If you or a loved one are going through grief, my new book, Grief and Spiritual Healing: Surviving Life After Loss, is out now on Amazon. I wrote this while going through my own tremendous loss, and I hope that the words will bring you some peace, comfort and healing. Available at a.co/d/hdnp1qS For more on death, grief and loss, the documentary, The Miracle of Death, is also on UA-cam. Watch at ua-cam.com/video/7-WAMUxjlZUh/v-deo.htmlttps://ua-cam.com/video/7-WAMUxjlZU/v-deo.html
I was my mothers caretaker for the last 3 years of her life. She passed away in October of 21 and I’m still in deep grief. She was not only my mom but my best friend. I’ll always miss her and grieve her loss. My heart goes out to all who’ve lost one that they love so dearly. It’s the worst part of the human experience.
It is therapeutic to speak of these things. To share them. My greatest loss was my Father. My Mother was narcissistic and he was my rock. I miss him every single day ❤ Hugs to you!
Thank you Todd. I am grieving the death of my beloved dog. She was a beautiful light in my life. I feel lost and pray that her death has taken me to a new consciousness. Right now I just ache. Thank you so much for your words. ❤
Tomorrow we bury my 14 yr old nephew. He took his life. I have lost a my toddler and my husband years ago. The pain was so overwhelming! It is so shocking it takes time just to realize the loss, alone. Blessings to you Todd. You are such a timely blessing to so many. God bless us all.
Love u so much , and I worry about loosing my mum or dad my dad been diagnosed with dementia and I have been in bad state I can't get my head around death I just can't believe we have this whole life and dissappear I don't want to be away from my family hearing your voice talking soothes mex
There is something about todd that I can just never express in words. I hope you reach everyone who is going through these tough times. I have been in sadness of grief and I know it can be like stuck in quicksand. Love you so much!
I sat with my dad for a month before he died .We spoke alot and shared memories .It was sad when ,he decided he wanted to go into palative care .I asked bim ,whould he still look after me , he said he would. It was sad watching him in palative care , I put warm flannels on his eyes and played relaxation music. It was very peaceful, I am happy that I was able to be with him as he transition to the other side .He died the day after my Birthday.I miss him alot ,but I do get whispers from him . My dad had Polio since he was 21 ,and I was really happy that he was free and at peace.
After my son was born it felt like he'd always been in my life. When he died suddenly it was a shock to my sensibilities and felt like my heart had been ripped out. Grief is a road of despair and heartache that we all have to face and ride through. Its been years. I can now smile at the memories and from looking at photos. He was the best thing to happen in my life. A most beautiful, wonderful and love filled dream. Blessings
I just lost my son and my heart feels shattered. 💔 I pray everyday for acceptance and serenity and to be able to focus on the BIG picture. It's so hard. 😢
It took me 5 yrs to grieve the loss of my mum and it took her 3 yrs to die. We have no idea how hard death will be or how long it will take to move through it. It takes as long as it takes. We also have no idea how it will affect us until we actually have to face it. Sending you and your family love and kindness.
My step mother died of cancer. 12 months later I lost my father very suddenly. He died in my arms. In between that my mother had breast cancer. 13 months later all 3 of our dogs died within 8 months of each other. Life can be tough sometimes but the human spirit endures., ❤️
I can relate and I’m so sorry for your losses. I lost 5 members of my family in less than 18 months. My dad, stepdad, grandma, aunt and uncle. Then over the past two years, my mom and both of my dogs. I am still deeply grieving them all. Wishing you love and light.
Thank you for sharing. I just lost 2 very important people this year. My best friend of 17 years in February and my mom in April. I've yet reached acceptance. 😢 This is the most difficult journey of my life thus far.
Thank you Todd, I found you shortly after my daughter crossed at 23 due to a car accident. Today is the year anniversary of her death. You words always give me comfort and peace and will resonate and help me this day and beyond. Peace 🦋💛😇
I appreciate you a lot man, and I don't envy the pain you must have gone through in order to reach this level of self awareness, but I'm glad it turned out good for you and you can use it to help other people like me
I myself lost my mom my brother and sister and so many other loved ones but the worst grief of all was when I lost my 38-year-old son in 2019 an 8 months later my beautiful daughter 46 now that has made me and caused me to never be the same again but I know we all have to die one day some people don't even make it to my age of 69 my children didn't but only God knows the why I never will but I know God will call for me one day too as he will everyone and I'll be in the same place with them
I lost my dad from cancer a month ago, now last week lost my best girlfriend. I am very grateful they were part of my life, i will carry them in my heart forever ♥️😞
@@helenscott187 thank you thats very kind. I surely look back with happy memories! Also sending you lots of love and strenght for the loss of your father 🙏. Found out really taking the time for grief is very healing, i wish you the same.❤
Todd, you are so very precious. Your message is so timely. My mother is 100 years old and we take each moment as it comes. So much gratitude to you..Thank you, Todd.
Thank you Todd , you delivered this message beautifully. It’s something everyone needs to listen to . I always worry about how I will handle my emotions when I will loose someone very close me . I lost my grandmother some years ago , someone that I had a deep connection with . I grieved at different stages for this loss and sometimes still get tears when I think of her especially if I’m feeling vulnerable. I think loosing a mother , father , bother or sister will be a little a different to my grandmother. I love your taps Todd , please keep it up .!
I try to carry my grief with as much grace and dignity as I can; I mean that grief that I have not been able to let go of. I think that people can feel in my vibration that I’ve been badly hurt in a lot of ways despite having done a lot of work on myself to clear my vibration. I need to do something differently because I don’t have any friends or family.
That was beautiful. Prayers to you, your Dad loved one, and family. I’m approaching a year losing my husband and childhood sweetheart. The first months were a numbing, cold, blurr. Shock. Running on pure adrenaline. He looked so healthy. Heart attack. My grief is a chronic low grade fever, always there. I have emotional outbursts and I think if I felt the full pain of this horrific loss I would combust into sand.
Hello Janice. I'm in exactly the same situation. My husband was 59, appeared perfectly healthy and dropped dead of a heart attack in front of me, July 2018. It looked like a seizure but it was heart. I almost lost my mind with the grief. It was literally mind blowing, it felt like an out of body experience. Most of the time it felt more like insanity than grief. It does soften with time. I'm in control of when I cry, but I still cry. You will get through this. Sending you all my sympathy from New Zealand 🎉❤
May God hold you tight…. I am so sorry you have to go through such a nightmare. Funny use of words because I know this ‘life’ is merely a dream that is vivid and feels like a long time but it is still a dream… Prayers to you. 💖💖💖
So sorry for your loss. Three years in myself. A year in is still in the incredibly raw phase. I am better now, but it took time. Time to realize this is a new chapter in my life. To move forward but never forget or replace. Still have bad days. Maybe always will. Grief is very personal. It's your journey. Take it at your own pace. Peace be with you.
“In order to be free from grief, you would have to be free from love as well” ...Todd Beautifully and PROFOUNDLY said! Stay blessed, Todd. “When your body, ego and dreams are no more, you will know that you live FOREVER”....A Course in Miracles Robert from daytradingwiththelight
Thank You. All forms of physical duality are temporary..... WE...our formless true selves....the spark of Prime Creator Love is eternal with no past or future....no time. Always has been always will be.
Thank you for your beautiful honesty and the way that you describe this lifelong process. I love the way you spoke about the elephants; they are such amazing and loving creatures. I also love how you speak about our bodies as "costumes", that is so true. I feel the spirits of my mom, dad, and sweet baby, with me all the time and I am beyond grateful for their presence. I am sending you love and light through your grief, thank you for your guidance, it is truly a blessing.
Thank you Todd for sharing this experience and giving us the information to help us get through and heal after loss. I’m grieving my Mother still after almost 4 years and yes that pain never goes away in fact at times it seems worse when I think how long it’s been since I seen her. I understand fully and except that grief is forever. I will take everything you said and do my best to apply to my life. This is so true what you said about your loved one is inside you, with you all the time and giving you guidance. This is so obvious but I thought I was imagining. I do feel her with me always but it’s still so very hard. 😢❤thank you kindly for your wisdom. I’m so sorry for your grief. 😢
Thanks Todd . Have just discovered your channel .This is very beautiful and insightful. Having lost a few close freinds and family over the years and again recently . Ive been trying to come to terms in exactly the way you have said in this video and have found some comfort in this even in the midst of greiving. Thankyou so much .
Important and deeply expressed. To understand and face death is as good as we understand and meet life....in present, with knowingness that there's continuous eternal selves that we relate to... and their guidance and care is as accessible as we reach out for...in India it's time/ phase ( annually) when the gone are honoured, and offered, prayed for their well-being.
Thank you, Todd. This is such a meaningful tribute to love and impermanence for me. My most profound loss was my grandmother with whom my parents and I lived till I was 10. She felt like my true mother. Now arecently, my cat Harry passed away several months ago and he felt like my true son. It was so shocking and intense emotionally, like my heart was ripped from my chest. Others who saw me when I was so distraught looked frightened like they thought I might die. I was very sorry they had to see that but it was impossible to hold back. It was like a volcano erupting every day for more than 3 months. My husband cried because I cried. I was inconsolable. It's hard to know why two beings connect so strongly but it felt to me like a strong primitive need was being fulfilled between Harry and me. I've been one who meditated and journaled on impermanence so many times. I know that Tibetan Buddhists meditated on impermanence in the charnal grounds by visualizing decaying flesh as part of impermanence. I've practiced it also. I eventually tried visualizing Harry's body decaying...till it turned to dust and was blown away by the wind. It seemed to be the only way to accept that his physical form would never be next to me again. I've developed physical pain that I never had previously ever since Harry left his body. I understand how couples who were together many years die within a short time of each other. I'm sure it will be true for my husband and me as we've been together 40 years and we've been very close. Please know that I appreciate your humanity and your view of grief as love.
I just went through a very similar situation… we just buried my Dear. So love and light to you. Remember we planned our lives. So take the lesson as I have. No fear. Enjoy the good times. Feel the pain and learn from it. I love you.
with gratitude Todd, you have a gift and it is much needed in my life at this time while i grieve the sudden unexpected loss of my husband and less than a year later, the loss of my mom - you have a way of sharing wisdom that settles deeply in the heart
Hello Todd, You and your videos guided me through my grief, I’m still suffering aftershocks. And yes my grief will last as long as my wife is gone. But it does get better, you taught me that. I wish you Happiness, Good Health and Prosperity.
LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU SILENTLY CALMLY YET FIRMLY GUIDING US through all our difficulties. LOADS OF THANKS ❤ MAY THE LORD GOD 🙏 ✨️ 🙌 ❤️ 💖 💓 🙏 BLESS YOU FOREVER
❤️Sending much love and light to surround you and family through this difficult time. Gratitude for the wisdom you share🙏 Blessings to all on this amazing journey of Life❤️
Thank you very much for this video My girlfriend passed away to cancer 2 months ago, at the age of 28. I am trying to say to myself that she continues the life quest she has somewhere else and for me to "want" to have her here again is against what is her plan. Trying to navigate through the next months to come
loss my wife of 13 yrs to cerxix cancer tumor 8 1 23 within 3 mths was only 50 thinking it was menapause n butt pain :(.. we were together for 3 yrs 17 yrs ago n got back together..they gave us hope but never made it to the 1st chemo - i know your pain :(..
You reunite with your family and reincarnation or coming back to the earth is your choice to experience and evolve. Very few remember their prebirth memories but most of us forget when we grow up
Hi Todd, this is one of your best. Thank you for sharing and your wisdom. And I'm truly sorry for your loss. My wife and I have been dealing with estrangement from our oldest daughter (29) no contact for three years now. It's like a death and grieving is similar to your experience. Treating it as such has helped us grieve, accept and move on. There is always hope of reconciliation but the chance is less than 10% we've learned. Learning and accepting impermanence is key. It's a hard lesson to learn.
yes, true...grief can be as hard for a person you love but is avoiding you, or dont want you (loverelationship)....and maybe even harder grief!!! because the person is still alive, but dont want to connect.....sending you love and hope there will be a change for better! 💞
This is a video that everyone needs to watch, no matter what religion or spiritual path. What is being said is just the truth. The Buddha only said what is true about the nature of existence and suffering. Peace and enlightenment. May you all fulfill your deepest wish for happiness.
Yes, please keep commercials at the beginning or at the end - it’s very jarring to be listening to something so intimate and multiple obnoxious ads selling an alternative to coffee or how to flatten abs interrupts and intrudes on this sacred message.
“Music I heard with you was more than music, And bread I broke with you was more than bread; Now that I am without you, all is desolate; All that was once so beautiful is dead.” - Conrad Aiken
Some great points in this, but one thing really stood out in this moment, and that was the part about blame and forgiveness.... Everyone should check out the recent work of Dr Robert Sapolsky on free will. Essentially, to boil it down, there is none! This may sound scary at first, but really it can be liberating and it brings us towards a more just world if we can truly live by its implications. Blame, praise, and all the emotions that go along with them are completely changed when we realize that there isn't really free will. I like the recent podcast he did with Chris Williamson, if you need somewhere to start, but he's got many other interesting interviews. Look into it, and you'll certainly see this can apply to your spiritual journey as well as your philosophy of life! It is a great bit of knowledge to help with living a Taoist life of flow, which is my own personal way of going about it. Cheers and I really hope this can help with anyone grieving or in need!
When I was 22, I lost my uncle who was one of the most important people in my life... To this day, I have a single tattoo that I designed in honor of him, I wear a necklace that was his almost everyday for the last 18 years, and I live in a way that honors him. He was a drummer, and I still try to embody him every time I play myself. He was an artist, and I'm actually painting while listening to this video... I think it's safe to say his death has shaped my life almost as much as his life did... I can still feel sad about it at times, but truly could not call myself the man I am today were I not lucky enough to have known him. His death might have even made me a better person, because it truly awakened me to impermanence in a way that was completely mysterious before that. It feels as if it was an immense loss, but in some ways, I gained just as much in a different way. Hopefully me sharing this can help others who are finding struggle in grief... If you are reading this and suffering in any way, please comment and I'll share whatever words of wisdom I can...
Beautifully said we can honor tje ones we have lost by the way we live our lives My husband and i shared an incredible life together we brought out the best in each other played hard + worked hard shared everything so i have no regrets + know that i could not have loved him more he passed suddenly 7 years ago Truth is i am a better person for the loss of him miss him so much only one of our grand children had him as poppa he was a father figure to her and is so special to me because our love is so deep I hide the pain i feel every day Now my mum lies in bed in hospitalised care unable to move or do anything for herself so unhappy Am travelling to her but am powerless to do more than bathe her and love her So heartbreaking My mothers journey is what Den never wanted he got his wish
@adebimpekehinde9276 it is always rough losing loved ones. There really is no avoiding that. But there is ALWAYS opportunity that arises in a loss. As our expectations are shifted, we can eventually see that there is new knowledge waiting to be transformed into wisdom. It's not always easy to see at first. One place you can start is by asking yourself, what is the one thing I've never learned or tried to do that this person would have wanted me to? By taking the time you might have spent with this person and working towards that creative project or journey, you can honor their life and grow from the loss. Again, this isn't always easy, but it really does being a lot of meaning to your life and the process. Maybe there's a musical instrument or other art form they appreciated. Try taking that up. Artists often struggle to bring meaning to their creative endeavors, but you already have a head start when you come at it from this angle. You don't need to concern yourself with "being good" at the particular thing, because that's not what it's about. It's just a way to process the grief and turn it into something special to you. But you never know, you may just find a new joy in life. To this day, my art has always had more meaning because I know that the most important people that I've lost would have appreciated it. I hope that helps....
@jacquelincran3134 I just posted another reply that I think could apply to your situation and very much be helpful. I find creative practices as the best way to heal through pain. What I would try to avoid is hiding it. Pain is natural in these situations throughout our lives. But we don't have to hold it, if we can process it properly. From a very concrete biological perspective, pain is a circuit in the brain that strengthens when we feel it and believe that it's real. This is often why people feel "chronic" pain that isn't the result of an actual injury. There can be nothing wrong with the body, but because the brain believes that there is, we feel very real pain. I'm speaking from experience btw. I had terrible back pain for years that was healed simply by a shift in perspective given by a very good therapist (Dr Alan Gordon - see his book "the way out") Emotional pain works exactly the same way, in my experience. As long as you tell yourself you have a reason to be in pain, you will be. A shift in perspective is absolutely necessary. This comes from letting yourself feel it, maybe speak to someone about it, but then giving yourself permission to process it and let it go. Don't get me wrong, there will always be a sadness beneath it for having lost that person, but it won't be so painful once you've accepted the new reality. And if you take the advice of my previous comment, and find a creative endeavor that this person would have been happy to see you do, you will forever connect that loss to something positive. You will appreciate the gift of this new side of yourself that was cracked open by their loss. As for watching someone suffer in sickness, that's a very different thing that will never be easy in the moment. It sounds like you are doing what's best in just showing them that you care. Often that's all one can do. Having compassion isn't easy. It literally means "to suffer with" and hence can be very challenging. But that's also why it's such an important process to cultivate, and also why we optimistically call ourselves "humanity - the compassionate species" Hope that helps you through this a bit!
@@MattAngiono oh my goodness you have completely blown me away to care Can feel your compassion is real it is Anzac here and the trauma of veterans who are constantly made in these times is exactly that pain that you describe a pain that is imagined or remembered + takes that person completely into that traumatic experience so that their bodies respond as if they are right back in that very moment of suffering This is also what we live daily and Matt it is hidden beneath everything we do "Jobs must be held + the illusion created that alls ok??? Meanwhile loved ones are damaged daily the innocent familu members are absorbing the energy constantly... ( the knife edge of possible suicide and self harm that can present at any time when tiggered) I know what you are saying about the expansion of our heart space That is exactly why inside it feels like i have become a better version of myself The thing is life is not letting this intensity stop Matt so weird how my pain is for the ones i love am endevouring to walk that talk for them Thankyou so much for caring it gives a comfort i can not express + hope that we truely are evolving as compassionate humanity whatever come s next?
I've been being told that phrase, ..... im trying to understand it, I can see others possibly enduring my pain, and loss....... but, im not strong minded, tough, nor very mature. I'm really not handling this well., then to loose my Career job I loved for decades, was the last straw. I had coworkers, friends, structure, and purpose. I'm alone now with anxiety, insomnia, stress and..... depression. Lost all interests, hobbies, activities... im in such a scary dark place, mentally. Guilt, shock, regret, apathy.... self blame..... are not good company. 🙏for strength I im unaware of. Take care 🫶
@klanderkal Probably you needed to become stronger. You will understand why all this happened , in time. Maybe He needs you to become a soldier. I don't know His plan but His ways are truly misterios yet perfect at the end. He knows the end from the beginning and this is all I can say. Wish you the best , be strong, and trust Him. Have you seen that meme where Jesus holds a bigger teddy bear behind His back? Search for it if you did not. Hugs, keep the faith
@klanderkal I've went through same things as you only to understand He gave me so much peace at the end and a better life. If you need someone to talk just let me know. Being alone does not help we all need human comfort too
@@notimefornonsense722 Thank you for caring about me 🫶, ... Im unable to see any good at all, .... His ways are mysterious, that I do believe, I wanted to blame 🙏for not intervening, I wanted divine intervention, anything that could have helped me as I was so stressed with anxiety, no sleep, my brain was fried, and incapable of reason, and filtered negatively. I have begun to pray, and have had scriptures to read. I honestly don't enjoy living, my life instantly turned 180. From very happy, life loving, top physical shape..... to the opposite. I don't even want to workout, surf, swim, or even visit friends. I will look for Jesus and the teddy bear. T.Y. for the lv💕 . ... 🙏🫶💐
@@notimefornonsense722 oh wow😟you've had a similar experience! I always feel, I'm the only one, who has been crushed. I am Glad for you, that you received peace & a better life !!🫶... Yes, being alone sucks,... especially since I was a city bus driver, social interactions was a daily thing. Now, with depression,... im not good company, and I wallow in self pity, and only talk about my dilemma 😩. I'm so not the character I used to be. Thank you 🙏, You're human comfort is appreciated, T.Y. for your understanding, Also.... offering to talk. 💐
loss my wife of 13 yrs to cerxix cancer tumor 8 1 23 within 3 mths was only 50 thinking it was menapause n butt pain :(.. we were together for 3 yrs 17 yrs ago n got back together..they gave us hope but never made it to the 1st chemo
My mum was murdered by a drug addict, for just £10. She was 79 years old. He got 33 years in prison, and we got the life sentence. Anyone reading this, please make sure the final words you say to your parents is 'I love you. ' It really could be the last words you tell them x
Thanks for the question. I want to give it the time and thought it deserves. I will answer it in my newsletter so that others who have a similar question can hear as well
Source is what you already are naturally and it cannot be understood conceptually, you experience source as yourself., you just know that you are source, and that knowing is non conceptual. Its not a matter of trying to figure out how it was formed or where did it begin, because the harder you try to understand it , asking a lot of questions, you end in this cycle of trying to figure it over and over again and you will not no matter how hard you try. Source does not have a beginning or an end, the only conclusion i will give is simply unexplainable. Its a realization not an understanding ❤
If you or a loved one are going through grief, my new book, Grief and Spiritual Healing: Surviving Life After Loss, is out now on Amazon. I wrote this while going through my own tremendous loss, and I hope that the words will bring you some peace, comfort and healing. Available at a.co/d/hdnp1qS
For more on death, grief and loss, the documentary, The Miracle of Death, is also on UA-cam. Watch at ua-cam.com/video/7-WAMUxjlZUh/v-deo.htmlttps://ua-cam.com/video/7-WAMUxjlZU/v-deo.html
I was my mothers caretaker for the last 3 years of her life. She passed away in October of 21 and I’m still in deep grief. She was not only my mom but my best friend. I’ll always miss her and grieve her loss. My heart goes out to all who’ve lost one that they love so dearly. It’s the worst part of the human experience.
Sending love
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I'm so sorry. At least you had a mother who was a friend. I wish I could say the same.
So sorry to hear.
It is therapeutic to speak of these things. To share them. My greatest loss was my Father. My Mother was narcissistic and he was my rock. I miss him every single day ❤ Hugs to you!
Thank you Todd. I am grieving the death of my beloved dog. She was a beautiful light in my life. I feel lost and pray that her death has taken me to a new consciousness. Right now I just ache. Thank you so much for your words. ❤
Tomorrow we bury my 14 yr old nephew. He took his life. I have lost a my toddler and my husband years ago. The pain was so overwhelming!
It is so shocking it takes time just to realize the loss, alone.
Blessings to you Todd. You are such a timely blessing to so many.
God bless us all.
You have suffered so much loss 😢 I will light a candle for your family xx
My heart goes out to you
Love u so much , and I worry about loosing my mum or dad my dad been diagnosed with dementia and I have been in bad state I can't get my head around death I just can't believe we have this whole life and dissappear I don't want to be away from my family hearing your voice talking soothes mex
There is something about todd that I can just never express in words. I hope you reach everyone who is going through these tough times. I have been in sadness of grief and I know it can be like stuck in quicksand. Love you so much!
My compassion to you and thank you for sharing it ❤deeply thankful
I sat with my dad for a month before he died .We spoke alot and shared memories .It was sad when ,he decided he wanted to go into palative care .I asked bim ,whould he still look after me , he said he would. It was sad watching him in palative care , I put warm flannels on his eyes and played relaxation music. It was very peaceful, I am happy that I was able to be with him as he transition to the other side .He died the day after my Birthday.I miss him alot ,but I do get whispers from him . My dad had Polio since he was 21 ,and I was really happy that he was free and at peace.
After my son was born it felt like he'd always been in my life. When he died suddenly it was a shock to my sensibilities and felt like my heart had been ripped out.
Grief is a road of despair and heartache that we all have to face and ride through.
Its been years. I can now smile at the memories and from looking at photos. He was the best thing to happen in my life. A most beautiful, wonderful and love filled dream.
Blessings
I just lost my son and my heart feels shattered. 💔 I pray everyday for acceptance and serenity and to be able to focus on the BIG picture. It's so hard. 😢
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I'm so sorry and send you my deepest condolences.
May you be comforted. 🙏
@@selah71 and you as well 🙏
Sending love
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Mom and dad, I miss you so much. I am untethered and lost. Thank you for everything.
It took me 5 yrs to grieve the loss of my mum and it took her 3 yrs to die.
We have no idea how hard death will be or how long it will take to move through it.
It takes as long as it takes.
We also have no idea how it will affect us until we actually have to face it.
Sending you and your family love and kindness.
My step mother died of cancer. 12 months later I lost my father very suddenly. He died in my arms. In between that my mother had breast cancer. 13 months later all 3 of our dogs died within 8 months of each other. Life can be tough sometimes but the human spirit endures., ❤️
I can relate and I’m so sorry for your losses. I lost 5 members of my family in less than 18 months. My dad, stepdad, grandma, aunt and uncle. Then over the past two years, my mom and both of my dogs. I am still deeply grieving them all. Wishing you love and light.
My heart goes out to you
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Sending you love ❤❤
Thank you for sharing. I just lost 2 very important people this year. My best friend of 17 years in February and my mom in April. I've yet reached acceptance. 😢 This is the most difficult journey of my life thus far.
Sending love and light to you ❤
Thank you Todd, I found you shortly after my daughter crossed at 23 due to a car accident. Today is the year anniversary of her death. You words always give me comfort and peace and will resonate and help me this day and beyond. Peace 🦋💛😇
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I appreciate you a lot man, and I don't envy the pain you must have gone through in order to reach this level of self awareness, but I'm glad it turned out good for you and you can use it to help other people like me
I myself lost my mom my brother and sister and so many other loved ones but the worst grief of all was when I lost my 38-year-old son in 2019 an 8 months later my beautiful daughter 46 now that has made me and caused me to never be the same again but I know we all have to die one day some people don't even make it to my age of 69 my children didn't but only God knows the why I never will but I know God will call for me one day too as he will everyone and I'll be in the same place with them
Sending love and light to you. ❤
Just so soothing,so meaningful.Thank you Todd
I lost my dad from cancer a month ago, now last week lost my best girlfriend. I am very grateful they were part of my life, i will carry them in my heart forever ♥️😞
Just lost my own Dad. Sending you love and light for strength and happy memories ❤
@@helenscott187 thank you thats very kind. I surely look back with happy memories! Also sending you lots of love and strenght for the loss of your father 🙏. Found out really taking the time for grief is very healing, i wish you the same.❤
@@jvb7164 Thank you so much ❤
Thak you for your kind words. Your voice is soothing and healing to my soul ❤️
Beautiful. 🙏🏼❤️🌻
Todd, you are so very precious. Your message is so timely. My mother is 100 years old and we take each moment as it comes. So much gratitude to you..Thank you, Todd.
Thank you Todd , you delivered this message beautifully. It’s something everyone needs to listen to . I always worry about how I will handle my emotions when I will loose someone very close me . I lost my grandmother some years ago , someone that I had a deep connection with . I grieved at different stages for this loss and sometimes still get tears when I think of her especially if I’m feeling vulnerable. I think loosing a mother , father , bother or sister will be a little a different to my grandmother.
I love your taps Todd , please keep it up .!
Bless us all , the gone, the here and the yet to come in this beautiful yet painful sweet life. Much love to you all.❤❤ Thank you Todd.
Bless you as well 🙏💕🌈☮️
I try to carry my grief with as much grace and dignity as I can; I mean that grief that I have not been able to let go of. I think that people can feel in my vibration that I’ve been badly hurt in a lot of ways despite having done a lot of work on myself to clear my vibration. I need to do something differently because I don’t have any friends or family.
Sending love ❤
Having just lost my Dad this is beautiful and so helpful. Love you Todd. Thanks so much for everything you do ❤
That was beautiful. Prayers to you, your Dad loved one, and family. I’m approaching a year losing my husband and childhood sweetheart. The first months were a numbing, cold, blurr. Shock. Running on pure adrenaline. He looked so healthy. Heart attack. My grief is a chronic low grade fever, always there. I have emotional outbursts and I think if I felt the full pain of this horrific loss I would combust into sand.
I am so very sorry for your pain and loss, sending you love and light.
Hello Janice. I'm in exactly the same situation. My husband was 59, appeared perfectly healthy and dropped dead of a heart attack in front of me, July 2018. It looked like a seizure but it was heart.
I almost lost my mind with the grief. It was literally mind blowing, it felt like an out of body experience. Most of the time it felt more like insanity than grief.
It does soften with time. I'm in control of when I cry, but I still cry.
You will get through this. Sending you all my sympathy from New Zealand 🎉❤
May God hold you tight…. I am so sorry you have to go through such a nightmare. Funny use of words because I know this ‘life’ is merely a dream that is vivid and feels like a long time but it is still a dream… Prayers to you. 💖💖💖
So sorry for your loss. Three years in myself. A year in is still in the incredibly raw phase. I am better now, but it took time. Time to realize this is a new chapter in my life. To move forward but never forget or replace. Still have bad days. Maybe always will.
Grief is very personal. It's your journey. Take it at your own pace. Peace be with you.
“In order to be free from grief, you would have to be free from love as well” ...Todd
Beautifully and PROFOUNDLY said!
Stay blessed, Todd.
“When your body, ego and dreams are no more, you will know that you live FOREVER”....A Course in Miracles
Robert from daytradingwiththelight
Thank You. All forms of physical duality are temporary..... WE...our formless true selves....the spark of Prime Creator Love is eternal with no past or future....no time. Always has been always will be.
Ya, grief is tough, especially the loss of a child, which is forever.
Just so beautiful!!!!!
Good morning message..................
Thank you for your beautiful honesty and the way that you describe this lifelong process. I love the way you spoke about the elephants; they are such amazing and loving creatures. I also love how you speak about our bodies as "costumes", that is so true. I feel the spirits of my mom, dad, and sweet baby, with me all the time and I am beyond grateful for their presence. I am sending you love and light through your grief, thank you for your guidance, it is truly a blessing.
Thanks, that was comforting. I wanted to love her forever.
This came in the time I needed the most. How beautiful! Life is fleeting, grief is love!❤
Thank you for sharing this profound wisdom.
That's so sad, blessings to all
♡Thankyou so much for this gift comfort Todd♡
Sending love and blessings.🙏❤️ Thank you for your beautiful sharing.
Thank you Todd for sharing this experience and giving us the information to help us get through and heal after loss. I’m grieving my Mother still after almost 4 years and yes that pain never goes away in fact at times it seems worse when I think how long it’s been since I seen her. I understand fully and except that grief is forever. I will take everything you said and do my best to apply to my life. This is so true what you said about your loved one is inside you, with you all the time and giving you guidance. This is so obvious but I thought I was imagining. I do feel her with me always but it’s still so very hard.
😢❤thank you kindly for your wisdom. I’m so sorry for your grief. 😢
Thanks Todd . Have just discovered your channel .This is very beautiful and insightful. Having lost a few close freinds and family over the years and again recently . Ive been trying to come to terms in exactly the way you have said in this video and have found some comfort in this even in the midst of greiving. Thankyou so much .
Important and deeply expressed. To understand and face death is as good as we understand and meet life....in present, with knowingness that there's continuous eternal selves that we relate to... and their guidance and care is as accessible as we reach out for...in India it's time/ phase ( annually) when the gone are honoured, and offered, prayed for their well-being.
Just sending Love & strengh
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I'm so sorry to hear about your situation..sending best wishes ❤
Thank you, Todd.
This is such a meaningful tribute to love and impermanence for me.
My most profound loss was my grandmother with whom my parents and I lived till I was 10.
She felt like my true mother.
Now arecently, my cat Harry passed away several months ago and he felt like my true son.
It was so shocking and intense emotionally, like my heart was ripped from my chest.
Others who saw me when I was so distraught looked frightened like they thought I might die.
I was very sorry they had to see that but it was impossible to hold back.
It was like a volcano erupting every day for more than 3 months.
My husband cried because I cried.
I was inconsolable.
It's hard to know why two beings connect so strongly but it felt to me like a strong primitive need was being fulfilled between Harry and me.
I've been one who meditated and journaled on impermanence so many times.
I know that Tibetan Buddhists meditated on impermanence in the charnal grounds by visualizing decaying flesh as part of impermanence. I've practiced it also.
I eventually tried visualizing Harry's body decaying...till it turned to dust and was blown away by the wind.
It seemed to be the only way to accept that his physical form would never be next to me again.
I've developed physical pain that I never had previously ever since Harry left his body.
I understand how couples who were together many years die within a short time of each other. I'm sure it will be true for my husband and me as we've been together 40 years and we've been very close.
Please know that I appreciate your humanity and your view of grief as love.
I just went through a very similar situation… we just buried my Dear. So love and light to you. Remember we planned our lives. So take the lesson as I have. No fear. Enjoy the good times. Feel the pain and learn from it. I love you.
with gratitude Todd, you have a gift and it is much needed in my life at this time while i grieve the sudden unexpected loss of my husband and less than a year later, the loss of my mom - you have a way of sharing wisdom that settles deeply in the heart
Sending love
I am so sorry Todd. My heart aches for your loss that you articulated with perfection. This video was badly needed. THANK YOU!!!!! 💖💖💖💖
Thank you so much for sharing. Lost a most loved one a few month ago and the grief evolves and get more and more beautiful ... as you described it.
My heart goes out to you and your loved one and all who are coping with this. ❤❤
Thank you for inspiring us.
Thinking of you all Todd and sending you love
It's very powerful and beautiful. Thanks for the sharing Todd.
So good, thank you... ❤
Thank you.
Hello Todd,
You and your videos guided me through my grief, I’m still suffering aftershocks. And yes my grief will last as long as my wife is gone. But it does get better, you taught me that.
I wish you Happiness, Good Health and Prosperity.
i am deeply grateful for producing all these most wonderful full of wisdom
LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU SILENTLY CALMLY YET FIRMLY GUIDING US through all our difficulties.
LOADS OF THANKS ❤
MAY THE LORD GOD 🙏 ✨️ 🙌 ❤️ 💖 💓 🙏 BLESS YOU FOREVER
❤️Sending much love and light to surround you and family through this difficult time. Gratitude for the wisdom you share🙏 Blessings to all on this amazing journey of Life❤️
when you have never loved this deeply, this level of grief pays you no mind.. and trades off with millions of paper cuts of pain, instead…
Thank you very much for this video
My girlfriend passed away to cancer 2 months ago, at the age of 28. I am trying to say to myself that she continues the life quest she has somewhere else and for me to "want" to have her here again is against what is her plan. Trying to navigate through the next months to come
My heart goes out to you
loss my wife of 13 yrs to cerxix cancer tumor 8 1 23 within 3 mths was only 50 thinking it was menapause n butt pain :(.. we were together for 3 yrs 17 yrs ago n got back together..they gave us hope but never made it to the 1st chemo - i know your pain :(..
@@beatleme2 sending you much power my friend
You are not alone
I hope we can reincarnate with loved ones forever 😭 God bless you Todd 🙏
and I hope that there is no reincarnation...why do you need another life of experiencing grieve and suffering?
You reunite with your family and reincarnation or coming back to the earth is your choice to experience and evolve. Very few remember their prebirth memories but most of us forget when we grow up
“Yes, you will have bad times, but they will always wake you up to the stuff you weren’t paying attention to."
- Robin Williams (Good Will Hunting)
Really does leave us question everything
Thank you for this ❤
Thank you so much for this. Sending you my condolences🙏❤️
Hi Todd, this is one of your best. Thank you for sharing and your wisdom. And I'm truly sorry for your loss.
My wife and I have been dealing with estrangement from our oldest daughter (29) no contact for three years now. It's like a death and grieving is similar to your experience. Treating it as such has helped us grieve, accept and move on. There is always hope of reconciliation but the chance is less than 10% we've learned. Learning and accepting impermanence is key. It's a hard lesson to learn.
yes, true...grief can be as hard for a person you love but is avoiding you, or dont want you (loverelationship)....and maybe even harder grief!!! because the person is still alive, but dont want to connect.....sending you love and hope there will be a change for better! 💞
Thanks!
Thank you so much for your generosity 🙏
Wow 🎉😢 thank you!!
Big hug and loving thoughts sent to you and your family at this time. ❤Thank you for your wisdom x
Very comforted by this video. Love and blessings. 💙🙏
Thank you Todd for your words.
This is a video that everyone needs to watch, no matter what religion or spiritual path. What is being said is just the truth. The Buddha only said what is true about the nature of existence and suffering. Peace and enlightenment. May you all fulfill your deepest wish for happiness.
Thanks for this video Todd, it really touched my heart ..
Thank you Todd💙🙏
Brother, can you make a video on-I have significant issues with confidence, social anxiety, and shyness.
From my side, you can enter this query.
Thanks for the suggestion
Yes, please keep commercials at the beginning or at the end - it’s very jarring to be listening to something so intimate and multiple obnoxious ads selling an alternative to coffee or how to flatten abs interrupts and intrudes on this sacred message.
“Music I heard with you was more than music,
And bread I broke with you was more than bread;
Now that I am without you, all is desolate;
All that was once so beautiful is dead.”
- Conrad Aiken
❤ what I learnt about grief is to be kind to yourself sounds selfish but it’s not.
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I will always remember. Love is eternal.
Lost my best friend this year. Was a reality check, becuz he died so young. Never thought I would have to deal with grief like this. But this is life…
My heart goes out to you
Some great points in this, but one thing really stood out in this moment, and that was the part about blame and forgiveness....
Everyone should check out the recent work of Dr Robert Sapolsky on free will.
Essentially, to boil it down, there is none!
This may sound scary at first, but really it can be liberating and it brings us towards a more just world if we can truly live by its implications.
Blame, praise, and all the emotions that go along with them are completely changed when we realize that there isn't really free will.
I like the recent podcast he did with Chris Williamson, if you need somewhere to start, but he's got many other interesting interviews.
Look into it, and you'll certainly see this can apply to your spiritual journey as well as your philosophy of life!
It is a great bit of knowledge to help with living a Taoist life of flow, which is my own personal way of going about it.
Cheers and I really hope this can help with anyone grieving or in need!
When I was 22, I lost my uncle who was one of the most important people in my life...
To this day, I have a single tattoo that I designed in honor of him, I wear a necklace that was his almost everyday for the last 18 years, and I live in a way that honors him.
He was a drummer, and I still try to embody him every time I play myself.
He was an artist, and I'm actually painting while listening to this video...
I think it's safe to say his death has shaped my life almost as much as his life did...
I can still feel sad about it at times, but truly could not call myself the man I am today were I not lucky enough to have known him.
His death might have even made me a better person, because it truly awakened me to impermanence in a way that was completely mysterious before that.
It feels as if it was an immense loss, but in some ways, I gained just as much in a different way.
Hopefully me sharing this can help others who are finding struggle in grief...
If you are reading this and suffering in any way, please comment and I'll share whatever words of wisdom I can...
Hello, I would like share my part with you. I lost my mum just a month ago, It's has really been tough for me psychologically
Beautifully said we can honor tje ones we have lost by the way we live our lives
My husband and i shared an incredible life together we brought out the best in each other played hard + worked hard shared everything so i have no regrets + know that i could not have loved him more
he passed suddenly 7 years ago
Truth is i am a better person for the loss of him miss him so much only one of our grand children had him as poppa he was a father figure to her and is so special to me because our love is so deep
I hide the pain i feel every day
Now my mum lies in bed in hospitalised care unable to move or do anything for herself so unhappy
Am travelling to her but am powerless to do more than bathe her and love her
So heartbreaking
My mothers journey is what Den never wanted
he got his wish
@adebimpekehinde9276 it is always rough losing loved ones.
There really is no avoiding that.
But there is ALWAYS opportunity that arises in a loss.
As our expectations are shifted, we can eventually see that there is new knowledge waiting to be transformed into wisdom.
It's not always easy to see at first.
One place you can start is by asking yourself, what is the one thing I've never learned or tried to do that this person would have wanted me to?
By taking the time you might have spent with this person and working towards that creative project or journey, you can honor their life and grow from the loss.
Again, this isn't always easy, but it really does being a lot of meaning to your life and the process.
Maybe there's a musical instrument or other art form they appreciated.
Try taking that up.
Artists often struggle to bring meaning to their creative endeavors, but you already have a head start when you come at it from this angle. You don't need to concern yourself with "being good" at the particular thing, because that's not what it's about.
It's just a way to process the grief and turn it into something special to you.
But you never know, you may just find a new joy in life.
To this day, my art has always had more meaning because I know that the most important people that I've lost would have appreciated it.
I hope that helps....
@jacquelincran3134 I just posted another reply that I think could apply to your situation and very much be helpful.
I find creative practices as the best way to heal through pain.
What I would try to avoid is hiding it.
Pain is natural in these situations throughout our lives.
But we don't have to hold it, if we can process it properly.
From a very concrete biological perspective, pain is a circuit in the brain that strengthens when we feel it and believe that it's real.
This is often why people feel "chronic" pain that isn't the result of an actual injury. There can be nothing wrong with the body, but because the brain believes that there is, we feel very real pain.
I'm speaking from experience btw.
I had terrible back pain for years that was healed simply by a shift in perspective given by a very good therapist (Dr Alan Gordon - see his book "the way out")
Emotional pain works exactly the same way, in my experience.
As long as you tell yourself you have a reason to be in pain, you will be.
A shift in perspective is absolutely necessary.
This comes from letting yourself feel it, maybe speak to someone about it, but then giving yourself permission to process it and let it go.
Don't get me wrong, there will always be a sadness beneath it for having lost that person, but it won't be so painful once you've accepted the new reality.
And if you take the advice of my previous comment, and find a creative endeavor that this person would have been happy to see you do, you will forever connect that loss to something positive.
You will appreciate the gift of this new side of yourself that was cracked open by their loss.
As for watching someone suffer in sickness, that's a very different thing that will never be easy in the moment.
It sounds like you are doing what's best in just showing them that you care.
Often that's all one can do.
Having compassion isn't easy.
It literally means "to suffer with" and hence can be very challenging.
But that's also why it's such an important process to cultivate, and also why we optimistically call ourselves "humanity - the compassionate species"
Hope that helps you through this a bit!
@@MattAngiono oh my goodness you have completely blown me away to care
Can feel your compassion is real it is Anzac here and the trauma of veterans who are constantly made in these times is exactly that pain that you describe a pain that is imagined or remembered + takes that person completely into that traumatic experience so that their bodies respond as if they are right back in that very moment of suffering
This is also what we live daily and Matt it is hidden beneath everything we do
"Jobs must be held + the illusion created that alls ok??? Meanwhile loved ones are damaged daily the innocent familu members are absorbing the energy constantly... ( the knife edge of possible suicide and self harm that can present at any time when tiggered)
I know what you are saying about the expansion of our heart space
That is exactly why inside it feels like i have become a better version of myself
The thing is life is not letting this intensity stop Matt so weird how my pain is for the ones i love am endevouring to walk that talk for them
Thankyou so much for caring it gives a comfort i can not express + hope that we truely are evolving as compassionate humanity whatever come s next?
I'm so sorry Todd ❤
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❤️ I my thoughts 🙏
Jesus wept 😢 nothing more natural from the human heart❤🔥
It will be 4 months in October that my mom went to Heaven. She had breast cancer. I miss her so much 😞🙏💜
Sending love
God never gives us more than we can take😢
I've been being told that phrase, ..... im trying to understand it, I can see others possibly enduring my pain, and loss....... but, im not strong minded, tough, nor very mature. I'm really not handling this well., then to loose my Career job I loved for decades, was
the last straw. I had coworkers, friends, structure, and purpose. I'm alone now with anxiety, insomnia, stress and..... depression. Lost all interests, hobbies, activities... im in such a scary dark place, mentally. Guilt, shock, regret, apathy.... self blame..... are not good company. 🙏for strength I im unaware of. Take care 🫶
@klanderkal Probably you needed to become stronger. You will understand why all this happened , in time. Maybe He needs you to become a soldier. I don't know His plan but His ways are truly misterios yet perfect at the end. He knows the end from the beginning and this is all I can say. Wish you the best , be strong, and trust Him. Have you seen that meme where Jesus holds a bigger teddy bear behind His back? Search for it if you did not. Hugs, keep the faith
@klanderkal I've went through same things as you only to understand He gave me so much peace at the end and a better life. If you need someone to talk just let me know. Being alone does not help we all need human comfort too
@@notimefornonsense722 Thank you for caring about me 🫶, ... Im unable to see any good at all, .... His ways are mysterious, that I do believe, I wanted to blame 🙏for not intervening, I wanted divine intervention, anything that could have helped me as I was so stressed with anxiety, no sleep, my brain was fried, and incapable of reason, and filtered negatively. I have begun to pray, and have had scriptures to read. I honestly don't enjoy living, my life instantly turned 180. From very happy, life loving, top physical shape..... to the opposite. I don't even want to workout, surf, swim, or even visit friends. I will look for Jesus and the teddy bear. T.Y. for the lv💕 . ... 🙏🫶💐
@@notimefornonsense722 oh wow😟you've had a similar experience! I always feel, I'm the only one, who has been crushed. I am Glad for you, that you received peace & a better life !!🫶... Yes, being alone sucks,... especially since I was a city bus driver, social interactions was a daily thing. Now, with depression,... im not good company, and I wallow in self pity, and only talk about my dilemma 😩. I'm so not the character I used to be. Thank you 🙏,
You're human comfort is appreciated, T.Y. for your understanding,
Also.... offering to talk.
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❤FROM INDIA
loss my wife of 13 yrs to cerxix cancer tumor 8 1 23 within 3 mths was only 50 thinking it was menapause n butt pain :(.. we were together for 3 yrs 17 yrs ago n got back together..they gave us hope but never made it to the 1st chemo
Sending love
@@ToddPerelmuter thank you
My mum was murdered by a drug addict, for just £10.
She was 79 years old. He got 33 years in prison, and we got the life sentence. Anyone reading this, please make sure the final words you say to your parents is 'I love you. ' It really could be the last words you tell them x
im so attached to some people
In other words , grief is the egos way of not allowing it's own death.
Find out who/what is experiencing the grief. Then you are free. ❤
What are your thoughts on seeing your loved ones when it's your timevto leave this world, palliative nurses say it happens
Thanks for the question. I want to give it the time and thought it deserves. I will answer it in my newsletter so that others who have a similar question can hear as well
How do you know we come from stores and we return to source? What is your evidence and why do you use that term?❤
Source is what you already are naturally and it cannot be understood conceptually, you experience source as yourself., you just know that you are source, and that knowing is non conceptual. Its not a matter of trying to figure out how it was formed or where did it begin, because the harder you try to understand it , asking a lot of questions, you end in this cycle of trying to figure it over and over again and you will not no matter how hard you try. Source does not have a beginning or an end, the only conclusion i will give is simply unexplainable. Its a realization not an understanding ❤
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