I once lent a book to my girlfriend back then, she took more than two months in giving it back and when she did, the broken parts of the books were fixed, the edges were clean and it sort of smelled like her. In our anniversary she gifted me the third part of said book, that’s the best experience I’ve had lending them. I’m lucky, now I see.
Book nerd rule of thumb: never lend a book you care about. Only lend books you're ready to lose or give up forever. Most people never return books anyway.
I've learned that the hard way. Back when I was in primary school, we had some library thing going on in my class where children would bring books to donate to the class. My teacher said that we would be able to get our books back when we were leaving the school. This was in 2019. Foolish me donated all my Diary of a wimpy kid books (I had the entire series at the time) Then Covid hits, and when it was time for me to go into secondary school, I only got back 5/12 books. One of the five books was written in with markers, pens, crayons, etc. And in another book, my friend glued a bunch of flowers and hearts on the pages. The rest of my books looked like they've went through a war or something (The pages were yellow and some were torn, one even had several bite marks along the spine) So yeah, I'm never sharing my books ever again
I had a teacher who lent me her most precious books and i guarded them with my life. I usually lie down while reading but with those books i sat at the table , didn't eat or anything. It's so important to respect what people value. Those books are her life and she's lending me these for me to read. I should be respectful.its such a basic concept, dunno why many don't understand it.
I once, ONCE lent a shadow hunters book to a friend in highschool, after almost two months *despite she saying that she read pretty fast* she gave it back and, NOT ONLY did she mess up the pages by not using a bookmark, but she also WROTE and OVERLINED the words she didn't understand with a BALLPOINT PEN. I-I, I WAS FUMING. never gave another book to her no matter how much she begged me. No ma'm. You just dont do that to things that are not yours. 😤🥴🤦🏻♀️ almost forgot to say, she also covered it in some clear sticky plastic to "protect it" because it wasn't a hard cover. 🤡
I believe this is usually the tactic that someone use when they want to own a book without buying it. They can't do that on library book, so the best way is to get it from a friend. It's freaking ridiculous! There are a lot of them out there and I loathe them. Good on you for no longer giving her any of your books.
See, the thing is, I'll treat my own books this way. I dog-ear. I annotate. I aggressively shove my current read in my backpack when I'm in a rush. I don't mind the wear and tear. It makes the copy really feel like it's mine. But I would NEVER treat someone ELSE'S book like that, and I would expect the same respect. Just because I annihilate my books doesn't mean you get to.
My mom got me the whole Stormlight Archive series by Brandon Sanderson. After I read them, my little brother wanted to as well so I let him borrow the first one. When he gave it back, the cover had been torn and folded, the spine was torn up, and I learned that he was the type of person who just flips the book over and leaves it on the ground instead of using a bookmark. I refused to give him the second book and I will never let him read any of my books ever again
A friend of mine loaned my book to her fiance, who then took it with him when he moved abroad. I was so angry I made sure to nag enough that when he came back for vacation he brought the book back with him. Might have ruined my friendship but at least I have my book back.
One time I was in a local production of beauty and the beast and the person playing belle wanted to use a book as a prop and I was one of only two ppl who actually had a book on me (I’d read it when I wasn’t doing anything) so i leant it to her for the scene. We run the scene. She gets up on stage, my book in her hand. Song starts. Immediately, she opens the book w i d e and the spine CRACKS. I was so annoyed coz it wasn’t even my book. I was just borrowing it.
My heart literally skips a beat when watching the video, but what surprises me even more is how horrible the stories in the comment section are. I myself feel so lucky reading those. My family is very supportive of me being a book nerd, and most of my friends in highshool are booklovers and they always return my books with no damage. My deskmate in highschool is an artist, and she even designed her own bookmarks for me. When I used a ruler as bookmark, she would come and say "oh so you need more? I can draw more for you". We can never imagine how to read books without having bookmarks, like our books are too precious to be fold. I think I can always lend someone my books, as long as I know they are also a booklover.
My best friend wanted to read my copy of "A Game of Thrones" and when I told him all rules he needs to aceept about carrying the book he said: "I don't want it anymore!" I was so happy.
My experience with people borrowing books is… you hardly see those books again. My grandma has a huge collection of books and since my childhood I remember people taking books and not returning them. At one point, I convinced my grandma to write somewhere who took what and when, and when we won’t hear back from them for awhile, call them and ask to return the book. It worked but she did it for a short time and then stopped.
Back at one of my old jobs I used to regularly bring books to work to read while I was on break. There was a spot on a filing cabinet in the back office that had been designated for me to leave my book while I worked so it could stay safe, and I hadn't had any problems for over three years. One day I decided it was safe to bring in a book that was worth a couple hundred dollars (old rare edition, gorgeous cover, all that), and the moment I turned away a new guy brought an open cold drink into the office (which wasn't allowed) and not only set it on the filing cabinet (which had a sign explicitly saying do not do that) but directly on my book! I turned around and stopped him before a ring could form thank goodness, but that will always be the one day in my four years at that job anyone heard me scream at someone. I never chanced a rare book again.
We had a book-exchange at work. I had brought in about 20 books and hoped they would find a new home. We got a new boss. When she saw me pick out a book one of my co-workers had left to the book exchange she said: "-You can not bring that book home, they are for reading during lunch breaks and such. We would not want for any of them to go missing now would we?" So all of sudden all my books and those of my co-workers belonged to the workplace...
even as someone who doesn't read as often, this is just blatant disrespect for other people's property. I especially feel the first one as an artist, I hate when people just put a drink on my drawing book
I once gave a book to a friend and when she brought it back, the spine was so ripply and bent… she didn‘t use a bookmark. Instead the book just lay open on her bedside table 🥲 when I read soft cover books I‘m usually really careful about not bending them too much and always, ALWAYS using a boomark 😬
I once had a friend borrow my book. It was returned to me 2 years later, by a different person. And I found out that 3 people had borrowed it before I got it back. The pages were yellowing and the first few were torn. I don't really let people borrow my books anymore.
My aunt ruined this absolutely stunning edition of the night circus I had. It had beautiful black edges, this gorgeous hardback. It's no longer available... So can't even be replaced
@@MegaSpideyman Just read it! It's better not explained although... It kinda does require specific taste I guess... Do you like fantasy and magical realism? If yes Then Read it!
@@MegaSpideyman the magic of that book is how atmospheric it is. You can even taste what the author describes to you. It's about a night circus that comes to town, but yes like the other commenter said I don't want to explain too much. I just know I adored it
I'm annoyed when my mom puts stuff over my books, and I don't usually share my books cuz have a bad experience doing that. Ahhh it's hard to make people understand that we love our books and love more the treasures in them.
I actually had an argument with my ex about folding book corners. She used to do it to books that I had borrowed from the library. She couldn't understand why I cared so much. It just feels really disrespectful. It's a work of art and should be treated as such.
So funny and so true. I've actually gone out and bought another copy of a book to loan to someone (basically a gift because I didn't expect them to return it. They didn't.)
Lmao too true. My sister once used my book to place her drink on top of and Idk why I guess I was too nice to say anything. But that book now have a nice round dried water ring on the cover, hence why Im so vocal about my books now. And yes, I dont let anyone borrow my books unless them themselves are book worms and understand how to treat a book.
Had it happen to me once. Borrowed like two books to a friend of mine. Two weeks later I received them back with cracked spines to the middle (they were both brand new), one had been dropped in a bathtub, folded ears, and even her mom had read them. They came back completely destroyed and with some pages sticking out. Out of spite I never gave back the three books she lend me in return 💀
I led a program overseas and english books are super rare and valuable. One student was super into sherlock holmes and decided she wanted to read every one. I lent her 5 sherlock holmes books. All the students were evacuated during Corona. I thought I would find the books in the house but no...she took them with her.
HOLY COW I am hungry so can't focus and my brain repeatedly read your opening sentence as ''I lead a pogrom overseas'' D: But anyway, nuuuu. I let a girl at school _look at_ my brand new copy of Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire when I was a kid. Our family was uber poor so it was a huge thing for me getting a new book. So I let her _LOOK AT_ it. Not to touch or borrow, just look. And she _DROOLED_ over the cover by accident because she had her mouth open while she was looking, a huge string of drool came out and got all over the front image :c I cried, heh. But at least she didn't run away with it! sorry the girl ran away with your Sherlock Holmes books. I pretty much avoid having friends these days because I'd be so sad if anyone ran away with my Sherlock Holmes collection, or any of my other book collections! Hopefully you can get your books back 🙏
Sorry to hear that :( I know people often say "just buy them again" if you lose a book. Well that is easy enough sure (as long as you have the money). But a lot of times copies of books have sentimental value tied to them too, and that can not just be bought again
I won't even open my books all the way. I don't want to damage the spines. I still have my first editions of the Thrawn trilogy from the early 90's.. IN PRESTINE condition.
@@Musiclover-rt1ej I am in my mid 30s now and started reading a lot when I was in high school (or maybe late middle school). Then I fell out of reading during college and for a while after graduating. For the past 5 years though I have been getting back into reading a lot more than I ever have
with star wars expanded universe stuff i am careful, but with new books i just do what i like with them. i don't really collect books and it's nice to lend them to people, even if they end up looking bad after
@adonian - that’s exactly what I do too 😁 I won’t ever open my books all the way. It’s nice to know there are others like that out there. I’ve never met anyone else that does the same thing as I do lol
I once borrowed a book from a friend that i really liked by the description and wanted to check it out. The book was really good although in my house books for my baby brother were a toy 😭 i would literally fight for that book with my heart bc i knew if he put his hands on it i wouldn't be able to look my friend in the eyes. I ended up reading the book for 3 days and it was really good. I immediately went to her house to give it back and i was relieved for her to say it didnt have a scratch.
once in third grade i had this alice in wonderland book which had a pretty pink hardcover. loved that book from the bottom of my heart. a friend from school borrowed it and, well, i dont know where she is now. she just left the school and never gave me my book. never let anyone lend my book after that, and im glad i learnt the lesson soon.
This was my worst nightmare as a kid. Id lend someone a book and it wouod come back with dog ears and for some reason the person had written on the cover. I was respectful whenever i borrowed from somone. If i didnt have a bookmark id just remember the page.
I borrowed my friend (who likes reading very much) 2 books of the same author and after like a year I asked her to return them and she said she only found one of them and then she returned only one. the conversation ended there like she was thinking I only imagined giving her 2 books (because she had only 1, right? :)) she wasn't even sorry or smth
You lent your friend the books. If you had borrowed, the books would be hers and you'd have them for free for a while. Since the books are yours to lend, you've lent them.
I remember my sister got a book, "Please don't feed the Vampire" and she put it in her really dirty backpack that needed to be cleaned out, and when i took it out there were *crayon marks all over the bottom, and i was so mad.*
A law of nature: The less available a book is, the greater the damage a borrower will inflict on it. Never, ever lend an antique book (or for that matter, let your “friends” even see it.)
Fun story I was reading The Catcher In The Rye and had it in my backpack. Went to put my laptop in and heard a tear. When i looked the cover was torn almost halfway out of the book. My pain could not be measured.
I had a small handbag, containing an older book with very thin pages, in which I put my phone. Later on I took it out and it seemed the phone had slipped between the pages, crushing/wrinkling/tearing them
I once had to lend some of my books to my mom's friend's kids and when I got them back after probably a year, I had to hold a funeral for them of sorts, the condition was so bad. Pages torn from one side to the other, badly fixed, pencil everywhere. I still get nightmares.
Since we’re sharing book-loaning horror stories: the one and only time I ever lent someone my personal copy of my favorite book, she returned it with the spine cracked in half, reeking of cigarettes, and yellowed like it had been left in full sun for months. Needless to say I have never allowed anyone else to read my books.
Omg reeking of cigarettes.. that's disgusting 😭 I am afraid that is happening to my book too. I lent it to a "friend" who started smoking since then. Still haven't got it back.
I once gave a book to my classmate, a month later the book looked like it aged 5 years and on some pages I saw little bits of chocolate. After that experience I always say "I see a tear, a mark, etc on the book - you can keep it and obligated to buy me a new one"
My wife puts drinks on my books all the time! It bothers me but I’ve always just thought I was being ungrateful, I mean she got me a drink, which is a kind thing to do. So pleased to find out that it bothers other people too!
Not me going 'hell no' multiple times watching this. My family knows better at this point, and just in case, I keep all my books in my room. I don't play this game anymore. The disrespect. Lol
The struggle is real, a good portion of my room is dedicated to my books and occasionally I lend them to my friends and when I do, it’s often painful 😭.
You missed the *1 Week Later:* "Hey man, have you finished that book yet?" "What book?" "...The one I lent you?" "OH! Right. Not yet. I've been crazy busy - haven't even started yet." "No worries. Read it soon." 😅 "Definitely! I'll read it as soon as I have time... It should still be in my bag, I think..." "Should be...?" 😥 "Don't worry. It's definitely in my house somewhere. I just have to find it." *2 Weeks Later* "I'm never going to see that book again..." *5 Years Later* "Hey man! I was goin' through some old junk, and I think this was your book from a while back. Do you want it back?" "..." Sees that it's covered in cup stain marks, the book cover is all wrinkled, pages are bent and discolored, binding is warped, and all around just looks WRECKED. "........... Yes... Please give it back...." And then, to the book, when you're finally alone. "I will never let anyone touch you ever again. I'm SO sorry." 😭
i always put stuff i care about in far away, unreacheble and unnoticable corner. not just books, but my phone, my charger, my glasses. if stranger came into my house they legit would not notice where my stuff is. this kind of practice served me very well over the years.
Ahh, see, I see my ratty books as a badge of pride. They've passed through many hands, touched many people, lived full and long lives. So now, even when I buy something brand new, I'm that person who will write in the margins, fold down the corners, leave it in places it'll get sunbleached or water damaged or attacked by the cat. But by god, I'd only ever do that to _my own books._
Same here. I don't like when they don't feel "lived in." Like the book is saying, "Come inside! The adventure awaits!" A pristine looking book is sad to me.
I liked, unliked, then liked again at the last line, lol. I love seeing used books, books that have been annotated and loved. But if I ever see someone do that to a book that isn’t theirs? Gosh
I love books with marks, l fell they have more personality ☺️, but same I only do that to mine, others people books I’ll take care of them with my life!
My classmate back in the days borrowed from me my favorite 101 Dalmatinian book (that was in 90s so those books were extra cool in those years) and never returned it back to me! The worst thing is that she said she would, also I was too shy to ask it back from her.
I have never borrowed anyone a book ever but I have two books that I am borrowing from a friend and he told me to look after them cuz his books are precious to him like every book lovers are
Story time: At one of my old jobs all the employees had their own cubbies for their stuff. They were all labeled too. I brought a book I was going to lend to a coworker and had it in my cubbie. SOMEONE PUT THEIR OWN DRINK IN MY CUBBIE ON MY BOOK!!!! I'm still not over that.
I don’t loan books out anymore. Most of them are never returned, and the few that are, are always damaged. I remember my husband suggesting that we put my books in our basement… our basement had over 90% humidity when the de-humidifier was turned off. I put my foot down. No way was I subjecting my precious books to that kind of abuse.
Books are not for basements. They are for some place where you will see them regularly. Living room and bedroom are the best, unless you are rich enough to have a library in your home.
once i gave one of my favourite books to a classmate and when she returned it, it was like literally destroyed i asked her what happened and she said her younger sister spilled water all over the cover i was so mad and told her but she still had the audacity to ask for more books
My mom is currently reading my leatherbound copy of Warbreaker, and it sits on the living room table at the moment. One time, my dad was eating some Serbian smoked meat (lots of fat) and put the bag with the meat on top of the freaking book. My $100 leatherbound book, that I want to be an heirloom one day. I took the bag off and wiped the book immediately but it smelled like pig fat and smoke for days. Honestly pretty proud of myself for not flipping shit and verbally tearing him a new one. God knows he deserved it. He didn't even notice. Just kept eating his disgusting smoked meat.
The perks of being an anti-social book nerd are that I never have to experience this. I forgot that this has happened to me so much that I dont feel pain anymore, I just cry Inside :{{[[[[[ help
Totally relatable and that’s why I won’t lend my books to anyone ever again. Twice they folded the cover harshly so it left a mark and once my book never got returned to me 😭
I once lent a book to someone and her roommate said she saw it on the bathroom floor. And of course when she returned it the cover was bent and the whole thing looked pretty beat up.
Holy moly I felt this so much. Every time by family members take my books (or even other stuff) they just throw it onto other place with little care and I try always not to destroy the books let alone have small dents in the covers. I often put them in a separate bag inside a backpack just to avoid scratches.
Woke up this morning and saw my husband had set a can of Coke on one of my books on the side table in our living room. Words cannot describe the ire with which I almost snatched him up out of his sleep!
I lent a Manga to my sister since she wanted to try one out. It took her over 6 months to give it back. The cover was folded and it looked awful since she threw it in the cellar for some reason. The point is we were teenagers and lived in the same flat. Another time I lent a book to my sister in law who is also a book lover. She gave it back with the dust jacked torn and dirt on the edges. It also was an out of print hardcover I do not lent books anymore.
I love your humor and understanding of the book lovers And that was painful, but it's missing one thing: when you get the book back 1 year later with a thick layer of dust and the words "I forgot about it because I didn't like it". Also, I once saw someone using a slice of sausage as a bookmark. I think that's worse than dog ears. Edit: just found out that "dust cover" was too direct a translation and not what I meant
I let a junior borrow a book from my ultimate HP collection which i had for years. He was a big fan and wanted to read the Prisoner of Azkaban but didnt have the money. A week later, he left the school. I texted him about it. he asked me to come to a specific location (very far from my home) at a specific time to take it back. Went there. He stood me up. been 2 years. Never got it back.
I once gave this book to my friend that my grandma gave to me years back bc idk 🤷♀️ she just rlly wanted me to have it anyways, 4 months passed without my friend returning the book (also forgot to mention the book was really important to me as my grandma had died a month before that) so, I asked my friend to give it back bc it’s been so long and she was like “ohh yeah, I’ll give it back no worries”…..when I got the book back it was all sticky, it had small piece of candy on it, marker markings, underlined words, some of the pages were fully drawn on, oh and she didn’t use a book mark she just bent the edges and didn’t even put them back up. (that’s the least she could’ve don’t 😭🙏) Sooo I was on the verge of tears. To this day I still don’t let her use any of my books 🥲
I don't mind dog earing my books (not as a bookmark, but to show what pages I really liked) but if someone else did that to my book, I'd be fuming! Same with library books. You just don't do that.
I let a cousin borrow a book once and it got torn around the edges and binding (it was a paperback) it wasnt much, but I still let him keep it and bought a hardcover copy
I once lend one of my classmates' a Neil Gaiman book somewhat in middle school, and when I got it back after 6 or 7 months. The cover was ripped and the pages had big and small tears, folded and some *HIGHLIGHTED* by a *NEON PINK* highlighter. I kid you not, I cried when she returned me the book.
My classmate in high school broke my hardcover scholastic version of Harry Potter and the Half-blood Prince into two. It was a FIRST EDITION! She made it even worst when she attempted to fix it by gluing it with a RED adhesive. But she failed and made the glue mess in the pages. I was so shocked and speechless when I received it. I didn't talk to her after that.
This is why I own 5 copies of Lord of the Rings. The lending set is a 3 volume that I cobbled together with different volumes from different used sets from charity stores. The good ones are on display and my reading copy is on the Kindle.
I have loaned out a few books in my lifetime. The very first time was Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone to a friend. It had my very first ever plane ticket in it because I took the book with me and it was returned without the ticket. I forgot I’d left it in there. I was not happy they just threw it away. The next 2 times was with a coworker who was nice and prompt at returning the books. No issues and I made sure no important documents were left inside them before I lent them out. The next 2 times were with a coworker at my next job and she read and returned the first one. I thought I could trust her with my Anniversary edition of The Book Thief, but before she finished it she quit her job and I’ve been struggling for 6 months to get it back. On a side note: I had a coworker at my last job who lent me a book and she was nice enough to not take my picture with it like she normally does so she can get the book back. I returned it to her in a reasonable amount of time considering I’m a slow reader and the book was The Cursed Child. Lol
…. Then six months later when you ask for the book back he says ‘what book? I didn’t borrow a book from you!’ 😭😭😭
Very true!
Oh yeah!! That sucks a lot!! 😂😅😱😥😥😤😿😿😿
Nobody does it, but you should go to the cops for that, actually.
yes this is very true
This happened to me with my favourite illustrated book of gulliver travels. 0/10 experience.
I died a little when I saw the folded page. Even though it's not my book
I dropped my phone
Not going to lie, it hurt doing that
Man, that sound it made in slow-mode really hurt my ears. Not joking (certain grinding sounds do that to my ears)
Same
lol me too
I once lent a book to my girlfriend back then, she took more than two months in giving it back and when she did, the broken parts of the books were fixed, the edges were clean and it sort of smelled like her. In our anniversary she gifted me the third part of said book, that’s the best experience I’ve had lending them. I’m lucky, now I see.
:)
Finally a good experience
Yay, that sounds nice.
Cute
How kind of her.
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Book nerd rule of thumb: never lend a book you care about. Only lend books you're ready to lose or give up forever. Most people never return books anyway.
I would never lend something valuable or with sentimental value. Most people are not respectful with other people's belongings.
I would never lend something valuable or of sentimental value. Most people are not respectful with other people's belongings.
I've learned that the hard way. Back when I was in primary school, we had some library thing going on in my class where children would bring books to donate to the class. My teacher said that we would be able to get our books back when we were leaving the school. This was in 2019. Foolish me donated all my Diary of a wimpy kid books (I had the entire series at the time) Then Covid hits, and when it was time for me to go into secondary school, I only got back 5/12 books. One of the five books was written in with markers, pens, crayons, etc. And in another book, my friend glued a bunch of flowers and hearts on the pages. The rest of my books looked like they've went through a war or something (The pages were yellow and some were torn, one even had several bite marks along the spine) So yeah, I'm never sharing my books ever again
I had a teacher who lent me her most precious books and i guarded them with my life. I usually lie down while reading but with those books i sat at the table , didn't eat or anything. It's so important to respect what people value. Those books are her life and she's lending me these for me to read. I should be respectful.its such a basic concept, dunno why many don't understand it.
Goes for anything really.
I once, ONCE lent a shadow hunters book to a friend in highschool, after almost two months *despite she saying that she read pretty fast* she gave it back and, NOT ONLY did she mess up the pages by not using a bookmark, but she also WROTE and OVERLINED the words she didn't understand with a BALLPOINT PEN. I-I, I WAS FUMING. never gave another book to her no matter how much she begged me. No ma'm. You just dont do that to things that are not yours. 😤🥴🤦🏻♀️ almost forgot to say, she also covered it in some clear sticky plastic to "protect it" because it wasn't a hard cover. 🤡
I believe this is usually the tactic that someone use when they want to own a book without buying it. They can't do that on library book, so the best way is to get it from a friend. It's freaking ridiculous! There are a lot of them out there and I loathe them. Good on you for no longer giving her any of your books.
That is insane!
The one that needed to be covered in clear sticky plastic was her.
Okay, I love annotating books but I’d NEVER do it to a book that wasn’t mine
No no no no no no no no. No!
I feel the same always, that's why I don't allow people to borrow my books...
I'd never let anyone borrow my books at all.
I let it only to my friend who is also a reader and is careful with my books
I’ve lost too many lending them out so I don’t do it anymore. It makes me sad to think of all the books I lost over the years through lending.
@@theghostofsabertache9049 me too... and how it's even more heartbreaking when I want to reread that book again and can't do that anymore
I would only lend my books to my close friends who are also bookworms
See, the thing is, I'll treat my own books this way. I dog-ear. I annotate. I aggressively shove my current read in my backpack when I'm in a rush. I don't mind the wear and tear. It makes the copy really feel like it's mine.
But I would NEVER treat someone ELSE'S book like that, and I would expect the same respect. Just because I annihilate my books doesn't mean you get to.
Yeah, I do the same things but I'd never do that to another person's book
My mom got me the whole Stormlight Archive series by Brandon Sanderson. After I read them, my little brother wanted to as well so I let him borrow the first one. When he gave it back, the cover had been torn and folded, the spine was torn up, and I learned that he was the type of person who just flips the book over and leaves it on the ground instead of using a bookmark. I refused to give him the second book and I will never let him read any of my books ever again
A friend of mine loaned my book to her fiance, who then took it with him when he moved abroad. I was so angry I made sure to nag enough that when he came back for vacation he brought the book back with him. Might have ruined my friendship but at least I have my book back.
You gotta do what you gotta do
As you should
I mean the book will never let you down. It will always be there for you. Can't say the same abt a lot of friends.
@@Random-dc7qj damn
That's great because this 1 time I lended my book and they never returned it.
The only thing missing is someone opening a paperback completely by making a folding line in the spine.
People think I have never read my books because the spines look so pristine. I hate when people put an open book down like that.
@@drewtheunspoken3988 lol same. I can’t even read a book with a broken spine. It just bugs me the entire time.
That hurt just imagining it
One time I was in a local production of beauty and the beast and the person playing belle wanted to use a book as a prop and I was one of only two ppl who actually had a book on me (I’d read it when I wasn’t doing anything) so i leant it to her for the scene. We run the scene. She gets up on stage, my book in her hand. Song starts. Immediately, she opens the book w i d e and the spine CRACKS. I was so annoyed coz it wasn’t even my book. I was just borrowing it.
Haha I do that to my own books, makes them more comfortable to hold. It's the first thing I do to my paperbacks
My heart literally skips a beat when watching the video, but what surprises me even more is how horrible the stories in the comment section are.
I myself feel so lucky reading those. My family is very supportive of me being a book nerd, and most of my friends in highshool are booklovers and they always return my books with no damage. My deskmate in highschool is an artist, and she even designed her own bookmarks for me. When I used a ruler as bookmark, she would come and say "oh so you need more? I can draw more for you". We can never imagine how to read books without having bookmarks, like our books are too precious to be fold.
I think I can always lend someone my books, as long as I know they are also a booklover.
Ive never lend a book to anyone, i just dont wont trust anyone a book which am fond with lol.
I am not a book reader but I can still relate..
My best friend wanted to read my copy of "A Game of Thrones" and when I told him all rules he needs to aceept about carrying the book he said: "I don't want it anymore!" I was so happy.
My experience with people borrowing books is… you hardly see those books again. My grandma has a huge collection of books and since my childhood I remember people taking books and not returning them. At one point, I convinced my grandma to write somewhere who took what and when, and when we won’t hear back from them for awhile, call them and ask to return the book. It worked but she did it for a short time and then stopped.
Yea. When I "lend" books, I know that it's really "gifting" them. I just call it "lending" to be nice.
Its kind of the same with money...never let anyone "borrow" it.. if anything just buy the book as a gift..i mean its not like you're a library
Is your grandma a chemistry teacher?
THAT MAKES ME SO MAD OH MY GOSH. THATS STEALING WTF
I feel deeply uncomfortable seeing this book being mistreated 😭
I have never experienced so much discomfort and pain in a single video 💔
Back at one of my old jobs I used to regularly bring books to work to read while I was on break. There was a spot on a filing cabinet in the back office that had been designated for me to leave my book while I worked so it could stay safe, and I hadn't had any problems for over three years. One day I decided it was safe to bring in a book that was worth a couple hundred dollars (old rare edition, gorgeous cover, all that), and the moment I turned away a new guy brought an open cold drink into the office (which wasn't allowed) and not only set it on the filing cabinet (which had a sign explicitly saying do not do that) but directly on my book!
I turned around and stopped him before a ring could form thank goodness, but that will always be the one day in my four years at that job anyone heard me scream at someone. I never chanced a rare book again.
On the bright side no one stole three book because it is so expensive
We had a book-exchange at work. I had brought in about 20 books and hoped they would find a new home. We got a new boss. When she saw me pick out a book one of my co-workers had left to the book exchange she said: "-You can not bring that book home, they are for reading during lunch breaks and such. We would not want for any of them to go missing now would we?" So all of sudden all my books and those of my co-workers belonged to the workplace...
@@erikaeriksson9840 I would've said 'well if this isn't an actual book exchange -" and taken all the books I brought home
even as someone who doesn't read as often, this is just blatant disrespect for other people's property. I especially feel the first one as an artist, I hate when people just put a drink on my drawing book
I once gave a book to a friend and when she brought it back, the spine was so ripply and bent… she didn‘t use a bookmark. Instead the book just lay open on her bedside table 🥲 when I read soft cover books I‘m usually really careful about not bending them too much and always, ALWAYS using a boomark 😬
Bro this is literally the most relatable thing ever. I'm an avid reader too.
I once had a friend borrow my book. It was returned to me 2 years later, by a different person. And I found out that 3 people had borrowed it before I got it back. The pages were yellowing and the first few were torn. I don't really let people borrow my books anymore.
Damn that's rough! :(
Surprising that they even knew who the book belonged to at that point.
@@kesuno Ask her how far she's gotten. So she doesn't forget :D
Update for you all i got it back with no ruin or big bruises but never again xd
@@kesuno Congratz heh
My aunt ruined this absolutely stunning edition of the night circus I had. It had beautiful black edges, this gorgeous hardback. It's no longer available... So can't even be replaced
Sorry about that.
What's the book about?
Oh no! Sorry to hear that :(
So sorry for your loss mate...
@@MegaSpideyman Just read it!
It's better not explained although... It kinda does require specific taste I guess... Do you like fantasy and magical realism? If yes Then Read it!
@@MegaSpideyman the magic of that book is how atmospheric it is.
You can even taste what the author describes to you.
It's about a night circus that comes to town, but yes like the other commenter said I don't want to explain too much.
I just know I adored it
I'm annoyed when my mom puts stuff over my books, and I don't usually share my books cuz have a bad experience doing that. Ahhh it's hard to make people understand that we love our books and love more the treasures in them.
I actually had an argument with my ex about folding book corners. She used to do it to books that I had borrowed from the library. She couldn't understand why I cared so much. It just feels really disrespectful. It's a work of art and should be treated as such.
So funny and so true. I've actually gone out and bought another copy of a book to loan to someone (basically a gift because I didn't expect them to return it. They didn't.)
I've done the same thing. And I don't lend out my hardcovers.
Genius
Lmao too true. My sister once used my book to place her drink on top of and Idk why I guess I was too nice to say anything. But that book now have a nice round dried water ring on the cover, hence why Im so vocal about my books now. And yes, I dont let anyone borrow my books unless them themselves are book worms and understand how to treat a book.
Had it happen to me once. Borrowed like two books to a friend of mine. Two weeks later I received them back with cracked spines to the middle (they were both brand new), one had been dropped in a bathtub, folded ears, and even her mom had read them. They came back completely destroyed and with some pages sticking out. Out of spite I never gave back the three books she lend me in return 💀
My heart BROKE when you folded that page. I literally HEARD it BREAK into a MILLION pieces.
I led a program overseas and english books are super rare and valuable. One student was super into sherlock holmes and decided she wanted to read every one. I lent her 5 sherlock holmes books. All the students were evacuated during Corona. I thought I would find the books in the house but no...she took them with her.
I even made her sign them out!!!
@@loralubimaia2783 I hope you get them back soon
HOLY COW I am hungry so can't focus and my brain repeatedly read your opening sentence as ''I lead a pogrom overseas'' D: But anyway, nuuuu. I let a girl at school _look at_ my brand new copy of Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire when I was a kid. Our family was uber poor so it was a huge thing for me getting a new book. So I let her _LOOK AT_ it. Not to touch or borrow, just look. And she _DROOLED_ over the cover by accident because she had her mouth open while she was looking, a huge string of drool came out and got all over the front image :c I cried, heh. But at least she didn't run away with it! sorry the girl ran away with your Sherlock Holmes books. I pretty much avoid having friends these days because I'd be so sad if anyone ran away with my Sherlock Holmes collection, or any of my other book collections! Hopefully you can get your books back 🙏
@@Vexarax how does one drool like that????? Just wow
Sorry to hear that :(
I know people often say "just buy them again" if you lose a book. Well that is easy enough sure (as long as you have the money). But a lot of times copies of books have sentimental value tied to them too, and that can not just be bought again
I won't even open my books all the way. I don't want to damage the spines.
I still have my first editions of the Thrawn trilogy from the early 90's.. IN PRESTINE condition.
Impressive!
@@miketravelsnowhere6557 Cool video, can I ask how old are you? Also how long have you been reading?
@@Musiclover-rt1ej I am in my mid 30s now and started reading a lot when I was in high school (or maybe late middle school). Then I fell out of reading during college and for a while after graduating. For the past 5 years though I have been getting back into reading a lot more than I ever have
with star wars expanded universe stuff i am careful, but with new books i just do what i like with them. i don't really collect books and it's nice to lend them to people, even if they end up looking bad after
@adonian - that’s exactly what I do too 😁 I won’t ever open my books all the way. It’s nice to know there are others like that out there. I’ve never met anyone else that does the same thing as I do lol
I once borrowed a book from a friend that i really liked by the description and wanted to check it out. The book was really good although in my house books for my baby brother were a toy 😭 i would literally fight for that book with my heart bc i knew if he put his hands on it i wouldn't be able to look my friend in the eyes. I ended up reading the book for 3 days and it was really good. I immediately went to her house to give it back and i was relieved for her to say it didnt have a scratch.
once in third grade i had this alice in wonderland book which had a pretty pink hardcover. loved that book from the bottom of my heart. a friend from school borrowed it and, well, i dont know where she is now. she just left the school and never gave me my book. never let anyone lend my book after that, and im glad i learnt the lesson soon.
This was my worst nightmare as a kid. Id lend someone a book and it wouod come back with dog ears and for some reason the person had written on the cover.
I was respectful whenever i borrowed from somone. If i didnt have a bookmark id just remember the page.
I borrowed my friend (who likes reading very much) 2 books of the same author and after like a year I asked her to return them and she said she only found one of them and then she returned only one. the conversation ended there like she was thinking I only imagined giving her 2 books (because she had only 1, right? :))
she wasn't even sorry or smth
Oh no :(
You lent your friend the books. If you had borrowed, the books would be hers and you'd have them for free for a while. Since the books are yours to lend, you've lent them.
My grandpa used to say , "never lend three things to anyone : your car, your book and your wife!"
I remember my sister got a book, "Please don't feed the Vampire" and she put it in her really dirty backpack that needed to be cleaned out, and when i took it out there were *crayon marks all over the bottom, and i was so mad.*
A law of nature: The less available a book is, the greater the damage a borrower will inflict on it. Never, ever lend an antique book (or for that matter, let your “friends” even see it.)
Fun story
I was reading The Catcher In The Rye and had it in my backpack. Went to put my laptop in and heard a tear. When i looked the cover was torn almost halfway out of the book. My pain could not be measured.
Omg, I almost dropped my Phone when i read that last part....
not funny bruhhh 🥺😭😭 this hurts!
I had a small handbag, containing an older book with very thin pages, in which I put my phone. Later on I took it out and it seemed the phone had slipped between the pages, crushing/wrinkling/tearing them
Wow! no shit. Well thank God you didn't go out on a mad rampage with the book in your pocket still lamenting the rip.
as a person who love to read books but cant afford to buy the physical one, THIS VREAKS MY HEART INTO PIECES 😭😭😭
I once had to lend some of my books to my mom's friend's kids and when I got them back after probably a year, I had to hold a funeral for them of sorts, the condition was so bad. Pages torn from one side to the other, badly fixed, pencil everywhere. I still get nightmares.
😂 I always dog ear my pages, but you cant be doing that when borrowing a book, thats definitely an unwritten rule!
Since we’re sharing book-loaning horror stories: the one and only time I ever lent someone my personal copy of my favorite book, she returned it with the spine cracked in half, reeking of cigarettes, and yellowed like it had been left in full sun for months.
Needless to say I have never allowed anyone else to read my books.
Omg reeking of cigarettes.. that's disgusting 😭 I am afraid that is happening to my book too. I lent it to a "friend" who started smoking since then. Still haven't got it back.
I once gave a book to my classmate, a month later the book looked like it aged 5 years and on some pages I saw little bits of chocolate. After that experience I always say "I see a tear, a mark, etc on the book - you can keep it and obligated to buy me a new one"
I leant out two books back in grade school which I never got back and my brain still won't let it go to this day
My wife puts drinks on my books all the time! It bothers me but I’ve always just thought I was being ungrateful, I mean she got me a drink, which is a kind thing to do. So pleased to find out that it bothers other people too!
would you think I'm a good person if I punch you but then buy you a drink? A good deed doesn't nullify a bad deed
Keep coasters around. That might help.
Not me going 'hell no' multiple times watching this. My family knows better at this point, and just in case, I keep all my books in my room. I don't play this game anymore. The disrespect. Lol
I freaking screamed watching this
The pain
THE PAAAAAINNNN
The struggle is real, a good portion of my room is dedicated to my books and occasionally I lend them to my friends and when I do, it’s often painful 😭.
Every blow to the book is like a knife to my heart.
You missed the *1 Week Later:* "Hey man, have you finished that book yet?"
"What book?"
"...The one I lent you?"
"OH! Right. Not yet. I've been crazy busy - haven't even started yet."
"No worries. Read it soon." 😅
"Definitely! I'll read it as soon as I have time... It should still be in my bag, I think..."
"Should be...?" 😥
"Don't worry. It's definitely in my house somewhere. I just have to find it."
*2 Weeks Later*
"I'm never going to see that book again..."
*5 Years Later*
"Hey man! I was goin' through some old junk, and I think this was your book from a while back. Do you want it back?"
"..." Sees that it's covered in cup stain marks, the book cover is all wrinkled, pages are bent and discolored, binding is warped, and all around just looks WRECKED. "........... Yes... Please give it back...."
And then, to the book, when you're finally alone. "I will never let anyone touch you ever again. I'm SO sorry." 😭
this was painful to watch I'm having flashbacks
i always put stuff i care about in far away, unreacheble and unnoticable corner. not just books, but my phone, my charger, my glasses. if stranger came into my house they legit would not notice where my stuff is. this kind of practice served me very well over the years.
I was flinching when he started jamming the book into his backback
Oh I felt the pain just watching! I wanted to yell "Stop" and take that book right back! Well done!
Once this person folded cover of my book and i have committed myself to never show my books to anyone again. Ever.
The amount of pain he put himself through to make this video, respect 😭
I lost it when he folded the corner for the bookmark. I swear I would have made him leave at that exact moment and never let him near my books again.
Part 2: when people lick their fingers to turn a page of one of your books
I will never understand why people lick their fingers at all. It doeant even make anything easier.
@@joco8290 It actually does wym
@@joco8290 it does bud
yak. I really find that disgusting. And it's also unnecessary.
@@sherlockhomeless7138
Indeed. Completely unnecessary.
Ahh, see, I see my ratty books as a badge of pride. They've passed through many hands, touched many people, lived full and long lives. So now, even when I buy something brand new, I'm that person who will write in the margins, fold down the corners, leave it in places it'll get sunbleached or water damaged or attacked by the cat. But by god, I'd only ever do that to _my own books._
Same here. I don't like when they don't feel "lived in." Like the book is saying, "Come inside! The adventure awaits!" A pristine looking book is sad to me.
You're the kind of person I'll never be!
I liked, unliked, then liked again at the last line, lol. I love seeing used books, books that have been annotated and loved. But if I ever see someone do that to a book that isn’t theirs? Gosh
I love books with marks, l fell they have more personality ☺️, but same I only do that to mine, others people books I’ll take care of them with my life!
LITERALLY SAME
i respect this person for having to go through pain from doing this to his own book for the video. i salute you.
My classmate back in the days borrowed from me my favorite 101 Dalmatinian book (that was in 90s so those books were extra cool in those years) and never returned it back to me! The worst thing is that she said she would, also I was too shy to ask it back from her.
I have never borrowed anyone a book ever but I have two books that I am borrowing from a friend and he told me to look after them cuz his books are precious to him like every book lovers are
I don’t understand
Sorry to be the grammar police but there's no such thing as "borrowed a book to someone" what you should say is you "never lent a book to someone"
@@theunexplainablecrumbs4387 It's grammatically correct in many English dialects.
@@rohan21166 Can you give me an example of a dialect that uses this please, as a native English speaker I've never heard anyone say this
Story time: At one of my old jobs all the employees had their own cubbies for their stuff. They were all labeled too. I brought a book I was going to lend to a coworker and had it in my cubbie. SOMEONE PUT THEIR OWN DRINK IN MY CUBBIE ON MY BOOK!!!! I'm still not over that.
Ugh why would anyone do that... :(
Wise words from a great and wise admiral, "When you loan a book, never expect to get it back."
THAT FACE, THAT EXPRESSION!! is very very relatable.
I don’t loan books out anymore. Most of them are never returned, and the few that are, are always damaged.
I remember my husband suggesting that we put my books in our basement… our basement had over 90% humidity when the de-humidifier was turned off. I put my foot down. No way was I subjecting my precious books to that kind of abuse.
Books are not for basements. They are for some place where you will see them regularly. Living room and bedroom are the best, unless you are rich enough to have a library in your home.
As the son of a librarian, watching him dog-ear that page made me physically ill.
once i gave one of my favourite books to a classmate and when she returned it, it was like literally destroyed i asked her what happened and she said her younger sister spilled water all over the cover i was so mad and told her but she still had the audacity to ask for more books
Omg the folding of the page almost gave me tears
When you folded the corner of the page, i laughed like a maniac. Spot on mate.
My mom is currently reading my leatherbound copy of Warbreaker, and it sits on the living room table at the moment. One time, my dad was eating some Serbian smoked meat (lots of fat) and put the bag with the meat on top of the freaking book. My $100 leatherbound book, that I want to be an heirloom one day. I took the bag off and wiped the book immediately but it smelled like pig fat and smoke for days. Honestly pretty proud of myself for not flipping shit and verbally tearing him a new one. God knows he deserved it. He didn't even notice. Just kept eating his disgusting smoked meat.
If my father would ever do such a thing he would vanish and never be found
When he folded the tip of the page I am sorry I couldn’t it’s too much. It’s just torture.
It physically hurt me… I am not exaggerating when I say I felt pain in all four of my limbs 😭😭
The perks of being an anti-social book nerd are that I never have to experience this.
I forgot that this has happened to me so much that I dont feel pain anymore, I just cry Inside :{{[[[[[ help
The sheer amount if visceral reactions I had watching this was painful. Especially when some doggy ears YOUR book.
I once lent a book to a friend and he dropped it in his toilet. It was a lot worse than you think
What!? How does that even happen?
@@miketravelsnowhere6557 He decided he would read while having a bowl movement and I guess he has a large toilet bowl and a weak grip
@@carolusmagnus9757 I hope he replaced it. 🙏
Totally relatable and that’s why I won’t lend my books to anyone ever again. Twice they folded the cover harshly so it left a mark and once my book never got returned to me 😭
I once lent a book to someone and her roommate said she saw it on the bathroom floor. And of course when she returned it the cover was bent and the whole thing looked pretty beat up.
You can't have your book damaged by lending it to friends if none of your friends like reading (*man pointing to his forehead meme)
Holy moly I felt this so much. Every time by family members take my books (or even other stuff) they just throw it onto other place with little care and I try always not to destroy the books let alone have small dents in the covers. I often put them in a separate bag inside a backpack just to avoid scratches.
Woke up this morning and saw my husband had set a can of Coke on one of my books on the side table in our living room. Words cannot describe the ire with which I almost snatched him up out of his sleep!
I lent a Manga to my sister since she wanted to try one out. It took her over 6 months to give it back. The cover was folded and it looked awful since she threw it in the cellar for some reason. The point is we were teenagers and lived in the same flat.
Another time I lent a book to my sister in law who is also a book lover. She gave it back with the dust jacked torn and dirt on the edges. It also was an out of print hardcover
I do not lent books anymore.
It kills me inside.
With a long saw knife.
Using a happy mask and a sad face behind.
Now I see that I shall not lend what is mine.
It hurts really, I wouldn't lend one of my precious books if I knew that the borrower hadn't any care with them.
I love your humor and understanding of the book lovers
And that was painful, but it's missing one thing: when you get the book back 1 year later with a thick layer of dust and the words "I forgot about it because I didn't like it".
Also, I once saw someone using a slice of sausage as a bookmark. I think that's worse than dog ears.
Edit: just found out that "dust cover" was too direct a translation and not what I meant
Thats just bizarre 😂
I let a junior borrow a book from my ultimate HP collection which i had for years. He was a big fan and wanted to read the Prisoner of Azkaban but didnt have the money. A week later, he left the school. I texted him about it. he asked me to come to a specific location (very far from my home) at a specific time to take it back. Went there. He stood me up. been 2 years. Never got it back.
Why did I voluntarily click on the vid to experience this excruciating pain😭
I was just thinking about filing a report, then he called 911! 🤣
this genuinely makes me sad
I once gave this book to my friend that my grandma gave to me years back bc idk 🤷♀️ she just rlly wanted me to have it anyways, 4 months passed without my friend returning the book (also forgot to mention the book was really important to me as my grandma had died a month before that) so, I asked my friend to give it back bc it’s been so long and she was like “ohh yeah, I’ll give it back no worries”…..when I got the book back it was all sticky, it had small piece of candy on it, marker markings, underlined words, some of the pages were fully drawn on, oh and she didn’t use a book mark she just bent the edges and didn’t even put them back up. (that’s the least she could’ve don’t 😭🙏) Sooo I was on the verge of tears. To this day I still don’t let her use any of my books 🥲
:(
I can relate to the first one, my mom always puts her tea mugs on my books and then there's always a round tea stain on them ;-;
I don't mind dog earing my books (not as a bookmark, but to show what pages I really liked) but if someone else did that to my book, I'd be fuming! Same with library books. You just don't do that.
I let a cousin borrow a book once and it got torn around the edges and binding (it was a paperback) it wasnt much, but I still let him keep it and bought a hardcover copy
I almost cried watching this. This is why I never lend people my books anymore.
This is why no one touches my books but me.
I'm guilty of shoving the book in a backpack like that because my family likes to travel too much.
I once lend one of my classmates' a Neil Gaiman book somewhat in middle school, and when I got it back after 6 or 7 months. The cover was ripped and the pages had big and small tears, folded and some *HIGHLIGHTED* by a *NEON PINK* highlighter. I kid you not, I cried when she returned me the book.
I'm not a reader but I still felt the pain
Bro, could you not do that with the book…
Yes, I promise...until the next video ;)
You should watch Daniel Greene's "How to properly clean a book" video. It would return your book to a like new quality.
Oh god...why did I watch that!? That was brutal
My classmate in high school broke my hardcover scholastic version of Harry Potter and the Half-blood Prince into two. It was a FIRST EDITION! She made it even worst when she attempted to fix it by gluing it with a RED adhesive. But she failed and made the glue mess in the pages. I was so shocked and speechless when I received it. I didn't talk to her after that.
This is why I own 5 copies of Lord of the Rings. The lending set is a 3 volume that I cobbled together with different volumes from different used sets from charity stores. The good ones are on display and my reading copy is on the Kindle.
I have loaned out a few books in my lifetime. The very first time was Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone to a friend. It had my very first ever plane ticket in it because I took the book with me and it was returned without the ticket. I forgot I’d left it in there. I was not happy they just threw it away.
The next 2 times was with a coworker who was nice and prompt at returning the books. No issues and I made sure no important documents were left inside them before I lent them out. The next 2 times were with a coworker at my next job and she read and returned the first one. I thought I could trust her with my Anniversary edition of The Book Thief, but before she finished it she quit her job and I’ve been struggling for 6 months to get it back.
On a side note: I had a coworker at my last job who lent me a book and she was nice enough to not take my picture with it like she normally does so she can get the book back. I returned it to her in a reasonable amount of time considering I’m a slow reader and the book was The Cursed Child. Lol
Can we talk about the fact that the stolen book was called "The Book Thief"?
@@erstequeen Fr.