Emma, as a mental health therapist myself, I want to thank you for the amazing content you put out. I’ve recommended several of your videos to my own clients because I believe you provide so much valuable information in an easy to digest format. Thanks again!
this is something i am working with so hard right now. Accepting that I feel anxious and that it is okay. I have this fear that I will relapse, that my dissosiation will comeback stronger than ever, that i will be scared of the world again... All because I felt exhausted after a busy day. it's funny, I do meditation not to get rid of the original anxiety, but to calm my brain to be able to accept that "Okay, I feel anxious. Sure, it is uncomfortable, sure I might have to take today a bit slower, but it is okay". And then suddenly my original anxiety goes away on its own. its a slow process to rewire years of certain type of tought patterns, but slowly forward.
Jesus had so much anxiety he swear blood. Yeah it’s serious. But as she says there is always something you can do. I worked my bum off to change and ya know what happened-I changed! Obviously when you’re in it,you know it sucks,but taking that first step to do something that gives you a little anxiety and overcoming it,well that’s an immeasurable blessing and you feel superb after. I’m not saying it is easy. Nope. But I’m a definite example to show you can change. Also,Christ is Lord. He is the real one who helps. He wants us to make the choice sometimes I think. Thanks for all the help! You are awesome!
I’m stuck in anxiety 24/7 (except some rare moments) for almost 2 months now, and on a daily basis I can only accept it for so long before I start looking for relief. I used to do breathing exercises, including superventilation, but they have stopped working for the most part. I can’t distract myself with work or things I want to do, because I can’t focus and can’t enjoy much. The combination with depression is toxic. I am living day by day, trying to accept and relax, and hope I will get some relief soon. Watching your videos helps a tiny bit, thank you.
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I am in a similar situation - it is so exhausting and draining. It's been around 4 months for me with some moments of relief, but not sustained. We will get through it. It always eventually passes. Sending you lots of love and support.
I am currently dealing with it and I have learned what it is all humans bodies are either passive nervous system or overly excited unfortunately us that suffer from this are overly excited it’s what we eat, also there is some foods or drinks that cause a lot of stress in our bodies like coffee, white bread, etc.. the person that has being helping to start eating right and to calm my nervous system is Frank Suarez just search him up on UA-cam! I pray this will help you guys as well as me as I’m on a journey to adapt to this lifestyle ge talks about 🙏❤️
In OCD, don't accept the outcome you fear, but accept the fact that you are afraid, which means that you are not on the wrong track, you have a heart and you are on the right track. For normal anxiety as well as for OCD, pat yourself on the back and say "there, there, you're alive and nobody's attacking you", "there's no danger right now, we'll face it later" or simply just "ok, duly noted" on repeat. Take away attention to something else. Distract yourself by keeping busy with something all day. Distractions work, especially for mindless nonsense anxiety, anxiety which is not real, or which is distant.
“Mindless no sense anxiety” is the definition for me. After years (I’m almost 33) I’ve just found out how important and truly spiritual can be “just having something to do” and keeping me busy! I remember for many years my brain started to sing “I just wanna have something to do” by the Ramones when my brain was suggesting “me” the reason why……… and the solution also! Thank you for putting it out like that, it helped changing my perspective on it, and perspective is crucial!
If there were an award to be given for best therapy channel, it would be this one. Emma is providing cutting edge, proven insights and techniques for our various issues that could only be received by going to a good therapist who many unfortunately we cant afford.
That was the issue for me during the past 4 years. I started getting severe panick attacks after a traumatic experience and ended up getting stuck in the cycle of being constantly afraid of having attacks, which led me to have them often. Anxiety and panick attacks turned into my worst fear in my whole life. I was taking a lot of medications, but I was resistant to therapy and didn't believe anything could help me but the meds (that didn't actually work 100%). Then a few months ago I got pregnant and had to stop all my pills and had to face anxiety. Took me months, but I finally got to understand that I am indeed the one who can stop it. Your videos helped me a lot! I am so thankful to have found this channel. Now I'm 3 months anxiety free and even if I feel anxious sometimes, I won't let it take over me, so it's always under control.
I'm so happy for you, both on your news of being an expectant mother and also that you have come to a better place with your anxiety. Facing our fear and anxiety, surrendering and accepting are the keys. I'm still working on this, 2.5 years into my anxiety disorder. I still have a way to go but I can see the progress, however slow but its there
@@tashipoo1179 Thank you for your kind words. Recovery isn’t linear and the more confident and calm you are, the best results you get. I always remind myself to not be too harsh and judgmental and it works. I still have bad days too. We’re on the right path finally ❤️ I wish you the best
That is amazing to hear and I'm so happy you have found your path. Sometimes I believe I am going to be the hardest anxiety sufferer to treat. Or that I won't be good enough at the mental work or articulating my issues.Thats the anxiety talking though. Ive just started seeing a therapist who specializes in anxiety. Mine came on in October after a hard month, heart arrhythmia, sick, throwing out back, our youngest born, wearing a heart monitor, all in a month. Although i had anxiety before it was always directed on the outside world. I haven't been my old self since. I now have anxiety everyday in some form which adds a touch of depression. It's usually my first thought in the morning. It starts with self checking and worrying about still having anxiety until i feel symptoms. What a crummy cycle. But yours and others who share their journey gives myself and I'm sure so many others hope and courage to stay the course. ❤
It's such a wierd and complicated thing, sometimes I get anxious about getting anxious about feeling anxious if I think about it, but other times I get relieved when I think how silly it is just to get anxious about getting anxious and it makes everything seem better because I know it's not real it's just me overthinking and the anxiety just melts away, if any of that makes any sense 🤷♂️
@@angelawhite2022 I personally think that meds should be the very last resort, if they even work for you at all meds just hide the anxiety but they don't actually fix it, you just end up stuck having to take them indefinitely. Unless you do have a medical problem that's causing you to have chemical imbalance negatively affecting your moods and emotions which 99% percent of time is not the case then meds are not the answer, understanding the way anxiety works and why it makes you feel scary physical symptoms and how you don't need to feel scared of those symptoms is the key, most of us are just creating our own anxiety because we constantly feel anxious about feeling anxious and it dominates our thoughts, we expect to feel anxious and feel scared of that expectation, we make it happen, it's a cycle that we can all overcome ❤️
My anxiety spiralled into something huge from something tiny as soon as my doctor said "this is anxiety" 😢 I then got stuck in the what ifs and worst case scenarios of thinking I was broken, wouldn't get better etc...and it was all just worry!
anxiety about anxiety is an adaptation that confers advantage on survival in a world that is trying to kill me. my response to this is, anxiety is no longer necessary if i accept the truth that Im already dead, as stated by Lt Spears in the series Band of Brothers. I don’t mean to trivialize anxiety (which I have struggled with) but rather to encourage the view that death is inevitable so perhaps its better to not waste my life worrying about it and instead venture forth beyond my comfort zones and create good memories that prove my anxiety is not necessary or desirable and in fact is counterproductive to my interests in living well.
I feel the same way. I get anxious and then I get nauseous, and I have a fear of vomiting so I get more anxious which makes me even more nauseous and the cycle continues.
For the benefit of everyone reading this,aerobic physical activity is one of the most useful things against stress/anxiety,try to engage in running for at least 30 minutes five times a week,i even came across some researches stating physical activity is even more effective than psychotherapy or medications.
I always felt situations were scarier because I knew id be anxious and that it’d affect my behavior. I started being more scared of how id feel about myself after than what others thought which is a trip. Thanks for covering this topic 🙌
18 years with anxiety disorder. In all my years of suffering, I’ve never heard this technique before and it really makes sense. Thanks so much for the work you put into helping others with their mental health. I listen to your videos everyday and find comfort and help from them. Blessings
Your videos are seriously having SUCH a PROFOUND impact on my lifelong anxiety. I've tried so many things and talked to so many professionals over the years but still struggled. Somehow your videos just CLICK in my mind and I am making such huge progress in how I think, feel, and act in regards to my anxiety!! I cannot thank you enough!!! ❤ Your videos are so empowering and encouraging and enlightening and comforting!!
I’ve read rumination is a form of anxiety , catching yourself ruminating that can be difficult especially when mull over the same old should haves and could haves you try stopping yourself but… keep the great work Emma
Emma, I’ve been watching your videos about anxiety for several hours. They are so incredibly helpful and comforting. I’ve been going through hell for weeks with endless anxiety and panic attacks. Lost a lottttt of sleep over it. Felt like I was gonna die in the car on the way to a doctor’s appointment. I think this might be the worst I’ve ever felt, honestly. “Can’t be anxious if I refuse to think” 😂 that really made me laugh. I don’t think I’ve done that in a while. Yikes, lol. Thank you so much for all these videos. I did some of the exercises you instructed, and they’ve definitely helped. ❤
One of the best things I've learned, especially from the book called 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels, is to not fight anxiety. I use to be so afraid of the next panic attack or anxiety inducing trigger, and then I would try to preemptively manage the experience by struggling. Learning to let go and give anxiety space to do its thing and pass is hard, but it's helped a lot. I just try to give it space and allow myself to feel the anxiety, it's strange but it seems to help.
After years of struggling with anxiety symptoms without any professional help, I finally started seeing a therapist regularly and it's been a really tough month, opening up about past experiences and working towards changing the way my mind works. However, your videos have been immensely helpful at understanding all these new concepts and resources and I just wanted to say thank you. You've made things easier for me and I'm sure for lots of other people as well. Again, thanks ❤❤❤
5:15: What we pay attention to becomes larger. 5:56: Five skills to help us work through anxiety: #1: 6:00: Challenge the belief that anxiety is dangerous and must be avoided. #2: 6:18: Lean in, not out. Open yourself up to having feelings. #3: 8:54: Practice shifting your attention with your sensations. Redirect your attention to sensations other than those caused by your anxiety (e.g focus on what you can see out the window instead of paying attention to your fast heartbeat and breathing & sweating). #4: 10:05: Allow your anxiety to be there and shift your attention to what you care about. #5: 10:48: Accept what you can’t control and focus on what you can. (Serenity prayer: Grant me the serenity to accept what I cannot change, courage to change what I can, and wisdom to know the difference.) 11:34 Summary: Make space for anxiety instead of fearing it.
For me, I had severe anemia. My anxiety came out as a result of the “what if” thoughts. I’m doing much more better now, one piece advice I’d give to some is Don’t fight your symptoms, let them pass, you are ok
Hi Emma! This is Nan. Thank yiseou for exposing the lie. Anxiety about anxiety. This video is very important for everyone, I believe. Feelings aren't bad. Feeling our feelings isn't bad. In fact, if we all pause to feel our feelings throughout each day ... we may find ourselves surprised by how much our lives change for the better. Thank you so much, Emma. Peace, Nan Cohen
Emma, you're a godsend. I'm taking notes and practicing the things I'm learning from your videos... Words aren't enough to express my gratitude, but they're all I have. So thanks a million
I appreciate your videos. I'm a recovering alcoholic and I used to drink just to keep anxiety away and it only makes it worse in a vicious cycle chasing your own tail. Things get a lot better after a month or so. I never want to be in that destructive cycle again. I've lost jobs and relationships throughout the years. Looking forward to a better productive life and I'm finally working again and it has helped a million 👍✨ ty much appreciated.
Thank you, Emma. My life is slowly getting better because of you! :) You're so kind, gentle and you make such wonderful and accurate points. Over the years, I've gotten better at dealing with anxiety and self loathing tendencies because of your videos.
Anxiety about Anxiety is a tough loop............. Need to somehow stay in the present... I love your videos and really appreciate you help and great personality !!!!!! This is great advice. Recognize it, label it, allow and witness it, pause, shift............. The challenging thing is to continue to practice this so you can unwiring this unwanted subconscious response (PTSD). 💜💜💜
Just to know I’m not alone with this awful fear of anxiety symptoms and feelings is a help. I keep saying I’m not afraid of the event itself, I’m capable of great things, it’s the anxiety that I dread so much. Thank you so much for this video, I’m going to start with these ideas.
Thanks for making these videos. They make my anxiety make more sense. Lately, I’ve been trying to “make space” for anxiety, and, even though it’s difficult, I think it’s helping me think more clearly.
Yes, the truth about cauliflower 'rice' 😂 I think I have this cyclic problem with work performance and depression. I'm afraid the depression gets worse, then I worry about work performance, which makes less focussed and less productive, which me feel like bad about myself and that makes me feel more depressed. I'm trying to let the thoughts go. To not keep spiralling. Just acknowledging them and then do something to distract me a bit. It's difficult.
this came at just the right time, needed this reminder!! id been feeling a lot better but recently because of school and other reasons i’ve started feeling more anxious and noticed i was starting to feel anxious about anxiety and symptoms again! thank you!!
So bless that I watched your video just now. I'm dealing with anxiety almost 8 months. every now and then it always triggered. I have two little children, and I always get stress of raising them.
Thank you so much for this. My students are anxious about their presentations coming up, and I think I will references your video and tips. Your warmth and genuine attitude are a gift ❤
Thank you so much for your videos, Emma! They've been a huge help and source of relief. It's really impressive how you touch almost all the facets that I've been going through lately. These videos are so useful. Again, thank you!
The worst part of my anxiety is physical symptoms that seem like something else, and cause more anxiety. Deep relaxation meditation and tapping have definitely helped. Takes persistence - have to stick with it and make it a routine. There are many great relaxation meditations on UA-cam - you have to experiment and decide whose voice is calming to you. Nick Ortner has two excellent tapping meditations on UA-cam, as well. He's the best. And thank you, Emma. YOU are the best at what you are doing for all of us!
❤1990. I would listen to Dr.Viscoot and they have his videos now on UA-cam. I remember his show and I read all his books. I feel great, I stil read psychology and science topics and thanks for your stuff. Dr.Viscott: If, someone does you wrong, tell them in the moment. . Don’t put it off, just say, ouch that hurts. These ideas have kept me sane all these years. Californian Surfer Downey Cali
My anxiety is all around my sleep. I begin to focus on falling asleep and panic. My body then throws intrusive thoughts at me in this moment causing more anxiety. I know just relaxing and focusing on something else helps. Sometimes the anxiety will drag me back. Hoping to work through this
Yes I get anxiety about anxiety, I’m always expecting to feel anxiety. And when I try to make plans to travel or plan anything I expect I’m going to have bad anxiety.
Thank you so much for this series! So amazing to have someone so detailed explaining what I’ve been going through and helping me to get back on the right path.
My early anxiety was surely Nature and Nuture. General Anxiety ran in my mother's large family, and I also inherited a frantic anxiety. It was magnified into a personality trait by significant childhood traumas. In my 50's, I finally got a GAD diagnosis. Currently waiting to see how Lexapro works.
Started Lexapro about 10 weeks ago. Doing very well. Give it time to get settled in - it takes a couple months. I am gradually increasing dose - allowing several weeks between each increase. (under Dr's instructions each time) Good luck!
I just want to share some tricks I've used during overwhelming times with great results! Theres several I hope they help! I visualize blowing up a big balloon with everything thats causing me anxiety and then pop it with a pin! ( It makes you feel so in control ) or you can just let it flow away. ( very calming ) I visualize a small cloud filling up to a storm cloud. And let it rain down ( so calming.) When I have bad thoughts spinning in my head over and over again . ( I call it tornado or hurricane thinking) I push an eject button at the temple of my head like a cd or dvd eject button This one you may have to do several times. But, it works! Driving home from a bad day or a situation. Once I cross a disignated street or landmark. I leave it all behind. I've been doing this since the 90's. Its remarkable how in control and calming it feels. And you can do it anywhere. Your car, the hallway, in front of others! It visual in your mind only. Hope this helps anyone and everyone❤
Thankyou Emma for this site I’m taking a CBT course at MH center. I was having trouble with figuring out the CBT triangle, you have helped me understand it better. This is like a foreign language to me. Now I have some idea how to combat my negative thoughts. You’re a Blessing to us all!
Absolutely spectacular! I have somehow come up with my own way to approach these emotions in my own way based on how you have discussed this and i feel so much more confident about everything right now! thanks so much! 😭💕
Accept what you cant control, focus your attention to what you can control. In addition, keep learning new tools. I learnt how to use technology to optimize sleep. I sleep much better and less anxious
If you are a totally healthy person with normal human emotions,and priviledged enough to be not facing actual danger,the message from the video is perfect. Within complex childhood trauma,the feeling of tiredness from insomnia could be a often seen trigger source.That's what cause the anxiety of insomnia so horrible. It's not only about fearing the insomnia itself,but also another trauma induced mental breakdown.And only one single breakdown could be touturous enough to build a life long fear for it,let along many of us here probably have been through some hell.So if your trauma is complex,especially has something to do with the childhood,it's totally normal to not be able to reach what was told in this video overnight.This video should be combined with other sources of information on how trauma triggers you if you have complex problems.A single video is not a magic spell.We need to first understand the layers of our fear to accept it.I would recommend DR.Patrick CC on this topic
My anxiety is that it stopped me from sleeping and that made me not sleep more. It’s thinking I won’t ever feel normal again in the future. My second child is about to be born soon and it triggered a terrible reaction in me because of the lack of sleep. And now I have lack of sleep lol. I’m determined to return to my normal sleep, as my kids and wife need me to be normal!
Your wonderful, Good girl.... ive had this and its silly, but hard until you work through it and heal at the time. I have fear of large shops now. I have to tell myself off and say stop it when i feel it coming helps to ward it off., and saying your SAFE. It all effects my bodies reactions. But have to keep going out, bit by bit and face my fears. Not avoidance;-) write it all down and make a lig also helps. Its so difficult, but i know its doable to change your thoughts and fears, its all in our minds folks....
One important thing that I learned about my brain is that it doesn’t care what the “something” is. It just knows that you are fearing something. As long as you are feeding that fear it is gonna pump the adrenaline to you in order to fight that some thing. Even if that something is anxiety, if you fear it it will continue to treat it as just a something. Regardless of if its anxiety, a bear, or something benign like the color orange. If you fear it, it will help you fight it.
The problem is not always that one perceives anxiety to be dangerous, but rather just extremely unpleasant. When you feel chronically very unpleasant, it is very hard to be okay with it being there. Especially if the fysical symptoms accompanying it, are so bad you can't even do the thing you intended to do in the first place. So the thought of just letting it be there can cause a lot of mental resistance. Any tips about that?
I don't know much I'm myself struggling, but maybe this helps - try to think opposite of what your physical symptoms are.. not when you are experiencing them, but when you are calmer. While experiencing difficult sensations, tell your mind that it's okay.. this is just "anxiety" this labels it and creates distance, then sit with it.. think that if this sensation will come.. so be it.. I'm gonna observe the entire event, this isn't mortal danger.. this too will pass and just experience it.. I know it may sound daunting at 1st.. and trust me, few days will be bad.. but you'll see improvement
I totally understand it. You just get so tired of always feeling BAD, especially that your brain tends to focus on negative stuff so you overlook the little moments of content or happines during the day. What I try to do is to think about it as a common human experience (I was inspired by the three elements of self-compassion acc to Dr Kristin Neff). Yes, I am suffering, but all humans are. This is an essential part of life (and obviously not all people have anxiety disorders but they may experience other severe difficulties). I'd rather be alive and feel like this than be unable to feel anything, or never live at all. These emotions are a proof that I'm a real human and I am here right now. Thinking about it calms me down immensely.
Check out lia_spores on Instagram, she’s got the best tips and helps with anxiety related issues. I’ve microdosed shrooms🍄through her and it helped get rid of my 5 months anxiety and depression and I’ll recommend it for anyone👍
I'm Brazilian and I'm improving my English and my mind, I've already read and listened carefully to each episode up to the eighth. I noticed you forgot to publish episode 12 on the website. If you publish it, it will help me a lot. Thank you very much! ❤
Can you do some videos about 1. Regretting a breakup and wanting your ex back but they are open to it and how to move on when you messed up 2. Anxiety about biological clock
شكرا لكِ لوضع المترجم التلقائي، اعاني من القمص الجسدي و العاطفي انا شخص مفرط الحساسية و اعاني بشدة الخيال يكاد يدمرني عندما تصتدم امي بالجدار او اي شي صلب اشعر بالمها و اصرخ بصوت اعلى منها من شدة الالم😔😭 لماذا لا يهتم الاطباء النفسيين باختراع اي شي يغير او يساعد ادمغتنا لا اعلم كيف ان الاطباء يستطيعون معالجة المرضى و رؤية الحروق و الدم و الجروح😔😭
This is so timely. I recently had to taking SSRIs because they no longer worked as well but caused some wicked side effect, like violent restless legs. I have been struggling a bit.
I also get stuck in this feedback loop sometimes. I like to imagine it like a security system with two moving cameras. One camera detects the other one moving and sees it as a threat and sounds the alarm. Then the other camera detects the first camera and sounds the alarm again. And this goes on and on until you realize that there is no actual threat at all… it’s just the system detecting itself.
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My anxiety has significantly decreased no more severe panic attacks but I watch these videos to keep it from falling backwards
Can you tell us what helped you?
@@nataliajoy19 Hello!
I think part of the answer is: Emma McAdam 😄
Same here.
I know those are no fun. I love these videos.... she does a great job explaining and I agree, they are very helpful !
@@Nicolas_0456Except they didn’t ask you..
Emma, as a mental health therapist myself, I want to thank you for the amazing content you put out. I’ve recommended several of your videos to my own clients because I believe you provide so much valuable information in an easy to digest format. Thanks again!
this is something i am working with so hard right now. Accepting that I feel anxious and that it is okay. I have this fear that I will relapse, that my dissosiation will comeback stronger than ever, that i will be scared of the world again... All because I felt exhausted after a busy day.
it's funny, I do meditation not to get rid of the original anxiety, but to calm my brain to be able to accept that "Okay, I feel anxious. Sure, it is uncomfortable, sure I might have to take today a bit slower, but it is okay". And then suddenly my original anxiety goes away on its own.
its a slow process to rewire years of certain type of tought patterns, but slowly forward.
Jesus had so much anxiety he swear blood. Yeah it’s serious. But as she says there is always something you can do. I worked my bum off to change and ya know what happened-I changed!
Obviously when you’re in it,you know it sucks,but taking that first step to do something that gives you a little anxiety and overcoming it,well that’s an immeasurable blessing and you feel superb after.
I’m not saying it is easy. Nope. But I’m a definite example to show you can change.
Also,Christ is Lord. He is the real one who helps. He wants us to make the choice sometimes I think.
Thanks for all the help! You are awesome!
Christ is Lord. I couldn’t do it without Him.
I’m stuck in anxiety 24/7 (except some rare moments) for almost 2 months now, and on a daily basis I can only accept it for so long before I start looking for relief. I used to do breathing exercises, including superventilation, but they have stopped working for the most part. I can’t distract myself with work or things I want to do, because I can’t focus and can’t enjoy much. The combination with depression is toxic.
I am living day by day, trying to accept and relax, and hope I will get some relief soon. Watching your videos helps a tiny bit, thank you.
I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I am in a similar situation - it is so exhausting and draining. It's been around 4 months for me with some moments of relief, but not sustained.
We will get through it. It always eventually passes. Sending you lots of love and support.
I am currently dealing with it and I have learned what it is all humans bodies are either passive nervous system or overly excited unfortunately us that suffer from this are overly excited it’s what we eat, also there is some foods or drinks that cause a lot of stress in our bodies like coffee, white bread, etc.. the person that has being helping to start eating right and to calm my nervous system is Frank Suarez just search him up on UA-cam! I pray this will help you guys as well as me as I’m on a journey to adapt to this lifestyle ge talks about 🙏❤️
In OCD, don't accept the outcome you fear, but accept the fact that you are afraid, which means that you are not on the wrong track, you have a heart and you are on the right track.
For normal anxiety as well as for OCD, pat yourself on the back and say "there, there, you're alive and nobody's attacking you", "there's no danger right now, we'll face it later" or simply just "ok, duly noted" on repeat. Take away attention to something else. Distract yourself by keeping busy with something all day. Distractions work, especially for mindless nonsense anxiety, anxiety which is not real, or which is distant.
“Mindless no sense anxiety” is the definition for me.
After years (I’m almost 33) I’ve just found out how important and truly spiritual can be “just having something to do” and keeping me busy!
I remember for many years my brain started to sing “I just wanna have something to do” by the Ramones when my brain was suggesting “me” the reason why……… and the solution also!
Thank you for putting it out like that, it helped changing my perspective on it, and perspective is crucial!
If there were an award to be given for best therapy channel, it would be this one. Emma is providing cutting edge, proven insights and techniques for our various issues that could only be received by going to a good therapist who many unfortunately we cant afford.
the fact that this is free, and that this video has helped me more than 1 year of seeing a therapist is absolutely crazy. Thank YOU
That was the issue for me during the past 4 years. I started getting severe panick attacks after a traumatic experience and ended up getting stuck in the cycle of being constantly afraid of having attacks, which led me to have them often. Anxiety and panick attacks turned into my worst fear in my whole life. I was taking a lot of medications, but I was resistant to therapy and didn't believe anything could help me but the meds (that didn't actually work 100%). Then a few months ago I got pregnant and had to stop all my pills and had to face anxiety. Took me months, but I finally got to understand that I am indeed the one who can stop it. Your videos helped me a lot! I am so thankful to have found this channel. Now I'm 3 months anxiety free and even if I feel anxious sometimes, I won't let it take over me, so it's always under control.
I'm so happy for you, both on your news of being an expectant mother and also that you have come to a better place with your anxiety. Facing our fear and anxiety, surrendering and accepting are the keys. I'm still working on this, 2.5 years into my anxiety disorder. I still have a way to go but I can see the progress, however slow but its there
@@tashipoo1179 Thank you for your kind words. Recovery isn’t linear and the more confident and calm you are, the best results you get. I always remind myself to not be too harsh and judgmental and it works. I still have bad days too. We’re on the right path finally ❤️ I wish you the best
That is amazing to hear and I'm so happy you have found your path. Sometimes I believe I am going to be the hardest anxiety sufferer to treat. Or that I won't be good enough at the mental work or articulating my issues.Thats the anxiety talking though. Ive just started seeing a therapist who specializes in anxiety. Mine came on in October after a hard month, heart arrhythmia, sick, throwing out back, our youngest born, wearing a heart monitor, all in a month. Although i had anxiety before it was always directed on the outside world. I haven't been my old self since. I now have anxiety everyday in some form which adds a touch of depression. It's usually my first thought in the morning. It starts with self checking and worrying about still having anxiety until i feel symptoms. What a crummy cycle. But yours and others who share their journey gives myself and I'm sure so many others hope and courage to stay the course. ❤
One of the first anxieties I had when I found out I had anxiety was getting anxiety about getting anxiety
It's such a wierd and complicated thing, sometimes I get anxious about getting anxious about feeling anxious if I think about it, but other times I get relieved when I think how silly it is just to get anxious about getting anxious and it makes everything seem better because I know it's not real it's just me overthinking and the anxiety just melts away, if any of that makes any sense 🤷♂️
My worst anxiety is of taking anxiety meds 🤦♀️
@@angelawhite2022 I personally think that meds should be the very last resort, if they even work for you at all meds just hide the anxiety but they don't actually fix it, you just end up stuck having to take them indefinitely. Unless you do have a medical problem that's causing you to have chemical imbalance negatively affecting your moods and emotions which 99% percent of time is not the case then meds are not the answer, understanding the way anxiety works and why it makes you feel scary physical symptoms and how you don't need to feel scared of those symptoms is the key, most of us are just creating our own anxiety because we constantly feel anxious about feeling anxious and it dominates our thoughts, we expect to feel anxious and feel scared of that expectation, we make it happen, it's a cycle that we can all overcome ❤️
My anxiety spiralled into something huge from something tiny as soon as my doctor said "this is anxiety" 😢 I then got stuck in the what ifs and worst case scenarios of thinking I was broken, wouldn't get better etc...and it was all just worry!
@meandmine8325 that's been me recently. Worrying about worry, and worrying things won't improve.
anxiety about anxiety is an adaptation that confers advantage on survival in a world that is trying to kill me. my response to this is, anxiety is no longer necessary if i accept the truth that Im already dead, as stated by Lt Spears in the series Band of Brothers. I don’t mean to trivialize anxiety (which I have struggled with) but rather to encourage the view that death is inevitable so perhaps its better to not waste my life worrying about it and instead venture forth beyond my comfort zones and create good memories that prove my anxiety is not necessary or desirable and in fact is counterproductive to my interests in living well.
For me, it’s that anxiety can potentially lead to physical health issues that makes me anxious of having anxiety it freaking sucks.
I feel the same way. I get anxious and then I get nauseous, and I have a fear of vomiting so I get more anxious which makes me even more nauseous and the cycle continues.
Same here! I faint whenever my anxiety elevates. I am always anxious of having anxiety and fainting
For me it's I'll get so anxious I get harm OCD thoughts and think I can't cope anymore
For the benefit of everyone reading this,aerobic physical activity is one of the most useful things against stress/anxiety,try to engage in running for at least 30 minutes five times a week,i even came across some researches stating physical activity is even more effective than psychotherapy or medications.
This Is 100% true
Absolutely. For the past 2 years I have depended on my daily dose of running and walking to put me in a better place. It NEVER fails to help.
I always felt situations were scarier because I knew id be anxious and that it’d affect my behavior. I started being more scared of how id feel about myself after than what others thought which is a trip. Thanks for covering this topic 🙌
Are you better with that now? I'm really struggling with it at the moment.
Same with me. Seems like an endless cycle/feedback loop
18 years with anxiety disorder. In all my years of suffering, I’ve never heard this technique before and it really makes sense. Thanks so much for the work you put into helping others with their mental health. I listen to your videos everyday and find comfort and help from them. Blessings
Your videos are seriously having SUCH a PROFOUND impact on my lifelong anxiety. I've tried so many things and talked to so many professionals over the years but still struggled. Somehow your videos just CLICK in my mind and I am making such huge progress in how I think, feel, and act in regards to my anxiety!! I cannot thank you enough!!! ❤ Your videos are so empowering and encouraging and enlightening and comforting!!
Same with me! I've had many years of therapy and yet still Emma's videos are extremely helpful and make sense to me.
I also love your videos. They always make me feel better. You explain things so easy to understand. Thank you Emma.😊
I’ve read rumination is a form of anxiety , catching yourself ruminating that can be difficult especially when mull over the same old should haves and could haves you try stopping yourself but… keep the great work Emma
Emma, I’ve been watching your videos about anxiety for several hours. They are so incredibly helpful and comforting. I’ve been going through hell for weeks with endless anxiety and panic attacks. Lost a lottttt of sleep over it. Felt like I was gonna die in the car on the way to a doctor’s appointment. I think this might be the worst I’ve ever felt, honestly.
“Can’t be anxious if I refuse to think” 😂 that really made me laugh. I don’t think I’ve done that in a while. Yikes, lol.
Thank you so much for all these videos. I did some of the exercises you instructed, and they’ve definitely helped. ❤
One of the best things I've learned, especially from the book called 30 Days to Reduce Stress by Harper Daniels, is to not fight anxiety. I use to be so afraid of the next panic attack or anxiety inducing trigger, and then I would try to preemptively manage the experience by struggling. Learning to let go and give anxiety space to do its thing and pass is hard, but it's helped a lot. I just try to give it space and allow myself to feel the anxiety, it's strange but it seems to help.
After years of struggling with anxiety symptoms without any professional help, I finally started seeing a therapist regularly and it's been a really tough month, opening up about past experiences and working towards changing the way my mind works. However, your videos have been immensely helpful at understanding all these new concepts and resources and I just wanted to say thank you. You've made things easier for me and I'm sure for lots of other people as well. Again, thanks ❤❤❤
5:15: What we pay attention to becomes larger.
5:56: Five skills to help us work through anxiety:
#1: 6:00: Challenge the belief that anxiety is dangerous and must be avoided.
#2: 6:18: Lean in, not out. Open yourself up to having feelings.
#3: 8:54: Practice shifting your attention with your sensations. Redirect your attention to sensations other than those caused by your anxiety (e.g focus on what you can see out the window instead of paying attention to your fast heartbeat and breathing & sweating).
#4: 10:05: Allow your anxiety to be there and shift your attention to what you care about.
#5: 10:48: Accept what you can’t control and focus on what you can. (Serenity prayer: Grant me the serenity to accept what I cannot change, courage to change what I can, and wisdom to know the difference.)
11:34 Summary: Make space for anxiety instead of fearing it.
For me, I had severe anemia. My anxiety came out as a result of the “what if” thoughts.
I’m doing much more better now, one piece advice I’d give to some is
Don’t fight your symptoms, let them pass, you are ok
Hi Emma! This is Nan. Thank yiseou for exposing the lie. Anxiety about anxiety. This video is very important for everyone, I believe. Feelings aren't bad. Feeling our feelings isn't bad. In fact, if we all pause to feel our feelings throughout each day ... we may find ourselves surprised by how much our lives change for the better. Thank you so much, Emma. Peace, Nan Cohen
Choose not to be harmed, and you won’t feel any harm. - Marcus Aurelius
Thank you for saying what no one else will. Cauliflower will never be rice.
i had anxiety like any one of us in their lifetime, just embrace it and fact check it it will go away , thanks x
Emma, you're a godsend. I'm taking notes and practicing the things I'm learning from your videos... Words aren't enough to express my gratitude, but they're all I have. So thanks a million
I appreciate your videos. I'm a recovering alcoholic and I used to drink just to keep anxiety away and it only makes it worse in a vicious cycle chasing your own tail. Things get a lot better after a month or so. I never want to be in that destructive cycle again. I've lost jobs and relationships throughout the years. Looking forward to a better productive life and I'm finally working again and it has helped a million 👍✨ ty much appreciated.
Thank you, Emma. My life is slowly getting better because of you! :) You're so kind, gentle and you make such wonderful and accurate points. Over the years, I've gotten better at dealing with anxiety and self loathing tendencies because of your videos.
Anxiety about Anxiety is a tough loop............. Need to somehow stay in the present...
I love your videos and really appreciate you help and great personality !!!!!! This is great advice. Recognize it, label it, allow and witness it, pause, shift.............
The challenging thing is to continue to practice this so you can unwiring this unwanted subconscious response (PTSD).
💜💜💜
Just to know I’m not alone with this awful fear of anxiety symptoms and feelings is a help. I keep saying I’m not afraid of the event itself, I’m capable of great things, it’s the anxiety that I dread so much. Thank you so much for this video, I’m going to start with these ideas.
Anxiety has making me worry too much in school Henry can’t stop thinking about intrusive thought
Write ut down and leave it on the paper. Write yr fears and thought on a slip and put it in a box. They stay there!!! Hope that helps.
I just reached the crescendo of my anxiety regarding my kid's signals of what appears to be anxiety. Your video comes at a good time. Thank you.
Be Kind to Yourself,with a Can do worthy,Outlook, Positive,Attitude of Grattitude,cause,you got This!Take care,people and Coach!
I am so thankful for you. I think you are one of the best and most relatable mental health therapists online.’
This will help me tremendously with my health anxiety, i hope. I will print it out and read the reminder daily!
Thanks for making these videos. They make my anxiety make more sense. Lately, I’ve been trying to “make space” for anxiety, and, even though it’s difficult, I think it’s helping me think more clearly.
Yes, the truth about cauliflower 'rice' 😂
I think I have this cyclic problem with work performance and depression. I'm afraid the depression gets worse, then I worry about work performance, which makes less focussed and less productive, which me feel like bad about myself and that makes me feel more depressed.
I'm trying to let the thoughts go. To not keep spiralling. Just acknowledging them and then do something to distract me a bit. It's difficult.
this came at just the right time, needed this reminder!! id been feeling a lot better but recently because of school and other reasons i’ve started feeling more anxious and noticed i was starting to feel anxious about anxiety and symptoms again! thank you!!
Yes! I’ve heard her talk about this in a previous video, but I needed this reminder and it came at a great time!! Thank you Emma!
I was anxious to watch this video.
Then I LOL with recognition and relief!
Love this, thanks! I’m crying in my cauliflower rice life, though. 😂Tip: dry fry it until the water has evaporated. MUCH better that way!
So bless that I watched your video just now.
I'm dealing with anxiety almost 8 months. every now and then it always triggered. I have two little children, and I always get stress of raising them.
Thank you so much for this. My students are anxious about their presentations coming up, and I think I will references your video and tips. Your warmth and genuine attitude are a gift ❤
Thank you so much for your videos, Emma! They've been a huge help and source of relief. It's really impressive how you touch almost all the facets that I've been going through lately. These videos are so useful. Again, thank you!
The worst part of my anxiety is physical symptoms that seem like something else, and cause more anxiety. Deep relaxation meditation and tapping have definitely helped. Takes persistence - have to stick with it and make it a routine. There are many great relaxation meditations on UA-cam - you have to experiment and decide whose voice is calming to you. Nick Ortner has two excellent tapping meditations on UA-cam, as well. He's the best. And thank you, Emma. YOU are the best at what you are doing for all of us!
Very helpful video. I had a panic attack when turn 50. Ever since then I am anxious about not having another one .
From the bottom of my heart, Thank you Emma.❤️
I have CFS and anxiety can cause relapses so anxiety is genuinely harmful sometimes. But I do try my best and your videos do really help .
❤1990. I would listen to Dr.Viscoot and they have his videos now on UA-cam. I remember his show and I read all his books. I feel great, I stil read psychology and science topics and thanks for your stuff. Dr.Viscott: If, someone does you wrong, tell them in the moment. . Don’t put it off, just say, ouch that hurts. These ideas have kept me sane all these years. Californian Surfer Downey Cali
My anxiety is all around my sleep. I begin to focus on falling asleep and panic. My body then throws intrusive thoughts at me in this moment causing more anxiety. I know just relaxing and focusing on something else helps. Sometimes the anxiety will drag me back. Hoping to work through this
Great video! I'm improving my relationship with my anxiety...I was gonna say fight but, fighting it only makes it stronger. Thanks for your videos.
Love that you’re changing your vocabulary on how you talk about anxiety! Thats the first step in changing! Good for you 😊
Oh I love your clear presentation on anxiety of anxiety
Yes I get anxiety about anxiety, I’m always expecting to feel anxiety. And when I try to make plans to travel or plan anything I expect I’m going to have bad anxiety.
I’m disabled because of my anxiety and I’ve been listening to your program cause I can’t survive on the outside of my four walls soo thanks
Thank you so much for posting this because this was my biggest thing
My biggest struggle is definitely hype analysing my symptoms I feel like I've trained my brain to stress over my symptoms so much and it's so scary
Thank you so much for this series! So amazing to have someone so detailed explaining what I’ve been going through and helping me to get back on the right path.
My early anxiety was surely Nature and Nuture. General Anxiety ran in my mother's large family, and I also inherited a frantic anxiety. It was magnified into a personality trait by significant childhood traumas. In my 50's, I finally got a GAD diagnosis. Currently waiting to see how Lexapro works.
Started Lexapro about 10 weeks ago. Doing very well. Give it time to get settled in - it takes a couple months. I am gradually increasing dose - allowing several weeks between each increase. (under Dr's instructions each time) Good luck!
@betho.3542 ...may I ask, did you have any fatigue as a side effect?
I just want to share some tricks I've used during overwhelming times with great results!
Theres several I hope they help!
I visualize blowing up a big balloon with everything thats causing me anxiety and then pop it with a pin! ( It makes you feel so in control ) or you can just let it flow away. ( very calming )
I visualize a small cloud filling up to a storm cloud. And let it rain down ( so calming.)
When I have bad thoughts spinning in my head over and over again . ( I call it tornado or hurricane thinking) I push an eject button at the temple of my head like a cd or dvd eject button This one you may have to do several times. But, it works!
Driving home from a bad day or a situation. Once I cross a disignated street or landmark. I leave it all behind.
I've been doing this since the 90's. Its remarkable how in control and calming it feels. And you can do it anywhere. Your car, the hallway, in front of others! It visual in your mind only.
Hope this helps anyone and everyone❤
Emma, you are so cool. I love the friendly way you present complex information. Thank you
Yes
I am learning a lot, thank you so much!!!!!
This is such an important video, thanks for sharing your personal experience!
Thankyou Emma for this site I’m taking a CBT course at MH center. I was having trouble with figuring out the CBT triangle, you have helped me understand it better. This is like a foreign language to me. Now I have some idea how to combat my negative thoughts. You’re a Blessing to us all!
Absolutely spectacular! I have somehow come up with my own way to approach these emotions in my own way based on how you have discussed this and i feel so much more confident about everything right now! thanks so much! 😭💕
You’re the best Emma. Thanks for sharing the gift.
Thanks!
This feels like you are describing me the fear of getting anxious gets me more nervous.
Accept what you cant control, focus your attention to what you can control. In addition, keep learning new tools. I learnt how to use technology to optimize sleep. I sleep much better and less anxious
If you are a totally healthy person with normal human emotions,and priviledged enough to be not facing actual danger,the message from the video is perfect.
Within complex childhood trauma,the feeling of tiredness from insomnia could be a often seen trigger source.That's what cause the anxiety of insomnia so horrible.
It's not only about fearing the insomnia itself,but also another trauma induced mental breakdown.And only one single breakdown could be touturous enough to build a life long fear for it,let along many of us here probably have been through some hell.So if your trauma is complex,especially has something to do with the childhood,it's totally normal to not be able to reach what was told in this video overnight.This video should be combined with other sources of information on how trauma triggers you if you have complex problems.A single video is not a magic spell.We need to first understand the layers of our fear to accept it.I would recommend DR.Patrick CC on this topic
You're my favorite "camp counselor." Thank you!!
My anxiety is that it stopped me from sleeping and that made me not sleep more. It’s thinking I won’t ever feel normal again in the future. My second child is about to be born soon and it triggered a terrible reaction in me because of the lack of sleep. And now I have lack of sleep lol. I’m determined to return to my normal sleep, as my kids and wife need me to be normal!
Your wonderful, Good girl.... ive had this and its silly, but hard until you work through it and heal at the time. I have fear of large shops now. I have to tell myself off and say stop it when i feel it coming helps to ward it off., and saying your SAFE. It all effects my bodies reactions. But have to keep going out, bit by bit and face my fears. Not avoidance;-) write it all down and make a lig also helps. Its so difficult, but i know its doable to change your thoughts and fears, its all in our minds folks....
One important thing that I learned about my brain is that it doesn’t care what the “something” is. It just knows that you are fearing something. As long as you are feeding that fear it is gonna pump the adrenaline to you in order to fight that some thing. Even if that something is anxiety, if you fear it it will continue to treat it as just a something. Regardless of if its anxiety, a bear, or something benign like the color orange. If you fear it, it will help you fight it.
The problem is not always that one perceives anxiety to be dangerous, but rather just extremely unpleasant. When you feel chronically very unpleasant, it is very hard to be okay with it being there. Especially if the fysical symptoms accompanying it, are so bad you can't even do the thing you intended to do in the first place. So the thought of just letting it be there can cause a lot of mental resistance. Any tips about that?
I don't know much I'm myself struggling, but maybe this helps - try to think opposite of what your physical symptoms are.. not when you are experiencing them, but when you are calmer.
While experiencing difficult sensations, tell your mind that it's okay.. this is just "anxiety" this labels it and creates distance, then sit with it.. think that if this sensation will come.. so be it.. I'm gonna observe the entire event, this isn't mortal danger.. this too will pass and just experience it.. I know it may sound daunting at 1st.. and trust me, few days will be bad.. but you'll see improvement
I totally understand it. You just get so tired of always feeling BAD, especially that your brain tends to focus on negative stuff so you overlook the little moments of content or happines during the day. What I try to do is to think about it as a common human experience (I was inspired by the three elements of self-compassion acc to Dr Kristin Neff). Yes, I am suffering, but all humans are. This is an essential part of life (and obviously not all people have anxiety disorders but they may experience other severe difficulties). I'd rather be alive and feel like this than be unable to feel anything, or never live at all. These emotions are a proof that I'm a real human and I am here right now. Thinking about it calms me down immensely.
@@koorigashi87I just wanted to let you know this comment really helped me. I actually screenshot it it helped so much. Thank you.
@@ProdPAN I'm really happy to know it, thank you for replying :) It's not easy but we got this!
But i dont want to be alive🙄@@koorigashi87
We can face anxiety and move on factor in Emma's strategy to combat it.. Once again enlightened and motivated thanks to her great advice 👍
Check out lia_spores on Instagram, she’s got the best tips and helps with anxiety related issues. I’ve microdosed shrooms🍄through her and it helped get rid of my 5 months anxiety and depression and I’ll recommend it for anyone👍
Hey Emma , don't let this go to your head (To Much) YOUR WONDERFUL. Thank you so much :-)
I'm Brazilian and I'm improving my English and my mind, I've already read and listened carefully to each episode up to the eighth. I noticed you forgot to publish episode 12 on the website. If you publish it, it will help me a lot. Thank you very much! ❤
You are so helpful and validating!!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge & care with others. It's very helpful. ❤
Thanks so much for your help in this area. It really does help.
Can you do some videos about 1. Regretting a breakup and wanting your ex back but they are open to it and how to move on when you messed up 2. Anxiety about biological clock
Thank you for all the efforts and videos that you provide to help us ❤️
Emma, you are such a blessing. Thank you so much for all you do! 💕
This is a very helpful video(as always).You and your channel are the best! Thank you Emma!
Anxiety about anxiety - hey that’s me, but your videos are helping.
I've had generalized anxiety disorder for 60+ years and I do hate the feeling of anxiety. I'm overwhelmed and fatigued.
Thank you for the advice
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Hello!
Thank you very much!
"It's kind of like getting your in-laws a hotel room instead of having them sleep in your living room." 😄
you have no idea how much you help me
This is so timely. I recently had to taking SSRIs because they no longer worked as well but caused some wicked side effect, like violent restless legs. I have been struggling a bit.
Thank you for your guidance and help.
I also get stuck in this feedback loop sometimes. I like to imagine it like a security system with two moving cameras. One camera detects the other one moving and sees it as a threat and sounds the alarm. Then the other camera detects the first camera and sounds the alarm again. And this goes on and on until you realize that there is no actual threat at all… it’s just the system detecting itself.
Thank you. This was very helpful. 🙏 💕
Your videos are amazing and very helpful. It does work and as much as I practice it I’m getting better.
This really helped me so much. Thank you.
Thnku so much u helped me alot to naming my feelings nd being aware of them 🙏😊❤️
I can't thank you enough for your videos, They help me tremendously!
Emma, you have saved me. Thankyou ❤