I'm also 30 years old, italian, and I feel lost too: I'm always full of thoughts and I'm scared for my future. I'm not satisfied with how I feel now and I'm not very motivated. these videos make me feel less alone
I’ve never been okay with this existence. It is enslavement, and it wastes all of our youth. We should all be rising up, but we’re too busy trying to survive and too many people defend the systems that keep us this way. I completely agree with you. I’m 37, and I’ve felt this way for almost 20 years.
What makes it worse is that theres a pharmaceutical store, alcohol store, and a church within reach of one another. So our options are either get high off pain meds, Get drunk or sit in a church with a group of submissive people, holding hands and sing "oh happy days." We can't live off the land without a permit. This life we live is a complete joke. But dont worry. As long as we can vote, everything will be fine 😊
I have a joke i made and when I tell it, it pisses off parents... ''what do parents say to their new babies?''... ''Welcome to Thunderdome.'' (Mad Max Movies)
32 and definitely feel like I’ve had a midlife crisis for like 5 years. I think making realistic goals and working towards them everyday is helpful instead of trying to solve some big mystery in life. Maybe one day it’ll hit you, “oh I’m meant to do X” but honestly probably not. You’ll just decide the next thing you want to do (and the cycle repeats)
I thought I knew I was "meant to do X" when I was 21-26, but as I got older and the job environment for that passion-career is so competitive, I don't feel that way anymore. And it's not that I'm so badly off, I still have a job in this industry and I have an impressive CV, but I'm tired of the competitive race and if my next job is not within my passion industry, so be it. Also, you learn that almost nothing is as good as it seems from the outside, and that usually a job is just a job at the end of the day. This year that I turned 30, I've prioritized life more and my work/career less. So I'm saying, even if that thought "I'm meant to do X" hits you, doesn't mean it will last. Doesn't mean it will solve anything. People change, life changes, your goals shift, reality hits and hits again, and that's fine, it's about how we face that which matters.
I’m 26 and I feel like my options are not exciting enough to make me feel alive. Like are we supposed to live this lifestyle until we die? It’s like I don’t feel like participating in this mess. I feel you. And I thank you for making me feel less alone.
At 29 I was lost, not enough pay my wife left me for a another dude, I took time to reinvent myself and work harder & smarter. Currently leading a good life, six figure + income, I have a gf that loves me. I travel the world and I will be 33 next month. You can pull through too. I love the honesty in your story hang in there
Thanks for the kind comments, reinventing is a personal path, do stuff that resonates with you. Learn new skills, read books, get your money right (it affects your life choices) , network with people, live to be happy!
Not everyone is motivated by money. A six figure income means nothing to me. I’m more impressed by you having a girlfriend that loves you. Glad you are doing well. Cheers
When i was in my late 20's. just like you, i didn't really look at time or getting older as being an issue. I've heard so many times that 20's were stressful and that going to your 30's everything would becomes less stressful. I was busy studying and building what i would like to become in my 30's. Having a good job that i like, having a family, enjoying life as an adult. Turns out, 30's have been even more stressful for me than my 20's. I'm now feeling that with most of goals gone, there is nothing left of my youth and that i'm pretty much going nowhere.
doing 'enough', or just 'checking the box' in terms of having a job, etc.. it still doesn't bring a sense of satisfaction with life. The world said "jump". And you, me, we jumped. So what? Who cares? Now what? Did I enjoy jumping? No. Do I feel better now or look back at jumping fondly? No. I just checked a box. I did what I'm 'supposed to'. And I'm bored, uninspired by it. In fact, I'm upset that I spent my own time, the finite time I have to live.. that I spent ANY of it wasted in the arbitrary demand to jump, instead of something that moves me, something that DOES give a real sense of satisfaction, worthwhileness.
I really feel everything you’re saying. I heard a good quote today that floored me. “The cave we’re most afraid to enter, holds all the treasures we are seeking” after hearing this I knew what I needed to be doing - hope this helps someone else
Thank you for expressing your thoughts. I feel slightly better that I have been feeling the same way ever since I turned 21. Birthdays have been reminders that my life has gone nowhere. Lowkey I blame the school system for telling us we can be millionaires if we worked hard enough. But its just cope for my situation. These past few years I have grown into the role of average woman. My peak was in high school. I was intelligent enough to earn high scores in class. But that was it. I was only good at listening. Not much good at anything else. I wish you well in your journey and rest every once in a while. You deserve it.
It’s so comforting to know that it’s common for people in their 30s to now know what they want to do in life. This has stressed me out so much. I feel like everyone around me has it figured out and I’m still trying to find financial security and see what’s next
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never related so much. not happy in my 9-5 and on the verge of getting laid off but I don’t have a desire to look for another draining 9-5. the only thing that appeals to me is making UA-cam videos, traveling and fashion. so I’m really working hard to turn my passions into work, and be my own boss. we will figure it out, it’s all part of the process.
@@jesseluv13 A 9-5 job isn’t something everyone wanted it is something everyone was taught in school and I’m sure if you could be your own boss doing things on your terms you would and leave a 9-5 job
Did you know that you can go to Heaven for free? This one decision can change your life and eternity forever. You've heard that Jesus Christ died and rose from the dead - it means He paid the price for your sins so you can be forgiven, saved and have a personal relationship with your Creator. All you have to do is be willing to have your life and heart changed, believe in your heart that Jesus rose from the dead and follow Him daily. Watch how the Holy Spirit moves in your life.. much love and God bless you!!
I totally understand what you feel because I’m experiencing this question recently. Thank you for bringing up this conversation. I love to hear everyone thoughts on this topic and hopefully I will get through doubts soon
I’m feeling many of those same feelings. Half life crisis or having that same feeling about time. Some days I feel like I am even more aware of each hour as it passes. I really love how much I connect with you and your videos. I guess in a way it helps me know that I’m not alone.
I told my fiancé about my feelings for work. I think it came as a shock to her. She has a career she is passionate about, and for that, I’m so happy and proud of her. But I can’t say the same for myself. I feel like a lot of us were mislead in our youth; get a degree, get a job, get a this, get a that. Looks good on paper, but in practice, a shit ton of jobs are soul crushing and do not give us purpose. I don’t really know what to do? I somewhat feel like any job I could get, would just be the same shit, over and over again. That is the ultimate question, what do I want to do with my life? I know what I’m interested in, but I have no idea how to monetize it… is this life? Just the same bullshit over and over? I don’t really wanna play this game. I just know that I would like to work with my hands more. It’s funny, when I was an engineer working long hours, fixing equipment and executing a job, I found more satisfaction than I do now, but at that time, all I longed for was an office.
I totally understand where you coming from, I been in Tech for a long time, worked in corporate environments as well, I hated it every day, saved enough money took a career break for 6 months to really slow down, start living again. I advise would be to find a fulling, meaningful work where you make a difference in the world or someone’s life. And most importantly a job where you feel good, and you just know that this is right. We all go through rough times in live it’s kind of a sign and redirecting us to the right path. Stay positive, things don’t stay the same for ever if you’re patient good things will happen to you at the right time, take care.
I feel the same!! I feel like there’s no way out and just have to work. Health insurance is tied to work, and of course I need that pay check. I think the system wants clogs just keep laboring away, but as a person who stuck in this system I feel very sad. I want to work with my hands, build my life, grow flowers and vegetables, raise animals, have friends, read, exercise, etc etc. But my life has just turned into one thing- work.
Going through your 30's is a time of transition. And expectation. In many cases, we are waiting for something to "happen" or for a light to come on which will illuminate our path. It can also be a time of failure, disappointment and discovery. You have discovered that there is more to life than working or being alone Humans are social beings. We are also created beings. Our purposes is higher than working, earning a paycheck and then consuming. You are on the right track. You are asking the right questions. I think you will find the answers you are looking for. I will pray for you.
Life is not that deep. It’s just for experiencing. And if one day you feel like changing, change. Live for the day. Just focus on making the next day better.
So much of what you say, I'm feeling myself as a 27 yo. Feeling like all my days are the same, still living with parents, seeing things I want to do but not having the discipline to do them. I think your advice about small changes is exactly right - as someone who studied economics in undergrad, I like to think of it is "marginal changes". You're not doing some giant change, but rather a small, gradual change. And, you push along many margins. So I start exercising, and also start a little bit of cooking, and a little bit of self-care (hygiene, grooming), and a little bit of reading, and even a little bit of dating, all at the same time. The progress I see in one area, although small, motivates me to keep pushing in other areas, which in turn motivate further pushing, etc. I've also noticed that my bad habits have started doing the opposite, i.e. gradually decreasing. I spend less time playing video games and less time on youtube than I used to, by quite a bit. I feel like I'm reaching the "inflection point" where the snowball is going to really start taking off! TL;DR: I'm in a similar situation and totally agree with the strategy of small positive changes in a number of areas. They add up and reinforce each other, causing big change over the long run. Good luck in your journey as well!
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 9 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,452 subs and > 1,000 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
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The time thing is so real. I know how much time as has passed without looking at clocks. 10am already feels like half my day is gone. Sometimes my job takes so much energy from me, I feel like if I don't come home, relax and consume all the fun things, Ill miss out on the chance and because before I know it I have to wake up and be at work again. When I was younger, I thought I wanted to be a Architect, Work in Medicine or Tech but all those industries seem boring as hell now. So much red tape and bureaucratic control. I want to create things on my own put them out in the world.
I can relate. I work a lot and save what I can to avoid the rent hikes and buy property. Still trying. I carry the weight of those who slack and I hate it. I overwork and scared to quit my job. Nothing is going as planned. I live day by day now. Little by little is better than no improvement. Also single and living with my family. Feel like a failure tbh.
Im in this exact same rut, i havent been able to find work for 3 months now. Laying in bed all day everyday just filling out applications and watching videos like this on UA-cam. I dont have a purpose I don't have goals. My goal as a kid literally was winning the lottery literally my teacher told me to come up with a more realistic dream and ever since that day i just havent found anything i want to do for the rest of my life. Last time i actually lived was in college. Those were my last happy days where i actually felt like i was living. Idk what to do besides put in applications. I tried to get into the trades but i cant afford the classes honestly. I wish i would of took the technical path in highschool but they was pushing everyone to go to college. And i honestly dont even know how i went to college with my grades and how much i skipped
Im in my 20's and diploma graduate during pandemic.. after college, I started finding whatever jobs I can find and I ended up leaving two jobs tat I work only for around 6 months (the management in the workplace was hell, as junior worker I am often almost do everything, while others just escaping work, sleeping etc.) Now here I am unemployed for almost 8 months 😢.. I am really scared to work again.. yet I dont want to be a burden to my family..
Ive been out of college for a year and a half now and can't land a job in my suburban area. A lot of the turn downs were due to finding candidates with experience. I wasn't able to land any internships due to covid. You're in a good place atleast, better off than some so maybe knowing this can get you going.
@@bradleywelch9290 I am going through the same thing right now. Don’t lose hope…things will get better whether if that takes another month or two years (at least that is what is keeping me motivated).
@@modernviewer Thanks bro, Just sent in two more applications two days ago. I plan on calling up and physically going to business with my resume again. I tweaked some of my past credentials to make them look more attractive. Like for example, I volunteered at a YMCA as a teen, so I worded that as "Experience in customer service" because we had one project where we surveyed random people lol. The whole application process has such a massive learning curve but my motivation is that I always see room for improvement and other methods to approach. Also, my mom i providing me with a roof over my head and food, so I'm comfortable at the very least while searching. I'm praying things get better for you too, stay at it.
@@bradleywelch9290completely relate. Graduated back in May 2022 and still have been struggling to land something in my desired field and just good paying jobs in general but just got an offer for a company that I’m suited with. Try applying to temp agencies, reaching out to HR directly and or even see if you can have a friend put in a reference. Cheers to both of us to have better opportunities in 2024. You’re not alone and we’ll get through this 🙏!!!
Holy shit this is so relatable to me. Animal crossing and all! You’re worth all the space you take up. I’m telling you and I’m telling myself this. Sending so much love to you.
I don't quite "get it" but I'm 55 and lived my life pretty much by my own terms. Sure,I have jobs I hate but I like monster movies. I like reading comic books. I like old school drive-ins. I like new wave/industrial/goth music. Just walk the Earth like Caine in Kung Fu. Like Doug Stanhope said "There used to be fun in the world". I'm sitting here watching Dracula's Kung Fu THeater and eating some garlic cheesy bread and drinking a Cotton Candy Bang and I feel great. Everything isn't SO hard. I died when I was younger and came back so that might have gave me some perspective but even then,we had fun in the 70s and 80s. It was bliss..Also,you may need some niacin and inositol.
I'm feeling in the same boat. I feel like I never made or concentrated on the big life decisions/goals in my 20s and its really hit me in my mid to late 30s. I could be paranoid but it feels like I've probably got to the age where people have started to pity me now and it's even harder seeing people you grew up with ticking all the boxes. Definitely had some dark days with it in the last couple of years. I find myself comparing myself to my parents at my age quite alot. If I was from a really difficult background/upbringing then as bad as that is I'd probably feel at least relieved to have an excuse. It's hit me that it's my bad decisions and naive life perceptions (always thinking something will come along) that have got me here.
Don't compare yourself to people. It just makes you feel bad and in reality you don't have the full story. People love to act like their life is harder better than yours, but it's all so silly bc what can we do. It changes nothing. Just say this is MY story and focus on yours. 🎉
totally feeling this right now. i feel like i’ve seen alot of content posted about starting over in your 30’s.. but for me, it feels more like im just starting 😅
Wow I definitely needed to hear this. I definitely relate to the feeling of being lost in my 30s that you pointed out. This year has been a rough ride but I’m here. I’m starting to realize and accept more that the purpose in life isn’t a question to be answered. I just need to live, enjoy and make the most of what is now.
Passion, passion makes life worth living. I touch up on this on my channel. Take it from someone who suffered from panic attacks, anxiety and depression. I’m 30 years old and have been through a lot, but right now I’m in a place where Im really turning all that around. You can do it. There are no rules to life. We are just here to live and love. You’re aware which is a good place to be, not many people are.
this resonated with me so much. feeling like this is why i recently quit my job - no purpose or direction. it got so bad i also wondered whether there was any reason to keep going if every day was the same bland thing again. you are a sweet soul and i'm glad seeing your recent videos things have changed after all. thank you for sharing :)
I feel the same way. 32 and just feel like life is meant to be so much more than it is. I’ve got a lot of health issues and I feel tired of trying to fit into ‘normal’ societies standards.
Very relatable I feel the exact same way I have been working and trying to change habits to better myself but it is scary feeling like a waste sometimes but time will tell we can make a change for the better it’ll just take time. Great video btw very real and transparently relatable.
I relate to this 1000%. When you've been really productive and it gets screeched to a halt put of your control (like the pandemic did for many of us) . I think the lesson is actually that life cannot be all go go go and we have empty spaces sometimes. I am trying to just enjoy being comfortable for now, even if i feel lost. It's the first time.
i have 2 jobs. I collect dividends that pay most of my bills. I doing well financially. Healthy. Ive been working for the last 10 yrs of my life. Iam in my mids 30s and feel exactly just like you. Even if ur busy doing something i dont see much meaning in it. At least my case. Maybe life wasnt meant to be this long.
you are not alone with all of those feelings, iam in the same boat and so are many others as you can see. and there is a lot who also feel like this but are just not open about it. iam just trying to not pressure myself anymore because life is not a race and everyone has their own story. i compare myself too much with other people which is very toxic for me because our mind will always find ways to make us look bad compared to others, but we dont see the struggles they have and went trough to get where they are. all we can do is look forwad and keep improving ourself, try to not to get eaten up by things that happend in the past. its best to live in the moment and try find things that make you feel good right now, you never know what the future holds and you cant change the past. i hope all works out for you at the end, just keep going and dont beat yourself up too much :)
All the comments are from people in their 20's and 30's struggling with the same issues. As a nearly 70 year old grandma, I believe people, mainly women, have been sold the 'untruth' that a career is your path to independence, financially and maybe from men and marriage and your trajectory to happiness. I have heard from my son many men do not want to marry anymore and I guess the ladies too. In my generation, we usually were married early 20's and had our kids by 30. This provided a sense of purpose, a reason to get up daily and each day was different and had joy (usually!!). We were so busy (exhausted) and involved that we didn't time to question our purpose. Kids brought connection to the community, something so lacking today - connection. This brings depression. I think our society has become unbalanced. I did have a career as an engineer (first generation of women to be part of 'women's lib') but my 'career' didn't hold a candle. Ask yourself - when you leave a job, who will even recall your name in 2 years? If you don't have a circle of friends, volunteer - get out there and connect. Put the phones and social media away.
Wow I thought I’m alone… I’m 26 and this is exactly what I’m going through.. I dread working but when I’m not working I’m not really doing anything. I used to be so excited graduating college and earning money to spend on hobbies but I lost all motivation months before my graduation. I was burnt out. It doesn’t help that I’m living with my parents whom I don’t have a good relationship with. I hate going to work but I feel like I’m not doing anything worthy when I’m not working. So I’m stuck into this vicious loop where I feel depressed. I dread going to work but I would rather go to work than stay home. I would go to work. I’d go home and browse on my phone. I have no motivation to do anything else. I just want to be happy and inspired again
I go through similar thought process from time to time. I feel like a slave to the system. Sometimes I just wanna give everything up and just live somewhere in the wilderness-grow my own vegetables and fruit, hunt, build my own house, etc lmao
th problem with what we are dealing is that its all deep rooted into society, we are expected to have a house, spouse, kids maybe and not complain about it. time moves so fast and theres very little chance to maybe study something new or start a new career path.
I feel like it really doesnt matter what you do, literally everbody is questioning their descisions because there is always someone else who has it different and we try to compare because everbody wants it the best way right? But there is no rule in life you can literally do what you want and live your own lifestyle.
I think we shouldn't have to conform to what society and others expect of us. Everyone has there own journey and set of circumstances. Still living at home is nothing go be sniffed at. I did until my mid 30's. They were some of the most meaningful times i have ever spent with my parents. It was only a stroke of blind luck really that i managed to buy a house before the pandemic hit. I feel greatful for that but it isnt everything trust me so keep focused, do what you can, with what you have and where you are. And remember you are enough😊
It's pretty rough to deal with at times. It's like we're all born to do almost nothing but work. Gotta keep working and if you don't manage to save enough for retirement you'll probably work until you drop dead. And none of the 'dream jobs' out there are reall that dreamy when you start actually doing them, so don't think that you're going to find a job that's going to always make you happy.
YES youre gonna feel like this for the rest of your life. And countless people for all of human history has felt the same. But now we are privileged to be able to contemplate it and possibly do something about it at younger and younger age. So even if you feel like this everyday, dont forget to put things in context and be thankful that youre in your situation. Then go and live your life
I’m in my 30s and am jealous of my high school friend who is married and has 2 kids now. I’m single and fear that I’m running out of time to have healthy babies. Even if I meet someone now and marry in 2 years, it’ll be +3 years until I have a baby and I fear all the pregnancy risks. Some of my friends in my 30s have had miscarriages.
I feel you on that (even though I’m only 25). I wanted to be a young dad somewhere in his 30s with two baby boys yet I don’t even have a girlfriend or job (graduated college late). Not saying it won’t happen but I just feel like time is running out.
You can have a miscarriage at 17. If you really want kids focus on being prepared to receive them when they come, not on finding Mr Right. PI mean, focus on your career, on getting a good paying steady job, save as much as you possibly can,p be at peace with yourself and your situation and when you feel you can provide for a kid, make one and have it on your own. Your financial stability is in your hand, whereas finding Mr Right is totally by chance. Don't waste your time WAITING for somebody or something that may or may not happen.
Hey Abbey, I can totally relate but in a different way, I was in a bad funk years ago, I was feeling that loop as you described but for me it was different, a feeling of post-traumatic stress. Living in a bad area, couldn't focus with work, dealing with things in Covid, roommate problems, crime, etc. Just turned 30, moved to my first one bedroom apartment looking for new work, trying to start a side business, trying to pay down debt, getting off of anti-depressants, FmewdsFmesFdealing with annoyances with family. Looking for new doctors too. Have stress with moving into a new apartment.
I’m in the same boat at you. My problem however is I’m an introvert. I’m also in my 30’s and live at home with my family but not because I can’t move out but because they need my help financially as they’re in their 60’s and dealing with economic stress as in one got laid off before retirement and another has been getting their hours cut so for the last 5 years I’ve been helping pay bills. I could go on and on about the similarities between your situation and mine so I won’t. I stopped caring though when I realized it’s stupid to make plans and goals because most likely where you finish in life is going to be way different than what you imagined it would be.
I am 28, also single, originally from Poland but living in Germany, because of higher wages. I have a job, but as I was 23 and came here, I was thinking that I will find gf and just be happy, instead I am now 5 years abroad and didnt achieved much, even thought I did also 2 years school here. I dont know what to do...
Hi, I just randomly find your channel. I also live in Chicago and I need to ask. How did you find your downtown apartment ? I sawed the video that you made last year. Did you used a website ? Can you tell me where this building is located ?
Relatable. My main issue is not having a real passion. Don’t really dream of labor and have no major goals. Life is hard, especially with no personal purpose
Late 40s here. The key is to challenge yourself everyday. Have a goal. And don’t put too much pressure on yourself to meet that goal but try your best to work towards it. I’ve practiced this and have felt fulfilled
Midlife crisis when I was 28, I’ve never gone to college so I pursue nursing school, something I’ve always wanted to do. Now, I’m living my dream being in a nursing program. It was tough and challenging. I don’t think I’m gonna make it this semester. I do love the aspect and knowledge of nursing but I came to realized that the stresses and the healthcare system that associated with it isn’t for me. But I’m happy that at least I’ve tried and thank god that I don’t have a student loan since I attended a local community college. I’m much happier working as a nurse aid, less stress and flexible hours (take note: my cousin is a CNA nursing assistant who made $90k depending on your agency)
I really think so many of us are feeling this way, and the ones who aren't are hiding from it. I spent my 20's trying sooo hard in my career. I'm 31 now and so burnt out cause life and these crazy societal expectations. And, I'm not where I want to be in my career. LOL. Theories on productivity, hustling, goal setting and dream chasing are just not realistic in the way we were "sold". With "time" I've noticed myself becoming more reclusive to protect myself and conserve my energy just to invest in figuring out my day to day. I am currently in the process of starting a new career making less money and in a totally different field. I was once a 7 day a week workout person, to now maybe 3 days a week light exercise. I guess my point it, even when we feel like we arent doing enough, sometimes when we come to these tough realizations we need time to just go through it and accept what we truly want, and what we can actually accomplish on our own. Thats the real work. Nothing wrong with not having a purpose, but rather just finding simple pleasures in the mundane. Which also takes time to get to.
Very simple for me. The pandemic reverted me back to my true self. A hippy nerd. And a ton of people are shocked by this or can’t believe it. So it’s totally made me distant and reclusive. Which is also another trait of mines that many people don’t know they just think it’s a problem. Sometimes, people are just problems. It’s not you babe.
Its okay just existing. But thanks for this video. I have been looking for others peoples thoughts on the subject. I am 37 and I have already done so much but it also doesnt feel like im at the spot I want to be in life.
just be happy with what you have. God can take away our most precious loved ones at any time. count your blessings and trust that everything will work out. Dont compete with anyone, you will feel much better. just take one day at a time and enjoy the little things in life. no one is promised love, marriage, career success, health...pray and hope for the best. also stay away from people that judge you or that you feel are toxic to your happiness.
The thing is you are neverrr gonna feel like doing the things that you really wanna do so stop waiting to ‘feel’, it never happens. Just ‘do’ what brings a sense of meaning into your life.
Did you know that you can go to Heaven for free? This one decision can change your life and eternity forever. You've heard that Jesus Christ died and rose from the dead - it means He paid the price for your sins so you can be forgiven, saved and have a personal relationship with your Creator. All you have to do is be willing to have your life and heart changed, believe in your heart that Jesus rose from the dead and follow Him daily. Watch how the Holy Spirit moves in your life.. much love and God bless you!!
I’m 37.. achieved absolutely nothing in my life while everyone around me that I know has moved on to better things. And I am happy for them. I lack ambition and I have no direction in life, I’m a coward to change and I can’t find it in me to better my life or self in anyway. I strongly believe that I am a waste of air and space. The thoughts of me being a burden on everybody around me is ripping me apart from the inside that’s why I chose to cut everyone out of my life. I serve no purpose on this earth.. I am just a waste of resources and space. I contribute nothing to anyone including myself. It’s 100% my fault for where I am and I am a coward and a loser. I always search for the path of least resistance. I’m a weak loser and a waste of space. I’d better be sand, at least that way I could possibly serve a purpose some day.
1:20 I feel this exact way right now being unemployed after a contract role went south. My worth is so tied up in my work and I hate it. There’s more to life than this.
Mine too. I feel so attached to work and I’m not sure why. When work is going well, everything is going well. When something goes wrong it feels like my world is crashing down. I think we put too much emphasis on work and/or prioritize that over everything else.
Hmmm ... I think you might be overthinking this life thing. My suggestion: stop putting off your happiness. Instead of thinking of your life as a series of achievements, like an eternal to-do list, think of the things that make you feel wonderful, and do them. What did you absolutely love doing as a kid? Dancing? Do a solo dance party - right now! Drawing? Take out a piece of paper and get to sketching. Music? Practice an instrument you already have or maybe learn a new one. Then figure out how to make these joys a regular part of your life. Life isn't just about achievements - it's about *living.* Or, another suggestion - if you knew you were going to die in one year - what would you do to feel you've made the most of your time while here? Start doing those things. Best of luck in your journey - I truly hope you build a life that completely exhilarates you. ✨ internet hugs ✨
On "living to work" Don't work a tech or office job for a big corporation.. The politics, always walking on eggshells, lack of security and growth take a toll. I was laid off last year and the time I was unemployed was actually a really happy time for me. Its different for everyone but I was able to breathe, spend time with family and do whatever I wanted. Might have also felt that way because prior to that I didn't take a vacation in about 5 years. I'm back on the 9-5 grind but now my goal is to be self employed by next year. Don't want to depend on anyone and if i want to take more than a week of I can without anyone looking over my shoulder
do you do a lot of travelling? I find that travelling to other countries, looking at and experiencing other ways of life and enjoying life in other places and meeting new people along the way helps a lot with enjoyment, generating ideas and goals and picturing things way further ahead. the experiences you get whilst travelling can be life changing. hope to hear more about you - you sound interesting 🙂
I am in this crisis since I turned 18. I think it's because our current understanding of work and productivity is deeply flawed. I don't know how people can be happy staring at a computer monitor for 40+ hours a week. Furthermore, I feel disconnected and trapped in a career path I don't really want. But what other options do you have? Without a job and money, I will starve and don't even have small moments of happiness anymore...
I'm only 15 years old, and I already feel as if I have no purpose and that I'll never have one. For as long as I can remember, I've never felt that motivated towards many things, many goals, achievements, anything. I really don't know what my future holds. I get that, all things considered, 15 years old is still practically a baby. I still have so much time left on this world, but it feels as if I need to have everything down and in a reasonable time right now.
After I graduated a decade ago I decided to taker over family's business since other siblings decided to move overseas and chase their dream career. I took this decision since I'm not into being a career woman and also because i can stay home to take care of parents. It's been a decade of working from monday to sunday, 9-5pm. I manage to clear my family's debt, buy us a house (we were renting) save a lil bit and then covid hit hard. I lost 90% of business on top of that i feel lost, i don't know what i'm doing with my life. My sisters said i have no goals in life and that i should have my own career but i don't know what i want to be or even what i'm good at. What is life?
Omg! You are a career woman and you've been crushing it! You took over your family's business, turned a profit, bought your family a house and cleared family debt!? I'm almost 100% sure that you're just as, if not more successful than your siblings. If you were that successful before you can be successful again! ❤
I admire you can talk about this things about life, i feel the same way even if i put goals i feel i havent done enough with my life, this is the first video i see in your channel, i hope i can learn how to feel happier and fulfilled. Thanks.
Having been there and done that, I can sympathize with you. At the end of your twenties, beginning thirties you got that kind of "fin de siecle" feeling. But I don't think that's the time to let go. The point is, at the beginning of your twenties you're young. And that's a familiar feeling. You've always been young. And you got a wide range of possibilities and capabilities. You can abuse your body in ways you'll never be capable later. And time seems like a vast resource you can spend any way you want to. But I think it's quite important to consider right at that moment what you want to do with your life. And that's quite a daunting task, since your personality hasn't fully developed quite yet. Still, there are some aspects you absolutely love - and in my experience you should dedicate yourself to find out if they're just flukes or things that will be part of you for decades to come. E.g. if you seem to like kids, spend a significant amount of time with them. If you don't like 'em, maybe a family is not for you. If you like travelling, try to do some travelling. If you like programming, do programming. If you like painting, paint. Now I hear you say, "I don't have the money for that". Well, you tend to have time. Trade time for money. E.g. if you like travelling, take the bus. In Europe you can travel significant distances for very reasonable prices. Spend your creativity finding out "how" rather than finding excuses "why not". Now you find yourself at 30-something and several doors in life have been closed. That's the new reality. There are two things you can do. You can spend your days regretting those doors are closed or accept things the way they are and find new ways to live the remainder of your life. One thing is for sure: doing nothing just keeps the clock running while more and more doors behind you are closed. You may not realize it, but you're in a race. You have to open doors to compensate for the ones that get closed. Now, I'm not the kind of guy who makes plans, but I'm the guy of creating opportunities. I've found out in my life that those things you spend a lot of time on are the things that create opportunities. For instance, I once was quite a fan of a rockband - and within a few years I was at the top of one of the main fanclub, invited by coverbands and festivals and finally invited by the band themselves at their headquarters. I never set out to do that, I just spend a lot of time on all that and took every opportunity offered to me. IMHO education takes you only that far. Dedication gets you everywhere. You have to focus. So stop trying this and that, doing a little here and there - find out what is important to you and dedicate your *LIFE* to it. Breathe it. Eat it. Live it. It's has to be the first thing you do when you wake up and the last thing you do before you go to bed (I literally lived that way at times). Fortunately, people tend to like what they are good at, so it's a good point starting there. Good luck!
This was very well written. Especially the part about focusing on one thing at a time instead of multiple things. I've done the latter for most of my life which I suspect is the root of my current questioning of life and "what next." Thank you for this. And good luck to you too. I'd love to talk more with you about your perspective, if that's acceptable. Cheers
@@ifeoma8112 Thank you for the compliment. I really appreciated that one. However, one has to consider that everyone's journey is his or her personal one. I can only tell you what worked for me. If one considers other options, it may very well be that those choices differ from mine, but work very well for that other person. I'm not gonna be the judge on that. If one doesn't like the path he or she is on, I can tell what worked for me. It's the only story I can tell since I got no other one. I'm convinced people have other stories, which might be more worthy retelling than mine. If my story inspired you, I'm happy and I hope it serves you well. But I'm afraid I've got little to say beyond that.
I was ahead of the world. I realized this 15 years before the Pandemic when I was about to graduate college late. I saw my whole life before my eyes in a 9-5 and an old man with a house and family and I didn't want it, at least not at the time, and I wanted more. I wanted to travel and work jobs that got me places, and did meaningful things, and participate in political causes and jobs related to political cases, and then in my 30s, I did a lot of museum and cultural work, but I retired from that now. I want to travel again and see the world, but get a job in a career I want to stay in for a long time. I'm also a writer too. The Great Quit happened and everyone followed my lead. I want to be clear though, I 'did' work jobs, but they were to get me to the next enlightened phase.
if aliens abducted you to their laboratory and put your DNA and other social data into their future-calculator and the result came out about who or how you would be as a person in year 3023, assuming you are still alive then; before they show you the result paper, what do you think it says on it?
I'm not going to live that long, but if Aliens ever analyzed my life, they would read: He chose to pursue happiness over money in his life and it had drawbacks, some very tough, but he was happy for most his life and accomplished a lot of his goals as an ambitious person. He loved his family the best he could too. @@frv6610
Thats the kind of thinking that alot of us dont sit down to embrace, the whole working thing all the way to death. It actually doesnt make sense. I am glad alot of us are waking up to this reality.
we always focus on the big goals without realizing that big things are made up of small things are accumulated overtime. a pretty picture starts with a dot a dollar is made of cents all of us are simply particles combined good day!
I am so UNBELIEVABLY happy that we're all starting to talk about how wrong this all feels ! It's not just you !!
I’m wondering if it’s worse than we think
@@Zach-ls1ifyou wouldn’t be able to handle it. Should I tell you? Remember the truth is stranger than fiction
ok tell us @@RaptureHead1993
@@RaptureHead1993 shut up. I grew up homeless, I’ve had a crazy life
@@Zach-ls1ifmuch worse and much better. Same cycle.
I'm also 30 years old, italian, and I feel lost too: I'm always full of thoughts and I'm scared for my future. I'm not satisfied with how I feel now and I'm not very motivated. these videos make me feel less alone
Non sei da sola. Buona fortuna federica. A noi entrambi a tutti gli altri nei nostri panni
Abbraccio random ❤
Zona basso Lago di Garda. Tu?
Why does it matter you’re Italian.
no, no, being Italian has nothing to do with the topic. It was just to apologize if I wrote badly in English 😅
I’ve never been okay with this existence. It is enslavement, and it wastes all of our youth. We should all be rising up, but we’re too busy trying to survive and too many people defend the systems that keep us this way. I completely agree with you. I’m 37, and I’ve felt this way for almost 20 years.
maybe the solution is to give up trying to find a goal and instead be happy with what we have already
What makes it worse is that theres a pharmaceutical store, alcohol store, and a church within reach of one another. So our options are either get high off pain meds, Get drunk or sit in a church with a group of submissive people, holding hands and sing "oh happy days."
We can't live off the land without a permit. This life we live is a complete joke. But dont worry. As long as we can vote, everything will be fine 😊
@frv6610
What if what you got is trash though? That’s what the problem is in Korean and high suicide rates.
@@ShinmegamiPersona R u Korean? What is the trash that makes them suicide?
I have a joke i made and when I tell it, it pisses off parents... ''what do parents say to their new babies?''...
''Welcome to Thunderdome.'' (Mad Max Movies)
32 and definitely feel like I’ve had a midlife crisis for like 5 years. I think making realistic goals and working towards them everyday is helpful instead of trying to solve some big mystery in life. Maybe one day it’ll hit you, “oh I’m meant to do X” but honestly probably not. You’ll just decide the next thing you want to do (and the cycle repeats)
This is so true! Thanks for sharing!
I thought I knew I was "meant to do X" when I was 21-26, but as I got older and the job environment for that passion-career is so competitive, I don't feel that way anymore. And it's not that I'm so badly off, I still have a job in this industry and I have an impressive CV, but I'm tired of the competitive race and if my next job is not within my passion industry, so be it. Also, you learn that almost nothing is as good as it seems from the outside, and that usually a job is just a job at the end of the day. This year that I turned 30, I've prioritized life more and my work/career less. So I'm saying, even if that thought "I'm meant to do X" hits you, doesn't mean it will last. Doesn't mean it will solve anything. People change, life changes, your goals shift, reality hits and hits again, and that's fine, it's about how we face that which matters.
I’m 26 and I feel like my options are not exciting enough to make me feel alive. Like are we supposed to live this lifestyle until we die? It’s like I don’t feel like participating in this mess. I feel you. And I thank you for making me feel less alone.
Which country would you like to go to?
Read the Quran brother. It will erase any nihilism you have. It did for me
At 29 I was lost, not enough pay my wife left me for a another dude, I took time to reinvent myself and work harder & smarter. Currently leading a good life, six figure + income, I have a gf that loves me. I travel the world and I will be 33 next month.
You can pull through too. I love the honesty in your story hang in there
Thank you! your story inspires hope
Congrats
I feel inspired reading the comments, I'm walking the reinventing path. Tips ?
Thanks for the kind comments, reinventing is a personal path, do stuff that resonates with you. Learn new skills, read books, get your money right (it affects your life choices) , network with people, live to be happy!
Not everyone is motivated by money. A six figure income means nothing to me. I’m more impressed by you having a girlfriend that loves you. Glad you are doing well. Cheers
TY. I really needed to hear this, elaborate money tips ? I've not been really opportuned to have these kind of convos lately
When i was in my late 20's. just like you, i didn't really look at time or getting older as being an issue. I've heard so many times that 20's were stressful and that going to your 30's everything would becomes less stressful. I was busy studying and building what i would like to become in my 30's. Having a good job that i like, having a family, enjoying life as an adult. Turns out, 30's have been even more stressful for me than my 20's. I'm now feeling that with most of goals gone, there is nothing left of my youth and that i'm pretty much going nowhere.
doing 'enough', or just 'checking the box' in terms of having a job, etc.. it still doesn't bring a sense of satisfaction with life. The world said "jump". And you, me, we jumped. So what? Who cares? Now what? Did I enjoy jumping? No. Do I feel better now or look back at jumping fondly? No. I just checked a box. I did what I'm 'supposed to'. And I'm bored, uninspired by it. In fact, I'm upset that I spent my own time, the finite time I have to live.. that I spent ANY of it wasted in the arbitrary demand to jump, instead of something that moves me, something that DOES give a real sense of satisfaction, worthwhileness.
Step one : get out of bed . Step 2: less thinking and more doing. Step 3: Lose yourself to find yourself
Love this! Thank you for sharing!
Yes. Most of life is just about turning up.
I hate thinking. I wish I never started thinking at all. Thinking sucks.
Step 2 - MAKE BED! This way at the very least you can say you got at least one thing done today.
This was horrible, I'm sorry I even came here
I'm feeling this at 26. No work history because of depression and still in college. Idk where my life is going.
I'm in the same situation but I'm 28😢
It's not going anywhere, for Anyone. Sounds depressing but it actually freeing to know it.
Stay strong and also at 26 years your still young. No doubt you will make it with time
Im in the same age and situation
What do you mean by this?
As someone who’s almost 30, this video is a big mood
Im kinda in the same boat
Feeling lost in live, at 37 no friends no relationship
I have work but a lot of stress 😔
Same
Snap
you are not alone, we all are wandering around in this world.
At least you have job
lol, ye think about Africans @@mrssomeone2143
I really feel everything you’re saying. I heard a good quote today that floored me. “The cave we’re most afraid to enter, holds all the treasures we are seeking” after hearing this I knew what I needed to be doing - hope this helps someone else
Thank you for expressing your thoughts. I feel slightly better that I have been feeling the same way ever since I turned 21. Birthdays have been reminders that my life has gone nowhere. Lowkey I blame the school system for telling us we can be millionaires if we worked hard enough. But its just cope for my situation. These past few years I have grown into the role of average woman. My peak was in high school. I was intelligent enough to earn high scores in class. But that was it. I was only good at listening. Not much good at anything else. I wish you well in your journey and rest every once in a while. You deserve it.
It’s so comforting to know that it’s common for people in their 30s to now know what they want to do in life. This has stressed me out so much. I feel like everyone around me has it figured out and I’m still trying to find financial security and see what’s next
It's crazy how much I can relate to what you're saying
I can relate to everything you’ve said in this video, as someone in my 30s.
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I’m questioning why UA-cam is recommending these gems to me, i swear sometimes i feel like I’m living in a simulation after the pandemic
never related so much. not happy in my 9-5 and on the verge of getting laid off but I don’t have a desire to look for another draining 9-5. the only thing that appeals to me is making UA-cam videos, traveling and fashion. so I’m really working hard to turn my passions into work, and be my own boss. we will figure it out, it’s all part of the process.
why do I always hear negative things about 9-5 jobs? isn't that what people always wanted? weekends off, set schedule? I would LOVE a 9-5 job.
@@jesseluv13 A 9-5 job isn’t something everyone wanted it is something everyone was taught in school and I’m sure if you could be your own boss doing things on your terms you would and leave a 9-5 job
@@aaronb1226 You're about that!!
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I totally understand what you feel because I’m experiencing this question recently. Thank you for bringing up this conversation. I love to hear everyone thoughts on this topic and hopefully I will get through doubts soon
Thanks for sharing. I've been feeling the same way, I'm also in my 30s.
I’m feeling many of those same feelings. Half life crisis or having that same feeling about time. Some days I feel like I am even more aware of each hour as it passes. I really love how much I connect with you and your videos. I guess in a way it helps me know that I’m not alone.
I told my fiancé about my feelings for work. I think it came as a shock to her. She has a career she is passionate about, and for that, I’m so happy and proud of her. But I can’t say the same for myself.
I feel like a lot of us were mislead in our youth; get a degree, get a job, get a this, get a that. Looks good on paper, but in practice, a shit ton of jobs are soul crushing and do not give us purpose.
I don’t really know what to do? I somewhat feel like any job I could get, would just be the same shit, over and over again. That is the ultimate question, what do I want to do with my life? I know what I’m interested in, but I have no idea how to monetize it… is this life? Just the same bullshit over and over? I don’t really wanna play this game. I just know that I would like to work with my hands more.
It’s funny, when I was an engineer working long hours, fixing equipment and executing a job, I found more satisfaction than I do now, but at that time, all I longed for was an office.
I totally understand where you coming from, I been in Tech for a long time, worked in corporate environments as well, I hated it every day, saved enough money took a career break for 6 months to really slow down, start living again. I advise would be to find a fulling, meaningful work where you make a difference in the world or someone’s life. And most importantly a job where you feel good, and you just know that this is right. We all go through rough times in live it’s kind of a sign and redirecting us to the right path. Stay positive, things don’t stay the same for ever if you’re patient good things will happen to you at the right time, take care.
I feel the same!! I feel like there’s no way out and just have to work. Health insurance is tied to work, and of course I need that pay check. I think the system wants clogs just keep laboring away, but as a person who stuck in this system I feel very sad. I want to work with my hands, build my life, grow flowers and vegetables, raise animals, have friends, read, exercise, etc etc. But my life has just turned into one thing- work.
this is why i became an artist, it gives me something productive and fun to do all the time :”D
Love that! Thanks for sharing!
Going through your 30's is a time of transition. And expectation. In many cases, we are waiting for something to "happen" or for a light to come on which will
illuminate our path. It can also be a time of failure, disappointment and discovery. You have discovered that there is more to life than working or being alone
Humans are social beings. We are also created beings. Our purposes is higher than working, earning a paycheck and then consuming. You are on the right
track. You are asking the right questions. I think you will find the answers you are looking for. I will pray for you.
Life is not that deep. It’s just for experiencing. And if one day you feel like changing, change. Live for the day. Just focus on making the next day better.
So much of what you say, I'm feeling myself as a 27 yo. Feeling like all my days are the same, still living with parents, seeing things I want to do but not having the discipline to do them. I think your advice about small changes is exactly right - as someone who studied economics in undergrad, I like to think of it is "marginal changes". You're not doing some giant change, but rather a small, gradual change. And, you push along many margins. So I start exercising, and also start a little bit of cooking, and a little bit of self-care (hygiene, grooming), and a little bit of reading, and even a little bit of dating, all at the same time. The progress I see in one area, although small, motivates me to keep pushing in other areas, which in turn motivate further pushing, etc. I've also noticed that my bad habits have started doing the opposite, i.e. gradually decreasing. I spend less time playing video games and less time on youtube than I used to, by quite a bit. I feel like I'm reaching the "inflection point" where the snowball is going to really start taking off!
TL;DR: I'm in a similar situation and totally agree with the strategy of small positive changes in a number of areas. They add up and reinforce each other, causing big change over the long run. Good luck in your journey as well!
maybe just be happy with what you have in life, that's it, it's not worth wasting the now for some silly future goals
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The time thing is so real.
I know how much time as has passed without looking at clocks.
10am already feels like half my day is gone.
Sometimes my job takes so much energy from me, I feel like if I don't come home, relax and consume all the fun things, Ill miss out on the chance and because before I know it I have to wake up and be at work again.
When I was younger, I thought I wanted to be a Architect, Work in Medicine or Tech but all those industries seem boring as hell now. So much red tape and bureaucratic control.
I want to create things on my own put them out in the world.
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I can relate. I work a lot and save what I can to avoid the rent hikes and buy property. Still trying. I carry the weight of those who slack and I hate it. I overwork and scared to quit my job. Nothing is going as planned. I live day by day now. Little by little is better than no improvement. Also single and living with my family. Feel like a failure tbh.
At least you have a family to live with.
@@awakenedone7577”at least” hush
Live with your family as long as possible and save 80% of your income.
Im in this exact same rut, i havent been able to find work for 3 months now. Laying in bed all day everyday just filling out applications and watching videos like this on UA-cam. I dont have a purpose I don't have goals. My goal as a kid literally was winning the lottery literally my teacher told me to come up with a more realistic dream and ever since that day i just havent found anything i want to do for the rest of my life. Last time i actually lived was in college. Those were my last happy days where i actually felt like i was living. Idk what to do besides put in applications. I tried to get into the trades but i cant afford the classes honestly. I wish i would of took the technical path in highschool but they was pushing everyone to go to college. And i honestly dont even know how i went to college with my grades and how much i skipped
Im in my 20's and diploma graduate during pandemic.. after college, I started finding whatever jobs I can find and I ended up leaving two jobs tat I work only for around 6 months (the management in the workplace was hell, as junior worker I am often almost do everything, while others just escaping work, sleeping etc.) Now here I am unemployed for almost 8 months 😢.. I am really scared to work again.. yet I dont want to be a burden to my family..
Ive been out of college for a year and a half now and can't land a job in my suburban area. A lot of the turn downs were due to finding candidates with experience. I wasn't able to land any internships due to covid. You're in a good place atleast, better off than some so maybe knowing this can get you going.
@@bradleywelch9290 I am going through the same thing right now. Don’t lose hope…things will get better whether if that takes another month or two years (at least that is what is keeping me motivated).
@@modernviewer Thanks bro, Just sent in two more applications two days ago. I plan on calling up and physically going to business with my resume again. I tweaked some of my past credentials to make them look more attractive. Like for example, I volunteered at a YMCA as a teen, so I worded that as "Experience in customer service" because we had one project where we surveyed random people lol. The whole application process has such a massive learning curve but my motivation is that I always see room for improvement and other methods to approach.
Also, my mom i providing me with a roof over my head and food, so I'm comfortable at the very least while searching.
I'm praying things get better for you too, stay at it.
@@bradleywelch9290completely relate. Graduated back in May 2022 and still have been struggling to land something in my desired field and just good paying jobs in general but just got an offer for a company that I’m suited with. Try applying to temp agencies, reaching out to HR directly and or even see if you can have a friend put in a reference. Cheers to both of us to have better opportunities in 2024. You’re not alone and we’ll get through this 🙏!!!
Holy shit this is so relatable to me. Animal crossing and all! You’re worth all the space you take up. I’m telling you and I’m telling myself this. Sending so much love to you.
I don't quite "get it" but I'm 55 and lived my life pretty much by my own terms. Sure,I have jobs I hate but I like monster movies. I like reading comic books. I like old school drive-ins. I like new wave/industrial/goth music. Just walk the Earth like Caine in Kung Fu. Like Doug Stanhope said "There used to be fun in the world". I'm sitting here watching Dracula's Kung Fu THeater and eating some garlic cheesy bread and drinking a Cotton Candy Bang and I feel great. Everything isn't SO hard. I died when I was younger and came back so that might have gave me some perspective but even then,we had fun in the 70s and 80s. It was bliss..Also,you may need some niacin and inositol.
I'm 35 and I feel so behind in life. I still don't have good paying career or better income
I'm feeling in the same boat. I feel like I never made or concentrated on the big life decisions/goals in my 20s and its really hit me in my mid to late 30s. I could be paranoid but it feels like I've probably got to the age where people have started to pity me now and it's even harder seeing people you grew up with ticking all the boxes. Definitely had some dark days with it in the last couple of years. I find myself comparing myself to my parents at my age quite alot. If I was from a really difficult background/upbringing then as bad as that is I'd probably feel at least relieved to have an excuse. It's hit me that it's my bad decisions and naive life perceptions (always thinking something will come along) that have got me here.
What big life decisions?
@@jozzz222 Bad way of putting it. I meant life goals.
Don't compare yourself to people. It just makes you feel bad and in reality you don't have the full story. People love to act like their life is harder better than yours, but it's all so silly bc what can we do. It changes nothing.
Just say this is MY story and focus on yours. 🎉
totally feeling this right now. i feel like i’ve seen alot of content posted about starting over in your 30’s.. but for me, it feels more like im just starting 😅
Wow I definitely needed to hear this. I definitely relate to the feeling of being lost in my 30s that you pointed out. This year has been a rough ride but I’m here. I’m starting to realize and accept more that the purpose in life isn’t a question to be answered. I just need to live, enjoy and make the most of what is now.
Passion, passion makes life worth living. I touch up on this on my channel. Take it from someone who suffered from panic attacks, anxiety and depression. I’m 30 years old and have been through a lot, but right now I’m in a place where Im really turning all that around. You can do it. There are no rules to life. We are just here to live and love. You’re aware which is a good place to be, not many people are.
I admire your honesty. It's ok to not know how everything will work out. Perhaps that's the beauty of it
this resonated with me so much. feeling like this is why i recently quit my job - no purpose or direction. it got so bad i also wondered whether there was any reason to keep going if every day was the same bland thing again. you are a sweet soul and i'm glad seeing your recent videos things have changed after all. thank you for sharing :)
I feel the same way. 32 and just feel like life is meant to be so much more than it is. I’ve got a lot of health issues and I feel tired of trying to fit into ‘normal’ societies standards.
Hey there many issues can be REVERSED. What do u have please?
Very relatable I feel the exact same way I have been working and trying to change habits to better myself but it is scary feeling like a waste sometimes but time will tell we can make a change for the better it’ll just take time. Great video btw very real and transparently relatable.
I love your channel so much. This are really important conversations to have.
I relate to this 1000%. When you've been really productive and it gets screeched to a halt put of your control (like the pandemic did for many of us) . I think the lesson is actually that life cannot be all go go go and we have empty spaces sometimes. I am trying to just enjoy being comfortable for now, even if i feel lost. It's the first time.
This is so raw and so real thank you, sometimes I share similar sentiments
i have 2 jobs. I collect dividends that pay most of my bills. I doing well financially. Healthy. Ive been working for the last 10 yrs of my life. Iam in my mids 30s and feel exactly just like you. Even if ur busy doing something i dont see much meaning in it. At least my case. Maybe life wasnt meant to be this long.
That’s scary. You sound like you got your shit together and still feel empty. Here’s me thinking if I can just be this and do this..
I can so relate, those thoughts are scary…
how are you able to collect such huge dividends?
you are not alone with all of those feelings, iam in the same boat and so are many others as you can see. and there is a lot who also feel like this but are just not open about it. iam just trying to not pressure myself anymore because life is not a race and everyone has their own story.
i compare myself too much with other people which is very toxic for me because our mind will always find ways to make us look bad compared to others, but we dont see the struggles they have and went trough to get where they are.
all we can do is look forwad and keep improving ourself, try to not to get eaten up by things that happend in the past. its best to live in the moment and try find things that make you feel good right now, you never know what the future holds and you cant change the past.
i hope all works out for you at the end, just keep going and dont beat yourself up too much :)
Well done - you seem to be working out your life and growing. Keep at it - you sound like you are heading in a better direction.
All the comments are from people in their 20's and 30's struggling with the same issues. As a nearly 70 year old grandma, I believe people, mainly women, have been sold the 'untruth' that a career is your path to independence, financially and maybe from men and marriage and your trajectory to happiness. I have heard from my son many men do not want to marry anymore and I guess the ladies too. In my generation, we usually were married early 20's and had our kids by 30. This provided a sense of purpose, a reason to get up daily and each day was different and had joy (usually!!). We were so busy (exhausted) and involved that we didn't time to question our purpose. Kids brought connection to the community, something so lacking today - connection. This brings depression. I think our society has become unbalanced. I did have a career as an engineer (first generation of women to be part of 'women's lib') but my 'career' didn't hold a candle. Ask yourself - when you leave a job, who will even recall your name in 2 years? If you don't have a circle of friends, volunteer - get out there and connect. Put the phones and social media away.
Wow I thought I’m alone… I’m 26 and this is exactly what I’m going through.. I dread working but when I’m not working I’m not really doing anything. I used to be so excited graduating college and earning money to spend on hobbies but I lost all motivation months before my graduation. I was burnt out. It doesn’t help that I’m living with my parents whom I don’t have a good relationship with. I hate going to work but I feel like I’m not doing anything worthy when I’m not working. So I’m stuck into this vicious loop where I feel depressed. I dread going to work but I would rather go to work than stay home. I would go to work. I’d go home and browse on my phone. I have no motivation to do anything else. I just want to be happy and inspired again
Keep going! I’m loving this content and I feel the same way.
I go through similar thought process from time to time. I feel like a slave to the system. Sometimes I just wanna give everything up and just live somewhere in the wilderness-grow my own vegetables and fruit, hunt, build my own house, etc lmao
th problem with what we are dealing is that its all deep rooted into society, we are expected to have a house, spouse, kids maybe and not complain about it. time moves so fast and theres very little chance to maybe study something new or start a new career path.
Thank you for posting this!
I feel like it really doesnt matter what you do, literally everbody is questioning their descisions because there is always someone else who has it different and we try to compare because everbody wants it the best way right? But there is no rule in life you can literally do what you want and live your own lifestyle.
I think we shouldn't have to conform to what society and others expect of us. Everyone has there own journey and set of circumstances.
Still living at home is nothing go be sniffed at. I did until my mid 30's. They were some of the most meaningful times i have ever spent with my parents. It was only a stroke of blind luck really that i managed to buy a house before the pandemic hit.
I feel greatful for that but it isnt everything trust me so keep focused, do what you can, with what you have and where you are.
And remember you are enough😊
It's pretty rough to deal with at times. It's like we're all born to do almost nothing but work. Gotta keep working and if you don't manage to save enough for retirement you'll probably work until you drop dead. And none of the 'dream jobs' out there are reall that dreamy when you start actually doing them, so don't think that you're going to find a job that's going to always make you happy.
YES youre gonna feel like this for the rest of your life. And countless people for all of human history has felt the same. But now we are privileged to be able to contemplate it and possibly do something about it at younger and younger age. So even if you feel like this everyday, dont forget to put things in context and be thankful that youre in your situation. Then go and live your life
It's very hard to make new routines when life is the same each day each month each year... Nothing changes
Yeah
I’m in my 30s and am jealous of my high school friend who is married and has 2 kids now. I’m single and fear that I’m running out of time to have healthy babies. Even if I meet someone now and marry in 2 years, it’ll be +3 years until I have a baby and I fear all the pregnancy risks. Some of my friends in my 30s have had miscarriages.
I feel you on that (even though I’m only 25). I wanted to be a young dad somewhere in his 30s with two baby boys yet I don’t even have a girlfriend or job (graduated college late). Not saying it won’t happen but I just feel like time is running out.
@@danielramotowski5187 time doesn’t really run out for men. Especially if you’re financially secure
You can have a miscarriage at 17. If you really want kids focus on being prepared to receive them when they come, not on finding Mr Right. PI mean, focus on your career, on getting a good paying steady job, save as much as you possibly can,p be at peace with yourself and your situation and when you feel you can provide for a kid, make one and have it on your own. Your financial stability is in your hand, whereas finding Mr Right is totally by chance. Don't waste your time WAITING for somebody or something that may or may not happen.
Hey Abbey, I can totally relate but in a different way, I was in a bad funk years ago, I was feeling that loop as you described but for me it was different, a feeling of post-traumatic stress. Living in a bad area, couldn't focus with work, dealing with things in Covid, roommate problems, crime, etc. Just turned 30, moved to my first one bedroom apartment looking for new work, trying to start a side business, trying to pay down debt, getting off of anti-depressants, FmewdsFmesFdealing with annoyances with family. Looking for new doctors too. Have stress with moving into a new apartment.
Things do no get better!! Life is now. The moment is all that is true.
I’m in the same boat at you. My problem however is I’m an introvert. I’m also in my 30’s and live at home with my family but not because I can’t move out but because they need my help financially as they’re in their 60’s and dealing with economic stress as in one got laid off before retirement and another has been getting their hours cut so for the last 5 years I’ve been helping pay bills. I could go on and on about the similarities between your situation and mine so I won’t. I stopped caring though when I realized it’s stupid to make plans and goals because most likely where you finish in life is going to be way different than what you imagined it would be.
I am 28, also single, originally from Poland but living in Germany, because of higher wages. I have a job, but as I was 23 and came here, I was thinking that I will find gf and just be happy, instead I am now 5 years abroad and didnt achieved much, even thought I did also 2 years school here. I dont know what to do...
Ja to samo w Niemczech od lat , 32 lata stuklo a ja bez celu
Hi, I just randomly find your channel. I also live in Chicago and I need to ask. How did you find your downtown apartment ? I sawed the video that you made last year. Did you used a website ? Can you tell me where this building is located ?
Relatable. My main issue is not having a real passion. Don’t really dream of labor and have no major goals. Life is hard, especially with no personal purpose
As a person of Asian descent I can totally relate about Asian immigrants being so tough about making a living via college degree.
Late 40s here. The key is to challenge yourself everyday. Have a goal. And don’t put too much pressure on yourself to meet that goal but try your best to work towards it. I’ve practiced this and have felt fulfilled
i really love your honesty, feel the same as a 28 year old in a similar spot to you
Midlife crisis when I was 28, I’ve never gone to college so I pursue nursing school, something I’ve always wanted to do. Now, I’m living my dream being in a nursing program. It was tough and challenging. I don’t think I’m gonna make it this semester. I do love the aspect and knowledge of nursing but I came to realized that the stresses and the healthcare system that associated with it isn’t for me. But I’m happy that at least I’ve tried and thank god that I don’t have a student loan since I attended a local community college. I’m much happier working as a nurse aid, less stress and flexible hours (take note: my cousin is a CNA nursing assistant who made $90k depending on your agency)
WOW if I could go back 5 years i would go to Nevada
I really think so many of us are feeling this way, and the ones who aren't are hiding from it. I spent my 20's trying sooo hard in my career. I'm 31 now and so burnt out cause life and these crazy societal expectations. And, I'm not where I want to be in my career. LOL. Theories on productivity, hustling, goal setting and dream chasing are just not realistic in the way we were "sold". With "time" I've noticed myself becoming more reclusive to protect myself and conserve my energy just to invest in figuring out my day to day. I am currently in the process of starting a new career making less money and in a totally different field. I was once a 7 day a week workout person, to now maybe 3 days a week light exercise. I guess my point it, even when we feel like we arent doing enough, sometimes when we come to these tough realizations we need time to just go through it and accept what we truly want, and what we can actually accomplish on our own. Thats the real work. Nothing wrong with not having a purpose, but rather just finding simple pleasures in the mundane. Which also takes time to get to.
Very simple for me. The pandemic reverted me back to my true self. A hippy nerd.
And a ton of people are shocked by this or can’t believe it. So it’s totally made me distant and reclusive. Which is also another trait of mines that many people don’t know they just think it’s a problem.
Sometimes, people are just problems. It’s not you babe.
Pressure of being more productive is a real thing.. I can relate to it so much.
Its okay just existing. But thanks for this video. I have been looking for others peoples thoughts on the subject. I am 37 and I have already done so much but it also doesnt feel like im at the spot I want to be in life.
just be happy with what you have. God can take away our most precious loved ones at any time. count your blessings and trust that everything will work out. Dont compete with anyone, you will feel much better. just take one day at a time and enjoy the little things in life. no one is promised love, marriage, career success, health...pray and hope for the best. also stay away from people that judge you or that you feel are toxic to your happiness.
As you can see many of us are on the same boat, i think time with refrain from dropping our anchors and finally set sail to prevail whos with me!!
The thing is you are neverrr gonna feel like doing the things that you really wanna do so stop waiting to ‘feel’, it never happens. Just ‘do’ what brings a sense of meaning into your life.
Thanks for sharing your perspective!
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I’m 37.. achieved absolutely nothing in my life while everyone around me that I know has moved on to better things. And I am happy for them. I lack ambition and I have no direction in life, I’m a coward to change and I can’t find it in me to better my life or self in anyway. I strongly believe that I am a waste of air and space. The thoughts of me being a burden on everybody around me is ripping me apart from the inside that’s why I chose to cut everyone out of my life. I serve no purpose on this earth.. I am just a waste of resources and space. I contribute nothing to anyone including myself. It’s 100% my fault for where I am and I am a coward and a loser. I always search for the path of least resistance. I’m a weak loser and a waste of space. I’d better be sand, at least that way I could possibly serve a purpose some day.
Sounds like the age old question “What’s the purpose of life?”, I pray that you find yourself when the time comes.
1:20 I feel this exact way right now being unemployed after a contract role went south. My worth is so tied up in my work and I hate it. There’s more to life than this.
Mine too. I feel so attached to work and I’m not sure why. When work is going well, everything is going well. When something goes wrong it feels like my world is crashing down. I think we put too much emphasis on work and/or prioritize that over everything else.
Hmmm ... I think you might be overthinking this life thing. My suggestion: stop putting off your happiness. Instead of thinking of your life as a series of achievements, like an eternal to-do list, think of the things that make you feel wonderful, and do them.
What did you absolutely love doing as a kid? Dancing? Do a solo dance party - right now! Drawing? Take out a piece of paper and get to sketching. Music? Practice an instrument you already have or maybe learn a new one.
Then figure out how to make these joys a regular part of your life. Life isn't just about achievements - it's about *living.*
Or, another suggestion - if you knew you were going to die in one year - what would you do to feel you've made the most of your time while here? Start doing those things.
Best of luck in your journey - I truly hope you build a life that completely exhilarates you.
✨ internet hugs ✨
I've been lost all my life
On "living to work" Don't work a tech or office job for a big corporation.. The politics, always walking on eggshells, lack of security and growth take a toll. I was laid off last year and the time I was unemployed was actually a really happy time for me. Its different for everyone but I was able to breathe, spend time with family and do whatever I wanted. Might have also felt that way because prior to that I didn't take a vacation in about 5 years.
I'm back on the 9-5 grind but now my goal is to be self employed by next year.
Don't want to depend on anyone and if i want to take more than a week of I can without anyone looking over my shoulder
do you do a lot of travelling? I find that travelling to other countries, looking at and experiencing other ways of life and enjoying life in other places and meeting new people along the way helps a lot with enjoyment, generating ideas and goals and picturing things way further ahead. the experiences you get whilst travelling can be life changing. hope to hear more about you - you sound interesting 🙂
I don't since I work a lot but maybe I should take a long vacation. Life is short. Thanks for sharing!
There is no purpose, you just have to be graceful in all your actions
I am in this crisis since I turned 18. I think it's because our current understanding of work and productivity is deeply flawed. I don't know how people can be happy staring at a computer monitor for 40+ hours a week. Furthermore, I feel disconnected and trapped in a career path I don't really want. But what other options do you have? Without a job and money, I will starve and don't even have small moments of happiness anymore...
I'm only 15 years old, and I already feel as if I have no purpose and that I'll never have one. For as long as I can remember, I've never felt that motivated towards many things, many goals, achievements, anything. I really don't know what my future holds. I get that, all things considered, 15 years old is still practically a baby. I still have so much time left on this world, but it feels as if I need to have everything down and in a reasonable time right now.
pick a business u like and get good at it, if you start now you will be pro in your 30s. don't take a business only for money but you don't like it
After I graduated a decade ago I decided to taker over family's business since other siblings decided to move overseas and chase their dream career. I took this decision since I'm not into being a career woman and also because i can stay home to take care of parents. It's been a decade of working from monday to sunday, 9-5pm. I manage to clear my family's debt, buy us a house (we were renting) save a lil bit and then covid hit hard. I lost 90% of business on top of that i feel lost, i don't know what i'm doing with my life. My sisters said i have no goals in life and that i should have my own career but i don't know what i want to be or even what i'm good at. What is life?
Omg! You are a career woman and you've been crushing it! You took over your family's business, turned a profit, bought your family a house and cleared family debt!? I'm almost 100% sure that you're just as, if not more successful than your siblings. If you were that successful before you can be successful again! ❤
I admire you can talk about this things about life, i feel the same way even if i put goals i feel i havent done enough with my life, this is the first video i see in your channel, i hope i can learn how to feel happier and fulfilled. Thanks.
I relate to so many things about this video, makes me feel less alone
I am still live with my parents and don't care anymore. There is nothing wrong to play your game.
Same and it’s okay
Having been there and done that, I can sympathize with you. At the end of your twenties, beginning thirties you got that kind of "fin de siecle" feeling. But I don't think that's the time to let go.
The point is, at the beginning of your twenties you're young. And that's a familiar feeling. You've always been young. And you got a wide range of possibilities and capabilities. You can abuse your body in ways you'll never be capable later. And time seems like a vast resource you can spend any way you want to.
But I think it's quite important to consider right at that moment what you want to do with your life. And that's quite a daunting task, since your personality hasn't fully developed quite yet. Still, there are some aspects you absolutely love - and in my experience you should dedicate yourself to find out if they're just flukes or things that will be part of you for decades to come.
E.g. if you seem to like kids, spend a significant amount of time with them. If you don't like 'em, maybe a family is not for you. If you like travelling, try to do some travelling. If you like programming, do programming. If you like painting, paint. Now I hear you say, "I don't have the money for that". Well, you tend to have time. Trade time for money. E.g. if you like travelling, take the bus. In Europe you can travel significant distances for very reasonable prices. Spend your creativity finding out "how" rather than finding excuses "why not".
Now you find yourself at 30-something and several doors in life have been closed. That's the new reality. There are two things you can do. You can spend your days regretting those doors are closed or accept things the way they are and find new ways to live the remainder of your life. One thing is for sure: doing nothing just keeps the clock running while more and more doors behind you are closed. You may not realize it, but you're in a race. You have to open doors to compensate for the ones that get closed.
Now, I'm not the kind of guy who makes plans, but I'm the guy of creating opportunities. I've found out in my life that those things you spend a lot of time on are the things that create opportunities. For instance, I once was quite a fan of a rockband - and within a few years I was at the top of one of the main fanclub, invited by coverbands and festivals and finally invited by the band themselves at their headquarters. I never set out to do that, I just spend a lot of time on all that and took every opportunity offered to me.
IMHO education takes you only that far. Dedication gets you everywhere. You have to focus. So stop trying this and that, doing a little here and there - find out what is important to you and dedicate your *LIFE* to it. Breathe it. Eat it. Live it. It's has to be the first thing you do when you wake up and the last thing you do before you go to bed (I literally lived that way at times). Fortunately, people tend to like what they are good at, so it's a good point starting there.
Good luck!
This was very well written. Especially the part about focusing on one thing at a time instead of multiple things. I've done the latter for most of my life which I suspect is the root of my current questioning of life and "what next." Thank you for this. And good luck to you too. I'd love to talk more with you about your perspective, if that's acceptable. Cheers
@@ifeoma8112 Thank you for the compliment. I really appreciated that one.
However, one has to consider that everyone's journey is his or her personal one. I can only tell you what worked for me.
If one considers other options, it may very well be that those choices differ from mine, but work very well for that other person. I'm not gonna be the judge on that.
If one doesn't like the path he or she is on, I can tell what worked for me. It's the only story I can tell since I got no other one.
I'm convinced people have other stories, which might be more worthy retelling than mine. If my story inspired you, I'm happy and I hope it serves you well. But I'm afraid I've got little to say beyond that.
The day I realised my purpose of pleasing God by serving the needy, I was peaceful.
You could also give it a try. God bless :)
I'm in 30s this is relatable on a while different level
I was ahead of the world. I realized this 15 years before the Pandemic when I was about to graduate college late. I saw my whole life before my eyes in a 9-5 and an old man with a house and family and I didn't want it, at least not at the time, and I wanted more. I wanted to travel and work jobs that got me places, and did meaningful things, and participate in political causes and jobs related to political cases, and then in my 30s, I did a lot of museum and cultural work, but I retired from that now. I want to travel again and see the world, but get a job in a career I want to stay in for a long time. I'm also a writer too. The Great Quit happened and everyone followed my lead. I want to be clear though, I 'did' work jobs, but they were to get me to the next enlightened phase.
if aliens abducted you to their laboratory and put your DNA and other social data into their future-calculator and the result came out about who or how you would be as a person in year 3023, assuming you are still alive then; before they show you the result paper, what do you think it says on it?
I'm not going to live that long, but if Aliens ever analyzed my life, they would read: He chose to pursue happiness over money in his life and it had drawbacks, some very tough, but he was happy for most his life and accomplished a lot of his goals as an ambitious person. He loved his family the best he could too. @@frv6610
If you want to know what you want to do with you life or purpose ask your self first what can you do to help others and you’re already half way there
Thats the kind of thinking that alot of us dont sit down to embrace, the whole working thing all the way to death. It actually doesnt make sense. I am glad alot of us are waking up to this reality.
we always focus on the big goals without realizing that big things are made up of small things are accumulated overtime.
a pretty picture starts with a dot
a dollar is made of cents
all of us are simply particles combined
good day!