I see guys like this in my office EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Bob: if you are reading this, based on what you said in this video, do NOT have any children with this woman. You have described a toxic situation that will eventually destroy you. Now, do the work and become the very best version of yourself. I have seen guys like you stay in bad marriages for 25, 30 years or longer, then regret it. Wishing you the strength to take action and have a much better life.
@@russellstephan6844 The main ingredient are dysfunctional families, not a single parent household. You can have two parents and be Abused as well (as in pernicious neglect 4xample) as this moves later on in life, the Abusive behavior feels just as familiar and therefore repeating it seems the doable fixing option. This defaulted either codependent style of thinking, or living your repetition compulsion inside relationships. That’s plain not working unhealthy stuff. Single parent says nothing about the quality of life, every orphan would be doomed this way. And so on. Just giving examples.
@@RN-gx7wt Single-parent households are the largest co-factor for all manner of social rot -- crime, violence, drug use, suicide, mental illness, teenage pregnancy, school drop out, prison, etc... Now, not everyone forgoing seatbelt use dies. But, out of those that die, nearly all are sans seatbelts... The men that don't succumb to the above? If they are weak of constitution, chances are they were raised as husband sons of single mothers.
@@russellstephan6844 You forgot the detail (low-income) poor neighbourhood. What’s their highest noted education value, It takes a village to raise a child, if that village is a punk ass neighbourhood you are probably right, but it still has more social factors to add towards value or not, so yea you can have that single mommy but if she lives in Beverly Hills, because her late successful husband died on the job, then what again>? Other ways her family of origin may be rich. Then what again? It maybe drugs anyhow. Because men miss their purpose for sure lately not getting any high education finishers. Family's may have uncles that are motivators for that same childhood that may simple reverse that outcome as well, if they are all poor than yea rest in pieces probably, suffering guaranteed.
1 of my friend, who’s Alpha but Blue Pilled (in a sense that he thinks men & women can purely be friends without copulative intentions) ALSO turned around and threw in the towel, BEFORE he proposed to his ex, and decided that he’s probably not gonna get married. He’s 41 today.
@@sdmfp333 he believed a bunch of lies and had to learn the hard way. If things had worked out differently for me I'd likely be in his shoes too. Scary stuff.
I laughed and was shocked at the same time when he said that 😂 Something has caused her to lose all respect for him. He needs to make some changes and after time she’ll fall in line, but a lot of arguments will have to happen to get there.
I hear it all the time, and it makes me sick. Guys asking permission to spend their own money, referring to her as "the boss", walking ten paces behind her while carrying her bags, etc...
@@qua7771 some guys in the Army refer to their wife as “Household 6” and it always makes me roll my eyes and sigh. This is a callsign, the “6” is always the commander. So if you’re the Spartans, the commander is called Spartan 6. Guardians? Commander is Guardian 6, etc. So when they call their wives Household 6 they are literally saying she’s the commander of the house.
@@adamantlyadam5201 I was in Navy aviation, so I'm not well versed in Army slang. I do know that military wives are legally given a shit ton of control, and can really throw service members under the bus. In Naval deployment you can't take your wife with you, so men figure things out pretty quick. Marriage is a PITA in the Navy, and the divorce rate is high. When I was single I constantly had married guys needing a place to crash till they worked things out with their wives. Most of them forgot how to have fun, and what their hobbies are. Let's face it. Despite the whole hero image, the military is full of betas. It's men carrying out orders, not forging their own path with few exceptions. The same can be said for police, and professional athletes. The system want's to keep us emasculated. It keeps us controllable. Men need to wake up.
@@thevegastan It was a beautiful thing to watch and hear. On display right there. it was also well done the way he didn't demean the kid, but kept improving him.
I used to date a chick for 2 years, and she was usually pretty cool to be around. Then we started to live together and had our first fights. She would become very agressive and call me coward, pussy, and disgusting man, just because I didnt want to fight with her and waited for her to cool off. Eventually I became tired of her insults and left for good.
@@sloanmagnum5009 hey! I left and she felt sorry 2 weeks later, and asked for apologies. Then for some days I considered accepting her back but decided not to.
There's nothing he can do. Its a matter if time she divorces him or leaves him for someone else. The only power he got now is to walk away from the relationship and end it before she ends it.
He CAN turn it around, but sadly it doesn't look like it's in his nature. You can't fake being a man that doesn't take shit, you have to actually BE that guy. He could become that guy over years, but I don't think that he has the will and resolve to do so. Also, he needs to be willing to take an L on this wife. I'm not suggesting that he file for divorce but he should let her know that he not putting up with her shit and will be taking lead from here on out. Let her make the decision to stay or go. If she stays, she will either be resentful and divorce later, OR she will be wetter than the rain forest for him because he stepped up to her. Either way, he will weed her out or make a diamond out of that lump of coal.
9:44 You’re not a high value man just because you have a nerd job where you can say “aErOsPaCe” over and over like it’s cool. Eventually people find out “I work in the aerospace industry” means “I push papers in the Lockheed HR department.” People who do cool jobs tell you what they do. People who have bullshit jobs tell you what “industry” they work in.
Wow...don't pass this one by folks. "You get the behavior that you tolerate" Once a pattern of disrespect is established - it is almost impossible to regain frame and the respect that is necessary for the relationship to thrive. DO NOT TOLERATE ANY DISRESPECT WHATSOEVER.
The look on Bob's face when Rich said his wife might see this video said one thing to me. He is not red pillled as much as he thinks he is. He looked terrified to me. Best of luck to Bob.
This is what always tripped me up in the past, I didn’t know what NOT to tolerate. It takes awhile but you need firm boundaries on people especially people close to you because they will destroy you before a stranger does.
As soon as your wife or girlfriend is not “allowing” something your relationship is over. Unless it comes to her body or sex there is no allowing or not allowing things.
@@Peteristrate That’s essentially what I’m speaking to is health issues. Once in a blue moon is fine if your wife is constantly not in the mood your relationship is also over.
@@tonyagos1172 nah bro you’re not seeing the same guy I am, she’ll leave him before he develops the balls to leave, hopefully his eyes are opened and he does the work
Thats the feeling I got as well. She'll beat him up a little, then blame him for it. If he's lucky his friends will do him a solid, and talk to him. If not, she could land him in jail and fuck up his career.
@@Giballi24 I doubt she will leave, because she relies on his income, and stable future. They probably have a home that she would never be able to afford. A leach can't live without a host. She would also have to explain to her friends, and family why she failed.
Its because we getting murdered in family court 90 percent of the time. We can't stick up for ourselves without the fear of getting financially ruined and being labeled an abuser.
His wife slams doors and calls him names? Sounds like an abusive relationship to me. Imagine if they had kids together. Their kids would grow up A) witnessing the mom browbeating the dad. B) not having any respect for their father. He said that he runs the household = he pays for everything, and she uses her money to pay off her student loans. I hope that he didn't make this video just so that his wife will see it. (Talking to wife...) "See? Read all of these comments! Everybody agrees with me and disagrees with you!" He needs to... 1) File for divorce 2) Hit the gym 3) Change his wardrobe If you're reading this, dude, best of luck!
@Hawaii 4-0 It is abuse. Women can't fuck with you physically so they try to psychologically and emotionally stress you out. The guy makes 90K a year, I have no idea why he's allowing this in his home.
And lose the silly caps (and graphic T-shirts) when you go on dates. If you want to wear it to the beach or mowing the grass, then fine. But you , and men in general , need to improve your style.
I can't stress this enough, being and looking "alpha" is not your clothes, beard or anything else, but it helps. It's your stare, your energy, tone of voice, mentality, determination. If you slap all "alpha things" on this man, he would still look like pre adolescent guy .
Thats a damm good point. I know being "big" and wearing the right clothes helps a lot but they only suggest a person is an Alpha. There are guys who are swole and look just right, but are blue pill and / or have the wrong attitude who don't do well. My dad is friends with Ed Asner (the actor) and they used to hang out a lot. Let me tell you guys something. That man was short, bald and fat when I knew him. And I swear to God, I saw him pull more pu$$y than a toilet seat. I know he is an A-List celebrity but even still. I've seen normal / non famous / non rich guys who were UGLY and also guys who were short do really well with women too. It's all in the attitude.
Yep, but he has good frame. He has decent job. He is slim, he can hit the gym and build good body. He is young, his personality can change around 35 if he starts working on that. He will never be "alpha", but he can be a man with dignity. Not a pushover.
This is one area where I disagree with Rich. I'm old, bald, fat, and out of shape. But this in no way makes me a beta. I still stand my ground and don't take any guff off them. If I was with this woman it would be over the first time she called me a name. I respect them and I respect myself. If they think they can mistreat me because of my physical deformities, they're sadly mistaken.
Never ask your wife for permission and ALWAYS call her out (and refuse her) when she tries to boss you around. That's the only way to preserve your marriage.
I have been in this exact situation for a couple years now. My wife is constantly complaining, criticizing me and being bitchy. I constantly call her out on her behavior and she will try to punish me by withholding sex and just giving me attitude in general. I just want to see our kids every day instead of part time. Marrying her has been a massive mistake but I do not ever bend to her.
This one is simple. She's lost respect for him and every little thing bothers her because of that. She needs to make up for the lack of masculinity from him which naturally causes her to nag.
Problem is she isn’t looking at herself in the mirror. Biggest thing about women these days is the OVER inflated sense of thinking they’re better than they are
@@cdorothy444 Yeah that is a weird way to place it on the guy. Very very common attitude. Think about it. If a male abuser abuses a gentle man, who is at fault? The abuser. There are even laws written about it. There are whole professions in security, in the police, and in law, built around dealing with such a situation. But when that abuser is a woman, the gentle man should have been more tough and the abused 'lacks masculinity'? This does not make sense. When a woman is involved it goes back to the law of the jungle? This is very stupid and will not do.
Rich is such a large human being. Dresses this poor guy down and then reaches down to help him up. Every reason to be frustrated with this caller but maintains his core. Keep going brother.
this guy is really trying to stand up for himself and i respect that. i know it's hard. advice: don't argue or discuss with her. listen to her opinion(because she may be right), and then make your decision and say no....this is what i will do. THAT'S IT....and continue with your day. take care guys....lol
Some wmn can't respect masculine and paternal authority (they only respect their own fear). Usually these are wmn who never learned to respect men from their mothers, because their mothers taught them to disrespect everything, and only respected their own fear too. If 'no' doesn't work: Leave Induce fear of loss (by openly fking its friends/family) Beat it black and blue One of these will. Though it's obviously best to just leave. The latter two require man to comprimise his own boundaries, and that's a dangerous course of action, just for the sake of, 'asserting boundaries' for a broken/faulty wmn. Leaving should be the defacto for the healthy man. (her disorder is identified, his options healthy resolution options/choices exhausted)
He's not really standing up for himself. He's validating what he already knows. His wife is walking all over him. He makes substantially more than she does, in a career with a future, and retirement benefits. She has abusive feminist control issues. When he walks away, she's fucked. They probably live in a house she couldn't afford otherwise. Not everyone has a strong personality to deal with female drama.
@@jrddoubleu514 my man you are spitting facts, I have exhausted all my options, playing nice is no more the case, she should see the monster , have been warning her
@@AdventuresOfDroggo-n-Human Remember, that if you chose to assert physically, rather than take the exit, you must ensure you do not 'let up' Its narcissism and delusion needs to definitively break, during the physical 'discipline'. That means, you don't stop, until she stops, and when she stops the lesson, has been beaten in, and her narcissism, and all those behaviours have been disabled. Try not to permenantly disable it though. There's a fine lne between beating the lesson into its thick narcissistically entitled skull, and beating it so hard it gains an extra chromosome, and everyone starts to question how it suddenly got downs. But you still need to see thatall doubt and compensatory deflective and disordered behaviour has been successfully disabled during the beating. That's the level it needs to get to. Anything less and it won't work, and no folding after the fact. It has to esperience the lesson as a given. This happened. There was no leeway for you to manipulate or avoid. You experienced the fear. It was real. It was unavoidable. It was deserved. There was no doubt in your mind or behavour after the fact. It knows, as you do, what will happen, if it reverts. Same as leaving. If you leave, you leave. It's a given. It's all or nothing. It must know fear, and fully experience/face it. Only then will it learn from it and grow. This exact process has been avoided its entire life, and is why it is disordered., and avoidant of any personal growth.
Something that really helped me truly understand truly being a man is isolating the emotional management to each individual adult - knowing each one accountable in reality, in a state of nature.
This dude has got himself involved into politics so much, that he has no personality other than that. I bet he's watching YT till 4 A.M, binging videos about SJW's getting owned. His wife shouldn't be telling him what to do, but he's also gotta stop being an activist and start doing something that's actually constructive.
I learned the hard way. The constant criticism and nit picking will demolish your self esteem . Stand up for yourself and correct that behavior, or get out of your marriage ASAP . I’ve heard that there are women out there that don’t try to control their partner, but I’ll believe it when I see a real Unicorn.
I've said this to young guys I know who are considering marriage. Don't put up with any behavior issues and don't tolerate her disrespect or being nagged, at all. Be firm when it surfaces and if it doesn't change then get away from her.
@@luckyg8971 It's much harder later when kids are older. Then you have to choose between seeing you get disrespected and just taking it...or correcting your wife and having it turn into ugly arguments which you don't want the kids to hear. Don't ask me how I know...
Divorce her! My sister was like this with all 3 husbands. The first one got out in under 2 years. The second fought back which made her worse. The third just takes it. And she has escalated the nasty name calling. I grew up with her which made me passive aggressive. These vicious women never change. Get out and start fresh with a nice young lady.
This was so Great; Thank you Rich! I can guarantee the marriage counselor they are seeing solves the issues through a “blue pilled” lens. I wish I would have found Rich so much sooner.
As a councilor friend told me years ago “if you’re in my office it’s already over”. You’re just going through the pc motions hoping for a Disney fairytale outcome.... The first part of fixing anything is realizing it’s broken and then seeing what part needs replacing.
94% of the couple therapy clients I have, the female is the problem! I'll always call the woman out on her crap! After first session I usually tell the man I don't need to see him for a while and just work on the woman putting her manners back in and getting in her feminine! I've had calls from men saying "what did you do- my wife is so lovely now", but I always remind them to hold frame and don't be lulled - because women will take a mile if given that inch!! I recommend to remain 80% viking/ 20% gentleman - otherwise the controlling woman reappears.
If a woman says she doesn't like something you're wearing, tell her you don't like something she's wearing and see where it goes. If she doesn't comply, you have your answer just leave. I fixed my relationship like this but by the time it was repaired, I was no longer interested. Imagine that.
Dig the honesty, Rich. This young guy needed this call. Good on him for having taking the heat with you as it’s a small price to pay compared to years in a shitty marriage.
Paying 4000$ to get roasted on a zoom call is a disgrace and pathetic Also charging 4000$ to give useless basic advices to people for 1 hour is also a disgrace and pathetic
Bob, never let anyone disrepect you with name calling and control. If you wanna wear your damn hat, wear the hat! I will agree that some teachers have that know-it-all attitude when they want to treat you like one of their students, which is NEVER OKAY. The pain you feel now is going to turn into a lifetime of regret if you keep tolerating her bullshit! Take care and protect yourself!
This 👆👆 I use to be a preschool teacher so I was unaware of the fact that I was treating my former partners like children until they stood up to me & said something at the time. It's never okay.
@@gregabrams5792 oh, gosh. Vasectomies are the epitome of the beta male archetype. An alpha male always seeks to spread his seed. Obviously, you don't want to get hooked up on child support, but the way to avoid that is not by suiciding your blood line. What a nutter...
Hey Rich, great video, I appreciate that you do this for this kid and I would suggest you to do more of them, we need to open some guy's eyes and you have a great platform here, my respect for that. I had a disrespectful girlfriend, I allowed a few times that she called me names and things like that, we broke up 5 times in 9 months cuz there were good other things but she didn't change, I think a disrespectful woman never will be different, there's something that they saw when they were kids that put a chip in their mind to be like that and when the triggers come she will react that way. I'm glad I did not marry her or even lived with her ever.
Learn from other people. NEVER get married. I had a girlfriend recently I broke up with after she got so mad for weeks about me listening to rap and hip hop. She told me to stop listening to it. I told her I'm not going to comply. Everyday she would be mad about it. After a couple weeks I ended it. This guy needs to divorce her. The well is poisoned.
Ol Bob is obviously scared of losing his teacher wife but it's the way to go. Women all over the world must start learning that they're not everything they think they are because they have a hole. Once we men all over the world start showing some resistance and stand up for ourselves is when we will regain respect. We men also need to learn how to DO THE WORK and become high value and irreplaceable
He's is scared because he is being abused. Its a co dependancy. He holds onto the moments she is lovely to him then she mistreats him again. Narc cycle! Men get called abusive for holding frame but women don't for actually being abusive. Thats why Rich's advice is the best!...it ends the cycle!!
Women don't base their egos and self-concept on their vgs. It's guys that think the sun shines out of their asses and that they are experts on everything because they have a tool.
Nothing against Bob here but you can tell just by his demeanor and how he looked that this guy is not the one in charge in his relationship. I hope he works on himself and stands up to his wife otherwise he is doomed to a miserable marriage.
I had a disrespectful wife I told her to straighten her s*** out or we were done. I give too many chances. The divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Only thing you can do is get rid of her. The ONLY power a man has is to walk. When you do she will see the power shift and try to beg you back. DO NOT GO BACK.
i remember a guy on here saying you should start levelling up while in the relationship i.e. money, muscle, game and if she doesn't notice or and change then you already did all the work and you just leave.
..... and sadly Bob will continue to do so, until she divorces him for an alpha. Unfortunately, he is delusional about his hvm status. He has a lot of work to do on himself and I hope he tries hard to get there.
Dear Bob: RUN! Then start rebuilding yourself. Not into an asshole, but a confident, no-BS-allowed guy who has clear boundaries and who has clear values and objectives.
The man in the Amish beard talks like a woman. Instead of answering the question he asks another question or gives a bunch of reasons or stories. That drives me nuts, just answer the question and move on, no one wants your soap opera.
I think we’ve all been there, but jeez I cringe when a man says “She won’t let me…” 1st step is to admit that’s how it’s being framed. No. It’s actually “I let her control and disrespect me”.
@Blaster she’s not his mama so he can do what he wants. What she is saying not to do is who he is. He is a conservative guy and should not be ashamed to wear a lets go Brandon hat. It’s her insecurity of fear of being judged for being a conservative.
Bob - stand your ground. Don't argue or fight with her. Don't make concessions. You have to reestablish frame, which you might not be able to do. Focus on yourself and live your life. She probably will leave you, but it's worth the risk.
This guy is done, he will never gain her respect back ever, trust me on this from someone with experience. He needs to show her the door, or show himself the door and start fresh with frame from the get go.
Man, this dude reminds me of myself at 27. I knew I was in a sht relationship. But, when people would point out the obvious to help me. I would immediately start to try and justify every single action. It comes down to this fact, you have a fear of walking away. A hard reset's, your only option at this point.
Hi Rich , thank you for these videos . I’m a 24 year old single lady , and I’m learning so I can respect my future husband . Thank you for everything 🙏
Hello- it's good that you are watching these videos and learning from them. I'd say, in order to respect your future husband- don't get involved in Feminism. It'll teach you to push back against doing things for your husband to make him happy.
Keep on keeping it simple. I've been to the bottom and some of the way back- Police trouble, seperation, loss of property, didn't see my kids for 2 years. Coming out of 3 years of family court. Being a beta will destroy you and it can be enforced by a crazy system. I started back by saying NO. I drive the crappiest 4 X 4 you have ever seen, I go where and when I want to go. My house is clean and organised. I enjoy my work. Mr Cooper is correct, get your ducks in a row.
When rich said “don’t bother me with this bullshit, time it takes to move it” etc. near the end is the same exact approach I use and I never get asked or bothered again. It helps to be tall, use deep voice and increase the anger/volume. It intimidates women and women want to be bossed around by a bigger authority, it shows control. Most women will back down quick but if she doesn’t, just get rid of her.
9:29 LMAO!!! He finds out what a beta he really is and then at the end he tries to leave with a concession by trying to get affirmation that he's a so called "high-value man" LMAO
Just like my guy Alpha Male Strategies says...when you're going from Beta to Alpha or Unplugged. The only way for your woman to gain respect is to walk away. Show her that you dont need her and you have other options. Even if you really don't she will think that cause most guys dont leave relationships out of scarcity. Show you have an abundant mindset and do the work with your head held high. If she come back or not, you still take the W.
Sounds like this guy is not willing to go through the pain. Letting go of a relationship like this and being able to endure the pain is the best lesson a man can have. You'll now carry a heart strong enough to overcome any obstacle.
Dear Bob, the way it looks there is only one reasonable course of action: divorce this horrible person asap especially before there are kids. Get rid of her asap!
Part of it is increasing awareness, really meditating a lot to help even with little subtle teases like Amish beard, more meditation ritualistically in daily practice the more flow with these surprises and it's especially helpful with dancing with the partner's disrespect or perhaps tests of masculinity which is also pretty instinctual as we reciprocate and test her femininity just as well. Forces that run us more than we think we can control them.
@@PhantomFilmAustralia yeah until he hits top ten percent he is not high value in the monetary category. I also think 90 is closer top 20 than it is top 15 as of today. Cops, fireman, union construction workers all can pass that pretty easily
Damm I really feel for this guy. HEY BOB!!! If your reading this don't let Rich get you down. The look on your face when he said you were not high value really got to me actually. I know how you feel man. Every single time I did anything "manly" or proper when I was a child......My mom would show up out of nowhere and kick me in the nuts until I knocked it off. I was "negotiating from my knees" and maintaining a weak frame for the first 30 years of my life, until I found red pilled content. Then after that, it took me almost 10 years to get over it! I FINALLY know how to stand up for myself but Rich is right, it takes a lot of work and does not happen over night, so try not to get frustrated. Also, there is not enough content or books you can absorb to get you to have the strength. You can know what you are supposed to do (by reading) but you will wimp out in the moment of truth, if you haven't done enough physical work to reverse your programming. Your problem could very well be the #1, most common problem for a man in the west today. Don't feel bad. Your not the first and dam sure won't be the last. Your so not alone. You don't have to have an abusive mother to be affected by this. Abusive parents only makes it worse. EVERYBODY is raised with gynocentric / blue pill ethics. They have been doing it for 50 years and it's the entire reason why the west is crumbling right now. It's way bigger than you, but it still affects you as though it was entirely your idea. Its because they want men to be held responsible for everything while simultaneously having control of nothing and women to have control of everything and be responsible for nothing. Because women are more easily influenced by the media, if women make all the decisions, then the 1% can influence the women to decide whatever the 1% wants. If men were in charge, their brainwashing wouldn't work as well and then they wouldn't have as much control. The 1% are the slave owners, the women are the slave drivers and we are supposed to be the slaves. Feminism never had anything to do with women's rights. If it did, we wouldn't have the huge sex trafficking problem we have now. If it did they wouldn't describe only fans and promiscuous sex with well hung loosers as "empowering." Feminism was always a top-down manipulation of working men since the beginning. Women's empowerment was always about the enslavement of men. This all got started before we were born. Try not to take it personally even though they do a really good job of making it seem like it's your inadequacy. That's their game and they have been pulling it for a half a century and has seemed to have ruined just about every single woman in all of the west. Even though it seems like we are the wusses and deserve our abuse / usury, they influenced us to turn out that way, just so they could blame us for being the only way they really allowed, just to turn around and say if you give up all your time, money and preferences, you can be forgiven. This is so much bigger than just your girl. Almost all men start out like you and almost all women are just like your girl. Forgive your self for being beta. Prepare for a life time of celibacy while reversing your blue pill training as much as possible, and if a unicorn falls in your lap, you will know what to do. But you can't hope for her either because if you are hoping for that, one will come by emulating a unicorn. You have to be ready to be alone forever and not give a CRAP about women. It's difficult, but possible. Only when you have accomplished all of that, can you possibly have ANY relationship with ANY women that MIGHT work out for you. Until then, every woman will own you so don't even bother until you complete the work. Rough but true. It is what it is. (edit I mean 1% like the international business community, not the way Rich means it)
Oh my dear Lord. My mom was a Catholic grade school teacher. You "marry your mother" (subconsciously find a woman like her). Being single/never married and a MGTOW monk is saving my LIFE. Any disrespect - ANY - NOT ACCEPTABLE. We can't tell Bob what to do but I'm glad he's red pilled.
At 9:33 I like how Bob goes he's a pretty high value man and Richard just says; "NO", there was no doubt, no hesitancy, it was so emphatic and hilarious. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I like this guy. He has nice eyes, a nice voice & makes $90 k a year. My alarm bells are ringing so I will add that if she doesn't respect him & is nitpicking the way she is, it could be distracting him from the fact that she's entertaining other men in the background. With Rich's assistance, I hope he is able to build on his strengths, realize his value, turn his marriage around or meet another compatible partner in the future. I'm excited to hear an update about his marriage sooner rather than later 💁🏼♀️✨
Shave the beard, lose the glasses, buy some contacts, bleach your hair blonde, and hit the gym dude. How the hell did you even manage to get a girlfriend????
I see guys like this in my office EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Bob: if you are reading this, based on what you said in this video, do NOT have any children with this woman. You have described a toxic situation that will eventually destroy you. Now, do the work and become the very best version of yourself. I have seen guys like you stay in bad marriages for 25, 30 years or longer, then regret it. Wishing you the strength to take action and have a much better life.
Agree 100%. Very well said!!
Family law? As I've mentioned elsewhere in comments on this video, how many of those EVERY. SINGLE. DAY, guys were raised in single-parent households?
@@russellstephan6844 The main ingredient are dysfunctional families, not a single parent household. You can have two parents and be Abused as well (as in pernicious neglect 4xample) as this moves later on in life, the Abusive behavior feels just as familiar and therefore repeating it seems the doable fixing option. This defaulted either codependent style of thinking, or living your repetition compulsion inside relationships. That’s plain not working unhealthy stuff. Single parent says nothing about the quality of life, every orphan would be doomed this way. And so on. Just giving examples.
@@RN-gx7wt Single-parent households are the largest co-factor for all manner of social rot -- crime, violence, drug use, suicide, mental illness, teenage pregnancy, school drop out, prison, etc...
Now, not everyone forgoing seatbelt use dies. But, out of those that die, nearly all are sans seatbelts...
The men that don't succumb to the above? If they are weak of constitution, chances are they were raised as husband sons of single mothers.
@@russellstephan6844 You forgot the detail (low-income) poor neighbourhood. What’s their highest noted education value, It takes a village to raise a child, if that village is a punk ass neighbourhood you are probably right, but it still has more social factors to add towards value or not, so yea you can have that single mommy but if she lives in Beverly Hills, because her late successful husband died on the job, then what again>? Other ways her family of origin may be rich. Then what again? It maybe drugs anyhow. Because men miss their purpose for sure lately not getting any high education finishers. Family's may have uncles that are motivators for that same childhood that may simple reverse that outcome as well, if they are all poor than yea rest in pieces probably, suffering guaranteed.
All my married friends told me the same: "I'll never marry again if I get divorced". ALL OF THEM.
ALL OF US. LOL
Same here!!
Same here guys don’t do it guys
Never again. Never . Nope. Never , nope.
1 of my friend, who’s Alpha but Blue Pilled (in a sense that he thinks men & women can purely be friends without copulative intentions) ALSO turned around and threw in the towel, BEFORE he proposed to his ex, and decided that he’s probably not gonna get married.
He’s 41 today.
Man I feel for this guy. He's in for a lifetime of pain. He's emotionally attached to a women who will destroy his soul.
don’t feel bad, he did it to himself
@@sdmfp333 he believed a bunch of lies and had to learn the hard way. If things had worked out differently for me I'd likely be in his shoes too. Scary stuff.
To make a bad decision in life is normal….
To continue living with that decision is 100% your own fault 🙄
He’s a total beta, plain and simple. He’s got a lot of work to do.
It would be interesting to know whether or not Rich's call-ins were raised in a single-parent household.
This guy is the personification of reddit
A Reddit Golem
A MAGA beta male
He said to his wife "it's my first amendment right" ... lol 🤣
Yea, thous were inventet to defend against your wifes. Hahaha
I fell out when I heard him say that. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Like she was the police
I laughed and was shocked at the same time when he said that 😂
Something has caused her to lose all respect for him. He needs to make some changes and after time she’ll fall in line, but a lot of arguments will have to happen to get there.
When you give a reason it invites an argument, just say no.
I really want a followup video with Bob. Poor guy. Nothing would make me more happy than to see him turn it around
I can't imagine being a grown ass man saying shit like "my wife doesn't allow me to..."
It was “like my wife, like like doesn’t like want me to like”
I hear it all the time, and it makes me sick. Guys asking permission to spend their own money, referring to her as "the boss", walking ten paces behind her while carrying her bags, etc...
@@qua7771 some guys in the Army refer to their wife as “Household 6” and it always makes me roll my eyes and sigh.
This is a callsign, the “6” is always the commander. So if you’re the Spartans, the commander is called Spartan 6. Guardians? Commander is Guardian 6, etc. So when they call their wives Household 6 they are literally saying she’s the commander of the house.
@@adamantlyadam5201 I was in Navy aviation, so I'm not well versed in Army slang. I do know that military wives are legally given a shit ton of control, and can really throw service members under the bus. In Naval deployment you can't take your wife with you, so men figure things out pretty quick. Marriage is a PITA in the Navy, and the divorce rate is high. When I was single I constantly had married guys needing a place to crash till they worked things out with their wives. Most of them forgot how to have fun, and what their hobbies are.
Let's face it. Despite the whole hero image, the military is full of betas. It's men carrying out orders, not forging their own path with few exceptions. The same can be said for police, and professional athletes. The system want's to keep us emasculated. It keeps us controllable. Men need to wake up.
@@qua7771 amen. I see it all the time. “Leaders” are afraid to do what’s right and do what is easiest or will get them promoted. No spine.
- I'm a high value m...
- No.
Simple. Truth. Much respect.
That one was cold but he needed to hear it, all of us need a bit of that sometimes
The polarity between Rich’s Alpha end & Bob’s Beta end is so stark he shuts it immediately after that “NO.” it cracked me up. 😂😂😂
@@thevegastan It was a beautiful thing to watch and hear. On display right there. it was also well done the way he didn't demean the kid, but kept improving him.
lol
I used to date a chick for 2 years, and she was usually pretty cool to be around. Then we started to live together and had our first fights. She would become very agressive and call me coward, pussy, and disgusting man, just because I didnt want to fight with her and waited for her to cool off. Eventually I became tired of her insults and left for good.
Did you actually leave or did she leave you and you just accepted it.?
@@sloanmagnum5009 hey! I left and she felt sorry 2 weeks later, and asked for apologies. Then for some days I considered accepting her back but decided not to.
Latina ?😂
Definitely needs to be deleted
@@WNL2013😂😂😂🫵
There's nothing he can do. Its a matter if time she divorces him or leaves him for someone else. The only power he got now is to walk away from the relationship and end it before she ends it.
Exactly, that is what he must do.
Yes...time to leave
He CAN turn it around, but sadly it doesn't look like it's in his nature. You can't fake being a man that doesn't take shit, you have to actually BE that guy. He could become that guy over years, but I don't think that he has the will and resolve to do so. Also, he needs to be willing to take an L on this wife. I'm not suggesting that he file for divorce but he should let her know that he not putting up with her shit and will be taking lead from here on out. Let her make the decision to stay or go. If she stays, she will either be resentful and divorce later, OR she will be wetter than the rain forest for him because he stepped up to her.
Either way, he will weed her out or make a diamond out of that lump of coal.
She just hanging around til a better rooster pulls out….hypergamy is a fact 🙄
Walk away king
5:26 and 10:10 I love how his wife and Rich Cooper both insult the same shirt that he's wearing LOL
I don't think Bob is his wife's first choice. His wife is actually angry at herself, which she then takes out on Bob.
Wise analysis
This comment probably strikes a nerve in most men as the truth hurts.
@@williamm8069 Painful...but probably true🥺
Nobody is their women's first choice
Probably so. Good catch. It’s more than a hat. That said wearing the hat doesn’t make him an alpha…at all
9:44 You’re not a high value man just because you have a nerd job where you can say “aErOsPaCe” over and over like it’s cool. Eventually people find out “I work in the aerospace industry” means “I push papers in the Lockheed HR department.”
People who do cool jobs tell you what they do. People who have bullshit jobs tell you what “industry” they work in.
You're killing me, Smalls! This one is too sad for me. Much respect for the time you spent to guide Bob.
"Smalls"? Who on earth is Smalls?
My god, the number of people who haven't watched the ultimate American classic "The Sandlot" is astounding. I may finally be getting old!
@@wiseonwords the movie Sandlot
@@wiseonwords Biggie 😄
Dude, I am handing the whole internet over to you for safekeeping. Righteous comment.
Wow...don't pass this one by folks. "You get the behavior that you tolerate" Once a pattern of disrespect is established - it is almost impossible to regain frame and the respect that is necessary for the relationship to thrive. DO NOT TOLERATE ANY DISRESPECT WHATSOEVER.
Dont let anybody be confortable with insulting you ...
The look on Bob's face when Rich said his wife might see this video said one thing to me. He is not red pillled as much as he thinks he is. He looked terrified to me. Best of luck to Bob.
No Red-Pilled man would ever say, "She won't let me."
@@PhantomFilmAustralia Bubbbbbuuutt...
Rich just did him a solid.... if he backpedals after she sees this, he’s sealed his own fate.
@@PhantomFilmAustralia She won't let you jump off a building would be ok.
Yea, he looks like a scarred little rabbit
This is what always tripped me up in the past, I didn’t know what NOT to tolerate. It takes awhile but you need firm boundaries on people especially people close to you because they will destroy you before a stranger does.
As soon as your wife or girlfriend is not “allowing” something your relationship is over. Unless it comes to her body or sex there is no allowing or not allowing things.
Or motor bikes.
🎯🎯🎯
Nailed it! 👍
Not even then. A wife / gf must ALWAYS offer sex unconditionally (unless health issues arise, if course).
@@Peteristrate That’s essentially what I’m speaking to is health issues. Once in a blue moon is fine if your wife is constantly not in the mood your relationship is also over.
Rehab Room sent me here 🤣🤣🤣 it's ovER for you Bob!
Don't be a free agent in life!
@@reylo99 Don't cry because it's over, cry because it never began.
Improoooove
br00tal stuff man..
These red pill copers are hilarious
He's SOOOOO SCARED of his wife. He's not divorcing anyone... such a shame to see a brother fall
I think he will move on! Eventually enough will be enough for him.
@@tonyagos1172 nah bro you’re not seeing the same guy I am, she’ll leave him before he develops the balls to leave, hopefully his eyes are opened and he does the work
@@Giballi24 he would have to grow the balls and do it right now. Leave with dignity brother
Thats the feeling I got as well. She'll beat him up a little, then blame him for it. If he's lucky his friends will do him a solid, and talk to him. If not, she could land him in jail and fuck up his career.
@@Giballi24 I doubt she will leave, because she relies on his income, and stable future. They probably have a home that she would never be able to afford. A leach can't live without a host. She would also have to explain to her friends, and family why she failed.
Most marriages that I see personally, because I know them, only “worked out” because someone had to submit. Most the time it’s the guy.
Its because we getting murdered in family court 90 percent of the time. We can't stick up for ourselves without the fear of getting financially ruined and being labeled an abuser.
His wife slams doors and calls him names? Sounds like an abusive relationship to me. Imagine if they had kids together. Their kids would grow up A) witnessing the mom browbeating the dad. B) not having any respect for their father. He said that he runs the household = he pays for everything, and she uses her money to pay off her student loans.
I hope that he didn't make this video just so that his wife will see it. (Talking to wife...) "See? Read all of these comments! Everybody agrees with me and disagrees with you!"
He needs to...
1) File for divorce
2) Hit the gym
3) Change his wardrobe
If you're reading this, dude, best of luck!
@Hawaii 4-0 It is abuse. Women can't fuck with you physically so they try to psychologically and emotionally stress you out. The guy makes 90K a year, I have no idea why he's allowing this in his home.
4) Lose the Amish beard.
Find an Amish woman.
And lose the silly caps (and graphic T-shirts) when you go on dates. If you want to wear it to the beach or mowing the grass, then fine. But you , and men in general , need to improve your style.
And the hair.
That baseball cap cut ain’t signalling anything Alpha at all.
I can't stress this enough, being and looking "alpha" is not your clothes, beard or anything else, but it helps. It's your stare, your energy, tone of voice, mentality, determination. If you slap all "alpha things" on this man, he would still look like pre adolescent guy .
Thats a damm good point. I know being "big" and wearing the right clothes helps a lot but they only suggest a person is an Alpha. There are guys who are swole and look just right, but are blue pill and / or have the wrong attitude who don't do well.
My dad is friends with Ed Asner (the actor) and they used to hang out a lot. Let me tell you guys something. That man was short, bald and fat when I knew him. And I swear to God, I saw him pull more pu$$y than a toilet seat. I know he is an A-List celebrity but even still. I've seen normal / non famous / non rich guys who were UGLY and also guys who were short do really well with women too. It's all in the attitude.
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!
😂😂😂😂 facts ...
Yep, but he has good frame. He has decent job. He is slim, he can hit the gym and build good body. He is young, his personality can change around 35 if he starts working on that. He will never be "alpha", but he can be a man with dignity. Not a pushover.
This is one area where I disagree with Rich. I'm old, bald, fat, and out of shape. But this in no way makes me a beta. I still stand my ground and don't take any guff off them. If I was with this woman it would be over the first time she called me a name. I respect them and I respect myself. If they think they can mistreat me because of my physical deformities, they're sadly mistaken.
Never ask your wife for permission and ALWAYS call her out (and refuse her) when she tries to boss you around. That's the only way to preserve your marriage.
100%
It might actually end your marriage. Depends on her attitude.
@@supercal333 If it does, then it was worth it.
I have been in this exact situation for a couple years now. My wife is constantly complaining, criticizing me and being bitchy. I constantly call her out on her behavior and she will try to punish me by withholding sex and just giving me attitude in general. I just want to see our kids every day instead of part time. Marrying her has been a massive mistake but I do not ever bend to her.
@@nicholusbaker2830 good shit bro!
9:32 man -"im pretty much high value"
Rich - "No"
Classic response lol. I hope the man does well in the future 🙏🏾
The guy is so lucky that he doesn't have kids with her yet. He's still got a way out.
Absolutely what I was thinking. If he's miserable now it only gets worse.
Exactly
This guy is going nowhere.
@@nerzenjaeger Don’t write him off we were all like this in our 20s .
Does he have a way out? He'll bring that beta stuff with him to the next girl he gets with
Credit to the guy on having this discussion online. That takes something, though at the end I felt like the poor dude didn't think that part through.
This one is simple. She's lost respect for him and every little thing bothers her because of that. She needs to make up for the lack of masculinity from him which naturally causes her to nag.
well said
Pretty much. Shes angry with how much power she weilds over him and not vice versa
Problem is she isn’t looking at herself in the mirror. Biggest thing about women these days is the OVER inflated sense of thinking they’re better than they are
I am not justifying female narcissistic abusive controlling behaviour.
@@cdorothy444 Yeah that is a weird way to place it on the guy. Very very common attitude.
Think about it. If a male abuser abuses a gentle man, who is at fault? The abuser. There are even laws written about it. There are whole professions in security, in the police, and in law, built around dealing with such a situation.
But when that abuser is a woman, the gentle man should have been more tough and the abused 'lacks masculinity'? This does not make sense. When a woman is involved it goes back to the law of the jungle? This is very stupid and will not do.
Rich is such a large human being. Dresses this poor guy down and then reaches down to help him up. Every reason to be frustrated with this caller but maintains his core. Keep going brother.
this guy is really trying to stand up for himself and i respect that. i know it's hard. advice: don't argue or discuss with her. listen to her opinion(because she may be right), and then make your decision and say no....this is what i will do. THAT'S IT....and continue with your day. take care guys....lol
Some wmn can't respect masculine and paternal authority (they only respect their own fear). Usually these are wmn who never learned to respect men from their mothers, because their mothers taught them to disrespect everything, and only respected their own fear too.
If 'no' doesn't work:
Leave
Induce fear of loss (by openly fking its friends/family)
Beat it black and blue
One of these will.
Though it's obviously best to just leave. The latter two require man to comprimise his own boundaries, and that's a dangerous course of action, just for the sake of, 'asserting boundaries' for a broken/faulty wmn.
Leaving should be the defacto for the healthy man. (her disorder is identified, his options healthy resolution options/choices exhausted)
Exactly, dont argue. The moment you argue you lost. The simple answer would be a simple...No! And dont engage with any other dialogue
He's not really standing up for himself. He's validating what he already knows. His wife is walking all over him. He makes substantially more than she does, in a career with a future, and retirement benefits. She has abusive feminist control issues. When he walks away, she's fucked. They probably live in a house she couldn't afford otherwise. Not everyone has a strong personality to deal with female drama.
@@jrddoubleu514 my man you are spitting facts, I have exhausted all my options, playing nice is no more the case, she should see the monster , have been warning her
@@AdventuresOfDroggo-n-Human Remember, that if you chose to assert physically, rather than take the exit, you must ensure you do not 'let up'
Its narcissism and delusion needs to definitively break, during the physical 'discipline'.
That means, you don't stop, until she stops, and when she stops the lesson, has been beaten in, and her narcissism, and all those behaviours have been disabled. Try not to permenantly disable it though. There's a fine lne between beating the lesson into its thick narcissistically entitled skull, and beating it so hard it gains an extra chromosome, and everyone starts to question how it suddenly got downs. But you still need to see thatall doubt and compensatory deflective and disordered behaviour has been successfully disabled during the beating. That's the level it needs to get to. Anything less and it won't work, and no folding after the fact.
It has to esperience the lesson as a given.
This happened. There was no leeway for you to manipulate or avoid. You experienced the fear. It was real. It was unavoidable. It was deserved. There was no doubt in your mind or behavour after the fact.
It knows, as you do, what will happen, if it reverts.
Same as leaving.
If you leave, you leave. It's a given. It's all or nothing.
It must know fear, and fully experience/face it. Only then will it learn from it and grow. This exact process has been avoided its entire life, and is why it is disordered., and avoidant of any personal growth.
Something that really helped me truly understand truly being a man is isolating the emotional management to each individual adult - knowing each one accountable in reality, in a state of nature.
This dude has got himself involved into politics so much, that he has no personality other than that. I bet he's watching YT till 4 A.M, binging videos about SJW's getting owned. His wife shouldn't be telling him what to do, but he's also gotta stop being an activist and start doing something that's actually constructive.
He's bluepilled on politics too. Red vs blue bs. It's rich vs poor. Not trying to be antisemitic tho.
Yeah, I got that as well. He likes wearing MAGA and Let’s Go Brandon hats all the time, he’s blue pilled on politics, women, everything.
☝️nail right on the head!
Exactly. Wearing hats and being obsessed with politicians isn’t being a man of action. Nothing alpha about that.
So yes, unplugged but still beta.
Spot on politics is so stupid, they want everyone fighting over who’s right when all of them are the crooks.
I love this one. Some things can't be fixed. When you know what you won't tolerate, it brings peace of mind.
I learned the hard way. The constant criticism and nit picking will demolish your self esteem . Stand up for yourself and correct that behavior, or get out of your marriage ASAP . I’ve heard that there are women out there that don’t try to control their partner, but I’ll believe it when I see a real Unicorn.
I've said this to young guys I know who are considering marriage. Don't put up with any behavior issues and don't tolerate her disrespect or being nagged, at all. Be firm when it surfaces and if it doesn't change then get away from her.
@@luckyg8971 It's much harder later when kids are older. Then you have to choose between seeing you get disrespected and just taking it...or correcting your wife and having it turn into ugly arguments which you don't want the kids to hear. Don't ask me how I know...
@@johnp7739 I get it, man. You're stuck between a rock & hard place sometimes.
That is me right now. I'm 46 and have plenty of money and a good job. I used to have low self-esteem in my younger years and now it's back.
Divorce her! My sister was like this with all 3 husbands. The first one got out in under 2 years. The second fought back which made her worse. The third just takes it. And she has escalated the nasty name calling. I grew up with her which made me passive aggressive. These vicious women never change. Get out and start fresh with a nice young lady.
@Sick_Pencil lots of simps willing to do anything to beat loneliness.
This was so Great; Thank you Rich! I can guarantee the marriage counselor they are seeing solves the issues through a “blue pilled” lens. I wish I would have found Rich so much sooner.
"if your wife asks to go to marriage counseling, tell her to schedule it and then dont show up. Be a man"
As a councilor friend told me years ago “if you’re in my office it’s already over”. You’re just going through the pc motions hoping for a Disney fairytale outcome.... The first part of fixing anything is realizing it’s broken and then seeing what part needs replacing.
94% of the couple therapy clients I have, the female is the problem! I'll always call the woman out on her crap!
After first session I usually tell the man I don't need to see him for a while and just work on the woman putting her manners back in and getting in her feminine!
I've had calls from men saying "what did you do- my wife is so lovely now", but I always remind them to hold frame and don't be lulled - because women will take a mile if given that inch!! I recommend to remain 80% viking/ 20% gentleman - otherwise the controlling woman reappears.
Vanessa Loermans that’s great advice
@@vanessaloermans9563 great advice! Do you mind if I reach out to you? Where are you located?
If a woman says she doesn't like something you're wearing, tell her you don't like something she's wearing and see where it goes. If she doesn't comply, you have your answer just leave. I fixed my relationship like this but by the time it was repaired, I was no longer interested. Imagine that.
Dig the honesty, Rich. This young guy needed this call. Good on him for having taking the heat with you as it’s a small price to pay compared to years in a shitty marriage.
this Amish looking Florida man is already low value if you are voting for Trump
Paying 4000$ to get roasted on a zoom call is a disgrace and pathetic
Also charging 4000$ to give useless basic advices to people for 1 hour is also a disgrace and pathetic
It cost $4000??
@@lochnessmunster1189 from what i saw private “coaching“ call with him is expensive wtf lol this guy… 💀🤣🤦🏼♂️
@@lochnessmunster1189Dude holy 4000??? I mean it's good advice but holy
@@alansantos6142 I know- amazing, right?!
You watch 10 red pill/alfa male videos and can teach it yourself. They repeat the same stuff all the time. It's crazy to pay for it 😂.
The best advice is brutal honesty, best of luck to this guy
Man that was painful to watch. He has a long way to go.
If a woman's disrespecting you, walk away
This beta bucks deluxe is going to get cleaned out so hard in divorce court LOL
An oofy doofy thinking he's a high value man. The memes write themselves 😂😂
I was born and my life was over
Bob, never let anyone disrepect you with name calling and control. If you wanna wear your damn hat, wear the hat! I will agree that some teachers have that know-it-all attitude when they want to treat you like one of their students, which is NEVER OKAY. The pain you feel now is going to turn into a lifetime of regret if you keep tolerating her bullshit! Take care and protect yourself!
This 👆👆 I use to be a preschool teacher so I was unaware of the fact that I was treating my former partners like children until they stood up to me & said something at the time. It's never okay.
😂😂
oofy doofy beta bux deluxe ☝️
It’s over buddy boyos
If a woman tells me to do something, I do the opposite
I could drink a beer with you sir
@@ericsmith-sx8xi thank you sir
@@ericsmith-sx8xi we need to stand up for ourselves. The movement is growing faster than ever before. I got a vasectomy and never getting married.
Hahahah loved it
@@gregabrams5792 oh, gosh. Vasectomies are the epitome of the beta male archetype.
An alpha male always seeks to spread his seed. Obviously, you don't want to get hooked up on child support, but the way to avoid that is not by suiciding your blood line. What a nutter...
Hey Rich, great video, I appreciate that you do this for this kid and I would suggest you to do more of them, we need to open some guy's eyes and you have a great platform here, my respect for that. I had a disrespectful girlfriend, I allowed a few times that she called me names and things like that, we broke up 5 times in 9 months cuz there were good other things but she didn't change, I think a disrespectful woman never will be different, there's something that they saw when they were kids that put a chip in their mind to be like that and when the triggers come she will react that way. I'm glad I did not marry her or even lived with her ever.
Learn from other people. NEVER get married. I had a girlfriend recently I broke up with after she got so mad for weeks about me listening to rap and hip hop. She told me to stop listening to it. I told her I'm not going to comply. Everyday she would be mad about it. After a couple weeks I ended it.
This guy needs to divorce her. The well is poisoned.
Right choice!! To be told what music you can listen to is like being told how to breath.
I’d be embarrassed by you too
@@willnill7946 simp
@@gregabrams5792 no, I just find rap immature
I think rap "music" is pure shit, but I respect you for standing your ground with the 304.
She already cheated on him. How much u wanna bet?
Ol Bob is obviously scared of losing his teacher wife but it's the way to go. Women all over the world must start learning that they're not everything they think they are because they have a hole. Once we men all over the world start showing some resistance and stand up for ourselves is when we will regain respect. We men also need to learn how to DO THE WORK and become high value and irreplaceable
He's is scared because he is being abused. Its a co dependancy. He holds onto the moments she is lovely to him then she mistreats him again. Narc cycle! Men get called abusive for holding frame but women don't for actually being abusive.
Thats why Rich's advice is the best!...it ends the cycle!!
Women don't base their egos and self-concept on their vgs. It's guys that think the sun shines out of their asses and that they are experts on everything because they have a tool.
But you can’t, you keep thinking about their bodies, poor thing!
Fuck the work just don’t take shit off ANYBODY EVER! Simple
I hope this man finds the courage and strength to walk away.
Nothing against Bob here but you can tell just by his demeanor and how he looked that this guy is not the one in charge in his relationship. I hope he works on himself and stands up to his wife otherwise he is doomed to a miserable marriage.
Rich charges $70 a minute? Yeah, I don't smoke crack. I would never pay lol
Get rid of her.
The guest in this video needs to be called back for an update. I'm rooting for him but this was so fucking sad. Hope he leaves and fixes his life.
Richard Cooper is a BADASS with a heart of GOLD! Hope to see a Rich & Bob reunion show one of these days with a silver lining update.
Does the word narcissist mean anything to you?
I had a disrespectful wife I told her to straighten her s*** out or we were done. I give too many chances. The divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me.
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Only thing you can do is get rid of her. The ONLY power a man has is to walk. When you do she will see the power shift and try to beg you back. DO NOT GO BACK.
Andrew Tate, Donald Trump, all said this.
i remember a guy on here saying you should start levelling up while in the relationship i.e. money, muscle, game and if she doesn't notice or and change then you already did all the work and you just leave.
Lol. "I'm a high value man" -Rich NO. No your not. Killed him
Truth is hard but he needed it
BP always comes to collect you can't escape buddy boyo there is no way to escape it was over for him before it even started 😂
Don't be a free agent in life
He ain't ready to leave or be Alpha ,he continues to makes excuses for her behavior
..... and sadly Bob will continue to do so, until she divorces him for an alpha. Unfortunately, he is delusional about his hvm status. He has a lot of work to do on himself and I hope he tries hard to get there.
Love the brutal honesty 😂. In reality, thats what it takes in these type situations
It is over. Try to find a coherent way to get rid of her.
Truth
She’s getting half papa
Dear Bob: RUN! Then start rebuilding yourself. Not into an asshole, but a confident, no-BS-allowed guy who has clear boundaries and who has clear values and objectives.
Are you in Amish country?
Why would you say that? 🤣🤣🤣
It was over in the first second hahaha!
Look at the woman shaped round skull and lack of an Adam's Apple.
The man in the Amish beard talks like a woman. Instead of answering the question he asks another question or gives a bunch of reasons or stories.
That drives me nuts, just answer the question and move on, no one wants your soap opera.
Brutal
Bro she might be cheating on you if every single thing you do annoys her.
I think we’ve all been there, but jeez I cringe when a man says “She won’t let me…”
1st step is to admit that’s how it’s being framed. No. It’s actually “I let her control and disrespect me”.
@Blaster she’s not his mama so he can do what he wants. What she is saying not to do is who he is. He is a conservative guy and should not be ashamed to wear a lets go Brandon hat. It’s her insecurity of fear of being judged for being a conservative.
@Blaster I am 19 and already know that I just want kids and I can get that without a wife. I will go the surrogate route
Been married for 17 years and I've never told my husband what to wear, when to put the toilet seat down, or got mad about a hat that HE wanted to wear
Nice of you, stay stafe
I keep the toilet seat down all of the time. Of course, I piss all over it.
Could you explain in more detail why you don’t?
Every relationship I’ve ever had, the girl ends up getting bitchy & disrespectful out of nowhere.
Bob - stand your ground. Don't argue or fight with her. Don't make concessions. You have to reestablish frame, which you might not be able to do. Focus on yourself and live your life. She probably will leave you, but it's worth the risk.
I doubt it can work out. She's using him, and if she can't get away with it she'll play the abuse card.
This guy is done, he will never gain her respect back ever, trust me on this from someone with experience. He needs to show her the door, or show himself the door and start fresh with frame from the get go.
Man, this dude reminds me of myself at 27. I knew I was in a sht relationship. But, when people would point out the obvious to help me. I would immediately start to try and justify every single action. It comes down to this fact, you have a fear of walking away. A hard reset's, your only option at this point.
This man oozes beta. His wife doesnt respect his options. She knows he doesnt have options so she can bully him.
Hi Rich , thank you for these videos . I’m a 24 year old single lady , and I’m learning so I can respect my future husband . Thank you for everything 🙏
Hello- it's good that you are watching these videos and learning from them. I'd say, in order to respect your future husband- don't get involved in Feminism. It'll teach you to push back against doing things for your husband to make him happy.
Watch her actions, ignore what she says. The medium is the message.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
Keep on keeping it simple. I've been to the bottom and some of the way back- Police trouble, seperation, loss of property, didn't see my kids for 2 years. Coming out of 3 years of family court. Being a beta will destroy you and it can be enforced by a crazy system. I started back by saying NO. I drive the crappiest 4 X 4 you have ever seen, I go where and when I want to go. My house is clean and organised. I enjoy my work. Mr Cooper is correct, get your ducks in a row.
When rich said “don’t bother me with this bullshit, time it takes to move it” etc. near the end is the same exact approach I use and I never get asked or bothered again. It helps to be tall, use deep voice and increase the anger/volume. It intimidates women and women want to be bossed around by a bigger authority, it shows control. Most women will back down quick but if she doesn’t, just get rid of her.
9:38 the look of defeat.
She wouldnt dissrespect chad... people have to wake up and realise how looks matter.
Yeah
9:29 LMAO!!! He finds out what a beta he really is and then at the end he tries to leave with a concession by trying to get affirmation that he's a so called "high-value man" LMAO
Just like my guy Alpha Male Strategies says...when you're going from Beta to Alpha or Unplugged. The only way for your woman to gain respect is to walk away. Show her that you dont need her and you have other options. Even if you really don't she will think that cause most guys dont leave relationships out of scarcity. Show you have an abundant mindset and do the work with your head held high. If she come back or not, you still take the W.
These vids are clutch for young hustlers on the rise like myself trying to learn how to be in control of my life
Tell her to be a respectful “lady” and put the seat up when she’s done
They never see it as mutual respect, I told my ex that and she made it seem like it was an expectation for men.
Sounds like this guy is not willing to go through the pain. Letting go of a relationship like this and being able to endure the pain is the best lesson a man can have. You'll now carry a heart strong enough to overcome any obstacle.
Dear Bob, the way it looks there is only one reasonable course of action: divorce this horrible person asap especially before there are kids. Get rid of her asap!
Part of it is increasing awareness, really meditating a lot to help even with little subtle teases like Amish beard, more meditation ritualistically in daily practice the more flow with these surprises and it's especially helpful with dancing with the partner's disrespect or perhaps tests of masculinity which is also pretty instinctual as we reciprocate and test her femininity just as well. Forces that run us more than we think we can control them.
I laughed my ass off when this guy called himself a high value man
Maybe financially. His high value would be monetary only.
@@PhantomFilmAustralia 90k is good but not great or anything.
@@christophercarrigg3775 90K is the top 15% of salary earnings in the US.
@@PhantomFilmAustralia yeah until he hits top ten percent he is not high value in the monetary category.
I also think 90 is closer top 20 than it is top 15 as of today. Cops, fireman, union construction workers all can pass that pretty easily
@@PhantomFilmAustralia theres a reason rich talks about the 6 6's. 90k is not a six figured income
This was painful to listen to. Love the way he took the criticism! Wish he have the power within himself to walk away.
She's with him for the money.
Damm I really feel for this guy. HEY BOB!!! If your reading this don't let Rich get you down. The look on your face when he said you were not high value really got to me actually. I know how you feel man. Every single time I did anything "manly" or proper when I was a child......My mom would show up out of nowhere and kick me in the nuts until I knocked it off. I was "negotiating from my knees" and maintaining a weak frame for the first 30 years of my life, until I found red pilled content. Then after that, it took me almost 10 years to get over it! I FINALLY know how to stand up for myself but Rich is right, it takes a lot of work and does not happen over night, so try not to get frustrated. Also, there is not enough content or books you can absorb to get you to have the strength. You can know what you are supposed to do (by reading) but you will wimp out in the moment of truth, if you haven't done enough physical work to reverse your programming.
Your problem could very well be the #1, most common problem for a man in the west today. Don't feel bad. Your not the first and dam sure won't be the last. Your so not alone. You don't have to have an abusive mother to be affected by this. Abusive parents only makes it worse. EVERYBODY is raised with gynocentric / blue pill ethics. They have been doing it for 50 years and it's the entire reason why the west is crumbling right now. It's way bigger than you, but it still affects you as though it was entirely your idea. Its because they want men to be held responsible for everything while simultaneously having control of nothing and women to have control of everything and be responsible for nothing. Because women are more easily influenced by the media, if women make all the decisions, then the 1% can influence the women to decide whatever the 1% wants. If men were in charge, their brainwashing wouldn't work as well and then they wouldn't have as much control.
The 1% are the slave owners, the women are the slave drivers and we are supposed to be the slaves. Feminism never had anything to do with women's rights. If it did, we wouldn't have the huge sex trafficking problem we have now. If it did they wouldn't describe only fans and promiscuous sex with well hung loosers as "empowering." Feminism was always a top-down manipulation of working men since the beginning. Women's empowerment was always about the enslavement of men. This all got started before we were born. Try not to take it personally even though they do a really good job of making it seem like it's your inadequacy. That's their game and they have been pulling it for a half a century and has seemed to have ruined just about every single woman in all of the west. Even though it seems like we are the wusses and deserve our abuse / usury, they influenced us to turn out that way, just so they could blame us for being the only way they really allowed, just to turn around and say if you give up all your time, money and preferences, you can be forgiven. This is so much bigger than just your girl. Almost all men start out like you and almost all women are just like your girl.
Forgive your self for being beta. Prepare for a life time of celibacy while reversing your blue pill training as much as possible, and if a unicorn falls in your lap, you will know what to do. But you can't hope for her either because if you are hoping for that, one will come by emulating a unicorn. You have to be ready to be alone forever and not give a CRAP about women. It's difficult, but possible. Only when you have accomplished all of that, can you possibly have ANY relationship with ANY women that MIGHT work out for you. Until then, every woman will own you so don't even bother until you complete the work.
Rough but true. It is what it is. (edit I mean 1% like the international business community, not the way Rich means it)
Oh my dear Lord. My mom was a Catholic grade school teacher. You "marry your mother" (subconsciously find a woman like her). Being single/never married and a MGTOW monk is saving my LIFE. Any disrespect - ANY - NOT ACCEPTABLE. We can't tell Bob what to do but I'm glad he's red pilled.
Martial arts is a great suggestion. Knowing you can put most men on their back is a GREAT feeling.
At 9:33 I like how Bob goes he's a pretty high value man and Richard just says; "NO", there was no doubt, no hesitancy, it was so emphatic and hilarious. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Richs right, the guy has a good salary but that's it
I laughed uncontrollably when he quietly said no.
I like this guy. He has nice eyes, a nice voice & makes $90 k a year. My alarm bells are ringing so I will add that if she doesn't respect him & is nitpicking the way she is, it could be distracting him from the fact that she's entertaining other men in the background.
With Rich's assistance, I hope he is able to build on his strengths, realize his value, turn his marriage around or meet another compatible partner in the future.
I'm excited to hear an update about his marriage sooner rather than later 💁🏼♀️✨
Shave the beard, lose the glasses, buy some contacts, bleach your hair blonde, and hit the gym dude. How the hell did you even manage to get a girlfriend????
Bleach your hair blonde, ROFL. That's a total beta move. Sounds like a chick.
Great watch. Dude seems like a good guy. He now just needs to internalize the knowledge. He’s young, he’s got time to fix things.
not tryin to be disrespectul but how tf can you marry at age 27 in this day and age ...
Dude could start by shaving that beard and ditching the Hawaiian shirt, he looks like he shops at Whole Foods and plays in a weekend quidditch league
I thought everyone said LoOkS doNt mAtTeR, it’s all about personality🤔🤔😱😱
When a person keeps making excuses for the problem they are having they are not ready to change. Period.
What Dude says: "My Wife doesn't allow Me to..."
For some guys it happens without them realizing
@@selfiekroos1777 Are they def or just plain stupid? How can you not realized it?
My Dad says that shit - and I'm always like, what?!?!