I feel a deep love for Gabir Mate. He is making a huge contribution to our societies that are currently suffering from a lethal combination of ignorance, and confusion.
Dr. Mate' is one of the best. As Krishnamurti said decades ago, "It is no great measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Mate' is the Krishnamurti of our era.
Disassociated very young. Lifetime of anxiety. 43 years of chronic fatigue. I denied that my childhood had anything to do with it until only recently because I believed the past is the past; enough 13:14 with blaming someone else for my issues.
Ignoring your sorrow, grief, trauma and anger will eat you up inside, figuratively and literally. Arthritis, autoimmune diseases, cancer, heart attacks, ulcers, etc.
"Ignoring"? Or various things Gabor Mate is saying here? I've been going through a crisis that has made me question everything about our "health" "care" system, including psychology / psychiatry. I'm beginning to think most of it is bullshit.
When the body says no covers this really well. I don't understand it though I had a violent father but have done everything possible to not pass that on. Although I have struggled with addiction & depression but Gabor's books have been a massive help. (I'm a type one diabetic now!)
I am 60 and having my 3 sons is the best decision I ever made. We are in this together and there is no reasoin to not have faith of some sort for the future. Who will take care of you in later life?
@@what163 probably a nursing home, like the majority of our population, including the people who had kids. Kids who often don’t come visit them, often either because of their childhood trauma or the fact that keeping their own children cared for leaves them no time. I worked in nursing homes and most people in there are left ignored by their families, to face the end of their lives alone. But at least they do have each other inside the nursing home, and the paid caretakers who keep them alive for the duration. It’s a sad and unfortunate situation that they have built for themselves. Edited to add that It’s why I believe that parents should treat their dependent children with the respect and dignity that they want to be treated with when they’re dependent upon their adult children.
Sadly medicine these days has it's the priorities back-to-front. The greater focus is on profit as opposed to providing people with the knowledge that can best help their wellbeing. I saw a video recently where a surgeon quit because of this. By talking to his patients more, and trying to find a link from the patients who had gotten better so no longer required surgery, he discovered that these people simply had a more positive outlook and healthier attitude to life, while those where surgery results didn't fix the issue were generally those with more stressful lifestyles and had poorer coping mechanisms.
I am now 65 years old - female to 'male' transgender, after years of counselling with a 'trauma aware' counsellor I became (very, very late in life) aware that I became transgender because I suffered horrific rape and physical and psychological abuse by my 'father'. The 'mother' was evil, gaslighting, insidious and rather than protect me - blamed me for everything! I personally don't believe one can be 'born in the wrong body' - born to the wrong 'parents' who completely destroy WHO you could become as a person!
@@ScarySox My sister is currently going through the same thing. Originally a she now self proclaimed gender neutral said very much the same of our father before going through her change. My mother made the same accusation that my father violated my sister. I tend not to acknowledge the negative things that my mother said about my father, because my mother was mentally ill, verbally abusive, physically abusive, neglectful, and irresponsible. I know for a fact my mother is a major reason why I have serious mental trauma, problems with addiction, illness, and a list of development issues that I struggle with to this day. I disregarded everything negative my mother said about my father until I reached the age of 24. By then I came to the realization that my father was very self centered, and had harmful tendencies. My father was callous, insensitive, verbally abusive, lacked empathy, and had very little common sense. Despite the fact that I have never seen proof that my father was guilty of violating my sister, I have to take into serious consideration that he is not the man that I once thought him to be and that I really don't know the full extent of his malice. Both my brother and I tried to convince our sister not to go through the change, but doing so did nothing but cause her to become resentful. She alienated anyone who tried to sway her other wise. Seeing her go through the change has been a very difficult thing to witness. I fear for her wellness, her future, her life.
Excellent information!! I have a question for Gabor Mate....If it was normal & healthy for 👶 babies raised in Hunter Gatherer Societies to be passed around with Shared Caretakers.....then WHY is it so disruptive for babies in current times to also have multiple caretakers other than the Biological Mother? ( I love ❤️ the Harvard Professor Story and am also curious as to WHY Modern Medicine refuses to treat patients Holistically , Emotionally. I know the answer is likely because the system is NOT set up for True Healing, but to incur maintence profits $$ from Chronically Ill patients. Thank you for all you do. Free Palestine.
You’ve heard the phrase it takes a village, it’s very true and if you’re all within the same environment and you’re not moving from a calm, quiet household to overly stimulating environment like a daycare center or someone’s home caring for multiple children from different households there’s a big difference it’s adaptation to a Variety of environments rather then handing your child to a neighbor who’s sitting 25 feet away as you shuck peas, or gather wood or roll corn flower. The village has a consistent level of energy and stimulation. Very different than going from mom’s hectic busy house grandmas. Don’t touch anything “environment should be your cousins with kids running around screaming and jacked up on sugar. Safety and the ability to internalize your own. Safety comes from consistency the ability to out and come back environment
They say the ancient Kemet culture, while very wealthy as a group, their focus was on being moral. The culture lasted over 5000 years. They followed in the way of their creation story’s Hero, Horus (where the word hero was derived from). Some of the greatest Greek philosophers, like Pythagorus, studied there for 20 years. Those teachings of good behavior were written and illustrated throughout their architecture for the leaders and workers to see. They weren’t commandments, they were responsibilities for the sake of their eternal souls necessary to pass through to the other side of spirituality. You say, for example, “I have not stolen,” instead of “Thou shall not steal.” I say all this because societies across the globe have been FORCED to worship money. We are forced to worship money at a job we hate when we are badly treated in order to eat, sleep and protect ourselves and your family from the elements. People die young and unnecessarily because they have to go through a complicated insurance racket, even if their job has insurance available. Women, in America, get NO PAID MATERNAL LEAVE - NONE AT ALL. WE are the ONLY westernized country, which includes China - that doesn’t have paid maternal leave. . . not ONE DAY. Because making money, as much and as fast as possible rules our lives. And capitalism thrives on greed, lies, austerity, poverty, debts, wars, chaos and deceit. TRAUMA for young and stressed parents and their children. We are killing ourselves because capitalism is being allowed to run rampant. If history accuses Nero of playing the violin while Rome burned - so too are crooked politicians, multimillionaires and billionaires, their lobbyists and the politicians they buy. . . counting the “spoils of war” upon their own people. . . as the country burns. Therefore our country is rife for all types of disorders.
Driving in Traffic and living in Mega Cities / Humans are fooling themselves and the most unnatural Stress is built by Man..we survived Wars and Cataclysm and Storms and Famine and the Cities are the main problem for Humans and Animals..Overpopulation in this Age is a Stressor. I find it to be the incessant daily Stress.
How do "looks" apply to what he is saying? If you were completely blind, would your opinion be different? I think not because you've decided how you feel. You then project your opinion onto his face and demeanor. I'm not saying he's right. I'm saying you're wrong. The way a person looks has very little to do with the content of their heart or the truth of their words. Any scientific connection is extremely tenuous at best.
@@ScarySox no, this is mostly a dysfunctional society alienated by an exploitative economic system that commodify every human experience while leaving scraps for its participants. So yea, an American problem.
Your title is causing more trauma.... This not why you're sick.... Please, Stop using bad hypnosis on people... Please be more careful with the suggestions and commands that are giving people. Not everyone has the skills to discern that your headline isn't real.... You're perpetuating the problem, if you care, then be a part of the solution with positive suggestion.... Your more influential than you realize. No body knows what trauma is, just like know one knows how the brain or consciousness works... Trauma is just a word in the dictionary. Trauma isn't in your mind or body, you have symptoms but they aren't trauma.
I would have to agree with this. Can going through trauma prime and predispose you for higher chances of disability, chronic pain and illness in life? Yes. Is "you must have emotional trauma or anxiety" a medically gaslighting and manipulative response that many people and medical professionals have in cases of *real* structural, systemic, and physical diseases, disabilities, pain and loss of function? Also yes. It is absolutely *imperative* that this distinction *always* be made clear when discussing this particular topic.
It sounds like you are saying that trauma doesn't exist but you start off with saying that the title is causing trauma? How can this be if you believe trauma is just a word in the dictionary?
@@purple_zen First of all, if you have any symptoms, promise me you will do the follow these directions below. 1. Do not believe a word that I am saying.2. I want you to be skeptical and not blindly accept what I am saying. Hopefully this will keep any harm that may or may not occur after reading this, then over time see if any of this speaks you to or makes sense. You will need to have your experience to understand this. other wise you just thinking at the conscious level, and they data never becomes an expience, it will just become data floating in your mind. It's complex issue. But I'll try to provide more context. If you understand the idea of the Dao De Ching, the Dao that can be Named is not the Dao.. Meaning any name or word that you use for God, that name or word is not GOD. It's just a word, a label to allow us to learn about communicate and receive instructions, create ideas, imaginations, pictures in our head and so much more. God/ Dao is just a word created to communicate ideas about God. Trauma, and any other any word is created to talk about it, the "word" is not the physical thing or spiritual thing you are talking about. The physical thing is what you are really talking about. When it comes to the word trauma, it's a catch all term like stress to describe a bunch feelings, thoughts, emotions (symptoms) that science, therapists etc. don't understand. Thus, like the Dao De Ching example, it's just a made up word to discuss symptoms/provide diagnosis etc.. and discuss research do papers and sell books. We have many words in the Science / Medical communities in which they don't know how to diagnose a fix, so they apply a catch all label and assign it a set of perceived symptoms. So, dealing with TBI for 20 years, I have come to realize after reading books, research, hypnosis, going to a few therapist I had an Ah-HUH moment that my consciousness gave me, it was that no one knows how the Brain works let alone how to fix a bunch of symptoms they don't understand. My statement about trauma, is if a person accepts this label and they begin to believe it, then a person could be compounding the problem, and your mind may very well "Re-traumatize" a person every time you see or hear the word. Now that the mind has a new word, it's may start building associations of what trauma is, it may use the world, the internet, people in social media describing their trauma, Then that persons mind create what ever image/perception/imagination you have (being more symptoms), and then build on itself. My other possible Ah-huh I had in question form is, Maybe God Doesn't want us to know how the Brain Works or our bodies or consciousness works. Because what I have been seeing with Neuroscience, Medical Science, the Gender science etc, I think I'm seeing the Story of Frankenstein playing out right before us. God Bless and Good Luck.
@@thetruthrenegade God does NOT exist. It's an invention of humans that desperately need something like god, and that's (nearly) all of us. Because of childhood trauma. Primitive people don't have this problem because they live near to the nature around them and the nature of humans and their own selves. The history of human childhood trauma started around 12000 years ago when humans became settled and developed worldwide trade, professions and schools.
If positivism makes more people feel bad today than just a year or five ago - realism is less depressing than clinging on to the past, and perpetually realising it’s gone…?
@@kathleenwharton2139 Yes, because Jesus - like most critically thinking individuals - opposed the state of “politics” and power in his own time, in a region occupied by the Romans. That critique spelled the end of his life, but the start of something too big to even describe. I’m simple, so my single insight is that easing any pain is a collective and shared human effort - in stark opposition to individualism, narcissism, self-entitlement or power upholding pain. Over time, uneased, unshared pain becomes trauma. And the above doesn’t even touch the religious aspect - that’s a lifelong call for much wiser people than me to convey…
I feel a deep love for Gabir Mate. He is making a huge contribution to our societies that are currently suffering from a lethal combination of ignorance, and confusion.
Dr. Mate' is one of the best. As Krishnamurti said decades ago, "It is no great measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Mate' is the Krishnamurti of our era.
❤
Disassociated very young. Lifetime of anxiety. 43 years of chronic fatigue. I denied that my childhood had anything to do with it until only recently because I believed the past is the past; enough 13:14 with blaming someone else for my issues.
Ignoring your sorrow, grief, trauma and anger will eat you up inside, figuratively and literally. Arthritis, autoimmune diseases, cancer, heart attacks, ulcers, etc.
Not ignoring them will drive you to suicide, or worst. :)
A friend of mine that happens to be a therapist. Agrees with this form of coping
"Ignoring"? Or various things Gabor Mate is saying here?
I've been going through a crisis that has made me question everything about our "health" "care" system, including psychology / psychiatry. I'm beginning to think most of it is bullshit.
Childhood trauma is the biggest elephant in every room!
When the body says no covers this really well.
I don't understand it though I had a violent father but have done everything possible to not pass that on.
Although I have struggled with addiction & depression but Gabor's books have been a massive help.
(I'm a type one diabetic now!)
I’m just glad that at a young age I decided to opt out of the future and not have children. Best decision ever.
Absolutely. I have never ever seen any logical point to having kids in this horrific world
Me too! 57 and every day I feel that was one of my best decisions. This society preys on people but the awakening is underway💚
I am 60 and having my 3 sons is the best decision I ever made. We are in this together and there is no reasoin to not have faith of some sort for the future. Who will take care of you in later life?
@@what163 probably a nursing home, like the majority of our population, including the people who had kids. Kids who often don’t come visit them, often either because of their childhood trauma or the fact that keeping their own children cared for leaves them no time.
I worked in nursing homes and most people in there are left ignored by their families, to face the end of their lives alone. But at least they do have each other inside the nursing home, and the paid caretakers who keep them alive for the duration. It’s a sad and unfortunate situation that they have built for themselves.
Edited to add that It’s why I believe that parents should treat their dependent children with the respect and dignity that they want to be treated with when they’re dependent upon their adult children.
Wonderful thank you Dr. Mate.❤
Sadly medicine these days has it's the priorities back-to-front. The greater focus is on profit as opposed to providing people with the knowledge that can best help their wellbeing. I saw a video recently where a surgeon quit because of this. By talking to his patients more, and trying to find a link from the patients who had gotten better so no longer required surgery, he discovered that these people simply had a more positive outlook and healthier attitude to life, while those where surgery results didn't fix the issue were generally those with more stressful lifestyles and had poorer coping mechanisms.
Excellent.
Thank you so much Gabor.
رائع دكتور جابور ماتي ❤
I am now 65 years old - female to 'male' transgender, after years of counselling with a 'trauma aware' counsellor I became (very, very late in life) aware that I became transgender because I suffered horrific rape and physical and psychological abuse by my 'father'. The 'mother' was evil, gaslighting, insidious and rather than protect me - blamed me for everything!
I personally don't believe one can be 'born in the wrong body' - born to the wrong 'parents' who completely destroy WHO you could become as a person!
I hope you found happiness, even if it took a lifetime, it was never your fault. 💯❤
@@ScarySox My sister is currently going through the same thing. Originally a she now self proclaimed gender neutral said very much the same of our father before going through her change.
My mother made the same accusation that my father violated my sister. I tend not to acknowledge the negative things that my mother said about my father, because my mother was mentally ill, verbally abusive, physically abusive, neglectful, and irresponsible. I know for a fact my mother is a major reason why I have serious mental trauma, problems with addiction, illness, and a list of development issues that I struggle with to this day. I disregarded everything negative my mother said about my father until I reached the age of 24. By then I came to the realization that my father was very self centered, and had harmful tendencies. My father was callous, insensitive, verbally abusive, lacked empathy, and had very little common sense. Despite the fact that I have never seen proof that my father was guilty of violating my sister, I have to take into serious consideration that he is not the man that I once thought him to be and that I really don't know the full extent of his malice.
Both my brother and I tried to convince our sister not to go through the change, but doing so did nothing but cause her to become resentful. She alienated anyone who tried to sway her other wise. Seeing her go through the change has been a very difficult thing to witness. I fear for her wellness, her future, her life.
Props to the camera guy
Wow. Thank you.
Gabor❤❤❤
Excellent information!! I have a question for Gabor Mate....If it was normal & healthy for 👶 babies raised in Hunter Gatherer Societies to be passed around with Shared Caretakers.....then WHY is it so disruptive for babies in current times to also have multiple caretakers other than the Biological Mother?
( I love ❤️ the Harvard Professor Story and am also curious as to WHY Modern Medicine refuses to treat patients Holistically , Emotionally. I know the answer is likely because the system is NOT set up for True Healing, but to incur maintence profits $$ from Chronically Ill patients.
Thank you for all you do. Free Palestine.
You’ve heard the phrase it takes a village, it’s very true and if you’re all within the same environment and you’re not moving from a calm, quiet household to overly stimulating environment like a daycare center or someone’s home caring for multiple children from different households there’s a big difference it’s adaptation to a Variety of environments rather then handing your child to a neighbor who’s sitting 25 feet away as you shuck peas, or gather wood or roll corn flower. The village has a consistent level of energy and stimulation. Very different than going from mom’s hectic busy house grandmas. Don’t touch anything “environment should be your cousins with kids running around screaming and jacked up on sugar.
Safety and the ability to internalize your own. Safety comes from consistency the ability to out and come back environment
They say the ancient Kemet culture, while very wealthy as a group, their focus was on being moral. The culture lasted over 5000 years.
They followed in the way of their creation story’s Hero, Horus (where the word hero was derived from).
Some of the greatest Greek philosophers, like Pythagorus, studied there for 20 years.
Those teachings of good behavior were written and illustrated throughout their architecture for the leaders and workers to see.
They weren’t commandments, they were responsibilities for the sake of their eternal souls necessary to pass through to the other side of spirituality.
You say, for example, “I have not stolen,” instead of “Thou shall not steal.”
I say all this because societies across the globe have been FORCED to worship money. We are forced to worship money at a job we hate when we are badly treated in order to eat, sleep and protect ourselves and your family from the elements.
People die young and unnecessarily because they have to go through a complicated insurance racket, even if their job has insurance available.
Women, in America, get NO PAID MATERNAL LEAVE - NONE AT ALL. WE are the ONLY westernized country, which includes China - that doesn’t have paid maternal leave. . . not ONE DAY.
Because making money, as much and as fast as possible rules our lives. And capitalism thrives on greed, lies, austerity, poverty, debts, wars, chaos and deceit. TRAUMA for young and stressed parents and their children.
We are killing ourselves because capitalism is being allowed to run rampant.
If history accuses Nero of playing the violin while Rome burned - so too are crooked politicians, multimillionaires and billionaires, their lobbyists and the politicians they buy. . . counting the “spoils of war” upon their own people. . . as the country burns.
Therefore our country is rife for all types of disorders.
"Women, in America, get NO PAID MATERNAL LEAVE" I didn't know that. Wow, that's absolutely cruel! Your'e right with everything you say!
Driving in Traffic and living in Mega Cities / Humans are fooling themselves and the most unnatural Stress is built by Man..we survived Wars and Cataclysm and Storms and Famine and the Cities are the main problem for Humans and Animals..Overpopulation in this Age is a Stressor. I find it to be the incessant daily Stress.
Absolutely! I left the crazy city almost two years ago to live in the countryside.The quite has helped a lot with my stress levels.
20 commercials in 20 minutes????? Talk about digital dementia!
It’s interesting. I didn’t get any commercials.
Youcan speak for YOURSELF!
In this one, he's making a very transitive argument by omitting denotation.
Exactly which denotations did he omit? I’m curious to know.
@@62Cristoforo Do you mean 'for which terms did he omit denotations'?
How deep... Such an intellectual mind... You must be a serious philosopher...
@@Elaphe472 So funny, you're a great comedian!
@@willjennings7191
Your just awful, your original comment and reply highlight this.
Says a man who does all butt looking happy and sane too me !
How do "looks" apply to what he is saying? If you were completely blind, would your opinion be different? I think not because you've decided how you feel. You then project your opinion onto his face and demeanor.
I'm not saying he's right. I'm saying you're wrong. The way a person looks has very little to do with the content of their heart or the truth of their words. Any scientific connection is extremely tenuous at best.
He doesn’t pretend to be happy…he has seen much suffering. However he has saved my life…and I’m certain you would not like my appearance either.
This is mostly an American problem.
No, It's a human issue.
@@ScarySox no, this is mostly a dysfunctional society alienated by an exploitative economic system that commodify every human experience while leaving scraps for its participants.
So yea, an American problem.
They did say mostly.. I’d have a guess that it’s mostly Western.
Your title is causing more trauma.... This not why you're sick.... Please, Stop using bad hypnosis on people... Please be more careful with the suggestions and commands that are giving people. Not everyone has the skills to discern that your headline isn't real....
You're perpetuating the problem, if you care, then be a part of the solution with positive suggestion.... Your more influential than you realize.
No body knows what trauma is, just like know one knows how the brain or consciousness works... Trauma is just a word in the dictionary. Trauma isn't in your mind or body, you have symptoms but they aren't trauma.
He helped me, he has a lot of positive ideas.
Sounds like you were lucky but a lot of people aren't, try some empathy?
I would have to agree with this.
Can going through trauma prime and predispose you for higher chances of disability, chronic pain and illness in life? Yes.
Is "you must have emotional trauma or anxiety" a medically gaslighting and manipulative response that many people and medical professionals have in cases of *real* structural, systemic, and physical diseases, disabilities, pain and loss of function? Also yes.
It is absolutely *imperative* that this distinction *always* be made clear when discussing this particular topic.
It sounds like you are saying that trauma doesn't exist but you start off with saying that the title is causing trauma? How can this be if you believe trauma is just a word in the dictionary?
@@purple_zen
First of all, if you have any symptoms, promise me you will do the follow these directions below.
1. Do not believe a word that I am saying.2. I want you to be skeptical and not blindly accept what I am saying. Hopefully this will keep any harm that may or may not occur after reading this, then over time see if any of this speaks you to or makes sense. You will need to have your experience to understand this. other wise you just thinking at the conscious level, and they data never becomes an expience, it will just become data floating in your mind.
It's complex issue. But I'll try to provide more context. If you understand the idea of the Dao De Ching, the Dao that can be Named is not the Dao.. Meaning any name or word that you use for God, that name or word is not GOD. It's just a word, a label to allow us to learn about communicate and receive instructions, create ideas, imaginations, pictures in our head and so much more.
God/ Dao is just a word created to communicate ideas about God.
Trauma, and any other any word is created to talk about it, the "word" is not the physical thing or spiritual thing you are talking about. The physical thing is what you are really talking about.
When it comes to the word trauma, it's a catch all term like stress to describe a bunch feelings, thoughts, emotions (symptoms) that science, therapists etc. don't understand.
Thus, like the Dao De Ching example, it's just a made up word to discuss symptoms/provide diagnosis etc.. and discuss research do papers and sell books.
We have many words in the Science / Medical communities in which they don't know how to diagnose a fix, so they apply a catch all label and assign it a set of perceived symptoms.
So, dealing with TBI for 20 years, I have come to realize after reading books, research, hypnosis, going to a few therapist I had an Ah-HUH moment that my consciousness gave me, it was that no one knows how the Brain works let alone how to fix a bunch of symptoms they don't understand. My statement about trauma, is if a person accepts this label and they begin to believe it, then a person could be compounding the problem, and your mind may very well "Re-traumatize" a person every time you see or hear the word. Now that the mind has a new word, it's may start building associations of what trauma is, it may use the world, the internet, people in social media describing their trauma, Then that persons mind create what ever image/perception/imagination you have (being more symptoms), and then build on itself. My other possible Ah-huh I had in question form is, Maybe God Doesn't want us to know how the Brain Works or our bodies or consciousness works. Because what I have been seeing with Neuroscience, Medical Science, the Gender science etc, I think I'm seeing the Story of Frankenstein playing out right before us.
God Bless and Good Luck.
@@thetruthrenegade God does NOT exist. It's an invention of humans that desperately need something like god, and that's (nearly) all of us. Because of childhood trauma. Primitive people don't have this problem because they live near to the nature around them and the nature of humans and their own selves. The history of human childhood trauma started around 12000 years ago when humans became settled and developed worldwide trade, professions and schools.
I'm only sick of getting this guy's speeches all on my youtube front page and search results. For no reason.
Is he the most depressing man online
@@judithdavidson2356 the poster or gabor mate' ?
If positivism makes more people feel bad today than just a year or five ago - realism is less depressing than clinging on to the past, and perpetually realising it’s gone…?
@@musiqtee Good point !
Jesus Taught us How to be in Peace for our health and happiness. Be Grateful for Everything! It is either a Lesson or a Blessing. 😊❤
@@kathleenwharton2139 Yes, because Jesus - like most critically thinking individuals - opposed the state of “politics” and power in his own time, in a region occupied by the Romans. That critique spelled the end of his life, but the start of something too big to even describe.
I’m simple, so my single insight is that easing any pain is a collective and shared human effort - in stark opposition to individualism, narcissism, self-entitlement or power upholding pain. Over time, uneased, unshared pain becomes trauma.
And the above doesn’t even touch the religious aspect - that’s a lifelong call for much wiser people than me to convey…