That was a thing back in the early 2000s you would hop on Yahoo chat rooms I remember and argue with people about what band is metal and what band is metal I remember most people talk about Slayer Pantera Symphony X and all these other bands. You realize not everybody is going to enjoy the same music as you arguing about what band is better that's actually pretty stupid
Going to trauma therapy was the best thing I ever did for myself. I went from being a raging alcoholic that cried all the time to a functioning alcoholic that only cries when I watch Lord of The Rings.
I've been into metal, punk, and hardcore since I was a kid in the nineties and one of the FIRST things that sets off my cringe radar is to see people box themselves up in a nice little subcultural package.
Exactly! If you base your personality on your musical taste especially if you confine it to one genre or sub genre you are kind of dooming yourself from the gate!
One time in my teens I was making fun of a poser and my mom overheard, and she said "You're a teenager. You're all posers. You really think you're going to be walking around with a giant anarchy symbol on the back of your jacket ten years from now?" and that resonated with me lol.
I was actually shunned from my local punk community for not looking punk enough (I liked clean clothes and didnt feel the need to shave myself a Mohawk), even while I loved to go to punk shows… it was a eye opener
I didn't expect for this to turn into the Finn McKenty therapy hour, but I'm kinda glad it did. Just recently, I've begun to come to grips with my own depression and social ineptitude, and I've begun seeking help through antidepressants and therapy. Hearing Finn talk about how he's overcome his own mental hurdles is reassuring.
Finding myself a good therapist is the best decision I have ever made. If only more metalheads would get one then maybe the community would be pleasant for once.
@@finewine256xx no I agree. Suicide numbers don't lie either. The problem is a majority of men don't talk about it because "it's not manly to talk about feelings".
@Call Me, BLEGH Me, If You Wanna Reach Me here's the thing as well, not all girls who don't like metal are 'normie' girls. There's a whole wide world outside of metal and the metal obsessed are annoying as hell
I like how he contradicts himself, "like whatever metal band you like", then next clip "can't believe you listen to something so entry like ride the lightning" 😂
Don't take him too seriously when he is saying something like that about bands. You know what, don't do that overall, if you like it great, no one can take that from you, but don't feel attacked when others don't like it. It also was probably a joke
The only real experience I have with meeting other metalheads is that when I wore an Infant Annihilator shirt was a random dude saying "cool shirt" and I said "thanks" and we went our separate way.
I've met a number of cool metal heads irl. Mostly 30 somethings with beer guts and receding hair lines, and not big tiddy goth queens. Is that a non non biyori profile photo? Non non biyori is metal as fuck
Well, I'm not very outgoing and only really hang out with my friends in private instead of going out and most of them listen to many different things (Metal included) And yes, it's from NNB
As someone who suffers from waking up everyday and thinking that I should kill myself also, I'm very happy to hear you talk about your struggles. It really helps. I went through the worst depression in my life earlier this year, and everyday that I was going through that depression, I would wake up and want to die. Didn't want to get up and do anything. But with help from a therapist and friends and family, I got through it
Happy you were able to get through it, I’ve struggled with depression/ anxiety my whole life and for the last year and a half I’ve felt the best I’ve ever felt before, having supportive friends, outside help like a therapist and strength to push through can really change your life
Dude get on skateboard, skate around the neighborhood. Go take a walk at the park. Lift weights and exercise. Jus getting fresh air helps. Truss bro I know howb you feel. I ve been suffering from addiction my whole life and was suicidal
This ended up way more serious than I expected, but it's a good topic. The extreme metal scene has some real mental health issues running rampant in it. I mean, look at the lyrics to some of the bands we listen to. There's something inherently unhealthy about liking a band called, say, Suicide Silence (and I say that as a fan of the band)
This is what I like with the whole PRMBA community: we're all aware that at some point, we're one of those cringey people. But good thing we are getting our shit sorted and not giving up. And we don't want the new kids to go through what we've been through, that's why we make fun of them served with some life pro tips on the side.
Yep. Was totally one of these guys for pretty much all of my youth. While I now have gainful employment, a great family (my 3 year old son is “pretty thrash”) and am in a relatively better headspace, I do occasionally wonder “did I sell out?” I quickly realize that sort of question is my old cringe creeping back up on me and snap out of it. But yeah…it’s so bizarre that the old me hated people like the new current well adjusted me.
Finn: You shouldn’t be afraid to talk to new people. Just walk up and introduce yourself. Chances are they will be relieved! Also Finn: I actively take steps to avoid talking to new people in public. I do not want to talk to you about music. Please do not approach me.
You are 100% spot on with the social anxiety stuff. I am always blown away when anyone wants to talk to me and can never initiate a single conversation. And it's only gotten worse with age because I'm so out of practice with socializing.
You nailed it when it came to so many of the stereotypes us metal heads have when it comes to mental health and social skills. I was that depressed awkward Metal elitist in high school and luckily over the years managed to break free of so many of these issues. I’m almost 30 and am way happier, more socially confident and more open to other music including pop. Still a metal guy at my core but in a much healthier place, thanks Finn for relating your own experiences and calling out the issues with the Metal community.
I've learned over the years that metal elitism is misspent energy. I could give 2 fucks whether Slipknot is metal or if the new Mastodon post-Crack the Skye sucks (it does not).
I have Manic Bipolar disorder, ADD, and substance abuse issues. Hearing something like this gives me a little hope that the terrible stigma about mental health issues being something you just have to live with is reassuring that my attempts at trying to change aren't for nothing. I needed that .
I only recently got out of my pop hating phase. I started a pop rock band to "sell out" and started listening to top 40s pop for research. I ended up loving a lot of it. Now music is the most fun it's been years and I'm all in on the pop rock!
The dude who drums to the huskies also does "blast beats in songs that shouldn't have blast beats" and it cracks me up, because he is way too good at it. I think the most cringe to me is the use of metal for thirst trap videos, it's just trying way too hard.
Not just a great guy at Podcasts or Reviews on the music scene or music history but also a subtle Dating Coach nice one Finn you're such a genuine guy🙂😉.
Hey Finn. I know you had to deal with some shit from some people on your last stream. Just wanted to let you know that I look forward to all of your videos on both channels. Keep up the good work, and don't let any of the nasty and toxic people on social media get to you. You're more honest, sincere, and real than they will ever be. Nothing but love.
Problem with depression is that, if you have it long enough it becomes ever harder to get out of it. I know that, thanks to the stigma and just general disbelief of people around me when I started to get really depressed, I went around with suicidal thoughts and whatnot for years without treatment. And thanks to depression and anxiety being the norm for so long, it is now the default setting of my brain. The neural pathways are built in such a way that actually changing it is hard fucking work, and every step forwards can easily be met with two steps backwards due to circumstances completely out of my control. Depression brain is weird...
I was diagnosed with schizophrenia 9 years ago, and it's amazing how many people will listen to you if you say you have depression or anxiety but when I start talking about psychosis people leave the room, because they don't relate.
I’ve always considered myself a “metalhead” because I mostly listen to stuff like WASP, Lizzy Borden, and Dokken, but feel so disconnected when I see these tik toks from actual “metalhead culture”. I guess I’m just a poser, and if that means I don’t fall in line with these people, that’s fine lmao
You are totally correct about social anxiety. I've lived with it for as long as I can remember and it really harms my ability to form basic friendships. But I'm not getting better by being a opinionated alpha online and just hiding myself in a proverbial hole IRL. I am my worst self when I'm in those head spaces. I've been improving because I force myself into uncomfortable situations. As a result I've gotten to be closer with my coworkers who are cool as shit and I'm much further away from suicide than I was a year and a half ago. You don't need therapy to start your road to getting better. You just have to try even when it sucks.
When it comes to say "I'm going to blast this mainstream metal band that annoys, or scares my neighbors", it really shows their age. I don't correct my dad because of how small it is in the scope of thing, but he and others in his generation are convinced that like Iron Maiden, The big four or even like guns and roses are underground because most radio stations wouldn't play them.
I really felt what you were saying about depression. About a year ago I also had very severe depression, to the point where I was considering suicide on a daily basis. While I did use humour as a coping mechanism I’ve never understood why my generation (Gen Z) act like it’s completely normal. It wasn’t until I opened up to some close friends about it that I realised how harmful it is to bottle it all up & pretend everything’s ok when it’s not
I was a depressed metalhead but never accepted that, I fucking hated every second of it. I was absolutely miserable for most of my 20s but my parents and friends helped me out and my ex basically dragged me to therapy.
On the last day of school last year, I passed this kid I didn't know in the hall. We were the only ones around and we were both wearing different Knocked Loose shirts. We made a solid five seconds of eye contact and then just looked away super awkwardly without saying a word to each other
I don’t like the romanticizing and derrr this is relatable suffering posting of mental illness stuff. Mostly because I legitimately went through hell with mental illness and hard drug addiction and I don’t like making light of it after barely surviving it myself. I literally spent years having so many panic attacks that my life/ family/ future/ friendships were all on the brink of destruction. Then of course I resorted to self medicating and that brought me down to an even lower more depraved place towards the end when I couldn’t find oxy anymore and started mixing meth and heroin. It’s bad news and I don’t like to see it becoming a cutesy internet niche where people identify with their mental illness and “badge of honor” it like you said. Regardless I’m lucky to be alive don’t do drugs kids lol
Him: the metal comunity is full of toxic people bashing people for their tastes and that's bad Also him: "proceeds to tell you metallica or other band or genre he doesnt like sucks" Yeah, ok
Im always impressed by how much Finn detests the metalhead community and black metal xD I understand its filled with cringy people (everything is honestly) but the extent of Finns hatred is so entertaining
I wake up just about every day, whether a work day or an off day, depressed af and not wanting to exist, wanting nothing more than to go back to sleep to escape that feeling. The only things that keep me pushing through are my wife, my kids, and metal.
Damn Finn, hate to hear about your depression, but also glad that you're good now. I used to make jokes about self-harm and depression too but it really isn't good to joke about. Real people struggle with real emotions and more times than not we really don't know what someone is really dealing with.
Where I live, when people know I listen to metal, they always ask the same two questions.... "You listen to loud music? But you don't dress like it?" "So, you are a metalhead? Metallica and stuff like that, right?"
Lmao you're comment about band merch is so spot on. Never make the mistake of wearing a Lamb of God or Pantera shirt in Texas or the south in general. Ear bearings will continue until morale improves
I didnt expect to have an important life advice from a TikTok react video. This Made me question myself as a metal/hardcore fan and all that im-sociallly-akward thing
8:40 it's from the movie Waiting... Alana Ubach is the aggro waitress that got pissed at the dishwasher trying to psychoanalyze her. 9:40 is from a 2018 twitter video of a guy at an MMA fight
Hey, Finn! I’m a metalhead. Let’s talk about: 1)Business influencers 2) Books 3) Comedians 4) Prehistoric life 4) Movies 5) food 6) culture 7) Art 8) other kinds of music 9) Or part ways respectfully if you have other things to do.
The song is OG Loko by Of mice and Men, the meme in question comes from some amateur wrestling match and I’m not sure if that was a bit or if he’s extremely into the match and giving honest advice lol
I wear band tees from bands that were popular 15 years ago, but still kinda obscure (Secret and Whisper for example), so almost no one ever comes up to me and talks to me about my taste in music, but when they do (once every 2 - 5 years) it's always nice 😅
I’d say it’s not that we can’t talk about anything other than metal, it’s just coming across other people that actually love metal too is so rare that it’s refreshing to nerd out on it for a bit. Solid advice for initiating conversations though, we all could afford to get out of our comfort zones now and again
Also some of us will talk to anyone and about things that don't revolve around Metal. I feel it's mostly younger fans that fit most of Finn's descriptions.
That’s why I only wear hardcore band merch because no one else ever knows the band also what you said about your depression is so spot on , I would constantly think about killing myself in the same way you would untill my friends and family finally told me that i need to get help for it because my mood was always terrible due to the fact I was depressed and wanted to kill myself , so I went to the doctor and got on anti depressants and had someone to talk to and it made my life livable again , I hope that kids these days know that if they really are feeling real depression that there is help , also a lot of my ex straight edge friends gave me Terrible advice because they were scared of any prescription drugs but I needed anti depressants idk what else yo say about that but I hope everyone gets the help they need
I got to agree on Metal community being rather toxic. I find it ironic that metalheads love to talk about being a one big family and yet they constantly bicker who is more 'metal'. It is hard for me to say because Metal really helped me when I was at my low point but at the same time, it also held me there longer than it should have. It is like they want you to know it is okay to feel bad but once you decide to get actually healthy they try to drag you back down. That's why Hardcore resonated with me better even though it has it's fair share of problems.
I've seen people glorify schizophrenia, and bipolar disorder which is just insane imo. It's not something to joke about, and if you do have it you NEED the help. Seeing it first hand, really opens one's eyes to just how horrible these mental illnesses are and can be.
This is why I dont listen to as much Metal nowadays. It's a big part of my life growing up but damn if listening to 24/7 death metal and depressed metal doesnt drag you down deeper. I spent many years trying to get into bands just to be edgy and for the cred. I also finally broke out of my social anxiety shell because I wasnt wallowing in despair.
I work with people like that . They find out I'm an old school metal head from the eighties and nineties and they just want to talk metal. I half the bands that I like They've never heard of them period
Kreator, damn, that takes me way back..... I guess we can be fossils together on your channel My wife who is more flower child, than anything else has stolen all my old metal shirts, my 72 year old father wears my Immolation shirt to dye his hair..... I'm crying inside, those shirts are 30 years old
What your advising is basically "be a metalhead, but act like a normie in public". I've tried that for a few years and I'm stil depressed, socially anxious and forever alone. Maybe I didn't try hard enough (as I live in a province full of rich snobs and specific guideliness of acting in public), but I'm still where I was when I had long hair and wore my battle vest to school. And I get your point, don't be annoying about metal to other people, but if metal is one of the only things in life that makes you truly happy, fuck everyone else and what they think. That's what I realized after trying to appeal to people with how I look and dress and act for a few years.
You may not be the internet uncle young metalheads want, but you're the one they need. 10 years ago some of this advice would have saved me a decade of humiliation 🤣
Finn: criticizes the major problem in the metal community of hating on people for liking specific bands Also Finn: proceeds to criticize someone for listening to Metallica simply on the grounds of them being old contributing to another problem in music
Somebody releases a video like that metalhead kid and when it doesnt “work” they become hateful to women. Hope he doesnt end up on that path man it is a shame to see the entitlement in that department in present times. Telling themselves like “see i put this out there i told everybody why they should date me and still nobody will so fuck women”.. its brutal man i hope that changes.
One time this girl was kinda half-interested in me, then she said she listened to Kitty and Hed(pe), and my heart utterly recoiled in pain. I had to speak on my preference for Black Metal and Grindcore, mentioning the ADHD-goodness of early Agoraphobic Nosebleed. We went on one-half-a-date and I got the friendly hug goodbye. Needless to say, she just wasn't cool enough for me, and she knew it.
I think it's sad that some people care or worry about what other people think about what they like. I'm mostly into Metalcore, but I also love Ghost. And lots of other different bands. And I couldn't care less what anyone thinks about that.
The best way to defeat social anxiety is to just go talk to someone. 9/10 times people are receptive. Especially if it's clear you already have something in common.
On all these gatekeeper topics: I think Finn is totally right. I am not sorry of listening to the bands and music I like. No matter what some sad and angry person in the internet or "in real Life" is saying. I do like Punk, Metal, but also House, Pop and even Classical stuff. I do not like anything in every music genre neither. But I do not go around bullying people that have another musical taste. Keep calm and stop gatekeeping. 😉
My first job where I interacted with someone in a position of authority who was into a more extreme music genre was the chef at the first bussing job I ever had. He realized I was interested in hardcore punk and immediately took me to the restaurant in the lower level of the hotel below us and introduced me to the chef there, Jimmy Gestapo from Murphy's Law. NYC is simultaneously a huge and really tiny city. I remember sitting in the coffee and espresso prep area gossiping about the Harley Flanagan stabbing incident while sneaking hotel happy hour sangria.
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Finn, the song in the minute 9:20 of the video is Of Mice & Men - O.G. Loko :)
Yes Metallica fucking sucks somebody said it. Most default band
Mate this is a very nice surprise to get some profound advice!
That was a thing back in the early 2000s you would hop on Yahoo chat rooms I remember and argue with people about what band is metal and what band is metal I remember most people talk about Slayer Pantera Symphony X and all these other bands. You realize not everybody is going to enjoy the same music as you arguing about what band is better that's actually pretty stupid
Going to trauma therapy was the best thing I ever did for myself. I went from being a raging alcoholic that cried all the time to a functioning alcoholic that only cries when I watch Lord of The Rings.
progress 👌👌😤😤💯💯
who doesnt cry when watching lord of the rings
@@ryancleland7694 Soulless Uruks, that’s who
Next stop sobriety 🙏 but I'm pretty sure your destined to cry during Lord of the rings for the rest of your days
lotr IS pretty emotional tho.
How to be a metalhead: listen to metal and like it and... yep that's pretty much it I guess.
Very true all you need is the music we can say this about all music subcultures nothing else is needed but the music 🎶
So simple that metalheads need to make it complex
My guy
I used to be full long hair, big boots, band t-shirts. Still wasn't the key part of my personality. Why can't others accept it's just a genre? :')
I must be a metal-hardcore-punk-metalcore-jazz-synthwave-pop-EDM head
I've been into metal, punk, and hardcore since I was a kid in the nineties and one of the FIRST things that sets off my cringe radar is to see people box themselves up in a nice little subcultural package.
Exactly! If you base your personality on your musical taste especially if you confine it to one genre or sub genre you are kind of dooming yourself from the gate!
They want to be a part of something that's larger than themselves
One time in my teens I was making fun of a poser and my mom overheard, and she said "You're a teenager. You're all posers. You really think you're going to be walking around with a giant anarchy symbol on the back of your jacket ten years from now?" and that resonated with me lol.
@@jeremythomas3064 lol parents owning kids with solid life advice is the best.
I was actually shunned from my local punk community for not looking punk enough (I liked clean clothes and didnt feel the need to shave myself a Mohawk), even while I loved to go to punk shows… it was a eye opener
I didn't expect for this to turn into the Finn McKenty therapy hour, but I'm kinda glad it did. Just recently, I've begun to come to grips with my own depression and social ineptitude, and I've begun seeking help through antidepressants and therapy. Hearing Finn talk about how he's overcome his own mental hurdles is reassuring.
Finding myself a good therapist is the best decision I have ever made. If only more metalheads would get one then maybe the community would be pleasant for once.
EVERYBODY needs therapy, not just metal heads
@@steveremo474 true
Based on this weird comment of yours, you need another therapy session 😂
@@finewine256xx no I agree. Suicide numbers don't lie either. The problem is a majority of men don't talk about it because "it's not manly to talk about feelings".
It don’t work
Watching this was like telling ur parents a story and them making it into a lecture 💀
That “don’t talk to the cute normie girl” bit fucking SLAUGHTERED ME 😂
@Call Me, BLEGH Me, If You Wanna Reach Me here's the thing as well, not all girls who don't like metal are 'normie' girls. There's a whole wide world outside of metal and the metal obsessed are annoying as hell
I felt so called out, especially since I love DragonForce
@Call Me, BLEGH Me, If You Wanna Reach Me you literally answered all of your own questions. Examine your own cringe comments.
@@meowtherainbowx4163 good, you deserve to get called out
I appreciate how much Finn covers soft skills in this video.
I like how he contradicts himself, "like whatever metal band you like", then next clip "can't believe you listen to something so entry like ride the lightning" 😂
Yea hes a hypocrite
It's a joke man, it's cool to have fun of some stereotypes sometimes
idk it felt rude to me. metallica got me into metal and i'm sure it did tons of other people, and idk why he hates on it
Don't take him too seriously when he is saying something like that about bands. You know what, don't do that overall, if you like it great, no one can take that from you, but don't feel attacked when others don't like it. It also was probably a joke
@@brunowilliam7529 I don’t feel attacked. I’ve never listened to metallic, I genuinely found it funny.
The only real experience I have with meeting other metalheads is that when I wore an Infant Annihilator shirt was a random dude saying "cool shirt" and I said "thanks" and we went our separate way.
I've met a number of cool metal heads irl. Mostly 30 somethings with beer guts and receding hair lines, and not big tiddy goth queens.
Is that a non non biyori profile photo?
Non non biyori is metal as fuck
Well, I'm not very outgoing and only really hang out with my friends in private instead of going out and most of them listen to many different things (Metal included)
And yes, it's from NNB
As someone who suffers from waking up everyday and thinking that I should kill myself also, I'm very happy to hear you talk about your struggles. It really helps. I went through the worst depression in my life earlier this year, and everyday that I was going through that depression, I would wake up and want to die. Didn't want to get up and do anything. But with help from a therapist and friends and family, I got through it
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You know I used to feel that way… but then I started studying the ancient mysteries … and Ways of illumination. They saved my life.
I’ve once felt as you have described. .
A decent diet,exercise regime and a combat sport.
100% changed my life.
Happy you were able to get through it, I’ve struggled with depression/ anxiety my whole life and for the last year and a half I’ve felt the best I’ve ever felt before, having supportive friends, outside help like a therapist and strength to push through can really change your life
Dude get on skateboard, skate around the neighborhood. Go take a walk at the park. Lift weights and exercise. Jus getting fresh air helps. Truss bro I know howb you feel. I ve been suffering from addiction my whole life and was suicidal
This ended up way more serious than I expected, but it's a good topic. The extreme metal scene has some real mental health issues running rampant in it. I mean, look at the lyrics to some of the bands we listen to. There's something inherently unhealthy about liking a band called, say, Suicide Silence (and I say that as a fan of the band)
This is what I like with the whole PRMBA community: we're all aware that at some point, we're one of those cringey people. But good thing we are getting our shit sorted and not giving up. And we don't want the new kids to go through what we've been through, that's why we make fun of them served with some life pro tips on the side.
Exactly
Yep. Was totally one of these guys for pretty much all of my youth. While I now have gainful employment, a great family (my 3 year old son is “pretty thrash”) and am in a relatively better headspace, I do occasionally wonder “did I sell out?” I quickly realize that sort of question is my old cringe creeping back up on me and snap out of it. But yeah…it’s so bizarre that the old me hated people like the new current well adjusted me.
@@stewartdowouis9218 You matured bro, and that's what's up. 🍺
Finn: You shouldn’t be afraid to talk to new people. Just walk up and introduce yourself. Chances are they will be relieved!
Also Finn: I actively take steps to avoid talking to new people in public. I do not want to talk to you about music. Please do not approach me.
Lol. Well, don’t punish people with your music taste
@@FinnMckentyPRMBA "don't be a punisher" seems like the jist haha
@@FinnMckentyPRMBA lol fair enough
You are 100% spot on with the social anxiety stuff. I am always blown away when anyone wants to talk to me and can never initiate a single conversation. And it's only gotten worse with age because I'm so out of practice with socializing.
You nailed it when it came to so many of the stereotypes us metal heads have when it comes to mental health and social skills. I was that depressed awkward Metal elitist in high school and luckily over the years managed to break free of so many of these issues. I’m almost 30 and am way happier, more socially confident and more open to other music including pop. Still a metal guy at my core but in a much healthier place, thanks Finn for relating your own experiences and calling out the issues with the Metal community.
I've learned over the years that metal elitism is misspent energy. I could give 2 fucks whether Slipknot is metal or if the new Mastodon post-Crack the Skye sucks (it does not).
I have Manic Bipolar disorder, ADD, and substance abuse issues. Hearing something like this gives me a little hope that the terrible stigma about mental health issues being something you just have to live with is reassuring that my attempts at trying to change aren't for nothing. I needed that .
I only recently got out of my pop hating phase. I started a pop rock band to "sell out" and started listening to top 40s pop for research. I ended up loving a lot of it. Now music is the most fun it's been years and I'm all in on the pop rock!
What’s your current fave? Love this story.
I love when Finn leans forward and talks distinctly and soft in the 🎙🤣
Arguing with kids in slayer comments is lame, real men argue with djent kids and deftones/soad fans online 💪
Exactly
*angry Djent kid noises*
Lol
@@finewine256xx so is every other fanbase. Like Megadeth, Slayer, Overkill and so on.
The dude who drums to the huskies also does "blast beats in songs that shouldn't have blast beats" and it cracks me up, because he is way too good at it. I think the most cringe to me is the use of metal for thirst trap videos, it's just trying way too hard.
Not just a great guy at Podcasts or Reviews on the music scene or music history but also a subtle Dating Coach nice one Finn you're such a genuine guy🙂😉.
Hey Finn. I know you had to deal with some shit from some people on your last stream. Just wanted to let you know that I look forward to all of your videos on both channels. Keep up the good work, and don't let any of the nasty and toxic people on social media get to you. You're more honest, sincere, and real than they will ever be. Nothing but love.
Thank you!
Say what you will about the metalhead community but Ride the Lightning is still one of the greatest metal albums of all time.
"C-tier grindcore band from Indonesia" made me laugh way harder than it should have
Problem with depression is that, if you have it long enough it becomes ever harder to get out of it. I know that, thanks to the stigma and just general disbelief of people around me when I started to get really depressed, I went around with suicidal thoughts and whatnot for years without treatment.
And thanks to depression and anxiety being the norm for so long, it is now the default setting of my brain. The neural pathways are built in such a way that actually changing it is hard fucking work, and every step forwards can easily be met with two steps backwards due to circumstances completely out of my control. Depression brain is weird...
I was diagnosed with schizophrenia 9 years ago, and it's amazing how many people will listen to you if you say you have depression or anxiety but when I start talking about psychosis people leave the room, because they don't relate.
Thats gotta be tough, hats off to you for dealing with it!
This first one was a surprisingly tender take on something that could be so cringey. Really dig your uplifting attitude!
I’ve always considered myself a “metalhead” because I mostly listen to stuff like WASP, Lizzy Borden, and Dokken, but feel so disconnected when I see these tik toks from actual “metalhead culture”. I guess I’m just a poser, and if that means I don’t fall in line with these people, that’s fine lmao
If anything they're the posers, cause guess what they're doing on Tik Tok?
Posing.
I guess cos hair bands haven’t really survived the rest of time as “trve bands”.
@@Eirik_Bloodaxe sadly, there will never be a hair metal revival (at least the sound)
@@GordonSlamsay At least we got Steel Panther lol
@@6maniac6metal6 Steel Panther will always be funny as fuck, can't top them. great guitar work, too
You are totally correct about social anxiety. I've lived with it for as long as I can remember and it really harms my ability to form basic friendships. But I'm not getting better by being a opinionated alpha online and just hiding myself in a proverbial hole IRL. I am my worst self when I'm in those head spaces.
I've been improving because I force myself into uncomfortable situations. As a result I've gotten to be closer with my coworkers who are cool as shit and I'm much further away from suicide than I was a year and a half ago. You don't need therapy to start your road to getting better. You just have to try even when it sucks.
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This channel is quickly overtaking PRMBA for me.
When it comes to say "I'm going to blast this mainstream metal band that annoys, or scares my neighbors", it really shows their age. I don't correct my dad because of how small it is in the scope of thing, but he and others in his generation are convinced that like Iron Maiden, The big four or even like guns and roses are underground because most radio stations wouldn't play them.
I love how this type of videos always and up in Finn parenting metalheads and giving them actual decent advice
I really felt what you were saying about depression. About a year ago I also had very severe depression, to the point where I was considering suicide on a daily basis. While I did use humour as a coping mechanism I’ve never understood why my generation (Gen Z) act like it’s completely normal. It wasn’t until I opened up to some close friends about it that I realised how harmful it is to bottle it all up & pretend everything’s ok when it’s not
I was a depressed metalhead but never accepted that, I fucking hated every second of it. I was absolutely miserable for most of my 20s but my parents and friends helped me out and my ex basically dragged me to therapy.
As a metal fan I gotta say Metalheads online are HUUUGE HUGE TOOLS
They get mad at pop fans for not liking the same shit
Its honestly really annoying.
The bandlogo with the straight lines is from an NSBM band. You can see that some lines are thicker, forming a svastika.
Big props to that guys mom for being able discern lyrics from her first listen 🤷♀️
On the last day of school last year, I passed this kid I didn't know in the hall. We were the only ones around and we were both wearing different Knocked Loose shirts. We made a solid five seconds of eye contact and then just looked away super awkwardly without saying a word to each other
The expectations vs reality one is so accurate and what you say about that 💯
I don’t like the romanticizing and derrr this is relatable suffering posting of mental illness stuff. Mostly because I legitimately went through hell with mental illness and hard drug addiction and I don’t like making light of it after barely surviving it myself. I literally spent years having so many panic attacks that my life/ family/ future/ friendships were all on the brink of destruction. Then of course I resorted to self medicating and that brought me down to an even lower more depraved place towards the end when I couldn’t find oxy anymore and started mixing meth and heroin. It’s bad news and I don’t like to see it becoming a cutesy internet niche where people identify with their mental illness and “badge of honor” it like you said. Regardless I’m lucky to be alive don’t do drugs kids lol
Whoaaaaa, what's the Ride the Lightning hate? Very interesting take. Basic entry level or not, it's such a perfect album.
"show your scars, not your open wounds"
I'm not into inspirationnal quotes but this line is pretty rad.
I Couldn't imagine someone from the 90s reacting to this shit without hurting themselves or others
Finn shitting on metallica and the next tiktok he shows the music is, "for who the bell tolls" haha.
Him: the metal comunity is full of toxic people bashing people for their tastes and that's bad
Also him: "proceeds to tell you metallica or other band or genre he doesnt like sucks"
Yeah, ok
Im always impressed by how much Finn detests the metalhead community and black metal xD I understand its filled with cringy people (everything is honestly) but the extent of Finns hatred is so entertaining
Love your content dude. Im saying that as a person who listens to lots and lots of black metal xD
well maybe because the community sucks so much
(not everyone of course)
I wake up just about every day, whether a work day or an off day, depressed af and not wanting to exist, wanting nothing more than to go back to sleep to escape that feeling. The only things that keep me pushing through are my wife, my kids, and metal.
Damn Finn, hate to hear about your depression, but also glad that you're good now. I used to make jokes about self-harm and depression too but it really isn't good to joke about. Real people struggle with real emotions and more times than not we really don't know what someone is really dealing with.
Where I live, when people know I listen to metal, they always ask the same two questions....
"You listen to loud music? But you don't dress like it?"
"So, you are a metalhead? Metallica and stuff like that, right?"
Lmao you're comment about band merch is so spot on. Never make the mistake of wearing a Lamb of God or Pantera shirt in Texas or the south in general. Ear bearings will continue until morale improves
I didnt expect to have an important life advice from a TikTok react video. This Made me question myself as a metal/hardcore fan and all that im-sociallly-akward thing
8:40 it's from the movie Waiting... Alana Ubach is the aggro waitress that got pissed at the dishwasher trying to psychoanalyze her. 9:40 is from a 2018 twitter video of a guy at an MMA fight
Its one thing to say "i have depression" and recognize that its a condition one has to deal with, entirely another to wallow in it.
It makes me happy to see you talking about some of the people I really enjoy on TikTok. Stoked to see more of this content 🤘🏻
the song "want somebody to love" was jefferson airplane not janis. good vid , love the channel
I love how you are spitting out truth after truth in this video. Great life lessons man!
I literally lol’ed cause I’m wearing a Metallica T and ride the lightning is one of my favorites.
battle vests' are still a thing? Brings me back to the 80s. I thought jean jackets went out back in the 20th century.
I like to confuse people by wearing a metal shirt to a show like Thrice. Or a New Found Glory shirt to a metal show.
Hey, Finn! I’m a metalhead. Let’s talk about:
1)Business influencers
2) Books
3) Comedians
4) Prehistoric life
4) Movies
5) food
6) culture
7) Art
8) other kinds of music
9) Or part ways respectfully if you have other things to do.
I used to be the 'I hate pop' kid....But then I grew up lol. I'm 27 now, am not afraid to admit that I love Shawn Mendes.
The song is OG Loko by Of mice and Men, the meme in question comes from some amateur wrestling match and I’m not sure if that was a bit or if he’s extremely into the match and giving honest advice lol
Sad nobody caught the song at 9:30 - OG Loko Of Mice & Men. Warped tour remix for full effect
I wear band tees from bands that were popular 15 years ago, but still kinda obscure (Secret and Whisper for example), so almost no one ever comes up to me and talks to me about my taste in music, but when they do (once every 2 - 5 years) it's always nice 😅
I’d say it’s not that we can’t talk about anything other than metal, it’s just coming across other people that actually love metal too is so rare that it’s refreshing to nerd out on it for a bit.
Solid advice for initiating conversations though, we all could afford to get out of our comfort zones now and again
Also some of us will talk to anyone and about things that don't revolve around Metal. I feel it's mostly younger fans that fit most of Finn's descriptions.
“tHeYRe nOT t0Yz! There Figurines!”
proud googler of "Grease Theme Song heavy metal version"
*THIS SHOULD BE PLAYED AT HIGH VOLUME*
*PREFERABLY IN A RESIDENTIAL AREA*
That’s why I only wear hardcore band merch because no one else ever knows the band also what you said about your depression is so spot on , I would constantly think about killing myself in the same way you would untill my friends and family finally told me that i need to get help for it because my mood was always terrible due to the fact I was depressed and wanted to kill myself , so I went to the doctor and got on anti depressants and had someone to talk to and it made my life livable again , I hope that kids these days know that if they really are feeling real depression that there is help , also a lot of my ex straight edge friends gave me Terrible advice because they were scared of any prescription drugs but I needed anti depressants idk what else yo say about that but I hope everyone gets the help they need
Tax accountant who listens to metal here - I also talk about taxes 🤷🏻♀️🤣
I got to agree on Metal community being rather toxic. I find it ironic that metalheads love to talk about being a one big family and yet they constantly bicker who is more 'metal'. It is hard for me to say because Metal really helped me when I was at my low point but at the same time, it also held me there longer than it should have. It is like they want you to know it is okay to feel bad but once you decide to get actually healthy they try to drag you back down. That's why Hardcore resonated with me better even though it has it's fair share of problems.
I feel the exact same way hardcore is so much more accepting and fun to be apart of
I find no contradiction in that, thats a one big family for you.
@@brennanc4321 Haha, yeah... Such an irony. I realized that myself when I wrote it.
Being a wild and crazy kid and somehow surviving the late 80s and early 90s plus a lot of horrible questionable choices made me normal lol \m/
I've seen people glorify schizophrenia, and bipolar disorder which is just insane imo. It's not something to joke about, and if you do have it you NEED the help. Seeing it first hand, really opens one's eyes to just how horrible these mental illnesses are and can be.
How to be a metalhead. Just be a metalhead and leave the social media out of it
This is why I dont listen to as much Metal nowadays. It's a big part of my life growing up but damn if listening to 24/7 death metal and depressed metal doesnt drag you down deeper. I spent many years trying to get into bands just to be edgy and for the cred. I also finally broke out of my social anxiety shell because I wasnt wallowing in despair.
Somebody to love is most definitely a Jefferson Airplane song
I'm proud you overcame depression man! its a hard dragon to slay! So happy for you. We're both out of the cave. :)
I work with people like that . They find out I'm an old school metal head from the eighties and nineties and they just want to talk metal. I half the bands that I like They've never heard of them period
Kreator, damn, that takes me way back.....
I guess we can be fossils together on your channel
My wife who is more flower child, than anything else has stolen all my old metal shirts, my 72 year old father wears my Immolation shirt to dye his hair..... I'm crying inside, those shirts are 30 years old
What your advising is basically "be a metalhead, but act like a normie in public". I've tried that for a few years and I'm stil depressed, socially anxious and forever alone. Maybe I didn't try hard enough (as I live in a province full of rich snobs and specific guideliness of acting in public), but I'm still where I was when I had long hair and wore my battle vest to school. And I get your point, don't be annoying about metal to other people, but if metal is one of the only things in life that makes you truly happy, fuck everyone else and what they think. That's what I realized after trying to appeal to people with how I look and dress and act for a few years.
“Once again it’s really brutal.” Video summed up in a sentence 🤘
Adding memes to metal breakdowns is the greatest thing ever
You may not be the internet uncle young metalheads want, but you're the one they need. 10 years ago some of this advice would have saved me a decade of humiliation 🤣
Are we all fighting about the dishes cuz I know it's happening at my house all the f****** time 🤣🤣🤣😭
Not wanting to wear band merch because you don't want metalheads to talk to you sounds like a you problem.
I’m not even into metal that much anymore but if I can talk to a stranger about Carcass I’m gonna!!!
Finn: criticizes the major problem in the metal community of hating on people for liking specific bands
Also Finn: proceeds to criticize someone for listening to Metallica simply on the grounds of them being old contributing to another problem in music
I think your humor detector is broken
the twist the dick part reminded me of that guy who yelled mash potatoes at a golf event.
Somebody releases a video like that metalhead kid and when it doesnt “work” they become hateful to women. Hope he doesnt end up on that path man it is a shame to see the entitlement in that department in present times. Telling themselves like “see i put this out there i told everybody why they should date me and still nobody will so fuck women”.. its brutal man i hope that changes.
Good point
The band on the far right that is 3rd under the red logo is a dsbm called Xasthur, one my favorite black metal bands
Ayo that’s me serotonin metalhead appreciate you brotha 🤣🤘🏽
One time this girl was kinda half-interested in me, then she said she listened to Kitty and Hed(pe), and my heart utterly recoiled in pain. I had to speak on my preference for Black Metal and Grindcore, mentioning the ADHD-goodness of early Agoraphobic Nosebleed. We went on one-half-a-date and I got the friendly hug goodbye. Needless to say, she just wasn't cool enough for me, and she knew it.
The friendly hug 🥶
I think it's sad that some people care or worry about what other people think about what they like. I'm mostly into Metalcore, but I also love Ghost. And lots of other different bands. And I couldn't care less what anyone thinks about that.
The best way to defeat social anxiety is to just go talk to someone.
9/10 times people are receptive. Especially if it's clear you already have something in common.
On all these gatekeeper topics: I think Finn is totally right. I am not sorry of listening to the bands and music I like. No matter what some sad and angry person in the internet or "in real Life" is saying. I do like Punk, Metal, but also House, Pop and even Classical stuff. I do not like anything in every music genre neither. But I do not go around bullying people that have another musical taste.
Keep calm and stop gatekeeping. 😉
Gatekeeping is hs shiz
Only nerds on the internet gatekeep.
Well I only listen to Spooky Halloween Farts. My taste in music is impeccable. Everyone needs to listen to spooky Halloween farts.
@@GordonSlamsay well, I think there is no doubt that Spooky Halloween farts Sound amazing.
@@lefloeck Halloween Farts and Ram Ranch are unmatched. Greatest set of sounds ever created by a human.
It almost seems like Finn mckenty hates metal and metal heads
"Wash the fucking dishes" is from the movie Waiting
My first job where I interacted with someone in a position of authority who was into a more extreme music genre was the chef at the first bussing job I ever had. He realized I was interested in hardcore punk and immediately took me to the restaurant in the lower level of the hotel below us and introduced me to the chef there, Jimmy Gestapo from Murphy's Law. NYC is simultaneously a huge and really tiny city. I remember sitting in the coffee and espresso prep area gossiping about the Harley Flanagan stabbing incident while sneaking hotel happy hour sangria.
Ha! Amazing