How Narcissistic Moms Can Be Toxic خودپرست ماں کے اثرات| Dr. Nazia Gulfam | Urdu

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  • @Dorara123
    @Dorara123 4 місяці тому +20

    I think that 95% mothers are narcissistic and 5% are really lovable!

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 3 роки тому +70

    Though the narcissists r bad to their victims they r good to outsiders or other family members because they donot want to b punishment

  • @englishandbiohub6621
    @englishandbiohub6621 5 місяців тому +12

    Very nicely said mujhe meri family se door kia and one of my sister has become golden child and i have become black sheep and i on the counterpart speak the truth and i have become a black sheep.She even abusing me financially and all of us mentally too especially me.Even i saw my mother not being happy with my happy marriage she would taunt my husband for respecting and loving me 😂😂😂i hope Allah helps me.

  • @draina3583
    @draina3583 8 місяців тому +26

    Im 27 years old and I'm going through this, she makes me cry even during roza , she comment's on my appearance and my personality, it's like she's in a competition with me

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  7 місяців тому +1

      So sad

    • @imaanhussain5198
      @imaanhussain5198 5 місяців тому +1

      That’s because she is in competition with you

    • @syedafatima8119
      @syedafatima8119 5 місяців тому +2

      I'm sorry for your pain. You have to protect yourself by going gray rock or distancing yourself, if you cannot leave. I left when I got married.

    • @syedafatima8119
      @syedafatima8119 5 місяців тому +1

      Protect yourself!

    • @Injamamulmallick-mw8nt
      @Injamamulmallick-mw8nt 4 місяці тому

      @@syedafatima8119 They are intentionally Sabotaging my any marriage rishta she doesn't want me to get married at all she is always Sabotaging me and always verbally abusing me .she has been Sabotaging my marriage and any success in my life which will make me make money this all was happening since my teenage hood but i couldn't discover what was happening to me until it's tooo too late I'm 26 y/oMALE UNAMRRIED UNEMPLYED UNDRIENDED WITH ANY FRIENDS I HAD BECOZ THEY sabotaged my frienships by making me over indulgentce in studies but I could never satisfy them with any of my performances. They are so Cruel to me since I remember

  • @mommyandnajmi_jr
    @mommyandnajmi_jr 2 роки тому +52

    This is the exact image of my namely mother she has poisoned my sisters and other relative towards me because she can't even hear my praise from others. She has just destroyed my childhood and my mental health still she is not leaving my back she tortures and abuse me everyday if i say something she just come even worse with her abusive language abilities..I am so helpless and zero willingness for living now..May Allah save every innocent child from such devils in skin of Humans

    • @aishat3808
      @aishat3808 2 роки тому +4

      Do not respond. Just keep silent whateva she says. Your silence will surprise her. Pray to Allah to guide you out of the situation.

    • @nooraniat4514
      @nooraniat4514 2 роки тому +6

      @@aishat3808 its not easy, no matter how much I try to ignore her she will cross all boundaries to torture me every now and then she loves shouting in the house she want neighbours to hear the drama she never considers herlself as part of the family

    • @aishat3808
      @aishat3808 2 роки тому +4

      @@nooraniat4514 I know. May Allah make it easy for everyone going through these tests.

    • @SnowieKittyDraws
      @SnowieKittyDraws 2 роки тому +1

      @@aishat3808 thanks sister for giving recovery tips may Allah bless you

    • @aishat3808
      @aishat3808 2 роки тому +1

      @@SnowieKittyDraws Amen and you too. May Allah guide us to passing all his tests.

  • @careottjuice
    @careottjuice 16 днів тому +2

    The way she talks and how it's recorded, it's so ASMR

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 3 роки тому +26

    Maashallah,
    in many families the elder children r not being treated well, though the elder children care for youngrones

  • @MKAVStudio
    @MKAVStudio Рік тому +49

    Ktna mushkil hai na maa se muhabat na milne pe normal react krna

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 2 роки тому +17

    My mother has all such qualities. She has tried to kill me in infancy also she often controlled so that I won't b better than her

  • @nosh3120
    @nosh3120 5 місяців тому +6

    Excellent topic. Since these traits are not common hence not discussed. I believe it is very important to educate the society. We cannot control such grandiose attention seekers but atleast by eduacating the sufferers we can help them understand the problem and break the chain of propagation

  • @syedali5699
    @syedali5699 2 роки тому +8

    I am a scapegoat.. but thats what make me strong...!! By the way thank you maam...!! Thank you every much..

  • @ankitaswal6751
    @ankitaswal6751 2 роки тому +19

    I wish I could have taken birth as orphan ❤️ I lost my 32 years in this !! I came to know all this last week !! I still believe in god !! My dad is mute speaker in front of her !! He controls everything !! My all family members think I am wrong as I disagree with her !! But now I made up my mind to live freely !! I will not ruin my child’s life !! I will love him unconditionally!! I will die for her happiness !! Even if he is wrong I will support him !

    • @aishat3808
      @aishat3808 2 роки тому +2

      Support your kids and do not talk back to your parents. The arguing makes it much worse as some of them actually enjoying seeing the angry effect their words have. Pray to Allah to make it easy for you if you are a Muslim. Honestly it is very sad that kids have to search for content like this.

    • @angelicvibes5138
      @angelicvibes5138 2 роки тому +4

      One thing you can do is don't let it happen with your kids

    • @nahidamajeed9973
      @nahidamajeed9973 5 місяців тому

      Love your kids and relive your childhood with them .May Allah bless you ❤️

  • @Shina822
    @Shina822 7 місяців тому +14

    I love my mother more than anything.. i do a lot for her , i cook for her. I work overtime to provide everything to her. I do lot to make sure she is comfortable. But she never cares about me. If I am suffering from fever she will not even give me a glass of water. 32 years of my life I yearned for her love but she has always been v v v v selfish. She doesn't save money at all. I have to do 2 jobs. I am so so sos so tired.

    • @shabxperia
      @shabxperia 6 місяців тому +1

      Same my story. I worked 2 jobs for more than 10 years for her. she died when I was 33 years old and I was still single. She used to beat me every other day even at that age. She took out all her frustrations on me. After her no one cares about me to get me merry. I got married myself and even then no one was ready to spend a single penny on my wedding. I got only things which were already saved in the name of dowry from the passage of time.

    • @Imallik2772
      @Imallik2772 5 місяців тому +1

      Don't try anymore.. No narc is ever gonna get satisfied

    • @syedafatima8119
      @syedafatima8119 5 місяців тому +4

      I was like that too. You have to realize that she's never going to change. So...look out for yourself first. Protect yourself from her harmful words and actions. Distance yourself emotionally and, if possible, physically. Then behave in a reasonably good manner with her. My narcissistic mother is over 80. I know what I am talking about. She got worse, not better with age

    • @Annacookingmania
      @Annacookingmania 4 місяці тому

      May Allah ease your burdens and heart ache

    • @Injamamulmallick-mw8nt
      @Injamamulmallick-mw8nt 4 місяці тому

      Narcissistic mother is the worst enemy of you, if you've got a narc mother in your life she will be the worst enemy in your Life she will hate you for without any reason Just being born is your worst mistake and a crime in eyes of her she will control all your finances and will do any sabotage to make you unhinged and dependent on them/her . Literally she is the worst enemy

  • @tanveerawan4992
    @tanveerawan4992 2 роки тому +30

    I am the scapegoat now. I did more than my share of responsibilities for the whole family after the death of my father when I was 16. I was the smartest and very responsible kid. I studied/worked hard, went abroad, made a lot of money and spent most of it on the family. My mom and everyone was happy. At the age of 40, after I fulfilled everything, I wanted to make a decision for my own life with my own money. But my mom did not like it. She dragged this difference of opinion too much. Now my whole family is against me. I gave my mom enough money for the rest of her life. She, along-with her flying monkeys is still spreading lies about me. I am completely silent. I live in a separate home for many years now and have gone No Contact. I believe this is the Best Way to deal with a Narcissist. If anyone believes there is another softer way, they are wrong. There is no other way and Please, don't bring religion (Islam) in it. When Zulm from Narcissist parents increases, their right decreases with the same ratio. Dr. Gulfam, I think you were very defensive when discussing. Say it openly; Narcissists are Bad forever!

    • @ischaudhry9067
      @ischaudhry9067 Рік тому +1

      Tanvir,
      I am same as you. The only difference that I have been abused for 44 years of my life. I curse this woman, may she burn in hell forever.

    • @tanveerawan4992
      @tanveerawan4992 Рік тому +1

      @@ischaudhry9067 I hear you man!

    • @noreenanw
      @noreenanw Рік тому +3

      Yes i wanted to send this to my mom ..but the lady sugar coated it so no point

    • @tanveerawan4992
      @tanveerawan4992 Рік тому +1

      @@noreenanw You used a better term than what I did. About sending it your mom, I believe there would have been no use anyway.

    • @fashionglobally.2075
      @fashionglobally.2075 Рік тому +3

      I feel you seriously 😭😭😭 my mother is doing same thing and she keeps telling me I will not let you succedd in life 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @pallabiganguly2740
    @pallabiganguly2740 2 дні тому

    Thank you mam... you seem very kind

  • @leena3381
    @leena3381 3 роки тому +20

    Mam my both parents and one sibling are narcissistic every day I get harassed mentally by them and I am physically and mentally very sick and I don't want to live with them I am suffocating what I do to leave them

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  3 роки тому +6

      That’s sad, it’s difficult to change personalities, Get more knowledge and understand more about their personalities Try to communicate and tell them what bothers you.
      Focus more on your own goals of life .
      You can message on 8329658844
      And we can discuss sometime

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 3 роки тому +4

    This is exactly what my n mother did though I respected and cared for her.. And also sacrificed my life due to toxic peopl

  • @filzafood10
    @filzafood10 2 роки тому +6

    I'm literally crying 💔💔

  • @akhan8343
    @akhan8343 5 років тому +3

    Masha Allah well said!

  • @yasararfath6222
    @yasararfath6222 4 роки тому +2

    Mashallah very beautiful lesson ,

  • @moromisultana9838
    @moromisultana9838 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much, needed to hear this🙏

  • @MrUsrana
    @MrUsrana 2 роки тому +2

    Great insight, there should be more content like this for mass awareness, thank you for this video!

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 3 роки тому +9

    N mothers make their childrn dull and unhappy because they do not appreciate and encourage childrn

  • @strugglingsoul9235
    @strugglingsoul9235 2 місяці тому +4

    Unfortunately I ve such a mother..bcz of her..I m facing lot of mental problems. ..😢😢😢

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 2 роки тому +10

    Not all have good parents

  • @SharrysDiary
    @SharrysDiary 2 роки тому +1

    Very Good Explained. B

  • @tasminakhalid6459
    @tasminakhalid6459 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for the video.

  • @syedali5699
    @syedali5699 2 роки тому +7

    Recently had a fight with narcissistic mother, she kicked me out of the house, now living and sleeping in my car, but its okay allah is great....!! I cant change her but atleast i can left, maybe i was doing sins whenever i fight with her even thou its never my fault but what can i do?, she didnt educate me or my siblings and didnt give me any inheritance when my father died...!! I even showed her the verses of quran but still she dont wanna give anything, she's not even realizing she did anything wrong, no remorse, no guilt, no shame, she destroyed my entire life...!! I didnt even have any friends at all because she turned everyone against me by gossiping.

    • @saimachowdhurysaima4282
      @saimachowdhurysaima4282 2 роки тому +1

      same to me.. she took everyone against me by gossping and for her my younger sister even beats me . and she dont say a single word to her

    • @Jamalkhan-pi2fp
      @Jamalkhan-pi2fp 2 роки тому +1

      I have same story bro ,

    • @jinping-hz4wt
      @jinping-hz4wt Рік тому

      My Bitchy mom Fights with me everyday.

    • @jinping-hz4wt
      @jinping-hz4wt Рік тому

      ​@@saimachowdhurysaima4282 same. That bicth gossip about me every time

    • @razamughal4582
      @razamughal4582 7 місяців тому

      Which country are you in?

  • @anjumbano798
    @anjumbano798 5 років тому +3

    Plz make videos on this sensitive topics

  • @javeriahhh
    @javeriahhh 3 місяці тому

    Jazakillah ❤

  • @chandakhan5653
    @chandakhan5653 3 роки тому +1

    Best video ever

  • @AmnaKhan-o9q
    @AmnaKhan-o9q 4 місяці тому +1

    I am agree with you
    100000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 . . . . . .
    Main b asi hi life APNI maa K sath guzar rai hun

  • @97marwa
    @97marwa 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you

  • @MKAVStudio
    @MKAVStudio Рік тому +5

    I was golden child and my sister was that other one ... Jb tk woh zinda thi mjhe yh baat smjh nahi ai aj ap ki BAAT sun kr smjh arha hai ktna bara Kam hogya hmare sath..

    • @miss_8thwonder
      @miss_8thwonder Рік тому

      Kya kiya tha Aap ne black sheep ke sath, kya Golden child ki life successful hota hai

    • @englishandbiohub6621
      @englishandbiohub6621 5 місяців тому

      You are stupid even one of my sister is now like this.

    • @Injamamulmallick-mw8nt
      @Injamamulmallick-mw8nt 4 місяці тому

      ​@@miss_8thwondernhi bhai wo apas me larte rehte hai and both of them live their life miserably

    • @umnasaif8875
      @umnasaif8875 16 днів тому

      Golden child is evil u were evil i know apni behn k sath bhtt nasafian krwati hain aesi behnein jo maa ka golden child bnti hain

  • @indervirsidhu8549
    @indervirsidhu8549 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for this beautiful guidance.

  • @UmerSiddiqui-d2b
    @UmerSiddiqui-d2b 5 місяців тому +7

    ek narcissitic aurat kabhi apni beti ko golden child nahi banati... most of the time wo apne baqi bachon k muqable main beti ko ziyada ataab ka nishana banati hai....

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  5 місяців тому +2

      It’s sad situation

    • @nikatshaikh-cj5tp
      @nikatshaikh-cj5tp 3 місяці тому +1

      True....I am suffering from last 30 years....Mera divorce Kara Diya meri maa ne...main kya karu 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

  • @royakhan1
    @royakhan1 2 роки тому +1

    Amazing

  • @AroojWritings
    @AroojWritings 5 місяців тому +1

    Best video ,💕💐✨

  • @jinping-hz4wt
    @jinping-hz4wt Рік тому +5

    I am Scapegoat

  • @farahalam635
    @farahalam635 Рік тому +1

    I feel this is a very simplistic explanation of a very complex personality disorder which is not able to highlight the trauma induced by narcissistic personality disorder individuals.
    Firstly there a 2 types 1. Who is outspoken and aggressive and 2. Who behaves like a victim to gain sympathy and then all the attention. So please do not simplify in such a manner that it appears like every strict mother is a narcissist.

  • @sanji546
    @sanji546 2 роки тому +5

    There is narcissist mother in law too

  • @anjumbano798
    @anjumbano798 5 років тому +1

    Thnxxxxxxx alooooooooooot

  • @divyasharma8123
    @divyasharma8123 Рік тому +10

    I am escape goat ..... My mother always do divide and rule policy ..i hate my mother ....
    Meri shadi k baad b meri maa ne mein husband k khilaf krne ki koshish ki ..meri sis se mujhe dur Kiya ...meri he saas k khilaf krne ki koshish ki ...... I hate my mother mere baap ko b mere khilaf kr diya ... But thank God ki mere husband meri maa ko pehchan gye hai .....

    • @englishandbiohub6621
      @englishandbiohub6621 5 місяців тому +2

      Same to same even after marriage my mother would sabotage my current relationship even she would try to recall my teenage mistakes to my husband.Soon I realised my mother also seperated my sisters from me and now that I am married she would like to extract money from me and as said in the video one of my sis has became golden child and I am the black sheep of the family.

    • @itsme6156
      @itsme6156 3 місяці тому +1

      . Es dunya mein kuch qisay hm se b milty hen .asa kesy kr skti ha .

    • @sheetalfulmare2071
      @sheetalfulmare2071 24 дні тому

      Main kya kru??

  • @anjumbano798
    @anjumbano798 5 років тому +2

    Very gooooooooooood🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @sumaira2395
    @sumaira2395 5 місяців тому +2

    Omg this is same my situation

  • @apkafan8004
    @apkafan8004 2 роки тому +27

    I am raised by narcissist parents , they ruined my life , my father passed away few years back (thank God) but my toxic mother is still around,

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  2 роки тому +16

      It’s so sad, parents don’t realize how they are destroying their children,s lives

    • @aishakhan1021
      @aishakhan1021 2 роки тому +6

      I wish my parents were gone too, both of mine are toxic and it’s living hell with them .

    • @apkafan8004
      @apkafan8004 2 роки тому +8

      @@aishakhan1021
      Unfortunately there is no help available in our society against bad parents

    • @saraumar3295
      @saraumar3295 2 роки тому +3

      My toxic adopted mother passed away last year just adopted father who's also narc still around. My childhood was hell on earth

    • @saraumar3295
      @saraumar3295 2 роки тому +1

      @@apkafan8004 Yes

  • @dotbliss
    @dotbliss 2 місяці тому +2

    The mental torture that these mothers give is worth talking and it’s not easy to live with such ppl. They end up alone and nobody likes them. Yet they don’t realize that they have no respect in anyone’s heart.

  • @AshQta
    @AshQta 2 дні тому

    My both parents are toxic n i still hv to live with them. 😢 Please pray Allah give me patience

  • @MadinaMakkahMakkah
    @MadinaMakkahMakkah 21 день тому

    Same condition is my mother
    Is pr b video bnaen agr wo tana zani krti hn

  • @dbegum464
    @dbegum464 4 місяці тому +1

    Assalamualikum. Jazak Allahu Khair for this explanation. Please can you do one in English or have it translated by someone in English for our young Muslim English speakers. They will benefit from it inshallah. May Allah reward you. Ameen

  • @syedali5699
    @syedali5699 2 роки тому +24

    Maam, ill be honest, its not easy to control narcissistic mom, TBH no contact is the best option. Its better to stay away with them.

    • @Happy_Potato0
      @Happy_Potato0 2 роки тому +1

      Being a muslim we cannot go without any contact Allah ny bola hy saaf k milna kam krdo magr wasta khatam nahi or izzat o ahtaram krna har haal main aulaad pr farz hy.

    • @zainabfaysal9719
      @zainabfaysal9719 2 роки тому

      Jbh just stay away

    • @gordonbennett3213
      @gordonbennett3213 2 роки тому +2

      Call them on phone, see them on eid day when other people are around never on your own

    • @gordonbennett3213
      @gordonbennett3213 2 роки тому +1

      Just say hello, hopeyour wrll then say bye gotta go, give them an eid gift like a nice card and flowers and then drive off

    • @syedali-ov9cl
      @syedali-ov9cl 2 роки тому +1

      I can takecare of my mom financially only, but i wont see her at all...

  • @rahulkumar-mh6fv
    @rahulkumar-mh6fv 6 місяців тому +1

    Mam
    how to overcome from narcissistic and toxic parents

  • @sanji546
    @sanji546 2 роки тому +5

    To aisay bachy kesay grow karein

  • @cupie-sl8vt
    @cupie-sl8vt 4 місяці тому +2

    OMG I m second one! Meri maa bhi aisi hi hain 😭😭😭even wo to meray character pr b bat krti hain

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 3 роки тому +3

    N mothers think that only they have right to do anything and not childrn

  • @moonlight1244-x3f
    @moonlight1244-x3f 3 місяці тому +2

    Narcissist mother in law par video banaye jo apne betey son ki zindgi banne nahi deti aur son ko kamane jane nahi bolna as a husband he always takes his moms side after every disagreement hapn in any situation mommas boy per b ek video banaye

  • @eshakhan3513
    @eshakhan3513 3 роки тому +10

    I hate my mother 😭😭😭

  • @deepadhania5921
    @deepadhania5921 2 роки тому +5

    Mri maa bahut bdi narcissist h mri jindgi brbad krne p tuli h k kiya jaye

    • @Jamalkhan-pi2fp
      @Jamalkhan-pi2fp 2 роки тому +1

      kisi tarah ghar se nikal jao hamesha hamesha ke liay

    • @deepadhania5921
      @deepadhania5921 2 роки тому +1

      @@Jamalkhan-pi2fp ab ghr chod k kha jau m

    • @nooraniat4514
      @nooraniat4514 2 роки тому +1

      @@deepadhania5921 also have a backup plan in hand if not IAS officer then what? Become independent as soon as you can there is no other solution

    • @miss_8thwonder
      @miss_8thwonder Рік тому +1

      @@Jamalkhan-pi2fp mujhe rare genetics Cushing syndrome I got it when I was 8 years old, I tried every second single & way but the doctor abused me for 2 years constantly for seeking help, my covert Narc mom did it out of jealousy, this is a small town, I am stuck here with one doctor, this so-called narcissist dad abandoned me in a jungle-like place, with no human around, this narcissistic relative of my adopted mom's family confined me and imprisonment me for 8years, all of them abused me severely by" "Neglecting My Entire Existence" my words and my voice, dreams, took away my covert narcissistic mom, Took away my" SELF IDENTITY"
      kindly say, what to do with this crushing syndrome? I am in severe pain inside and out, her flying monkey and her smear campaign are still alive and roaming low life!

  • @ischaudhry9067
    @ischaudhry9067 Рік тому +2

    Our home has been completely destroyed by the "narcissist" woman of our home. Everyone is pitched against every other by this woman.

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 3 роки тому +1

    If close family members r narcissists v won't b safe, they r dangerous. Only after many years v come to know that they r narcssts

  • @RoohaHaramSultan
    @RoohaHaramSultan Рік тому +2

    Mjhe sever anxiety attacks ki surat me bamajobori hospital le Jana para wrna she avoid k choti c baat k liye hospital Kya Jana, wahan doctor pochy Kya tension hai to un rishty daron ki maut ginwane lagti hain jn k Marne ka dukh srf un ki Nazar me unhen hai.. mere to woh shayad Kuch lagty hi nahi thy isliye akhri dedar se bh rok dia gya.. father ki death k baat reality check bh mother ne dia k ab yatem hogai ho and all taunting.. Meri surgery hui to pury hospital me billing issue pe larti ghom rahi thn k bill Sahi nahi bnaya aik min k liye mere pas nahi bethi I don't know how to react .. sometime it's all very suffocating

  • @farhanusmani9971
    @farhanusmani9971 3 місяці тому +1

    it is not easy madam my sister and mother makes me escape goat destroy my self esteem self confidence motivation every thing i feel worth less fed up with life

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  3 місяці тому

      It’s sad, but please try to focus on your goals of life,
      They will not change, don’t get affected by their behaviours, and do your best in your career

    • @farhanusmani9971
      @farhanusmani9971 3 місяці тому

      @@DrNaziaGulfam Help Me

    • @spookyguy5013
      @spookyguy5013 3 місяці тому

      ​@@farhanusmani9971hey i am also living in this situation, you can share with me

    • @farhanusman1590
      @farhanusman1590 3 місяці тому

      ​​@@spookyguy5013i am living like a dead person my mother and sister destroy my self esteem self confidence every thing i pray god to gift me death disrespect me infront of other people.i am fed up 36 years made my life hell i will never marry does not allow them to make another person life hell

  • @UM-Hassan-h4y
    @UM-Hassan-h4y Рік тому

    Narscist saas k baray main kia khiyal ha. Kia wo bahu ka jeena haram nahi karain gi. Uss ka kia hul ha. Beta kia karay?

  • @mohammedshoaibhumayun5827
    @mohammedshoaibhumayun5827 2 місяці тому +1

    Mera dil krta ha ye video main apnay parents ko send kro. Pr nahi kr sakta.

  • @mansipatel1
    @mansipatel1 2 роки тому

    इस दुनिया में हर इंसान को अपना पैसा खुद कमाना चाहिए, चाहे वह मां हो या बाप हो।

  • @SumaiyyahKhan-vf4vi
    @SumaiyyahKhan-vf4vi 4 місяці тому +1

    I am scapegoat of my family

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  4 місяці тому

      That’s sad
      But don’t take it to your heart it’s not your fault, it’s their personality

  • @sumaira2395
    @sumaira2395 3 місяці тому

    How can I contact u

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  3 місяці тому

      8329658844
      It’s American number
      You can WhatsApp

  • @HomeFrendsten
    @HomeFrendsten 3 роки тому +2

    My n parents have already destroyed my life

  • @dhanucharan3847
    @dhanucharan3847 2 місяці тому

    Maa 🌍

  • @sanji546
    @sanji546 2 роки тому +2

    Can i send this to my narcissist mom

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  2 роки тому +9

      You can try but mostly people don’t admit or realize that they are wrong

    • @zaynshah4023
      @zaynshah4023 2 роки тому +2

      @@DrNaziaGulfam narcissism to munafiqat aur iblees ka sifat hai. Empathy to momin aur Khudaa ka daata/peer ka sifat hai.

  • @Imshaista
    @Imshaista 4 роки тому +11

    Less contact or no contact is only solution

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  4 роки тому +1

      Less contact as no contact is not allowed , or if one can learn how to ignore the insulting behaviour that would be great 🌹

    • @mskhan2847
      @mskhan2847 3 роки тому +7

      @@DrNaziaGulfam hahah thats dont work... they go to level of hell to hurt

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  3 роки тому +1

      @@mskhan2847 yes it’s very sad

    • @zaynshah4023
      @zaynshah4023 2 роки тому +2

      @@DrNaziaGulfam narcissism to munafiqat aur iblees ka sifat hai. Empathy to momin aur Khudaa ka daata/peer ka sifat hai.

  • @naushadhussain2097
    @naushadhussain2097 2 місяці тому +2

    ab kya,sb khatam zindagi hi barbaad ho gayi.ab pehchan ker kya karunga

  • @shaz5201
    @shaz5201 2 роки тому +6

    I too was suffering from childhood..kitna bhi karu main Apni mammy k liye kabhi khush nahi hoti
    i know it is bad to be rude with your parents but at times your patient nature will cease,
    please make a video how to deal with this problem without harming mother's sentiments...Allah ne beshak uncha muqaam diya hai Maa ko..

  • @hamzashafique1115
    @hamzashafique1115 6 місяців тому +3

    Madam shame.... Narcissist doesn't deserve any respect whether she's mother or Whatever . Dandi na maren . Btain k us se bhago aisi maa mind tabah krti hai

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  6 місяців тому

      Beta it depends how severe is narcissism, some malignant narcissists are very very toxic,

  • @Jamalkhan-pi2fp
    @Jamalkhan-pi2fp 2 роки тому +16

    ہمارے معاشرے میں اس چیز کا تصور ہی نہی ہے کہ ماں باپ بھی برے ہو سکتے ہیں صبح شام ماں باپ کے مقام پر لیکچرز دئیے جاتے ہیں شائد ہی میں نے کبھی اولاد کے حقوق کے بار بھی کسی کو اسی زور شور سے بات کرتے سنا ہو ، میری ماں مجھ پر ایک عزاب کی طرح مسلط ہے اس نے میری شادی بھی نہی ہونے دی مجھے ناقص خوراک دی یوں سمجھیں کہ میں یوں محسوس کرتا ہوں کہ یہ عورت میری خوشیوں اور میرے وجود کے گرد سانپ کی طرح لپٹی ہوئی ہے ، میری برداشت اب جواب دے چکی ہے دل چاہتا ہے کہیں بھاگ جاوں لیکن میری حالت ایک ایسے پرندے کی سی ہے جو ساری عمر پنجرے میں رہا ہے اڑنا چاہے بھی تو نہی اڑ پاتا ، کسی وقت لگتا ہے میں پاگل ہو جاونگا کئی کئی دن خود کشی کے بارے سوچتا رہتا ہوں اللہ سے ایک ہی دعا ہے کہ یا تو مجھے اٹھا لے یا اس ذہریلی ناگن کو اٹھا لے یا مجھ سے کسی طرح دور کر دے

    • @SaminaYasmeen-m4j
      @SaminaYasmeen-m4j 8 місяців тому

      Meri mother thi asi 2010 m inki deth pe mujhe sakoon mela khshi hoi thi 🌺🌺🌿🌿🌿

    • @SaminaYasmeen-m4j
      @SaminaYasmeen-m4j 8 місяців тому

      Dear sir salam🌺❤🌺 ap mere pa's ajao mere bhai ban jao mera bhai Nahi beta Nahi ap apna nmbe de do 🌺🌺🌺🌿🌿

    • @IMRANKHAN_PTI1974
      @IMRANKHAN_PTI1974 7 місяців тому

      I can understand your pain. Mine is worst than you..... Just imagine😢

    • @farhanusman1590
      @farhanusman1590 3 місяці тому

      Same as me

    • @merasheharkarachi1650
      @merasheharkarachi1650 3 місяці тому

      Mine too.​@@IMRANKHAN_PTI1974

  • @ischaudhry9067
    @ischaudhry9067 Рік тому +6

    Madam, don't make parents and especially mothers "the gods". They are not. And no, their status is NOT after God. This is wrong " Mullah" mentality.

  • @daniakhalid3919
    @daniakhalid3919 2 роки тому +2

    I AM A BLACKSHIP CHILD ACTUALLY:')

  • @draina3583
    @draina3583 8 місяців тому +1

    She doesn't even let me get married, rejects every family with some excuse

  • @SnowieKittyDraws
    @SnowieKittyDraws 2 роки тому +1

    Assalamu alaikum ma'a m mein bhi ek narsisstic mother ki dil tooti hui beti hoon , mein hamesa pareshaan rahti hoon is wajeh se magar Islam me maa ka darja badaa kehte hain is liye mein sab kuch barshaast karti hoon ye kab tak chalegaa madam bataayiye.,...

  • @Injamamulmallick-mw8nt
    @Injamamulmallick-mw8nt 4 місяці тому +2

    My Mother wont even stop abusing mw even if i am crying she will tell everyone around her that i have done terrible thing to her if it is a minor critisism,my mother is a psychopathic narc mother she abuses me without any guilt and later makes me bad person while maintaining her image..

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  4 місяці тому

      Don’t feel guilty dear, it’s typical of this personality

    • @Injamamulmallick-mw8nt
      @Injamamulmallick-mw8nt 4 місяці тому

      @@DrNaziaGulfam narc parents se deal karne ka sabse sahi tarika kya hai???

    • @EmanFatima-cd2qp
      @EmanFatima-cd2qp 3 місяці тому

      @@Injamamulmallick-mw8nt .
      just stay away from them
      dont engage yourself in an argument with them.
      Never ever believe that whatever fu*k they are talking about you is right .
      Do your job and dont ever even supose they are going to do better with you .
      Try to concentrate in getting high profile degree or job and be independent on them .
      when you are at high post they are even going for flattering but seriously these people can never change .
      actually i must say its in their blood to mistrust you maybe your life parteners as well .

  • @mansipatel1
    @mansipatel1 2 роки тому +3

    हिंदू हो या मुस्लिम हो, हर एक धर्म में गंदे से गंदे मां-बाप का भी सेवा करने को कहा गया है, कि मां-बाप की हर एक गलती को नजरअंदाज करो, उनकी सेवा करो, क्योंकि अगर बच्चे मां-बाप से दूर चले गए, तो उनके धर्म का स्कैम मार्केटिंग चेन टूट जाएगा, अपने धर्म के फ्रॉड मार्केटिंग चैन को आगे बढ़ाने के लिए हर एक धर्म के गुरु किसी की भी जिंदगी को नर्क बना देते है !!

  • @cinderellajenner5163
    @cinderellajenner5163 2 роки тому +1

    💔💔💔

  • @pushpa5859
    @pushpa5859 Рік тому +1

    Aise ek story hai ma'am maa aur baap dono narcissists hai

  • @englishandbiohub6621
    @englishandbiohub6621 5 місяців тому

    My both parents are toxic my mother narcissistic and father anger issues

  • @Khannajmah
    @Khannajmah 8 місяців тому

    Agree

  • @draina3583
    @draina3583 8 місяців тому +3

    Bad duaen deti hen k barbad hujao, Bura shohar melay

  • @doctoraneesa3229
    @doctoraneesa3229 2 роки тому +3

    Meri puri family toxic hai mai to bs mrna chati hu😭

  • @mayaurbano-aly2768
    @mayaurbano-aly2768 2 роки тому +4

    😞 for us that don’t understand the language and can’t find a lot of these talks by Muslims. The title in English is misleading and subtitles should be added…just a recommendation.

  • @AmnaKhan-o9q
    @AmnaKhan-o9q 4 місяці тому

    I love u mam

  • @MKAVStudio
    @MKAVStudio Рік тому

    I'm 30 and after my sister's death I become the only child from golden child me scapegoat bna gai hun.. Im tired to make her please but hasil Kuch nahi.. she thinks she lost her husband, her daughter.. mjhe nana nani ka akhri dedar krne nahi dia, bare Mamu ki death pe bh same yhi kia.. she always said k woh un ka shohar un ki beti un k maa baap or bhai thy or Jo alive same for them k woh mere behn bhai hain.. means I have nothing .. un k gham gham hai mere pas thori na gham hai koi

  • @rashidarupani9519
    @rashidarupani9519 4 місяці тому +2

    MUJE ESA FEEL HÒTA HE KI ME BHI NARCISSISTIC MOM HU OH GOD KYA KRU ?

  • @Radha___R
    @Radha___R 2 місяці тому

    My toxic narcissistic devil still alive why God why????

  • @SumairasWorld-qw1qx
    @SumairasWorld-qw1qx 4 місяці тому

    Mame Mari saas bilkul aisay ha mara husband apni family ka black sheep ha maray 3 bataya Hain main darti hn kah kahi main apnay batoon Kay sath yeh salook na Karon mainay waqt Kay sath sath apnay ap ko badla ha Jo batain bachoon Ko takleef na day batoon Ki zindgi na Kha jaoon

  • @bilalshanebond
    @bilalshanebond 2 дні тому

    My father forced me to marry of his like and no others I'm depressed

  • @sairaamin2140
    @sairaamin2140 3 місяці тому +1

    Ilaj kya he esi mothers ka ya parents ka? Ye logon ki zindagi jahanum bna dete hein. But just to suffer should not be the only option. Esa ek insan puray ghar ko poisoned krta he.

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  3 місяці тому

      Try not to take their behaviours on your heart

  • @nisha8500
    @nisha8500 Рік тому +1

    Did you meet my MIL 🙄

  • @tubabeautytips1671
    @tubabeautytips1671 9 місяців тому

    Meri sass hin ghar ko azab banaya howa hy

  • @iipxeachy8298
    @iipxeachy8298 3 дні тому

    A mother couldn’t be narcissist.please try to understand your parents,they are always well wisher of kids.Sometimes kids got misunderstood.Now a days kids have no patience,if a mother decides something for family ,good kids should follow mothers.Such topics instead name of awareness actually putting more fire on family relationships.Dont listen this rebellious lecture,which is taking u God.Listen your mum.

  • @r.a9660
    @r.a9660 3 місяці тому +1

    Meri sas or wife ha in dono ny mil kr hmara bacha bhi mar diya h or hm sb ko controle krna chahti h

  • @saban9128
    @saban9128 2 роки тому +4

    You spoke about narcissistic mother but what about mother in law ??? These people destroy families , can never be happy . There happiness does not last for long . They break marriages . It’s more toxic than you spike in your video . NPD is not like a special need child . It can others mentally, psychologically & physically…shaytaan is an excellent example of narcissistic personality. I which you had thrown 1 -2 min for daughter in laws too

    • @DrNaziaGulfam
      @DrNaziaGulfam  2 роки тому

      Yes it can be any member in the family, who ever has this type of personality destroys relationships and families

    • @zaynshah4023
      @zaynshah4023 2 роки тому +2

      @@DrNaziaGulfam narcissism to munafiqat aur iblees ka sifat hai. Empathy to momin aur Khudaa ka daata/peer ka sifat hai.

    • @nasimashaikh833
      @nasimashaikh833 2 роки тому +1

      My mother in law is also a narcissistic she is torturing me and my husband so much that i am going in depression and some time i think of suicide also. My husband is not saying anything to her mother due to Islam has not given permission. But what about me.Do i deserve to be tortured she has crossed extreme level of narcissistic.

    • @Nobody-vr8ri
      @Nobody-vr8ri Рік тому +1

      @@DrNaziaGulfam and what about husband who is Narcissistic?? How to deal with that