I was with a girl like this. She was a loving girl, but she had bad friends and friends that wanted to have something with her. When I discovered self-improvement, I knew that she wasn’t the right one. I tried to get her to the good habits, but of course it didn’t happen. She won’t change tbh. Just leave her if you are in this situation, you will find a better one. PD: Just sharing my story. Nothing against her
Same, I was with a girl who was similar very loving, she would do anything for me and I mean anything but there were so many red flags with her and I ignored many of them, I'll just say she was bipolar so if you know anything about most bipolar people you already know what the red flags are but she came from a broken home and had a horribly traumatic upbringing, I just wanted to show her love and that there are nice genuine people in the world, I tried to get her on the right path and during our relationship it did seem like she was getting there but eventually everything was too much for me and it was becoming too toxic so we broke things off and then straight away she slips back into her old behaviours, parting, taking drugs and being a degenerate really. It's sad because I know she has got it in her, she's very talented, she can draw and paint from the head as well as I've ever seen somebody do, she has great fashion sense and she's overall a very talented creative but she does nothing with her gifts and just continues on the path to nowhere, I don't like seeing it and I tried to help but there's only so much you can do, I let my own self go in order to prop her up which I shouldn't have done even though it was due to genuine love. I wish her all the best but ultimately it was a mistake to put her development first over my own because she could never be 'changed' even if she truly wanted it because she is already too broken because of her upbringing, cruel world.
@@stealthiscooltrue. I think it’s also important to remember leadership by example. A girl might want nothing to do with self improvement but there’s always the chance that she sees how great you are becoming and that in it of itself spurs her on to improve as well. Just a thought
@@TaiLung145fr man. the problem with a portion of hamzas viewers is how much they d ride. like supporting is fine but mfs make hamza their God or something lol
Thank you for having a channel that presents unedited and purely educational content, it’s exceedingly useful for those of us who prefer not to indulge in videos that render a large amount of dopamine. All the best Hamza
Hamza really thumbs up for you. The quality of your advice is consistently high. I agree with everything you said in this video, I hope he will listen to it:)
Dear hamza I can't explain how useful this channel is for learning and hearing experiences, but recently all of your talk and the things you cover have been about relationships, so I would love to hear from you and our brothers in the comments like it if you agree with this comment so he sees it. We want to see a variety of things covered, not only relationships. Cover topics that are really deep since this channel is for people who are kind of advanced in self-improvement, like testosterone and 1% productivity rules, etc. Again, I would love to say a big thank you to Hamza for the amazing content he provides.
I told my girl that neither one of us should speak to others about our relationship problems. If one of us is really stuck with the issue at hand and need some outside opinion then we are to make up a story, for example that we saw this video somewhere and what do you think about it, how would you react, what would you do, etc. That seems to be working really really well. It just allows both of us to focus on the problem at hand and although it might be awkward now talking about it, I guarantee that if this relationship lasts, the minute there's a problem later on it will be addressed immediately and we'll figure it out. Maybe something for others to implement into their relationship
bro if you read this big warning if she is anxious and you are avoidant be very carefull if you don't give her enough love it is exteremly possible to leave you for others, I have seen that happen with others.
I learned a long time ago that when girls say "he's just a friend".... nope he's not just a friend. This is the back burner guy(s) that when your relationship hits some stormy seas, this this is the dude that that she is going to go to and cry on his shoulder and its going to progress into her cheating. The "he just a friend" guy or "The back burner guy" whichever you want to call them is one of single biggest threats to your relationship. If you have a girl who has a male best friend or is friends with a bunch of guy friends, there are more red flags than a communist parade
We all go through this and this mf needs to get through it too. I literally look at myself back having no self respect in my relationship and get me bruv I'm only 15! I expirienced this shit, And the heartbreak hurts but you have to go through this. There's no other way of growth. If you're not planning to stop the relationship then something that is worse is going to happen. She will. I learned it in the hard way.
Young men, please remember having a woman and getting a girlfriend will not solve all your problems. Do not spend all day thinking about your relationship and if your woman is feminine enough - this in itself is feminine. Once you get into your 20’s you will start to level up and see yourself with a different type of woman that you can at 18. Work on yourself, improve your social skills, have fun loving relationships with women, experience heartbreak. Only go into a relationship with an abundance mindset, not the first woman that shows you attention. Once you are attractive and of value to multiple women this is when you can choose your woman.
In my experience I have actually been able to change the woman I was with to adopt a healthier lifestyle & reframe past traumas leading to a less degenerate life for them. So it is possible. The problem I then run into is on the other side they are usually grateful, but ultimately they're a different person at that point and thus realize they want someone else.
When the girl is too low quality she will end up dragging him down too and over time he'll become low quality too. It's like Hamza says you can only elevate a girl who is already at a decent level.
Imagine being friends with a girl from childhood, then she gets a bf that listens to hamza's advice. Randomly, she says you both can't be friends anymore because her insecure boyfriend is scared of you desiring his girl. Life isn't that black and white, use your brain and be smart about it.
It's just a little bit off to be in a close friendship like that for me. Where you text a lot, go out together, go on holidays together ecc.. But I guess if it's a normal friendship, like old classmates or co-workers with whom you keep in touch from time to time. Or maybe being all part of a friend group where also your partner is being invited to. That's different and it seems fine. But close friendships one on one, going basically on dates and being emiotionally intimate.. doesn't sound good to me. It smells of emotional cheating to say the least. I guess it all depends on the specific situations and there are no hard rules. For some people something might be okay, for others not so much. It's called compatibility.
True, just use ur brain, and also even if they were close friends from childhood, in adult life they are 99% of time catching up on each other from time to time, if not (and they meet every second day) then they obviously have sympathy to each other
i was facing the same thing. last month i have already block her and i have been improving alot since then . should i get back for her ?cause i still have some feelings for her
no don't go back with her, even if you had an intention of getting back with her, you said its only been a month. She hasn't learned anything yet. And she needs to be calling you, and if you do take her back its got to be on your terms. She has to earn her way back with you, don't just hand her all your attention. If you do, she wont learn her lesson and it will just be a repeat vicious cycle. Don't make it easy for her.Don't fall for the crumbs she leaves, her liking your stories and posts on social media, responding to her texts or even reading them. You need to leave her on delivered.If you eat up the crumbs of attention she is leaving you, that's not teaching her anything.But the best thing would be is to never take her back, a lot of these girls out here have no accountability cause simps are inflating her ego and dudes don't drop the hammer on her ass. They do what you are asking, its been a month and you are asking if you should get back with her....Absolutely not. But if you are insistent on it needs to be more than a month separation and you need to make her take that murderous crawl back to the top with you again. And if she thinks she's too good to earn her way back....good, leave...bye bye....You aren't needed i dont care im sleeping good tonight, that's the mindset you need to be in. Hope this helps brother
i’m wondering if hamza’s girlfriend jealous of his female friends and the girls he cold approached, considering hamza is the master of cold approaching🤔
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A rule of thumb i like to ask myself is: " would I like my future kids to be 50% like her?" 50% cause of genetics, 50 you 50 her. Most of the time that's pretty easy to answer ("of course not"). Or would: "I like my future daughter to be like her?"
These questions enable long-term thinking and should disable your Jeffrey short-sighted, pleasure-seeking part of your brain. They cause you to distance the decision away from yourself, enabling a third-person perspective while still keeping you emotionally attached and the stakes high. Just my opinion not science lol.
Also an interesting question! Reminds me of the saying: 'It's better to hang out with people better than you. Pick your associates whose behavior is better than yours and you'll drift in that direction.' Vice versa, should hold true as well.
Hamza you are like the tribe leader you need to help us with more things other than making videos on women to get views since you are like the leader so you NEED criticism
He can make whatever content he likes. He’s made plenty videos on many other self improvement topics. Hundreds of videos on both channels about money, fitness, nutrition… go scroll on his channels instead of telling him how to do his job. This is what he’s talking about now. You’re free to make your own content.
Bros acting like a 1900s husdband, giving absolute no freedom to his girl whatsoever, this is some extreme muslim shit where they don't even let their women show their faces in public
@@priyanshthakkar6787 I get where you're coming from. But understand this, the "rules" and boundaries Hamza, myself and hundreds of other men put into place are actually for the good and benefit of every party involved. Let me explain. If Hamza tells his woman that she is to not use social media, he is protecting her. Woman are easily manipulated, and social media may plant negative or degenerate ideas into their minds, effectively posing them and ruining their mental health, while in the process comparing themselves to others. The consumption of social media is not healthy. it is not wholesome. this is but one example, but I think you are intelligent enough to put together the pieces as to why these boundaries must be set into place. The boundaries are there to protect the man, protect the woman and protect their future children.
@@YorktownClass no its not that. this is like the 10th relationship vid in a row. im not getting any value from them. his channel is self improvement not just relationships.
If you can’t change your girl, change your girl.
Not many understand but that shit is 🔥
🔥 100% agree
@@CM-ng4bg literally everyone understands this
sheesh this quote is fire
@@CM-ng4bgnot that difficult to comprehend mate
That moment you realize the “Y” in your girl is silent 😂
Didn't really understand but it's funny.
She's our girl, comrade
@@abdelkader_blkat that point its not YOUR girl, it's OUR girl. Hope that helped.
for the motherland!!!11!!!!
@@kevinsmithgaming thnx bro
"3000 GWAK GWAK"
" Eeew Eeeeuhuuuuu DISGUSTING" 💀😂 damn
Will remember it all for my future relationship.
😂😂😂😂😂
I was with a girl like this. She was a loving girl, but she had bad friends and friends that wanted to have something with her. When I discovered self-improvement, I knew that she wasn’t the right one. I tried to get her to the good habits, but of course it didn’t happen. She won’t change tbh. Just leave her if you are in this situation, you will find a better one.
PD: Just sharing my story. Nothing against her
Same, I was with a girl who was similar very loving, she would do anything for me and I mean anything but there were so many red flags with her and I ignored many of them, I'll just say she was bipolar so if you know anything about most bipolar people you already know what the red flags are but she came from a broken home and had a horribly traumatic upbringing, I just wanted to show her love and that there are nice genuine people in the world, I tried to get her on the right path and during our relationship it did seem like she was getting there but eventually everything was too much for me and it was becoming too toxic so we broke things off and then straight away she slips back into her old behaviours, parting, taking drugs and being a degenerate really.
It's sad because I know she has got it in her, she's very talented, she can draw and paint from the head as well as I've ever seen somebody do, she has great fashion sense and she's overall a very talented creative but she does nothing with her gifts and just continues on the path to nowhere, I don't like seeing it and I tried to help but there's only so much you can do, I let my own self go in order to prop her up which I shouldn't have done even though it was due to genuine love. I wish her all the best but ultimately it was a mistake to put her development first over my own because she could never be 'changed' even if she truly wanted it because she is already too broken because of her upbringing, cruel world.
@@stealthiscooltrue. I think it’s also important to remember leadership by example. A girl might want nothing to do with self improvement but there’s always the chance that she sees how great you are becoming and that in it of itself spurs her on to improve as well. Just a thought
hamza definitely getting too comfy here 😂😂
Bakwas 😅
@@vspro-vx7bv stop being a hamza drider please
@@TaiLung145fr man. the problem with a portion of hamzas viewers is how much they d ride. like supporting is fine but mfs make hamza their God or something lol
@@hhere2stay fr I think hamza says some unproven bs sometimes that makes some of his naive viewerd overthink everything and not think for themselves
I loved this video, remind me my toxic relationship that i quitted a few years ago
Hamza, I will forever be grateful for your work and lessons you taught us
Hamza the goat❤
Thank you for having a channel that presents unedited and purely educational content, it’s exceedingly useful for those of us who prefer not to indulge in videos that render a large amount of dopamine. All the best Hamza
I wish I heard this a year ago. You are the best Hamza
i love this video from 17:45 more
tuff love is so much needed
Wow, so much great advice. Thank you Hamza
Hamza really thumbs up for you. The quality of your advice is consistently high. I agree with everything you said in this video, I hope he will listen to it:)
Dear hamza I can't explain how useful this channel is for learning and hearing experiences, but recently all of your talk and the things you cover have been about relationships, so I would love to hear from you and our brothers in the comments like it if you agree with this comment so he sees it. We want to see a variety of things covered, not only relationships. Cover topics that are really deep since this channel is for people who are kind of advanced in self-improvement, like testosterone and 1% productivity rules, etc.
Again, I would love to say a big thank you to Hamza for the amazing content he provides.
I told my girl that neither one of us should speak to others about our relationship problems. If one of us is really stuck with the issue at hand and need some outside opinion then we are to make up a story, for example that we saw this video somewhere and what do you think about it, how would you react, what would you do, etc. That seems to be working really really well. It just allows both of us to focus on the problem at hand and although it might be awkward now talking about it, I guarantee that if this relationship lasts, the minute there's a problem later on it will be addressed immediately and we'll figure it out. Maybe something for others to implement into their relationship
bro if you read this big warning if she is anxious and you are avoidant be very carefull if you don't give her enough love it is exteremly possible to leave you for others, I have seen that happen with others.
I thought this was the unfiltered channel, the thumbnail communicates otherwise
"dont save her, she dont wanna be saved" 🗣🗣🗣🔥🔥🔥
I learned a long time ago that when girls say "he's just a friend".... nope he's not just a friend. This is the back burner guy(s) that when your relationship hits some stormy seas, this this is the dude that that she is going to go to and cry on his shoulder and its going to progress into her cheating. The "he just a friend" guy or "The back burner guy" whichever you want to call them is one of single biggest threats to your relationship. If you have a girl who has a male best friend or is friends with a bunch of guy friends, there are more red flags than a communist parade
I understand your opinion on the realationship and qualities.
We all go through this and this mf needs to get through it too. I literally look at myself back having no self respect in my relationship and get me bruv I'm only 15! I expirienced this shit, And the heartbreak hurts but you have to go through this. There's no other way of growth. If you're not planning to stop the relationship then something that is worse is going to happen. She will. I learned it in the hard way.
When hanza said (ie boy )😂 5:30
Bro aint holding back with the video titles 😅
18:52 had me rolling
This advice is why you're my only mentor. The improvement you've caused me to make with my self identity is unMATCHED.
Damn this is savage
Young men, please remember having a woman and getting a girlfriend will not solve all your problems. Do not spend all day thinking about your relationship and if your woman is feminine enough - this in itself is feminine. Once you get into your 20’s you will start to level up and see yourself with a different type of woman that you can at 18. Work on yourself, improve your social skills, have fun loving relationships with women, experience heartbreak. Only go into a relationship with an abundance mindset, not the first woman that shows you attention. Once you are attractive and of value to multiple women this is when you can choose your woman.
I really like these videos. I agree btw and can relate to it. I broke up and it was a great decision.
My guy was unhinged in this video 🤣🤣
In my experience I have actually been able to change the woman I was with to adopt a healthier lifestyle & reframe past traumas leading to a less degenerate life for them. So it is possible. The problem I then run into is on the other side they are usually grateful, but ultimately they're a different person at that point and thus realize they want someone else.
Always in the perfect fucking timing
The best advice I’ve heard. How can I ask you questions btw bro?
Looking massive bro
The visualisations Hamza told us to do within the first two minutes are WILD😂
He has a point.
Don't save her she dont wanna be saved don't save her
21:37 digital foreplay lmaoooo
That depends how much you drink alcohol! If you don't drink it everyday or every weekend, it's not that harmful.
If you try to help a person who's doing unhealthy activities daily without realizing they are bad they will just think you want to control them
When the girl is too low quality she will end up dragging him down too and over time he'll become low quality too.
It's like Hamza says you can only elevate a girl who is already at a decent level.
Meditation really helps to get clarity and realize wen you are lying to yourself.
If every guy meditated stuff like this would be much more rare.
I would get out!
Hamza: "By the way, I have been the male friend before. You wouldn't want someone like me to be your girl's male friend"🤣🤣
18:52 😂😂😂💀 wtf
Great content, little too red pilled for me, but here and there i pop in and double check the facts
Imagine being friends with a girl from childhood, then she gets a bf that listens to hamza's advice. Randomly, she says you both can't be friends anymore because her insecure boyfriend is scared of you desiring his girl. Life isn't that black and white, use your brain and be smart about it.
then that girl is an amazing wife, honestly
It's just a little bit off to be in a close friendship like that for me. Where you text a lot, go out together, go on holidays together ecc..
But I guess if it's a normal friendship, like old classmates or co-workers with whom you keep in touch from time to time. Or maybe being all part of a friend group where also your partner is being invited to. That's different and it seems fine.
But close friendships one on one, going basically on dates and being emiotionally intimate.. doesn't sound good to me. It smells of emotional cheating to say the least.
I guess it all depends on the specific situations and there are no hard rules. For some people something might be okay, for others not so much. It's called compatibility.
True, just use ur brain, and also even if they were close friends from childhood, in adult life they are 99% of time catching up on each other from time to time, if not (and they meet every second day) then they obviously have sympathy to each other
Barbarians 😂
Dude. Why Sam Sulek in the thumbnail? 😁
Thats not sam lol
9:34 had me cracking up
Why is sam sulek in the thumbnail 💀😭
Why is bro naked in February in the UK
5:30 Hamza Abi, I like your Jeffrey side.
"The Story of the Mountain Princess and the 4 Sticked Up Barbarians"
hey guuys... how can I ask hamza this type of advices...is this only for paid members👀????
Yes only for paid members
hamza been training traps
Fucking hell Hamza, do videos on other topics.
11:25 bruh
Real
i was facing the same thing. last month i have already block her and i have been improving alot since then . should i get back for her ?cause i still have some feelings for her
dont get back with her
no don't go back with her, even if you had an intention of getting back with her, you said its only been a month. She hasn't learned anything yet. And she needs to be calling you, and if you do take her back its got to be on your terms. She has to earn her way back with you, don't just hand her all your attention. If you do, she wont learn her lesson and it will just be a repeat vicious cycle. Don't make it easy for her.Don't fall for the crumbs she leaves, her liking your stories and posts on social media, responding to her texts or even reading them. You need to leave her on delivered.If you eat up the crumbs of attention she is leaving you, that's not teaching her anything.But the best thing would be is to never take her back, a lot of these girls out here have no accountability cause simps are inflating her ego and dudes don't drop the hammer on her ass. They do what you are asking, its been a month and you are asking if you should get back with her....Absolutely not. But if you are insistent on it needs to be more than a month separation and you need to make her take that murderous crawl back to the top with you again. And if she thinks she's too good to earn her way back....good, leave...bye bye....You aren't needed i dont care im sleeping good tonight, that's the mindset you need to be in. Hope this helps brother
@@Sean17768 He shouldn't take her back, period.
i’m wondering if hamza’s girlfriend jealous of his female friends and the girls he cold approached, considering hamza is the master of cold approaching🤔
Communicate. Tell her it's not what you want. If she doesn't like your views, leave
Is the guy in the thumbnail sam sulek? Or is it someone who looks like him
Its sam
As J. Cole said. Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved
She dont wanna be saved.
Dont save her ...PREACH BROTHER
Then proceeded to talk about how he wants Smith's relationship lol
Bro is that sam sulek in the thumbnail?
Naahh
hamza should rename this chanel to unfiltered dating advice who nobady gives a fuck about
What vids do u want then?
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@@concentrationrelaxing7987 totally agree, i think he makes TOO MUCH dating related videos that i personally dont give a fk about.
I do give a fuck. Many fucks even. Who is that "nobady" you're talking about?
Hamza, remove the timer on the left, i wanna focus on you, not the time, thanks
I feel like the post these people are writing are just using hamza buzz words 😂
A rule of thumb i like to ask myself is: " would I like my future kids to be 50% like her?"
50% cause of genetics, 50 you 50 her. Most of the time that's pretty easy to answer ("of course not").
Or would: "I like my future daughter to be like her?"
These questions enable long-term thinking and should disable your Jeffrey short-sighted, pleasure-seeking part of your brain. They cause you to distance the decision away from yourself, enabling a third-person perspective while still keeping you emotionally attached and the stakes high. Just my opinion not science lol.
"would i like myself to be 50% like her" too unless you want to be the type that is dominant and controlling
Also an interesting question! Reminds me of the saying: 'It's better to hang out with people better than you. Pick your associates whose behavior is better than yours and you'll drift in that direction.' Vice versa, should hold true as well.
No such thing as guy friends
You're so cute trying to define purpose for others
Hamzaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa……………………………
"bullshit. Bakwas."
"bullshit bakwas"😂
Gwak Gwak 3000
😂😂
TWO girls?
Hedonist Hamza
Hamza said bullshit bakwaas?
J Cole was right
Hamza said bakwas that was so. Hey hamza do you know how to speak urdu
5:25 Bro hamza im a big fan but this mentality is scary man
Right
That mentality is necessary.
@@Noqqin ?? How
@@rodrigo_tm Modern women are way out of control for you to do them the favor of humanizing them.
@@rodrigo_tmnot good for ur development
creates loads of problems for men on self improvement
9:37 fuck
Hamza you are like the tribe leader you need to help us with more things other than making videos on women to get views since you are like the leader so you NEED criticism
He can make whatever content he likes. He’s made plenty videos on many other self improvement topics. Hundreds of videos on both channels about money, fitness, nutrition… go scroll on his channels instead of telling him how to do his job. This is what he’s talking about now. You’re free to make your own content.
Bros acting like a 1900s husdband, giving absolute no freedom to his girl whatsoever, this is some extreme muslim shit where they don't even let their women show their faces in public
No hes saying dont get a girl who smokes, a degenerate online and has a irresponsible father. Very differnet. Did u even watch the video?
How’s this extreme 😭😭
@@Rick51 bros literally saying that if she doesnt do everything I say i'll break up w her, like who tf does he think he is
@@priyanshthakkar6787 I get where you're coming from. But understand this, the "rules" and boundaries Hamza, myself and hundreds of other men put into place are actually for the good and benefit of every party involved. Let me explain.
If Hamza tells his woman that she is to not use social media, he is protecting her. Woman are easily manipulated, and social media may plant negative or degenerate ideas into their minds, effectively posing them and ruining their mental health, while in the process comparing themselves to others.
The consumption of social media is not healthy. it is not wholesome.
this is but one example, but I think you are intelligent enough to put together the pieces as to why these boundaries must be set into place. The boundaries are there to protect the man, protect the woman and protect their future children.
1950's were the best times look at what "freedom" brought upon us, it's insane
bro we dont want relationship videos PLEASE
Aww... looks like someone's not getting the dopamine hit from hamzas videos 😢.
@@YorktownClass no its not that. this is like the 10th relationship vid in a row. im not getting any value from them. his channel is self improvement not just relationships.
since he's answering questions directed at him on this channel now most likely this is what people ask for@@gigachud7062
@@mIrOkAKkO bro how
you don't, to me this is helpful
first
fullscreen the video. stop looking at the comments.
1st?