4th response is fawn , that was mine form of dealing with covert malignant narc partner of 12 years, had to move countries 3 years ago with 3 small kids. thank you for your videos,You are helping a lot of people. keep on doing great job , kudos! P,S. When something will happen to me I want everyone to know that it was my ex partners doing even if it will look like accident.
Thanku Danishji Yes I am feeling all these feelings but still to get over the self pity. Still afraid to make friends because he might ga and turn tham against me with his sweet talk as usual. Thanku any way🙏🏻🙏🏻
1. You have no urge to contact them. (I still have some wish to, as she has my grandson, but I don't have the urge to talk to her herself, just him.) 2. You do not care any more if they are happy again with the new supply. 3. You feel stronger, kinder, and wiser than before, including to yourself. 4. You recognize your worth and importance. You appreciate yourself. 5. You start to connect with yourself and the rest of the universe. 6. You start to feel joy and peace. 7. You no longer relive the past in flashbacks. (traumatic regressions). These flashbacks do not drown you.
Thank Goodness isnt it eonderful to vlose your window curtains snd no matter how much clammering yelling back anf forth dlsmming dootmrs to tell myself dint even get up to look put. If they got a bomb in my front or back yard ot will be nicer than enduring them.
I had a narcissistic mother, but I had no idea that's what she was because I had no idea what a narcissist was. I became a narcissist magnet. That type of behavior and treatment became a part of my personality in how I coped and dealt with people. The single most important key moment in my life so far has been learning, seeing, understanding what a narcissist is. If not for these experts who have taken the time to understand, to see and to realize what those of us who have suffered so much, never understanding what was going on and finally they are able to get to us so that we can crack the code. But once we do learn and see and fully understand, everything changes. We are different and we are free from them and we can finally look at ourselves and love ourselves and say no more. My gratitude is deep, I can't thank those who have given so much of themselves to help us who want to see, grow and heal. You are amazing.
Dnt wry ...U u r nt the only person 2 suffer toxic parent..my mother is an evil & i dealt with her, served her & now survived from her...rescued myself frm her trap
Oh so cool... I stay clear from the co- dependence stance, please! We invest so much on these relationships only to be stomped on like tired old neglected toys, sucks to be them, they're endlessly searching for supply and we've our own, we gave it freely/gladly but it wasn't enough, at least they're right about something!
Thank you, Danish, for articulating the victim's feelings of freedom and detachment from the abusive narcissist. Appreciate your caring tone in your explanations, as well.. It helps a lot!
Hi..After 34 years of narcissistic victim, finally I am happy and free... Now I am feeling the same what Danish Bashir has explained... Feeling like I am in heaven... I became very beautiful... Just like a New born baby... I feel stress free completely.... But the people surrounding me can't understand what a NPD is all about.... Because he has a charismatic personality...Now I am free and enjoying even grass, and simple people with a smile... Thank you Jesus 🙏💝
Thanku Danishji . yes I am feeling all these signs. But still to overcome self pity but still afraid to make rriends because he might go to tham and turn tham against me as usual. Any way thanku once again 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Spot on! Great video. In my personal experience there is one more sign - total indifference towards the narcissists. You don't see them as regular people, but as lifeless objects (tables are turned!) and you have no compassion towards them. Their suffering or pain doesn't trigger empathy.
I feel that I am there. The amount of peace and happiness that I have been feeling lately is quite scary but I know eventually my body will get used to feeling good 😌
Survived an abusive narc mother who everyone thought was 'the perfect Christian' mother (and who wanted to abandon me in hospital when I was not expected to live because she did not want to bother looking after me), then survived a 23 year abusive marriage because I never recognized the signs. Finally able to leave (difficulty living in remote location plus financial dependency). Got out of both relationships and starting over at 60. I'm really surprised I'm still alive.
Reached this stage after one and half month of no contact. M at peace, feeling comfortable, don't cry or feel any loss, enjoying life on my own... njoying speaking with new PPL...If I try to think about the past , I feel m blessed that m out of that misery.. And I wanna thank you, your videos have helped me to come out and recover a lot. ❤️🙏 From India..
Everything Danish presented resonated. I wasted 1 year of my life with this narcissistic 🤡 Who was gunning for marriage. He thought I was doormat Grade A supply. Right now, glad to be rid of him. And I could care less who he's involved with. I feel bad for them!
All so very true. The minute I left my narcissist he started looking for a replacement. I felt sorry for the replacement just knowing she was getting the same treatment I got. When she got Alzheimer's, narcissist dropped her off in a care home and immediately looked for her replacement. Narcissists never change. The behavior is repeated again and again.
Can forgive when they cannot hurt you anymore and when input doesn’t matter anymore but still have flashbacks and moments of clarity when replaying past events in my mind. Painful when you realize that you were in love with a mirage.
I recently left a woman who I thought loved me recently.So many toxic traits. I was always getting accused of chasing women and I became a shell of the man I was. It all come to ahead when she accused me of the most sickening thing I've ever heard. I almost lost my children,job and myself. I am now more aware of these signs now.
I’ve definitely moved on mentally. So blessed ❤🙏🏽that the UA-cam algorithm led this channel to me. I cannot wait for this divorce to be finalized. I’m grateful for the new supply,hope she keeps him occupied until he finds another supply so that he’s not tempted to contact me.
Your words touched me deeply 🙏 Thank you! I enjoyed a walk in the forrest today with all the beautiful colors. 2 months without my ex covert narc, and life is finally on the right path. When I get emotional and think of him, I recall what he did to me for 7 years, and I almost feel like I have wings now. Never going back to being a supply for that monster again. I’m free and healing❤️
I have reached this stage, but only by God's grace and sending many angels who have taught me about these demons! Thank you for this video. It's important to know how we heal and what that looks like. So many of us are serial narc bait! It starts in childhood and follows us throughout our lives. I'm much older now - in my 60's - but finally happy, healthy and whole!
I just got this stage today. I had to drive by her house. Saw her ex boyfriends truck there in the driveway, and felt so validated by all the suspicions and instincts I felt. I am so clear now
If we can learn to trust anything from dealing with these types of people, we learn to trust our instincts. We are not crazy or imagining things. We are not overreacting because we want to start a line of communication on our observations. We have an instinct to preserve ourselves and it is our greatest tool against them. It is the tool they target to destroy by trying to confuse us with gaslighting tactics and attacking our self worth. The less we feel we can trust that little nagging gut feeling the more their tactics work. Always trust your instincts. Advice I will take for myself.
I am not absulutly free but working on it. Parents narcissist father left us when i was 3 years old. Left husband after 40 years of marraige. I can't get rid of him or my mother because she and ex live on my property. My son inlaw totally narcissistic also live on my property. Son in law destroyed all my trees at my property. Mother poisoned 3 dogs and my beloved cats. Told my children i am mad. After my divore i connected with a friend and he turned out to be the worst of the worst narcissist. I now stay in my room and talk to myself. Pray to God and i know i am not the only person in this world suffering this abuse. Slowly healing. Thankyou for this beautiful program.
Wow! I’m in awe of this channel. I’m glad I found it. I’ve been through a lot with the father of my child. I do believe I’m in this phase of not being moved by him like before. Thank you 🙏🏾
good for you!!! I'm in the same boat and not totally fully there. I'm struggling to get there. I would do complete no contact if I could but the laws where I live mean we can't fully escape. I do all I can to keep her safe which means seeing him every week so she doesn't have to be alone with him. It's not fair that we can't get away fully. Working hard to separate my mind as fully as I possibly can.
I have joy and I get stronger everyday even though I am battling insomnia and physical health and I feel it is worth it leaving the toxic people .I have faith that I will get there .when I start to think of them ,I quickly switch off .and tell myself that I am not going back to Egypt let the Pharaohs enjoy the pyramids that I helped them building and I will start build my own .
I honestly think the most exceptional part of it all is no drama. There is none at all. And I don't miss drama by any means. I find myself completely disengaging from any situation or conversation that feels like a trap. I worry less. I am able to truly process my thoughts and feel my emotions, which are no longer self destructive. I no longer feel bound to a one track life and I take on challenges with a confidence that is unshakeable. I find myself speaking the absolute truth even if it hurts. And knowing that deception & gas lighting only makes everything worse, even if I feel like I could get away with it. I'm glad that I can fully embrace the human experience now, rather than reject it.
you are so right. when you feel peaceful, connected and loving - then you are free. but God is with you also in the middle of all the difficulties. don't doubt that
I believe my husband was in a narcissistic family and did not do well and became a narcissist. I survived him. I am healing. I am moving on. I am not there yet completely but I will get there.
Danish you are a blessing. I have wondered if I was healing because the abuse started actually when I was born and continued off and on with different people untlil fairly recently. I was making progress through my life but little information was available to help one cope until recently. I was guilty of #7 until recently, I stopped ruminating about the pain and injustice and began "ruminating" on my accomplishments, winning against all odds. I also began taking even better care of myself in small ways. Then I had a very vivid dream. I dreamt I was riding as a passenger in a car. The driver would not follow directions and was careless and reckless. In my dream I stopped the car, made the bad driver get out and told them To get a ride home. I took over the car, drove, had fun at a mall! When I woke up from that dream I felt such a sense of pleasure and relief! I know I am healed and I will not let anyone drive me again. I pay a lot of attention to my dreams but this one was very special. Your knowledgeand message are priceless.
Getting close…no contact since Feb this year. Moved out June 2021. Divorce should be settled by end of year. 65 and almost free after 19 yrs with a dark narc.
I have already noticed how much I appreciate the people who would never hurt me and the places where i feel safe. For sure, im still reliving the family trauma. It will take a long time. Thank you for another fantastic message Danish.
Each and every word was absolutely right for me. I ticked almost all even though I'm still living with him. I just want to wipe out any thoughts of him and I'm trying to work on to my life and my 6yrs old daughter. He has been given a 6months time. He is in his love bombing stage and I can feel the anger behind when he buy me my medications. I'm taking small steps like taking effort to treat my health issues which I undergone. Next recollect my driving skills then seek a job as I have a profession. My age, years should not stop me!! Actually there must be nothing anymore which can block me other than my Creator!!!! I'm happy that nothing of me have I lost because of this person. I have faced the worst, what next to come won't be that bad.... Definitely!
I hope to achieve these signs of healing soon because I am at the very beginning of what will be an excruciating discard process. I am grateful for the encouragement and enlightenment I get from these videos. I would be so lost without.
You are no where close then. They will contact u to get back with u . It will feel good but when u see that things will get worse and back gone they will be again….3 to 4 more time’s that is when u will get tired and be done!!! Life is too short to deal with those demons from hell
Still struggling with #7. I was no contact for 2 months and at peace. Then the narc sibling started calling my landline because I had blocked her on my cell. Now I blocked both and sent her a message not to call me, contact me or come to my home. That was a setback, but I’ll get over it. I never want to see her again.
This video is 100% true. You KNOW when you have healed. It is like seeing the world in a brand new way. You feel strong knowing you came out of the madness. Like you said, peace, joy and happiness in the littlest things come back and stronger than ever!!! Thank you Danish!
I give everyone props for staying around for 10, 20 and more years with your narc. I was in it for only 10 months and I was miserable. suffocated and lost. The oppression that covered everything, even the good things was overwhelming. I am glad everyone got out.
i am now in my 1month no contact with my ex narc partner, all you said here in this video is true..i always watched your videos whenever i need some encouragement on my own, because nobody knows my situation and not all people understand what is the meaning of narcissism. So thank you so much for that Danish🙏🏻🙏🏻 As i was saying, i feel like i am almost there even though i know it is still early for me to say that..before i cannot stand the fact that he is ignoring me, so i always begged and cried for him to forgive me in things that i didn’t know my mistake. but now in my one month no contact with him, i have the strength to not contact him at all, even though last 2days it was his birthday but i did it, i didn’t let myself go down to that road again.but in no.7 in what Danish says i. still have that flashback all the time, i got the chills with just the thought of him, i am panicking when i remember his face and looks on me.nightmares everytime i sleep..i am trying to fight this everyday. i know it will still be a long battle for me but i know that i will beat this and i will have my true liberty in life.
i literally felt so alone, and having narcissistic parents is so hard. because you cant hold it this stuff and cant say to people "look here is". i feel so anxious, your video gives me so peace. this abuse is real and i will save myself. thank you so much. being trying to be good be okay in this toxic household so so tiring.
My heart goes out to you Rosa Mia. Could you try staying out of the house as much as possible or maybe keep to yourself in your room or some other place out of their way so they don't see your joy and try to snuff it out? It helped me to stay out of the house with friends and people who appreciated and understood me. I didn't know what narcissism was and neither did my friends. They and I just knew there was something very wrong though.
Dnt wry @rosamia ...U u r nt the only person 2 suffer toxic parent..my mother is an evil & i dealt with her, served her & now survived from her...rescued myself frm her trap
I also feel extremely alone😢 m the only child and I live with her... My mother can't see me having fun, enjoying with my family and friends👭👬... She has made my life hell
2yrs. No Contact and if I do have a flash back it instantly goes away. I’m blessed to be out of that mess🙏🏾💪🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 NO CONTACT FOR LIFE!!! Thankyou for this video
Beautiful. It is so true , knowing you are healed from your experiences with these difficult people. The "7 signs you hv moved on" was so wise & encouraging. Thank you.
I love your videos I have gone through several Narcisists relationships and every one of them was completely different. I learned all about Narcisists and also about myself. I learned about setting up boundaries and I opened up again to Intimacy ( nothing to do with sex at all), and am not scare to trust and to be vulnerable. I can trust people again. I opened my heart to find love again ❤️❤️ also people dealing with Narcisists are dealing isolated BECAUSE they are wrapped up in their own problems and cannot look beyond this. Please look,because once you do, you will see there is so much more other people dealing with the same things as yourself. You will also see how much MORE beauty there is in the world. There is love. Unconditional love is infinite ❤️❤️❤️
Hats off to you sur. You are like a divine. I feel the god speaking through you. I currently suffering under a narcissist for the past 11 years. I feel like dying. But your words make me live. Thank you sir.
I thank you , Danish , for more than 3 years , my female neighbour have been visiting my house . She did not talk to me but whenever I looked at her , she used to smirk and felt terribly awkward . I have been facing this thing passive agressive behaviour since childhood but this one was more intense , her behaviour like silent treatment , smirking irritated me a lot , she treat my family very well except me . I used to search on internet about the personality problems and I used to think that I might have personality problem . I used to type everything on Google whatever I thought about me and others . And then I found the word of narcissism and then I got everything . I watched videos regarding narcissism. Then I found that where lies the problem . I found the root causes . The most interesting story I want to tell you ,Danish Bhai , today I went to wedding function and my neighbour also attended that function with us . I behaved as if she did not exists, I did not look at her though she was sitting besides me . After the party , she said to my mother that sadiya does not talk much , she should talk . 😀 I am happy that I handled her very well . I watched your videos and I am happy that I got solutions . Thanks brother , today I feeling light . I emerged as a warrior. I won . And the credit goes to you . Thanks again brother . May Allah give you more peace , health , satisfaction and blessings .
I can relate to your comment about opening to the universe after moving out of the narc nonsense entrapment. I was reminded of a Khalil Gibran quote that touched similarly on the same subject. I couldn't find the quote, but I did find another good Gibran quote: "And God said, "Love your enemy" and I obeyed and loved myself." This quote hit home with me because I just thought of the narcs as enemies while not realizing I was also my enemy by not loving myself during my decades long trance under narc control. THANK YOU for ALL of the information on this video and also on all your other videos. I am VERY GRATEFUL for your breakdown of information that presents clarity & enlightenment after all the time I spent in dark confusion.
@@jbrown2908 You are welcome! Sometimes I like to escape from chaos by reading online quotations by Khalil Gibran. He was a true empath with a huge humanitarian spirit & a lot of wisdom. He was also an artist and a dominately right brain thinker. I also read through collections of his quotes to try find this quote: "Yesterday we were a small spark buried under ashes. Tomorrow we will be a raging fire at the head of the valley." I think this is a Gibran quote but I am not sure + I don't know if I remember all the words correctly. I have read a lot of Gibran quotes looking for it. I think President John F. Kennedy may have read Gibran's writings because one of Kennedy's most famous quotes was "Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country." Later I found Gibran had the same quote many years earlier. JFK liked to read a lot & Gibran's books were popular in JFK's life time. But the possibility also exists that both of them had the same mindset & both independently came up with the quote. If JFK borrowed the quote, he probably never thought he would become famous for the quote. I apologize for all the ramble about Gibran, but in my defense, I am an empath and Gibran was an empath. I am like thousands of others who are empaths and liked him tremendously because he was a part of our empath tribe.
I believe relationships with narc was my bad karma of past life or may be current that god gave me this phase. But Once I am out of it I thank god everyday as it’s a learning lesson for me. And the life once you identify and recover out of narc relationship cannot be explained in word. It’s divine. You feel like a super human
Somehow left a narc spouse; narc parent finally expired due to oldage. Starting my new life at age 60, trying to heal myself. I am surprised that I am surviving inspite of health issues caused by extreme stress.
Beautifully explained.. 👏 I am not free in my relationship, and don’t know my future .but one thing I am so sure of is that I have climbed each and every rung of the ladder ( all the 7 points ). Spiritual connection has opened my heart, not only for others but for myself first.. I understand the difference between resilience & self importance.. I don’t do things at the cost of my dignity & self respect, any more, while accommodating others . Yes, you are right about calling it a HELLISH experience.. my entire being ( DNA) was unplugged & yet,I managed to rise like a Phoenix .. hence it’s a new birth & a new perspective to life .. the small things give me so much more joy than globe trotting!! I am quite content with spending time alone , coz I now appreciate this experiences of life’s long journey - not as punishment or isolation but lessons . I am grateful for this life , rather than cursing it for not having given me a“ soul mate “ 😅 empaths actually are idealistic romantics & want things to end like a fairy tale , isn’t it ? But now I have re written my script , so I am definitely stronger more capable ,and powerful I don’t need any ones approval or certificate!! - now I look at my life , my purpose , my birth as a blessing on the narc - not vise Versa .. 🙏 staying afloat in the murky waters , but blooming like the Lotus 💕 thank you for your videos - I see them as karmic interventions , to give me support and strength. 🌻
I'm just at the beginning on the long healing journey and I'm between revenge, sadness, panic attacks andhyper positivity. But what I'm experiencing a lot in the moment is that I want to spend a lot of my time completely alone. Outside. And that I want some "revenge".... Idk.. It's just, really, sounds, to me, that I'm just standing at the starting line from the long healing journey...
You are perfectly right. I even started remembering things from my childhood which I couldn't remember. I still live with him but he has no effect on me whatsoever. Making my exit when the time is right. Thank you.
Brilliant...u have helped me. This is where I am at....God is good. It's true it's the worst hell on Earth the torture of being with a narc; I'm slowly coming out of it💜 I'm actually taking notes down in my journal of what you are saying thank you for your care compassion and Brilliance💙 God bless you💜🌎🌍💜 from Boston Massachusetts USA
Everything Danish said in this video is so true true!! I'm the most resilient- I'm stronger than ever in all aspects and I am not scared by anything... The Narcisdists really cower now! Thank you Danish for helping me and so many others!❤️ Your good works are priceless!🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️
TQ,most powerful and caring MSG, healing not reliving the past,, finding a new sense of well-being, understanding what's happening all this makes one's life more peaceful TQ it's a tough n long journey,your videos help a lot stay blessed 💐🌷
I am beyond grateful to be at this point in my life happy and thriving!! I am resilient! I love myself to the fullest! I no longer play about “Me” I can actually check off all 7 🎉🎉 and it feels absolutely amazing!!! to be free. I am 4yrs of complete NC from someone I thought I couldn’t breathe without, and the me today is out here just breathing away! Your absolutely right when you said if you can survive and make it out being with a narcissist you can survive anything! Love and light to everyone! I am so proud you! 💕
Thank you so much danish!your advices and contents helped me to move on and break free from months of depression.I endured two years of cheating,lying,devaluing and insults that destroyed me emotionally.this kind of contents is like a shelter for broken people,it will help you to heal from the miserable experience inflicted by the soul less narcs.
Thank you for this video. I am feeling like you explained. I don’t want to be around him anymore. It feels good to not feel like I have to be his victim. He is evil. You are inspiring to me and I thank you.
Your videos have given me the best affirmation of healing and recovery. You truly have a gift of articulating these feelings as well as real experience and the willingness to share it. I'm so very grateful. Thank you!
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you. The grief was intense but now the light is shining in a little bit. I am seeing a much better future.
Εvery comment,description,analysis,statement of yours in relation to that extremely weird, psychopathetic condition of narcissism is more than precise.You save souls.We could nt be more grateful.Thank you!
Thanks a lot for this video..I'm in this process of getting away from from narcissist husband..and I am into spiritual learning Pranic healing therapy to heal my family members..specially my daughter & my husband..so that he doesn't travel along with me in my next birthday as its all bases on Karmic..thank you sir
I checked them all! Feels like the biggest accomplishment of my life. And these feelings of love and joy and peace are AMAZING!!!! I'm greeting people and smiling more and feeling connected and it's such a weight off my shoulders.
So true. Thanjs for thus video. I got conned by a Narcissist to attack his supply, when I didn't have a goal or desire to be in his life. Like I was trying to get out of his Life and influence, when I made contact with his supply. Then I got triggered by being repeatedly victimized by his supply. I mistakenly perceived my behavior as self-defense -- after being triggered post attacks / victimization.
I am beginning to check all those boxes 😊 and I feel so blessed and grateful for being alive after the battle of a life time! Thank you Danish. God bless you❤
I'm currently divorcing my Narcissist husband. I completely lost myself. My 2 daughters also suffered whilst going through this darkness. Currently went through spiritual awakening. . Now I'm healing, feel much better, much calmer. I have much better relationship with my loved ones since I started my healing. My ex made me lose my confidence, self esteem. I have faith in god which I think , the universe stepped in and rescued me and my girls from 13 years nightmare. Thank you for your help and sharing your good advice. Really appreciate it 🙏🙏🙏
Thankyou so much,will be watching this several times.i look forward to this healing.i am just starting to change inside getting stronger ,this is so good to hear.thankyou.I 🦋💗
i am a natural mystic my journey has been almost exclusively alone, with the universe as my guide and home this channel proves to me that i AM ok, not dancing with madness as i feared
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Yup. I have moved on.
4th response is fawn , that was mine form of dealing with covert malignant narc partner of 12 years, had to move countries 3 years ago with 3 small kids. thank you for your videos,You are helping a lot of people. keep on doing great job , kudos! P,S. When something will happen to me I want everyone to know that it was my ex partners doing even if it will look like accident.
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Thanku Danishji Yes I am feeling all these feelings but still to get over the self pity. Still afraid to make friends because he might ga and turn tham against me with his sweet talk as usual. Thanku any way🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thanks a lot for your videos it's helping a lot. 😊
1. You have no urge to contact them. (I still have some wish to, as she has my grandson, but I don't have the urge to talk to her herself, just him.) 2. You do not care any more if they are happy again with the new supply. 3. You feel stronger, kinder, and wiser than before, including to yourself. 4. You recognize your worth and importance. You appreciate yourself. 5. You start to connect with yourself and the rest of the universe. 6. You start to feel joy and peace. 7. You no longer relive the past in flashbacks. (traumatic regressions). These flashbacks do not drown you.
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Thank Goodness isnt it eonderful to vlose your window curtains snd no matter how much clammering yelling back anf forth dlsmming dootmrs to tell myself dint even get up to look put. If they got a bomb in my front or back yard ot will be nicer than enduring them.
What makes this channel different is that it's simple, sensitive and empathy filled! Thank You Danish!
I had a narcissistic mother, but I had no idea that's what she was because I had no idea what a narcissist was. I became a narcissist magnet. That type of behavior and treatment became a part of my personality in how I coped and dealt with people. The single most important key moment in my life so far has been learning, seeing, understanding what a narcissist is. If not for these experts who have taken the time to understand, to see and to realize what those of us who have suffered so much, never understanding what was going on and finally they are able to get to us so that we can crack the code. But once we do learn and see and fully understand, everything changes. We are different and we are free from them and we can finally look at ourselves and love ourselves and say no more. My gratitude is deep, I can't thank those who have given so much of themselves to help us who want to see, grow and heal. You are amazing.
Dnt wry ...U u r nt the only person 2 suffer toxic parent..my mother is an evil & i dealt with her, served her & now survived from her...rescued myself frm her trap
Oh so cool... I stay clear from the
co- dependence stance, please! We invest so much on these relationships only to be stomped on like tired old neglected toys, sucks to be them, they're endlessly searching for supply and we've our own, we gave it freely/gladly but it wasn't enough, at least they're right about something!
Thank you, Danish, for articulating the victim's feelings of freedom and detachment from the abusive narcissist. Appreciate your caring tone in your explanations, as well.. It helps a lot!
Hi..After 34 years of narcissistic victim, finally I am happy and free... Now I am feeling the same what Danish Bashir has explained... Feeling like I am in heaven... I became very beautiful... Just like a New born baby... I feel stress free completely.... But the people surrounding me can't understand what a NPD is all about.... Because he has a charismatic personality...Now I am free and enjoying even grass, and simple people with a smile... Thank you Jesus 🙏💝
Very few people understood why I left my narcissist husband but some did. You'd be surprised that some people see through the narcissists act.
So true people are not aware,As they heard narcissism, they don't understand what i am talking about
Thank the Lord.
So grateful I got away and saw the signs early on🙏 He blocked a blessing and I learned the lesson. Self love all the way💯 Thank you
Thanku Danishji . yes I am feeling all these signs. But still to overcome self pity but still afraid to make rriends because he might go to tham and turn tham against me as usual. Any way thanku once again 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Spot on! Great video.
In my personal experience there is one more sign - total indifference towards the narcissists. You don't see them as regular people, but as lifeless objects (tables are turned!) and you have no compassion towards them. Their suffering or pain doesn't trigger empathy.
I feel that I am there. The amount of peace and happiness that I have been feeling lately is quite scary but I know eventually my body will get used to feeling good 😌
Took me a year to reach this stage after divorce. Working on myself now.
Survived an abusive narc mother who everyone thought was 'the perfect Christian' mother (and who wanted to abandon me in hospital when I was not expected to live because she did not want to bother looking after me), then survived a 23 year abusive marriage because I never recognized the signs. Finally able to leave (difficulty living in remote location plus financial dependency). Got out of both relationships and starting over at 60. I'm really surprised I'm still alive.
Reached this stage after one and half month of no contact. M at peace, feeling comfortable, don't cry or feel any loss, enjoying life on my own... njoying speaking with new PPL...If I try to think about the past , I feel m blessed that m out of that misery..
And I wanna thank you, your videos have helped me to come out and recover a lot. ❤️🙏 From India..
Hiii I’m from India too … how to move on from these experiences
After just over 8 months of no contact,Im still in pieces.
Glad you feel ok though
it took me a year. but am grateful, so many lessons strengthened who I am though it was a hell walk in those times.
Same here,2 and a half months out of hell, such a relief now, stronger daily.🙏
@@princess_sapphireKeep going forward you will get where you want and deserve to be. It WILL happen. Blessings to you
When my creativity comes back and I dance in my livingroom spontaneously or when I smile more again..
Everything Danish presented resonated.
I wasted 1 year of my life with this narcissistic 🤡
Who was gunning for marriage. He thought I was doormat Grade A supply.
Right now, glad to be rid of him. And I could care less who he's involved with.
I feel bad for them!
All so very true. The minute I left my narcissist he started looking for a replacement. I felt sorry for the replacement just knowing she was getting the same treatment I got. When she got Alzheimer's, narcissist dropped her off in a care home and immediately looked for her replacement. Narcissists never change. The behavior is repeated again and again.
Very bad :(
Can forgive when they cannot hurt you anymore and when input doesn’t matter anymore but still have flashbacks and moments of clarity when replaying past events in my mind. Painful when you realize that you were in love with a mirage.
I recently left a woman who I thought loved me recently.So many toxic traits. I was always getting accused of chasing women and I became a shell of the man I was. It all come to ahead when she accused me of the most sickening thing I've ever heard. I almost lost my children,job and myself. I am now more aware of these signs now.
I’ve definitely moved on mentally. So blessed ❤🙏🏽that the UA-cam algorithm led this channel to me. I cannot wait for this divorce to be finalized. I’m grateful for the new supply,hope she keeps him occupied until he finds another supply so that he’s not tempted to contact me.
Your words touched me deeply 🙏 Thank you! I enjoyed a walk in the forrest today with all the beautiful colors. 2 months without my ex covert narc, and life is finally on the right path. When I get emotional and think of him, I recall what he did to me for 7 years, and I almost feel like I have wings now. Never going back to being a supply for that monster again. I’m free and healing❤️
Praise God ❤
I have reached this stage, but only by God's grace and sending many angels who have taught me about these demons! Thank you for this video. It's important to know how we heal and what that looks like. So many of us are serial narc bait! It starts in childhood and follows us throughout our lives. I'm much older now - in my 60's - but finally happy, healthy and whole!
Age -gift of wisdom
I just got this stage today. I had to drive by her house. Saw her ex boyfriends truck there in the driveway, and felt so validated by all the suspicions and instincts I felt. I am so clear now
If we can learn to trust anything from dealing with these types of people, we learn to trust our instincts. We are not crazy or imagining things. We are not overreacting because we want to start a line of communication on our observations. We have an instinct to preserve ourselves and it is our greatest tool against them. It is the tool they target to destroy by trying to confuse us with gaslighting tactics and attacking our self worth. The less we feel we can trust that little nagging gut feeling the more their tactics work. Always trust your instincts. Advice I will take for myself.
I am not absulutly free but working on it. Parents narcissist father left us when i was 3 years old. Left husband after 40 years of marraige. I can't get rid of him or my mother because she and ex live on my property. My son inlaw totally narcissistic also live on my property. Son in law destroyed all my trees at my property. Mother poisoned 3 dogs and my beloved cats. Told my children i am mad. After my divore i connected with a friend and he turned out to be the worst of the worst narcissist. I now stay in my room and talk to myself. Pray to God and i know i am not the only person in this world suffering this abuse. Slowly healing. Thankyou for this beautiful program.
Wow! I’m in awe of this channel. I’m glad I found it.
I’ve been through a lot with the father of my child. I do believe I’m in this phase of not being moved by him like before. Thank you 🙏🏾
good for you!!! I'm in the same boat and not totally fully there. I'm struggling to get there. I would do complete no contact if I could but the laws where I live mean we can't fully escape. I do all I can to keep her safe which means seeing him every week so she doesn't have to be alone with him. It's not fair that we can't get away fully. Working hard to separate my mind as fully as I possibly can.
@@rebeccad5201 seeing him still gets to me as well but what can we do, they are the fathers to our kids.
I’m separated but still dealing with him cause my daughter, I’m so afraid of him turning her like him and his mother 🥺
Yes, when u are born out of war, you are invincible. Gratitude💐
I have joy and I get stronger everyday even though I am battling insomnia and physical health and I feel it is worth it leaving the toxic people .I have faith that I will get there .when I start to think of them ,I quickly switch off .and tell myself that I am not going back to Egypt let the Pharaohs enjoy the pyramids that I helped them building and I will start build my own .
I honestly think the most exceptional part of it all is no drama. There is none at all. And I don't miss drama by any means. I find myself completely disengaging from any situation or conversation that feels like a trap. I worry less. I am able to truly process my thoughts and feel my emotions, which are no longer self destructive. I no longer feel bound to a one track life and I take on challenges with a confidence that is unshakeable. I find myself speaking the absolute truth even if it hurts. And knowing that deception & gas lighting only makes everything worse, even if I feel like I could get away with it. I'm glad that I can fully embrace the human experience now, rather than reject it.
YES 👍 I HAVE MOVED ON DANISH, THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH!!!!!!!!!!
No one ever affirmed my resilience..
Thank you!!
you are so right. when you feel peaceful, connected and loving - then you are free. but God is with you also in the middle of all the difficulties. don't doubt that
I believe my husband was in a narcissistic family and did not do well and became a narcissist. I survived him. I am healing. I am moving on. I am not there yet completely but I will get there.
Danish you are a blessing. I have wondered if I was healing because the abuse started actually when I was born and continued off and on with different people untlil fairly recently. I was making progress through my life but little information was available to help one cope until recently. I was guilty of #7 until recently, I stopped ruminating about the pain and injustice and began "ruminating" on my accomplishments, winning against all odds. I also began taking even better care of myself in small ways. Then I had a very vivid dream. I dreamt I was riding as a passenger in a car. The driver would not follow directions and was careless and reckless. In my dream I stopped the car, made the bad driver get out and told them To get a ride home. I took over the car, drove, had fun at a mall! When I woke up from that dream I felt such a sense of pleasure and relief! I know I am healed and I will not let anyone drive me again. I pay a lot of attention to my dreams but this one was very special. Your knowledgeand message are priceless.
Getting close…no contact since Feb this year. Moved out June 2021. Divorce should be settled by end of year. 65 and almost free after 19 yrs with a dark narc.
Well done, you are a strong woman, good for you xx 💗💗
AMEN
I am at this stage. I finally got away. Yay ME!
I have already noticed how much I appreciate the people who would never hurt me and the places where i feel safe. For sure, im still reliving the family trauma. It will take a long time. Thank you for another fantastic message Danish.
@@jbrown2908 absolutely, and im thankful for you in my life too partner!
I wish i could relate to all of these, but so far, it's just the first one. Im trying to heal, so here's to hope. 💛
Each and every word was absolutely right for me. I ticked almost all even though I'm still living with him. I just want to wipe out any thoughts of him and I'm trying to work on to my life and my 6yrs old daughter. He has been given a 6months time. He is in his love bombing stage and I can feel the anger behind when he buy me my medications. I'm taking small steps like taking effort to treat my health issues which I undergone. Next recollect my driving skills then seek a job as I have a profession. My age, years should not stop me!! Actually there must be nothing anymore which can block me other than my Creator!!!! I'm happy that nothing of me have I lost because of this person. I have faced the worst, what next to come won't be that bad.... Definitely!
I certainly felt connected to universe in my healing process. I actually felt communicating with the universe and positive signs all around me ❤
I hope to achieve these signs of healing soon because I am at the very beginning of what will be an excruciating discard process.
I am grateful for the encouragement and enlightenment I get from these videos. I would be so lost without.
You are no where close then. They will contact u to get back with u . It will feel good but when u see that things will get worse and back gone they will be again….3 to 4 more time’s that is when u will get tired and be done!!! Life is too short to deal with those demons from hell
After 15 years i am completely out of it. And I have experienced everything which you have mentioned in the video.
Still struggling with #7. I was no contact for 2 months and at peace. Then the narc sibling started calling my landline because I had blocked her on my cell. Now I blocked both and sent her a message not to call me, contact me or come to my home. That was a setback, but I’ll get over it. I never want to see her again.
This video is 100% true. You KNOW when you have healed. It is like seeing the world in a brand new way. You feel strong knowing you came out of the madness. Like you said, peace, joy and happiness in the littlest things come back and stronger than ever!!! Thank you Danish!
I give everyone props for staying around for 10, 20 and more years with your narc. I was in it for only 10 months and I was miserable. suffocated and lost. The oppression that covered everything, even the good things was overwhelming. I am glad everyone got out.
Guilt and pressure always try me on mothers and fathers day.
i am now in my 1month no contact with my ex narc partner, all you said here in this video is true..i always watched your videos whenever i need some encouragement on my own, because nobody knows my situation and not all people understand what is the meaning of narcissism. So thank you so much for that Danish🙏🏻🙏🏻
As i was saying, i feel like i am almost there even though i know it is still early for me to say that..before i cannot stand the fact that he is ignoring me, so i always begged and cried for him to forgive me in things that i didn’t know my mistake. but now in my one month no contact with him, i have the strength to not contact him at all, even though last 2days it was his birthday but i did it, i didn’t let myself go down to that road again.but in no.7 in what Danish says i. still have that flashback all the time, i got the chills with just the thought of him, i am panicking when i remember his face and looks on me.nightmares everytime i sleep..i am trying to fight this everyday. i know it will still be a long battle for me but i know that i will beat this and i will have my true liberty in life.
i literally felt so alone, and having narcissistic parents is so hard. because you cant hold it this stuff and cant say to people "look here is". i feel so anxious, your video gives me so peace. this abuse is real and i will save myself. thank you so much. being trying to be good be okay in this toxic household so so tiring.
My heart goes out to you Rosa Mia. Could you try staying out of the house as much as possible or maybe keep to yourself in your room or some other place out of their way so they don't see your joy and try to snuff it out? It helped me to stay out of the house with friends and people who appreciated and understood me. I didn't know what narcissism was and neither did my friends. They and I just knew there was something very wrong though.
Dnt wry @rosamia ...U u r nt the only person 2 suffer toxic parent..my mother is an evil & i dealt with her, served her & now survived from her...rescued myself frm her trap
I also feel extremely alone😢 m the only child and I live with her... My mother can't see me having fun, enjoying with my family and friends👭👬... She has made my life hell
Thank you so much. I resonate with all the 7 signs. I have truly healed and have moved on with my life.❤❤❤
I have DEFINITELY healed and moved on. That’s from a narcissistic parent to a narcissistic husband✊🏾✊🏾❤️❤️
I did the same. Narcissist mother to narcissist husband.
2yrs. No Contact and if I do have a flash back it instantly goes away. I’m blessed to be out of that mess🙏🏾💪🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 NO CONTACT FOR LIFE!!! Thankyou for this video
Beautiful. It is so true , knowing you are healed from your experiences with these difficult people. The "7 signs you hv moved on" was so wise & encouraging. Thank you.
I love your videos I have gone through several Narcisists relationships and every one of them was completely different. I learned all about Narcisists and also about myself. I learned about setting up boundaries and I opened up again to Intimacy ( nothing to do with sex at all), and am not scare to trust and to be vulnerable. I can trust people again. I opened my heart to find love again ❤️❤️ also people dealing with Narcisists are dealing isolated BECAUSE they are wrapped up in their own problems and cannot look beyond this. Please look,because once you do, you will see there is so much more other people dealing with the same things as yourself. You will also see how much MORE beauty there is in the world. There is love. Unconditional love is infinite ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you , Danish ..I've gotten to 3 outta 7 - but it's been hell . And I still feel like an orphan ...
I am so blessed with your channel.. I am healed now.. Rising from ashes. Really feeling awesome 💞😇🌿Thank You & gratitude to My Universe 😇🙏
Hats off to you sur. You are like a divine. I feel the god speaking through you. I currently suffering under a narcissist for the past 11 years. I feel like dying. But your words make me live. Thank you sir.
Yay! I'm finally narcissist proof 🐱
100% relates 2 me..I survived frm such mother first then a toxic hsbnd & inlaws
Exactly all of these are happening to right now I feel alive after forty years abuse ❤
I thank you , Danish , for more than 3 years , my female neighbour have been visiting my house . She did not talk to me but whenever I looked at her , she used to smirk and felt terribly awkward . I have been facing this thing passive agressive behaviour since childhood but this one was more intense , her behaviour like silent treatment , smirking irritated me a lot , she treat my family very well except me . I used to search on internet about the personality problems and I used to think that I might have personality problem . I used to type everything on Google whatever I thought about me and others . And then I found the word of narcissism and then I got everything . I watched videos regarding narcissism. Then I found that where lies the problem . I found the root causes .
The most interesting story I want to tell you ,Danish Bhai , today I went to wedding function and my neighbour also attended that function with us . I behaved as if she did not exists, I did not look at her though she was sitting besides me . After the party , she said to my mother that sadiya does not talk much , she should talk .
😀 I am happy that I handled her very well .
I watched your videos and I am happy that I got solutions .
Thanks brother , today I feeling light . I emerged as a warrior. I won . And the credit goes to you .
Thanks again brother .
May Allah give you more peace , health , satisfaction and blessings .
I can relate to your comment about opening to the universe after moving out of the narc nonsense entrapment. I was reminded of a Khalil Gibran quote that touched similarly on the same subject. I couldn't find the quote, but I did find another good Gibran quote:
"And God said, "Love your enemy" and I obeyed and loved myself."
This quote hit home with me because I just thought of the narcs as enemies while not realizing I was also my enemy by not loving myself during my decades long trance under narc control.
THANK YOU for ALL of the information on this video and also on all your other videos. I am VERY GRATEFUL for your breakdown of information that presents clarity & enlightenment after all the time I spent in dark confusion.
@@jbrown2908 You are welcome! Sometimes I like to escape from chaos by reading online quotations by Khalil Gibran. He was a true empath with a huge humanitarian spirit & a lot of wisdom. He was also an artist and a dominately right brain thinker.
I also read through collections of his quotes to try find this quote: "Yesterday we were a small spark buried under ashes. Tomorrow we will be a raging fire at the head of the valley." I think this is a Gibran quote but I am not sure + I don't know if I remember all the words correctly. I have read a lot of Gibran quotes looking for it.
I think President John F. Kennedy may have read Gibran's writings because one of Kennedy's most famous quotes was "Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country." Later I found Gibran had the same quote many years earlier. JFK liked to read a lot & Gibran's books were popular in JFK's life time. But the possibility also exists that both of them had the same mindset & both independently came up with the quote. If JFK borrowed the quote, he probably never thought he would become famous for the quote.
I apologize for all the ramble about Gibran, but in my defense, I am an empath and Gibran was an empath. I am like thousands of others who are empaths and liked him tremendously because he was a part of our empath tribe.
The best decision of my life #happy #free #blessed
This is your BEST VIDEO
THANK YOU I AM HEALING
EVERYTHING YOU SAY IS 💯ACCURATE
I believe relationships with narc was my bad karma of past life or may be current that god gave me this phase. But Once I am out of it I thank god everyday as it’s a learning lesson for me. And the life once you identify and recover out of narc relationship cannot be explained in word. It’s divine. You feel like a super human
Somehow left a narc spouse; narc parent finally expired due to oldage. Starting my new life at age 60, trying to heal myself. I am surprised that I am surviving inspite of health issues caused by extreme stress.
So true! Thank you so much. Greetings and blessings from Germany
Forgiveness brought me through this chapter experienced and now Lived. Amen
Beautifully explained.. 👏
I am not free in my relationship, and don’t know my future .but one thing I am so sure of is that I have climbed each and every rung of the ladder ( all the 7 points ).
Spiritual connection has opened my heart, not only for others but for myself first.. I understand the difference between resilience & self importance.. I don’t do things at the cost of my dignity & self respect, any more, while accommodating others .
Yes, you are right about calling it a HELLISH experience.. my entire being ( DNA) was unplugged & yet,I managed to rise like a Phoenix .. hence it’s a new birth & a new perspective to life .. the small things give me so much more joy than globe trotting!! I am quite content with spending time alone , coz I now appreciate this experiences of life’s long journey - not as punishment or isolation but lessons .
I am grateful for this life , rather than cursing it for not having given me a“ soul mate “ 😅 empaths actually are idealistic romantics & want things to end like a fairy tale , isn’t it ?
But now
I have re written my script , so I am definitely stronger more capable ,and powerful I don’t need any ones approval or certificate!! -
now I
look at my life , my purpose , my birth as a blessing on the narc - not vise Versa .. 🙏 staying afloat in the murky waters , but blooming like the Lotus 💕 thank you for your videos - I see them as karmic interventions , to give me support and strength. 🌻
I'm just at the beginning on the long healing journey and I'm between revenge, sadness, panic attacks andhyper positivity. But what I'm experiencing a lot in the moment is that I want to spend a lot of my time completely alone. Outside. And that I want some "revenge".... Idk.. It's just, really, sounds, to me, that I'm just standing at the starting line from the long healing journey...
And I'm watching a lot of videos and learning a lot of Narcissistic Abuse. And that I'm spending a lot of my free time about this topic
Very useful video for my healing process. Thank you Sir. Every word is so correct 💯.
You are like an empathetic mother for all innocent people❤😂
You are perfectly right. I even started remembering things from my childhood which I couldn't remember. I still live with him but he has no effect on me whatsoever. Making my exit when the time is right. Thank you.
I finally reached the ability to not be in the trauma bond. One more step to standing up for yourself and your worth. They do not deserve your soul.
Brilliant...u have helped me. This is where I am at....God is good. It's true it's the worst hell on Earth the torture of being with a narc;
I'm slowly coming out of it💜 I'm actually taking notes down in my journal of what you are saying thank you for your care compassion and Brilliance💙 God bless you💜🌎🌍💜 from Boston Massachusetts USA
Everything Danish said in this video is so true true!!
I'm the most resilient- I'm stronger than ever in all aspects and I am not scared by anything...
The Narcisdists really cower now!
Thank you Danish for helping me and so many others!❤️ Your good works are priceless!🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️
TQ,most powerful and caring MSG, healing not reliving the past,, finding a new sense of well-being, understanding what's happening all this makes one's life more peaceful TQ it's a tough n long journey,your videos help a lot stay blessed 💐🌷
Thank you for real hope. 😊
This is how I feel this year, wow. So accurate. I’m healing, thank God. Danish’s videos are an important part in my healing, thank you 🙏
You really are doing God’s work Danish. I am so so grateful to you.
I am beyond grateful to be at this point in my life happy and thriving!! I am resilient! I love myself to the fullest! I no longer play about “Me” I can actually check off all 7 🎉🎉 and it feels absolutely amazing!!! to be free. I am 4yrs of complete NC from someone I thought I couldn’t breathe without, and the me today is out here just breathing away! Your absolutely right when you said if you can survive and make it out being with a narcissist you can survive anything! Love and light to everyone! I am so proud you! 💕
2 days now and wow finally got to this point of not giving à shit and finally moving on and see the Light again
Thank you so much danish!your advices and contents helped me to move on and break free from months of depression.I endured two years of cheating,lying,devaluing and insults that destroyed me emotionally.this kind of contents is like a shelter for broken people,it will help you to heal from the miserable experience inflicted by the soul less narcs.
Yes after leaving and recovery, I took up Meditation. The sense of freedom was wonderful.
Thank you for this video. I am feeling like you explained. I don’t want to be around him anymore. It feels good to not feel like I have to be his victim. He is evil. You are inspiring to me and I thank you.
Your videos have given me the best affirmation of healing and recovery. You truly have a gift of articulating these feelings as well as real experience and the willingness to share it. I'm so very grateful. Thank you!
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you. The grief was intense but now the light is shining in a little bit. I am seeing a much better future.
Εvery comment,description,analysis,statement of yours in relation to that extremely weird, psychopathetic condition of narcissism is more than precise.You save souls.We could nt be more grateful.Thank you!
I am so very grateful for you and this channel. Thank you for all of this information!
Thanks a lot for this video..I'm in this process of getting away from from narcissist husband..and I am into spiritual learning Pranic healing therapy to heal my family members..specially my daughter & my husband..so that he doesn't travel along with me in my next birthday as its all bases on Karmic..thank you sir
I checked them all! Feels like the biggest accomplishment of my life. And these feelings of love and joy and peace are AMAZING!!!! I'm greeting people and smiling more and feeling connected and it's such a weight off my shoulders.
When you recognize YOUR SELF IMPORTANCE & self worth yessssss 💯
Thank you!! I love the way you explain this to us!!🌸 😂
I am here...I have connected with me...I have started loving me...I have become spiritual...
So true. Thanjs for thus video.
I got conned by a Narcissist to attack his supply, when I didn't have a goal or desire to be in his life.
Like I was trying to get out of his Life and influence, when I made contact with his supply. Then I got triggered by being repeatedly victimized by his supply.
I mistakenly perceived my behavior as self-defense -- after being triggered post attacks / victimization.
I am beginning to check all those boxes 😊 and I feel so blessed and grateful for being alive after the battle of a life time! Thank you Danish. God bless you❤
I have no words... thank you
I'm currently divorcing my Narcissist husband. I completely lost myself. My 2 daughters also suffered whilst going through this darkness. Currently went through spiritual awakening. . Now I'm healing, feel much better, much calmer. I have much better relationship with my loved ones since I started my healing. My ex made me lose my confidence, self esteem. I have faith in god which I think , the universe stepped in and rescued me and my girls from 13 years nightmare. Thank you for your help and sharing your good advice. Really appreciate it 🙏🙏🙏
Thankyou so much,will be watching this several times.i look forward to this healing.i am just starting to change inside getting stronger ,this is so good to hear.thankyou.I 🦋💗
i am a natural mystic
my journey has been almost exclusively alone, with the universe as my guide and home
this channel proves to me that i AM ok, not dancing with madness as i feared
I got rid of the "Flashbacks" years ago. " Now I have new ones."
She knows that I'm happy deep in my soul so she keeps trying to contact me indirectly through my family members after 8 YEARS!
You’ve helped me more than you’ll ever realize. I remember walking barefoot on dew wet grass in the mornings. What a memory
One of the most legit therapist and teachers on narcissism on the internet. Thank you Danish for the work you do and share with us. Bless you.