My wife passed on 1/2/2024 in our home from heart attack. I was there to see her last breaths. The guilt of being helpless in that moment is overwhelming. God bless my wife Marcy.
My husband and i met in high school, continued dating afterward graduation, and we married when i was 20, he was 21. We were married 41 years when he died. I literally cried every day for 5 months. I felt lost and alone. Paralyzed with grief. I withdrew from everything and everyone. As i began to heal i decided not to remarry. And 7 years after his passing, i am still a widow. I'm learning to live alone and learning how peaceful silence is. I removed the TV and began to listen to Christian teachings on my phone. With no TV, the static in my ears disappeared. I'm in a much better frame of mind. I still love my husband. I always will.
I don't know why you removed the TV but it is probably one of the best things anyone can do. And no TV helps to be content with yourself and life. It has been for me.
I could not survive without Jesus, Holy Spirit. My husband died just over 4 years ago after dementia/alzheimers. My older daughter died 14 1/2 yrs ago at age 32. I have to say the loss of my child has been worse.
@@AintNoFool Oh, Sara, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us and the trauma that goes with it, I had to go for a therapy class and it help me a lot with my depression. you have to stay positive no matter what and learn to move on from your past my dear. we can be friends and can communicate more if you want. where are you viewing from?
Thank you to all who took the time to read my post. My smart phone is basically my only outlet. My health is declining and my feet are forgetting how to walk. I lean over and nearly tip over. I've lived in this apartment for 2 years but only 6 people know I'm here.. I have 2 caregivers who see to my housekeeping and groceries, and I'm very thankful for what they do for me. I took care of senior citizens when i was young and now the service is being returned to me. I've joked about not having a funeral because no one would be there. All my friends are dead. I take life as it comes. And now a days, i hum alot. Old songs, new songs. I'm content with my life.
What an amazing down to earth and warm woman! She passed away this March 15, 2023. Rest in Peace dear woman, hopefully you are now with your loved ones in the next world.💐
I was married for 60 years to my soul mate husband who had dementia but was still his gentle loving self and died four years ago . I still cry myself to sleep every night - the heart never goes away
I’m 74. Lost my husband and soulmate of 52 years 4 years ago. Your Dopamine Fix theory hit home. For me, whenever my husband and I would make eye contact from across the room, he would wink at me. What I wouldn’t give to have that dopamine fix just one more time.
What I wouldn't give to experience that feeling from a soulmate even once... I have yet to meet my true love. Also - I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you love.
when my second husband left me after 15 years together, i felt i would die, because he was gone, but he was not dead). it took so much time and will power to come back to me, and to realize that there was a bit of life still left to experience. thankfully, my two new dogs have taught me how to cope with the loss of my soulmate, and i have become a single, silent, and very strong woman.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again? I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Still crying my eyes out 30 years later. I don't keep his pictures around me because it's too painful to see his face. People don't understand how I can grieve for so long, I tell them because that was my soulmate and that's the only man for me.
For those of us who have lost a spouse that is truly our soul mate, we definitely understand how you can grieve that long. I think we will grieve on some level until the day we die too. Its only been 7 months for me but I do understand your pain. When my husband died and was buried, a part me me died and was buried with them. I am not whole anymore. That empty space in my soul will always be there while I am still alive. But I am a Christian and I believe in Jesus so I know this life is temporary and I will be reunited with my husband someday and this time it will be forever. That is the only thing that brings me comfort. I hope you can be comforted by that too. 🙏
Just over seven years for me, he died in April of 2015…the grief is still here. I “hear tell” we move on with it -I guess this is so. Yet each morning I wake up without him, I miss him as much as ever. …why am I still here? 🤔😓
This is the best, most down to earth talk on grief out there. I lost my husband of 37 years and have been listening to all sorts of information on this horrible grieving process. There are no words to describe how hard it is, but this came closer than most.
A brilliant talk and very helpful.Beautiful woman who accepts the fact that there is no one way to grief.Very down to earth with a sense of humour also.I lost my husband after being together for 53 years 8 months ago.
So sorry. I lost my husband of 68 years a month ago. No words to describe this loss. All the tears and feelings and sorrow. I am a mess. Hoping for you a blessing to go on.
6 yrs in grief is love ..love never dies so grief is the new expression.God gav us a safe proper place to put this powerful emotion. it has its own compartment and sometimes got to close the door to keep it contained while u realize it will always be.grief is real such a part of who u are...the door can be opened anytime since no lock is used ....for wht? memories coexist with grief so hard to contain or control so the door is forever unlocked while grief continue to roam cloudin n freein our minds at the same time..without God impossible to go or do it alone...on goin process as a reminder of Who God is. no one higher bigger more powerful than He. the journey is ongoin...adapt adjust accept ..just is...
Just found this by accident and couldn't stop watching and hearing topics that are so often unspoken to grieving people. I lost my dad suddenly over 30 years ago and was traumatised but someone said to me afterwards 'your dad loved you so much that the very last thing he would want to see is for you to be sad for too long' and I knew that was so true - and I make a conscious effort to recall all the good memories, and to smile about my time with him. Thank you for your kind words and advice x
I lost my 13 year old pet a few weeks ago as well. She was a devoted, loving, loyal companion. The emptiness she left behind is devastating. We had a very tight bond.
As a single person losing my pets is so difficult. In time we can choose to bring another into our lives and learn to love again. You all may have heard this before but just in case: It came to me that every time I lose a dog they take a piece of my heart with them, and every new dog who comes into my life gifts me with a piece of their heart. If I live long enough all the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are. Anonymous ❤️🐶❤️
I lost my wife of 16 years and 4 days to cancer on January 19th, I have been searching for some way to understand and accept what happened. This marvelous lady has done wonders to help me understand. I am so thankful that I found this.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have been with the same man for over 30 years and the thought of losing him brings me to tears. I just lost my mother last month so I feel your pain. Only my religion offers some solace
I met my husband when We were 15 and 17. Our marriage at 20 and 22 lasted 65 years. I am am now after 3 years still feeling I have no perpuse in life. After being very healthy My health went down with a vengeance. I have good days and bad days bu tI am hear until the man upstairs decides it is time for me to join john. So I keep a fixed smile on my face and take a day at a time. I prefer to be the one left because I know he would have faded away within weeks. Thankyou for listening.
I lost my mother ten months ago. I’m not sure I’m coping. Listening to this has helped me more than I can express. I recognise everything said here. I was my mothers carer for seven years and l have never lived aside from her. Sometimes I think I’m actually in hell. I feel like I’ve fallen out of the fabric of life and sometimes l just want it to stop no matter the cost. But I believe in the afterlife and l want to be with her when l do pass. I have several mental health issues that complicate everything beyond measure, but no matter what, I’m grateful for my life with her. I knew it would be like this, but that was theoretical. Now I’m living it and I feel sometimes I’m going mad. But. This has helped me today, so much, and I believe there’s a light ahead and a future. Love to everyone here❤️
Love to you. So glad this helped. One day sometimes one breathe at a time. For me allowing myself to feel the grief no matter how unpleasant was essential. It can be so lonely though cause it can be such a personal journey. As she said we are not alone, yet we still have to feel and hopefully express our own pain. Don’t know if you have heard is seen ‘Sleepless in Seattle’ but in it the widower says I get up and I take one breathe then I take another. Again glad you found or connected with what Natasha shared….that is a really good thing…something inside is alive enough to connect!!!
Lost my husband 15 years ago, I understood the cycle of life so this helped @ lot. Also seen him pass away, was happy he was so much @ peace. Love is letting go, life is changed not ended. 🙏❤️
Nobody will replace your late wife. No new casserole would make up for it but it surely would be nicer to know that your wife would not have wanted you to live in a miserable lifestyle. Her mission on this earth was over. Thankfully, we still live in a society which allows us interaction with other human beings. I hope you'll find healing in beautiful memories with your late wife, and learn how to live again without her just as you did before meeting her. Praying for you.
@@mariehaverty8209 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again? I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Dear beautiful souls. I just lost my little baby boy Saturday 3-26-22. I am in unbearable heartache pain to the core of my very soul!💔😢😭 please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜
Take care that you don't lose yourself in an all-consuming grief. Hopefully, you have a loving partner or dear friend, to share this pain with, if not, seek counseling to talk you through this most painful loss. Sending warm thoughts your way.
My beautiful kind selfless mother passed away yesterday (March 11, 2022) and I cannot express the depths of my sorrow, sadness and the emptiness I feel. She was the most wonderful person I’ve ever known. She was the source of all joy, the rock and the life of our family. I really cannot see how I can recover when she seemed like she was going to make it. I just wish I had one more week, one more month and one more year with her. I pray pray pray I get to see her again.
So sorry for your big loss. I pray for your comfort from the almighty God! In the meantime, don’t forget that death is not the end. We will see them again in heaven.
I wonder how are you doing now, after three months ? it is terrible to lose somebody so dear to you I know that our spirits go on after we die - so it is only our physical/mortal connection that is lost I would encourage you to write down how you feel as it helps to express the grief that you feel you can write also in the form of a letter to your mum and say things you can’t express to anyone else sending you heartfelt love
I wish that I could have known about this video in 2019. I lost my husband in April and my mother in October. I have great friends and students who still stay in touch, but nothing beats the presence of Charles and Nettie.Every one of these stages have made an appearance in my life since then. Grief is the price we pay for love.
I lost my wife, the love of my life in July 2020. The stages of grief she describes are amazing! She has listed step by step what I am going through and thinking. This has helped me, I hope it help's others in my situation.
I’m so sorry for your loss too…. I lost my husband to stroke in DEC 2021. He was 59…. Such a strong handsome guy we looked like Barbie & Ken dolls. I will never meet another Todd… he was soo unique. Smart guy there wasn’t anything he couldn’t do….
@@lizforbes8022 you are very fortunate woman who had wonderful relationship. Treasure and thank how lucky you are to had a man who would do anything. Place him in your heart. He is with you all the time. You have not lost him.
My husband of 48+ years passed away 224 days ago after a difficult dance with advanced parkinson and dementia. I retired from work that I loved to take care of him the last few years ... near the end he did not recognize me. Now I have guilt from the relief of his passing. I am unbearable on my own. The harder adjustment is that I have never lived alone my entire life ... going from my parents house to getting married. This video was the most illuminating and humorous and helpful advice I have the good fortune to stumple across. Thank you ever so much!
I met my husband when I was 19. Never lived alone until his death 20 months ago. I miss his smile and companionship. I have no prior experience to fall back on. This talk was helpful. But I am so alone…. You understand…..
@@carolcruise8054 I do understand ... We are each affected by the different kinds and levels of grief and integrate the emotions in our own way and in our own time. Take a deep breath and know that the memories will always be with you in your heart.
@@carolcruise8054 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again? I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I was diagnosed with stage 3 bone cancer and my cancer only has 3 stages. One week after having my femur removed, blood clots blocked 7 veins from my hip to my ankle. While bound to my wheelchair unable to walk, we found out that our unborn baby had a major heart problem. He ended up requiring complete reconstructive open heart surgery when he was only 6 days old. Not long after that my 13 year old son suffered a traumatic brain injury losing the entire right half and frontal lobe completely. He was in a coma for 2 months. We threw ourselves upon Jesus. Know this: every prayer was answered. I am no longer in a wheelchair, am fully capable. 8 years in remission. Our young boy is 110% and proud of his chest scar where God gave him a lions heart. My 13 year old is now 17 and 100% mentally recovered. He lost nothing. He lost no time in school and is soon to be an engineer, his dream. Nothing is impossible. Where you think you end is really where you begin. Believe in Jesus and through that faith, be thankful. God is great people. Much love to ALL OF YOU.
Thank you. I know you never loose the people you love because they live in your heart but the loss of their presence is pure agony. In other words Grief. Jean Geary
I’ve been a widow for 7 yrs . I went through most of these steps , but today I was able to I was able to share with two friends that have recently lost their husband . Thankyou ❤️🇨🇦
She is inspiring. I am finishing my doctorate at 61. I love that she shows us that age doesn't matter. We can do our best work the older we get. As far as the number of eligible bachelors dwindle as one gets older, so there are less options... well that is why younger men exist. They are more fun and have more energy.
I wish more people in her age group had an overall voice. Age doesn't always equal wisdom. But there is still a higher chance that someone who has lived this long has experienced a whole lot more than we younger folk have and can transfer some of their own life lessons to us, so we can learn from it.
If you are still alive... i hope you get to read this. I am 56 nd you explained in every word how i am feeling. My love has been gone 1.5 yrs... Thank you & bless you
I lost the love of my life 7 years ago. He was my 2nd mate. I tried to maneuver through the past years and found my treasure moments ,alone. Thank you so very much for validating emotions etc.
I love this video, I am 57 and my dear husband passed away quite suddenly 3 weeks ago i don't know but i experience everything this woman tells and it is true i have many sisters and this loss is terrible. I listen to this woman cause i dont know how to deal with this grief, i deny it, sometimes but then it comes back in such intensity, everything she tells is true. Thank you so much, and God bless .
I lost my husband of 41 years very suddenly and unexpectedly from complications of undiagnosed Obstructive Sleep Apnea 17 days ago. How does life go on when he was my entire world? I have so much grief, fear, remorse and guilt. This video is helpful but also very sad. “We come in pairs. We are meant to be couples.” So true. I hope you are doing well.
Rose, I too love the video. I lost my wife 4 months ago. It's not easy, but lately it seems to be getting better. I am trying to be kind to myself, and trying to trust the process. I wish you well
I also lost my life partner and love just a month ago suddenly. My entire world has shattered and I have no idea how I will face the rest of my time here on earth without him. I’ve been immersing myself in grief and afterlife videos. I talk to him out loud and I know he hears me. I know when it’s my time he will be there waiting for me to bring me home. So very sorry for your loss. I’m sure the last year of grief for you has been a very challenging ride. Sending you love.
I love this lady! She really gets it!! I have never heard such a touching talk on losing someone you love. She is so intelligent and compassionate. Thank you so much for sharing with us..May God bless you àbundantly.
Two years ago I lost my husband to pancreatic cancer. After 32 years together he was gone and I didn’t know where to turn. Thank you for bringing some clarity to the continued jumble in my spirit. I’m ok one minute and a soggy mess the next. I will return to your down to earth guidance again and again. Blessings to you.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again? I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Divorce is like a death, and it's been 2 1/2 months since the divorce, and I am still grieving. Her talk resonated with me, my grief is "normal" and hearing her words, helped me. I hope it sticks.
Sorry to hear about your divorce. I cannot relate in that I never married, but I have heard and it makes some sense, in that, sometimes a death can be ‘easier’ (if there is such a thing as easier) in that there is closure per se. In divorce-my thought it must be difficult to get closure as you do a lot of wondering and what ifs. As she said be kind to yourself, pray you gain wisdom in this period.
I loss my father and three days after as i was out of town atendi g my fathers funeral my dog got sick and had to be put down 😢 i felt like a knife rip my heart out and went numb. It was really hard for me and when i try to talk about it people told me not to cry. Depresion kick in and i retrive to my room and spend hours and hours crying. Between my heart break I sed to my self “ you have one year to feel like 💩 then after that we are done and we need to move on” after one year and lots of hair loss I bounce back. Im happy i allowed myself to feel the pain cuz that makes me human and thought me what real love is. My Father and precious dog companion will forever be forever be in my life even if they are not fiscally there. 🥰❤️
When my incredible husband died he took half of my heart with him and left behind half of his heart for me. This gives me great comfort and makes the memories we made more special. WE are sharing them together!
Sailing The Storms Have you been through dark storms, have you come to the place, Where you know you wouldn't have made it without God's amazing grace? Like Paul, has your ship been exceedingly tossed about? Do you feel you are sinking in the waves of fear and doubt? Don't lose hope, my friend, because if you belong to Jesus, He gave us His promise that He would never leave us. Do you know He allowed those storms to draw you closer to His side? He wants to be the Captain; with Him you can safely abide. Just remember that other little ships are sailing right behind you, And when they get hit hard by the storms of life, God will help you guide them through. K.S. McFadden
I’m going through a double whammy (lost my husband (of 30 years) and my mom 15 months after) caregiver to both, I have the worst ptsd watching them both die my grief is diagnosed as complicated, 5 years and I’m still feeling fucking numb, angry, shocked, lost, emotional etc., your presentation so very helpful, thank you going to get your book you are a very special human being, God Bless You!
So so sorry for both of your tremendous losses. It’s okay to feel all that you are feeling. Flow with them. You don’t ever move on, you move on WITH them. You take them with you. I hope you can seek some grief therapy for your PTSD and that you have a strong support system around you. Sending you tons of love.
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday or somehow...
This lovely lady has totally understood and described how I feel after losing my husband 4 months ago. I so hope I can go through all the stages of grief and come out the other side still eventually find happiness & purpose again in my life.
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday or somehow...
Very eloquent, and what a bullseye. I lost my husband of 33 years 7 months ago, suddenly, very unexpectedly. This loss, the loss of my best friend, knocked me to my knees. I’m still trying to get up. I’ve been in a grief group. It helps some. I simply cannot believe it still.
I am so sorry. I am going through the sudden and unexpected loss of my husband / best friend too. It feels like someone dropped an atomic bomb on your world and blew it apart. I can't believe it either... it's just ... it doesn't even seem real that my baby is gone.
@@southernborn1358 I agree. Never ever experienced pain of this magnitude before. It takes your breath away and just feels like you're waiting to die. It's awful.
This has got to be the deepest dive and real, detailed talk that reflects all the same things and feelings happening to me. This wise and wonderful woman really gets it. This video walked me through the residuals of my final stages of goodbye. First, they are right next to you, then they are a block away, and then they are across town, and then they are across the sea, and then they are gone, slowly fading from your sight. And after all that the real journey begins.
Such is LIFE. We must learn to cherish every moment with our loved ones because we never can know when death comes knocking. where are you viewing from?
Excellent talk! She didn’t mention how faith plays into this, but for me, it’s a major component. I lost my husband 10 months ago after almost 55 years of marriage and so far I live alone but find comfort in God’s presence as well as my faith community, neighbors, & family. I’m going to order her book.
How inspiring to appreciate the thoughtful effort put into sharing this journey with others. As a widow of almost 15 years who has also faced the passing of a dear baby and extraordinary 35 year old daughter it impresses me that eventually the speaker hit most all the important points of this journey of a return to wholeness. I agree with one of the commentators that my faith has been a vibrant source of joy, strength and ongoing interest and growth in the midst of the challenges of loss. What a marvelous contribution to help others on this path. Thank you, Natasha, and thank you UCSDTV.
@@momoltd @Thy Phạm hi hi hi baby how are you doing I hope you are doing good am Ben from Austin Texas am easy going person I love good and do good am glad you are beautiful please let's get to know each other very well baby where are you located
Loss isn’t always about a death!!! My dad and mom have been married for sixty years: Dad recently moved into an aged care facility : Mums day to day life has changed dramatically , they RARELY ever spent a night apart. Dad and Mum did mostly everything together; and even though they can still see each other; it’s such a dramatic life change for both of them ………
I agree. This is real grief, too. Before my mother died, I experienced grief for 2 years, as she became a different person after her stroke. We grief in many instances where there is no death. Peace.
It's also grief when your loved one is affected by Dementia. When you look around their personal spaces and see the dust gathering on their long untouched possessions . Their interest layed to rest, their photos, their order. The seemingly insignificant things suddenly seem very important and you cry. The grieving process has begun and they are only in the next room,sitting where you placed them, staring at the TV. Daddy. Gone 5 months.
I lost my husband last March 21, 2021 and have gone through every thing in your talk and thank you for just reinforcing the fact that I am normal in my “abnormal” grief. I used to call it profound sadness. I will look for your book as I think it’s the best book to turn to when you feel you are having a grief relapse. Thank you .
20 years together and I lost him two weeks ago. I feel broken , empty and scared. My husband will never be past tense to me. We are still a team. I am struggling
It’s soon, of course it’s still raw and painful, and you feel unstable. You’re grieving... it takes time - you are 5 months ahead of me. does it ease?.
I lost my husband last Nov 2021. He and I were only 54 and we were married 34 years. I am still so very heartbroken. I struggle every single day. Almost 7 months later I still feel broken and scared and so very empty. I hope this finds you doing better. I know that this pain never really goes away.
I lost my husband 9 years ago after 27 years of a beautiful marriage. We connected on all levels. I miss him so much to this day. (I still live in our home) We worked together same job we were a team through & through. We drove cross country, we built our home & others. The best advice I can offer is remembering the good times, when I'm down & sad 😔. I am constantly reminded of our good times.God bless 🙌
I lost my husband to cancer in 2017 . I can’t move on and I probably never will. I lost my mom and my older last year. I miss them all. I lost my younger sister and dad when I was younger.
Lost my husband 12 yrs ago. We were team drivers too and did everything together. Lost our only child this past Jan. Am learning that life goes on and we create our own place in the world.
“No one is there to witness your life”. I dread that when my dear father dies he will be the last alive of my family. We share so many memories that we enjoy reminiscing over. All that will stop. Dead.
Wonderful advice. I’ve lost my Mum , mother in law & father in law , 2 sister in laws & then my first husband within 3 years . I was broken, numb, constantly rode huge waves of grief. I had many great friends but I needed help to put myself back together. I had grief counselling from our local hospice. I learned to look after myself, listen to myself. I have moved on , I remember all those I’ve lost & am incredibly grateful that they were part of my life & I know they live on in me & my daughters. Cry, cry cry , nothing is wrong but eventually you can remember your loved ones with happiness 😘😘
Oh, Liz, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us. where are you playing from?
This is a wonderful presentation on grief … I lost my husband 3 years ago, and I’ve been living through all of these stages …married him at 18 , he was 25 , so we literally spent our wholes together…then cancer struck and he was gone in less than 6 months …. No one understands this until you’re in the midst of it yourself….I’ve done and accomplished things around the house and in my life that I would have thought I couldn’t do….everyone says how well I’m doing and how strong I am….although that may be true, they just don’t know the grief or the feeling of loneliness… my family and friends have been supportive and just wonderful…and I’m so thankful for that ….but I’ll miss him always ❤️
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again? I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I grieved for 35 yrs over my 1st marriage breakup, + suffered severe clinical depression all that time. At 63 I can now think about him without crying. Love is not an emotion that just goes away, it will always be there.
Oh, Ned, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us. where are you playing from?
Brilliant talk. Loved it. I just lost my beautiful brother in law, and thought this would be helpful for his family when they are ready to listen to it.
I am widowed for 12 days. But I had my darling for over 50 years. He died a terrible death and while I grieve, I am glad he is at peace. I feel for you. I can’t comprehend the depth of your loss. I am so sorry my dear. To lose your beloved at such young age is truly tragic. My very best wishes for you.
@@veronicamcniff668 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again? I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
This speech helped me a lot. I just loosed my husband. We’ve been married 58 years and I miss him terrible. He was a very bright man with lots of humour and entertaining. Everybody loved him men as women because he was unique. I am going through the crying period now but I came to undstand that this will get better. Thank you for your speech!
You just described my husband of 15 yrs we were together….he passed 1 yr ago….yes he too was quite unique had tons of frenz and always parted his visits with “spread the love man”……
I acknowledge I am numerically getting old now, but I don’t really look or feel old. I’m a young 78 year old single lady, and I’m finding that it’s difficult to plan out how to accomplish all the things one still wants to do BEFORE one dies! Thankfully I’m healthy so that’s no excuse. I’m just sad that I love to dance but haven’t found someone who also likes to dance-and I’m reluctant to plan activities and trips by myself. My favorite activity is ballroom dancing-but I need a partner, and in the 1/2 year since I retired to Hot Springs, Arkansas, I haven’t found someone to dance with. Does anyone know of any groups or such-of likeminded single people - to meet and have fun with? I will watch this space for replies. Thanks.
Her poems are insightful and honest. I am a songwriter and have written about my own loss and grief. Songs and poems are lighthouses for grieving people. Peace to you all on your own journey through grief.
My husband died at age 46 in 1995. I was 38 and 64 now, never lived with anyone or got remarried. Was busy working, now retired and playing it day by day. I've learned to enjoy the company of women more than men where there are no expectations. God will provide.
I just lost my husband in September this year 2021. Covid Pneumonia. I feel like my story will be much like yours. I was with others before him and he was the greatest love of my life and soul mate most certainly. We both didn't like being without each other for any amount of time. Even missing each other when r were at work. I know I will never love again or stop loving him. I'm so completely broken right now. I pray that I will learn how to cope with this loss. It was always my greatest fear for him to pass before me and here I am living my greatest fear. 😔😞💔
@@kentuckygirl4574 I feel like I could have written this comment almost word for word! I just lost my husband and like you, I had other relationships before but they did not even come CLOSE to my soulmate husband who passed away. He was perfect compared to any others and he was the one I wanted to be with all the time. We missed each other 5 minutes after we left each other to go to do an errand or work or shop or whatnot. He had to work out of state for a year and it was awful. I hated every second of it and just wanted him back. Then he FINALLY got back home and we were ready to start our life together and then he dies suddenly and out of the blue. I am broken. Completely broken. It was always my greatest fear as well, to lose my husband, and now here I am.. living in the nightmare every day and unable to get out of it. Hugs to you. Please reach out if you ever need a friend.
I’m learning so many things about what I’m experiencing as I became a widow 4 months ago and I was my husband’s caregiver for this past 18 months. He had so many bizarre issues that’s how his physicians described them and each we’re shocked at his death as he had been on the mend. I’m so grateful to hear that much of the ways I’m expressing grief isn’t unusual, so I know I can respond to a well meaning person “ no I’m not feeling better” not having to defend myself and not feel that I’m being self-indulgent. Thank you
Oh my goodness . What a helpful message. It is almost three years that my husband died and in the last nine there have been too many losses. One of the things that helped me was a little thought that dropped into my mind; do three things each day: something courageous, something productive and something lovely. It gave my days meaning and provided a framework in which to function even if the three things were embodied in one action - getting out of bed.
What a goal filled with wisdom. I lost my husband 8 months ago, before that my brother / years ago who lived with me and my other brother for a year--almost two years later my dad---then my mother was too fragile to be alone so she lived with me and my husband 4 years until she died. I have had my own hard time adjusting but I must say my husband was the worst. We had been married 50 years. I appreciate your great idea. Lynna Crockett
This is an older video but I'm so glad I found it. I wanted to listen to someone who seemed wiser and had experience on the topic of grief. I'm very thankful to the University of California for posting this.
INCREDIBLE LADY, FANTASTIC HUMAN BEING !!! WHAT A BEAUTY, STRENGH AND WILL POWER. THANK YOU FOR THE WISDON YOU SHARE WITH US.🌷From Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, Cynthia
Thank you for this video. Just recently lost my husband of 25 years, after a long illness and Natasha Josefowitz helped to explain so much of what I'm going through.
My soul mate boyfriend died when he was 46(from M. S.) &I was 45,in 2011. My ex husband, died from a Sudden heart attack, in 2015..He was 56.I just turned, 49. Our daughter was 21,when he passed away.. My mom died in 2019,72yrs old, after 4yrs of Ovarian Cancer(1/3 of her bowel gone). I was a Special Care Aide, for 34 yrs & I also did Palliative Care for clients in their home.. So, this video was really helpful..I was 52,&Ive lost 3 main people.. From 44-52 yrs old..
Oh, dear, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us and the trauma that goes with it, I had to go for a therapy class and it help me a lot with my depression. you have to stay positive no matter what and learn to move on from your past my dear. we can be friends and can communicate more if you want. where are you viewing from?
What an amazing lady. To be so concise at her age is simply amazing. I learnt a lot from this. 48 mths since i lost my son unexpectedly and very tragically.
my only child has been gone 20 years ,I go out in the world ect,it never gets better. My husband and I trudge on now retired doing none of the things we planned for retirement. we lean on each other, swans , never to seek another relationship ever because of what we have shared . Thank you you are amazing.
This just came up on my feed and wanted to ignored it, but something made me go back to it - what a joy and privilege - I could listen to Natasha all day - what a wonderful person, thank you for being you and sharing so openly.
Oh, Vivian, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us and the trauma that goes with it, I had to go for a therapy class and it help me a lot with my depression. you have to stay positive no matter what and learn to move on from your past my dear. we can be friends and can communicate more if you want. where are you viewing from?
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
My beloved David died 1 week ago. Alzheimer’s and cancer. He was cared for at home for 3+ years with home hospice for the last 7 months. Although I was watching him die by inches all that time, his actual death has been shockingly hard. I have brain fog, forgetfulness and anxiety. Dr. Josephowitz is so straightforward and compassionate. And so right. I have her book and I will share it with any of my early 80s friends, as well as this video, when they need it. I am so grateful for having found her.
I loved this video. I am in my 50's, lost my parents, am an only child, am female. I think her study of how ppl process grief & loss is very accurate. I
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
One thing that should be mentioned no matter how much time you spend with somebody else or try to fill your days nobody else takes the place of the person that is gone and it always comes back to you no matter how much you’re with other people and doing other things but in time you learn to live without that other person
A year and a half ago my 4th son, because of his mentally unstable girlfriend, now mother of his first child, my first granddaughter, became estranged from me because of this woman’s covert narcissistic, schizophrenic personality. Sadly, this same woman who came into my sons life out of nowhere, turned my ONLY daughter and my youngest of 6 children against me also. They have chosen not to be in my life for the past 19 heart wrenching months with no reconciliation in sight. This is a grief, double whammy as you stated, beyond any pain Ive ever endured and continue to endure. I’ve done it all. Plead, begged, bargained, got angry, suicidal, started drinking again after 25 years of abstinence. In this time frame, my son Luke became a father for the first time at age 31. I missed all of that. My only granddaughter, after having 5 sons is 1 years old. I’ve missed everything with her first year. My only daughter became pregnant, gave birth to her first child, he is now 10 months old. I’ve never seen or held either one of my precious grandbabies. This is grief beyond any pain I’ve ever endured in my lifetime. And I’ve endured being married to a alcoholic who left me alone with 3 small sons and married my best friend. And more. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this lecture. Although I haven’t lost a husband, at 63 years young, I’ve lost 2 of my young adult children. They didn’t die. They are still living. But they have abandoned the loving, close mother child relationship I had with them for 30 years.
I completely understand since I also have a daughter in law exactly like you described. My husband and I cried many times over her tactics to alienate us from our only son & our 2 grandchildren. We did nothing wrong, according to our therapist. We simply are her current victims to pick on constantly. My husband passed 2 years & 3 months ago from COVID. She put on quite the show at the funeral dinner. Real loving in front of others, asking me to spend the night with them etc. I refused. My son is blindly in love with her & goes along with whatever her demands are to keep the peace at home. I have never felt so alone in my life. I do get to see my grandchildren but it is very limited to only their birthdays & holidays & then I have to share the children with her family of 20 or so others. She has ruined our retirement years since we looked so forward to spending time with the little ones etc. Also she has convinced my son that God does not exist! This has all been so deeply painful, as you well know. I pray for her recovery & for me to be able to cope with this huge loss of my son 2 grandchildren & now my rock, my ❤, my husband!
Really terrible and sad, know of a family whose daughter was murdered by her husband, the man and his family took their only grandson and turned him against them and his own mother, when he was about to be arrested he tried to commit suicide and tried to take their grandson with. He was stopped, but the damage was done and the child stayed with that family. The only way out, I can think, is to send them love, you can still love them & imagine that each soul has their own path they will take, somehow they will sense your presence- one day all that love will pour over you, more than you can imagine possible. Sending you love and healing
I lost my beautiful wife of 37 years on March 4th 2023 and experienced everything in this video especially guilt and blaming myself, being a carer for so long was just as described - I also cried like a woman so often and at the smallest trigger - I never imagined how grief could be so brutal - I feel that the magnitude of the grief you experience is in direct proportion to the love and joy you had in the relationship you lost 😢
My husband passed away exactly one week ago today. Despite you having been half a century older than me when you lost your husband, this is still the most relatable video/piece of writing I've so far found. I see that you, yourself, have very recently passed away too. I hope you got to reunite with your husband in some fashion, as I hope I'll reunite with mine, even if I do have to wait 50+ years. Your talk helped me understand that those 50+ years won't, necessarily, be as devoid of happiness and purpose as the last seven days have been, and for that, I thank you.
@@rosaliegmaye8539 It's been 7 months. Sorry to say it, but it just gets worse and worse (and everyone you know will care less and less). Like every morning, I've just awoken wishing I had died in my sleep. I'm so sorry you are in the same boat.
Thank you, Natasha. This is on my mind a lot, though I’m only 70. I’ve been married 33 years to a wonderful man. We are even healthy now but I have suffered loss through death three times before and I am always thinking of how I can make it easier for my family…this was a jewel of a talk. Thank you again.
Thank you. You have put into words everything I’ve been feeling and thinking since I lost my husband. He died in April of 2020 just when the pandemic was ramping up. We couldn’t even have an open funeral for him. There were just 9 of us there besides the preacher and the staff from the funeral home. My faith, prayer and my two sisters have helped me, but I am still grieving. We dated for 4 years and were married for almost 53 years.
The most outspoken witty, intelligent, inquisitive, woman who has analyzed the process or recovery with extraordinary curiosity and spiritual virtue. I thank you for being so, and allowing me into the world you talk about. I just lost a very close friend and your words made me feel the exploration of feelings I am after, Thankyou for being such an inspirational woman, pioneering the truth, of loss. !! Thank you with reverence and respect.
It’s been 3 yrs since I lost my beloved Pete! I’ll never let go I loved him so much! I still cry holding my favorite picture of him and kiss it. I think of him first thing in the morning during my prayers and off and on all day long. I wake during the night and am flooded with memories wishing I would fall asleep. We were married 60 years and I would do it all over again if I could. RIP my love!
Linette Moorman My husband died 20 years ago and I have experienced most of what Dr. has presented. Although, and she acknowledges it, her sample is small, this is very important work. I have experienced everything she has shared. I am grateful that I found this talk.
I’m obviously the exception. I just lost my beloved precious wife of almost 27 years, but everything she described of women’s reactions were describing me. I am devastated, overwhelmed and go into fits of ugly crying at home alone.
I am still grieving after 17 years for my husband, but my style is much more the way she described men, eating a rotisserie chicken at the kitchen sink and denying the pain...BUT it caught up with me, I couldnt deny it forever.
I am so sorry and sadden for your lost. My heart aches for those who lost loved ones. I miss my Mother, little Sister. Especially very sad as she was only 41. Lost her to a snowmobiling accident March 27, 2021.
I am sorry u are sad..I lost my husband of 41 years...my cat is still here for me..try to be your own best friend..be kind to yourself. I am going thru sadness and aloneness. I was braver when I had to be strong to take care of him...but now I feel less powerful and a little lost.
Surprised, once more, by how immediate loss is for most all who have left comment here...and grateful for Dr. Josefowitz's personal and practical approach to discussion about grief. It's important to sense that grieving is a process, but one cannot expect such a complex and individual experience to be simple, or linear in it's progression. Two years ago I couldn't look at any of the hundreds of portrait drawings I'd done of my life-partner without tears. But a short time ago the same artworks brought a quiet smile, and I could wonder at how real in the captured moment the likeness was...how much he is still present in each of these works. And that I'm so glad that I'd taken the time to create them. The acceptance/distancing dynamic is still something which fluctuates. But it helps for me to think of the process as something which will be with me, undergo change and unevenness, but basically it's there to help me heal.
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
Wonderful well done. Glad you taking up such a tough topic my father died three months later my beloved older sister six month later my adopted daughter and within the same time period my beloved prayer partner n my best friend. Five all within 14 months. My health dropped my pain emotional and physical is unbelievable I push to create daily energy I thank God for the Holy Spirit’s faithful comfort direction n encouragement for adopted children for dogs n cats and neighbours and friends
Oh, Elizabeth, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us and the trauma that goes with it, I had to go for a therapy class and it help me a lot with my depression. you have to stay positive no matter what and learn to move on from your past my dear. we can be friends and can communicate more if you want. where are you viewing from?
I lost my husband 20 years ago. I didn't know what hit me. It was unexpected. I went through all kinds of emotions. Glad to know I'm not alone. I'm a normal human being!
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again? I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Bravo, what an incredible lady brimming over with wisdom. I especially loved how she transferred the analogy of pain and immense loss to a beloved pet. My furry baby boy companion was with me 18.5 years' and the unbearable pain was on the same parallel if not more of human loss for me And the dopamine fix effect is an incredible and true analogy. Thankyou Natasha blessed be, luv n light x
wonderful talk with more facets and insights to add to my indeginous knowledge of life after death and how to acknowledge ones grief and recognise stages of it. I found you by accident . Thank you for sharing.
I agree with you regarding losing a beloved pet. To be honest, after losing my 2 previous dogs (Harvey & Boleyn) within 6 months of each other 15 years earlier and prior to meeting my husband, in 2000, I had resigned the myself to them being my last dogs. In 2012, with much convincing from my husband and mental adjustment of having another dog after my previous loss, I was blessed to be in a position to buy a four month old Chocolate Labradoodle (who I renamed Max) from a family who decided that they did not want him. In 2014, my husband and I divorced, but I insisted on keeping Max. Max definitely emotionally kept me going through and post my divorce which seemed like a death in a weird, but real way. So although my bond was already strong with Max, it became even stronger in the years that followed. 5 years late in March 2019, single me and Max decided to move from the UK TO Spain, (it had been my dream prior to meeting my husband). So I sold up and bought a new property for me and Max in a wonderful green location for me and Max. 12 months after arriving Max fell ill at only 8 1/2 years old (and previously a fit and healthy fun loving dog). He was diagnosed with leukemia in the bones in April 2020 ,and although given oral chemo (I believe this and the 'specialist he was managed by did not help him or his situation). Max got worse and weaker, and his vet and 'specialist' gave up, so I transferred him to a vet hospital where on June 8th was given a transfusion where he seemed to regain strength, but sadly on June 10th he got so bad I did have to 'let him go'. The shock of him going from a 'healthy' dog swimming at the beach etc, and dying within such a short space of time hit me like nothing had before in my life!. He was 'everything to me over the years I had him, and all that I had in Spain. It 'broke me' so badly that I put my Spanish property on the market (as I could not live there (or in Spain) without him with all the reminders and left the country to return to the UK devastated even 2+ years on. Seeing his suffering and having to loose my furry partner in life. I truly feel that when Max left he took my shadow with him. I believe it doesn't matter whether the loss is human or an family pet. It is how much you loved that person or animal....if you did not 'emotionally grieve' than you could not have 'emotionally loved'. I am sorry that you had a similar experience and wish you well.
@@jcs3330 Dear JCS Thankyou for sharing your stories of loss and grief of Max. I am so sorry to hear this and all the tragic experiences you suffered. It is very visceral how much Max meant to you and the shock of his sudden illness must have been terrible to bear. Natasha's analogy was so sincere and perceptive irrespective whether it is human loss or furry companion loss. I personally felt the devastation so much, it was difficult to function for quite a while. As my baby boy was 19 and my soul buddy who accompanied me everywhere, people's first question was where's Bigg's? on the times he wasn't with me. He passed in Oct 2020. I miss him hugely still. I have tried to adopt from Takis shelter in Crete, but their system is complicated. Also tried Rumanian sites and Serbia. When the time is right my baby boy will send an orphan to me I believe. I'm in the UK too. I wish you well on your journey, luv n light x
@@summerbreeze1955 Dear Summer Breeze, thank you for your kind words. Has I surely know the tragic heartache that you too experienced with the loss of your boy 'Biggs'. Unfortunately, as we both know, this is the 'deal' and 'emotional contract' we adhere to, when we both saw our boys for the first time. It being the 'happiest hello' but knowing that one day that will be the 'saddest goodbye'. I hope that you new furry friend (wherever they may be right now) finds you soon, and your boy Biggs will always be one step behind you in spirit. Good luck , Take Care JCS x
@@summerbreeze1955 Dear Summer Breeze, thank you for your kind words. Has I surely know the tragic heartache that you too experienced with the loss of your boy 'Biggs'. Unfortunately, as we both know, this is the 'deal' and 'emotional contract' we adhere to, when we both saw our boys for the first time. It being the 'happiest hello' but knowing that one day that will be the 'saddest goodbye'. I hope that you new furry friend (wherever they may be right now) finds you soon, and your boy Biggs will always be one step behind you in spirit. Good luck , Take Care JCS x
FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE, I WOULD ADVISE THAT PEOPLE DONT GET INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP FOR A FEW YEARS , AS WHEN GRIEVING AND LONELINESS HITS , ONE CAN WALK INTO A BAD ONE , NEED. TIME TO HEAL 🙏🏾 ITS HELPS TO KNOW THAT ONE WILL MEET THEM AGAIN IN THE NEXT LIFE 🙏🏾
Thank you so much. Your conversation made so much sense to me. Why I didn't cry after my Step-Father crossed over, my Mother crossed over, and my biological Dad crossed. I was exhausted, and in shock even though I was the caregiver and knew they were in Hospice. Thank you for helping me sort things out. I appreciate your message. It helped me to understand my own grief. Bless you!
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
Awesome lady who has clearly experienced everything those of us have experienced through a loss of a loved one. Listen to her, she is very wise and helpful. Thank you Dr. Natasha Josefowitz. You have made us feel somewhat "Normal" again.
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I've never been kissed. Which is worse?
My wife passed on 1/2/2024 in our home from heart attack. I was there to see her last breaths. The guilt of being helpless in that moment is overwhelming. God bless my wife Marcy.
If the entire world gathered to provide assistance she would still pass at the same exact moment as it’s ordained by the creator. ❤️🩹
That would be awful--very traumatic.
My Husband passed away that same day January 2, 2024 My 65th Birthday.
My husband and i met in high school, continued dating afterward graduation, and we married when i was 20, he was 21. We were married 41 years when he died. I literally cried every day for 5 months. I felt lost and alone. Paralyzed with grief. I withdrew from everything and everyone. As i began to heal i decided not to remarry. And 7 years after his passing, i am still a widow. I'm learning to live alone and learning how peaceful silence is. I removed the TV and began to listen to Christian teachings on my phone. With no TV, the static in my ears disappeared. I'm in a much better frame of mind. I still love my husband. I always will.
I don't know why you removed the TV but it is probably one of the best things anyone can do. And no TV helps to be content with yourself and life. It has been for me.
I could not survive without Jesus, Holy Spirit. My husband died just over 4 years ago after dementia/alzheimers. My older daughter died 14 1/2 yrs ago at age 32. I have to say the loss of my child has been worse.
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@@AintNoFool Oh, Sara, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us and the trauma that goes with it, I had to go for a therapy class and it help me a lot with my depression. you have to stay positive no matter what and learn to move on from your past my dear. we can be friends and can communicate more if you want. where are you viewing from?
Thank you to all who took the time to read my post. My smart phone is basically my only outlet. My health is declining and my feet are forgetting how to walk. I lean over and nearly tip over. I've lived in this apartment for 2 years but only 6 people know I'm here.. I have 2 caregivers who see to my housekeeping and groceries, and I'm very thankful for what they do for me. I took care of senior citizens when i was young and now the service is being returned to me. I've joked about not having a funeral because no one would be there. All my friends are dead. I take life as it comes. And now a days, i hum alot. Old songs, new songs. I'm content with my life.
After 52 years married, I lost her this morning. I’m watching this in hopes of learning how to manage these waves of incredible grief.
I know how you feel. Just put one foot in front of another and keep moving.
Good luck..take it slowly and cry if you need to. Slowly you will come out of the fog
You wrote that the day she died..how are you now?
my wife passed two years ago after 55 years together. i did not know this level pf sadness existed.
You wasted no time to get on UA-cam
What an amazing down to earth and warm woman! She passed away this March 15, 2023. Rest in Peace dear woman, hopefully you are now with your loved ones in the next world.💐
I was married for 60 years to my soul mate husband who had dementia but was still his gentle loving self and died four years ago . I still cry myself to sleep every night - the heart never goes away
I’m 74. Lost my husband and soulmate of 52 years 4 years ago. Your Dopamine Fix theory hit home. For me, whenever my husband and I would make eye contact from across the room, he would wink at me. What I wouldn’t give to have that dopamine fix just one more time.
What I wouldn't give to experience that feeling from a soulmate even once... I have yet to meet my true love. Also - I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you love.
@@rghanie9367I’ve never known it either😢
when my second husband left me after 15 years together, i felt i would die, because he was gone, but he was not dead). it took so much time and will power to come back to me, and to realize that there was a bit of life still left to experience. thankfully, my two new dogs have taught me how to cope with the loss of my soulmate, and i have become a single, silent, and very strong woman.
For 52 years every time I heard my husband's truck/car pull up the driveway, my heart lifted. That was dopamine. I was very fortunate, no regrets.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Still crying my eyes out 30 years later. I don't keep his pictures around me because it's too painful to see his face. People don't understand how I can grieve for so long, I tell them because that was my soulmate and that's the only man for me.
I understand! I have been missing my love for 22 years!
How sad that you are still actively grieving after 30 years....
LIFE is not a Rehearsal......
I understand. I lost my husband almost 13 years ago and I’m still missing him a lot.
For those of us who have lost a spouse that is truly our soul mate, we definitely understand how you can grieve that long. I think we will grieve on some level until the day we die too. Its only been 7 months for me but I do understand your pain. When my husband died and was buried, a part me me died and was buried with them. I am not whole anymore. That empty space in my soul will always be there while I am still alive. But I am a Christian and I believe in Jesus so I know this life is temporary and I will be reunited with my husband someday and this time it will be forever. That is the only thing that brings me comfort. I hope you can be comforted by that too. 🙏
Just over seven years for me, he died in April of 2015…the grief is still here. I “hear tell” we move on with it -I guess this is so. Yet each morning I wake up without him, I miss him as much as ever. …why am I still here? 🤔😓
Just googled her, as at November 2021, she is 95. I hope she found that lovely companion she sought
This is the best, most down to earth talk on grief out there. I lost my husband of 37 years and have been listening to all sorts of information on this horrible grieving process. There are no words to describe how hard it is, but this came closer than most.
A brilliant talk and very helpful.Beautiful woman who accepts the fact that there is no one way to grief.Very down to earth with a sense of humour also.I lost my husband after being together for 53 years 8 months ago.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. My heart goes out to you.
I just keep praying for all of us...
So sorry. I lost my husband of 68 years a month ago. No words to describe this loss. All the tears and feelings and sorrow. I am a mess. Hoping for you a blessing to go on.
6 yrs in grief is love
..love never dies so grief is the new expression.God gav
us a safe proper place to put this powerful emotion.
it has its own compartment and
sometimes got to
close the door to keep it contained
while u realize it
will always be.grief
is real such a part
of who u are...the door can be opened
anytime since no lock is used ....for wht? memories coexist with grief
so hard to contain
or control so the door is forever unlocked while grief
continue to roam
cloudin n freein our minds at the same time..without God
impossible to go or do it alone...on goin
process as a reminder of Who God is. no one higher bigger more powerful than He.
the journey is ongoin...adapt adjust accept ..just is...
Just found this by accident and couldn't stop watching and hearing topics that are so often unspoken to grieving people. I lost my dad suddenly over 30 years ago and was traumatised but someone said to me afterwards 'your dad loved you so much that the very last thing he would want to see is for you to be sad for too long' and I knew that was so true - and I make a conscious effort to recall all the good memories, and to smile about my time with him. Thank you for your kind words and advice x
Live a happy life in honor of your Dad!
I recently lost my dog of 13 years, Beso. This was very helpful. Thank you Dr. Josefowitz🙏❤️ Sending a virtual hug🤗
I lost my 13 year old pet a few weeks ago as well. She was a devoted, loving, loyal companion. The emptiness she left behind is devastating. We had a very tight bond.
@@margietucker1719 Sorry for your loss Margie. You are not alone. It will take time to heal. Sending you a virtual hug.❤️🤗Thanks for sharing
I lost my 9 years old dog few weeks ago and I feel horrible, I cannot find peace :(
As a single person losing my pets is so difficult. In time we can choose to bring another into our lives and learn to love again.
You all may have heard this before but just in case:
It came to me that every time I lose a dog they take a piece of my heart with them, and every new dog who comes into my life gifts me with a piece of their heart. If I live long enough all the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are.
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I lost my beloved rescue cat three months ago. I miss her so much . I hope this helps me too.
I lost my wife of 16 years and 4 days to cancer on January 19th, I have been searching for some way to understand and accept what happened. This marvelous lady has done wonders to help me understand. I am so thankful that I found this.
She is absolutely fantastic. She knows what she is talking about. She has been through it all!!! I will watch this more than once.
@@lindamcfadden5522 I saw sew
I’m so sorry for your loss. I have been with the same man for over 30 years and the thought of losing him brings me to tears. I just lost my mother last month so I feel your pain. Only my religion offers some solace
Omy I feel the same.
The WORD of GOD brings great comfort.❤❤❤
I met my husband when We were 15 and 17. Our marriage at 20 and 22 lasted 65 years. I am am now after 3 years still feeling I have no perpuse in life. After being very healthy My health went down with a vengeance. I have good days and bad days bu tI am hear until the man upstairs decides it is time for me to join john. So I keep a fixed smile on my face and take a day at a time. I prefer to be the one left because I know he would have faded away within weeks. Thankyou for listening.
Thank You for Sharing
I lost my mother ten months ago. I’m not sure I’m coping. Listening to this has helped me more than I can express. I recognise everything said here. I was my mothers carer for seven years and l have never lived aside from her. Sometimes I think I’m actually in hell. I feel like I’ve fallen out of the fabric of life and sometimes l just want it to stop no matter the cost. But I believe in the afterlife and l want to be with her when l do pass. I have several mental health issues that complicate everything beyond measure, but no matter what, I’m grateful for my life with her. I knew it would be like this, but that was theoretical. Now I’m living it and I feel sometimes I’m going mad. But. This has helped me today, so much, and I believe there’s a light ahead and a future. Love to everyone here❤️
Love to you. So glad this helped. One day sometimes one breathe at a time. For me allowing myself to feel the grief no matter how unpleasant was essential. It can be so lonely though cause it can be such a personal journey. As she said we are not alone, yet we still have to feel and hopefully express our own pain.
Don’t know if you have heard is seen ‘Sleepless in Seattle’ but in it the widower says I get up and I take one breathe then I take another.
Again glad you found or connected with what Natasha shared….that is a really good thing…something inside is alive enough to connect!!!
This woman speaks a lot of truth. Having lost my wife over 14 months ago - I try to take steps, but so hard. Miss her so much still.
my thoughts exactly
It is said if you hold on your loved one can’t be at peace. Don’t know if it’s true but my friend tells me it is. Let them go in peace!
Lost my husband 15 years ago, I understood the cycle of life so this helped @ lot. Also seen him pass away, was happy he was so much @ peace. Love is letting go, life is changed not ended. 🙏❤️
Nobody will replace your late wife. No new casserole would make up for it but it surely would be nicer to know that your wife would not have wanted you to live in a miserable lifestyle. Her mission on this earth was over. Thankfully, we still live in a society which allows us interaction with other human beings. I hope you'll find healing in beautiful memories with your late wife, and learn how to live again without her just as you did before meeting her. Praying for you.
@@mariehaverty8209 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Dear beautiful souls.
I just lost my little baby boy Saturday 3-26-22. I am in unbearable heartache pain to the core of my very soul!💔😢😭 please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜
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Oh bonnie ,l do hope you are healing somewhat , so much love from me to your family xx❤️
Take care that you don't lose yourself in an all-consuming grief. Hopefully, you have a loving partner or dear friend, to share this pain with, if not, seek counseling to talk you through this most painful loss. Sending warm thoughts your way.
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My beautiful kind selfless mother passed away yesterday (March 11, 2022) and I cannot express the depths of my sorrow, sadness and the emptiness I feel. She was the most wonderful person I’ve ever known. She was the source of all joy, the rock and the life of our family. I really cannot see how I can recover when she seemed like she was going to make it. I just wish I had one more week, one more month and one more year with her. I pray pray pray I get to see her again.
So sorry for your big loss. I pray for your comfort from the almighty God! In the meantime, don’t forget that death is not the end. We will see them again in heaven.
@@salemabraha6289 thank you for your kind words
I wonder how are you doing now, after three months ?
it is terrible to lose somebody so dear to you
I know that our spirits go on after we die - so it is only our physical/mortal connection that is lost
I would encourage you to write down how you feel as it helps to express the grief
that you feel
you can write also in the form of a letter to your mum and say things you can’t express to anyone else
sending you heartfelt love
So sorry for your lost. You got to be wit your wonderful Mother 15 years longer than I. Bless you my dear.
I am sorry. I know you will see her again. 💙
I wish that I could have known about this video in 2019. I lost my husband in April and my mother in October. I have great friends and students who still stay in touch, but nothing beats the presence of Charles and Nettie.Every one of these stages have made an appearance in my life since then. Grief is the price we pay for love.
I lost my wife, the love of my life in July 2020. The stages of grief she describes are amazing! She has listed step by step what I am going through and thinking. This has helped me, I hope it help's others in my situation.
Yes your rt it has helped immensely!!
I’m so sorry for your loss too…. I lost my husband to stroke in DEC 2021. He was 59…. Such a strong handsome guy we looked like Barbie & Ken dolls. I will never meet another Todd… he was soo unique. Smart guy there wasn’t anything he couldn’t do….
@@lizforbes8022 So sorry for your loss. How long you were married?
@@lizforbes8022 you are very fortunate woman who had wonderful relationship. Treasure and thank how lucky you are to had a man who would do anything. Place him in your heart. He is with you all the time. You have not lost him.
no you are not alone !
My husband of 48+ years passed away 224 days ago after a difficult dance with advanced parkinson and dementia. I retired from work that I loved to take care of him the last few years ... near the end he did not recognize me. Now I have guilt from the relief of his passing. I am unbearable on my own. The harder adjustment is that I have never lived alone my entire life ... going from my parents house to getting married. This video was the most illuminating and humorous and helpful advice I have the good fortune to stumple across. Thank you ever so much!
I met my husband when I was 19. Never lived alone until his death 20 months ago. I miss his smile and companionship. I have no prior experience to fall back on.
This talk was helpful. But I am so alone….
You understand…..
@@carolcruise8054 I do understand ... We are each affected by the different kinds and levels of grief and integrate the emotions in our own way and in our own time. Take a deep breath and know that the memories will always be with you in your heart.
@@carolcruise8054 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
God Bless this brave woman she's helped me see that I am normal and not stuck in grief
Me too
I was diagnosed with stage 3 bone cancer and my cancer only has 3 stages. One week after having my femur removed, blood clots blocked 7 veins from my hip to my ankle. While bound to my wheelchair unable to walk, we found out that our unborn baby had a major heart problem. He ended up requiring complete reconstructive open heart surgery when he was only 6 days old. Not long after that my 13 year old son suffered a traumatic brain injury losing the entire right half and frontal lobe completely. He was in a coma for 2 months. We threw ourselves upon Jesus. Know this: every prayer was answered. I am no longer in a wheelchair, am fully capable. 8 years in remission. Our young boy is 110% and proud of his chest scar where God gave him a lions heart. My 13 year old is now 17 and 100% mentally recovered. He lost nothing. He lost no time in school and is soon to be an engineer, his dream. Nothing is impossible. Where you think you end is really where you begin. Believe in Jesus and through that faith, be thankful. God is great people. Much love to ALL OF YOU.
Aww...
Jesus is our saviour amen 🙏🏿
Very true! But so many lost their faith the last years and now only worship injections which are full of anti Christian stuff 😢
God bless you for sharing this! ❤️🙏
This would not have been possible 100 years ago.
Thank you. I know you never loose the people you love because they live in your heart but the loss of their presence is pure agony. In other words Grief. Jean Geary
You bring tears to my heart and soul. It’s the first time I be heard anyone speak of these things. Thank you for sharing♥️
I’ve been a widow for 7 yrs . I went through most of these steps , but today I was able to I was able to share with two friends that have recently lost their husband . Thankyou ❤️🇨🇦
She is inspiring. I am finishing my doctorate at 61. I love that she shows us that age doesn't matter. We can do our best work the older we get. As far as the number of eligible bachelors dwindle as one gets older, so there are less options... well that is why younger men exist. They are more fun and have more energy.
I wish more people in her age group had an overall voice. Age doesn't always equal wisdom. But there is still a higher chance that someone who has lived this long has experienced a whole lot more than we younger folk have and can transfer some of their own life lessons to us, so we can learn from it.
My husband of 61 years died a year ago. You are spot on! You give me hope for the future.
If you are still alive... i hope you get to read this. I am 56 nd you explained in every word how i am feeling. My love has been gone 1.5 yrs... Thank you & bless you
I lost the love of my life 7 years ago. He was my 2nd mate. I tried to maneuver through the past years and found my treasure moments ,alone. Thank you so very much for validating emotions etc.
I love this video, I am 57 and my dear husband passed away quite suddenly 3 weeks ago i don't know but i experience everything this woman tells and it is true i have many sisters and this loss is terrible. I listen to this woman cause i dont know how to deal with this grief, i deny it, sometimes but then it comes back in such intensity, everything she tells is true. Thank you so much, and God bless .
I lost my husband of 41 years very suddenly and unexpectedly from complications of undiagnosed Obstructive Sleep Apnea 17 days ago. How does life go on when he was my entire world? I have so much grief, fear, remorse and guilt. This video is helpful but also very sad. “We come in pairs. We are meant to be couples.” So true. I hope you are doing well.
Denial is a big one for me. Good to know I'm not alone in this. Its all so painful. Praying for your healing as well. My condolences
@@pamcornelius9122 I lost my wife of 45yrs. u take one day at a time! In time & Lords help
it WILL GET BETTER!
Rose, I too love the video. I lost my wife 4 months ago. It's not easy, but lately it seems to be getting better. I am trying to be kind to myself, and trying to trust the process. I wish you well
I also lost my life partner and love just a month ago suddenly. My entire world has shattered and I have no idea how I will face the rest of my time here on earth without him. I’ve been immersing myself in grief and afterlife videos. I talk to him out loud and I know he hears me. I know when it’s my time he will be there waiting for me to bring me home. So very sorry for your loss. I’m sure the last year of grief for you has been a very challenging ride. Sending you love.
I love this lady! She really gets it!! I have never heard such a touching talk on losing someone you love. She is so intelligent and compassionate. Thank you so much for sharing with us..May God bless you àbundantly.
Two years ago I lost my husband to pancreatic cancer. After 32 years together he was gone and I didn’t know where to turn. Thank you for bringing some clarity to the continued jumble in my spirit. I’m ok one minute and a soggy mess the next. I will return to your down to earth guidance again and again. Blessings to you.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Im going to listen to this a few times There are too many amazing healing nuggets , she gets it So spot on So much empathy
Divorce is like a death, and it's been 2 1/2 months since the divorce, and I am still grieving. Her talk resonated with me, my grief is "normal" and hearing her words, helped me. I hope it sticks.
Sorry to hear about your divorce. I cannot relate in that I never married, but I have heard and it makes some sense, in that, sometimes a death can be ‘easier’ (if there is such a thing as easier) in that there is closure per se. In divorce-my thought it must be difficult to get closure as you do a lot of wondering and what ifs.
As she said be kind to yourself, pray you gain wisdom in this period.
@@jld4870 Thank you.
Well said. My Lord is my refuge now, and I will continue running to Him when loss comes. I'm sure it won't be long, Mom is 97.
Don't listen to other people.... One of the most valuable lessons I learnt.
I loss my father and three days after as i was out of town atendi g my fathers funeral my dog got sick and had to be put down 😢 i felt like a knife rip my heart out and went numb. It was really hard for me and when i try to talk about it people told me not to cry. Depresion kick in and i retrive to my room and spend hours and hours crying. Between my heart break I sed to my self “ you have one year to feel like 💩 then after that we are done and we need to move on” after one year and lots of hair loss I bounce back. Im happy i allowed myself to feel the pain cuz that makes me human and thought me what real love is. My Father and precious dog companion will forever be forever be in my life even if they are not fiscally there. 🥰❤️
Dr.Natasha Josefowitz is wonderful speaker, writer and person, May God bless her always.
It is untrue that the Hebrews in Abraham's time stoned one who mourned for more than one year!!!
The price you pay for loving someone with all your heart, is that they take it with them when they die.
So true. I wish you well.
True. But with divorce there are other losses as well, standard of living, home, retirement savings, self esteem, shame, failure.
When you love someone for no reason at all, just because, they are there for you forever. You can talk with them.
Truer words were never said.🙏
When my incredible husband died he took half of my heart with him and left behind half of his heart for me. This gives me great comfort and makes the memories we made more special. WE are sharing them together!
My husband of 49 years died 4 months ago. This is the best talk about grief I’ve heard. I am so thankful. Natasha’s poems are so very healing to me.
Sailing The Storms
Have you been through dark storms, have you come to the place,
Where you know you wouldn't have made it without God's amazing grace?
Like Paul, has your ship been exceedingly tossed about?
Do you feel you are sinking in the waves of fear and doubt?
Don't lose hope, my friend, because if you belong to Jesus,
He gave us His promise that He would never leave us.
Do you know He allowed those storms to draw you closer to His side?
He wants to be the Captain; with Him you can safely abide.
Just remember that other little ships are sailing right behind you,
And when they get hit hard by the storms of life,
God will help you guide them through.
K.S. McFadden
I m alone ❤❤😍😍👧👧🌷
Wonderful lady , she is ‘ bang on ‘ ! Bravo
I’m going through a double whammy (lost my husband (of 30 years) and my mom 15 months after) caregiver to both, I have the worst ptsd watching them both die my grief is diagnosed as complicated, 5 years and I’m still feeling fucking numb, angry, shocked, lost, emotional etc., your presentation so very helpful, thank you going to get your book you are a very special human being, God Bless You!
So so sorry for both of your tremendous losses. It’s okay to feel all that you are feeling. Flow with them. You don’t ever move on, you move on WITH them. You take them with you. I hope you can seek some grief therapy for your PTSD and that you have a strong support system around you. Sending you tons of love.
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday or somehow...
This lovely lady has totally understood and described how I feel after losing my husband 4 months ago. I so hope I can go through all the stages of grief and come out the other side still eventually find happiness & purpose again in my life.
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday or somehow...
Very eloquent, and what a bullseye. I lost my husband of 33 years 7 months ago, suddenly, very unexpectedly. This loss, the loss of my best friend, knocked me to my knees. I’m still trying to get up. I’ve been in a grief group. It helps some. I simply cannot believe it still.
I am so sorry. I am going through the sudden and unexpected loss of my husband / best friend too. It feels like someone dropped an atomic bomb on your world and blew it apart. I can't believe it either... it's just ... it doesn't even seem real that my baby is gone.
@@WeepingWidowSueAna I’m so sorry for your loss. There’s nothing like it, that I’ve experienced. 🙏😢
@@southernborn1358 I agree. Never ever experienced pain of this magnitude before. It takes your breath away and just feels like you're waiting to die. It's awful.
This has got to be the deepest dive and real, detailed talk that reflects all the same things and feelings happening to me. This wise and wonderful woman really gets it. This video walked me through the residuals of my final stages of goodbye. First, they are right next to you, then they are a block away, and then they are across town, and then they are across the sea, and then they are gone, slowly fading from your sight. And after all that the real journey begins.
I love this lady, even though I don't know her. And you, too, are spot on.
Such is LIFE. We must learn to cherish every moment with our loved ones because we never can know when death comes knocking. where are you viewing from?
Excellent talk! She didn’t mention how faith plays into this, but for me, it’s a major component. I lost my husband 10 months ago after almost 55 years of marriage and so far I live alone but find comfort in God’s presence as well as my faith community, neighbors, & family. I’m going to order her book.
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How inspiring to appreciate the thoughtful effort put into sharing this journey with others. As a widow of almost 15 years who has also faced the passing of a dear baby and extraordinary 35 year old daughter it impresses me that eventually the speaker hit most all the important points of this journey of a return to wholeness. I agree with one of the commentators that my faith has been a vibrant source of joy, strength and ongoing interest and growth in the midst of the challenges of loss. What a marvelous contribution to help others on this path. Thank you, Natasha, and thank you UCSDTV.
@@momoltd @Thy Phạm hi hi hi baby how are you doing I hope you are doing good am Ben from Austin Texas am easy going person I love good and do good am glad you are beautiful please let's get to know each other very well baby where are you located
Loss isn’t always about a death!!! My dad and mom have been married for sixty years: Dad recently moved into an aged care facility : Mums day to day life has changed dramatically , they RARELY ever spent a night apart. Dad and Mum did mostly everything together; and even though they can still see each other; it’s such a dramatic life change for both of them ………
You are so right about this!!!
I agree. This is real grief, too. Before my mother died, I experienced grief for 2 years, as she became a different person after her stroke. We grief in many instances where there is no death. Peace.
It's also grief when your loved one is affected by Dementia. When you look around their personal spaces and see the dust gathering on their long untouched possessions . Their interest layed to rest, their photos, their order. The seemingly insignificant things suddenly seem very important and you cry. The grieving process has begun and they are only in the next room,sitting where you placed them, staring at the TV. Daddy. Gone 5 months.
I lost my husband last March 21, 2021 and have gone through every thing in your talk and thank you for just reinforcing the fact that I am normal in my “abnormal” grief. I used to call it profound sadness. I will look for your book as I think it’s the best book to turn to when you feel you are having a grief relapse. Thank you .
20 years together and I lost him two weeks ago. I feel broken , empty and scared. My husband will never be past tense to me. We are still a team. I am struggling
It’s soon, of course it’s still raw and painful, and you feel unstable. You’re grieving... it takes time - you are 5 months ahead of me. does it ease?.
Same here 5 years later. I thought it would get easier.
@@OMahony2 15mths here. No, not better just longer. He lives on in my heart.
I lost my husband last Nov 2021. He and I were only 54 and we were married 34 years. I am still so very heartbroken. I struggle every single day. Almost 7 months later I still feel broken and scared and so very empty. I hope this finds you doing better. I know that this pain never really goes away.
It will always be OUR HOME. Period.
I lost my husband 9 years ago after 27 years of a beautiful marriage. We connected on all levels.
I miss him so much to this day. (I still live in our home) We worked together same job we were a team through & through. We drove cross country, we built our home & others. The best advice I can offer is remembering the good times, when I'm down & sad 😔. I am constantly reminded of our good times.God bless 🙌
Amen.
I lost my husband to cancer in 2017 . I can’t move on and I probably never will. I lost my mom and my older last year. I miss them all. I lost my younger sister and dad when I was younger.
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Lost my husband 12 yrs ago. We were team drivers too and did everything together. Lost our only child this past Jan. Am learning that life goes on and we create our own place in the world.
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“No one is there to witness your life”. I dread that when my dear father dies he will be the last alive of my family. We share so many memories that we enjoy reminiscing over. All that will stop. Dead.
Wonderful advice.
I’ve lost my Mum , mother in law & father in law , 2 sister in laws & then my first husband within 3 years .
I was broken, numb, constantly rode huge waves of grief.
I had many great friends but I needed help to put myself back together.
I had grief counselling from our local hospice.
I learned to look after myself, listen to myself.
I have moved on , I remember all those I’ve lost & am incredibly grateful that they were part of my life & I know they live on in me & my daughters.
Cry, cry cry , nothing is wrong but eventually you can remember your loved ones with happiness 😘😘
Oh, Liz, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us. where are you playing from?
This is a wonderful presentation on grief … I lost my husband 3 years ago, and I’ve been living through all of these stages …married him at 18 , he was 25 , so we literally spent our wholes together…then cancer struck and he was gone in less than 6 months …. No one understands this until you’re in the midst of it yourself….I’ve done and accomplished things around the house and in my life that I would have thought I couldn’t do….everyone says how well I’m doing and how strong I am….although that may be true, they just don’t know the grief or the feeling of loneliness… my family and friends have been supportive and just wonderful…and I’m so thankful for that ….but I’ll miss him always ❤️
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
I grieved for 35 yrs over my 1st marriage breakup, + suffered severe clinical depression all that time. At 63 I can now think about him without crying. Love is not an emotion that just goes away, it will always be there.
Oh, Ned, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us. where are you playing from?
Hello Kelly..Hope you're doing good and staying safe!Merry Christmas to you...
I lost my beloved man at 49 years old.....5 years on I'm worse off...I miss him so! Your lecture spot on ☺
I just lost my dad and he was 58 :(
Brilliant talk. Loved it. I just lost my beautiful brother in law, and thought this would be helpful for his family when they are ready to listen to it.
I am widowed for 12 days. But I had my darling for over 50 years. He died a terrible death and while I grieve, I am glad he is at peace. I feel for you. I can’t comprehend the depth of your loss.
I am so sorry my dear. To lose your beloved at such young age is truly tragic. My very best wishes for you.
@@veronicamcniff668 I’m so sorry for your lost, I lost my husband to a tragic accident last month. We are only 28 years old. This lecture is the TRUTH
@@veronicamcniff668 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
This speech helped me a lot. I just loosed my husband. We’ve been married 58 years and I miss him terrible. He was a very bright man with lots of humour and entertaining. Everybody loved him men as women because he was unique. I am going through the crying period now but I came to undstand that this will get better. Thank you for your speech!
You just described my husband of 15 yrs we were together….he passed 1 yr ago….yes he too was quite unique had tons of frenz and always parted his visits with “spread the love man”……
I acknowledge I am numerically getting old now, but I don’t really look or feel old. I’m a young 78 year old single lady, and I’m finding that it’s difficult to plan out how to accomplish all the things one still wants to do BEFORE one dies! Thankfully I’m healthy so that’s no excuse. I’m just sad that I love to dance but haven’t found someone who also likes to dance-and I’m reluctant to plan activities and trips by myself. My favorite activity is ballroom dancing-but I need a partner, and in the 1/2 year since I retired to Hot Springs, Arkansas, I haven’t found someone to dance with. Does anyone know of any groups or such-of likeminded single people - to meet and have fun with? I will watch this space for replies. Thanks.
Absolutely brilliant. I am so grateful that I came upon Natasha Josefowitz,
Thank you so much for this video! I lost my husband after a very wonderful 58 plus years together. Living without him has been very difficult. Hearing
Her poems are insightful and honest. I am a songwriter and have written about my own loss and grief. Songs and poems are lighthouses for grieving people. Peace to you all on your own journey through grief.
My husband died at age 46 in 1995. I was 38 and 64 now, never lived with anyone or got remarried. Was busy working, now retired and playing it day by day. I've learned to enjoy the company of women more than men where there are no expectations. God will provide.
I just lost my husband in September this year 2021. Covid Pneumonia. I feel like my story will be much like yours. I was with others before him and he was the greatest love of my life and soul mate most certainly. We both didn't like being without each other for any amount of time. Even missing each other when r were at work. I know I will never love again or stop loving him. I'm so completely broken right now. I pray that I will learn how to cope with this loss. It was always my greatest fear for him to pass before me and here I am living my greatest fear. 😔😞💔
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Bless you Holly. You honour your love.
@@kentuckygirl4574 I feel like I could have written this comment almost word for word! I just lost my husband and like you, I had other relationships before but they did not even come CLOSE to my soulmate husband who passed away. He was perfect compared to any others and he was the one I wanted to be with all the time. We missed each other 5 minutes after we left each other to go to do an errand or work or shop or whatnot. He had to work out of state for a year and it was awful. I hated every second of it and just wanted him back. Then he FINALLY got back home and we were ready to start our life together and then he dies suddenly and out of the blue. I am broken. Completely broken. It was always my greatest fear as well, to lose my husband, and now here I am.. living in the nightmare every day and unable to get out of it. Hugs to you. Please reach out if you ever need a friend.
I’m learning so many things about what I’m experiencing as I became a widow 4 months ago and I was my husband’s caregiver for this past 18 months. He had so many bizarre issues that’s how his physicians described them and each we’re shocked at his death as he had been on the mend. I’m so grateful to hear that much of the ways I’m expressing grief isn’t unusual, so I know I can respond to a well meaning person “ no I’m not feeling better” not having to defend myself and not feel that I’m being self-indulgent. Thank you
Oh my goodness . What a helpful message. It is almost three years that my husband died and in the last nine there have been too many losses. One of the things that helped me was a little thought that dropped into my mind; do three things each day: something courageous, something productive and something lovely. It gave my days meaning and provided a framework in which to function even if the three things were embodied in one action - getting out of bed.
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What a goal filled with wisdom. I lost my husband 8 months ago, before that my brother / years ago who lived with me and my other brother for a year--almost two years later my dad---then my mother was too fragile to be alone so she lived with me and my husband 4 years until she died. I have had my own hard time adjusting but I must say my husband was the worst. We had been married 50 years. I appreciate your great idea. Lynna Crockett
This is an older video but I'm so glad I found it. I wanted to listen to someone who seemed wiser and had experience on the topic of grief. I'm very thankful to the University of California for posting this.
INCREDIBLE LADY, FANTASTIC HUMAN BEING !!! WHAT A BEAUTY, STRENGH AND WILL POWER. THANK YOU FOR THE WISDON YOU SHARE WITH US.🌷From Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, Cynthia
Thank you for this video. Just recently lost my husband of 25 years, after a long illness and Natasha Josefowitz helped to explain so much of what I'm going through.
My soul mate boyfriend died when he was 46(from M. S.) &I was 45,in 2011. My ex husband, died from a Sudden heart attack, in 2015..He was 56.I just turned, 49.
Our daughter was 21,when he passed away.. My mom died in 2019,72yrs old, after 4yrs of Ovarian Cancer(1/3 of her bowel gone).
I was a Special Care Aide, for 34 yrs & I also did Palliative Care for clients in their home..
So, this video was really helpful..I was 52,&Ive lost 3 main people.. From 44-52 yrs old..
Oh, dear, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us and the trauma that goes with it, I had to go for a therapy class and it help me a lot with my depression. you have to stay positive no matter what and learn to move on from your past my dear. we can be friends and can communicate more if you want. where are you viewing from?
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What an amazing lady. To be so concise at her age is simply amazing. I learnt a lot from this. 48 mths since i lost my son unexpectedly and very tragically.
my only child has been gone 20 years ,I go out in the world ect,it never gets better. My husband and I trudge on now retired doing none of the things we planned for retirement. we lean on each other, swans , never to seek another relationship ever because of what we have shared . Thank you you are amazing.
I lost my husband in 2021 and I still hurts what people don’t want to hear. We were 32 yrs and 3 months together.
This just came up on my feed and wanted to ignored it, but something made me go back to it - what a joy and privilege - I could listen to Natasha all day - what a wonderful person, thank you for being you and sharing so openly.
I lost my husband 3 years ago. I’ve heard and read a lot about grief and loss. This is the best. She’s wonderful. Authentic and validating.
Oh, Vivian, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us and the trauma that goes with it, I had to go for a therapy class and it help me a lot with my depression. you have to stay positive no matter what and learn to move on from your past my dear. we can be friends and can communicate more if you want. where are you viewing from?
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
My beloved David died 1 week ago. Alzheimer’s and cancer. He was cared for at home for 3+ years with home hospice for the last 7 months. Although I was watching him die by inches all that time, his actual death has been shockingly hard. I have brain fog, forgetfulness and anxiety. Dr. Josephowitz is so straightforward and compassionate. And so right. I have her book and I will share it with any of my early 80s friends, as well as this video, when they need it. I am so grateful for having found her.
I loved this video. I am in my 50's, lost my parents, am an only child, am female. I think her study of how ppl process grief & loss is very accurate. I
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Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
One thing that should be mentioned no matter how much time you spend with somebody else or try to fill your days nobody else takes the place of the person that is gone and it always comes back to you no matter how much you’re with other people and doing other things but in time you learn to live without that other person
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The hurt is devastating ✝️
This is so helpful, thank you. I lost my wife 4 years ago, and it still hurts badly. Your words give me hope for healing.
A year and a half ago my 4th son, because of his mentally unstable girlfriend, now mother of his first child, my first granddaughter, became estranged from me because of this woman’s covert narcissistic, schizophrenic personality. Sadly, this same woman who came into my sons life out of nowhere, turned my ONLY daughter and my youngest of 6 children against me also.
They have chosen not to be in my life for the past 19 heart wrenching months with no reconciliation in sight. This is a grief, double whammy as you stated, beyond any pain Ive ever endured and continue to endure. I’ve done it all. Plead, begged, bargained, got angry, suicidal, started drinking again after 25 years of abstinence. In this time frame, my son Luke became a father for the first time at age 31. I missed all of that. My only granddaughter, after having 5 sons is 1 years old. I’ve missed everything with her first year. My only daughter became pregnant, gave birth to her first child, he is now 10 months old. I’ve never seen or held either one of my precious grandbabies. This is grief beyond any pain I’ve ever endured in my lifetime. And I’ve endured being married to a alcoholic who left me alone with 3 small sons and married my best friend. And more.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this lecture. Although I haven’t lost a husband, at 63 years young, I’ve lost 2 of my young adult children. They didn’t die. They are still living. But they have abandoned the loving, close mother child relationship I had with them for 30 years.
Hello Tammy..Hope you're doing good and staying safe!Merry Christmas to you...
I completely understand since I also have a daughter in law exactly like you described. My husband and I cried many times over her tactics to alienate us from our only son & our 2 grandchildren. We did nothing wrong, according to our therapist. We simply are her current victims to pick on constantly.
My husband passed 2 years & 3 months ago from COVID. She put on quite the show at the funeral dinner. Real loving in front of others, asking me to spend the night with them etc. I refused. My son is blindly in love with her & goes along with whatever her demands are to keep the peace at home.
I have never felt so alone in my life. I do get to see my grandchildren but it is very limited to only their birthdays & holidays & then I have to share the children with her family of 20 or so others. She has ruined our retirement years since we looked so forward to spending time with the little ones etc. Also she has convinced my son that God does not exist! This has all been so deeply painful, as you well know.
I pray for her recovery & for me to be able to cope with this huge loss of my son 2 grandchildren & now my rock, my ❤, my husband!
Really terrible and sad, know of a family whose daughter was murdered by her husband, the man and his family took their only grandson and turned him against them and his own mother, when he was about to be arrested he tried to commit suicide and tried to take their grandson with. He was stopped, but the damage was done and the child stayed with that family. The only way out, I can think, is to send them love, you can still love them & imagine that each soul has their own path they will take, somehow they will sense your presence- one day all that love will pour over you, more than you can imagine possible. Sending you love and healing
I lost my husband of 50 years 3 weeks ago. Your words have brought me so much comfort. I can’t not thank of you enough! Bless you!
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Any chance there is a printed transcript? I have tried to get the book by the same title, but it is out of print.
I lost my beautiful wife of 37 years on March 4th 2023 and experienced everything in this video especially guilt and blaming myself, being a carer for so long was just as described - I also cried like a woman so often and at the smallest trigger - I never imagined how grief could be so brutal - I feel that the magnitude of the grief you experience is in direct proportion to the love and joy you had in the relationship you lost
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I agree, I'm utterly destitute without my beautiful husband
My husband passed away exactly one week ago today. Despite you having been half a century older than me when you lost your husband, this is still the most relatable video/piece of writing I've so far found.
I see that you, yourself, have very recently passed away too. I hope you got to reunite with your husband in some fashion, as I hope I'll reunite with mine, even if I do have to wait 50+ years. Your talk helped me understand that those 50+ years won't, necessarily, be as devoid of happiness and purpose as the last seven days have been, and for that, I thank you.
I am 1 month into this wreched existence, this silent house, this alien planet. Just waiting for Jesus
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It's been 7 months. Sorry to say it, but it just gets worse and worse (and everyone you know will care less and less). Like every morning, I've just awoken wishing I had died in my sleep.
I'm so sorry you are in the same boat.
Thank you, Natasha. This is on my mind a lot, though I’m only 70. I’ve been married 33 years to a wonderful man. We are even healthy now but I have suffered loss through death three times before and I am always thinking of how I can make it easier for my family…this was a jewel of a talk. Thank you again.
Thank you. You have put into words everything I’ve been feeling and thinking since I lost my husband. He died in April of 2020 just when the pandemic was ramping up. We couldn’t even have an open funeral for him. There were just 9 of us there besides the preacher and the staff from the funeral home. My faith, prayer and my two sisters have helped me, but I am still grieving. We dated for 4 years and were married for almost 53 years.
The most outspoken witty, intelligent, inquisitive, woman who has analyzed the process
or recovery with extraordinary curiosity and spiritual virtue. I thank you for being so, and allowing me into the world you talk about. I just lost a very close friend and your words made me feel the exploration of feelings I am after, Thankyou for being such an inspirational woman, pioneering the truth, of loss. !! Thank you with reverence and respect.
It’s been 3 yrs since I lost my beloved Pete! I’ll never let go I loved him so much! I still cry holding my favorite picture of him and kiss it. I think of him first thing in the morning during my prayers and off and on all day long. I wake during the night and am flooded with memories wishing I would fall asleep. We were married 60 years and I would do it all over again if I could. RIP my love!
Linette Moorman My husband died 20 years ago and I have experienced most of what Dr. has presented. Although, and she acknowledges it, her sample is small, this is very important work. I have experienced everything she has shared. I am grateful that I found this talk.
Lost my wife 2months ago! Had 45 yrs together. This is really hard ! I recognize things she talks about!
Peace, Light and Comfort to you. My hub if 49 years died 4 months ago.
I’m a widow of nine years and you have made my day .you have helped me a lot and thank you .i love you and big 🤗 hugs
I’m obviously the exception. I just lost my beloved precious wife of almost 27 years, but everything she described of women’s reactions were describing me.
I am devastated, overwhelmed and go into fits of ugly crying at home alone.
I am still grieving after 17 years for my husband, but my style is much more the way she described men, eating a rotisserie chicken at the kitchen sink and denying the pain...BUT it caught up with me, I couldnt deny it forever.
Sending Peace Light and Comfort to you. ☮️❤️☀️🙏🏻. It doesn’t seem to get better.
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I am so sorry and sadden for your lost. My heart aches for those who lost loved ones. I miss my Mother, little Sister. Especially very sad as she was only 41. Lost her to a snowmobiling accident March 27, 2021.
I am sorry u are sad..I lost my husband of 41 years...my cat is still here for me..try to be your own best friend..be kind to yourself. I am going thru sadness and aloneness. I was braver when I had to be strong to take care of him...but now I feel less powerful and a little lost.
Surprised, once more, by how immediate loss is for most all who have left comment here...and grateful for Dr. Josefowitz's personal and practical approach to discussion about grief. It's important to sense that grieving is a process, but one cannot expect such a complex and individual experience to be simple, or linear in it's progression. Two years ago I couldn't look at any of the hundreds of portrait drawings I'd done of my life-partner without tears. But a short time ago the same artworks brought a quiet smile, and I could wonder at how real in the captured moment the likeness was...how much he is still present in each of these works. And that I'm so glad that I'd taken the time to create them.
The acceptance/distancing dynamic is still something which fluctuates. But it helps for me to think of the process as something which will be with me, undergo change and unevenness, but basically it's there to help me heal.
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How are you doing today?
What she said about your immune system weakening after a loss is true and so important.
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
OMG thank you for explaining it so simply. I lost my husband of 42 years I miss him terribly. It has only been 2 months. THANK YOU AGAIN
Wonderful well done. Glad you taking up such a tough topic my father died three months later my beloved older sister six month later my adopted daughter and within the same time period my beloved prayer partner n my best friend. Five all within 14 months. My health dropped my pain emotional and physical is unbelievable I push to create daily energy I thank God for the Holy Spirit’s faithful comfort direction n encouragement for adopted children for dogs n cats and neighbours and friends
So sorry.
Oh, Elizabeth, I am so sorry for your loss. Accept my deepest condolences. I lost my wife in 2020 to COVID, and I understand how it feels to lose those very close to us and the trauma that goes with it, I had to go for a therapy class and it help me a lot with my depression. you have to stay positive no matter what and learn to move on from your past my dear. we can be friends and can communicate more if you want. where are you viewing from?
I lost my husband 20 years ago. I didn't know what hit me. It was unexpected. I went through all kinds of emotions. Glad to know I'm not alone. I'm a normal human being!
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
Bravo, what an incredible lady brimming over with wisdom. I especially loved how she transferred the analogy of pain and immense loss to a beloved pet. My furry baby boy companion was with me 18.5 years' and the unbearable pain was on the same parallel if not more of human loss for me And the dopamine fix effect is an incredible and true analogy. Thankyou Natasha blessed be, luv n light x
wonderful talk with more facets and insights to add to my indeginous knowledge of life after death and how to acknowledge ones grief and recognise stages of it. I found you by accident . Thank you for sharing.
I agree with you regarding losing a beloved pet.
To be honest, after losing my 2 previous dogs (Harvey & Boleyn) within 6 months of each other 15 years earlier and prior to meeting my husband, in 2000, I had resigned the myself to them being my last dogs.
In 2012, with much convincing from my husband and mental adjustment of having another dog after my previous loss, I was blessed to be in a position to buy a four month old Chocolate Labradoodle (who I renamed Max) from a family who decided that they did not want him.
In 2014, my husband and I divorced, but I insisted on keeping Max. Max definitely emotionally kept me going through and post my divorce which seemed like a death in a weird, but real way. So although my bond was already strong with Max, it became even stronger in the years that followed.
5 years late in March 2019, single me and Max decided to move from the UK TO Spain, (it had been my dream prior to meeting my husband). So I sold up and bought a new property for me and Max in a wonderful green location for me and Max.
12 months after arriving Max fell ill at only 8 1/2 years old (and previously a fit and healthy fun loving dog). He was diagnosed with leukemia in the bones in April 2020 ,and although given oral chemo (I believe this and the 'specialist he was managed by did not help him or his situation).
Max got worse and weaker, and his vet and 'specialist' gave up, so I transferred him to a vet hospital where on June 8th was given a transfusion where he seemed to regain strength, but sadly on June 10th he got so bad I did have to 'let him go'.
The shock of him going from a 'healthy' dog swimming at the beach etc, and dying within such a short space of time hit me like nothing had before in my life!. He was 'everything to me over the years I had him, and all that I had in Spain.
It 'broke me' so badly that I put my Spanish property on the market (as I could not live there (or in Spain) without him with all the reminders and left the country to return to the UK devastated even 2+ years on. Seeing his suffering and having to loose my furry partner in life. I truly feel that when Max left he took my shadow with him.
I believe it doesn't matter whether the loss is human or an family pet. It is how much you loved that person or animal....if you did not 'emotionally grieve' than you could not have 'emotionally loved'.
I am sorry that you had a similar experience and wish you well.
@@jcs3330 Dear JCS Thankyou for sharing your stories of loss and grief of Max. I am so sorry to hear this and all the tragic experiences you suffered. It is very visceral how much Max meant to you and the shock of his sudden illness must have been terrible to bear. Natasha's analogy was so sincere and perceptive irrespective whether it is human loss or furry companion loss. I personally felt the devastation so much, it was difficult to function for quite a while. As my baby boy was 19 and my soul buddy who accompanied me everywhere, people's first question was where's Bigg's? on the times he wasn't with me. He passed in Oct 2020. I miss him hugely still. I have tried to adopt from Takis shelter in Crete, but their system is complicated. Also tried Rumanian sites and Serbia. When the time is right my baby boy will send an orphan to me I believe. I'm in the UK too. I wish you well on your journey, luv n light x
@@summerbreeze1955 Dear Summer Breeze, thank you for your kind words. Has I surely know the tragic heartache that you too experienced with the loss of your boy 'Biggs'.
Unfortunately, as we both know, this is the 'deal' and 'emotional contract' we adhere to, when we both saw our boys for the first time.
It being the 'happiest hello' but knowing that one day that will be the 'saddest goodbye'.
I hope that you new furry friend (wherever they may be right now) finds you soon, and your boy Biggs will always be one step behind you in spirit. Good luck , Take Care JCS x
@@summerbreeze1955 Dear Summer Breeze, thank you for your kind words. Has I surely know the tragic heartache that you too experienced with the loss of your boy 'Biggs'.
Unfortunately, as we both know, this is the 'deal' and 'emotional contract' we adhere to, when we both saw our boys for the first time.
It being the 'happiest hello' but knowing that one day that will be the 'saddest goodbye'.
I hope that you new furry friend (wherever they may be right now) finds you soon, and your boy Biggs will always be one step behind you in spirit. Good luck , Take Care JCS x
WOW! This woman is a gift!
FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE, I WOULD ADVISE THAT PEOPLE DONT GET INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP FOR A FEW YEARS , AS WHEN GRIEVING AND LONELINESS HITS , ONE CAN WALK INTO A BAD ONE , NEED. TIME TO HEAL 🙏🏾 ITS HELPS TO KNOW THAT ONE WILL MEET THEM AGAIN IN THE NEXT LIFE 🙏🏾
Thank you so much. Your conversation made so much sense to me. Why I didn't cry after my
Step-Father crossed over, my Mother crossed over, and my biological Dad crossed. I was exhausted, and in shock even though I was the caregiver and knew they were in Hospice. Thank you for helping me sort things out. I appreciate your message. It helped me to understand my own grief. Bless you!
Hello 👋 how are you doing?
Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks
Awesome lady who has clearly experienced everything those of us have experienced through a loss of a loved one.
Listen to her, she is very wise and helpful. Thank you Dr. Natasha Josefowitz. You have made us feel somewhat "Normal" again.
Thanks Sylvia Gratta?For your coment.God bless you and familly. Amen.