Uncherished and uncared for. Tick. Loss of self esteem. Tick. My feelings were invalid and I was not allowed to express dissatisfaction. Tick. Unable to be anything but perfect or have faults. Tick. Things became such that nothing I did was ever enough and I felt like I was walking on eggshells. Tick. Excessive criticism and devaluation. Tick. One too many instances of the mask dropping and I was afraid for my well-being. Tick. That was the point that I ended a long term relationship. Then ensued the horror of family court, weaponised children and ongoing emotional and financial abuse and an instance of physical abuse. Even three years after final judgment and a CAO, the abuse continues and my young son is at risk. I’m the father in this scenario and the odds always feel stacked against me.
Ive been with my narc.for almost 4 years... i had a feeling within a week.. i think he showed his rue colors early bc i moved in bc i had no wjere else to go so he knew i couldnt leave
The entitlement, always want to be viewed as perfect, never validating the other persons emotions feelings the horrible rages, the fact they'll are so delirious, the breadcumbing, the gaslighting, it's not just the silent treatment or stonewalling, its the COLDNESS they bring to the atmosphere with the silent treatment, the victimized personality, can never hold their self accountable or say "I'm Sorry" my narc also basically will bully me into getting his way if I don't sleep with him. He literally walks around just absolutely so cold!!! Slamming the toilet seat, refrigerator, the cabinets until he gets his way. Being with a narc is a different level of LONELINESS..he only has cognitive empathy but he doesn't have emotional empathy.. he literally can't put his self in my shoes to understand what I'm feeling.. oh my God if you aren't praising them then whatever you say is criticizing them!! The way they project everything they do and feel onto you.. black and white thinking.. no grey area.. and they think everyone views the world as they do! Which is through evil lenses!!! Oh my goodness I felt I was being judged about everything felt I had to be perfect!!in was every good rnough.. they way they serve their community. They absolutely know what they're doing..
20 years and in divorce. Two agreements, non disclosure from him on items, about to go to court. They consider divorce something to ‘win’. Enough is enough. They are represented by ALL legal firms who seem to enjoy seeing them battle it out… more fees for them.
Uncherished and uncared for. Tick. Loss of self esteem. Tick. My feelings were invalid and I was not allowed to express dissatisfaction. Tick. Unable to be anything but perfect or have faults. Tick. Things became such that nothing I did was ever enough and I felt like I was walking on eggshells. Tick. Excessive criticism and devaluation. Tick. One too many instances of the mask dropping and I was afraid for my well-being. Tick. That was the point that I ended a long term relationship. Then ensued the horror of family court, weaponised children and ongoing emotional and financial abuse and an instance of physical abuse. Even three years after final judgment and a CAO, the abuse continues and my young son is at risk. I’m the father in this scenario and the odds always feel stacked against me.
Ive been with my narc.for almost 4 years... i had a feeling within a week.. i think he showed his rue colors early bc i moved in bc i had no wjere else to go so he knew i couldnt leave
I always say give and take their love.from you
The entitlement, always want to be viewed as perfect, never validating the other persons emotions feelings the horrible rages, the fact they'll are so delirious, the breadcumbing, the gaslighting, it's not just the silent treatment or stonewalling, its the COLDNESS they bring to the atmosphere with the silent treatment, the victimized personality, can never hold their self accountable or say "I'm Sorry" my narc also basically will bully me into getting his way if I don't sleep with him. He literally walks around just absolutely so cold!!! Slamming the toilet seat, refrigerator, the cabinets until he gets his way. Being with a narc is a different level of LONELINESS..he only has cognitive empathy but he doesn't have emotional empathy.. he literally can't put his self in my shoes to understand what I'm feeling.. oh my God if you aren't praising them then whatever you say is criticizing them!! The way they project everything they do and feel onto you.. black and white thinking.. no grey area.. and they think everyone views the world as they do! Which is through evil lenses!!! Oh my goodness I felt I was being judged about everything felt I had to be perfect!!in was every good rnough.. they way they serve their community. They absolutely know what they're doing..
20 years and in divorce. Two agreements, non disclosure from him on items, about to go to court. They consider divorce something to ‘win’. Enough is enough.
They are represented by ALL legal firms who seem to enjoy seeing them battle it out… more fees for them.
Their eyes turn black!!!! Man its exhausting.. my narc couldnt last longer than 3 days without fighting or raging out..