Because I lived with him and he isolated me so intensely, I forgot about the goodness in the world that there are good people outside of people like this. Take us here for example, we’re all here supporting each other in the comments and learning together how to heal. If I could take away all the traumas you all and I have gone through, I would. I wish you healing, realizing there are safe places and safe people, learning how to find safety and peace without it being a risk.
So happy to hear you’re doing well!! Tracking our progress is so great because when we see ourselves taking steps forward it creates that momentum to help us to continue moving forward!! 😊🤗
I don't know how ready I am. I still got some assignments to finish up..i did a " Michele Vid" marathon early. One it was moving. You have the grace when you are smiling, but your eyes were sad. We want to rid the world of this intense malady. Anyway , I hope to listen to all your stories. I see Narcissisim in the medical and phsycological field. Adults were not this bad covertly at least since the 1950s. Oh it's generational. Bob. For now it's time to listen.
It takes time to heal I completely understand I know just how devastating narcissistic abuse can be You Are Not Alone and if I can survive this and then flourish anyone can
@@bobhunley8794 I guess that is why so many in the medical field have threatened me. If you don't do what they want, they will threaten you, traumatize you. I have had forced csections (doctor threatened to drop me if I didn't allow because I wasn't having a baby on time). I was threatened by a dentist that if my daughter had tarter on her teeth, she would call dcfs. I was threatened if I left the pediatrician's office without the immunization shot she would call dcfs. The list goes on and on. The arrogance and obession with control is seen in the medical community-no doubt.
Always remember, if they can't support you then they can't have a relationship with you. Be polite but you do not have to tolerate disrespect. You are worthy. Give love to people that bring you joy. Hugs 🤍
@@Annatomova7 Yep. My mother and siblings and anyone else she can get on her side. People who have never even met me have decided that I am the Problem based on what she has told them. Lies, but they are gullible and believe her. My suggestion is to move far away and go No Contact.
The brain is a series of electrical circuits. When we become emotionally overwhelmed, the brain recognizes this and shuts down. Just like when you plug too many cords into a power strip, it shuts down when overloaded. Your brain does the same thing. It will shut down activity when it recognizes emotional overload.
King Solomon When I started dissociating, I didn’t know what was happening to me. I explained the symptoms to my mental health therapist who was treating me for trauma and she explained that I was experiencing one of many symptoms that someone diagnosed with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder would experience. She went on to give the scenario that I explained above. I was able to easily understand how the symptoms would manifest quickly and without warning (it can happen at very inconvenient times like when you’re driving a car). I hope that helps you.
Nobody should have their privacy hacked. Next they will - and do - hack peoples private lives for the purpose of distorting what is really going on with them, to discredit their political opinion in the rudest way they can think of. Which is a human rights transgression, working outside the law.
That's probably the best description of a panic attack I've ever heard (fight, flight, or fawn) at 3:50. For a while, I'd nearly forgotten what it's like to feel "normal" -- before healing began. Cheers!
I started crying somewhere between the 5:00 and 6:00 minute mark. This is why I'm 46 and I'm just beginning to heal from the abuse that started wen I was a toddler. OMG is sure feels good to know why it took me so long to heal. I thought something was wrong with Me for decades. I can see so clearly now. My life is peaceful and I'm happy being single and I wake up every morning loving myself and ready for the day. I seriously doubt I have ever had this feeling before. But I don't feel sorry for myself, I'm so proud of myself for finally doing something about the abuse and the toxic ppl I use to allow to surround me. Thank you Michelle! Ur videos are really life savings bc I can't afford professional help at the time in my life, I decided months ago to help myself , to read, do research, watch videos, take notes and do the work. It was hard but yet simple. I can't believe I allowed other humans to mentally abuse me , use me then discard me wen I had nothing left to give. I was looked down upon by so many ppl, I would hear the gossip going around about me, u would see the disapproval and shame in other's eyes and face wen I walked in a room, or so I was seeing and feeling that around certain ppl. And now all of that is behind me. I don't even care what anyone thinks about me anymore , bc i love me , I take care of me and at the end of the day only my opinion matters. It's amazing how much my mental state of mind has improved in the last 6 months. And this video has helped me understand what took me so long to begin healing.i don't want my 2 daughters to go thru what I did. And now I have the wisdom and tools to be able to help them recognize unhealthy behavior. Something I couldn't have done just 7 month ago. And like the brave Michelle is doing , I promise to spread and share this awareness to others so they too can heal. Merry Christmas Eve and a Happy New Year to anyone reading my comment!
🙏🌠👸🎉 merry Christmas to you 2 and happy new year congratulations on your awaking 🙏🤝🙏🗽mentally health! As for me it took me 33 years in my life our LORD IS GOOD 💔❤😊⭐⭐😂I YES CROSS YOUR COMMENTS! AND WE ARE MAY 2023 GOD BLESS YOUR NEW CHAPTER IN YOUR JOURNEY 👈🙏 NAMASTE 🎉😊
I was reading your comment and really had to check to see if I'd posted it previously and just forgot -- but I only had one child and she's abandoned me too. My body was wracked with pain and inflammation along with multiple random symptoms.... my house became a shambles with "hoarding" which repeatedly resulted in me building "barricades" along windows and doorways. When I realized that I had some innate subconscious drive to create a bunker for safety inside my own-- but unrecognizable home. And after enduring a type of HOME INVASION -- my ex picked up his "ex" from jail and used my debit card for part of the bail -- and stayed out 6 hours after he was supposed to be back with my car -- THEN I HEARD MY SHOWER and found out he had another woman in my bathroom and MONTHS LATER she's "reorganized" everything or thrown out or intentionally ruined my belongings and my life. She bragged about her cyber skills and code writing.... never have been able to get anything done about the Cyber fraud -+ even diverted my child support payments and really THERE'S NO WAY TO GET HELP WITHOUT PLENTY OF MONEY and then it wouldn't be worth it even if anyone would have taken me seriously. She even convinced the police that I was just jealous bc a "boy liked her best" and claimed we were roommates! Cops tried to get me to be "nice" and she stalked and let herself into my house for years afterwards -- she was somehow able to get to my keys for her own copies and I have several 5 gallon buckets of locks I changed out.... She was determined to make my life a living hell. I've been poisoned and drugged/dosed against my knowledge and when I would have severe resulting GI reactions SHE WOULD TEXT ME AND LET ME KNOW THAT I DESERVED WHAT I WAS GOING THROUGH + I FOUND SEVERAL WAYS OVER YEARS HOW MY PHONE WAS HACKED AND MY CAMERS DISAPPEARED FROM INSIDE MY HOUSE AND FROM MY WIFI AND I WOULDN'T BE ABLE TO PULL ANYTHING UP ONLINE.... BUT EVENTUALLY SHE WAS ACCUSING ME CONSTANTLY OF HAVING HIM WITH ME WHEN I DIDN'T AND AT SOME POINT SHE FADED INTO THE BACKGROUND AND A FEW THINGS THAT HE'D SAY OR JUST NOT BE SURPRISED ABOUT MADE ME REALIZE THAT HE'S REALLY BEEN ABLE TO USE WHATEVER SHE'D SET UP TO Terrorize me. Private detectives with the necessary professional credentials charge thousands to remove devices from your house and after enduring repeat hacks along with THE ENTIRE SITUATION AND I'VE BEEN TOO LOW ON FUNDS TO GET HELP AND FINANCIALLY IT'S GOING TO TAKE A FEW MORE YEARS TO EVEN BE ABLE TO SAVE UP TO BUY A USED CAR. AND NOW THAT I'VE FOUND A NATURAL DOCTOR WHO'S HELPED DIRECT ME TO THE HEALING TREATMENTS TO REPAIR MY BODY AND I'M FEELING BETTER THAN I HAVE IN A DECADE I KNOW THAT HE'S REALLY SURPRISED THAT I DON'T WANT TO PLAY HIS WHIPLASH GAME ANYMORE.... AND THEN NEXT I HAVE TO MOVE FAR AWAY AND AS SOON AS POSSIBLE BC I WILL NOT BE ABLE TO FEEL SECURITY WITHIN A FEW HUNDRED MILES--HE SMILES WHEN HE LOOKS INTO CRYING EYES AND WHEN I WAS A CHILD MY MOM WOULD SAY THAT SHE'D GIVE ME SOMETHING MORE TO CRY ABOUT -- HE USED TO THREATEN TO LEAVE WHEN I CRIED -- but when I told him that I was crying because he was there in the first place -- which just got me ignored. Whatever I've wanted, needed, requested or demanded RESULTED IN THE OPPOSITE.... AND THEN I'D THINK THAT I WOULD BE ABLE TO PREVENT AND GET AHEAD OF THE situation NEXT TIME -( JUST LIKE A GAMBLER DETERMINED TO GET A JACKPOT WHILE PUTTING THEIR LAST DOLLAR IN A SLOT....
God Bless You.... Im so glad you are healing so young, Im 85 and realize now that I should have Run Not Walked away from it Long long ago.. I Pray you continue to find the love and joy that is in yourself,, ASk Jesus the Lord to Guide You,, He Will..
Yes, especially when they (the narcissist) is female and DOES hit you, but they invite you to strike them back so they can ruin your life in court. Don't take their provocation and bait. Thank God I got away through divorce without abnormal drama.
Les Nash I think about CW’s and how SW’s said she’d wake him up in the night specifically to argue and pick a fight but that the last 4 weeks of their relationship he got out of bed and ignored her and slept in the basement to ignore the provocation. I can’t help but think about this case and how a man with zero history of violence could snap. People can plan revenge when their so full of hate and anger from being belittled like she admitted doing to him. He’s responsible for what he did 100%. God I remember the hate and pain and anger and am so grateful every second of every day I didn’t act on it by responding or doing anything much less killing someone.
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I hate having these symptoms 😞. Being in abusive relationship with a narc or sociopath parent and their flying monkeys and enablers hurts. I don't know who to trust . I try too keep my distance from the narcs flying monkeys . I want to live a normal better healthy life without all the worries . I want to move on in life . I suffer from CPTSD and anxiety . I don't want to be narcissistic . I feel like I'm constantly over thinking things .
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Great video! I’m so glad all those worries are gone! Walking over egg shells and worrying about everything and overthinking everything I did just being around a toxic person! I feel at peace and mentally stronger because I’m living my truth and not living for someone else
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Thank you for brilliant advice Michele. ❤I totally agree that the bottom up approach works. We need to calm our bodies first, we need to feel safe, grounded and trust ourselves to start regaining control over our lives.
I can hardly find any videos on when it was a situationship and not even a relationship. That pain and humiliation is something different when they dangled commitment like a carrot, you were a hamster on a wheel for years and then they never even gave it to you and told you they did not lead you on 😢. I'm healing because I don't want him anymore and realise I do not need to earn love anymore. It just hurts that this happened to me when he used the word friendship to keep me strung along.
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I’m in a very mentally abusive relationship I even find myself having to record each other’s conversations so I remember what really is said. I feel like I’m losing myself and question myself all the time. 😭
Michaela Carney it will not get any better. I’m at the breaking point now, three years in. It will NOT get better, no matter what they say. I was told this two years ago by friends and didn’t listen. The longer you’re in this, the more your mental health will deteriorate
Feeling a need or urge to record conversations so you can remind yourself who said what, is the one of the biggest red flags of gaslighting. I have been where you are. I wish you well.
Write down all you can remember what was done to you. Read it and realize this is wrong. People that love eachother do not treat others like this. Not normal. Go to a counselor with your list and release the secrets on your list. My anxiety left......then make a list of all the things you loved to do before the abuse. Do one a day, and keep going. Self-care = self-love 💘
Thank you Michelle! This could not have come at a better time. I have been searching high and low for this advice. You are my fave NPD-healing coach on UA-cam.
GC omg I feel exactly the same way! She is the best person I have ever found online period. Changed my life. So open and honest and knows from her own experience it’s amazing 😉💕
@@FromSurvivingToThriving Michele, how long does it take for diaphragmatic breathing to heal the parasympathetic nervous response - a couple months? Can this help get your energy back too? I am tired all the time :( Thanks for your marvellous video - you are the BEST !!
I love the way you speak so softly and the information is so clear. After my issues, I love when people speak softly - that's another reason why I'm so drawn to asmr vids. I never heard of the bottom-up approach. It's been 4 years and I'm still stuck in the same spot. :( Least I know why now.
Thank you 😊🤗😁 my son did asmr videos when he was 10 - he liked the relaxation that it gives!! I hope learning about the bottom up approach will help you on your healing journey 😊🤙
Your video, 20 symptoms of narcissistic victim syndrome, was the one video that helped me most to understand and be able to explain what had happened to me over the 21 years of marriage to a malignant narc. I knew he was narcissistic but didn’t really understand the full extent of what that meant or the evil he was capable of until my health had finally deteriorated to the point I could barely get out of bed. Even though I had learned over the years not to show any weaknesses or they’d be used against me, I knew something had to change. I mistakenly turned to him for help without realizing he was the source of how I got where I was. The more I poured my heart out to try to get him to understand, the more ammunition I have him to hurt me in the most cruel and unimaginable ways and I couldn’t understand why until I discovered that video. I have recently tried to find this video to share with my daughter and a couple friends who are in toxic relationships and starting to experience many of these same symptoms (I ended up with all 20) but it looks like it was taken down. You referred to it in a video you did a few months ago but I still can’t find the original video you did about the 20 symptoms of NVS. Is this still available. My daughter is in a toxic relationship and starting to experience a lot of these symptoms and I have friends trying to leave a narcissist that is like to share it with before they make the same mistakes I did. How can I get the video?
This is totally me. I finally found someone who explained this trauma. I felt No-one would understand. I sought help and was told I was Hyper vigilant with severe PTSD. I was and still am running from danger. Thank you for showing me that Im not alone in this situation and putting it into words.j
I love this concept. It makes so much sense. This reminds me of a study I read recently about cortisol and emotional abuse. We get so used to the stress response and bottom dropping out that we develop something akin to an addiction to it (according to the study). I think I'm going to expand on this in a video soon because it explains a lot about that scary post-abuse period. Thank you for putting out this video! 🙏❤
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It's like going back to war because the chaos feels better than peace. Very good stuff Michelle. You're the only one talking about the physiological aspect of this.
Thanks, I was having trouble trying to figure out,if I was the narcissist or her. I couldn’t understand that she was a covert narc. I always thought she couldn’t love anyone, including me! Now I understand better. It’s so complicated, it takes education to straighten it out in your mind.
It is so shocking to me how tangible and real and lasting the symptoms are of CPTSD in the target after the finally booting the narc out. I’m 5.5 months no contact. I’ve done a lot well in that time. 4 or 5 days a week at the gym. No drugs, drinking, no porn, no rebound. I am in the best physical shape of my life now at 48 but I’m a shell. I was a dating coach for 6 years before and extremely extrovert and super social. I spent years dating tonnes and super confident (not arrogant) and now that person that I was seems completely foreign to me. I take good care of my body now to help it heal but I’m less than 1% of who I used to be socially. That was after a year and a half engaged and living with a narc. The abuse is so insidious and yet so easy to explain away. Like second hand smoke that you barely can smell. But the effects after are mind blowing
Love how you bring the stress response into the Cptsd discussion. I try to remind people about the stress part (not focus just on the trauma...) as well. But you have done so eloquently🙏🏻
Thank you so very much! I have been struggling so badly. I have been in therapy for 4 years and feel stuck and Finally to hear your voice explaining this and your method has helped me in the 14 minute video more than the past 4 years of weekly therapy! 🙏🙏🤗❤
Such a beautiful person and just perfect advice. I have no idea how you can be so spot-on every time. You are like the Glinda of my life journey and I freakin love you 😘❤️🧘♀️❤️
Thank you so much Michele for the video course. I'm going to sign up very soon when I have a chance to dig into them. I've been married for 43 years, with the same man for 47 years and was raised by a narcissistic mom. I'm at the very beginning of my healing journey and still living with my husband. Not only that, my 38 year old mildly autistic son and 34 year old daughter (with 2 children) live with me so you can imagine the stress I am under. I'm still not sure how I'm going to leave my husband (he won't leave because he doesn't think he does anything wrong) or where I will live. I've been able to stay positive up to this point because of spiritual guidance and being determined not to let other people destroy my life. But lately I've been feeling the depression creeping up on me. I am 62 years old and the thought of starting my life over is frightening to me but I am determined to move forward and become the person God created me to be. Your videos have made me aware that I've been living with narcissists all of my life. Just being aware of that is a start. Thanks again Michele.
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@@jodyhenning2128 Hi Jody, I'm now 65 years old and have been separated from my husband for 1 1/2 years. We will be having mediation soon. Unfortunately, the process is taking a very long time. I have done a lot of reading and healing in the meantime. Ross Rosenburg (he is on UA-cam) has a step by step process on how to end the relationship and what you will be going through. I'm still going through the final stages but am very confident in myself. Watch and learn as much as you can about narcissism. You will learn about yourself and why you were in the relationship to begin with. I also trust Jesus to guide me and to help me to be able to stay joyful in my life, despite what has been going on. I'm praying for you.
Thank you Michele for your videos! I have been watching them daily trying to get myself back, learning so much that I wish I had known from the beginning. I know I am still trying to heal and it will take more time, but I am very grateful for your videos that have helped me to realize that I am not alone and there are others who have felt the way I am feeling now.
OMG Michele. I needed this! This is my next step Im ready! I dont know if I would have been ready last month but I will be following up with your life coaching techniques. Finally an explanation on why and how to move past it all and just breathe. Im breathing easier just watching this is. 😊We are all surrounded by narcs and their abuse either work, family, social circles and my hope is that we never have to deal with them ever again! Atleast I now have the tools! Thank you so much!
The videos are so on-point for me that I sometimes struggle to watch past the introduction, but when I can, it's like my mind is a bomb with a million wires, and I know I need to pull some of them to stop it going off but don't know which ones are safe, but then Michelle calls in and saves the day with her knowledge and expertise, so in that regard these videos are my secret to healing faster.
@Br8king Tha Silence I'm getting there! I've got quite a few bowls of spaghetti on my table, and I'm only just realising I've been trying to eat them all at once! Thanks for good vibes, getting a sense that I'm not only one going through this is deeply encouraging!
During my marriage I felt a state of constant anxiety so badly that I literally became claustrophobic and I live in New York and I had to go in elevators all the time and ride the trains the funny part about everything I just said is that I am a locksmith by trade looking back I can see how happy she was that I felt that constant state of anxiety she used to say to me while you're messed up there's something really wrong with you meanwhile I never felt that way until I was married to her it was her who made me who put me into that state of mind it was just more ammunition that she had to hurt you with I was just a great supply for her no wonder she was upset when I filed for divorce
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Hello. Thank you so much for all your videos.!!! I am amazed how skilled you are; I mean I had/have a big tendency to deny or feel guilty about the bad treatments I received from narcissit family members, and somehow, thanks to your videos, you opened my eyes, to accept the bitter truth. You mention concrete examples which can make echo so that I were able to identify in myself what I have been denying for so long. Not only that, but you give concrete tools to heal, in a well structured manner; so that even if I have intial aversion towards healing, somehow this (illogical) aversion turned out to be dismantled. And it is also very touching to see someone with a very positive atiitude towards other, using her intelligence to help in the best way; there was also your videos for the teenagers obliged to stay at home and deal with their narcissist parents, and so forth. In a word, a huge thanks!! :) I hope it benefited you as much as we were benifited by your wonderful videos.
Suffering from emotional manipulation and psychological abuse: anxiety, depression, dissassociation, being highly triggered, feeling disconnected from your body, social anxiety, panic attacks, phobias, inability to feel present, rumination etc.
This is a good point to truck for everyone's accomplishement, start from 1 to get to 10, piece by piece without losing track to where you got and where you are getting to. Thanks Michele.
5 years . I feel insane .... like it was all a facade . The love I put in and the hurt I feel now . I'm losing my mind and sanity over this . I'm over him . But I can't seem to heal and move forward. None of my family understands .... they think its just a break up
Another awesome video and your advice is always of a practical nature that works! I love tracking my progress as I’ve come a long way in two years. The bottom up approach sounds so logical and I think the therapy I receive helps my body in that way. Because my personality has been buried since childhood, it’s hard now knowing that it can come out and be expressed without fear. I’m working on being okay with who I am. It’ll all work out and that’s exciting to me. I feel like ending with this “Breathe happy!”.
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What’s worse is that I still have to deal with my children that my ex narcissistic alcoholic husband created into his flying monkey minions and narcissists themselves
It’s so sad when toxic parents care more about turning the children against the other parent instead of focusing on loving the children and helping them to grow up to be healthy individuals.
Nancy you have to cut them off and if you can't you have to learn boundaries. They must see how they cannot effect you. You might lose them. Good luck God bkess
They are your children, they're not your ex. You need to live and love them in a way to show them how acceptable behavior is. Do NOT bother defending yourself to them, do not bad mouth your ex...live your life, love your children. Work on moving on with your life, without him in it. Like the heartbreak doesn't rule your life. Show them how to be loving, by living in that *healing* living.
@@helenn7577 Never cut your children off! Tgen you're no better tgan the Narc!! Don't deal with the father, but dont resent your children!! You already admit WHY they are the way they are. Now you need to love them so that you might be able to help them HEAL!!
I’ve actually been doing a lot of meditation and deep breathing, and I must confess; it actually works. I. Also feeling and acknowledging my emotions and telling myself that it is ok to feel these things. I’m being my own parent now.
@@sallcc Very few even knew about narcissistic personality disorder. Those who have big hearts only have eyes to see the good in people and always give them the benefit of the doubt. When you are in their mean- sweet cycle it confuses your emotions and this is why many can't see the game going on. Coverts are very tactical in their approach making sure no residue of their abuse remains seen. A baseball player up to bat never intends to hit a foul ball because they want to hit a home run. If we go up to bat with evil people they will throw their foul balls not over the plate but at us. Step aside and let them fly by. A narcissist doesn't want you on their team unless you are one of their flying monkeys to go to bat for them. You are their competitor because you are a genuinely kind person. This stirs up jealousy in them. They operate in manipulation intent to deceive. When you stand aside rather than own their behavior the lights come on. They don't want to be responsible for their behavior, they want you to be responsible so you remain entangled in their chaos. This leaves no time for you to think objectively.
@@debrawilson333 I suspect myself to be borderline personality disorder, few traits match now, not likely ten yrs back though!! That's why I'm even more confused. Coz then he is not the only one with disorder!?
Dear Michele, it's comforting to know others who have gone through this are helping me. Right when I feel the cloud has lifted it sinks within. Sorry I hope I didn't interrupt you. Bob
Getting the hell away from em works wonders! If you can manage to do it! Had one follow me to 3 different cities now! Talk about not being able to take a hint! It's been amazing to repeatedly experience moving and having my life go back to being normal and sane and then once I got found blow apart all over again. 3 different times now! Talk about crazy making! It'll work it'self out. At least this time I'm trying to document the inconveniences and strange behavior I shouldn't experience.
Just went through a week of an angry drunk narc episode and it was exhausting. I am going to try to use some of your tools to keep my sanity. So true it’s always anxiety or depression, and I use to be so happy go lucky. I have to try this, I’m desperate for a small amount of peace.
Fight or Flight were the only options that I was TAUGHT.... which seemed wrong to me -- THEN "freeze" -deer in headlights! Just snuck in quite and late but I noticed and still knew that when I was over talking and nervous and then admonished and rejected i had wanted to make someone laugh or distract with a silliness. But it was just another way that I was not normal. WHEN I FINALLY DISCOVERED THAT IT'S THE FOUR "F" WORDS -- 😳😱🤯. validation is healing however rare and late we receive it from the ESTABLISHMENTS which have largely been continually shaped by POWERFUL DOMINEERING AND ENTITLED.....
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Yes she’s really good. Very practical advice here and very informed. For me, I need to practice learning how to calm down. At the same time I’m doing the top-down approach too by grounding myself in my new-found faith and also promising myself to move out before he returns from Holidays in 2 weeks. I never want to see his face again and I don’t want to be moving out from here with him in the apartment. The narcissist I’m speaking of is my roommate… yes… sigh… I let myself in this situation for 2 years… there were lots of variables that stalled me from moving out (moving in smack in the middle of the pandemic in a country with a total lockdown (couldn’t even go outside to workout…) after he’d been living here alone for 3 months (and he was half crazy by that point and it didn’t help that when I met him his face was also covered by the mask). Just being alone in the apartment for the past 4 days is unbelievable…. That “fight or flight” feeling isn’t so strong and I was even able to actually relax evening when a friend visited me, I sadly think I got used to it the fight or flight :( ). I think maybe this was Gods way of making sure I never marry someone like him and to listen to my inuitiob always… this man is without doubt a covert narcissist with “malicious” traits (horrifying…. It’s like there’s nothing inside him, like he’s just this balloon floating about, and I think that he may have attracted some bad energy to this apartment too cause nothing for me and I mean nothing…. Literally like a streak of comical bad luck… has gone well for me ever since I told him I’m moving outa here). The worst is the constant self doubt and feeling like Maybe I’m the awful evil person for thinking so low of someone who can be so nice. Actually the worst part is the inability to relax because that is bad for the body too. Wow 😮 I just cannot believe what I let myself go through… but to me it’s been a huuuuge lesson that I MUST seek something to ground myself in and that something for me is Jesus Christ, the one and only son of God, I have been praying to him to show me the way to become closer to him. I ask you Jesus I BEG you to not foresaw me me… show me the path…. Show me how to accept your forgiveness for my sins…. I barely know how to repent but I believe that has a lot to do with removing the burdens of my sins…. I pray to you I seek from you repentance from my sins… show me how to repent the one and only Son of God, JESUS CHRIST, I LOVE YOU. And watch over all those on this channel who are healing in their abusive narcissist person and if they are still trying to leave or distance themselves from the person I pray that you show them the way to distance themselves, and most of all if there are any children involved… please look after the little ones and spare them from being another victim. I thank you from the very very bottom of my heart Jesus Christ 🙏🏼
Have you ever talked of illness caused by the PTSD hangover of abuse? I have Fibromyalgia, anxiety/depression and am being diagnosed with various other neurological and mental illnesses/symptoms exponentially... being in permanent fight or flight mode puts all kinds of stresses on the body, and it’s going to crack under the weight eventually... :-/ loving your vids by the way :) they’ve been a tremendous help to me. Thank you x
Its so hard...i tryed everything...but i still go around in circles....i have to find a way to be alone...theres no way...no money...nowhere to go...total ptsd breakdown....it hurts..
Truly . I started watching your videos 3 year's ago. When I started my process of leaving the Narc. You look so Different . You are actually Glowing with a residence of such powerful awareness . Thank you I have come such a long way. I am finally finding me again . I love who I am .
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I find your words, your voice, your face and knowledge very soothing...a refuge to heal from from the wounds from previously dealing with a narcissist girlfriend.
I'm glad I came back to this video.. Michele has made me face how much the of me I was proud of is gone and used against me.. instead of looking for what makes me happy It's there happiness is the only thing that matters ... It's all a cruel game.. When I try to figure out why , I get the same answer. That there is no reason.. I've been programed since birth to feel good to be treated this way
I sent a friend this vid who is also suffering from nvs and told him youre sent from God to help me. If it werent for you, id probably be in a worse position than i am now. Thank God for Michele Lee Nieves.
I'm still highly emotionally affected, my dad is still around so I feel like no matter how "far away" I get I'm still freaking out and waking on eggshells and everything
I feel the same. Just know it is better to be alone than be mistreated. Even though you may feel isolated, you have a strong sense of self and a strong foundation upon which to rebuild your life. Sending love and hugs your way. You will overcome.
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It is hard!! I have implemented alot of your tools with the Narc but, I get mad at the people around me! I can ignore, but break down to my fiance and take my anger out on him! I am highly triggered, phobias!!!😔
Thank you Michele. I am 4 months out from my final disconnect from my Covert Narcissist wife of 9 years. Also an enmeshed adult son of my disabled single Mother. (43 years of an her overt Narcissistic ways) 6 weeks ago I did not even know what a Narcissist was, let alone that I am an empath. The divorce is going to ruin me financially( my ex has set me up very well..as all good Covert Narcissists do) I am only alive because of my faith, as I thought I was going insane, and when she did the final disconnect. I lost it, I am far from well, but at least I now know WTH is going on. My ex did me a favour by leaving... Now I have to figure out how to get away from my disabled senior Mom ( who is in a wheelchair and counts on me for everything).
Hi. I am so thankful for your videos! I grew up in a narcissist home. It's been such a heartache. I am very blessed to be married to a wonderful man and through 18 years of marriage I have healed a lot. But, it's amazing how many of these symptoms I still have. I leave close to my family and so am reminded quite often of the trauma.
I remember telling her how I felt like the rug was being pulled out from under me. What a terrible thing. I would have never believed I was capable of putting up with so much emotional abuse. I never would have understood without going through it. Her mother grandmother and sister have absolutely ruined every man's life that had a relationship with them. Destabilize discard repeat.
Thank you Michelle. Your descriptive video of a narcissistic mother was so to the point that I finally know where I am. And every video is of So much help
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Im six months healing and getting there ive been using your videos for two months now and the strides ive taken in them two months have been miraculous so thank you so much ❤❤
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I am in the process of starting to heal after 15yrs of being an obedient faithful servant I set up outfit, towel n washcloth daily, massaged daily Paid for over $4k worth of spoiling him while me n kids got nothing..no Christmas no birthday presents..cuz we didn't earn them he says.. this video helped alot
7 days ago today I realized I had progress. Separation June 21st, No Contact July 3rd; filed for divorce July 16th, divorce finalized September 18th. Well On October 7th a mutual acquaintance asked if I had heard from her, as she seemed to be ghosting him. I answered, "No." And I utterly didn't give a shit where she was or what she was doing.
Hi 👋 thank you for your kind words!! I hope you are feeling well - I know you’ve had a rough year health wise - sending you a huge virtual hug and hoping nothing but the best for you. 😊🤗😘
I'm at a stage where I'm getting past the narc abuse now I'm hyper over how people in my life see me or think about me. What are they saying ect .well I didn't use to trip over that. So now I'm working on being me .who I am .i
This is very true & different for each individual. Im quite an unorthodox personality myself so i gave my abuser quite some difficulties. I decided to take the unorthodox approach of going public & global on social media against all advice. Call it crazy wisdom, risque` or whatever but it worked for me. After coming through being suicidal i entered into a bad depression & then After This entered into anger & rage. After realising the image & the lies i wanted heads on plates & ebded up in trouble With the police who my ex works for. It was in the public approach when a friend commented & said about not posting This kind of stuff that it hit me. Ive known him since he was born as Im his godfather. He said completely uncharacteristic. Right there With that After trying to work out whether i was abusive i realised i had something planted in me which wasnt mine. I was never This angry vile personality. I didnt belong to me but public critism made it finally smack me in the face. When taking control of you first control your emotions as they belong to you. Understand how your abuser accesses your emotions & controls you via the triggers. Along the way love initially controlled me into supplying. Then there was guilt shame & then fear. After This the abuser i found played the anger card. All the conditioning over the years works against you. You cant control their actions which are usually antagonistic so you get angry. You lash out & then they use the law to control you. The angryer you get the more control they have until you realise that anger is the control mechanism. Feel in your mind & body the feeling of anger & learn to step back as soon as you Feel it burn somewhere near your frontal lobes in your head. When you Feel that rage divert it into a little giggle as youve just recognised them accessing your emotions. Instead of giving them control do the opposite & keep calm & shut it down. Youll be surprised at how much more effective things become when you learn to circumnavigate your antagonist.
Thank you so much for these videos. You don’t know how much they mean to so many moms. I share your videos at least four times each day in divorce forums, emotional abuse forums and narc support forums.
Imagine a narcissist who knows witchcraft, is spiritual, also you're having an ungodly soul ties with them which actually allows them to listen to you even before you tell them something.
Because I lived with him and he isolated me so intensely, I forgot about the goodness in the world that there are good people outside of people like this. Take us here for example, we’re all here supporting each other in the comments and learning together how to heal. If I could take away all the traumas you all and I have gone through, I would. I wish you healing, realizing there are safe places and safe people, learning how to find safety and peace without it being a risk.
I use a journal to track my progress and I’ve come so far from two years ago when I left my narc hubby of 11 years 💪🏾
So happy to hear you’re doing well!! Tracking our progress is so great because when we see ourselves taking steps forward it creates that momentum to help us to continue moving forward!! 😊🤗
I don't know how ready I am. I still got some assignments to finish up..i did a " Michele Vid" marathon early. One it was moving. You have the grace when you are smiling, but your eyes were sad. We want to rid the world of this intense malady. Anyway , I hope to listen to all your stories. I see Narcissisim in the medical and phsycological field. Adults were not this bad covertly at least since the 1950s. Oh it's generational. Bob. For now it's time to listen.
It takes time to heal I completely understand I know just how devastating narcissistic abuse can be You Are Not Alone and if I can survive this and then flourish anyone can
@@bobhunley8794 I guess that is why so many in the medical field have threatened me. If you don't do what they want, they will threaten you, traumatize you. I have had forced csections (doctor threatened to drop me if I didn't allow because I wasn't having a baby on time). I was threatened by a dentist that if my daughter had tarter on her teeth, she would call dcfs. I was threatened if I left the pediatrician's office without the immunization shot she would call dcfs. The list goes on and on. The arrogance and obession with control is seen in the medical community-no doubt.
Im tracking it by my UA-cam channel so i can help people out.
It’s hard to heal when you have multiple narcissists in your immediate family that team up their enablers to ostracize you.
Always remember, if they can't support you then they can't have a relationship with you. Be polite but you do not have to tolerate disrespect. You are worthy. Give love to people that bring you joy. Hugs 🤍
I'm moving across the Nation....i can always call & text Mum😁
My mom, my grandma and my aunt lmaoooo
@@Annatomova7 Yep. My mother and siblings and anyone else she can get on her side. People who have never even met me have decided that I am the Problem based on what she has told them. Lies, but they are gullible and believe her. My suggestion is to move far away and go No Contact.
@@Lisa-eo9gd I’ve been no contact for over a year now
I am coming out of this hell.. walking on eggshells, constant confusion, gaslighting abusive language.. never feeling safe.
The brain is a series of electrical circuits. When we become emotionally overwhelmed, the brain recognizes this and shuts down. Just like when you plug too many cords into a power strip, it shuts down when overloaded. Your brain does the same thing. It will shut down activity when it recognizes emotional overload.
How you know!??
My brain in this mode
King Solomon When I started dissociating, I didn’t know what was happening to me. I explained the symptoms to my mental health therapist who was treating me for trauma and she explained that I was experiencing one of many symptoms that someone diagnosed with Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder would experience. She went on to give the scenario that I explained above. I was able to easily understand how the symptoms would manifest quickly and without warning (it can happen at very inconvenient times like when you’re driving a car). I hope that helps you.
Nobody should have their privacy hacked. Next they will - and do - hack peoples private lives for the purpose of distorting what is really going on with them, to discredit their political opinion in the rudest way they can think of. Which is a human rights transgression, working outside the law.
how do you stop all the ahah moments, connections that emotional overload, in the mornings? Ugh..... I can hardly function!
That's probably the best description of a panic attack I've ever heard (fight, flight, or fawn) at 3:50. For a while, I'd nearly forgotten what it's like to feel "normal" -- before healing began. Cheers!
I started crying somewhere between the 5:00 and 6:00 minute mark. This is why I'm 46 and I'm just beginning to heal from the abuse that started wen I was a toddler. OMG is sure feels good to know why it took me so long to heal. I thought something was wrong with Me for decades. I can see so clearly now. My life is peaceful and I'm happy being single and I wake up every morning loving myself and ready for the day. I seriously doubt I have ever had this feeling before. But I don't feel sorry for myself, I'm so proud of myself for finally doing something about the abuse and the toxic ppl I use to allow to surround me. Thank you Michelle! Ur videos are really life savings bc I can't afford professional help at the time in my life, I decided months ago to help myself , to read, do research, watch videos, take notes and do the work. It was hard but yet simple. I can't believe I allowed other humans to mentally abuse me , use me then discard me wen I had nothing left to give. I was looked down upon by so many ppl, I would hear the gossip going around about me, u would see the disapproval and shame in other's eyes and face wen I walked in a room, or so I was seeing and feeling that around certain ppl. And now all of that is behind me. I don't even care what anyone thinks about me anymore , bc i love me , I take care of me and at the end of the day only my opinion matters. It's amazing how much my mental state of mind has improved in the last 6 months. And this video has helped me understand what took me so long to begin healing.i don't want my 2 daughters to go thru what I did. And now I have the wisdom and tools to be able to help them recognize unhealthy behavior. Something I couldn't have done just 7 month ago. And like the brave Michelle is doing , I promise to spread and share this awareness to others so they too can heal. Merry Christmas Eve and a Happy New Year to anyone reading my comment!
🙏🌠👸🎉 merry Christmas to you 2 and happy new year congratulations on your awaking 🙏🤝🙏🗽mentally health! As for me it took me 33 years in my life our LORD IS GOOD 💔❤😊⭐⭐😂I YES CROSS YOUR COMMENTS! AND WE ARE MAY 2023 GOD BLESS YOUR NEW CHAPTER IN YOUR JOURNEY 👈🙏 NAMASTE 🎉😊
I was reading your comment and really had to check to see if I'd posted it previously and just forgot -- but I only had one child and she's abandoned me too. My body was wracked with pain and inflammation along with multiple random symptoms.... my house became a shambles with "hoarding" which repeatedly resulted in me building "barricades" along windows and doorways. When I realized that I had some innate subconscious drive to create a bunker for safety inside my own-- but unrecognizable home. And after enduring a type of HOME INVASION -- my ex picked up his "ex" from jail and used my debit card for part of the bail -- and stayed out 6 hours after he was supposed to be back with my car -- THEN I HEARD MY SHOWER and found out he had another woman in my bathroom and MONTHS LATER she's "reorganized" everything or thrown out or intentionally ruined my belongings and my life. She bragged about her cyber skills and code writing.... never have been able to get anything done about the Cyber fraud -+ even diverted my child support payments and really THERE'S NO WAY TO GET HELP WITHOUT PLENTY OF MONEY and then it wouldn't be worth it even if anyone would have taken me seriously. She even convinced the police that I was just jealous bc a "boy liked her best" and claimed we were roommates! Cops tried to get me to be "nice" and she stalked and let herself into my house for years afterwards -- she was somehow able to get to my keys for her own copies and I have several 5 gallon buckets of locks I changed out.... She was determined to make my life a living hell. I've been poisoned and drugged/dosed against my knowledge and when I would have severe resulting GI reactions SHE WOULD TEXT ME AND LET ME KNOW THAT I DESERVED WHAT I WAS GOING THROUGH + I FOUND SEVERAL WAYS OVER YEARS HOW MY PHONE WAS HACKED AND MY CAMERS DISAPPEARED FROM INSIDE MY HOUSE AND FROM MY WIFI AND I WOULDN'T BE ABLE TO PULL ANYTHING UP ONLINE.... BUT EVENTUALLY SHE WAS ACCUSING ME CONSTANTLY OF HAVING HIM WITH ME WHEN I DIDN'T AND AT SOME POINT SHE FADED INTO THE BACKGROUND AND A FEW THINGS THAT HE'D SAY OR JUST NOT BE SURPRISED ABOUT MADE ME REALIZE THAT HE'S REALLY BEEN ABLE TO USE WHATEVER SHE'D SET UP TO Terrorize me. Private detectives with the necessary professional credentials charge thousands to remove devices from your house and after enduring repeat hacks along with THE ENTIRE SITUATION AND I'VE BEEN TOO LOW ON FUNDS TO GET HELP AND FINANCIALLY IT'S GOING TO TAKE A FEW MORE YEARS TO EVEN BE ABLE TO SAVE UP TO BUY A USED CAR. AND NOW THAT I'VE FOUND A NATURAL DOCTOR WHO'S HELPED DIRECT ME TO THE HEALING TREATMENTS TO REPAIR MY BODY AND I'M FEELING BETTER THAN I HAVE IN A DECADE I KNOW THAT HE'S REALLY SURPRISED THAT I DON'T WANT TO PLAY HIS WHIPLASH GAME ANYMORE.... AND THEN NEXT I HAVE TO MOVE FAR AWAY AND AS SOON AS POSSIBLE BC I WILL NOT BE ABLE TO FEEL SECURITY WITHIN A FEW HUNDRED MILES--HE SMILES WHEN HE LOOKS INTO CRYING EYES AND WHEN I WAS A CHILD MY MOM WOULD SAY THAT SHE'D GIVE ME SOMETHING MORE TO CRY ABOUT -- HE USED TO THREATEN TO LEAVE WHEN I CRIED -- but when I told him that I was crying because he was there in the first place -- which just got me ignored. Whatever I've wanted, needed, requested or demanded RESULTED IN THE OPPOSITE.... AND THEN I'D THINK THAT I WOULD BE ABLE TO PREVENT AND GET AHEAD OF THE situation NEXT TIME -( JUST LIKE A GAMBLER DETERMINED TO GET A JACKPOT WHILE PUTTING THEIR LAST DOLLAR IN A SLOT....
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God Bless You.... Im so glad you are healing so young, Im 85 and realize now that I should have Run Not Walked away from it Long long ago.. I Pray you continue to find the love and joy that is in yourself,, ASk Jesus the Lord to Guide You,, He Will..
The only stress I had with my narc was suppressing the overwhelming desire to apply violence to the situation.
Yes, especially when they (the narcissist) is female and DOES hit you, but they invite you to strike them back so they can ruin your life in court. Don't take their provocation and bait. Thank God I got away through divorce without abnormal drama.
Les Nash I think about CW’s and how SW’s said she’d wake him up in the night specifically to argue and pick a fight but that the last 4 weeks of their relationship he got out of bed and ignored her and slept in the basement to ignore the provocation. I can’t help but think about this case and how a man with zero history of violence could snap. People can plan revenge when their so full of hate and anger from being belittled like she admitted doing to him. He’s responsible for what he did 100%. God I remember the hate and pain and anger and am so grateful every second of every day I didn’t act on it by responding or doing anything much less killing someone.
Then you might be the problem.
Jesus Christ it's going to get better one way or another .
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My social anxiety is probably the worst symptom I’ve got after narcissistic abuse even tho all the others I also have but this disturbs me the most!
I hate having these symptoms 😞. Being in abusive relationship with a narc or sociopath parent and their flying monkeys and enablers hurts. I don't know who to trust . I try too keep my distance from the narcs flying monkeys . I want to live a normal better healthy life without all the worries . I want to move on in life . I suffer from CPTSD and anxiety . I don't want to be narcissistic . I feel like I'm constantly over thinking things .
Trust yourself, concentrate on getting your own power back and keeping it/narcs deserve only grey rock or no contact nothing more.
@@eleanorde-hayes7760 Thank you
You have the right to live that life. Keep repeating that. You have the right. They can't take it away from you.
@@chrissearcher3563 I don't want to live in fear , anxiety and PTSD though . What's good about living in fear and walking on eggshells ?
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Great video! I’m so glad all those worries are gone! Walking over egg shells and worrying about everything and overthinking everything I did just being around a toxic person! I feel at peace and mentally stronger because I’m living my truth and not living for someone else
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Thank you for brilliant advice Michele. ❤I totally agree that the bottom up approach works. We need to calm our bodies first, we need to feel safe, grounded and trust ourselves to start regaining control over our lives.
I can hardly find any videos on when it was a situationship and not even a relationship. That pain and humiliation is something different when they dangled commitment like a carrot, you were a hamster on a wheel for years and then they never even gave it to you and told you they did not lead you on 😢. I'm healing because I don't want him anymore and realise I do not need to earn love anymore. It just hurts that this happened to me when he used the word friendship to keep me strung along.
Healing is Different for everyone....Some heal in weeks some in Months and some in years....
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You can text/call +1 (731) 535-5309 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to geniustracker701(via)GMAILCOM
I left my ex Jan 14 2024 my anxiety and depression is beyond my control it's March 2.. with time I know I'll be okay just pray for me
I’m in a very mentally abusive relationship I even find myself having to record each other’s conversations so I remember what really is said. I feel like I’m losing myself and question myself all the time. 😭
Michaela Carney it will not get any better. I’m at the breaking point now, three years in. It will NOT get better, no matter what they say. I was told this two years ago by friends and didn’t listen. The longer you’re in this, the more your mental health will deteriorate
Leah Smith I agree with you. Going on 4 years and it’s nothing but extreme ups and downs. I wish you all the peace & happiness you deserve 💕
@@Michaela-zg8qw blessings ❤️
Feeling a need or urge to record conversations so you can remind yourself who said what, is the one of the biggest red flags of gaslighting. I have been where you are. I wish you well.
Write down all you can remember what was done to you. Read it and realize this is wrong. People that love eachother do not treat others like this. Not normal. Go to a counselor with your list and release the secrets on your list. My anxiety left......then make a list of all the things you loved to do before the abuse. Do one a day, and keep going. Self-care = self-love 💘
Thank you Michelle! This could not have come at a better time. I have been searching high and low for this advice. You are my fave NPD-healing coach on UA-cam.
I’m so happy to hear my videos are helpful 😊🤗😘 Sending peace and good vibes!!
GC omg I feel exactly the same way! She is the best person I have ever found online period. Changed my life. So open and honest and knows from her own experience it’s amazing 😉💕
@@FromSurvivingToThriving Michele, how long does it take for diaphragmatic breathing to heal the parasympathetic nervous response - a couple months? Can this help get your energy back too? I am tired all the time :(
Thanks for your marvellous video - you are the BEST !!
I love the way you speak so softly and the information is so clear. After my issues, I love when people speak softly - that's another reason why I'm so drawn to asmr vids. I never heard of the bottom-up approach. It's been 4 years and I'm still stuck in the same spot. :( Least I know why now.
Thank you 😊🤗😁 my son did asmr videos when he was 10 - he liked the relaxation that it gives!! I hope learning about the bottom up approach will help you on your healing journey 😊🤙
Nomadic Gamer I understand this. I’ve been aware of the same.
Your video, 20 symptoms of narcissistic victim syndrome, was the one video that helped me most to understand and be able to explain what had happened to me over the 21 years of marriage to a malignant narc. I knew he was narcissistic but didn’t really understand the full extent of what that meant or the evil he was capable of until my health had finally deteriorated to the point I could barely get out of bed. Even though I had learned over the years not to show any weaknesses or they’d be used against me, I knew something had to change. I mistakenly turned to him for help without realizing he was the source of how I got where I was. The more I poured my heart out to try to get him to understand, the more ammunition I have him to hurt me in the most cruel and unimaginable ways and I couldn’t understand why until I discovered that video. I have recently tried to find this video to share with my daughter and a couple friends who are in toxic relationships and starting to experience many of these same symptoms (I ended up with all 20) but it looks like it was taken down. You referred to it in a video you did a few months ago but I still can’t find the original video you did about the 20 symptoms of NVS. Is this still available. My daughter is in a toxic relationship and starting to experience a lot of these symptoms and I have friends trying to leave a narcissist that is like to share it with before they make the same mistakes I did. How can I get the video?
This is totally me. I finally found someone who explained this trauma. I felt No-one would understand. I sought help and was told I was Hyper vigilant with severe PTSD. I was and still am running from danger. Thank you for showing me that Im not alone in this situation and putting it into words.j
I love this concept. It makes so much sense. This reminds me of a study I read recently about cortisol and emotional abuse. We get so used to the stress response and bottom dropping out that we develop something akin to an addiction to it (according to the study). I think I'm going to expand on this in a video soon because it explains a lot about that scary post-abuse period. Thank you for putting out this video! 🙏❤
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Hey just curious if you have a link to that study?
It's like going back to war because the chaos feels better than peace. Very good stuff Michelle. You're the only one talking about the physiological aspect of this.
Thanks, I was having trouble trying to figure out,if I was the narcissist or her. I couldn’t understand that she was a covert narc. I always thought she couldn’t love anyone, including me! Now I understand better. It’s so complicated, it takes education to straighten it out in your mind.
Sending love and light to everyone overcoming this type of relationship. You deserve to be loved and respected 🙏
I think I was born in fight, flight or freeze. I have felt disconnected for as long as I can remember. Thx to narc mom
but b4 that i was just numb....
Pray for me my ex hurt me so bad I’m still healing
I will lots of love 💕💕💕💋💋💋♥️♥️♥️♥️Be strong
❤bless you
🙏
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙌🙌❤️
Amen.
Proverbs 3:5-6🙏💕
It is so shocking to me how tangible and real and lasting the symptoms are of CPTSD in the target after the finally booting the narc out. I’m 5.5 months no contact. I’ve done a lot well in that time. 4 or 5 days a week at the gym. No drugs, drinking, no porn, no rebound. I am in the best physical shape of my life now at 48 but I’m a shell. I was a dating coach for 6 years before and extremely extrovert and super social. I spent years dating tonnes and super confident (not arrogant) and now that person that I was seems completely foreign to me. I take good care of my body now to help it heal but I’m less than 1% of who I used to be socially. That was after a year and a half engaged and living with a narc. The abuse is so insidious and yet so easy to explain away. Like second hand smoke that you barely can smell. But the effects after are mind blowing
Love how you bring the stress response into the Cptsd discussion. I try to remind people about the stress part (not focus just on the trauma...) as well. But you have done so eloquently🙏🏻
I had been trying so long to get out I live with all of the above but today is the first day of the real life of me left to rebuild me
Hi Michele, i just wanted to tell you how much you have helped me recover my soul. You break things down in a very uncomfortable way!
...thank you!🎉
Thank you so very much! I have been struggling so badly. I have been in therapy for 4 years and feel stuck and Finally to hear your voice explaining this and your method has helped me in the 14 minute video more than the past 4 years of weekly therapy! 🙏🙏🤗❤
Such a beautiful person and just perfect advice. I have no idea how you can be so spot-on every time. You are like the Glinda of my life journey and I freakin love you 😘❤️🧘♀️❤️
Thank you so much Michele for the video course. I'm going to sign up very soon when I have a chance to dig into them. I've been married for 43 years, with the same man for 47 years and was raised by a narcissistic mom. I'm at the very beginning of my healing journey and still living with my husband. Not only that, my 38 year old mildly autistic son and 34 year old daughter (with 2 children) live with me so you can imagine the stress I am under. I'm still not sure how I'm going to leave my husband (he won't leave because he doesn't think he does anything wrong) or where I will live. I've been able to stay positive up to this point because of spiritual guidance and being determined not to let other people destroy my life. But lately I've been feeling the depression creeping up on me. I am 62 years old and the thought of starting my life over is frightening to me but I am determined to move forward and become the person God created me to be. Your videos have made me aware that I've been living with narcissists all of my life. Just being aware of that is a start. Thanks again Michele.
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Your situation is so similar to me
@@jodyhenning2128 Hi Jody, I'm now 65 years old and have been separated from my husband for 1 1/2 years. We will be having mediation soon. Unfortunately, the process is taking a very long time. I have done a lot of reading and healing in the meantime. Ross Rosenburg (he is on UA-cam) has a step by step process on how to end the relationship and what you will be going through. I'm still going through the final stages but am very confident in myself. Watch and learn as much as you can about narcissism. You will learn about yourself and why you were in the relationship to begin with. I also trust Jesus to guide me and to help me to be able to stay joyful in my life, despite what has been going on. I'm praying for you.
This is legit. Instead of years of healing, this can help it only takes months. Patience and self compassion are also big keys in doing this work.
Thank you Michele for your videos! I have been watching them daily trying to get myself back, learning so much that I wish I had known from the beginning. I know I am still trying to heal and it will take more time, but I am very grateful for your videos that have helped me to realize that I am not alone and there are others who have felt the way I am feeling now.
OMG Michele. I needed this! This is my next step Im ready! I dont know if I would have been ready last month but I will be following up with your life coaching techniques. Finally an explanation on why and how to move past it all and just breathe. Im breathing easier just watching this is. 😊We are all surrounded by narcs and their abuse either work, family, social circles and my hope is that we never have to deal with them ever again! Atleast I now have the tools! Thank you so much!
I always say Wow out loud when I watch and listen to you.
The videos are so on-point for me that I sometimes struggle to watch past the introduction, but when I can, it's like my mind is a bomb with a million wires, and I know I need to pull some of them to stop it going off but don't know which ones are safe, but then Michelle calls in and saves the day with her knowledge and expertise, so in that regard these videos are my secret to healing faster.
@Br8king Tha Silence I'm getting there! I've got quite a few bowls of spaghetti on my table, and I'm only just realising I've been trying to eat them all at once! Thanks for good vibes, getting a sense that I'm not only one going through this is deeply encouraging!
During my marriage I felt a state of constant anxiety so badly that I literally became claustrophobic and I live in New York and I had to go in elevators all the time and ride the trains the funny part about everything I just said is that I am a locksmith by trade looking back I can see how happy she was that I felt that constant state of anxiety she used to say to me while you're messed up there's something really wrong with you meanwhile I never felt that way until I was married to her it was her who made me who put me into that state of mind it was just more ammunition that she had to hurt you with I was just a great supply for her no wonder she was upset when I filed for divorce
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Hello. Thank you so much for all your videos.!!!
I am amazed how skilled you are; I mean I had/have a big tendency to deny or feel guilty about the bad treatments I received from narcissit family members, and somehow, thanks to your videos, you opened my eyes, to accept the bitter truth. You mention concrete examples which can make echo so that I were able to identify in myself what I have been denying for so long.
Not only that, but you give concrete tools to heal, in a well structured manner; so that even if I have intial aversion towards healing, somehow this (illogical) aversion turned out to be dismantled.
And it is also very touching to see someone with a very positive atiitude towards other, using her intelligence to help in the best way; there was also your videos for the teenagers obliged to stay at home and deal with their narcissist parents, and so forth.
In a word, a huge thanks!! :)
I hope it benefited you as much as we were benifited by your wonderful videos.
I wish there was a hypnosis to get over this narcissistic demon. My heart is broke, my mind chaotic.
Suffering from emotional manipulation and psychological abuse: anxiety, depression, dissassociation, being highly triggered, feeling disconnected from your body, social anxiety, panic attacks, phobias, inability to feel present, rumination etc.
Stuck in fight, flight, freeze or fawn.
Your logical part of your brain shuts down and you are running on instincts high anxiety state.
Walking on eggshells, heightened state of anxiety or depression and rumination. Swing between those 2 states, don't feel safe in present moment.
Create physiological calm.
Track progress, use diaphragm breathing, mindful meditation, balance meridians in the body.
This is a good point to truck for everyone's accomplishement, start from 1 to get to 10, piece by piece without losing track to where you got and where you are getting to. Thanks Michele.
5 years . I feel insane .... like it was all a facade . The love I put in and the hurt I feel now . I'm losing my mind and sanity over this . I'm over him . But I can't seem to heal and move forward. None of my family understands .... they think its just a break up
Another awesome video and your advice is always of a practical nature that works! I love tracking my progress as I’ve come a long way in two years. The bottom up approach sounds so logical and I think the therapy I receive helps my body in that way. Because my personality has been buried since childhood, it’s hard now knowing that it can come out and be expressed without fear. I’m working on being okay with who I am. It’ll all work out and that’s exciting to me. I feel like ending with this “Breathe happy!”.
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What’s worse is that I still have to deal with my children that my ex narcissistic alcoholic husband created into his flying monkey minions and narcissists themselves
Nancy Greydee they might be suffering too?
It’s so sad when toxic parents care more about turning the children against the other parent instead of focusing on loving the children and helping them to grow up to be healthy individuals.
Nancy you have to cut them off and if you can't you have to learn boundaries. They must see how they cannot effect you. You might lose them. Good luck God bkess
They are your children, they're not your ex. You need to live and love them in a way to show them how acceptable behavior is. Do NOT bother defending yourself to them, do not bad mouth your ex...live your life, love your children.
Work on moving on with your life, without him in it. Like the heartbreak doesn't rule your life. Show them how to be loving, by living in that *healing* living.
@@helenn7577 Never cut your children off! Tgen you're no better tgan the Narc!! Don't deal with the father, but dont resent your children!! You already admit WHY they are the way they are. Now you need to love them so that you might be able to help them HEAL!!
I’ve actually been doing a lot of meditation and deep breathing, and I must confess; it actually works. I. Also feeling and acknowledging my emotions and telling myself that it is ok to feel these things. I’m being my own parent now.
Does anyone else find her super knowledgeable.... and mesmerizingly beautiful?
When you realize their motivation is to make you feel insignificant and insecure the game is over.
Extremely CORRECT. EXACTLY!!!
But realised after ten yrs. What does that say about me! Stupid for ten yrs??! 👀
@@sallcc Very few even knew about narcissistic personality disorder. Those who have big hearts only have eyes to see the good in people and always give them the benefit of the doubt. When you are in their mean- sweet cycle it confuses your emotions and this is why many can't see the game going on. Coverts are very tactical in their approach making sure no residue of their abuse remains seen. A baseball player up to bat never intends to hit a foul ball because they want to hit a home run. If we go up to bat with evil people they will throw their foul balls not over the plate but at us. Step aside and let them fly by. A narcissist doesn't want you on their team unless you are one of their flying monkeys to go to bat for them. You are their competitor because you are a genuinely kind person. This stirs up jealousy in them. They operate in manipulation intent to deceive. When you stand aside rather than own their behavior the lights come on. They don't want to be responsible for their behavior, they want you to be responsible so you remain entangled in their chaos. This leaves no time for you to think objectively.
@@debrawilson333 I suspect myself to be borderline personality disorder, few traits match now, not likely ten yrs back though!! That's why I'm even more confused. Coz then he is not the only one with disorder!?
@@sallcc It sounds like you have done a lot of studying and reading.
The problem is we dont have therapists trained in this area
Dear Michele, it's comforting to know others who have gone through this are helping me. Right when I feel the cloud has lifted it sinks within. Sorry I hope I didn't interrupt you. Bob
Getting the hell away from em works wonders! If you can manage to do it!
Had one follow me to 3 different cities now!
Talk about not being able to take a hint!
It's been amazing to repeatedly experience moving and having my life go back to being normal and sane and then once I got found blow apart all over again. 3 different times now! Talk about crazy making!
It'll work it'self out.
At least this time I'm trying to document the inconveniences and strange behavior I shouldn't experience.
Just went through a week of an angry drunk narc episode and it was exhausting. I am going to try to use some of your tools to keep my sanity. So true it’s always anxiety or depression, and I use to be so happy go lucky. I have to try this, I’m desperate for a small amount of peace.
Fight or Flight were the only options that I was TAUGHT.... which seemed wrong to me -- THEN "freeze" -deer in headlights! Just snuck in quite and late but I noticed and still knew that when I was over talking and nervous and then admonished and rejected i had wanted to make someone laugh or distract with a silliness. But it was just another way that I was not normal. WHEN I FINALLY DISCOVERED THAT IT'S THE FOUR "F" WORDS -- 😳😱🤯. validation is healing however rare and late we receive it from the ESTABLISHMENTS which have largely been continually shaped by POWERFUL DOMINEERING AND ENTITLED.....
I hope you get some sort of income for all this valuable information outside of UA-cam. You are very good with psychology. You’re also so adorable.
1jw2 - Michelle’s a life coach, so yes she does.
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You nailed it!
Very insightful, thank you, it's much appreciated.
You give practical tools that are helpful👍
😊🤗👋
Yes she’s really good. Very practical advice here and very informed. For me, I need to practice learning how to calm down. At the same time I’m doing the top-down approach too by grounding myself in my new-found faith and also promising myself to move out before he returns from
Holidays in 2 weeks. I never want to see his face again and I don’t want to be moving out from here with him in the apartment. The narcissist I’m speaking of is my roommate… yes… sigh… I let myself in this situation for 2 years… there were lots of variables that stalled me from moving out (moving in smack in the middle of the pandemic in a country with a total lockdown (couldn’t even go outside to workout…) after he’d been living here alone for 3 months (and he was half crazy by that point and it didn’t help that when I met him his face was also covered by the mask). Just being alone in the apartment for the past 4 days is unbelievable…. That “fight or flight” feeling isn’t so strong and I was even able to actually relax evening when a friend visited me, I sadly think I got used to it the fight or flight :( ). I think maybe this was Gods way of making sure I never marry someone like him and to listen to my inuitiob always… this man is without doubt a covert narcissist with “malicious” traits (horrifying…. It’s like there’s nothing inside him, like he’s just this balloon floating about, and I think that he may have attracted some bad energy to this apartment too cause nothing for me and I mean nothing…. Literally like a streak of comical bad luck… has gone well for me ever since I told him I’m moving outa here). The worst is the constant self doubt and feeling like Maybe I’m the awful evil person for thinking so low of someone who can be so nice. Actually the worst part is the inability to relax because that is bad for the body too. Wow 😮 I just cannot believe what I let myself go through… but to me it’s been a huuuuge lesson that I MUST seek something to ground myself in and that something for me is Jesus Christ, the one and only son of God, I have been praying to him to show me the way to become closer to him. I ask you Jesus I BEG you to not foresaw me me… show me the path…. Show me how to accept your forgiveness for my sins…. I barely know how to repent but I believe that has a lot to do with removing the burdens of my sins…. I pray to you I seek from you repentance from my sins… show me how to repent the one and only Son of God, JESUS CHRIST, I LOVE YOU. And watch over all those on this channel who are healing in their abusive narcissist person and if they are still trying to leave or distance themselves from the person I pray that you show them the way to distance themselves, and most of all if there are any children involved… please look after the little ones and spare them from being another victim. I thank you from the very very bottom of my heart Jesus Christ 🙏🏼
@@marial3231 you are not alone, there are more that need to practice that (calming down) and learn
anyway..God is with you & i pray you succeed 🙏🕊️
@@simonedealerte3629 aww thank you so much Simone for your kind message ☺️🙏🏼
Have you ever talked of illness caused by the PTSD hangover of abuse? I have Fibromyalgia, anxiety/depression and am being diagnosed with various other neurological and mental illnesses/symptoms exponentially... being in permanent fight or flight mode puts all kinds of stresses on the body, and it’s going to crack under the weight eventually... :-/ loving your vids by the way :) they’ve been a tremendous help to me. Thank you x
Its so hard...i tryed everything...but i still go around in circles....i have to find a way to be alone...theres no way...no money...nowhere to go...total ptsd breakdown....it hurts..
Truly . I started watching your videos 3 year's ago. When I started my process of leaving the Narc. You look so Different . You are actually Glowing with a residence of such powerful awareness . Thank you I have come such a long way. I am finally finding me again . I love who I am .
I just found this and it made described me to a tee.
I leave the relationship this weekend. She Hurt me, lie to me.. I wanne heal and have a peacefull live. Thx for this video
I want to be like you. Such a strong smart woman 💙💙💙
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You've got this 💪
I find your words, your voice, your face and knowledge very soothing...a refuge to heal from from the wounds from previously dealing with a narcissist girlfriend.
I feel on edge ALL the time :(
This information is absolutely needed for NPD victims
You're right on the spot. Amazing how you explain it. Thank you !!
I'm glad I came back to this video.. Michele has made me face how much the of me I was proud of is gone and used against me.. instead of looking for what makes me happy It's there happiness is the only thing that matters ... It's all a cruel game.. When I try to figure out why , I get the same answer. That there is no reason.. I've been programed since birth to feel good to be treated this way
Thank you, Michele. I love your videos, encouragement, and positivity. ❤
You are truly amazing!! You are going to hear a lot from me!!
I sent a friend this vid who is also suffering from nvs and told him youre sent from God to help me. If it werent for you, id probably be in a worse position than i am now. Thank God for Michele Lee Nieves.
I'm still highly emotionally affected, my dad is still around so I feel like no matter how "far away" I get I'm still freaking out and waking on eggshells and everything
Oh Michelle.. I always feel so isolated.
Mala Rai same
I feel the same. Just know it is better to be alone than be mistreated. Even though you may feel isolated, you have a strong sense of self and a strong foundation upon which to rebuild your life. Sending love and hugs your way. You will overcome.
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Blessings everyone, and lots of love and comfort ❤️
@@stephanieduncan9023 Marketing an illegal services on a public forum about abuse is immoral.
It is hard!! I have implemented alot of your tools with the Narc but, I get mad at the people around me! I can ignore, but break down to my fiance and take my anger out on him! I am highly triggered, phobias!!!😔
Michelle, I love all of your videos, but this is absolutely fantastic.... Crystal clear.... The funny ones are also amazing! Thanks❤️❤️
Thank you Michele. I am 4 months out from my final disconnect from my Covert Narcissist wife of 9 years. Also an enmeshed adult son of my disabled single Mother. (43 years of an her overt Narcissistic ways) 6 weeks ago I did not even know what a Narcissist was, let alone that I am an empath. The divorce is going to ruin me financially( my ex has set me up very well..as all good Covert Narcissists do) I am only alive because of my faith, as I thought I was going insane, and when she did the final disconnect. I lost it, I am far from well, but at least I now know WTH is going on. My ex did me a favour by leaving... Now I have to figure out how to get away from my disabled senior Mom ( who is in a wheelchair and counts on me for everything).
Like many of us i don't know what normal is. I just want to know how to deal with the freezes and exhaustion.
Hi. I am so thankful for your videos! I grew up in a narcissist home. It's been such a heartache. I am very blessed to be married to a wonderful man and through 18 years of marriage I have healed a lot. But, it's amazing how many of these symptoms I still have. I leave close to my family and so am reminded quite often of the trauma.
Makes you think it's better to be alone
I remember telling her how I felt like the rug was being pulled out from under me. What a terrible thing. I would have never believed I was capable of putting up with so much emotional abuse. I never would have understood without going through it. Her mother grandmother and sister have absolutely ruined every man's life that had a relationship with them. Destabilize discard repeat.
Birds of a feather, flock together
Yes 🙌
Misery love company ❤
Thank you Michelle. Your descriptive video of a narcissistic mother was so to the point that I finally know where I am. And every video is of So much help
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Im six months healing and getting there ive been using your videos for two months now and the strides ive taken in them two months have been miraculous so thank you so much ❤❤
You're really really helping me survive, I'm glad I found your channel. Thank you very much
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You can text/call +1 (731) 535-5309 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to geniustracker701(via)GMAILCOM
I thought there was no way life could continue for me but I’m still here
I am in the process of starting to heal after 15yrs of being an obedient faithful servant
I set up outfit, towel n washcloth daily, massaged daily
Paid for over $4k worth of spoiling him while me n kids got nothing..no Christmas no birthday presents..cuz we didn't earn them he says.. this video helped alot
Very good video, thanks Michelle.
Oh my god!!! This video was so needed for my survival in this existence
7 days ago today I realized I had progress. Separation June 21st, No Contact July 3rd; filed for divorce July 16th, divorce finalized September 18th. Well On October 7th a mutual acquaintance asked if I had heard from her, as she seemed to be ghosting him. I answered, "No." And I utterly didn't give a shit where she was or what she was doing.
You are helping so many! Thank you thank you thank you.
Michelle... u r so right!!!
I love ur message!!!
Please never stop sharing w us!!!
Thanks Michele. I like this Bottom To Top Course. I will get it asap. Congrats on 173K Subscribers. You are the Best!!!
Hi 👋 thank you for your kind words!! I hope you are feeling well - I know you’ve had a rough year health wise - sending you a huge virtual hug and hoping nothing but the best for you. 😊🤗😘
I'm at a stage where I'm getting past the narc abuse now I'm hyper over how people in my life see me or think about me. What are they saying ect .well I didn't use to trip over that. So now I'm working on being me .who I am .i
Thanks for another great video Michele.
This is very true & different for each individual.
Im quite an unorthodox personality myself so i gave my abuser quite some difficulties.
I decided to take the unorthodox approach of going public & global on social media against all advice.
Call it crazy wisdom, risque` or whatever but it worked for me.
After coming through being suicidal i entered into a bad depression & then After This entered into anger & rage.
After realising the image & the lies i wanted heads on plates & ebded up in trouble With the police who my ex works for.
It was in the public approach when a friend commented & said about not posting This kind of stuff that it hit me.
Ive known him since he was born as Im his godfather.
He said completely uncharacteristic.
Right there With that After trying to work out whether i was abusive i realised i had something planted in me which wasnt mine.
I was never This angry vile personality.
I didnt belong to me but public critism made it finally smack me in the face.
When taking control of you first control your emotions as they belong to you.
Understand how your abuser accesses your emotions & controls you via the triggers.
Along the way love initially controlled me into supplying.
Then there was guilt shame & then fear.
After This the abuser i found played the anger card.
All the conditioning over the years works against you.
You cant control their actions which are usually antagonistic so you get angry.
You lash out & then they use the law to control you.
The angryer you get the more control they have until you realise that anger is the control mechanism.
Feel in your mind & body the feeling of anger & learn to step back as soon as you Feel it burn somewhere near your frontal lobes in your head.
When you Feel that rage divert it into a little giggle as youve just recognised them accessing your emotions.
Instead of giving them control do the opposite & keep calm & shut it down.
Youll be surprised at how much more effective things become when you learn to circumnavigate your antagonist.
I found true love although I'm having emotional triggers I need to learn healthy ways
All your videos helped me im healing and im so thankful to you 👍
So happy I could help 🤗😊
Thank you so much for these videos. You don’t know how much they mean to so many moms. I share your videos at least four times each day in divorce forums, emotional abuse forums and narc support forums.
Imagine a narcissist who knows witchcraft, is spiritual, also you're having an ungodly soul ties with them which actually allows them to listen to you even before you tell them something.
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Michelle I’m so happy that I have found your channel. Thank you for sharing and helping me xxx