OUR FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE | I Thought She Was Crazy!!!
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- Опубліковано 28 сер 2019
- OUR FIRST YEAR OF MARRIAGE | I Thought She Was Crazy!!!
It's STORY TIME! In this video we take you back in time through our first year of marriage. From the highs of our wedding day and honeymoon to the lows of our first and biggest fights! People warned us that the first year of marriage was going to be the hardest year and boy were they right! With that said we couldn't leave you without sharing some of our biggest tips in making your first year of marriage (or current relationship) the best that it can be. Watch all the way to the end to find out what they are!
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other couples’ fights: “they cheated on me”
sutton and nate’s fights: “she called me a ding dong”
Evelyne Y 😂😂
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Yelitza Ortiz 😂 the horror!
Omg, if my man got mad about me calling him ding dong we wouldn't be together. It's a word that I use all the time, but not in a mean or bad way. I also thought I was the only person who used that word lol I've never heard anyone call someone a ding dong. Lol u guys are cute.
So true!!
"God didn't bring me and Sutton together until I was prepared." Straight wisdom right there. People get caught up in wanting relationships now, not realizing that God's making us wait so that we can work on being the best version of ourselves for that special person.
I don't think I believe this. What does the best version of yourself mean? And when is that? The moment you think you're your best version of yourself, something will come along and show you your flaws. And I don't say that from a place of cynicism. I think you meet someone and you work with who you both are with where you're both at. You can stay single to work on becoming your best self all you want but then you meet someone and that stuff becomes undone.
You can wait till you've dealt with that sin or that attitude or earned enough money or advanced in your career or WHATEVER...then life happens and you discover more about yourself. There is no right time. You both meet. With all your hopes, excitement, lust and fantasies. Plus all of your wounds and garbage. Then together, your navigate this UNCHARTED territory called a new relationship.
Thank you so much
I'm realizing that now ..I just went through a divorce and I wanted it so bad to be life long but it was very unhealthy. But I'm learning you're not in control God is you just have to obey God and listen
Based on your comment, I’m going to marry someone REALLY fabulous because I’m 57, and still haven’t found Mr. Right!!! 😢😅 I was 47 in the picture with my twins, having gratefully gotten out of marriage to a person who WASN’T ready!!
I just wish they had a father. 😢
@@jccarty1477 Uh-oh, all your wisdom and logic just complicated, and maybe ruined, Nate’s comment! 😮 …now we have to consider another possibility! 😮
I heard once a thing that might help someone here: ‘it’s better to lose an argument than a person.’
God bless from Croatia!
Great advice. Simular advice from my mom, "pick your fights wisely."
Bok i tebi! :)
I am also from Croatia! From Zagreb!
Big kisses from Croatia, Zagreb❤️
Pozdrav iz Splita
Delete Facebook. Not worth the agony plus you have a beautiful marriage to protect from outside influences.
I just discovered you guys a few days ago and now I really want to save myself for marriage :)
Yung Ryn Yayy 🙌🏼 you won't regret it!
best decision you will ever make! 2 years celibate and i don't regret it
Yes sis! Do it, it’ll be hard but worth it
Andreea Popescu A man who truly loves God & was already celibate for himself & God is who u should look for. If he already loves God & follows his commands u won’t believe how much he’ll honor u
sameeee
If Nate has 5000 friends on Facebook, Sutton can’t sit there and sort through all of them. Start over bro!
Books Not Detention haha it is A LOT!
It’s a wonderful advice from your wife. Pls take it.🙏
I know. A husband should be willing to lay his life down like Christ gave his life for the church and he is clinging on to a FB account where it puts him in jeopardy of seeing naked women. That’s really selfish and not what Jesus would do-AT ALL. It’s because he’s young.. as he matures and marriage makes him less selfish hopefully he will see that is just completely unacceptable. That wouldn’t slide with most married women-Christian or otherwise.
Amen!
DELETE FACEBOOK and start over
Yeah. It’s surprising how fast you can build FB up again with only the people you trust and want on there. You aren’t missing out on anything at all if you delete your FB
133 people agree😂
Delete it, Nate!!! Listen to your wife!!
absolutelyy
You two are so cute together!!! Love the way you look at and smile at each other.
Have you tried vidangel?
Delete, Delete, Delete. The enemy is trying (and already has) to cause problems in your marriage. Simple.
"the secret to a happy marriage: two good forgivers" - Ruth Graham . Always loved her and her husband's words of wisdom
Your wife is absolutely right!!! From a girl who’s been married 26 years. That is a golden rule in our relationship that we don’t nurture relationships from the opposite sex whether that is talking in a serious way with anyone other than your spouse. That is a great way to safeguard your heart and your marriage
What he says: "Hey another naked girl popped up on my facebook...but I really don't want to delete and restart my account.
What she hears: "Hey another naked girl popped up on my facebook, but the insecurity and lack of safety it's making you feel in our marriage, isn't a big enough deal for me to delete and restart my account.
Result = a slow and steady loss of trust and respect. ouch!
Dang, are you a therapist?
@@dontliveinfear.7640 Not professionally, but I have mentored quite a few people. I know my comment was pretty blunt/straight forward but he just wasn't getting why it was such a big deal. Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is
Agreed!! Amazing to me that after four years he still didn’t come to that conclusion...
@@yomomma3345 I really like Nate and Sutton, but I get the feeling that he has a BIG problem with lusting after women.
@@cearax3 I think he mentioned once that before he and Sutton were together he was into pornography. As far as other women now, I agree. Someone once told me that if a person in a relationship does anything that hurts their partner, they are wrong and need to right that wrong immediately. I agree, especially with his past, he should delete his FB and IG and start over. My opinion? These are triggers for him. JMO
Thank you for being vulnerable. I can tell that regardless of the fights, you guys are madly in love with one another.
Elegant Anne very true ☝🏼
On our wedding day (we got married at our local beach) the forecast said rain all day, but it didn't rain until literally midnight. He made sure that we had perfect weather all day. So amazing the "little" things God will do for us!
I completely agree with deleting social media! I've deleted my personal accounts because there is just so much debauchery and toxicity on it and it's also a distraction and an open door for darkness to enter. Not worth it! Guard your eye and ear gates, always
Elena Bee UA-cam is still social media, you know?
When Nate said “I get sad when she leaves” I said our loud -“aw that’s cute” and then Sutton said it immediately after 😂
I'm with Sutton. Start over!!!!
Delete facebook and start over with only friends you know. It seems like the enemy is taking an advantage of your current facebook set up to attack your marriage.
Yes! Exactly. Don't give the Devil a foothold.
That's exactly how he works.
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Absolutely! The enemy hates covenant!!
delete facebook and then don't get another one, that's better advice. i got rid of fb almost 2 years ago one of the best decisions ever
Yes, it’s just Facebook, gotta decide what’s more important..
Yes Facebook can be evil. U r not crazy. But godly. Praise God.
The part about showing love by giving honor and preparing for marriage were monumental for me. Thank you!
Amazing! Love the fact that you guys are comfortable and aren't afraid to be vulnerable. You guys are definitely impacting so many people!
I genuinely love how vulnerable and honest you both are! Thank you Nate and Sutton for sharing, loving and remaining open to learn and unlearn. So inspired by your marriage and will keep praying you up❤️
The way you described how showing honor looks like kind of opened my eyes. Thank you! Never really thought what showing honor actually means and how I should love like that.
Mimy58585 awesome! We’re happy that helped! 💛
Can you both do a video for beginners in their walk with Jesus?
Addy Dodd great idea!
I would love this!
Yessss!
Yes we will
I think that's a great suggestion!
I love yalls channel so much! Bringing so much light. 🙌🏽 thanks for the tips at the end about honor! That’s so helpful!
This is a hugeee confirmation for me. I am engaged and my fiancé and I will sometimes have this fight. Some of my friends/peers claim that I am self conscious and make me feel like a crazy person for thinking that we should veer our eyes from inappropriate things. Glad to hear we are not the only couple who has these fights, also thanks for not making me think I’m crazy 😬
Y’all are seriously THE CUTEST!!! I love EVERY. SINGLE. VIDEO. I love love love how gospel centered you both are. Finally positive, uplifting videos.
Thank you for being so open and honest! Your video gives a good glimpse of what so many couples deal with nowadays. Loved the "honoring" and "learning the apology language" parts. ❤ As for Facebook stuff and friends of the opposite sex, tread very carefully! Way better to let go of a page, or a few old numbers, and start over than to cause unnecessary pain or strife in your marriage. You can't put a price on the comfort peace or trust bring to a relationship... it's too precious! 🙏❤ And so are you guys.
I just discovered your channel and I love this video! I'm almost through my first year of marriage (my anniversary is coming up on Sunday!) It has been an amazing year of growth, but filled with ups and downs. I love what you guys said about practicing the attributes of love found in Corinthians. It's good to remind ourselves what love looks like in this crazy busy life. God bless you guys! Looking forward to watching more videos and applying your advice to my own marriage!
I've been experiencing a period of thunderstorm in my life, and you guys' message have been a beam of light. Im serious, so thank you so much - its been really really great for me yours videos and sharing in my walk to pursue purity and being set free of all my past :)
You all are allowing God to do BIG & AMAZING things in & through you. Thank you for being obedient 💛
Ive been married for 40 years and I love my husband but we still fight about him peeing on the floor and toliet and putting the lid down.... ughhhhh!
Nancee Suber our church actually talked about that one time and they said if you can’t come to an agreement about the seat up or down then you should both close the lid that way you are both having to adjust and it’s not just one person getting their way 😉
Nate and Sutton thats good i like that idea. I really hate when the boyfriend visits and i have to keep putting down the seat. And i hate pee on the floor too especially when i go in to the toilet in bare feet!!
Nate and Sutton not to mention when you flush with the lid up all that stuff flies around the bathroom and onto your tooth brush!!! If that is not reason enough to close the lid idk what else you need
@@mariebrett2179 Do you have a son/son's? Just wait. There will be pee everywhere. LOL
I love that you guys uploads twice a week! It’s so fun listening to you guys while I clean or work on homework. Have you guys considered doing a podcast?
Angel Bateman we are trying our best! And that's a good question...we haven't yet but who knows what God has in store!
You guys are so cute. I’m so happy you found each other so you could bless us with your fun, wholesome, and sometimes educational home vids. Thanks!
THANK YOU, exactly when I needed it! God is GOOD!
Hi Nate and Sutton!! I'm Sintyke, and I'm a Brazilian christian girl. Thanks for all your wisdom videos, they've helped me soo much!
Keepin' it real as always. Great video N & S. 💯💯 And thank you for the tips.
Learned a lot from you both honestly!! This was very refreshing to watch! Looking forward to your next vids! God bless!!
Love the transparency!!
Loveeee you guys and thanks for sharing! This actually helps a ton!
I feel so blessed coming across your videos. I’m in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and we haven’t stopped talking about our faith in God for the past 3 days. We have started to pray together over the phone and sharing that kind of conversation to your partner brings so much bliss. On a side note, Nate has strong resemblance with Jesus in akiane’s Prince of peace painting❤️
Prepare for your marriage! Yes! Soo good, in that prep stage now lol very thankful for it tho! Going through inner healing and learning more about relationships, friendships, and communication...learning a lot!
So good to set yourself up for success and honor! Amen
Thank you for this video! It’s very encouraging!
Insightful video Nate & Sutton 👏🏻 Thanks for sharing!
Wow, the honor tip was really insightful. Thank you!
Y’all are so genuine and intentional with each other and in sharing the love of Jesus and what He’s done and is doing through y’all! I’m grateful for y’all and for your channel! 💗✨
Leslie Parsley thank you! 💛💛
Oh my gosh
You guys always hurt my cheeks!
Because I am happy and smile throughout the whole thing!
Y'all adorable!
Honour is so valuable ! Thank you for being honestly real :)
You guys are great !! Yes we’re with you Sutton , delete that Facebook. My husband and I also decided not to talk to people of the opposite sex just because emotional connections can happen accidentally, Satan is so crafty. My home church leader , who’s much older than me, only talks to me or counsels me with my his wife and my husband present just to be safe. Wish you two the best !!
luda sychenko totally agree!
So you're going to ignore 50 percent of the population for the rest of your life? That doesn't sound healthy or rational. Good luck with a marriage built on distrust of each other
@@sfrancies87 Agree with you. I have male friends and my man doesn't mind or worry because we love and trust each other
Was kinda weird, him saying that. Like, I would lose respect if my father, a married man, were reaching out to other females. Boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries. The lack of boundaries today is incredible. This marriage won't last long without the proper use of boundaries, and the guy trying to break those while his wife abides by them. Idk, this was weird, tbh. Please be more serious about guarding your marriage for your child's sake, at least.
I’m a female firefighter so it be hard not to speak to men and I’m Christian and have to sleep in a bunk room with them . We just have trust . I get the not wanting emotional attachments to happen but some females arent always looking for that kind of friendship . To each there own tho . I’m not telling anyone how to live . I’m just saying that be crazy hard for me at work .. I however don’t share personal problems at work or on social media . I do have guy friends at work but we don’t hang out solo or text anything but sports or workout stuff .
Wow, I really like the idea of preparing for marriage. Thanks for bringing this up!
Love these vids! Feel like your vlogs will be great! :)
Get so excited when you guys upload new videos 🥰🥰
Please make a video about what you wish you would have known, or advice you would have given your younger self. Just starting my journey with faith, and I look to you as such an incredible example!
I loved how you talked about honor! That is so wise 🤠
I LOVE the new outro, it just brings it together beautifully 💗
So good! I love the honor points! 🙌🏼🙌🏼Also, I didnt know about the apology languages. Ill look it up!💯🤙🏼
Very cute intro! Totally drew me in..lol. Love it. Cute couple too! God bless your life together 🙏❤
Love this video 😍 I can totally relate to these moments you've been through, me and my fiance just got engaged but we've had some couple of fights like this, I also had the tendency to just get up and leave and it made him really sad and angry because he felt like I was giving up on us, and I try not to do that anymore, instead we try to take a deep breathe and talk to each other about how we feel and what has bothered us and how we can fix this for the future while maintaining eye contact because it really helps and reminds us that we don't fight against each other, but together against a problem ❤️
Love you guys! My husband, Chris, and I will be married for 9 years this year, with our little baby on the way in November. Still, I find your advice so profound and wise because it is based on Scripture. Keep up the wonderful way you are ministering to and mentoring other people. You are a true inspiration! Blessings and love in Christ. Yolande, South Africa
Thank you for sharing the bonus tips I have already done a couple of them
Alexander Kroll 🙌🏼🙌🏼
What a blessed video and just your testimonies. God bless you!
My favorite UA-cam channel/ couple!!! Love watching these videos❤️
Just went through a few videos and just that lesson about honour had me subscribing. Thank you 💞
Yes, start over Nate. It’ll feel great!
Never heard of the apology language but makes sense. Will look it up. Thank you for sharing.
Love you guys!! Every video is inspiring! 💜
This is so relatable. The TV situation for sure. We did away with social media while dating and I think it has benefited us greatly. We just got married in May so we are working through our first year. :)
Sarah Lara so smart!!
Thanks guys! You gave me hope, love the Channel. Greetings from Poland!
Yes, can't wait to see the swimming with sharks video!!! ;)
Nate and Sutton, you are brilliant!!! Thank you for this video 😊 I deactivated Facebook a few years ago. Some people said I’m not logical and impractical because that’s the way to stay connected to friends. I disagree on this, there are emails and other ways of communication that does not involve unnecessary contents that Facebook (or instagram) has. I agree with Sutton! *raised both hands* In my husband prayer list I also wrote down “not social media enthusiast”. So glad to hear (and to read) that there are other people with the same opinion on this issue!❤️ (and yes preparation over promise! By quitting Facebook is one of them)
N P thank you that's so nice! So glad you enjoyed :))
I think that it's amazing that you guys want to be open about these fights, and that Nate aims to actively work on himself so that the fights wouldn't occur in the first place. My sister has her FB and her husband deleted his because of similar fights... my brother in law said that after he deleted his social media... their relationship soared and their marriage strengthened :))
Wow guys , you both need to have your own podcast . Thank you for your honesty and wisdom .
Also, Great color shirt Nate! Lol good variety! 😁
Hi guys. Such a Blessing to see y’all in the middle of the week..Nate you’re so funny..
I’m praying for you Sutton!😀
Thanks for sharing guys❣️
Loving y’alls channel!
Sowing seeds of truth, love and inspiration one view at a time
I can’t believe you guys don’t have 100,000 subscribers! God is working so many good things through your channel!
Juliana G aw thank you!! 💛💛
I LOVE watching your videos! I love hearing your point of view on things! I was 14 weeks pregnant when me and my husband got married, we had been together for 4 years before that, but you can imagine how hard our first year of marriage has been! 😬😬😬
Keely Hawkins whew I can only imagine! And thank you for your kind words 😁
Hi Nate and Sutton, just came across this channel and I first need to comment about your channel intro, it's so cute. The part with your son falling back is adorable.
I hope that y’all meet your goal by the end of the year! You both deserve it!
Ya'll are soo cute! Totally, agree about preparing for marriage. Asking you all to please pray divine protection and peace for those of us potentially dealing with Hurricane Dorian in the Sunshine State. Tfs
fdoctor 🙏🏼🙏🏼
😂 You guys crack me up! You're so forthcoming with personal information -- peeing on the floor! 😂 I love your honesty and you're both so sweet and fun spirited.
It's so refreshing to get to know a couple that Christ brought together. Love you guys.
I want to never dishonor a woman again! thank you for your videos they help me to get back the vision for a christian Relationship
When you guys were talking about honor in relationship, I wanted to triple like it!!!! So important...
Waiting for 26 years and will still wait. Lets see when my time will come. You guys are pure example of LOVE. Adorable ❤
you guys are so wholesome and absolutely adorable
Preach! Don’t dishonor the woman!❤️
Once again thank you Nate and Sutton. Thanks for the tip. HONOR, and the illustration you gave just made it more clear how simple is to Honor my spouse.
Be blessed much.. LOVE FROM RWANDA😘😇
Higiro Bruce you're so welcome and thank you for watching!!
So glad to know I'm not the only wife who gets frustrated about those things! Love your channel. 💞
My husband and I fight about these exact same things! We are working on it. Sutton, I have your same frustrations or hurts you had/have. You guys, thank you for sharing this. I have been struggling so bad, like something is wrong with me. My husband and I started the Love Language Devotional at the beginning of the year. I hope this all makes sense.
I always watch you guys and feel like my husband and I would get along with you guys so well! Love watching you guys. I laughed so hard at some of these!
Thank you for your transparency. You two are adorable :)
I discovered you guys today and I have been blessed by your channel. I subscribed to your channel as well!
I’m really growing to love your channel! You guys are so funny and sweet
Your videos help me so much! Would you please make more advice videos about the struggles of finding a christian partner and how to deal with the frustration of waiting for God's timing? I love seeing all the happy christians couples, it's just hard not knowing if it's going to happen for me.
Helen Cala yes we will make more!!
your reasons for fighting are your reasons plus it helps us all feel a little less crazy
Such a lovely and good video! Thank you! You are such a cute couple!
From the bottom of my heart...Thank you for this video
I love your videos!! Can you please make a video about preparing your self for meeting the person that God has save for you?
I love your vulnerability telling the public these private things. Yah Speed