Our Culture is Killing Us | Gabor Mate on the Myth that is our "Normal" Culture (Part 1)

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  • We often equate normality with health. But what constitutes normal in Western societies? Esteemed physician and addiction specialist Gabor Maté explores the root causes of our physical and emotional ailments, linking personal suffering to the stresses of contemporary life. Illness and trauma are shaping our existence. Nearly half of Europeans deal with high blood pressure, and close to seventy percent of Americans use at least one prescription medication.
    Drawing from over forty years of clinical practice, Dr. Gabor Maté challenges the standard definition of 'normal.' He argues that most diseases are a natural consequence of living in a dysfunctional culture that distances us from our authentic selves. Featuring stories of individuals struggling with illness or celebrating recovery, this inspiring talk by the respected physician and author illustrates that true health is attainable if we prioritize authenticity over societal expectations.
    Gabor Maté, now retired, is a bestselling author and sought-after speaker known for his expertise in addiction, trauma, stress, and child development. He has authored four bestselling books, translated into nearly thirty languages, including the award-winning "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction." He has been honored with the Order of Canada (the equivalent of an MBE) and the Civic Merit Award from Vancouver, his hometown, for his pioneering medical contributions and writings.
    Part 1 - Our Culture is Killing Us | Dr. Gabor Maté on the Myth that is our "Normal" Culture. • Our Culture is Killing...
    Part 2 - This is Making You Sick | Gabor Maté on Authenticity, Trauma and Illness. • This is Why You're Sic...
    Part 3 - "We All Have Trauma" | Gabor Maté on Trauma and Illness and the Myth Of Normal (Part 3) • "We All Have Trauma" |...
    Part 4 - Can We Heal from Our Trauma? Dr. Gabor Maté on Authenticity, Trauma and Illness • Can We Heal from Our T...
    #traumahealing #trauma #gabormate #authenticity #stress #illness

КОМЕНТАРІ • 312

  • @Truthbetold-ue5sv
    @Truthbetold-ue5sv 14 днів тому +59

    Gabor Mate's contributions in many fields are immense. May he live long. This world needs him badly.

  • @MM-yi9zn
    @MM-yi9zn 3 дні тому +9

    Gabor Mate has an original take on what is “normal” is so astonishingly truthful & insightful he should be held in the highest regard. Deserves a Nobel Prize!

    • @georgelewis3047
      @georgelewis3047 2 дні тому

      It is not actually original, it is correcting our careless confusion between 'normal' and 'usual'.

  • @philippedefossez3421
    @philippedefossez3421 Місяць тому +156

    This man deserves a Nobel Prize for his work.

    • @annas1259
      @annas1259 24 дні тому +1

      Or jail .... Check out his credentials and if he actually helped someone ....

    • @deg3467
      @deg3467 19 днів тому +6

      @@annas1259He has a BA and an MD from the University of British Columbia.

    • @angelagrosso2162
      @angelagrosso2162 18 днів тому +6

      Definitely a Nobel Prize..

    • @damiruhoda3255
      @damiruhoda3255 17 днів тому +5

      his work could transform the world beyond recognition

    • @damiruhoda3255
      @damiruhoda3255 17 днів тому +5

      ​@@annas1259cut the crap

  • @Julieglam3
    @Julieglam3 Місяць тому +171

    Social conditioning is VERY real. But most people are so caught up in it they don't even realize it's happening. If you read The Myth of Normal it opens your eyes to this. Gabor is quite astute in his assessment of this...

    • @harrying882
      @harrying882 18 днів тому +2

      The real reason parents want their children to be diagnosed with ADHD is for the benefits, especially here in the United Kingdom, I kid you not, what they don’t realise is when they grow up they will act as though they’re really is something wrong with them, they also don’t forgive the parents especially the mother whose driving this phenomena.

    • @kerplunk9434
      @kerplunk9434 17 днів тому +2

      This is why I say that we live in a cult

    • @CynthiaSandbeck
      @CynthiaSandbeck 16 днів тому +1

      I remember stepford wives. I did that in the 80s doting wife raising my children, I could care less for politics, back them. I'm a baby boomer. Broken now😢😢

    • @Ivar-V
      @Ivar-V 13 днів тому +4

      It’s true. We are social creatures. Where i live type 2 diabetes and obesity is rampant. It’s seen as normal. And statistically speaking it’s true. But normal does not equal healthy. I’m technically 10lbs overweight and ppl call me skinny. I try to stay away from processed, high carb foods, ppl call me a picky eater. It’s hard going against the grain.

    • @Ivar-V
      @Ivar-V 13 днів тому +2

      This is why i feel it’s important to learn about different cultures, history, and be exposed to diverse ppl. You start to see there are different ways of being. Adaptability is important but you start to see key patterns to human flourishing over the long term.

  • @WHISTLEPEG
    @WHISTLEPEG Місяць тому +114

    "What we consider to be normal is simply what we are used to" is a very profound and true statement. Look at the social history of humans to find many things considered "normal" but which are no longer acceptible.

    • @rustyscrapper
      @rustyscrapper 20 днів тому

      Look at what they are trying to normalize by saturating the culture with it 24/7 attempting to get people used to it and accept it.

    • @huizhechen3779
      @huizhechen3779 4 дні тому

      Yes, & when things become "no longer acceptable", we create "new normals". We do that all the time.

  • @artwillvideos
    @artwillvideos 22 дні тому +87

    I say this about our food culture all the time. So much is unhealthy. People have been conditioned to believe that if it’s in the store or being sold by a restaurant, it must be ok to eat…often, it is not. Unhealthy eating is the default. Converting to healthy eating is a challenge, but I actually find it easier and simpler, once you truly commit.

    • @phaedrussmith1949
      @phaedrussmith1949 17 днів тому

      The food corporations put on the market is poison that tastes good. Their purpose is singularly to make profit for shareholders (which, ironically, is there people most able to afford the poison they produce).

    • @user-mx4js3zu1z
      @user-mx4js3zu1z 15 днів тому

      I'd widen that to "FDA-approved". FDA is no longer the source of truth for many of us. Sad fact.

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 13 днів тому +1

      Try a keto or carnivore diet to completely transform your health!

    • @jasongilder22
      @jasongilder22 13 днів тому

      @@artwillvideos how did u do it?

    • @kurtklingbeil6900
      @kurtklingbeil6900 8 днів тому

      The very fact that the governance structures collude conspire and cooperate with corpirations to produce and promote and sell toxic food ingredients - for the benefit of the kleptocracy, must be considered a capital offense - hangings at dawn

  • @woodfox8803
    @woodfox8803 15 днів тому +16

    This is why despite having a family I am a complete loner. I miss interaction a bit occasionally but I prefer sanity and less social mental noise and less of the subtle leverage used by society at large.

  • @HJones-vs4ur
    @HJones-vs4ur 18 днів тому +39

    We live in a toxic environment, devoid of love and human connection.

    • @huizhechen3779
      @huizhechen3779 4 дні тому +1

      In your comment, "we" means "everyone". What you say isn't true for everyone even if it's true for you. You can speak for yourself, of course, but not for some nameless, unidentified, anonymous "we".

    • @itoibo4208
      @itoibo4208 4 дні тому +1

      @@huizhechen3779 certainly, when I discuss a life without superstition, people often say that without their god, they wonder what they would live for. That, and the many people on drugs for depression and anxiety, tells a story of a society that is stressful and often unhappy for many people.

    • @johnsilver1800
      @johnsilver1800 День тому

      @@huizhechen3779Americans

  • @frankr29
    @frankr29 Місяць тому +95

    Brilliant talk, but let's get specific. In my view, the core problems with Western societies are:
    1. An exploitive ruling class (the truly powerful people and groups we always ignore);
    2. A reductionist worldview (matter only; mind doesn't exist);
    3. An inhumane economic logic (people as producers and consumers, not humans who produce and consume);
    4. An ecocidal economic system (growth-dependent capitalism).
    Conceptually, the most fundamental requirement to overcome these deadly deficiencies is a humane and sustainable economic theory. My proposal is the Economics of Needs and Limits (ENL).

  • @sonyaneal6539
    @sonyaneal6539 Місяць тому +30

    Social conditioning is very real, very stressful.
    Social conditioning can be very toxic.
    Toxic social conditioning is the root cause...along with the foods we eat, is causing I'll health for many.

  • @GoloPutka
    @GoloPutka 12 днів тому +5

    Dr Mate is a great man and an excellent human being we all should try to emulate

  • @martinakorinkova5746
    @martinakorinkova5746 20 днів тому +18

    Brilliant speaker about all conditioning we can ever imagine is Jiddu Krishnamurti.

    • @CollectionOfTheTimeless
      @CollectionOfTheTimeless 19 днів тому +3

      What I like about J.K is that he didn't have a typical monologue type of speaking. It is more like a dialogue (David Bohm was inspired by J.K, to make a clearer definition of the word Dialogue, and that's where "Bohm dialogue" comes from.
      What is seen in J.K's speech, is that questions are proposed and he makes the audience meditate on the topic themselves, rather than giving immediate answers.
      He was very careful in his approach, as he had acknowledged the power of words, how easily we materialize things, and just talk about mere ideas, rather than reality. He didn't like philosophizing on these things, it was more about LIFE, and how does pondering these things reflect in your daily life..

    • @phaedrussmith1949
      @phaedrussmith1949 17 днів тому +1

      Is he the one who said "The most dangerous journey one can take is a search for the truth because it destroys one's reality?"

    • @CollectionOfTheTimeless
      @CollectionOfTheTimeless 16 днів тому

      What he was saying in regards to your quotation, is explained well in the following video: "Krishnamurti reading ‘Truth is a Pathless Land’ - Ojai, 1930".

    • @josephbelisle5792
      @josephbelisle5792 7 днів тому

      Krishnamurti is one of my favorite authors and people. But he lacked the psychological and medical understanding Mates has. Both of them are great in my mind.

  • @MendeMaria-ej8bf
    @MendeMaria-ej8bf Місяць тому +18

    Thank you for your definition of what is considered to be normal. Thank you for your thoughts, reflections and insights.

  • @gabykappscomposermariagabr749
    @gabykappscomposermariagabr749 19 днів тому +21

    Family conditioning, schooling conditioning, media conditioning, social conditioning, cultural conditioning, religious conditioning. Buddhism is soooooooo right. What truly is the 'ego'? It's a fragile construct, in continual evolution, creating separation, one against another. Identification with said construct leads to suffering. Identification with our worst inclinations, our negative emotions, leads to suffering. The loss of community, physical and mental isolation, leads to suffering.

  • @angelagrosso2162
    @angelagrosso2162 18 днів тому +8

    Love you Gabor seemingly so brilliant about human suffering...Bless your heart ❤️

  • @Bronco541
    @Bronco541 День тому

    Its rare that a speaker captivates me so quickly.

  • @Nyx0npaws
    @Nyx0npaws 12 днів тому +2

    Working at school for years and years I saw it over and over again!

  • @Audiobook876
    @Audiobook876 Місяць тому +14

    يالها من عباره حقيقيه ومؤلمه (مانعتبره طبيعيا هو ببساطه مااعتدنا عليه )
    😢

  • @jessitatoris-rogers664
    @jessitatoris-rogers664 11 годин тому

    I have been pondering on the question of
    “ what is human nature?”
    My earliest memories are these thoughts
    Excellent answers by Dr mate.

  • @georgelewis3047
    @georgelewis3047 2 дні тому +1

    Wish I had known about this man sooner, his thinking aligns very closely with some of the things I am experiencing and trying to express.

  • @jamesayres1225
    @jamesayres1225 Місяць тому +18

    Love you Gabor

  • @grayj7441
    @grayj7441 16 днів тому +10

    Our normal society sucks. Our lives are short enough, and nature is too precious to shit it all away.

  • @miniminamanmina3715
    @miniminamanmina3715 15 днів тому +3

    TAKING in all it's present forms has been legislated, ingrained in mythology, music, media, entertainment , education in a systematic way that makes ethics morals and truth suspect, and actually throws one out of the human tribe if pursued. This has been an amazing change over the past 50 years. It's seeds and actualization is the death of civilizations. But historically a repeating pattern seen by so few as to be unbelievable .

  • @evelcustom9864
    @evelcustom9864 19 днів тому +10

    The Huxley quote is rather interesting because in the grand scheme of things, accepting and liking your condition, your place, not in society necessarily, but within existence, actually is a path to happiness. Like Albert Camus' concept of Sisyphus being happy pushing the rock (as opposed to happiness coming from the achievement of the rock being on top of the mountain). As such, effective social conditioning/engineering's goal really is that, tricking people into liking their labor within a given society to such an extent that they never ask the deeper questions that could lead them to that deeper happiness. I guess the bigger question is... Is there actually a difference between one kind of happiness and another?

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 13 днів тому

      Yes, there are huge differences, especially if one's happiness is derived from the suffering or unhappiness of others! Just my 2 cents!

    • @evelcustom9864
      @evelcustom9864 13 днів тому

      @@ianstuart5660 but that is only if you are able to somehow step out of society enough to be able to make that analysis. There’s actually a very powerful episode in A Brave New World where John tries to “free” the low working class by disrupting their Soma ration. They riot, largely because they can’t see another world and he was destroying their contentment. In a stable society the happy citizens have no realization of this power dynamic and exploitation. Imagine The Matrix where there is no Morpheus and his rag tag band of missionaries. Just people plugged in, going about their daily existence.

    • @theodorurhed
      @theodorurhed 6 днів тому

      As Gabor Maté is pointing to people are unable to be happy in today's structure. Drugs are needed to keep people from offing themselves. The structure needs to change. The cycle of trauma needs to end. The values of society are misaligned with what I would call our natural values, those written in every human's heart.

    • @theepumasimone
      @theepumasimone 2 дні тому +2

      I would say that those two examples (Huxley and Camus) are speculations made at a particular moment in time. Made by people who might or might not have had the circumstances (or self-awareness) to consider if it holds true for everyone. Overall, I agree with Mate about the importance of environment. Which on a smaller scale (individuals and families) has a direct correlation to how much capital a person or family has access to. So if people obtain enough wealth to at least afford their rent or a home and maybe vacation, a car etc., It makes sense they'd be content because they have the means to create or escape their environment to a degree. To be insulated in a way. I think it's all about how much you can control and people are willing to forgo control in one area if it offers them control in another. That form of happiness can be disrupted when things outside of their control impact their sense of control i.e. health, social unrest, job loss etc., Another way to look at it is some people due to their lack of control and capital are painfully aware they are zoo animals and other people believe they are the zookeepers. The zookeepers are ok with being zookeepers as long as they are not the zoo animals. Just my thoughts.

    • @bullyproofyomama
      @bullyproofyomama Хвилина тому

      An utterly nonsensical comment . What are you blathering on about .

  • @georgianagheorghe8848
    @georgianagheorghe8848 Місяць тому +12

    It was an insightful video. Thank you for sharing!

  • @josephbelisle5792
    @josephbelisle5792 7 днів тому +1

    Dr. Mates is an amazing person. An intellect of grand capacity gracefully married to a profound and cultivated sense of empathy and compassion. Such insights are born out of suffering but also take great and painful efforts to be so in tune with the human condition. I dream of world of people who think like him. Making a need for such thinkers irrelevant and unnecessary as we all would have left primitive tribal thinking behind for empathic critical thinking that considers all life. I can dream cant I?

  • @brunoscalzo8163
    @brunoscalzo8163 12 днів тому +1

    This video changes my perspective of the world. I hope that it can reach several people and enlight them about the problems we are facing in these years. I studied the environment as an answer in sociology and psychology, but this man is on another level because his argument is logical under any aspect.

  • @leighcecil3322
    @leighcecil3322 15 днів тому +10

    Normal is only on a dial on your washing machine... wake up ‼️😲

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 13 днів тому +2

      Delicate cycle may be needed!
      😂😂

  • @shahnazali4000
    @shahnazali4000 Місяць тому +8

    Sorry the contact/ sleep arrangements were from the age of 2-14 years.
    He completed his schooling from a very reputable school( City of London boys school, where once, Asquith the British Prime Minister studied).
    He has no siblings and is my only child: now 32)
    He feels hopeless, although he scored good grades at school - mostly A☆
    I'm afraid that the doctors in the UK just have put him on antipsychotics unnecessarily , rather than solving the root causes of his problem and anxiety.

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 13 днів тому

      Look at a keto or carnivore diet! The transformation from all mental health issues has been stunning! If interested, I could point you to some excellent resources! Good luck!

  • @josephtein3835
    @josephtein3835 Місяць тому +9

    What I'd like to hear in Gabor's talks is more on the specific family and cultural conditions that support the flourishing of healthy humans. Also useful and inspiring would be examples of healthy, fully functioning humans and societies. We mostly hear in Gabor's talks what's lacking, what causes the dysfunction.

    • @mattmarrin8457
      @mattmarrin8457 29 днів тому +5

      Most Indigenous cultures the world over. Not all. Def exceptions tho throughout also.
      Have much on such. Before they were genocided.
      Survival instincts and communal living.
      Worshipping nature and adapting amongst.
      More authentic selves and purpose community
      vs being a commodity. Or a cog in a bloody machine.

    • @mattmarrin8457
      @mattmarrin8457 29 днів тому +2

      A tribe from Amazon on footage recent.
      Happens from time to time.
      They are majority detached from today's society.
      Have issues sure. But are still living and thriving deep in the jungle.
      Just like their ancestors eons before.

    • @user-dj6hu9gq4t
      @user-dj6hu9gq4t 19 днів тому

      Attend a Rainbow gathering and experience true humanity. ✌️

    • @Ftjxmmged
      @Ftjxmmged 19 днів тому

      Rainbow gathering?​@@user-dj6hu9gq4t

  • @user-ee7vr9nn8f
    @user-ee7vr9nn8f 16 днів тому +1

    The world out side can be confusing certainly for a child. One teacher came into my life just at the right time. Learn how to learn and from whom. Equality and respect I believe is the key to life. Yes culture can kill you and challenges you to the end. Your view is important.

  • @oscarsperlich
    @oscarsperlich 19 днів тому +7

    13.00 "More and more people are feeling lonely". Couldn't it be the case that more and more people are offered the possibilty to speak of their loneliness?
    If "normal" is what we're used to, and we're used to talking about how we feel, haven't we just created those very statistics that say "more and more people are feeling lonely"?
    Interesting speech that gave rise to alot of questions for me.
    Thanks!
    /Oscar

    • @thebodyclock1
      @thebodyclock1 11 годин тому

      If you approach the question philosophically, like this, it can't be answered. If you find someone who is lonely, and change his environment and his lifestyle... you can then find out if that sentiment changes or if he still believes he is lonely only because he has the chance to think/ feel that.

  • @1TrackSimulation
    @1TrackSimulation 15 днів тому +1

    This man is a Legend ❤️

  • @musarratsaleem4607
    @musarratsaleem4607 Місяць тому +4

    Very true .
    Then it means that culture has to change and society needs to change for sustaining a healthy huma population.
    Question is how?

    • @CollectionOfTheTimeless
      @CollectionOfTheTimeless 19 днів тому

      popularizing wisdom in real life sit-ins. Like in ancient Greece. We already have plenty of wisdom available in the internet. But in that way it is too easy to fool yourself when it's just you and the virtual Gabor mate. There is nothing there to question you. Social feedback is so important.
      If it would happen that we could meet up and talk about these things in facilitated dialogue, inevitably frustration would occur. "What good can talking do? Where is the action?" But if we would first lay a foundation of deep Understanding of Why we have these dialogues, there will be unshakeable Meaning behind the meetups, which will not shake during the moments of frustration, and so we could move on with the process. Many great things have happened in small groups, grassroot movements and so on .. as David Bohm said, culture is about Shared Meaning. It's like the glue that sticks all together. And in a dialogue, we're suspending our assumptions in order to come about understanding and meaning. And many people are very much identified with the assumptions they gave made, they get defensive and reactive. For these people, something like "Encounter group" would fit better (Carl Rogers), than a Dialogue as defined by David Bohm.

  • @omairkhan8084
    @omairkhan8084 3 дні тому +1

    Neither the life of an individual nor the history of a society can be understood without understanding both.
    - Charles Wright Mills

  • @dave_goldcrest
    @dave_goldcrest 13 днів тому +2

    Hobbes wasn't just talking about 17th century Britain. That is a misreading. He was saying that any society that lacks government, hierarchy, and rule of law will degenerate into violent anarchy where our base instincts supercede morality.

  • @ronaldoferreira594
    @ronaldoferreira594 2 дні тому

    It is not CULTURE - because Culture is the result OF ALL of us doings...
    BUT... CORPORATIONS!
    #LONGLIVERESISTANCE
    .

  • @DJJonPattrsn22
    @DJJonPattrsn22 17 годин тому

    Questioning what is considered to be normal is not the only possible, viable reaction/response to this assessment of the Hungarian war criminal (or any other)...
    Another perspective and approach involves the recognition & acknowledgement that each and every one of us has that same potential within us to commit the most horrifying & egregious atrocities. And, in fact, many (if not most) of us would do so if we were in similar/comparable circumstances.
    This is a type of therapy often referred to as "shadow work".
    It is worth exploring...!

  • @Rob_132
    @Rob_132 15 днів тому +1

    I’d be interested to hear Dr. Mate’s perspective on Robert Sapolsky’s conclusion that human’s do not have free will.

  • @panjo2
    @panjo2 18 днів тому +3

    There are many factors at play, the mental and physical is affected by the society we find ourselves in, by the environmental conditions, by the food eaten - a lot of the food that is chemically treated induces chemical reactions within our bodies, some of them are very psychologically detrimental. So-called rules of society, departmentalizing of people, of things, creates change, not only in the psyche, but in the body chemistry. We are not ants, but an atmosphere of aggression raises the testosterone even in women, raises cortisol. Chemicals in food, aggression all around, can create hyperactive children, for example. The genes may not be changing rapidly, but our chemistry literally is assaulted every day. There are no normal brains - piling on the anti-this anti-that medicines, that are not checked for their reactions in our bodies, in our brains, is just an avoidance of looking at the real problems, finding real solutions

  • @louisesumrell6331
    @louisesumrell6331 16 днів тому +2

    Are you a human being?
    Then;
    Just after you were born, a person, or people, gave you some measure of loving kindness, some amount of compassionate understanding. If not, you would not be alive now. That was your introduction to life, the implicit knowledge that loving kindness and compassionate understanding are indispensable for human life to exist.
    The foundation of human life, therefore, is loving kindness and compassionate understanding.
    As we age we are taught otherwise by damaged people. 💔
    Their misdirection is rarely intentional. They are simply sick due to their own early learning experiences/trauma.
    Once this is understood, we can seek help to dismantle the wrong thinking that we were taught and insert, through daily practice, right thinking, and thereby right actions.
    The teacher that I have learned from is Thich Nhat Hahn, and the practitioners who learned from him before me.
    You may, of course, learn from someone else, but please do...learn that is.
    weezi-💜🙏💖🙏🤠

  • @temporary0insanity
    @temporary0insanity 8 днів тому +2

    Great respect for most things said, but I'm so tired of putting "Hitler and Stalin" together. Stalin is far from being a solely black historical figure. Of course one could say a lot against him - but the situation is much more nuanced and complex than with Hitler, and equating them can mean whitewashing the darker one, even if one doesn't mean to.

  • @travismoore22
    @travismoore22 13 днів тому +1

    I'm on a perpetual downward spiral. Every time I am able to pick up one aspect of my life, five other aspects fall to pieces. I fall asleep hoping I do not wake up.

    • @ronanryan7755
      @ronanryan7755 6 днів тому

      “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms-to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
      Man's Search for Meaning. Victor Frankl.
      Find this book, it will change things for you. I wish you the best.

  • @TheDomVerde
    @TheDomVerde 16 днів тому +1

    It is unstated that the hunter gatherer communities were in fact extended families. Young women grew up with extremely strong role models in their mothers, grandmothers, aunts, etc. The same for young men, so it is not unrelated social workers and and teachers usurping familial authority raising children, but a family.

  • @coreyneil8763
    @coreyneil8763 5 годин тому

    I love this man.

  • @davidowen4816
    @davidowen4816 17 днів тому

    Excellent presentation with profound implications for society. Do not miss.

  • @carllelendt5452
    @carllelendt5452 3 дні тому

    Spot-on! It's toxic, and some consider it our leading export. -It's being spread around the world.

  • @linnstensson3808
    @linnstensson3808 Місяць тому +2

    Wanted to add very good resources on the topic normalization and how 'normal' is not always consciously chosen or healthy. "How normalization is hurting you and hurting society" and "How Has It Come To This? (The Societal Collapse into Independence)" by Teal Swan.

    • @PqV72MT4
      @PqV72MT4 24 дні тому

      Teal Swan is an abusive cult leader.

  • @peacelove5329
    @peacelove5329 12 днів тому +1

    I had Panic attack because from to much social pressure

  • @mirkacihlar8110
    @mirkacihlar8110 20 днів тому

    Very profound,thought provoking lecture.I shall definitely read your book.

  • @fleachamberlain1905
    @fleachamberlain1905 15 днів тому

    We need to provide ourselves with enrichment activities like we now do with animals in zoos, etc.

  • @Steve197201
    @Steve197201 6 днів тому

    "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."
    J. Krishnamurti

  • @greenblue6935
    @greenblue6935 10 годин тому

    As the late great Terrance McKenna said decades ago "culture is not your friend"

  • @ElianaBalt
    @ElianaBalt 12 днів тому

    Muy de acuerdo con usted. No obstante, aunque parece tener cierta idea sobre el problema… las condiciones de vida actuales para la mayoría de las personas: agobiadas por el trabajo y el estrés...., parece ser que tiene aún menos claro la solución. No es que tengamos que volver a las sociedades antiguas, sino que tenemos que realizar un trabajo serio de introspección, de meditación y desarrollo espiritual, es decir, conectar con nuestra esencia. El budismo es un excelente camino para lograrlo.

  • @fibanacci8
    @fibanacci8 20 днів тому +2

    Oustanding insights..

  • @nina-349
    @nina-349 11 днів тому

    ......What a humanitarian ...grazie

  • @G.I.N.N
    @G.I.N.N 4 дні тому

    I've been a fan / follower of Gabor for quite sometime. Read his books 😊....I believe child immunizations / vaccines play a role in these conditions.

  • @istvancsorgo3840
    @istvancsorgo3840 6 днів тому

    Thank you.

  • @shahnazali4000
    @shahnazali4000 Місяць тому +2

    Hi Gabor,
    I have a son who has never spoken about the trauma of his childhood crying not to go to his dads house . The judge gave my ex-husband for contact and sleep arrangements. I was tormented as my son as there was no way my ex would allow me to communicate by phone even to reassure or soothe his anguish and anxiety.
    Even at school he was yanked away holding tightly to the school gates.
    He was physically abused and taken unwillingly , always, crying.
    My son has bottled all his emotions all these years.
    I would greatly appreciate and may God reward you if you can help my son.
    He got into alcohol, and various street drugs.
    I love my son dearly, and am trying to taper him from Clozapine( antipsychotics) but am afraid of suicidal ideation, as he has previously jumped from my 4th floor apartment but miraculously survived.
    Please, please could you help him.
    Thank you even if you can't!
    I am an optimist though.

  • @SharperPenImageConsulting
    @SharperPenImageConsulting 17 днів тому +4

    Yes. Big brother and perpetual warfare are normal.

  • @christinebadostain6887
    @christinebadostain6887 24 дні тому +3

    Human nature is the capacity for good and for evil and depending on which nature is ascendant in any given moment the results will manifest. I love Mate, however, I am surprised that he doesn't make this connection.

    • @christinebadostain6887
      @christinebadostain6887 19 днів тому

      @@esoligh thanks for responding!! Unsure what is your meaning

    • @theepumasimone
      @theepumasimone 2 дні тому

      I thought that was the whole point of this talk. To point out that we tend to believe the worst about ourselves.

  • @derekwhite2929
    @derekwhite2929 Місяць тому +1

    It's definitely killing me Gabor, well that & the effects on me of the damage done getting rid of the HCV given me in an infected plasma transfusion many years ago!
    I have got rid of the HCV, although that success just means that you're then dumped & left to get on with the business of recovery, as if that's just going to happen.
    It looks like that's not going to happen, without considerable assistance.
    Good luck finding that assistance though.
    I'm getting very tired now of looking for it and NOT finding it!

  • @godis14
    @godis14 23 дні тому +2

    I love Dr. Gabor Mate!
    Putting God first solve all the problems as it’s a key to our well being.

  • @carlharmeling512
    @carlharmeling512 19 днів тому +2

    We are the culture we live in. Do not let the times you live in dictate your behavior. It has always been thus. Read the prophets. The cultured individual always acts as a critique on the current situation. Don’t blame anyone for what you should be doing for yourself. Seek the truth, it will set you free spiritually but it may get you censored, locked up or worse.

    • @theepumasimone
      @theepumasimone 2 дні тому

      Any prophet I have read has considered there are multiple truths. Which makes sense in a world of 6 billion people.

    • @carlharmeling512
      @carlharmeling512 2 дні тому

      @@theepumasimone Any prophet? Who would that be? One characteristic of truth is that it is one thing not two. There are not multiple truths, sorry but you can’t have it both ways.

    • @theepumasimone
      @theepumasimone День тому

      @@carlharmeling512 I was thinking of a quote from Khalil Gibran's The Prophet which to me speaks directly to prophets. That is my perspective and it feels true to me. Just like what you believe feels true to you. Everyone's idea of truth will be informed by what belief system they came up in, and what resonates with them. There are six billion people in the world. It is more realistic to consider there are multiple truths. Part of the reason things are so divided is that everyone feels like they have the one truth and it often conflicts with someone else's. That can be observed in real-time which makes it a truth. One can say there are spiritual truths that can't be observed. And they don't negate what is true in the physical. Also If you look at something like a 'paradox' that's an example where people are required to hold multiple truths at once.

    • @carlharmeling512
      @carlharmeling512 День тому

      @@theepumasimone You have it backwards. Belief systems do not inform truth, it is truth that informs belief systems and I still insist that truth is one thing. Many belief systems are informed by what is untrue and are destined for disillusionment. I am wondering, what is the quote from Khalil Gibran you were thinking about?

    • @theepumasimone
      @theepumasimone День тому

      @@carlharmeling512 Khalil Gibran - The Prophet (On Self Knowledge) - Say not, “I have found the truth,” but rather, “I have found a truth.”
      Say not, "I have found the path of the soul.” Say rather, “I have met the soul walking upon my path.”
      For the soul walks upon all paths.
      The soul walks not upon a line, neither does it grow like a reed.
      The soul unfolds itself, like a lotus of countless petals.

  • @MusingsFromTheJohn00
    @MusingsFromTheJohn00 15 днів тому +2

    At around 1:50 Gabor just talked about how a terrible monster of a person was psychologically normal and that maybe this should cause us to question what is normal.
    He is missing the greater point here.
    Mind you, I think we should always question what is normal, but the real point is that no matter what you end up calling normal, human monsters can appear very, very normal. In fact, the worst of monsters are the ones who have some kind of charisma which makes a large number of people think that monster is good. It is not until such a monster gains a large following of people that think the monster is good that it becomes possible for them to begin letting what is really monstrous about them publicly show, because by then they have indoctrinated, converted, groomed, or otherwise made that large following also monstrous.
    The truth is that monsters can form from the far right, the far left, the far and extreme whatever; where some extreme belief leads them into deciding they are superior for some reason and have the right to do bad things to those they decide are inferior.

    • @ianstuart5660
      @ianstuart5660 13 днів тому

      Definitely true!

    • @theepumasimone
      @theepumasimone 2 дні тому

      He is arguing that human nature is not as fixed as people suggest and that from us believing it is it limits are our ability to create an environment that differs from the one we are currently in. I don't think he is wedded to the word normal.

    • @MusingsFromTheJohn00
      @MusingsFromTheJohn00 2 дні тому

      @@theepumasimone then he is also missing the point that what fits "Normal" always forms within social groups. This is not something in question, it is a statistical fact. Now, what that statistical normal is varies between social groups and varies within social groups over time, but that statistical normal still forms.
      However, very frequently, very regularly, the worst monsters of history are cast as being abnormal monsters, which should be obvious to see how bad they are. But, the truth is these worst of historical monsters virtually always rise to power through a popular support of people.

  • @MusingsFromTheJohn00
    @MusingsFromTheJohn00 15 днів тому

    Overall I think Gabor's talk here was very good and something people should consider and think about.
    I believe to become stuck within some social norms that we do not question because they are normal is bad.
    To make a social norm which gets applied to everyone I think is bad, though there are some social norms we do need to try and make universal across society. But, if a society does not allow for different subgroups to develop their own social norms, then that society loses flexibility and adaptability which comes with trying out different social norms which might work better.
    One of the things we should definitively do is study how and why some societies develop extremely bad social norms which lead to clearly bad results like mass murder on massive scales.
    One of the problems we have with doing this is that people tend to want to imagine the leaders of such atrocious events, like Hitler, Stalin, and Mao, are clearly obviously evil people and thus it is easy to see them coming. But that is false. The ideologies and leaders of the worst atrocities last century rose because many people believed they were good and right. So what we need to do is learn to understand how things we believe are good and right can turn into a massive huge atrocity.
    Another problem with this is that leaders who rise in power and wealth generally do not want the masses to learn to understand how things we believe are good and right can turn into a massive huge atrocity, because their rise to power and wealth and ability to keep their power and wealth often rely on bad tendencies which can and sometimes do lead a society into some massive huge atrocity. I do not just mean political leaders, because all leaders who can significantly effect society need to be included, whether political, economic, religious, etc.

  • @naturandmor
    @naturandmor 29 днів тому +1

    And we assist to it and doing nothing against it 😅

  • @dp0004
    @dp0004 3 дні тому

    Normal is what you make it. Is there another person who has to same normal as you? Strategies to keep ourselves going.

  • @nezhmetdinov886
    @nezhmetdinov886 6 днів тому

    Blew my mind

  • @D3cker1
    @D3cker1 16 днів тому +1

    Mr. Mate should talk about the influence of The Talmud in Jewish society... I know about the bees Mr Mate!

  • @averayugen7802
    @averayugen7802 11 днів тому

    I needed a scholarship to one of your workshops and my application was ignored. Then I realized you are a famous spokesman for psychological health, as long as it doesn't get too personal. Maybe it ended after you stopped serving the homeless hoardes of Vancouver?

  • @ericrawson2909
    @ericrawson2909 16 днів тому +1

    Lckdowns and identity politics have made life hellish for years. I am not at all surprised at the sooo iss iyde rate.

  • @DavidGreenwood-nu6dd
    @DavidGreenwood-nu6dd 16 днів тому

    Lovely man,and lovely sons!

  • @Uncle_Jester
    @Uncle_Jester 16 днів тому +2

    ✋Culture is NOT your friend🤚

  • @jamesbower9871
    @jamesbower9871 17 днів тому +1

    Culture isn't killing us ideology is

    • @keatonheadley6065
      @keatonheadley6065 17 днів тому +5

      They both are, the dominant ideologies are an expression of the dominant culture. The ruling elites have masterfully shrouded us in the chaos of ideological differences. Ideology has transitioned from something you believe in and can debate and create dialogue around, to now; ideology is something that you ARE. When the shift in ideology became a staunch part of people’s identities (and their worldviews) it becomes much harder to have productive conversations. Now we argue about which books we’re banning and who can use which bathroom when the real conversations should be centered around REAL issues like lobbying, wage stagnation, the housing crisis and creating affordable housing, Wall Street and private equity pillaging the middle class, the consolidation of wealth and power by corporations, etc etc etc

  • @sleepingsealproductions
    @sleepingsealproductions 18 днів тому

    Hobbes was talking about what life was like without government.

  • @xstensl8823
    @xstensl8823 19 днів тому +1

    the old frog in the beaker analogy unaware of the fact that its being boiled alive.

  • @rodm7959
    @rodm7959 16 днів тому

    good reference is The Human Zoo by Desmond Morris

  • @thewatcher7823
    @thewatcher7823 17 днів тому

    Getting a minister for loneliness isn't assuring a solution for loneliness when they'll only have access to that kind of pay for as long as there's loneliness. There might need to be a minister for common sense, as that's at least something we'd want to keep.

  • @AnnetteCurtain-tc4mh
    @AnnetteCurtain-tc4mh 19 днів тому +1

    Whats chaos to the fly,is normal to the spider.

  • @davidshapley3469
    @davidshapley3469 10 днів тому

    No matter when or where. Hthe human world concerns are pleaure, gain, praise, pride and the avoidance of the opposits. There is no new kind of man except those transcending beyond being a human.

  • @PhilipMatthewsPAEACP
    @PhilipMatthewsPAEACP 15 днів тому

    Join the PAEACP!

  • @shahnazali4000
    @shahnazali4000 Місяць тому +1

    My relatives live in west vancouver( British properties) and if you think it necessary, although difficult for me( as I am looking after my 92+ year mum as well as my son)

    • @shahnazali4000
      @shahnazali4000 Місяць тому +1

      I would travel to B.C even though it would be extremely difficult, as 3 of us would need to travel: Myself, My Son and My Mum)
      Please suggest.

  • @asfasfasfasf124
    @asfasfasfasf124 16 днів тому

    compassion

  • @bizisouad7900
    @bizisouad7900 3 дні тому

    Humanity is in not hidding anymore her decline...but i trust human to resuscitate

  • @damiruhoda3255
    @damiruhoda3255 17 днів тому

    22:25 maybe its the plastics and erlectromagnetic exposure (of certain frequencies)

  • @billnye8143
    @billnye8143 19 днів тому

    He is half correct we are both selfish and unselfish the decision is based on the individual and their nature

  • @rodbenson5879
    @rodbenson5879 19 днів тому

    Really sad it was cut at the most critical point of the talk.

    • @susanvaughan4210
      @susanvaughan4210 19 днів тому +3

      This part of Gabor's talk was only Part 1. Part 2 continues where this leaves off. It is titled "This Is Why You're Sick."

  • @dreamingacacia
    @dreamingacacia 17 днів тому

    It's baffling that even people at the top are slaves to the system. Someone must start talking and people whom realized the same facts should talking about them more and more. Let's hope that people at the top will somehow realize these simple facts and start changing the world to a better place. Unfortunately we're just being labelled as crazy people by the mass. But unfortunately for them they're not realize they're also slaves.

  • @russelmurray9268
    @russelmurray9268 4 дні тому

    I said this 50 years ago

  • @houndmother740
    @houndmother740 16 днів тому

    After 65 years on this planet I know that.

  • @CarlosMartinez-pc7je
    @CarlosMartinez-pc7je 4 дні тому

    He mentioned British & British is the new America…hmmmm he is on to something

  • @desperatefortuneproduction3296
    @desperatefortuneproduction3296 17 днів тому

    Is it possible to get a downloadable transcript of this? I can access the YT version but it's not copyable. The talk gave me a lot of things to ponder and I'd like to make notes for reference.

  • @robinlynn6940
    @robinlynn6940 Місяць тому +2

    👏👏👏

  • @Misaki.Manifestation
    @Misaki.Manifestation Місяць тому

    In the ant, what is it that signals inside the winning ant, to morph into a Queen ant?
    I would like to discuss this here rather than research it externally....

  • @jazzypoo7960
    @jazzypoo7960 2 дні тому

    All behaviors are *100% genetic.*

  • @aj5424
    @aj5424 Місяць тому +2

    GM Foods

  • @Shadozcreeping
    @Shadozcreeping 12 днів тому

    "quartz is the most chewable crystal" was a pretty good punchline. if he wants laughs when doing jokes, he just needs to cut his teeth doing some comedy club open mics to polish his delivery and timing

  • @GenXgenandgenX
    @GenXgenandgenX День тому

    Mate, you believe Moshe Daian was normal? And not a war criminal?

  • @clintmichigan9112
    @clintmichigan9112 16 днів тому +2

    I tried normal once....worst 5 minutes of my life