FIRST DATE RED FLAG 🚩 | SIGN A GUY DOESN’T LIKE YOU‼️
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- Опубліковано 20 січ 2022
- First date red flag and sign a guy doesn’t like you.
Women always ask me how to tell if a guy likes them. They want to know the mistakes they are making with guys and the dating red flags they are missing. Well this is a huge red flag on the first date that a man may not want to really pursue a serious relationship. It’s a huge mistake to ignore a guy’s actions on the first date. If you want to know if he likes you don’t mistake an attempted seduction as a sign. There’s a difference between being pursued and seduced. Why a guy is trying to go all the way or putting pressure on you on the first date you’re definitely being seduced and he’s likely gearing up for a pump and dump.
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Hi Kev. Can you do a video about breadcrumbing? I got breadcrumbed but a family member was trying to convince me it's not breadcrumbing, it's taking things slow. Can you talk about the difference in that as well?
Also should you accept inconsistency from a guy who recently got out of a relationship?
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Damn, this felt like a big brother sitting his little sister down and having that fierce conversation with the right amount of firmness, respect and empathy for her.
He is broadcasting his intentions. It’s up to you if you listen or not.
some of those men are billboards lol
@@seabreeze4559 😆🥳🥳
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This one makes total sense!! Don’t allow a second date with a man pursing sex on the first- unless that is what we’re seeking too! Great advice thanks 🔥
in many places, some of the come-ons are actually illegal if they don't ask first, like indecent exposure, pulling off clothing
the active party is meant to use their words and ask first, and respect the first answer instead of nagging
I’ve made this mistake . One tried to make out and said 5 minutes and I’m like what .. saw him a second time and he tried to tear my buns apart . So dead ass this is true . their focus is usually sex .. 😪
@@mlbm13 and woman have a focus too..Y'all women want men for different things. Women are picking men off what they can offer. Most women chose men off something the man has. Women complain men wanting sex. But ask most women want in a man? Money, looks, & status. Women made it this Way. Y'all limited y'all self to a type man & get played. Now y'all come here complaining. 🥱
@@tomriddles7472 it also is taught by generations to look for certain qualities and criteria . families do not want their daughters to struggle or be abused . Yeah sex gets old too so that’s not even all to it . Womens looks fade and then what .
@@mlbm13 You don't get it. When women are hot aka attractive. They choose the men they want sexually. And reject or use the men the feel are unattractive right. Most women only get mad when the men they want don't want them. Women will reject type man for yrs. While giving the one she lust after her all. After the men she want done used her up & discarded her. Them looks ain't their now they want a good man. It's funny. The good men use to get reject by women. So over the yrs they got the life together while most women was stressed over a bum. Now yrs later them same men them women want. But the thing is them men ain't forget all the rejection. So now they play the woman. Women are the problem also.
Men invest in what they see a future in.
I got a guy right now who is asking me to come over his house before even taking me on a date. But of course he is already making sexual comments so there won’t be a first date. Lol
I just met a guy yesterday, we had our 1st phone conversation & he was making sexual comments/ innuendos. Then had the audacity to ask me to hang out at my house, he hasn't even made a formal date. Anyhow I deleted his number out of my phone. Good Riddance
Exactly, 😂😂😂😂😂 same here
Years ago I had a lovely dinner date with a guy. He was dropping me home and put his hand on my leg as he drove. I removed his hand and blocked his number asap. 👏
in an enclosed space, that's not just flirtation, that's coercion
the 0-60 in as many second types are creepy
Years ago I did that. I stopped. Now I meet men there and drive myself. Also a first date doesn’t need to know where I live.
In my situation the guy I thought who actually “Liked” me ended up getting sexual the 2nd-3rd time seeing each other. Not on the 1st date. Needless to say we’re not talking anymore. He never even took the time out to put in the effort to get to know me as a person. Oh well his loss.
EXACTLY! That's why I wholeheartedly believe this advice should extend *BEYOND* just the 1st date!
ugh, the patient wolf type is gross
so many fake nice guys with entitlement, biding their time
@@enmodelife there are some women who confuse being hunted to being adored
I’ve had that too!! He sent me more then 5 LONG ASS PARAGRAPHs about WHY and WHAT he likes about me… that’s why I was like HUH when he ended up telling me he only wanted sex… (after I stopped entertaining his advances)
The guys who just want sex put up a fake front just to get what they want. Tell you what you want to hear but aren’t genuine about being in a serious committed relationship afterwards if not beforehand. Being sexual on any date whether it may be on the 1st, 10th, 20th etc should not be a thought until both get to know one another on a real basis. Guys need to step back & get back to the traditional times of actually learning & knowing how to date a female properly.
Although I already knew this, i needed this as reinforcement 3 months ago. My 3 month “relationship” 🙄 started out like this. I attempted to cut it off cause i was like this isn’t how a relationship should start. I wrote it off as a hook up. This dude actually convinced me I was wrong and i hurt his feelings. Me being gullible believed him and 3 months of swinging from the chandelier…. For nothing of substance. Trust your intuition. Lesson learned, cause i a rusty dater.
This happened to me at 19 and it ended 5 months later even tho he told me at first he wanted a relationship then I checked In month 3 he still agreed then all of the sudden he doesn’t know he wants one then month 5 he said he didn’t want a relationship so I cut him off
@@shutit4024 classic games. Watch the Toxic Dating coach on UA-cam. He talks about this crap guys play and how to not allow it.
That is downright fucked up. Then men are complaining online that women won’t just have sex with them after a couple dinner dates. What the bloody hell....
A guy who touches me without my permission or on the first date will not be able to see for a couple of days or urinate.
Keli gsp 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lmao periodt
Also men dont talk about there personal life with booty calls or let you meet their friends
This is exactly what I needed to hear. But the good thing is that I spot the 🚩🚩🚩 right away & I put a wrap on it
Good! Respect
Wow, this is deep.... I can really appreciate hearing a Black Man like Kev "break it down" for us single women... I think sometimes it's easy for us women to be "fooled" by a guy, because they act like they're just SO attracted to us & they just can't control themselves! 😕
I definitely want to meet that man who is also vulnerable, honest, sincere, thinking about MY safety & wants to have a great first date!!!
Exactly
No lies told. The signs always there from the 1st date. I experienced this too and whatever it was lasted for a year. When it ended I realized I did all of this to myself. I with my actions did not value or love myself. I was my biggest problem. Then I shifted the way u thought about myself. That totally changed the game.
Sorry, but I actually think that this extends more to the 2nd and 3rd date as well. Like...can we AT LEAST get to know each others' middle names, full LEGAL birthdate, home addresses, and SOME family history before you even *THINK or FEEL* you're entitled to have access to my humanity-creating womb?
No arguments
I know that's right. Also sometimes it's not the right season 4 the people and each man is different. Godly men arent the same as worldly men.
I think he shouldn’t try nothing the first month or 2
I agree!!
More like 4 dates minimal . maybe in 1 month time frame .. 1 date a week . To allow organic growth ? get to know each other jeez I agree ☝️
This is so necessary and disappointing at the same time. I can’t wrap my head around the fact that Women don’t already understand this. Either like you said maybe that’s what they are looking for 2, or it’s evident there is an overwhelming amount of information that has to be continued to be provided and we have a long way to go.
Bless
Absolutely right bro. We do have a long way to go. 😔
@@KevHick Keep up the good work good Brotha!
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good stuff as usual. DO NOT fall in love with men like this. like Kev said, he’s not there for that… even when it lasts for years. protect yourself, protect your heart, protect your energy.
I got with a guy on the first date hooked up and all, got married and together 12 years… so I would say it’s definitely true for most but there’s always an exception and sometimes really good guys are really into you but yea I think it’s true for most dudes.. sad
Thank you so much for your comment. Things happening that fast and working out is rare but it does happen. How soon did you guys say "I love you"?
I recently met an IT contractor through work and before he even asked me out he asked to go with me on the next vacation! I had just come back from Costa Rica. I was like...ummm no that's crazy on so many levels... He claimed he just saw I was a good person and heard I was the same from people around the building; I was like 😒🤣 boy you don't know me! I gave him a first date and the benefit of the doubt, because sometimes I judge too soon. I started ignoring him after he kept saying too much sexual inuendo, started calling me sweetheart (we never even kissed!), and then he sent me a pic in his underwear where you can clearly see his D imprint 🤮. He still keeps trying to talk to me, and I cannot block him without stuff getting awkward at work so I just respond with very dry answers via text and never answer his calls. Ugh some men are just plain annoying. 🙄
Since he is a contractor why not say you want to pump the brakes so it won't be akward at work...just friends until it's not a work conflict. He has nothing to lose . You do.
@@daphnesmith1812 He's on a long-term contract that may never end anytime soon. I'm SUPER dry and disinterested towards him, so he'll back off eventually. He hasn't texted or called in a few days now. Woo hoo! I could get him fired for that pic he sent, but I'm trying to spare him...not that serious, just annoying.
You and SheraSeven’s combined are GOLD! I love your videos when I’m playing nice and am vetting for the right guy. Thank you!
Agree
Dude where was this video 3 weeks ago 😰😶🌫️😭
What about 3 years ago😂😂
Some would think this is self explanatory. But I guess better late than never right?
@@jayc5756 yeah it should be. But I think so many women have been sexually violated at the hands of a male predator/abuser, it then can become the norm for a woman to be use to being sexually sought after/used in its most lustful & disrespectful way. That cycle/stronghold is really deep. I personally feel like that energy gives birth to what we call hoes and prostitutes and loose, promiscuous women. (not saying it’s okay or right)
@@Shameikasworld WOW! Ok
@@Shameikasworld have to agree with you. After the hype of dominance/alpha males and plenty of videos on men making first move that line is very blurred. Unfortunately men in my experience have been extremely aggressive on first dates cheeky buggars
The problem is that sex affects men and women differently. Women feel more connected to men after sex and men are natural hunters who don't stop at just one hunt.
Of course there are exceptions but no sane man or woman wants only sex for the rest of the life
I never feel more connected let alone connected but then again, I am not the average female.
@@terribrown6930 good for you
nah the psychopaths say they're like that but that isn't even most men
it's a psychopathy trait to have zero pair bonding sexually
You're a life saver for so many women out there Kev,God bless your work
Ladies, we need to continue to have self respect for ourselves... Society tries to take away self respect at times....
Thank you Bro for continuing to point this out.
Reminds me of the gas station chain called "Pump and Munch". 🤣
Finding this video at 15 years old is going to save me later in the future.
Ugh Thank God u always on time tomorrow I’m attempting to go on a first date again. This one I have an excellent feeling about this one but this video is going to help me a lot to be certain.
And the time of this video is 801! That’s my bday !!!!
I'm laying here with my mouth open. After just a few videos of you everything about my dating life started making sense ...
Hi Kev!! I sure hope you be around when my twin granddaughters become young ladies, you provide excellent knowledge for women, thank you.
It was great that you mentioned high value men. It isn't just dusty men who can try something with a women on a first date. Other you tubers who call themselves coaches feel high value men can do no wrong with women, are the perfect gentlemen on dates and have no ulterior motives on the first date.
This was Real deep!!!❤
You are so amazing i love your videos Lord knows I'm happy i found your channel
Exactly it’s a turn off for me but I think they know who will and who want men know who to try thank you Kev
Thx, your videos should be shown for girls at schools
My ex didn't make any first moves on the first date. I actually went to kiss him. But he still turned out to be a grade A asshole player who dumped me 2 weeks later as soon as he got what he wanted. So it's not ALL about the first date!! Some guys are waay more clever at getting what they want to be this obvious...
Yup, I’ve heard many similar stories to yours. Some guys really are professional deceivers!! It’s plain disgusting and pitiful. I’m sorry this happened to youuu! You’re much wiser now though because of it that’s for sure.
Did he make it a relationship then still disappear cause those are the worst .
@@mlbm13 yup!!!! Asked me to be his girlfriend after ONE date. Then about a week later went completely cold on me. Then another week later ended it out of the blue saying he "didn't want a relationship" in a very icy tone. I was devastated. I did really like him and see a lot of potential. But the guy was just a FAKE
Nah it has to be the way you carried yourself and you going in to kiss him when he didn't think to kiss you was prolly a red flag to him and an indicator that you're easy
@@missfefeloves Looool yeah that will explain why he asked me to be his girlfriend the next day 🤣🤣
Thanks for your consistency boo boos love that for us
I've never been in a relationship so I can't speak on anything but very helpful advice as always
Both men and women think we are at the mercy of those we are attracted to/the ones that show us attention- however, if that is your strategy in dating, and all you see are lame, one dimensional men who care nothing for you, of course you would assume all guys want is sex, that there are no good men out there. Practice being vulnerable enough to state your standards clearly and stick to them. Ladies, there is ALWAYS emotional risk in healthy love and desire. For both the man and the woman involved. Remember that. Power games beget power games, not genuine connection that has the legs to grow deeper and deeper. Games always end, and you have to start over. They don’t provide you the security you are seeking by playing them or allowing a man to play them. The art of love, however, is something you can only get better at with time.
KEV you are to me the real one, you are so down to earth & you believe in god.
I love your chanel & thank you for your conversations with all of us ♥️ you helped me so often in hard times
I’m glad to know I’ve helped. Thank you 😊
This is soo true the number one u said my ex did that and our relationship was doomed the the start
Yes, didn't even attempt to act like a gentleman! Threw his azzzzzz out, no 2nd date ever........
All Facts right here bro
This is literally what happened to me the other night on the date. The guy is still blowing up my phone. I used to give guys like that chances but I can't anymore. I'm 36 and hes in his early forties so I could not believe he was acting like that.
why do they keep rewarding bad guys with a cookie?
makes it harder for everyone else
Exactly. A guy told me that women have set the bar so low that guys don't have to take them out on a date anymore.
If you havent met his friends that's a wrap
Yes yes and a man will want you be safe
You've opened my eyes to some hard cold facts
So sad.
It really is
you are incredible! thank you for your service to all women ❤
You are so welcome!
Great PSA!
People act like this is normal behavior but it's not!
More great advice here! 👏 👏 👏
Thank you Kev!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Your advice is very meaningful ,thankyou for all you are teaching women & girls.
This is so true!!!
Thank you so much I needed to hear exactly what u said, I feel sad but I better feel sad about it now than later
How did I not see this...omg 🙈 I'm so ashamed of myself... thank you 😊 I'm woke...I love watching your videos...I have learned so much from you...
Great video, thank you so much!
👍🏿Thanks Kev!😊
Hi Kev. Can you do a video about breadcrumbing? I got breadcrumbed but a family member was trying to convince me it's not breadcrumbing, it's taking things slow. Can you talk about the difference in that as well?
Also should you accept inconsistency from a guy who recently got out of a relationship?
Taking it slow is getting to know each other before any sexual contact whatsoever. Spending time talking and dating regularly 2 maybe 3 times a week.
Bread crumbing is seeing you one week not talking to you for two, then you get bored or lonely and wander does he like you, is it worth it and he throws you some crumbs to keep you hooked or interested could be a date, future promise, little gift or sweet words.
When a person is into you they leave no doubt.
Bread
Thank you for sharing this
This is good advice 👏
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That was some great advice ❤️
Great video 💕
Where were you 2yrs ago.
All is done and he is long gone.
You put this in great perspective 👏🏼
I have a whole story that matches exactly what you are talking about 😒
I had to beat him off with that same stick you are talking about 😒
I meet a man one week ago and he keeps arguing with me about marriage saying he not getting married again and marriage is a set up. I never brought up marriage to him except I never been married. He say stuff on the phone like " You should had let me come over your crib and break your back the weekend we meet, I was off work. " Is that a red flag?? 🚩
Yes. He doesn’t believe in lasting partnership. He’s going to fuck and leave
he needs therapy for his profound trust issues
he shouldn't be dating anybody
RUN
@@KevHick he picked the bride, his selection is off or he's the problem
only two options
Ummm he doesnt even know you… yes its a red flag
I hope you are being sarcastic. Yeah. That shows so much entitlement and disregard for how you feel. “You SHOULD have…” get the fuck out of here dude. Move on.
Rejection is redirection .
Another great video. Thanks
Thank you for your help.
You can't think on your back
This deserve more views
I just became a subbie, great substance, Kev!
Love it thank you so much
Very true!!!!
Great advice
problem is then when the guy doesnt touch her she tells him she dont feel a connection or chemistry lol
you want someone stupid?
🎯🎯 this is true. My question was similar to your comment--wondering if some touching was a good indicator if he liked you or just wants sex, because some touching is good. No touching can make someone feel undesired. Good comment
Pressuring/pursuing for sex is different than touching.
@@seymorepencilart who said anything about pressuring though?
@@seymorepencilart I see what you mean. But can’t touching be the gateway to determine how far the person is willing to go? Thus, the pressure begins…initiating sex isn’t always so direct. It can be gradual-
Cause sometimes, touching can simply be an indicator of actual attraction.
Right?
Thanks you are like a big brother I never had and I have a big brother
U The Trillest..💯💪🏿
Thank you!❤
I can’t even get a date. He wants me to come straight to his place. That’s offensive. H*ll no.
Ugh. Have a guy who's trying to get me to meet him for the first time AT HIS PLACE!!!! WTF???? Ima block his ass.
Thank you 🙏
Thank you brother
Real talk 👍🏼
Do you have a video on men who play they part well then once they finally get you rather it’s months or years later they treat you like nothing even though they initiate a relationship with you and you took the proper steps with them
Great Video
What do you call man that doesn't want a relationship with you but wants to stay wit u u play the girlfriend role drive ur car he wants u to understand his situation what is that
He don’t want a relationship with you seem like a user. He want to drive your car and don’t have one ~ a bum.
Got a question though Kev. What about a kiss at the end of the night though? That seems innocent enough
That’s cool. But pressuring for sex isn’t what a guy does when he’s hoping for more on the first date. We all want it (not necessarily on the first date) but we control ourselves because we care how we come off. We’re also hoping her boundaries are more strong than that.
@@KevHick True
presumptuous and depends on type
Thank you for asking this. I asked a similar question and got crap for it from a commenter. 🤦🏾♀️ Good question
Nah....thats too personal 4 me
Wonderful channel 👏 ❤ 😀 🙌 💖 😊 👏
Thank you
@@KevHick - you deserve it - I love your channel, it has helped me so much (I am a female, by the way)
So in this situation, you can't make a respect you or see you differently by declining his advance? Just cut it off?
Lol
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Limited time only
Use wisely
He’s an idiot sometimes
@@KevHick The only person I will acknowledge
Sis after my ex told me to listen to Kevin Samuels(not like I have heard much of him), but after listening to his content! Noooope!
What if he didn't try but the entire conversation was focused around sex and he tried to tell me go to his twice on the date?
Sounds like all he wants is sex… I’m in the same boat… we had a great date and after he kissed me and then gave me his address to go home to his house after… he claims he wants a relationship but his actions are speaking louder than words…
So no, it looks like he’s only looking for sex as well… :(
Exactly
can someone please explain to me what “you’re too innocent” and “i can’t give you what you want” mean for real? is being innocent a bad thing? he said the type of person i am, we wouldn’t work or something like that. idk something is off.
It means he doesn't want a relationship with you and he is trying to respectfully bow out. He's telling you that he is not good for you. He doesn't want to hurt you. He's telling you that you could do better than him. Listen & move on. "You're too innocent" is his way of saying he doesn't want to corrupt your mind and/or body because he is just looking for sex, not a relationship.
No, being innocent isn't a bad thing. Find a man that respects and values that about you.
@@enizzy7 but he wants to hurt someone else? i mean i just don’t see the logic in even saying all that. if he straight up said he doesn’t want me because i’m uglier or more boring than the other girl, okay, makes sense. but speaking like it’s a poem or something just makes everything more confusing
Sounds like a narcissist and devaluing. He says you're too innocent and blah, blah. Then, you change yourself and go out your way to prove otherwise. It only gets worst. Nobody got time for mind games. Let him gon bout his business. You'll be ever so grateful that you did cause men like that are the devil incarnate.
@@Keevus03 i really wouldn’t know he seems sweet and he is nice as a friend, but as far as girls his mind is always elsewhere bringing up other girls around me. i even brought up how he must talk to a bunch of girls cause he always says how he talks to this girl, that girl, then denied it. idk. i unadded him on everything except one thing but i feel like even with that i made the wrong decision. like i’m missing out on a good friend, but i know i would want him to change his mind one day in the future cause we get along so well. so i just said maybe we should stop talking. but i wasn’t going to change at all. i don’t even know what’s considered “not innocent” if i’m being real. i was just being friendly, but i guess that’s a weakness
@@bigheadfriendly He doesn't necessarily "want to hurt someone else". He is looking for someone who is okay with a hookup or friends with benefits. He believes that you are looking for a relationship while he may not be.
Being uglier or boring have nothing to do with what he said. If he didn't find you attractive, that conversation would not have happened.
He was very clear (to me) because I've been there. You'll end up wasting your time, getting hurt, and he'll remind you that he warned you in the beginning.
A lot of bachelor's become accustomed to the bachelor life style, they really do want to eventually get married, have kids & be a family man but at the same time are terrified to their core of giving up their independence and no longer able to take a different girl home from tinder every night & having to delete over 100 ex g/f-fun buddies phone numbers.
From what I have come to understand sex or no sex in the beginning of any relationship doesn't really matter there are some people who meet and on the frist date had great sex and still married after 10years and some people like myself met my ex waited very long before having sex and stay in a relationship with him that became very toxic do to us being completely different people. I believe if you have a sexually chemistry as women/ someone yes it's good to still waited later to explore that however rather or not you wait or the man played his game of being patience if the are not right for you even if they want relationship that relationship will not last.
It's not about relationship lasts or not for some other issue,its about the decency of not making any sexual moves on the 1st date by the guy.
@@som0919 what's the issue with that we make such a big deal. If it's not for a relationship.
Naw. Just because a man is making moves for sex on a first date doesn’t mean that’s ALL he’s looking for. There a relationships that last and are more than just sex even though it happened on the first date. It is a risk you take but most men aren’t cutting off a woman that gave it up early on.
This is nonsense.
Just one question, Dear.
What's sex?
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