460
      @laurencescrenci1460 8 місяців тому +1

      May God bless you abundantly :)))

  • @mube8885
    @mube8885 8 місяців тому +229

    I am struggling
    But I am trying
    Lord Jesus, have mercy on me .🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😢😢😢

    • @BojanDjurdjic
      @BojanDjurdjic 8 місяців тому +9

      This how I did it, I repented from all my sins and exepted Lord Jesus as my Lord and savier and Believed in my heart God raised Him from the dead 3 days later, and read the New Testament daily every morning and every night 40 minutes each daily, if you get atleast 15 minutes a day that should be OK, if you can read longer that's good too

    • @ASMRyouVEGANyet
      @ASMRyouVEGANyet 7 місяців тому

      There are many channels aimed at helping men overcome this. Search for them

  • @alyo882
    @alyo882 8 місяців тому +316

    Jesus saved from me from that. Everytime the temptation comes, I pray "I say yes to *you* Jesus, come and dwell in my heart". He wins the fight for me, he healed me

    • @SVN62534
      @SVN62534 8 місяців тому +15

      Me too. I say the Jesus Prayer over and over again and it all goes way.

    • @smokingcrab2290
      @smokingcrab2290 8 місяців тому +8

      "he wins the fight for me"
      Indeed

    • @Nenad-ICXC-Shuput-GFAMMA
      @Nenad-ICXC-Shuput-GFAMMA 5 місяців тому

      Good for you. Probably have low testosterone

  • @vicdamone3313
    @vicdamone3313 8 місяців тому +85

    Been battling it for 4 years. I became conscious of the sin at 16. Going on to 21 in May! There’s been ups and downs! Pray for me brothers my names Victor Maldonado.

  • @randallsunderland4331
    @randallsunderland4331 10 днів тому +2

    I had about a two week streak of not falling but I fell today. Pray for me brothers!

  • @matthewnovak7351
    @matthewnovak7351 8 місяців тому +298

    I struggled with pornography for so long. It started when I was 8 and only a couple months ago my addiction stopped at the age of 25. It brings nothing but empty gratification. It was nothing that I did for myself that caused this change in me, but God alone. I still struggle with the passion of lust in my mind, but I thank God that he helped me see the destruction of the soul that porn brings. What has helped me a lot is to spend time in prayer contemplating how my passions affect my sisters in Christ and all women who are made in the image of God. Prayer and meditation on the Word awakens true love in the heart.

    • @alvareo92
      @alvareo92 8 місяців тому

      How exactly do you contemplate the destruction that your passion inflicts on your sisters? I could leave p**n behind without that much of a struggle, yet lust and fantasy whenever I see attractive women can still get overbearing

    • @Randyg4636
      @Randyg4636 8 місяців тому +25

      Same here man. When I was 8-9 years old, I used to watch porn on scrambled TV channels after my family went to sleep, in the hope that I would catch a glimpse of something amidst the scrambled reception. I’m now almost 36 (in three days), and even though the temptation has gotten better and better (with prayer, penance, and fortitude), the last time I looked at it was last Fall. It is such a difficult thing to give up without God’s help. The other thing that helps me when I get the urge is to think of the number of porn actors who have committed suicide or died of drug overdoses, as well as the number of those who are being trafficked. It is an insane number. The chances that you’re watching or have watched people who have killed themselves is actually decently high (I don’t want to look up the actual percentage). Anyway, God bless you brother. I pray for people like us every day. We can win this with God’s help!

    • @matthewnovak7351
      @matthewnovak7351 8 місяців тому +3

      @@Randyg4636 thank you for your encouragement!

    • @ASMRyouVEGANyet
      @ASMRyouVEGANyet 7 місяців тому +7

      Wow. I sometimes watch channels aimed at helping men overcome porn and NONE of these men quit because they think of the victims. They always quit due to porn induced erectile dysfunction. It’s comforting to know there are some men who actually care about someone other than themselves

    • @kayyvegass
      @kayyvegass 7 місяців тому +1

      same when I was 9 I’m 18 now

  • @saint5203
    @saint5203 8 місяців тому +129

    The struggle is your salvation. That is possibly the most profound thing I’ve ever heard. It is so true. It’s what you’re going to look back on when God saves you and pulled you out of this pit and you’re going to remember what it was like in the struggle and you’re never gonna look back and you’re going to praise God and thank God for the rest of your life.

    • @MattisWell.20
      @MattisWell.20 8 місяців тому +5

      Struggling with sin is your salvation? It’s not that deep, beloved. In fact, it’s just a contradiction. It’s Christ who is your salvation, and He came to liberate the captives, not permit them to remain in their bondage, struggling to get free, as a way of “humbling” them. Struggle in general can be a very humbling thing, but if you’re struggling with a particular sin, there’s nothing humble about that. That clearly means you’re in bondage to something, which directly undermines your ability to live a life of authentic humility.

    • @SVN62534
      @SVN62534 8 місяців тому +1

      @@MattisWell.20 Thank you.

    • @realdealholyfield3699
      @realdealholyfield3699 8 місяців тому +5

      @@MattisWell.20 brother, the struggle is meant to build endurance which builds character. It is a necessary thing to allow you to continue seeking towards Jesus. It is not for you to worship the struggle but appreciate all the good it can result in

    • @realdealholyfield3699
      @realdealholyfield3699 8 місяців тому +3

      @@MattisWell.20listen to what he says after he says the struggle is the salvation. It teaches you how to grow closer to Jesus who through His strength and prayer, will win the battle for you.

    • @MattisWell.20
      @MattisWell.20 8 місяців тому

      @@realdealholyfield3699 it would seem you did not read my comment thoroughly enough. Use sense as much as heart, please🙏

  • @mrjeffjob
    @mrjeffjob 8 місяців тому +83

    The way out of lustful thought is replacing it with reading and thinking about righteous thoughts. You’re can’t remove darkness you have to light a candle.

  • @madmax3093
    @madmax3093 8 місяців тому +330

    I relapsed after 1 month of no pornography. Please pray for me 🙏

    • @abhisheksaroha7873
      @abhisheksaroha7873 7 місяців тому +22

      I am praying for you brother. As in King James Version, when Jesus came to John for Baptism. John said, I need to be baptised by you and you come to me. Jesus replied “Suffer it to be so now so we can fulfil all the righteous require”
      May the Lord gives you strength to overcome the thoughts and stay patience while your thoughts bother you.

    • @LivingForChrist_17
      @LivingForChrist_17 6 місяців тому +12

      The journey continues and so does your Faith in your Savior Jesus Christ. One day at a time, Some verses that help me are
      1 Corinthians 6:18
      2 Timothy 2:22
      2 Corinthians 12:9
      Blessings, peace and give yourself Grace, keep fighting 🙏✝️❤

    • @charlesthomasalonso2263
      @charlesthomasalonso2263 6 місяців тому +14

      Brother I need you to pray
      Hate sin
      Hate watching porn or naked women, men or videos online
      You'll be better
      I love you

    • @drazenstefanovic6122
      @drazenstefanovic6122 6 місяців тому

      I did 6months bro and I started again even I am38 and it’s really wrong to masturbate and follow that demonic thing and those six months was best of my life

    • @honeypot71
      @honeypot71 6 місяців тому +7

      I recently made the mistake of this
      and pray that I don’t get tempted any longer 🙏

  • @tangchieh
    @tangchieh 8 місяців тому +90

    As a lost broken soul once tricked into the demonic industry ,I have to thank you with all my heart, father, for this timely message.
    And just like what you implied in the video,I MUST testify with my own experience Christ is the only really effective way out of all kinds of addiction for me.
    Thanks to the prayers of brothers and sisters in Christ and insightful content online like yours,I am recovering ,each day gets better,
    finally found my way out of the deceitful delusions surrounding this demonic industry of pxxn , and gradually free from shame ,guilt and nightmares.
    Personally ,I found out for a Christian there's nothing more fruitful than occupy your time with spiritual reading,Jesus prayer and regular church attendance.
    To anyone struggle with and suffer from pornographic addiction (in a sense every each one of us),you are not alone, so never lose hope.
    Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on me.
    Most Holy Theotokos save us.

    • @bolshoefeodor6536
      @bolshoefeodor6536 8 місяців тому

      ​@@Soyebakhtar0105No. He didn't. Because Mohammed was a mere man, possessed by demons. He did not prophesy anyrhing. Mohammed is the same kind of character as Joseph Smith: just another cult leader. Dude, leave the cult of Islam: it makes you weak, feeble and desparate.

  • @Zeep_goblin
    @Zeep_goblin 8 місяців тому +33

    I've got 12 days under my belt so far. I'm striving for 4 years

    • @grilla4464
      @grilla4464 8 місяців тому +7

      It's been over a month for me. God bless you in your journey!

    • @JuanVasquez-qp6mv
      @JuanVasquez-qp6mv 6 місяців тому +1

      Keep it up. It’s worth it in the end

    • @aterry3863
      @aterry3863 2 місяці тому +3

      Please don’t set a goal. Please.

    • @t0pclips811
      @t0pclips811 2 місяці тому +1

      One day at a time brother, one day.

    • @MrMann-gt1eh
      @MrMann-gt1eh 2 місяці тому +1

      Don’t count, lose count, let it stay behind you. Why 4 years? You get an enlistment bonus for that? 😂

  • @virginlamo8202
    @virginlamo8202 8 місяців тому +227

    Here’s what I did:
    - Reminded myself the blessed God, Virgin Mary and the Saints in Heaven could see me
    - Recognized the ugliness of it
    - Woke up, worked out and Prayed at the same time every day, consistently.
    The key is discipline and consistency
    But everyone watches porn for different reasons, and identifying your reason for it can help developing your way to overcome it

    • @bolshoefeodor6536
      @bolshoefeodor6536 8 місяців тому

      ​@@Soyebakhtar0105 Sure. OK. Whatever.

    • @Jerrymc1975
      @Jerrymc1975 8 місяців тому +9

      You left Christ out, but acknowledged Mary? Seriously?

    • @john-doe842
      @john-doe842 8 місяців тому

      @@Jerrymc1975Yeah..

    • @utherlightbringer3868
      @utherlightbringer3868 8 місяців тому

      @@Soyebakhtar0105 allah has title deciever so he is satan, True God doesn't need to deceive anyone cause He is Truth

    • @chico9805
      @chico9805 8 місяців тому +18

      ​@@Jerrymc1975 "Blessed God", Jesus is God.

  • @VassTheKeeper
    @VassTheKeeper 8 місяців тому +61

    Christianity needs more preachers like him, so articulate!

  • @venomousnemesis7027
    @venomousnemesis7027 8 місяців тому +56

    I began truly trying to break my addiction last year at the Divine Mercy. I was exposed at a very young age as well as abused. For 23 years I’ve been addicted. I have made huge strides during this year through Christ’s Mercy and Love. No longer falling multiple times daily, but still not to the point of making it past a month. Through these battles it has completely reignited my faith through daily scripture, deeper prayer, and daily devotion. Though I am greatly ashamed and saddened when I do fall, I no longer despair. I am reaching out because I happened to see this video, and it really helped me after the terrible night I had last night. Yesterday for Good Friday my family and I took a mini pilgrimage to our Cathedral for Mass. Our Cathedral is newer and we haven’t always had one here, and it’s something I’ve always wanted to do. I was excited to finally be going, but when the time came things didn’t go as planned. My 8 month old daughter cried almost the entire 1.5 hour drive. Then, in Mass she was loud and my 3 year old started having a hard time. I kept my cool, and just trusted in the Words of Jesus about bringing the children to Him. On the way back home both began to cry. I couldn’t contain it anymore so, I finally made a terrible comment. When we got home, we went straight to bed and my 8 month old wouldn’t sleep. When she finally fell asleep, I was on UA-cam and realized that a lot of my suggested videos where normal, but many I’ve never seen and where videos that were basically porn(nudity included). It was constant. I turned my phone off and tried to go to sleep, but then it hit me. I prayed so hard, but found myself getting out of bed to go and sin. Before sitting down I stood frozen and trembling. I ran back to bed and tried going to sleep again and praying. I laid there cold and shaking uncontrollably. Eventually, I got up and fell to lust. How dare I do this on the very day He was crucified. I immediately prostrated myself face to the floor and asked for forgiveness(though I wanted to fall to despair). This morning I got up and prayed and I really need help and prayers from others. I want to defeat this and be victorious. I will continue to fight and trust in Jesus Our Lord and Savior. I definitely can’t do this alone.

    • @AmalVarkey-i9c
      @AmalVarkey-i9c 8 місяців тому +6

      Praying for you.Jesus will deliver you from this addiction.Never be afraid or ashamed to go to him.This is the path of sanctification.

    • @venomousnemesis7027
      @venomousnemesis7027 8 місяців тому

      @@AmalVarkey-i9c Thank you from the bottom of my heart. just got home from Easter Vigil and it was amazing.

    • @tombreza1173
      @tombreza1173 8 місяців тому +5

      Do NOT give up. God will see you thru. Your story is mine. I Bible study everyday and it is transforming me. Started Jan 1st and getting stronger. No desire to seek out porn anymore ... amazing! Practice semen retention. Look it up. It's real. I've received all of the benefits and you DO become closer to God. Good luck my brother and praying for you 🙏

    • @kurbiskuchenliebhaber
      @kurbiskuchenliebhaber 8 місяців тому +1

      You are an inspiration

    • @llokebeat
      @llokebeat 8 місяців тому +1

      Amen ❤️

  • @A3GSPD
    @A3GSPD 8 місяців тому +71

    Christ is risen☦️

  • @ColeB777
    @ColeB777 8 місяців тому +36

    Been over a week since I broke my addiction, thank you for this video ✝️

    • @tommymack3210
      @tommymack3210 8 місяців тому

      Amazing

    • @alisterrebelo9013
      @alisterrebelo9013 8 місяців тому +5

      You will be tempted in your dreams, in your waking moments
      In those dreams, call on Jesus. In your waking moments avert your gaze and start praying mentally and imagining the face of Jesus.
      Tips from a recovered soul. God bless you.

  • @Joybearer
    @Joybearer 8 місяців тому +18

    Thank you father, I’m a Catholic and I appreciate your straightforward sharing. Very succinct and timely for myself and tons of other men, especially in this Holy Week when the devil is more active than usual creating a lot of despair when we can’t fast or be as holy as we want to be.

  • @ΘανάσηςΚιουμουρτζής
    @ΘανάσηςΚιουμουρτζής 8 місяців тому +35

    Ευλογείτε πάτερ!

  • @AgentThursday
    @AgentThursday 8 місяців тому +21

    Despair is the worst device in this matter.

  • @merecatholicity
    @merecatholicity 8 місяців тому +54

    In my own struggle with this heinous sin was the recognition that sloth and gluttony are almost *always* a contributing factor. If you don't know how to fast and how to lead a disciplined life in other areas, the battle with lust is going to be incredibly difficult to overcome.
    Once men begin to fast regularly and learn how to lead a life of discipline with prayer, work, family, etc, they will see victory in their battle against this sin.
    Kyrie eleison!

    • @kolaade1275
      @kolaade1275 8 місяців тому +1

      Fasting is not à permanent solution. Fasting can give you a glimpse of the state of liberation from the material form.
      But Once you give it up you are likely to return back to the body where the essential work of transformation takes place. Transformation is through the body not away from it

    • @bigol9223
      @bigol9223 2 місяці тому

      ​@@kolaade1275 the orthodox church has one fast or another constantly all through the year, it becomes a new norm of discipline

  • @SMM_NAA
    @SMM_NAA 8 місяців тому +1

    That's a great point about it not being a victimless crime. I've never thought about it that way before.

  • @anb925
    @anb925 7 місяців тому +13

    Thank you for saying this. I know so many men who say “it’s just natural” but as a woman, it has made me feel heartbroken and unworthy that my ex (who is a Christian man) had what felt like a secret life and that he would rather have the women he watched than me.
    It gives me hope that I will one day find a man who is devoted to Christ and his wife.

    • @xsamitt
      @xsamitt 7 місяців тому +3

      And as a Christian man I hope one day I find a woman who thinks as you do!

  • @soundcheck2k7
    @soundcheck2k7 8 місяців тому +13

    90 days is the recovery time it takes to break an addiction.
    Renew your hearts and minds

  • @michaelmontgomery2467
    @michaelmontgomery2467 8 місяців тому +19

    40 plus years of struggling with this. I hate it. When I get depressed (often) the fight is on. Some times I ask God to take me home because of it. The dread I feel over life’s hurts and disappointments drive a desire to feel better. I have gone as long as 6 weeks by praying and reading my Bible. Being accountable to a friend. I’m still in bondage. I have confessed to God, begged, pleaded and cried out over a thousand times for God to help me. I’m still in bondage.

    • @eh3345
      @eh3345 8 місяців тому +8

      “The righteous man falls seven times, but GETS UP AGAIN.” Proverbs

    • @eh3345
      @eh3345 8 місяців тому +4

      They say the man who struggles in a bitter battle wins a greater crown than the man who has an easy battle.

    • @david9243
      @david9243 5 місяців тому +1

      You heard what he said in the clip. The Lord could take it away but he doesnt as He has intended for you to have this fight. The greater the struggle, the more glorious salvation.

    • @oliverkent8429
      @oliverkent8429 3 місяці тому +1

      Yes I think depression loneliness rejection etc lead to people falling into sin. In my case many years alone after divorce. Evenings are worst when you are all alone.

  • @tomatofractal
    @tomatofractal 19 днів тому +1

    I pray for to become a man deserving of a family! It is what fuels my fight against lust.
    Glory to God!

  • @elderjonathanwhite9701
    @elderjonathanwhite9701 6 місяців тому +7

    Praying for everybody who is struggling with this, you can overcome it 🙏🙏🙏

  • @voicesofdust4749
    @voicesofdust4749 19 днів тому +1

    Στην αγαπημένη μας Θεά Αφροδίτη Πάνδημο. Εύχομαι να χαρίσω τις προσφορές με λουλούδια, θυμίαμα, φωτιά και ζωντανά αρσενικά κατσίκια στην όμορφη Αφροδίτη Πάνδημο μας. Είθε η αιώνια ομορφιά, το πάθος και η σοφία της να γεμίσουν το μυαλό, το σώμα και το πνεύμα μας με την πανίσχυρη αισθησιακή και σεξουαλική της δύναμη ως μια αιώνια φλόγα που κατοικεί και όμορφα καίει μέσα μας.
    - Μια προσευχή στη θεά Αφροδίτη

  • @sologeremew646
    @sologeremew646 8 місяців тому +22

    Order, God first soul next and last body!! Thank You !!! From Ethiopia 🇪🇹

  • @derekgeorgeandrews
    @derekgeorgeandrews 8 місяців тому +42

    It's good to know it is wrong but it's also good to be gentle and patient with oneself with this struggle. In the past I would beat myself up for my stumbling with self hatred, but this makes the temptation worse. I guess that's the despair alluded to in the video. Since joining the church I begged God to take this sin away from me, and fast forward to now I've been away from it for years and I'm married.

    • @miguelmarrero3383
      @miguelmarrero3383 8 місяців тому +2

      Pray for me

    • @jamesbaka1206
      @jamesbaka1206 2 місяці тому

      What would you say were the key things that helped you abstain from it?

  • @mythmakroxymore1670
    @mythmakroxymore1670 8 місяців тому +14

    This would have saved my college career. I used to PHYSICALLY hurt myself over this crap.
    I just hope it reaches others and saves them. God bless, y’all, stay safe.

    • @Jay-nq9us
      @Jay-nq9us 8 місяців тому

      Thank you man,I haven't entered my college life still 21 but your words motivated me

  • @victormargulius632
    @victormargulius632 8 місяців тому +77

    Dude your videos always come on time and always the very specific thing I’m wondering about 😭

    • @arnoldvezbon6131
      @arnoldvezbon6131 8 місяців тому +3

      Glory to God!

    • @Everyday7x77
      @Everyday7x77 8 місяців тому +3

      Definitely feeling like God I’m getting a sit down moment

    • @thebuildingground380
      @thebuildingground380 8 місяців тому +2

      Not to sound disrespectful to you and I know it wasnt your intention to be disrespectful, but this is a priest, so we do not call priests "dude".

    • @thekatarnalchemist
      @thekatarnalchemist 8 місяців тому +1

      He's talking to the guy who runs the Roots of Orthodoxy channel, not the priest in the video. The channel runner is not a priest.

    • @thebuildingground380
      @thebuildingground380 8 місяців тому +1

      @@thekatarnalchemist That is a fair point, have not seen him so fair enough

  • @thecatgod2867
    @thecatgod2867 8 місяців тому +6

    It took me a long time to understand that „the struggle is the salvation.“ And here you are just speaking it out… great video never thought that I find so much reason in a religious person, I have different experiences with the church but I’m glad to be proven wrong.

  • @rraymondoliver
    @rraymondoliver 8 місяців тому +8

    I needed to hear this so bad, this came just in the right time(as a catholic) Praise Christ ✝

  • @kyanburke1770
    @kyanburke1770 8 місяців тому +8

    I can’t stop, pray for me please.

    • @I_am_Raziel
      @I_am_Raziel 8 місяців тому +3

      You can

    • @Μαρία-ε5ξ5η
      @Μαρία-ε5ξ5η 7 місяців тому +2

      we can't do much but Christ can do anything, pray to him at least once day, fast as well, confess your sins to your spiritual father and take communion, don't miss church on Sundays, do all this, if you cannot do them immediatelly start
      slowy to get used to it

    • @kyanburke1770
      @kyanburke1770 7 місяців тому

      @@Μαρία-ε5ξ5ηI’ve talked to Him every night before I sleep for almost a year when I refound my faith and I cannot remember a time I’ve fallen after talking to Him. The problem is that it happens before my nightly pray and I think that in my heart I don’t want to stop. With that being said( and I’ve still fallen) the prays from everyone are truly helping and I am doing better. I will not forget Proverbs 24:16

    • @discipleslim9506
      @discipleslim9506 6 місяців тому

      I will pray for you right now. I am finally starting to see daylight from this dark addiction. You have to find a scripture to repeat to yourself when temptation comes. You have to fast and pray. Lastly, avoid triggers like Instagram and Tiktok. I cannot get on Instagram without falling into temptation. You will be so happy and feel so good about yourself that people will look at you in a new way. Your light will be strong friend!

    • @natepilate1277
      @natepilate1277 6 місяців тому +2

      You’re right. YOU can’t. I can’t. We don’t do the “stopping,” we do the hitting our knees, lamenting and surrendering. Be still, brother - Our Father sees your shudder and hears your call. Persist in your crying out to Him - this is Faith that He can heal you. Have you not realized that your desire to stop is a desire born from your repentance (changed mind)? Have you forgotten that He “knows His sheep by name?” Joy is coming swiftly, my dear friend, at Godspeed. May the Peace of Our King envelop you tonight my brother. We love you.

  • @andresgalindo7682
    @andresgalindo7682 8 місяців тому +16

    Thanks you father, lust is sin the demons use the most nowdays to atack us as Christians

  • @barbarian_bunny
    @barbarian_bunny 8 місяців тому +28

    Conquering lust is both difficult and easy. Difficult because we must submit to God and easy because he is merciful and gives us strength!
    Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me a sinner!

  • @goblinondrums
    @goblinondrums 8 місяців тому +16

    This guy is a man of God

  • @Z3AL316
    @Z3AL316 8 місяців тому +6

    Thank you my Lord Jesus Christ for leading me to this beautiful video

  • @francisjuracka
    @francisjuracka 8 місяців тому +5

    I am a catholic, and I need to say that this is helping me a lot. Please continue with this content. God bless!

  • @ugomariapablo
    @ugomariapablo 8 місяців тому +20

    I sold my phone and it stopped quickly. So yes, access to the porn is a HUGE problem. Limit your access. I still fall to it when I am alone with the internet but when I am not alone with the internet, I am calm. I have just limited my access to it, that has helped me A LOT!

    • @douglasrho5619
      @douglasrho5619 5 місяців тому +2

      Dude i threw away my phone because this is 100% gateway to it and my mom keeps buying me phones FUCK

  • @mijonate6484
    @mijonate6484 8 місяців тому +24

    Lust is the hardest battle I’ve ever fought. That’s why when I get received into the church I’m gonna make St John the Longsuffering my patron saint

    • @BojanDjurdjic
      @BojanDjurdjic 8 місяців тому +1

      This how I did it, I repented from all my sins and exepted Lord Jesus as my Lord and savier and Believed in my heart God raised Him from the dead 3 days later, and read the New Testament daily every morning and every night 40 minutes each daily, if you get atleast 15 minutes a day that should be OK, if you can read longer that's good too

    • @mijonate6484
      @mijonate6484 8 місяців тому +1

      @@BojanDjurdjic good for you man! Yeah same for me. I’ve been making prayer, Bible, church top priority in my life

    • @BojanDjurdjic
      @BojanDjurdjic 8 місяців тому

      @mijonate6484 that's good, it was the hardest struggle when i just started on my own, didn't read at that time but wanted to quit lust, i failed badly, but when I repented and put my Faith in Lord God Jesus, it became easy, recieved the Holy Spirit read the word and prayed. Lust tried to get me in my dreams for 2 days when i repented, it was demonic, but it didn't get me, on the 3rd day didn't have any more of these dreams It got so easy that I didn't even think about it, not because I was strong but the Holy Spirit in me, this was back in 2020 when I repented and still works, still read my bible daily, I try to get atleast 15 minutes daily bible reading and prayer now, gota feed my spirit with God's word, it's easier with the Holy Spirit and following Jesus teachings true he's prophets, Mathew 16:24 Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.

  • @firmbiz000
    @firmbiz000 8 місяців тому +27

    Incredible insight and wisdom. Thank you Father and thank you Roots of Orthodoxy for bringing us this content.

  • @ashager
    @ashager 8 місяців тому +5

    Beautiful message. I am a staunch Orthodox Presbyterian, but am so grateful for the wisdom from my brothers in the Eastern/Greek Orthodox, especially as it relates to lust.

  • @pelopidassumfora6993
    @pelopidassumfora6993 8 місяців тому +11

    This a very important topic and a major societal issue. What is it to be man is something that you can only be taught by the church and by god fearing men. The enemy has removed the father out of society. The enemy wants to isolate and make us despair. Thank you father for this message. Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on us sinners ☦️

  • @FREEMAN....
    @FREEMAN.... 8 місяців тому +140

    As a Catholic, I find in this Orthodox wisdom the same inspired teaching than in the Catholic Church.
    May God our Lord reunite us.
    May He have mercy on us sinners.
    May he bless you all.
    ✝️🙏☦️

    • @st.agnes-agnusdei707
      @st.agnes-agnusdei707 8 місяців тому +20

      I'm Catholic too, and I agree with you. I love watching Orthodox videos as much as I enjoy watching true Catholic material. I'm well aware of the few theological differences but 99% of the time is as if a good Catholic priest was speaking based on true Catholic theology alone (I'm aware the Catholic Church is ongoing a tribulation, there is much confusion, but at the heart of it the true Catholic faith and our dogmas remain unchanged).
      I hope one day the two churches are reunited and that the Truth is revealed to both sides so that the few theological differences can be resolved. I also recommend learning about the Eastern Catholic churches, which like Orthodox churches are influenced by the Eastern societies and cultures. I personally owe my conversion to St. Charbel (Maronite Catholic) and the Blessed Virgin Mary, so I recommend learning about St. Charbel and similar Eastern Catholic saints. And on the Orthodox side I love St. Gabriel of Georgia.
      God bless our Catholic and Orthodox brothers and sisters.

    • @eggsbacon1538
      @eggsbacon1538 8 місяців тому +14

      Catholic same here👍🏼

    • @FREEMAN....
      @FREEMAN.... 8 місяців тому +11

      @@st.agnes-agnusdei707 Amen. Nothing is impossible for God.

    • @jirislavicek9954
      @jirislavicek9954 8 місяців тому +3

      Catholic and Orthodox church teaches essentially the same wisdom. I think nowadays the Orthodox church represents the purest form of Christianity and is the least contaminated with secular / modernist / neo-liberal / neo-marxist agenda.

    • @FREEMAN....
      @FREEMAN.... 8 місяців тому

      @@jirislavicek9954 I partially agree with you.

  • @kawanemotlop9506
    @kawanemotlop9506 8 місяців тому +12

    You can do it, never give up! When you fall down get back up again and keep trying and don't fight the battle on your own keep knocking at the door and God will answer your prayers, remember that his faithful love endures FOREVER! don't turn your backs on God because that's exactly the aim of the evil one. Always lean on God for wisdom and understanding, only he can set us free.

  • @marcmueller7347
    @marcmueller7347 8 місяців тому +7

    Wow this video was EXACTLY what I needed, the Lord sent it to me, bevause he has heard my prayers!!! Hallelujah, thank you father

  • @jarvisbinks7576
    @jarvisbinks7576 8 місяців тому +6

    Grace and perseverance, brothers. It is possible. He is alive, well, and with us.

  • @RossHamilton-wb9cb
    @RossHamilton-wb9cb 8 місяців тому +5

    I don’t think I was addicted but I used to tell myself am only watching it once or twice a week am fine, I can stop whenever I want. Now that I know more about the industry like who produces it and where it comes from an realise how damaging it is, I have completely stopped, not watched anything in two months and don’t crave it either. I also started reading the Bible an feel this has helped me immensely.

    • @SirGreenVine
      @SirGreenVine 8 місяців тому

      Awesome
      God bless you ❤

  • @milochilds182
    @milochilds182 8 місяців тому +3

    looking foward to the book man! As an 18 year old I struggle and fall into despair often , but always through repentance am I reminded of gods love, let us pray for one another that we may prevale past our lustfulness.

  • @jakejeff4145
    @jakejeff4145 8 місяців тому +15

    The Lord freed me from this and I’m a teen. One of best strategies to stop is to think about what will happen after you do it and how you will feel and being away from God. Also people might see you doing it and failing and using that as an excuse for them to do it.

  • @Orthodoxy33-wo7rt
    @Orthodoxy33-wo7rt 8 місяців тому +12

    Sounds like such an awesome book! Thank you for sharing those three very helpful and insightful points. I struggled for 18 years and learned many of these lessons the hard way, including a level of despair that led me not only away from my church at the time, but almost to suicide. However, not only did God intervene in His infinite mercy, but I was blessed to have eventually discovered Holy Orthodoxy.
    I have many reasons for converting to Orthodoxy, but one of the main ones is because the prayers/liturgy/mysteries (including the Intercession of the Saints; they are the ones fighting the demons), were what finally gave me the lasting Romans 12 transformation that I have always longed for. That is, understanding the underlying theology and entering into the experience of the Church, I received exactly what Christ promised. Go figure! Despite my best efforts, being sober for longer than a month only happened a handful of times in 18 long years, even with all the tips and tricks both the world and Western Christian prayers and theology had to offer. But, as soon as I started attending an Orthodox Church, I have had lasting sobriety ever since (and for everyone out there, yes, there is a very significant difference after 90 days).
    This is absolutely no coincidence. And though, as Fr. Paul says in point number 2, lust isn't removed and therefore the struggle doesn't cease to exist (even when you're sober for a long time), the prayers, fellowship, and mysteries of the church that we learn to run to and rely on in the struggle, sustain us in such a way that not only is it possible to remain walking in victory/sobriety, but to answer point number 1, it destroys the despair. And this is possible because, with point number 3, we "keep our eyes fixed on Jesus, the founder and perfector of our faith", and it is the great cloud of witnesses surrounding us that do the spiritual battle directly against the demons. This has been my experience, and I am eternally grateful for the Holy Orthodox Church and the fullness of the faith contained within her.

  • @AresMares_Maria
    @AresMares_Maria 8 місяців тому +24

    Carnal passions have their basis in the imagination, say the Saints.Anything before we do it first goes through the imagination. So the imagination (this awful passion) we should work in a way that can never hurt our soul.
    And I soo agree with the father! Devil is always get us on traps.... God gave us the shame to be feeling like when we sin. So devil is taking of the shame when we are making a sin and he is giving it back to us when we go to our spiritual father to confess it.... Σας ευχαριστούμε πολύ για τα όμορφα βιντεάκια και τα λόγια των πατέρων! Κύριε φώτισον το σκώτος ημών!

  • @Catholicdownunder127
    @Catholicdownunder127 8 місяців тому +81

    I want Christ, I want my relationship more than I want lust.

  • @AlexCat_Videos
    @AlexCat_Videos 8 місяців тому +2

    Very true message, and quite moderate perspective, which is quite refreshing

  • @jay_william17
    @jay_william17 8 місяців тому +13

    Lord Jesus Christ, please have mercy upon me.

  • @alegend33
    @alegend33 7 місяців тому +11

    Rather than fighting against the demon of lust...fight for Jesus. That's good... and very true. A Soldier fights harder when he/she is fighting for who he loves rather than what/who he hates.

  • @TheDavidcora
    @TheDavidcora 3 місяці тому +4

    This destroyed my marriage of 23 years. My husband succombed. I pray that he will walk with the Lord again.

  • @Jesuslovesyou22783
    @Jesuslovesyou22783 8 місяців тому +4

    Thank you
    Jesus Christ loves you all

  • @bobcobb158
    @bobcobb158 8 місяців тому +5

    Thank you for taking this seriously and addressing how much of a problem this is. God bless.

  • @mmmvtec90
    @mmmvtec90 8 місяців тому +11

    The struggle is our salvation.

  • @architech007
    @architech007 8 місяців тому +3

    God bless you people ! Jesus loves you all ! 🙏
    Amen ❤

  • @BenWeeks-ca
    @BenWeeks-ca 7 місяців тому +2

    The importance of seeing despair as the underlying enemy attack rather than lust itself is helpful.
    Part of what makes temptation appealing is when we try to pursue what is good and are blocked.

  • @kodifarlii1351
    @kodifarlii1351 6 місяців тому +3

    Took 10 years of shame, crying and tons of prayer but Christ won the battle for me

  • @randallgoulet1550
    @randallgoulet1550 8 місяців тому +17

    This is so valuable

  • @Vango07
    @Vango07 8 місяців тому +5

    May the Lord strengthen and bless us through this struggle.

  • @JustinRM20
    @JustinRM20 2 місяці тому

    What an incredibly articulate pastor. Excellent advice. Remember that we are not lost forever, men. God bless you father.

  • @eggsbacon1538
    @eggsbacon1538 8 місяців тому +3

    He hit the nail on the head

  • @shuzuma299
    @shuzuma299 8 місяців тому +1

    I am proud to say i am 2 weeks sober and 2 weeks stronger and all glory and honor goes to the lord! YOU CAN DO IT!

  • @Faithful_Solaire
    @Faithful_Solaire 8 місяців тому +4

    I can’t tell you how amazing this channel is. Thank you so much.

  • @chrissmthn
    @chrissmthn 7 місяців тому +1

    I noticed once I truly confessed my hatred for my addiction and admitted that I’m wrong and living in denial, that my temptations came back even stronger and the inner arguments in my head grew louder and became harder to succumb. It constantly interferes with my prayer and thoughts but I know I have to remain strong and cast out these demons with the power of God through prayer. It’s a very long road ahead of us and a narrow one. We must overcome this with God’s wisdom and love and see through the face of what this evil industry is really doing to our spirit and salvation. Stay strong in prayer God bless you all! 🙏

  • @MaximusAugustusOrthodox
    @MaximusAugustusOrthodox 8 місяців тому +4

    Thank you father for addressing this important topic 🙏 Great video and God bless ❤️

  • @PUBLIUS.INVICTUS
    @PUBLIUS.INVICTUS 8 місяців тому +1

    The fighting for something is a great point.

  • @saint5203
    @saint5203 8 місяців тому +5

    Father, this is profound. Thank you!

  • @ServantofChrist1998
    @ServantofChrist1998 6 місяців тому +1

    Lord have mercy on me a sinner, Iv fallen so far back into this problem. May the prayers of the Orthodox Church and all the saints and the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be upon me

  • @stephengolay1273
    @stephengolay1273 3 місяці тому +3

    "The struggle is our salvation." The struggling for something other and greater than lust - Christ, himself.

  • @procerusgigas
    @procerusgigas 7 місяців тому +2

    I am just starting my journy with Christ and I find these advice invaluble.

  • @smokingcrab2290
    @smokingcrab2290 8 місяців тому +3

    Brothers, remember this.. If you have fellen to temptation, yes there is consequences, but also remember more importantly.. There is LOVE AND FORGIVENESS because GOD LOVES YOU.
    Don't fall into the pit of despair and ask God to get you out, to change you, and live the life that Jesus paid for.

  • @hurlburtfamcamp6476
    @hurlburtfamcamp6476 8 місяців тому +3

    Thank you Father Paul, your wisdom and confidence is inspiring. I am eager to read your book.

  • @alikipapamichael7138
    @alikipapamichael7138 6 місяців тому +1

    Xristos Anesth pater mas.
    Excellent ad ice & beautifully put the message across..
    Don't speak or fight the devil is definately smart.
    We must all by pass him at all times Amen..
    Me first for everything in this temporary life.
    Me thn euxh sas pater mou.🙏🏼 Imarton Despota😭🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Apodimo skoulikh🐛
    South Africa.🌿

  • @JulioJustiniano
    @JulioJustiniano 8 місяців тому +4

    My fasting is both from food and carnal passions. This is my first fast so I’m holding by a thread. Next year I plan on adding smoking to the fast.

  • @Abineetbluestar
    @Abineetbluestar 3 місяці тому +1

    Just fell into lust after few days of going strong but I will not fall ☦️ I am learning new perspectives and I give glory to God always and trying to get better ☦️✝️

  • @dimitriospapageorgiou8072
    @dimitriospapageorgiou8072 8 місяців тому +3

    what an amazing video this was, God bless you father and everyone going through this struggle

  • @corteze91
    @corteze91 8 місяців тому +1

    This was GREAT. I Hope many more sees this.

  • @DaGoof120
    @DaGoof120 8 місяців тому +2

    I found my way back to Jesus 3 months ago, and in that time I’ve made far more progress on my porn addiction than in the past 3 years that I’ve been actively fighting against it. I have faith that I’ll be able to put a stop to it in the next few months. Christ is King.

  • @arthurblennerhassett429
    @arthurblennerhassett429 8 місяців тому +2

    Finally a workable solution. I will be looking for your book. Lust is the one thing that I have, even with Jesus help, only been intermittently successful at conquering. I keep having the shame, and the need for repentance. It makes me feel like a fraud before my Father.

  • @onecor1031
    @onecor1031 8 місяців тому +13

    Until your forthcoming book is released I HIGHLY recommend “From Object to Icon,” by Andrew Lawrence. It really gets to the root of the issue, objectification, idolatry. As well, if one has looked into the neuroscience of “p0rn brain,” the crossovers into the spiritual realm are made quite evident in the book. Pray to God for us, O Holy St. Mary of Egypt!

  • @mrmichael7777
    @mrmichael7777 6 місяців тому +1

    What he said about God's calling, the souls response and the bodily vehicle at 2:08 is brilliant. It summed up 2 years of my research about philosophy, theology, religion and spirituality.

  • @somename840
    @somename840 8 місяців тому +6

    Absolutely true. Needed this.

  • @meminimeusvita
    @meminimeusvita 6 місяців тому

    I was able to share this with a brother in the Lord, and he said it was so powerful for him to hear. He had almost fallen into despair but was still reaching out for help. Between this and FR Paul Truebenbachs catechism class, where he mentions fasting, it opened his eyes to the truth. (mine, too) Anyway, thanks for sharing what the Lord is teaching you all. We are blessed to be able to hear the truth even from far away. (we are Protestant yet spirit knows truth.)

  • @kevrla
    @kevrla 8 місяців тому +4

    Thank you Father. Please pray for me.

  • @tasmarkou5681
    @tasmarkou5681 8 місяців тому +2

    Never let it get to you , forget it and makr the challenge to not watch it nexy time the desire comes

  • @comradeH
    @comradeH 8 місяців тому +5

    wow, this is really.. really fresh, its like discovering gold. Praise Jesus for this video. this is definitely not a coincidence.