as a sophomore in high school watching this, it completely opened my eyes on this topic. i aspire to have a relationship like you guys one day, you may not think your videos could help someone so much, but watching one video of yours reassures my faith in god. love you guys so much ❤️
Linzey Campbell wow that was so encouraging for us to read! Sometimes we wonder if these help people but your message was the reassurance we needed! Thank you 🙏🏼
I'm a 20 year old girl and I've been addicted since I was 12. I hate myself every time I watch it, and I give it to God, and then I take it back over and over again. I'm getting to the point that I want to get married and start a family, and I was almost married last year, but porn ruined my chances. We had both been addicted to it, but he had been able to stop, and I couldnt stop. I dont understand how it's so addicting, but I totally understand that it is a real addiction. I dont watch it nearly as much as I did when I was younger, but please pray that I can stop!!! I'm trying to turn my life around once again, and I really want this to be the last time I have to apologize for watching these disgusting videos. Thank yall so much for making this video!! God bless!
I struggled with it since around 10 yrs old (I'm almost 28 now). It helped to tell my parents about it which made it less of a secret and they were able to encourage me in the Word. I finally broke free from it by meditating on the Word of God and speaking confessions and scriptures over myself. If you constantly remind yourself who you are in Christ and things like "Whom the Son sets free is free in deed, therefore I am free from this" it replaces the lie that you're bound to this when really Christ has already made us free. We just have to make the choice daily and multiple times a day to choose Jesus and walk in that freedom. I also read a book A Mind Set Free by Jimmy Evans which was also really eye opening and practical in learning how to walk out your freedom. I pray this helps and that you'll finally break free once and for all
The power to break free is in God's Word, read Romans 6. Constantly read the Word of God, the enemy cannot have dominion over you, believe you have the power to overcome through Christ Jesus. I pray for grace and strength for you. Blessings!
Is it worth to keep a sin and lose God's blessings? Which one is better for you? Watching porn opens doors for demons in your life. This is living in darkness and Jesus is the light of the world. God does hate pornography and if He hates it, you should hate it too. It grieves God's heart and He should be a priority in your life. Pleasing Him should be a priority in your life. Everytime you feel like doing it again tell yourself. No! I will not please my flesh, I will please God. Say no to the devil. Say: Enough! You're not having my time, my mind, my body. Tell yourself: everytime I feel like doing it, I will pray and talk to God. I'll ask Him to come and that I feel his presence. Once you start having times of intimacy with the Lord, you'll see that He is everything you need. The void in your heart can be only be filled with his presence, his love.
As a girl I was heavily addicted to pornography since I was 7 years old. God saved me from it at 14 years old. I confessed to people at a youth camp for the first time. I have fallen a handful of times but God has lead me through. I am careful about social media now and I basically fill my Instagram feed with Christian stuff and YWAM (Youth With A Mission) groups and mentors. God Bless You for sharing this because no-one knows a thing about it. Christians reflect the pornographic things the see in movies and sex scenes in their imagination, romantic relationships and physical appearance. (They don't mind wearing skimpy clothing and bikinis anymore because of sex on social media)
Efua Koomson you know ywam. I just graduated from on of their bases I have a similar story to you and they’re the reason why I feel free to share my story because they mentored me and I was able to open up to my mum and now I feel free from it. I fell at times too but now I can say God has completely set me free it’s all Him. And I’m a girl the struggle was real but God’s Grace was even more real.
@@hundredmoreye4rs I've never done a DTS, I've only done camps with YWAM but I've learnt the importance of vulnerability with my Relationship With My Father. I'm hoping to do a School of Worship DTS when I graduate highschool.
I’m not being negative but as a parent how did u have access to porn at 7 or even 10 . That’s terrible . At 7/8 I guess I didn’t know you has those urges . Is it curiosity ? Honestly just shocked
At 7? That’s just not possible, I’m sorry but that not addiction of you really still believe you as a se em your old was addicted to porn you don’t need Jesus you need a doctor to explain sexual maturity to you I think this would really help to better understand a lot of things and who knows you maybe have some rare disorder but not probable...
Tiffany Smith I know he is supposed to have said that but it's such a stupid thing to say and just because one man said that 2000 years ago it doesn't mean everyone has to live by that for evermore. Can you honestly say that there are any straight men in this world that have never lusted after a woman. ALL relationships start with both participants feeling lust for the other and involves lust regularly. It's human nature.
I'm a girl and I understand...It's becoming a big problem for girls as well. So thankful for this video!!! Thank you, Nate and Sutton!! I never even thought of hurting my future spouse! Thank you, guys!!!!
I am a woman, I was addicted to porn and masturbation with squeezing my legs (no other exotic ways used) for 10 years. It’s not something I’m proud about but I started as early as 9 before I knew what I was doing . I’m 19 now. It really took a lot of prayer and discipline. I love reading and hearing the word of Jesus. He really saved me from a difficult and makes it encouraging/better to quit. I did it out of loneliness and pleasure, but I’m happy to be able to stop before I find the one and say it was Jesus who helped me stop, not because I’ve found someone (which I haven’t yet. Still patiently waiting). I still have temptations but focusing on Jesus helps a lot. I agree that porn is spiritually unhealthy . It would also make me feel guilty every time I did it and I felt worthless. I knew it wasn’t how God wanted me to be. Thank you for sharing a hard topic. This is the only channel on UA-cam where I felt comfortable saying this (and it’s the only channel I’ve posted it on.) The type of conversations you have are Spirit led and the kindness you show is healing. It’s like, I know it’s wrong, and I didn’t celebrate or justify it (the complete opposite) but knowing there is just someone who understands and diligently corrects us with love instead of condemnation is moving. Love edifies and it’s amazing how you do not compromise God’s word for man.
You guys are brave, honest, truthful and a lot more. Thank you so much for putting it out. Keep doing the good work. You might be judged for putting some content out. But don't bother and keep doing the stuff that will help people and do it in a way that'll not hurt anyone emotionally. Appreciate it.
I’m a sophomore in high school and I’m homeschooled. I’ve never struggled with this issue but these kind of videos (all of your videos really) really help me to see from all perspectives and as a Christian to be able to help people go through.
God bless! The public school system is awful. From personal experience, kids are exposed to so much at such a young age. Home schooling is best, even if it’s hard at times. Stay strong
So glad your channel was in my recommended. When my husband and I were dating he looked at inappropriate things online and I remember how heart broken I was. Luckily we were able to overcome it. Thank you for sharing this message!
Hey Sarah, how did you managed to overcome this porn issue? My boyfriend currently struggles with it because he is frustrated with 'waiting until marriage' - his depression made it all worse and he doesn't see porn as something that worsens his depression :( it breaks my heart, but he is depressed and this only makes him more selfish. And now I trust him less and I am worried this could be a recurring thing in marriage. And he says: 'if I was married that wouldn't be a problem' - he doesn't see the deeper underlying issue :( Everything was going so well and he helped me to become pure...and now :( I am afraid I couldn't do more than praying.
@@dorothyo9540 Hi Dorothy, I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. First, marriage doesn't automatically change a person. So getting married isn't going to make it stop all of a sudden. If anything marriage can magnify a problem. Also, is he getting help for his depression? If not, he should definitely talk to someone and see what plan they can make for him. Honestly we overcame it because I had to be stern and give him a serious talk. He always said he loved me and wanted to marry me and I basically told him that looking at things like that was disrespectful to me and cheating on me (how I see it). I told him that I have no place in my life for someone who knowingly hurts me over something that is insignificant. I told him that I will not be with someone who looks at things like that and he can make a decision on if it's worth losing me or not. I loved him soo much at the time, but I knew in my heart that love isn't always enough and I had to stand firm. I think society plays heavily in the "it's no big deal" "they dont know those people in real life" etc. BUT it is a big deal for some people and that's ok.
Dorothy O I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know it’s been a while, but like the Sara said, marriage does not always fix it and can make it a more complicated problem. When my fiancé asked to marry me, my dad asked him the question about porn. When he admitted it was a struggle, my dad said “it’s porn or my daughter,” and kept him accountable. Covenant eyes is an excellent program for that btw! I didn’t even know all this was going on, but my husband chose me! I’m so grateful to my dad for that... ❤️
I’ve been fighting with this addiction for years. Now I’m 20 years old, with an amazing boyfriend, and watching this video just give me another great reason for once again stop watching it again and again. I’ve been praying to God for years and it always came back to my life. You guys, just with the talk helped me to decide that now on I’ll be different and I’ll be doing things good and right for me, for God, for my relationship and for the good of everyone by my side! The way you guys shared the love of God is amazing! Thank you❤️
My ex never understood why I felt that way about Instagram.....it might sound odd, but when he joined and I started noticing him liking girls on Instagram that were provocative....his whole energy shifted when he was with me after that and it was allllllllll downhill from there. I didn't want to be the girl that was bothered by his "freedom"...but yeah, it hurt. It makes you feel like you're not enough...and then essentially makes you feel like you're just some sort of object or projection of their ego/flesh related fantasies.
Same thing happened! We’re not together. You don’t want that for yourself and God doesn’t either. I thought I was being stupid for being bothered but it’s important and it’s actually a big thing to see as a red flag. There was a pastor who actually talked about this exact situation and they said it’s important to notice this as a red flag.
I am so glad that there are more and more Christian people making UA-cam channels and talking about things like this. It is so important for young people to have good influences online. As a Christian woman who struggles with pornography addiction myself I would love to see this issue talked about like an everybody issue and not just a man's issue. Pretty much every woman that I know has or does struggle with this as well. When I was a student in youth group and at church and camp porn talks were always just for the guys. This was so damaging to me. Not only was I being kept from information and strategies and accountability that could have helped me, I also felt like something was seriously wrong with me. If only men struggled with this what was my problem? I did not find out that other women struggled with porn like I did until i was 23 years old. I spent over a decade thinking that I was horrible and wrong, and the only one. Please keep talking about this it is so important! For the sake of young women out there who are also struggling please label this problem for what it is, a human problem.
Yess! I was addicted to porn as well, and still struggle with it in some seasons, and it is SO not just a men's issue. It's high time that the church becomes aware of that, and it starts to be addressed freely as a men and women's issue. Also, same sex attraction is the other big thing that exists (and I struggle(d) with), and is acted upon, and the church has no idea how to truly see it and treat it as God does. Also, the fact that you're honest about this with yourself and others is a huge deal in your walk to freedom. So much love and hugs towards you.♡
wow i am so impressed that you guys tackled this topic, especially following God admitting you fell into that trap anyway. seriously big of you to do that. blown away .
Nate and Sutton! Your transparency, vulnerability, and authenticity is such a gift to the internet community. Your personal account - dealing with the consequences (and secondhand consequences) of pornography is a powerful witness. To quote a thoughtful Chastity speaker: “What does pornography do to a man? For starters, because it cripples his ability to love, it robs him of the capacity to be a man. The essence of manhood consists in readiness to deny oneself for the good of a beloved....Instead of denying himself for the good of the woman, a man, through the use of porn, denies the woman her dignity in order to satisfy his lust.” Please be reminded - women struggle with addictions to pornography just as easily as men in today’s culture. I would argue that this can be even more shameful for women to deal with, especially when it is taught in Christian circles that this is a “men’s issue”. Please don’t perpetuate the lie that this is a “men’s issue”. It makes young women want to hide in shame rather than seek help. All young Christians ought to be reminded that pornography is sinful. But where sin abounds, His Grace and Love abound all the more. This video should be a reminder to young men AND women that you are not alone suffering your addiction. Be courageous and open up to a trusted friend who loves you enough to help you overcome your addiction and humbly guide you toward heaven. It might not be easy, it might not be comfortable, but it will be worth it!
Also I want to throw it out there cause Sutton made it seem like there’s a gender gap, maybe so, but I’m a girl and it is JUST AS HARD. VERY VERY hard. And actually statistics aren’t accurate because of the amount of women that underreport! Anywho just wanted to clear that because yup I’m living proof that girl can just as easily understand and relate to the addiction as well
Thank you for this video. As a twice divorced guy, a few years along, and only recently re-dedicated in faith, this was a horrible struggle for me. I appreciate your insight and commentary here.
Eyyy, awesome to see you guys have this channel, subscribed! I for sure was addicted to pornography like most every guy I know. Such an important topic and so rarely talked about. Definitely the most harmful and addictive substance I have come across. Beyond hurting your partner, if you are single it hurts yourself in a myriad of ways, and of course all the men and women involved in making it. Looking forward to more vids!
Pornography IS a sin. In the Christian community, the topic of pornography is taboo but it shouldn’t be because it needs to be addressed. Believers should talk about pornography so that other believers don’t fall into the temptation and lies of pornography. Thank you for the informative video. Can’t wait for more! God bless! :)
I really enjoy watching your videos. I was not raised religious at all, therefore your beliefs are completely different than mine. I find it really interesting to listen to you and learn about your beliefs on various topics. I think it’s really important to open your mind to different ways of thinking. Even if it may not line up with my beliefs, I thoroughly enjoy learning about your relationship and a mindset that is different than my own!
Great topic! Some woman can be addicted as well. Its horrible! So degrading of woman. And the comparisons that women make are not helpful either. I was exposed to Porn at the age of 8! I prayed to God to rid my brain of these images! Although I am not addicted I have looked at it in the past. It makes me feel sick to my stomach! Thanks for this very important video!
I was at a neighbors house. The 8 yr old kid I was with showed me what she found in her brothers bedroom. My childlike innocence was ruined in that moment!
@@lexeechamberlain9205 Who are you to say it's unfortunate and it is my choice. As far as I'm concerned it's not unfortunate. What's unfortunate is all you bible bashers trying to tell everyone how to live our lives
Spot on! Not only is it bad for your brain and expectations, but the industry is corrupt! Actors in the videos do not enjoy what they are doing. Love what you guys do!
One thing that bothered me personally when I found out my husband was dealing with this issue was that while it did directly hurt me I think the ultimate lie the enemy tells the person addicted to porn is " it's not hurting anyone" when in fact it is hurting the addict. So what broke my heart even more than me being hurt was that my husband was being robbed of a clean mind, and that he did not have a pure image of intimacy because of all he was exposed to. Porn robs couples and the individual of the beauty God intended for intimacy in marriage. God is our redeemer, so we are passed that now. Thank you two for making this video, it is a subject that people need to feel ok talking about.
Becky W I never saw it from that perspective, I always just saw how a person hurts their partner, but this is so true and now I see how tragic it is for the person watching as well. Thank you for sharing!!
@@danielavargasortega4693 for myself and my husband, we were both exposed to pornography at a very young age. A lot of the time this is the case for many people. The enemy loves to distort all the beautiful things God has for us. He lost when Christ died for us, so he works 24/7 to make sure as many people as possible remain in bondage and in darkness. Thanks for replying!
Becky W Yes that is the case for many, I am so happy you and your husband were able to overcome it! Fighting the enemy can be a constant battle but anything is possible with God ❤️
Love your guys videos! I dealt with it for over 13 years but just recently one video I watched basically reminded me that when I look at it I am taking advantage of the fact that whoever is in the video is a person that God loves and is not living in his will and that I was basically okay with them sinning (kinda like attending a gay marriage) and making it worse for them and for their family if that persons parents are believers. It really impacted me. Sobered me up real quick. It’s been the longest time since and luckily (Praise Jesus) I haven’t even considered doing it again for that alone. Great video guys!!!!
I really appreciate this video. My exboyfriend used to look at girls on instagram and send them messages, saying that it wasn’t really real and not hurting anyone, and told me that I was only upset because I was insecure and jealous, I was, but I also had a multitude of other emotions and thoughts too, and this video really sums it up. For the first time since that all happened I see that there is not something wrong with me for not feeling good about it, and that I am not alone in how I feel about porn etc. I thank you so much for this.
This video made me see things sooo differently and I made a choice after watching you guys and listening to a podcast called the porch! I feel truly blessed!
SUCH a great video! I went through the EXACT same experience with my soon to be husband. You both are so strong and dependent on the lord that I can see your unashamed desire to praise God for your story. This is amazing and more people need to know the commonality of pornography and how much it hurts the person you love. You two are ambassadors for God, thank you for talking about the difficult subjects.
I love how open you both are about this topic. I grew up in a conservative Baptist church and it was NEVER talked about. So unfortunately I never got the guidance I needed and I struggled with porn up until two and a half months ago when I told my wife the truth. My biggest downfall was Instagram. I’ve since deleted the app from my phone and haven’t been active since. The Bible says “if your right eye causes you to sin, cut it out...” and instagram was my “right eye”. It’s been very difficult to resist old temptations due to how great of a hold it had on me but I’m thankful for my faith is Christ who gives me the strength to endure and overcome :)
Love You video and love everything you stand for. Society today has gotten way out of hand. There should never be no backlash in things that you believe in I truly hope that this video helps people see that there was a different way to live and truly be happy with yourself and others. Also on the last video I watched you wanted us to come up with boy names my top pick is ( Quinton ). Much love and God bless and congratulations.
Thankyou for putting yourselves out there with how u believe!pornography also has spirtual side and its important to recognize that as well! Pornagraphy is a sideaffect of not seeing God for who he really is! Therefore you turn to other things like pornagraphy etc.for comfort and making yourself feel like someone!for men it is really hard to turn away form an addiction like that on your own strength! So it is very important to ask God to change your view of yourself an to break the addiction for you! Let Jesus fight your battle just believe in him! As a wife Ive seen my husband go through this yes it hurt me and with God's strength i kept praying for him n believeing Jesus will break his addiction!And yes he has brought healing for both of us!! God is good!!
Hi Lorraine. How did you actually manage to overcome this porn issue? Were you simply praying for him? My boyfriend currently struggles with it because he is frustrated with 'waiting until marriage' - his depression made it all worse and he doesn't see porn as something that worsens his depression :( it breaks my heart, but he is depressed and this only makes him more selfish. And now I trust him less and I am worried this could be a recurring thing in marriage. And he says: 'if I was married that wouldn't be a problem' - he doesn't see the deeper underlying issue :( Everything was going so well and he helped me to become pure...and now :(
You 2 are such a great example of the way we should live in our everyday life. I Pray your love for each other grows in leaps and bounds. I know you are both beautiful inside and out.
I seriously had some struggles with watching porn recently.... A few years ago I managed to quit but now I have to fight again.... Please pray with me....
Wow I just found your channel and It's all so good but this particular video is great.I'm not Christian but this helps me to overcome my fears and addiction, thanks
When my ex told me he watched porn I also broke down into tears too and was devastated. Thank you Sutton for your insight and opinion on this topic- I’m not alone!
Hi guys!!! :) I love your videos. I found your channel a couple of weeks ago and already have watched almost every video. I align with so many of your values, beliefs, and perceptions about relationships and life in general and I don't get to be around that in my life barley at all. You two are amazing role models for what a relationship can and should be like! After watching this video, I am curious as to what your views are on breastfeeding in public? Much love!
Even though I'm not in a relationship right now, I know it would have hurt me so much knowing that my boyfriend was watching porn. It would also be a deal breaker for me. However I know it must take a great amount of courage and dedication for guys to not to do so, as it seems like everyone else is doing it.
Ok so this recently has happened to Me-And the guy I was dating. He feels tremendous guilt, because it just destroyed me. I guess what my question is-how did you handle this Sutton? Did you guys discuss rebuilding trust going forward- what would happens if this would continue? Practically what steps did you take to ensure that your heart was protected-Or did you just trust that he wouldn’t do it again! Thanks so much! Love you guys!
Nate, you hit the nail on the head about porn. The biggest harm in watching it, is indeed teaching you that noone is good enough AND you are hurting yourself and others. You too, Sutton are exactly right. Thank you for talking about this. So many ppl believe the LIE that there is no harm in watching it, but it definitely is harmful. I hope men out there watching this video (who watches porn), will realize how much they are hurting themselves and any relationship they may be in.
Another point is this; you can’t unsee it. You are putting sinful images in your brain, that will be stored there forever. Later in your life, it will take much prayer and discipline to control those images. So guys, guard your eyes.
It does work on the brains chemicals in a similar way to hard drugs, and there are very many girls affected, it works the same on female brains. Also, it doesn’t only hurt the partner, but most of the actors that are used for porn are trafficked, drugged or forced into it (as well as forced into surgeries) so it’s a strong possibility that what you’re watching on the screen is actual rape. There are also very many underage girls used and abused for the purpose of producing pornography. It’s directly linked to the enormous problem of human trafficking we face all over the world today. So each click supports the abuse of the actors involved. The children who are exposed to it are also being hurt in an awful way, because it is literally altering their brain chemicals. Thank you for so bravely speaking about this incredibly important issue. It’s so necessary.
I’ve been struggling with this addiction for so long. I’m 20 now and started trying to stop about a year ago. Maybe a little less. I feel like a complete failure that I haven’t been able to. I don’t have a wife of girlfriend but I still feel immense guilt whenever I fall to this temptation and this habit I’ve built up over the years. I wish I could just -STOP- but I can’t. It’s so demoralizing and I feel so completely hopeless sometimes.
Don't feel hopeless. It may be hard but it's never hopeless. I was exposed to porn at age nine and lived in that sin until I was seventeen. My eyes were open to my sin and gave my life to Christ and started on my path to change. I was seventeen. I'll be twenty one this July and I still struggle with it at times. There have been many highs and lows these last few years, but I keep going. It's getting better. I'm getting better. Everyday I better understand the love of God and what it means to be saved and born again. I'm finding freedom, and you will too. Just keep walking.
I am grateful you are talking of this. Is he getting professional help? It is great you two look happy and portray that speaking about this very important topic, except only time will tell. I'm not trying to sound negative in anyway, shape or form. I'm simply bringing out "my story" with this topic and what had happened and has happened to many (who have even a slight addiction) to relationships and families "over time". This addiction cannot be laughed at. It is so much more than you think it is. If he is not getting professional help and sticking with it, according to professionals, pornography only progresses. This happened to us. We lived on believing we were "happy" as you look now. My spouse told me when we were 6 years into our marriage, back in around 1995-6 that he had looked at bad pictures. That's all he told me. At that time, I wasn't aware of pornography addiction and what it truly is. I was grateful he told me because I truly thought he was being honest, except I had come to find out "over time" its so much more dangerous I would have EVER imagined! We had two small children at that time. Life went on and the children and I were living with such "DARK" in the home for many years and I could not understand for 28 years into the relationship what was happening. My spouse was very disconnected, our relationship was very confusing. Finally in 2018 I discovered pornography on his device and it was then he told me he had a pornography addiction since he was 10. My world went entirely upside down. It nearly destroyed our family because the darkness and poison of pornography prevails in the home from the addict who continues to do pornography. They cannot stop. The secrecy and silence will only divide your relationships "over time" if he isn't constantly getting the proper professional help and staying in the 12 step programs. Pornography addiction is a VERY serious matter and there should be no laughing about ANY part of this in anyway, shape or form! It only progresses, please for your families sake, be sure accountability is at play and take this to a much more serious level and include the professionals! Keep them in the addicts life. I'm not trying to scare you, I'm hoping to prevent the hardship it has brought to so many families because it's not taken as serious as a heroin addict. Pornography addiction is worse than a serious drug addict. It might seem as if everything is okay. Please get help for your spouse who has and still has the addiction and stay on the path to healing with the professionals who are the only ones who can truly help this. It may save your marriage in the long run...it's like having health insurance with professionals if you must think of it that way in the long run. My marriage now 31 years later is ending and our 4 children (terrific individuals) have scars now because my spouse kept so secret continually doing it. It is a poison in your home. You do not want this for your children in your home at all!! Please take this precaution given to you and make the professionals apart of your marriage. Pornography is nothing to take lightly in anyway, shape or form. Please take care ❤
Porn is definitely a girl problem just as much as it is a guy problem. The same way that there are guys who never got hooked on porn, sin is very individual: just because you may not struggle with it doesn’t mean it’s not hard for someone who does to stop. Thank you for making this video. Maybe everyone needs their own experience for true deliverance but having other people share their experiences and tips really goes a long way
Important to acknowledge that porn is a huge struggle for women too. The phrase "mostly speaking to guys here" and "girls brains don't work like that" is a real shame-builder for women. It's also not true... Women's brain work in the same way and can be wired to be addicted to porn. Please be careful about the way you speak about this issue. Visit nakedtruthproject.com and we have recovery programmes for men and women. I struggled with pornography myself and have shared my story publicly on various platforms. Women - you're not alone! You're not disgusting! You're not weird! There's a difference between shame and guilt.
Its alot more common in men but women these days are extremely carnal as much as men. We like the more emotional side of things but we too like fleshy desires & looking at male bodies...some women just dont get it but there are a few who know what its like to have straight up nasty dirty thoughts.
Watching those kinds of videos also makes that person a contributor to human trafficking. Some of the participants in those films are not voluntary or paid. Supply and demand. If the creators of these videos see that there is a demand for it they’re going to continue to produce it.
Great talk guys. I agree pornography is sin. I use to look at it in the past, pictorials and videos, but then I stopped. Thank the Lord. I don't even care to see nudity/sex in tv and movies nowadays. I feel that it is so unnecessary. Now I'm not speaking about nudity that may be displayed in a documentary, for instance, about an isolated tribe somewhere. That's not meant to be sexual (although some would use it in such a manner). The entertainment industry use references to sex to invoke interest and excitement, but I feel that I'm exposed to it so much from what I see day to day that I've practically become desensitized to it. I'm SO over it.
Spoke out of my heart so much!!! I was exposed to porn when I was 5 years old. Now I’m 18. On New Year’s Eve this year God freed me from this addiction till 2 months ago. It was the longest time I was free from it. But now I’m back into this and feel horrible everytime I look at it, just like Nate said it. I don’t know what to do anymore. I want to be forever free. It’s one of the reasons why I’m not looking for a girlfriend because I don’t wanna hurt somebody else than me. I would appreciate your prayer so much 🙏🏼 Jonathan
Hey! I recently stopped and I’m 19. Check out Fight the New Drug for starters but truthfully, just clinging to God and asking him for the strength to stop is the way. It’s a long long road but so worth it to be active in quitting. Good luck!
Hi....I enjoy your channel very much. I was just wondering about Nate's comment on photos (videos) of women wearing lingerie and bikinis and how they can cause men to lust. I did see one of your videos with Sutton wearing a bikini and I guess I was surprised at Nate's comment. I would think he would have discouraged her from wearing one......?? Can you elaborate on this? Thank you!
Could sutton address why it hurt her, on a Christian level and also on a person level. Did it make her feel like it would take over the marriage or what sort of aspect did she find that the prom hurt her ?
Nate and Sutton, I think you should do another video on this topic which explains how people can stop the addiction of porn(prayer, other healthy habits, finding a hobby hobby). I also think you should address how it might open our spirit to demons AND how it affects a man's view of women and as a result they don't givee the proper prospect or value them. Also, how it can open the door to pursuing a sexually immoral lifestyle dragging a person deeper into sin by possibly causing someone to go further than just watching or looking. I personally have never been a porn watcher, I never thought it seemed at all alluring. But I know two guys who are so addicted and it breaks my heart for them. I know this is a very big problem among today's youth. God bless you Nate and Sutton!
Realizing my ex was doing this while we were together. While he was saying he loved me. I couldn't understand and it made me feel like he thinks I'm not enough. That's one of the biggest reason I know I could never marry him. It's true a lot of women can't understand. I can't imagine how I could feel like I was in love while looking at other guys like that. It sounds so unappealing to me. It just doesn't make sense to me. If I'm in love with you why would I want to look at other men in that way? It just sounds so gross to me. Although I'm not into porn either way so that's probably why I can't understand.
What do they do if two Christians start dating and they both struggle with the addiction of pornography? Would that be an unhealthy relationship that needs to end because they would both feed each other like if one messes up the other would be tempted to also because they wouldn’t feel as bad then if not? I don’t know if I’m explaining this well but as a woman of God that has struggled with this I worry about what actions to take if the person I start to date struggles with it also and what that would mean for our relationship?
One thing that shocked me is finding out that the Greek word, the original word, for sexual immorality in the bible was ‘Porneia’, which is explicitly said as a sin It just shocked me so much to know they named Porn, as we know it today, directly after sin and it cleared any doubts I had of whether or not it was a sin
I am a new sub, I love your video's, they take a lot of courage to make these videos. requires a lot of vulnerability and only God can grant it. God bless you both.
My husband saw me sob, get angry and feel so broken but couldn't stop. It's called a binge Purge cycle where it would happen for a period of time and then stop even for maybe 2 years. He felt bad but it wasn't enough to bring the change he needed. We had to seek counseling from your pastor and then thankfully God miraculously brought a men's group look for this addiction to our church called conquer series. Encourage anyone struggling with this to look this up on the internet. It's amazing. Goes to a deeper level and heals the root of the cause of the addiction. It's such a dark shameful addiction. So men really need add another group of men to help them through this many times. I'm going away that it just took that one time for Nate to see that hurt and stop it all together forever. That's pretty amazing. But not everybody experiences that. Thankfully my husband has been free for 2 and 1/2 years. He's so happy and joyful and walks around with dignity and not shame anymore. We've been married almost 15 years and he says he loves me more than he ever has because that's not stealing his heart away anymore. I read the comments and I wish I knew of a group for women or girls who struggle with this. But I'm sure there's something out there. It helps when you feel like you don't have to face these things alone.
I'm astonished at how young an age you all got into this! I'm not trying to demean any of you, I fell into the trap at age 14, didn't escape til I was 16, but 4th grade? I've seen some comments saying ages like 11, 10, even as young as 7! Those who exposed you little ones ought to be ashamed. I'll be saying a special prayer for people who are addicted to it...it's so sad and my heart breaks for you all 💔
i never thought of it this way...thank you for opening my eyes to this topic. ive wondered what that icky kind of feeling meant that ive gotten during and after watching porn, and now it makes more sense. i also think that nowadays almost everyone watches porn, its the norm and i think more people need to see it this way.
I am glad I found you guys. I really feel pure by watching your videos . I am struggling with porn at the moment which costed me a fiance. I hope I had found this video long time ago but now I have. I want to quit this addiction so I can become closer to God. I believe that the reason why I havent quit is because I did not put God first in my previous relationship
It is difficult but a very helpful thing is that we should honour God with outr lives instead of trying to get as close to sin as possible -whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things. Philippians 4:8
I have been in a similar situation when at the beginning of my relationship with my old boyfriend, I had a feeling he was doing it, and what broke us up was him not willing to truly give up lusting and pornography. I truly loved him but I knew that God had to work in his heart and not me. I wish it would have gone way different but it really is hurtful when a significant other is thinking about someone else in an inappropriate way. sitting here listening to this is making me cry, wishing it would have gone a different way then it did.
Everything you said is so true. I can't disagree with you guys. I know I have been single for 12 years. I know God has a plan for me to prosper my future with a woman. I don't know when but only on His timing. If I am with a woman, I can't look at pornography or any lust from tv (I hardly watch tv because most of them are garbage). I know addicted porn will hurt a woman deeply when I am dating someone. Trust is basically gone. I believe when you love someone you should never look at other women for lust over the woman you are dating with. I couldn't do that with my woman. Once I love my woman to be, she is it for life that I am committed to.
i’m so glad i found the answer. i wouldn’t say i’m addicted, i just watch because i felt bored. but i never had the urge to do anything to myself. that’s something i’d *NEVER* do. watching porn, i knew that it was so wrong to. i pray to god to help me get though this, and i believe he will. thank you for this video as it is something i’ve wondered and cried about so much because i have sinned.
Yes because in this video you talked about seeing people on Facebook, Instagram, etc. in bikinis as porn, yet I have seen on your family Instagram Sutton in a bikini. Is this porn?
DanielleA no, it’s not. It’s the context that can be considered soft porn. Those women in victoria secret bikini commercials who are purposely acting sexy, it can be seen as pornographic. If you’re in a bikini with your family at the beach it’s not soft porn lol.
@@nursegirly3248 I think its the same thing. You're showing the same amount of your body in a bikini as one the Victoria Secret models in their lingerie. Whether a woman is acting sexy or not in a bikini, guys are reacting to her body. I don't see how anyone can consider a bikini modest. They really aren't by any means.
@@nursegirly3248 That depends. For the guy looking at the women that are dressed that way, it might be. Don't forget the bible said that whosoever looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her Already in his heart. Matt 5:28.
So a guy that I used to work with (an eye doctor of all things) and I reconnected. I last worked with him in 1997 and only worked there for a year. I worked there while attending a Baptist University. We never talked though and he was only one of the 2 doctors there. So we reconnected and talked on the phone for ? a year. Not often though. He drove over to visit for a few hours. Then he started sending me porn. I never opened any of it until one day I did. And it was of a girl talking. She wasn't just any girl. She was former LDS/Mormon. I am former LDS/Mormon. It BROKE my heart. I listened to that very young girl describing the most vile thing that she'd done as she was laughing about it with another girl. I saw this and felt that she was a daughter of Christ and had no idea, but one day, she would regret her behavior. I blocked his number. Right before I did that - I posted ...is it right for guys to send girls porn? He would tell me...don't open this in church. Everyone was like DROP HIM and NO. It was sad because he had SO MUCH MONEY. LOL. Not sure why he was still single. He lives 7 hours away and I am grateful. We had never hugged or anything and to get these links. At first he'd send one. I never looked at them. Then he kept sending them. So girls, so no right off the bat and walk away. Don't accidentally click on one like I did. Wow. And I am 50. That guy is/was 56 so they never stop unless something intervenes. I am glad I found out right off what he was into instead of wasting my time.
It's so important to be honest about it, my ex husband has this addiction and never was honest about it, even after I found out the truth. In the end it destroyed our marriage.
I do believe that it's a sin and it's wrong, however all sin is equal. The last thing people should do is judge people who are hurting and struggling, no matter what their struggling with. This subject is very important but also doesn't just apply to men, and should be spoken gently to people who are struggling. Like you said it's a very sad hard thing to deal with, and normally when people watch it, especially christians, they feel the holy spirit convicting them. So i feel like when talking about it, it shouldn't be shameful. God is the only one who should judge us, and if you love someone you come alongside them and pray for them, not judge them or set them apart. I do appreciate the topic though, maybe make another one with a wider variety of who it applies to and how to deal with it. Instead of just saying "stop" because that won't make anyone stop.
Porn hurts! Personally I asked my husband all through dating and our marriage if he did. Much like Sutton just had a feeling, but he always said no and I chose to trust him, knowing it was most likely not true. Well months away from our 10th anniversary is when I found out and it destroyed me. I felt blindsided and hurt beyond words. I still struggle with moments of trust issues and it is so frustrating. That being said I know God lined the timing up so perfectly that I believe that is the only reason we made it through. We relied purely on our faith and that God had wonderful things ahead. And same thing once he admitted it to me and saw how much it hurt, he has not even thought about it since.but yes so hard not to go to the place of being compared. I have to pray daily that God takes my thoughts and uses them to his glory. Guide my heart and mind to love and trust Him and the rest will become clear. Thank you so much for talking about this so openly!
Although I don’t live a pure lifestyle and neither does my boyfriend I still don’t understand porn. My boyfriend watches it and he tells me every guy watches porn. I mean, I’m not completely like “oh porn is a sin” I just don’t understand it like you Sutton. I’ve watched it before and it does nothing for me. My boyfriend tells me “yeah but it’s just a way to relieve stress, when I’m intimate with you it’s completely different than watching a video” it still does bother me a bit. Not to the point of it affecting our relationship but it’s a good point to bring up.
as a sophomore in high school watching this, it completely opened my eyes on this topic. i aspire to have a relationship like you guys one day, you may not think your videos could help someone so much, but watching one video of yours reassures my faith in god. love you guys so much ❤️
Linzey Campbell wow that was so encouraging for us to read! Sometimes we wonder if these help people but your message was the reassurance we needed! Thank you 🙏🏼
Nate and Sutton no, thank you guys!! i stumbled upon your channel at the right moment :) your content has helped me tremendously.
Linzey Campbell I second this!!
I'm a 20 year old girl and I've been addicted since I was 12. I hate myself every time I watch it, and I give it to God, and then I take it back over and over again. I'm getting to the point that I want to get married and start a family, and I was almost married last year, but porn ruined my chances. We had both been addicted to it, but he had been able to stop, and I couldnt stop. I dont understand how it's so addicting, but I totally understand that it is a real addiction. I dont watch it nearly as much as I did when I was younger, but please pray that I can stop!!! I'm trying to turn my life around once again, and I really want this to be the last time I have to apologize for watching these disgusting videos. Thank yall so much for making this video!! God bless!
I struggled with it since around 10 yrs old (I'm almost 28 now). It helped to tell my parents about it which made it less of a secret and they were able to encourage me in the Word. I finally broke free from it by meditating on the Word of God and speaking confessions and scriptures over myself. If you constantly remind yourself who you are in Christ and things like "Whom the Son sets free is free in deed, therefore I am free from this" it replaces the lie that you're bound to this when really Christ has already made us free. We just have to make the choice daily and multiple times a day to choose Jesus and walk in that freedom. I also read a book A Mind Set Free by Jimmy Evans which was also really eye opening and practical in learning how to walk out your freedom. I pray this helps and that you'll finally break free once and for all
The power to break free is in God's Word, read Romans 6. Constantly read the Word of God, the enemy cannot have dominion over you, believe you have the power to overcome through Christ Jesus. I pray for grace and strength for you. Blessings!
Is it worth to keep a sin and lose God's blessings? Which one is better for you? Watching porn opens doors for demons in your life. This is living in darkness and Jesus is the light of the world. God does hate pornography and if He hates it, you should hate it too. It grieves God's heart and He should be a priority in your life. Pleasing Him should be a priority in your life. Everytime you feel like doing it again tell yourself. No! I will not please my flesh, I will please God. Say no to the devil. Say: Enough! You're not having my time, my mind, my body. Tell yourself: everytime I feel like doing it, I will pray and talk to God. I'll ask Him to come and that I feel his presence. Once you start having times of intimacy with the Lord, you'll see that He is everything you need. The void in your heart can be only be filled with his presence, his love.
is seeing censored nude in anime a sin?
How are you sis?
As a girl I was heavily addicted to pornography since I was 7 years old. God saved me from it at 14 years old. I confessed to people at a youth camp for the first time. I have fallen a handful of times but God has lead me through. I am careful about social media now and I basically fill my Instagram feed with Christian stuff and YWAM (Youth With A Mission) groups and mentors.
God Bless You for sharing this because no-one knows a thing about it. Christians reflect the pornographic things the see in movies and sex scenes in their imagination, romantic relationships and physical appearance. (They don't mind wearing skimpy clothing and bikinis anymore because of sex on social media)
Efua Koomson you know ywam. I just graduated from on of their bases I have a similar story to you and they’re the reason why I feel free to share my story because they mentored me and I was able to open up to my mum and now I feel free from it. I fell at times too but now I can say God has completely set me free it’s all Him. And I’m a girl the struggle was real but God’s Grace was even more real.
@@hundredmoreye4rs I've never done a DTS, I've only done camps with YWAM but I've learnt the importance of vulnerability with my Relationship With My Father. I'm hoping to do a School of Worship DTS when I graduate highschool.
Efua Koomson oh gotcha I would highly recommend
I’m not being negative but as a parent how did u have access to porn at 7 or even 10 . That’s terrible . At 7/8 I guess I didn’t know you has those urges . Is it curiosity ? Honestly just shocked
At 7? That’s just not possible, I’m sorry but that not addiction of you really still believe you as a se em your old was addicted to porn you don’t need Jesus you need a doctor to explain sexual maturity to you I think this would really help to better understand a lot of things and who knows you maybe have some rare disorder but not probable...
Jesus himself says "if you look at a woman and lust after her you've already committed adultery with her in your heart"
Tiffany Smith he said that to you?
Tiffany Smith I know he is supposed to have said that but it's such a stupid thing to say and just because one man said that 2000 years ago it doesn't mean everyone has to live by that for evermore. Can you honestly say that there are any straight men in this world that have never lusted after a woman. ALL relationships start with both participants feeling lust for the other and involves lust regularly. It's human nature.
Olivia Kate the Bible says it you idiot.
Delboy359 yes everybody has to live by that because it’s correct you incompetent
Delboy359 I’ve never lusted over anyone soo
the way they just smile and laugh at each other is so encouraging and cute
It just makes them look like Mr and Mrs Boring. They look like a couple for a childrens fairy tale.
I love how open and real you guys are. You address real life issues in a really non-judgemental way, and it’s so refreshing. Thanks, you two! ♥️
Short Answer: Yes
Long Answer: Yeah
I'm a girl and I understand...It's becoming a big problem for girls as well. So thankful for this video!!! Thank you, Nate and Sutton!! I never even thought of hurting my future spouse! Thank you, guys!!!!
Woman also struggle with porn and sexual addiction.
I am a woman, I was addicted to porn and masturbation with squeezing my legs (no other exotic ways used) for 10 years. It’s not something I’m proud about but I started as early as 9 before I knew what I was doing . I’m 19 now. It really took a lot of prayer and discipline. I love reading and hearing the word of Jesus. He really saved me from a difficult and makes it encouraging/better to quit. I did it out of loneliness and pleasure, but I’m happy to be able to stop before I find the one and say it was Jesus who helped me stop, not because I’ve found someone (which I haven’t yet. Still patiently waiting). I still have temptations but focusing on Jesus helps a lot. I agree that porn is spiritually unhealthy . It would also make me feel guilty every time I did it and I felt worthless. I knew it wasn’t how God wanted me to be. Thank you for sharing a hard topic. This is the only channel on UA-cam where I felt comfortable saying this (and it’s the only channel I’ve posted it on.) The type of conversations you have are Spirit led and the kindness you show is healing. It’s like, I know it’s wrong, and I didn’t celebrate or justify it (the complete opposite) but knowing there is just someone who understands and diligently corrects us with love instead of condemnation is moving. Love edifies and it’s amazing how you do not compromise God’s word for man.
You can go ahead and masturbate honey, it's fine.
You guys are brave, honest, truthful and a lot more. Thank you so much for putting it out. Keep doing the good work.
You might be judged for putting some content out. But don't bother and keep doing the stuff that will help people and do it in a way that'll not hurt anyone emotionally.
Appreciate it.
I’m a sophomore in high school and I’m homeschooled. I’ve never struggled with this issue but these kind of videos (all of your videos really) really help me to see from all perspectives and as a Christian to be able to help people go through.
Sarah Sears same!! I’m a freshman and I’m homeschooled! What curriculum do you use? Or are you doing online school?
God bless! The public school system is awful. From personal experience, kids are exposed to so much at such a young age. Home schooling is best, even if it’s hard at times. Stay strong
So glad your channel was in my recommended. When my husband and I were dating he looked at inappropriate things online and I remember how heart broken I was. Luckily we were able to overcome it. Thank you for sharing this message!
Hey Sarah, how did you managed to overcome this porn issue? My boyfriend currently struggles with it because he is frustrated with 'waiting until marriage' - his depression made it all worse and he doesn't see porn as something that worsens his depression :( it breaks my heart, but he is depressed and this only makes him more selfish. And now I trust him less and I am worried this could be a recurring thing in marriage. And he says: 'if I was married that wouldn't be a problem' - he doesn't see the deeper underlying issue :( Everything was going so well and he helped me to become pure...and now :(
I am afraid I couldn't do more than praying.
@@dorothyo9540 Hi Dorothy, I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. First, marriage doesn't automatically change a person. So getting married isn't going to make it stop all of a sudden. If anything marriage can magnify a problem. Also, is he getting help for his depression? If not, he should definitely talk to someone and see what plan they can make for him. Honestly we overcame it because I had to be stern and give him a serious talk. He always said he loved me and wanted to marry me and I basically told him that looking at things like that was disrespectful to me and cheating on me (how I see it). I told him that I have no place in my life for someone who knowingly hurts me over something that is insignificant. I told him that I will not be with someone who looks at things like that and he can make a decision on if it's worth losing me or not. I loved him soo much at the time, but I knew in my heart that love isn't always enough and I had to stand firm. I think society plays heavily in the "it's no big deal" "they dont know those people in real life" etc. BUT it is a big deal for some people and that's ok.
Dorothy O I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know it’s been a while, but like the Sara said, marriage does not always fix it and can make it a more complicated problem.
When my fiancé asked to marry me, my dad asked him the question about porn. When he admitted it was a struggle, my dad said “it’s porn or my daughter,” and kept him accountable. Covenant eyes is an excellent program for that btw! I didn’t even know all this was going on, but my husband chose me! I’m so grateful to my dad for that... ❤️
I’ve been fighting with this addiction for years. Now I’m 20 years old, with an amazing boyfriend, and watching this video just give me another great reason for once again stop watching it again and again. I’ve been praying to God for years and it always came back to my life. You guys, just with the talk helped me to decide that now on I’ll be different and I’ll be doing things good and right for me, for God, for my relationship and for the good of everyone by my side! The way you guys shared the love of God is amazing! Thank you❤️
I pray God gives you eyes to see true joy and no longer look into the darkness
I recommend watching Joseph Prince sermons and confessing "I am the righteousness of God in Christ " every time yoh feel the need to watch
Don't feel ashamed to get help. Guys have groups for this. God made us a body because we need each other. You have the will to stop buy may need more.
You can with jesus
My ex never understood why I felt that way about Instagram.....it might sound odd, but when he joined and I started noticing him liking girls on Instagram that were provocative....his whole energy shifted when he was with me after that and it was allllllllll downhill from there. I didn't want to be the girl that was bothered by his "freedom"...but yeah, it hurt. It makes you feel like you're not enough...and then essentially makes you feel like you're just some sort of object or projection of their ego/flesh related fantasies.
It's a good thing that he is your ex now!
Ariel Ambrose Exactly the same happened to me too. I thank God that though, he was not the right man for me!
Same thing happened! We’re not together. You don’t want that for yourself and God doesn’t either. I thought I was being stupid for being bothered but it’s important and it’s actually a big thing to see as a red flag. There was a pastor who actually talked about this exact situation and they said it’s important to notice this as a red flag.
finally i found a couple that believe in Jesus. Jesus bless u always 😍😍😍. I hope i found a partner like this too.
I am so glad that there are more and more Christian people making UA-cam channels and talking about things like this. It is so important for young people to have good influences online.
As a Christian woman who struggles with pornography addiction myself I would love to see this issue talked about like an everybody issue and not just a man's issue. Pretty much every woman that I know has or does struggle with this as well. When I was a student in youth group and at church and camp porn talks were always just for the guys. This was so damaging to me. Not only was I being kept from information and strategies and accountability that could have helped me, I also felt like something was seriously wrong with me. If only men struggled with this what was my problem? I did not find out that other women struggled with porn like I did until i was 23 years old. I spent over a decade thinking that I was horrible and wrong, and the only one.
Please keep talking about this it is so important! For the sake of young women out there who are also struggling please label this problem for what it is, a human problem.
Yess! I was addicted to porn as well, and still struggle with it in some seasons, and it is SO not just a men's issue. It's high time that the church becomes aware of that, and it starts to be addressed freely as a men and women's issue. Also, same sex attraction is the other big thing that exists (and I struggle(d) with), and is acted upon, and the church has no idea how to truly see it and treat it as God does. Also, the fact that you're honest about this with yourself and others is a huge deal in your walk to freedom. So much love and hugs towards you.♡
wow i am so impressed that you guys tackled this topic, especially following God admitting you fell into that trap anyway. seriously big of you to do that. blown away .
Travis Blades thank you Travis!
Nate and Sutton! Your transparency, vulnerability, and authenticity is such a gift to the internet community. Your personal account - dealing with the consequences (and secondhand consequences) of pornography is a powerful witness.
To quote a thoughtful Chastity speaker: “What does pornography do to a man? For starters, because it cripples his ability to love, it robs him of the capacity to be a man. The essence of manhood consists in readiness to deny oneself for the good of a beloved....Instead of denying himself for the good of the woman, a man, through the use of porn, denies the woman her dignity in order to satisfy his lust.”
Please be reminded - women struggle with addictions to pornography just as easily as men in today’s culture. I would argue that this can be even more shameful for women to deal with, especially when it is taught in Christian circles that this is a “men’s issue”. Please don’t perpetuate the lie that this is a “men’s issue”. It makes young women want to hide in shame rather than seek help.
All young Christians ought to be reminded that pornography is sinful. But where sin abounds, His Grace and Love abound all the more. This video should be a reminder to young men AND women that you are not alone suffering your addiction. Be courageous and open up to a trusted friend who loves you enough to help you overcome your addiction and humbly guide you toward heaven. It might not be easy, it might not be comfortable, but it will be worth it!
Cara Donovan Very true!
Also I want to throw it out there cause Sutton made it seem like there’s a gender gap, maybe so, but I’m a girl and it is JUST AS HARD. VERY VERY hard. And actually statistics aren’t accurate because of the amount of women that underreport! Anywho just wanted to clear that because yup I’m living proof that girl can just as easily understand and relate to the addiction as well
Thank you for this video. As a twice divorced guy, a few years along, and only recently re-dedicated in faith, this was a horrible struggle for me. I appreciate your insight and commentary here.
Eyyy, awesome to see you guys have this channel, subscribed! I for sure was addicted to pornography like most every guy I know. Such an important topic and so rarely talked about. Definitely the most harmful and addictive substance I have come across. Beyond hurting your partner, if you are single it hurts yourself in a myriad of ways, and of course all the men and women involved in making it. Looking forward to more vids!
Good to hear from you brother! Yes I know we've had many talks about this topic. Hope you are thriving!
Pornography IS a sin. In the Christian community, the topic of pornography is taboo but it shouldn’t be because it needs to be addressed. Believers should talk about pornography so that other believers don’t fall into the temptation and lies of pornography.
Thank you for the informative video. Can’t wait for more! God bless! :)
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Amen Elizabeth! I believe the enemy wants people to keep silent on these matters and sadly they often are.
You are the only intro I don't mind watching, even after all those videos. genuinely, love you.
Great content! Keep up the good work. Yall are helping someone these topics are needed to be talk about especially in the christian realm.
I really enjoy watching your videos. I was not raised religious at all, therefore your beliefs are completely different than mine. I find it really interesting to listen to you and learn about your beliefs on various topics. I think it’s really important to open your mind to different ways of thinking. Even if it may not line up with my beliefs, I thoroughly enjoy learning about your relationship and a mindset that is different than my own!
Great topic! Some woman can be addicted as well. Its horrible! So degrading of woman. And the comparisons that women make are not helpful either. I was exposed to Porn at the age of 8! I prayed to God to rid my brain of these images! Although I am not addicted I have looked at it in the past. It makes me feel sick to my stomach!
Thanks for this very important video!
Very true! Thank you for sharing
I was at a neighbors house. The 8 yr old kid I was with showed me what she found in her brothers bedroom. My childlike innocence was ruined in that moment!
I'm addicted to it and enjoying it. I have no intention of stopping.
@@Trev359 that's unfortunate, but your choice 🤷
@@lexeechamberlain9205 Who are you to say it's unfortunate and it is my choice. As far as I'm concerned it's not unfortunate. What's unfortunate is all you bible bashers trying to tell everyone how to live our lives
Spot on! Not only is it bad for your brain and expectations, but the industry is corrupt! Actors in the videos do not enjoy what they are doing. Love what you guys do!
Thank you for bringing awareness to something so dangerous and addictive but not talked about enough!
One thing that bothered me personally when I found out my husband was dealing with this issue was that while it did directly hurt me I think the ultimate lie the enemy tells the person addicted to porn is " it's not hurting anyone" when in fact it is hurting the addict. So what broke my heart even more than me being hurt was that my husband was being robbed of a clean mind, and that he did not have a pure image of intimacy because of all he was exposed to. Porn robs couples and the individual of the beauty God intended for intimacy in marriage. God is our redeemer, so we are passed that now. Thank you two for making this video, it is a subject that people need to feel ok talking about.
Becky W such true words! Thank you for sharing! So happy you two are passed that and can now share your wisdom with others 💛🙏🏽
Becky W I never saw it from that perspective, I always just saw how a person hurts their partner, but this is so true and now I see how tragic it is for the person watching as well. Thank you for sharing!!
@@danielavargasortega4693 for myself and my husband, we were both exposed to pornography at a very young age. A lot of the time this is the case for many people. The enemy loves to distort all the beautiful things God has for us. He lost when Christ died for us, so he works 24/7 to make sure as many people as possible remain in bondage and in darkness. Thanks for replying!
Becky W Yes that is the case for many, I am so happy you and your husband were able to overcome it! Fighting the enemy can be a constant battle but anything is possible with God ❤️
Becky W very well put
Thank you for this!!! I've been praying for my husband and kids to not be drawn to pornography! I shared this on my Facebook page!
Thank you so much for talking about this. And watching this has helped me have to the strength to bring my struggle with this to God. Thank you.
Madyson Mills am answered prayer!
Love your guys videos! I dealt with it for over 13 years but just recently one video I watched basically reminded me that when I look at it I am taking advantage of the fact that whoever is in the video is a person that God loves and is not living in his will and that I was basically okay with them sinning (kinda like attending a gay marriage) and making it worse for them and for their family if that persons parents are believers. It really impacted me. Sobered me up real quick. It’s been the longest time since and luckily (Praise Jesus) I haven’t even considered doing it again for that alone. Great video guys!!!!
Sutton, your man is funny..hit it & quit it😂..y’all have had me laughing out loud ALL day❣️
Thanks so much!
I really appreciate this video. My exboyfriend used to look at girls on instagram and send them messages, saying that it wasn’t really real and not hurting anyone, and told me that I was only upset because I was insecure and jealous, I was, but I also had a multitude of other emotions and thoughts too, and this video really sums it up. For the first time since that all happened I see that there is not something wrong with me for not feeling good about it, and that I am not alone in how I feel about porn etc. I thank you so much for this.
This video made me see things sooo differently and I made a choice after watching you guys and listening to a podcast called the porch! I feel truly blessed!
SUCH a great video! I went through the EXACT same experience with my soon to be husband. You both are so strong and dependent on the lord that I can see your unashamed desire to praise God for your story. This is amazing and more people need to know the commonality of pornography and how much it hurts the person you love. You two are ambassadors for God, thank you for talking about the difficult subjects.
I love how open you both are about this topic. I grew up in a conservative Baptist church and it was NEVER talked about. So unfortunately I never got the guidance I needed and I struggled with porn up until two and a half months ago when I told my wife the truth. My biggest downfall was Instagram. I’ve since deleted the app from my phone and haven’t been active since. The Bible says “if your right eye causes you to sin, cut it out...” and instagram was my “right eye”. It’s been very difficult to resist old temptations due to how great of a hold it had on me but I’m thankful for my faith is Christ who gives me the strength to endure and overcome :)
Good on you.
Love You video and love everything you stand for. Society today has gotten way out of hand. There should never be no backlash in things that you believe in I truly hope that this video helps people see that there was a different way to live and truly be happy with yourself and others. Also on the last video I watched you wanted us to come up with boy names my top pick is ( Quinton ). Much love and God bless and congratulations.
Thankyou for putting yourselves out there with how u believe!pornography also has spirtual side and its important to recognize that as well! Pornagraphy is a sideaffect of not seeing God for who he really is! Therefore you turn to other things like pornagraphy etc.for comfort and making yourself feel like someone!for men it is really hard to turn away form an addiction like that on your own strength! So it is very important to ask God to change your view of yourself an to break the addiction for you! Let Jesus fight your battle just believe in him! As a wife Ive seen my husband go through this yes it hurt me and with God's strength i kept praying for him n believeing Jesus will break his addiction!And yes he has brought healing for both of us!! God is good!!
Hi Lorraine. How did you actually manage to overcome this porn issue? Were you simply praying for him? My boyfriend currently struggles with it because he is frustrated with 'waiting until marriage' - his depression made it all worse and he doesn't see porn as something that worsens his depression :( it breaks my heart, but he is depressed and this only makes him more selfish. And now I trust him less and I am worried this could be a recurring thing in marriage. And he says: 'if I was married that wouldn't be a problem' - he doesn't see the deeper underlying issue :( Everything was going so well and he helped me to become pure...and now :(
You 2 are such a great example of the way we should live in our everyday life. I Pray your love for each other grows in leaps and bounds. I know you are both beautiful inside and out.
I seriously had some struggles with watching porn recently.... A few years ago I managed to quit but now I have to fight again.... Please pray with me....
Wow I just found your channel and It's all so good but this particular video is great.I'm not Christian but this helps me to overcome my fears and addiction, thanks
When my ex told me he watched porn I also broke down into tears too and was devastated. Thank you Sutton for your insight and opinion on this topic- I’m not alone!
Hi guys!!! :) I love your videos. I found your channel a couple of weeks ago and already have watched almost every video. I align with so many of your values, beliefs, and perceptions about relationships and life in general and I don't get to be around that in my life barley at all. You two are amazing role models for what a relationship can and should be like! After watching this video, I am curious as to what your views are on breastfeeding in public? Much love!
Even though I'm not in a relationship right now, I know it would have hurt me so much knowing that my boyfriend was watching porn. It would also be a deal breaker for me.
However I know it must take a great amount of courage and dedication for guys to not to do so, as it seems like everyone else is doing it.
Ok so this recently has happened to
Me-And the guy I was dating. He feels tremendous guilt, because it just destroyed me.
I guess what my question is-how did you handle this Sutton? Did you guys discuss rebuilding trust going forward- what would happens if this would continue? Practically what steps did you take to ensure that your heart was protected-Or did you just trust that he wouldn’t do it again!
Thanks so much! Love you guys!
Nate, you hit the nail on the head about porn. The biggest harm in watching it, is indeed teaching you that noone is good enough AND you are hurting yourself and others. You too, Sutton are exactly right. Thank you for talking about this. So many ppl believe the LIE that there is no harm in watching it, but it definitely is harmful. I hope men out there watching this video (who watches porn), will realize how much they are hurting themselves and any relationship they may be in.
Another point is this; you can’t unsee it. You are putting sinful images in your brain, that will be stored there forever. Later in your life, it will take much prayer and discipline to control those images. So guys, guard your eyes.
Thank u so much for this video bc so many Christians avoid it and it needs to be brought out in the open-Expose the Devil
DrumrGal4Christ yes we agree!
Wow he’s looking at you with great conviction or shame. With all seriousness. God bless you Nate. I look up to you.
It does work on the brains chemicals in a similar way to hard drugs, and there are very many girls affected, it works the same on female brains. Also, it doesn’t only hurt the partner, but most of the actors that are used for porn are trafficked, drugged or forced into it (as well as forced into surgeries) so it’s a strong possibility that what you’re watching on the screen is actual rape. There are also very many underage girls used and abused for the purpose of producing pornography. It’s directly linked to the enormous problem of human trafficking we face all over the world today. So each click supports the abuse of the actors involved. The children who are exposed to it are also being hurt in an awful way, because it is literally altering their brain chemicals. Thank you for so bravely speaking about this incredibly important issue. It’s so necessary.
I’ve been struggling with this addiction for so long. I’m 20 now and started trying to stop about a year ago. Maybe a little less. I feel like a complete failure that I haven’t been able to. I don’t have a wife of girlfriend but I still feel immense guilt whenever I fall to this temptation and this habit I’ve built up over the years.
I wish I could just -STOP- but I can’t. It’s so demoralizing and I feel so completely hopeless sometimes.
Don't feel hopeless. It may be hard but it's never hopeless.
I was exposed to porn at age nine and lived in that sin until I was seventeen. My eyes were open to my sin and gave my life to Christ and started on my path to change. I was seventeen. I'll be twenty one this July and I still struggle with it at times. There have been many highs and lows these last few years, but I keep going. It's getting better. I'm getting better. Everyday I better understand the love of God and what it means to be saved and born again. I'm finding freedom, and you will too. Just keep walking.
Porn destroys life.
I am grateful you are talking of this. Is he getting professional help? It is great you two look happy and portray that speaking about this very important topic, except only time will tell. I'm not trying to sound negative in anyway, shape or form. I'm simply bringing out "my story" with this topic and what had happened and has happened to many (who have even a slight addiction) to relationships and families "over time".
This addiction cannot be laughed at. It is so much more than you think it is. If he is not getting professional help and sticking with it, according to professionals, pornography only progresses. This happened to us. We lived on believing we were "happy" as you look now.
My spouse told me when we were 6 years into our marriage, back in around 1995-6 that he had looked at bad pictures. That's all he told me. At that time, I wasn't aware of pornography addiction and what it truly is. I was grateful he told me because I truly thought he was being honest, except I had come to find out "over time" its so much more dangerous I would have EVER imagined! We had two small children at that time. Life went on and the children and I were living with such "DARK" in the home for many years and I could not understand for 28 years into the relationship what was happening. My spouse was very disconnected, our relationship was very confusing. Finally in 2018 I discovered pornography on his device and it was then he told me he had a pornography addiction since he was 10. My world went entirely upside down. It nearly destroyed our family because the darkness and poison of pornography prevails in the home from the addict who continues to do pornography. They cannot stop. The secrecy and silence will only divide your relationships "over time" if he isn't constantly getting the proper professional help and staying in the 12 step programs.
Pornography addiction is a VERY serious matter and there should be no laughing about ANY part of this in anyway, shape or form! It only progresses, please for your families sake, be sure accountability is at play and take this to a much more serious level and include the professionals! Keep them in the addicts life. I'm not trying to scare you, I'm hoping to prevent the hardship it has brought to so many families because it's not taken as serious as a heroin addict. Pornography addiction is worse than a serious drug addict. It might seem as if everything is okay. Please get help for your spouse who has and still has the addiction and stay on the path to healing with the professionals who are the only ones who can truly help this. It may save your marriage in the long run...it's like having health insurance with professionals if you must think of it that way in the long run.
My marriage now 31 years later is ending and our 4 children (terrific individuals) have scars now because my spouse kept so secret continually doing it. It is a poison in your home. You do not want this for your children in your home at all!! Please take this precaution given to you and make the professionals apart of your marriage. Pornography is nothing to take lightly in anyway, shape or form.
Please take care ❤
Are you able to make a video on how to ask a Christian girl / guy out ?
Be friends with them get to know them for 3 years or more thats how u do it -.- seriously this society is disgraceful
Porn is definitely a girl problem just as much as it is a guy problem. The same way that there are guys who never got hooked on porn, sin is very individual: just because you may not struggle with it doesn’t mean it’s not hard for someone who does to stop. Thank you for making this video. Maybe everyone needs their own experience for true deliverance but having other people share their experiences and tips really goes a long way
Important to acknowledge that porn is a huge struggle for women too. The phrase "mostly speaking to guys here" and "girls brains don't work like that" is a real shame-builder for women. It's also not true... Women's brain work in the same way and can be wired to be addicted to porn. Please be careful about the way you speak about this issue. Visit nakedtruthproject.com and we have recovery programmes for men and women. I struggled with pornography myself and have shared my story publicly on various platforms. Women - you're not alone! You're not disgusting! You're not weird! There's a difference between shame and guilt.
True, but 25% of women compared to 80% men, I'd a statistic I saw a few years ago.
Its alot more common in men but women these days are extremely carnal as much as men. We like the more emotional side of things but we too like fleshy desires & looking at male bodies...some women just dont get it but there are a few who know what its like to have straight up nasty dirty thoughts.
love y’alls channel
You guys... I have no words. God is amazing, thank you for this, this video wasn’t in my feed by accident. God bless you always.
Watching those kinds of videos also makes that person a contributor to human trafficking. Some of the participants in those films are not voluntary or paid. Supply and demand. If the creators of these videos see that there is a demand for it they’re going to continue to produce it.
Good point! That’s why the popular argument that “it’s not hurting anyone” doesn’t work, because simply viewing any of it creates demand.
Tanderia Virginia very untrue lol
Never thought of it that way, great point!
Great talk guys. I agree pornography is sin. I use to look at it in the past, pictorials and videos, but then I stopped. Thank the Lord. I don't even care to see nudity/sex in tv and movies nowadays. I feel that it is so unnecessary. Now I'm not speaking about nudity that may be displayed in a documentary, for instance, about an isolated tribe somewhere. That's not meant to be sexual (although some would use it in such a manner). The entertainment industry use references to sex to invoke interest and excitement, but I feel that I'm exposed to it so much from what I see day to day that I've practically become desensitized to it. I'm SO over it.
I just found your channel on my recommendations, I'm here to stay!
laura elise wahoo! Thanks for joining 😄
Spoke out of my heart so much!!!
I was exposed to porn when I was 5 years old. Now I’m 18. On New Year’s Eve this year God freed me from this addiction till 2 months ago. It was the longest time I was free from it. But now I’m back into this and feel horrible everytime I look at it, just like Nate said it.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I want to be forever free.
It’s one of the reasons why I’m not looking for a girlfriend because I don’t wanna hurt somebody else than me.
I would appreciate your prayer so much 🙏🏼
Jonathan
Hey! I recently stopped and I’m 19. Check out Fight the New Drug for starters but truthfully, just clinging to God and asking him for the strength to stop is the way. It’s a long long road but so worth it to be active in quitting. Good luck!
Hi....I enjoy your channel very much. I was just wondering about Nate's comment on photos (videos) of women wearing lingerie and bikinis and how they can cause men to lust. I did see one of your videos with Sutton wearing a bikini and I guess I was surprised at Nate's comment. I would think he would have discouraged her from wearing one......?? Can you elaborate on this? Thank you!
Could sutton address why it hurt her, on a Christian level and also on a person level. Did it make her feel like it would take over the marriage or what sort of aspect did she find that the prom hurt her ?
I've really learned to alot watching you guys... Great couple stay strong in God and may God bless your 💓 💯 your family and
Nate and Sutton, I think you should do another video on this topic which explains how people can stop the addiction of porn(prayer, other healthy habits, finding a hobby hobby). I also think you should address how it might open our spirit to demons AND how it affects a man's view of women and as a result they don't givee the proper prospect or value them. Also, how it can open the door to pursuing a sexually immoral lifestyle dragging a person deeper into sin by possibly causing someone to go further than just watching or looking.
I personally have never been a porn watcher, I never thought it seemed at all alluring. But I know two guys who are so addicted and it breaks my heart for them. I know this is a very big problem among today's youth. God bless you Nate and Sutton!
Realizing my ex was doing this while we were together. While he was saying he loved me. I couldn't understand and it made me feel like he thinks I'm not enough. That's one of the biggest reason I know I could never marry him. It's true a lot of women can't understand. I can't imagine how I could feel like I was in love while looking at other guys like that. It sounds so unappealing to me. It just doesn't make sense to me. If I'm in love with you why would I want to look at other men in that way? It just sounds so gross to me. Although I'm not into porn either way so that's probably why I can't understand.
What do they do if two Christians start dating and they both struggle with the addiction of pornography? Would that be an unhealthy relationship that needs to end because they would both feed each other like if one messes up the other would be tempted to also because they wouldn’t feel as bad then if not? I don’t know if I’m explaining this well but as a woman of God that has struggled with this I worry about what actions to take if the person I start to date struggles with it also and what that would mean for our relationship?
your family is blessed by God for sure:) Keep sharing!
U two r made for each others ma sha allah ❤️ love you both
One thing that shocked me is finding out that the Greek word, the original word, for sexual immorality in the bible was ‘Porneia’, which is explicitly said as a sin
It just shocked me so much to know they named Porn, as we know it today, directly after sin and it cleared any doubts I had of whether or not it was a sin
I am a new sub, I love your video's, they take a lot of courage to make these videos. requires a lot of vulnerability and only God can grant it. God bless you both.
Hahaha so funny how Nate suddenly stopped talking. Sutton was right, you were on a roll 😂
My husband saw me sob, get angry and feel so broken but couldn't stop. It's called a binge Purge cycle where it would happen for a period of time and then stop even for maybe 2 years. He felt bad but it wasn't enough to bring the change he needed. We had to seek counseling from your pastor and then thankfully God miraculously brought a men's group look for this addiction to our church called conquer series. Encourage anyone struggling with this to look this up on the internet. It's amazing. Goes to a deeper level and heals the root of the cause of the addiction. It's such a dark shameful addiction. So men really need add another group of men to help them through this many times. I'm going away that it just took that one time for Nate to see that hurt and stop it all together forever. That's pretty amazing. But not everybody experiences that. Thankfully my husband has been free for 2 and 1/2 years. He's so happy and joyful and walks around with dignity and not shame anymore. We've been married almost 15 years and he says he loves me more than he ever has because that's not stealing his heart away anymore. I read the comments and I wish I knew of a group for women or girls who struggle with this. But I'm sure there's something out there. It helps when you feel like you don't have to face these things alone.
I'm astonished at how young an age you all got into this! I'm not trying to demean any of you, I fell into the trap at age 14, didn't escape til I was 16, but 4th grade? I've seen some comments saying ages like 11, 10, even as young as 7! Those who exposed you little ones ought to be ashamed. I'll be saying a special prayer for people who are addicted to it...it's so sad and my heart breaks for you all 💔
i never thought of it this way...thank you for opening my eyes to this topic. ive wondered what that icky kind of feeling meant that ive gotten during and after watching porn, and now it makes more sense.
i also think that nowadays almost everyone watches porn, its the norm and i think more people need to see it this way.
Thank you guys you are a blessed for us ♥️
I want to quit this bad habit. Thanks for inspiration. From UA with love 💙💛
I am glad I found you guys. I really feel pure by watching your videos . I am struggling with porn at the moment which costed me a fiance. I hope I had found this video long time ago but now I have. I want to quit this addiction so I can become closer to God. I believe that the reason why I havent quit is because I did not put God first in my previous relationship
Christian Rowbotham so glad we can help!
It is difficult but a very helpful thing is that we should honour God with outr lives instead of trying to get as close to sin as possible -whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things. Philippians 4:8
It’s wrong I totally agree with u ❤️ n I hope people do more videos about this topic like u guys did . Great topic god bless u
I have been in a similar situation when at the beginning of my relationship with my old boyfriend, I had a feeling he was doing it, and what broke us up was him not willing to truly give up lusting and pornography. I truly loved him but I knew that God had to work in his heart and not me. I wish it would have gone way different but it really is hurtful when a significant other is thinking about someone else in an inappropriate way. sitting here listening to this is making me cry, wishing it would have gone a different way then it did.
She doesn’t understand why it’s addicting because she doesn’t have the kind of wounds that create the deep shame that forms addiction.
Everything you said is so true. I can't disagree with you guys. I know I have been single for 12 years. I know God has a plan for me to prosper my future with a woman. I don't know when but only on His timing. If I am with a woman, I can't look at pornography or any lust from tv (I hardly watch tv because most of them are garbage). I know addicted porn will hurt a woman deeply when I am dating someone. Trust is basically gone. I believe when you love someone you should never look at other women for lust over the woman you are dating with. I couldn't do that with my woman. Once I love my woman to be, she is it for life that I am committed to.
Joseph Pup amen!!
The very last point Sutton made was so important......you are looking at God’s daughter or God’s son. Powerful stuff.
i’m so glad i found the answer. i wouldn’t say i’m addicted, i just watch because i felt bored. but i never had the urge to do anything to myself. that’s something i’d *NEVER* do. watching porn, i knew that it was so wrong to. i pray to god to help me get though this, and i believe he will. thank you for this video as it is something i’ve wondered and cried about so much because i have sinned.
you also have to make the choice yourself
That's great topic to discuss because people are down seeing this new drug !
Can I ask what your opinion is on Modesty then? Especially swimwear.
Yes because in this video you talked about seeing people on Facebook, Instagram, etc. in bikinis as porn, yet I have seen on your family Instagram Sutton in a bikini. Is this porn?
DanielleA no, it’s not. It’s the context that can be considered soft porn. Those women in victoria secret bikini commercials who are purposely acting sexy, it can be seen as pornographic. If you’re in a bikini with your family at the beach it’s not soft porn lol.
@@nursegirly3248 I think its the same thing. You're showing the same amount of your body in a bikini as one the Victoria Secret models in their lingerie. Whether a woman is acting sexy or not in a bikini, guys are reacting to her body. I don't see how anyone can consider a bikini modest. They really aren't by any means.
Rach L Well no but it’s not porn either
@@nursegirly3248 That depends. For the guy looking at the women that are dressed that way, it might be. Don't forget the bible said that whosoever looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her Already in his heart. Matt 5:28.
So a guy that I used to work with (an eye doctor of all things) and I reconnected. I last worked with him in 1997 and only worked there for a year. I worked there while attending a Baptist University. We never talked though and he was only one of the 2 doctors there. So we reconnected and talked on the phone for ? a year. Not often though. He drove over to visit for a few hours. Then he started sending me porn. I never opened any of it until one day I did. And it was of a girl talking. She wasn't just any girl. She was former LDS/Mormon. I am former LDS/Mormon. It BROKE my heart. I listened to that very young girl describing the most vile thing that she'd done as she was laughing about it with another girl. I saw this and felt that she was a daughter of Christ and had no idea, but one day, she would regret her behavior. I blocked his number. Right before I did that - I posted ...is it right for guys to send girls porn? He would tell me...don't open this in church. Everyone was like DROP HIM and NO. It was sad because he had SO MUCH MONEY. LOL. Not sure why he was still single. He lives 7 hours away and I am grateful. We had never hugged or anything and to get these links. At first he'd send one. I never looked at them. Then he kept sending them. So girls, so no right off the bat and walk away. Don't accidentally click on one like I did. Wow. And I am 50. That guy is/was 56 so they never stop unless something intervenes. I am glad I found out right off what he was into instead of wasting my time.
It's so important to be honest about it, my ex husband has this addiction and never was honest about it, even after I found out the truth. In the end it destroyed our marriage.
I do believe that it's a sin and it's wrong, however all sin is equal. The last thing people should do is judge people who are hurting and struggling, no matter what their struggling with. This subject is very important but also doesn't just apply to men, and should be spoken gently to people who are struggling. Like you said it's a very sad hard thing to deal with, and normally when people watch it, especially christians, they feel the holy spirit convicting them. So i feel like when talking about it, it shouldn't be shameful. God is the only one who should judge us, and if you love someone you come alongside them and pray for them, not judge them or set them apart. I do appreciate the topic though, maybe make another one with a wider variety of who it applies to and how to deal with it. Instead of just saying "stop" because that won't make anyone stop.
Thanks for sharing!!!! Very good !!!!!!!
Not an easy topic but thankful for your honesty ❤️
Porn hurts! Personally I asked my husband all through dating and our marriage if he did. Much like Sutton just had a feeling, but he always said no and I chose to trust him, knowing it was most likely not true. Well months away from our 10th anniversary is when I found out and it destroyed me. I felt blindsided and hurt beyond words. I still struggle with moments of trust issues and it is so frustrating. That being said I know God lined the timing up so perfectly that I believe that is the only reason we made it through. We relied purely on our faith and that God had wonderful things ahead. And same thing once he admitted it to me and saw how much it hurt, he has not even thought about it since.but yes so hard not to go to the place of being compared. I have to pray daily that God takes my thoughts and uses them to his glory. Guide my heart and mind to love and trust Him and the rest will become clear. Thank you so much for talking about this so openly!
Y’all look very nice
Although I don’t live a pure lifestyle and neither does my boyfriend I still don’t understand porn. My boyfriend watches it and he tells me every guy watches porn. I mean, I’m not completely like “oh porn is a sin” I just don’t understand it like you Sutton. I’ve watched it before and it does nothing for me. My boyfriend tells me “yeah but it’s just a way to relieve stress, when I’m intimate with you it’s completely different than watching a video” it still does bother me a bit. Not to the point of it affecting our relationship but it’s a good point to bring up.
You guys are awesome 🌟
What do you think about Matthew 18:9?