When a man pulls away I don’t chase him. Obviously he’s not interested enough & fortunately I have self respect enough to leave it alone. I’m over the long paragraphs & demanding an explanation. His silence & pulling away speaks for itself.
I think life is always bringing you the best in every moment. If he is not there then you need another thing... if he is back then you need to continue experiencing something with that person. Nothing is black or white but the most important is to feel good no matter what! Follow your intuition as a woman because it is always right! ;)
Listen women. If he's hot n cold, then he's entertaining other women. Don't be played. There are lots of men out there that's way better than him so open yourself to meet one. Never intiate contact with a man. He must pursue you.
Us beautiful women have no control over messed up or narcissistic men. But I find your advice truthful and enlightening. Please tell me how I can arrange a one to one with you. I am fascinated and would appreciate more personal advice. Thank you.
I agree with most comments ! But unfortunetly today, there is about min 5 women that men are connecting chatting, n dating at SAME TIME , So WHY WLD ANY GUYVmen been comftable like they are Chase a HIGH VALUE Women when their ultimate goal IS WHO will pull the pants down first and Be THE BEST at S.......x!!!! MathewI follow n bought your text messages advise, but only men that Truely fall in love with you just by seeing you are the ONES worth while Negside is usually we are Atracted to the PLAYERS! N😂
You Guys are So sweet trying to help us women understand men and giving us tips on how to handle these types because honestly we really need them. Pulling away is a definite sign that we should just Let them Go! But sometimes it’s not that easy to do. Unfortunately we will probably encounter this “pushing away “ characteristic many times until we find “The One” who is 100% sure about us ☹️ Good Luck To us All! 😆
Man look... normal people don't "pull away" thats damaged goods. They are unstable, not consistent. Healthy persons let love or friendship flow properly and enjoy every drop of it. If not just leave forever that's it. Stop wasting time n energy on wrong, toxic or broken people. People who are unsupportive and unstable are also uncool. These are emotional triggers and/or mind games. #Forget them. If the fool doesn't value u or desire u in a balanced way n manor especially after some time knowing each other then he is a problem. Probly a narcissistic idiot who can't even love or properly attach. Distractive, destructive and deceptive. The person is misleading to your life. This person can not be trusted or depended on. Leave them alone. U deserve stability and sanity. Steady Love and a proper foundation to build or enjoy a healthy and uplifting exchange with the other person or why bother know the person. The sitiation no longer serves u. Its bad. Let go. People like that are sick personality disorder. Pray they get healed n move forward before the toxic person tries to infect you with their darkness and insanity. People like that are traumatized and haunted or have demons controlling them n they are a mess u don't need in your life. Insecure n jealous or hateful... cancel that garbage juice. God is the perfect match maker go to Him and begin your journey to your secure well being and the having of a good spouse. Everything else is ludicrous.
Of course normal people pull away... if a man has a priority at work and doesn't have as much time as normal, if one of his parents dies and he needs some time to grieve, there are a number of reasons why someone might need some time to themselves and might pull back because of it.
What to DO when a man pulls away: 1. Lean back. What NOT TO DO when a man pulls away: 1. When he comes back don't use a CONNECTION BARRIER on him (like slapping a door in his face, attack him, yell at him, tell him how bad he is). It will not make him want to come back, but pull away even further. 2. Don't start by telling him how bad he made you feel. 3. when they come back don't immediately shower them with all the LOVE. Wether this is a good or bad idea depends on the situation you're in (wether you are married, or you're in a fresh relationship and he's hot and cold). You need to figure out first if his pulling away is NORMAL BEHAVIOUR or not (not attracted, interested, invested, breadcrumbing you, stringing you along, lost interest, not valuing you, taking you for granted). If it's the latter you want him to earn you back. Prove that he's interested, that he will invest in you, treat you like the queen/godess/amazing woman, the woman he wants to be with. It might take some time for him to start doing that. 4. mistake: wait too long, then attack. 5. another mistake: focus on him. Asking herself questions like: - What is he doing? - What is going on with him? - Why doesn't he contact me? - Does he love me? - Is everything O.K.? Also sending him texts with these questions. It's a total NONO. You need to be in a mindset of loving your life, enjoying it, focusing on things that make you grow, create a better life/happiness for yourself. Have hobbies, goal, things that make a life. Focus on yourself. Whatever you focus on, you feel. Focus on things that you want, that you''re greatful for. And you will end up feeling a lot better. When men come back to you, the connection will be so much greater. How long to lean back? 1. if it's more than a week and he has dissapeared and you are not in a commited relationship, then you should be dating other people, living and loving your life every day. 2. you can also TEST him by texting him. If he's been gone a week and he used to initiate, then you cancontact hom by saying hi, seeing what is going on, opening a door for him. (You can still initiate IF he is moving forward, if his energy is coming TO you). What to write to the guy? The 4-word text mesage in the "Forever woman" program (link to free program). It's designed to get his attention. It's a shocker. Not too serious, but not to light-hearted. Wakes them up, makes them realize they were pulling away, ignoring you. Some appologized, explained what's going on etc. Maybe they became busy, or he didn't know wether to reach out. Social media: 1. if you're worried about what he's doing, just unfollow him (so you don't see his feed). 2. can then change your profile picture, add some new pics, make it seem like you have a good life.
"It's not over" As indignant as i am, i'm starting to feel less interested the more he ignores me. I find lack of communication to be a turn off for me, especially since we agreed on the first date to be honest and straight forward about our intentions, and until now that was how we were.
We texted for a month then met for a date, he texted every am and called every pm, had the exclusive talk and he said I was stuck with him, said he loved me many times over the last few months, 5 months later he was under a lot of stress from work, claimed high blood pressure then texted me he was going away for the weekend to go fishing....he had said “if everyone would leave him alone” so I told him “enjoy your weekend babe” and haven’t heard from him in 4 days so I’m leaning back and mirroring him but am heartbroken and don’t want to text or call him because of what he said about everyone leaving him alone..... he’s a Pisces so I get they need alone time but he hasn’t done this since we met.... BTW he’s a farmer and April is stressful first year without Dad and he has a lot on him.... not making excuses but DAMN..... I matter too
You two are so adorable and SMART!!! Just started watching today and did not realize relationship coaching videos were a thing, mostly because I'm old, 62, and will probably never find my soulmate at this point. I will continue to watch though as I feel ya'll are giving good information. Thank you!
You guys are awesome. ☺️❤️😁 Just like you apply for a job and they may say, Thanks for applying, but we moved on with other applicants. You kinda have to use the same concepts. Tell him thanks for manifesting interest in me, but I moved on with other potential candidates. I wish I had this knowledge years ago. 😢
Thank you so much to your video, I think women should known this when our men pulling away. Women should learned how to be happy, strong and grow on our way in some cases, whether we have man or not.
I have been in such a relationship that the man used to made feel like ım just an option.He was pulling away then coming back again and again.I watched many of this kinda videos and tried almost anything to show him that ım a high value woman.I love myself, I loved him, I tried to make him believe we could create a great relationship together and ıts worth trying.Guess what?I lost 2,5 years.He moved on like ım nothing,like i didnt fight for him, like he didnt made hot and colds and played on me for a million times,like he didnt promise me for the sunny days.Finally I moved on too, finally I have sb who values me, sb whocares, sb who tries to be in a serious relationship.Im also shocked, dont know what to do with him:) For the last years, I wasnt trained for a healthy man ı guess:)) any video advice?
I got the "I'm sorry for not msg' ing you, I've literally been insanely busy!".... then he msg'd me the next day cause he just wanted to say hi and that hes thinking of me well he was in break from work. Then he disappeared again!!! Ugh, it's been 2 weeks now and counting... I havent msg'd him cause I wanted to see if he was gonna disappear again.... and he did! Its frustrating when a guy says hes really in to you, says all the right things, but vanishes.
Alex, you’re a great coach! You’ve included advice from someone else in the industry and are referring others to his services, even though it could mean that you could “lose clients”, which I don’t believe. Anyhow, it’s awesome. I love your channel and also the kind of person you are from seeing your videos. It seems you really care to help your clients.
Whenever he pulls away I try to break up with him bc I think there's other woman he's seeing lol but he usually call me right away and explain things to me...
lol doesnt mean hes not cheating sometimes when ur gut tels u something its usually right...this happened to me and i sneaked on his pc when he was sleeping and there the betrayal was
@@angelsbackgroundsounds girl same the gut never lies I went through his phone When he was sleeping and my gut was right and he had the cheek to be mad at me for going through his phone .
I absolutely loved this video. I have seen others but I needed the actual meat or steps so I really appreciate this. More videos with the 2 of You please!
Guys. Thank you for this video. You have helped me get through all of my questions and both of you clarified everything. I appreciate you coaching every women who is going through this situation. More power!!!
He thought I was too needy and got mad at me not talking didnt want to know anything about me and has a girlfriend right now and he knew my feelings I'm heartbroken since I lost him twice
I texted him to get lost in a nice way. He called me immediately to talk about it...he literally told me "I'm just putting the breaks on, its not you" lol
Women we are the price! We are so beautiful and precious goddesses! Don’t forget that ever! We are the egg! Let them be the sperm and chose the one that really do the job and makes you happy. Be willing to let go what doesn’t serve you with love and a grateful heart. Every man is teaching you something about yourself that you need to heal or work on. They are just a reflection of your inner world 😀
Hi Alex and Matthew, i became addicted to your videos. Lol.. btw, i really like this advice from the two renowned love coaches.. youre amazing! i always follow your techniques.. my man pull away for 2 days and i leaned back.. we are actually on a getting to know each other stage for now.. he sent me text maybe he miss me.. lol “you’ve probably heard countless times that you have to love yourself first in order to love others. This is especially true after you’ve been hurt because if you truly love yourself, the pain won’t run so deep. When you have self-love, you’re able to open up and accept love from others once you’ve healed from the pain.” Maybe this is the effect a push and pull that you recently discussed on the other video.. So i replied like this “ Yes exactly Bobby... i learned to love myself even more bcs no one will gonna love a woman if she dont know how to start loving herself first. I truly believe that my past made me who i am today.. a strong loving person with a beautiful mindset.. my past taught me how to choose a man in my life.. if a man doesn’t like me it is his choice not mine.. 🙂 it is very rare into a man to spot a woman who is valuing herself bcs many man just want an easy girl nowadays and many girls acting like a doormat to please a man.. im glad coz i don’t possessed that character. i should be thankful to those men who came and left me bcs i know they are now giving that especial way to a one great man who willing to bring me into his life and ready to build an amazing experience and fulfilling happy life with me. there are many types of stones and i know what stone i belong to.. if a man sees my value, he sees also what stone im referring too.” What do you think with this Alex and Matthew! Any thought about this? Thank you and hoping for many videos to shoot.. my best regards...
When this guy pulls away from me I'm not gonna reply back to him and this is a long distance relationship but he's always want money and promise me he'll be here next month but he always want money from me
Thankyou so much for the guidance. This is so timely. Been dealing with an on and off guy. This video gives me clarity. Godbless. Mabuhay!!! Watching from philippines 🇵🇭
It’s helpful to ask for specific things too and if he always fulfills that … be somewhat lenient with the time away zones too bc some ppl need more time alone
I felt that my bf is emotionally detached with me since 11 weeks ldr for his training. He text but just no emotions at all n not anymore regular calls. I only supportive text back I send to him n appreciation
Bonjour Respected Sir .It's beyond words that u put so much efforts n create so amazing lessons . You are always exceptional and this lessons also concluded that positive energy n thought get back to us in that way . looking forward to meet you soon.keep up ur glory as always . keep safe , strong n blessed along with regards n care.
after 2 weeks. I asked if he was okay. He responded - he said “ I’m okay so is dad. Hope you and your mom are safe. I just have a lot I have to take care of on my own” Here’s what I responded .... “Being with you felt so good. You make me feel special, safe & add joy to my already happy life - By all the things that are ... You. Right now, I feel helpless because I wish I could be there for you. But, I will be alright . And It’s okay that you have to do things in your own. I have confidence & trust you will figure everything out. “ DID I RUIN ANY CHANCE??
I wanna share a story someone pulls away for two weeks no communication at all. But what i did i message his son and told to I'm worried about your dad. Is he okay..Im fine if his okay..pls don't tell him i message you and asking about him. All of sudden all i know the son didnt tell his dad that i asked his dad but he told his dad our talk . And dad told the son tel her i'll message her on the 15th but on the contrary the son did not tell me 😊. Here comes 15th and he messaged me . He told me I reflect , I gave time to myself so I have time and ready for you. I don't nag but instead I show him how I care. Actually he's kind of person that you can call him a hero. And now everything is fine. He loves to talk about politics , he loves supernatural , he loves total current issues that Im not into but I listen to him and we have good converstions about those what he wants and he listens to me also. I hope everyone can learn from this experience.
Hot and cold something the man starting to slowly disappeared for .Today as if hes excited meeting you then later not really interested.till hes totally gone.
My guy disappears in the night as well and comes back in the morning with "hello beautiful" messages,not even a call? This started recently & has been going on for a week now. We are in a long distance relationship. Please help
What about if after an ex shows interest (a year after finishing the relationship? (flirts, reminisces, shows jealousy) Seen him with a new girl. Didn’t introduce us, but insisted on buying me a drink later in the evening when she wasn’t around. Also told me ‘not to burn my bridges’ when I reminded him we couldn’t be friends...I don’t believe I’ve given off any desperate vibes and definitely focused on myself. I believe I’m the prize and continue to be positive, whilst presenting myself with high value. My gut tells me we have unfinished business - could this be why he’s trying to keep the connection/option open?
I wasn't texting him much, because i was occupying with other things and i didn't really want to interrupt him (as i didn't have anything important to say during quarantine), and he complained about that. I told him that I ll change and i ll text him more. And i did. And now, if he ever responds, its a 2-3 word answer, while he never initiates conversation. Like wtf?
A month ago my boyfriend told me he was felling a little bit asphyxiating, and that I have to do things by my own, I told him he was right I was being to needy, but he didn't contact me since that day, we had a long distance relationship, we saw each other 2 times the second on February I travel everything was great, he was really into the relationship, being so nice for months, it's was a serious thing, meeting his friends etc.. So I don't know what to do, I haven't text him, o don't want to look needy again
i so desparately need your advice. I was dating a person that pulled away. Which then, a month went by...but came back after that month. I was hurt/upset so for the following month. I didn't answer any of his emails. Now, after never responding. He literally thinks that I think he no longer exists and that it's over. however, it's not. I just needed time. But now that he no longer emails..which is the only form of contact he has for me...I don't know what to do. I'm beginning to think that he's gone for good and won't ever reach out to me..simply because when he did. I didn't respond...Please, please help.
@Matthew Coast But why are you guys teaching us as women to go and Do (which is very musculine)? instead of being present with our juicy emotions and feel them as uncomfortable as they feel (very beautiful place to be / very feminine). I believe when he pulls away we should not distract ourselves by doing this or that or testing the guy and what not but to remain anchored in our feminine core whilst we cultivate, improve and lives to the fullest, this is a perfect opportunity to connect with our emotions at the core. He either comes back Or not. Thanks for making the video though, it's awasome!!!
Great message, I would like you to talk about acrush who texts you for sometime and after he posts his girlfriend he hadn't told you about and when you ask him why he didn't tell you he answers i didn't want to hurt you yet he showed interest at first
Nicks Dashwoodz dump that loser, he’s trouble, run the other way! What he’s doing with you to his gf he will do to you one day (flirt, cheat). Time to run and cut your losses.
Nicks Dashwoodz Stop talking to him and unfollow him on social media. Move on, because he’s shady and doesn’t care about your feelings at all. Find a new guy.
Hi Alex.... I love someone and he is also loves me, but he is already engaged and he also don't want to lose me... I wana leave him just because of that girl who is engaged with him... Because I don't want to ruin her life and happiness 😔
Hi Alex , I am the one your subscriber . Is it posible that your ex will come back to you after break up when you are in a long distance relationship ?
Just found your vids on point my partner disappeared nearly 2 weeks now haven't heard from him at all not sure what to do we been together just over 5 years
What do I do. Met someone online over a month ago and he lives in the Netherlands. We text everyday since we met. I don’t mean like hours and hours. He texts every morning “Good Morning Babe”. He used to text Goodnight but that stopped a few weeks ago. Now he just texts the Good Morning babe but that’s it. I don’t respond right away and when I do respond after a while he takes a while to respond back now also. Now it comes down to Good morning babe texts and have a good day. That’s it! He told me he was going through some hard times but his texts just stopped. No more conversations just the good morning. He talked about moving to the US. He expressed how much he liked me before. But he pulled away now. What do I do? I I feel like he is just sending me the text to keep me there. He checks my social media every day. He still comments every now and then but no convo to me. Am I missing something??
I hope it is appropriate for me to ask this; but last night I noticed he was being cold and apathetic while we were texting, which is literally something he has never ever been with me. So I asked if he’d like to video chat and he never responded, he just abruptly disappeared. I was so shocked by this, I unfortunately tapped out the following message to him before reigning in my emotions: “I guess you dipping on me like that means you are not interested in talking to me anymore. That’s cool, but I really hate so much that, that happened. I think you’re a great guy.” Now I am beating myself up feeling like the stupidest person in the world for saying anything at all. And of course he hasn’t responded to that either. LOL! We have only been in each other’s life for 3 1/2 months, and he lives overseas from me. It’s very painful, but I am wondering if under the circumstances this could still work, or is it a lost cause?
Omg this is what constantly happens to me, specially he lives in another country. My friend said men has mood too, but i cant put that in my head instead i react emotionally and push the guy more, sending him long slate of msg,. My advice is dont send anymore msg. Give him some time.
eg. If he hasn't arrived with flowers say; "Next time you see me, remember I like chocolates - Not flowers. Welcome !!" ps.Insert your own likes/dislikes in the abovementioned phrase
Alex, Matt- I watched this cause he seems to have disappeared, ignored my one text and one call. So you won't believe this newsflash! While I was watching, at minute 10:06 the guy called me!!! Invited me to meet him this Saturday afternoon! I'm 62 but OMG, feel 15 now! Is that powerful or what!! Thanks from Jerusalem, Israel
My ex and I ended things just a few days ago due to him not being fully emotionally available and not being able to give me what I deserve.. I had offered to bring him his things right away to get it over with but he said he wants to wait a few weeks because he's not ready to see me yet. But now he's texting me asking if I want him to call me and he keeps "liking" all of my social media posts. They're not posted FOR him, just posts about fun things I've been doing in my free time. What is he thinking? Do I take the call? Or forget him? Is he trying to come back around? How do I handle this knowing he's made it clear that he's incapable of allowing himself to be vulnerable.
You can't change how he is nor can he change you. You'll just have to accept the fact and go with the flow. Don't overthink because this is beyond your control
My ex and I ended things just a few days ago due to him not being fully emotionally available and not being able to give me what I deserve.. I had offered to bring him his things right away to get it over with but he said he wants to wait a few weeks because he's not ready to see me yet. Its only been 3 days. But now he's texting me asking if I want him to call me and he keeps "liking" all of my social media posts. They're not posted FOR him, just posts about fun things I've been doing in my free time. What is he thinking? Do I take the call? Or forget him? Is he trying to come back around? How do I handle this knowing he's made it clear that he's incapable of allowing himself to be vulnerable.
Hi actually I did a mistake and after that he was not responding to my text and I already shouted on him about his ignorance. I sent him final words that I am not going to come back again as you are not responding and after that I didn't back to him. I did it because I was in so much anger. So, Did I do right? and Is there any hope that he will come back ?
When he comes back is because no one wanted him😂
Ahhaha Like Arnold said. I will be back 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right
Exactly
Haha! Exactly 😂
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When a man pulls away I don’t chase him. Obviously he’s not interested enough & fortunately I have self respect enough to leave it alone. I’m over the long paragraphs & demanding an explanation. His silence & pulling away speaks for itself.
But all men pull away. Otherwise Mother Nature created men incorrectly.
When a man pulls away from me and I don't see him for two weeks it IS OVER!
You're worth more than that!
You got that right girl...!!
Same !
I think life is always bringing you the best in every moment. If he is not there then you need another thing... if he is back then you need to continue experiencing something with that person. Nothing is black or white but the most important is to feel good no matter what! Follow your intuition as a woman because it is always right! ;)
Havent seen mine 4 month but he call every day
Hey Alex, thanks so much for having me on your channel! I enjoyed being on the interview!
Thank you for your support. It was awesome having you on my channel.
Can we get the exact text message here? Thankyou!
@@jollibeann760 - It's important to use the whole system... if you just get the text message, that will only work temporarily.
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Coach Alex...
A question for you...
Is it possible for A Human Being A Man LOVE 2 WOMEN AT THE SAME TIME...!!!
Is this the same for porn addicts?
Listen women. If he's hot n cold, then he's entertaining other women. Don't be played. There are lots of men out there that's way better than him so open yourself to meet one. Never intiate contact with a man. He must pursue you.
Definitely come from abundance... don't put all your eggs in one basket.
All men play these games. 38 and still single..
Us beautiful women have no control over messed up or narcissistic men. But I find your advice truthful and enlightening. Please tell me how I can arrange a one to one with you. I am fascinated and would appreciate more personal advice. Thank you.
I agree with most comments ! But unfortunetly today, there is about min 5 women that men are connecting chatting, n dating at SAME TIME , So WHY WLD ANY GUYVmen been comftable like they are Chase a HIGH VALUE Women when their ultimate goal IS WHO will pull the pants down first and Be THE BEST at S.......x!!!! MathewI follow n bought your text messages advise, but only men that Truely fall in love with you just by seeing you are the ONES worth while Negside is usually we are Atracted to the PLAYERS! N😂
I don’t understand women being available for them after being ghosted or ignored. No response, IS a response.
But it’s a choice and intuition. They only pull away if women are not loving themselves and they pick that up
You Guys are So sweet trying to help us women understand men and giving us tips on how to handle these types because honestly we really need them. Pulling away is a definite sign that we should just Let them Go! But sometimes it’s not that easy to do. Unfortunately we will probably encounter this “pushing away “ characteristic many times until we find “The One” who is 100% sure about us ☹️ Good Luck To us All! 😆
When he pulls away time to let him go PERIOD. You go one way let him go his 👍
Man look... normal people don't "pull away" thats damaged goods. They are unstable, not consistent. Healthy persons let love or friendship flow properly and enjoy every drop of it. If not just leave forever that's it. Stop wasting time n energy on wrong, toxic or broken people. People who are unsupportive and unstable are also uncool. These are emotional triggers and/or mind games. #Forget them. If the fool doesn't value u or desire u in a balanced way n manor especially after some time knowing each other then he is a problem. Probly a narcissistic idiot who can't even love or properly attach. Distractive, destructive and deceptive. The person is misleading to your life. This person can not be trusted or depended on. Leave them alone. U deserve stability and sanity. Steady Love and a proper foundation to build or enjoy a healthy and uplifting exchange with the other person or why bother know the person. The sitiation no longer serves u. Its bad. Let go. People like that are sick personality disorder. Pray they get healed n move forward before the toxic person tries to infect you with their darkness and insanity. People like that are traumatized and haunted or have demons controlling them n they are a mess u don't need in your life. Insecure n jealous or hateful... cancel that garbage juice. God is the perfect match maker go to Him and begin your journey to your secure well being and the having of a good spouse. Everything else is ludicrous.
Sophia Chin we have the same thoughts, I agree with u!
Of course normal people pull away... if a man has a priority at work and doesn't have as much time as normal, if one of his parents dies and he needs some time to grieve, there are a number of reasons why someone might need some time to themselves and might pull back because of it.
I so much needed to hear a message like yours in this particular time of my life...Thank you. 🤗
I agree ❤
You have said it all...!!! Every word speaks truth. It's not difficult when it's real and meant to be.
What to DO when a man pulls away:
1. Lean back.
What NOT TO DO when a man pulls away:
1. When he comes back don't use a CONNECTION BARRIER on him (like slapping a door in his face, attack him, yell at him, tell him how bad he is). It will not make him want to come back, but pull away even further.
2. Don't start by telling him how bad he made you feel.
3. when they come back don't immediately shower them with all the LOVE.
Wether this is a good or bad idea depends on the situation you're in (wether you are married, or you're in a fresh relationship and he's hot and cold). You need to figure out first if his pulling away is NORMAL BEHAVIOUR or not (not attracted, interested, invested, breadcrumbing you, stringing you along, lost interest, not valuing you, taking you for granted).
If it's the latter you want him to earn you back. Prove that he's interested, that he will invest in you, treat you like the queen/godess/amazing woman, the woman he wants to be with. It might take some time for him to start doing that.
4. mistake: wait too long, then attack.
5. another mistake: focus on him. Asking herself questions like:
- What is he doing?
- What is going on with him?
- Why doesn't he contact me?
- Does he love me?
- Is everything O.K.?
Also sending him texts with these questions. It's a total NONO.
You need to be in a mindset of loving your life, enjoying it, focusing on things that make you grow, create a better life/happiness for yourself. Have hobbies, goal, things that make a life.
Focus on yourself. Whatever you focus on, you feel. Focus on things that you want, that you''re greatful for. And you will end up feeling a lot better. When men come back to you, the connection will be so much greater.
How long to lean back?
1. if it's more than a week and he has dissapeared and you are not in a commited relationship, then you should be dating other people, living and loving your life every day.
2. you can also TEST him by texting him.
If he's been gone a week and he used to initiate, then you cancontact hom by saying hi, seeing what is going on, opening a door for him. (You can still initiate IF he is moving forward, if his energy is coming TO you).
What to write to the guy?
The 4-word text mesage in the "Forever woman" program (link to free program). It's designed to get his attention. It's a shocker. Not too serious, but not to light-hearted. Wakes them up, makes them realize they were pulling away, ignoring you. Some appologized, explained what's going on etc. Maybe they became busy, or he didn't know wether to reach out.
Social media:
1. if you're worried about what he's doing, just unfollow him (so you don't see his feed).
2. can then change your profile picture, add some new pics, make it seem like you have a good life.
Thanks!
Thank u ♥️
Thank you 🙏🏽
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It's really helping me sir,it works 100%
All women should read The Art of Seduction and the 48 laws of power both by Robert Greene. Never be taken for granted again.
#3. 5 love languages
Thankyou I will have a look.
Please, share with us your most valuale learning from thereee
Thanks for the information. Blessings
Please how do I get the book?
No response is also a response! Dont pay attention to that Kind of behavior ❤️!
"It's not over"
As indignant as i am, i'm starting to feel less interested the more he ignores me. I find lack of communication to be a turn off for me, especially since we agreed on the first date to be honest and straight forward about our intentions, and until now that was how we were.
We texted for a month then met for a date, he texted every am and called every pm, had the exclusive talk and he said I was stuck with him, said he loved me many times over the last few months, 5 months later he was under a lot of stress from work, claimed high blood pressure then texted me he was going away for the weekend to go fishing....he had said “if everyone would leave him alone” so I told him “enjoy your weekend babe” and haven’t heard from him in 4 days so I’m leaning back and mirroring him but am heartbroken and don’t want to text or call him because of what he said about everyone leaving him alone..... he’s a Pisces so I get they need alone time but he hasn’t done this since we met.... BTW he’s a farmer and April is stressful first year without Dad and he has a lot on him.... not making excuses but DAMN..... I matter too
Update how’s things going
Oh.. How is it now? 😊
You two are so adorable and SMART!!! Just started watching today and did not realize relationship coaching videos were a thing, mostly because I'm old, 62, and will probably never find my soulmate at this point. I will continue to watch though as I feel ya'll are giving good information. Thank you!
Thank you so much!!
3:11 Be sweet and nice so he knows he can pick you where he left you? Nah, that door is closed, mate.
If a man is not interested, accept it by their action, and peacefully move on.
If a guy pull away let him go and forget it. If he comes back tell him sorry I got another one.Byeeeee
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It was great to have you both on at the same time since I follow you both individually.
Thanks!
You guys are awesome. ☺️❤️😁 Just like you apply for a job and they may say, Thanks for applying, but we moved on with other applicants. You kinda have to use the same concepts. Tell him thanks for manifesting interest in me, but I moved on with other potential candidates. I wish I had this knowledge years ago. 😢
Thank you so much to your video, I think women should known this when our men pulling away. Women should learned how to be happy, strong and grow on our way in some cases, whether we have man or not.
Well said!
So basically we need to treat them like we don't like them and we don't care. This is so messed up. Very bizarre things we need to do.
let yourself free and let everyone free to enjoy their lives.
Omg! 🤩 What a collaboration. I watch you both!
The man that stops contacting after 6pm is married lol
Erm not true. I have experience of this. Somes marriage are over or open (they are dating others openly) but they stay together for kids (business)
I have been in such a relationship that the man used to made feel like ım just an option.He was pulling away then coming back again and again.I watched many of this kinda videos and tried almost anything to show him that ım a high value woman.I love myself, I loved him, I tried to make him believe we could create a great relationship together and ıts worth trying.Guess what?I lost 2,5 years.He moved on like ım nothing,like i didnt fight for him, like he didnt made hot and colds and played on me for a million times,like he didnt promise me for the sunny days.Finally I moved on too, finally I have sb who values me, sb whocares, sb who tries to be in a serious relationship.Im also shocked, dont know what to do with him:) For the last years, I wasnt trained for a healthy man ı guess:)) any video advice?
How are you now
I got the "I'm sorry for not msg' ing you, I've literally been insanely busy!".... then he msg'd me the next day cause he just wanted to say hi and that hes thinking of me well he was in break from work. Then he disappeared again!!! Ugh, it's been 2 weeks now and counting...
I havent msg'd him cause I wanted to see if he was gonna disappear again.... and he did! Its frustrating when a guy says hes really in to you, says all the right things, but vanishes.
Actions speak loudest. Forget words
Not to hurt but, please move on.
Alex, you’re a great coach! You’ve included advice from someone else in the industry and are referring others to his services, even though it could mean that you could “lose clients”, which I don’t believe. Anyhow, it’s awesome. I love your channel and also the kind of person you are from seeing your videos. It seems you really care to help your clients.
Happy to help!
Whenever he pulls away I try to break up with him bc I think there's other woman he's seeing lol but he usually call me right away and explain things to me...
lol doesnt mean hes not cheating sometimes when ur gut tels u something its usually right...this happened to me and i sneaked on his pc when he was sleeping and there the betrayal was
@@angelsbackgroundsounds girl same the gut never lies I went through his phone When he was sleeping and my gut was right and he had the cheek to be mad at me for going through his phone .
I absolutely loved this video. I have seen others but I needed the actual meat or steps so I really appreciate this. More videos with the 2 of You please!
Awesome! Thank you!
I agree! These two men are gold
Gratitude is the attitude ☺️
Maybe girls if he's not drooling over you. Get out now ! I'm serious .. He will just lead you on If you feel totally insecure. with him. Leave
Thanks Alex 👌 my best love coach ever 💝
Guys. Thank you for this video. You have helped me get through all of my questions and both of you clarified everything. I appreciate you coaching every women who is going through this situation. More power!!!
He thought I was too needy and got mad at me not talking didnt want to know anything about me and has a girlfriend right now and he knew my feelings I'm heartbroken since I lost him twice
You're worth more than that!
U deserve all the love u gave to him.
I texted him to get lost in a nice way. He called me immediately to talk about it...he literally told me "I'm just putting the breaks on, its not you" lol
Did you text him in the middle of the silence or when he tried to get back?
Women we are the price! We are so beautiful and precious goddesses! Don’t forget that ever! We are the egg! Let them be the sperm and chose the one that really do the job and makes you happy. Be willing to let go what doesn’t serve you with love and a grateful heart. Every man is teaching you something about yourself that you need to heal or work on. They are just a reflection of your inner world 😀
Hi Alex and Matthew, i became addicted to your videos. Lol.. btw, i really like this advice from the two renowned love coaches.. youre amazing! i always follow your techniques.. my man pull away for 2 days and i leaned back.. we are actually on a getting to know each other stage for now.. he sent me text maybe he miss me.. lol “you’ve probably heard countless times that you have to love yourself first in order to love others. This is especially true after you’ve been hurt because if you truly love yourself, the pain won’t run so deep. When you have self-love, you’re able to open up and accept love from others once you’ve healed from the pain.” Maybe this is the effect a push and pull that you recently discussed on the other video.. So i replied like this “ Yes exactly Bobby... i learned to love myself even more bcs no one will gonna love a woman if she dont know how to start loving herself first. I truly believe that my past made me who i am today.. a strong loving person with a beautiful mindset.. my past taught me how to choose a man in my life.. if a man doesn’t like me it is his choice not mine.. 🙂 it is very rare into a man to spot a woman who is valuing herself bcs many man just want an easy girl nowadays and many girls acting like a doormat to please a man.. im glad coz i don’t possessed that character. i should be thankful to those men who came and left me bcs i know they are now giving that especial way to a one great man who willing to bring me into his life and ready to build an amazing experience and fulfilling happy life with me. there are many types of stones and i know what stone i belong to.. if a man sees my value, he sees also what stone im referring too.” What do you think with this Alex and Matthew! Any thought about this? Thank you and hoping for many videos to shoot.. my best regards...
I was recently dating a ceo man I liked but I don't want to appear needy.
I am gonna put this strategy into him. thanks for the advice! :D
You got this!
Thank you. I am 48 years old and I am learning a lot.
Wonderful!
When this guy pulls away from me I'm not gonna reply back to him and this is a long distance relationship but he's always want money and promise me he'll be here next month but he always want money from me
Thankyou so much for the guidance. This is so timely. Been dealing with an on and off guy. This video gives me clarity. Godbless. Mabuhay!!! Watching from philippines 🇵🇭
It’s helpful to ask for specific things too and if he always fulfills that … be somewhat lenient with the time away zones too bc some ppl need more time alone
Thank You Alex and Matthew 😊
I felt that my bf is emotionally detached with me since 11 weeks ldr for his training. He text but just no emotions at all n not anymore regular calls. I only supportive text back I send to him n appreciation
Bonjour Respected Sir .It's beyond words that u put so much efforts n create so amazing lessons . You are always exceptional and this lessons also concluded that positive energy n thought get back to us in that way . looking forward to meet you soon.keep up ur glory as always . keep safe , strong n blessed along with regards n care.
Many many thanks
Very good, such a good coaches! Just got dumped during Corona, is there more coming up? Haha
Natas - same :(
Join the club love ! But he still try’s to call and text me ..... claiming I’m enjoying the break up 😐.
I miss listening your videos. Nice sharing woman. Knowledgeable video👏👏👏
Thank you so much.
after 2 weeks. I asked if he was okay. He responded - he said “ I’m okay so is dad. Hope you and your mom are safe. I just have a lot I have to take care of on my own”
Here’s what I responded ....
“Being with you felt so good. You make me feel special, safe & add joy to my already happy life - By all the things that are ... You.
Right now, I feel helpless because I wish I could be there for you. But, I will be alright .
And It’s okay that you have to do things in your own.
I have confidence & trust you will figure everything out. “
DID I RUIN ANY CHANCE??
it was a bit needy at 1, like he can do his life and come back when he feels like and u will be ready.. Sis, abort this, do not txt him again!!
Sis do not text him anymore
Makes me cringe even for a girl like me. I can’t imagine what guys feel when you message them as such.
It was wayyy too much sweetie. We should keep it as short as possible...like "ok I understand"
Yea... this was too much!
I wanna share a story someone pulls away for two weeks no communication at all. But what i did i message his son and told to I'm worried about your dad. Is he okay..Im fine if his okay..pls don't tell him i message you and asking about him. All of sudden all i know the son didnt tell his dad that i asked his dad but he told his dad our talk . And dad told the son tel her i'll message her on the 15th but on the contrary the son did not tell me 😊. Here comes 15th and he messaged me . He told me I reflect , I gave time to myself so I have time and ready for you. I don't nag but instead I show him how I care. Actually he's kind of person that you can call him a hero. And now everything is fine. He loves to talk about politics , he loves supernatural , he loves total current issues that Im not into but I listen to him and we have good converstions about those what he wants and he listens to me also. I hope everyone can learn from this experience.
Hot and cold something the man starting to slowly disappeared for .Today as if hes excited meeting you then later not really interested.till hes totally gone.
OMG
😌this information was actually very helpful though none of these circumstances are mine👍
Glad it was helpful!
My guy disappears in the night as well and comes back in the morning with "hello beautiful" messages,not even a call? This started recently & has been going on for a week now. We are in a long distance relationship. Please help
How’s it going .Update please
What about if after an ex shows interest (a year after finishing the relationship? (flirts, reminisces, shows jealousy) Seen him with a new girl. Didn’t introduce us, but insisted on buying me a drink later in the evening when she wasn’t around. Also told me ‘not to burn my bridges’ when I reminded him we couldn’t be friends...I don’t believe I’ve given off any desperate vibes and definitely focused on myself. I believe I’m the prize and continue to be positive, whilst presenting myself with high value. My gut tells me we have unfinished business - could this be why he’s trying to keep the connection/option open?
J Dee he may like you still but for whatever reason can’t do the relationship. So he is content to test the waters and Hoover.
When I check his websites, my pics stil there, but hes ignoring me my question is could it be that he loves me? Or oooh please Alex help me please
Thank you, it's a big help for me🙏
Great great advise thank you👍👌
My pleasure!
Yes I love Mathew coast videos
I wasn't texting him much, because i was occupying with other things and i didn't really want to interrupt him (as i didn't have anything important to say during quarantine), and he complained about that. I told him that I ll change and i ll text him more. And i did. And now, if he ever responds, its a 2-3 word answer, while he never initiates conversation.
Like wtf?
Same situation. Mine was complaining that I didn't reply to him... next morning he was stage 5 clinger and texting me good morning ... very strange
My favorite coaches ❤️
Thank you!
A month ago my boyfriend told me he was felling a little bit asphyxiating, and that I have to do things by my own, I told him he was right I was being to needy, but he didn't contact me since that day, we had a long distance relationship, we saw each other 2 times the second on February I travel everything was great, he was really into the relationship, being so nice for months, it's was a serious thing, meeting his friends etc.. So I don't know what to do, I haven't text him, o don't want to look needy again
Hey how are you now? 😊
15:21 What you practice in life you'd be good at it.It's true.
thanks for all your video its all amazing
Glad you like them!
Alex asked for an example of a text to send, but Matthew would not provide a single one.
Thank you so much both of you!!!😊
Our pleasure!
Great information 👍
Glad you liked it
Thank you!
i so desparately need your advice. I was dating a person that pulled away. Which then, a month went by...but came back after that month. I was hurt/upset so for the following month. I didn't answer any of his emails. Now, after never responding. He literally thinks that I think he no longer exists and that it's over. however, it's not. I just needed time. But now that he no longer emails..which is the only form of contact he has for me...I don't know what to do. I'm beginning to think that he's gone for good and won't ever reach out to me..simply because when he did. I didn't respond...Please, please help.
Why not just send him a text and say hello.. or an email
My boyfriend is not taking calls
I think I love Matthew.
:-)
My ex said, he is an idiot that he let me go. It'll be the best, I think. That's his last word. 😰
spot on! 👍🏻
@Matthew Coast But why are you guys teaching us as women to go and Do (which is very musculine)? instead of being present with our juicy emotions and feel them as uncomfortable as they feel (very beautiful place to be / very feminine). I believe when he pulls away we should not distract ourselves by doing this or that or testing the guy and what not but to remain anchored in our feminine core whilst we cultivate, improve and lives to the fullest, this is a perfect opportunity to connect with our emotions at the core. He either comes back Or not. Thanks for making the video though, it's awasome!!!
Great message, I would like you to talk about acrush who texts you for sometime and after he posts his girlfriend he hadn't told you about and when you ask him why he didn't tell you he answers i didn't want to hurt you yet he showed interest at first
Nicks Dashwoodz dump that loser, he’s trouble, run the other way! What he’s doing with you to his gf he will do to you one day (flirt, cheat). Time to run and cut your losses.
Don't u think he likes woman attention? Kinda narcisistic? and not honest
Nicks Dashwoodz Stop talking to him and unfollow him on social media. Move on, because he’s shady and doesn’t care about your feelings at all. Find a new guy.
A player? A cheater ..a waste of space.
Please Alex, make a video of such men who have a gf yet flirt or inbox-flirt other women.
Hi Alex.... I love someone and he is also loves me, but he is already engaged and he also don't want to lose me... I wana leave him just because of that girl who is engaged with him... Because I don't want to ruin her life and happiness 😔
A,great duo
The bests
Thank you so much for watching! I truly Appreciate this!
Alex! I wish I could afford a 1-1 with you! 😭
yogiessex london Maybe you could save up money for a session :)
Obviously your ex isn’t worth trying.
Hi I really need help
Hi Alex , I am the one your subscriber .
Is it posible that your ex will come back to you after break up when you are in a long distance relationship ?
Anything is possible!
Yes! It has happened to me!
im not ask him why he not message me and he say he so sad when i start distant to him its because of all your video it help me a lot
I guess he is also looking for other options
♥️Thank you Alex for your advice
You're so welcome!
Just found your vids on point my partner disappeared nearly 2 weeks now haven't heard from him at all not sure what to do we been together just over 5 years
What ended up happening?
Thank you for your advice sir I feel so happy to take idea.
All the best
Good tips
Glad you think so!
His friend told me that my man loves me, hez just upset couse I accused him
What do I do. Met someone online over a month ago and he lives in the Netherlands. We text everyday since we met. I don’t mean like hours and hours. He texts every morning “Good Morning Babe”. He used to text Goodnight but that stopped a few weeks ago. Now he just texts the Good Morning babe but that’s it. I don’t respond right away and when I do respond after a while he takes a while to respond back now also. Now it comes down to Good morning babe texts and have a good day. That’s it! He told me he was going through some hard times but his texts just stopped. No more conversations just the good morning. He talked about moving to the US. He expressed how much he liked me before. But he pulled away now. What do I do? I I feel like he is just sending me the text to keep me there. He checks my social media every day. He still comments every now and then but no convo to me. Am I missing something??
That's the very minimal game... You should put your focus elsewhere. He's just keeping you on the side... Not trying to get to know you. So move on
I have signed up for the forever woman program 2 times and I got nothing in my email or my spam..... 😞
Sent me an email and I will see how I can help you get it; www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/
I hope it is appropriate for me to ask this; but last night I noticed he was being cold and apathetic while we were texting, which is literally something he has never ever been with me. So I asked if he’d like to video chat and he never responded, he just abruptly disappeared. I was so shocked by this, I unfortunately tapped out the following message to him before reigning in my emotions: “I guess you dipping on me like that means you are not interested in talking to me anymore. That’s cool, but I really hate so much that, that happened. I think you’re a great guy.” Now I am beating myself up feeling like the stupidest person in the world for saying anything at all. And of course he hasn’t responded to that either. LOL! We have only been in each other’s life for 3 1/2 months, and he lives overseas from me. It’s very painful, but I am wondering if under the circumstances this could still work, or is it a lost cause?
Obviously he can't talk openly because he already is in a relationship
Omg this is what constantly happens to me, specially he lives in another country. My friend said men has mood too, but i cant put that in my head instead i react emotionally and push the guy more, sending him long slate of msg,. My advice is dont send anymore msg. Give him some time.
Christin Nawww.. I appreciate the input, but he and I have Skyped at all different times of day for up to 12 hours straight for weeks.
So helpful!
Glad you think so!
I'm not sure but my ex and I were friends for a good year, he dated other women and I dated other men, then we spoke again and started dating again.
How that happened?
Slamming the door on his face 😂😂😂
It's boring if someone goes away.
You’re great thanks for the knowledge.
I appreciate that!
Brilliant 💯💖
Thank you so much for watching!
focus on myself 👍🏻
Matt says's when he comes back make him prove he's interested...but how?
Yes same question here
By letting him invest in you, pursue you, and take the masculine role in the relationship.
Don't be easy. Make him work for it a little
eg. If he hasn't arrived with flowers say;
"Next time you see me, remember I like chocolates - Not flowers. Welcome !!"
ps.Insert your own likes/dislikes in the abovementioned phrase
Thank you so much I learned a lot.
Glad it was helpful!
Alex, Matt- I watched this cause he seems to have disappeared, ignored my one text and one call.
So you won't believe this newsflash! While I was watching, at minute 10:06 the guy called me!!!
Invited me to meet him this Saturday afternoon! I'm 62 but OMG, feel 15 now! Is that powerful or what!! Thanks from Jerusalem, Israel
My ex and I ended things just a few days ago due to him not being fully emotionally available and not being able to give me what I deserve.. I had offered to bring him his things right away to get it over with but he said he wants to wait a few weeks because he's not ready to see me yet. But now he's texting me asking if I want him to call me and he keeps "liking" all of my social media posts. They're not posted FOR him, just posts about fun things I've been doing in my free time. What is he thinking? Do I take the call? Or forget him? Is he trying to come back around? How do I handle this knowing he's made it clear that he's incapable of allowing himself to be vulnerable.
You can't change how he is nor can he change you. You'll just have to accept the fact and go with the flow. Don't overthink because this is beyond your control
@Alex how do we know if he pulled back or whether he simply ghosted?
“Chanel @. I like it Alex - merci for the information
My pleasure!
My ex and I ended things just a few days ago due to him not being fully emotionally available and not being able to give me what I deserve.. I had offered to bring him his things right away to get it over with but he said he wants to wait a few weeks because he's not ready to see me yet. Its only been 3 days. But now he's texting me asking if I want him to call me and he keeps "liking" all of my social media posts. They're not posted FOR him, just posts about fun things I've been doing in my free time. What is he thinking? Do I take the call? Or forget him? Is he trying to come back around? How do I handle this knowing he's made it clear that he's incapable of allowing himself to be vulnerable.
How is it going ?
Hi actually I did a mistake and after that he was not responding to my text and I already shouted on him about his ignorance. I sent him final words that I am not going to come back again as you are not responding and after that I didn't back to him. I did it because I was in so much anger. So, Did I do right? and Is there any hope that he will come back ?