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Why You Aren't Meeting Good Men Online In Your 50s 60s and 70s!
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- Опубліковано 9 гру 2021
- Have you ever tried online dating and just not met the man of your dreams? In that case, you may be asking yourself why you are just not meeting good men online!
Remember when you first started on this journey of finding love in the second half of life? It was exciting to see pictures of good-looking men who appeared to be fun and interesting. You probably felt hopeful believing one of these men might be right for you.
When you got online, nothing happened and you began to feel discouraged. In today's video, I'll share why that happened and what you can do to turn that around and YES find love after 60.
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I wanted to find a man I’d flirt and show up. But life is really so peaceful and just finding myself is great. You spend 30 years waiting on a family and man that’s difficult to please, once freed from his burden, it’s wonderful to have all my time to myself. No one to answer too, no one controlling my spending or saving for that matter. I love my new life! Never had it so good, I wouldn’t change a thing.
Hear! Hear!
Same here! I'm quite happy on my own after being controlled for years!
I agree with you. Dating is fine, but nothing more intense than that, for me. Besides, men are on their A-game when dating.... to me, marriage is just downhill from there.
Studies show that widowers tend to remarry more than widows will... I totally understand. Women are typically the caregivers, caretakers, domestic and, etc. It's tiring, especially after 59, 60 and beyond 💥
So great to hear that there are some of you in the 3rd stage of life with Common Sense. By chance, do to my work I started to cross paths with people in the last cycle of the human experience we call life. I am soooo disappointed; I thought when you get to your 60s and older all that wisdom, all the life experiences will make a person self assured, confident knowing what they want. But instead, I see drama queens I thought the term "teenage drama " was over at that age but no! Women in their 60s and older completely LOST IN SPACE/NO COMPASS, needy, clingy, even nosy/meddling in their grown children family units, and some in desperation getting into financial/emotional abusive relationships because of loneliness. I think of my own grandmothers and I am so proud of them; none of such nonsense. And for now on, I will be lenient with the younger generations because is ok to BE LOST IN SPACE/ FIGURING THINGS OUT in your 20s but in your last chapters of life PLEASE COMMON SENSE!
I completely disagree with this video. I've gone to meet men in person whom I've met online and 99% they were a huge disappointment in every way. Various reasons - they talk too much about their ex or their deceased wife; two of them had wives still alive with dementia but were online looking for a replacement which, of course, they had not put in their profile; their picture was 10 or 20 years old; they lied; they talked constantly about themselves - a monologue, not a conversation between the two of us and I would leave wondering if he knew anything new about me than before we met for the dreaded "coffee interview". I'm 74, still in good health and take pride in my appearance. Some of these men show up looking like they just fell out of bed which I find insulting - or maybe they think that's the way to dress to make an impression. Bottom line is that at my age online dating is over for me and the more I'm "single" the more I'm enjoying it. Yes, I miss male companionship but when it becomes a chore to try to meet someone, it's just not worth it.
same here.. i agree totally..
Exactly my experience too. Men who talk incessantly about themselves and their ex without coming up for air, never asking a single question about me, poorly groomed and dressed, etc. A total waste of valuable time.
Susan Banton PERFECTLY SAID!!
You gotta kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince, unfortunately.
Hi Susan, I totally relate to what you said. My problem is I met guys around my age of 63 and it is all about them - me myself and I then wanting control of me ----- ugh - just done. The last thing I want is a man who is a control freak - been there done that, and don't want to be exhausted with someone who just wants every moment with me. I have too much going on in life and don't have the time for a relationship although I would love to have one. But it''s been 10 years of nonsense and awful dates that turn me off. The ones who I get along with are much younger for some reason............ the younger ones act more mature that the ones my age and are much more energetic and no insecurity issues that the older guys have.
Oh my goodness, I had to stop watching half way through this video. I know my mind. I am well beyond the age of fantasizing about how I look on the arm of a man. This video talks down to me as if I’m a teenager. I find that offensive not helpful.
YES, Anne Wilson!!! She seemed to be describing the behavior of a girl in junior high!! Insulting.
And eligible men find YOU offensive, with zero market value.
CRINGE x1000 But she's behaving like a romance scammer. So many stupid naïve women who think: "Oh, you meant there's a chance for me?" Sheesh. Most older women would benefit from buying a full-length mirror.
Absolutely dear, you nailed it. No whiney crybabies, chronic complainers, and mama's boys.
@@martinsanders6124 ouch..... 😂😂
@@martinsanders6124 😂😂 gave me a good chuckle
At 69, I just don't have the mental and emotional energy anymore to try to find a good man, online or anywhere else for that matter.
From a really early age, I knew I wanted to get married and have children when I grew up. But finding a good man, one who I loved and who loved me, proved much more difficult than I thought it would be.
After having my heart broken time after time, at 37, I was weary of the whole finding love thing. But, I still wanted to be a parent, so I set out on my own to adopt a child. I adopted my amazing daughter at 39, just after her second birthday. At that point, being a parent changed the whole "finding a good man" thing for me. My overriding feeling was that, if I hadn't been able to find a man who loved just me, how was I going to be able to find someone who loved me AND my daughter? My sense of home also changed after I adopted my daughter. Home became the place where my daughter would be loved and have a safe and secure place to be. I wasn't willing to share that space with just anyone, especially some bozo who would most likely flake out on us anyway. My daughter was my #1 priority, even if it meant I would not find love. (A decision made easier by the fact that I hadn't found love when I was childless either).
I know women who have been married for decades and they tell me the stories of how their husbands have treated them during their marriage. Listening to their stories, I know I never would have put up with such treatment, particularly not for decades.
I get lonely at times, but, where finding love and a "good man" is concerned, it boiled down to that old saying, be careful what you wish for.
Right? Lonely being alone is a temporary situation. Being lonely in a marriage is too long.
Sweetheart, I could not have said it better, that is exactly how I feel.
It always seems 😕 I give more than I get, this has been the norm with me, all the time, always trying to please everyone, but now since I am 70, it is a whole different ballgame, it is going to be all about ME!
@@debbieking5171 Thank you, hon. Over the years, I have sometimes railed at God for not blessing me with a husband. But, I've come to feel that maybe the blessing was not giving me what I asked for.
Wishing you a lovely holiday season. 💕
@@loveblue2 don't take lightly being stuck in a bad marriage its not always easy to "not put up with it" as you said there are always reasons why she cant leave or didn't leave before a certain time in the relationship
I don’t venture into the virtual world. I meet people on dog walks and those same people I run into again at the local store or gym. Your online preferences sort of disappear when you meet in person. In person energy is much different
He has no idea who he is with all the lies he tells on his profile, he is even beginning to believe them himself. The real reason women our age can't find a man our age is because they are dating women our children's age. The obsession of youth without substance!
Fanica . . . my thoughts exactly.
Exactly.
BEEN SAYIN IT. Women must accept this truth. Eventually women will have to show up naked. Men don't desire grandmas. They want those they remember dating 30-40 years ago. Fit, fertile, friendly and carefree. The Patriarchy allows these men a life-long participation and locks women out after age 25.
BTW.... Many of them are seeking a nurse, a purse and a cook!!🙄 Address that please and stop blaming us for being your version of Cinderella 💥💥
The nurse purse housekeeper and therapist is common with older men. Many aren't looking for a serious relationship due to being burned and hurt in the past. They've done no personal development or healing work. There's the Red Pill's and MGTOWs.
And frequently they want women 20 to 30 years younger. They fear dying and aging. A lack of committment is common.
3 things create compatibility
Compatibility equals shared core values emotional maturity and a blendable lifestyle. There's still too much focus on attraction and chemistry believing this creates relationship success.
Also understanding attachment styles is very important. How someone behaves in relationships.
And....many women are looking for nothing more than someone to pick up the tab.
@@gregoryabbot420at this age you are crazy! We’ve already established our financial stability and don’t need yours!! So you can stop thinking that’s what women our age are looking for!!
no we're looking for someone who doesn't bring us stress, debt, obesity or baggage from their divorce or parenting days
After a quick divorce and trying for decades to find the right man, I came to the conclusion that I would not gift my freedom to anyone. At this age, 71, and looking much younger, I would not be able to take care of another person, feed him, wash his clothes, etc. I don't have the energy for that and I think its a big price to pay to have companionship! Purse or nurse? Nope! Not worth it!! What's more men my age look too old for me.😛
You sound very arrogant.
@@dresser6135 I am!
I doubt you look much younger than you are. People look the age they are.
@@kellyb.1257 If you look so great let's see your picture. Nothings going to fix that personality though...
Dear Kelly, I needed that. I’m 64 and newly alone.
To each her own, of course. but most lie about themselves and you never know if they are dangerous or not. Be very careful. Look in other places than online. Through friends, church, etc.
Sadly 9 out of 10 will be a true disappointed there is no way I would myself through that!
You realize, of course, that it's a two-way door? It swings open both ways.
That's the spirit!
Maybe the high value men you dream about are dating women under 50??? Maybe they can afford to do so???
High value men...blah,blah,blah.
I learn more and relate more to the comments on this thread by real woman like myself...
Hello I am so sorry if this sounds weirds but you wrote such a nice and wonderful comment on here and I like your comment. I can tell you're a very positive person. If it's okay with you I'd love to be friends
@@danscott4507
After all these years I am still attracted to my husband and him to me.. the problem is, HE DOES NOT KNOW MY VALUE and has NO respect for me. I love him but he is truly BAD for me.. I am divorcing him because I will NEVER meet my soul mate if I remain in this toxic relationship..
Takes courage to walk away and be happy...good for you...I had to walk away also five years ago
Stephanie, if you haven't already gone to a marriage friendly counselor, going to one is a wise decision. If your husband doesn't want to go, go alone. You need to discover who you are and what you really want, before you leave. Beware of the term 'soul mate'. It offers false hope unless we mean someone of good characher, who shares our values and many, not all, of our interests. And, there is attraction between us. Be wise.
@@carolefox6553 Very good advice. Too many women have divorced men only to look back and regret it. Her 1st sentence is enough for her to take a real hard second look at a divorce decision. We are not as special as we think we are and the pool of "soul mates" is very, very limited.........
Maybe "soulmate" is an illusion. Expectations can ruin a relationship. May our relationship journeys provide companionship.
Good for you! Don't stay one day longer
I like the tone and style of this presenter, but I completely disagree with her assumptions. I have no desire to marry again, no fairy tale fantasies. I am the Myers-Briggs type INTJ, of which only .08% are women. So the "storyline" of this video does not ring true to me or for me. I don't think the men I have met online are liars or horrible people, I just haven't met the right person to click with yet. It's a numbers game.
Marriage after 60, no way.....been there done that twice, no intention of getting married too complicated to get out of it. I have lots of professional, educated, beautiful female friends that are single and just living their lives, happy with their pets and grandchildren. Too much work...no man I ever met just wanted to be my friend, they wanted much more than that.
Yes, they look for a friend with FWB
I'm nearly 60 also. It's a bit sad...I was always the woman men wanted to f*ck...never one wanted to actually know me. I'm not sure why that was and still seems to be. Kinda sad really, never found my 'person'...but I found me and my dogs...so I'll be more than content with that.
Love this channel, but this video made me cringe a little. In my experience honesty is not the problem, although it can be! Most of the time I've found that many men in this age group have serious issues like chemical dependency, financial instability, multiple ex wives, the list goes on. Maybe they don't announce that up front but it doesn't make me feel I've been lied to. I simply think thank goodness I didn't get seriously involved with the person. I like my life just fine and the notion that a man will somehow complete it is not how I think anymore. I'm content with or without and I know there's nothing I can't do just because I don't have a man on my arm. I've found the apps to almost be a little degrading, dehumanizing. I don't think they're good for us.
no person ever completes your life, that is a fantasy, you partner to build a life together
I met a lady on line in 2005. We were in a relationship for 17 years. Bought a house together too. At the end she turned out to be a narcissist. We broke up and she almost put me in bankruptcy court. Now at 72 I have to find a job to stay alive. So there are some really bad women out there. So be really careful.
only bout 20% of eligible single guys over 60 use the internet for anything but business or not at all! so look for them in coffee shops, bookstores, outdoor clubs and fitness centers, as well as church you will find way more lol
I think this would be true.
I agree with what is said in this video for the most part, however, no man I have ever met, and I have gone on lots of dates in my time being an attractive woman, no man wants to just be your friend! Ever! Once they find out you out them in the friend zone they disappear .. bye
Of course, you actually thought they were online dating to find gal pals???
Non smoker. Politically and religiously compatible. Fiscally sound/responsible. Let's go places and eat things. No expectations?. Hope for the best, but expect the worst.
As a man of 61, I can tell you that it isn't women's fault. We know you are sick and tired of us and we're just not measuring up to you. So leave us alone, please. We'll both be happier.
Damn straight. I've had enough of these entitled, 175lb, bitter women.
Not worth the effort, IMHO! They want a nurse, a purse..or, a girl young enough to be their granddaughter. They all seem to think they're God's gift, just because there are fewer of them than us females. No, thank you; I'm fine on my own. These dating sites are, by and large, demeaning. I'm done with that nonsense; no desire to put myself out there and possibly be "rejected" by men not worth the time of day.
Any women that I know that have found someone online have settled, period. No thank you.
Actually.... I suppose most women might think this way; I'm not one of them. What I want to address is the reasons I've encountered with my male peers is this: Most of the ones I've met are basically broken down with a myriad of health issues; not to mention, THEY'RE generally the ones who're rather imagining what you call "the fairytale" with Me! it's not ALWAYS the woman who has expectations, but the men who're passively seeking a nurse kind of woman and someone to commiserate with. Not to mention, too many have allowed themselves to fall into the old man arena and give up on even trying to make an above average presentation.
Just speak to that as it's n Ii t always the women with stars in our eyes... The men may not be misrepresenting themselves, it's just that they're not the men that THEY think they are... and that's the truth 💥
I love the last statement! You are so right, they are not the men that THEY think they are, that is IT in a nutshell!
Online dating convinced me and my friends to give up on dating altogether.
It's terrible how men are treated like disposable utilities, ignored and insulted.
It's an abusive relationship.
In my experience, no men just want to be “friends”
No man with any self respect wants to be "friend-zoned".
yes they want
All the 60 year olds want 45 year olds. 😬
She is a dating coach for older women. She is making a lot of money from providing false hope. We want to think it can happen, but my research indicates for most of us, that ship has sailed.
Well Christy. I am 62, fit and athletic. No way I would be able to build a genuine connection with a person outside of my group age. But, for sure, I believe in sharing some common interests. So finding a woman of 62-65, for instance, who likes naturally playing outside and stay fit are rather rare. So, I must put all my patience and resilience in action in order to let Heaven conspire for me!! Going out with a 45.........we would me so far away emotionally and in life (retirement).....no interest. And mature women not only can be very attractive, but they have life experience and things to share!!! with respect, Richard (french-Canadian from Quebec)
I’m in😂
61 here. Not that I'd turn down a 45-year-old, but I'm certainly not limiting my search to 15 years my junior.
Most recent play is for a 66-year-old.
Common theme I see among online daters, male and female - " I look good/ young for my age" Usually a bit delusional....
Dating in your 50s and up is going to be a mindset shift. Before putting yourself out there I recommend getting a life coach to help you look at your thoughts about yourself. Find out who are you now, why do you want to be in a relationship, do you have realistic expectations. Do the work first - other people do not complete us - we need to be whole before we get into a relationship. Isn't that what you would expect of the other person too?
Connie GP: Many of us have done a huge amount of "work" on ourselves. I am a youthful 68, highly attractive, well-educated, and retired from a professional career. I have a good retirement and own two homes. I earned a degree while raising six children alone. I have found online dating to be a waste of money and energy. It isn't a secret most men my age prefer younger women. Many of these men are not my intellectual equal, their finances aren't in good order and the majority look nothing like their profiles (because the pics are 10-20 years old) and they talk mainly about their ex's. The two I found promising, turned out to be disappointing liars and opportunists. To top it off, both admitted they had erectile dyfunction. Sadly for many of us, finding an attractive, compatible male companion is probably going to remain just a fantasy. We all hope to find someone to love and be loved by, but once you pass about 60, it isn't very likely that is a realistic expectation.
Hi 👋
@@margoquintana2283True, most successful men go after younger women and the ones that look at us are opportunistic. For as much as I would love a companion, I leam more towards being without one.
@@margoquintana2283 You are the definition of a man.
Using dating sites is like going through the online clearance section of Nordstrom’s shoes. The end of season shoes that no one wanted. I truly believe meeting someone is by chance or fate. Dating apps are forced like putting a square peg in a round hole.
Find scammers and fiends on dating sites.
Who wants to meet and greet based on zero… nobody wants to
Waste time when we know what we want!
I'm going to agree to disagree with this advice. This advice seems really old-fashioned to me, & somewhat tinged with misogyny - "oh, have no preconceptions.... give every "interesting" guy a chance!" 🤯 What? Why? My time is more valuable than that. Why not suggest that people seek out groups of what they're interested in? That way, the worst that can happen is that maybe they'll make a new friend or 2 while doing something they enjoy? If they do happen to make a romantic connection - it will be over a shared interest!
To me meeting a bunch of random men is not fun. I don't feel comfortable talking to total strangers to begin with, the entire experience is awkward and unsettling especially at 70. I am not willing to meet 25 men with the hopes of finding Mr. Right. I would far rather meet someone playing cards, walking group, bowling league. Online dating is a superficial experience I have found. It takes a lot of effort. Most men talk about recent surgeries, sports they used to do, and their plan to drop 50 pounds this year. Quite a snorefest for the recipient. They make no effort to dress for the date figuring just showing up is a big deal. Rarely if ever are they what they seem to be based on their biography, I would rather read a good book.
She wants your Patreon subscription money!! Your way prevents profit. Follow the money. Meanwhile, only Leftists believe in misogyny. 😏
I don't need a man of my dreams. Those you meet at least for me have told me that have a disease(s), or usually are one screw loose or have one alive in a home and want a side gig or cannot think on their own accord or give not even half hearted effort attempt at what? Not much really. Sad. No thanks. Nor can you joke with these people. Yikes. Peace is fine by me. No drama. No stress. Don't need their problems or money. They think I am the problem but reality is, I prefer to be not so peopley. I am fine with my little dog and me.
LOL, men wouldn't know anything about being "cat-fished." Getting to casually know someone is healthy and fun. Expectations beyond that are a hindrance to living a life.
A wonderful book that addresses online dating is Love After 50 by Francine Russo. Her real life experiences in finding a husband and partner with online dating as a mature woman is so informative. I highly recommend this book to our mature subscribers. Sandra
Thank you Sandra for sharing this information.
THANK YOU so much for recommending this book!!! I'm ordering it.
I didn’t find the right guy when I was in my model beauty in the twenties. How can I assume to find him when I m an elder lady over 60? I m fed up with all this stuff. It’s a pity 😢
💯 No expectations, the lowest of expectations lol But then I find myself thinking, what's the point of even going on dates? I already have many male friends🤷♀️
What a good reminder! Thanks!
I'm the only good man left.
A dancing partner/theatre-goer would be nice but nothing else (lol).............
It's not a buffet line tho.
Bottom of the barrel is on line dating.
Older men want younger women.
Those that don't are single for a reason.
67, fit and active, to be honest I gave up on dating. I’m alone but not lonely!
Man so many unhappy women here. You think it’s maybe you all?
That is excellent information. 😊
Glad it was helpful!
In the past I noticed most of the men were on all the same sites. I have been off line for quit a while
Think I might try again. I don’t Evan remember the date site names. Lol
Why not instead - join a group for something that YOU'RE interested in, that way you'll meet people who share similar interests.
Serial daters.
@@amygalvin1799 *Exactly*
So true.and that applies to The fee paying ones as well.l knew of this guy & he was on five different Dating Sites at The Same time😂
If a person isn't content with themselves then they can't be honest with someone else. Opinionated. Really gun shy. Made TOOOOOO many bad decisions for the right reasons and got crapped on.
I'm 69 after working physical work all my life the energy level isn't there. What do I have to offer?? I'm content with my 2 little dogs. Someone has to except them.
Not really looking for anyone.
Lmao u answered your own question in the title, how does that wall taste?
? Don't understand what you are saying, Joseph.
@@pepperann7467 If you have to ask, you can't afford it. Stay in your lane.
Lol, the first step is getting that date!
Thank goodness you are back around. I haven't seen you in a while!
Where are you looking? :-) I publish 4 new videos a week and lots of live shows and exclusive videos on our Patreon channel ❤️
I like this video. I think she's got a point. I have decided to meet a man authentically, in person, by chance, or not at all. I've made peace with it. I can't get a conversation going by text. I can't make a connection that way. So if I find love, wonderful. If I do not, I still have a full life.
Yeah well I've been doing this almost 2 yrs now and ALL but 2 guys were GD international Scammers wasting my damn time
@@rolandkettle7946 where do you live. What city and state in USA. If out of the country sorry nothing but scammers I've met out if the country. In this country too but most were out of the country
Do you have Facebook page. Send link
@@rolandkettle7946 well really I don't do UA-cam friends. I have a FB page but you'd have to "follow" me as I'm at limit of FB friends at 5,000
You are too far to date so don't see any reason to be friends I do lose few FB friends every now and then especially when I speak the truth in God's word but usually gets filled quickly with dog and cat people
@@rolandkettle7946 right now I have the maximum limit of 5,000 on FB. If you go to my page you can always hit "follow" and follow me. I think I have like 281 followers too because FB doesn't allow over 5000 friends so they just click "follow"
Okay, then I'll get right to the point. Can I borrow $100 until my pension check arrives?
What makes you think you’re a good woman?
that's some good advice there, thanks
Can’t find anyone! Need help
But finding
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What are the best dating sites???
The best part of this video is the last minute and a half. It is all about making new friends and having someone to do stuff with. I have fallen prey to everything she has mentioned, especially the fairytale. I have been single for 25 years and am 61 years old, ready to find the one. Having lived alone for decades and having raised kids and enjoying grandkids. These are the years I really want to have someone in my life. Nothing says lonely like growing old alone. Case in point: I found myself saying to my 30 year old son…”if you don’t hear from me for a couple of days, please come check up on me because I may have died.” It sounds grim, but hey! What I have done to support my kids in these years is to rid my home of all the minutiae that I don’t want them to have to go through and make decisions about. Stuff be gone!
No it is not. Men are forced to pay for stuff. That's the expectation.
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