I have been clean and sober for 12 years. I literally had to relearn how to live my life. I was always at a bar, benefit or bbq w/ drinking and drugging people. I had to realize that I could go to the movies, bowling, and spend more time w/my daughter. Once I was over the alcohol and drugs, I had more money which meant less financial stress. I also stopped getting involved w/toxic men because I removed myself from that environment. I was literally spinning out of control. Thank God for whatever reason I saw what was happening. Still want BPD treatment but so hard to find.
Finding your channel has been a blessing. I was misdiagnosed as bi polar for almost 2 decades. Everything you say in your videos makes so much sense to me and I identify with almost everything you say. I have 8 of the 9 BPD traits from the DSM V and I’m currently trying to work with my therapist and psychiatrist on correcting my diagnosis. I told my therapist about your videos and he suggested I get your workbooks to help me figure things out with him. I’m sick of the daily, hourly & even sometimes minute to minute mood swings and my emotions constantly getting out of my control & swaying back and forth. I’m 32 and tired of living this way so I really hope your workbooks are as amazing as the videos of yours I’ve seen so far!
Sundiata Keita thank you for reaching out and offering some help. My fiancé I was with for 3yrs and I just had a very nasty breakup so things have been really tough lately. He’s definitely a malignant narcissist and was very controlling and emotionally abusive. So I’m glad it’s over but it’s still really hard sometimes. And I found out this week I need to find yet another new therapist. So all the work I’ve done in my weekly appts with him is gone. Now I have to start from scratch, again. I can’t even count how many therapists have left where i was being treated so I had no choice but to get a new one. That sucks. Thank you for offering help though, I’ll take all the help I can get. Lol.
this has been helpful for my 20 year old daughter adopted from Bulgaria orphanage at 3, i am learning why she is such a mess!!! her anger outburst for nothing, and all her bad relationships, cant hold a job, past drug use maybe still has one and now pregnant, i have had to learn myself to deal with her outburst, she does not think anything is wrong because she doesnt remember the neglect, i am trying to find a way to get her into the right therapy, if i can get her to go, so frustrating
Wow same here. I was misdiagnosed st 19 with bipolar after I overdosed. Instead of continuing treatment I just kept getting high and completely ruined everything good in my life.im 33 now and on methadone and it really helps me stay clean. I start therapy in 2 days I'm pretty sure I have 8 out of the 9 traits as well.
I would love a video on Mind Reading and how to get out of that habit because that’s definitely something I struggle with. I’m really sensitive to rejection and I get caught up in awful assumptions about why someone hasn’t gotten back to me when they said they would, etc. I always assume the worst. And it does make me feel lonely, worthless and empty. You hit the nails right on the head with that. So please, I’d love a video about breaking the habit of mind reading.
I totally agree with all you say, though with having been diagnosed with BPD myself, can honestly say I have never been a substance abuser. So I am one that has not abused substances, yet, totally understand and have experienced those "highs" you speak of. Those highs come to me in the form of spending money, money that I dont really have and for things I don't really need. The excitement or "high" is in the waiting for what I buy to come. Once I have it, it's a big downer and "why did I ever do that"?, yet I do it over and over again even thinking beforehand of the consequences, knowing it's not a good thing for me to do but, because of the "addiction", go ahead and do it anyway only to feel so depressed afterward for having done it and so disappointed for not having been able to control the impulse. I would love to see a video on how to break the cycle. You're the best I've come across so far.
I know! And the internet has made this so much harder. I used to stop just before checkout at, say,Target and ask myself if I really needed everything in my cart. It is way too easy to hit that "purchase" button in the same way that it is too easy to hit the Send button when we write a scrappy e.mail.
I love presents in the mail. Lol spending tons of money on Amazon is so quick and easy. Its definitely a high to online shop. Eventually I do get that awful guilty feeling and cant believe what I did.
@@derbykitty666 I was thinking of you last night! We were in Target looking for a couple of last-minute presents (we didn't get to celebrate Xmas until today!). I was shopping for our niece, and she's easy to shop for; so I had to limit myself to two shirts. :) And at the check-out I looked at everything to make sure it was something I would use. :)
Yes, please make a video on mind reading and bpd. I think we tend to make a lot of assumptions about what others are thinking and it’s really giving us a lot of unnecessary stress and confusion. Thanks 🙏
Yeah! I would like a video about mind reading. If possible, I would also enjoy hearing you talk more on how can we develop alternative coping strategies
Thank YOU Doctor Fox!! Your education is so tremendously helpful and you are so empathetic to disorders!! Wish I had had this info 20 years ago, grateful for it now!!!
Could I say that you really have a beautiful smile? And that I'm thankful for the energy and compassion that you put in your videos. Is it possible to support you on the patronite?
If not I respect that sooo much. Mental health providers arent rich but his audience isnt the best group of people to ask money from so I really do respect that. Maybe buy a book or workbook to help support him?
Great video for 2021 preparations. Making a Vision Board today and mapping out all the excellent suggestions in this video. Thank you from Massachusetts.
I've been told over & over that the way to break a bad habit u have to replace it with a healthy habit. So how does one find something that feels like I just smoked a joint? That gives an instant calm? That lessons the intensity of my emotions, & gives me a few minutes to process? I've replaced cigarettes with vapes, but it's the same thing with out the smell of smoke & no dirty ashtrays around. So what??? CBD??? Cuz it's in a gummies? No Thank you....that doesn't take long enough to give me time to think things through to avoid acting while in a rage. Smoking weed takes the rage away, it's worth it for me.
yes, I need a video on mind reading. I always seem to think I know what others are thinking of me and it’s always negative. I’ve always been worried what others think of me. Some tools on how to stop thinking I know what others think would be great!
How long, generally, should a person be clean from alcohol and weed before starting to deliberately make a diagnosis if BPD is suspected? Thanks for the videos!
Though I've been sober for over 7 years, I struggle a lot with the introspective/housecleaning Step Work in 12 Step Programs (4th step, 8th step). It has triggered a lot of the self-recrimination spirals I now know are related to my BPD, and then turns into a paralysis where I don't move forward and sit on those steps for a long time. Then I tend to self-recriminate further because then I say things to myself like, "I'm not being rigorously honest enough," "I'm not good enough at recovery if I can't do these steps," and "maybe I don't deserve recovery at all." The same has happened with any kind of Self Work, like Anti-Racism work, the ACOA workbook, or even working through your workbook. I end up just recriminating and self-shaming into depression, and then I quit the work altogether. I would really just like to be able to get through the Work without the self-loathing and maladaptive spirals. Do you/can you have a video on that?
I am without any help or support I have bpd i was in the addiction centre for 16yrs and was treated very badly my bpd went unnoticed until I was hospitilised with stress induced psychosis I do believe I have medical ptsd as a result of the terrible experiences i had not once when i told them I wanted nothing to do with methadone or them I came off it myself they didn't seem bothered my habit was bad and my mh but never said just bc your no longer on methadone we can still offer you help I learned this only after the fact so I'm currently only having my gp and get useless how none cld see how much I was struggling without answers as to why I was this way I only got diagnosed 8yrs ago at 33 I'm 41 now
I ♥️ Dr. Fox videos. I've been sober 2 years. The last week all i can think about is shooting up. There's zero percent chance that would happen... But damn it get out of my head! I just want to eat cereal without having an issue with the spoon. Maybe I'll just use a fork 🤔
Will you do a video on mind reading for people with BPD because I do this which causes my behaviour to be aggressive towards others as I put 2 and 2 together and make 100!
I think the mayo clinic is a great resource and you are in a great state with several very accomplished universities. I would encourage you to reach out to those universities and ask their psychology clinics if they know of someone that can help you. I wish you all the best.
Mind reading hu? I've got a pretty heavy steak in that. Somehow I'm usually wrong but I feel so right so that I'm pretty sure they are lying to me. Which goes into well what did I do to make them not trust me or like me and then it's my fault bc they are an asshole. I asked for the substance abuse issue, hope it gets more views. I appreciate you. I'm going to have to get a new therapist.
Everyone say that but it doessnt work kike that. Whenever bpd person is triggered, they need coping strategies first only then they can avoid drugs. Coz if u quit drugs but dont know what to fo when u r triggered they might do something else harmful
I think you are absolutely right. I’m certainly not saying that someone should magically quit drugs without having adapted strategies to put in place. I hope you found the video helpful and I wish you all the best.
I have been clean and sober for 12 years. I literally had to relearn how to live my life. I was always at a bar, benefit or bbq w/ drinking and drugging people. I had to realize that I could go to the movies, bowling, and spend more time w/my daughter. Once I was over the alcohol and drugs, I had more money which meant less financial stress. I also stopped getting involved w/toxic men because I removed myself from that environment. I was literally spinning out of control. Thank God for whatever reason I saw what was happening.
Still want BPD treatment but so hard to find.
Finding your channel has been a blessing. I was misdiagnosed as bi polar for almost 2 decades. Everything you say in your videos makes so much sense to me and I identify with almost everything you say. I have 8 of the 9 BPD traits from the DSM V and I’m currently trying to work with my therapist and psychiatrist on correcting my diagnosis. I told my therapist about your videos and he suggested I get your workbooks to help me figure things out with him. I’m sick of the daily, hourly & even sometimes minute to minute mood swings and my emotions constantly getting out of my control & swaying back and forth. I’m 32 and tired of living this way so I really hope your workbooks are as amazing as the videos of yours I’ve seen so far!
Sundiata Keita thank you for reaching out and offering some help. My fiancé I was with for 3yrs and I just had a very nasty breakup so things have been really tough lately. He’s definitely a malignant narcissist and was very controlling and emotionally abusive. So I’m glad it’s over but it’s still really hard sometimes. And I found out this week I need to find yet another new therapist. So all the work I’ve done in my weekly appts with him is gone. Now I have to start from scratch, again. I can’t even count how many therapists have left where i was being treated so I had no choice but to get a new one. That sucks. Thank you for offering help though, I’ll take all the help I can get. Lol.
this has been helpful for my 20 year old daughter adopted from Bulgaria orphanage at 3, i am learning why she is such
a mess!!! her anger outburst for nothing, and all her bad relationships, cant hold a job, past drug use maybe still has one and
now pregnant, i have had to learn myself to deal with her outburst, she does not think anything is wrong because she
doesnt remember the neglect, i am trying to find a way to get her into the right therapy, if i can get her to go, so frustrating
Wow same here. I was misdiagnosed st 19 with bipolar after I overdosed. Instead of continuing treatment I just kept getting high and completely ruined everything good in my life.im 33 now and on methadone and it really helps me stay clean. I start therapy in 2 days I'm pretty sure I have 8 out of the 9 traits as well.
I would love a video on Mind Reading and how to get out of that habit because that’s definitely something I struggle with. I’m really sensitive to rejection and I get caught up in awful assumptions about why someone hasn’t gotten back to me when they said they would, etc. I always assume the worst. And it does make me feel lonely, worthless and empty. You hit the nails right on the head with that. So please, I’d love a video about breaking the habit of mind reading.
I totally agree with all you say, though with having been diagnosed with BPD myself, can honestly say I have never been a substance abuser. So I am one that has not abused substances, yet, totally understand and have experienced those "highs" you speak of. Those highs come to me in the form of spending money, money that I dont really have and for things I don't really need. The excitement or "high" is in the waiting for what I buy to come. Once I have it, it's a big downer and "why did I ever do that"?, yet I do it over and over again even thinking beforehand of the consequences, knowing it's not a good thing for me to do but, because of the "addiction", go ahead and do it anyway only to feel so depressed afterward for having done it and so disappointed for not having been able to control the impulse. I would love to see a video on how to break the cycle. You're the best I've come across so far.
I know! And the internet has made this so much harder. I used to stop just before checkout at, say,Target and ask myself if I really needed everything in my cart. It is way too easy to hit that "purchase" button in the same way that it is too easy to hit the Send button when we write a scrappy e.mail.
I do the same. It’s a coping strategy to numb emptiness and boredom. I started to read instead and it’s helping somewhat
I love presents in the mail. Lol spending tons of money on Amazon is so quick and easy. Its definitely a high to online shop. Eventually I do get that awful guilty feeling and cant believe what I did.
@@derbykitty666 I was thinking of you last night! We were in Target looking for a couple of last-minute presents (we didn't get to celebrate Xmas until today!). I was shopping for our niece, and she's easy to shop for; so I had to limit myself to two shirts. :) And at the check-out I looked at everything to make sure it was something I would use. :)
Carole Schueneman i have the same issue. Compulsive buying
I dont know if anyones said this on here but love you bro thank you so much for all your advice and expertise.
I appreciate that. I am glad you found the video helpful.
Yes, please make a video on mind reading and bpd. I think we tend to make a lot of assumptions about what others are thinking and it’s really giving us a lot of unnecessary stress and confusion. Thanks 🙏
This is good, thanks. Idea for new episode. BPD and shop lifting.
Can you do a bpd video on empathy and manipulation
Please do a video on mind reading.
Yeah! I would like a video about mind reading. If possible, I would also enjoy hearing you talk more on how can we develop alternative coping strategies
I am interested in a video on mind reading. Great video.
Thanks for all your help!
Please do a video on bpd and mindreading
I did one. I hope you find it helpful
@@DrDanielFox thanks!
Thank YOU Doctor Fox!! Your education is so tremendously helpful and you are so empathetic to disorders!! Wish I had had this info 20 years ago, grateful for it now!!!
Thank you for this video. I am inyerested in the "mind reading" video.
I second the mind reading video. I think i know what you mean i do it all the time and it constantly triggers me. I don't really understand it though.
I agree you are an expert at personality disorders....I have bpd an a drug abuser... I appreciate all ur videos ive seen so far on bpd. Thank you.
Could I say that you really have a beautiful smile? And that I'm thankful for the energy and compassion that you put in your videos.
Is it possible to support you on the patronite?
If not I respect that sooo much. Mental health providers arent rich but his audience isnt the best group of people to ask money from so I really do respect that. Maybe buy a book or workbook to help support him?
Great video for 2021 preparations. Making a Vision Board today and mapping out all the excellent suggestions in this video. Thank you from Massachusetts.
Glad it was helpful!
I've been told over & over that the way to break a bad habit u have to replace it with a healthy habit. So how does one find something that feels like I just smoked a joint? That gives an instant calm? That lessons the intensity of my emotions, & gives me a few minutes to process? I've replaced cigarettes with vapes, but it's the same thing with out the smell of smoke & no dirty ashtrays around. So what??? CBD??? Cuz it's in a gummies?
No Thank you....that doesn't take long enough to give me time to think things through to avoid acting while in a rage. Smoking weed takes the rage away, it's worth it for me.
yes, I need a video on mind reading. I always seem to think I know what others are thinking of me and it’s always negative. I’ve always been worried what others think of me.
Some tools on how to stop thinking I know what others think would be great!
How long, generally, should a person be clean from alcohol and weed before starting to deliberately make a diagnosis if BPD is suspected? Thanks for the videos!
Though I've been sober for over 7 years, I struggle a lot with the introspective/housecleaning Step Work in 12 Step Programs (4th step, 8th step). It has triggered a lot of the self-recrimination spirals I now know are related to my BPD, and then turns into a paralysis where I don't move forward and sit on those steps for a long time. Then I tend to self-recriminate further because then I say things to myself like, "I'm not being rigorously honest enough," "I'm not good enough at recovery if I can't do these steps," and "maybe I don't deserve recovery at all." The same has happened with any kind of Self Work, like Anti-Racism work, the ACOA workbook, or even working through your workbook. I end up just recriminating and self-shaming into depression, and then I quit the work altogether. I would really just like to be able to get through the Work without the self-loathing and maladaptive spirals. Do you/can you have a video on that?
Thanks Dr. Fox. Appreciate your videos.
You are welcome!
Yes i would love it see a mind reading video!!! please !!!
I am without any help or support I have bpd i was in the addiction centre for 16yrs and was treated very badly my bpd went unnoticed until I was hospitilised with stress induced psychosis I do believe I have medical ptsd as a result of the terrible experiences i had not once when i told them I wanted nothing to do with methadone or them I came off it myself they didn't seem bothered my habit was bad and my mh but never said just bc your no longer on methadone we can still offer you help I learned this only after the fact so I'm currently only having my gp and get useless how none cld see how much I was struggling without answers as to why I was this way I only got diagnosed 8yrs ago at 33 I'm 41 now
Reading emotions is a real problem.. sort of "mind reading" thanks Dr Fox. I'd like you to do a video about this more thoroughly.
Thanks
I am so HORRIBLE with the mind reading. I'd love a video from you on that aspect of BPD
I ♥️ Dr. Fox videos. I've been sober 2 years. The last week all i can think about is shooting up. There's zero percent chance that would happen... But damn it get out of my head! I just want to eat cereal without having an issue with the spoon.
Maybe I'll just use a fork 🤔
Will you do a video on mind reading for people with BPD because I do this which causes my behaviour to be aggressive towards others as I put 2 and 2 together and make 100!
ABSOLUTELY
Hello Dr. Fox I am asking you if you know any Dr's. That know what you know that live in Macomb County Michigan or do I just call the
Mayo Clinic
I think the mayo clinic is a great resource and you are in a great state with several very accomplished universities. I would encourage you to reach out to those universities and ask their psychology clinics if they know of someone that can help you. I wish you all the best.
I really wish I could afford therapy…it’s so hard to learn how to cope on my own…
Im here with ya
Is visualisation a symptom of BPD? I can have visualisations all day - its like I'm living in a dream a faulse reality!
If you mean derealization - then yes (I’m not a psychiatric or psychological professional)
please do mind reading video!
Cutting cigarettes seems impossible atm after stopping weed and alcohol
Mind reading hu? I've got a pretty heavy steak in that. Somehow I'm usually wrong but I feel so right so that I'm pretty sure they are lying to me. Which goes into well what did I do to make them not trust me or like me and then it's my fault bc they are an asshole. I asked for the substance abuse issue, hope it gets more views. I appreciate you. I'm going to have to get a new therapist.
Yeah I don’t know what to do I’d be dead if I stopped.
PLEACE make one on mind Reading... or how to STOP mind Reading 🙏❤️
Everyone say that but it doessnt work kike that. Whenever bpd person is triggered, they need coping strategies first only then they can avoid drugs. Coz if u quit drugs but dont know what to fo when u r triggered they might do something else harmful
I think you are absolutely right. I’m certainly not saying that someone should magically quit drugs without having adapted strategies to put in place. I hope you found the video helpful and I wish you all the best.
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