The journey through loss and grief | Jason B. Rosenthal
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- Опубліковано 2 лип 2018
- In her brutally honest, ironically funny and widely read meditation on death, "You May Want to Marry My Husband," the late author and filmmaker Amy Krouse Rosenthal gave her husband Jason very public permission to move on and find happiness. A year after her death, Jason offers candid insights on the often excruciating process of moving through and with loss -- as well as some quiet wisdom for anyone else experiencing life-changing grief.
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Shout-out to all those who have lost someone special & still struggle to live their life without them. You are strong & YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH
Thank you, we really need this.
Dua Lipa Updates this is beautiful thank u
Why do I have to make it through why does anyone have to make it through.
❤🌈❤
My wife of 20 years Kim unexpectedly died on 1/5/24. That was 3 weeks ago tonight. She said that she was feeling a little tired and was going to take a nap in her recliner. She had been fighting a little cold, nothing out of the ordinary. I got her set up with a glass of water and her new Christmas blanket and took our severely autistic son into the other room so that she could rest. When I went back to check on her a couple of hours later her lips were white. She was gone at 52 years old.
When he described carrying his wife's lifeless body and how those images would never leave him it was like a punch to the gut. I picked my wife up out of her recliner and put her on the floor so that I could try CPR while waiting for the ambulance. Those are images and tactile memories that nobody should have. She was clearly gone and must have died within minutes of sitting in her chair. So much of that night is hazy or not even there, but I can see, hear and feel every second of those few minutes.
We did have some talks a few years earlier when we had a health scare, mainly about the care of our son in case something happened to us. We did talk about our preferred disposition of our bodies. We never really thought about one of us outliving the other, it was more about who would watch over our son if we both were in a car crash or got hit by a bus. I wish we had thought to talk more deeply about what to do if only one of us died. Even if we had that talk I think we would have assumed that the husband dies first, over 80% of the time that's the way it is.
I had experienced pets and distant relatives passing and thought I knew what grief was. I was very wrong. Those were paper cuts. Grief for your spouse is a gushing hemorrhage that doesn't stop. Grief sucks more than anything I've experienced before. I was a little wild in my youth and had numerous broken bones, burst appendix, multiple surgeries, probably a couple of months in total in the hospital for various reasons but I've never felt wounded like this before.
Kim would kick me where it counts if I didn't pull it together and make a good life for our son. Major mama bear with a special needs son. So that's what I'm trying to do. Joined a grief group, reading books about the loss of a spouse, watching vids like this and being open about it with everyone. Trying to face it, experience it and learn to live. Not a fun process. My wife had a horrible memory, we always teased her about being like the fish Dory in Finding Nemo. Ever since she died between the waves of emotions I just keep telling myself 'just keep swimming, just keep swimming', it's almost like I can hear it in Kim's voice.
Sorry for the long post, it's supposed to be therapeutic to let it out, better to do it in places like this than to burn out a friend with the constant babbling.
Thank you for sharing.
🙏🏽🕯🕊♾
I lost my 44 year old son suddenly 5 months ago.
“Just keep swimming”.
We have to be strong but it’s so painful !!!
Peace to you
I lost my wife of 43 years last June. One day she told me that she didn't feel well. She died 55 days later of Pancreatic cancer. Talk about a sucker punch to the gut. I was lost and didn't know what to do. I got help and turned myself into a Medical Mental Hospital. From there I went to group therapy to find a way to live with the grief I was having. The pain seemed like just to much and I wanted to take my own life. I learned a lot from the group therapy talks and listening to others that had been through the same thing I was going through. It's been a year now and I am doing better. I will have to live with the fact that my wife is gone and that I will always have some pain when I think about her. But I also will always love her and keep the memory of her and the things that we did together. I always talk about her in confersations with my friends and family. How she was just a ball of fire and laughed a lot. She still is my most cherished friend and the love of my life.
I never want to be born as a human again, this pain of loss is too much
👼🌻 Peace be with you ~1 life on earth 🔔💠⛅️😇✨💫
May God comfort you in your time here.
Same
I lost my dad two years ago and this is his youtube account. I don't want to delete his account, I don't want to delete him from anywhere.
You don't ever have to, just remember that.
I still go back to my son's FB account. It is comforting and healing to learn about who one really is by looking at what they post and liked. I think it is a gift you can experience his wisdom that way. I did something similar, with my son, and it really was life changing. Peace and grace to you my friend. Big Hugs.
Oh, man I feel you. Don't ever want to delete anything form my best friend at all. May your father rest in peace, wish nothing but the best for you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
It’s nice in a way that our digital presence will outlast us as a lingering legacy for our ancestors. It’s why I post pictures and events to Facebook, to leave behind my digital existence. Hopefully it will provide solace in the future to those that miss me.
And you shouldn’t. It’s a way to stay connected. Wishing you love & strength!
Lost my husband close to three years ago to Colon cancer .It's unbearable pain that has no name ....He gave me permission to move forward through grief .I hope to see a new day filled with joy again .
What a tough speech to give.
And given so very well.
grief, the price of love. I can accept that
May be yes
Makes sense
How strong must one be to not cry throughout this entire talk .
1 reason I felt like he was full of it. That or he was doing something he thought was right but I felt nothing authentic
@@theDARKSTEP try watching it again. You missed so many signals that he was trying to suppress his feelings.
not strength, will power
Came close to tears severally.
It’s a sign of how uncomfortable we are to be in the presence of pain that we prefer to analyze the “performance” instead of the content. It’s completely beside the point.
Grief ......a life sentence for me......
And me with no parole lost my daughter and son yr half apart nothing left till I take my last breath
@@brendadrumm9708
Jesus give u comfort & strength. Our only hope now & in eternity.
Me to.
I just lost my father yesterday. Then this video appears in a pop-up notification. Makes you wonder.
you will feel better and better everyday.
sorry to hear that..may you get through this time of grief with strength & patience.
Wesley Kane Thanks
Daniel Lepel I'm sorry for your loss.
I lost my father a week ago.
Just lost my mom…2 days ago, no sign…she just passed in her sleep, one month before her birthday…she was, almost, 58…I miss her with all my being, every cell and every atom in my body is crying, desperately… No more: “ good morning” on WhatsApp, or phone calls, no more “I love you” or hugs… God help me…I miss her so bad, it hurts so much… Tomorrow, me and my father will bury her…Please say a prayer for her! I MISS YOU MOMMY !
Yesterday I buried my beloved grandma, I can only imagine how emotionally difficult it was for you
Do you still forge for your mum
Hi Mike, I just lost my mom and the pain you describe I feel them all...this is the worse pain I have ever felt...I am struggling to find my way but it is so recent, I am trying to be as kind to myself as possible...this is so hard...I am sending you a huge hug...remembering things when it was all good is too much at times, I just try my best to hold it together..so many just don't understand...it helps when you read something from someone who does..They live on inside us ❤
I lost my mum too, she just died in her sleep she had been to work that day, I miss her but I really feel her around me as long as I can speak her name she is still with me in some way, it's difficult when you lose your mum, it's hard to understand that all of a, sudden they are gone, I think about her every single day, i hope all the mums who have passed, are somewhere being taken care of just liked they cared for us
I lost my dad and the grieving process was a struggle. Some times I’m ok and can smile and laugh at memories and other times the pain and anxiety is overwhelming. My process has been realizing that it’s ok to be sad and cry. Those emotions are ok and perfectly fine because someone you love is gone. I’ve learned to not mix sadness with fear. It took me a long time to stop having panic attacks. Through my faith and prayer and actually getting in touch with what emotions I’m feeling I’ve began to finally heal. It’s ok to be sad. Don’t fear the sadness. Let yourself feel it and then remember that sadness does not equal fear and panic. Sadness makes sense because your loved one is gone. I lost my grandmother after that and I just lost my Aunt to cancer a week ago. I’m sad but also ok because I’ve learned how to let myself feel what’s necessary and put away the other emotions that become irrational.
I also lost my father last month and I am experiencing anxiety and panic attacks. I don't know how to control it
Thank you for this. My dad died at the end of October..its been 6 weeks and it feels both short and such a long time. I struggle and cry everyday. I am half of who I was before he died...I am slowly slowly slowly getting better. Thank you for sharing. I hope you are doing better and my heart goes out to you...
@@zahraA-eq3pk my dad died at the end of October..I miss him soo much..I am hurting so bad...I hope you are keeping the thought that you will get better...I'm lost...but that thought carries me through each day.
@@warriorrealestatesolutions6263 thank you so much. It's really hard to cope with the loss of a loved one . My dad was my best friend and I have really missed part of my soul. Hope God will help us to be able to get through this.
I hope your father rests in peace, much love ❤️❤️❤️
At 8:55 when he says "I really am sad a lot of the time" you really feel that.
I've heard it said before that grief is the price we pay for love. Sending positive vibes to anyone reading this and needing this video. Thanks Jason for this talk.
I lost my husband Dennis in November. I'm just now enduring the wrath of the finality of death.
@@lorityndall5783 sending you love 🥺
Yes, I really am sad most of the days since my mom passed on 9.10.22. 😔 I'm not sure that will ever change.😢
My wife died 12 days ago , i cant function , i have no goals and quiet frankly i don’t see the point of life .lung cancer tore her apart .she never smoked and we fought with all our strength .in the end pneumonia got her ....i mean com-on all that fighting , i was her care taker . I am beaten and lost ...
Please don't stop connecting with and reaching out to anyone and everyone available.
You're stronger than you know
You are much stronger than you know. I hope you are better today.
I'm deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 3 months ago and I feel exactly the same way. He was home on hospice and I watched him deteriorate and ultimately die and leave me. What were all of the doctor appointments for? All of the effort he made got him nowhere. Me? I'm beaten and lost like you. I just can't get over the finality of all of this. How will I never see him again? Where is he?????? I was his caretaker also. I'm sick and devastated and even angry that WE are no longer and everyone else around me is happy and with their loves. i wish you happiness.
@@pookie69abletoluvu thank your story, my heart goes out for you . we all in this together
I'm so sorry for your loss. 2 years on I hope you are moving forward and have found the strength to carry on despite your pain.
Hard for me to watch. I lost Wendy more than 12 years ago. She spent all but the last 14 hours at home. Half of me died that day; half of her dwells within me today.
I understand that. I lost my husband of 36 years a couple months ago and I feel like I died too they just forgot to bury me...
I lost my Mom in 6th August 2018 suddenly due to stroke while having dinner.
I feel so depressed and angry . Everyday is a struggle for me . Her dying scene keeps repeating in my mind every minute. I feel guilty as well as regret. Keeps myself blaming and thinking what could I have done to save her. Now my world is so empty. I don't feel like doing anything at all.I don't think I will be happy again.
My mom was the apple of my eye. Mom, I miss you a lot.
Anna Evans I’m so sorry, Anna. My love and condolences go out to you.
My mother died on January 20th 2018 in the hospital. She was the most amazing gift and was absolutely Irreplaceable. I think of her every single day. The pain that comes with grief from that kind of loss is unlike anything else. Even though she is no longer here I love her every single moment of the day and night.
Peace n Love Anna there’s a light for you that won’t go out
I lost my husband yesterday. I can’t even feel. Heartsick
I hope you find peace. My mom died of a cardiac arrest in front of my eyes two years ago and in moments of feeling down, my mind still wonders how I could have seen the signs, known something, done something. But we are not magicians...we have to be kind to ourselves and just soothe ourselves saying to ourselves over and over, "there's nothing you could have done. Whatever had to happen, happened." I remind myself that it's because she was so magical, I am forever changed by her loss. I was lucky to have her as my mom.
It really hit me hard when he went into the at-home hospice care. I too have vivid memories of watching over my mother in her remaining months after being diagnosed with stage IV brain cancer. I held her hand as she passed, whispering into her ear "It's OK Mom, you don't have to hold on any longer. I love you" (she was moaning and writhing in pain after surviving 2 years). I am happy to have had this chance for closure though. For the longest time, I continued on telling myself to do what would have made her proud (I was 21 when she passed). This worked, although I had the greatest relief and freeing moment of my life once I finally realized that I was doing what I, myself, wanted to do. For those out there who've lost loved ones; keep pushing, and things will get better. It doesn't, however, mean you need to forget their warm smile.
I am sure your mom was/is very proud of you. I am glad you both had each other. I do hope Ryan your taking care of yourself the way she would want you to.
Thank you for sharing the last moments - Despite the pain she died being told that she was loved. Good man.
Wow, I had such a similar experience losing my mom to ovarian cancer 2 months ago. I am 23 and we did home hospice as well. She died in my sisters arms also writhing in pain, after a 2.5 year battle. Thank you for sharing and for your words of encouragement.
Colby D'Onofrio I’m sorry for your loss. Stay strong and be there for your sister - but also make sure you give yourselves time to grieve as well.
That smile is the one that makes me cry Bc i will never see him anywhere!!!
Really, really nice . I like what you've written.
I never had the chance to say goodbye to my partner. I literally got up one morning and just found him gone. His eyes were still closed shut and it was just like someone had just switched him off, like a table lamp or something. How can you possibly prepare yourself for such an event. Now, nearly 18 months later I still feel at times like I am in shock. It hurts so much that we didn’t get to say goodbye or have important conversations. You are right, we all need to have those difficult conversations but so often we chose not to. I try to keep reminding myself that at least it was very quick and he didn’t suffer emotional or physical pain. Still, I would have liked to have uttered one last “I love you” and “thanks for being the best partner ever”. It is so hard, I cry almost every day and I still miss him dreadfully. It is like walking through treacle trying to go forward. It feels like we were parted too soon, it is so awful to be the one left behind.
I have a very similar situation to yours, my partner passed away one month ago, although i was with him at his final moments, I didn't have the time to say "Thank you for including me in your life" i still cry everyday thinking of him, it's just too hard...
I lost my boyfriend almost two months ago. I found him sitting in his chair with his eyes closed. He was so peaceful. I never got to tell him I loved him. We had only dated for 8 months and I was playing it too safe to not say those words but I did show him. I will never hold back those words. I will never hold back those important conversations. I can’t imagine caring for him while he was dying. I’m glad that I found him because I was able to say Goodbye. My heart aches for him but I am continuing to celebrate life as I did before I met him almost a year ago.
I lost my Dad last October... I have never accepted him leaving and it kills me everyday. He was my rock and his upcoming birthday is destroying me. I never had the chance to say goodbye. I miss him so bad... I wish I had a day with him just to talk... I miss you Daddy. I love you.
Hey.. Hw r u doing now?? Has it gotten any better..? Im going through the same right now😔
Same(
I lost my dad on the 10th of January and I'm struggling to accept his passing. He was 87 and my best friend 😢
I watched and cared for my beloved partner Jim .Had an accident that burned lungs leaving Jim with thirty percent lung capacity. He was on oxygen.I kept him at home .Cancer took my husband along with Alzhiemer's, and. dementa. His weight went from 160 lbs to eighty lbs.I learned what sun downing was as I help Jim get through it.Didn't even know me at times but knew he loved Kathy his wife.I told him love was good he could love everyone.I will never get over loosing Jim. He was cremated and ashes buried at home.
I lost my fiance June 21st, 2019 in our home to a massive heart attack. I was performing cpr on him. I will never forget that morning. I'm so sorry for your loss. You don't move on. You move through it. These last 11 months has been the worst ever in my life. How do I move in to my new life with the grace and eloquence you have?
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
I lost my kids three weeks ago, 23rd June 2018 and at least ten people sent me this video to watch. Thank you for sharing
I am sorry.
Wishing you peace.
I really sorry
Wow 😯 sorry ! You said kids?
More than 1, I’m having Trouble with losing my daughter only child for 16 years!
Bless your heart ❤️
My wife has stage four ovarian cancer...There's always hope so don't despair and cherish each and every day you have.Thanks for posting.
Cheers! You can do this.
captainandthelady - I'm so sorry.
Thank you. She is cancer free for now but the oncologist has told us that it will return some where else, sooner or later. So for now it's just a wait and see game for now. One thing on our side is that we live 70 miles from Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Mn. and have some of the best doctors working on out side.
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Wish ur wife and u always have good luck
when you truly love someone it's truly hard to move on, it take really lot of time
Take as long as you need...but know that your heart cannot open up to new experiences and adventures until you let go of the past...❤️
@@nicolehartrell969you can never let go of the past-it’s impossible but maybe we can make a new, good life while we take the pain with us
I lost my GF of 20 years 3 weeks ago. I have accepted that she has died but what I can't seem to accept & get over is the fact that I won't ever be able to talk to her, hold her, or hangout with her ever again! It's really hard as I work from home so we were always together 24/7 Plus I have all kinds of triggers around the house! I have spent roughly $400 in memorabilia dedicated to her & her life so that she will never ever be forgotten by anyone! I can honestly say that I will NEVER ever get over losing her!
Same story for me,I'm broken,not sure how to live and go on.
I know exactly what you’re going through and it sucks. I’m sure like me you’ve even thought of taking your own life to be with her and stop the pain. Don’t do it as I promise that the pain will eventually subside and you will learn to live without her. It won’t be easy as it took me about 1-1/2 years to get over the pain of losing my GF. You just have to live 1 day at a time.
When I was 15 I lost my best friend and my grandfather, the year after I lost my grandmother... Both died of cancer. Yesterday I lost the dog I have had from my early teenage years... They will live forever in my heart💞
Lost my mom Xmas day 1972, was just ten. Dad went April, 1973 a week after I was 11. Lost hurts and you never totally get over it but you can make it better. I found helping others was a boost for me.
Do you still grieve for your parents
I lost my 53 year old son May 5, 2019. After so many years separated by a toxic wife, we finally became friends and expressed our love for each other. God, I am devastated. I feel for this poor man.
I lost the love of my life less than a month ago, I cannot picture life without her, she was my reason for living.
My husband💖 passed on💔....Aug. 2021
It's devastating 😪😭🥺
@@marychiquita123 ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
@@richardmcguinn732 Hello....that is so tragic, to loose you Daughter (in any circumstance) even harder, after you've lost your Wife 💔
@@marychiquita123 Mary you know how unfair life can be to us at times. And they’re so many unanswered questions we don’t just have control over.
@@marychiquita123 Hope life is treating you much better now?
Death of someone we love so deeply...leaves profound and immense memories no one can steal...
Painful heartaches and sadness that only God can heal.
I watched this through tears pouring down as i could relate every bit of he shared.
My prayer for Jason and all out there...that we will find comfort and strength in God as we continue this grief journey ..# tillwemeetagain.
I lost my brother a month ago. I cried the entire time I listened to this at work. I hope you are doing well.
I lost my father on April 6 2021. The hardest part Ive found is how family members have different ways of coping with it. We have fought a couple of times and money becomes a huge issue at times. Please do yourselfes a favor and let others know where your things should go. Its a roller coaster of denying and accepting his death. I miss and love you Dad!!!
I lost my husband of 44 years suddenly four years ago- I came home from school and found him. I applaud you for your strength in presenting this, belong to the same club no one really wants to belong to, and I pray for your continued healing.
I'm so sorry for your loss, such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇
I lost my mom last month 😭😭😭😭😭😭 it's very hard.
I lost my mother in my home too and I will never forget the moment she died. They came to take her body the next day.
Losing someone you love and navigating your life after is even harder.
Thankyou soo much...you inspire me...my husband suffered cardiac arrest 2 weeks ago and lost his battle 2 days later in the hospital...didn't even had a chance to say goodbye...i never dreamt our 12 yr marraige would come to such a devastating end...jus holding on and trying to stay strong for our 10 yr old boy whom i hv to console everynight...as he cries himself to sleep.....i know i am totally broken inside ...jus taking one day at a time
Purva Jaish sorry for your loss.
Hope you’re doing fine now Purva 🙏🏼 more strength to you
Sorry for your loss...please stay strong
Lost my sister tragically, lost my best friend tragically, and lost my mom tragically while in the military and wasn’t able to morn with my family or see her much for years before she passed I’m trying to fill the empty space I guess everyday is an opportunity. I am blessed with a great companion and two beautiful children. Blessed but dealing is tough
I just lost my mom a week ago. She had survived a massive stroke a couple years ago(not a brain clot, but a brain bleed), and she made a more than miraculous recovry. Less than a year after that she was diagnosed with breast cancer. She survived that too. And then about 2 months ago she was having bad back pain. July 22nd 2022 my dad took her to the ER, and they found stage 4 cancer in her spine, and a small part in her brain. they thought they could get rid of with one small mass in her brain with a single radiation treatment. She was bed ridden in the hospital and receiving radiation treatment in her back. But last Wednesday (August 3rd) they did the treatment on her brain. She died at 340am Thursday August 4th. I laid with her in her final moments. I kept my head on her chest and just kept wondering which breath would be her last. It haunts me, but I couldn't leave her. If I didn't stay that would haunt me too.
It's fresh for me and my brothers we lost my father Monday morning, it's so painful
My Dad lives on in me, flawed as this vessel may be. His kindness and humour seem to be behind every word I offer to someone. The way he made everyone feel comfortable and loved was what really stands out about him. It was always fun, safe, and wholesome when he was in the room. Its hardly fair that I got to have both he and my Mom in this life.
Lovely.
I lost my mother 6 months ago to cancer. And honestly It does not get better day by day, unless you make your life better day by day. Loss will always be there, but either it looms over you like a storm cloud and destroys you, or it leads you to embrace your feelings and who you truly are. I realize every day that I am Grateful for the blessings that I have been given & the time that I have here. Any time they come into your mind be grateful for them being in your life & the love they gave you, you are better for it!Your perspective is hard to change, but it is powerful.
Do you still grieve for your mother
@@Arif-rw1rh I honestly do not grieve her loss anymore. I simply decided to not give power to the memories I have of when she was dying & her death, bc that was a small moment of the 24 years I had with her in my life. & instead now I am able to remember her with happiness and joy every time I think of her & the times we had together.
@@ScottyE515 would you say you’ve gotten over the death of your mother
@@ScottyE515 when did she pass away
I'm watching this because I lost my fiance last week and I've never experienced a loss like this. I don't know how I'll go on without him. I don't even know how long it will take before the hurt stops.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
So sorry for ur loss
I lost my fiance 3 weeks ago today and I dont know if I can make it through this. I know how you feel.
Jason, thank you so much for sharing. I can so identify with your talk as I lost my lovely wife of 37 years last October. We too did the Hospice route but Pam did not want their drugs as she wanted to keep as alert as possible. They basically came and checked her vitals and always gave the usual talk about how they had seen miracles at the darkest moments. Of course for us, there was to be no miracle. Pam had a home based job in real estate acquisitions and believe it or not even with cancer in her bones she kept working up until 2 weeks before here death. However, it really hit home with me when you mentioned walking backwards to the bathroom as I did this many times in her final weeks. She also could barely eat because everything made her sick to her stomach even though she was no medications to speak of. I would help her get comfortable in her office chair each day before I went to work and neighbors would check on her from time to time as she made her way around the house with a walker and canes. She was 5-4 115 lbs and in incredible shape her entire 58 years of life but as you mentioned in those final weeks she was but a shell of herself. She died in our bedroom on a Sunday afternoon with me and our two children at her side. There were no long talks or goodbyes as she had been sleeping the final 2 days. In fact I had gone to the store to get something to prepare for dinner and when I returned my son said, "Dad, I think it's time". Indeed, she passed 30 minutes later and I remember closing her mouth. Hugging her limp body and kissing her legs, arms and face. They then came and picked up her body for cremation. Those memories indeed will never leave and I still cringe sometimes when people say how lucky we were to have her die at home. Sometimes, I'm not not sure. In the meantime, I still work full time and actually expanded a UA-cam channel we started about travel and have since added grief videos about my journey. Maybe you or some of your followers would gain some comfort from these as well. God bless you Jason. As I tell people now...I really don't like this club we are in because the price of admission is far to high. ua-cam.com/video/FJSH-qXz8fU/v-deo.html
Thank you for sharing a little bit of her life with us, you are so loved ❤️ I hope everything you desire comes to this reality as quick as it can for you ❤️
Guilty feelings are so strong for us that have lost your spouse we were together for over 50 years. Grief is so very very painful. I need the blank sheet of paper for my fresh start
☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Lost my best friend who was a mother to me about 2 years ago now. For 3 days I stayed in bed and cried and didn't do anything but cry and sleep when I got a phone call about the news. Now I hold dear the good memories she has with me. I blow bubbles when I feel sad and remember her. We always planned to go to a park, have a picnic and blow bubbles. Unfortunately we were never given the opportunity. So now I do it in memory of her.
What has hit me the most recently is being pregnant knowing she would of loved to hear the news and see my growing belly. And knowing she will never. She was a mother to me and the 1st person I would of told of the news. All I can do now is bring my child up with the values and love I have learned from her.
She will live on in your heart, and in the stories about her that will tell your child.
God bless you.
I feel blessed that this man shared his story with us. Thank you for the laughter, the tears and those memories that came flooding back to make me smile. You are a remarkable man.
I lost my mother last week I feel pain and my chest feels heavy *crying 😢😥😭💔
So sorry for your loss I lost my mom on 1/3/20.
I too have these lasting images that haunt me.
Apart from the constant grief, these are regrets of not doing enough or not spending enough time with my passing love ones.
What carried me through and with grief, is the love of Lord Jesus.
His light shined in my darkest hours and lifted me up.
This has really helped me, my wife of 40 years having passed due to cancer several days ago. Thank you for posting this.
I don't know what is less painful.
To have your loved one die or to have your loved one stop loving you and leave you.
Life is so complicated and beautiful.
I can relate to this so much.
I lost my dad just 2 weeks ago. I'm totally devastated. I still couldn't go back to work, my usual routine. I'm still clueless of what's beyond our lives now that he's gone. I miss him so much 😭
Take time to grieve and find your people who will walk with you through grief.
Living a wonderful 42 years with my Linda who died 73 days ago. I am blessed with my 2 kids and grandkids to celebrate my life with. Moving forward to enjoy life that she would be proud of. Thankyou for you testimony Mr Rosenthal
Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable time in your life! My husband died a month ago quite suddenly and it is excruciating! It is a moment by moment play as I try to make sense and navigate these waves of grief. Thank god they are sifted in small doses otherwise I am sure I would die from the grief! Wishing you many more moments of joy in the small things.
☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
As a nurse who’s taken care of hospice clients and watched my own father go through, it’s absolutely heartbreaking. My hardest loss was my 19 year old nephew.
Hope you’ve found peace and happiness again to move with life?
I lost my 90 yr old father last week. I've lived with him and been his caretaker for 16 yrs, although I only had to do the big stuff: cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. He went into a hospice facility on Wed night and he died Fri morning. I had planned on bringing him home so he could die in his own home but he went too quick. I'm so devastated. My father was my best friend, the only family I had left, he was a huge part of my life and now I'm just trying to figure out how to be here without him.
Hi Gina, I'm so very sorry for your loss. May you be well and flourish, may you be free from suffering, may you make progress 🙏🏾
Cancer related home hospice experiences are some of the most difficult, horrific, and yet spiritually beautiful.
Stumbled on this talk on TikTok, had to go find Amy’s article.
This is so huge, losing a great spouse.
I pray you find strength to keep going on!
On June 5th, 2019, I lost my husband of almost 32 years. I buried him, June 10th. June 16th, Father's day. June 20th was our 32 anniversary. June 20th, 2019, was also the last day of my mother's life. She was killed in a 1 car accident. We buried her Sunday. So, in just 2 weeks, 2 of the most important people in my life, are gone. I believe in an afterlife. So, it's my hope, I will see them again.
Teresa Basinger how you holding up?
God bless you my cond to you😭🙏🏾❤🌱
I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my son jersey on may 24th 2020 during lockdown on a car accident he just turned 22 on his birthday, got hit by a drunk truck driver, that was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 13yr old daughter is my everything and the reason I keep strong, my late wife passed away 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my cell number +17866676668 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.
So lonely in empty bed . Forty years together. Sad beyond words....so hard to go forward. Want to live in past.
Judi Welch 😿
Just lost my husband on July 25th, 2019. It still does not seem real. Our time together, 33 years, was too short.
I related so much to what he said at 8:00. I lost my grandpa in April and the times where it’s the worse, I feel like it can be too much and I feel like I can’t do this- I’m not strong enough to deal with this. The amount of time between the times where I break down grows more, but it’s still there and will randomly happen and smack me in the face.
Grief is so weird and random and even though it’s common knowledge that everyone who has lost someone feels like this, hearing it and relating to it makes it bearable.
I lost my grandma exactly one month ago, and was feeling so lost that I searched for grief on UA-cam and it brought me to this video. I understand completely how you feel. 😔
I just lost my grandfather and the whole situation hit me like a truck. I loved him like a father. Its so helpful to know you are not alone
I lost my only child, that sort of grief is impossible to get over.. I survive with my life now living on antidepressants. The pain is so intense & the tears never stop unless I’m on my meds.. Grief never ends, so just have to learn to live your life differently & do what ever it takes to go on.
I'm so sorry for your loss, such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇
Sorry to hear of this! Your lost, how are you now?
Nothing can replace a child. Perhaps the only path to some form of peace is reaching out to others in need....... ... A hug from a stranger
The last weeks - how I relate to that, my mind re- runs a video lasting over two years of my beloved husband's illness, overwhelming me with grief. Yes so brutally honest Jason.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
Jason, Thank you so much for sharing. I have many of the same, but different feelings. I lost my wonderful wife of 30 years last year. I took care of her for ten long years, and would do it all over again if I could. It left me beaten battered and broke but not beaten. Yet I would walk the journey again if I could. The love we shared was so real and complete wish every one had such a love. When Kate passed I closed her eyes, kissed her on the forehead and said good bye my love, I love you. Kevin
I lost my cousin a month ago today in a motorcycle accident. 4 days later I lost my uncle to high blood pressure who had a heart attack and made it to the hospital but he hit his head to hard and wouldn't make it back... this past mo.th has been hard dwelling with anxiety and super lightheaded. My house is the only place I feel safe and sound or meditating and sleeping. I have 2 weeks left before I have to go back to work from my leave of absence I requested due to this traumatic time I've lived in a short time.. I can say time has healed some part of me but I'll always miss my cousin who was more of a brother to me. I feared death for so long now I just wish I could be on the other side with him laughing one more time. To all of you grieving I hope you have enough courage to move along and find joy with your family friends and get help if you need it. Researching grieving and looking up videos like these ha e helped me cope a lot. I wish you all a healthy happy life from today on and strenght to realized we can be strong to look up for tomorrow has new hope and joy.
I just graduated from the University of Illinois School of Social Work yesterday and Jason was a fellow graduate and our commencement speaker. I was a little disappointed that my speech wasn't chosen but I am totally okay that he was chosen over me. Congrats on graduating Jason!
The removal of my husband Stuart's body from our small home, is something i never shared The noise of the gurney banging its way through my narrow hallway and narrow front door. My son's were sobbing, clinging to me. I was conflicted with the desire to follow Stuart out the door to make sure they took good care of him, and the need to be there for our two son's. He died from cancer too. 3 years later, I lost my oldest son, a musician, to a random act of violence while walking home from a gig. He was 27 years old. He was shot by a group out robbing people for rent money. Steven died instantly. Shot through the heart. They grabbed his friends purse from her, so he defended her. He did not know they had a gun, it was hidden. My grief that time was profound, and I had a desperate need to see him - just one more time. I had a open casket viewing, and the second I walked into the room and saw him, I said "Oh, your gone" and it was so healing, but then I went into a what I call my black out period. Six months later, I had a dream and he said to me "Mom, this is my version of heaven, look for your own, it will get you to where you need to go". That provoked me to examine my understandings and beliefs. He was an old soul, and followed Zen zeitgeist beliefs, so that journey led me to a profound awakening. 8 years later, I see life's purpose so differently and it is so much more beautiful, and meaningful for me than I could have ever imagined back then. Nothing is lost that Love remembers. Peace and grace my friends.
I'm so sorry for your loss, such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
Thank you for this video! My mom passed away a little more than a month ago and my dad is deceased as well. I have a lot of grief in my life right now and this talk helped me.
Josh Hibbs So sorry for your loss, may you find peace.
Praying for peace and comfort for you and your family 🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾
♥ Josh, I am a son who lost his mom too...sending you a big hug
3 years now lost my mother, still the same constant ache in my heart and a feeling of void around people.
Do you every cry when you think about your mum ?
What you said about hospice and things haunting you really spoke to me. I was my Mom's hospice caretaker and I still am haunted by things 19 years later!! My husband passed unexpectedly on Thanksgiving 2022 and I am traumatized by that too, because I came home from work and found him, and had to do my due diligence with CPR even though I knew...But I am moving forward and trying my best to write a new chapter. Crying and all..
I also have memories of watching my father move my deceased sister's body from the morgue freezer to the gurney for cremation. The horrible memories remain of that day, but I do feel like I have a new blank page to fill. If you would like to talk about that experience - you can talk to me. Thank you for your honest and courageous speech.
Grief is a terrible yet somehow beautiful thing....my brother is dying of alcoholism and has korsokofs. He is in a shelter not surrounded by family as you always picture it will be. My love is bursting but my heart is breaking. Love to each and everyone of you suffering grief.
I have no words to describe how strong this man is and the rest of you wonderful people going through the same!
What a brave brave thing to do in front of so many people. Thank you for sharing your experience. All of us will go through loss. I tragically lost my partner 8 months ago, so no goodbyes, no last wishes, no permissions..
the way he described Amy, how in sync they were, was exactly how we were.. it feels as if having to take deep breaths thinking so what am I supposed to be doing here on earth still.. it's such a confusing journey to be on, questioning your life and having no answers to "so now what" questions. It makes even the strongest person intensely vulnerable. It takes away from you and at the same time, you get to know yourself in such a raw state.
Still throughout all this guy's pain, there's gratitude. Bittersweet. There's no magic wand, we learn to live with the loss.. we learn to live with pain and because we do it so often, it becomes bearable
Yes.
I lost my wife on April 23 , 2023 . She lost her battle cancer started in the uterus went to the bones then finally her brain . I brought her home on hospice where they did a bedside wedding on April 21 . It was her final wish for us to be married . My love and thoughts go out to anyone that has a loved one with or lost to cancer .
I’m sorry for your loss, I also lost my wife to cancer on 14th of October 2023
i lost my beautiful dear husband to cancer in December 2022. I'm struggling, pain is unbearable. My thoughts to you. Be strong, let's make them proud
I lost my mother on January 9th of this year after the past two years of her being in and out of the hospital. And eight years of being very ill in general. Thank you for talking about the end of life experience and hospice. It seems like watching someone die is more taboo than the death itself. Everyone will show up to the funeral, but nobody will show up to the last moments.
these kind of talks is why i like Ted.
This hits me so hard. My mom's health declined rapidly, and we had to let her go during last stay in the hospital. It was horrible, waking up in the morning to a call from the doctor wanting to discuss palliative care. And we left the hospital later that night, I just remember looking back at the windows the whole time until my brother drove us away. It's about to be one year. And I am an absolute wreck, still. God bless my family for putting up with the monster I have been. 😭😭😭
You’re not a monster. Grief is very complicated. I feel that way at times too. Know you’re not alone. I think that’s what makes us feel so ugly sometimes is not feeling like anyone can understand you. The pain is real and sometimes we do the worst but you are not a monster.
These are similar images of my mom.. she passed June 8, she also had hospice set up at home. She fell at home they sent her to hospice care instead of the hospital. Her nurse took 5 hrs to get to her home & when the took her to hospice she gave up & in 24hrs in the facility. She left me😭 I was there and I felt like I had to leave.. so I fixed her pillows. Her covers. & kisses her on her forehead.. rubbed my face on her face. Cheek to cheek.. told her I love her and I’d be back in the morning. I got the call 10mins after I left.. she was gone.. I went back and she was just laying there.. my heart 💜 my 1st luv.. gone😭
she was cremated... as she wished.
my Mom just died 2 weeks ago and she waited and waited until i left the room before she went--it was her gift so I would not carry that memory
My dad too waited for me to leave the room before he was gone 4 months back😥😪
I lost my husband a month ago, I understand this too well God give me strength It helps to listen to this.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
2 days ago I lost my bestfriend, my hero and role model, my Dad…
Every day will be different, watching football and talking about every minute together will never happen again, the comments of the weather and how my life now is (i moved to America a few years prior)
I’m struggling and I am hoping this video sparks the love i feel is gone, because it shouldn’t be gone…but i feel like I can never experience it ever again.
I lost my dad 2 days ago. I was a caregiver for my dad in the last month of his life. He had metastatic disease from prostate cancer that spread everywhere including his brain. While my dad was a creative & complicated person I loved very much, one of the hardest parts was losing him slowly, him having trouble remembering and holding a conversation. Seeing him get weaker and not knowing what to do. We ended up in the hospital often, the 7th time being his last and I was there when he passed. I held his hand as I felt it go cold and still held it. The exhaustion on top of all the feelings is immense and yesterday I went completely numb and almost could not get up off the couch. It’s so hard. I know that I will get through it and all of this will be a part of me forever. Even with all the support I have - it’s a lonely sad feeling deep inside.
My husband passed away at home 3 years ago. It was what he wanted. He refused to go to a hospice, he wanted to be in our home not a hospital. I only go into that bedroom when I absolutely have to now - I hate that room. All I see is him lying in that bed, dying. It's so upsetting that there's a part of our home that I can't bear to even enter but I can't think of moving - this was the home we built together and he loved it. I try to find some joy in simple things but, quite honestly, everything is just filling in time until it's my turn. I don't even look for happiness now, I just try and get through each day, knowing that it's one day closer.I know he wouldn't want this for me, he'd want me to be happy but that's just not possible for me any more.
I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my son jersey on may 24th 2020 during lockdown on a car accident he just turned 22 on his birthday, got hit by a drunk truck driver, that was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 13yr old daughter is my everything and the reason I keep strong, my late wife passed away 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my cell number +17866676668 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.
☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
This was a tremendous encouragement. We know of grief and death, to experience it first hand gives it a whole different meaning. I lost my mom 3 months after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Just that sentence will forever be the most surreal thing I'll ever write down. I pray I am able to live through the pain one day.
To see him struggle to keep it together when talking about carrying his wife's body out of the house....man. This was a great talk.
Loss is inevitable but loss to an illness creates “anticipatory grief”. Grief begins even before they pass on. We all need to learn “how” to grieve.
Cried my heart out
One could only pray for a love like that... and the strength to continue on.
So Powerful. Grief& Goodbye... The Final Acts Of Love 💘
Rip mum miss u ev day acute stroke took u away from me april 2020 when wil it get easier never
WOW !!!! Thank you for this Jason. I lost my wife to lung cancer in Nov 2016. And recently I have been saying, I'm now ready to start my life a NEW. New place, new location, new, new, new. I need a fresh start, not to runaway from this, but just to get my head clear so I too can focus. My wife died in our bed also, on Nov 26 at 430am unable to breathe, 2 days after Thanksgiving. A most horrific scene of tears, anger, sorrow where 4 of our 5 grown kids were over the house for the Holiday weekend. At times I feel healed, other times I to feel guilty, that I am here and Chrissy is not. And that morning scene as the EMS arrived continually plays in my head, thinking, what could I have done differently to save her..
I’m sorry for your loss. 🙏🏾
James Dacey Jr. Love to you Brother
Yes. Have these conversations now as you are healthy. Hospice is wonderful but haunting. Thankyou for this. ❤ I cried all the way through this.
Thank you, Jason. Great talk!
I just lost my husband last week to glioblastoma multiform. Every morning has been and continues to be a devastating struggle and feeling of fear and isolation.
I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from ?
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thanks for your nice response, I completely understand how you feel, I’m originally from Paris France but I live in st Agustine Florida, I’d like to talk to you more if you don’t mind ?
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So much of what you said here, truly hits home - - unlike anyone has ever been able to; thank you for that.
I wanted to listen to this talk because I recently lost my very close aunt, who is also named Amy. Sending love and well-wishes to Mr.Rosenthal and everyone else to find comfort in their grief.
I just lost my grandma less than a month ago. I was the one who took the call at 3 AM that she passed. Watched this video in tears... this videos been on my watch later for a few weeks and I couldn’t bring myself to watch this but today has been a particularly tough day. I work in healthcare where I get to talk to patients who are my grandma’s age and I just miss caring for her so much. It pains me every day to think about the fact that my grandma passed away alone at the hospital with no familiar faces around her. I miss her so much my heart hurts every single day.
I lost my elder brother on 30th May2019 to lung cancer, my brother never smoked, that is brother no 6 I have lost, we were 10 siblings, now we are 4 left, my mum is still alive , I weep for her everyday wondering how she wakes up and functions after loosing 6 adult sons
This speech is encouraging and hopeful. After reading each and every comment here, I truly believe suffering and pain is universal, no matter who? Where? What death breaks the walls and nature takes its course, I wish everyone well and hope we all get through our grief and move in one day at a time
God bless and keep you my condolences to you my friend🙏🏾❤🙏🏾
Wonderful comment . Thank you so much.
I like your shoes and your truthful eyes. You're children are so very lucky to have a father so strong.
Both Amy and Jason are immensely brave people
What an incredible human experience. Such comfort during g the grief of the loss of my mother