I like Loni's perspective on subjects maybe cause she has more of the in-office cultural background. If you work in the office you need to brag about your work and present it in order to take the raise you deserve
Exactly. You should know and be able to articulate the things you've accomplished, the ideas you've put into action that worked, etc. It is also a skill to know when and how to mention these things (and WHO to mention them to). So much advice for women misses the point and mischaracterizes the traits that help men succeed. They always seem to encourages women to be obnoxious, rude, and condescending when they actually need to be more confident, firm, competitive, and vocal.
In the workforce, it is definitely important to "brag" if you want to gain respect/advance your career. Employers want to know that you're an asset. Just don't be obnoxious about it.
3:40.. Real talk Jeannie. I'm child of Indian Immigrant parents and only now at 22 I've been asking those questions because they have never been volunteered to me. Hearing my parents story, and listening how they struggled, my father alone in a new country and my mother alone with a new born baby... it made me cry... Just to talk to each other my mom had to be to travel to separate location up to top of the building to call my father and talk for a few minutes. At this point they had been married for like a year or two and known each other for that exact time as well. So much more to their story obviously, but it is super important to ask them about their pain that brought me my privilege.
I think there’s a difference in bragging and just humbly and confidently naming your accomplishments... not because you’re trying to one up or try to prove that ur better than someone else but because you want people to know , hey this is something that I’ve done and I’m proud of myself for it... it’s not about the other people it’s about yourself ! I wish people would not confuse the two lol
I feel like Ananda and Tamera are going to become great friends. Tamera was intimidated by her at first and slightly annoyed by Amanda’s energy but the love is there. Also Jeanie was on point about the Asian culture. You never hear their story you just see them in position. Very insightful!
Dajia Star that meiment when this was filmed the same day as Amanda’s first day as an official co host... I don’t think she was annoyed or intimidated... but sometimes being someone who already isn’t as vocal as somebody on certain things... you tend to take a back seat especially when certain people give off a certain vibe and u just wanna get a feel instead of jumping in head first to meet them ... and that’s ok... I think it’s more about giving time to gel... we’re not gonna force anything l this is the real for a reason... plus depending on convos it allows them to see the many facets of each other... which is why there is a broad range of topics they speak on
the only two black women (NOT mixed) are the MOST educated and then theres an asian and latina and childhood star that have a high school education I think. sad.
Jeannie is one of the most important voices at the table for me. I’m so happy to see a woman from Asian Culture able to talk about Asian issues and make the talk relatable to all cultures with all the voices at the table. With that being said, I’ve had long talks with my mom on how she got to America and why she is where she is now. She went through so many hardships and later had to do it all by herself with two kids. I’m so proud of her. The hustle is real for Asian immigrants.
Yes, so true!!! I helped a female friend with her interview, she was the most prepared contender for the manager position, and she was so hesitant to “brag” about her accomplishments as a sales person. I told her to talk numbers up front, because numbers rarely lie. She was confident, she was just too afraid to brag about herself, but she was a beast in sales, she deserved the position. Spoiler alert: she got the job!!!!
@@luluseatowngetdown6251 It's almost hard to believe she doesn't get any work done... Like I don't know anyone in my real like (including the super healthy ones) that are her age & so we'll preserved. They are all gorgeous.
@@kaym.2854 Yes I am asian. My mother looked young and still looks amazing for her age. That being said, I don't know any Asian or any human being who looks as well preserved as her at her age. (not implying she is old but I'm sure you get what I'm saying)
Yesssss to what Tamera mentioned about people who BRAG CONSTANTLY are the ones who are hiding their own insecurities. I had this friend I knew since middle school we lost in touch then years late she followed me on fb. Well I started to noticed all she ever did was literally post about her car materialistic stuff. I had to unfollow her bc it was just to much. I can see she hadn't changed.... she was still out there bragging.
I have a girls group chat and we help and support each other all the time. We literally talk to each other every single day. I appreciate and so grateful for the close group of girls in my circle. 💖
Everyone looks amazing! I couldn't even stay focused on the conversation because I'm just noticing all the details of everyone's look 😂 Whoever is styling y'all right now, ladies, keep them forever!
Naomi Catherine whenever a valid point is made about racial issues there’s always that one person who talks about victim mentality to simply deflect 🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽
@@naomicatherine1245 This is a bigger scale I'm speaking of not the couple of people you have come across. Lol. It dont taken rocket science to know this goes on and it's been a fight going back in history. Plus from the look of your response, you obviously cant relate to the struggle which dont qualify you to make such an immature remark on the behalf of the minority population.
Shes a sweetheart under that tough exterior. I see through her and admire her persona 100%. I just wish she would not come off as rude and entitled at times since that can be someones first impression of her
Amanda is changing and evolving into a better mature person. I couldn't stand her at first but I can tell she's been working on herself and I appreciate that. Idk if her therapist has a lot to do with it but she's starting to open up and is becoming a lil more humble.
She has always been a pleasant person- she just feels strongly about race and is an activist. If anything the show’s producers are the ones who are at fault because they come up with the topics and as soon as Amanda was brought to the show they made a lot of topics about race. She spoke on it (which they wanted her to do because that’s what they hired her for) and it came across like Amanda was turning The Real into The View when really she was just talking about what they were told to talk about . When they saw how much backlash they were getting they decided to tone the topics down. She has 1 particular area of expertise which is race - she’s passionate about it (and she should be because race & income control A LOT of what happens in this country) but other than that she is very chill
I don’t think ppl realized she is an activist but anyone who is familiar with her knew that already and the producers knew it. She is the same person - she is only strongly opinionated on race because that is her area of expertise. the producers are just giving them lighter topics to discuss for now because fans of this show apparently like light hearted conversation rather than more critical thinking topics
@@livelaughlove9754 Actually, she has said really stupid things about race in the past and even defended Jesse Smollett by calling what he did as something noble. There's a difference between being an strong mature activist and someone who is bitter that has racist tendencies. Martin Luther King was a strong powerful activist because he fought for justice in a peaceful manner.
Tam is always so cute. Without showing everything. Without being overly sexualized. Without being overly made up with a ton of weave and all that fake stuff. Just gorgeous for no darn reason. Get em girl!
I believe women should brag more especially black women. Black women are out here doing amazing and extraordinary things which I feel we don’t celebrate them enough. Take Amanda for example from her podcast, her book, her role on insecure, her hbo comedy special and her live show Smart, Funny & Black she’s truly a phenomenal woman.
Thank you Tamera for saying that “those that brag the most may be hiding insecurities” because how men and women look at the situations will still be different (from a female panel). I say this know that if a parent says “my child is can do this and is the best [insert area]” both men and women would be guilt of bragging or acknowledging pending how you see the situation.
I’m going to be honest I don’t brag I actually play down my accomplishments bc that’s the fastest way to gain haters. Even the ppl you talk to everyday single day can hate on you bc you’re doing a good job and are getting rewarded for it. So you have to be careful with bragging.
Do NOT diminish your accomplishments for anyone ever. You don't have to boast, but you do need to let your shine show..trust me they are going to hate either way, don't join the game...🥂to you
@@babygirl4949 Absolutely ma'am. You must cherish yourself. You are someone's super hero, even if it's your own. Be the best you and don't accept anything less than you're worth. If no one else is in your corner I am...💕
I would’ve loved to hear more of Loni’s advice on bragging in the workplace without her being cut off. The other part of the discussion was more shallow and more people can relate to experiences particularly in the workplace.
Let them people Brag. If you don't like it remove yourself. You got a Honda civic 97 and it's 2020, but you got a car bragggg. People be to pressed nowadays
Tameras' and Andriens' point resonated with me more.. esp with reading a spiritual enlightening book... bragging is a way of feeding the ego. People wonder how and why egos get so big.. well thats the desire to continuously want more, aka never being enough.. so if u feel the need to constantly achieve something to then go down go down a list.. its the exact opposite of secure. And it doesnt just stop there. People begin to believe they can do anything and say whatever they want and get away with it because of those same achievements. All that is, is a form of "I" .
I don't understand why there saying bragging and being boastful is two different when it means the EXACT same thing. Both are not positive, what is positive is to let the people around know what you can bring to the table in respects to your accomplishments. Bragging can be annoying so when talking about your accomplishments there should be a reason which relates to the conversation at hand.
Really good conversation, Ladies. Kudos! Adrienne made some really great points which were reiterated by Tamera. I also liked all the other takes. I found it interesting what Jeannie shared about Asian culture. Thank goodness for the diversity on this show and all the perspectives it affords us all.
I think the intentions of why you’re saying certain things determines whether it’s bragging or just wanting to let people know. And people who listen will be able to know.
1:44 lmao when Adrienne mentions Amanda's face (not in a mean way) but it's so funny because her face is always that way every show on any little thing she doesn't like at any little second.
Yes, Jeannie! I had to ask my paternal grandparents about my Jamaican and Indian heritage to know more about where I come from. They don't really say anything unless you ask. What did I find: I found my great-grandfather was white and Irish on my grandfather's side, and my great-grandmother was Syrian on my grandmother's side.
Amanda’s earrings!!! And Jeannie looks gorrrrgeous 😍😍😍 and Jeannies commentary is SO important for her people. She should get just as much praise as Amanda for speaking up for her people
It depends on who's in the room. If it's a room full of egotistical men or women, you may be forced to brag. But it's not about bragging. It's about strategy. But to successfully execute your strategy, you have to be patient and humble. Ahhh. I let the big mouths do their all talk first ( that may take forever. ) I wait for for the perfect moment to drop the big verse. It has to be bigger than the big mouth's, or else you'll fall harder than a mic drop in a rap battle. Be humble.
Yes. Sometimes It's as simple as dropping statements like, "Last week, I told you all..." then remind them what you contributed LAST time, and then show them how you've amped up during the week. Now you've put the bigwigs on notice and laid out for them what your contributions are and what more you're about to bring without being rude or condescending or off-putting.
Nunny 5 being proud and reminding viewers every episode are two completely different things. Does Tam tell us about her Psychology degree each episode? Does Adrienne tell us how many albums she sold with 3LW every episode? No! We. Know. Loni. It’s old. She does it at least 4 episodes out of 5 each week. If they made a video montage, you wouldn’t believe it. Keep your fist pumps and do a hand clap for the truth. 👏🏾
A lot of people like to think that they're "humbly talking about their accomplishments" as a way to justify bragging. Unless you're inspiring people, trying to elevate your career, or talking to your friends/family, you are bragging. They don't realize that other people are just as self-centered as them and really don't give a damn about hearing what others accomplished nor boosting someone's ego. Or maybe that's just me.
“Sometimes people who BRAGGG about everything, that’s excessive pride, they’re actually hiding insecurities.” - Tam Yes. Reminds me of Loni always yelling about, “I’m an ENGINEER!”
LA tam is a jealous person, everything has to be about her, I can’t stand her.. Loni went to school to become an ingineer so what if she wants to Bragg about it.
Princess Love Tamera has nothing to be jealous about sweetheart. Tam went to one of the most prestigious universities in the country, Pepperdine University, but she just doesn’t have to remind us about it every episode like Loni does. That’s all I’m saying. She’s intelligent. Kind. Humble. All those things. She isn’t jealous at all.
They have to do more topics with better substance. This is so High School. Who the hell comes up with this? Meanwhile Corona about to take everyone out of here, but we worried about someone bragging? Let them do them, actions speak louder than any words can. If you worried about someone bragging, you may be the insecure person.
@@emanualcarr7408 tbh i agree with you. The content lately just makes me role my eyes and i just watch out of habit now. There doesn't seem to be much of anything they speak about it's like "men do it why can't we" I'm all for equality and all that but just because men jump off a bridge should we do it as will. Do better guys
They touched on a lot of the nuances. It is important to have pride in your accomplishments and to advocate for yourself, but without crossing over into arrogance or boastfulness. Men go too far one way, women too far the other.
Let us not forget the part where people with low self esteem ( which is far more common than you think) will assume arrogance when in reality you are not. Low self esteem will make you hypersensitive and irrational.
0h_Suziee_ Q never thought she was either of those things , whenever a black woman is out spoken she is quick to get labelled as uptight , aggressive and stuck up 😪
Hans Jae this has nothing to do with her being black if she was Latina I would of thought the same... I’m just expressing how I feel she seemed to aggressive and uptight she’s starting to loosen up
0h_Suziee_ Q race definitely plays a factor , whenever a black woman is outspoken people don’t like it . She’s not aggressive she’s just passionate . I agree that she’s loosened up more
I love Adrienne shes so child like yet a real grown bussiness woman...women like this are so full of life you can never grow old with them around....long life to you my cheetah mamacita'.
I keep all accomplishments to myself because people are jealous of me for no reason. Sometimes I've never done anything to anyone and they dislike me. Guess I must be perfect?!
I'm honestly sick of these articles and think pieces telling women to be more this and more that... What Amanda said, maybe men should just do less rather than women doing more.
I don't brag and I don't even talk about my accomplishments with confidence, but I had to learn to talk about them because people weren't taking me seriously in the workplace. I would go pitch my ideas to producers and they'd be like "???" because I look 16 years old. So I started going "Hi, I've been doing this for X years, I won This Award, I got This Degree and this is my project..." and THEN they'd listen and become interested. So I don't believe you should brag, but women should definitely lose their fear of openly celebrating their accomplishments with confidence.
I loved this segment , hey the real U should do more segments on women empowerment and segments on how to uplift and encourage eachother more . I really like seeing this 😊💪🏼💕
Moral of the story: Brag on others, not yourself! But, its also ok to recognise your achievements & want others to brag on you! You see, it comes around full circle! 🤷🏽♀️🤗
YOU CAN CELEBRATE OR BRAG ABOUT YOU ACCOMPLISHMENTS. THAT WON'T GET YOU A PROMOTION OR RAISE. MEN SAY SHOW ME THE MONEY THEN I'LL DO IT. WE GO AND DO IT THINKING IT'LL GET US A PROMOTION OR RAISE. ITS MANAGEMENTS JOB TO GET YOU TO WORK AS MUCH YOU CAN FOR AS LITTLE AS THEY CAN. WE FEED RIGHT INTO POVERTY...UNFORTUNATELY
I think it’s sexy when you are confident but bragging can get annoying. Cause some people really do too much.
Bria Barrows they be like yea i work 5 hours a day and i get paid 500 bucks a day. thats not cool
If you're confident, then you won't brag, bragging comes from an insecure place.
Marina Smith true
Bria Barrows agree
Yep, bragging is bad.
I like Loni's perspective on subjects maybe cause she has more of the in-office cultural background. If you work in the office you need to brag about your work and present it in order to take the raise you deserve
fofo Girl u like foofoo abi?
It's called "selling yourself" not bragging, there's a difference. The former concerns self-value and the latter concerns arrogance.
“It” is called bragging.
Exactly. You should know and be able to articulate the things you've accomplished, the ideas you've put into action that worked, etc. It is also a skill to know when and how to mention these things (and WHO to mention them to). So much advice for women misses the point and mischaracterizes the traits that help men succeed. They always seem to encourages women to be obnoxious, rude, and condescending when they actually need to be more confident, firm, competitive, and vocal.
Vivio Gogo Sure, but there’s a time & place for everything.
@@ParisAntoinette I agree too, I think for job interviews or meetings for sure you should sell yourself well.
In the workforce, it is definitely important to "brag" if you want to gain respect/advance your career. Employers want to know that you're an asset. Just don't be obnoxious about it.
Humble brag
I bragged on my job and got fired
StankPussy K. XD
do you work at a fast food restaurant or some muslim-owned store? all serious companies disapprove of bragging at the workplace.
3:40.. Real talk Jeannie. I'm child of Indian Immigrant parents and only now at 22 I've been asking those questions because they have never been volunteered to me. Hearing my parents story, and listening how they struggled, my father alone in a new country and my mother alone with a new born baby... it made me cry... Just to talk to each other my mom had to be to travel to separate location up to top of the building to call my father and talk for a few minutes. At this point they had been married for like a year or two and known each other for that exact time as well. So much more to their story obviously, but it is super important to ask them about their pain that brought me my privilege.
as adrienne says ,"that part"🙌🏾"
"...their pain that brought me my privilege" wow 👏🏼
Wow I’m a child of Indian immigrants too and this is a beautiful sentiment
Well said!!:)
@@njameela92 I like that line too LOL It just came to me but it is very true.
I think there’s a difference in bragging and just humbly and confidently naming your accomplishments... not because you’re trying to one up or try to prove that ur better than someone else but because you want people to know , hey this is something that I’ve done and I’m proud of myself for it... it’s not about the other people it’s about yourself ! I wish people would not confuse the two lol
Besides wanting to inspire people, why do you want them to know? You want others to think higher of you. Be real.
Myronn Coleman doesn’t work. If your accomplishments are things people really value you’re just putting a target on your back.
Myronn Coleman if only it was as simple as that
Exactly
Myronn Coleman exactly, people have a hard time discerning between the two
Jeannie Mai is the baddest 🤩
Honestly, Amanda growing on me. It seems like shes beginning to fit in wonderfully.
I feel like Ananda and Tamera are going to become great friends. Tamera was intimidated by her at first and slightly annoyed by Amanda’s energy but the love is there. Also Jeanie was on point about the Asian culture. You never hear their story you just see them in position. Very insightful!
Intimidated? Tamar used to be on that show and she was on a similar level when it comes to the way they confront topics
Tamar use to baby Tamara ( like a babysister ). Amanda chanels Tamara and that made her uncomfertable at first.
Dajia Star that meiment when this was filmed the same day as Amanda’s first day as an official co host... I don’t think she was annoyed or intimidated... but sometimes being someone who already isn’t as vocal as somebody on certain things... you tend to take a back seat especially when certain people give off a certain vibe and u just wanna get a feel instead of jumping in head first to meet them ... and that’s ok... I think it’s more about giving time to gel... we’re not gonna force anything l this is the real for a reason... plus depending on convos it allows them to see the many facets of each other... which is why there is a broad range of topics they speak on
Dajia Star it makes sense but this is pre recorded
@Javy 22
😅😅😅
Loving Amanda on the show , she’s a great addition . Not afraid to voice her opinions & says it how it is 🙌🏽
negative
shes everything the show was missing
Queen Butterfly You’re that racist troll , go away
the only two black women (NOT mixed) are the MOST educated and then theres an asian and latina and childhood star that have a high school education I think. sad.
@@legallycurvy Tamera has a bachelor's in psychology
Jeannie is one of the most important voices at the table for me. I’m so happy to see a woman from Asian Culture able to talk about Asian issues and make the talk relatable to all cultures with all the voices at the table. With that being said, I’ve had long talks with my mom on how she got to America and why she is where she is now. She went through so many hardships and later had to do it all by herself with two kids. I’m so proud of her. The hustle is real for Asian immigrants.
Yes, so true!!! I helped a female friend with her interview, she was the most prepared contender for the manager position, and she was so hesitant to “brag” about her accomplishments as a sales person. I told her to talk numbers up front, because numbers rarely lie. She was confident, she was just too afraid to brag about herself, but she was a beast in sales, she deserved the position. Spoiler alert: she got the job!!!!
Jeanie looks so vibrant, young, & healthy. I need to start taking care of myself the way she does. 👏 Gorgeous lady.
I feel the same.. like do I need a face mask and run today? Damn she’s FINE
@@luluseatowngetdown6251 It's almost hard to believe she doesn't get any work done... Like I don't know anyone in my real like (including the super healthy ones) that are her age & so we'll preserved. They are all gorgeous.
@@chinnjk I feel like that happens a lot with Asian people. They always look younger than they really are.
@@kaym.2854 Yes I am asian. My mother looked young and still looks amazing for her age. That being said, I don't know any Asian or any human being who looks as well preserved as her at her age. (not implying she is old but I'm sure you get what I'm saying)
Everyone is looking so beautiful wow 😍😍
Not Amanda. She's disgusting no matter what she does with herself..
Agreed :))
@@justinmcclung6030 Amanda looks stunning here. You must be looking in the mirror
Justin McClung Stop being hater.
Justin McClung and that energy you just put out was disgusting. God bless you.
Jeannie looks so young and beautiful
She's been looking younger, brighter and more in tune with herself ever since the divorce
ME what are you even talking about 😂😂😂
ME no. Go away and don’t tell me what to do
you should see her old face on season 1, thats surgery....
Baby is over 40 looking in her 20s.
Yesssss to what Tamera mentioned about people who BRAG CONSTANTLY are the ones who are hiding their own insecurities. I had this friend I knew since middle school we lost in touch then years late she followed me on fb. Well I started to noticed all she ever did was literally post about her car materialistic stuff. I had to unfollow her bc it was just to much. I can see she hadn't changed.... she was still out there bragging.
Not only that, they often are the ones who have accomplished the least.
I have a girls group chat and we help and support each other all the time. We literally talk to each other every single day. I appreciate and so grateful for the close group of girls in my circle. 💖
Everyone looks amazing! I couldn't even stay focused on the conversation because I'm just noticing all the details of everyone's look 😂 Whoever is styling y'all right now, ladies, keep them forever!
Especially minority women because the percentage of being looked over or facing discrimination is higher.
If you have a victim mentality maybe😂
Naomi Catherine whenever a valid point is made about racial issues there’s always that one person who talks about victim mentality to simply deflect 🖕🏽🖕🏽🖕🏽
Exactly
Mr. 215 not all Americans are treated the same there’s a thing called racism and it’s prevalent in America
@@naomicatherine1245 This is a bigger scale I'm speaking of not the couple of people you have come across. Lol. It dont taken rocket science to know this goes on and it's been a fight going back in history. Plus from the look of your response, you obviously cant relate to the struggle which dont qualify you to make such an immature remark on the behalf of the minority population.
I’m not a person that tends to brag because I’m a strong believer of the eye and that people can send you bad vibes through their jealousy
I can't lie Amanda grew on me, I wasn't sure about because of what she posted on IG about the incarcerated but she is actually aight
what did she say girl?
@@JNgo303 so having strong opinions = bitter? Okay
Shes a sweetheart under that tough exterior. I see through her and admire her persona 100%. I just wish she would not come off as rude and entitled at times since that can be someones first impression of her
Justinah “incarcerated” you mean cr!m!nals? Why do black people act like these folk just got locked up for no reason 😂
O W sis 😭😭some are not really criminals
Amanda is changing and evolving into a better mature person. I couldn't stand her at first but I can tell she's been working on herself and I appreciate that. Idk if her therapist has a lot to do with it but she's starting to open up and is becoming a lil more humble.
You are incredibly condescending.
@@hwwh8145 explain
She has always been a pleasant person- she just feels strongly about race and is an activist. If anything the show’s producers are the ones who are at fault because they come up with the topics and as soon as Amanda was brought to the show they made a lot of topics about race. She spoke on it (which they wanted her to do because that’s what they hired her for) and it came across like Amanda was turning The Real into The View when really she was just talking about what they were told to talk about . When they saw how much backlash they were getting they decided to tone the topics down. She has 1 particular area of expertise which is race - she’s passionate about it (and she should be because race & income control A LOT of what happens in this country) but other than that she is very chill
I don’t think ppl realized she is an activist but anyone who is familiar with her knew that already and the producers knew it. She is the same person - she is only strongly opinionated on race because that is her area of expertise. the producers are just giving them lighter topics to discuss for now because fans of this show apparently like light hearted conversation rather than more critical thinking topics
@@livelaughlove9754 Actually, she has said really stupid things about race in the past and even defended Jesse Smollett by calling what he did as something noble. There's a difference between being an strong mature activist and someone who is bitter that has racist tendencies. Martin Luther King was a strong powerful activist because he fought for justice in a peaceful manner.
Damn!!!Jeannie girl you always got some bom unique hairstyles...love it💗💗💗💗
Tam is always so cute. Without showing everything. Without being overly sexualized. Without being overly made up with a ton of weave and all that fake stuff.
Just gorgeous for no darn reason.
Get em girl!
I believe women should brag more especially black women. Black women are out here doing amazing and extraordinary things which I feel we don’t celebrate them enough. Take Amanda for example from her podcast, her book, her role on insecure, her hbo comedy special and her live show Smart, Funny & Black she’s truly a phenomenal woman.
Thank you Tamera for saying that “those that brag the most may be hiding insecurities” because how men and women look at the situations will still be different (from a female panel). I say this know that if a parent says “my child is can do this and is the best [insert area]” both men and women would be guilt of bragging or acknowledging pending how you see the situation.
I’m going to be honest I don’t brag I actually play down my accomplishments bc that’s the fastest way to gain haters. Even the ppl you talk to everyday single day can hate on you bc you’re doing a good job and are getting rewarded for it. So you have to be careful with bragging.
Do NOT diminish your accomplishments for anyone ever. You don't have to boast, but you do need to let your shine show..trust me they are going to hate either way, don't join the game...🥂to you
Ya Ya you’re right. Thank you
@@babygirl4949 Absolutely ma'am. You must cherish yourself. You are someone's super hero, even if it's your own. Be the best you and don't accept anything less than you're worth. If no one else is in your corner I am...💕
Ya Ya wow never thought I’d get words of encouragement from UA-cam. Thanks for that I appreciate it.
@@babygirl4949 😉
Yes Loni and Adrienne boost each other up at women 🙌🏾
I would’ve loved to hear more of Loni’s advice on bragging in the workplace without her being cut off. The other part of the discussion was more shallow and more people can relate to experiences particularly in the workplace.
I was taught not to brag. It’s rude. Brag is such a negative expression. Not cute. ANDDDD SOME people at this table humble-brag to the max.
Let them people Brag. If you don't like it remove yourself. You got a Honda civic 97 and it's 2020, but you got a car bragggg. People be to pressed nowadays
Tameras' and Andriens' point resonated with me more.. esp with reading a spiritual enlightening book... bragging is a way of feeding the ego. People wonder how and why egos get so big.. well thats the desire to continuously want more, aka never being enough.. so if u feel the need to constantly achieve something to then go down go down a list.. its the exact opposite of secure. And it doesnt just stop there. People begin to believe they can do anything and say whatever they want and get away with it because of those same achievements. All that is, is a form of "I" .
Adrienne's makeup is AMAZING !
I don't understand why there saying bragging and being boastful is two different when it means the EXACT same thing. Both are not positive, what is positive is to let the people around know what you can bring to the table in respects to your accomplishments. Bragging can be annoying so when talking about your accomplishments there should be a reason which relates to the conversation at hand.
Really good conversation, Ladies. Kudos! Adrienne made some really great points which were reiterated by Tamera. I also liked all the other takes. I found it interesting what Jeannie shared about Asian culture. Thank goodness for the diversity on this show and all the perspectives it affords us all.
Diabbie What a lovely comment!
I think the intentions of why you’re saying certain things determines whether it’s bragging or just wanting to let people know. And people who listen will be able to know.
1:44 lmao when Adrienne mentions Amanda's face (not in a mean way) but it's so funny because her face is always that way every show on any little thing she doesn't like at any little second.
There's a difference between bragging about what you have, and/or making it known what you have accomplished.
Yes, Jeannie! I had to ask my paternal grandparents about my Jamaican and Indian heritage to know more about where I come from. They don't really say anything unless you ask. What did I find:
I found my great-grandfather was white and Irish on my grandfather's side, and my great-grandmother was Syrian on my grandmother's side.
Amanda’s earrings!!! And Jeannie looks gorrrrgeous 😍😍😍 and Jeannies commentary is SO important for her people. She should get just as much praise as Amanda for speaking up for her people
Amanda earnings today and blazer
javi ruiz i think she meant earrings....
naniwashere1 damn word check changed it. Earrings*
javi ruiz great honeybun
Kelsey Kel you know you can just edit your comment lol
javi ruiz np cinnamonswirl
Amanda looks beautiful 🔥🔥
I need Amanda's earrings 🤩
The first one in a while that I actually saw live! This quarantine has me at home to watch the Real episodes when they come on TV 😂
Me too
It depends on who's in the room. If it's a room full of egotistical men or women, you may be forced to brag. But it's not about bragging. It's about strategy. But to successfully execute your strategy, you have to be patient and humble. Ahhh.
I let the big mouths do their all talk first ( that may take forever. ) I wait for for the perfect moment to drop the big verse. It has to be bigger than the big mouth's, or else you'll fall harder than a mic drop in a rap battle. Be humble.
Yes. Sometimes It's as simple as dropping statements like, "Last week, I told you all..." then remind them what you contributed LAST time, and then show them how you've amped up during the week. Now you've put the bigwigs on notice and laid out for them what your contributions are and what more you're about to bring without being rude or condescending or off-putting.
Yessss Loni, we KNOW you are an Engineer. You have told us 2,384,571,878 eleven times. 🙃
LA nothing wrong with her being proud of her accomplishment ... she worked hard for that title....She should wear it proud ✊🏽
What type of engineer was she?
Nunny 5 being proud and reminding viewers every episode are two completely different things. Does Tam tell us about her Psychology degree each episode? Does Adrienne tell us how many albums she sold with 3LW every episode? No!
We. Know. Loni. It’s old. She does it at least 4 episodes out of 5 each week. If they made a video montage, you wouldn’t believe it. Keep your fist pumps and do a hand clap for the truth. 👏🏾
Jenn electrical engineering.
LA well... I guess I’m one of those fans that it doesn’t bother....🤷🏽♀️ Peace and Love✌🏽❤️
A lot of people like to think that they're "humbly talking about their accomplishments" as a way to justify bragging. Unless you're inspiring people, trying to elevate your career, or talking to your friends/family, you are bragging. They don't realize that other people are just as self-centered as them and really don't give a damn about hearing what others accomplished nor boosting someone's ego. Or maybe that's just me.
@Jeannie is always so on point with her reasoning and am truly here for it.
Those earrings 🤩
🔥🔥🔥🔥
I feel like it's not only about what you say but, HOW YOU SAY IT. THAT ON IT'S OWN SAYS A LOT.
“Sometimes people who BRAGGG about everything, that’s excessive pride, they’re actually hiding insecurities.” - Tam
Yes. Reminds me of Loni always yelling about, “I’m an ENGINEER!”
LA tam is a jealous person, everything has to be about her, I can’t stand her.. Loni went to school to become an ingineer so what if she wants to Bragg about it.
Princess Love Tamera has nothing to be jealous about sweetheart. Tam went to one of the most prestigious universities in the country, Pepperdine University, but she just doesn’t have to remind us about it every episode like Loni does. That’s all I’m saying. She’s intelligent. Kind. Humble. All those things. She isn’t jealous at all.
Nobody:
Absolutely no one:
Loni: I am an engineer. WE KNOW LONI
Bragging ain't cute.. Your success and humbleness will speak for yourself.
Both men and women need to LEARN what humility means, and humility needs to be practised by BOTH
Dat gurl iz hea THIS.
They have to do more topics with better substance. This is so High School. Who the hell comes up with this?
Meanwhile Corona about to take everyone out of here, but we worried about someone bragging? Let them do
them, actions speak louder than any words can. If you worried about someone bragging, you may be the insecure
person.
@@emanualcarr7408 tbh i agree with you. The content lately just makes me role my eyes and i just watch out of habit now. There doesn't seem to be much of anything they speak about it's like "men do it why can't we" I'm all for equality and all that but just because men jump off a bridge should we do it as will. Do better guys
They touched on a lot of the nuances. It is important to have pride in your accomplishments and to advocate for yourself, but without crossing over into arrogance or boastfulness. Men go too far one way, women too far the other.
Let us not forget the part where people with low self esteem ( which is far more common than you think) will assume arrogance when in reality you are not. Low self esteem will make you hypersensitive and irrational.
Amanda is starting to fit in the show now at first I felt she was too uptight, stuck up and aggressive
0h_Suziee_ Q never thought she was either of those things , whenever a black woman is out spoken she is quick to get labelled as uptight , aggressive and stuck up 😪
Hans Jae this has nothing to do with her being black if she was Latina I would of thought the same... I’m just expressing how I feel she seemed to aggressive and uptight she’s starting to loosen up
0h_Suziee_ Q race definitely plays a factor , whenever a black woman is outspoken people don’t like it . She’s not aggressive she’s just passionate . I agree that she’s loosened up more
@@Samirahsworld1
Exactly
I did this very thing a couple of hours ago. I'm a female gamer and I'm pretty good at it but downplay it alot sometimes. Great discussion ladies
I love Adrienne shes so child like yet a real grown bussiness woman...women like this are so full of life you can never grow old with them around....long life to you my cheetah mamacita'.
I keep all accomplishments to myself because people are jealous of me for no reason. Sometimes I've never done anything to anyone and they dislike me. Guess I must be perfect?!
Confidence over Arrogance all day bragging means hiding insecurities that's deep
My daily struggle as a female engineer, I'll use your advice Loni💕
Tam’s hair always, ALWAYS gives me life. She glows. ❤️
I'm honestly sick of these articles and think pieces telling women to be more this and more that...
What Amanda said, maybe men should just do less rather than women doing more.
Amanda made the best point.... "Women shouldn't do more of that, mean should do less of it."
Tamera loves to say the word insecurity so much - funny cause she’s the most insecure one on the table.
You two are the definition of insecure.
Why is it wrong for to say she's sexy or convince herself she is? That's the start of confidence!
Mina Sweeting I didn’t say there was anything wrong with that. Didn’t agree with the response.
@@pinkygirlXOX92 as if you’ve never been insecure like who are you to judge
CONFIDENCE IS KEY but the Real is contributing to the uneducation of America. BRAGGING AND BOASTING ARE SYNONYMS.
jeannie's pony tail tho
Let your accomplishments be the bragging. It'll speak for itself.
JEANNIE LOOKS AMAZING OMG! 😍😻😲
Don’t boast or brag, state and humbleness speaks louder than conceitedness. 🎯❤️
Yes girls! Loni I loved how you said we need to brag more on our girls too! 100!
Yeeeeeeeessss let's support each other... We are so much better lifting each other up than holding each other down.
When WOMEN BRAG I feel VERY INSPIRED that a NEW CHALLENGER well what I mean is that I I know what you can do so then I can go BEYOND
You should make that into a segment. Women sending in another woman’s accomplishments!!
It would really encourage more women to do it
Those earrings on Amanda are bomb.
Loni is an engineer?? Omg haven’t heard that before 🙄
Don’t be a hater all your life it’s not cute🙄❤️
I don't brag and I don't even talk about my accomplishments with confidence, but I had to learn to talk about them because people weren't taking me seriously in the workplace. I would go pitch my ideas to producers and they'd be like "???" because I look 16 years old. So I started going "Hi, I've been doing this for X years, I won This Award, I got This Degree and this is my project..." and THEN they'd listen and become interested. So I don't believe you should brag, but women should definitely lose their fear of openly celebrating their accomplishments with confidence.
I love Amanda, her smiles warm my heart ❤️
I loved this segment , hey the real U should do more segments on women empowerment and segments on how to uplift and encourage eachother more . I really like seeing this 😊💪🏼💕
Amanda’s outfit tho🔥
Jeannnie, thank you for making space for FIRST GENERATION KIDS WE LOVE YOU FOR IT THANKS BOO
I can’t wait to show my daughter someday these women and how well they use their voice to empower each other
No one:
Absolutely No one:
Loni: i WaS aN eNgInEeEr
I Love Jeannie's outfit and Amanda's earrings!
This is off topic but how is the Real still able to film with a full audience as this corona virus is going around? Genuinely asking.
"confidence - food of the wiseman, liquor of the fool."
Jeanie looking bomb
Moral of the story: Brag on others, not yourself! But, its also ok to recognise your achievements & want others to brag on you! You see, it comes around full circle! 🤷🏽♀️🤗
THIS WAS TAPED ON JANUARY 6TH 2020... so this is new but I
This is a pretaped episode !!!! You’re welcome
Myronn Coleman How do you know this?
Tamera looks amaaaaaaaazing😊
What happened to Tamera? She has been very quiet and reserved lately, hopefully everything going well with her.
bsbgirl85 what are you even talking about? She’s mostly out because her kids probably get sick
Loni's make up is fantastic! Keep up the good look!
If u brag, I feel like you gotta over exaggerate your actions and make it funny or else people will just side eye you like. Okay, and?
Ooh my goodness Jeannie hair looks bomb!!!!😍😍😍
YOU CAN CELEBRATE OR BRAG ABOUT YOU ACCOMPLISHMENTS. THAT WON'T GET YOU A PROMOTION OR RAISE. MEN SAY SHOW ME THE MONEY THEN I'LL DO IT. WE GO AND DO IT THINKING IT'LL GET US A PROMOTION OR RAISE. ITS MANAGEMENTS JOB TO GET YOU TO WORK AS MUCH YOU CAN FOR AS LITTLE AS THEY CAN. WE FEED RIGHT INTO POVERTY...UNFORTUNATELY
Thank you, please do more shows on topis like this! Much better than talking about hiccups
Intellectual topics as these are the real conversations I appreciate❣
Amanda and Loni brag every two seconds tho😂
@javi ruiz the twinks talking about women again.
There is nothing wrong with bragging. When you work your ass off for something you are proud of it.
Bragging is a negative action. You should always be proud of yourself, celebrate your accomplishments and be your biggest advocate.