The One Thing That Destroys Your Chances Of Saving Your Relationship
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- Опубліковано 10 лют 2023
- The One Thing That Destroys Your Chances Of Saving Your Relationship
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In the process of getting back together with your ex or saving it from complete destruction, a lot of us tend to focus on JUST GETTING OUR EX BACK. In this video, relationship coach Clay Andrews talks about WHAT YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON to save your relationship.
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That was me- being too openly enthusiastic, thinking that being cheerful and positive would convince them that I'm a fun, happy person to be with. I should have grounded myself, dialed it down and given him the space to come to me. Instead, I tried to fill up that space and I crowded him out.
Hello Clay. Good level-headed advice on your channel - much appreciated.
Since it seems that desire comes out of your pores and your ex regards this as pressure, it appears the best thing is avoiding contact.
Also, it saves the humiliation of being turned down again and again.
Yup!
Can 100% agree, I was trying to “save” it instead just taking it slowly, and rebuild the trust, the passion.
Now she told me that she wants to be friend with me, but she can’t right now, and I - despite I am afraid AF, not gonna lie - will respect that.
I had poor emotional intelligence and acted out in panic. Never do that, that’s a good advice to anyone.
If they want to be friends, just be friends.
I sent the following text to my now ex girlfriend in 02/12/22 whilst angry “Ruth I don't like the way you treat me and talk to me anymore. Especially don't like the way you are always slagging off my kids. I don't love you anymore and don't want to see you anymore.
Had enough of being treated like dirt.
We're over. “. She said if I had spoken these words instead of texting them, she’d have got past this and we’d be back together. How do I get her past this please? I love her so much.
It's been less than a week since I decided to initiate contact with my ex. She broke up with me, after she said that she needed time for herself, but we broke up on good terms (she still loves me and she said that whenever I want we can talk again). I did NC for about a month and I can proudly say that we are talking again for a couple of days now. She is still not fully open, but she could have just ignored my messages whatsoever. I even asked her to go on a date for coffee and she was in, although next week she was full because of some business that she had. I completely agree with the idea of the emotional connection but is there anything more that I can do, in order to bring this whole thing into the next level?
i did this mistake can i fix it? or it's done
Hi Clay, is this still relevant when you’ve been trying to rebuild for twelve months, or more in the earlier stages of a breakup?
Whilst we have a pretty good connection and he cares for me a great deal, he has a lot going on and isn’t in a space to discuss relationships. He’s also terribly avoidant.
However, because we’re well connected he turns to me for emotional support with his various issues and I’m always there for him.
But equally I can’t wait forever and am at the point of doing OWSD.
He’s likely to maintain his law of consistency in not being able or wanting to have a relationship but the context of that will be that he doesn’t feel he can manage everything at the moment including a relationship.
My loved ones say he’s “having his cake and eating it too” by having all the support a partner would give without the commitment. I’m trying not to let those kinds of statements get to me but it’s hard when sometimes I think they’re right.
The ball is in his court. Don't try and goad them into throwing it back to you.
Wow!
Mine is a dismissive avoidant.
Extremely stressed due to a family situation and career
@@walkertranger5746 that pretty much mirrors my situation. Family situation and now has lost his job…..he’s a single father of two teenage daughters, their mother is not on the scene so it’s him and his mother raising them. She’s retired so he’s the breadwinner