I Found A Way To Help INTROVERTS... (How To Change)
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- Опубліковано 4 бер 2024
- 95% of introverts hide their confidence... This live demonstration will teach you how to overcome this!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
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I Found A Way To Help INTROVERTS... (How To Change)
How to be confident in any situation! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to stop caring about what others think about you... This will allow you to feel confident and be confident in any social situation, and how to stop being introverted.
Discover how to be confident in any social situation, how to be confident around people and how to be grounded during social interactions!
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When will you be back in Seattle?! I desperately need to attend one of your events!!!!!!
Massive respect to the guy on stage! But also massive respect to Julien, I’m kinda tearing up right now. He believes in people so much even when they don’t believe in themselves.
guy that was on the stage, if you are reading this, i feel you man, im rooting for you and thanks a lot for doing it
I normally don't leave comments on youtube due to the same phobia that this guy has, fear of people judging me, embarrassed about being my authentic self, but after watching this I decided to post this comment becuase Julien has inspired me and given me courage. I can't imagine how I would be if I was on stage in front of those people, but I think sometimes it just takes a bit of courage to be ourselves.
I mean you're literally behind walls and walls of the internet.. nothing to be scared about
We all start somewhere. One step at a time. Keep it up, stranger-friend :)
May The likes on your comment inspire. 🥳
Take them as a win.
You can do great things.
Believe it!
Everyone has different fears. If you're extremely shy like this guy in the vid and you normally don't comment because of it then congratulations for taking a step in overcoming your fear. It may seem like a small or normal choice or decision but it's not when it's something that genuinely terrifies you so good work
btw im also scared of people judging me, or being embarassed, that's why im watching this video, im 25
@@Hi_how_r_u_ Hey thanks for the reply! I'm glad to hear that you are watching Julien's videos to help with your fear of being judged. I used to think that I was an introvert but I realized that I am actually just an extrovert with a lot of social anxiety.
Massive respect for real! I probably would've shutdown & knew later what I should've said. I hope he can get out of his shell & showcase who he truly is.
Yes, MASSIVE respect to him! Takes a lot of courage and willingness! 🔥👊
@@JulienHimselfI know it’s being anxious but sometimes when a public place gets busy like a restaurant my hands would sometimes shake lol
I can remember feeling like this man. Ive come a long way and it can be done. I can dance with and talk to anyone and speak in public. But i remember my heart beating out of my chest in school if the teacher called on me or aftaid to raise my hand even if i knew the answer and no one else did. I've definitely experienced trauma and thats probably what started it. But thats in the past now and life goes on. Gotta either sit down and accept the lose or stay up on stage fighting for yourself until you can't fight anymore.
Glad you were able to overcome this. Congrats on your progress! 🙌
Sometimes people seem to freeze because they are waiting for a “permission” from the outside world. Growth came when J realized that I don’t need permissions.
Am proud of him. Self judging is what eats me up when I feel embarrassed than I sink to self hate and wishing I should not be alive among the beatiful people around me which makes me happier been alone at the corner watching people having fun
Hope you find hope, support and are able to discover and hopefully resolve some of what's keeping you down.
I wouldve honestly started crying. Feeling ashamed and judged for not being able to articulate or do "whats expected" of me.
As someone who was always the new, weird kid (many school changes/moves) i became quiet and introverted.
As i got older i learned to come across as confident and tried to showy authenticity but was constantly "validated" that people didnt like that person and would feel judged, critisised and my people pleasing nature would often be taken advantage of.
Now im trying to be ok with my authenticity, regardless yet, still have few friends or people that get me. Its so tempting to just retreat back in my shell because it feels I will never make friends no matter whether im masking or authentic. This makes socialising, workplaces etc feel overwhelming - im so used to being judged and found lacking that I cant trust others or their intentions anymore.
I can relate to this so much , thanks for articulating it so well 😅
Humans cant be trusted.lits of them say they trying to help you.but they just want a payday...like this youtuber is.embarrassing somebody infront of a crowd doesnt help.
I loved how the audience started engaging him so he felt comfortable opening up. I am learning so much from you. My bar is so high - I need a sledgehammer to lower it!
How about coopulation?
I have been scared of rejection and what people think of me my whole life. I don’t care anymore I embrace people judging me.
This was probably the greatest video about anxiety. We overthink , and we don’t feel our emotions. You cant express without emotion. Go cry.
This is also for me as well, I repress emotions/opinions , not this bad but I do . We dont know how to live with who we are shamelessly.
Also julian, you are amazing. Truly a master class. Just watching you do whatever you want and behaving how you want is the model for letting go and living. No hesitation, just whatever comes. This is why mental health is so important. It’s everything.
Wow that was rough but beautiful at the same time. Massive respect to the teacher, student and the class. You all have so much love and patience. This, while not necessarily was exciting or entertaining, the process was needed to be worked through; not just for the student up in the front. Great work everyone!
Thank you! And yes, MASSIVE respect to him! 🔥💪
Feeling judged is absolute reason why i often being here 😅
You can't feel judged if you aren't judging your self.
@@ojjooooooso how exactly does that help
Find the table holding the belief of caring about what others think. Why do you care? Find the reasons and knock them down. Make a list. Whenever you encounter thoughts you recognise of caring what others think, read the list of reasons. That'll knock your table out and you can continue with your progress.
correct your grammar ma boi.
@@ragnifier cmiiw then
Call me a cynical bastard but Julian should give these anxious types more room to express themselves when they're on-stage. He quite often interrupts them and touches them; these are kind of demonstrations of Julian's higher status, and the anxious person's lower status.
He should try his best to put himself on the same status level as the anxious person on stage. It would help them open up much more.
Reminds me of snake oil salesman
I agree as it can be pretty difficult for a shy person to keep up with non socially anxious person.
Julien you're so special bro 😂😂 I love you
I'm glad my content resonates with you! 🙏🙏
i feel for this guy so hard :( I still have this part of me that feels a lot like him (introverted, scared to say the wrong thing, etc) but watching him squirm up there under the horrifying pressure he was put under helped me realize just how much progress I've made in terms of honoring how my inner child feels and wants to express himself. Thank you for the work you do julien your videos help me to feel like I'm on a good track on days when I start to doubt myself!
Was thinking the same! It was painful to watch how uncomfortable and closed off he was knowing I have felt like that before and have made progress.
I’m terrified just watching this
Well done i'm so proud of him pullin through, this video probably got recommended on YT i'm also an introvert and so shy for 28 years now. Tnx 4 helping him, being shy can make your life a living hell like you don't belong. I managed to overcome my fear of being shy just by being angry it took me a long time but it change my life drastically. Also i call it: "THE HULK EFFECT"
This resonated with me. I really know what that feeling of being blocked is like. I'm grateful for the opportunity to see it from the outside (huge respect and thanks to all participants in the video). And it's just this past year I'm beginning to relearn that you can create good things for yourself in life, better your situations. Instead of waiting, thinking that something outside of you will give permission or provide it for you or that you can "earn" it by suffering (which have been some of my misconceptions). When you listen to yourself, your needs, and care about yourself, the arena of possibilities changes. And also getting open to realizing that you might have been wrong. That the harsh judging voice inside have led you to believe a bunch of things on how the world works. Maybe you don't have to be all these additional things. You are okay. Period. Really. Life isn't meant to be struggle free however. But when you get on your own team, on your side, it can take away a lot of the suffering. Like Julian said with the cold showers. How it's about being okay with the feelings, the uncomfort. And the feelings that arises when we are challenged in other ways in our day to day lives. Knowing that our minds might be unkind to us in those moments. Trying to remember that we are worthy of love anyway, unconditionally.
What you're doing here man is incredible. It's helping so many people like myself. So thank youuuuu.
Some of us need this pressure. Face your fears people🥳🥳🥳
I absolutely love the full process of Julien getting the guy to being as comfortable as possible. Focus on it, its crazy.
I am just another person to tell Julien he's doing an amazing job. He is helping so many people. I want to be like him. Not on stages, but with the people around me
I can understand where he is coming from. APPLAUSE to you! From my experience back in the day, growing up in an Asian culture, in kindergarten and school Rules: No questions, no free speech. I feared kindergarten, a teacher once locked me in a dark room, because I was talking when I was not supposed to, or I giggled. And said if you are not sensible, crows will pick your eyes out. And other incident, my brother got caned, because he drank water from the fountain, when he wasn't allowed to. Glad we were able to move. Would have been more emotional damage.
As growing up in Indian culture , I could relate with those school rules and punishments, around 7 or 8 I was a free kid worrying about nothing but later changed school and the situation got me as a new kid in school , I felt like I don't belong here and stopped being the kid once I was and started to create the shell for survival, also the family culture and the way of parenting influenced me a lot to become a lot (like whenever I try new things they won't allow or makes me feel like am doing something wrong)...but as an adult i could figure out things and breaking the shell slowly
well, the reason is not "being an introvert" but still true for most of the introverts
excuses
@@user-xq7to1ht2m He's refering to introversion being a personality trait. Nothing unhealthy about being an introvert itself however most are more suseptible to low self esteem and social anxiety which is unhealthy and needs to be healed.
excuses@@amphy7591
julien your vids changed my life im very thankful
Damn Julien hats off to you and to this young gentleman, I hope he finds it within himself to open up and become his true MAR! Your patience and mastery of social cues and psychological thought patterns are something to be grateful for. These seminars spark something this generation is losing due to technological advancements and modern vices, so I thank you! 😛
You did it once you did it again. That is the perfect mantra to keep in your mind
Dude this became so heartwarming to me. Everyone there and the guy at the front and Julien. Damn. All of you. 💯. Respect.
Thank you! Exactly what i needed, especially today. The high bar was an eye-opener
Julien really knows what he is doing. Blows my mind.
It feels like that I was me when I was in school
Incredibly honest coaching. Julien has turned me into a big fan. This guy struggled. The way Julien wrapped this up at the end was beautiful.
This has been your best video so far
There's spiritual content and then there's this. Its just as important! If you can't be an open book you're never truly alive. Other people become your puppet master. Thanks Julien.
greatest julien video i ever seen! keep up the good work
Dude- this is Amazing. You are great at what you do
This coping exercise is really good, I personally would increase the dose a little, imagine that in the audience there were people who don't like me, or even people who hurt me in the past. I think that imagining that situation would be an addition when it comes to delving deeper into our fears.
He often does this. Gets the audience to boo you while you sing or talk about a topic..
You are doing God's work out here bro appreciate you!
🙏🙏🙏
Those were my exact same sentiments
Thank you. This was great
This more or less was me as a teen. It sucks. I really wish him the best and hope he gets more help.
Julien coming to NJ/NY anytime soon these videos are amazing I feel like I been under a god dam rock I didn’t know you existed all this time!
Julien keeps it real af
This is incredible.
Amazing outfit as usual, you rock it man🔥🔥
17:30 best bit in your whole channel. Hands DOWN. The way you just screamed at him with passion and anger looks like it's from a movie. I too feel sorry for that guy because you really wanted to help him but he still couldn't really let loose.
Julien bro, you need to make some crazy ass merch. Let’s gooooooooooooooo
Julien, I would a huge amount for these videos. Thank you.
This is an AMAZING video, it's like he's talking to me
I think the biggest worry of mine is to come off as evil and unfriendly or selfish. I can be very blunt maybe even a pushover unintentionally and my voice - naturally - is very monotone most of the time. That's why I'm so scared to drop the front because I think I'm a bad person. (I've struggled making friends in Highschool - not so much in elementary school tho but kids always picked offense from me) But it's so exhausting trying to be friendly all the time and it feels fake but then on the other side no one wants to be around mood-killers. I'm just very moody and tired most times but maybe I'm autistic idk.. I went to a therapist when I was a teen because of selective mutism and depression but never got diagnosed for autism. I'm so lost, and I think I'm just an evil person who doesn't really care a lot about others expect for my family. I was very emotional as a child (my mom would say I'm too sensitive) and I would cry for hours very often and I've always had this anger inside of me, hated strangers but I could never figure out why? Can anyone relate?
Hey Sophie
I can definitely relate to some it, and just wanted to tell you
Terrible people dont care about being terrible people. The fact that you care is a good sign, so dont be so hard on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, certainly i have, but mistakes educate you on what not to do in the future
Also the biggest help i have ever met, was my psychotherapist. Psychology fucking sucks, but psychotherapist are the shit, and it will eventually help you to become less depressed and repressed, and it will make social life easier to navigate
Also, dont be someone else because people might not like the depressed you, just honor yourself and try to love yourself more day by day
And bless you for trying ❤
Be who you really are. I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who i am not. Kurt Cobain. I had the same issue. I was often nice and didnt say what i wanted cause i thought that nobody will likes me. It was hard to accept that i am little bit asshole but thats me althought i know who I am and I love myself.
I can relate. Which is why I know you're not evil. People who do evil are OK with doing it & tend to justify themselves in what they do. You don't seem to like this aspect about yourself, which is telling me you're not justifying it. If I had to guess I would say you're good at noticing hypocrisy in people & because the vast majority of people are hypocrites you don't really have an interest in most people which is what you mean when you say you don't care about other people outside of your family. Yet, you still have a desire to connect with people, or else you wouldn't be here watching this video. Which is another sign as to why you're not evil. Also, if you truly hated strangers. You wouldn't be asking strangers on the internet if they can relate to you. Most likely, your seemingly disdain for strangers is a coping mechanism. You reject them before they can reject you. You mentioned you were picked on... that means you've seen just how ugly people can be, and yet you haven't given up on being able to connect with others. You're way more kind than you give yourself credit. If I can see it in just the little bit of text you've written here, then have faith that others will see it & gravitate toward you when you give yourself the freedom to be yourself a bit more.
The fact you are so thoughtful and want to be a good person means you are a good person. You need to be your own best friend. Not everyone will like you in this world. I totally relate to your feelings though,
00:00 🗣 Understand the origins of shyness to overcome it effectively.
03:41 🧠 Embrace discomfort to expand your comfort zone and build confidence.
07:56 📣 Practice vocal expression to unleash your true potential.
10:49 🗣 Choose your level of expression, whether quiet or loud, but be authentic.
12:20 🔄 True change happens gradually and becomes a natural part of you.
16:44 💬 Authenticity trumps perfection; express yourself genuinely without overthinking.
20:41 🎨 Tap into your inner child's creativity and expressiveness for authenticity.
25:12 🗣 Surrendering and speaking the truth is crucial to overcome internal resistance.
26:51 🚀 Stepping into your power involves being authentic and expressing yourself genuinely.
30:58 💡 Lowering the bar for yourself allows more genuine expression and confidence.
43:53 🎉 Celebrate personal growth and victories, no matter how small, to maintain motivation.
50:08 👏 Recognize and appreciate your own journey and progress, as it inspires others and creates a positive impact.
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@@JulienHimself I agree
Amazing value in this video
Thank you!
Watching this made me soo anxious for him.
Haven't watched it yet, but thank you Julien for the 50 minute video!! 😊
You're welcome! Be sure to report back with your top takeaway from the video! 👌
When will you be back in Seattle?! I'm so disappointed that I missed you! I need this SOOOO much!
oh man. tears...laughter...soul...
This was really hard to watch, because I've related too much. I've almost closed the video several times
I'm used to very fast almost unconscious masking, to put out what I think I supposed to put out. And if there are a lot of strangers who I cannot read in milliseconds I simply shut down.
That was very powerful and great. Thank you!
20:19 🤣Julien's smile shows how true that really is
Go Julian Go!
That was really good to watch and i really can compare to him!
really great job there my guy
I looooove this, just amazing
I gotta wonder, when did everybody get so quiet and nervous? I mean there’s no way there were this many people so nervous back in the day
Damn I really thought Julien were about to beat him up 17:30 😅
😂
Massive respect
Keep trying
There is no way but to reach ❤
I literally want the same for myself and wonder whhy I’m not able to do it but this video gave good pointers thanks
Julien you are the best , a master ❤
17:41 i'd pay someone to talk to me like this when i'm nervous in public..
I used to be this way when I was a kid. Very timid, quiet, meek child and stuff, not always speaking loud, I had this quiet voice tone😅people always admired but found awkward and weird! Yeah 😊🔥🔥
I was like this person but i changed now alittle bit although i am still a shy person, and usually when i am with some person i don't feel comfortable with i think alit about what should i say .. i am still on my journey to accept me totally and love me ... Cheer up ❤❤
I love you julien
I seriously can not wait till the day I can take one of Julian's courses. I absorb everything I can from watching his videos. I appreciate all ive learned coz I definitely have learned some things about myself. I started journeling and I don't do it that often but when I do, do it, I write pages and pages until my hand hurts and I have to stop haha. But I get what things I need to do. Ie. Letting go and so forth. But I'm not sure exactly how to do them. He doesn't really delv into the work of it enough for me to fully..like...get it haha. But I really try on my own but I feel like I take a baby step or two then hit a wall..if that makes sense. So ya...idk... I swear to god I will take at least one of his courses as soon as I'm able to. 🤞🤞😊
I feel for the guy that was called up in this video. He seems absolutely paralized. He's almost robotic. You can just feel how constrained he is. It's actually really palpable. That must have been incredibly difficult for him to go up there and do that. I hope someday, he's able to attain whatever it is he wants to within himself.
I've been following your teaching for a while now and they were really helpful and eye opening for a long time. But I started seeking the darkness bad. Seeking the darkness without the intent to shine a light on it is disruptive to say the least. I made the second biggest mistake of my life recently, arguably the biggest. And it was truly evil. It has been my intent to become aware of the darkest parts of myself to attempt to bring them to light. I wanted to be conscious of them so that when faced with situations I could remember the falsehood. But it didn't help. After telling myself things like it's terrible and disgusting eventually the temptation was too much and I acted impulsively, likely for the sake of pleasure. Moral of the story, being aware of your own darkness while you are in a weak state is a dangerous place to be in.. you should talk more about ways to change your identity and what to change it to. I thought acknowledging the darkness was seeking the light. But it was seeking the darkness all along. Sure you can let go of the darkness but it doesnt really matter if you dont replace it with light
I kinda went through something similar. I think we need to be kind to ourselves. Like Julian says sometimes: we are like the worst parents to ourselves/our inner childs. Down right abusive.
I hope you find a way to be kind to yourself. You deserve it.
Your past is the past. Can you let everything of that go? Can you accept what is? Is more of the type of self talk I'm currently experimenting on, inspired by Eckhart Tolle. Hope you find what works for you. Wish you all the best on your journey forward.
There is definitely the need for a different approach for different kinds of people on the variety of spectrums, I'd say Julien handled this curveball pretty well.
I imagine myself on that very stage shouting my ass off but then I remind myself of times when you’re that scared to speak through the microphone or publicly that it tightens everything in your ass and above that level. And I’m an English teacher and I have this problem when speaking in front of the whole school or at teachers’s meetings. Not so much as when I’m in the class surprisingly. I’m scared that I’ll forget what I say or say something very stupid or not suitable by mistake of if I became “me” me.
Keep trying. Connect with the aspect of you that still cares. Say no to the, 'no' part of you: worm tongue.
There's so much in you that wants to get out (of what's holding it back)
- notes of Julien
Thank you! Great advice, great part of the video
Heck, Ya, Julien, I frequently scream so loud I wake myself up in my night sleep life.
Why do i have a feeling that since some time in my life im just playing a role like this guy a character actually.
T’es un bon Julien, j’aimerais tellement participer à une sorte de thérapie de groupe comme tu les fais… Je serais incapable de faire comme ce mec mais j’essayerais, je le promets.
Cordialement
yeah i too filter a lot of things in my mind which i think are not good enough and its not healthy as i am suppressing my emotions and even if i know my full potential i am not able to unlock it...its soooo hard mannnn
TA: Celebrating the wins, Lower the Bar, keep trying, retune with the aspect of you that can
Practice Practice Practice 😊 😊
I think a lot of us do have some things starting from little to no memory as a toddler. I was already depressed with insomia at 5 so... :( idk, personally.
excuses
@@user-xq7to1ht2m brain chemistry.
You say excuses...I say reasons. Big difference. Why would I be here if I'm only making excuses? Buuut I'm likely wasting my time explaining this to you since you went out of your way to be insensitive. XD
@@AG-hx6qnyep, sounds rough dude, hope you are doing better now, and if not, in the future ❤
yo the bar shit really fucking resonates
I’m like him in some ways I don’t like be around people say I’m lame
rewind my life a little bit to my first time ever performing on stage FULL IMPROV with a random PAYING CROWD. The lights are fucking dim, you know the seats are totally filled with expecting strangers paying to get a fucking laugh. I'm side stage, and it's time to fucking go out. That was a defining moment of my life that changed my actual personality, because I went on stage and began doing somersaults, using full expressive physical ridiculous animal impressions, pretending to be a fictional character and literally doing somersaults on the stage. That single first time ever performing for a crowd of people changed me into somebody who fucking knows he can do it. That single pistol on my fucking belt may have been the single thing that allowed me to survive many countless situations and I will never EVER FUCKING FORGET THAT
Julien mentioned a "filtering mechanism" and shared that there is a bar in our heads. How do you eliminate and get rid of this filtering mechanism/REALLY "lower" the bar?
Actually it felt like the audience who finally pierced him through
I used to be like that just ordering pizza over the phone. When are you returning to North America/ Canada, Julien?
I'm doing LA and NYC this year! Here's my upcoming schedule: www.noanxietytour.com 👌
Mt. Rainer? This must have been shot in WA
My age is 21 and I'm from India. My father used to scold me on small - small things and compare me with other childrens who are doing great in there studies because of this i suffered a lot in school. Afraid of talking to people especially girls, afraid of people what they think about me, afraid of going to crowded place. Whenever i talk to anyone i speak quietly. I can't say anything in loud. I feel like why I'm different from others and i missed a lot of things.
You're still young brother. Just work on it
Time for some deep inner work and LETTING GO... Let me know if you'd like my help: application.julienhimself.com 🙏
Notification Squad!🔥🔥🔥
Booyah! 🔥🔥🔥
I literally am so damn depressed. I am here by myself and around no one but can't think of anything myself.
this was painful and profound. that was probably the scariest thing that poor guy had ever done. 🤮 And he needed it. Fantastic learning video 🙏
Start screaming dude!!!! I'm going out for a reward after i get this.
Oh man- watching this was torture in the beginning
Hey Julien maybe with these anxious types, you should sit down and coach from a more humble point of view because he’s obviously intimidated by your charisma. He kept looking to you for the answers.
@11:24 when he said "let me out" Immediately after, the song from Liv Sin was playing in my head. 🤣