What Men Need to Know About Judges to Win Child Custody Cases
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- Опубліковано 14 жов 2024
- People often ask how can a father win a child custody case. In this video, Damon Moore, a lawyer, tells you what he thinks men need to know about judges to win child custody cases.
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Me, smh. If my bm wins even though she cuts herself when she is pregnant and kicks me out the house, makes me homeless, and leaves the house at 12:00 at night to run off somewhere that she calls “her space” and leaves her two daughters with me that are not my responsibility, shit i take more care of her kids then she does.
Bro I haven’t seen My Only Son in almost 3 damn weeks now, and I have taken care of Hin since the Evening He was Born, the woman I was with and her 20 year old daughter beat the shit out of me bc they knew I wouldn’t hit them back bc I haven’t ever hit a woman. Then got Epo’s and stuff on me, and lied said she had filed for divorce before the Epo and stuff, so I went yesterday to file first, and get an attorney. But I still couldn’t see My Son bc she filed those statements 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲
@@codykinney8218 my bm just went to court and literally told them she wants me to have 50/50 custody and she’s mentally unstable and stopped taking her medication prescribed by the doctor on her own and use going to church and praying as her excuse and also told them that CPS was just at her house in may…. and the judge has nothing negative to say for me… I’m not mentally unstable, I have way better living conditions, I literally have evidence of her neglecting my child, my other 3 kids live with me and their mom( my wife), never had a CPS issue at all and I have a son older than me and her child. So if all these years I’ve been a parent with no incident how did that lady still look at her and give her legal and physical sole custody of my child 🙃🙃🙃 …. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 this all be about money they don’t care about the well being of a child fr💯
@@Fam1stCEO I’m from pike I’ll Ky, and it’s the same way there bro! I literally have watched My Son Since the Day He Was Born, and Never Has There Been Anything Wrong With Him!!!! Her kids Never seen their dad since the youngest was 3 months old and she is 17 now. But my parents are helping me right now , she wouldn’t let me work man, have friends, go fishing or anywhere I was stuck, until I just got out man. She and her oldest daughter took out epos on me bc they beat the shit out of me, and I didn’t even touch them, but I have pics of the places on me. I will be praying for you mg brother, and if I get any tips from my attorney, I’ll let you know what’s up man. I go Friday, say a prayer if you don’t mind bro! I appreciate it man! And I hate to hear that for real bro. I miss My Son More Than Anything Right Now it’s been close to a month of not right at a month now since I last seen My Boy! HMU on Fb man if there is any tips I get I’ll DM you on there bro! My Facebook is the same pic and only one post of my son!
As a Father whatever war you are going through look for the best outcome for your baby but as a person protect your health, heart, and mental health because we are Men. Nobody will care for us while we worry about everyone else. Best of luck to the great Fathers out there
Godbless, godspeed
I so needed to hear that. Thank you 🙏🏾
Respect and blessings 🙏🙏🙏
@@ShawnCutts-tt3vn Same to you all
God bless brother, I agree that everyone out here must protect their health, heart & mental because the devil has been trying to use unhealed males & females to turn other males, females and children against oneanother which is hurting everyone who is falling for the toxic traps that feeds on your trauma, negativity and wounds but dosen't tell you how to heal, grow, live in harmony with men, women and children like God instructed us all too. The men, women and children who are turning to God, healing, repenting, growing, forgiving and letting go of the toxicity with Gods help are being healed, helped, becoming happy, being Blessed, waking up from the dark depressive fog that's been plaguing men, women and children and you can to, the first essential step is God. There are plenty of men that have the support of their moms, sisters, fathers, step fathers, churches, friends and kids all thanx to God. Keep your focus on God, positivity, growth and high vibrational healing as you obey God while staying away from the unhealed mindsets that will pull you back down such as (the all men/all women bashing people, the "nobody cares about you" people, the "you don't need a man/woman" people, the "there is no God" people, it's all a trap to distract, discourage and dismantle you. Focus on God, pray for everyone and yourslef as God reveals the truth and help you excel to who he has created you to be for his kingdom, you'll be glad you did😎
I was 22 years old. When I got custody of my son he was one years old at the time I got full custody. He is now 19 years old and still living with me you have to fight.
Please respond
I have a 3 year old and I’m trying to get custody but really full custody. What did you do? Any tips ? Thank you I’m glad you have your son
@@kamapparicio8538 honestly, every situation is different what I did was I kept notes of everything I did. I wrote it down his feeding times, events, bed times everything so when you go to Court, your child is most likely going to be appointed by a law guardian, and you want the law guardian to technically be on your side even though they represent the child as per the other parent, you need to prove to the judge that the child is better off with you primarily you need to prove that you could mentally,physically any financially could take care of this child, and you could give the love he/she deserves honestly more than the other parent
How did you get full
I go to court in the morning. I'm a tribal member and live on tribal land. The mom of my child was overdosing on drugs in another state in front of our child. The other state made sure that my bm parents took our child. The other state falsified that I was unfit and that was a lie. Now the case is in the state I reside in and ICWA law states the child goes to the native father. My bm been in jail, not taking her classes like the courts told her to do, and the Indian cps workers told me the my bm attitude had gotten worse and they see signs of her still on drugs. Father's never give up!!!!!!
How did you navigate it currently fighting to get my girls
I will say if you are a father/parent who now has to fight to make sure you can be a positive force in their life, do not give up! Cost a little money. But then, when you go pick up your child and watch the look on their face when they see you and stop everything they are doing and run full tilt at you yelling "daddy" (in my case) you know it was worth every penny! Thank you everyone on here for your kind words and encouragement. I now see my son all the time and he is a complete daddies boy.
I never get any sleep anymore. Never have privacy in the bathroom. Have even memorized the first three seasons of Thomas and friends and that stupid intro song. Get random kicks in the head. Have to constantly leave work early to pick my son up to do one thing or another. Have more laundry than any one person should have piled up in my laundry room. And I wouldn't change a second of it. Ive never felt more that I have a sense of purpose in life. I feel to this point going and fighting for my son was the single most important thing I have ever done in my life. Its even helped my sons development. His daycare noticed a huge positive change in him since I have been involved.
If you are on here looking for advice from this channel you came to right place. And Ill say this, Do not give up! Fight! Fight to be a positive force in your child's life! No matter what it costs, how long it takes, keep fighting. It will pay off in the end in ways you cant even imagine!
I am so happy for you. I totally agree with everything you said. Enjoy your life with your boy!! It’s awesome, and it gets better!
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. You are an inspiration!
Man than you for your words I'm going through it right now. She's 2months old and I'm crushed. This gives me a little hope. Fighting not to let my heart be filled with hate
@@cheyennevazquez1810 Im telling you If you show you want to be there bring her before a judge, as long as you have never endangered that child or any child etc, you will get at least 50\50. Judge will likely give you one chance to work it out between yourselves.If you cant the judge will decide and will likely be 50\50 (not a lawyer but from what I have learned) with judge deciding the custody schedule. I got to court after all off it the judge didnt even let either off us speak told us we had once chance to work it out. And decide on a reasonable custody agreement. If we cant decide the she will and you wont have a say in scheduling.
Either way you likely wont be kept from your child. Best of luck to you man! dont give up and don't give into the hate. Just fight for her. Every decision you make now has to be for her best interest. You do that then you'll be every bit the father she needs! And dont feed into the arguing with the mom. Especially around the child. Court heavily frowns on children having to be caught in the middle. And child being used as a weapon.
@@dbl0douche353 thank you man. Her reaction to 50/50 custody was disgusting. She doesn't know how things work here in America she's Dominican. She actually lost her shit at me which is crazy.. her response is I had her 9months in the stomach well see. I pray she says that in court. Completely unreasonable. She's so much in shock she's out there talking to her a friend because it seems she thought I would move out and she gets 100 percent custody.women are ridiculous you held her 9 months in the stomach while I sacrificed my credit score paying all your bills and moving to a different state and leaving everything behind. I'm a fighter and I'm ready for an 18 year battle that I know she can't emotionally keep up with. My daughter is 2 months old and this chick tells me last second she's going to a cruise to the Bahamas with family in the New Year with my 2 months old? I'm sorry did you have sex alone and create the baby alone. I'm hopeful man great to see I'm not the only one fighting with these ridiculous women. Good luck crazy cat lady.
50/50 Parenting Time Legislation needs to be law. Fathers deserve same rights and choices. The corrupt family court system is using Child Support as a means to prosper and judges too are taking advantage of this. This has all been well documented.
It is law in my state . If the father wants joint he gets it unless he is unfit like he beat the non abused the child has a violent past or drug/alcohol abuse other then that if the father wants it he gets it. Now full custody he won’t get unless the mother agrees or if she is unfit
@@alexisdiamond2529 Exactly my point full custody should be split right from the start. 50/50 Parenting Time Legislation. And if mothers have opt out choices for whatever reason. Abortion/adoption so to should a man be able to opt out. (Referring to the same time window a mother would have) this would be true equality. No parent should have access to the others wealth. This is what social programs are for.
Just pay child support. Stop worrying about the money and help raise a child rather than bitch cause you have to pay money for them.
@@alexisdiamond2529 what state you in?
New Jersey is the worst
The Custody Court system is a sham! It's bias against good Fathers is sickening and the harder you fight for your children, the more the system will restrict your Parenting time.
Got to keep a carrot to dangle
Facts
Yes.
Look into COL violation warnings, how to file them into your case to prepare for Supreme Court lawsuits.
Recently, This has worked against the oposing parties attny in my custody battle . Once the COL was filed, I filed a complaint with the Disciplinary Commission and with the DOJ in prep for a larger lawsuit.
This is the only way policy will ever change. Uf enough good Fathers stand up across our great natuon - We can make a difference!
@@Greg-n-Simba File a COL violation for what, what did they violate?
Until parents stop this nonsense of the women get it all / the men get it all, the children will continue to suffer. GROW UP.
Awesome message. Fathers! Please educate yourselves about the laws and your rights as a parent. Your children need you weather she believes it or not. Every child would say YES! To having their father in their life unless they were thought to feel otherwise. Children 1st. 👍
Unless the father has abused them
God first
It is crazy that the mom is allowed to lie to get away with it. Telling young kids that the boyfriend is their dad now. It destroys fathers and is not in the best interest of the kids.
Politicians and judges always do what’s in their best interests. Not anyone else’s including kids.
That is an interesting statement. Why do you think a judge would make a ruling that is in the judge’s best interest instead of what the judge believes would be in the kids’ best interests?
Facts upon discovery. #Blessings vs Freestone
Wake-up smell the coffee and get a soul.
@@damonmoorepage how else do you explain the slew of judges giving custody to abusive parents, including those who have molested their children? Then punishing the safe parent for trying to protect the kids. I've even seen a judge order a safe parent to take the child to visitation with the parent in jail, who was in jail for abusing and molesting the child! It's all a giant money racket, nobody actually cares about the safety and best interests of children in family court.
@@s.cc.w do you know the name of the case and the state and county where the judge ordered the party to take the child to visit the parent in jail? I would like to learn more about that case.
@damonmoorepage The judicial retirement system... .66 cents on the dollar that states get from the federal government from child support...Texas alone rakes in over 100 billion a year from the feds with title IV-D...
“The opportunity to pay child support” 😂
😂 exactly. Opposite of what we want and need.
Custody Battles: It’s truly sad for the children that it has to come to this.
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I'm facing a manipulative and deceptive ex in a week in a temporary orders hearing. The questions regarding her parenting in a negative light really lifted some weight off my shoulders as I can answer yes to 85-90% of them.
Then you have to tell the story of her bad parenting in a way the judge will understand and care about.
I appreciate this video , I’m going through this right now . I’m quite thankful for the additional advice that I’ve not quite heard from my lawyer but I am sure he’s doing his best . Thank you
Don’t be sure he’s doing his best
If its a bar attorney then theyre fucking you, its in their contract with the bar to do so.
Thanks for the information, it definitely is well needed in a biased system when dealing with custody. I myself am in the midst of a custody battle of my 11-year-old daughter. It's been an uphill battle proving the man I am, which started in July 2022 and so far, I have been awarded temporary emergency custody (a victory in itself). I am absolutely positively the best parent of the 2 of us, providing a clean, stable, loving, nurturing, and positive environment for our amazing daughter. She went from an average A, B, and C student with her mother, not spending a minute investing into her education, to now A STRAIGHT A+ HONOR ROLL, PERFECT ATTENDANCE STUDENT every marking period, IN AP CLASSES, being with dad who makes education a top priority. She is beyond happy and prefers without a doubt to be with her daddy!!! It's simple, love on them, guide them, make them your priority, PROTECT them, motivate them, allow them to make mistakes and learn from them, talk to them, support them, and show them that you will always be there for them NO MATTER WHAT!!
So far, my BM and I have had a total of 4 court hearings, and I have won each and every one, by providing straight facts, documentation of everything, and showing beyond a reasonable doubt why I am the clear choice to raise our beautiful young Queen. In May of 2024 will be our final chapter and ruling. I'm not only doing this for my daughter's happiness and future, but for ALL men fighting this biased system. I wish all men in this situation, the peace, strength, and the mental & emotional toughness for victory. Do your homework, get yourself a competent and understanding lawyer if you can (money well spent), prepare, prepare, prepare, keep the faith, and STAY STRONG!! ✊🙏💪👨👧
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🙌🏽Salute to your heartfelt diligence and endurance 🎉
Keep going brother!!! I'm in prayer for you and your Queen!!
Very informative video and a true help. I'm going into court today and want to be prepared. The video did more than just that. Thank you, Damon!
@Damon...we should talk some time about how to fix this broken system. I mean "real talk, about real solutions"...I think you have it in you. Let's do a call or a zoom sometime.
They calling it winning. But it's not even a game. One parent just wants their child equally. The other refuses because of a grudge. It's chaos. Single mothers don't get it. What do you have to gain from denying your child their father? How would you feel if you were denied your dad. How would you feel if your son was denied his child or your grand child? You bitter mom's are your own poison
I dont think its always that black and white.
I am single mom and in the beginning if child costody.
To be honest,I pray my children have unconditionally loving dad,who deeply cares for their wellbeing,remembers their birthdays,supports their aspirations and needs.
But reality is that despite his wealth only thing he care about is ability to control not support.
For really "good enough dads" out there,I support your importance in cholds life.Specially after age 6.
But not all dads are goid enough,when it comes to show up and be there for their children.
What is “good enough”?
@@jonathanfennell6647”goid enough”
Bitter dads are much worse . Not every woman is upset abt a dad, y’all are insufferable, immature & unbearable, thats why you’re in court
@@chiobabe2180Nah ur upset that’s why there is more mothers than fathers.
U lie and sleep like bed renches
Thank you so much. I am so grateful there is advocacy for Father's in today's justice system. Thanks again
After my first marriage failed, the father and I split everything…time with our two daughters and financial responsibilities. He had 51% conservatorship and I was ok with that because he is a wonderful dad. The girls are grown and have children of their own. Today I am so incredibly thankful that we did not “bash” each other. The mistake I made was thinking that my 2nd husband would also have our only daughters best interest in mind. Wrong!! It’s been 4 years since our divorce and he has yet to assist financially or emotionally with our teenager. Unfortunately, it’s time to go to court to get our daughter what she deserves. Another problem is that he cannot hold a job due to substance abuse and recently got a DUI. His behavior with our daughter has scared her so bad that she no longer wants to visit him. He moved out of state right after the divorce. I could go on and on but I’m sure y’all get the picture. I totally agree with dad’s getting custody and it says a lot about a man to fight for his child in my eyes….as long as the child’s well-being is always put first.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Also thank you for supporting fathers.
My mother never got anything from my father and she never bothered him by using the abusive power of the family law courts.
@Mr Orange I mean we all have mental issues. But the thing about the medicine that’s a hell no. I would recommend getting CPS involved. And hopefully you record those conversations. This coming from a mom. I’m getting my ass kicked right now in court. Lol. But good luck to you
@Mr Orange damn. Even if not full custody maybe u can get weekends or something. Money definitely rules the court system. That sucks. Depending on the reason the judge crooked maybe u can request a new judge. There’s a video about that. 3 reasons to request new judge
If your a father don't count on getting full custody, that does not happen. Just hope that she does not prevent you from visitation, because all she has to say is the kids don't want to go, the kids are sick ( next week too) and your relationship ends with your children. It's that easy for her. The courts won't really care as long as your paying. Divorce with children is a bad deal for the father.
Yo that’s some real shit
Exactly what I am going through now. I have joint custody and she just don't let my child come and visit. Went to court twice and they did absolutely nothing.
@@ataye1 you really gotta have money w this custody stuff or the only thing might help is having a bum ass bm that’s not stable
First able, thank you so much for this useful information. My ex-wife became so careless since she got a new man and a new baby, that she forgot about my kids. Leading to our oldest son(not biological) to commit suicide. She was so happy with her new love life and made it hard me to give spend more time with my kids. Since she changed so much and she is psychologically hurting my princess and I’m so scared of having such a nightmare again, but I know Gos is just.
All I can add is, the most valuable thing you can ever give to your child is: YOUR TIME. Blessings!
The loss of a loved one is a difficult thing to overcome. I am hopeful that you have the support that you have needed to make it through the loss.
My son was born a year ago and have only seen him 5-6 times. And when he is with me he loves every minute. Falls asleep in my arms. Wakes up from a nap and almost cries till he sees me. She holds him over my head and doesnt let me know how hes doing other than saying "hes fine" when I ask. Ive done nothing but prepare for my child since day I knew she was pregnant. she attacked me while pregnant cause I wouldn't give her weed... I got protective order. She has kept him from me saying that I chose not to be involved because I had a protective order on her. She has used this child as a weapon against me from the start. Had a seizure while pregnant and refused to go get the baby checked out because she was afraid that she will lose her license. Had one seizure after he was born too, and she only knew about it because it was caught on the baby cam. She lied about her seizures to the mediator during mediation. She refuses to let me have any contact with his drs or the daycare where she sends him rather than to me. I feel so lost. I dont want my son to have a hard life like I did. All I want is chance to be there for him. Teach him. Be a father to him. Like I never had. I feel so lost right now. Just trying to hold on till court. Just keep hoping the judge will see her for what she is and what she has done. A child needs their father and shouldn't be used as a weapon against them.
Damn bro my baby's mother is fucked too. I broke up with her because she told me I should blow my brains out like my 14 year old niece. I still tried to work with her and say I'd live downstairs in the house I just purchased all of for us, and try too be room mates for 6 months. I had my kid 80% of the time when we were together, then she got a protective order because she was mad I broke up with her for her actions, and she used that too take the kid I raised on my own, and my dog, for 3 weeks. She has since medically neglected my son she is fucked
@@o.g.flightz5561 Courts need to stop blindly siding with the mothers. Some places are changing but many are still for the mother first. I understand courts want to force people to grow up and work together for sake of child but sometimes people just can't, and children are caught in middle and used as a tool to control manipulate and hurt the other parent. Which not only hurts the parent but can cause irreparable damage the child. And is definitely not in the best interest of the child.
Are you in a custody case? There are ways for a father to win, especially with some of the facts you described. Don't give up hope. I was in a similar position...I won custody.
@@FatherX2022 I won joint custody. Mother still being little weird at times. Luckily have court ordser to fall back on now. So she cant keep him anymore. However still few issues so may end up back in court. Thanks for urging me to fight.
@@dbl0douche353 I am glad that things have settled down a little bit for you and you see your kid more frequently. Does this mean you have 50/50 custody? Sometimes the other parent settles down and stops their bad behavior after the court order is finalized. But sometimes they don't. If the court order was final and you are in the next stage of life...then if you go back to court for nonsense because she is creating trouble, you might want to petition the court for a change of custody due to a change of circumstance...where you become the primary custodial parent if she is unable to coparent, or If she withholds custody, or if she creates so much drama that it has a negative psychological impact on the child, for example. But I do hope that both of you can settle into a stable routine and just raise your child. Congrats!!
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This is a great checklist of setting goals for your children. Great advice!
I have a custody case coming up in an hour. I just did a search on here and glad I found your video. I wrote down a lot of key talking points and I'm more prepared.
I have had my son for the past 2 years as his mom dropped him off and just has been out of the picture. Don't want to get into more details but I hope that I win for my son's sake as he deserves a great father like me.
This is fantastic and very helpful content Mr. Moore, you shed light and give hope to us self represented fathers who can’t afford an attorney. If you or someone would be able to discuss this, is a video and audio recording of my child, crying stating she doesn’t want to go with her mother because she is afraid of her admissible in a custody case? Thank you 🙏
Spoke to this brother for about 30 minutes...he listened and gave me advice that won my ccc. A year and a half later my childs mother is back for revenge...
I do agree that fathers have to prove they are great fathers and also that the mother is a bad parent, especially in a high conflict case. Otherwise, you leave your child's future to the whims of a judge that may be biased in favor of mothers... Or, in other words, a judge who is acting in the best interests of the mother instead of the best interests of the child.
I’ve been paying child support for more than 21 years my only child passed away over a year ago and I have only saw him 2 times. But I had to look for him for 5-10 at a time and when I find him and was able to talk to him for only minutes. And when I try to call back the same day. The phone is change or no longer in service then the hunt begins again for years. I have always wanted to be in my son life and I blame only myself because his mom wouldn’t let me even know where he is and also when my son passed away his mom didn’t tell me until 2 months after he had passed away and now im still paying rears for the time I was out of work but to her and her mother my son grandmother now if you or anyone can give me any information on what to do I truly appreciate it …
These type of women are horrible
Hope you're doing okay brotha
This is awesome! Thank you very very much. I've got a custody hearing in a week and I you've helped me get all my ducks in a row. Prove why I'm a good father and prove why my ex-wife isn't a good / responsible mother. I'm on it.
How did it go?
How did your hearing go?
Brooo howd it go??
@@ugrune4431 maybe he lost like I did. Ex wife yet still keeps me from our kids against court orders. Trying to file for her to be in contempt.
@@RaceAgnstTme im only 19 and gotta deal with this bro💀she cuts herself and says she wants to kill herself and then leaves her two daughters with me while she runs away wherever she goes at night they arent my responsibility yet im more of a parent to kids that arent mine, and she wants to keep our child thats going to be birthed in two months!! Shes crazy! Being a good person sucks sometimes man.
Why aren’t you the first video any of my searches for custody cases, I know this is for men but this is so informative for my case and answered many questions in the last minute searches on my case Monday . Can we still meet for a strategy session before my initial court date.. I needed you months ago lol.
Hello! I am happy to talk to you about your upcoming hearing.
@@damonmoorepage Please can you help me on my upcoming case
Thank you for such awsome insights. God bless you.
I appreciate your feedback.
21 year old father. They’re trying to keep him away from me. Saying I can’t do anything about it. Well I am, and I’m getting the right information
I salute you and your efforts. It sounds like they are trying to discourage you from playing the role that you want to play. Stay strong and understand that your best chances of achieving success will come when you are consistent and refuse to give up.
Thank you sir. There's some valuable and actionable (no pun intended) info here!
I live in Ontario. For child custody, there is a list of criteria the judges goes trough (Children’s Law Reform Act, s. 24(3)). The list is not complicated to understand and makes perfect sense.
The problem is for the most part, the father works more than the mother. Mother is in general more involved in the children's lives (doctor visits, extra curricular acivities, packing their lunch, etc...).
The judge goes trough the list of criteria examining facts after separation, but also (mostlý) before separation.
99.9% of parents are unaware of the list of criteria until they go to court. It makes sense the parent with higher income works more. It makes sense the parent with lower income sacrifices working hours to take care of the kids.
The bread winner, by working more, acted in the best interest of the family. And at the same time, was unknowingly hurting his/her divorce case that was to occur 2-5 years later.
There is some overlap between "best interest of the child after separation" and "best interest of the family before separation", but it is by no mean a perfect overlap.
The applicable laws change overnight after separation, and it's like "a new law" is applied retroactively.
You said one thing that really resonated with me in the U.S. People generally do not know the factors that are involved in a child custody case until they get to court. And at that point it is often too late for one of the parents to make any changes that will affect the outcome of the case.
Xavier, I agree judges get this wrong. BEFORE court...you had 2 parents in 1 home, splitting 2 roles...worker and homecare. But AFTER separation...you have 2 parents in 2 homes...and each parent has to do 2 jobs to manager their own home: work and homecare. Judges try to replicate the OLD structure, and just give custody to mother, the home care person. But the real question is: in this NEW world, which parent is better suited to have both roles, including working and caring for the child?
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The only thing of importance is to make the other parent look very bad assuming you are the father.
Advice from a retired lawyer from Denmark.
Excellent information and insight.
This is very helpful. Thank you
The most important thing any man should do before a custody case starts, is ask "what is the best thing for the child". Not for you. Not for the mother. What is the best thing for the child. Once you can answer that without bias, then you can start tackling the case. So many times we use our bitterness towards the mother to fuel our fight for the children. Also, try and use the term "time sharing" instead of "custody". You'll thank me.
Thank you! Very helpful
Excellent breakdown
Thank you for the Feedback!
Great video my brother. This has helped me extremely alot. Thank you
Thank you for sharing this will help a lot
Glad it was helpful!
Ty Kind Sir.
Wish me luck for this coming Friday please in Helsinki
Thank you for putting yourself out there and thank you for making this video.
I will really would love to have a one one talk about my case with you thank you for the information 🙏🙏🙏 blessing
My judge told me not to speak in the beginning of court and I never was able to defend or say anything court took an hour and I lost all my parental rights. In one hour . Mothers attorney talked for an hour which was all the time we had record at the end judge released her gavel and said I’m giving total personal custody and eliminating the fathers rights click. Fortunately my attorney was able to speak before she turned off the zoom camera and asked if the court investigator could be appointed. The judge agreed said that she would take the recommendation of the investigator and the hearing would be after the evaluation. Afterwards I talk to my lawyer about my civil rights wishing for me if I mentioned anything again about my civil rights she was gonna drop me as a client. I was very confused as I didn’t understand I thought lawyers were supposed to protect our rights I didn’t think about the amendments at all during family court until afterwards when I was looking up more and more information and how I lost all my parental rights over here say and the mother’s word. Judge Kirby is the most sexiest person I’ve ever met in my life it doesn’t hide it just puts it right out there you’re a guy you’re gonna lose. My lawyer was so afraid of what Judge Kirby was going to do to her that she dropped me because again I did mention my silver rights were trampled into the ground door and I was upset that she was ignoring it. My lawyer then dared me to represent myself because no one would represent me in civil court to recuse Kirby. The checklist to go over makes me a great father is my favorite thing in the . And now it’s gone it’s been one years now happens life is gone half the man I used to be the o🎉ne time I was proud happy go lucky person that believed in everybody in their heart. Now I think I live on some kind of weird dimension were hurting the earnestly, forthright lovingpeople as tolerated and evil, corrupt,
I won custody of 2 of my children. Im a man. Yes the judges are extremely sexually discriminative.
But I won because oen of my baby mama's was deported. Another, she had been in jail 3 times throughout our custody case. One of her bail amount was 95k. Enough for anyone to say, well that's alot of drugs on her.
Awesome good for you.
My ex just got a felony charge for getting caught with drugs will that help me get my son
Great video. About to start this process to have full custody of my daughter.
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Best of luck to you and your daughter. Are you sure you want to go for "full/sole" custody, and remove the mom from the child's life? Or do you really want "primary custody". If the mother abandoned your daughter, or she is a danger to the kid...I understand sole custody. But if not, you may risk the court thinking you are just being vengeful to the mother. Just something to think about. Every case is at least a little different.
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Thank you for this
I want my son but my ex said if we're not together then i cant be with him. I just don't wanna be around or deal with her explosive anger anymore. I'm praying i get custody
If she has explosive anger, that's a factor. For kids to be exposed to constant anger from a parent, it hurts the kid in the long run. Don't let the court minimize that factor.
@@FatherX2022I got full custody and me and my son relationship is going well. A lot of habits to break but I won. Thank god
Maybe the attorney can answer this question; Where is the father’s due process rights in family court? Since when is a court that can issue orders be allowed to withhold due process rights to father’s? Whatever happened to the right of a jury trial?
You have to see a real judge not a child support judge. They don't have jurisdiction to discipline custody. Learn your states family law code and learn your districts law on filing, etc.
first of all, good advice. second; it pisses me off that men have to go to this extent.
@@Pepper259 i guess everyone is entitled to their opinion. lmfao. yikes tho. so a baby grows in a sac in ur gut. its not magic.
its all about who stays in the child's primary residence. it is in the childs best interest to continue to live in his primary residence he grew up in. if the father leaves and gets his own place then mother will stay with kids in the house/apartment. and vice versa. it's all abgout the childs best interests and NOTHING else. esspecially not all the BS about god an whatnot. seperate church and state in your brain and think logically?
Iam a good father. I was married to my wife for 10 years and we have 2 kids together 4 and 9. She from Africa and I helped to bring all of her kids to America. All of them over 18. When all her kids (grown) got here they all kind of pushed me out. Now I can't even see my kids. DONT KNOW WHAT HAPPENED. Just want to know what to do cause it's so unfair
So it really don't matter if she is withholding your kids from you or anything. It only matters that she is taking care of the kids. Granted withholding them and acting irrational is not a way to when a case. But God forbid the father say or do anything, than he is screwed. How does any of that make sense
My son pays child support and he still can't see his daughter. He had to change jobs and he still can't see or talk to his daughter. What can he do? Please let me know so I can tell him.
I would like you to discuss a few things and I'm still a little confused Superior Wisconsin is giving me a very hard time and I live in Minnesota.
Can you give me any advice on the best interest standards you explained when it involves a young? A child unable to speak but showing signs of less than appropriate care or less than what would be given in the other parents home? A lot of the examples you gave make sense, but I don’t see how to apply them to a 2-3 year old. Preschool will start next year, the distance between homes is too far to support a 50/50 timeshare. “Best interest” standards per Florida statutes seem to lean heavily towards alienation or patterns of. However, it still doesn’t seem to really be the standard for legitimate, favorable rulings when I hear it discussed amongst attorneys, both local and nationwide .
Call CPS. They can investigate. If that goes well and they prove the kid not taken care of. Then you have your kid. If not. Maybe it’s not that bad. My daughters father call CPS a few times. But every time they file the claim was false. But I’m actually a good mom. I have legal custody of my niece. For the last seven years. And with that they gave her parents two years to get their shit together. But they did it. Which became full legal custody instead of temporary.Good luck to you
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Our system is broken... it shouldn't be this hard to be a father. It's blatantly obvious if you compare any lawyers advice to mom vs. dad. God help us all!
Very informative, thank you
Thank you brother
Things must change
Quick question
The father of my kids is an excellent dad.
I lost my job and I had to apply for food stamps.
They immediately went after him for child support and I was only on the assistance for two months. How do I stop this? I feel so bad.
I only received $300 in total and the fact that the child support money won’t even go to my kid
It’s ridiculous
So pretty much a parent fathers/mothers have to witness their kids in danger by the other parent to prove that the other parent aren’t fit for the kids while some parents try to protect their kids and cps doesn’t care what the safe parent says
My kids mother took our son to a bar at 1 o'clock in the morning and superior Wisconsin cps is involved I live in Minnesota I have to go through the same treatments that she did for doing that and I have my other children and I feel like they're violating my rights and it's hard for me to find the attorney let alone afford one...
Children do need their mother, especially the early years but they look need their father. The cost on the Children and parent's when being alienated from a loving parent is heart breaking.
Those are good points! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Do they? What is a mother? What is a woman? Is there any scientific evidence that having a vagina makes for better parenting opposed having a penis?
@@nasaihyana lol, having a vag is essential in giving birth. Being a female is a developmental occurrence. Starts at conception and involves the very strands of DNA that make up a women. Don't buy into the cult of self identification. It isn't based in thought rather ideology.
Yeah besides the freakin obvious, children need both parents to really flourish, it is statistics.
Let’s be honest, the courts need child support from title 4D to stay in business. Granting men custody would sever that money stream.
This is exactly it. Every mother I know that was placed on child support ran and doesn't pay. Every father I know that was pays in hopes to see his kids. People will never see the truth about it though until they are in the system
Title IV-D = Corruption
I got custody of my son, three months ago. Best advice I can give….when they go low, you go high. The truth will come out.
I would like to hear more about your story if you are willing to share more information. How did she try to go low? And how did you go high?
What does that mean?
@@damonmoorepage Sir,
For starters, I was always on time with child support, I talked to my son daily over the phone and through FaceTime. I always exercised my visitation, unless I was on a business trip. I coached his soccer teams, taught him how to ride his bike, taught him how to swim, managed his grades, etc…I’ve always been very involved with him. I’m also in the military, so I move every 3 to 4 years.
My ex-wife did everything in her power to keep my son away from me. When she moved to another state without consulting me at all, I asked if he could fly on the un-accompanied minors program, and she refused. Our initial case was pushed until the day before his Christmas Break, so I ended up having to drive from Virginia to Texas and back to get my six days with him, as their were no available tickets anywhere. He was 10 at the time.
When I opened a case to modify our parenting plan, which would have allowed him to fly un-accompanied, her and her lawyer pushed the hearing four times, which resulted in me not getting my summer vacation time with him (I lived in Hawaii and would have had to fly from Hawaii, to Texas, back to Hawaii, and then I’d have had to fly back with him to Texas). The judge ruled in my favor. She then tried to fight me in court to prevent me from getting 42 days of summer vacation (she only wanted me to get 30), the judge ruled in my favor.
She constantly bad mouthed me to my son, calling me a “narcissist” and an “evil person” all because I wanted my time with my son. I only found out because he asked me “Dad, what’s a narcissist, because that’s what mom said you are”. When I found out that she was dating and had moved a felon who was actively on parole for several counts of DV into her home, she took my son’s phone away and filed a motion to get more child support from me…like why would you do that? My son ended up calling me from school on his passing periods because he wanted to talk. I ended up taking her to court over it and the judge made me the custodial parent. He now lives with me, at 13.
All I’ve ever wanted was my time and I shouldn’t have had to fight in court for over five years to get it. I could see if I was a deadbeat and I just came out of nowhere, but since the day my son was born, I have been involved in his life in every capacity. I didn’t even ask the judge that she pay child support, because I don’t need her money.
People complain all the time when the father or mother are deadbeats…but I was an involved father. What more could anyone have asked for? Take the high road and don’t play dirty. It isn’t about us, it’s about our son. The only time she gets mentioned in my home is when I tell him to call her.
This is exactly what I needed to hear
This is not just for Dads. This is for either parent who is fighting for their kid’s best interest.
Sure but, mom the is default, even in the most liberal states. It takes a bad mom and great dad for a judge to rule any different. That's why this video is exists.
Or you can be in a liberal state like mine where the default is 50/50 so judges don’t look old fashioned or get overturned. And all he has to say is “I’m a good dad” no matter what he actually does or doesn’t do
Stepfather here looking for advice of what I need to help my case to see my stepdaughter of 5y, been there since her birth.
I am going through all this now. She wanted to do verbal agreement out side of the court system but refused to sign anything to guarantee which days i have my son and which days she has him. She has been off her ssri since being discharged from hosipital, and she has sent me messages stating if i wasnt home at a certain time or left work early that she would just leave my 5 month old son by himself because she needed a break. I hired an attorney due to only a week after we split, she was threating to call the police and put kidnapping charges on me. All i did was take my son to my moms to see them.
That sounds like a challenging situation! Have you been pleased with the work that your attorney has done so far?
Guys and fathers ,
Judges are lawyers . They don’t give a damm about child or best interest .
Their only interest is to get their colleagues (lawyers ) more business .
That’s why men become visitors to their own children.
If men started getting custody easily then how will divorce lawyers survive ?
Whenever any state tries to pass the law for equal custody, lawyers and bar association are the first to oppose it .
Be wise . 1 custody battle provides salary to at least 2 lawyers.
Fathers , next time you vote, ask the congressman or representative if he will support the law of presumptive equal custody .
This is the only way and KY has done it.
Else fathers will be just visitors for their children an still end up making their ex rich .
I agree with what you said about a presumption of equal custody. I might make a video about that one day.
I disagree with what you said about judges trying to help lawyers get more business. Judges do not care about getting lawyers more business. Judges care about two things: (1) making a ruling that the judge can live with and (2) getting the case off the judge’s docket so that the judge can address the next case.
There are primarily two instances in which a judge will do something that helps a lawyer’s business. First, when a lawyer files a motion to withdraw from the case, a judge will often grant that motion even though the judge does not have to grant that motion. Second, at the end of a case a judge might order that the losing party pay the winning party’s attorney fees.
Finally, you said: “If men started getting custody easily then how would divorce lawyers survive?” I am inferring that you think divorce lawyers would be harmed by men having an easier time getting custody. You would be mistaken if that is your belief. If men could get custody as easily as women, then the custody fights would be even more intense (and profitable for lawyers) because men would put up more of a fight. Right now, a lot of men give up because they don’t believe the system will give them a fair shake.
Then again who knows…Perhaps more people would stay together. Right now I think women are more inclined to walk away from a relationship because they know they are likely to be awarded the children, the house, and child support when they go.
@@damonmoorepage you said, "If men could get custody as easily as women, then the custody fights would be even more intense". Not sure that's true. If 50/50 custody was the starting point, less women would go to court, because they wouldn't have an advantage. More men would go to court. BUT...there likely would be less acrimony because each person isn't fighting for primary custody plus giant child support awards. If both parents knew it was extremely hard to go from 50% to 80% custody, they would likely settle for 50% and walk away. No? We'd also have to revamp the child support calculations so that it's not such a large profit for the custodial parent. (Generally, if the non-custodial makes > $50k, the custodial is making a profit on child support...based on the math + reality of raising a child.)
Hello I’m going thru this now. And I have in person court soon. I filed for full custody because the mother is not doing her part. And we both have 50/50 custody but she don’t pick them up and moved to another state. Do I need a lawyer or can I represent myself in court.
I just represented myself in a custody battle but I’m fighting against an Aunt since biological mother passed and I actually didn’t have to say much. Judge had already read everything so when the GAL went up there she was totally biased and the judge read right through her BS. I would also say that I had a 55 year old make judge if that helped at all.
Has the mother abandoned the child...and left the state?
my ex is pregnant now and has 1 conviction of kidnapping child and a felony child kidnapping for taking child out of state. would that help me get full custody when my daughter is born she pretty much abandoned them. she thinks the father grandma is out to get her
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My babe mama left me with my son when he was 2yrs and dated a different man who’s well to do with and had a babe for him, right from age two I have been playing my responsibilities as a father, providing for my son and he now 8 years. She recently called wanting to come pick up the boy because she says she wanna play her motherly role. 6yrs she’s been outta our life just walk in to say she wanna live with my son
Damm I'm almost In your shoes. My babies mama left him at 7 months with Me. And never called to see how was the baby nor anything. Until she was served now she wants to play the mother role. I been fighting for custody but it is hard since he is now 11 months old.
I'm a man and I won custody of my son so men can win. I just sucked up to the judge, addressed him as Sir, etc. My son's mother was actually a good mother but I took custody from her as a punishment for the relationship ending haha. the judge just decides which parent they like and which parent to punish and sucking up will help
haha you evil but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do for your kids
did you have a lawyer?
Mother's do that shit all the time...
I can only encourage you to visit Michigan and the friend of the court in Michigan. Men walk in guilty until proven innocent and the only thing enforced is the money that comes out of their check each week. Mother can violate the court order for visitation the day after the judge signs an order. Father calls the police to ask for a police officer to escort him to the agreed upon pick up destination and the agreed upon time and they will be told that it is a civil matter and that they will have to go back to court. Miss a few child support payments and that same officer who was unwilling to escort you to pick your child up will wind up at your front door with a pair of handcuffs ready to take you away for noncompliance.
I agree with the notion that the system comes down harder on people who violate child support orders than it comes down on people who violate visitation orders. However, the court will give you some relief if the mother is violating the visitation orders. the key is to be persistent. When the mother denies visitation, you have to file a motion for enforcement and force the court to hear the case. The judge is likely to give the mother a slap on the wrist the first time. So you will may have to file another motion for enforcement as soon as the mother violates the orders a second time. Eventually, the judge's punishments will get progressively worse. (Note: in some states, the parent who violated the orders will be ordered to pay the attorney fees of the innocent parent if you can prove that the wrongdoer violated the court orders.) The reason that more fathers are not able to take advantage of the laws that apply to mothers who deny possession is that a lot of fathers do not consistently take the mother to court when she violates the orders.
@@damonmoorepage I appreciate you taking the time to respond. My emphasis in my comment is on nonenforcement of parenting time. Mother can flake out at her discretion with virtually zero consequence while fathers paycheck is hit religiously regardless of his current situation. The entire system is slanted in favor of the woman. The court does no follow up on if child support is going to the children nor does it care. Even in reading your response the burden being on the father to take more time and money and go back into the meat grinder seems wrong. The bottom line is if they have the authority to get into my pay check they should also be obligated to enforce the visitation they "granted".
Virginia has a "10 factors" checklist that goes along with motions for discovery
What about a mother or her family members not stopping her one year old from drinking out of everyone's alcoholic beverages not once but repeatedly, then have enough nerve to say "it won't hurt her and my mom let me drink when I was two and I been drinking every sense"
It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝
Thanks for this video..it's definitely an eye opener...is it though a good idea for the father to make damaging and false accusations about the mother just to make her look bad in front of the judge? What are the consequences if he cannot prove his allegations?
You said: "Is it though a good idea for the father to make damaging and false accusations about the mother just to make her look bad in front of the judge? What are the consequences if he cannot prove his allegations?" I would never advise a person to make "damaging and false accusations about" anyone. True accusations are fair game. False accusations are wrong. As to what happens if he cannot prove his allegations, I would say it depends on the situation. Judges assume that the parties are going to have differing opinions about just about everything in a custody dispute. Although I cannot say this with certainty, I believe judges believe that some people lie in the courtroom in order to cast a person in a negative light. To combat dishonesty, you should try to use the discovery process to get a sense for what a person is going to say before they say it in court. That way, you can be prepared for the allegations that they make. For more details about that, you are going to have to schedule a consultation!
@@damonmoorepage Thank you for your time and input.. My spouse and I retained lawyers over a year ago... we are going through forensic evaluation due to his false allegation, hence my first message. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, knowledge, and advice..I look forward to watching more of your videos!
If I could give my lawyer a zero, I would. He's inexperienced, and he did barely the bare minimum for the 3,000 dollars I paid him!, dont believe those reviews and awards on lawyer website, he got his retain fee and left. I hired lawyer in June 2022 to fight my child modification case, and then what he said was an easy win since the other party abandoned the child for almost 4 years and guaranteed me a victory. lawyer through his email, court documents, and writing, sounded like he was a good lawyer that's fighting hard, but sadly, through writing that's were his zeal stopped. Court day came in August, and he was a deer caught in the headlights before the judge. The judge would ask me a question, and I would reply, lawyer, what do you think? Lawyer was quiet and seemed he didn't know what to say, literally being bullied by the judge. As the judge determined, I and the other party needed mediation, which I looked at lawyer like how are you not fighting for my concerns. After the hearing was over I spoke to lawyer on the phone as he charged me money for it, he told me "that wasn't the outcome he didn't think we would happen" but im like you was a deer in a headlights. A month later, in September, during the mediation again! lawyer balantly sat there and again I was like lawyer are you going to say something? he utter well she should do reunification therapy, I sat there and was like I sought full custody and the other party is still getting their rights!.... after the mediation lawyer said and I quote said to me "this is the outcome we wanted right" No you told me and assured me a victory and since it's "not going to plan" as you said you're folding. In my last verbal conversation, lawyer told Im glad we settled since if we go back to court, it's going to be more expensive, and I quote he spoke, "Good luck." Good luck, lawyer? leading me to believe after he saw the retaining fee has been used up, he's out now. lawyer thought this was a walk in the park type of money child case. Fast forward to November of 2022, I fired lawyer and the response was he was satisfied with our results. Im like, really, what did you accomplish other than reunification therapy? So lawyer worked for me about 5 to 6 months before I fired him, so afterwards, I filed in December 2022 to change counties and venue's since I mentioned to lawyer that Ramsey county shows favoritism and let's move to Hennepin so I could have a fair outcome he said let's see how Ramsey judge will go. December 2022 court date came I won on my own change of venue which Lawyer couldn't do when he worked for me.... In January 2023, I sought child support since lawyer refused to put the individual on child support, so I won that as well without lawyer....fast forward I reapplied for full custody in Hennepin county on February 2023 and court date was set for May and guess what I won sole legal and physical custody on my own without the lawyer the same amount of time I hired him it took me as well the 5 to 6 months on my own and won!!! ....Im a single father, and I beat the odds with very little legal help to all you fathers and some mothers trust in God and his son Jesus for these battles! I won with the Lord's help! I would never recommend that Law firm period!!! now me and my house are moving the hell out of state 🫡✌️after 5 years of fighting.... At least refund my 3000 grand retainer fee for the bare minimum ass job 😑
Unless you are wealthy, you are screwed if you are the father. When I divorced by narcissistic ex-wife, I became the ex-father. Your children get twisted, manipulated, and alienated from you…..completely weaponized. The courts don’t care. Unless you can afford to hire an expert on parental alienation, the courts are gonna miss it, trust me. The children get completely brainwashed and objectified by a toxic mother who is a master manipulator and is engaging in coercive control over their ex-partner, which is a form of domestic violence no one talks about. “You left me so I am going to control you and make you suffer by keeping the kids from you. I will not let them love you”. It’s a tragedy and the children, who are forced to choose between their mother or their father, are punished. After 10 years of police investigations, false child abuse allegations, family services investigations, depositions, court hearings, mediators, guardian ad litems, quibbling over custody agreements, forced interviews with therapists that only get one side of the story, I finally gave up. I had a choice…..keep fighting and have my kids get punished more for trying to have a relationship with me or walk away and hope that when they are adults that they will want to see me. Pick my poison. Hardest decision I ever had to make in my life but I did it for them. It burns AND I still have to pay child support for children my ex-wife will not allow me to see. Fathers do not have a fair shake within family courts and abusive mothers are not talked about or held accountable. Enough. If you are a father and you have been through this….speak up. It’s time to bring the darkness into the light.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. One thing that you said deserves some discussion. If you have the ability to hire an expert, then you significantly increase the likelihood that you achieve the outcome that you want in the courtroom.
@@damonmoorepage That’s the problem, there we only a handful of experts on parental alienation and most of us aren’t rich. They aren’t cheap. The other issue is that parental alienation in these scenarios is usually perpetrated by a narcissistic or psychopathic mother. The experts on parental alienation corroborate this and state clearly that therapists, judges, psychologists, and lawyers who are not trained to identify this sort of abuse will miss it. In fact, they will view the clinging of the children to their abusive mother and rejection of the other parent (normal response for a traumatized child that has been brainwashed) is “normal” and proof that the father is the abuser. Abused children tend to protect or cling to their abuser. It’s tantamount to “Stockholm Syndrome” where kidnapped persons will begin to bond with and identify with their kidnappers to survive.
Sigma...I get it. I totally get it. I went thru similar things...not exactly the same. But I understand your dilemma and your choice. I could see that was one path my life could have taken. I am sorry it ended that way for you. If you are lucky...maybe your kids will come to you when they are 13...and not 18....maybe. but I understand that's not a real consolation...because why can't you see them NOW, right?
Brother, I'm going through this right now! It's so heart wrenching and I feel very much alone. Paying through the nose for an attorney, but they don't care either. Impossible to get anyone not familiar with her to understand. Even her sister is on my side, but it won't matter. The kids are growing and are obviously being coached and manipulated. Horrifying nightmare.
I am in the middle of a custody in which my Atorney withdraw due to my disagreeing with his negative tactics to continue to flame a fire of negativity. I am a father that already has joint custody of my daughter in which I sought a modification due to my child’s mother trying to leave the state to be with her then boyfriend, she has disobedied the court order numerous times and even withheld custody several times, even failed to submit documents for the “notice to produce” Darma. In which she was held in contempt of court. I am nervous about going to trial without an Atorney but none the less I have been informed numerous of times that the documents that have already been submitted show proof of all wrong doing on her behalf. But the guardian ad lightm that is on the case has recommend that custody stay the same with the additional of a medium between mom and I to make final decisions. Should I be concerned or as nervous as I feel right now?
My Son and Myself are fighting for Custody of My Grandson right now.... We just found out about him in March of this year.... He's Four!!!!She reached out because she wanted Child Support ! After DNA was established... And the amount was agreed for biweekly payments... She has become distant not available.. not answering her phone for Us to communicate with my Grandson... Can you help Us with any and All Recommendations Thanks in Advance
If she has been cheating and getting money from "sugar Daddy's" does that constitute a bad influence? Also if she is staying with her parents with sub par hygiene and bed time routines with her younger siblings and CPS has been called multiple times to her parents home about her siblings. Does this also constitute a bad living environment?
Also if I have been taking care of her while she is pregnant, scheduling doctors appointments, getting prenatal vitamins and trying to ensure good health during pregnancy, does that help my case as an involved father?
For context I have an unborn child but the mother is really doing some shady things and talking about leaving me to take our child and I really want to prepare myself
What state are you in?
I’m a father of two little girls. I would love nothing more but full custody of both of them. But I feel that unfortunately women have been so overly powered when it comes to this. When I see my girls and they run to me hold me I am in my own little world of perfection and happiness but when they go back I am broken each week.
Mental evaluation and compatability b4 marriage is very vital than love
You may be correct. Unfortunately, most people already believe they are both sane and compatible by the time the wedding day arrives. Once the parties agree to be married, talking them out of it by showing that they are not compatible is not likely to happen.
What can a father do about seeing his daughter if he can't afford to get a lawyer?
It’s tough as a single dad but there is a way through, I promise. I talk about my own struggles on my channel if you think it’ll help you. Keep your head up and fight. 🤝
How you doing brother I have a few questions what would be the best way to get in contact ? Thank you for your time
Hello...In the description section of the video, you should see a link that you can use to schedule a phone call with me.
My son's mom abandoned him the day after his first birthday. A year later she drug me to court 4 counties away with a legal aid lawyer just to get visitation rights. Over this past year, she has came to see him one single time, because her mother made her. Now I have a court hearing in the morning, where her lawyer is asking for joint conservatorship, but SHE gets to decide where my son will live, and I will have to pay child support. This is incredibly stupid. For over 3 years I have supported this boy completely on my own, and she has seen him about 4 times. How is this even right? I'm actually worried about losing. We celebrated his 4th birthday yesterday and we didn't hear from her at all.
What state are you in?
Texas
@@damonmoorepage thank you so much for responding
Not sure if you can but I live in NY and have private insurance for my daughter. I have joint legal custody. The mom wants me to cancel my insurance for her so she can apply for child health plus which would cover more. I feel by doing this, it would hurt me in the eyes of the support collections unit bc my income is nowhere near the poverty line. If you can let me know your thoughts it would be greatly appreciated. Great video!
Don't, it's not going to help you or the children at all.
Play the Shinning NIGHT Judges.......its amazing what men have to go through.
Do you discuss just getting visitation when mother is preventing it?
Thank you so much.