Thank you for sharing the sponsor. I was losing my hair, even recently had a heart attack with no heart disease or arterial blockage. My Dr says a medical broken heart is rare but real. I can't change how hard it is to get legally protected from my abuser, but i can put my focus on me and my child, which includes my health. I'll be trying these supplements to bolster the health and fortitude of the Wonder Woman in me.
Hydration is key to healthy hair. Add it to your green juice to rehydrate and strengthen your strands; not to your coffee. Coffee makes you loose minerals along with the water you loose for drinking it. Counterproductive. Green juice can be full of minerals and low calorie too. It's what you need with your supplement.
The worst phrase I’ve ever heard is, “give them the benefit of the doubt”! I wish I had listened to my gut with all of the toxic people who I have let into my life. There was always something prior to trust that I ignored or justified. I gave them the benefit of the doubt!
Stop listening and see what people do. They will tell you who they are. Don't apply your story to them, don't apply what they say their story is, watch, observe.
@@Sweetpea-2023 I look for red flags first. I've been out with many, but never married, although I want to. I'm 68 years young now. Been a single mum..have my home..but never found a mutual love.
Best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. It really takes thought to divert attention away from this unless a person is very present and conscious of pattern work.
Me too. They creep me out. They are always up to something. Their plan is revealed later. It's almost always a sales pitch in order to get money out of you!🤨 Or depending on their eyes & how glassy they are...they're just high! Lol. Sometimes it's Both😂!😅
Yes, when I once told him I rode a motorbike, he said he had ridden one too. But the other day, when I started talking about motorbikes again, he asked why I was bringing them up and claimed he had never ridden one. He didn’t even remember his lie.
@sandy89107 For women, we are shaped to be more people pleasing and tend to be more emotional based. And if there has been any trauma or abuse, it makes these even worse tending to justify. Give chances and talk ourselves out or in to things. We then are the ones that 'lie' to ourself. Youre right in that we can and do have good instincts. And we learn not to trust them. What he is stating is this in a way, for many our instincts can be readily or easily hijacked. One way to not have that happen is, to not put complete trust and faith in them. So, by all means trust your instincts but also, have a a backup or secondary, like a logic test after. A bit like a firewall or extra sieve. So that, if or when someone is fooling us, faking, lying, we will have the ability to recognize it and acknowledge it.
Number 1 sign they're lying, in my experience, is when they tell you you're paranoid for not believing them. Every single time I heard that it was from a blatant liar.
@@carwoman43 Exactly! But it happens too often still and it makes people think "hm, am I being too harsh, etc.", while it's good to think about the fact that an honest person tries to address the topic and defend their stance, instead of attacking the person who's asking questions.
I was just in a toxic relationship and I kept having pains and symptoms. Went to the doctor and everything was negative. Got rid of him and just like that the symptoms went away !
Sleep deprivation, toxic mold exposure, food poisoning, alcohol, drugs, medications, trauma, hormone imbalances, parasite infection, etc. all affect one’s perception which is a combination of intuition, logic, memory, etc.
Especially as women! Naturally, we are very intuitive and in fact, all humans are very intuitive. But women can walk into a room and read everyone’s emotions in that room whether they know the people or not. Even if there are a dozen people in the room. BUT - our modern world has disturbed our intuition. Some other important things to add to the list… People who meditate genuinely say that watching TV, having too much screen time such as smartphones and iPads, even having too much sex, can all alter our sense of reality and our intuition. Junk food, animal meat and products also can alter our bodies and therefore our brain. Just eating too much in general. Also the things you mention! I have given up alcohol and marijuana completely. I have worked to an 85% plant-based diet. I swim, bike, run and weight train and let me tell you my intuition is on point these days and I look back to times that I was drinking and smoking too much and eating poorly and not moving my body and I was not my best self and I will never go back. I have been able to rid of some negative friendships and other destructive relationships in my life that were not serving me. In the time my judgment was clouded, I was oblivious but now I can clearly see which friends and family members in my life actually support me and love me and have my back. All the others I keep at a distance if you know what I mean.
@@eljofrva A carnivore diet is one of the best things a person can do for a healthy gut in my opinion. Grain brain = unhealthy imo Foods that turn to sugar = insulin resistance and feed all the bacteria in one's body including parasites. But hey, I could be wrong 😮
I love the comments on trusting titles. After quite a few disappointments with this approach I changed to thinking of all professionals as the pool boy. If I am paying for a clean pool and don't get that I fire them. This attitude now applies to every encounter I have. It works for me.
I am almost 65 and my trust level has not regressed. In fact, I am more inclined to sit back and observe before opening any of the windows and doors into my life. That is likely because the man I married is not who I thought he was. He has a mask, a facade that has been finely cultivated.
Lying by omission.... master manipulators love to sit back and listen. They will allow you to tell on yourself... without saying a word. They have patience 🙏 and aren't into seeking validation. They allow you to build a story in your head about who (they) are ... and then go with it.
Yes lying through omission is what I experienced they can be so crafty and manipulative now I have Trust issues which means I will be alone for possibly the rest of my of my life but I am better off alone than with someone who chisels away at your self esteem and self worth
@christinejones4785 Don't ever give your self-worth to another person. What you need to do for yourself is to go within and glue back together the parts of you that have been hurt or traumatized. Self love and self validation is all you need. When you stop seeking outward validation it will change your perspective on so many things. When you have triggers from another person's actions, words that is your bodies response letting you know you have something within that needs to be worked on. Half the time it's having that self love. The only things we can control are our thoughts, words, and actions. If you are a confident person and stand strong with who you are, your not going to let anyone take that away with theirs words or actions. It's all about having that innerstanding of one's self. Meeting people can teach us a lot about ourselves by how we react to them. It can show us the unhealed parts of ourselves. The parts that need more love and healing and you cannot get that from outward influences. You need to go within. Don't give up on yourself, there is only one you! You are unique and beautiful all on your own and you have something to share with this world, YOU! If you truly love and care about yourself you will not tolerate any lies or bs from another person. Have the self love and respect to let them go and move on. Sometimes good hearts choose poor decisions. Through understanding we grow, through judging we separate. You come first, if your not happy don't blame someone else for that, you make your own decisions. You choose to stay or go. By staying you agree to their ignorance and devalue your self worth. By leaving you choose YOU, you choose to love yourself and respect yourself enough to make that decision. Don't give up on yourself. Work on yourself. Love yourself whole heartedly. Sending you much love and light on your journey. You hold the pen to your story, make it a bestseller. 🫶💛✨️
I was followed by a vehicle,while I was in a vehicle. I lost them barely only because I was paying attention. Be aware of what’s going on around you. Some things just don’t make logical sense.
@@aliceeubanks-badosky2877don't be so naive. You need to be ready and tough to read someone in the first seconds or minutes. By general rule, a handsome man is a man with sexual options, perhaps confused, resistant to commitment because he already is getting what he wants and is likely to be pursued, so that guy won't give you princess treatment. You see? Not hard at all, see them objectively and see yourself in the same way. If he is more handsome than you, you're lost, that guy believes he's the prize
I never get tired of hearing Bustamante talk. I must have watched dozens of his talks and they’re all different and cover new ground. He’s so interesting.
Trusting your gut means trusting intuition, not feelings. My intuition has saved me from so many dangerous situations. My intuition is the only thing that is true. I think there is a problem with semantics here.
Your "gut feelings" aren't 100% correct, but they still serve an important purpose of alarming us of POTENTIAL harm. Your gut feeling is just one piece of the puzzle in determining what is truly a threat to us.
I believe that gut feeling is our previous relatives living thru us. We share dna 🧬 with them. You will see simularities when you look up what previous family members were up to at your age.
Yeah I'm learning to like him. At first I judged him as a CIA BA - but maybe he's driven by guilt of mk ultra or wants to help all of us whom were abused
Yes. Spies are trained in subterfuge. He.s using his lived experience to teach us systems of thought manipulation. Hg tudor the ultra psycopath narcissist does the same. Its enlightening and useful...but we still have to work out which bit to take on board. Be discerning.
Perhaps you haven't read the indictments against D!ddy, which happened to be the context this refrence was placed. Saying everyone is equally f'd up and then saying in the next breath "not that we would do what d!ddy did" undermines his credibility. Are we equally f'd up or would "we never do what he did" ... which is it? He uses absolutes when there are nuances and shades of grey. He backpeddled so many times I lost count. The interviewer was great. First time I've watched her, but she picked up on many over confident statement and added an appropriate question for clarification. Don't trust your gut . Then when called out, backpeddles.
My gut feeling is always right, I have extremely good intuition and it tells me information immediately. When I don't listen to it the reason why I felt that way ALWAYS reveals itself. It's me not listening to it that's the problem. Always listen to your intuition and your gut.
@@rigelb9025 That he is seeking to feel accomplished from recognition of his abilities and from money gains. Thats a gut feeling i get from him, but i could be wrong, or not. Gut feeling or more an impression of his profile/personnality..
I think a lot of people arent getting what andrew said about listening to your gut. Hes saying your gut is a great way to protect yourself and he said he'd never tell anyone to go against that. But what you don't do is say "my gut tells me hes a really good guy" thats how you break safety
He uses absolutes when there are nuances and shades of grey. "don't trust your gut" for example. Statement like these caused him to backpeddle multiple times when the interviewer asked for appropriate clarification. Credibility is lost for me. Saying everyone is equally f'd up and then saying in the next breath "not that we would do what d!ddy did" undermines his credibility. Are we equally f'd up or would "we never do what he did" ... which is it? Again using absolutes when there are nuances and shades of grey.
So many rock stars from the 60s and 70s who are still alive were sleeping with 12-16 year old “groupies” and yet these men are all honoured as hero’s and in halls of fame and I believe a lot of it’s because they never addressed it and people just “forgot”
Halfway through this episode and I am so blown away by his applicable genuine dating advice. Thank you for bringing such knowledgeable, reliable minds on your show, Lisa!
I pretend I am down for the worst of the worst and watch the monster come out. It works to find out who someone truly is, then of course I leave, really far, far away!
I listened to him and thought I was listening, but I found out a few weeks ago my beloved assistant was stealing from me for months. I wouldn’t have be Invective it in a million years, but I can now see, my gut was telling me something was wrong but I chose not to listen. Because I did not want to know the truth.
That sucks. It must have been easier to fool yourself for a while and think "nah, I'm being paranoid" than to realize how horrible the person is to do that to you. That sort of thing will make a person distrustful of others in the future. Dishonest people like that destroy so much. That's why I like this subject being talked about, because I hope it makes it impossible for them to keep getting away with it. We have to educate ourselves, see the signs, catch them in the act and send them on their way.
That was very helpful. Was married to a malignant narcissist and I Never want to do that again. My insight, standards, and boundaries are much higher now, so I don't think I'd fall for one, but it's good to have excellent tools in one's tool belt.
i had a Husband that was manipulator and a narcissist also, very hard to deal with that kind of person. good thing i got away from that and never again
That was interesting. Great interview. He is obviously a great guest, but you ask him really good questions. The subject matter is pretty complex and nuanced, but you seem to be able to digest it as you go. It must be hard to focus on both being the host managing the interview, and being immersed in the subject matter at the same time. I am really impressed.
Very few liars believe their own lies (i.e. pathological liar) and must be able to make the distinction between what is real and or what is false. Lies are constructed through a deliberate process in order to acheive a purpose or goal through deception.
So many people sharing false information, agreeing without thinking, saying how great someone is that they do not really know, playing along to get along, not being aware or honest. Also failing to report incidents of violence or threat, which is selfish and enables further incidents. I see that all the time. Its the "whats in it for me" flaw that so many people suffer from.
Great assessment! I am dealing with a co-worker who is telling me one thing and goes to other people to tell them another. She is doing that to everyone. I can't even tell my boss because he also talks to her. I am working in a stressful field with young children. I don't need the drama. I get pay well here, so I don't want to leave. If it's becoming too toxic then I have to find another place.
@@Nicole-gb4zeSorry to hear that. I usually recommend finding ways to become immune to such people, so that they get no power over us, but that's not always easy and there can be risks. I won't go into all my own horror stories, which go all the way to attempts at killing me on the job. One toxic person I began filming them on my phone, every time they came to my house, and would record all of their messages, or sometimes conversations because they were making threats and were bribing people to come and get me. I have fended off all types of people, in the hopes of also saving others by my example. I advise most people, to remain calm. Make it easy for others to see who the problem is. Collect evidence where possible. Sometimes let the boss know that if ever that person is gone, then you might come back. It's really a HR issue, so if it is documented, even on a confidential basis, that might help over time. Remaining calm, and respectful even if angered, I think is good. Good Luck, Stay Safe, and go where the good is 🙋🤍
Not really. Sometimes you try to reach out and get help. No. It's not available. Sex trafficking victim. They get trapped where all the help is out and they are gaslit to mess with their sense of independence and direction... cause sometimes the Unknown is worse and it's next to impossible to survive. So it's conditioning. But some situations. It's your inside brain, gut intuition that only saves you. Imagine being sent to live at a mansion in a foreign country...that you have no idea if you had no prior experience...
Not really. Sometimes you try to reach out and get help. No. It's not available. Sex trafficking victim. They get trapped where all the help is out and they are gaslit to mess with their sense of independence and direction... cause sometimes the Unknown is worse and it's next to impossible to survive. So it's conditioning. But some situations. It's your inside brain, gut intuition that only saves you. Imagine being sent to live at a mansion in a foreign country...that you have no idea if you had no prior experience...no money and no documentation or anything like understanding the language etc.
I have to read between the lines with all toxic people because they are so good at mimicing me. Actually just right now is happening with one person that he thinks- not really thinks-shows to everybody that I am the narcissist. When I can get away from these ...why.
I think the “don’t trust your gut because it’s trained on emotions” is lacking the perspective of those whose emotions are trained on lack of trust and noticing sus in the gut
I know that woman (Maria Angelina Alexander) If you were born and raised in new York you'd know too, she's my family's Broker for 3yrs till now and a very good one if you asked me. No doubt she is the one that helped you get where you are!!!!
One of my best friends is an absolute 24/7 alcoholic. He is also an airline pilot. Not only a pilot, but a captain. And he flies big planes for a major airline. Never trust titles or white coats.
Thank you for interviewing this brilliant guest. Learning so much on a nuanced level. You are a great interviewer, Lisa! Thank you for sharing your talent with the world.
This is so powerful!! But i may be stupid when it comes to protecting myself and vulnerability! I am a wide open individual! I'm also very sheltered.. luckily 🙏🏼 only one time was i attacked, by my ex's attorney's and him about my past experiences, during a divorce! 20 years before and not that same individual. But it was used to set an example of my decision making, even though my past, by law, shouldn't have any place in our divorce! This podcast actually brought me back, reminding me that i should not be as open!! Thank you for this!!!
That documentary about the doctor was so extremely traumatizing!! Omg…it was in my head for days. Sick sick sick…AND he was a world famous doctor!! How could that have happened! 😮
People do not listen to this man when he says to not trust your guts intuition, our unconscious is always trying to communicate important information through our senses and emotions.
You girls are slamming him and saying trust your gut…but have you ever beat yourself up for following your gut, thinking someone was great only to find out they lied? I’m using this CIA approach WITH my intuition. If I trust you right away that could very well be a flag. Because why haven’t you offended me? Saying everything perfect to manipulate?
I think women are getting taken back by this and missing some of what he's saying. My take as a woman is yes listen to your gut instinct and your, a woman's intuition. But don't let that be THE basis of decision. He basically says this. Have logic, have other things, err on side of caution, simply because our instincts and emotions can be hijacked by someone fooling us, but not by cool reasoning. He even says yes, get off the X. Etc.
Wow this was a great episode! Learned a little something about myself and how I will continously work towards breaking my generational traumas, and to give myself some grace throughout.
The gut feeling never tells you to trust sb, it only warns you when danger occurs, so we should trust it. These are mind tricks that deceive us to trust an unworthy person, because this, this and this; not the gut feeling.
@@LisaBilyeu I’ve watched a few of your episodes. It’s really great. You are a really good interviewer and you have really good guests. I’m a new subscriber
I have always been intuitive since I was a child being adopted by psychopaths! I was very keen singer and my brothers used to hit me in the head, When I used to do voice overs of the television ! I actually grew up in the 70s and 80s and I always had a sinking feeling about people in the film industry in the music industry as something just did not sit right with me about them !
Thanks so much. I misunderstood what you meant by gut decision. I would have said I made gut decisions but now I realise I'm not doing that. I use my gut instinct as observation to develop further research and acquire information before eventually making a decision
As someone living with a chronic disability. I feel validated hearing Andrew talk about spies being literally anyone. Regardless of their perceived shortcomings.
Lisa, the part where Andrew was talking about the one who breaks the succession of abuse deals with ss whole other set of issues, impacted me like a "bullet to my head"! My sister and I were abused as kids by a family member and I was the breaker of the familial /child abuse. I went through HELL during that time with everyone turning their back on me except my aunt,(RIP) and when the dust settled, many female relatives stepped up and spoke about THEIR OWN child abuse! I had the key to our family's closet and allowed for the skeletons to come out! Today, our family can heal and we are the Kryptonite to any child molesters ever infiltrating our family ever again!!!! Andrew and Lisa thank you for helping to make positive changes in the world and giving us the knowledge and tools to never again, be a victim!! Lisa G.
when i became conscious instead of following in a type of brain fog, i felt unable to control my decisions or make healthy decisions that were not what i had been programmed to by an abusive mother. as i became a believer in the word of God through His son, slowly i was able to become awake to the truth of the lies that i had believed. to break the trauma is exactly as you have described. generation to generation we follow what we have been programmed to be we see this around the world ending in the violence that has so greatly increased and shall need the intervention of Christ and His armies as He promised. how can we break generation after generation of programming lies and trauma without being brought out of this . i also came out of this world systems including religions which only continue on the legacy of lies and trauma. thanks Lisa for such clear thoughtful questions about this curse of generational trauma. and thank you Andrew for being so honest about your generational trauma. you chose as i did to break the cycle and as i found it would entail being conscious. without staying with my decision to break the cycle i would slip back into the old ways. now, with much personal choice i have been able to change myself. my desire to raise my children a new way was dashed despite my own personal beliefs and choices. i married a very dangerous man who because of his own abuse had chosen to repeat the cycle with our 2 boys and me. anything i raised the boys in was destroyed secretly and i was unable to save them from their father. one died a few years ago and the other one made the unconscious choices of his father and has decided he no longer has a mother. no matter what happens we can go forward and let go of programming and decisions based on that. thank you for your example Andrew-you will break the trauma cycle. i have become the person i have always wanted to be but not by remaining married to a person who is still blind to this day. peace and love to both you and Lisa and your families. keep up the good work. it will make a change in future generations that begin with us.
I love this. These are all the topics I enjoy reading about. Andrew you could have saved me 20 years of reading, this is what I wanted to know!! Lol ❤ The polygraph thing makes me think of George on Seinfeld. “it’s not a lie if you believe it.” 😂
Manipulation takes too much high effort and critical thinking for the “regular” conscious mind. I feel badly for those who require this much thought in order to succeed and or gain anything in life .
I was hit on since a very young age and that is not trustworthy. So I like to portray the bad first, lol! So sick off being liked being beautiful and clever.
Sometimes you only have a moment or two to make a decision and , therefore, I think it’s vital to ‘stay in tune’ with your instincts. Often instincts often include unpleasant experiences which may not be part of the conscious impression. If, after recognizing your ‘discomfort’ , or whatever you are feeling you have time to make a coherent decision using a more analytical or logical decision making process. But there are times when instinct gives you a powerful motivation to get away from a person , for example,and get away. You may never know if instincts saved you but you saved yourself from becoming a potential victim of a person with a dubious nature. True instinct, in my experience, is not a thought process but a strong sense of danger, or of something being wrong.
There's also nothing wrong with fabricating a story to deflect a person trying to gather información from you. People often ask way personal questions to hurt you, use you or manipulación. So, don't over share.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Also, some people come off as controlling because they have trauma, ptsd or fear people. You forgot to talk about how someone makes you feel...this video has only made me more distrustful lol. So, if I meet a guy wearing a green shirt, super nice, and has long hair...well..im getting off the X😅😅sometimes people look away because they are thinking . Don't trust Andrew 😂😂😂
Andrews hair and what he speaks about indicates to me that he had a recent mental breakdown after his career in CIA after finding out the agency manipulated him and everyone else working for them. His hair indicates a transition period and that's why he's talking so much and being open about his former career at the agency.
Fascinating topic, thoroughly enjoyed this interview Lisa, best conversation I’ve listened to in a while. What an authentic, interesting & intelligent man. Thanks ! 👌🏼🧠🌟💜
That is what makes South Africa such a unique tribe as we operate from groundwork to civilization and can fill all levels despite what is thrown at us.
"falling in love" is not transactional, that's the flaw in his scheme. Loving is an action verb, not passive. It's a commitment and a decision, regardless of what the other person does. It is also above time, not affected by time. You can love someone completely and realize that you cannot live with them because they are toxic (narcissistic, psycho, manic depressive, hysteric, paranoid schizophrenic, irresponsible, lazy, passive, ...) or batshit crazy (psychotic). So no, falling in love is not "falling into trust."
I think one of the reasons why several of us in the comments bristled at him, saying “not to trust your “gut”, is because of what he is defining as that “gut feelings.” “inconsistencies “and “efforts “and patterns are of different behavior I think are all the things that people believe they are recognizing in their gut. But for someone like him who quantifies every single part of the interaction, he is defining the “”part of the reaction to only be the first initial feeling. I believe most people are seeing these behavior, change patterns, attitude, changes, etc. and also receiving those changes in the “gut “, even though these changes are happening later in the list of discovery of possible lies.
He advocates not trusting your gut on a positive..... For example..... My gut tells me this person is a lovely guy/girl Always keep an open mind is how I read it
Me too .. 13 years and i got physical injury and ptsd from the constant violence and control . I had No idea who i was . Like a frozen robot . Until one day i escaped . I never regret it . I wish i had loved myself more ❤😢
I totally get this. Unfortunately most males have an innate propensity to manipulate females as a way to get what they want. Females are the prey that most males hunt. Females have to be sharp minded & highly intuitive when interacting with males. Boys do this naturally to mothers.
lies always weaken any person in the future. what a tangled web we weve when first we practise to decieve .when a person practises to decieve they do it in there own mind first to test the plausibility of the lie and thereby compromising their own integrity. i dont fully grasp what that term integrity means ,i only have a sort of sense or feelng about its meaning but dont really know if i could describe it in words.
Have to recognize the difference between portraying they have things they can do to get your attention, and just doing it like flinching from a hot flame
I already had an experience like this. I already noted a lot of how subtle manipulation occurs in steps during or pre until the trap is sprung...I had a situation Myself...I found myself in a situation where I easily was being told. "Do this". And my gut told me not to do anything or defer around it for protection. It's like dropping a bag for another and that person is told to walk with it with no instructions and that is the first Red Flag. Because then you have to insure it with your own life and endure it. But not they. So you end up with the consequences of others to yourself. But they never do.
People take a while to REALLY know me because I don't give it all away until I actually start to trust them. I also can act ignorant and maybe naive, but I am putting the jigsaw puzzle of your personality and life experience together to see what "gels"
when I cannot understand if someone likes me or not EVERY SINGLE time, I end up finding out that this person is a liar, or 2faced. Otherwise, I have no confusion at all. I either see that someone likes me or dislikes me, as simple as that. When I get double signals and get confused, I always end up realising that I was played or manipulated
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Thank you for sharing the sponsor. I was losing my hair, even recently had a heart attack with no heart disease or arterial blockage.
My Dr says a medical broken heart is rare but real.
I can't change how hard it is to get legally protected from my abuser, but i can put my focus on me and my child, which includes my health. I'll be trying these supplements to bolster the health and fortitude of the Wonder Woman in me.
I smell a double agent, Maxwell, smart, agent 86.
Thank you for sharing.
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The worst phrase I’ve ever heard is, “give them the benefit of the doubt”! I wish I had listened to my gut with all of the toxic people who I have let into my life. There was always something prior to trust that I ignored or justified. I gave them the benefit of the doubt!
Stop listening and see what people do. They will tell you who they are. Don't apply your story to them, don't apply what they say their story is, watch, observe.
@@Sweetpea-2023 I look for red flags first. I've been out with many, but never married, although I want to. I'm 68 years young now. Been a single mum..have my home..but never found a mutual love.
Same. I overlooked and it always came back & bit me worse.
He's the perfect cult leader
Best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. It really takes thought to divert attention away from this unless a person is very present and conscious of pattern work.
Always be suspucious of someone too nice who is trying to impress you
Me too. They creep me out. They are always up to something. Their plan is revealed later. It's almost always a sales pitch in order to get money out of you!🤨 Or depending on their eyes & how glassy they are...they're just high! Lol. Sometimes it's Both😂!😅
Yes, when I once told him I rode a motorbike, he said he had ridden one too. But the other day, when I started talking about motorbikes again, he asked why I was bringing them up and claimed he had never ridden one. He didn’t even remember his lie.
This is all too much trouble. Just assume they’re lying. You’ll be right 99% of the time!
True Story.. Unfortunately...
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Always wear sunglasses😅
That is so true
Gut feelings had saved my life a few times.
Myself as well with a little luck sprinkled on top. Thank You Lord.
32:00 mins. People have failed.... Evil have won during pandemic!!!!!!!!!!!
Way more than a few…way more
My gut "basic instinct" is always right. I will not purposely go against it. I did in the past "override " my initial thought and became very sorry.
You're a liar. Your gut is not always right.
Indeed. I think, among many other things on display, someone telling you never to trust your gut, should not be trusted.
@sandy89107 For women, we are shaped to be more people pleasing and tend to be more emotional based. And if there has been any trauma or abuse, it makes these even worse tending to justify. Give chances and talk ourselves out or in to things.
We then are the ones that 'lie' to ourself.
Youre right in that we can and do have good instincts. And we learn not to trust them.
What he is stating is this in a way, for many our instincts can be readily or easily hijacked. One way to not have that happen is, to not put complete trust and faith in them.
So, by all means trust your instincts but also, have a a backup or secondary, like a logic test after. A bit like a firewall or extra sieve. So that, if or when someone is fooling us, faking, lying, we will have the ability to recognize it and acknowledge it.
Could be confirmation bias.
@@veritas1177 Bustamante talk
Number 1 sign they're lying, in my experience, is when they tell you you're paranoid for not believing them. Every single time I heard that it was from a blatant liar.
Same
That's gaslighting and should never be tolerated.
@@carwoman43 Exactly! But it happens too often still and it makes people think "hm, am I being too harsh, etc.", while it's good to think about the fact that an honest person tries to address the topic and defend their stance, instead of attacking the person who's asking questions.
are you a woman?
My mother always taught me never to trust anybody but yourself pay cash for what you buy and that's how you live plain and simple
I was just in a toxic relationship and I kept having pains and symptoms. Went to the doctor and everything was negative. Got rid of him and just like that the symptoms went away !
Same
Dark energy
How did you do that, you're strong.
@@PureJoySkinCareWaxStudio just started keeping busy with my family and work life balance and opening myself up to other people
Amen
Sleep deprivation, toxic mold exposure, food poisoning, alcohol, drugs, medications, trauma, hormone imbalances, parasite infection, etc. all affect one’s perception which is a combination of intuition, logic, memory, etc.
Verry toxic
Especially as women! Naturally, we are very intuitive and in fact, all humans are very intuitive. But women can walk into a room and read everyone’s emotions in that room whether they know the people or not. Even if there are a dozen people in the room. BUT - our modern world has disturbed our intuition.
Some other important things to add to the list… People who meditate genuinely say that watching TV, having too much screen time such as smartphones and iPads, even having too much sex, can all alter our sense of reality and our intuition. Junk food, animal meat and products also can alter our bodies and therefore our brain. Just eating too much in general. Also the things you mention!
I have given up alcohol and marijuana completely. I have worked to an 85% plant-based diet. I swim, bike, run and weight train and let me tell you my intuition is on point these days and I look back to times that I was drinking and smoking too much and eating poorly and not moving my body and I was not my best self and I will never go back. I have been able to rid of some negative friendships and other destructive relationships in my life that were not serving me. In the time my judgment was clouded, I was oblivious but now I can clearly see which friends and family members in my life actually support me and love me and have my back. All the others I keep at a distance if you know what I mean.
Yep
@@eljofrva A carnivore diet is one of the best things a person can do for a healthy gut in my opinion.
Grain brain = unhealthy imo
Foods that turn to sugar = insulin resistance and feed all the bacteria in one's body including parasites. But hey, I could be wrong 😮
Secluded in a Jungle like setting as well called Jonestown French Guyana.
I love the comments on trusting titles. After quite a few disappointments with this approach I changed to thinking of all professionals as the pool boy. If I am paying for a clean pool and don't get that I fire them. This attitude now applies to every encounter I have. It works for me.
I trust my instinct if I feel uncomfortable. In a place or with a person. If I have no time to figure out what it is then I leave the situation
I am almost 65 and my trust level has not regressed. In fact, I am more inclined to sit back and observe before opening any of the windows and doors into my life. That is likely because the man I married is not who I thought he was. He has a mask, a facade that has been finely cultivated.
Our body signals to us when things are off. I trust my gut instincts.
Lying by omission.... master manipulators love to sit back and listen. They will allow you to tell on yourself... without saying a word. They have patience 🙏 and aren't into seeking validation. They allow you to build a story in your head about who (they) are ... and then go with it.
Yes lying through omission is what I experienced they can be so crafty and manipulative now I have Trust issues which means I will be alone for possibly the rest of my
of my life but I am better off alone than with someone who chisels away at your self esteem and self worth
@christinejones4785 Don't ever give your self-worth to another person. What you need to do for yourself is to go within and glue back together the parts of you that have been hurt or traumatized. Self love and self validation is all you need. When you stop seeking outward validation it will change your perspective on so many things.
When you have triggers from another person's actions, words that is your bodies response letting you know you have something within that needs to be worked on. Half the time it's having that self love. The only things we can control are our thoughts, words, and actions. If you are a confident person and stand strong with who you are, your not going to let anyone take that away with theirs words or actions. It's all about having that innerstanding of one's self. Meeting people can teach us a lot about ourselves by how we react to them. It can show us the unhealed parts of ourselves. The parts that need more love and healing and you cannot get that from outward influences. You need to go within. Don't give up on yourself, there is only one you! You are unique and beautiful all on your own and you have something to share with this world, YOU! If you truly love and care about yourself you will not tolerate any lies or bs from another person. Have the self love and respect to let them go and move on. Sometimes good hearts choose poor decisions. Through understanding we grow, through judging we separate. You come first, if your not happy don't blame someone else for that, you make your own decisions. You choose to stay or go. By staying you agree to their ignorance and devalue your self worth. By leaving you choose YOU, you choose to love yourself and respect yourself enough to make that decision.
Don't give up on yourself. Work on yourself. Love yourself whole heartedly.
Sending you much love and light on your journey. You hold the pen to your story, make it a bestseller. 🫶💛✨️
I was followed by a vehicle,while I was in a vehicle. I lost them barely only because I was paying attention. Be aware of what’s going on around you. Some things just don’t make logical sense.
If anyone is "Charming" - I immediately think of a snake charmer! 🐍
*DANGER, IN MY MIND.*
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There's good charm too, it's's all about one's motives
@@aliceeubanks-badosky2877don't be so naive. You need to be ready and tough to read someone in the first seconds or minutes.
By general rule, a handsome man is a man with sexual options, perhaps confused, resistant to commitment because he already is getting what he wants and is likely to be pursued, so that guy won't give you princess treatment.
You see? Not hard at all, see them objectively and see yourself in the same way. If he is more handsome than you, you're lost, that guy believes he's the prize
Yup!! My ex was extremely charming (still is) but he’s a diagnosed psychopath
@@marte1376I agree
I never get tired of hearing Bustamante talk. I must have watched dozens of his talks and they’re all different and cover new ground. He’s so interesting.
THANK YOU for pointing out that all it takes for evil to succeed is for good people to do nothing 💜
So I guess maybe for him to succeed, bad people should be doing all sorts of things.
Thats a very old saying. Nothing original
He didn't write that quote someone else did.
People usually do nothing
@@mreajamorgana But even when they do do 'something', the impact they're allowed to have is limited by what the status quo will allow.
Trusting your gut means trusting intuition, not feelings. My intuition has saved me from so many dangerous situations. My intuition is the only thing that is true. I think there is a problem with semantics here.
Your "gut feelings" aren't 100% correct, but they still serve an important purpose of alarming us of POTENTIAL harm. Your gut feeling is just one piece of the puzzle in determining what is truly a threat to us.
TYVM
Truth
Gut feelings are always correct!!!
I believe that gut feeling is our previous relatives living thru us. We share dna 🧬 with them. You will see simularities when you look up what previous family members were up to at your age.
This guy is unreal. His appearances seem more & more like he's just laughing to our faces.
CIA or not, this man is changing lives by recognizing and sharing the solutions to cycles of generational trauma.
Good podcast 👍🏿👍🏿
Yeah I'm learning to like him. At first I judged him as a CIA BA - but maybe he's driven by guilt of mk ultra or wants to help all of us whom were abused
@SoulfulHustle Well said. We will learn to end inflexible systems that perpetuate pains for the gain of others.
Yes. Spies are trained in subterfuge. He.s using his lived experience to teach us systems of thought manipulation. Hg tudor the ultra psycopath narcissist does the same.
Its enlightening and useful...but we still have to work out which bit to take on board. Be discerning.
I love when he said we are all equally f'd up. Such a true statement.
He gaslighting you
@@bryansolis3139 Very unlikely during a presentation. Gas lighting most always takes place between 2 people.
Perhaps you haven't read the indictments against D!ddy, which happened to be the context this refrence was placed.
Saying everyone is equally f'd up and then saying in the next breath "not that we would do what d!ddy did" undermines his credibility. Are we equally f'd up or would "we never do what he did" ... which is it? He uses absolutes when there are nuances and shades of grey.
He backpeddled so many times I lost count. The interviewer was great. First time I've watched her, but she picked up on many over confident statement and added an appropriate question for clarification.
Don't trust your gut . Then when called out, backpeddles.
My gut feeling is always right, I have extremely good intuition and it tells me information immediately. When I don't listen to it the reason why I felt that way ALWAYS reveals itself. It's me not listening to it that's the problem. Always listen to your intuition and your gut.
Yes. And what does your gut tell you about him?
@@rigelb9025 That he is seeking to feel accomplished from recognition of his abilities and from money gains. Thats a gut feeling i get from him, but i could be wrong, or not. Gut feeling or more an impression of his profile/personnality..
@@CLilMR That's nice. It does make sense. My gut tells me he's the king of manipulation. Heck, he even says it out loud.
@@rigelb9025 I agree with you, i think so too
@@CLilMR I'm glad you do. If nothing else, I think one of the major roles this guy plays is to remind us that we are being continuously manipulated.
I think a lot of people arent getting what andrew said about listening to your gut. Hes saying your gut is a great way to protect yourself and he said he'd never tell anyone to go against that. But what you don't do is say "my gut tells me hes a really good guy" thats how you break safety
Then the title is misleading.
We are taught to distrust ourselves...but then ...aha...we find out we were right...but because we are all fallible...its complex.
Yep. If you recall the Madeline Soto case her mom Jenn said she felt in her body her daughter’s killer was a good guy. Good point for sure
He uses absolutes when there are nuances and shades of grey. "don't trust your gut" for example. Statement like these caused him to backpeddle multiple times when the interviewer asked for appropriate clarification. Credibility is lost for me. Saying everyone is equally f'd up and then saying in the next breath "not that we would do what d!ddy did" undermines his credibility. Are we equally f'd up or would "we never do what he did" ... which is it? Again using absolutes when there are nuances and shades of grey.
It just takes one to break a legacy of trauma. So true. I wish more would act on it.
Andrew is always a great interview.
So many rock stars from the 60s and 70s who are still alive were sleeping with 12-16 year old “groupies” and yet these men are all honoured as hero’s and in halls of fame and I believe a lot of it’s because they never addressed it and people just “forgot”
Historically, societies accepted all kinds of things including marriage at 11 or 12 years old, childten working at 7 or 8 years old...
@@DionneHartleyDoesn't make it right. Society also accepted slavery.
@DionneHartley True Historically, but by today's more ethical standards it's not acceptable. I think that's a good thing and an enlightened view.
@@AlyssaIrvine Some societies continue to accept and subjugate a person and or persons into slavery.
Agreed. It wasn't exposed as widely
Halfway through this episode and I am so blown away by his applicable genuine dating advice. Thank you for bringing such knowledgeable, reliable minds on your show, Lisa!
I pretend I am down for the worst of the worst and watch the monster come out. It works to find out who someone truly is, then of course I leave, really far, far away!
That's a really good idea, I wish I had thought of that when I was younger.
When someone comes right out the gate with ''I'm paid to earn trust I don't deserve'', that might be a tell-tale sign as well.
Exactly 🥸👎🏻👻
I listened to him and thought I was listening, but I found out a few weeks ago my beloved assistant was stealing from me for months. I wouldn’t have be
Invective it in a million years, but I can now see, my gut was telling me something was wrong but I chose not to listen. Because I did not want to know the truth.
That sucks. It must have been easier to fool yourself for a while and think "nah, I'm being paranoid" than to realize how horrible the person is to do that to you. That sort of thing will make a person distrustful of others in the future. Dishonest people like that destroy so much. That's why I like this subject being talked about, because I hope it makes it impossible for them to keep getting away with it. We have to educate ourselves, see the signs, catch them in the act and send them on their way.
Oh cool..so trust issues are actually just wisdom then . Awesome.
I have kids and I really love and get connected when someone talks about kids in good way
Breaking the Chain of Abuse can be very difficult.
Yes, it is, I'm stuck.
I always knew not to trust too fast but I was stupid this time but it will NEVER happen again without proper vetting.
That was very helpful. Was married to a malignant narcissist and I Never want to do that again. My insight, standards, and boundaries are much higher now, so I don't think I'd fall for one, but it's good to have excellent tools in one's tool belt.
i had a Husband that was manipulator and a narcissist also, very hard to deal with that kind of person.
good thing i got away from that and never again
That was interesting. Great interview. He is obviously a great guest, but you ask him really good questions.
The subject matter is pretty complex and nuanced, but you seem to be able to digest it as you go. It must be hard to focus on both being the host managing the interview, and being immersed in the subject matter at the same time. I am really impressed.
Yes . A liar believes their own lies
Very few liars believe their own lies (i.e. pathological liar) and must be able to make the distinction between what is real and or what is false. Lies are constructed through a deliberate process in order to acheive a purpose or goal through deception.
Liars are very lonely people...time always reveals them. Even to themselves.
Then they get a job as a network news anchor
Timestamp: 28:14 situational awareness, threat detection, and the female bias; t.y. for bringing up this point
So many people sharing false information, agreeing without thinking, saying how great someone is that they do not really know, playing along to get along, not being aware or honest.
Also failing to report incidents of violence or threat, which is selfish and enables further incidents.
I see that all the time.
Its the "whats in it for me" flaw that so many people suffer from.
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Great assessment! I am dealing with a co-worker who is telling me one thing and goes to other people to tell them another. She is doing that to everyone. I can't even tell my boss because he also talks to her. I am working in a stressful field with young children. I don't need the drama. I get pay well here, so I don't want to leave. If it's becoming too toxic then I have to find another place.
@@Nicole-gb4zeSorry to hear that. I usually recommend finding ways to become immune to such people, so that they get no power over us, but that's not always easy and there can be risks.
I won't go into all my own horror stories, which go all the way to attempts at killing me on the job.
One toxic person I began filming them on my phone, every time they came to my house, and would record all of their messages, or sometimes conversations because they were making threats and were bribing people to come and get me.
I have fended off all types of people, in the hopes of also saving others by my example.
I advise most people, to remain calm. Make it easy for others to see who the problem is. Collect evidence where possible.
Sometimes let the boss know that if ever that person is gone, then you might come back. It's really a HR issue, so if it is documented, even on a confidential basis, that might help over time. Remaining calm, and respectful even if angered, I think is good. Good Luck, Stay Safe, and go where the good is 🙋🤍
Not really. Sometimes you try to reach out and get help. No. It's not available. Sex trafficking victim. They get trapped where all the help is out and they are gaslit to mess with their sense of independence and direction... cause sometimes the Unknown is worse and it's next to impossible to survive. So it's conditioning. But some situations. It's your inside brain, gut intuition that only saves you. Imagine being sent to live at a mansion in a foreign country...that you have no idea if you had no prior experience...
Not really. Sometimes you try to reach out and get help. No. It's not available. Sex trafficking victim. They get trapped where all the help is out and they are gaslit to mess with their sense of independence and direction... cause sometimes the Unknown is worse and it's next to impossible to survive. So it's conditioning. But some situations. It's your inside brain, gut intuition that only saves you. Imagine being sent to live at a mansion in a foreign country...that you have no idea if you had no prior experience...no money and no documentation or anything like understanding the language etc.
Trust and benefit of the doubt should be earned like respect because not everyone has common sense or have had adverse variations of experiences
I absolutely love this guy. I love that your channel empowers people with good information!!❤
I have to read between the lines with all toxic people because they are so good at mimicing me. Actually just right now is happening with one person that he thinks- not really thinks-shows to everybody that I am the narcissist. When I can get away from these ...why.
I think the “don’t trust your gut because it’s trained on emotions” is lacking the perspective of those whose emotions are trained on lack of trust and noticing sus in the gut
Yep Narcissists are not sensitive toward their actions. They will probably pass it.
They project their crap onto you until the rubber band snaps
*I'm glad you made this video,* it reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, $89k biweekly and a good daughter full of love..
Please how ?
It's Maria Angelina Alexander doing she's changed my life. A BROKER- like her is what you need.
$356K monthly is something you should feel differently about....
Lovely! I enjoyed it like I enjoy a $100k monthly around the turn!!!
I know that woman (Maria Angelina Alexander)
If you were born and raised in new York you'd know too, she's my family's Broker for 3yrs till now and a very good one if you asked me. No doubt she is the one that helped you get where you are!!!!
One of my best friends is an absolute 24/7 alcoholic. He is also an airline pilot. Not only a pilot, but a captain. And he flies big planes for a major airline. Never trust titles or white coats.
shoot you need to report him !!
Thank you for interviewing this brilliant guest. Learning so much on a nuanced level. You are a great interviewer, Lisa! Thank you for sharing your talent with the world.
This is so powerful!! But i may be stupid when it comes to protecting myself and vulnerability! I am a wide open individual! I'm also very sheltered.. luckily 🙏🏼 only one time was i attacked, by my ex's attorney's and him about my past experiences, during a divorce! 20 years before and not that same individual. But it was used to set an example of my decision making, even though my past, by law, shouldn't have any place in our divorce! This podcast actually brought me back, reminding me that i should not be as open!! Thank you for this!!!
That documentary about the doctor was so extremely traumatizing!! Omg…it was in my head for days. Sick sick sick…AND he was a world famous doctor!! How could that have happened! 😮
Dr Death -Macciarini. Horrible person, very manipulative. How people didn't see through him is beyond me.
Mahalo both for this conversation, the framework is applicable on many contexts.
I always assume faces of disgust mean they have to poop, if wrong you’ll know soon enough. It’s the number 2 gut instinct to never ignore! 👏😆
People do not listen to this man when he says to not trust your guts intuition, our unconscious is always trying to communicate important information through our senses and emotions.
what did he say about it?
Always trust your gut. It is a difference between first reaction and gut instinct.
You girls are slamming him and saying trust your gut…but have you ever beat yourself up for following your gut, thinking someone was great only to find out they lied? I’m using this CIA approach WITH my intuition. If I trust you right away that could very well be a flag. Because why haven’t you offended me? Saying everything perfect to manipulate?
I think women are getting taken back by this and missing some of what he's saying.
My take as a woman is yes listen to your gut instinct and your, a woman's intuition. But don't let that be THE basis of decision. He basically says this. Have logic, have other things, err on side of caution, simply because our instincts and emotions can be hijacked by someone fooling us, but not by cool reasoning.
He even says yes, get off the X. Etc.
Dont trust Andrew. He is Government disinfo agent
Watching 18 minutes now, trying to pay attention to what hes saying, but HIS HAIR OMG❤❤
Yes, I love the content but am completely distracted by that gorgeous hair.
Don't stare at him.
Same. When I get distracted. I refocus on what's being said and don't look. Lol
Lisa is a human bobblehead. I just listen with my eyes shut. Beautiful woman, no, it's not her hair (which is pretty).
@@Animal_lover123-x7w Everybody pause the video, take a COLD shower and then resume. Good Lord Help US.
Wow this was a great episode! Learned a little something about myself and how I will continously work towards breaking my generational traumas, and to give myself some grace throughout.
Valuable information in the interview. I learned amongst other things that I should not eat a burrito the night before a polygraph test.
The gut feeling never tells you to trust sb, it only warns you when danger occurs, so we should trust it. These are mind tricks that deceive us to trust an unworthy person, because this, this and this; not the gut feeling.
Wow, wow, wow! The how to spot a lie section was GOLD! Every abusive cheater I was with would have been caught SO much sooner! Thank you!!! 🙏🏻
Cycles of trauma... Wow. I finally felt a whole schema of motives, priorities, lift from me that came from that wubconscious programming. Im so GLAD
Love your videos ❤❤❤and ❤ Andrew and his videos!!!!
This was such an enriching, enlightening and informative conversation. I really enjoyed it. Thank you.
Thank YOU for being here! 🥰
@@LisaBilyeu I’ve watched a few of your episodes. It’s really great. You are a really good interviewer and you have really good guests. I’m a new subscriber
I have always been intuitive since I was a child being adopted by psychopaths! I was very keen singer and my brothers used to hit me in the head, When I used to do voice overs of the television ! I actually grew up in the 70s and 80s and I always had a sinking feeling about people in the film industry in the music industry as something just did not sit right with me about them !
I escaped a family of serial killers. I love your T-shirt where can I get one?
Thank you! This is the message I was waiting to receive
Thanks so much. I misunderstood what you meant by gut decision. I would have said I made gut decisions but now I realise I'm not doing that. I use my gut instinct as observation to develop further research and acquire information before eventually making a decision
Love from Paris ! This conversation is brilliant !
As someone living with a chronic disability. I feel validated hearing Andrew talk about spies being literally anyone. Regardless of their perceived shortcomings.
Lisa, the part where Andrew was talking about the one who breaks the succession of abuse deals with ss whole other set of issues, impacted me like a "bullet to my head"! My sister and I were abused as kids by a family member and I was the breaker of the familial /child abuse. I went through HELL during that time with everyone turning their back on me except my aunt,(RIP) and when the dust settled, many female relatives stepped up and spoke about THEIR OWN child abuse! I had the key to our family's closet and allowed for the skeletons to come out! Today, our family can heal and we are the Kryptonite to any child molesters ever infiltrating our family ever again!!!! Andrew and Lisa thank you for helping to make positive changes in the world and giving us the knowledge and tools to never again, be a victim!! Lisa G.
I liked the truth at the end about breaking the traumas.
when i became conscious instead of following in a type of brain fog, i felt unable to control my decisions or make healthy decisions that were not what i had
been programmed to by an abusive mother. as i became a believer in the word of God through His son, slowly i was able to become awake to the truth of the
lies that i had believed. to break the trauma is exactly as you have described. generation to generation we follow what we have been programmed to be
we see this around the world ending in the violence that has so greatly increased and shall need the intervention of Christ and His armies as He promised.
how can we break generation after generation of programming lies and trauma without being brought out of this . i also came out of this world systems including religions which only continue on the legacy of lies and trauma. thanks Lisa for such clear thoughtful questions about this curse of generational
trauma. and thank you Andrew for being so honest about your generational trauma. you chose as i did to break the cycle and as i found it would entail being conscious. without staying with my decision to break the cycle i would slip back into the old ways. now, with much personal choice i have been able to change myself. my desire to raise my children a new way was dashed despite my own personal beliefs and choices. i married a very dangerous man who
because of his own abuse had chosen to repeat the cycle with our 2 boys and me. anything i raised the boys in was destroyed secretly and i was unable to
save them from their father. one died a few years ago and the other one made the unconscious choices of his father and has decided he no longer has a mother. no matter what happens we can go forward and let go of programming and decisions based on that. thank you for your example Andrew-you will break the trauma cycle. i have become the person i have always wanted to be but not by remaining married to a person who is still blind to this day. peace
and love to both you and Lisa and your families. keep up the good work. it will make a change in future generations that begin with us.
1:17:50
Dear Lisa,
Please say a disclaimer before discussing violent cases.
Loved the episode ... Thanks a lot !
I love this. These are all the topics I enjoy reading about. Andrew you could have saved me 20 years of reading, this is what I wanted to know!! Lol ❤
The polygraph thing makes me think of George on Seinfeld. “it’s not a lie if you believe it.” 😂
Manipulation takes too much high effort and critical thinking for the “regular” conscious mind. I feel badly for those who require this much thought in order to succeed and or gain anything in life .
Then again, this is innate in individuals who know nothing otherwise .
i like this guy's very clear explanation, nothing fancy, straight to the point ! very good interview ! thank you !
Good luck explaining to a judge that you’re terrified of him because he’s been extra nice to you lately.
I was hit on since a very young age and that is not trustworthy. So I like to portray the bad first, lol! So sick off being liked being beautiful and clever.
I think you bring out the best in Bustamante. This was a fascinating interview, thank you!
Sometimes you only have a moment or two to make a decision and , therefore, I think it’s vital to ‘stay in tune’ with your instincts. Often instincts often include unpleasant experiences which may not be part of the conscious impression. If, after recognizing your ‘discomfort’ , or whatever you are feeling you have time to make a coherent decision using a more analytical or logical decision making process. But there are times when instinct gives you a powerful motivation to get away from a person , for example,and get away. You may never know if instincts saved you but you saved yourself from becoming a potential victim of a person with a dubious nature. True instinct, in my experience, is not a thought process but a strong sense of danger, or of something being wrong.
There's also nothing wrong with fabricating a story to deflect a person trying to gather información from you. People often ask way personal questions to hurt you, use you or manipulación. So, don't over share.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤Also, some people come off as controlling because they have trauma, ptsd or fear people. You forgot to talk about how someone makes you feel...this video has only made me more distrustful lol. So, if I meet a guy wearing a green shirt, super nice, and has long hair...well..im getting off the X😅😅sometimes people look away because they are thinking . Don't trust Andrew 😂😂😂
Noor😮😢
Andrews hair and what he speaks about indicates to me that he had a recent mental breakdown after his career in CIA after finding out the agency manipulated him and everyone else working for them. His hair indicates a transition period and that's why he's talking so much and being open about his former career at the agency.
In the head and shoulder shots of this guy, he looks like he has angel wings😊
Yes. They are saying one thing , but their body language is saying another
Lies are necessary because there is punitive forces instead of protective justice.
Thank you both for this interview.
Fascinating topic, thoroughly enjoyed this interview Lisa, best conversation I’ve listened to in a while. What an authentic, interesting & intelligent man. Thanks ! 👌🏼🧠🌟💜
in light of my experiences both good and bad I trust absolutely no one and that saves me a lot of time and liver.
That is what makes South Africa such a unique tribe as we operate from groundwork to civilization and can fill all levels despite what is thrown at us.
"falling in love" is not transactional, that's the flaw in his scheme. Loving is an action verb, not passive. It's a commitment and a decision, regardless of what the other person does. It is also above time, not affected by time. You can love someone completely and realize that you cannot live with them because they are toxic (narcissistic, psycho, manic depressive, hysteric, paranoid schizophrenic, irresponsible, lazy, passive, ...) or batshit crazy (psychotic). So no, falling in love is not "falling into trust."
I have learned sooo much from this Man. Thank you.
I think one of the reasons why several of us in the comments bristled at him, saying “not to trust your “gut”, is because of what he is defining as that “gut feelings.” “inconsistencies “and “efforts “and patterns are of different behavior I think are all the things that people believe they are recognizing in their gut. But for someone like him who quantifies every single part of the interaction, he is defining the “”part of the reaction to only be the first initial feeling. I believe most people are seeing these behavior, change patterns, attitude, changes, etc. and also receiving those changes in the “gut “, even though these changes are happening later in the list of discovery of possible lies.
He advocates not trusting your gut on a positive.....
For example.....
My gut tells me this person is a lovely guy/girl
Always keep an open mind is how I read it
I try to stay away from most men because I had domestic violence in my past. 😢
Me too...
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Thats horrible.
Me too .. 13 years and i got physical injury and ptsd from the constant violence and control . I had No idea who i was . Like a frozen robot . Until one day i escaped . I never regret it . I wish i had loved myself more ❤😢
I totally get this. Unfortunately most males have an innate propensity to manipulate females as a way to get what they want. Females are the prey that most males hunt. Females have to be sharp minded & highly intuitive when interacting with males. Boys do this naturally to mothers.
lies always weaken any person in the future. what a tangled web we weve when first we practise to decieve .when a person practises to decieve they do it in there own mind first to test the plausibility of the lie and thereby compromising their own integrity. i dont fully grasp what that term integrity means ,i only have a sort of sense or feelng about its meaning but dont really know if i could describe it in words.
Have to recognize the difference between portraying they have things they can do to get your attention, and just doing it like flinching from a hot flame
Over a decade in EMS, I've never ever ever heard "don't trust your gut". It's very much the opposite
I already had an experience like this. I already noted a lot of how subtle manipulation occurs in steps during or pre until the trap is sprung...I had a situation Myself...I found myself in a situation where I easily was being told. "Do this". And my gut told me not to do anything or defer around it for protection. It's like dropping a bag for another and that person is told to walk with it with no instructions and that is the first Red Flag. Because then you have to insure it with your own life and endure it. But not they. So you end up with the consequences of others to yourself. But they never do.
I always listen to my gut. If I have an intuition, usually I am right. I closely follow it.
I really liked this man’s previous interview/video on this channel 🔥 excited to watch this one
People take a while to REALLY know me because I don't give it all away until I actually start to trust them. I also can act ignorant and maybe naive, but I am putting the jigsaw puzzle of your personality and life experience together to see what "gels"
when I cannot understand if someone likes me or not EVERY SINGLE time, I end up finding out that this person is a liar, or 2faced. Otherwise, I have no confusion at all. I either see that someone likes me or dislikes me, as simple as that. When I get double signals and get confused, I always end up realising that I was played or manipulated
This interview is SO good! ❤