Holy shit! This video literally showed up and I need it so much right now! I’m currently going through a situation with a guy a dated very briefly (weeks) We knew things weren’t really working out but when we met again for dinner and talk, I asked him why he was being distant and holy lord, he literally gave me a diagnose telling me I was almost a psychopath for not agreeing with everything he said, when I told him about a very specific thing he did he said “I don’t remember that happening, and based on history, sometimes you forget things so I don’t know if that’s even true” Like, to me it’s astonishing how some people will try to make you feel like everything is your fault, and when you mention something you don’t like, they just act as if it never happened. I’m sad because I like him a lot and we did have nice experiences in that short time, but watching your video made me accept that it doesn’t matter if I try to “fix” things with him, he will always be the one who’s right and I’ll always be the one to blame, and I don’t want to go through that. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yeeeees!!! I went nc with my parents while pregnant with our 2nd. Stayed nc till he was 2yrs old. He turns 17yrs old next week. I had to go nc again, nothing was learned, they actually got nastier. I haven't spoken to wither parent for 1 year on new years eve and this time, its for good. Dont be a Ginabina76... don't make the same mistakes as me, stay nc. It is not worth it. Everything in this vid is SPOT ON. Even the "lesson teaching".
Time has a special way of reinforcing my correct decision to sever ties. With each passing day week month of them out of my life it makes me that much more convinced I did right thing. There’s no way in hell I’d ever give another chance for someone so psychologically disturbed to re-enter my world & destroy me all over again
@@jerinpeter1390 we reconnected last year thru fb after 30+ years apart with no contact. It was only a lunch date that we met with each other. Over 33 years ago, we were together romantically. Our relationship back then was ruined by my substance abuse. She was instrumental in helping me get into treatment. I think our relationship at that time never had a chance for that reason. Yet we had love for each other. It was very difficult emotionally this time around for me to cut her off. After our lunch date, she went into silent treatment mode for 6 months & when we did communicate thru text or FaceTime she could only find fault & be judgement all the time. I became successful in my life & raised 3 wonderful kids yet whatever I said or did fell on criticism. She admitted once she’s “crazy” to me during one conversation when I called out her toxic behavior. It was extremely hard to let go emotionally. But I felt betrayed this time as she ignored me & then devalued me or breadcrumbs during the 6 months of hot & cold communication. Like Stevie Nix in Gold Dust Woman, she “ shattered my illusions of love “
Wait a minute did you just say the narcissist will never see it that they did anything wrong then the very next sentence you said that they will act sorry and contrite? those to emotions don’t run congruent do they?
No more chances.
I gave my x so many chances, and Avery chance was taken to a higher level of taking advantage of me .😢
That's right. We should not give them another chance.
Holy shit! This video literally showed up and I need it so much right now! I’m currently going through a situation with a guy a dated very briefly (weeks)
We knew things weren’t really working out but when we met again for dinner and talk, I asked him why he was being distant and holy lord, he literally gave me a diagnose telling me I was almost a psychopath for not agreeing with everything he said, when I told him about a very specific thing he did he said “I don’t remember that happening, and based on history, sometimes you forget things so I don’t know if that’s even true”
Like, to me it’s astonishing how some people will try to make you feel like everything is your fault, and when you mention something you don’t like, they just act as if it never happened.
I’m sad because I like him a lot and we did have nice experiences in that short time, but watching your video made me accept that it doesn’t matter if I try to “fix” things with him, he will always be the one who’s right and I’ll always be the one to blame, and I don’t want to go through that.
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yeeeees!!! I went nc with my parents while pregnant with our 2nd. Stayed nc till he was 2yrs old. He turns 17yrs old next week. I had to go nc again, nothing was learned, they actually got nastier. I haven't spoken to wither parent for 1 year on new years eve and this time, its for good. Dont be a Ginabina76... don't make the same mistakes as me, stay nc. It is not worth it. Everything in this vid is SPOT ON. Even the "lesson teaching".
Well. This is a clear sign to not go back. I wouldn’t have gone back either way but this gave me the confidence I needed. Thanks :)
They "act sorry and contrite" to win you back, then they'll revert to their narcissistic self.
Codependency kills! So much pain!
Amen. So correct. More crystal clear insight. Getting a bit wound up? Hope not. Thanks!
Thank u so much for this.
💯👍
Time has a special way of reinforcing my correct decision to sever ties. With each passing day week month of them out of my life it makes me that much more convinced I did right thing. There’s no way in hell I’d ever give another chance for someone so psychologically disturbed to re-enter my world & destroy me all over again
Sorry to hear but also glad you made it out. Was it easy to get out? Or was it a struggle?
@@jerinpeter1390 we reconnected last year thru fb after 30+ years apart with no contact. It was only a lunch date that we met with each other. Over 33 years ago, we were together romantically. Our relationship back then was ruined by my substance abuse. She was instrumental in helping me get into treatment. I think our relationship at that time never had a chance for that reason. Yet we had love for each other.
It was very difficult emotionally this time around for me to cut her off. After our lunch date, she went into silent treatment mode for 6 months & when we did communicate thru text or FaceTime she could only find fault & be judgement all the time.
I became successful in my life & raised 3 wonderful kids yet whatever I said or did fell on criticism. She admitted once she’s “crazy” to me during one conversation when I called out her toxic behavior.
It was extremely hard to let go emotionally. But I felt betrayed this time as she ignored me & then devalued me or breadcrumbs during the 6 months of hot & cold communication.
Like Stevie Nix in Gold Dust Woman, she “ shattered my illusions of love “
@@jerinpeter1390 hard emotionally ,, “shattered my illusions of love” Stevie Nix, Gold Dust Woman
Preaching to the choir I was with a narcissist for 20+ years, I knew the signs but failed miserably. Don’t be me 1st red flag run.
When it’s ur Mom… 😢
Don't do it for your peace of mind sign Cynthia Smith
Subhuman.
Wait a minute did you just say the narcissist will never see it that they did anything wrong then the very next sentence you said that they will act sorry and contrite? those to emotions don’t run congruent do they?