Healthy parents teach their children independence and self-reliance. But alienating parents foster dependency and vulnerability in their children. Alienators need to be needed. Healthy parents love their children more than they need their children. But alienators need their children more than they love their children. In younger children alienators sow seeds of fear. In older children they sow seeds of hatred. This ensures the child's undivided love. Healthy parents teach a child that the world is full of imperfect people who sometimes make mistakes and sometimes disappoint us. But alienators teach a child to see the world in black and white; people are either all-good or all-bad. Any real mistakes an "all-bad" person makes become the entirety of who they are. Alienators are masters of manipulation, and there are two main subtypes. Alienators with narcissistic traits (mostly men) are control freaks. They see themselves as perfect and anyone who dares to oppose them as inferior. They speak with charisma and conviction. Alienators with borderline traits (mostly women) are sympathy freaks. They see themselves as victims and anyone who dares to oppose them as abusers. They speak with passion and drama. Regardless of the subtype, alienators are very convincing. Most people are duped. And by most people I mean friends, family members, teachers, coaches, counselors, custody evaluators, guardians ad litem, and, of course, their own children. The end result of all this manipulation is that the child aligns themself almost completely with the alienating parent. There are many reasons for this, and comparisons have been made to Stockholm syndrome/trauma bonding, but I believe a better analogy is that of cults. Whenever the child agrees with, or sympathizes with, or shows devotion to the alienator, then the alienator lavishes them with affection and makes them feel like a million dollars. But if the child ever falters in their devotion, then the alienator responds with the opposite extreme. This is exactly how cult leaders are able to manipulate adults over a period of months. Now imagine a vulnerable child, who has no escape, being conditioned like this their entire life. The psychopathology underlying parental alienation has been referred to as pathological enmeshment, since the child's personality is basically subsumed by that of the alienator. It has also been called the gatekeeper phenomenon, since the alienator becomes the gatekeeper of the child's heart and mind. Whatever the alienator likes, the child reflexively likes; whatever the alienator hates, the child reflexively hates. All of this happens long before the divorce, long before the actual alienation. And then, at the time of divorce, when the alienator feels rejected by their spouse, and the alienator fears they might lose the undivided devotion of their children, the actual alienation takes place surprisingly quickly. The gatekeeper simply closes the gate. This is also why the mental health and legal professionals often get parental alienation cases wrong. They cannot imagine why a child would suddenly reject a normal, loving parent. They fail to recognize that what looks like a warm, close relationship between the child and the favored parent is actually a longstanding form of co-dependency. It's a folie à deux. It's emotional incest. "Just listen to my child!" the alienator cries to the court. "They'll tell you how inferior/abusive the other parent is!" But it is no longer the child who speaks. Alienated children grow up hating half of who they are. They are prone to a host of psychosocial problems later in life. This is why Parental Alienation is NOT a child custody issue. It's a child PROTECTION issue.
I profoundly disagree about mostly men that alienated their children. It's obvious in this video that women can be nefarious. I have dealt/ dealing with a narcissistic parental alienation ex. I have worked her out and by God I hope my children do too . Courts cost money, I am spent emotionally, financially, spiritually and mentally. Everything else you have said, "100% spot on the mark ".
@@martinspalding1662 man I feel your pain brother , trust me, I can relate to everything you said . I deal with the same thing and yeah the courts will drain you and leave you bankrupt. The sad part about it all is it shouldn’t be that way but it is and it’s all for profit , the state government and private law firms. Children are used as commercial instruments to profit off of and the women are incentivized to behave poorly ; because the know they can run to the government and they will be protected and allowed to do as they please with your offspring.
equality is not apart of our system. It discriminates in terms of gender and race on a daily basis. She should have gotten 1 day in jail for everyday that the father and child didnt see each other.
Did I not understand what the judge said correctly?? Because I calculated it to be 90 days over the course of 6 years. Which I agree it’s definitely a slap on the wrist and she deserves much more than that. But I’m just checking to see if I understood the time spent in jail correct or not
@@robertyanes4751 If she does it again, it will be far worse for her next time, and easier to prove too as she has a history of it. My heart breaks for this father, and his children
No where near 6 years, there are 365 days a year and the judge clearly said she had kidnapped them for 944 days, that makes it just a little over 2 and a half years. Not that, that makes it much better, but no need to exaggerate.
The true punishment for her is: She has no family anymore. And as J. C. pointed out: This is a family court. The judge didn't have the jurisdiction to impose higher sentences... But I bet, she would have, if she could.
@@jenshaw8085 Um, >NOPE! wo-MEN initiate 85% of divorce, wo-MEN have SEVEN TIMES more sexual partners than a MAN, by the age of 24, wo-MEN perpetrate 83% of child abuse, wo-MEN perpetrate TWICE as many child murders as MEN, and it is MOSTLY >wo-MEN who deny MEN axcess to their child, NOT MEN! Same with FALSE accusations, >mostly >wo-MEN who do this. Sorry, NOPE, YES it >IS a GENDER issue, mostly caused by>wo-MEN
Thats what my mom should have thought about before almost killing me as a child cause of munchausen by proxy. Now im an adult and both her and her wallet are not enjoying my court case against her il tell u that!!! 😂
Yeah if the child survives long enough. My son never got that chance. My son died Dec. 2nd 2017 from having a syringe shoved down his throat while in his mothers care. My son was 2 and a half years old.
@@thomasbushman6442 omg that is absolutely horrendous!!! I am so sorry for both you and your son having to go thru that. Just because someone is a woman doesnt mean they should be a mother, i strongly believe EVERYONE should have a psych evaluation before they are able to have and raise a child for the childs safety and it shocks me there still isnt something like that in place as a precaution. Sending love and healing prayers your way♥
It is regarded as literal child abuse. As I tell people, I listened to my mother run down my father every chance she got (they stayed together for reasons only satan knows), and all it did was make me feel closer to him and more alienated from her. So to my bf's ex, "Keep up the good work, b."
@@anitabonghit2758 exactly my man is dealing with this right now. He just filed contempt of court paperwork against both his son's moms. I let my ex see my kid every weekend. Parental alienation is evil. I wanna punch certain mother's in their faces for this. I wanna murder my boyfriend's exes.
No it’s not. If the mother makes a claim, it should be investigated. However, when they file false DV cases, the men roll over & say: ‘that’s my child’s mother & I don’t want to stress her anymore’. Notice she tried physical abuse, but was proven a liar. However, the Courts let the female maintain custody (the child will be irrevocably traumatized if they change school or daycare FOH) & this 💩 takes YEARS FOR TO MAKE HIM GIVE UP! They’ll fast track ANYTHING she wants though. It’s JUDICIAL OVERREACH
@@darylrichardson8567 you'll be alright bud. I totally had a different experience with my case. My child was removed due to a false claim the father made. He was irreversibly traumatized by going from my care to his father's care. It took 9 months for a custody evaluation to be done and in that time my son suffered intense psychological, verbal and mental abuse. When I did get my son back into my care and the father was appropriately charged for his tall tale bullshit and he was required to pay back all the state benefits he stole while he had temporary custody, justice was served for me. But it does not only happen to men when females claim DV. It happens in reverse too.
@@darylrichardson8567 "that's my child's mother and I don't want to stress her anymore" 😂 I wish. My ex railroaded me and buried me to the best of his ability. I paid over 100k in court costs. NOTHING about my case was fast tracked. The whole thing took 3 years, 9 months and 2 weeks. Luckily they gave me my son back after the first 9ish months but the damage was done.
Not that hard. A tell-tell sign is when kids can’t tell you any details about what their parent is doing to them that is so bad. They can usually tell you why they hate the parent and they can usually tell you how they feel but they almost always struggle with providing any details that led to those feelings. Usually when you ask them enough questions, they’re unable to really describe anything. Or when they do describe it, it doesn’t sound like something that should warrant such a dramatic and emotional reaction.
In the wild mother animals kill their child if they are in trouble to save themselves so you can see that the evolutionary system is such that mother's will hurt their children for their self gain
Don’t worry about my grammar, worry about those kids being punished for something that’s no fault of their own. Go troll somebody else cause I’m not the one. However , if you want to do this I most definitely have time for your shit.
Mothers are not the only ones that do this stuff. My ex-boyfriend has not let me have my son in 1.5 years and only allows me to video chat 3 times a week. If they do answer on those days, they always have my son distracted. He lives states away.
My mum tried it I felt bad for my dad atfirst but after I saw how he was to me and my brother I didn’t feel any remorse for him she did it out of selfish reasons but I couldn’t imagine going sooner to my dads
Dads do it too. I think studies show it is almost equal. Many times stepparents play a big role in this also. My ex husband is a narcissist and has tried to do this, luckily I had a great attorney and custody evaluator who were able to show the judge what was really going on. He was a master at the smear campaign but when it came down to it, people figured it out. It cost me about $80k to fight his lies, but my child is worth it. This is so sick.
Dads don't usually get a whole lot of respect in family court so this was refreshing to see. What a horrible woman to do that to her family out of spite.
Alicia Green. Agreed. The mother was pure evil and a waste of a human life. I hope her children have a bright future knowing their father loves them and they don't have to deal with her again
Tons of women do this to men, there is literally millions of these cases. I've never heard of a man doing it to a woman before though. Not saying it doesn't happen, but I've never heard of it.
MN state law mandates credit for time served (Minn. R. Crim. P. 27.03, subd 4(b)) This is intended to incentivize the government to ensure a speedy trial, and that poor defendants who can't afford bail don't get effectively harsher sentences.
My ex-wife hid our son from me for almost 9 years; he was 5 when I last saw him, and the next time she allowed me to see him (via a court order under threat of jail), he was an unrecognizable teenager of 14. The expression in his eyes when I first saw him again was unmistakable to everyone observing; "Why?" That was 20 years ago, and even though we have tried to heal our relationship, we are strangers and most likely always will be.
my ex has ran off with my children as we speak, they had lived with me for the last 5 months she came to visit them 5 times for 20 mins a time then she turned up said "the girls are coming home with me now" she took them and ran away in the middle of the night
@@paulinthailand If "she took them and ran away in the middle of the night," inferring stealth, how was she able to say: "the girls are coming home with me now," or am I misunderstanding your statement?
My son turned 5 last week. His mother had pretended to be afraid of me and had refused to let me see him. I've been terminally ill since he was born. The pain had been unbearable. Now today I go to court because the mother wants to change his last name to hers. Please pray for me and him, and even her.
My ex did the same thing to me. I didn’t see my son for a very long time and I had to fight for him and won. I have my son five days a week and now she’s a weekend mom.
That evil woman got off light. The damage caused by parental alienation will last those kids a lifetime. As for dad, my heart breaks for him. All that time lost, all that misery. I've worn his shoes.
I did a deep dive into this case after seeing this video. I am horrified by the mother and her gang of conspirators. Including her family attorney and friends. Her family attorney had her license suspended for at least 60 days and her crazy friend went to jail for 6 months. The Fox reporter and station never apologized. It’s scary how this so called mother was able to manipulate people. That so called boyfriend should run.
What was the family attorney doing to be considered a conspirator? (I realise this is two years old comment, but I want to know what sort of line was crossed from "a lawyer on your side in law" and "a lawyer on your side illegally"
@@jamesyoung187I grew up with two older sisters, 4 and 5 years older respectively, they’re the primary reason I can’t trust women enough to be in long term stable relationships as an adult After 16 years of it, you see all the sneaky shit women do and you learn it whilst they’re at their absolute worst, when they’re teenagers
Why wouldn't the Fox journalist be sued? I need to do a deep dive too it seems, first time I'm hearing about this case.. I had a similar upbringing with mommy dearest messing with my head, terrible and still impacts me decades later. Poor man and children. That bi@tch should get a lifetime restraining order.
It's so unfortunate that malignant narcissists can, & often DO quite successfully FOOL & MANIPULATE a large group of people to join them in their quest to destroy an innocent person, couple, or group of people. My husband & I have experienced this in our family. It profoundly shatters relationships & families. Ultimately, God will deal with people who have purposely caused such pervasive destruction.
Crucible777 I feel you I have a son that his father kept from me years and until this day I’m still looking for him and he is 22 now he joined the army but still I can’t find him. 😭😭😭😭😭😭this hurts my heart ❤️ I did nothing wrong to deserve this!
A ridiculously short sentence for a serious offense. I cannot begin to understand why this judge didn't impose a longer incarceration period. Another slap in this father's face, as well as the children's. UNBELIEVABLE!
My mum did a number on alienating my 4 siblings and I from our dad. When I was in my late teens, I reached out to my dad. I needed to know if all she said was truth or lies. His side of the story was completely different. Everything, from trying to fight for visitation and custody of us. To what happened to Christmas, Birthday presents he had sent. letters, pictures etc..., It took a few years of hard emotions to sort through it all from all 3 sides of this. My mum's, my dad and my own. My siblings, they will have to find their own truth in this mess. I finally made peace with my dad and was rebuilding what was destroyed and lost. 2 years later he died of a stroke. I thank Lord JESUS for the time to make amends and to find peace through forgiveness. I will cherish the last years of his life as my dad.
@@esmooth300 jesus christ dude. Let go of the anger. Men behave badly, women behave badly. The human race is selfish and fickle and hedonistic. Hating all or most women isn't going to make life easier though, it's just going to fuck up your interactions with 50% of your surrounding population.
My cousin documented everything for 2 years. Calls , text messages, all times he couldn’t see his 3 boys. He sold his classic car, hired a good attorney got custody of his kids, his other child mother left him. He has 4 boys and doing great. Sad what parents do to their children.
Yay!! Finally! My sweet husband lost 10 years with his children from alienation & permanently lost his eldest daughter to suicide... parental alienation is extreme child abuse & the abusers must be held accountable. Thank you so much Judge!!♡♡♡
My heart hurts for your daughter's lost life, the grief and deep, deep pain of knowing her hopelessness. And yes, Judge Asphaug did the right thing. A true pioneer in her profession.
A family member was in this situation. My brother-in-laws ex-wife never missed an opportunity to attempt to turn their daughter against him. He, on the other hand took the high road and refused to sink to her level. It took about 10 years for my niece to mature to the point that she saw her mom's behavior for what it was. She and her dad now have a very happy and loving relationship.
Thank god his daughter saw her mother for who she was, lots of times the kids are so mentally destroyed , the mother turns them against their dad that the fathers just walk away.
Exactly what happened to me. Taking the high road was the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life, but I did it for 18 years while having to share joint custody with a man who actively worked to alienate our daughter from me every day he spent time with her. When she reached about 14-15 she started to realize what he was doing. By 18 she was fully disgusted with him and has barely spoken to him in over 2 years. These psychos don’t realize that kids grow up and realize that you’ve used and manipulated them, instead of the being their protector and safe person. It’s disgusting.
Fight back, dad's! Your children need you, you are needed to raise them. Don't give up on your children! You can hear the heartbreak in this man's voice, it's so sad.
I’m fighting right now I’ve had two hearings with ex girlfriend and she’s hasn’t shown up for none of them. The judge granted me split custody but I gotta bad she’s not going to show up with my daughter at the drop off 😢 we’re scheduled to meet this Sunday at 6pm
@@michaeljordan-xt9hk just call the police if she don't show and have a dashcamera when you do it and stand in front of the camera when you see her allegations can ruin someone's life also
I just came from my ex house. She refused to give me my son. I called the police with court order in hand. They said there's nothing they can do and told me to go back to court. I have gone to court 3 times. She keeps disobeying court orders. Any help.
Unfortunately she's protected under the bill of right freedom of the press. The girls are a source and are protected by law. The reporter must decide what to do. If she promised to keep their location a secret, she has to decide if contact information should be shared. She could have given him the option of writing or recording a message for them and giving them the message and contact information and allow them to decide whether to contact him. We don't know how badly they were affected by events. Psychological damage is hard to repair.
@@drmayeda1930 uh, no. Sorry. the reporter is NOT protected by law.. Check out Branzburg V. Hayes. - Courts have already said you cannot hide behind the 1st amend as a defense in all cases. There are hundreds of exceptions. For example, it can be used in commission of a crime, libel / slander, fraud, false testimony, etc. This reporter was impeding an investigation and she absolutely could have been charged and absolutely was NOT protected under the 1st A. Now the problem, is the bitch mother lied so much, they probably believed the father was abusive and that may have been why they didnt charge the reporter or force her to disclose the location of the girls. However, now that the truth has come out (and barring statute of limitations) the reporter absolutely can be charged.
My mother had an ugly break up with my father, but never let her feelings of him stop him from seeing me and my siblings. What a terrible woman for not allowing this amazing father to see his OWN children.
same, my mom loathed my father but still would write him letters to come see us more than once a year and how important it was for us to see him and have a relationship with him... it's entirely true
My mother tried this on me. I learned later how wrong she was, but the hardest part growing up was not knowing which parent was the good guy and which was the bad guy. Because that’s what my mother made me feel like.
Because I lost out on so much and struggle so much mentally, financially and with making long lasting bonds. After I lost my daughter to a woman just like her, I almost lost myself. I let go of family bonds
If one parent seems to be respectful of the other parent not criticizing him or her, that may be the healthy parent. The one criticizing the other parent in front of a child is more likely the messed up parent, even if there is some truth in what they are saying. Why would a parent want to psychologically mess up their kid (just to win?)
These judges deliberately destroy this family and most families for money. Dakota county court allowed Sandra to have sole custody for more than 1 year after reports of parental alienation. Years later, Judge Asphaug was forced to punish Sandra, only because this woman's kidnapping actions made it to the national news. See the details in the larger comment posted.
KidsNeed ParentsEqually ¡ WRONG ! She VIOLATED THE LAW !! Women( not all but MAJORITY) invest their beautiful lives and time to HATE the men they sleep, marry and choose to have babies with. The manipulation, bullying and the practice of not following the sentencing of the court's ruling is why children TODAY are DISFUNTIONAL. The judge didnt give a rats ass about the father or the mother's feelings or believes but only the welfare of those children. Eventually, those children will see with their own eyes the truth of it all and as s divorced father of a 28 year old son. I WILL PROMISE YOU, those children will EVENTUALLY HATE their mother....Do you get it ? DO YOU GET IT ? So before you write gibberish on social media that this judge separates families, just realize that CHILDREN are not negotiable regards who the mothrrs are. PERIOD ! And if this case went to the news THEN GOOD......It was the mothers fault for having bad choices and its why the Judge made her decision. This is a wakeup call for all custodial mothers who think they may have the write to control, mistreat the father of their children buy manipulating the society and by using the children to get what she wants illegally. AMERICA needs more strick Judges as this Judge is.
That was way too lenient of a punishment for the mother. She should’ve been sentenced for longer. This is one of many examples of where accountability in the American justice system has gone to shit.
How the hell can any parent deliberately hurt their child/children?!? This is utter insanity and truly incredible cruelty from this so called mother...
Because their narcissistic lust for revenge & having to win at all cost outweighs any consideration for the wellbeing of their children. The kids are just pawns in the game. My story.
Let me explain... A bitchy wife knows that divorce is evil act against God. She may have been 'forced' to have an affair with another guy because of sth (but she won't admit that). She is full of guilt. She is alienating the child so it doesn't find out the truth about the divorce and evil mother. Another reason ~ revenge on husband for 'being forced" to file a divorce or have an affair. Pure hate.
Not true. I have known both dads and moms who have gotten their children despite their history of manipulation and abuse. Those evil people who have made lifelong careers of manipulation and lies are extremely good at what they do and often pull the wool over the judge's eyes. This is done easily because the offending parent doesn't care about the long term effects it may have on their children, so they hold back nothing and spare no tricks. It seems that the people who are willing to do these thing, whether male or female are generally the ones who win.
@@carbonf2051 I agree with you.. I was this child, My mother did not receive custody in the divorce, and she was very bitter because of it. She ended up taking me and my sister to Colorado for about six months alienating us completely from my father. She would always tell us that my father chose my brother over the two of us, but the reality is, she took us when we got out from school without notifying my father. The only reason she did not take my brother was because He usually got home about the same time as my father and he would’ve already picked up on her idea by then. Well about six months after we left Texas my father had invested thousands of dollars into private investigators to find us. The only way they found us was because at the time we were at my aunt and uncle house and My dad got in contact with my uncle. He threatened to press charges against them for knowing we were being withheld from him and choosing to let it happen. So they gave him their address and the next day my father was there. I can honestly say that was the happiest day of my life. I thought my father had given up on me, little did I know he could hardly sleep every night not knowing his children were safe. He worked everything out, and I can not ask for a better father. But, in the end my mother lost everything. Not only did she lose her connection with her children, but she was charged just like this woman and it will be on her record for the rest of her life. I am now 23, it has been about 11 years since all of this occurred. My mother calls me maybe twice a year.. but I’ve ignored her ever since. The only time I speak to her is when I am forced to by dad. A lot of people tell me I need to let it go, find peace with it. Much easier said than done. As far as I’m concerned, she was never a mother to me. She always had her self interest above ours and it seems the only reason she reaches out so that she could know that we are not mad about it anymore. Well I am, and I will never forgive her. Sorry I know this is a lot I just haven’t vented about this situation an it builds up.
@@carbonf2051 either way, that doesn’t dispel the fact that the law sides with mothers as a default and it’s always the dad’s fight to prove they are worthy
Going through this right now. Been 2 years and I’ve found out that the woman is always right and a father has to fight for every second of time with his children.
I will never understand why anyone would do this to their children or the other parent. The amount of selfishness this act takes is just unbelievable!!! She deserves far more time than what she received.
You do realize why right? In the event during those years she is just one minute late returning those kids she will be in contempt of court & serve years. So this keeps her from any shenanigans. 👍👏
Fathers - blokes generally - get a rough deal in family courts. It's heartening to see that there are judges - female judges indeed - who get what fathers mean to their children.
splodgenessabounds In America, the present court system allows for 50/50 custody in most cases. The party making the highest salary is generally mandated to pay child support. Many times, that is the female. So, in America it has become advantageous for the man to be the alienator. Either way...male or female...it is abusive.
I've seen court decisions that appear fair and unbiased but the enforcement of the ruling and the protection of the father's legal rights are often times lacking unless he pressures the system (at great personal expense) to grant him equal protection not only on paper but in practice. The system often times does not care if the mother defies court orders. Enforcement of those orders will only be enacted if the father pushes hard for it. I would wager that was the case for this Zucki family. I'd guess she would have gotten away with it if the father hadn't pressured the court to enforce it's own laws.
procrastinator9. I saw first hand what you're talking about with my cousin. He would go to his kid's house (she had custody) on his day. He would drive 75 miles, get there at 9 a.m. Saturday morning as agreed upon but no one would be home. His ex would take the kids out for breakfast and shopping and video games or even a movie. They would get back at noon or after, and my cousin waited outside the entire time. His ex came to his door with a police officer once because she wanted to tuck the kids in, at his house. But in reality she wanted to "take a look" at what he had. During his scheduled 2 weeks in the summer is when his ex would schedule his son and daughter to go to summer camp, so he only got one week with them. When he was finally fed up, he took her back to court. The outcome was the judge finally told his ex that if she didn't abide by both the letter and spirit of the custody agreement, then my cousin would get custody, and she would be paying him child support. The ex-wife caused an outburst over this and the judge told her to sit down or he would find her in contempt. The ex-wife's Lutheran minister dad told her in open court to "sit down and shut-up". This kind of thing happens all the time, and rarely do the mom's have to answer for it. But let that child support the dad's have to pay be one day late and all hell breaks lose......
All of them should take it to court and if it is not recorded have it be on tape themselves just to be sure. If you are a parent who is being alienated, on either side. You should drag their ass to court and if they delay and constantly make up excuses take action. Preferably by seeking help from organisations that work to help fight alienating parents.
Parental Alienation does not get the attention it deserves in courts! It's only used when the duration last many months or even years. Parental Alienation should be considered by courts for as little as 1 lost day of visitation and after a warning a second offense should require mandatory community service or a night in jail. The only acceptable reason to not allow visitation is when the child would be in danger and should require a report to child protective services or police if the parent does not allow visitation based on safety for child. Without filing a report they should always be found in contempt and face a punishment.
My baby girl has been missing since Oct of 2016 , and I have full custody the person who gave birth to her has taken her into hiding and the Nebraska law enforcement wont help me. I am glad someone got justice
If there’s any kids reading this please know your mommy or daddy who was Alienated loves you more than you can ever know and feels you in their heart so strongly and misses you every second of the day
Oh, this hits me pretty squarely. I'm over 80 and seeing how my manipulative mother fits the example in the description. I was raised as her only child and groomed to meet her needs which haunt me to this day. Any time I try to step out of the mold, the mental pain and confusion are extremely painful. She's been deceased since 2010 but the wounds I find were all inserted during my formative years. I could see she was an ill person when I began my teens but it was no shield for what had already been done. My hope that others who encounter these highly disturbing demons can endure and realize what had been cast on them wasn't their fault which is one of the main crippling beliefs that come with it. I now have a better idea of what some elderly have been coping with that makes them look so socially awkward and some probably don't realize the source.
You're exactly correct. Today we have a term for it, narcissistic abuse. It's a Cluster B personality disorder. And awareness of this type of abuse has been prevalent and is still increasing through social media with people across the world talking about it with each other. I wish you continued healing.
Sadly they wont any time soon. They like it like this. Their agenda is not to do whats best for the child but to do whats best for her. She will manipulate the child and make the child her caregiver untill she dies. Thats her agenda. She knows shes evil and she doesnt want to stay alone
When will society acknowledge the severity of emotional abuse? When will the sovereignty of parents, family be overturned? And why are children continually devalued, dismissed, sacrificed in the service of illusory stability. Abuse reveals chaos. Cowardice sustains abuse.
@@MR-vk2rj so true! Other question is when will real women admit that the law should be applied equally to women as it has been to men. Have you ever noticed how yeomen will comment on videos like this but they tippy toe around directly calling the woman out? Instead it will be a comment like "both parents". I saw one of Judge Judy's videos on the same issue and a woman made a comment about men doing the same thing.
Well I think someone finally admitted to me the thought process behind punishing men much more than women. You see, they are concerned about whether there will be an actual physical retaliation against them for punishing someone. Isn't that crazy???? But yes. People actually think that way. I think this thought process must occur for people who have experienced extreme physical abuse of some kind. It kind of makes them crazy and they are much more lenient on some people instead of others and don't think objectively. And I think people who have this experience are attracted to jobs like being policemen or possibly judges. They like to have the authority to punish criminals.
Right because men have the ability to decide when and if a child is born... and I know what you going to say. "Well you can decide who to sleep with". I wonder how that would go over if I said that to a woman complaining about a deadbeat dad...
@@misscarolinaqueen5673 I didn't say it wouldn't apply... it definitely would... I said how it would go over... as in how people would react. Most look at it as me trying to make excuses for men being deadbeats.
This happens every day, and women get away with it every day. Glad to see a fair and honest judge in the room. To try and keep a man that actually wants to raise their children away from them is ignorant and counterproductive. You always destroy yourself, and all of your relationships.
It's not only men who suffer. My ex-husband has used money, and manipulation to get our children living with him. He refuses to send me pictures, let me be on paperwork, doesn't let me speak to them ever. Just because. It goes both ways. But regardless it's sick and evil.
@@captainswan3079 sorry to hear that, and my apologies for assuming I'm just trying to process my situation thinking this is the case with everyone but your, right it does go both ways. Good luck, don't stop fighting.
Thank you. :) Same to you if you're in the middle of this kind of stuff too. Yeah I just want people to know it goes both ways. It's just sad people do this at all.
The judge was real soft on her. The law needs to be more harsh on women like this. Its not fair for the good fathers out there. I haven't seen my kids since march of 2018 but my moment will come.
If you were granted visitation or dual custody, there is no excuse why you shouldn't see your children. I hope for your sake and that of your children, things have since changed since your post.
Very sad, I’m and adult now of a mother who did this and the pain she caused me and my siblings has been life lasting. I was 4 when this happened and I’m 53 now, sadly the pain never ends. My mother stole a relationship with my father I can never get back. Shame on parents who do things like this!
doriestes2468 : I hope you can regain a relationship. It can never go back... So, I pray that you can forge a new, deep relationship with your family. It's never to late. I wish the best for you.
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The family court system encourages father-child alienation.
My wife tried to turn our kids against me during our divorce, but it backfired. Ten years later, they hate her, but I have a great relationship with them. The irony of it is, while we were married, she would laugh at divorced women when they would try to turn the fathers against their kids, saying that it never works, and then she does the same thing. She was right; it never works.
Sadly it does work. My Uncle's ex-wife has destroyed his relationship with his 3 children. They think of him as an abuser and a good-for-nothing. He pays/paid child support for decades and almost never got/gets to see or talk to his own children.
Your wrong: Thousands of target parents have had their children stolen emotionally if not physically by narcissistic attachment based parental alienation.
It doesn't work in the end because when the kids become adults and flock from the alienating parents den then they can freely talk to their father/mother because the other is not around to stop them. It would however be hard since they have been taught for so long that he/she is the worst human possible.(It can come from both sides though men face it more often than woman obviously.) It is wrong to hold the kids hostage like it until their adults and the parent deserves jail time for it ofcourse but she(ex-wife) is right in the end you can't keep him/her away forever.
I got custody of my kids. But even though my ex was a train wreck and a druggie, it was a fight. And after 15 years of in and out of court, I have seen firsthand how totally screwed up our court system is and how anti father the system and judges are. So to this judge...great job!
Sorry to hear your children and you went through this as well ! So happy for your children and you that you have them !!! This is what i just wrote above to another unfortunate father like us, best wishes to you and your children Rob......It's always the children who suffer most ! Same here out of n.y. state.......our 2 boys suffered and currently suffering immensely ! Now they're adults (early 20's) but i'd NEVER ever give up. The court sided with her after a few yrs of severe long suffering & (court proceedings) and the judge actually took my God given rights away to love, protect, honor, guide and cherish my little sons with no proof of accusations Psychologists even on my side (n.y. family court is atrocious) . I'd NEVER let a judge or anyone ever tell me i couldn't be around my sons, so i quickly mastered the art of disguise (as an old man). They were also a state away but i NEVER missed an event ! Plays at school, all their sporting events and even graduation. Half the time i was standing or sitting unintentionally right next to her and no one ever knew. My sons and i have gone through hell. Definitely risked going to jail and i'd do it all over again, our sons have no idea that i did these things. When a father loves and honors his children, he will do whatever it takes. They hate me but i'll never give up ! Ever !! I was blessed in life to have had the very best father and just wanted to pass that along....No one can ever take my hope & effort away.
I believe you. The system sets out to destroy the fathers and believe the women when they bring false claims against the men because they are angry and pissed off. Not all women do this but the majority do just out of pettiness. The laws need to change to be fair. The children suffer immensely from all the shenanigans!
This is very encouraging as a father whose in this similar situation. I hope that I have a judge like this in my case. Fathers keep fighting for the right to be dads and protectors of our children!
These judges deliberately destroy this family and most families for money. Dakota county court allowed Sandra to have sole custody for more than 1 year after evidence of parental alienation. Years later, Judge Asphaug was forced to give Sandra a small punishment for kidnapping, and only because this time a woman's kidnapping actions made it to the national news and a jury decided the case! See the details in the larger comment posted.
I work for court system . The system is not for males at all gender bias is disgusting. My advise for men, sign prenup before you marry. Also a separation agreement prior to getting lawyers involved. Even if she asking for extra money, put a termination date on her payments. Better to settle outside courts system with mediator then allowing fake justice system to help you.
I'm an alienated father approaching 14 years of alienation. That judge should go to jail for acting willingly complicit and supportive of the most heinous, insidious and monetised form of child abuse that has ever existed. 15 days is an insult to that father and children. Disgraceful
I'm over 10 years alienated from my kids. Society turns a blind eye to all of us parents that don't get to see our kids because they have been turned against us. If we don't have a high profile case then nobody gives a shit. Ridiculous to hear the judge acting as if she cares but this goes on every day usually without any interest by anyone.
My dad abandoned us when we were babies , my mom never remarried because he was always lurking around but he never did anything for us, but my mom NEVER put him down or said a bad things about him, as we got older we realized he was a deadbeat but my mom refuses to talk bad about him to this day
Good for your mom, she knew you would get older and decide for yourself. I didn't talk bad about my son's father. I got them talking last year, now he is 33. He stopped seeing him when he was 11, hurtfully. I was furious about that.
Men put up with this stuff all the time. It's nice to see a woman finally held accountable.
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It wasn't much of an "accounting" for kidnapping children for 944 days and poisoning their minds against their father. I think a good old fashioned caning would be appropriate.
Llv14 My ex-wife told the court I as the father abused our 4-year old son sexually, physically, and also raped her on a vacation trip, am unstable mentally, watched Texas Chainsaw Massacre with our son, along with many more hideous false accusations I don’t care to recall at the moment. The court psychologists, all 4 of them in separate evaluations of both of us, concluded she was lying. Yet she still got 70% custody time without penalty for her lies. Nor were there any issues demonstrated against me as to hindrances to my parenting abilities since I had already raised my other adult children. Yes, women have an unwritten advantage in court.
My husband’s ex-wife was so toxic she managed to basically ruin any chance of a relationship with their dad. He was a great father too. His son is a liar, thief and stays in constant trouble with the police. He is 34 years old now and has nothing. His daughter decided to have nothing to do with her father after she grew up. Basically believed whatever lies her mother told her. Really tragic. I believe that God will hold these heartless people accountable for all of this.
A dude would havce gotten 5 years minimum probably. She got a total of 2.5 months spread out over the course of 5 years. With that she's allowed to get certain tax benefits for all 5 of those years. This is more of a help to her than anything. She can just take a 15 day vacation on the days she has to go to jail, be paid for it, and have free meals etc. She got nothing.
common sense detector okay do you know vacation pay? That’s a benefit you get when you have a job. So when she has to go to jail for 2 weeks, she can request that from her employer, and she gets paid for 2 weeks well being in jail
common sense detector and who asked for your iq? And I highly doubt that you’re within the 1% of people with a iq greater than 136. Maybe next time you shouldn’t tell bullshit online
This is so disgusting. I know both mothers and fathers who do this. Unfortunately it’s mostly mothers bc they usually are the primary residence. I have two boys and I have NEVER with held them and never would. When we split… and it was a bad one for me, I was devastated… It didn’t even cross my mind. I even agreed to pretty much 50/50 even though it literally sent me into a bad depression bc I wasn’t used to not being with my boys… the separation for me, was horrible. But it’s not about me… it’s about them. We suffer so they don’t. And we don’t let them see that suffering. We don’t put them in the middle. I explain to them that crying is ok, it’s ok to be sad bc I would cry and they would sometimes see… but I never tell him why. I never talk bad about their father. One of my friends almost died of a heart attack bc of the stress the mother put on him by withholding and threaten to, and honestly just being awful. I will never respect a parent who does this
A lot of fathers abuse their wives and children. I met a woman a few years ago who acted the same as you- holier than thou about how she would never separate the kid from the father. Meanwhile, the father literally beat her in front of the kid and emotional rages and outburst from him were a norm, including in front of the child. He was subjecting the child (4 years old at the time) to violence and emotional abuse regularly, and her Pick-Me mother thought she was a 'good person' for not thinking about trying to get sole custody. Both parents failed the child, the father for his violence and immaturity, and the mother for putting her obsession with appeasing him and society over protecting her daughter.
Holy crap that was my story! I was the monster I was awful. I walked away still paying child support all those years. I went from Daddy to Mr Steve. Its only after 25 years that my daughters are kind of contacting me and realizing that what their mother fill their heads with was pure bullshit. Good for this guy.
I'm very sorry to hear that Steve. Unfortunately it is far too common, and the courts don't recognize they are enablers of this despicable form of child abuse.
I let my son go live with his Dad for 2 years and 2 months. It almost broke me. The first time I saw him, after those 24 months, I cried and couldn’t stop. He called me by my first name. After reuniting with my son he called from his Dad’s house for me to come and get him and all of his belongings. I was at his Dad’s within an hour. Me and my son had to heal but we did. He saw what his Dad was and all the lies his Dad told him about me. We have been a true parent/child since 1995. I can never get back the time I lost and that makes me so very sad but he is with me now. I didn’t want to continuously fight with my ex-husband because it hurt my son so I stepped up but every single day I cried. I just had to wait until my son made his own decision. ❤
Prayers for you, young Mendoza. Also, find that rage that is sitting deep in the pit of your being and let is rise up, saying, "Never again." That's not to say you should go get drunk or be violent. But it is to say, you will never allow what you allowed to happen to you, ever happen again. And mean it.
This has happened to my husband. His ex wife has alienated all four of his children from him. It’s such a heartbreaking situation. We pray for them daily and hope they will wake up someday and see the truth that their father was not the villian their mother made him out to be.
God Bless this Dad, his children, and God Bless this Judge for throwing the book at this evil mother. Looks like she'll have plenty of time to reflect over Thanksgiving holidays. Oh, the irony.
Daphne Moeller Agree. Very evil. "Media mother O" needs to be reprimanded and doesn't deserve any promotion. Why do people put greed before the young ones lives. There's no excuse.
I like that she has to serve 2 weeks out of each year for the next few years. It will make sure she cannot just forget and move on, because no doubt the family will never be able to
My daughters mom is doing this same thing to me... submitting lies , half truths and of course I can do no right and she can do no wrong. haven’t seen mydaughter in 1 1/2 years, she’s 5, and I can’t afford a lawyer for the trial set in April. Say a prayer for me or wish me luck please!
This happened to my ex-husband as a young child. He was kidnapped to another state by his bio mom. Then when they were found, his mom cried “abuse” and had her other children lie about it to justify her actions. My ex-husband got put into foster care and an orphanage while they fought it out for an entire year. Absolutely nothing happen to the woman for kidnapping him and abusing him. Then, she repeated the same thing with 2 other men and 2 other sets of children. There needs to be MUCH MUCH harsher punishment for this type of crap. The damage inflicted on children who are kidnapped and hidden is lifelong. And they get nothing or a slap on the wrist! Ridiculous.
Same. It's been 10 years for me with little progress yet to regain my kids. The devil still has my children tightly wound around her finger, even though some of them are adults now. My kids are unable to leave the nest while focusing on caring for her every need while continuing to vilify their dad.
Adam Publiczny I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through 😢 it cannot be easy being alienated from someone you love. Just never give up, be patient, they’ll watch you, learn and grow. Much love, I appreciate you! ♥️
@Quentin Davis Find yourself a woman who has actually done the work of recovering from the abuse she herself endured. A sure sign of someone who is playing you for a fool; she constantly talks about her past, and makes it out to be one long victimization after another. Women who have legit been abused, raped, etc. tend to NOT want to talk about it to everyone she meets, and certainly not on a first date! A friend of a friend was constantly whimpering to my friend K about all her troubles, and one day I finally told K, "Nobody has that bad of luck all the time. She's just inviting constant drama into her life. You don't need that."
This was weak. The sentence was a joke. This judge should have put this woman in a prison for years. This will not make anybody think twice before pulling shit like this woman did. I have seen people get harder sentences for driving on a suspended license. Until judge's get serious and start giving serious sentences this kind of crime will keep happening. Joke!!!
But...the truth is she will one day feel nothing but entiteled..ignore her November dates ignore probation laws AND GET A WORSE DAMAGING SENTANCE...THATS THE COURTS TRICK AND SHE WILL PAY WORSE BUT...SO WILL THE KIDS bb
Love that verdict in sentencing! Mandatory 15 days of confinement every year on the date of the girls recovery. Though she should have to serve the 944 days regardless of the time she's already served...
Phoenix Bleu she should serve 10 years straight in the prison for the time he lost with his kids, then have no contact with the kids in any shape or form, and if she violates any of it she should be thrown back in again for another 10.
Sky Blue she should have thought about the consequences of her actions before she actually kidnapped her children and made false accusations. As it is it is only 15 days a year. The father will never have a familial bond with the daughters that were taken due to the mothers brain washing.
Sky Blue argues that the staggered sentence will unnecessarily hobble the mother in her employment prospects. While I am not as sympathetic, I would be very interested in hearing what "better sentencing" Sky Blue might offer. 601salsa argues that the father will never have a familial bond with the daughters due to the mother's brainwashing. I agree with that assessment. In the final analysis, however, raising children is not about forming and maintaining family bonds for the sake of perpetuity. It is about helping the children thrive for themselves as they go forth into adulthood. Certainly, the relationship they have with both parents during their upbringing is an important component to that end, but it is not the only one. If the relationship with the father arguably is beyond repair, society should attempt to close ranks and provide the guidance that the father might have otherwise been able to provide. In this regard, sending a strong message goes much farther than ensuring that an alienator is subjected to a certain kind of punishment. So, are there any other creative sentencing ideas out there?
Tell that to my ex. 6yrs he's was getting away with the behavior of this mother. 6yrs to finally get supervised visits but has he seen a jail cell? Nope. No justice.
passthetunaporfavor science actually has proved that men can be just as nurturing as women. It’s unfair that women usually get more leniency even if their kids say differently. It’s unbelievably sad.
My Mother never stopped my Father from visiting, buying us school clothes or taking us out to dinner. I promise you Sir..I promise you they will learn to resent her, and eventually hate her. Shes very very dangerous I hope she gets the maximum penalty. If they let her out she will eventually hurt someone. I pray the Father gets the peace he needs, and the love of his children. My sincerest prayers for continued strength Sir! He hasn't forgotten you!🙏
My uncle has two daughters who alienated him because of their abusive mothers. He is a good man who cares deeply for his children and he works 70hr weeks managing a warehouse to pay for their upbringing. He hasn't seen his elder daughter in 5 years and his younger in 8 (since birth). It's disgusting how the courts here still favor the mother and he hasn't been allowed to see his children.
I was once in love with a female narcissist. She became pregnant. Even though she was verbally abusive and physically aggressive, I was happier than I’d ever been when she told me she was pregnant. When she’d become upset or behave in toxic manners, she’d threaten to “kill our baby.” I was so afraid she’d do it so I was always careful not to ruffle her feathers. She’d threaten to call the cops on me and blatantly lie that I was abusive to her. I remember one time we were standing in the driveway and she punched me dead in my face 2x. She fell to the ground when I moved to avoid her landing another strike to the face. This made her upset so she screamed she was calling the police to have me arrested for battering her. The only thing that saved me was the neighbor’s video camera that captured video of the entire incident. We didn’t even know the neighbor had cameras. But the neighbor came over to tell the police what he and his wife had seen her do and heard her threat to lie on me. Out of fear she’d abort our child, I went back to her. Only the next time, when I told her I was leaving to cool off from a heated verbal confrontation, she struck me in my face with a glass vase. I suffered a concussion and had over 10 stitches in my face from the deepest cut you could imagine. I left her house after the attack. A mile up the road, crashed my $40K car into a ditch as I lost consciousness. She was arrested but decided to profusely lie that I had battered her and she acted in self-defense. The police officers knew she was lying as she didn’t have the slightest scratch, bruise or any indication that I had attempted to “strangle” her as she blatantly, falsely accused me of. By this time, she was almost 5 months pregnant so everyone advised there’d be no way she could have an abortion this late and that they never believed she’d do it, she was only saying it to control me. She became so furious that the state didn’t drop the charges on her, she killed our child and submitted a false petition for protection against dating violence. The sad part is the judge kept delaying the hearing citing her criminal case. I was desperate to move forward and I didn’t want her to be incarcerated while pregnant with my child so I requested the charges be dropped against her. Two months later, we had our hearing on the injunction she requested. After the judge told her he didn’t believe her and questioned her integrity and credibility and denied her petition, she blurted out that she had killed my child. Remember, this is during COVID, so we were on a Zoom video. You could never see below our stomachs. So I learned after dropping the charges believing she was pregnant, that she’d actually killed our child two months prior to that hearing and not to mention I discovered for the first time I wouldn’t become a father. Money can’t solve anything. I gave her plenty of money and paid her rent and car note while furnishing her entire home, fed her, bought her clothes but that none of it was enough to heal her broken and toxic heart from past hurts and child abuse (I now question if she was really abused). I struggle with the fact she killed our child every day. It was a very traumatic experience that I struggle to understand every day of my life, even today. Of course, I could have beaten her to a bloody pulp and hurt her badly but out of respect for her and my child growing inside her, and fears she’d ruin my career I would always stand down. So I am glad to see this man get some justice. It soothes my soul, at least temporarily.
The reporter who refused to divulge the location of the girls to law-enforcement should have been charged with obstruction of justice, contributing to the delinquency of minors, and child-endangerment.
Healthy parents teach their children independence and self-reliance. But alienating parents foster dependency and vulnerability in their children. Alienators need to be needed.
Healthy parents love their children more than they need their children. But alienators need their children more than they love their children. In younger children alienators sow seeds of fear. In older children they sow seeds of hatred. This ensures the child's undivided love.
Healthy parents teach a child that the world is full of imperfect people who sometimes make mistakes and sometimes disappoint us. But alienators teach a child to see the world in black and white; people are either all-good or all-bad. Any real mistakes an "all-bad" person makes become the entirety of who they are.
Alienators are masters of manipulation, and there are two main subtypes.
Alienators with narcissistic traits (mostly men) are control freaks. They see themselves as perfect and anyone who dares to oppose them as inferior. They speak with charisma and conviction.
Alienators with borderline traits (mostly women) are sympathy freaks. They see themselves as victims and anyone who dares to oppose them as abusers. They speak with passion and drama.
Regardless of the subtype, alienators are very convincing. Most people are duped. And by most people I mean friends, family members, teachers, coaches, counselors, custody evaluators, guardians ad litem, and, of course, their own children.
The end result of all this manipulation is that the child aligns themself almost completely with the alienating parent. There are many reasons for this, and comparisons have been made to Stockholm syndrome/trauma bonding, but I believe a better analogy is that of cults. Whenever the child agrees with, or sympathizes with, or shows devotion to the alienator, then the alienator lavishes them with affection and makes them feel like a million dollars. But if the child ever falters in their devotion, then the alienator responds with the opposite extreme. This is exactly how cult leaders are able to manipulate adults over a period of months. Now imagine a vulnerable child, who has no escape, being conditioned like this their entire life.
The psychopathology underlying parental alienation has been referred to as pathological enmeshment, since the child's personality is basically subsumed by that of the alienator. It has also been called the gatekeeper phenomenon, since the alienator becomes the gatekeeper of the child's heart and mind. Whatever the alienator likes, the child reflexively likes; whatever the alienator hates, the child reflexively hates.
All of this happens long before the divorce, long before the actual alienation. And then, at the time of divorce, when the alienator feels rejected by their spouse, and the alienator fears they might lose the undivided devotion of their children, the actual alienation takes place surprisingly quickly. The gatekeeper simply closes the gate.
This is also why the mental health and legal professionals often get parental alienation cases wrong. They cannot imagine why a child would suddenly reject a normal, loving parent. They fail to recognize that what looks like a warm, close relationship between the child and the favored parent is actually a longstanding form of co-dependency. It's a folie à deux. It's emotional incest.
"Just listen to my child!" the alienator cries to the court. "They'll tell you how inferior/abusive the other parent is!" But it is no longer the child who speaks.
Alienated children grow up hating half of who they are. They are prone to a host of psychosocial problems later in life.
This is why Parental Alienation is NOT a child custody issue.
It's a child PROTECTION issue.
Amen 2 tht‼️
What do I do to get my son back?
Very interesting read and I understood all of quite clear.
You must be a physcologist ?
I profoundly disagree about mostly men that alienated their children. It's obvious in this video that women can be nefarious.
I have dealt/ dealing with a narcissistic parental alienation ex. I have worked her out and by God I hope my children do too .
Courts cost money, I am spent emotionally, financially, spiritually and mentally.
Everything else you have said, "100% spot on the mark ".
@@martinspalding1662 man I feel your pain brother , trust me, I can relate to everything you said . I deal with the same thing and yeah the courts will drain you and leave you bankrupt.
The sad part about it all is it shouldn’t be that way but it is and it’s all for profit , the state government and private law firms. Children are used as commercial instruments to profit off of and the women are incentivized to behave poorly ; because the know they can run to the government and they will be protected and allowed to do as they please with your offspring.
If the dad did that, he would have gotten 15 years. Not 15 days.
Bruh, we don't come close to equality...
equality is not apart of our system. It discriminates in terms of gender and race on a daily basis. She should have gotten 1 day in jail for everyday that the father and child didnt see each other.
Did I not understand what the judge said correctly?? Because I calculated it to be 90 days over the course of 6 years. Which I agree it’s definitely a slap on the wrist and she deserves much more than that. But I’m just checking to see if I understood the time spent in jail correct or not
Goodim Glad I’m so sorry!!!😭
She should get 3 years in jail!
She got less than a year in jail for keeping the children away from Dad for 6 years. Unbelievable.
944 days
Outrageous...basically gave her the right to continue to abuse her children, and their Father. Feel so bad for the Father.
@@robertyanes4751 If she does it again, it will be far worse for her next time, and easier to prove too as she has a history of it. My heart breaks for this father, and his children
No where near 6 years, there are 365 days a year and the judge clearly said she had kidnapped them for 944 days, that makes it just a little over 2 and a half years. Not that, that makes it much better, but no need to exaggerate.
Worst human to be in this world-
White
American
Male
*This "sentencing" is a slap on the wrist, and inappropriate to the severity of her acts.*
imagine if genders were reversed.
The state should’ve file criminal charges
Jail her for 6 YRS + sentence time. The same duration of time she alienated the father + time of the crime
The true punishment for her is: She has no family anymore.
And as J. C. pointed out: This is a family court. The judge didn't have the jurisdiction to impose higher sentences... But I bet, she would have, if she could.
should have gotten day-for-day that she deprived her husband of their children
She should have done a day in jail for every day she kept the kids from their father.
When you hate the other parent more than you love your child. The suffering inflicted is a tragedy
It's very sad.
UM, wo-MEN do this to MEN, MEN do not do this to wo-MEN
@@josephesposito3499Men absolutely do it to women too 🙄 It’s not a gender issue.
@@jenshaw8085 Um, >NOPE! wo-MEN initiate 85% of divorce, wo-MEN have SEVEN TIMES more sexual partners than a MAN, by the age of 24, wo-MEN perpetrate 83% of child abuse, wo-MEN perpetrate TWICE as many child murders as MEN, and it is MOSTLY >wo-MEN who deny MEN axcess to their child, NOT MEN! Same with FALSE accusations, >mostly >wo-MEN who do this. Sorry, NOPE, YES it >IS a GENDER issue, mostly caused by>wo-MEN
LAUGH OUT LOUD! >YOU KNOW DAMM WELL IT IS MOSTLY >wo-MEN who do this to MEN! It is NOT equal, >MOSTLY the MOTHERS who do this! Bullshit on your post!
Children grow into adults.
They remember everything!
Who’s good - who’s bad.
Thats what my mom should have thought about before almost killing me as a child cause of munchausen by proxy. Now im an adult and both her and her wallet are not enjoying my court case against her il tell u that!!! 😂
@@foreverchained9070 I can only imagine the well deserved smug grin on your face right now
Yeah if the child survives long enough. My son never got that chance. My son died Dec. 2nd 2017 from having a syringe shoved down his throat while in his mothers care. My son was 2 and a half years old.
@@thomasbushman6442 omg that is absolutely horrendous!!! I am so sorry for both you and your son having to go thru that. Just because someone is a woman doesnt mean they should be a mother, i strongly believe EVERYONE should have a psych evaluation before they are able to have and raise a child for the childs safety and it shocks me there still isnt something like that in place as a precaution. Sending love and healing prayers your way♥
@@thomasbushman6442 that is one of the most heartbreaking and infuriating things I have read in awhile. I am so sorry man.
This man has gone through hell and back, parental alienation is a cancer in our society...
It is regarded as literal child abuse. As I tell people, I listened to my mother run down my father every chance she got (they stayed together for reasons only satan knows), and all it did was make me feel closer to him and more alienated from her. So to my bf's ex, "Keep up the good work, b."
Family loyalty is subversive to a state that demmands loyalty from its subjects.
Luckily the state found a way to destroy those bonds; the woman
yes it is and almost impossible to prove.
@@anitabonghit2758 exactly my man is dealing with this right now. He just filed contempt of court paperwork against both his son's moms. I let my ex see my kid every weekend. Parental alienation is evil. I wanna punch certain mother's in their faces for this. I wanna murder my boyfriend's exes.
@Chief Big Bob ok, boomer. You brainwashed idealogue piece of shit
Parental alienation is massively difficult to prove. I'm glad this man was able to do this and protect his children.
No it’s not. If the mother makes a claim, it should be investigated. However, when they file false DV cases, the men roll over & say: ‘that’s my child’s mother & I don’t want to stress her anymore’. Notice she tried physical abuse, but was proven a liar. However, the Courts let the female maintain custody (the child will be irrevocably traumatized if they change school or daycare FOH) & this 💩 takes YEARS FOR TO MAKE HIM GIVE UP! They’ll fast track ANYTHING she wants though. It’s JUDICIAL OVERREACH
@@darylrichardson8567 you'll be alright bud.
I totally had a different experience with my case. My child was removed due to a false claim the father made. He was irreversibly traumatized by going from my care to his father's care. It took 9 months for a custody evaluation to be done and in that time my son suffered intense psychological, verbal and mental abuse. When I did get my son back into my care and the father was appropriately charged for his tall tale bullshit and he was required to pay back all the state benefits he stole while he had temporary custody, justice was served for me. But it does not only happen to men when females claim DV. It happens in reverse too.
@@darylrichardson8567 "that's my child's mother and I don't want to stress her anymore" 😂 I wish. My ex railroaded me and buried me to the best of his ability. I paid over 100k in court costs. NOTHING about my case was fast tracked. The whole thing took 3 years, 9 months and 2 weeks. Luckily they gave me my son back after the first 9ish months but the damage was done.
Kidnap is pretty conclusive evidence.
Not that hard. A tell-tell sign is when kids can’t tell you any details about what their parent is doing to them that is so bad. They can usually tell you why they hate the parent and they can usually tell you how they feel but they almost always struggle with providing any details that led to those feelings. Usually when you ask them enough questions, they’re unable to really describe anything. Or when they do describe it, it doesn’t sound like something that should warrant such a dramatic and emotional reaction.
The utter selfishness of any person who uses their child/children to punish their ex-partner is something I find inexcusable and reprehensible.
Linda C
Exactly! After all, women already have alimony laws to punish their ex-husbands, they don't need to use their children too.
Linda C I agree , this happens DAILY in the LATIN WORLD....
Not to mention psychotic.
The only reason women have kids is to get paid.
In the wild mother animals kill their child if they are in trouble to save themselves so you can see that the evolutionary system is such that mother's will hurt their children for their self gain
SALUTE TO THE FATHER FOR FIGHTING FOR HIS OWN
Stupid woman hated him more than she loved her children. She needs mental help.
@@asafaust8869 I agree. I hope she has to undergo psychiatric treatment during her probationary period.
@@asafaust8869 oooh you said a mouthful there
@playlists exactly
@@dominiquejenkins5495 what is parental alienation
She’s punishing her kids more than her ex-husband. Shame on her.
And that sentence is ridiculous!!!
Don’t worry about my grammar, worry about those kids being punished for something that’s no fault of their own. Go troll somebody else cause I’m not the one. However , if you want to do this I most definitely have time for your shit.
@@adriannehubbert7825 I'm talking about the sentence passed by the judge 😒 it's too light
@UCkrKPpvp9o11SoA5x7LwPHg story of my life on Facebook lol I understand. No worries
Tyrone Huston and I was just a character in that story. On another note, that was F’d up what this lady did
How lucky those children are to have a father who loves them enough to fight for them. And shame on any mother who would try and destroy that.
Mothers are not the only ones that do this stuff. My ex-boyfriend has not let me have my son in 1.5 years and only allows me to video chat 3 times a week. If they do answer on those days, they always have my son distracted. He lives states away.
My mum tried it I felt bad for my dad atfirst but after I saw how he was to me and my brother I didn’t feel any remorse for him she did it out of selfish reasons but I couldn’t imagine going sooner to my dads
Many, many more mothers should be going to jail for this.
My ex broke up with me mecause i told his mother that i dont want to move into the apartment next to hers so sh manipulated him against me.
My dad obliterated the relationship between me and my son. ANYONE who does this must be held accountable.
Amen
I agree with u it's high time they stopped turning kids against their daddy.parents dispute shouldnt be used to turn kids against their dads
Dads do it too. I think studies show it is almost equal. Many times stepparents play a big role in this also. My ex husband is a narcissist and has tried to do this, luckily I had a great attorney and custody evaluator who were able to show the judge what was really going on. He was a master at the smear campaign but when it came down to it, people figured it out. It cost me about $80k to fight his lies, but my child is worth it. This is so sick.
Dads don't usually get a whole lot of respect in family court so this was refreshing to see. What a horrible woman to do that to her family out of spite.
Alicia Green. Agreed. The mother was pure evil and a waste of a human life. I hope her children have a bright future knowing their father loves them and they don't have to deal with her again
Tons of women do this to men, there is literally millions of these cases.
I've never heard of a man doing it to a woman before though.
Not saying it doesn't happen, but I've never heard of it.
I’m going through something similar right now...so sad.
So true, sadly it takes such wicked women in order for courts to see good fathers.
Bobby Seale Junior wish you all the best.
She should’ve had to serve 940 days, no credit for time served
Mary Loves Makeup77 Facts
Indeed.
940 days? Try 940 days + 15yrs.
@@LibertyWolf1 Thanks for this . Keep sharing his work. As much quality as Marc Rudov who prefers to hide his older work .
MN state law mandates credit for time served (Minn. R. Crim. P. 27.03, subd 4(b))
This is intended to incentivize the government to ensure a speedy trial, and that poor defendants who can't afford bail don't get effectively harsher sentences.
My ex-wife hid our son from me for almost 9 years; he was 5 when I last saw him, and the next time she allowed me to see him (via a court order under threat of jail), he was an unrecognizable teenager of 14. The expression in his eyes when I first saw him again was unmistakable to everyone observing; "Why?" That was 20 years ago, and even though we have tried to heal our relationship, we are strangers and most likely always will be.
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my ex has ran off with my children as we speak, they had lived with me for the last 5 months she came to visit them 5 times for 20 mins a time then she turned up said "the girls are coming home with me now" she took them and ran away in the middle of the night
@@paulinthailand If "she took them and ran away in the middle of the night," inferring stealth, how was she able to say: "the girls are coming home with me now," or am I misunderstanding your statement?
Sorry brother. I've been though similar. I'm here for ya if you need to talk to someone that understands.
Love ya man
😭😭 I am so sorry, this is bringing a tear to my 👀
My son turned 5 last week. His mother had pretended to be afraid of me and had refused to let me see him. I've been terminally ill since he was born. The pain had been unbearable. Now today I go to court because the mother wants to change his last name to hers. Please pray for me and him, and even her.
I pray you recover
God Bless you!
Mr Gunn I truly hope you have resolved with her before you are called. Bless you.
God bless you, sir.
Prayers your a strong great father.
My ex did the same thing to me. I didn’t see my son for a very long time and I had to fight for him and won. I have my son five days a week and now she’s a weekend mom.
Teach me.
God bless you! Be better than her.
Karmas a bitch
I hope you and your family prosper. Good on you.
That kind of sucks. They’ll associate you with school and her with doing fun activities
That evil woman got off light. The damage caused by parental alienation will last those kids a lifetime. As for dad, my heart breaks for him. All that time lost, all that misery. I've worn his shoes.
I did a deep dive into this case after seeing this video. I am horrified by the mother and her gang of conspirators. Including her family attorney and friends. Her family attorney had her license suspended for at least 60 days and her crazy friend went to jail for 6 months. The Fox reporter and station never apologized. It’s scary how this so called mother was able to manipulate people. That so called boyfriend should run.
What was the family attorney doing to be considered a conspirator? (I realise this is two years old comment, but I want to know what sort of line was crossed from "a lawyer on your side in law" and "a lawyer on your side illegally"
Women are masters at emotional manipulation.
I grew up with 5 sisters....I know it well.
@@jamesyoung187I grew up with two older sisters, 4 and 5 years older respectively, they’re the primary reason I can’t trust women enough to be in long term stable relationships as an adult
After 16 years of it, you see all the sneaky shit women do and you learn it whilst they’re at their absolute worst, when they’re teenagers
Why wouldn't the Fox journalist be sued? I need to do a deep dive too it seems, first time I'm hearing about this case.. I had a similar upbringing with mommy dearest messing with my head, terrible and still impacts me decades later. Poor man and children. That bi@tch should get a lifetime restraining order.
It's so unfortunate that malignant narcissists can, & often DO quite successfully FOOL & MANIPULATE a large group of people to join them in their quest to destroy an innocent person, couple, or group of people. My husband & I have experienced this in our family. It profoundly shatters relationships & families. Ultimately, God will deal with people who have purposely caused such pervasive destruction.
I am a victim of this behavior. It's been 4 years since I've heard from or seen my oldest daughter.
Praying the alienation ends quickly.
That's a shame. I feel for you.
Im sorry im going thru the same
We are victims too. Alienation is child abuse. But most courts seem just fine with that.
Crucible777 I feel you I have a son that his father kept from me years and until this day I’m still looking for him and he is 22 now he joined the army but still I can’t find him. 😭😭😭😭😭😭this hurts my heart ❤️ I did nothing wrong to deserve this!
Honestly don’t think she received a harsh enough sentence
@Brad keeping that mindself is not only harmful to actual, kind woman but to yourself.
@Present Sort Of lol
Parental alienation destroys people. It destroys the kids, for the rest of their lives. Its just so heartbreaking 💔 😢
A ridiculously short sentence for a serious offense. I cannot begin to understand why this judge didn't impose a longer incarceration period. Another slap in this father's face, as well as the children's. UNBELIEVABLE!
Because she is a woman.
That’s not enough time!!!
Agreed!!!
State regulated maximums. It’s not all up to the judge
Typical Minnesota justice system results.
34 days for a Woman..... 934 days for a Man
How could this situation be used to help other women prevent themselves from making similar mistakes?
@Angela Riendeau A male would be in prison for a long ass time compared to a female
Angela Riendeau why won’t she do all the time consecutively?
@Angela Riendeau thats still 574 days too few for her.
Doesn’t matter it’s recorded she’s was convicted
My mum did a number on alienating my 4 siblings and I from our dad. When I was in my late teens, I reached out to my dad. I needed to know if all she said was truth or lies. His side of the story was completely different. Everything, from trying to fight for visitation and custody of us. To what happened to Christmas, Birthday presents he had sent. letters, pictures etc...,
It took a few years of hard emotions to sort through it all from all 3 sides of this. My mum's, my dad and my own. My siblings, they will have to find their own truth in this mess.
I finally made peace with my dad and was rebuilding what was destroyed and lost. 2 years later he died of a stroke. I thank Lord JESUS for the time to make amends and to find peace through forgiveness. I will cherish the last years of his life as my dad.
What made you reach out to your dad? Did something specific happen that triggered the process?
Sad for u
@ amen it's the illiterate and the poor who have more children not the educated literate and well off ones
@@esmooth300 jesus christ dude. Let go of the anger. Men behave badly, women behave badly. The human race is selfish and fickle and hedonistic. Hating all or most women isn't going to make life easier though, it's just going to fuck up your interactions with 50% of your surrounding population.
Yes. Thank JESUS for people that alienate their children from loving patents. [Yawn]
My cousin documented everything for 2 years. Calls , text messages, all times he couldn’t see his 3 boys. He sold his classic car, hired a good attorney got custody of his kids, his other child mother left him. He has 4 boys and doing great. Sad what parents do to their children.
My kids and I have been going through this for 9 YEARS. May God punish these malignant narcissist women/men who do these horrible things
I'm with you man. 10 years in
@@joeysprezza74 im with you. Im 6 years in.
Coming up on 6 years myself.
@@ChuckLilly it's almost 9 now... good luck brother and God bless you and yours
7 for me
Yay!! Finally! My sweet husband lost 10 years with his children from alienation & permanently lost his eldest daughter to suicide... parental alienation is extreme child abuse & the abusers must be held accountable. Thank you so much Judge!!♡♡♡
My heart hurts for your daughter's lost life, the grief and deep, deep pain of knowing her hopelessness. And yes, Judge Asphaug did the right thing. A true pioneer in her profession.
Valerie Gray omg! thats the worst :'(
Valerie Gray that bitch should never be allowed to be released prison, until she dies.
Hearts go out to you and your Husband. Will you go to London and testify in UK Supreme Court?
:(
A family member was in this situation. My brother-in-laws ex-wife never missed an opportunity to attempt to turn their daughter against him. He, on the other hand took the high road and refused to sink to her level. It took about 10 years for my niece to mature to the point that she saw her mom's behavior for what it was. She and her dad now have a very happy and loving relationship.
Thank god his daughter saw her mother for who she was, lots of times the kids are so mentally destroyed , the mother turns them against their dad that the fathers just walk away.
Exactly what happened to me. Taking the high road was the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life, but I did it for 18 years while having to share joint custody with a man who actively worked to alienate our daughter from me every day he spent time with her. When she reached about 14-15 she started to realize what he was doing. By 18 she was fully disgusted with him and has barely spoken to him in over 2 years. These psychos don’t realize that kids grow up and realize that you’ve used and manipulated them, instead of the being their protector and safe person. It’s disgusting.
Fight back, dad's! Your children need you, you are needed to raise them. Don't give up on your children! You can hear the heartbreak in this man's voice, it's so sad.
I’m fighting right now I’ve had two hearings with ex girlfriend and she’s hasn’t shown up for none of them. The judge granted me split custody but I gotta bad she’s not going to show up with my daughter at the drop off 😢 we’re scheduled to meet this Sunday at 6pm
@@michaeljordan-xt9hk just call the police if she don't show and have a dashcamera when you do it and stand in front of the camera when you see her allegations can ruin someone's life also
Fight back, dads!
*There! I fixed it for you.😁
Not all children need their dads. I certainly didn't.
I just came from my ex house. She refused to give me my son. I called the police with court order in hand. They said there's nothing they can do and told me to go back to court. I have gone to court 3 times. She keeps disobeying court orders. Any help.
That reporter belongs in jail.
If it was the other way around would she do the same?
It is called "Obstruction of Justice" and is good for a vacation in the slammer.
Unfortunately she's protected under the bill of right freedom of the press. The girls are a source and are protected by law. The reporter must decide what to do. If she promised to keep their location a secret, she has to decide if contact information should be shared. She could have given him the option of writing or recording a message for them and giving them the message and contact information and allow them to decide whether to contact him. We don't know how badly they were affected by events. Psychological damage is hard to repair.
@@drmayeda1930 uh, no. Sorry. the reporter is NOT protected by law.. Check out Branzburg V. Hayes. - Courts have already said you cannot hide behind the 1st amend as a defense in all cases. There are hundreds of exceptions. For example, it can be used in commission of a crime, libel / slander, fraud, false testimony, etc.
This reporter was impeding an investigation and she absolutely could have been charged and absolutely was NOT protected under the 1st A. Now the problem, is the bitch mother lied so much, they probably believed the father was abusive and that may have been why they didnt charge the reporter or force her to disclose the location of the girls. However, now that the truth has come out (and barring statute of limitations) the reporter absolutely can be charged.
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My mother had an ugly break up with my father, but never let her feelings of him stop him from seeing me and my siblings. What a terrible woman for not allowing this amazing father to see his OWN children.
same, my mom loathed my father but still would write him letters to come see us more than once a year and how important it was for us to see him and have a relationship with him... it's entirely true
My mother tried this on me. I learned later how wrong she was, but the hardest part growing up was not knowing which parent was the good guy and which was the bad guy. Because that’s what my mother made me feel like.
Currently going through this right now
Because I lost out on so much and struggle so much mentally, financially and with making long lasting bonds. After I lost my daughter to a woman just like her, I almost lost myself. I let go of family bonds
So, there was no try, she straight up did this on you
If one parent seems to be respectful of the other parent not criticizing him or her, that may be the healthy parent.
The one criticizing the other parent in front of a child is more likely the messed up parent, even if there is some truth in what they are saying.
Why would a parent want to psychologically mess up their kid (just to win?)
The one who keep you from the other parent is the bad one. Selfish and evil
Every thanksgiving for the next few year she will spend it alone. Absolutely stunning insight from the judge and a fabulous punishment
great Judge wish there were more like her.
These judges deliberately destroy this family and most families for money. Dakota county court allowed Sandra to have sole custody for more than 1 year after reports of parental alienation. Years later, Judge Asphaug was forced to punish Sandra, only because this woman's kidnapping actions made it to the national news. See the details in the larger comment posted.
+John W It's very real.
THE 1, amen!
KidsNeed ParentsEqually ¡ WRONG ! She VIOLATED THE LAW !! Women( not all but MAJORITY) invest their beautiful lives and time to HATE the men they sleep, marry and choose to have babies with. The manipulation, bullying and the practice of not following the sentencing of the court's ruling is why children TODAY are DISFUNTIONAL. The judge didnt give a rats ass about the father or the mother's feelings or believes but only the welfare of those children. Eventually, those children will see with their own eyes the truth of it all and as s divorced father of a 28 year old son. I WILL PROMISE YOU, those children will EVENTUALLY HATE their mother....Do you get it ? DO YOU GET IT ? So before you write gibberish on social media that this judge separates families, just realize that CHILDREN are not negotiable regards who the mothrrs are. PERIOD ! And if this case went to the news THEN GOOD......It was the mothers fault for having bad choices and its why the Judge made her decision. This is a wakeup call for all custodial mothers who think they may have the write to control, mistreat the father of their children buy manipulating the society and by using the children to get what she wants illegally. AMERICA needs more strick Judges as this Judge is.
Randy Boone exactly
This is a tragic case of extreme parental alienation. Parents who steal away their kids have mental and emotional problems.
"Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn".
Nee, ze zijn egoïstische monsters.
That was way too lenient of a punishment for the mother. She should’ve been sentenced for longer. This is one of many examples of where accountability in the American justice system has gone to shit.
Unfortunately our law makers are more concerned about their next vacation than they are children.😢
They can’t do sentencing any higher than that in family court, there’s still a chance for this to go to criminal proceedings
How the hell can any parent deliberately hurt their child/children?!? This is utter insanity and truly incredible cruelty from this so called mother...
Because the parent only cares about themselves. Not their children. Which is absolutely sick
Because their narcissistic lust for revenge & having to win at all cost outweighs any consideration for the wellbeing of their children. The kids are just pawns in the game. My story.
Let me explain...
A bitchy wife knows that divorce is evil act against God. She may have been 'forced' to have an affair with another guy because of sth (but she won't admit that). She is full of guilt.
She is alienating the child so it doesn't find out the truth about the divorce and evil mother.
Another reason ~ revenge on husband for 'being forced" to file a divorce or have an affair. Pure hate.
a mother needs to learn not the judge
15 days each year. 😂😂 if it were the other way around the father would not see the light of day for a very long time.
Without ANY DOUBT.
45 day sentence is only 30 days for real because of 'good time'.
She should have been locked up immediately, for a period no shorter than 944 days...
The law is always on the mothers side even when they are guilty...appalling
What is parental alienation
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Not true. I have known both dads and moms who have gotten their children despite their history of manipulation and abuse. Those evil people who have made lifelong careers of manipulation and lies are extremely good at what they do and often pull the wool over the judge's eyes. This is done easily because the offending parent doesn't care about the long term effects it may have on their children, so they hold back nothing and spare no tricks. It seems that the people who are willing to do these thing, whether male or female are generally the ones who win.
@@carbonf2051 I agree with you.. I was this child, My mother did not receive custody in the divorce, and she was very bitter because of it. She ended up taking me and my sister to Colorado for about six months alienating us completely from my father. She would always tell us that my father chose my brother over the two of us, but the reality is, she took us when we got out from school without notifying my father. The only reason she did not take my brother was because He usually got home about the same time as my father and he would’ve already picked up on her idea by then. Well about six months after we left Texas my father had invested thousands of dollars into private investigators to find us. The only way they found us was because at the time we were at my aunt and uncle house and My dad got in contact with my uncle. He threatened to press charges against them for knowing we were being withheld from him and choosing to let it happen. So they gave him their address and the next day my father was there. I can honestly say that was the happiest day of my life. I thought my father had given up on me, little did I know he could hardly sleep every night not knowing his children were safe. He worked everything out, and I can not ask for a better father. But, in the end my mother lost everything. Not only did she lose her connection with her children, but she was charged just like this woman and it will be on her record for the rest of her life. I am now 23, it has been about 11 years since all of this occurred. My mother calls me maybe twice a year.. but I’ve ignored her ever since. The only time I speak to her is when I am forced to by dad. A lot of people tell me I need to let it go, find peace with it. Much easier said than done. As far as I’m concerned, she was never a mother to me. She always had her self interest above ours and it seems the only reason she reaches out so that she could know that we are not mad about it anymore. Well I am, and I will never forgive her.
Sorry I know this is a lot I just haven’t vented about this situation an it builds up.
@@carbonf2051 either way, that doesn’t dispel the fact that the law sides with mothers as a default and it’s always the dad’s fight to prove they are worthy
Going through this right now. Been 2 years and I’ve found out that the woman is always right and a father has to fight for every second of time with his children.
@Kitten Lyric You're obviously a young kid.
Troy Peck Hope things worked out for you...
I will never understand why anyone would do this to their children or the other parent. The amount of selfishness this act takes is just unbelievable!!! She deserves far more time than what she received.
I love that she has a yearly reminder of her mistakes!
Yes, a minor inconvenience, boo hood, she sure learned her lesson.
You do realize why right?
In the event during those years she is just one minute late returning those kids she will be in contempt of court & serve years. So this keeps her from any shenanigans. 👍👏
@@Rich-yj4ub are you reading tea leaves? Where are you getting that?
*Even when there were voices in the house, two were missing. Even when the house was full, two were missing.*
Hi
Fathers - blokes generally - get a rough deal in family courts. It's heartening to see that there are judges - female judges indeed - who get what fathers mean to their children.
splodgenessabounds In America, the present court system allows for 50/50 custody in most cases. The party making the highest salary is generally mandated to pay child support. Many times, that is the female. So, in America it has become advantageous for the man to be the alienator. Either way...male or female...it is abusive.
I've seen court decisions that appear fair and unbiased but the enforcement of the ruling and the protection of the father's legal rights are often times lacking unless he pressures the system (at great personal expense) to grant him equal protection not only on paper but in practice. The system often times does not care if the mother defies court orders. Enforcement of those orders will only be enacted if the father pushes hard for it. I would wager that was the case for this Zucki family. I'd guess she would have gotten away with it if the father hadn't pressured the court to enforce it's own laws.
procrastinator9. I saw first hand what you're talking about with my cousin. He would go to his kid's house (she had custody) on his day. He would drive 75 miles, get there at 9 a.m. Saturday morning as agreed upon but no one would be home. His ex would take the kids out for breakfast and shopping and video games or even a movie. They would get back at noon or after, and my cousin waited outside the entire time. His ex came to his door with a police officer once because she wanted to tuck the kids in, at his house. But in reality she wanted to "take a look" at what he had. During his scheduled 2 weeks in the summer is when his ex would schedule his son and daughter to go to summer camp, so he only got one week with them. When he was finally fed up, he took her back to court. The outcome was the judge finally told his ex that if she didn't abide by both the letter and spirit of the custody agreement, then my cousin would get custody, and she would be paying him child support. The ex-wife caused an outburst over this and the judge told her to sit down or he would find her in contempt. The ex-wife's Lutheran minister dad told her in open court to "sit down and shut-up".
This kind of thing happens all the time, and rarely do the mom's have to answer for it. But let that child support the dad's have to pay be one day late and all hell breaks lose......
All of them should take it to court and if it is not recorded have it be on tape themselves just to be sure. If you are a parent who is being alienated, on either side. You should drag their ass to court and if they delay and constantly make up excuses take action. Preferably by seeking help from organisations that work to help fight alienating parents.
Parental Alienation does not get the attention it deserves in courts! It's only used when the duration last many months or even years. Parental Alienation should be considered by courts for as little as 1 lost day of visitation and after a warning a second offense should require mandatory community service or a night in jail. The only acceptable reason to not allow visitation is when the child would be in danger and should require a report to child protective services or police if the parent does not allow visitation based on safety for child. Without filing a report they should always be found in contempt and face a punishment.
My boyfriend is going thru this right now. Hope she gets her karma in court
Run away.
She won’t.
They are broken up already garanteed
My baby girl has been missing since Oct of 2016 , and I have full custody the person who gave birth to her has taken her into hiding and the Nebraska law enforcement wont help me. I am glad someone got justice
Rooting for you. Be well.
That is terrible... I do hope it turns out well for you.
TheJSpencer81 IM SORRY TO HEAR THAT HAVE FAITH AND PRAY GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME AND ALL THE TIME GOD IS GOOD
TheJSpencer81 im so sorry 💝 i wish you the absolute best and hope you will be reunited with your little one very soon!!!. Never give up! 💝
lol. I'll take "not the whole story" for 200 Alex.
“Family is the cornerstone of our community.” Love that judge.
If there’s any kids reading this please know your mommy or daddy who was Alienated loves you more than you can ever know and feels you in their heart so strongly and misses you every second of the day
Oh, this hits me pretty squarely. I'm over 80 and seeing how my manipulative mother fits the example in the description. I was raised as her only child and groomed to meet her needs which haunt me to this day. Any time I try to step out of the mold, the mental pain and confusion are extremely painful. She's been deceased since 2010 but the wounds I find were all inserted during my formative years. I could see she was an ill person when I began my teens but it was no shield for what had already been done. My hope that others who encounter these highly disturbing demons can endure and realize what had been cast on them wasn't their fault which is one of the main crippling beliefs that come with it. I now have a better idea of what some elderly have been coping with that makes them look so socially awkward and some probably don't realize the source.
I'm pushing fifty and I can relate. I'm very sorry for what you've been through and I hope you're happy now.
You're exactly correct. Today we have a term for it, narcissistic abuse. It's a Cluster B personality disorder. And awareness of this type of abuse has been prevalent and is still increasing through social media with people across the world talking about it with each other. I wish you continued healing.
That woman got off easy what a joke when will women learn a child needs both parents
Sadly they wont any time soon. They like it like this. Their agenda is not to do whats best for the child but to do whats best for her. She will manipulate the child and make the child her caregiver untill she dies. Thats her agenda. She knows shes evil and she doesnt want to stay alone
When will society acknowledge the severity of emotional abuse? When will the sovereignty of parents, family be overturned? And why are children continually devalued, dismissed, sacrificed in the service of illusory stability. Abuse reveals chaos. Cowardice sustains abuse.
When will it be enforced the bitch be punished as wed be for the same shit. Wheres that energy?
@@MR-vk2rj so true! Other question is when will real women admit that the law should be applied equally to women as it has been to men. Have you ever noticed how yeomen will comment on videos like this but they tippy toe around directly calling the woman out? Instead it will be a comment like "both parents". I saw one of Judge Judy's videos on the same issue and a woman made a comment about men doing the same thing.
Well I think someone finally admitted to me the thought process behind punishing men much more than women. You see, they are concerned about whether there will be an actual physical retaliation against them for punishing someone. Isn't that crazy???? But yes. People actually think that way. I think this thought process must occur for people who have experienced extreme physical abuse of some kind. It kind of makes them crazy and they are much more lenient on some people instead of others and don't think objectively. And I think people who have this experience are attracted to jobs like being policemen or possibly judges. They like to have the authority to punish criminals.
Sadly this happens everyday and the children never win in these types of situations.
Ann Black either do dads
@@ixxgxx Mel Feit debates stuff like this
That “journalist” needs to be black balled and never allowed to do that job again.
Holy crap, there are judges that will actually do something about parental alienation?! Need one of those in my county.
Men need to be more careful about who they allow to have their children.
Parents*
Right because men have the ability to decide when and if a child is born... and I know what you going to say. "Well you can decide who to sleep with".
I wonder how that would go over if I said that to a woman complaining about a deadbeat dad...
@@darksidehavok it would apply the exact same way
@@darksidehavok women have just as much responsibility with that as men do
@@misscarolinaqueen5673
I didn't say it wouldn't apply... it definitely would... I said how it would go over... as in how people would react. Most look at it as me trying to make excuses for men being deadbeats.
This happens every day, and women get away with it every day. Glad to see a fair and honest judge in the room. To try and keep a man that actually wants to raise their children away from them is ignorant and counterproductive. You always destroy yourself, and all of your relationships.
It's a sad reality that children suffer the most by stripping them of a father due to parent alienation and false allegations.
It's not only men who suffer. My ex-husband has used money, and manipulation to get our children living with him. He refuses to send me pictures, let me be on paperwork, doesn't let me speak to them ever. Just because. It goes both ways. But regardless it's sick and evil.
@@captainswan3079 sorry to hear that, and my apologies for assuming I'm just trying to process my situation thinking this is the case with everyone but your, right it does go both ways. Good luck, don't stop fighting.
Thank you. :) Same to you if you're in the middle of this kind of stuff too. Yeah I just want people to know it goes both ways. It's just sad people do this at all.
@@captainswan3079 I wish it was a bad dream but it's a sad reality you know. What state are you in if you don't mind me asking?
This is why child support should be optional.
The judge was real soft on her. The law needs to be more harsh on women like this. Its not fair for the good fathers out there. I haven't seen my kids since march of 2018 but my moment will come.
If you were granted visitation or dual custody, there is no excuse why you shouldn't see your children. I hope for your sake and that of your children, things have since changed since your post.
It will come, dont worry, even if you have to wait until they're 18. I promise that it's worth it.
In Poland bitches like this don't go to jail at all. They rarely get fined. They are almost 'holy' mothers.
These are not laws.
Good luck brother wish you the best
Very sad, I’m and adult now of a mother who did this and the pain she caused me and my siblings has been life lasting. I was 4 when this happened and I’m 53 now, sadly the pain never ends. My mother stole a relationship with my father I can never get back. Shame on parents who do things like this!
doriestes2468 : I hope you can regain a relationship. It can never go back... So, I pray that you can forge a new, deep relationship with your family. It's never to late. I wish the best for you.
The family court system encourages father-child alienation.
What a joke of a sentence. If this was the father he’d be in prison for 5-7 years. Not two weeks every year in county jail.
It is a joke by this judge
Those kids belong to the father as much as the mother.
Good deal
Mel Feit watched this
My wife tried to turn our kids against me during our divorce, but it backfired. Ten years later, they hate her, but I have a great relationship with them. The irony of it is, while we were married, she would laugh at divorced women when they would try to turn the fathers against their kids, saying that it never works, and then she does the same thing. She was right; it never works.
Larkin Huey So ironical; she's living in the very situation she hated.
Sadly it does work. My Uncle's ex-wife has destroyed his relationship with his 3 children. They think of him as an abuser and a good-for-nothing. He pays/paid child support for decades and almost never got/gets to see or talk to his own children.
Your wrong: Thousands of target parents have had their children stolen emotionally if not physically by narcissistic attachment based parental alienation.
thank you for your testimony I am still wating to speak to my children after 11 years
It doesn't work in the end because when the kids become adults and flock from the alienating parents den then they can freely talk to their father/mother because the other is not around to stop them. It would however be hard since they have been taught for so long that he/she is the worst human possible.(It can come from both sides though men face it more often than woman obviously.)
It is wrong to hold the kids hostage like it until their adults and the parent deserves jail time for it ofcourse but she(ex-wife) is right in the end you can't keep him/her away forever.
I got custody of my kids. But even though my ex was a train wreck and a druggie, it was a fight. And after 15 years of in and out of court, I have seen firsthand how totally screwed up our court system is and how anti father the system and judges are. So to this judge...great job!
Sorry to hear your children and you went through this as well ! So happy for your children and you that you have them !!! This is what i just wrote above to another unfortunate father like us, best wishes to you and your children Rob......It's always the children who suffer most ! Same here out of n.y. state.......our 2 boys suffered and currently suffering immensely ! Now they're adults (early 20's) but i'd NEVER ever give up. The court sided with her after a few yrs of severe long suffering & (court proceedings) and the judge actually took my God given rights away to love, protect, honor, guide and cherish my little sons with no proof of accusations Psychologists even on my side (n.y. family court is atrocious) . I'd NEVER let a judge or anyone ever tell me i couldn't be around my sons, so i quickly mastered the art of disguise (as an old man). They were also a state away but i NEVER missed an event ! Plays at school, all their sporting events and even graduation. Half the time i was standing or sitting unintentionally right next to her and no one ever knew. My sons and i have gone through hell. Definitely risked going to jail and i'd do it all over again, our sons have no idea that i did these things. When a father loves and honors his children, he will do whatever it takes. They hate me but i'll never give up ! Ever !! I was blessed in life to have had the very best father and just wanted to pass that along....No one can ever take my hope & effort away.
@@shanghunter7697 Kudos to you. Kinda like you were Mr. Doubtfire! I wish you the best.
How much did you spend in court?
Why did you have kids with someone like that? Not smart!
I believe you. The system sets out to destroy the fathers and believe the women when they bring false claims against the men because they are angry and pissed off. Not all women do this but the majority do just out of pettiness. The laws need to change to be fair. The children suffer immensely from all the shenanigans!
Seems like a pretty weak sentence. If the husband had done the same thing he would have gotten at least a five year term in actual prison.
Life*
wouldn't the journalist keeping that info be obstruction of justice? God I dislike "journalists".
No I believe they are able to withhold any information.
This is very encouraging as a father whose in this similar situation. I hope that I have a judge like this in my case. Fathers keep fighting for the right to be dads and protectors of our children!
Rodney Bradley Good luck brother. I seriously wish you the best.
These judges deliberately destroy this family and most families for money. Dakota county court allowed Sandra to have sole custody for more than 1 year after evidence of parental alienation. Years later, Judge Asphaug was forced to give Sandra a small punishment for kidnapping, and only because this time a woman's kidnapping actions made it to the national news and a jury decided the case! See the details in the larger comment posted.
I couldn't fight and 2 of my 4 are permanently estranged.
Rodney Bradley n
I work for court system . The system is not for males at all gender bias is disgusting. My advise for men, sign prenup before you marry. Also a separation agreement prior to getting lawyers involved. Even if she asking for extra money, put a termination date on her payments. Better to settle outside courts system with mediator then allowing fake justice system to help you.
I'm an alienated father approaching 14 years of alienation. That judge should go to jail for acting willingly complicit and supportive of the most heinous, insidious and monetised form of child abuse that has ever existed. 15 days is an insult to that father and children. Disgraceful
I'm over 10 years alienated from my kids.
Society turns a blind eye to all of us parents that don't get to see our kids because they have been turned against us.
If we don't have a high profile case then nobody gives a shit.
Ridiculous to hear the judge acting as if she cares but this goes on every day usually without any interest by anyone.
My dad abandoned us when we were babies , my mom never remarried because he was always lurking around but he never did anything for us, but my mom NEVER put him down or said a bad things about him, as we got older we realized he was a deadbeat but my mom refuses to talk bad about him to this day
Good for your mom, she knew you would get older and decide for yourself. I didn't talk bad about my son's father. I got them talking last year, now he is 33. He stopped seeing him when he was 11, hurtfully. I was furious about that.
I can not believe what I just watched!
A fair Judge.
Men put up with this stuff all the time. It's nice to see a woman finally held accountable.
It wasn't much of an "accounting" for kidnapping children for 944 days and poisoning their minds against their father. I think a good old fashioned caning would be appropriate.
You are correct sir. I have seen many men go through this. Men go through this more than women.
@Llv14 90% child custody goes to women! Yeah men go through this more than women
Another woman gets off easy
Llv14
My ex-wife told the court I as the father abused our 4-year old son sexually, physically, and also raped her on a vacation trip, am unstable mentally, watched Texas Chainsaw Massacre with our son, along with many more hideous false accusations I don’t care to recall at the moment. The court psychologists, all 4 of them in separate evaluations of both of us, concluded she was lying. Yet she still got 70% custody time without penalty for her lies. Nor were there any issues demonstrated against me as to hindrances to my parenting abilities since I had already raised my other adult children. Yes, women have an unwritten advantage in court.
My husband’s ex-wife was so toxic she managed to basically ruin any chance of a relationship with their dad. He was a great father too. His son is a liar, thief and stays in constant trouble with the police. He is 34 years old now and has nothing. His daughter decided to have nothing to do with her father after she grew up. Basically believed whatever lies her mother told her. Really tragic. I believe that God will hold these heartless people accountable for all of this.
She got way less than she should.
A dude would havce gotten 5 years minimum probably. She got a total of 2.5 months spread out over the course of 5 years. With that she's allowed to get certain tax benefits for all 5 of those years. This is more of a help to her than anything. She can just take a 15 day vacation on the days she has to go to jail, be paid for it, and have free meals etc. She got nothing.
@@jerkface38 Pussypass
common sense detector he meant she can’t get vacation pay well she’s in jail
common sense detector okay do you know vacation pay? That’s a benefit you get when you have a job. So when she has to go to jail for 2 weeks, she can request that from her employer, and she gets paid for 2 weeks well being in jail
common sense detector and who asked for your iq? And I highly doubt that you’re within the 1% of people with a iq greater than 136. Maybe next time you shouldn’t tell bullshit online
As a part of a family who has been directly impacted by *severe* parental alienation, thank you for posting this!!!
This is so disgusting. I know both mothers and fathers who do this. Unfortunately it’s mostly mothers bc they usually are the primary residence. I have two boys and I have NEVER with held them and never would. When we split… and it was a bad one for me, I was devastated… It didn’t even cross my mind. I even agreed to pretty much 50/50 even though it literally sent me into a bad depression bc I wasn’t used to not being with my boys… the separation for me, was horrible. But it’s not about me… it’s about them. We suffer so they don’t. And we don’t let them see that suffering. We don’t put them in the middle. I explain to them that crying is ok, it’s ok to be sad bc I would cry and they would sometimes see… but I never tell him why. I never talk bad about their father. One of my friends almost died of a heart attack bc of the stress the mother put on him by withholding and threaten to, and honestly just being awful. I will never respect a parent who does this
A lot of fathers abuse their wives and children. I met a woman a few years ago who acted the same as you- holier than thou about how she would never separate the kid from the father. Meanwhile, the father literally beat her in front of the kid and emotional rages and outburst from him were a norm, including in front of the child. He was subjecting the child (4 years old at the time) to violence and emotional abuse regularly, and her Pick-Me mother thought she was a 'good person' for not thinking about trying to get sole custody. Both parents failed the child, the father for his violence and immaturity, and the mother for putting her obsession with appeasing him and society over protecting her daughter.
Holy crap that was my story! I was the monster I was awful. I walked away still paying child support all those years. I went from Daddy to Mr Steve. Its only after 25 years that my daughters are kind of contacting me and realizing that what their mother fill their heads with was pure bullshit. Good for this guy.
I'm very sorry to hear that Steve. Unfortunately it is far too common, and the courts don't recognize they are enablers of this despicable form of child abuse.
I let my son go live with his Dad for 2 years and 2 months. It almost broke me. The first time I saw him, after those 24 months, I cried and couldn’t stop. He called me by my first name. After reuniting with my son he called from his Dad’s house for me to come and get him and all of his belongings. I was at his Dad’s within an hour. Me and my son had to heal but we did. He saw what his Dad was and all the lies his Dad told him about me. We have been a true parent/child since 1995. I can never get back the time I lost and that makes me so very sad but he is with me now. I didn’t want to continuously fight with my ex-husband because it hurt my son so I stepped up but every single day I cried. I just had to wait until my son made his own decision. ❤
😔 I'm about to go through this somewhat same predicament God give me the strength.
Its hard bro
I'm going through it right now, my son is 6 months and I've never met him. Stay strong brother
Buckle up brother. Mine lasted 7 years, and I didn't do shit wrong
Prayers for you, young Mendoza. Also, find that rage that is sitting deep in the pit of your being and let is rise up, saying, "Never again." That's not to say you should go get drunk or be violent. But it is to say, you will never allow what you allowed to happen to you, ever happen again. And mean it.
Me to.
so many narcissists..
This has happened to my husband. His ex wife has alienated all four of his children from him. It’s such a heartbreaking situation. We pray for them daily and hope they will wake up someday and see the truth that their father was not the villian their mother made him out to be.
Minnesota family court is unjust I’m going through this nightmare right now.
Fight like hell for full custody. Only the non-custodial parent can be charged with kidnapping.
God Bless this Dad, his children, and God Bless this Judge for throwing the book at this evil mother. Looks like she'll have plenty of time to reflect over Thanksgiving holidays. Oh, the irony.
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Daphne Moeller Agree. Very evil. "Media mother O" needs to be reprimanded and doesn't deserve any promotion. Why do people put greed before the young ones lives. There's no excuse.
This is such a good man! Hope God continues to watch over and protect him and his children 💝
"Throwing the book???" Are you serious!?! 34 days plus 15 days for 6 years?? I want that "tough" judge the next time i have to go to court. LMAO!!!!
Wasn't the book but it was a very thoughtful sentence that with the children in mind was along the right lines
I like that she has to serve 2 weeks out of each year for the next few years. It will make sure she cannot just forget and move on, because no doubt the family will never be able to
My daughters mom is doing this same thing to me... submitting lies , half truths and of course I can do no right and she can do no wrong. haven’t seen mydaughter in 1 1/2 years, she’s 5, and I can’t afford a lawyer for the trial set in April. Say a prayer for me or wish me luck please!
How did it go
@@stickerlady1774 not good, bankrupted
How are things now?
This happened to my ex-husband as a young child. He was kidnapped to another state by his bio mom. Then when they were found, his mom cried “abuse” and had her other children lie about it to justify her actions. My ex-husband got put into foster care and an orphanage while they fought it out for an entire year. Absolutely nothing happen to the woman for kidnapping him and abusing him. Then, she repeated the same thing with 2 other men and 2 other sets of children. There needs to be MUCH MUCH harsher punishment for this type of crap. The damage inflicted on children who are kidnapped and hidden is lifelong. And they get nothing or a slap on the wrist! Ridiculous.
I feel this man. I am a survivor of this exact situation, however I, and my children, have not got closure.....yet. 18 years now
My x went through hell for 18 years fighting and all her drama she keep Facebook busy he sadly gave up fighting her
Same. It's been 10 years for me with little progress yet to regain my kids. The devil still has my children tightly wound around her finger, even though some of them are adults now. My kids are unable to leave the nest while focusing on caring for her every need while continuing to vilify their dad.
This will never happen in Poland.
I suffer untold pain after losing my beloved daughter :(
Adam Publiczny I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through 😢 it cannot be easy being alienated from someone you love. Just never give up, be patient, they’ll watch you, learn and grow. Much love, I appreciate you! ♥️
@Quentin Davis Find yourself a woman who has actually done the work of recovering from the abuse she herself endured. A sure sign of someone who is playing you for a fool; she constantly talks about her past, and makes it out to be one long victimization after another. Women who have legit been abused, raped, etc. tend to NOT want to talk about it to everyone she meets, and certainly not on a first date!
A friend of a friend was constantly whimpering to my friend K about all her troubles, and one day I finally told K, "Nobody has that bad of luck all the time. She's just inviting constant drama into her life. You don't need that."
"My way or the highway"... I know that all to well.
Very sad....
This was weak. The sentence was a joke. This judge should have put this woman in a prison for years. This will not make anybody think twice before pulling shit like this woman did. I have seen people get harder sentences for driving on a suspended license. Until judge's get serious and start giving serious sentences this kind of crime will keep happening. Joke!!!
RDC CS more like till women judges stop getting hired cause smh im done with them running the marriage scene
Maybe she realises that there is hope
They can only give a certain Amount of time depending on the crime, they can't just decide oh ya get 10 years lol
@Edwin Cheesecake oh no it isn't enough time. She made it sound like a lot by dragging it out, but its definitely not enough!
This is a telling commentary on the state of society today.
Those poor children.
That journalist should have been charged also.
Very sad.
About time!!!’ I just wish she would have spent the same amount of time in jail that he spent without his kids.
But...the truth is she will one day feel nothing but entiteled..ignore her November dates ignore probation laws AND GET A WORSE DAMAGING SENTANCE...THATS THE COURTS TRICK AND SHE WILL PAY WORSE BUT...SO WILL THE KIDS bb
I wish my parents were in jail for what they did to me but there is no justice in this world.
Love that verdict in sentencing! Mandatory 15 days of confinement every year on the date of the girls recovery. Though she should have to serve the 944 days regardless of the time she's already served...
Phoenix Bleu she should serve 10 years straight in the prison for the time he lost with his kids, then have no contact with the kids in any shape or form, and if she violates any of it she should be thrown back in again for another 10.
Should never get out.
Sky Blue she should have thought about the consequences of her actions before she actually kidnapped her children and made false accusations. As it is it is only 15 days a year. The father will never have a familial bond with the daughters that were taken due to the mothers brain washing.
Sky Blue argues that the staggered sentence will unnecessarily hobble the mother in her employment prospects. While I am not as sympathetic, I would be very interested in hearing what "better sentencing" Sky Blue might offer. 601salsa argues that the father will never have a familial bond with the daughters due to the mother's brainwashing. I agree with that assessment. In the final analysis, however, raising children is not about forming and maintaining family bonds for the sake of perpetuity. It is about helping the children thrive for themselves as they go forth into adulthood. Certainly, the relationship they have with both parents during their upbringing is an important component to that end, but it is not the only one. If the relationship with the father arguably is beyond repair, society should attempt to close ranks and provide the guidance that the father might have otherwise been able to provide. In this regard, sending a strong message goes much farther than ensuring that an alienator is subjected to a certain kind of punishment. So, are there any other creative sentencing ideas out there?
Phoenix Bleu Fuck that I would throw her ass for a up to 20 to 40 years for child abandonment each kid would 20 years she would rot in jail.
Ah yes, still the double standard. If a man had done what the wife had done he would have been in the hole for a long long time.
passthetunaporfavor Im going on 10 yrs with Maternal Alienation! No letters, calls NOTHING!! It goes BOTH WAYS
Tell that to my ex. 6yrs he's was getting away with the behavior of this mother. 6yrs to finally get supervised visits but has he seen a jail cell? Nope. No justice.
My ex did similar and got a slap on the hand and a warning. Michigan courts
passthetunaporfavor science actually has proved that men can be just as nurturing as women.
It’s unfair that women usually get more leniency even if their kids say differently.
It’s unbelievably sad.
My Mother never stopped my Father from visiting, buying us school clothes or taking us out to dinner. I promise you Sir..I promise you they will learn to resent her, and eventually hate her. Shes very very dangerous I hope she gets the maximum penalty. If they let her out she will eventually hurt someone. I pray the Father gets the peace he needs, and the love of his children. My sincerest prayers for continued strength Sir!
He hasn't forgotten you!🙏
It enraged me when I see a parent act this way. You are hurting your children!!!!
My uncle has two daughters who alienated him because of their abusive mothers. He is a good man who cares deeply for his children and he works 70hr weeks managing a warehouse to pay for their upbringing. He hasn't seen his elder daughter in 5 years and his younger in 8 (since birth). It's disgusting how the courts here still favor the mother and he hasn't been allowed to see his children.
I was once in love with a female narcissist. She became pregnant. Even though she was verbally abusive and physically aggressive, I was happier than I’d ever been when she told me she was pregnant. When she’d become upset or behave in toxic manners, she’d threaten to “kill our baby.” I was so afraid she’d do it so I was always careful not to ruffle her feathers. She’d threaten to call the cops on me and blatantly lie that I was abusive to her. I remember one time we were standing in the driveway and she punched me dead in my face 2x. She fell to the ground when I moved to avoid her landing another strike to the face. This made her upset so she screamed she was calling the police to have me arrested for battering her. The only thing that saved me was the neighbor’s video camera that captured video of the entire incident. We didn’t even know the neighbor had cameras. But the neighbor came over to tell the police what he and his wife had seen her do and heard her threat to lie on me. Out of fear she’d abort our child, I went back to her. Only the next time, when I told her I was leaving to cool off from a heated verbal confrontation, she struck me in my face with a glass vase. I suffered a concussion and had over 10 stitches in my face from the deepest cut you could imagine. I left her house after the attack. A mile up the road, crashed my $40K car into a ditch as I lost consciousness. She was arrested but decided to profusely lie that I had battered her and she acted in self-defense. The police officers knew she was lying as she didn’t have the slightest scratch, bruise or any indication that I had attempted to “strangle” her as she blatantly, falsely accused me of. By this time, she was almost 5 months pregnant so everyone advised there’d be no way she could have an abortion this late and that they never believed she’d do it, she was only saying it to control me. She became so furious that the state didn’t drop the charges on her, she killed our child and submitted a false petition for protection against dating violence. The sad part is the judge kept delaying the hearing citing her criminal case. I was desperate to move forward and I didn’t want her to be incarcerated while pregnant with my child so I requested the charges be dropped against her. Two months later, we had our hearing on the injunction she requested. After the judge told her he didn’t believe her and questioned her integrity and credibility and denied her petition, she blurted out that she had killed my child. Remember, this is during COVID, so we were on a Zoom video. You could never see below our stomachs. So I learned after dropping the charges believing she was pregnant, that she’d actually killed our child two months prior to that hearing and not to mention I discovered for the first time I wouldn’t become a father. Money can’t solve anything. I gave her plenty of money and paid her rent and car note while furnishing her entire home, fed her, bought her clothes but that none of it was enough to heal her broken and toxic heart from past hurts and child abuse (I now question if she was really abused). I struggle with the fact she killed our child every day. It was a very traumatic experience that I struggle to understand every day of my life, even today. Of course, I could have beaten her to a bloody pulp and hurt her badly but out of respect for her and my child growing inside her, and fears she’d ruin my career I would always stand down. So I am glad to see this man get some justice. It soothes my soul, at least temporarily.
How are you doing now?
@jimjohnson88652
The reporter who refused to divulge the location of the girls to law-enforcement should have been charged with obstruction of justice, contributing to the delinquency of minors, and child-endangerment.