Hey Everyone! I did not expect this video to get picked up like this, but so grateful for every view, every comment. (I've read every single one). It's wild that many of us are seemingly disconnected, yet we share so many similar sentiments. Not that our stories are the same, but the emotions are familiar. Hopefully you can find encouragement but also encourage someone else in the comments! Thank you for joining with me on this journey!
As a child my mom taught me to read using a poem called Desiderata. It was a poem from the 20's on how to be happy. She made me reference it multiple times, even when I didn't expect her to. A part of the poem says: "Do not compare yourself to others, as you may become vain and bitter." My nephew is younger than me, just bought a magnificent house and started a family. I'm a few years older. Living in the basement of my family home. I keep trying to pave the road to a better life for me and my significant other to be free and do the same. So thank you for this video, because it's not an easy path to walk in these particular shoes. Thanks again.❤
"Blooming" is someting sold to us by people with something to gain: influencers, success coaches, enterpreneurship gurus, companies that sell us stuff to "make it big" in this or that thing that would otherwise be just a hobby, and so on. If someone has some special purpose or talent, like an athelete, or musician, or whatever, sure, they can try to be the best and have success on that. For 99% of people on Earth, success is having a good life, paying your bills on time, and normal stuff like having friends and family. But we're taught to want to have the "blooming" of the 1% (or the 0.1%) instead of a fine private life.
@@foljs5858 yeah and even those talented struggle to get there too. Some of them are too ahead for their time, others deal mental issues like depression, anxiety, or a mental condition that’s stuck in the blind spot until they’re diagnosed, others are intentionally held down by jealous vultures who might even traumatise enough to knock them off their track, there’s just so many issues with an expected age deadline in a world where things are out of your control.
Yeah I mean objectively speaking, I am late and 'behind in life' significantly as Im in my late 20s with no career no relationship nothing.. To many people my life probably looks like a death sentence because age/doing something at certain stage in life matters no matter how much we want to deny it. Its also uncertain that I'll ever reach anywhere even as a late bloomer because my mental health is still the same since years ago which played a big part in what caused all this chaos.. idk I feel hopeless but what else can I do. Its either I accept and do whatever I can with what I have and got or death.
Feeling like a disappointment while realizing I’m being too hard on myself while realizing I need to get my shit together while not wanting to fix anything while seeing all my friends excel by me really makes me think I am a late bloomer
What's helping me through this, even if your friends are excelling by you, as long as you consistently go at YOUR own pace. You will eventually catch up to them. because the reality is, most people are only consistent for parts of their lives. Otherwise everyoner would be millionaires and billionaires. For me, I learn slow. I need extra time to understand something. But when it speeds up, holy shit it's a force to be reckoned with. The brain and body need time to recover from whatever your doing. The Hare vs the Tortoise. In a world of speed, ironically going slow means going fast later. So keep that your head up. Go after the things you want to do in life. Just be consistent!
@@jkASMRs It means taking your time to learn something, don't rush it. If your playing an instrument, want to get faster? Play at a slow speed that your comfortable with, then gradually increase the bpm and only move on when your comfortable with that new tempo. Speed is a direct result of Control. If you have a hard time reading, slow it down a bit until you get into a "flow state" and then you'll naturally start speeding up because you understand what your reading. Slow and steady wins the race everytime.
I'm 34 going to college, working as a cashier at Walmart full-time, and trying to find an affordable behind-the-wheel driving instructor. I'm extremely behind in life after having a very traumatizing life in my childhood, teenage, and young adult years. It took me a long time to move past it and strategize my way out. But I'm finally taking those steps. Sometimes I get jealous when I see kids whose parents love them, but I know the adversity made me stronger and wiser. Sometimes my old self comes back. Like I get very anxious around people sometimes or when I make a mistake I start shaking because I expect to be yelled at even though logically I know I won't. Or I'll think back to the thoughts I had as a kid that my mom instilled in me like I'm worthless and people would be better off without me. But most of the time, I'm an overall stronger person who can accomplish my goals.
I have the deepest respect for people who get a degree later in life, outside the traditional pathway, because I know how hard it was to work and go to college during my university time and shit doesn't get easier when you get older. So not sure if it means anything to you but more often than not people will probably think you're pretty badass, even if they don't say it out loud.
30 and a Walmart employee too full time I quit college for a few months and going back in fall while saving for my own place I have really bad anxiety and get anxious and be distancing people because of growing up with narcissist mother and a father that never cared to help. I’m trying to change myself little by little to learn to love and feel more confident and stronger.
And you will accomplish your goals, don't forget to celebrate small victories to stay motivated. I'm 33 and on the same path too. Keep going, I'm extremely proud of us.
I'm 47, I started a UA-cam channel a few months ago. I also started a business a few months ago which also has a blog. I have zero skills in writing and video. I started Muay Thai Kickboxing, BJJ, and MMA at 42. I got a personal training certification at 45. Don't give up. Better to be late than never.
I'm 28, still live with my parents and have been dealing with severe depression and anxiety for 11 years, and because of that I missed out on a lot of things and I've never had a job in my entire life. I don't just feel behind in life I know I AM and I'm scared because it seems like I'll never find a way out of this.
I read myself in your comment. I have the same age and I'm struggling with severe generalized anxiety which has made me depressed because I don't know if I'll ever recover from this. But even if I feel like this, I know we'll bloom one day, slowly but surely, we'll get there. Art has been helping me a lot, I hope you find something that makes you feel happy to be alive and helps you to bloom 🧡
Exactly the same situation as me, just 5 years of nothing since college. But took a cybersec class recently and just returning to a structure to plan the day around felt great. Actually had me seriously considering military life
Cried myself yesterday to sleep because my heart aches so much with sorrow. I cant take this anymore. I work so hard, i love so hard...and i feel so lost and behind.
I feel this soo deeply. Its like I've been left in a hole and can never get out. My life is nothing that i wanted. Im still trying to change it into something that can bring me peace.
@@amarissantiago4309 Same. And when i see that my friends got engage, having the time of there lifes and getting Kids i feel so envy...just like a monster
I hope things get better for you. What has helped me is talking to a therapist and most importantly, building on my faith. Getting to know Jesus changed my life. While I still feel behind, things have gotten much better with his help. Don't give up. I'm rooting for you!
I got some great advice from my brother in law when I was a teenager who was very much at risk of developing failure-to-launch syndrome. He said, don't worry about keeping it all together. Don't worry about getting everything figured out. Adults don't have it together and they don't have it figured out. They just learned how to fake it. We all have insecurities and we all have anxiety sometimes. Accept it as the norm and don't compare yourself to others. Live life at your own pace.
Yes some of us are Roses but others are Night Blooming Jasmine, fruit blossoms, cactus blooms, Snapdragons, Chrysanthemums etc. All individual and lovely in their own way.
I think part of the problem is the concept of “blooming” in general. Your value as a person isn’t found in a spouse or video views. Your worth comes from the experiences you’ve collected. The hurts, and the beautiful moments. We all have those. We are all just learning how to live in the present. That’s the only real goal. Edit: Just to be clear based on responses, I don’t mean the ‘instagram experiences’ that you’ve collected, I simply mean the fact that you exist, and continue to.
Our worth comes from what love, care, and value we give. Neither from experiences (a narcisisstic jerk can have all kinds of cool experiences) nor from doing something special, like becoming famous, or rich, or whatever.
As an Asian woman, I resonated with that Mulan scene when I first saw it. I am in my mid/late 30s, and life absolutely did not go as planned. I'm living in my own apartment for the first time (genuinely loving it), learning Tagalog, cooking new recipes almost every day, healing traumas in therapy, traveling, making friends, and truly enjoying my own company. I have not dated in years but am waiting for the right man, if that’s supposed to be in my path. I truly believe everyone has their own journey (to learn spiritual lessons). Life is not about what we want but what we need to learn. Anyway, do not be so hard on yourself! If you have certain dreams, it's never too late to try. Thank you for posting this, Jason. Wishing you all the best 💛✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became really strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which, to summarize, I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive a lot of things he did in his life, and we lost touch for about 10 years. So many details I cannot fit here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after death. I’ve gotten certain spiritual signs (related to dad and others). I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, affecting others, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or address issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! My comment keeps getting deleted. Basically, I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive many things he did in his life, as we lost touch for about 10 years. We had an amazing last conversation that helped me start to heal. So many details I’d love to put here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after we pass. I’ve gotten spiritual signs (related to dad and others) that I don’t think are coincidences. I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or address issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! My comment keeps getting deleted. Basically, I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive many things he did in his life, as we lost touch for about 10 years. We had an amazing last conversation that helped me start to heal. So many details I’d love to put here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after we pass. I’ve gotten spiritual signs (related to dad and others) that I don’t think are coincidences. I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! My comment keeps getting deleted. Basically, I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive many things he did in his life, as we lost touch for about 10 years. We had an amazing last conversation that helped me start to heal. So many details I’d love to put here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after we pass. I’ve gotten spiritual signs (related to dad and others) that I don’t think are coincidences. I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or past issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
This almost feels like one of those internet checkpoints. A safe haven where people just take a moment to reflect and share on all their experiences, worries, dreams, hopes and fears. We need more spaces like this. It's beautiful. Being a late bloomer can definitely feel very lonely. Putting it like the feeling of having been left behind is truly fitting. But I suppose there's always more time to bloom. You just gotta let the blooming take its time
29, I still feel so lost. struggling in my long term relationship, unhappy in any job I am in, endlessly tired, watching my friends create lives in jealousy. It sucks. Feel so lost sometimes.
Me too, man. What do you like to do that isn’t a relationship or career orientated? Take the first step in your personal life to treat everyone like you are feeling now. Say hello, be honest with someone you don’t know and hear them out. Chances are, they are too, and you’ll find the place you’ll need to be. It took me 27 years to get that ball rolling, and I still sink down, but many of us online are feeling the same. Chances are, we can be found out there. :)
My childhood was full "you can't" and "this is dangerous" ... so that I was a very shy kid. And when I was loud I got told to be quiet right away. Of course it is not an environment that promotes early bloomers. And it took me a long time to realise that it wasn't something wrong with me. Now I read and changed the environment and I really feel the change.... You don't know how long each flower will bloom.... the spring flowers are early but usually don't bloom for a very long time.
Right, I had a mom that catastrophized everything and did not believe in me. My parents didn't encourage me to learn and grow. I felt powerless and was told to be quiet too! I often wondered why they had kids. I'm learning life lessons and healing though, I'm dedicated to being my own role model since my parents weren't one.
This has been my childhood too! Our environments have so much influence on us and I realise that some of us need to unlearn a lot of things before we can bloom and that's why we are a bit "late" to the party. There's nothing wrong with that ❤
Unfortunately, I know my mum love me but I think she sheltered me too much. My dad tried giving me chances like swimming lessons, piano lessons but I kept dropping them, feeling like I couldn’t do them. Now I got to push my way through to learn how to live
I personally don't like the concept of "blooming." It insinuates that there is one goal in life (to bloom), and if you don't achieve that, you're a failure. Late or early, our goal is to bloom. But what if you are not a bloomer in the way people think you should. I'm 52, and I have been a teacher, an artist, a writer, and a philanthropist. And now I have an office job as a translator. For some people, they think I haven't bloomed yet because I never reached the peak of a chosen career or had a family. But I've been part of exhibitions, see my students graduate, and I have helped a lot of street cats. Am I not a bloomer? Thanks for making me reflect on my life and for making me appreciate it. 😊❤
I agree with you. Seeing life through failure and success lenghs is the problem itself bcuz it doesnt match with reality. It has nothing to do with your case but where do the lives of those dying at the two current wars fit in this scenario? Did they fail or bloom?
This is the truth! Life is just there to be lived in whatever way you see fit and whatever way it comes to you. Just be a good person, help others, don't be a dick... that's enough "blooming" for anyone ;) (and no, I don't always live by that and I sometimes share similar feelings to this video).
As I get older now in my 40’s, I realized all the things that I wanted in life are still on their way. I wasn’t ready for those next steps, and I probably would not have appreciated them if I didn’t struggle along the way towards them. The best is yet to come, is my new motto.
I resonate really hard with this video. As someone who was born in ‘97, it’s weird and hard to see everyone I went to elementary, middle, high school and college with are getting married, getting engaged, having their first baby or their second baby and then there’s me. I’m 26 and I still don’t have my drivers license yet or a job, so it’s really weird to see everyone else crossing those major milestones in life and I’m sitting here thinking, “when is it going to be my turn to cross those milestones?” But I always remind myself that even though I haven’t experienced those milestones at the same time as everyone else, I know that my turn will come. I just have to be still and remain patient.
But just remember there’s time to be still and time to take action. It’s the harsh truth I learnt early on… no one is going to save you. Everything is ultimately up to you.
You have no idea how much I needed this right now... so thank you for this message. I'm 38 years old, searching for yet another basic job, no college degree, no boyfriend or spouse (because I've never been asked out on a date), and I have so many skills & interests that I really can't figure out what I truly want to do with my life. I'm a Jack-of-all-trades... or I guess a Jill. My mother constantly compares me to others who are younger than me that she taught at students or knows around that are much more successful... you know, like being college grads, earning doctorates & masters degrees, getting married or having children, getting all this praise from others and living their 30s the way she wishes I could have been... and I hate it. It's like, I'm not good enough in her eyes... or that I'm not like her (who also found her purpose in her 20s, had a successful teaching career for 41 years & is now able to live the rest of her days without any financial worry), and every time I explain that I'm not like them or like her, she just shakes her head in disappointment. Dealing with this often makes me feel so depressed... because I just feel like no matter what I do, it'll never ever be enough for her. I know I am a late bloomer. I've known this since probably... middle or high school. I've made so many mistakes in my life that I wish I could take back, just to give it another try... but I can't. I do want to return to college & eventually earn a degree (once I figure out what to go after; if older folks can earn them in their 60-90s, so can I! I'll just... earn it BEFORE that age range.). I want to find love & get married one day, but it has to be the right person (and I have to get over my fear of actually "dating"). I want to find my life's purpose & prove my mother wrong... but she just needs to realize that it will take some time first, and maybe then she'll realize that & be sincerely proud of me once her late-blooming flower of a daughter finally blossoms. 🌸
Bro I’m 23 and broke can’t get a job and living off nothing and seeing all these kids making money like it’s nothing I literally just don’t understand 😭
Dont be fooled,buddy. Most of these social media "influencers" are in debt. If you have 100k subs, you aint rich. Most are liars. Even if you have 1 mil subs, you make more stable money at McD or cleaning toilets. Those who are rich on UA-cam are rich due to their sponsors. Sponsors are the ones thats paying them a lot. Not the number of subs/views. Example, sponsor pays you 10k to put an ad of their item on your video. Thats where the money comes in.
Yup! influencers are in debt! (you'll understand when you grow up). Keep learning everyday. Build strong relationships. Work hard (10 hours a day). Focus on your health. You ll do just fine! :)
@@dreamcuts6811 Nobody needs to work 10 hours a day. Work efficiently instead so you do a reasonable number of hours but can still enjoy your life otherwise you'll just burn out.
I feel like it’s been instilled in our brains from a young age-where to be in life, what we want to be when we grow up, what college to go to, when to get married and have kids, what we should and shouldn’t do..to follow this blueprint. I’m at that age where I felt the pressure to mark off these checklists .. and I found out that I shouldn’t be following what others say or do. Do what makes you happy ❤
I appreciate how this is not a video that tells us to own up to the trauma and get better but one where the person just shares their feelings without any filters. I think there’s a lot of strength in being able to be so transparent on the Internet and talk about how loneliness really feels. I think you’re a very brave person to not hide how you really feel. Thank you for sharing your feelings with us.
Some flowers can’t bloom in certain conditions. The older I get and the more I learn about myself, the more I realize that I was never going to bloom in the conditions I was in. I’ve had generalized anxiety disorder possibly my entire life, I’m afraid of pretty much everything (even writing this comment is a little scary tbh…) There was just no way I could understand and overcome that as a kid or even in my 20s. I’m 32 now, I’ve educated myself on GAD and every day I’m working on overcoming my fears. I *will* get there, someday. Even if it’s a little late, I will bloom eventually. I hope you get to bloom soon as well. Maybe this video is the start of that, who knows? Thanks for making it, it’s such a comfort knowing you’re not alone in this ❤
@@fightthisfreeze So sorry 💔 I hope things get better for you. My advice is to just learn as much about yourself as possible, and as much about the psychology behind your issues as possible, whatever they are. We all have issues, whether that’s GAD for you or something else. It just helps to understand why you function the way you do, cause then you can start to confront those things. It’s BRUTAL work, and obviously you won’t always have success, but it’s the only way you’ll be able to get off the path you’re stuck on. Edit: I REALLY recommend watching HealthyGamerGG’s videos btw! They’re really helpful and super interesting 👍
@@shaniseburris9839 That’s so kind, thank you so much 🥹❤️ and whether you’re in a similar situation or not, I wish the absolute best for you in life ❤️
@@Liece45 Wow, it’s so nice to hear from someone who’s made the same journey but is farther along in it, and I so agree with you - there’s no cure for anxiety that I know of, unfortunately. It’s all just about learning to manage it. Learning what triggers it, learning to face those things and learning that you can actually handle it. I think of it like a backpain you’re never going to be cured of, but instead of never moving to avoid aggrevating it and unintentionally letting all your muscles atrophy and making the situation worse, it’s working out to strengthen those muscles instead and finding different directions to bend over that don’t hurt as much. I’m so happy to hear you’re doing well ❤️ It’s very inspiring to know it can be done, that your anxiety doesn’t have to dictate your whole life
Love the honesty and self reflection. Love him or hate him, Ray Kroc started with McDonalds at 52. Harlan Sanders created KFC when he was 62! Success is the continuous culminations of our life journey, and everyone's got their own path. Keep up the videos young man!
no why did you have to choose these particular two examples pls there are so many better examples than mr Kroc and the Colonel 😭 theyre perfectly fine just not the most inspiring lol /hj just look toward figures like Mark Twain, Toni Morrison, Morgan Freeman - there are a multitude of writers, actors, and other artists/creatives that bloomed in their middle-age or golden years! it's crazy how I'm just turned 28 and I struggle with these thoughts-even ever since I was just 18 I was already beginning to feel the pressure.
But at what cost? Their success turned into millions, if not maybe a billion people becoming obese and dying because of how we normalize fast food. And untold suffering of factory farm animals. It’s almost like… outward success if it exploits other people in some way is truly worthless.
I’m 40, single, unemployed own nothing, no car, no house. I know where my status is in life, I simply exist left behind with nothing but emptiness Update: Thank you all for the support. Since I last left this message, I am on a new anti depressant medication to treat my anxiety. It seems to have changed my mood as well. There is optimism in the air. I have less triggering experiences of anxiety as well. I have an associates degree and would like to go back to school to earn my bachelor’s degree in software engineering. Despite feeling more optimistic about my future, I’m dealing with a part of myself that is afraid to let go of my pain and hopelessness. I’ve lived with it for so long. At this point it’s my normal. And yet, I’m encouraged to pursuit a new normal. Again thank you all kindly. It’s reassuring to know I’m not alone in my mental health struggles
Come on, you can do, something!!! Don't be so down in life, be the best you can be... no one in this world to help us, care for us, get us up, except us
I'm 22 years old and have just realised this year how much time I've wasted on past traumas and how everyone else my age completed college (university as we call it in europe) and get a job where they make big bucks. Meanwhile I started with age 21 and will graduate at 25 or 26. I sometimes cry myself to sleep because of it, but at least I am not alone after reading these comments and this video. Thank you ❤️ I sometimes wish I was somebody else, through, or in an better position in life. I'm just happy that I am still alive and well in the end
I also started college at 22 and I'm graduating next year. A lot of my classmates are much younger than me but some are older than me too. I also used to be really scared of falling behind. For some reason, I had to choose IT course while I had no interest in IT, wasted 3years of college not acquiring skills but now it's my last year and I have started. I am trying to change my old beliefs these days and stay positive as there are so many successful people who started really late. The most important thing is to start taking steps. It's normal to see other people and be discouraged. I see younger kids being beasts at programming while I am a beginner but then I think that there will always be someone who started earlier than and someone who started programming in their late 30s. From now on, I will always allow myself to be a beginner because that's how you grow even though I am still scared. Concept of blooming is weird because there's no end point in life until we are alive. A person never stops growing, they might just have a different pace. Sorry for the rant. I just felt like your situation was very similar to mine.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
@@BestOffer-ii9nyhow the fuck are you expecting someone across the damn pond or even across the world to know where your local dealers are? I think instead of asking people for drugs stop feening for a high and actually find yourself mate. You don't need drugs to delve within your own soul and find who you truly are and if you think you do then you're just not mentally ready for life.
"I guess the thing about late bloomers is that they still bloom". Man... I don't know how to thank you for this video. I'm 37, broke, still living with my parents. It feels like the bottom of the pit. BUT I feel deeply that all I've been through in my life is converging into this moment. There is so much energy building up and it feels like it's about to explode like a volcano. I just hope it's a really beautiful and rare flower.
@user-jp5xi4ue6g I do understand what you’re saying, but I respectfully disagree. Each person lives in a unique universe and we can’t really compare our struggles and difficulties. Only I know what I’ve been and are going through, just like only you know what you had to go through in your life. We're all unique, just like our paths. Regardless, I wish you all the best. Just like I wish love, success and happiness to anyone who is reading this comment now!
@@lxz8021 Brother! I don't know how to thank you. I really really wish that all your dreams come true! From the bottom of my soul! Thank you! Have an amazing day!
@@StevenSantaCruz-ix9is Well, I hope you find your path to freedom soon! I wish you all the best! Healing, happiness and peace! Thank you for being here!
It is lonely. Even being around others I feel so lonely. Yet, I find a little bit of solace knowing that in this feeling, I am not truly alone. I hope one day I can find where “home” is. ❤
Thank you for posting this. I am 27 and i feel so lost. I had my path etched out for me. Go to college, get a job, meet someone, live well, etc. I did all those things but i started realizing that i never really grew in the ways i wanted following this path. It was very hard for me to make the decision to end my engagement to an amazing person but it was essential to my personal growth. I feel like i set myself back in a lot of ways but i know in the long run, a wiser and much more mature me will look back and be proud that I did this for myself. I'm bummed it took me a few years to realize it/make the decision but i know i still have time. Better late than never.
I used to think this philosophy was just a way of masking one’s regrets and disappointments in life. I refused it for so long bc it felt like the type of stuff you say when you accept defeat or whatever. This “all or nothing” mentality is what ended up getting me sick, and sending me to a state where I lost all the status I always prioritized. And thats when I realized that indeed nothing besides that is required. Focus on doing what you like rather the results you will get out of it. Status, money and fame is great but they should never be the goal. I haf to learn it the hard way
Sheesh, feel you dude.. making me tear up thinking about how lucky we all are to simply exist in this time, economic status, marital status, all of that excluded. We're here in this moment and to waste it thinking about how others are doing is a fool's errand. What makes *you* happy? Do that thing man, and don't compare someone else's situation to yours. You never know the sacrifices they might have had to make to get where they are, not to mention the hardships their journey may have presented.
I’m 32 and still trying to figure it out. Nothing I’ve tried has gone right. I very much feel these feelings, the loneliness especially. Thank you for sharing
Feel this 100%. Sometimes it feels like the years flew by and we just never “started” living. I’m trying to “start” this year, but the first step is aways the hardest
@@Jesu-l5i everyone's versions of "living life" is different. you're doing great even if you're single living alone or with parents, in debt, or overcoming an addiction, etc. its okay. you're young.
Thank you jason, this video helped. Im 37 nearing midlife going through the toughest part of my life since i was a teenager and im back to feeling lost again.
This is exactly what i needed right now. I've been in a huge mental slump lately. Ive recently "found myself" so to speak. Found my passions, found who i wanted, found myself but i feel like time is ticking now that im in my 30s. Knowing what i want and knowing i dont have the means to get there right now feels like the slowest most agonizing torture. Like ive finally accomplished something most people dont (finding your passion) but its dangling just our of reach above me. Ive never been great at being patient but this is exactly what i needed to hear to give me peace...
It use to be said turning 40 was going to be the best times in your life.....I am turning 46 this year and these have been the worse 6 years of my life.....I have not found a way to bloom.....thanks for making me think.....and try to see how I am growing.....sending love tina from MN
remember that you will succeed in your own ways. not by anyone else's way. also you don't need to explain to anyone your life plans or what you'll do in your future because things change constantly. you're right where you need to be. you're alive and that enough is an accomplishment.
Hi Tina. How are you doing? Has the past month brought anything pleasantly unexpected for you? Do you have any hobbies or passions that can help you bloom mentally or emotionally? I really enjoy writing, and sometimes when I feel bummed about my situation ( serious medical issues) , writing a short story makes me feel so much better, because it’s something I’m passionate about and not to pat myself too much on the back, but I feel like I’m a good writer lol. Anyways I hope you are doing better and and that the next 6 years are better than the last 6. Just take it a day at a time. Remember to be kind to yourself as well, even during the times of disappoint or regret. ❤
I can relate. I'm 25, suffering from bipolar 1 and social anxiety, and I'm still in college. Most of the people here are 5 years younger than me while the people my age have already graduated and have jobs. I worry that I won't even be able to hold down a job due to my mental illnesses. But I have faith in God that He will make a way and has a purpose for my pain. My whole family are late bloomers and I believe I am one too. Thank you for your video.
Hey. Im soon 33 and got no education after highschool. Battling with cripling depression, social and general anxiety, adhd and and im like 30k In dept. Dont give up!
I was in the same boat in my 40's!! But life got so much better after that; not because of the degree but I got some of my confidence back. Chin up! Literally; keep your chin up!
24 , will be 25 in june . I Will be attending my 3rd semester of my college in September. All of the students around me are mostly teenagers. Ppl of my age have graduated long time ago some even have or are expecting a baby. While me ...... I literally still don't have any talent/skill. I still don't know what to do with my life. So yeah i don't have much to say except, don't give up you are not alone . Keep having faith in God . Be delusional (in a positive way) to achieve your goals.
This was beautiful. I was an early bloomer. Thrived in my career in my 20s. Now my petals are gone and I’m feeling lost. Having felt like I thrived for so long only to feel so incompetent is such a weird and debilitating territory for me. Alas, here we are. Thanks for the pep talk, inspiration and acknowledgment that we’re not alone in our feelings. Please create more! 🙌🏼
Watching this at 38 yrs of age, I can definitely relate. I knew from childhood that I was a late bloomer, but really didn’t think much of it. But now as I am getting older not married, no children, no stable career, no friends, etc. It’s like what do I have to do to bloom, to shine, to allow my creativity to shine through. I know my worth, I know that I am abundant in whatever I want to do. What more can I do? Im just ready for some kind of change in my life😔. But this what an amazing video that was way to short😊. I had to watch it twice.
There are many people who appear to have bloomed but aren't necessarily happy. And sometimes society has these ideas that we should always be moving from one milestone to the next. I choose to find contentment and make the most of where I am at a particular point in life.
It’s fear to think that maybe i won’t make it at all, I just feel pathetic and seeing others and their accomplishments just make it feel so much more real that it could be in reality, the fear of not archiving the expectation.
This really made me cry. I’m so hard on myself and can’t help but think that I’m a result of my bad actions. I’m happy UA-cam recommended this to me. Thank you.
ugh i really needed this reminder, its sometimes almost painful to even think of going back on social media and seeing what my former classmates and friends are doing now. but my time will come eventually. also you really got bonus hit in the heart points for the mulan clips because she was my favorite disney princess growing up 😭
I hit rock bottom in my late 20s, alcoholism, completely broke and actually over 15K Eur in debt. But for anyone rading this, don't give up on your dreams. It's one step at a time, you got this! I started my channel, stopped drinking, ghosted everyone and got an editing job at television because of all these changes. Life is great, if you do the neccesary things that are right in front of you ☺
@@munkhtuvshinmt I did a lot of things, to achieve this, non of which were easy. I stuggled with quitting for a long time, and trying to get my life back together, but I managed. It's way too long to explain in the comments. I have done multiple videos on it on my channel ☺
my go to that i always tell people to keep in mind is: alan rickman acted in his first film at 42 years old he died a beloved actor 27 years later you've always got time, everything comes down to how you use it if you never let the spark go out, you'll always be able to start a fire when you're meant to great video, man
I feel your pain...I'm neurodivergent and have always felt like everyone was moving forward without me. I never had a passion or focus. I went to school for Graphic Design and all it did was kill my desire to draw for 10 years. I feel like i wasted those 10 years that I could have been improving my art skills and now as I get closer to turning 40 it just feels like I'm floundering amongst all the art babies who have grown up doing digital art or learning their skills at an early age from online resources. It's hard fitting in as an elder millennial amongst all these amazing younger generations.
I found that i prefer traditional art after trying out graphic design/digital art as well. Digital art is so prominent in online art spaces that i used to associate digital art with success, but it's just a tool, just another medium. It helped my confidence to find other traditional artists to follow and to limit the amount of time i spend on social media in general. Exploring different mediums helped me to figure myself out artistically. Five years ago i never would have thought that i'd be teaching myself to make lace right now. Still, we are in a digital age, and the time i spent learning graphic design has helped me to create branding for myself. I'm not a full-time artist and i don't have much of a social media following, but i'm happy with the direction i'm moving in, at least You don't need to fit in, you can find and create your own space. Good luck 💚💙🤍
Love love LOVE this video and truly relate, being in my 30's and feeling stuck, left behind and not where I thought I'd be/where I'd like to be at this stage in my life. Sending good thoughts your way!
I do feel so lost. I had such a strong head direction before Covid happened during my sophomore year of college and it completely destroyed me and my ambitions and motivation and just derailed me. Same happened for practically everyone I knew in college during that time and with my friends. And since college it’s all been the same, nothings changed and we still feel lost with no sense of direction.
I bloomed but not fully . Im waiting to fully bloom in my 40's. I keep getting knocked over. Losing friends,family dying over the past 2 years. It sounds like an excuse but 2020 really threw a wrench in my life plans. I don't know how old this youtuber is. But he's cute and seems very young. I'm sure he's got lots of time for everything.
Keep it up, keep ur head up and keep goin. When 2020 started, everything in my life came rockin down. But i cant turn time back, i have to keep goin and things will get better. You are not alone
Dude… I’ve watched this like 50 times. This was better than any 20-30 minute vid of being motivated or determined ego nonsense. I just turned 30, my partner left me after helping her achieve her goals after sacrificing mine for years, seeing all my peers lead more successful lives and just feeling so lonely and left behind in it. You articulated it so well. I feel the exact same. Hopefully us late bloomers bloom into the most beautiful and rare flowers.
38yr old chef with more the 15years of experience in the kitchen. I don't know anything else then a 12hour shift an when I do have free, starting to hurt myself with isolation and bad thoughts.Have made some massive errors in my life an blaming myself more an more.As an international, all my friends have moved and move on and couldn't cough up a conversation with a girl. Stumbled upon this video an just rly feel I need to express myself as it's near impossible to do nowadays. I hope for all of us that we are late bloomers or at least fine something satisfactory that we can call success because am running on empty, an am scared
There is no such thing as “late”. If we feel late, it’s only because we are comparing our progress to others instead of to ourselves-all you can do is put in the work to be better than YOU were yesterday. And everyone has a different definition of “better”-for you it could be your health, depth of friendships, traveling to new places, etc. but you think it has to be money, career, relationship status, glory. Your journey is your own. What matters to YOU? You can run a marathon at 50. You can start a successful business at 60. You can have the most meaningful relationships at 80. You can heal a lifetime of depression at 90. Youth is so overrated. The best years of your life are ahead of you, not behind you.
Ive been in school for so much of my life i never anticipated feeling like theres anything but school. Natural late bloomer because school is way harder for me than my peers. But, starting my PhD journey in my 30s has been the most rewarding and horribly stressful things ive ever had to do. But ill be happy with my work pass or fail. Great video and message ❤
I've always felt left behind in life. Since I was a child I had a small friend group that never lasts, I've never attended a party or a big social situation with people that have my age, also I don't see a futere in my life, school is very hard for me, and I always feel alone and sad. Since I was 11 yo, i've been depressed and anxious, and I don't think I can make it to adulthood. Your video gave me some hope that I'm not alone in this situation, thank you.
Im a late bloomer adult, im still blooming, and even though i feel lost all the time but in away things have gotten so much better than they were when i was a kid. Your 20s is better than your teens, even as a late bloomer. If you're neurodivergent and/or queer, theres also a difference in who you bloom. As an adult now the hardest part is just having access to the things that will help me grow and having the patience to work for them, but compared to where i was as a kid, its much better. Im excited for my 30s.
I understand how you feel. It doesn't help me much to ideate on my own misery for long, so I hope you can forgive me for sharing tips with you instead of just talking about our shared woes. For me, prioritizing my health, trusting my gut, and being authentic and honest with myself have made life feel more meaningful, even if it still doesn't feel like I have a future. It makes days more meaningful and I have more opportunities to fill them with things that inspire and excite me. There is freedom in not worrying about tomorrow, but I know it doesn't make the feelings of loneliness and confusion go away. If we can't find people who encourage and appreciate us, the best we can do is try to be that for ourselves. Don't give up, okay? Even if it hurts, we only have this time on Earth and then it's over forever. If you can't bring yourself to dance, try your best just to enjoy the music while it's playing. I believe there's meaning to find in that. I don't know what it is or what it will be, but I believe there is meaning in it. And someday, before we finish our journey here, we'll find out what that meaning is.
I’m tired of expectations from others. 2 days ago someone shook their head at me as I told them my future career path. Yesterday my cousin shamed me for not having a partner and not wanting children because “not having security and stability in your life is no excuse.” Today I’m sure someone will make undue remarks about my life choices. I’m creating a life that I see worth living. I’m done succumbing to the pressures and demands that others place on me, vowing to put God, my personal goals, and happiness above all else.
That was beautiful man. I’m 43 this year and have been working thru all of these issues for a few years now. With lots of work, therapy, reflection, and practise, it finally feels I’m going to get there. And you know what’s best? On many days I’ve stopped caring. Time to LIVE ❤ Don’t berate yourself. We all have our own journey 🎉
The fact that this exact scene of Mulan popped in my head I kid you not about 2 days ago when I was feeling quite down about being a late bloomer and then I see this video randomly.. Wow is all I can say. Thank you for putting this together it really spoke to me today. Please keep going this is the content the world needs fr.
Glad this video made it's way to my algorithm. I'm considering changing my career after feeling unhappy with my current trajectory and it can be especially daunting to restart especially when comparing myself to others my age who have already established their careers and families and even formed successful companies. To quote Gandalf: "A wizard is never late, nor is he early, he arrives precisely when he means to.”
Oooh the way I can relate!!! As an unmarried, childless woman in my 30s, who just quit my job to start my own business (and scared shitless), who’s been dreaming about starting my own UA-cam channel for the past 10 years (but never doing it because I’m somehow scared); I can relate down to the very last word! I almost cried at 3:54 when you said it just feels lonely sometimes…. My peers, and even friends younger than me seem so far ahead in their trajectory. Then I was almost brought to my knees when Chadwick Boseman showed up at 5:20 (RIP may his start always shine bright 🌟). Which would have been embarrassing, cause I’m out on a walk 😅. Anyways, thank you for such a relatable video. It gave me comfort, and motivation to keep forward on my own path; til the day I bloom 🌸.
25 years old and I still don’t know what to do with my life, i feel lost and forgotten, my friends are doing better and I’m genuinely happy for them but I get sad because I feel left behind. I know I still got a lot to look forward to given my age but i just can’t fight this feeling, everyone around me looks disappointed in me and it hurts but I won’t give in to the pain, until I bloom as well
Thank you for your raw vulnerability Jason. 😢 you had me tearing up a bit. I’m 51 and don’t think I’ve “bloomed” yet. Yet I love this life… even the really hard stuff. ❤
Growing up with a narcissistic father is what caused for me, I could see it not only in myself but also me siblings all of us are behind in lives compared to our peers in career, marriage and sometime I can also see it in our cognitive and social skills. what hurts me the most is not that Im late behind my peers, it's that people decades younger than me are outdoing me in life. I feel like people who experienced parental abuse spend most of their childhood and teens years in survival mood trying to protect themselves and cope with the abuse, suddenly you're 31 and you have no idea what to do with your life or how even this thing called living can be done! you're just existing.
As I have gotten older I have strayed further and further away from societal norms. I am a human BEING not a human DOING. I exist and am loved and everyday I am growing to learn that I AM ENOUGH. Just me. Not what I accomplish or what I do for a job. I have intrinsic value just being ME!
Hey, I'm a 47 year old film director that still hasn't made a feature film yet. You're not alone, late bloomers have a lot to offer society and experiencing success later in life can be a blessing too. You're more mature and better able to handle difficulties bc you know what it's like to lose, be pushed aside and underestimated- but you're working on something that people will one day know how you are.
“The thing about late bloomers is that they still bloom.” ❤ beautifully said. I need to remind myself of this daily as a 27 year old college graduate who still lives at home with her parents and works part time as a cashier. I often look at my friends and feel jealous that they are seemingly out and free in the real world and I’m stuck in my sheltered reality waiting for my turn to come. But this video reminded me that everyone’s journey is different and my time will come soon enough. Thank you 🙏🏾
It’s funny how completely drowning in misery and depression ive been and I stumbled upon this just now. It just. Feels like nothing matters. Like you said. Everyone I watched retired. Has a family now. Younger than me. Time keeps on slipping.
" ...sometimes it just feels lonely. Like I was left behind , it's just me by myself within this reality'". This was very cathartic to hear. I know logically I'm not the only who feels bummed out about their life status, but it's really hard not to feel this way at times. Thanks for making this video. It was very well made and your crop on Mulan's face, chef's kiss😆😚🤌. Also, for anyone who happens to read this, even though I may not know who you are, you'll be in my prayers to help conquer this struggle❤🙏✝.
Thank you, Jason. This means a lot to me right now. ✌🏼😌 Been playing music since I was 16. Been woodworking since I was 17. In just the last year (I'm 31 now) I finally started recording my own record, AND building my own furniture business. Feeling like a late bloomer for sure, but I'm just stoked to be blooming! More love, mang.
Such an impactful six minutes, I had to watch it twice. Thank you for sharing without attempting to pose as someone with all the answers, but instead sharing an authentic experience to which I and many others can relate. I particularly appreciated the part where you question yourself as to whether you actually believe what you are saying about how you perceive your own experience. That is so real. The sincerity that struck me to my core: "Sometimes it just feels lonely, like I was left behind. It's just me by myself in this reality. I don't know." I am in my mid 30's. On the one hand, I am trying to embrace what is, and on the other hand, "I don't know". I romanticize about a life where I did things different. I fear that my life won't "bloom" into a version that I can whole heartedly embrace. It's a scary and lonely place to be. I guess it's just nice to know I am not alone. Thanks.
i just want a community around me that has the same goals, the same ideas. i don't want the pursuit of money to be the only thing that makes my life worth anything. I'm so tired
Many people these days feel that way and I believe it correlates with how much everyone's constantly watching each other on TV or social media. My advice is STOP looking at others so fucking much and learn to focus on what YOURE doing. As soon as I did that I stopped comparing myself and caring about expectations. I literally don't give a shit what any of you have or what your doing anymore because I realized that the internet isn't about community, it's about making money and the only way to get people to spend their money is by getting in your head and making you feel like you don't have enough or whatever. This place is not your friend, it's trying to sell you shit and make you believe that you're missing out or doing something wrong.
I feel like I'm slowly flowing towards rock bottom but I'm still nowhere close to rock bottom and I can easily imagine how things can get way worse in the future
you're doing amazing. keep at it. everyday you decide to leave your bed is a day you should be thankful for no matter who horrible your situation is. you are alive and as someone with depression I still am happy I get to breath.
I used to be an early bloomer (graduated college at 19, started a PhD at 20) and now that I'm 25 and really, truly considering where I want to go in life, I've been adjusting to the idea of being a "late bloomer" if I decide to pursue something different. I think having both of these experiences has taught me not to envy others. The person who's "ahead" today could be "behind" tomorrow. The person who's "behind" today could be "ahead" tomorrow. Life is full of ups and downs - it's a cliche but under appreciated. Never envy or compare. The person you're envying or comparing yourself to today could be envying or comparing themselves to you tomorrow! Also, like you note in your video, both sides of the comparison game come with negatives. Even if you're feeling like you're doing better than others, this mindset doesn't necessarily benefit you in the long term.
Hey Everyone! I did not expect this video to get picked up like this, but so grateful for every view, every comment. (I've read every single one). It's wild that many of us are seemingly disconnected, yet we share so many similar sentiments. Not that our stories are the same, but the emotions are familiar. Hopefully you can find encouragement but also encourage someone else in the comments! Thank you for joining with me on this journey!
Here for it. Feeling the gratitude
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so grateful I decided to watch this over the other 100 motivated videos on my YT
I love the part where you talk to us near the mountains ❤
As a child my mom taught me to read using a poem called Desiderata. It was a poem from the 20's on how to be happy. She made me reference it multiple times, even when I didn't expect her to. A part of the poem says: "Do not compare yourself to others, as you may become vain and bitter." My nephew is younger than me, just bought a magnificent house and started a family. I'm a few years older. Living in the basement of my family home. I keep trying to pave the road to a better life for me and my significant other to be free and do the same. So thank you for this video, because it's not an easy path to walk in these particular shoes. Thanks again.❤
I feel this. The fear is mostly that I won’t bloom at all.
Utterly paralyzing fear that will always lead to its own actualization as you become too scared of failure to even try for success. I know it well
same
"Blooming" is someting sold to us by people with something to gain: influencers, success coaches, enterpreneurship gurus, companies that sell us stuff to "make it big" in this or that thing that would otherwise be just a hobby, and so on. If someone has some special purpose or talent, like an athelete, or musician, or whatever, sure, they can try to be the best and have success on that. For 99% of people on Earth, success is having a good life, paying your bills on time, and normal stuff like having friends and family. But we're taught to want to have the "blooming" of the 1% (or the 0.1%) instead of a fine private life.
@@foljs5858 yeah and even those talented struggle to get there too. Some of them are too ahead for their time, others deal mental issues like depression, anxiety, or a mental condition that’s stuck in the blind spot until they’re diagnosed, others are intentionally held down by jealous vultures who might even traumatise enough to knock them off their track, there’s just so many issues with an expected age deadline in a world where things are out of your control.
Yeah I mean objectively speaking, I am late and 'behind in life' significantly as Im in my late 20s with no career no relationship nothing.. To many people my life probably looks like a death sentence because age/doing something at certain stage in life matters no matter how much we want to deny it. Its also uncertain that I'll ever reach anywhere even as a late bloomer because my mental health is still the same since years ago which played a big part in what caused all this chaos.. idk I feel hopeless but what else can I do. Its either I accept and do whatever I can with what I have and got or death.
As a 94 baby, feeling it hard this year. Still don't know what I want to be when I "grow up."
Omfg same! 94’ too 🥲🥹
95' here. Sh*ts heavy
Also a 94 baby, the doubt and feeling lost is hitting hard for me too
As a 84 baby, I realized that perception is sometimes more real than reality. There is no growing up the whole place is a kindergarten.
I’m in the same place 🫂 our 30s are going to be interesting (in a good way). That’s what I’m telling myself :)
"The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all."
when will my reflection show who i am inside 🎶
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Thank you ❤
Mysterious as the darkside of the moooon🎶 @@jasonpoon_
I had to rewind that part because it really did hit me deep. Also wow, Mulan really is a classic.
Feeling like a disappointment while realizing I’m being too hard on myself while realizing I need to get my shit together while not wanting to fix anything while seeing all my friends excel by me really makes me think I am a late bloomer
I feel the same, bro
You hit the hammer on the nail there, my friend. That’s almost exactly how I feel.
What's helping me through this, even if your friends are excelling by you, as long as you consistently go at YOUR own pace. You will eventually catch up to them. because the reality is, most people are only consistent for parts of their lives. Otherwise everyoner would be millionaires and billionaires. For me, I learn slow. I need extra time to understand something. But when it speeds up, holy shit it's a force to be reckoned with. The brain and body need time to recover from whatever your doing. The Hare vs the Tortoise. In a world of speed, ironically going slow means going fast later. So keep that your head up. Go after the things you want to do in life. Just be consistent!
@@bladelazoe I really wanna know what you mean by "ironically going slow is going fast later"
@@jkASMRs It means taking your time to learn something, don't rush it. If your playing an instrument, want to get faster? Play at a slow speed that your comfortable with, then gradually increase the bpm and only move on when your comfortable with that new tempo. Speed is a direct result of Control. If you have a hard time reading, slow it down a bit until you get into a "flow state" and then you'll naturally start speeding up because you understand what your reading. Slow and steady wins the race everytime.
late blooming is fine with me. i just wish people weren't so annoying about all the questions about my life
I'm 34 going to college, working as a cashier at Walmart full-time, and trying to find an affordable behind-the-wheel driving instructor. I'm extremely behind in life after having a very traumatizing life in my childhood, teenage, and young adult years. It took me a long time to move past it and strategize my way out. But I'm finally taking those steps. Sometimes I get jealous when I see kids whose parents love them, but I know the adversity made me stronger and wiser. Sometimes my old self comes back. Like I get very anxious around people sometimes or when I make a mistake I start shaking because I expect to be yelled at even though logically I know I won't. Or I'll think back to the thoughts I had as a kid that my mom instilled in me like I'm worthless and people would be better off without me. But most of the time, I'm an overall stronger person who can accomplish my goals.
I have the deepest respect for people who get a degree later in life, outside the traditional pathway, because I know how hard it was to work and go to college during my university time and shit doesn't get easier when you get older. So not sure if it means anything to you but more often than not people will probably think you're pretty badass, even if they don't say it out loud.
30 and a Walmart employee too full time I quit college for a few months and going back in fall while saving for my own place I have really bad anxiety and get anxious and be distancing people because of growing up with narcissist mother and a father that never cared to help. I’m trying to change myself little by little to learn to love and feel more confident and stronger.
And you will accomplish your goals, don't forget to celebrate small victories to stay motivated. I'm 33 and on the same path too. Keep going, I'm extremely proud of us.
I resonate with this.
Proud of you! Thank you for sharing this because your story really resonated with me! Keep going! 🙌🏾💯
I'm 47, I started a UA-cam channel a few months ago. I also started a business a few months ago which also has a blog. I have zero skills in writing and video.
I started Muay Thai Kickboxing, BJJ, and MMA at 42.
I got a personal training certification at 45.
Don't give up. Better to be late than never.
Inspiring! ❤
Thank you for sharing this!
Good luck! Hope you have much success🎉
@@MagisterialVoyager Thank you so much! I'm trying my best.
@@MagisterialVoyager Thank you so much, I'm trying my best.
"feeling lost" squad ✊
hey
Same, not alone 🤙
I think I am in the "feeling lost" squad also. 😓
We all out here just figuring it all out. But we'll be alright. 😊
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I'm 28, still live with my parents and have been dealing with severe depression and anxiety for 11 years, and because of that I missed out on a lot of things and I've never had a job in my entire life. I don't just feel behind in life I know I AM and I'm scared because it seems like I'll never find a way out of this.
Youre going to be fine!❤
Let’s motivate each other to apply for jobs, we can do it!!
I read myself in your comment. I have the same age and I'm struggling with severe generalized anxiety which has made me depressed because I don't know if I'll ever recover from this. But even if I feel like this, I know we'll bloom one day, slowly but surely, we'll get there.
Art has been helping me a lot, I hope you find something that makes you feel happy to be alive and helps you to bloom 🧡
I resonate with this so much. 30 and in a similar situation. It really does feel hopeless.
Exactly the same situation as me, just 5 years of nothing since college. But took a cybersec class recently and just returning to a structure to plan the day around felt great.
Actually had me seriously considering military life
Cried myself yesterday to sleep because my heart aches so much with sorrow. I cant take this anymore. I work so hard, i love so hard...and i feel so lost and behind.
I feel this soo deeply. Its like I've been left in a hole and can never get out. My life is nothing that i wanted. Im still trying to change it into something that can bring me peace.
@@amarissantiago4309 Same. And when i see that my friends got engage, having the time of there lifes and getting Kids i feel so envy...just like a monster
@@noahmia4203It's natural brother, i hope there are good times ahead of you in the near future
I hope things get better for you. What has helped me is talking to a therapist and most importantly, building on my faith. Getting to know Jesus changed my life. While I still feel behind, things have gotten much better with his help. Don't give up. I'm rooting for you!
I got some great advice from my brother in law when I was a teenager who was very much at risk of developing failure-to-launch syndrome. He said, don't worry about keeping it all together. Don't worry about getting everything figured out. Adults don't have it together and they don't have it figured out. They just learned how to fake it. We all have insecurities and we all have anxiety sometimes. Accept it as the norm and don't compare yourself to others. Live life at your own pace.
Being a nobody can be liberating...a wild flower blooms unknown unseen and for itself.
This!!! Thank you.
Thank you! I'm going to start using this phrase!
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I needed this!
I think sometimes we think that we are not blooming-but in reality…we are just a different type of flower and our growth cycle is different.
Yes some of us are Roses but others are Night Blooming Jasmine, fruit blossoms, cactus blooms, Snapdragons, Chrysanthemums etc. All individual and lovely in their own way.
I absolutely love this answer!
100% this
Bullshit my future and my life was controlled by my parents now I live a life they wanted me to live not how I wanted to live
@@Uta-t9v it sounds like it’s time for you to make some changes then if you are unhappy with the direction your life is taking.
I think part of the problem is the concept of “blooming” in general. Your value as a person isn’t found in a spouse or video views. Your worth comes from the experiences you’ve collected. The hurts, and the beautiful moments. We all have those. We are all just learning how to live in the present. That’s the only real goal.
Edit: Just to be clear based on responses, I don’t mean the ‘instagram experiences’ that you’ve collected, I simply mean the fact that you exist, and continue to.
No, we don't all have beautiful moments. It would be nice not to have to worry about food and shelter.
Dignified!
Our worth comes from what love, care, and value we give. Neither from experiences (a narcisisstic jerk can have all kinds of cool experiences) nor from doing something special, like becoming famous, or rich, or whatever.
Damn that's wise
@@foljs5858this is so true.
As an Asian woman, I resonated with that Mulan scene when I first saw it. I am in my mid/late 30s, and life absolutely did not go as planned. I'm living in my own apartment for the first time (genuinely loving it), learning Tagalog, cooking new recipes almost every day, healing traumas in therapy, traveling, making friends, and truly enjoying my own company. I have not dated in years but am waiting for the right man, if that’s supposed to be in my path. I truly believe everyone has their own journey (to learn spiritual lessons). Life is not about what we want but what we need to learn. Anyway, do not be so hard on yourself! If you have certain dreams, it's never too late to try. Thank you for posting this, Jason. Wishing you all the best 💛✨
Curious, what do you mean by spiritual lessons?
Is there a religion you choose to follow that helps make your journey easier?
Been feeling so lost
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became really strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which, to summarize, I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive a lot of things he did in his life, and we lost touch for about 10 years. So many details I cannot fit here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after death. I’ve gotten certain spiritual signs (related to dad and others). I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, affecting others, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or address issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! My comment keeps getting deleted. Basically, I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive many things he did in his life, as we lost touch for about 10 years. We had an amazing last conversation that helped me start to heal. So many details I’d love to put here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after we pass. I’ve gotten spiritual signs (related to dad and others) that I don’t think are coincidences. I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or address issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! My comment keeps getting deleted. Basically, I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive many things he did in his life, as we lost touch for about 10 years. We had an amazing last conversation that helped me start to heal. So many details I’d love to put here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after we pass. I’ve gotten spiritual signs (related to dad and others) that I don’t think are coincidences. I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
@@jasminerr7460 No worries! My comment keeps getting deleted. Basically, I don’t follow a specific religion. My spiritual awareness became strong when my dad passed. We have the same birthday (which I think was meant to help us both). I had to forgive many things he did in his life, as we lost touch for about 10 years. We had an amazing last conversation that helped me start to heal. So many details I’d love to put here. Basically, I think everyone is meant to learn certain lessons because of what happens after we pass. I’ve gotten spiritual signs (related to dad and others) that I don’t think are coincidences. I think our souls are meant to evolve. Lessons about unconditional love, ego, etc. Not trying to babble haha. If you’re feeling lost, I encourage you to write down your thoughts/feelings/goals. You might need to heal some traumas or past issues. Hope this helps somewhat 🫶✨
This almost feels like one of those internet checkpoints. A safe haven where people just take a moment to reflect and share on all their experiences, worries, dreams, hopes and fears. We need more spaces like this. It's beautiful. Being a late bloomer can definitely feel very lonely. Putting it like the feeling of having been left behind is truly fitting. But I suppose there's always more time to bloom. You just gotta let the blooming take its time
29, I still feel so lost. struggling in my long term relationship, unhappy in any job I am in, endlessly tired, watching my friends create lives in jealousy. It sucks. Feel so lost sometimes.
I can relate to that.
Same here
Me too, man.
What do you like to do that isn’t a relationship or career orientated? Take the first step in your personal life to treat everyone like you are feeling now. Say hello, be honest with someone you don’t know and hear them out. Chances are, they are too, and you’ll find the place you’ll need to be.
It took me 27 years to get that ball rolling, and I still sink down, but many of us online are feeling the same.
Chances are, we can be found out there. :)
29 on Sunday, girl but same feeling as you
I don’t remember writing this comment-oh wait… 😭
My childhood was full "you can't" and "this is dangerous" ... so that I was a very shy kid. And when I was loud I got told to be quiet right away.
Of course it is not an environment that promotes early bloomers. And it took me a long time to realise that it wasn't something wrong with me.
Now I read and changed the environment and I really feel the change....
You don't know how long each flower will bloom.... the spring flowers are early but usually don't bloom for a very long time.
This is exactly what happened to me. It's been difficult...
Thank you for this, i totally can relate!
Right, I had a mom that catastrophized everything and did not believe in me. My parents didn't encourage me to learn and grow. I felt powerless and was told to be quiet too! I often wondered why they had kids. I'm learning life lessons and healing though, I'm dedicated to being my own role model since my parents weren't one.
This has been my childhood too! Our environments have so much influence on us and I realise that some of us need to unlearn a lot of things before we can bloom and that's why we are a bit "late" to the party. There's nothing wrong with that ❤
Unfortunately, I know my mum love me but I think she sheltered me too much. My dad tried giving me chances like swimming lessons, piano lessons but I kept dropping them, feeling like I couldn’t do them. Now I got to push my way through to learn how to live
I personally don't like the concept of "blooming." It insinuates that there is one goal in life (to bloom), and if you don't achieve that, you're a failure. Late or early, our goal is to bloom. But what if you are not a bloomer in the way people think you should. I'm 52, and I have been a teacher, an artist, a writer, and a philanthropist. And now I have an office job as a translator. For some people, they think I haven't bloomed yet because I never reached the peak of a chosen career or had a family. But I've been part of exhibitions, see my students graduate, and I have helped a lot of street cats. Am I not a bloomer? Thanks for making me reflect on my life and for making me appreciate it. 😊❤
I love that ❤
I agree with you. Seeing life through failure and success lenghs is the problem itself bcuz it doesnt match with reality.
It has nothing to do with your case but where do the lives of those dying at the two current wars fit in this scenario? Did they fail or bloom?
This is the truth! Life is just there to be lived in whatever way you see fit and whatever way it comes to you. Just be a good person, help others, don't be a dick... that's enough "blooming" for anyone ;) (and no, I don't always live by that and I sometimes share similar feelings to this video).
The most important thing in life isn't success. It's life, and the life of those that matter to you.
You've done so much with your life, I think people talking is just noise.
"they still bloom", is comforting. But I sometimes doubt that.
As I get older now in my 40’s, I realized all the things that I wanted in life are still on their way. I wasn’t ready for those next steps, and I probably would not have appreciated them if I didn’t struggle along the way towards them.
The best is yet to come, is my new motto.
Omg😢
I don’t understand why I can’t find nice people to be friends with.
I believe I'm a nice person. We can be friends if you'd like?
Same here. But I believe mostly it is because to cynicism. I've decided not to hold myself back and interacting more with people.
@@kaylomayekiso3851 I guess why not?
Oh man, i feel this comment in my soul.
I realized at 35 after having 0 friends for so long that everyone has a pack out there. You just have to go find them because they won’t find you.
"Sometimes it just feels lonely. Like I've been left behind." Thank you for this. You are blooming beautifully.
I resonate really hard with this video. As someone who was born in ‘97, it’s weird and hard to see everyone I went to elementary, middle, high school and college with are getting married, getting engaged, having their first baby or their second baby and then there’s me. I’m 26 and I still don’t have my drivers license yet or a job, so it’s really weird to see everyone else crossing those major milestones in life and I’m sitting here thinking, “when is it going to be my turn to cross those milestones?” But I always remind myself that even though I haven’t experienced those milestones at the same time as everyone else, I know that my turn will come. I just have to be still and remain patient.
Maoe a plan n go get it
But just remember there’s time to be still and time to take action. It’s the harsh truth I learnt early on… no one is going to save you. Everything is ultimately up to you.
Yes, time to take action and start believing you are capable. Despite "failure", keep going. Build discipline. I'm in the process of this now at 32...
97' born here too, and I couldn't relate more...
Some people can't move till they fully have a good Why...
Being married and having kids is overrated bro.
Knowing I’m not the only one who feels this way brings me solace
You have no idea how much I needed this right now... so thank you for this message.
I'm 38 years old, searching for yet another basic job, no college degree, no boyfriend or spouse (because I've never been asked out on a date), and I have so many skills & interests that I really can't figure out what I truly want to do with my life. I'm a Jack-of-all-trades... or I guess a Jill.
My mother constantly compares me to others who are younger than me that she taught at students or knows around that are much more successful... you know, like being college grads, earning doctorates & masters degrees, getting married or having children, getting all this praise from others and living their 30s the way she wishes I could have been... and I hate it. It's like, I'm not good enough in her eyes... or that I'm not like her (who also found her purpose in her 20s, had a successful teaching career for 41 years & is now able to live the rest of her days without any financial worry), and every time I explain that I'm not like them or like her, she just shakes her head in disappointment. Dealing with this often makes me feel so depressed... because I just feel like no matter what I do, it'll never ever be enough for her.
I know I am a late bloomer. I've known this since probably... middle or high school. I've made so many mistakes in my life that I wish I could take back, just to give it another try... but I can't.
I do want to return to college & eventually earn a degree (once I figure out what to go after; if older folks can earn them in their 60-90s, so can I! I'll just... earn it BEFORE that age range.). I want to find love & get married one day, but it has to be the right person (and I have to get over my fear of actually "dating"). I want to find my life's purpose & prove my mother wrong... but she just needs to realize that it will take some time first, and maybe then she'll realize that & be sincerely proud of me once her late-blooming flower of a daughter finally blossoms. 🌸
I hope you find what makes you feel fulfillment and joy, no matter what anyone else thinks. You can do it!
Hey Jill, I hope you're having a wonderful day. Just hold on to that hopeful ride until it gets you somewhere, cause it will, surely.
The bad news is time flies, but the good news is you‘re the pilot.
Excellent!👌
Superb quote.
that's not good news at all, i don't know how to fly
I’d rather someone else was the pilot
@@astoldbynickgerr well you're in luck because someone else is the pilot.
Bro I’m 23 and broke can’t get a job and living off nothing and seeing all these kids making money like it’s nothing I literally just don’t understand 😭
Dont be fooled,buddy. Most of these social media "influencers" are in debt. If you have 100k subs, you aint rich. Most are liars. Even if you have 1 mil subs, you make more stable money at McD or cleaning toilets.
Those who are rich on UA-cam are rich due to their sponsors. Sponsors are the ones thats paying them a lot. Not the number of subs/views. Example, sponsor pays you 10k to put an ad of their item on your video. Thats where the money comes in.
Yup! influencers are in debt! (you'll understand when you grow up).
Keep learning everyday. Build strong relationships. Work hard (10 hours a day). Focus on your health. You ll do just fine! :)
@@dreamcuts6811 Nobody needs to work 10 hours a day. Work efficiently instead so you do a reasonable number of hours but can still enjoy your life otherwise you'll just burn out.
I’ve got money 50k a year it’s enough for me by myself and to have extra to invest but I’m alone 😢😢
Its not all real. Remember that.
"The thing about late bloomers is that they still bloom." Bars.
I feel like it’s been instilled in our brains from a young age-where to be in life, what we want to be when we grow up, what college to go to, when to get married and have kids, what we should and shouldn’t do..to follow this blueprint. I’m at that age where I felt the pressure to mark off these checklists .. and I found out that I shouldn’t be following what others say or do. Do what makes you happy ❤
I appreciate how this is not a video that tells us to own up to the trauma and get better but one where the person just shares their feelings without any filters. I think there’s a lot of strength in being able to be so transparent on the Internet and talk about how loneliness really feels. I think you’re a very brave person to not hide how you really feel. Thank you for sharing your feelings with us.
Some flowers can’t bloom in certain conditions. The older I get and the more I learn about myself, the more I realize that I was never going to bloom in the conditions I was in. I’ve had generalized anxiety disorder possibly my entire life, I’m afraid of pretty much everything (even writing this comment is a little scary tbh…) There was just no way I could understand and overcome that as a kid or even in my 20s. I’m 32 now, I’ve educated myself on GAD and every day I’m working on overcoming my fears. I *will* get there, someday. Even if it’s a little late, I will bloom eventually.
I hope you get to bloom soon as well. Maybe this video is the start of that, who knows? Thanks for making it, it’s such a comfort knowing you’re not alone in this ❤
30 here and in a similar situation
@@fightthisfreeze So sorry 💔 I hope things get better for you.
My advice is to just learn as much about yourself as possible, and as much about the psychology behind your issues as possible, whatever they are. We all have issues, whether that’s GAD for you or something else. It just helps to understand why you function the way you do, cause then you can start to confront those things. It’s BRUTAL work, and obviously you won’t always have success, but it’s the only way you’ll be able to get off the path you’re stuck on.
Edit: I REALLY recommend watching HealthyGamerGG’s videos btw! They’re really helpful and super interesting 👍
Sooo proud of you! 🌸🌷🌻
@@shaniseburris9839 That’s so kind, thank you so much 🥹❤️ and whether you’re in a similar situation or not, I wish the absolute best for you in life ❤️
@@Liece45 Wow, it’s so nice to hear from someone who’s made the same journey but is farther along in it, and I so agree with you - there’s no cure for anxiety that I know of, unfortunately. It’s all just about learning to manage it. Learning what triggers it, learning to face those things and learning that you can actually handle it. I think of it like a backpain you’re never going to be cured of, but instead of never moving to avoid aggrevating it and unintentionally letting all your muscles atrophy and making the situation worse, it’s working out to strengthen those muscles instead and finding different directions to bend over that don’t hurt as much.
I’m so happy to hear you’re doing well ❤️ It’s very inspiring to know it can be done, that your anxiety doesn’t have to dictate your whole life
Love the honesty and self reflection. Love him or hate him, Ray Kroc started with McDonalds at 52. Harlan Sanders created KFC when he was 62! Success is the continuous culminations of our life journey, and everyone's got their own path. Keep up the videos young man!
yessss!! 👏thank you brother
no why did you have to choose these particular two examples pls there are so many better examples than mr Kroc and the Colonel 😭 theyre perfectly fine just not the most inspiring lol /hj
just look toward figures like Mark Twain, Toni Morrison, Morgan Freeman - there are a multitude of writers, actors, and other artists/creatives that bloomed in their middle-age or golden years!
it's crazy how I'm just turned 28 and I struggle with these thoughts-even ever since I was just 18 I was already beginning to feel the pressure.
But at what cost? Their success turned into millions, if not maybe a billion people becoming obese and dying because of how we normalize fast food. And untold suffering of factory farm animals. It’s almost like… outward success if it exploits other people in some way is truly worthless.
Ray Kroc was a thief. He "acquired" mcdonalds just like the Italians "aquired" this land now known as USA.
That is how it happened.
Rememver, only capitalist ventures are measures of success!
I’m 40, single, unemployed own nothing, no car, no house. I know where my status is in life, I simply exist left behind with nothing but emptiness
Update: Thank you all for the support. Since I last left this message, I am on a new anti depressant medication to treat my anxiety. It seems to have changed my mood as well. There is optimism in the air. I have less triggering experiences of anxiety as well.
I have an associates degree and would like to go back to school to earn my bachelor’s degree in software engineering.
Despite feeling more optimistic about my future, I’m dealing with a part of myself that is afraid to let go of my pain and hopelessness. I’ve lived with it for so long. At this point it’s my normal. And yet, I’m encouraged to pursuit a new normal.
Again thank you all kindly. It’s reassuring to know I’m not alone in my mental health struggles
I m 30, emptiness made me hate this world.
I'm 43.. and I get it. You're not alone in that situation.
You'll be fine, learn a digital skill.
Come on, you can do, something!!! Don't be so down in life, be the best you can be... no one in this world to help us, care for us, get us up, except us
I got few variables different but I understand
I'm 22 years old and have just realised this year how much time I've wasted on past traumas and how everyone else my age completed college (university as we call it in europe) and get a job where they make big bucks. Meanwhile I started with age 21 and will graduate at 25 or 26. I sometimes cry myself to sleep because of it, but at least I am not alone after reading these comments and this video. Thank you ❤️
I sometimes wish I was somebody else, through, or in an better position in life. I'm just happy that I am still alive and well in the end
I also started college at 22 and I'm graduating next year. A lot of my classmates are much younger than me but some are older than me too.
I also used to be really scared of falling behind. For some reason, I had to choose IT course while I had no interest in IT, wasted 3years of college not acquiring skills but now it's my last year and I have started. I am trying to change my old beliefs these days and stay positive as there are so many successful people who started really late. The most important thing is to start taking steps. It's normal to see other people and be discouraged. I see younger kids being beasts at programming while I am a beginner but then I think that there will always be someone who started earlier than and someone who started programming in their late 30s. From now on, I will always allow myself to be a beginner because that's how you grow even though I am still scared. Concept of blooming is weird because there's no end point in life until we are alive. A person never stops growing, they might just have a different pace. Sorry for the rant. I just felt like your situation was very similar to mine.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Can dr.porassss send to me in UK?
@@BestOffer-ii9nyhow the fuck are you expecting someone across the damn pond or even across the world to know where your local dealers are? I think instead of asking people for drugs stop feening for a high and actually find yourself mate. You don't need drugs to delve within your own soul and find who you truly are and if you think you do then you're just not mentally ready for life.
The flower that blooms the last is the one that people notice the most. Never give up on yourself.
I love this
"I guess the thing about late bloomers is that they still bloom".
Man... I don't know how to thank you for this video. I'm 37, broke, still living with my parents. It feels like the bottom of the pit.
BUT I feel deeply that all I've been through in my life is converging into this moment.
There is so much energy building up and it feels like it's about to explode like a volcano.
I just hope it's a really beautiful and rare flower.
@user-jp5xi4ue6g I do understand what you’re saying, but I respectfully disagree. Each person lives in a unique universe and we can’t really compare our struggles and difficulties. Only I know what I’ve been and are going through, just like only you know what you had to go through in your life.
We're all unique, just like our paths.
Regardless, I wish you all the best. Just like I wish love, success and happiness to anyone who is reading this comment now!
Hey friend, I believe in you. Really, i'm just a stranger, but I genuinely believe in you. You got this.
@@lxz8021 Brother! I don't know how to thank you. I really really wish that all your dreams come true! From the bottom of my soul! Thank you! Have an amazing day!
Same bro
@@StevenSantaCruz-ix9is Well, I hope you find your path to freedom soon! I wish you all the best! Healing, happiness and peace!
Thank you for being here!
It is lonely. Even being around others I feel so lonely. Yet, I find a little bit of solace knowing that in this feeling, I am not truly alone.
I hope one day I can find where “home” is. ❤
Thank you for posting this. I am 27 and i feel so lost. I had my path etched out for me. Go to college, get a job, meet someone, live well, etc. I did all those things but i started realizing that i never really grew in the ways i wanted following this path. It was very hard for me to make the decision to end my engagement to an amazing person but it was essential to my personal growth. I feel like i set myself back in a lot of ways but i know in the long run, a wiser and much more mature me will look back and be proud that I did this for myself. I'm bummed it took me a few years to realize it/make the decision but i know i still have time. Better late than never.
You’re not alone
"The thing about late bloomers is that they still bloom", that right there hit my core and made me cry. Thank you for this video.
To anybody reading this, you are loved and valuable!
You are too, you kind and beautiful soul.
You too❤❤❤ love from Brazil 🇧🇷
I am loved, but valuable.... clearly not
Thank You so much good soul.
Same to you
Be born, be curious, love yourself, love others. Nothing else is required. Great video
I used to think this philosophy was just a way of masking one’s regrets and disappointments in life. I refused it for so long bc it felt like the type of stuff you say when you accept defeat or whatever. This “all or nothing” mentality is what ended up getting me sick, and sending me to a state where I lost all the status I always prioritized. And thats when I realized that indeed nothing besides that is required. Focus on doing what you like rather the results you will get out of it. Status, money and fame is great but they should never be the goal. I haf to learn it the hard way
Sheesh, feel you dude.. making me tear up thinking about how lucky we all are to simply exist in this time, economic status, marital status, all of that excluded. We're here in this moment and to waste it thinking about how others are doing is a fool's errand. What makes *you* happy? Do that thing man, and don't compare someone else's situation to yours. You never know the sacrifices they might have had to make to get where they are, not to mention the hardships their journey may have presented.
I needed to see this in this moment. Thank you.
Life should be a journey, not a race. We all still end up at the same finish line regardless.
I’m 32 and still trying to figure it out. Nothing I’ve tried has gone right. I very much feel these feelings, the loneliness especially. Thank you for sharing
Same, same sometimes I feel I should just… stop if you know what I mean
it’s funny when you start talking about it how many other people also feel this way
it’s an isolating thing to feel, but nobody’s truly alone in it
Feel this 100%. Sometimes it feels like the years flew by and we just never “started” living. I’m trying to “start” this year, but the first step is aways the hardest
I m 30, never started living at all
@@Jesu-l5i everyone's versions of "living life" is different. you're doing great even if you're single living alone or with parents, in debt, or overcoming an addiction, etc. its okay. you're young.
Thank you jason, this video helped. Im 37 nearing midlife going through the toughest part of my life since i was a teenager and im back to feeling lost again.
This is exactly what i needed right now. I've been in a huge mental slump lately. Ive recently "found myself" so to speak. Found my passions, found who i wanted, found myself but i feel like time is ticking now that im in my 30s. Knowing what i want and knowing i dont have the means to get there right now feels like the slowest most agonizing torture. Like ive finally accomplished something most people dont (finding your passion) but its dangling just our of reach above me. Ive never been great at being patient but this is exactly what i needed to hear to give me peace...
It use to be said turning 40 was going to be the best times in your life.....I am turning 46 this year and these have been the worse 6 years of my life.....I have not found a way to bloom.....thanks for making me think.....and try to see how I am growing.....sending love tina from MN
The night is always darkest before the dawn! Stay strong, and here's hoping for you to experience more light and happiness soon!
@@snakedogman thank you so much snakedogman! Thanks for spreading your love….and wisdom…..touching thank you.
remember that you will succeed in your own ways. not by anyone else's way. also you don't need to explain to anyone your life plans or what you'll do in your future because things change constantly. you're right where you need to be. you're alive and that enough is an accomplishment.
Hi Tina. How are you doing? Has the past month brought anything pleasantly unexpected for you? Do you have any hobbies or passions that can help you bloom mentally or emotionally? I really enjoy writing, and sometimes when I feel bummed about my situation ( serious medical issues) , writing a short story makes me feel so much better, because it’s something I’m passionate about and not to pat myself too much on the back, but I feel like I’m a good writer lol. Anyways I hope you are doing better and and that the next 6 years are better than the last 6. Just take it a day at a time. Remember to be kind to yourself as well, even during the times of disappoint or regret. ❤
At 31 im struggling with overcoming depression and am waiting to bloom. Thank you for your video ❤
I can relate. I'm 25, suffering from bipolar 1 and social anxiety, and I'm still in college. Most of the people here are 5 years younger than me while the people my age have already graduated and have jobs. I worry that I won't even be able to hold down a job due to my mental illnesses. But I have faith in God that He will make a way and has a purpose for my pain. My whole family are late bloomers and I believe I am one too. Thank you for your video.
Hey, I was in your exact position at 25, it’s a hard age. I’m 29 now and life is great, you’ll get there
Im 25 too and fucked in life too
Hey. Im soon 33 and got no education after highschool. Battling with cripling depression, social and general anxiety, adhd and and im like 30k In dept. Dont give up!
I was in the same boat in my 40's!! But life got so much better after that; not because of the degree but I got some of my confidence back. Chin up! Literally; keep your chin up!
24 , will be 25 in june . I Will be attending my 3rd semester of my college in September. All of the students around me are mostly teenagers. Ppl of my age have graduated long time ago some even have or are expecting a baby. While me ...... I literally still don't have any talent/skill. I still don't know what to do with my life. So yeah i don't have much to say except, don't give up you are not alone . Keep having faith in God . Be delusional (in a positive way) to achieve your goals.
Every birthday feels like a gravestone
This was beautiful. I was an early bloomer. Thrived in my career in my 20s. Now my petals are gone and I’m feeling lost. Having felt like I thrived for so long only to feel so incompetent is such a weird and debilitating territory for me. Alas, here we are. Thanks for the pep talk, inspiration and acknowledgment that we’re not alone in our feelings. Please create more! 🙌🏼
Watching this at 38 yrs of age, I can definitely relate. I knew from childhood that I was a late bloomer, but really didn’t think much of it. But now as I am getting older not married, no children, no stable career, no friends, etc. It’s like what do I have to do to bloom, to shine, to allow my creativity to shine through. I know my worth, I know that I am abundant in whatever I want to do. What more can I do? Im just ready for some kind of change in my life😔. But this what an amazing video that was way to short😊. I had to watch it twice.
There are many people who appear to have bloomed but aren't necessarily happy. And sometimes society has these ideas that we should always be moving from one milestone to the next.
I choose to find contentment and make the most of where I am at a particular point in life.
@@docktornjathika3773 I absolutely love this! Thank you, Dock. I needed to read this.
@@MissNayNay I'm glad this resonated with you. 🙂
It’s fear to think that maybe i won’t make it at all, I just feel pathetic and seeing others and their accomplishments just make it feel so much more real that it could be in reality, the fear of not archiving the expectation.
Boy oh boy, I relate so hard to your comment.
Not any expectation, the fear of not achieving my own expectations
Being a late bloomer is mental torture tbh😢
This really made me cry. I’m so hard on myself and can’t help but think that I’m a result of my bad actions. I’m happy UA-cam recommended this to me. Thank you.
"Sometimes it just feels lonely, like I was left behind. It's just me by myself within this reality." hit so hard :(
I love this, and relate SO much. Everyone in my genre is like 17-25, and Im 31 out here feeling like a geezer 😮💨
Haha I'm 35!
The thing is, you will never be as young again as you are in this moment. Neither will all those other people.
ugh i really needed this reminder, its sometimes almost painful to even think of going back on social media and seeing what my former classmates and friends are doing now. but my time will come eventually. also you really got bonus hit in the heart points for the mulan clips because she was my favorite disney princess growing up 😭
I think i need it a lot in the future as well
I hit rock bottom in my late 20s, alcoholism, completely broke and actually over 15K Eur in debt. But for anyone rading this, don't give up on your dreams. It's one step at a time, you got this!
I started my channel, stopped drinking, ghosted everyone and got an editing job at television because of all these changes. Life is great, if you do the neccesary things that are right in front of you ☺
tell me how u got over alcoholism, debt etc tho
@@munkhtuvshinmt I did a lot of things, to achieve this, non of which were easy. I stuggled with quitting for a long time, and trying to get my life back together, but I managed. It's way too long to explain in the comments. I have done multiple videos on it on my channel ☺
Ghosting the people in your past life was the best thing you did for yourself. I’m glad to hear you’re doing better ❤ You’re amazing and strong!!
2:20 I love the way you filmed this part, idk how to describe it but visually it has a very nice dreamlike look to it.
my go to that i always tell people to keep in mind is: alan rickman acted in his first film at 42 years old
he died a beloved actor 27 years later
you've always got time, everything comes down to how you use it
if you never let the spark go out, you'll always be able to start a fire when you're meant to
great video, man
I feel your pain...I'm neurodivergent and have always felt like everyone was moving forward without me. I never had a passion or focus. I went to school for Graphic Design and all it did was kill my desire to draw for 10 years. I feel like i wasted those 10 years that I could have been improving my art skills and now as I get closer to turning 40 it just feels like I'm floundering amongst all the art babies who have grown up doing digital art or learning their skills at an early age from online resources. It's hard fitting in as an elder millennial amongst all these amazing younger generations.
I found that i prefer traditional art after trying out graphic design/digital art as well. Digital art is so prominent in online art spaces that i used to associate digital art with success, but it's just a tool, just another medium. It helped my confidence to find other traditional artists to follow and to limit the amount of time i spend on social media in general.
Exploring different mediums helped me to figure myself out artistically. Five years ago i never would have thought that i'd be teaching myself to make lace right now. Still, we are in a digital age, and the time i spent learning graphic design has helped me to create branding for myself. I'm not a full-time artist and i don't have much of a social media following, but i'm happy with the direction i'm moving in, at least
You don't need to fit in, you can find and create your own space. Good luck 💚💙🤍
Love love LOVE this video and truly relate, being in my 30's and feeling stuck, left behind and not where I thought I'd be/where I'd like to be at this stage in my life. Sending good thoughts your way!
I do feel so lost. I had such a strong head direction before Covid happened during my sophomore year of college and it completely destroyed me and my ambitions and motivation and just derailed me. Same happened for practically everyone I knew in college during that time and with my friends. And since college it’s all been the same, nothings changed and we still feel lost with no sense of direction.
I bloomed but not fully . Im waiting to fully bloom in my 40's. I keep getting knocked over. Losing friends,family dying over the past 2 years. It sounds like an excuse but 2020 really threw a wrench in my life plans.
I don't know how old this youtuber is. But he's cute and seems very young. I'm sure he's got lots of time for everything.
Keep it up, keep ur head up and keep goin. When 2020 started, everything in my life came rockin down. But i cant turn time back, i have to keep goin and things will get better. You are not alone
Dude… I’ve watched this like 50 times. This was better than any 20-30 minute vid of being motivated or determined ego nonsense. I just turned 30, my partner left me after helping her achieve her goals after sacrificing mine for years, seeing all my peers lead more successful lives and just feeling so lonely and left behind in it. You articulated it so well. I feel the exact same. Hopefully us late bloomers bloom into the most beautiful and rare flowers.
My exact situation bro. But I am still 29. Time to move forward.
ecclesiastes 3:11 - "God has made everything beautiful and appropriate in its time." God bless!
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"The Preacher": chapter 3 is my favorite to read often.
Amen! 🙏🏾 ❤
38yr old chef with more the 15years of experience in the kitchen. I don't know anything else then a 12hour shift an when I do have free, starting to hurt myself with isolation and bad thoughts.Have made some massive errors in my life an blaming myself more an more.As an international, all my friends have moved and move on and couldn't cough up a conversation with a girl. Stumbled upon this video an just rly feel I need to express myself as it's near impossible to do nowadays. I hope for all of us that we are late bloomers or at least fine something satisfactory that we can call success because am running on empty, an am scared
There is no such thing as “late”. If we feel late, it’s only because we are comparing our progress to others instead of to ourselves-all you can do is put in the work to be better than YOU were yesterday. And everyone has a different definition of “better”-for you it could be your health, depth of friendships, traveling to new places, etc. but you think it has to be money, career, relationship status, glory. Your journey is your own. What matters to YOU? You can run a marathon at 50. You can start a successful business at 60. You can have the most meaningful relationships at 80. You can heal a lifetime of depression at 90. Youth is so overrated. The best years of your life are ahead of you, not behind you.
Ive been in school for so much of my life i never anticipated feeling like theres anything but school. Natural late bloomer because school is way harder for me than my peers. But, starting my PhD journey in my 30s has been the most rewarding and horribly stressful things ive ever had to do. But ill be happy with my work pass or fail.
Great video and message ❤
Say what you want about algorithms, but this video found me exactly when I needed it. You're gonna go far here, man!
I've always felt left behind in life. Since I was a child I had a small friend group that never lasts, I've never attended a party or a big social situation with people that have my age, also I don't see a futere in my life, school is very hard for me, and I always feel alone and sad. Since I was 11 yo, i've been depressed and anxious, and I don't think I can make it to adulthood.
Your video gave me some hope that I'm not alone in this situation, thank you.
Im a late bloomer adult, im still blooming, and even though i feel lost all the time but in away things have gotten so much better than they were when i was a kid. Your 20s is better than your teens, even as a late bloomer. If you're neurodivergent and/or queer, theres also a difference in who you bloom. As an adult now the hardest part is just having access to the things that will help me grow and having the patience to work for them, but compared to where i was as a kid, its much better. Im excited for my 30s.
I understand how you feel. It doesn't help me much to ideate on my own misery for long, so I hope you can forgive me for sharing tips with you instead of just talking about our shared woes.
For me, prioritizing my health, trusting my gut, and being authentic and honest with myself have made life feel more meaningful, even if it still doesn't feel like I have a future. It makes days more meaningful and I have more opportunities to fill them with things that inspire and excite me. There is freedom in not worrying about tomorrow, but I know it doesn't make the feelings of loneliness and confusion go away. If we can't find people who encourage and appreciate us, the best we can do is try to be that for ourselves.
Don't give up, okay? Even if it hurts, we only have this time on Earth and then it's over forever. If you can't bring yourself to dance, try your best just to enjoy the music while it's playing. I believe there's meaning to find in that. I don't know what it is or what it will be, but I believe there is meaning in it. And someday, before we finish our journey here, we'll find out what that meaning is.
@@gwardojones thank you mate, i will try to follow these tips :)
I’m tired of expectations from others. 2 days ago someone shook their head at me as I told them my future career path. Yesterday my cousin shamed me for not having a partner and not wanting children because “not having security and stability in your life is no excuse.” Today I’m sure someone will make undue remarks about my life choices.
I’m creating a life that I see worth living. I’m done succumbing to the pressures and demands that others place on me, vowing to put God, my personal goals, and happiness above all else.
That was beautiful man. I’m 43 this year and have been working thru all of these issues for a few years now. With lots of work, therapy, reflection, and practise, it finally feels I’m going to get there. And you know what’s best? On many days I’ve stopped caring. Time to LIVE ❤ Don’t berate yourself. We all have our own journey 🎉
The fact that this exact scene of Mulan popped in my head I kid you not about 2 days ago when I was feeling quite down about being a late bloomer and then I see this video randomly.. Wow is all I can say. Thank you for putting this together it really spoke to me today. Please keep going this is the content the world needs fr.
Glad this video made it's way to my algorithm. I'm considering changing my career after feeling unhappy with my current trajectory and it can be especially daunting to restart especially when comparing myself to others my age who have already established their careers and families and even formed successful companies. To quote Gandalf: "A wizard is never late, nor is he early, he arrives precisely when he means to.”
Oooh the way I can relate!!! As an unmarried, childless woman in my 30s, who just quit my job to start my own business (and scared shitless), who’s been dreaming about starting my own UA-cam channel for the past 10 years (but never doing it because I’m somehow scared); I can relate down to the very last word!
I almost cried at 3:54 when you said it just feels lonely sometimes…. My peers, and even friends younger than me seem so far ahead in their trajectory.
Then I was almost brought to my knees when Chadwick Boseman showed up at 5:20 (RIP may his start always shine bright 🌟). Which would have been embarrassing, cause I’m out on a walk 😅.
Anyways, thank you for such a relatable video. It gave me comfort, and motivation to keep forward on my own path; til the day I bloom 🌸.
25 years old and I still don’t know what to do with my life, i feel lost and forgotten, my friends are doing better and I’m genuinely happy for them but I get sad because I feel left behind. I know I still got a lot to look forward to given my age but i just can’t fight this feeling, everyone around me looks disappointed in me and it hurts but I won’t give in to the pain, until I bloom as well
94 getting out of substance abuse. Lost in life 😔 super behind in life. Hope everyone is pushing forward 💪🏼
Thank you for your raw vulnerability Jason. 😢 you had me tearing up a bit. I’m 51 and don’t think I’ve “bloomed” yet. Yet I love this life… even the really hard stuff. ❤
Growing up with a narcissistic father is what caused for me, I could see it not only in myself but also me siblings all of us are behind in lives compared to our peers in career, marriage and sometime I can also see it in our cognitive and social skills. what hurts me the most is not that Im late behind my peers, it's that people decades younger than me are outdoing me in life. I feel like people who experienced parental abuse spend most of their childhood and teens years in survival mood trying to protect themselves and cope with the abuse, suddenly you're 31 and you have no idea what to do with your life or how even this thing called living can be done! you're just existing.
I've always been a late bloomer: physically, mentally and socially. I am 37 now and just starting my journey. GL out there!
As I have gotten older I have strayed further and further away from societal norms. I am a human BEING not a human DOING. I exist and am loved and everyday I am growing to learn that I AM ENOUGH. Just me. Not what I accomplish or what I do for a job. I have intrinsic value just being ME!
needed this. Feeling like I'm doing everything wrong because no matter what decision I make, it seems to make things worse
Me and you same what's up group. What is wrong with us
“I guess the thing about late bloomers is, they still bloom.” 22 and lost af but ik I’ll be alright preciate you Jason ❤️
Hey, I'm a 47 year old film director that still hasn't made a feature film yet. You're not alone, late bloomers have a lot to offer society and experiencing success later in life can be a blessing too. You're more mature and better able to handle difficulties bc you know what it's like to lose, be pushed aside and underestimated- but you're working on something that people will one day know how you are.
“The thing about late bloomers is that they still bloom.” ❤ beautifully said. I need to remind myself of this daily as a 27 year old college graduate who still lives at home with her parents and works part time as a cashier. I often look at my friends and feel jealous that they are seemingly out and free in the real world and I’m stuck in my sheltered reality waiting for my turn to come. But this video reminded me that everyone’s journey is different and my time will come soon enough. Thank you 🙏🏾
It’s funny how completely drowning in misery and depression ive been and I stumbled upon this just now. It just. Feels like nothing matters. Like you said. Everyone I watched retired. Has a family now. Younger than me. Time keeps on slipping.
" ...sometimes it just feels lonely. Like I was left behind , it's just me by myself within this reality'". This was very cathartic to hear. I know logically I'm not the only who feels bummed out about their life status, but it's really hard not to feel this way at times. Thanks for making this video. It was very well made and your crop on Mulan's face, chef's kiss😆😚🤌.
Also, for anyone who happens to read this, even though I may not know who you are, you'll be in my prayers to help conquer this struggle❤🙏✝.
Oof. “Late bloomers still bloom” hit like a punch in the heart. Thank you man ❤
Thank you, Jason. This means a lot to me right now. ✌🏼😌
Been playing music since I was 16. Been woodworking since I was 17.
In just the last year (I'm 31 now) I finally started recording my own record, AND building my own furniture business.
Feeling like a late bloomer for sure, but I'm just stoked to be blooming!
More love, mang.
Such an impactful six minutes, I had to watch it twice. Thank you for sharing without attempting to pose as someone with all the answers, but instead sharing an authentic experience to which I and many others can relate. I particularly appreciated the part where you question yourself as to whether you actually believe what you are saying about how you perceive your own experience. That is so real.
The sincerity that struck me to my core: "Sometimes it just feels lonely, like I was left behind. It's just me by myself in this reality. I don't know."
I am in my mid 30's. On the one hand, I am trying to embrace what is, and on the other hand, "I don't know". I romanticize about a life where I did things different. I fear that my life won't "bloom" into a version that I can whole heartedly embrace. It's a scary and lonely place to be. I guess it's just nice to know I am not alone. Thanks.
i just want a community around me that has the same goals, the same ideas. i don't want the pursuit of money to be the only thing that makes my life worth anything.
I'm so tired
Many people these days feel that way and I believe it correlates with how much everyone's constantly watching each other on TV or social media. My advice is STOP looking at others so fucking much and learn to focus on what YOURE doing. As soon as I did that I stopped comparing myself and caring about expectations. I literally don't give a shit what any of you have or what your doing anymore because I realized that the internet isn't about community, it's about making money and the only way to get people to spend their money is by getting in your head and making you feel like you don't have enough or whatever. This place is not your friend, it's trying to sell you shit and make you believe that you're missing out or doing something wrong.
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You’re right. That’s why I deleted social media. I didn’t want to compare my life to other people’s lives
Wow. Well said.
I feel like I'm slowly flowing towards rock bottom but I'm still nowhere close to rock bottom and I can easily imagine how things can get way worse in the future
you're doing amazing. keep at it. everyday you decide to leave your bed is a day you should be thankful for no matter who horrible your situation is. you are alive and as someone with depression I still am happy I get to breath.
I used to be an early bloomer (graduated college at 19, started a PhD at 20) and now that I'm 25 and really, truly considering where I want to go in life, I've been adjusting to the idea of being a "late bloomer" if I decide to pursue something different. I think having both of these experiences has taught me not to envy others. The person who's "ahead" today could be "behind" tomorrow. The person who's "behind" today could be "ahead" tomorrow. Life is full of ups and downs - it's a cliche but under appreciated. Never envy or compare. The person you're envying or comparing yourself to today could be envying or comparing themselves to you tomorrow!
Also, like you note in your video, both sides of the comparison game come with negatives. Even if you're feeling like you're doing better than others, this mindset doesn't necessarily benefit you in the long term.
Facts!