@@bethb9248 Yes. It is dangerous, especially for women. I like these videos, but too many times they live in the realm of, academia and theory, rather than the real places where many of us actually live.
I want to thank you for your channel. I am still deep in this health anxiety and depression hole, but I am digging out and see light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you!
@@QuebolasI suffered from really bad health anxiety for a few years. Even now - from time to time - I worry about the smallest thing. BUT therapy saved me! I didn’t happen over night, it took maybe two years but it was worth it. Hang in there! ❤
I’m dealing with the same right now, I started taking lexapro and the health anxiety still comes at night, it has been getting better though but still very real, keep your head up
Keep fighting the good fight. We live in a weird time, born too late to explore Earth, and too early to explore the Universe, this generation's "frontier" is the human mind. Don't try and remove anxiety all together, it most likely wont happen and it will cause additional stress. What has worked for me, is learning to accept the feelings, and wrapping my head around the fact that they don't actually hold any power; its an automated (albeit OUTDATED) defense mechanism that is no longer opperating in your best interest. And remember: It's the stuggles in life, and how you react that define you as a person. The more discomfort you go through now, the easier things will become. I know it may not seem like it at the moment, but trust me. Humans are creatures of homeostasis; you will look back on all the work you've done and be able to help others.
What my therapist used to always tell me is to use the phrase “I feel” whether talking to myself or expressing my feelings to someone else, instead of saying “I’m mad,” “I’m sad” instead you say “ I feel sad.” It gives so much more power to YOU rather than your thoughts and feelings. When I really started implementing this it changed my life
Having these thoughts/negative emotions are normal, we can’t control what type of thoughts that pop up in our minds. But we CAN CHOOSE HOW WE DEAL WITH THEM! Separating ourselves from our thoughts. Everyone dealing with depression please don’t give up. Your NOT ALONE! We are all here for each other :)
Thanks for the video! When dealing with OCD, recognizing automatic thought patterns is also very helpful. For example, a mother, due to the stress, may have a thought:"What if I hurt my baby." The next thought she may have:"Oh my god! Why I am having this thought at all?!! I'm definitely a bad mother." And that's how she gets trapped, by being stuck in arguing with her first thought (aka. If I have this thought, then I can indeed cause harm to my baby). In other words, understanding that we don't choose the nature of thoughts and that many of them are just automatically generated by our brain, would help see the person that it is merely a thought, not a reality.
This has been my ocd intrusive thought for 15 years since I’ve been a mum and it causes me so much distress and anxiety I’m working hard on challenging them now I know and starting to understand that we don’t chose our thoughts and they aren’t facts Thank you!!
@@Minecraftgamerboy2015 Yes, as you told yourself, it's precisely two types of behaviour which reinforce intrusive thoughts: i) Judging your thoughts as good or bad, and especially judging yourself as a bad or non-adequate person for having uncomfortable thoughts. Everyone has uncomfortable thoughts, and it's OK to experience them (like the bad news you hear on the radio). Like our dreams that we don't choose when we are sleeping, our thoughts have pretty much their own nature and life; very often we don't choose them (I'd rather say, they choose us instead depending on our emotional states; for example, more chance to have negative thoughts when we are tired or stressed); ii) Taking your thoughts for a fact or a matter of reality. But once more, thoughts are just thoughts, and very often they are poor predictors. Coupled together, these behavior patterns reinforce intrusive thoughts.
SPEAK positive thoughts as if speaking to some one, you cannot have a thought and do this at the same time, repeat and memorise and speak it out everytime you get negative thoughts.
My anxiety attack started after cruel judgments! Now I just know ,what others think is non of my bussiness :) In my darkest days, ur videos were like miracle💌 Thank u for being so nice among people who just show off!
@@TherapyinaNutshellhey Emma my name is Andrew and I am really struggling with my life right now it happened last month I was with my friend going to this Korean restaurant and we had a fun time I got back home went to bed after I ate so much food I got up at 4 in the morning on Saturday I had alittle pain in my rib cage I got up and walked alittle bit in my room after that I went back to bed got on my phone and was searching the web about trains and this is where things get worse and worry some I saw this post and video that Israel is at war I stared to have thoughts of oh no why is this happening? Who started it? Is this it? Are we at the end times ? Is the anti christ coming ? Is someone or somebody going to banned religion? And then I searched up the anti christ and end times and got really sick to my stomach it showed a picture of the video showing this person is the anti christ and felt so scared and anxious to the point where I couldn’t sleep at all and felt traumatized by all these things on the internet now tell me if these are just not facts then why do I feel like its real like if they where in my head why did I got it off the news because now I’m thinking if it was all in my head then I’m okay but if I got it off the tv or phone is that a different story? Or is it still the same thing which is not real? Please help me in this
For me, it's the saliency of negative emotion accompanying the negative thoughts that makes them seem so real, and that makes them take over my attention.
Mental strength affirmations and positive affirmations are also very effective tools to overcome anxiety and can work well with the methods suggested in this video. Am example of this is, My mind is rational and calm. Say like you mean it and do this for 10 minutes 2 0r 3 times a day and it can create change. God bless and remember you can take back your life.
@@TherapyinaNutshell I didn't find affirmations particularly helpful either, until I started doing the 5 Minute Journal (that my therapist recommended) where, right before bed, you reflect on the affirmation you that wrote down first thing in the morning. Something about reflecting on what your aspirations for the day were and then noticing and actually writing down what went right seems to be incredibly powerful over time. I have noticed a significant shift away from automatic negative thinking to noticing more positive things happening throughout the day. "Neurons that fire together, wire together." :)
Thanks you SO much for this! My health anxiety has ruined me. It’s continued to knock me down at my lowest. With all the techniques and knowledge I feel myself getting better. Though 2 steps forward and one step back, I’m hopeful. I talk to myself more and trying to rewire my brain. Feeling pain in my body, a headache, abdomen pain or heart palpitations sends me to a panic and fear of passing out or dying. I’m finally learning to convince myself that they all won’t be killing me every time I feel them. It’s a daily struggle. It’s truly the fear of everything is dangerous. Im staying hopeful!
This is all wonderful, helpful information and advice. The issue is that many people with anxiety and depression (raises hand) are simply unable to act upon the advice. That's the crucial missing in-between step here and I think it's why so many of us get stuck.
Thank you for your effort of spreading wisdom and help for us who are struggling mentally because of anxiety and the like. God bless. From Philippines.
This channel is a godsent. After dealing with injuries from an accident and PTSD, I fell into a deep hole while dealing with severe pain. This channel helped me pull through. Even though I'm seeing a psychologist too, this channel helped more tbh. Even to deal with issues I didn't know I had outside the accident. Thank you 🙏
“Automatic Negative Thoughts” can also be a symptom of OCD ie “Intrusive Thoughts” which are not based in reality and usually the opposite of you. Like the “hand washers,” their thought is “wash them again; they’re still dirty” which is not true. Learning to be present and tap into one’s true beliefs can help to differentiate between the “lie” and “your truth.”🌷
I’ve been dealing with excess anxiety for the past two weeks. Waking up in the morning due to one negative thought spiraling into a whirlwind of worry and negativity. The “What ifs” are a big problem for me right now. But I’m currently in therapy and I started taking celexa to help get myself back on track. Really appreciate the community here. Nice to not feel like I’m the only one in the world dealing with this. ❤
I recently posted on a forum about this - feeling excessively anxious and depressed, even more than normal, for the past week or more. I got hundreds of replies from ppl who felt the same. I don't know if there's a disturbance in the Universe, or if it's just the state of the world right now, but do know that you REALLY aren't alone. I wish peace for you, and for all of us feeling this way right now.
I really want to thank you for saving my life. Though i am still a patient of overthinking, anxiety, panic attacks i am recovering day by day watching your video. Maybe you will never see my comments, Maybe my thanks will never get to you, Maybe i will lose fighting with my past trauma, Maybe i will die fighting with myself like this, But whatever happens i am so grateful that i lived a few more days for your therapy videos. According to all the psychology books i completed i know playing with my emotion and brain like this will never end up good (Maybe), But apart from that your therapy and the techniques to heal my heart worked so well. Again thank you so much.
I’ve noticed your videos are soothing. In an earlier video you described how anxiety is reinforced in our modern society by a lot of avoidance through technology and news that is out of our control. I’ve just noticed how the autistic community I follow, although states a lot of truths, helps maintain negative thoughts for me as it talks about issues from a negative perspective and not always with solutions.
I can’t imagine the darkness you’ve felt or lived to be so passionate about these topics. I’m happy you lived and thrived through those moments. Congratulations and you’re so much appreciated!!!! 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for this. I know I’m powerless over the thoughts that show up in my head and do damage. I’m working hard to focus on gratitude for the good positive things in my world.
The story you share at the beginning is a GREAT example. I’m thankful that you shared the truth: our emotions come from how we THINK/perceive about the situation. That truth has helped me realize how much power over situations I actually have, and has allowed me to break through seasons of depression and anxiety. Thank you so much for the work you put into this channel.
I had a similar experience years ago. I was up in Maine, and we went to L.L.Bean and it happened to have snowed. You couldn’t see the lines of where you parked. When I came out It had warmed up and melted the snow on the parking lot I came out of the store with a very nasty note about what an idiot and jerk and nasty person I was for where I parked. It’s so ridiculous. You couldn’t see the lines of where to park and yes, it upset me. Thank you for your channel. It’s very good and you’ve helped me a lot.❤
Thank you! The analogy of negative thoughts being like sidewalk salesmen really helps put them in perspective for me! I can imagine myself being at the country fair and passing by booths with animated pitchmen trying to get me to stop and spend money on their games, rides and wares. It takes practice and determination to learn how to navigate around them and still enjoy the fair.
i get panic attacks and i get stuck in a loop, where i fear panic attacks and because i fear them they come back. i have huge health anxiety and cardiophobia because of the intense anxiety and panic attacks i have had before. sometimes it gets better and sometimes it gets bad. i will keep fighting. don’t ever give up. it’s very much possible to stop them
Being able to rely on yourself really helps develop inner strength. We do have the power to change. it isn't easy and I'm learning the meaning of work, but at this point in my life I think I want to claim my inner strength again. I don't want to be fooled by my thoughts and I don't want to rely on pills.
I've been using these videos a lot to help me clearout my head and to learn while I wait to get into cbt or something similar. I am a huge overthinker and have a habit of catastrophizing events in my mind. Active imagination is a blessing and a curse. Honestly, trying to learn to distance myself from those toughts and naming them as being toughts not reality, has been hard but helpful. Sometimes its easier and sometimes harder, but I know it'll get easier day by day, that even when my today might look gloomy, it doesn't mean I will relapse into deep anxiety and dissociation. And even if i did, then i will be able to pick myself up and continue on. 🥰
Thanks so much ❤️ One time I parked in a snowy parking lot for groceries, just lining up with the other cars because I couldn’t see the lines. When I came out My car was alone and the snow had melted to see the lines and I was parked rather badly. Someone took the time and energy to write a terrible note and put on my car. I was devastated, and angry, and even though it happened over a year ago I was still thinking of that and carrying it around. Having PTSD for parking now that it’s snowing again and no plowing. Thanks for sharing your experience and helping me to see I bought that negative thought, and I didn’t need to. I allowed that insensitive person to get exactly what they wanted. I will remember and do differently next time ❤️❤️❤️
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
YES very sure of bergwilly11__. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Your videos are so very helpful and compassionate- I hope you know the impact you’re having on complete strangers out here in internet-land! Your videos on Panic Attacks have been so instrumental in helping me completely change my relationship with my body and brain’s anxiety response. I still have them at times, but I’m able to manage and get through them and you’ve helped me immensely with that. Thank you!
I'm going through a period of anxiety right now, and I'm learning about these automatic negative thoughts with a therapist. Your video is extremely helpful and confirms what I'm starting to learn. Thank you so much!
Amazing stuff! Your videos are very helpful. With the cost of therapy, I cannot believe you are just giving this away. I love the metaphor of walking down the street in Vegas. Great service!
I finally comprehend CBT. I have been in counselling for 50 years. I was not able to "get it" until you explained it. Thank you! My current counsellor is 36 years old. I am 69, the age of his dad. First male counsellor I connected with, and youngest by far, but I am getting lots of help. He recommended an ANT mini program, a kind of printout for specific symptoms, and I found you. Thank you, your information was very enlightening.
I shared this with my sister who has anxiety and she's now a learning some great skills from you too! Thanks so much for what you do. We don't have access to adequate mental health care in our rural area.
Hi! Your channel has absolutely been a lifesaver. I have had some bad anxiety over the last couple of months and recently I have been dealing with sleep deprivation due to that anxiety. Your channel has taught me so much on managing anxiety and tools to deal with it. I am still dealing with anxiety but I am definitely seeing myself recovering and working through it. Thank you so much! You are truly saving lives for people who can’t access therapy.
This was a well-timed video. In Canada, the free mental health clinic kind of graduates you out after a period of treatment, then it's up to you to either pay for therapy or carry on. I 'graduated' about 16 months ago and I've been using your channel to keep all the tools i learned fresh in my mind, but I've been really struggling ever since the summer when a bunch of big things happened all at once. I've felt like life is just coming at me like monsters in a thick fog, and I've started sliding back into old habits from before therapy, and that's just making me more anxious because I don't want to go back there!
"يجب على كل عاقل ومدرك أن يطلب من الله بصدق واخلاص وتواضع ان يدله على الدين الحق ويأخذ بيديه إلى النجاه فى الدنيا والأخره وأن يقدم الصدقات والمعروف فهي سبب من أسباب أستجابه الدعاء"
I really loved this one. None of it’s complicated, but people have to commit themselves daily to the work to start making the changes. It does take time, but this is the way to do it. Thanks Emma.
I have watched many many different channels regarding anxiety and panic and this one is fantastic. If there is one suggestion I would make for this and most other channels; When the mind is exhausted and anxious...it can't cope with too many words or too much stimulus. Slow, easy, soft and to the point is needed.
Hey Emma , your videos helped me when I was in a bad burnout, and I get back to them whenever I need to cool down and get back on track... Love your style and lessons and you are truly making a difference. You're amazing! Have a lovely day!
I can't breathe seeing the words of the feelings of negativity. Mine don't need a stimulus, just the minute I wake in the morning and feel the dread of having to face another lonely day.
I feel like that too Penelope. It's the stomach churning as well and strong rushes of anxiety. I can't stop it unless l take a benzo but l am scared to take them so it's once in a blue moon. You're not alone but l know that doesn't help.
Thanks. Listening to you for years. This one had me giggling at the carpark story. Just sheer giggling. One of many gifts from you! Sending love from Auckland NZ.
Another thing I’ve realized is that the thing we fear will happen doesn’t always. And, we have to convince ourselves that even if it does, we’ll make it through one day at a time. Someday, we’ll be moved past that struggle and can feel normal again.
Thank you so much for this video. I’ve been struggling a lot lately with the feeling attacked by mean behavior of strangers. I couldn’t understand of what was going on it got me ruminating the whole situations for days almost weeks, it’s been so frustrating. But now after I watched your video I finally can understand why, I can understand me. Thank you
Thanks for sharing your experience. Many of us can relate--especially when we're in the last months of pregnancy. I always remind myself that 'hurt people hurt people'. What kind of inner pain does someone need to be going through to have cards printed out to insult others! Your videos are always a bright part of my day! Thank you Emma.
Re-watched this , as feeling so much better after my mental health breakdown last year. This time, I realised am already using some of the strategies to cope with already.-, one is to stop overthinking and to move away from negative thinking 🙂, it helps lower my anxiety daily . Thank you so much for this !
Very thought provoking sight to think about these thoughts as these r venders in the street u passing and calling u to buy their stuff thanks alot emma.
I want to thank you so very much for your channel. You help me get through my entire work day. I start the day of with your videos. I have severe anxiety and CONSTANT negative thoughts. I have an entire notebook, dedicated to notes from your videos. I wish I could have you as my therapist. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for this video. I have such a terrible tendency to take things in the worst way and I’m always aware that I do but I always try and justify so it never changes… this was such a great topic to hear you speak about. Definitely made me think more about the power of interpreting a situation but also the power of interpretation of my own thoughts and how I conceptualize them with words and phrases.
Bless you! This video turned up just when I needed it! I’m dealing with a health diagnosis which is creating great anxiety, and comes just weeks after the death of my husband. I need all the coping strategies that I can find, as my ‘monkey mind’ has gone into overdrive. Thank you again.
so good! I work with a lot of clients with Health Anxiety after experiencing my own after a cancer diagnosis. I will definitely be sharing this and love the diagram, the idea to draw and get to know your fears and bring in some silliness and the video you created that role played it. LOVE
I legit started crying after easing the sleep one. It's been a year of nightly anxiety crisis and I fear that I will never be able to enjoy going to bed again. It's comforting knowing that here are other people going through the same thing Thank you so much for these videos
I literally have the same issue, i felt i was the only one before watching her videos, every night i get this fear of not sleeping and go crazy but im trying my best to fix it, by watching this kind of vids and taking care of myself, its very hard but we can do it !!
Sorry to hear what you are going through...if spiritual...keep praying...I slept with my Bible in my arms for many months as a security blanket having faith He will pull me through..He did...it got better after about a year....Writing things down always helps...reading can tire you out...try to help someone in need too...a small meal for a homeless person....buying something for an old person that can move too much...list your interests and try to find a purpose doing those interests...5mg Melatonin can help too...
@@staypositive8065I am dealing with this too, it's gotten better and gradually we shall be able to let it go completely and blissful sleep will seem the most normal thing again
I’m pushing myself to not spiral annd react or fall into a slump and instead I’m trying to seek help in moments that feel unmanageable. I’ve been making it a point to come to your channel in those moments and these videos save me. They ground me and I feel like I can breathe again. It’s hard to not feel like I’m the enemy. I’m thankful for this one. I’m saving it to my favorites list.
I work in a heavy retail situation where these emotions go on all day due to quick delivery of speech and motion in a tight space. Even though I can be a Jedi at work. My personal life is constantly going through what you are describing. Meaning I put myself down then feel worse and worse. Putting myself on camera actually helped along with videos such as these. I was able to see a person that wasn’t worth hating so much. Still working on it …Thank you. 🎉
I’m really glad you posted this, I am having faith it will help me. I’m dealing with anxiety strongly (and have been low level anxiety for most of my life, I believe it’s just my personality). I’m SO glad I have God! I’m convinced he’s the only reason I’ve been sleeping the last few nights!! I don’t know how I would be otherwise.
My life is not all that stressful: just normal daily things that I work out with both breathing techniques and relaxation exercises. However, sometimes either in the middle of the day, in the middle of the night, during what should be a non anxiety situation, I have an extreme anxiety attack. (Panic) I literally can’t function; overwhelming fear, nausea, which is relentless. I know it isn’t fatal, but the feeling is so intense, even a few minutes of this might as well be. All the cognitive mind exercises help over time but doesn’t take them away. It took meditation (SSRIs and anti anxiety meds provided some relief) Physical medical tests came out negative. I did find out that panic disorder runs on both sides of my family, and has been quite severe. As much as I hate taking medication, I am alive and functioning. Without them, who knows. Each person has to deal with severe anxiety in an individualized way. Don’t be ashamed or reluctant to take medication along with breathing,relaxation techniques. It’s your life. Do what works for you. Let it be the best it can! Best of luck!
This is amazing, and you have a great way of communicating ideas clearly and painting a bigger picture. The way you share these important subjects is very invitational and validating. It helps so many people to find courage, understanding, and approach change with hope. Thank you.
9:11: What do we do about our automatic negative thoughts? 9:13: Step 1: Be super clear about what these thoughts are. 12:58: Step 2: Thoughts are not facts; your brain makes stuff up all the time. 13:43: CBT approach: spot the thought, challenge it, and swap it with a more accurate, helpful thought. 15:01: ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) approach: accept the thought but don’t let it rule your life. Take actions that are consistent with your own values. 16:35: cognitive diffusion: notice your thoughts, separate yourself from them, and choose better thoughts, which align with the life you want. 17:35: demonstration of how to use CBT and ACT 18:12: Emma’s own summary of this video 18:48: Writing ✍️ exercise: When did you interpret a situation in a way that led you to feel anxious? What automatic negative thoughts made you feel you were in danger? Answer these two questions everyday for one week.
This is right on time. I found myself going down the rabbit hole and said something is not right, then this video came across my fyp. Not only do I desire a husband, but I also desire friendships. I need to go to the root and figure it out from there. thank you so much.
Love listening and yes retraining the brain helped me deal so much better with Cronic illness always notice the thought and change them as many as you can share your videos with few who need it you explain great
Emma thank you so much for your channel, it helped me so much to understand my anexity and depression and I am sure it helped so many others. You really offer us so many important pieces of advice and made us feel normal when everything seems so abnormal for us. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I really want to thank you. Your channel helped me a lot I came to your channel 6 months ago when I was having cognitive fusion at that time I didn't know what I should do but this channel helped guided me through those tough times and now I recovered from cognitive fusion completely and I am going through your 30 videos course they are super helpful. I wish I Could meet you and tell you how much you helped but I am from India but I wish I could meet you someday and I want to tell you one thing you are helping a lot of people at their lowest point in your life's keep going and lots of lots of love from my side 💗💗💓💓
I happened upon this video when I opened UA-cam today and I'm so glad I did! I've been having a crapload of anxiety about work so your example of negative feedback from a boss was perfect. I'm definitely going to practice cognitive diffusion!
Hello. I'm writing a children's book about how to overcome ANT's. I'm on the research phase and I have to say, this is very helpful. Thank you so much for posting.
I have always struggled with anger , resentments, and unforgiveness. I have been working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor, and it is getting better. I was told that resentments only hurt you, not the wrongdoers. I had to write down my resentments and how they affected me to see the damage to motivate me to let go. I also had to write down my part in the resentments so I could see where i was in the wrong, make amends, change behaviors, build my character and reconcile relationships if appropriate. Obviously there are some situations you don't play a part like if you were abused. I really get into psychology and human behavior so I like to understand why people act how they do for example mental illness. It helps to have compassion on them and to wish them well. This is NOT justifying or condoning it just helps to understand, have compassion, and wish them well. Its also not good to get revenge, not only because of consequence but they will get their karma and there will be justice. If it motivates them to change and make anends be happy for them.
I am trying the method about sending my anxieties and worries down the other track so I can continue on with the present. And then worry for 15 to 30 minutes or at least acknowledge those things. And then I take something positive about those experiences and I’m like well what did I learn? I take gratitude for it for the fact that I learned something and then I feel better. If I think about myself in the third person as though I’m giving someone else advice, which is always good advice, I need to follow that good advice when it’s my turn to do so and it is OK 100% to accept self-help self loving self-care.
My negative thoughts involve my heart rat Lola. I watched her suffer for days before she passed. She was my rock when nobody was around. She was my friend that I could talk to. She loved me unconditionally and I should have helped her more 😔
I’ve had the same thing happen to me. I was not pregnant tho. The fact that someone would go to the trouble to call that out, is disgusting! They must be oh so perfect! Sure karma circles around to get them
Thank you very much! Your videos just made me feel so alive and fun!! Your video reminded me of something very helpful I found 14 years ago, and kind of forget that thats what I most need at the moment again!! And your knowledge is very helpful to make that work better for me! 14 years ago I found a system for myself where I would remind myself that we have a reflective system in our mind that channels the being that is the universe into what we experience as awareness. And in overthinking that spirals out of control to limit the reflective capacity going in circles around the same over and over. And it helped me to just focus on the reflective system itself, so reflecting on the reflecting, that was a way to take the reflective capacity away from reflecting on fearful things onto something that is neutral, the experience of awareness itself, and that would get my mind "empty" to then be filled with wholesome stuff. Like you mentioned in a video, what Frankl said, the space between where we can find freedom.
I appreciate this content so much and that isn’t transaction- just there to help. I also think you are gently kindly and perfectly deliver all of it. Thank you!
The music in your video is STRESSING ME. You make caring, helpful, videos. Please don't spoil them for people like me, who want to concentrate on what you're saying. Depression lowers the ability to concentrate.
Thoughts are like clouds, they float away. The objective is to let the thought go, like a cloud. If the thought won't go away, replace it with a positive or gratitude thought. Eventually the positive or grateful thoughts becomes automatic. ALSO Focus intently on the 5 senses. What do you see, hear, feel, smell or taste? This will help you to BE present.
Thank you SO much for this series! Where I struggle the most is assuming all of my automatic negative thoughts are my instincts/intuition. So, when I go to challenging my thoughts, I'm convincing myself that I'm denying my instincts and it takes the anxiety to a different, sometimes darker place. I'm sure you have a video on it (I hope by continuing watching I'll find it), but it would be great to understand how to clearly differentiate instinct/intuition vs. automatic negative thoughts.
I had a fear and pain avoidance and irritation and anger response triggered by the first wrens of the first example. I am coming to terms with never being able to have kids. I’m not there yet accepting that. I see how this is affecting me at middle age focusing n what I will never have is as great a loss as having and losing. But it’s disenfranchised grief. I need to go on support groups for others in my situation and that may allow me to feel less alone in this. Isolation in these things leads to overthinking and being n our brain about it. Focusing on listening to others stories and making them feel seen gets us out of this rumination. At least it does for me. Thank you for your videos. I’m learning a lot about how my emotions and thoughts happen and tools to help myself.
I've been feeling so out of it lately. Like things are just not going to go well at all. I know it's not true, I'm safe, I have people who love and care about me. Just letting things bug me, and I hadn't been meditating like I normally do. Thankyou for helping to bring me back.😊
You're anxious because you see the world as a dangerous place! That hit home for me 😢
@@bethb9248 A rose is dangerous, it is simultaneously beautiful. Adjust your approach, but don't forget to enjoy the journey.
@@bethb9248 Yes. It is dangerous, especially for women. I like these videos, but too many times they live in the realm of, academia and theory, rather than the real places where many of us actually live.
Being beautiful, rich and famous is the only thing giving the beauty of life, I feel really hopeless
If you're here, you're already so far ahead of the pack. Congratulations for you caring about your health and taking action in your self development.
I want to thank you for your channel. I am still deep in this health anxiety and depression hole, but I am digging out and see light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you!
Keep going! It gets better :) you’re doing great
@@PizzaHandhelds thank you :/ I'm really trying
@@QuebolasI suffered from really bad health anxiety for a few years. Even now - from time to time - I worry about the smallest thing.
BUT therapy saved me! I didn’t happen over night, it took maybe two years but it was worth it. Hang in there! ❤
I’m dealing with the same right now, I started taking lexapro and the health anxiety still comes at night, it has been getting better though but still very real, keep your head up
Keep fighting the good fight. We live in a weird time, born too late to explore Earth, and too early to explore the Universe, this generation's "frontier" is the human mind.
Don't try and remove anxiety all together, it most likely wont happen and it will cause additional stress. What has worked for me, is learning to accept the feelings, and wrapping my head around the fact that they don't actually hold any power; its an automated (albeit OUTDATED) defense mechanism that is no longer opperating in your best interest.
And remember: It's the stuggles in life, and how you react that define you as a person. The more discomfort you go through now, the easier things will become. I know it may not seem like it at the moment, but trust me. Humans are creatures of homeostasis; you will look back on all the work you've done and be able to help others.
What my therapist used to always tell me is to use the phrase “I feel” whether talking to myself or expressing my feelings to someone else, instead of saying “I’m mad,” “I’m sad” instead you say “ I feel sad.” It gives so much more power to YOU rather than your thoughts and feelings. When I really started implementing this it changed my life
"Thoughts aren't facts" 😮💡mind blown. Thank you.
Having these thoughts/negative emotions are normal, we can’t control what type of thoughts that pop up in our minds. But we CAN CHOOSE HOW WE DEAL WITH THEM! Separating ourselves from our thoughts. Everyone dealing with depression please don’t give up. Your NOT ALONE! We are all here for each other :)
People pay LOTS of money for this info. Thank you so much, you're saving lives
Thanks for the video! When dealing with OCD, recognizing automatic thought patterns is also very helpful. For example, a mother, due to the stress, may have a thought:"What if I hurt my baby." The next thought she may have:"Oh my god! Why I am having this thought at all?!! I'm definitely a bad mother." And that's how she gets trapped, by being stuck in arguing with her first thought (aka. If I have this thought, then I can indeed cause harm to my baby). In other words, understanding that we don't choose the nature of thoughts and that many of them are just automatically generated by our brain, would help see the person that it is merely a thought, not a reality.
Omg the way that you explained that made me realize so many things rn, literally a wtf moment! Thank you!
I have OCD and 🩷 this.
This has been my ocd intrusive thought for 15 years since I’ve been a mum and it causes me so much distress and anxiety I’m working hard on challenging them now I know and starting to understand that we don’t chose our thoughts and they aren’t facts
Thank you!!
@@Minecraftgamerboy2015 Yes, as you told yourself, it's precisely two types of behaviour which reinforce intrusive thoughts:
i) Judging your thoughts as good or bad, and especially judging yourself as a bad or non-adequate person for having uncomfortable thoughts. Everyone has uncomfortable thoughts, and it's OK to experience them (like the bad news you hear on the radio). Like our dreams that we don't choose when we are sleeping, our thoughts have pretty much their own nature and life; very often we don't choose them (I'd rather say, they choose us instead depending on our emotional states; for example, more chance to have negative thoughts when we are tired or stressed);
ii) Taking your thoughts for a fact or a matter of reality. But once more, thoughts are just thoughts, and very often they are poor predictors.
Coupled together, these behavior patterns reinforce intrusive thoughts.
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SPEAK positive thoughts as if speaking to some one, you cannot have a thought and do this at the same time, repeat and memorise and speak it out everytime you get negative thoughts.
My anxiety attack started after cruel judgments!
Now I just know ,what others think is non of my bussiness :)
In my darkest days, ur videos were like miracle💌
Thank u for being so nice among people who just show off!
True 💯
It's like it's God sent..
God guided..
We're guided
Thank you God
Thank You Emma
Keep it up
Let's keep guided
Amen
I don't take criticism well, but I really heard it when you said 'what others think is none of my business'. I really need to let that sink in!
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"Our emotions don't come because of the situation, they come from how we think about the situation". Emma Macaw
Emma is awesome but this is a quote by Greek phisolopher Epitectus as Emma often mentions..
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I appreciate what you do. Solid presentation and editing as well. 👍🙏
Thank you so much 👍 I'm glad it's helpful
thanks for donating to them! some of us cannot at this time. it’s inspiring to see. ❤
@@TherapyinaNutshellhey Emma my name is Andrew and I am really struggling with my life right now it happened last month I was with my friend going to this Korean restaurant and we had a fun time I got back home went to bed after I ate so much food I got up at 4 in the morning on Saturday I had alittle pain in my rib cage I got up and walked alittle bit in my room after that I went back to bed got on my phone and was searching the web about trains and this is where things get worse and worry some I saw this post and video that Israel is at war I stared to have thoughts of oh no why is this happening? Who started it? Is this it? Are we at the end times ? Is the anti christ coming ? Is someone or somebody going to banned religion? And then I searched up the anti christ and end times and got really sick to my stomach it showed a picture of the video showing this person is the anti christ and felt so scared and anxious to the point where I couldn’t sleep at all and felt traumatized by all these things on the internet now tell me if these are just not facts then why do I feel like its real like if they where in my head why did I got it off the news because now I’m thinking if it was all in my head then I’m okay but if I got it off the tv or phone is that a different story? Or is it still the same thing which is not real? Please help me in this
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For me, it's the saliency of negative emotion accompanying the negative thoughts that makes them seem so real, and that makes them take over my attention.
You and me both. The negativity seems so real when combined with emotion
Mental strength affirmations and positive affirmations are also very effective tools to overcome anxiety and can work well with the methods suggested in this video. Am example of this is, My mind is rational and calm. Say like you mean it and do this for 10 minutes 2 0r 3 times a day and it can create change. God bless and remember you can take back your life.
thanks! good tip! I know that for many people affirmations are awesome, for me personally they aren't super helpful, but for many people they are
@@TherapyinaNutshell I didn't find affirmations particularly helpful either, until I started doing the 5 Minute Journal (that my therapist recommended) where, right before bed, you reflect on the affirmation you that wrote down first thing in the morning. Something about reflecting on what your aspirations for the day were and then noticing and actually writing down what went right seems to be incredibly powerful over time. I have noticed a significant shift away from automatic negative thinking to noticing more positive things happening throughout the day. "Neurons that fire together, wire together." :)
Thanks you SO much for this! My health anxiety has ruined me. It’s continued to knock me down at my lowest. With all the techniques and knowledge I feel myself getting better. Though 2 steps forward and one step back, I’m hopeful. I talk to myself more and trying to rewire my brain. Feeling pain in my body, a headache, abdomen pain or heart palpitations sends me to a panic and fear of passing out or dying.
I’m finally learning to convince myself that they all won’t be killing me every time I feel them. It’s a daily struggle. It’s truly the fear of everything is dangerous. Im staying hopeful!
I would love to connect as I am In the same boat
on my website we do have a course specific to health anxiety, it's taught by Dr. Kat Green who specializes in Health anxiety, that may be helpful
you’re not alone. it gets better
What is helping you get better?
This is all wonderful, helpful information and advice. The issue is that many people with anxiety and depression (raises hand) are simply unable to act upon the advice. That's the crucial missing in-between step here and I think it's why so many of us get stuck.
Thank you for your effort of spreading wisdom and help for us who are struggling mentally because of anxiety and the like. God bless. From Philippines.
This channel is a godsent. After dealing with injuries from an accident and PTSD, I fell into a deep hole while dealing with severe pain. This channel helped me pull through. Even though I'm seeing a psychologist too, this channel helped more tbh. Even to deal with issues I didn't know I had outside the accident. Thank you 🙏
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“Automatic Negative Thoughts” can also be a symptom of OCD ie “Intrusive Thoughts” which are not based in reality and usually the opposite of you. Like the “hand washers,” their thought is “wash them again; they’re still dirty” which is not true. Learning to be present and tap into one’s true beliefs can help to differentiate between the “lie” and “your truth.”🌷
I’ve been dealing with excess anxiety for the past two weeks. Waking up in the morning due to one negative thought spiraling into a whirlwind of worry and negativity. The “What ifs” are a big problem for me right now. But I’m currently in therapy and I started taking celexa to help get myself back on track. Really appreciate the community here. Nice to not feel like I’m the only one in the world dealing with this. ❤
I recently posted on a forum about this - feeling excessively anxious and depressed, even more than normal, for the past week or more. I got hundreds of replies from ppl who felt the same. I don't know if there's a disturbance in the Universe, or if it's just the state of the world right now, but do know that you REALLY aren't alone.
I wish peace for you, and for all of us feeling this way right now.
Same here man. I have that... what if! Mostly cause I drank alot and blacked out and now I feel like what if! Just robs me of my inner peace
How are you doing now? Any better?
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I'm the same for a couple months now. I hope we all feel better soon 💓
I really want to thank you for saving my life.
Though i am still a patient of overthinking, anxiety, panic attacks i am recovering day by day watching your video.
Maybe you will never see my comments, Maybe my thanks will never get to you, Maybe i will lose fighting with my past trauma, Maybe i will die fighting with myself like this, But whatever happens i am so grateful that i lived a few more days for your therapy videos.
According to all the psychology books i completed i know playing with my emotion and brain like this will never end up good (Maybe), But apart from that your therapy and the techniques to heal my heart worked so well.
Again thank you so much.
Hi
I’ve noticed your videos are soothing. In an earlier video you described how anxiety is reinforced in our modern society by a lot of avoidance through technology and news that is out of our control. I’ve just noticed how the autistic community I follow, although states a lot of truths, helps maintain negative thoughts for me as it talks about issues from a negative perspective and not always with solutions.
I can’t imagine the darkness you’ve felt or lived to be so passionate about these topics. I’m happy you lived and thrived through those moments. Congratulations and you’re so much appreciated!!!! 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for this. I know I’m powerless over the thoughts that show up in my head and do damage. I’m working hard to focus on gratitude for the good positive things in my world.
You are not powerless over the thoughts you have. You need to be aware of the thoughts and challenge them.
@@ShermanCassidy ok. I guess you know all. I put my truth out there and you had to correct me and tell me I’m wrong. Spoken like a true untreated.
The story you share at the beginning is a GREAT example. I’m thankful that you shared the truth: our emotions come from how we THINK/perceive about the situation. That truth has helped me realize how much power over situations I actually have, and has allowed me to break through seasons of depression and anxiety.
Thank you so much for the work you put into this channel.
I also found the opening story helpful. Thank you Emma.
I had a similar experience years ago. I was up in Maine, and we went to L.L.Bean and it happened to have snowed. You couldn’t see the lines of where you parked. When I came out It had warmed up and melted the snow on the parking lot I came out of the store with a very nasty note about what an idiot and jerk and nasty person I was for where I parked. It’s so ridiculous. You couldn’t see the lines of where to park and yes, it upset me. Thank you for your channel. It’s very good and you’ve helped me a lot.❤
"thoughts are jus like air we breathe"...pure gold 🔥🔥
Thank you! The analogy of negative thoughts being like sidewalk salesmen really helps put them in perspective for me! I can imagine myself being at the country fair and passing by booths with animated pitchmen trying to get me to stop and spend money on their games, rides and wares. It takes practice and determination to learn how to navigate around them and still enjoy the fair.
i get panic attacks and i get stuck in a loop, where i fear panic attacks and because i fear them they come back. i have huge health anxiety and cardiophobia because of the intense anxiety and panic attacks i have had before. sometimes it gets better and sometimes it gets bad. i will keep fighting. don’t ever give up. it’s very much possible to stop them
Is there something you need to do but you're putting it off?
Try a martial art.
I sincerely hope this helps.
You have helped me so much! I can’t afford therapy so this is my therapy. I really appreciate you and all you’re doing ❤
Being able to rely on yourself really helps develop inner strength. We do have the power to change. it isn't easy and I'm learning the meaning of work, but at this point in my life I think I want to claim my inner strength again. I don't want to be fooled by my thoughts and I don't want to rely on pills.
Brilliant video! The bit about one’s brain being a word machine and thoughts being salesman was extremely helpful!
I have never learned anything until I listened to this person. THANK YOU!!!!!
I've been using these videos a lot to help me clearout my head and to learn while I wait to get into cbt or something similar.
I am a huge overthinker and have a habit of catastrophizing events in my mind. Active imagination is a blessing and a curse.
Honestly, trying to learn to distance myself from those toughts and naming them as being toughts not reality, has been hard but helpful. Sometimes its easier and sometimes harder, but I know it'll get easier day by day, that even when my today might look gloomy, it doesn't mean I will relapse into deep anxiety and dissociation.
And even if i did, then i will be able to pick myself up and continue on. 🥰
Thanks so much ❤️ One time I parked in a snowy parking lot for groceries, just lining up with the other cars because I couldn’t see the lines. When I came out My car was alone and the snow had melted to see the lines and I was parked rather badly. Someone took the time and energy to write a terrible note and put on my car. I was devastated, and angry, and even though it happened over a year ago I was still thinking of that and carrying it around. Having PTSD for parking now that it’s snowing again and no plowing. Thanks for sharing your experience and helping me to see I bought that negative thought, and I didn’t need to. I allowed that insensitive person to get exactly what they wanted. I will remember and do differently next time ❤️❤️❤️
this separation sounds like mindfulness. Mindfulness helped me with that, it says that i am not my thoughts and etc. I appreciate you channel, thanks.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
YES very sure of bergwilly11__. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
@@Elizabeth-gu8hxIs he on instagram?
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
I thought I had anxiety, but it turned out I simply didn't like the people around me.
Congratulations! That's huge.😀
Omg, me too!!!
But that can cause anxiety if you are stuck with them like parents
So true
My god I am so blown away I just realised I don't like a thought which is causing anxiety ! Thanks for sharing
Thanks
Your videos are so very helpful and compassionate- I hope you know the impact you’re having on complete strangers out here in internet-land! Your videos on Panic Attacks have been so instrumental in helping me completely change my relationship with my body and brain’s anxiety response. I still have them at times, but I’m able to manage and get through them and you’ve helped me immensely with that. Thank you!
I'm going through a period of anxiety right now, and I'm learning about these automatic negative thoughts with a therapist. Your video is extremely helpful and confirms what I'm starting to learn. Thank you so much!
Amazing stuff! Your videos are very helpful. With the cost of therapy, I cannot believe you are just giving this away. I love the metaphor of walking down the street in Vegas. Great service!
I finally comprehend CBT. I have been in counselling for 50 years. I was not able to "get it" until you explained it. Thank you! My current counsellor is 36 years old. I am 69, the age of his dad. First male counsellor I connected with, and youngest by far, but I am getting lots of help. He recommended an ANT mini program, a kind of printout for specific symptoms, and I found you. Thank you, your information was very enlightening.
The metaphor of people selling things like your thoughts is BRILLIANT ❤
The Best advice I've heard in 50 years !! Thank you! I'm going to try this !!
I shared this with my sister who has anxiety and she's now a learning some great skills from you too! Thanks so much for what you do. We don't have access to adequate mental health care in our rural area.
Hi! Your channel has absolutely been a lifesaver. I have had some bad anxiety over the last couple of months and recently I have been dealing with sleep deprivation due to that anxiety. Your channel has taught me so much on managing anxiety and tools to deal with it. I am still dealing with anxiety but I am definitely seeing myself recovering and working through it. Thank you so much! You are truly saving lives for people who can’t access therapy.
This was a well-timed video. In Canada, the free mental health clinic kind of graduates you out after a period of treatment, then it's up to you to either pay for therapy or carry on. I 'graduated' about 16 months ago and I've been using your channel to keep all the tools i learned fresh in my mind, but I've been really struggling ever since the summer when a bunch of big things happened all at once. I've felt like life is just coming at me like monsters in a thick fog, and I've started sliding back into old habits from before therapy, and that's just making me more anxious because I don't want to go back there!
"يجب على كل عاقل ومدرك أن يطلب من الله بصدق واخلاص وتواضع ان يدله على الدين الحق ويأخذ بيديه إلى النجاه فى الدنيا والأخره وأن يقدم الصدقات والمعروف فهي سبب من أسباب أستجابه الدعاء"
Thnak you soo much Emma! You're such a huge help for people who are not financially adept to get a therapist
I really loved this one. None of it’s complicated, but people have to commit themselves daily to the work to start making the changes. It does take time, but this is the way to do it. Thanks Emma.
I have watched many many different channels regarding anxiety and panic and this one is fantastic. If there is one suggestion I would make for this and most other channels; When the mind is exhausted and anxious...it can't cope with too many words or too much stimulus. Slow, easy, soft and to the point is needed.
Hey Emma , your videos helped me when I was in a bad burnout, and I get back to them whenever I need to cool down and get back on track... Love your style and lessons and you are truly making a difference. You're amazing! Have a lovely day!
You're the best. I've always gravitated to your channel during tough times and you helped get me through them.
I really thank you from the depth of heart ma'am, You are doing a great work , I hope you help more people and make their lives better
I can't breathe seeing the words of the feelings of negativity. Mine don't need a stimulus, just the minute I wake in the morning and feel the dread of having to face another lonely day.
I feel like that too Penelope. It's the stomach churning as well and strong rushes of anxiety. I can't stop it unless l take a benzo but l am scared to take them so it's once in a blue moon. You're not alone but l know that doesn't help.
I feel this same way and I try not to feel alone but each time I try to date a woman I get rejected and feel more of a loser and alone
@@carrie-joylloyd5785what’s benzo?
@@shayraboeva7393benzodiazepine. It’s a very addictive drug. Thus, taking it with extreme precaution.
Thanks. Listening to you for years. This one had me giggling at the carpark story. Just sheer giggling. One of many gifts from you! Sending love from Auckland NZ.
Another thing I’ve realized is that the thing we fear will happen doesn’t always. And, we have to convince ourselves that even if it does, we’ll make it through one day at a time. Someday, we’ll be moved past that struggle and can feel normal again.
Thank you so much for this video. I’ve been struggling a lot lately with the feeling attacked by mean behavior of strangers. I couldn’t understand of what was going on it got me ruminating the whole situations for days almost weeks, it’s been so frustrating. But now after I watched your video I finally can understand why, I can understand me. Thank you
Thanks for sharing your experience. Many of us can relate--especially when we're in the last months of pregnancy. I always remind myself that 'hurt people hurt people'. What kind of inner pain does someone need to be going through to have cards printed out to insult others! Your videos are always a bright part of my day! Thank you Emma.
Thanks!
Re-watched this , as feeling so much better after my mental health breakdown last year. This time, I realised am already using some of the strategies to cope with already.-, one is to stop overthinking and to move away from negative thinking 🙂, it helps lower my anxiety daily . Thank you so much for this !
Very thought provoking sight to think about these thoughts as these r venders in the street u passing and calling u to buy their stuff thanks alot emma.
I want to thank you so very much for your channel. You help me get through my entire work day. I start the day of with your videos. I have severe anxiety and CONSTANT negative thoughts. I have an entire notebook, dedicated to notes from your videos. I wish I could have you as my therapist. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for this video. I have such a terrible tendency to take things in the worst way and I’m always aware that I do but I always try and justify so it never changes… this was such a great topic to hear you speak about. Definitely made me think more about the power of interpreting a situation but also the power of interpretation of my own thoughts and how I conceptualize them with words and phrases.
Bless you! This video turned up just when I needed it! I’m dealing with a health diagnosis which is creating great anxiety, and comes just weeks after the death of my husband. I need all the coping strategies that I can find, as my ‘monkey mind’ has gone into overdrive. Thank you again.
Thanks!
so good! I work with a lot of clients with Health Anxiety after experiencing my own after a cancer diagnosis. I will definitely be sharing this and love the diagram, the idea to draw and get to know your fears and bring in some silliness and the video you created that role played it. LOVE
Your channel is a priceless resource. Thank you. Thank you.
I legit started crying after easing the sleep one. It's been a year of nightly anxiety crisis and I fear that I will never be able to enjoy going to bed again. It's comforting knowing that here are other people going through the same thing
Thank you so much for these videos
I literally have the same issue, i felt i was the only one before watching her videos, every night i get this fear of not sleeping and go crazy but im trying my best to fix it, by watching this kind of vids and taking care of myself, its very hard but we can do it !!
Sorry to hear what you are going through...if spiritual...keep praying...I slept with my Bible in my arms for many months as a security blanket having faith He will pull me through..He did...it got better after about a year....Writing things down always helps...reading can tire you out...try to help someone in need too...a small meal for a homeless person....buying something for an old person that can move too much...list your interests and try to find a purpose doing those interests...5mg Melatonin can help too...
@@staypositive8065I am dealing with this too, it's gotten better and gradually we shall be able to let it go completely and blissful sleep will seem the most normal thing again
Thanks
I’m pushing myself to not spiral annd react or fall into a slump and instead I’m trying to seek help in moments that feel unmanageable. I’ve been making it a point to come to your channel in those moments and these videos save me. They ground me and I feel like I can breathe again. It’s hard to not feel like I’m the enemy. I’m thankful for this one. I’m saving it to my favorites list.
I work in a heavy retail situation where these emotions go on all day due to quick delivery of speech and motion in a tight space. Even though I can be a Jedi at work. My personal life is constantly going through what you are describing. Meaning I put myself down then feel worse and worse. Putting myself on camera actually helped along with videos such as these. I was able to see a person that wasn’t worth hating so much. Still working on it …Thank you. 🎉
Just wanna say, listening to your videos is helping me reshape my thoughts- thank you so much for making these videos❤
I love the salesman example. The visual is really helpful with dismissing and not engaging thoughts.
I’m really glad you posted this, I am having faith it will help me. I’m dealing with anxiety strongly (and have been low level anxiety for most of my life, I believe it’s just my personality). I’m SO glad I have God! I’m convinced he’s the only reason I’ve been sleeping the last few nights!! I don’t know how I would be otherwise.
My life is not all that stressful: just normal daily things that I work out with both breathing techniques and relaxation exercises. However, sometimes either in the middle of the day, in the middle of the night, during what should be a non anxiety situation, I have an extreme anxiety attack. (Panic) I literally can’t function; overwhelming fear, nausea, which is relentless. I know it isn’t fatal, but the feeling is so intense, even a few minutes of this might as well be. All the cognitive mind exercises help over time but doesn’t take them away. It took meditation (SSRIs and anti anxiety meds provided some relief) Physical medical tests came out negative. I did find out that panic disorder runs on both sides of my family, and has been quite severe. As much as I hate taking medication, I am alive and functioning. Without them, who knows. Each person has to deal with severe anxiety in an individualized way. Don’t be ashamed or reluctant to take medication along with breathing,relaxation techniques. It’s your life. Do what works for you. Let it be the best it can! Best of luck!
This is amazing, and you have a great way of communicating ideas clearly and painting a bigger picture. The way you share these important subjects is very invitational and validating. It helps so many people to find courage, understanding, and approach change with hope. Thank you.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You have helped me in ways I never thought possible. The blessing you are… 🙏
9:11: What do we do about our automatic negative thoughts?
9:13: Step 1: Be super clear about what these thoughts are.
12:58: Step 2: Thoughts are not facts; your brain makes stuff up all the time.
13:43: CBT approach: spot the thought, challenge it, and swap it with a more accurate, helpful thought.
15:01: ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) approach: accept the thought but don’t let it rule your life. Take actions that are consistent with your own values.
16:35: cognitive diffusion: notice your thoughts, separate yourself from them, and choose better thoughts, which align with the life you want.
17:35: demonstration of how to use CBT and ACT
18:12: Emma’s own summary of this video
18:48: Writing ✍️ exercise: When did you interpret a situation in a way that led you to feel anxious? What automatic negative thoughts made you feel you were in danger? Answer these two questions everyday for one week.
This is right on time. I found myself going down the rabbit hole and said something is not right, then this video came across my fyp. Not only do I desire a husband, but I also desire friendships. I need to go to the root and figure it out from there. thank you so much.
Love listening and yes retraining the brain helped me deal so much better with Cronic illness always notice the thought and change them as many as you can share your videos with few who need it you explain great
I feel what u saying me is with chronic mgd dry eyes 👀 it help me understand maybe enxyty make me feel bad
Your videos bring me so much hope and make me feel like I can be in control of my emotions. Thank you so much genuinely.
Emma thank you so much for your channel, it helped me so much to understand my anexity and depression and I am sure it helped so many others.
You really offer us so many important pieces of advice and made us feel normal when everything seems so abnormal for us. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I really want to thank you. Your channel helped me a lot I came to your channel 6 months ago when I was having cognitive fusion at that time I didn't know what I should do but this channel helped guided me through those tough times and now I recovered from cognitive fusion completely and I am going through your 30 videos course they are super helpful. I wish I Could meet you and tell you how much you helped but I am from India but I wish I could meet you someday and I want to tell you one thing you are helping a lot of people at their lowest point in your life's keep going and lots of lots of love from my side 💗💗💓💓
I happened upon this video when I opened UA-cam today and I'm so glad I did! I've been having a crapload of anxiety about work so your example of negative feedback from a boss was perfect. I'm definitely going to practice cognitive diffusion!
Hello. I'm writing a children's book about how to overcome ANT's. I'm on the research phase and I have to say, this is very helpful. Thank you so much for posting.
I have always struggled with anger , resentments, and unforgiveness. I have been working on it with a therapist and 12 step sponsor, and it is getting better. I was told that resentments only hurt you, not the wrongdoers. I had to write down my resentments and how they affected me to see the damage to motivate me to let go. I also had to write down my part in the resentments so I could see where i was in the wrong, make amends, change behaviors, build my character and reconcile relationships if appropriate. Obviously there are some situations you don't play a part like if you were abused. I really get into psychology and human behavior so I like to understand why people act how they do for example mental illness. It helps to have compassion on them and to wish them well. This is NOT justifying or condoning it just helps to understand, have compassion, and wish them well. Its also not good to get revenge, not only because of consequence but they will get their karma and there will be justice. If it motivates them to change and make anends be happy for them.
I am trying the method about sending my anxieties and worries down the other track so I can continue on with the present. And then worry for 15 to 30 minutes or at least acknowledge those things. And then I take something positive about those experiences and I’m like well what did I learn? I take gratitude for it for the fact that I learned something and then I feel better. If I think about myself in the third person as though I’m giving someone else advice, which is always good advice, I need to follow that good advice when it’s my turn to do so and it is OK 100% to accept self-help self loving self-care.
My negative thoughts involve my heart rat Lola. I watched her suffer for days before she passed. She was my rock when nobody was around. She was my friend that I could talk to. She loved me unconditionally and I should have helped her more 😔
I’ve had the same thing happen to me. I was not pregnant tho. The fact that someone would go to the trouble to call that out, is disgusting! They must be oh so perfect! Sure karma circles around to get them
Thank you very much! Your videos just made me feel so alive and fun!! Your video reminded me of something very helpful I found 14 years ago, and kind of forget that thats what I most need at the moment again!! And your knowledge is very helpful to make that work better for me!
14 years ago I found a system for myself where I would remind myself that we have a reflective system in our mind that channels the being that is the universe into what we experience as awareness. And in overthinking that spirals out of control to limit the reflective capacity going in circles around the same over and over. And it helped me to just focus on the reflective system itself, so reflecting on the reflecting, that was a way to take the reflective capacity away from reflecting on fearful things onto something that is neutral, the experience of awareness itself, and that would get my mind "empty" to then be filled with wholesome stuff. Like you mentioned in a video, what Frankl said, the space between where we can find freedom.
I appreciate this content so much and that isn’t transaction- just there to help. I also think you are gently kindly and perfectly deliver all of it. Thank you!
The music in your video is STRESSING ME.
You make caring, helpful, videos. Please don't spoil them for people like me, who want to concentrate on what you're saying. Depression lowers the ability to concentrate.
Read the transcript instead
Thoughts are like clouds, they float away. The objective is to let the thought go, like a cloud. If the thought won't go away, replace it with a positive or gratitude thought. Eventually the positive or grateful thoughts becomes automatic.
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Focus intently on the 5 senses. What do you see, hear, feel, smell or taste? This will help you to BE present.
Thank you SO much for this series! Where I struggle the most is assuming all of my automatic negative thoughts are my instincts/intuition. So, when I go to challenging my thoughts, I'm convincing myself that I'm denying my instincts and it takes the anxiety to a different, sometimes darker place. I'm sure you have a video on it (I hope by continuing watching I'll find it), but it would be great to understand how to clearly differentiate instinct/intuition vs. automatic negative thoughts.
Thank you so much for all this great advice for free, you are helping so many people with all this including me! 😊
I had a fear and pain avoidance and irritation and anger response triggered by the first wrens of the first example. I am coming to terms with never being able to have kids. I’m not there yet accepting that. I see how this is affecting me at middle age focusing n what I will never have is as great a loss as having and losing. But it’s disenfranchised grief. I need to go on support groups for others in my situation and that may allow me to feel less alone in this. Isolation in these things leads to overthinking and being n our brain about it. Focusing on listening to others stories and making them feel seen gets us out of this rumination. At least it does for me.
Thank you for your videos. I’m learning a lot about how my emotions and thoughts happen and tools to help myself.
Great video , I do not think it was too long. A lot of examples of how to gain the skills , it is appreciate it.
I've been feeling so out of it lately. Like things are just not going to go well at all. I know it's not true, I'm safe, I have people who love and care about me. Just letting things bug me, and I hadn't been meditating like I normally do. Thankyou for helping to bring me back.😊
Ty ty ty!! I've been noticing this lately and have been struggling to cope with this on my own. I will definitely implement these skills🤗
Beautiful message. By the way, your hair has grown more luscious. That's a good intentioned observation.
This channel just popped up in my feed….i wish I found it long ago…I can’t wait to watch more! Thank you! 🙏