Ah Ben... I'm exactly 30 yrs older than you... and these lessons you are learning will continue to be valuable when you get to my age... thanks for helping men become more aware... it is good to see you looking and sounding like happiness is finding its way back into your life... thanks for exploring and sharing your personal growth challenges... I'm from America where too many men judge masculinity by the size of their handgun instead of the fullness of their heart...
Keep opening up Ben, more men need to hear it and the stigma needs to be removed that talking, communicating and crying is only for women. I played it to my boyfriend as he is also British and struggles opening up about his emotions! Thank you for this video :)
I'm crying. I have never met you, but you are family to me. I have followed you for a long time. I just want to give you a hug and tell you it's gonna be alright. Life is hard. I've lived it for 71 years. So many happy and sad times in life. So much death and heartache. Life test you in so many ways. I could see you struggling for a long time. Trying too hard to put on a happy face. Now it's your time, to reflect on what you have done and what you want to come out of your time on this earth. You only get one shot, make it the best you can.This is a lesson I learned way too late in life, too late to change my outcome. You are a young man, you have your whole life ahead of you. Take time to listen to your heart and follow it. Don't let anyone lead you, this is your life. I wish you great success in life, and happiness. You are an amazingly talented man, your videos and photos are simply undeniably brilliant. And just to touch on Jeremy's new album, brilliant. Love every song. Your photography on it is amazing. And I have adopted him too as family. It's funny how life lets us get to know people we have nor never will get to meet. Love and hugs from a grandmother in the USA.
A wise mentor I had told me this a long time ago... "If you don't have obsticals on your path, then you are on the wrong path". Sending love and good vibes. I truly enjoy your work.
Ben you’re such a inspiration. I cant even imagine what you’ve been through lately. But you’re a strong person. Loving the vlogs. Keep looking forward 🙏🏻
So amazing and refreshing to hear a man speak out on things that are very important to all males alike. You are such an inspiration Ben and I've looked up to you for years and I love hearing all these things going on in your life. So refreshing. Sending all my love your way!
One thing in particular you touched on here bro was LEARNING. Head space is key and allocating a load of that head space to learn and LISTEN is one of the most rewarding and exciting things ever. You know where I am brother. Much love
This is why you are my favourite Vlogger on UA-cam Ben ❤ keep on talking, sharing and being real with your emotions. You are an inspiration! Just take it day by day. Lots of love xx
Naaah I've been a long time fan of Ben actually, I really missed him during his break and everything recently has been really tough for him. I'm rooting that he finds happiness again!
This issue is rarely talked about on the internet. People feel ashamed to discuss their anxieties and insecurities. I’m glad that you are talking about them because there is a lot in your video that I can directly relate to. Thank you for addressing an issue which affects all of us directly or indirectly. Sending positive vibes from CT, 🇺🇸.
Ben. I have watched you for years. You don't know me. I believe in you and am so happy with your honesty and continual striving to be healthy whole and happy. Much love to you Ben. Much love.
Ben, just wanted to say a huge thank you for this vlog and the 'highs and lows' one. I have been watching you for close to 7 years now and you have always been a source of extreme positivity in my life. You always inspired me to look at life more positively and I found real value in your vlogs because of this. However, these past two vlogs have hit closer to home than your vlogs ever have and I wanted to say thank you for being open the way you are. You are doing such great work right now with your honesty and openness, and I'm maybe finding more value and importance in your work more than ever. Thanks for being the realest, it's appreciated.
Recently youve been yourself and been pumping out the natural positive vibes, we love you brotha. Keep pumping out the content bc we miss you and this is OUR communication to you!!
I am so glad you are doing much better now, Ben! Keep it up! you are such an inspirational person to all of us, and for some of us, you are a role model.
Thank you for showing your humanity, Ben. It's so easy getting discouraged now adays when you see all those perfect lives of people through the screen of your phone. I personally feel like a royal mess in comparison. So thank you for sharing your journey, and that it's not always sunny. It gives me hope I'll soon get out of this hole I feel I dug for myself. But this too shall pass. Love you Ben, and happy late birthday!
Glad to see you are able to open up like this. This past nine months or so have been my most difficult time and , like you, I have found sharing my feelings has helped. I am still trying to work my way through various issues, but I think I am slowly getting there and happy to see you are too.
It’s so unfair for men because they’re supposed to be “macho” and not express the way they truly feel. It’s time to break those stereotypes and become more emphatic towards all humans. Thank you for speaking about these things, Ben!
I wish you could see how much you help the people that watch your videos. Its easy for us to idealise you and your life having watched you grow up for so long, but it makes us stronger dealing with our own lives when you open up to us. Thak you Mr Brown
Ben you’re so courageous and brave to be so open about a struggle most of us experience, few of us acknowledge and even fewer address. I’ve been a fan of your channel and work for a while. I have personally gone through a wake up call recently, and have finally realised a lot of things too. Thank you for sharing your views and opinions. So much respect and love for you. X
Thank you for sharing. I went through (am still working on) something similar. When I finished my time in the Air Force I lost my identity, my community, my marriage, etc. I finally reached out and got counseling and i started to realize a lot of what you talked about in the video. Thank you for having the courage to share.
Se this is why I love Ben he’s been my fave UA-camd for the past 3 years and that will not chance he is one of the only male youtubers I’ve ever seen express his feelings like this his videos make me happy and helped me. So thank you Ben for being here and making my like better Oh and happy birthday 🎉🎉
Thank you for sharing, Ben. I can relate and it’s such a great day when I see new content from you. I’ve been with you on your journey through UA-cam for so long and it always feels like I’m hearing from a friend. All my love and positive energy!
Hey Ben - you probably won't read this but just in case: I've been watching your videos since my final year of university, so around 4 years now I guess? I'm just another privalaged Brit in the grand scheme of things, but my final year of university until now have definitely been the hardest years of my life (so far). Relationships, medical issues, car crash, job loss. It's been a rollercoaster. But watching your (for the most part) daily videos, really helped me to keep focused and remain positive at some very low times in my life. I remember moving away for my first job out of uni and I was sleeping on the floor in an empty apartment watching your videos on my phone, and thinking one day I'm going to get out there and explore, see the world. The thing is, when you were posting daily in particular, it was actually easy to see when you weren't 100% happy, you've let us in to your life at the end of the day and it's easy to notice changes when you watch someone daily. We are all guilty of taking you for granted and often being envious of your life, but everyone has their demons, everyone has their troubles, and everyone has the right to take some time to process them. I think you've done an unbelievable job during the four years I've watched you, and you should never feel like you're alone in this. You've helped many people going through dark times mentally, and not even realised it, even if you weren't ready to help yourself. Work on yourself my brother, take the time, and we will be right here with you! Thank you for everything, and I wish you all the luck in the world.
I've currently been through a lot in the past years with my own mental health. Being a man it has been a rough journey for me, however, it has also taught me a lot about myself. Recovery takes time, as does opening up about struggles. After 4 years dealing with extreme depression, PTSD and anxiety I'm finally getting somewhere. Ben, you're awesome - never forget this!
You’re completely right. It’s all about above feeling happy or sad, to feel yourself under your own skin. Ignoring the bad stuff is like poison to us, what we really have to do is go through it, trying to find the best way to do it with resilience. Great to see things starting to work for you, Ben! You’re such an inspirational guy
"I remind myself every morning: Nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I'm going to learn, I must do it by listening." - Larry King Appreciate the raw honesty; refreshing and brave!
Truth man. Friends will always understand, a cycle of love that is never ending. Super relatable video, you're not alone!! Happy Birthday my inspiration!
ben, you are the realest. mens depression is a really tough thing to talk about because of the pressure to be strong and tough all the time, but you'll be such a better person and role model than you already are for going through all this. can't have mountains without valleys. keep doing what youre doing, cheers
Such inspirational words Ben. Keep your head up! Being honest with yourself might be one of the most important things to a human being, just knowing who you are and what your problems are.
Sometimes it comes, sometimes it goes, sometimes some of the smallest thing would trigger some memories. It never gone away..... but it get a little bit less every time. Look forward to that. that moment, when it all becomes "bearable" and that smile get on your face again. Kinda funny when you actually got your smile back a couple of weeks ago. Love you mate! Charge on!
Beautiful Ben. This life. These lessons. Being human. Thank you for sharing from vulnerable places. The thick of it is learning, growing, hurting, healing, losing, gaining, evolving is what it's all about. The things that cross class, status, the oceans, the ages. Continue to learn and grow!
You know, in the past, I’ve watched and walked alongside so many people, close friends and strangers battle mental health in its various forms. For some reason you never truely think it’ll be you walking it until life backhands you right in the face. Then you find yourself battling the “WTF aren’t we meant to have it together in our 30’s” lols Thanks for chatting about it. It’s really raw & vulnerable to put ones self out there. It does help to hear others pulling through, especially when you’re in the depths and you honestly don’t feel like it’s going to get lighter. Thanks man!
We all go through these times Ben. It's so normal. We are just such a society of putting on a happy face. Emotions are real. Struggles are real. Learning to love ourselves and all our imperfections is real. And moving through it all is how we grow. (And yes, time spent alone working through it all is often necessary.) I love that you are sharing this. It's so genuine and honest. I agree that more men need to do this, and create a new normal for the next generation. What a beautiful world it would be if we could all be truly authentic with each other - and yes, communicate and listen. Big love to you!
You're one of my biggest inspirations not only on the platform but in life. I celebrate you all the time. I've been in this mental place before as well and still crawling out of it. I'm turning 38 tomorrow, I've been working on myself for the last three years and finally getting into a good head space. Thanks for sharing, This was a good talk Ben. I would like to recommend a book called "Men cry in the dark" by Michael Baisden. it's a good read. Keep healing brother, we're all supportive of you. - Lucky
This is important for people to understand. It is okay to get mad, depressed, and go through the struggle of the situation you're in and handle it in a negative non positive manner. It isn't healthy to take every bad thing that happens and just make it positive. Someone else has it worse yeah, but for the small amount of time your situation is more important than theirs. They don't matter, only you do in that moment. Now this is only temporary. You will get over it and through different means eventually find a way to accept and move forward. I just got told that I have osteoarthritis and that I should choose a desk job. At age 21. Completley pissed me off, sunk back into deep depression for a few days, over ate, and back to old me. A week later life still sucks ass, but this door closed and ill stumble through the dark to open a new one, it will just take time. And during this time, ill try to handle it best as I can. And this is how I believe it should and can be done.
Your pain is relative only to your resistance. We can’t compare levels or thresholds of pain all we can do is acknowledge that we all feel it and only he who feels it truly knows how much it hurts.
I'm also in a really good place financially and work wise. Yet I feel serious disconnect with myself and feel unhappy. It's so brave of you to talk about this uncomfortable & negative subject because your whole brand is about positivity. You are doing the right thing. Never stop being honest. I wish there were more youtubers like you. Love you man!
You have brought so much joy to the world. I pray for you often and I’m so glad that you are taking care of yourself and focusing on enjoying your life.
Ben, thank you thank you thank you for this. Sincerely, thank you. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this and how much it means to have someone say these words. This raw honesty is brilliant and inspiring and encouraging. I can't express how much this video means to me. This doesn't feel like you're trying to be any kind of way or pretend, you're just being you and honest with how you feel and where you are and that makes me feel okay to do the same in my life. I appreciate this and you very much. Cheers to this journey you've begun ❤️
Ben Brown! This is seriously the one thing I've been missing from you the last couple of months. Soooo important to talk about mental health, especially for men. Very glad to hear. Gimme more of this. The deep talks are real!
Ben, your honesty is so important and it’s all about self love. You have to be happy with you not happy to be with someone else but you gotta love you. Nobody can make you happy. They can add to your happiness, but no one can make you happy but yourself. Take care of yourself and it’s great that you’re sharing this.
Very wise words my friend. I really agree with you about the value of friends. They are one of our greatest gifts in this world. Your dialog reminded me of a concept that enlightened me many decades ago and one I don't take for granted. It's both a simple thing and a mind boggling thing at the same time. As humans, we are connected in more ways than we sometimes imagine. I have had life changing events in my life that took place in a matter of minutes with a chance encounter with a complete stranger. The thing I realized is that "We all affect each other". Sounds simple and obvious doesn't it ? But if you really think about it you can see the profoundness in it. This is the way we can make this place a better place and make our lives more fulfilling at the same time. Love one and other and share all with everyone is the answer to inner peace :-)
Bro ur going to get amazing success soon in ur life and ur going to be best in the world for sure ....you already touched our heart and ur already a star brother .....jus keep smiling and keep doing ur work budddy and we want you to talk to us more through vlogs ......ur the best man and keep smiling always ......we love you ........
Lovely vlog yet again Ben you speak for a lot of people and the positive vibes mean a lot, you have helped me get through these last 2 weeks with everything to u have said. Thank you !!!! Absolutely love you Ben you are an amazing person
Hi Ben, I had similar experiences last year. You are 100% right in that problems need to be shared and spoken about. Suppressing issues and problems makes things worse when family, friends and work colleagues are there to support you. I was amazed when I spoke to others about my mental health, how many others around me had similar issues. I remember coming home with "help me" written on my hand to show my wife. Slowly I was breaking down inside and I needed to reach out for help. This was the start of my journey to recovery and I managed to climb my Everest and you will too as your a positive, strong person. Keep well and reach out 😊
Thanks Ben, for open up your feelings and thoughts. I am currently on my last day vacation here in cape town and cape town was such a banger, i loved it. Hope to see you on Jeremy´s concert in Hamburg. Cheers Maik
Ben even at you weakest you're still the strongest dude out there. You're honesty is perfection. Thank you for sharing a tough time of your life with us. You've always been my favorite to watch.
Stay strong Ben! I appreciate you opening up, it's very useful to hear, as I'm going through something similar. I am sure many more people can relate! Happy belated birthday too! Also, Jeremy's new album is incredible !!!!
I’m so glad you’re talking about this. Everybody hurts, and there’s no competition for who ‘hurts the most’. All that matters is if it means something to you, then it’s important and valid. You can allow yourself to feel bad, and I think that’s the first step to coping.
What you say Ben resonates with me a great deal. I'm dealing with my mental health at the moment and I would say I have been for the past 10 months or so. Your point about British men and having a macho mentality is one I find particularly relatable. My life basically revolves around playing football and... training for football! My problem being I wouldn't really consider myself to have any close friends that I could share with them what I am dealing with. Only what I would consider acqaintences or team mates. I have definitely struggled because of this. I am so happy to hear you are feeling physically better though! One thing I have kept at the forefront of my mind during this phase of my life is that Spring always follows Winter. Highs and lows are simply a natural part of life. Belated Happy Birthday wishes and thank you for all the videos over the years! ✌️
Ben, you are an inspiring, raw and wonderful human being. Keep opening up, do what you need to do for you. I think your opens about emotion is refreshing and so needed in this day! Good vibes your way, man!
Happy Birthday for Tuesday! I think this is a very important message for people struggling with depression, especially men. I think men in particular must find it hard to reach out because it's probably considered not "manly" to show weakness and vulnerability. Last year was hands down the worst year of my life. I tried to pretend everything was ok and put on a happy face .. until I broke! I completely feel for you. Onwards and upwards xx
This reminded me of when I first started watching your videos, I was going through a really rough time... to the point where I didn't want to live anymore. Your videos were always so positive and got me through everything at the time. Even though I didn't know you, I felt a connection and had reassurance that everything was going to be alright. Now I feel like we've done the same to you which makes me happy in so may ways because I know that feeling especially when everything might seem like everything's coming down at once. Just knowing that your not the only one going through some tough times, you have friends and family that support you, if you just communicate with them. I just wanted to say that I appreciate you posing this. This might be someone else's first video of yours that could help them. Like it did to me ❤️ Thank you, keep moving forward 💪
There was a time when I was feeling low back in 2013/2014 and back then I discovered you through ur trip to India with jack‘s gap. And back then you became to me a small escape from the harsh problems of reality. Now and years later... my life is long on track and I still watch you and would watch your content even if u make a vlog about you sitting at home all day long. After 4 years, your vlogs to me are not about the „great content“ but feel like visiting an old friend to see how his life is doing. I want to thank your for influencing my life positively throughout those years and hope my comment will influence urs positively as u did mine.
The thing I miss about the O.G. vloggers I've been watching since 2009 is the heart to heart sharing with the audience. Vloggers like Shay, Charles Trippy, Jesse, Corey Vidal, Apprenticeeh, and many more. And, they get it out with a good cry on camera. (It did take them years to get the courage) This has been lacking in the greater UA-cam community. Travis Clark of We The King's Mom just passed away yesterday. Rest in piece Momma Bear. Looking foward to the tour vlogs, Ben!
*virtual hugs* I commend your honesty and commitment to self-growth. I’ve been following your vlogs since the beginning and I can’t wait to see what’s next for you 😊
I’ve watched and ‘thumbs upped’ many of your videos since starting to watch you a couple of years ago, but today a comment seems far more appropriate than a like. I respect and admire you for being real and bringing mens’ mental health to the attention of many. All humans need a good cry regardless of which type of equipment they store in their pants. It is an issue that is too close to home for me after losing a much loved colleague just over a year ago. Btw from my 43 year old perspective, 32 is young. You have already achieved so much in your 32 years. Do not lose sight of what a talented individual you are. Sending you strength and support.
Ben I’ve been watching you for ages. In a way I guess I’ve been part of your life & adventures and thank you for sharing that. I hear your challenges and know they’re significant to you right now given I’ve seen where you’ve been! I want to say I admire your bravery & strength, and want you to know I’ve shared this last video with a few men that I know are having similar challenges right now. You’re helping a lot of people and I hope talking about it is helping you too.
So grateful for this and that I could follow your journey these last years up until this very point. I´ve lost my dad 5 years ago when I was 15 and I must say that a lot of the revelations I´ve had during his "sick"-period and the time after him passing away, spending time and sharing with my family (and brother most of all) and friends resonates so much with what you´re saying here. Like so many others say here in the comments: we all appreciate and love you Ben. We´ve got your back. Can´t wait to see you and Jeremy here in Brussels. Will come over to say hi for sure :) 👊🙏❤
Ben, as a dude who has struggled with depression in the past I can definitely relate so much to this video. You are an inspiration of mine, and to see you open up like this has been one of the most encouraging things I have ever seen from a UA-cam creator. Seeing the reality of the situations creators like yourself are in really makes viewers like myself relate and feel like we can be a part of a supportive community that spans across the globe. You're such an amazing person and I've looked up to you ever since I started watching a couple years ago. Keep up the amazing work and never stop communicating. We are here to listen and respond accordingly. You rock man.
Ben, so happy to watch this video. So brave to be so open. It is tough to talk about as a man. I went through something extremely similar when I was in my mid to late 20s. It took me a while to even be honest enough with myself to admit what it really was. Glad to hear you are getting through it. Love you brother. You will be happier for walking this path.
Wow Ben, you're really seeing truth in these things. Not everyone learns so quickly. Thanks for sharing. I can concur with learning to process emotions. ❤
I can totally relate to what you're going through currently. I'm in a similar boat as you. All you can do is continue to be introspective and push on. In the end, there is always a resolution. Whether it is the desired outcome or not, things always work out in the end. Keep your chin up and keep on keepin' on!
Much needed in the world right now. Feel it all! Expressing how we feel will only do us good! Thank you so much for sharing, Ben. Sending love, empathy, and understanding. Take your time getting through this one
Ah Ben... I'm exactly 30 yrs older than you... and these lessons you are learning will continue to be valuable when you get to my age... thanks for helping men become more aware... it is good to see you looking and sounding like happiness is finding its way back into your life... thanks for exploring and sharing your personal growth challenges... I'm from America where too many men judge masculinity by the size of their handgun instead of the fullness of their heart...
Keep opening up Ben, more men need to hear it and the stigma needs to be removed that talking, communicating and crying is only for women. I played it to my boyfriend as he is also British and struggles opening up about his emotions! Thank you for this video :)
I'm crying. I have never met you, but you are family to me. I have followed you for a long time. I just want to give you a hug and tell you it's gonna be alright. Life is hard. I've lived it for 71 years. So many happy and sad times in life. So much death and heartache. Life test you in so many ways. I could see you struggling for a long time. Trying too hard to put on a happy face. Now it's your time, to reflect on what you have done and what you want to come out of your time on this earth. You only get one shot, make it the best you can.This is a lesson I learned way too late in life, too late to change my outcome. You are a young man, you have your whole life ahead of you. Take time to listen to your heart and follow it. Don't let anyone lead you, this is your life. I wish you great success in life, and happiness. You are an amazingly talented man, your videos and photos are simply undeniably brilliant. And just to touch on Jeremy's new album, brilliant. Love every song. Your photography on it is amazing. And I have adopted him too as family. It's funny how life lets us get to know people we have nor never will get to meet. Love and hugs from a grandmother in the USA.
This is beautiful. Thank you for your comment. I also feel a peculiar closeness to Ben after all these years.
You must be one groovy grandma! There's nothing more special than a caring, loving grandma. Keep spreading your love.
Gilda Lee We all need a granny like you!
Gilda Lee thanks for saying what we all want to say. I loved your comment 🤗
This is so heart worming dear granny...
A wise mentor I had told me this a long time ago... "If you don't have obsticals on your path, then you are on the wrong path". Sending love and good vibes. I truly enjoy your work.
We all love you ben . Keep it up
The biggest thing I’ve learned is that your feelings are valid! No matter what those feeling are. We love you Ben!! 🌊
Ben you’re such a inspiration. I cant even imagine what you’ve been through lately. But you’re a strong person. Loving the vlogs. Keep looking forward 🙏🏻
So amazing and refreshing to hear a man speak out on things that are very important to all males alike. You are such an inspiration Ben and I've looked up to you for years and I love hearing all these things going on in your life. So refreshing. Sending all my love your way!
One thing in particular you touched on here bro was LEARNING. Head space is key and allocating a load of that head space to learn and LISTEN is one of the most rewarding and exciting things ever. You know where I am brother. Much love
George Benson so true man
You're helping so many men that are afraid to say exactly what you just shared with us.thank you.take it slow and have fun during the day
I feel like you need SP back in your life bro !
Connor Picken where did SP went tho?
Brendan Boey he’s moved to Paris for a year!
Who is SP?
He has his own life too.
This is why you are my favourite Vlogger on UA-cam Ben ❤ keep on talking, sharing and being real with your emotions. You are an inspiration! Just take it day by day. Lots of love xx
Positive vibes! (Yes its meant in the way of "Remain Positive").
did you actually watch the video?
i think hes giving him positive vibes lmao
The Donestre 😂😂
of course they didnt, they just leave comments like this to get subs
Naaah I've been a long time fan of Ben actually, I really missed him during his break and everything recently has been really tough for him. I'm rooting that he finds happiness again!
Thanks for being so open Ben. Self confrontation and suppression is such a huge challenge in itself and I'm wishing you the best x
This issue is rarely talked about on the internet. People feel ashamed to discuss their anxieties and insecurities. I’m glad that you are talking about them because there is a lot in your video that I can directly relate to. Thank you for addressing an issue which affects all of us directly or indirectly.
Sending positive vibes from CT, 🇺🇸.
Ben. I have watched you for years. You don't know me. I believe in you and am so happy with your honesty and continual striving to be healthy whole and happy. Much love to you Ben. Much love.
Sweet gesture of your sister :) Happy Birthday again BEN!!! Cheers to the brownies!
Ben, just wanted to say a huge thank you for this vlog and the 'highs and lows' one. I have been watching you for close to 7 years now and you have always been a source of extreme positivity in my life. You always inspired me to look at life more positively and I found real value in your vlogs because of this. However, these past two vlogs have hit closer to home than your vlogs ever have and I wanted to say thank you for being open the way you are. You are doing such great work right now with your honesty and openness, and I'm maybe finding more value and importance in your work more than ever. Thanks for being the realest, it's appreciated.
Recently youve been yourself and been pumping out the natural positive vibes, we love you brotha. Keep pumping out the content bc we miss you and this is OUR communication to you!!
I am so glad you are doing much better now, Ben! Keep it up! you are such an inspirational person to all of us, and for some of us, you are a role model.
Thank you for showing your humanity, Ben. It's so easy getting discouraged now adays when you see all those perfect lives of people through the screen of your phone. I personally feel like a royal mess in comparison. So thank you for sharing your journey, and that it's not always sunny. It gives me hope I'll soon get out of this hole I feel I dug for myself. But this too shall pass.
Love you Ben, and happy late birthday!
Glad to see you are able to open up like this. This past nine months or so have been my most difficult time and , like you, I have found sharing my feelings has helped. I am still trying to work my way through various issues, but I think I am slowly getting there and happy to see you are too.
The "I suppose" synced up at 12:48 😊
Rotchild Francois Jr
I noticed this too. It was meant to be 🙂
Wendy 2NB 👌🏽
Been following you for a long ass time and I just wanted to say
It’s so unfair for men because they’re supposed to be “macho” and not express the way they truly feel. It’s time to break those stereotypes and become more emphatic towards all humans. Thank you for speaking about these things, Ben!
Aliya Khan 110% agree!
I wish you could see how much you help the people that watch your videos. Its easy for us to idealise you and your life having watched you grow up for so long, but it makes us stronger dealing with our own lives when you open up to us. Thak you Mr Brown
Ben you’re so courageous and brave to be so open about a struggle most of us experience, few of us acknowledge and even fewer address. I’ve been a fan of your channel and work for a while. I have personally gone through a wake up call recently, and have finally realised a lot of things too. Thank you for sharing your views and opinions. So much respect and love for you. X
Thank you for sharing. I went through (am still working on) something similar. When I finished my time in the Air Force I lost my identity, my community, my marriage, etc. I finally reached out and got counseling and i started to realize a lot of what you talked about in the video. Thank you for having the courage to share.
Se this is why I love Ben he’s been my fave UA-camd for the past 3 years and that will not chance he is one of the only male youtubers I’ve ever seen express his feelings like this his videos make me happy and helped me. So thank you Ben for being here and making my like better
Oh and happy birthday 🎉🎉
Thank you for sharing, Ben. I can relate and it’s such a great day when I see new content from you. I’ve been with you on your journey through UA-cam for so long and it always feels like I’m hearing from a friend. All my love and positive energy!
Hey Ben - you probably won't read this but just in case:
I've been watching your videos since my final year of university, so around 4 years now I guess? I'm just another privalaged Brit in the grand scheme of things, but my final year of university until now have definitely been the hardest years of my life (so far). Relationships, medical issues, car crash, job loss. It's been a rollercoaster. But watching your (for the most part) daily videos, really helped me to keep focused and remain positive at some very low times in my life. I remember moving away for my first job out of uni and I was sleeping on the floor in an empty apartment watching your videos on my phone, and thinking one day I'm going to get out there and explore, see the world. The thing is, when you were posting daily in particular, it was actually easy to see when you weren't 100% happy, you've let us in to your life at the end of the day and it's easy to notice changes when you watch someone daily. We are all guilty of taking you for granted and often being envious of your life, but everyone has their demons, everyone has their troubles, and everyone has the right to take some time to process them. I think you've done an unbelievable job during the four years I've watched you, and you should never feel like you're alone in this. You've helped many people going through dark times mentally, and not even realised it, even if you weren't ready to help yourself. Work on yourself my brother, take the time, and we will be right here with you! Thank you for everything, and I wish you all the luck in the world.
I've currently been through a lot in the past years with my own mental health. Being a man it has been a rough journey for me, however, it has also taught me a lot about myself. Recovery takes time, as does opening up about struggles. After 4 years dealing with extreme depression, PTSD and anxiety I'm finally getting somewhere.
Ben, you're awesome - never forget this!
I really like the *HONEST REVOLUTION* that is going on on UA-cam! :)
true that, its so good. A real movement of positive change.
LIVING THE DREΔM dfd
You’re completely right. It’s all about above feeling happy or sad, to feel yourself under your own skin. Ignoring the bad stuff is like poison to us, what we really have to do is go through it, trying to find the best way to do it with resilience.
Great to see things starting to work for you, Ben! You’re such an inspirational guy
"I remind myself every morning: Nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I'm going to learn, I must do it by listening." - Larry King
Appreciate the raw honesty; refreshing and brave!
Thank you Ben for your honesty. Sending love to you for healing 💗
Truth man. Friends will always understand, a cycle of love that is never ending. Super relatable video, you're not alone!! Happy Birthday my inspiration!
ben, you are the realest. mens depression is a really tough thing to talk about because of the pressure to be strong and tough all the time, but you'll be such a better person and role model than you already are for going through all this. can't have mountains without valleys. keep doing what youre doing, cheers
Such inspirational words Ben. Keep your head up! Being honest with yourself might be one of the most important things to a human being, just knowing who you are and what your problems are.
Sometimes it comes, sometimes it goes, sometimes some of the smallest thing would trigger some memories. It never gone away..... but it get a little bit less every time.
Look forward to that. that moment, when it all becomes "bearable" and that smile get on your face again. Kinda funny when you actually got your smile back a couple of weeks ago. Love you mate! Charge on!
"You is kind, you is smart, you is important" keep it up Ben.
Beautiful Ben. This life. These lessons. Being human. Thank you for sharing from vulnerable places. The thick of it is learning, growing, hurting, healing, losing, gaining, evolving is what it's all about. The things that cross class, status, the oceans, the ages. Continue to learn and grow!
This couldn't have come at a better time, I'm also going through so many life changes. Thanks for confirming what I've learnt. X
TheRainydayvideo Me too!
You know, in the past, I’ve watched and walked alongside so many people, close friends and strangers battle mental health in its various forms.
For some reason you never truely think it’ll be you walking it until life backhands you right in the face. Then you find yourself battling the “WTF aren’t we meant to have it together in our 30’s” lols
Thanks for chatting about it. It’s really raw & vulnerable to put ones self out there. It does help to hear others pulling through, especially when you’re in the depths and you honestly don’t feel like it’s going to get lighter.
Thanks man!
Loving this open communication, Ben❤️
We all go through these times Ben. It's so normal. We are just such a society of putting on a happy face. Emotions are real. Struggles are real. Learning to love ourselves and all our imperfections is real. And moving through it all is how we grow. (And yes, time spent alone working through it all is often necessary.) I love that you are sharing this. It's so genuine and honest. I agree that more men need to do this, and create a new normal for the next generation. What a beautiful world it would be if we could all be truly authentic with each other - and yes, communicate and listen. Big love to you!
You're one of my biggest inspirations not only on the platform but in life. I celebrate you all the time. I've been in this mental place before as well and still crawling out of it. I'm turning 38 tomorrow, I've been working on myself for the last three years and finally getting into a good head space. Thanks for sharing, This was a good talk Ben. I would like to recommend a book called "Men cry in the dark" by Michael Baisden. it's a good read. Keep healing brother, we're all supportive of you.
- Lucky
Keep well Ben, we’re all on this rollercoaster journey of life. I’m 45 and still learning about myself and life.
This is important for people to understand. It is okay to get mad, depressed, and go through the struggle of the situation you're in and handle it in a negative non positive manner. It isn't healthy to take every bad thing that happens and just make it positive. Someone else has it worse yeah, but for the small amount of time your situation is more important than theirs. They don't matter, only you do in that moment. Now this is only temporary. You will get over it and through different means eventually find a way to accept and move forward. I just got told that I have osteoarthritis and that I should choose a desk job. At age 21. Completley pissed me off, sunk back into deep depression for a few days, over ate, and back to old me. A week later life still sucks ass, but this door closed and ill stumble through the dark to open a new one, it will just take time. And during this time, ill try to handle it best as I can. And this is how I believe it should and can be done.
William Nett
Keep the faith, you will persevere! Sending you some good juju!
Your pain is relative only to your resistance. We can’t compare levels or thresholds of pain all we can do is acknowledge that we all feel it and only he who feels it truly knows how much it hurts.
I'm also in a really good place financially and work wise. Yet I feel serious disconnect with myself and feel unhappy. It's so brave of you to talk about this uncomfortable & negative subject because your whole brand is about positivity. You are doing the right thing. Never stop being honest. I wish there were more youtubers like you. Love you man!
You have brought so much joy to the world. I pray for you often and I’m so glad that you are taking care of yourself and focusing on enjoying your life.
Ben, thank you thank you thank you for this. Sincerely, thank you. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this and how much it means to have someone say these words. This raw honesty is brilliant and inspiring and encouraging. I can't express how much this video means to me. This doesn't feel like you're trying to be any kind of way or pretend, you're just being you and honest with how you feel and where you are and that makes me feel okay to do the same in my life. I appreciate this and you very much. Cheers to this journey you've begun ❤️
Ben Brown! This is seriously the one thing I've been missing from you the last couple of months. Soooo important to talk about mental health, especially for men. Very glad to hear. Gimme more of this. The deep talks are real!
I'm glad that mental health is breaking free from its former stigma.
Ben, your honesty is so important and it’s all about self love. You have to be happy with you not happy to be with someone else but you gotta love you. Nobody can make you happy. They can add to your happiness, but no one can make you happy but yourself. Take care of yourself and it’s great that you’re sharing this.
you're an inspiration man, hope you feel better soon!
You're an inspiration to us Ben! Through the up's and downs we're all here for you. Thanks for being open and honest 👍🏼
Very wise words my friend. I really agree with you about the value of friends. They are one of our greatest gifts in this world. Your dialog reminded me of a concept that enlightened me many decades ago and one I don't take for granted. It's both a simple thing and a mind boggling thing at the same time. As humans, we are connected in more ways than we sometimes imagine. I have had life changing events in my life that took place in a matter of minutes with a chance encounter with a complete stranger. The thing I realized is that "We all affect each other". Sounds simple and obvious doesn't it ? But if you really think about it you can see the profoundness in it. This is the way we can make this place a better place and make our lives more fulfilling at the same time. Love one and other and share all with everyone is the answer to inner peace :-)
Wow! I really love what you wrote. so true!
Bro ur going to get amazing success soon in ur life and ur going to be best in the world for sure ....you already touched our heart and ur already a star brother .....jus keep smiling and keep doing ur work budddy and we want you to talk to us more through vlogs ......ur the best man and keep smiling always ......we love you ........
Lovely vlog yet again Ben you speak for a lot of people and the positive vibes mean a lot, you have helped me get through these last 2 weeks with everything to u have said. Thank you !!!! Absolutely love you Ben you are an amazing person
Hi Ben, I had similar experiences last year. You are 100% right in that problems need to be shared and spoken about. Suppressing issues and problems makes things worse when family, friends and work colleagues are there to support you. I was amazed when I spoke to others about my mental health, how many others around me had similar issues. I remember coming home with "help me" written on my hand to show my wife. Slowly I was breaking down inside and I needed to reach out for help. This was the start of my journey to recovery and I managed to climb my Everest and you will too as your a positive, strong person. Keep well and reach out 😊
Thanks Ben, for open up your feelings and thoughts. I am currently on my last day vacation here in cape town and cape town was such a banger, i loved it.
Hope to see you on Jeremy´s concert in Hamburg.
Cheers
Maik
Ben even at you weakest you're still the strongest dude out there. You're honesty is perfection. Thank you for sharing a tough time of your life with us. You've always been my favorite to watch.
Stay strong Ben! I appreciate you opening up, it's very useful to hear, as I'm going through something similar. I am sure many more people can relate! Happy belated birthday too! Also, Jeremy's new album is incredible !!!!
I’m so glad you’re talking about this. Everybody hurts, and there’s no competition for who ‘hurts the most’. All that matters is if it means something to you, then it’s important and valid. You can allow yourself to feel bad, and I think that’s the first step to coping.
What you say Ben resonates with me a great deal. I'm dealing with my mental health at the moment and I would say I have been for the past 10 months or so. Your point about British men and having a macho mentality is one I find particularly relatable. My life basically revolves around playing football and... training for football! My problem being I wouldn't really consider myself to have any close friends that I could share with them what I am dealing with. Only what I would consider acqaintences or team mates. I have definitely struggled because of this.
I am so happy to hear you are feeling physically better though! One thing I have kept at the forefront of my mind during this phase of my life is that Spring always follows Winter. Highs and lows are simply a natural part of life.
Belated Happy Birthday wishes and thank you for all the videos over the years! ✌️
Ben, you are an inspiring, raw and wonderful human being. Keep opening up, do what you need to do for you. I think your opens about emotion is refreshing and so needed in this day! Good vibes your way, man!
Your a beautiful person Ben Brown, the brownies and myself appreciate your vulnerability, much love
So great to hear you vent Ben. Listening to Vultures and I bloody love it!! Do let us know if Jeremy comes to Melbourne, Australia.
Happy Birthday for Tuesday! I think this is a very important message for people struggling with depression, especially men. I think men in particular must find it hard to reach out because it's probably considered not "manly" to show weakness and vulnerability. Last year was hands down the worst year of my life. I tried to pretend everything was ok and put on a happy face .. until I broke! I completely feel for you. Onwards and upwards xx
This reminded me of when I first started watching your videos, I was going through a really rough time... to the point where I didn't want to live anymore. Your videos were always so positive and got me through everything at the time. Even though I didn't know you, I felt a connection and had reassurance that everything was going to be alright. Now I feel like we've done the same to you which makes me happy in so may ways because I know that feeling especially when everything might seem like everything's coming down at once. Just knowing that your not the only one going through some tough times, you have friends and family that support you, if you just communicate with them. I just wanted to say that I appreciate you posing this. This might be someone else's first video of yours that could help them. Like it did to me ❤️ Thank you, keep moving forward 💪
Good for you! It’s refreshing seeing people so honest on social media.
There was a time when I was feeling low back in 2013/2014 and back then I discovered you through ur trip to India with jack‘s gap. And back then you became to me a small escape from the harsh problems of reality. Now and years later... my life is long on track and I still watch you and would watch your content even if u make a vlog about you sitting at home all day long. After 4 years, your vlogs to me are not about the „great content“ but feel like visiting an old friend to see how his life is doing. I want to thank your for influencing my life positively throughout those years and hope my comment will influence urs positively as u did mine.
The thing I miss about the O.G. vloggers I've been watching since 2009 is the heart to heart sharing with the audience. Vloggers like Shay, Charles Trippy, Jesse, Corey Vidal, Apprenticeeh, and many more. And, they get it out with a good cry on camera. (It did take them years to get the courage)
This has been lacking in the greater UA-cam community.
Travis Clark of We The King's Mom just passed away yesterday.
Rest in piece Momma Bear.
Looking foward to the tour vlogs, Ben!
*virtual hugs* I commend your honesty and commitment to self-growth. I’ve been following your vlogs since the beginning and I can’t wait to see what’s next for you 😊
Don't block emotions! Just EMBRACE and UNDERSTAND all of then, it's the natural way hehe
You may have just saved some lives Ben. You're a wonderful person. So glad to have you there mate. Thank you!
So nice having regular vlogs again! Hope you had a great birthday dude..
I’ve watched and ‘thumbs upped’ many of your videos since starting to watch you a couple of years ago, but today a comment seems far more appropriate than a like.
I respect and admire you for being real and bringing mens’ mental health to the attention of many. All humans need a good cry regardless of which type of equipment they store in their pants. It is an issue that is too close to home for me after losing a much loved colleague just over a year ago.
Btw from my 43 year old perspective, 32 is young. You have already achieved so much in your 32 years. Do not lose sight of what a talented individual you are. Sending you strength and support.
So RAW. So REAL. Thanks for opening up Ben 👏🏻 Just keep going 👊🏻🔥
Ben I’ve been watching you for ages. In a way I guess I’ve been part of your life & adventures and thank you for sharing that. I hear your challenges and know they’re significant to you right now given I’ve seen where you’ve been! I want to say I admire your bravery & strength, and want you to know I’ve shared this last video with a few men that I know are having similar challenges right now. You’re helping a lot of people and I hope talking about it is helping you too.
So grateful for this and that I could follow your journey these last years up until this very point. I´ve lost my dad 5 years ago when I was 15 and I must say that a lot of the revelations I´ve had during his "sick"-period and the time after him passing away, spending time and sharing with my family (and brother most of all) and friends resonates so much with what you´re saying here. Like so many others say here in the comments: we all appreciate and love you Ben. We´ve got your back. Can´t wait to see you and Jeremy here in Brussels. Will come over to say hi for sure :) 👊🙏❤
Ben, as a dude who has struggled with depression in the past I can definitely relate so much to this video. You are an inspiration of mine, and to see you open up like this has been one of the most encouraging things I have ever seen from a UA-cam creator. Seeing the reality of the situations creators like yourself are in really makes viewers like myself relate and feel like we can be a part of a supportive community that spans across the globe. You're such an amazing person and I've looked up to you ever since I started watching a couple years ago. Keep up the amazing work and never stop communicating. We are here to listen and respond accordingly. You rock man.
The timing of this video in my life right now, wow... Thank you!!
So happy I've started watching your videos again, love the honesty and the message you're sending out right now. Wish you all the best ☀️
This was such an important video to make. Really needed it. We're here for you bro ❤️💪🏽
Yaaa Ben! I've learned so much from you and your experiences over these past few years, you ROCK!
So good to see people talk about this stuff. You are so inspiring. ❤️
Ben, so happy to watch this video. So brave to be so open. It is tough to talk about as a man. I went through something extremely similar when I was in my mid to late 20s. It took me a while to even be honest enough with myself to admit what it really was. Glad to hear you are getting through it. Love you brother. You will be happier for walking this path.
Yaaawww, Happy birthday Ben!!
We love you so much. And this community you’ve built is such a wonderful place! Oh and happpppy belated birthday!! Glad you had a good time haha 💕🤗
Take Care during ur learning curve Ben.. Love from India!! Cheers!!
You have the most beautiful soul!! Your message is so important, never stop learning and never stop communicating, feeling and releasing❤️✨
What's that speaker does anyone now ?
Wow Ben, you're really seeing truth in these things. Not everyone learns so quickly. Thanks for sharing. I can concur with learning to process emotions. ❤
Happy Birthday Old Sport
I can totally relate to what you're going through currently. I'm in a similar boat as you. All you can do is continue to be introspective and push on. In the end, there is always a resolution. Whether it is the desired outcome or not, things always work out in the end. Keep your chin up and keep on keepin' on!
Ben is looking great! getting more handsome every year.
Much needed in the world right now. Feel it all! Expressing how we feel will only do us good! Thank you so much for sharing, Ben. Sending love, empathy, and understanding. Take your time getting through this one