CONTROVERSIAL: Does No Contact Work After Begging And Pleading?

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  • Опубліковано 2 тра 2023
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    Okay so if you've made a few mistakes after your breakup, you might be wondering does No Contact work after begging and pleading?
    I get it, we all make mistakes, especially in the initial shock of the breakup.
    However, I think most of us have learned pretty quickly that begging and pleading your ex to take you back isn't a very effective strategy.
    This causes people to look for something that DOES work.
    Unfortunately, many people quickly learn about No Contact.
    Don't get me wrong, No Contact can be helpful in some situations... but it is not a cure-all.
    In this video I'll be talking about my controversial opinion about No Contact.
    And I'll be sharing with you what actually DOES work instead.
    To learn about the strategy for how to get your ex back WITHOUT No Contact, check out this video: • Don't Use No Contact T...
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  • @ClayAndrews
    @ClayAndrews  Рік тому +2

    For the specific plan I mention in this video, check out this followup video here: ua-cam.com/video/pOPiamJV_Mo/v-deo.html

  • @philipramsden4975
    @philipramsden4975 4 місяці тому +11

    This definitely worked in my case. She ghosted, I chased and she blocked me on social media after a couple weeks. Went no contact. Fast forward 4 months and she reached out apologizing. Not sure how this is gonna play out, but taking it day by day

    • @hassanabbasbhatti
      @hassanabbasbhatti 2 місяці тому +3

      Man its just a win for me when a guy wins no contact

    • @Raymond-mm4sc
      @Raymond-mm4sc Місяць тому +1

      Bro didn't want her no back to you

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Місяць тому +1

      Women are generally more emotional than men I think. Lucky that you guys are back together. I wish I had finally met someone who would NOT leave me if anything.

  • @strawberryjam5844
    @strawberryjam5844 Рік тому +6

    That is when it does work for sure. I tried to make my relationship work, my ex did not. He was shocked when I walked out the door proud and never looked back. Could I have gotten him back? Perhaps. I just did not want it. He got shocked I believe, because he pocket dialed me a few times afterwards. Just do it! It is a very good reset and helps you take a breather, and reflect. And if they come back to see how you are doing, you are prepared. You are taking care of yourself.

  • @DannyMartin3z
    @DannyMartin3z 2 місяці тому +2

    I think there’s so many variables to consider. The context of instigating circumstance. The history you have with this person. How long the argument and a million others things.
    But if your partner is committed to breaking up and being free from the relationship brings them relief then no amount of talking, pleading, begging or apologizing will likely change that course. You have to respect their wishes and let them go. If you meant a lot to them in time they will miss you and they will find their way back to you. If they feel happier without you, then you deserve someone who you bring happiness to.
    Of course, I’m saying this as someone who kept pushing my partner who told me they were done. I was trying to argue logic but she’s was dug in, we were in different headspace’s and couldn’t agree.
    Of course no one’s situation is simple. This was a woman I was with for 8 years and I imagined being my soulmate and growing old with. We both said very hurtful things to one another while hurt. It saddens me to thinks those will be our last words to each other after almost a decade. I’m in week 2 of no contact. I think I’m a couple weeks I’ll send her a letter to make my final words to her not come from a place of hurt and anger but from reflection. I want to apologize for not respecting her wishes and for any words I said that were hurtful. Even if she moved on when she left I think closing the door on my end from a less emotional place will help me move on. Removed from the situation I can better appreciate I can only control what I do. And after 8 years I want my final words to be thankful for the time we had.

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Місяць тому

      Wow, and I was grieving for a six month relationship... Good luck sir. You will need it I think. One day at a time my internet friend. Huggs **

  • @user-le4ul2ob3d
    @user-le4ul2ob3d Рік тому +1

    Clay is it possible for them to be at riding the dragon as friends. I’m receiving hot and cold messages when reestablishing contact after a month of no contact. Currently been broken up for 7 months. But begging and pleading ruined the dynamic around month 3 after the break 2:17 .I’m not sure how to respond to them.

  • @vibesxyt7368
    @vibesxyt7368 7 місяців тому +1

    Clay please reply
    Need you right now
    My ex girl initiate with me
    Whenever i text and sometimes she first initiate too and we text often and i feel like inside " she still love me " but pretending not too
    What to do here ?

  • @DanielHuman1996
    @DanielHuman1996 Рік тому +29

    I suspect that No Contact is primarily to move on with a small degree of dignity. It doesn't increase your attractiveness and seldom leads to reuniting.

    • @defiantenergy
      @defiantenergy Рік тому +12

      That's false.Most times an ex comes back it's when you are doing your own thing and not driving them crazy and pushing them away. It makes you look crazy and unstable. So in essence yes, it makes you more attractive by the way you handle yourself. If there is a chance of them coming back, it's because they know you are a stable minded person worth another chance.

    • @strawberryjam5844
      @strawberryjam5844 Рік тому +1

      It truly depends..

    • @East212
      @East212 Рік тому

      hey i have begged even though we have never been in a relationship. I have begged and plead through text and she have left me on seen. Help me out.

    • @strawberryjam5844
      @strawberryjam5844 Рік тому +3

      @@East212 so I mean she obviously does not answer. So leave it alone and take time to yourself and leave her alone. She will find it herassing if you continue. And it is lack of respect towards yourself and lack of respect for her decision to keep texting. Calm down and do something nice for yourself, and let her go.

    • @East212
      @East212 Рік тому

      @@strawberryjam5844 i haven't really begged and plead but i sent multiple "hey whats up" messages consistently and ended it with my feelings for her and told her when she have the chance hit me back up. She have never left me on delivered but seen. what do ya think?

  • @strever5
    @strever5 Рік тому +5

    So a few days ago i've bought the "Connect and commit course" because i'm a bit clueless on what to do next.
    Me and my ex broke up 5 months ago and did some no contact to do some reflection.
    About 2 weeks ago i've send her a letter of accountability - no response - no idea if she read the letter.
    1 week later it was her birthday so i did send her a text wishing her a Happy birthday -- She did respond "Thanks" which was good IMO because she did respond at least.
    My follow question got ignored.
    According to your course , the "Open Door" Technique will be applicable here i assume? Only thing i'm not sure about it.. Does it matter how long it has been since breakup? Like am i too late to do all if this?

    • @JuanKing73
      @JuanKing73 9 місяців тому +1

      You're wasting your time taking any advice from this clown. This channel is full of absolute BS - it's basically a stalkers charter. The only thing you can do is leave your ex to come to you if they want to. Any action, any action at all you take after they dump you is futile. As I found out to my cost.

  • @jgentile34
    @jgentile34 Рік тому +7

    So what do you do if they don’t answer/initiate 😂 sometimes no contact is inevitable

  • @brantallen3325
    @brantallen3325 Рік тому +2

    My ex said she loves me but doesn’t think she is in love with me but never directly said yes or no to the question and has ft me every night for the past week and even stayed up late at night for me to finish work to ft

    • @KM-jp6hm
      @KM-jp6hm Рік тому +1

      Believe people the first time. She’s clearly keeping you around to pass the time and has gotten used to your attention. You shouldn’t want to grow on someone for them to try to love you. You seem to be her friend at this point and possible friend with benefits if she wants. She “loves” you as a friend.

  • @feynou
    @feynou Місяць тому +2

    Wut? No. Bad advice

  • @warmouthkennels7373
    @warmouthkennels7373 Рік тому

    What if your ex is pregnant and thought you didn’t want the baby so she moved 100 miles away and you begged and pleaded. To only push her away. She will not allow you to attend doctors appointments, will not even allow you to attend the birth if you’re son and has started a new relationship and says this new guy will sign the birth certificate as the father and I will never see my son. And just recently because I was so persistent about being in my sons life she said the child was not mine because she cheated on me and then blocked me from communicating with her. Now for 18 months we lived together and she didn’t even have a car . It’s possible she cheated but for 7 months I’ve been the dad and just recently now all of a sudden I’m not as if she thinks I’m just going to walk away? Please help

    • @PruthvirajYadav2309
      @PruthvirajYadav2309 4 місяці тому +2

      Bro you okay now?

    • @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858
      @SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858 Місяць тому

      If she doesn't want you back in her life, I'm sorry to say but there's probably nothing you can do. Just support your child from far away.. because with or without that baby, she still doesn't want you. It's okay, I hope you'll get over that person.

  • @popoffcity1989
    @popoffcity1989 8 місяців тому

    Worst advice ever