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Sexual addiction is underrated. People tend to normalize pornography and sleeping with everyone. That's not cool. Sexual addiction is an addiction like any other (e.g alcoholism or drug addiction). The future is dark. Worrying times, the ones we live in
This was so helpful for me and really in ways changing my thinking completely. Thank you so much for taking the time to do this, 7 years later it’s still having impact on peoples lives.
Old video but so helpful I’m currently going through sex addiction and my current relationship of 6 years is falling apart because I keep acting on my urges yet she still stays with me but I keep doing it and hurting her I finally hit rock bottom on this last time and almost tried to kill myself because of how worthless I felt but my actions but she keeps forgiving me and trying to work through it I am starting counseling and she is as well but this video was very helpful and informative so thank you for providing
@@DocSnipes To be aware of and identify my triggers like alone time, stress,... ( and even hunger for me^^) and also to find other activies that feel good too without negative consequences. Overall your video was a good reminder for me. Thx for that! :)
I have a sexual compulsive disorder as I use sex as a copping mechanism it gotten to a point I don’t want to do have random hookups anymore. I have struggles of building relationships with women. I lost virginity when I was 22 since then I just want sex but it’s compulsive to a point I feel depressed and empty after this morning I feel even worse.
I am going through the same thing and my wife of 15 years actually felt like I pushed her to be with other men because I have a cuckold fetish, but she seemed to enjoy it when she was doing it
Sucks to be you I guess, I've slept with hundreds of women, I do so as much for the validation as I do the pleasure, the chase as much as the conquest, I've had relationships had kids, to be honest it's all over rated, I'd much rather my single life of casual sex
An increase in drive with elapsed time isn't unusual, especially for men. (Max out for most men is 3 to 7 days, then some leveling) Experiencing this alone would not mean you have an addiction. Addiction involves compulsive seeking and taking of a substance or performing of an activity despite negative or harmful consequences. Having a biologically driven craving doesn't equal addiction.
I really appreciated this video. It's amazing to see how much of the content is no longer politically correct in Western society...things have changed so much over the past decade.
I started looking at ... when I was twelve. I'm in my thirties. I've had a few partners, but recently started engaging with professionals where its legal. There are noticable problems now. I live on the road, so there isn't much I can do.
I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing these challenges. For more tips and tools on how to address sex addiction, please feel free to use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes It might also be helpful to talk to a professional who specializes in sexual health or addiction, even if you're on the road. Many therapists offer online sessions, which could provide you with the support you need regardless of your location. Additionally, there are resources and support groups online that can offer guidance and support. Taking the first step to reach out is important for your well-being.
Mam help me out. I'm really addicted of internet s... whenever i look at a women i just think one thing which is se.. and I'm really depressed the whole day,week and month
Was hoping this was gonna be more about sex addiction rather than porn addiction. If one is addicted to sex how does one have a normal sex life without becoming addicted again? As I understand it, addiction to drugs alcohol, porn etc must be avoided completely otherwise a risk of relapse is highly likely.
That’s a hard question to answer. There is no set amount of time it takes. You can be a sex addict who abstains and maintains a bottom line, but without actually addressing the underlying issues that put you there in the first place, it’s only a matter of time before you do it again. But the same mechanism driving PA is driving SA. In both cases, you’re getting intense hits of dopamine, followed by a why-did-I-just-do-that feeling. Only with SA, it’s beyond fantasy, so the dopamine hits are even more than that of PA. Same mechanism nonetheless. For me, PA was my catalyst for SA. I wanted replicate what I saw in the videos, because that was my representation of how sex was. It was also a means to keep feelings of chaos in my life because that’s how I grew up. I’ve been working through these issues, and a lot of repressed memories have come to the forefront. I have been tackling them, one-by-one as they do and it’s difficult, but it’s much better than the emptiness and worthlessness I was feeling after acting out. In other words, feelings of shame and self-loathing. Once I reached these revelations, I was able to put give a voice to the brain hijacker that wasn’t previously there. Not only that, I named the hijacker. Why? Because every time the hijacker said, “I’ve got a great: let’s watch some porn, or look at personals,” I would say “Beat it, ,” though much more aggressively. The voice almost immediately disappeared. Though what I’ve found in recovery is that it keeps coming back. It’s almost as if I no longer felt as though I was beside myself, screaming at myself to stop. That said, you do have cravings to battle. As you battle them, you will deal with those feelings of shame and everything uncomfortable. The feelings will be so uncomfortable that you will start to contemplate acting out as a means to stop the discomfort. This is where putting a voice and a name to the hijacker will go a long way. You WILL feel irritated, depressed, anxious, angry, anhedonic. You need a plan to work through them. It’s not easy, and there’s no set timeline, but the more you can working on the negative feelings and have a game plan for tackling the cravings, the less intense they will be, eventually going away.
I don't know how i can help myself,i got too late and I'm into it too deep,worst was i caught an std, I'm turning 27 on January 20 and am sexually active
@@DocSnipes the video said refrain from masturbation to control the addiction, instead have sex with your significant other. What about people who do not have a significant other? What are they supposed to do to curb their urges?
@@bxcutie4life2007 I'm not a therapist, but since you weren't given an answer to your question, I will make a suggestion. Since you don't have a partner, you can try engaging in masterbation, but with boundaries in place, which you decide on and committ to ahead of time. Those boundaries might be: 1) Do not use pornography 2) Give yourself a time limit. Start with 30 minutes per session, and half as many sessions as you would normally engage in per week 3) Agree to not stay up past your bedtime, and to not cut into the time you normally require to get ready for work or school in the morning. 4) Begin spending 30 minutes per day learning how to meditate, where you learn relaxed breathing, guided imagery, and other de-stressing techniques. Make it a habit, so that you de-stress each day, and so it will feel natural to turn to this when you have high stress.
Here is one more important one: 5) Tell yourself that this new way is your decision, a gift to yourself and your future. Don't tell yourself that you're being punished or deprived. It is a choice, because that way you feel empowered and in control of your life. Keep it positive. You will realize that it takes some of the weight off of your shoulders. God Bless
This person’s cheery, sing-song, presentation method makes me suspect she is not an SA. She’s all academic. There is a lack of singleness of purpose and identification here.
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Sexual addiction is underrated. People tend to normalize pornography and sleeping with everyone. That's not cool. Sexual addiction is an addiction like any other (e.g alcoholism or drug addiction). The future is dark. Worrying times, the ones we live in
I agree. Sexual addiction is just like any other addiction. Thank you for watching the video
Root = trauma
This was so helpful for me and really in ways changing my thinking completely. Thank you so much for taking the time to do this, 7 years later it’s still having impact on peoples lives.
You're so welcome! Thanks for watching the video. 😃
Old video but so helpful I’m currently going through sex addiction and my current relationship of 6 years is falling apart because I keep acting on my urges yet she still stays with me but I keep doing it and hurting her I finally hit rock bottom on this last time and almost tried to kill myself because of how worthless I felt but my actions but she keeps forgiving me and trying to work through it I am starting counseling and she is as well but this video was very helpful and informative so thank you for providing
Thanks for watching. And best of luck on recovery, Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Found this video and your channel today and must say that I like your presenting style very much. So pleasant and informative ;)
Thank you so much! I appreciate you watching. What were your favorite tips from the video?
@@DocSnipes To be aware of and identify my triggers like alone time, stress,... ( and even hunger for me^^) and also to find other activies that feel good too without negative consequences. Overall your video was a good reminder for me. Thx for that! :)
Awesome, clear vid and very helpful. Thanks so much.
Glad it was helpful!
Superb. Great breakdown and understanding of sex and porn addiction.
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Good video. And remember, with the phone- never text and drive! Be safe on the roads, too. Be alert.
Thanks for watching the video
I have a sexual compulsive disorder as I use sex as a copping mechanism it gotten to a point I don’t want to do have random hookups anymore. I have struggles of building relationships with women. I lost virginity when I was 22 since then I just want sex but it’s compulsive to a point I feel depressed and empty after this morning I feel even worse.
that's tough
I am going through the same thing and my wife of 15 years actually felt like I pushed her to be with other men because I have a cuckold fetish, but she seemed to enjoy it when she was doing it
Sucks to be you I guess, I've slept with hundreds of women, I do so as much for the validation as I do the pleasure, the chase as much as the conquest, I've had relationships had kids, to be honest it's all over rated, I'd much rather my single life of casual sex
What if the trigger is time? As in time since the last event? Sort of like food - time since last meal. How do you avoid time?
An increase in drive with elapsed time isn't unusual, especially for men. (Max out for most men is 3 to 7 days, then some leveling) Experiencing this alone would not mean you have an addiction. Addiction involves compulsive seeking and taking of a substance or performing of an activity despite negative or harmful consequences. Having a biologically driven craving doesn't equal addiction.
This is a very nice video thanks a bunch and good courage to everyone :)
So nice of you. Thanks for watching.
Thanks may God bless you ❤
You are so welcome! Thank you. You, too.
Love this !!! Thank you
You are so welcome! I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video
I really appreciated this video. It's amazing to see how much of the content is no longer politically correct in Western society...things have changed so much over the past decade.
You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video
I started looking at ... when I was twelve. I'm in my thirties. I've had a few partners, but recently started engaging with professionals where its legal. There are noticable problems now. I live on the road, so there isn't much I can do.
I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing these challenges. For more tips and tools on how to address sex addiction, please feel free to use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
It might also be helpful to talk to a professional who specializes in sexual health or addiction, even if you're on the road. Many therapists offer online sessions, which could provide you with the support you need regardless of your location. Additionally, there are resources and support groups online that can offer guidance and support. Taking the first step to reach out is important for your well-being.
@@DocSnipes thank you, I'll look into these options.
Mam help me out. I'm really addicted of internet s... whenever i look at a women i just think one thing which is se.. and I'm really depressed the whole day,week and month
Check out this playlist I made. ua-cam.com/play/PLcB3trehXswg3yz_CGjlkGGDM3FDFb2OZ.html Lots of tools and ideas in there.
TNX 💞
You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching the video
Was hoping this was gonna be more about sex addiction rather than porn addiction. If one is addicted to sex how does one have a normal sex life without becoming addicted again? As I understand it, addiction to drugs alcohol, porn etc must be avoided completely otherwise a risk of relapse is highly likely.
But I was helped by this information
That’s a hard question to answer. There is no set amount of time it takes. You can be a sex addict who abstains and maintains a bottom line, but without actually addressing the underlying issues that put you there in the first place, it’s only a matter of time before you do it again. But the same mechanism driving PA is driving SA. In both cases, you’re getting intense hits of dopamine, followed by a why-did-I-just-do-that feeling. Only with SA, it’s beyond fantasy, so the dopamine hits are even more than that of PA. Same mechanism nonetheless.
For me, PA was my catalyst for SA. I wanted replicate what I saw in the videos, because that was my representation of how sex was. It was also a means to keep feelings of chaos in my life because that’s how I grew up. I’ve been working through these issues, and a lot of repressed memories have come to the forefront. I have been tackling them, one-by-one as they do and it’s difficult, but it’s much better than the emptiness and worthlessness I was feeling after acting out. In other words, feelings of shame and self-loathing.
Once I reached these revelations, I was able to put give a voice to the brain hijacker that wasn’t previously there. Not only that, I named the hijacker. Why? Because every time the hijacker said, “I’ve got a great: let’s watch some porn, or look at personals,” I would say “Beat it, ,” though much more aggressively. The voice almost immediately disappeared. Though what I’ve found in recovery is that it keeps coming back.
It’s almost as if I no longer felt as though I was beside myself, screaming at myself to stop. That said, you do have cravings to battle. As you battle them, you will deal with those feelings of shame and everything uncomfortable. The feelings will be so uncomfortable that you will start to contemplate acting out as a means to stop the discomfort. This is where putting a voice and a name to the hijacker will go a long way.
You WILL feel irritated, depressed, anxious, angry, anhedonic. You need a plan to work through them.
It’s not easy, and there’s no set timeline, but the more you can working on the negative feelings and have a game plan for tackling the cravings, the less intense they will be, eventually going away.
This is what happened to me,i got so hooked with lifting weights my testosterone spiked and i wanna have sex more and more everytime
I am sorry about that, Jon. What tips from the video will you use to address that issue?
I don't know how i can help myself,i got too late and I'm into it too deep,worst was i caught an std, I'm turning 27 on January 20 and am sexually active
That is also my concern because I have a sex addiction and I have been active with other men in public bathrooms
Ok what about those of us who have no significant other?
I am not sure where you are going with that question? Thanks for watching!
@@DocSnipes the video said refrain from masturbation to control the addiction, instead have sex with your significant other. What about people who do not have a significant other? What are they supposed to do to curb their urges?
@@bxcutie4life2007
I'm not a therapist, but since you weren't given an answer to your question, I will make a suggestion. Since you don't have a partner, you can try engaging in masterbation, but with boundaries in place, which you decide on and committ to ahead of time.
Those boundaries might be:
1) Do not use pornography
2) Give yourself a time limit. Start with 30 minutes per session, and half as many sessions as you would normally engage in per week
3) Agree to not stay up past your bedtime, and to not cut into the time you normally require to get ready for work or school in the morning.
4) Begin spending 30 minutes per day learning how to meditate, where you learn relaxed breathing, guided imagery, and other de-stressing techniques. Make it a habit, so that you de-stress each day, and so it will feel natural to turn to this when you have high stress.
Here is one more important one:
5) Tell yourself that this new way is your decision, a gift to yourself and your future. Don't tell yourself that you're being punished or deprived. It is a choice, because that way you feel empowered and in control of your life. Keep it positive. You will realize that it takes some of the weight off of your shoulders. God Bless
@@YamCherie Thanks for all the well explained tips/suggestions. I really appreciate it.
This person’s cheery, sing-song, presentation method makes me suspect she is not an SA. She’s all academic. There is a lack of singleness of purpose and identification here.
Lmao I was beginning to think only MEN have it. That's what all these UA-cam videos and comment sections seem to show 🙄
@@VeeDizzle83 My therapist was one. She's female.
She can get it
Bruh😂😂😂
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Thanks for watching.
Lol
Yeah things in your environment - like men and women.
Thanks for watching.
Lol this destroys monogamy.
Thanks for watching.
I need boy friend
Interested in uh
Be careful she’s a plant 👀 lol
Go find one then