Do Narcissists Have A Favorite "SUPPLY"?
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- Do Narcissists Have A Favorite "Supply" Or A favorite person?
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Their favorite supply is the person who is currently serving them best. (The person who is most useful to them, to their selfish goals and to their reputation.)
You summed that up with 💯 accuracy
Yes. Mostly likely that would be the one with the most money who is willing to share it.
@@peachydandy2570 Exactly, money, social status, bourgeois comforts or some sort of power, like fame or an audience.
Or contact to powerful people, or access to larger audiences.
This is why healing is so important because we should not be competing for a spot in a narcissist’s heart only to get treated like sh*t anyway. Everyone deserves to get treated with love and respect. And I honestly feel like the narcissist is chronically bored, so they will always keep different supply to fulfill different needs. We should always love ourselves. That’s the most important thing and for anyone reading this, Put you 🫵🏾 first ❤️✨💕.
@@belladonfinique I agree 100%. Narcs have many supplies they always circle back. They all are the narc's favourite "sucker".
Move on, no contact. Time will heal all...5 months strong.
Proud of you!!! I’m going on 3 months👏🏽
5 years later ,strong but have occasionally relapsed in no contact..beware it can sneak up on you during vulnerable or ruff times .stay strong
Thank YOU!!
I was the favorite and it didn’t end well. I almost lost everything and everyone in the tornado of that narcissist… it’s been four lovely years of no contact. It’s been great and I’m out here thriving and living and shit 😊
His in the military and was volunteering once a week and threw that in my face that he volunteers and gives his time and I don’t do anything!! He was so well spoken and he was so admired and kissed everyone’s ass. But soon as he came home and the doors closet, he was a MONSTER to me! I felt like I was begging for kindness
Stop saying you love them. Find your power. Your power and confidence is in your self respect.
Idk why anyone would want to be the favorite. IMO that means you're getting used the most.
I'm pretty sure no-one *wants* to be the favourite. You generally don't get a say in the matter
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Used and abused
@IanM-id8or That's why strong and consistant boundaries are so important.
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This is like saying, does he have a favorite person they like to abuse more than others. It really is awful 😢.
It's not just *like* saying that - that's exactly what it is
My narcissit ex blocked me from everything 2 months ago without saying a word after I confronted him about the lies, the breadcrumbs, the cheating, the gaslighting, and I never heard from him again No closure. I can't seem to move on... sometimes, I feel like I was the one who did something wrong. We were together for a yr and he never ever gave me anything or had any empathy. I gave and gave. I finally said something after I found panties in his house. I did call him out on everything and told him everything about him was fake and masks. He never hoovered, and I feel like he moved on happily like nothing ever happened. He just forgot about me.
Listen H.G.Tudor
My ex-girlfriend did this to me. Don’t know if she was cheating, but it would make sense now I look back. 1.5 years of working on myself/healing, finally ready to date again.
@anthonydeming3211 I'm glad you're healed. I'm trying to start the healing process. I want to be healed and never look back. I do realize now that he was never worthy of me.
Consider yourself lucky if that's the case. But it probably isn't
2 months ago u say??? Don’t worry he are going to contact u 1- year 2-3 years depending how kind of miserable is ……
Lee is correct 💯 i believe they do have a favorite supply i don't know if i was a favorite supply, nor do i care if i was period!
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@@angelandrews2276 exactly…🎯
Same!!! 🙌
Truth! My ex husband left his family for a 25 year old, he's 41, and our son is 23.
It is absolutely mind blowing because IV experienced this first hand
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People with money, status, beauty or someone who is broken/vulnerable
He, the NPD, has no money, no work, no capacities, no status, no beauty and is broken inside, by his mom, from the childhood. That's it.
The “spiritual” narc is horrible and very manipulative cause they know your faith is very important to you
Absolutely
How can he, the "spiritual" one, manipulate you?
@@berenicegalilea my soon to be ex husband used my faith to manipulate me and guilt me into staying for 6 years
@@kristenvansickle4989 I get it. He must feel: guilt. He is already punished because he is disconnected from his human part: emotions, feelings and a deeper perception of the beauties and colors of life. He has a narrow perception of himself. He fears himself, hates himself, despairs. He has to confide in his mom, who caused him all this trouble and pain when he was a little boy. God bless you.
@ I’m not sure you do get it, he barely talks to his mom. And not so sure he feels guilt for what he’s done to me and my kids.
I saw the red flags, and still ignored them. I think, after my last husband walked out three months earlier, I felt like I was getting too old to find someone else and went anyway.
He married his favorite supply. Posts her all over social media, he even deleted his fb for her and they now have a joint account. Traveling , making babies Good for her 🎉❤
@Kaymichaela0 No matter what it looks like on social media, the new wife is going through the same narcissist hell you went through because most Narcs dont change. Just remember that, and continue to enjoy the freedom you now have from mind games, abuse, etc.
That’s good❤
Just stopped by to say thanks Lee and give my support.
I don’t need to watch anymore. Your videos helped me through the sort of fog in my mindset from all the abuse. I’m doing great now. Thank you for choosing to do these videos, It is helping everyone. Win win win. I love to see it ❤❤❤
I have become so paranoid about cheating due to this man’s actions I feel and sometimes act unhinged. They are so selfish and will literally try and get you to agree with the most horrific and humiliating things ever.
I think I kind of am his favorite because I have his kid.. but he always manages to block me when he doesn't get his way. I helped him the most.
Mine do the same thing, I'd rather not answer his call because of the pattern of disrespect, lies, and gaslighting. Think he has empathy and apologize for his behavior 🙏 . No he deleted me on social media just to gain control. I'm just fed up .
“Tiny Biscuit, big muffin” I’m logging off Lee 😂
8:20 😂
Always makes me smile, simply the funniest
I was told off and on for years i was her favorite person despite the i love you more then anyones, and the i hate you or hate you in the moments. Then fastly it was 100% hate me and no longer anything to her.
Excellent video. Thanks, Lee! You're saving lives and minds.
you’re welcome
I think the Narcissists favorite supply is money and it’s not about money it’s about the power of money, You can notice how they stay close to rich people.
You😅made me laugh out loud. So many times, humor and laughter feels so healing
You need to make a short out of the red flag bit. You're very funny. Thanks for the videos!
"You're Tiny Biscuit, well I'm Big Muffin!" 😄 Lee, your so funny.
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They discard you for no reason and pretend to be upset with you, just to see you panic and try to make up with them. Everything was fine the night before and they wake up and block you for nothing. They're bored and want to see you bug out. It's called reaction abuse. They want to get a rise out of you but the way you get them back, is ghost them and go No Contact forever.
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Thank you for holding men accountable about dating teens
Being the favorite could also mean that you're such a beautiful and tender soul, they can make you cry easy or whatever. It depends on how low they feel inside and their desire to make their person feel worse than them. This makes them feel better about themselves. That's how mine is anyways. Deep down he despises himself so he'll peck at me until I finally react either out of anger or hurt/tears then all of a sudden he's in a great mood. Or if he feels shame for something bad he's done, or someone called him out on his BS, he comes to his favorite punching bag to provoke into an reaction. My point us, he knows he can come beat me up (figuratively and literally) until he feels "manly" again. Anger and sadness are the 2 emotions he knows 100% he can pull outta me every single time. And it doesn't stop there. Once he feels better he's then got to punish me for my behavior so he uses that opportunity to leave and ditch me at home and be gone for hours, if he even comes home at all. Those are the times I get cheated on usually. He don't want me, he don't even like me, but he won't let go of me either...I'm guaranteed easy supply for him 💔💔💔. I hate it so much. Praying for the day I can break free.
My advice: call your local woman's shelter and talk to a counsellor. "Keep being easy supply and you could die".
Be safe❤
My advice is to actually tell someone what’s going on. Some one close to you. They will be honest with you. Violence verbally or physically is not right. Move where you have support
My father at 37yo married our pastor's stepdaughter. She was 19. It lasted 5 years before she left for a man her own age. My malignant narcissistic father bragged about trying to have a baby with her. (She was taking bc behind his back.)
When they married his 4 daughters were 20, 11, and 9. 🤦🏼♀️
My ex always pulled out my birth control ring during seggs (it was good so I never notice) after a few times calling him out , I let him (he was so dumb) think that will make me immediately fertile… I just put it back… within 3 hours BUT later I found out and learned that is conception coercion or something like that… they want to get you pregnant if you want it or not …. Very sad
Blocked her on everything
3:56 YUP! I couldn’t look at anyone or else I was gonna get it!
I was my sister's favourite supply. I can tell by the fact that she *still* occasionally stalks me even now, more than 30 years after I went full no contact, and even after I *pretended to be dead* to stop her from staking.
For the record, I really wish she'd pick someone else to be her favourite - I think my other sister *deserves* her
And no, it's *not* a good thing. It's like being a serial killer's favourite victim, only it takes longer
Who wants to be the best to the worst?
I'm going through a divorce now from an npd who doesn't want to let go by making outrageous financial demands. He was in contempt of court, refused to comply, and was ordered to return my car ( I purchased before the marriage) plus pay damages.
Judges don't fall for their games.
Absolutely thats what happened to me ,he left me for someone else he had already lined up and the bed where he laid wasn't cold .. then few months later he tried to Walz back in like i should be grateful.it was truly bazzar
20:27 fr!!!! This is so gross in so many ways and yet occurs more often than not. Smh.
No I do not want to be their favorite supply, hell no lol😂
4:35-4:40 They want their cake 🎂 🥮 and eat it too!!!
Absolutely
I think i was 1 of the favorite supply and i hated it cause i cant be with anybody. i am planning on leaving the country altogether. I'm fed up!!
He harrasses everyone ,he stalks me and stalks the men!!!
Me too I'm afraid of dating someone else because he will pop up on me . Every time I make a move of doing something he calls, or pops up . He has moved on I haven't seen him in 3mths . I'm a good woman and I know my worth. If u don't want to take accountability for what you did. God will bless the right man who wants to do it right the first time. I don't have time for a man child. Looking for partners not no playmates. I can't stand say u mind I own u. How bout you own your self take accountability for your actions.
Unbelievable this narcissist guy i was involved five years had a child by that im trauma bond lost the baby being my first child but turned out it was a blessing. Love bomb me for 1year in half to gain my trust in him. That i pray he changes. We was 30years apart. I knew he was older to be my Dad which I told him in beginning why you want to talk to a 30 yr and u are 57 at time. Age ain't but a number. Like me because I was very mature no kids and have my own everything and travel the world and in beginning i
I know I’m the she got away and never called him again (after 6mo of manipulation after the discard) now 2,5 years later I’m mentally stronger than ever BUT i sometimes do think I hope his life falls apart that’s why I still sometimes listen to this videos but also to stay strong ….
He didn't want me but he didn't want me to have anyone else!
I was saved by the new supply turning into favorite bc prior to that when i was it, he would do crazy sht to keep me around to the point where i actually stayed until the lease was up and i moved us closer to where this newer supply lived and also a town where the narcissist could make higher income all knowing that it would be the only way i could escape. I was still angry and disappointed over the fact that the plan worked bc it hurt that i was just being used for stability and as a piece of ass but i saved myself w careful planning and accepting what he really was. He used to relentlessly harrass me to get back together and now i hear crickets...finally peace and safe space to heal
Supply ie supply. There’s zero love involved it’s all transactional for them and once you start too notice and decline there gone
I love ur videos and insight Lee! Thankyou for the Day that you decided to become a content creator and youve helped me and so many others! I literally felt all alone. ❤ God bless you and ur family unit!!
That's crazy to be the narcissist favorite supply😬
Mines ran back on dating apps every time we had a fight.
"The plug" 😂 my ex called herself that
My ex narc new supply that he preferred was a person who catfished him. He couldn't get over this manipulator. He was flipping out and kept trying to find this person. They kept stringing him along for his disability checks. They kept standing him up. It ended with us. Who wants supply that fed them the same kind of evil He dished out. Make that make sense. A whole nut case.
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Yes I was married to a religious one completely evil.
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How did he manifest it, in practice? Etymology: evil (adj.) Old English yfel; Kentish evel: "bad, vicious, ill, wicked. Proto-Germanic *ubilaz; Old Frisian and Middle Dutch evel, Dutch euvel, Old High German ubil, German übel, Gothic ubils. The core of the word "wicked" is believed to derive from the Old English word: wicca meaning wizard. That's it!
The love is a mirage, illusion, lie how do you heal
Their "I love you" is made in China.
Regarding social media... Even though the narc I dealt with has a huge platform and literally thousands of followers, he's so whack that he still begs for likes/shares! 😅 It's pathetic and very embarrassing...
He's like an influencer!
They date them younger so they can control them
😂😂😂😂yessss sp true it is not good they dnt go away tf you gotta leave a 50 radius to and change jobs fr
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I met mine when I was 21 he was 33 I missed the flags looking back I noticed them, but clearly ignored them
Lee- idk if you’ve addressed this in videos 4:56 how did you and your wife stay together? Do you think it might give some people false hope that the person they love can “turn it around”
Speaking from experience, it’s hard to let go when you’ve invested so much time and so many years- it’s beyond scary. It’s paralyzing. I did throw him out after 21 years and was strong the first month or so but broke down when he decided without conversation, to stop being an active dad. Now I feel like I was paying him to be a dad all along.
After 10 months, to finally learn how he was spending his time helped me cut the cord for good. He exploited and smeared me when I spent my life trying to make him and our family work- as I think back- he cut every effort to grow, down.
Now, I just feel sick- a disgusted sick. Not a sad sick. To see what he attracted to his life over our daughters- I’ll never forgive that- the bridge I kept trying to hold up- I let go and let it fall to the pieces he wanted it.
Anyway- I’m asking for those who are still thinking there could be some hope when there really isn’t- unless they want to be totally eviscerated as I was.
she did an entire LIVE recently. check my playlists for my wife
@ ooooo nice. I will look it up- thanks Lee. It’s thanks to you and some others that my life has a chance to change for the better-- in time.
The cognitive dissonance kept me stuck in the "Splendor Blender." I prayed hard to God to break the trauma chains and cure my cogitive dissonance. Once that happened, I was free from my nex.
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Her boss told me that the only time I could talk to her was for business. She cheated on me wirh him
Of course they have favorites. They “love” the ones that spend money on them, worship them or are a doormat for them. This isn’t that hard to figure out. The ones asking these questions haven’t accepted the truth and are also lost in delusion (Lee even eludes to as much by recommending therapy).
Unhealable. It's an organic defect. See the scheme of "iceberg metaphor of narcissist's reasoning", elaborated by Prof. Virginia Satir.
What does it mean when a person comes in and out of your life and complains about how they dont like you and always make the reason why the relationship doesnt work is because of you?
Yeah,their favourite supply and im texting this at the beginning of video.Is anyone who they can provide,ego feeding ..Roof over their head.. Emotional vulnerable,has status or money and anyone who falls for the BS
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No upsides! No matter where they are on the spectrum being their ‘favorite supply’ just means they will never tire of pursuing you. That means “no contact” won’t be good enough. They’ll go from overt to covert (pardon the pun) in their approaches.
You're tiny biscuit, IM BIG MUFFIN 🤣😭
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❤ thank you ❤
Of course they do. I was the favourite supply but not anymore 😂
I see you coming on, on this videos talking like its making you happy. Do you really enjoy it? Are you putting on a mask? You said you were the covert type. Is this you? Or ist it he version you want everybody to see? I dont want to question you, but the possibility just comes to to my mind.
You talking helped me lot to unterstand and forming my future tactics of engaging with my ex affair...❤❤
Haha watched til the end! Comparing empathy with 50 to 15$ is just epic in the face of what we are talking abour! 😂😂
We just wanted to matter. I knew I could make him do what I wanted but I didn't know what was going on behind my back. Once learned the truth I kicked him out.
He blames me for everything and wants nothing to do with me anymore and has blocked me on everything 😢
Same here sis don't want to be responsible for his children and go away
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Jump up and do a jig ... you've been saved
Yes and "it" is his Mama🤔😏
FACTS 💯
Yes I have😁 SWEET VALIDATION 😊 hahahaha
Tiny biscuit that's hilarious
I feel like I can save her but I can’t
I tried also explaining her disorder and for a minute I thought I was getting through but nope
@ she came to church and got baptized. Talked about marriage, loved everything about me, patient with me, affectionate
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@@georgewatts6790 i feel you 💯.
I really do.
You may be able to save her if you sacrifice yourself in the process.
From my experience the tik tok platform was a huge addiction . Defiantly something that was feeding his ego .
If 2 narcissists are dating is there a sub and dom in the relationship?
Great question, been wondering how that works, I believe, no I should say MY X new supply is also a narc ? ?
Possibly
@MentalHealness
Shes abusive also sent me pictures of them clapping chee!!
I was cursing her out, She , I thought was a good frd. Of mine !! EVIL. I feel stupid Lee. Groomed me for a good year telling me i deserve so much better, he will never change ,( they met when they were 9yrs old Gid brought the. Together. . Omgg !!!!! ,lmao. On that , i did so much for her. Wtf ?! While my mom was dying. !!! 😢🤬 Catfight,
I disrespected her. ???!!!!!! B**h. .. Lol. TAKE HIM , BYEEEEE
The narcissist I dealt with is currently in a relationship with a highly self-centered person. I some ways, she's even more self-obsessed than him. I don't know what their dynamic looks like, but she refers to him literally as her "dom" and claims to be his "sub", though I think that he is, at times, probably as fragile as her. They might be unconsciously "switching" all time, unknowingly. It probably depends on what their life looks like. If she's going through rough stuff, she might assume the submissive role, if he's going through rough stuff, she might be more in control.
But that's just speculation!
@@Analysis_Paralysis he got her the job, put expensive tires on her truck, gave her a higher job in the company
Some people want to be main supply for a narcissist; some people want to be with someone in prison. Maybe there’s crossover???
Yes they do!!!!.... Unfortunately the weakest link AKA people
Or if they’re one of those “spiritual” Yoga Instructor’s 🙄
My ex has a twin brother that I came to believe that is a narc also, just manifesting different ( mine is a covert) and their mom I believe is a narc herself, she has dementia now . Family . I am afraid that my children will become too.
The job yup all the validation
How about teaching stuff like this in school? It has deeper impact on your life than music,art, other ridiculoes classes...
Oh, very true, it can derail your life!
They do. Take a psychology course on the cluster B personality disorders.
13:07 FACTS! That’s was my ex all the way!
I’m her but he might say I’m the narcissist because I’m crazy too but fr what is a narcissist because I think he might just been abusive but I mirrored his attitude but with worse injuries he made it like I abused him…I don’t know fr but I broke up with him because of the disrespect in my home around my kids and we had to jump him because he assaulted me for the last time and it seemed like he liked being beat on…but my kids dad is definitely a narcissist because he still disrupts my life but not really cause I don’t deal with him fr.
FR.what
Hi Lee who would want too go behind someone like this that change with different sex partners you need too tell them too go too the clinic because you don't know what he or she been with in the streets
What does it mean when a person breaks up with you and claims your distant and blames you, but continues to send social media reels as a form of communication but doesnt want to communicate on the phone?
Greetings 🙏 🙏 🙏 AMEN 🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲yesss they do, sir.
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You are too funny😂
Question do they ever not believe they own you? Even over a period time? Do they forever always feel like they own you??
It really depends
Yessss, I was & me. 😂😂😂🇯🇲🇯🇲🙏🥂🍷🥂💃
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Yep, it's a minister at my church is the devil him self. Covert narcissist 💯
Food can be a supply 🤔
That is right! and it sucks when you find out you were caught in a trap, to be skinned alive, roasted on a spit, and are now the main course.
Could a new supply be drinking or watching UA-cam all day
Porn!
This narcissist when you mention police he backs down
I left a comment on another page is there anyway to get a book or workbook plz financially i have no control of money plz lmk
God save the queen!
Camilla?! 🤣
@myfriendjosie lol
I wanna be member , but he messed up all my finances, im blessed i have necessities 🙏
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Yes my pastor and his head deacons are very narcissistic
It pretty much means they are triangulating you a new supply
Exactly 💯 the insecurities ones are ur biggest headaches im glad i can tell the kiss my butt * easy 😅😅😅once u experience watching an hanging out with one praise God*
Oh well, I want him to go 🚶♂️😢😢
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Nah if you did he would be gone