How To Stop Caring What People Think Of You (3 powerful tips)

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  • @JulienHimself
    @JulienHimself  3 роки тому +7

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  • @KyleLahner
    @KyleLahner 6 років тому +29

    I totally agree with the first point. Most ppl aren't thinking about you at all, their thinking about what you think about them.

  • @fruitkid4759
    @fruitkid4759 6 років тому +97

    Great video !
    1. No body gives a fuck
    2. Disapproval is speculation- who truly knows you but you
    3. Caring about disapproval or approval is flawed. Once you get approval you fear losing it again . Dope
    - be aware of social feedback and act accordingly but don't let approval or disapproval determine your self worth

  • @Noir0rioN
    @Noir0rioN 2 роки тому +156

    "You care a lot less about what people think of you once you realize how little they do."

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  2 роки тому +20

      Yes! 👌

    • @kaustik185
      @kaustik185 Рік тому +4

      is that a mike skinner quote right there ? :D

    • @eldante4139
      @eldante4139 2 місяці тому

      It might have been said by Mike Skinner, but it’s not a Mike Skinner quote per se. The quote goes back to at least 1936

  • @badass1g
    @badass1g 6 років тому +207

    It’s cool to see your transition from full game mode to helping people live better lives on a deeper level.

  • @aquao5372
    @aquao5372 4 роки тому +46

    I need this right now, I seek outside validation sooo much, and honestly it doesn’t matter!
    I was a slave to approval but I’ve decided to stop caring!

    • @VioFax
      @VioFax Рік тому +3

      Ive left so many stupid chat rooms and social circles i used to would have put up with abuse from for years, just for a taste of approval. Its easier to just cut it off and find something else to do. Ive been more productive, and10 times happier just not being in an environment where I was seeking approval but afraid to even speak my mind. To hell with it I ACTUALLY was able to quit once I disconnected from the "network". I have better stuff to do now. I would rather be by myself than be surrounded by soul suckers and shit-lords. And ive been more comfortable finding other social situations that don't require me to sit in my computer all day and stroke peoples ego and pretend not to be bothered by blatant insults and social bullying.

  • @masculinechristian186
    @masculinechristian186 5 років тому +15

    Thanks Julien! I was a SLAVE to the opinions of bosses, girlfriends, and just random people for YEARS! And I never got ahead.

  • @nathananderson8720
    @nathananderson8720 Рік тому +4

    This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 2 months ago about self development. Now I have 145 subs and almost 75 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.

  • @FerrelFrequency
    @FerrelFrequency 6 років тому +14

    Dude...so simple what you said., but you just solved my biggest problem and in less than 20 minutes. I could never thank you enough, for real.

  • @sandsmine
    @sandsmine 5 років тому +3

    heard this inhibition comes from thousands of years of living in small hunter gather groups when everyone knew everyone and this trait stays with us to this day that these complete strangers are within our circle and within the group you must behave.

  • @BuddyLeroyBoerkoel
    @BuddyLeroyBoerkoel 6 років тому +10

    The second one resonates with me a lot. Paradigm shift right there, no one knows you not even you.

  • @dariopl8664
    @dariopl8664 2 роки тому +7

    I'm profoundly in gratitude with you Julian 😭

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  2 роки тому +4

      Thank you! Glad this was so helpful! 🙏🙏

  • @RSDMaximilian
    @RSDMaximilian 6 років тому +312

    If there's someone who can really teach how to stop caring about other people then it's you haha gg

    • @gradius12
      @gradius12 6 років тому +2

      wp

    • @WWG1WGATRUMPISKING
      @WWG1WGATRUMPISKING 5 років тому +1

      Yup he's got that xfacor

    • @profess1219
      @profess1219 3 роки тому +9

      Ya, i need a guy in a gucci hoodie to tell me about not needing outside approval

    • @Noir0rioN
      @Noir0rioN 2 роки тому

      @@profess1219 savage

    • @Kevin-kj5th
      @Kevin-kj5th Рік тому

      @@profess1219😂

  • @bdizz19
    @bdizz19 6 років тому +41

    Soo crazy I started telling myself people dont give a fuck about me so I would stop being paranoid! this was like months ago and now its just a little voice that brings confidence to walk down the street haha real talk! Anyways!
    Hope you guys can see this one day also!!

    • @GoogleAccount-po1gl
      @GoogleAccount-po1gl 6 років тому +6

      Yes! Also whispering out loud to yourself things like "why am I giving a fuck? Im not doing anything horrible, so who cares" helps me when I start getting self-conscious or nervous about mundane stuff.

    • @bdizz19
      @bdizz19 6 років тому +1

      Exactly!! It’s awesome too see Julian talking about it now, it’s just showing me we’re all connected. It’s up to us to make the difference 👏👏👏🧐

    • @midoria772
      @midoria772 3 роки тому

      But doesn t get to the cause

  • @jayjones9225
    @jayjones9225 6 років тому +27

    As a person who has lost 60 pounds over the course of the last several months it’s true that it does feel good to get more looks on the street or compliments from friends and family, but what Julien is saying is completely true and it’s something we all need to keep working on. Negative seeming comments and negative feelings can linger in your head but you need to fight through them and feel good about yourself. Work on yourself and take positive feedback but don’t let anyone stifle your journey and don’t waste time on what a friend or stranger said that might have hurt your feelings. It doesn’t really matter in the long run. Take advice but don’t worry about aligning up to anyone else’s goals for their life.

    • @jayjones9225
      @jayjones9225 6 років тому

      Haha yeah I was a fatty and nothing wrong with that

    • @zunicougar8829
      @zunicougar8829 6 років тому

      Amen. I seesaw on my weight but I swore when I was stoned that I lost a few pounds in my head. That was after I added chlorella to my milkshake from the orange julius at the food court.

    • @VoidDweller86
      @VoidDweller86 2 роки тому

      @@jayjones9225 The magnitude enigma of self hatred can be a very deep thing, I am just speaking for myself.

    • @gojisandhu
      @gojisandhu Рік тому

      Congrats with the weight loss!

  • @elysola-hernandez7525
    @elysola-hernandez7525 2 роки тому +5

    The things we hate about other people tend to be the things our parents railed on us about. We internalize those things as negative even though they're just opinions. This means those people you hate are like you except they haven't been taught to hate that part of themselves. They hate completely different parts of themselves and judge other types of people.

  • @martinhristov4476
    @martinhristov4476 2 роки тому +15

    how i stopped caring - do and say the most absurd things until other people's opinions about you don't phase you anymore, BAM you become happier

    • @Nelson-lh2bk
      @Nelson-lh2bk 2 роки тому +1

      Is that why you hide behind the drawing of a girl?

  • @kobeshoot
    @kobeshoot 6 років тому +13

    Father J you are the best! Keep crushing it! You are a blessing to our times!

  • @life-the-right-way
    @life-the-right-way 6 років тому +3

    The book, the subtle art of not giving a fuck has the concept of getting comfortable being uncomfortable... THIS concept seems to relate to this video!
    Awesome video Julien!

  • @bestever6879
    @bestever6879 Рік тому

    The best way is to quit social media, cause when you don't use it, you naturally just forget about what other people are doing....
    Start going on long walks by your self and wow

  • @junito2899
    @junito2899 2 роки тому +2

    These fears men have will always stifle their true potential…. You picked a good niche to foster the introverts

  • @itswhatyoumakeit6950
    @itswhatyoumakeit6950 5 років тому +6

    Julien, you are such a gift to me, from me and....Jk. but everyone around me is grateful for your vids, talks, motivation, and guidance! Everything I've seen so far, really aligns and resonates with me!!! 😁👥🙋✨💞

  • @OwenCookFreeTour
    @OwenCookFreeTour 6 років тому +99

    Great feedback on TMA this week congrats man. And great vid! -Tyler

  • @allesgutnatur
    @allesgutnatur 6 років тому +6

    bro the end part with the movement is awesome. a consciiusness raising and freeing group i loe what u did here i was so waiting for people to put out positive visions. love it keep going this way

  • @VakoCavender
    @VakoCavender 5 років тому +7

    Julien is like the social god of our time

  • @hesohit
    @hesohit 6 років тому +3

    Can’t wait for the second month of TM academy. I don’t even do the challenges I just like the videos

  • @KJT3000
    @KJT3000 6 років тому +7

    LOL, his outfit encompasses so many genres. It's a smorgasbord of style. Hit em with it all Julien

  • @hyemuhyemu8221
    @hyemuhyemu8221 Рік тому +1

    1:27 Actually they do when you're very attractive. I get stares up and down, looked at like a zoo animal, alot of smiles and people follow me, try to talk to me, sit next to me, invade my personal space. I wish noone cared though and i was invisible

  • @africaart
    @africaart 5 років тому +9

    Wow, very liberating. I felt free from tip #2

    • @JkComedy444
      @JkComedy444 2 роки тому

      I know I just read it on the comment above all three things but the second thing really hit me like I only know myself nobody else does and me knowing myself matters to me many people most likely don’t know themself doesn’t matter to me though just matters what I know I am good and bad qualities just like everyone else that’s all

  • @ash_luscious
    @ash_luscious 2 роки тому

    No one really gives a fuck abt someone else( it seems ppl only care when it interferes w their goals -conflict)
    From my experience: always remember your worth

  • @syedadeelhassan8590
    @syedadeelhassan8590 5 років тому +4

    Thankyou so much . Thankyou soch much u r amazing . I was so depressed of my life . I thaught every thing wrong in my life is cause of me but no its not like that .

  • @KarolynAndrea
    @KarolynAndrea 6 років тому +35

    I’ve watched this so many times. I love this message.

  • @TobyGoTv
    @TobyGoTv 2 роки тому +2

    I am a former marine and i notice everyone. I was trained to do that, that’s what i need to learn to let go.

  • @ChessMasteryOfficial
    @ChessMasteryOfficial 6 років тому +24

    How much videos should people make about this topic for people to stop caring?

    • @kingsidorak
      @kingsidorak 6 років тому

      Father J cares. Pray to Father J.

    • @timtrocke
      @timtrocke 6 років тому

      Here’s something new ua-cam.com/video/GWlWQWaTdUw/v-deo.html

  • @divviesthirdstream3938
    @divviesthirdstream3938 6 років тому +5

    Put it on double the speed so that he can get to the point! ❤️

    • @davecirlclux
      @davecirlclux 6 років тому

      And miss Julian's cool speaking style? No way
      I watch this shit on slow mow

  • @StrongMightyandFree
    @StrongMightyandFree 2 роки тому +1

    Amazing content. I love that I don't matter. Always loved to be the fly on the wall; as long as i don't get swatted against the wall.

  • @TheGoldenMan99
    @TheGoldenMan99 6 років тому +6

    On a logical standpoint what you say makes sence. Nevertheless it's really hard for me to live out your points. I trying to become aware of them in my everyday life, but that's easier said than done.
    Thanks for the great video.

  • @jaredbellard2777
    @jaredbellard2777 6 років тому +8

    I'm pretty sure all you guys have been through an Iboga and/or Ayahuasca ceremony. You all look unlocked.

  • @adambailey3257
    @adambailey3257 4 роки тому

    Finally some one without verbal dihorrea.

  • @CommandoMaster
    @CommandoMaster 6 років тому +45

    Everybody is a narcissist.

    • @CommandoMaster
      @CommandoMaster 6 років тому +14

      People's judgements on you is just their perspective of themselves onto you.

    • @releasethefrogs
      @releasethefrogs 6 років тому +9

      Narcissism is technically, if you want to get totally 100% truthful and exact, which definitely doesn't hurt, the LITERAL INABILITY to perceive anyone or anything as being important in your reality except oneself. Like there are people who actually don't have that ability. So not everyone is a narcissist. Just trained to be self-absorbed. Hope you take this comment in the friendly way its intended.

    • @AndyPoons
      @AndyPoons 6 років тому +1

      @@releasethefrogs narcissism is on the rise and taking a strong effect on western people. Social media is partly to blame for sure. But it's also a sort of evolutionary adaptation to society. True full blown narcissists are suffering from trauma which then leads to them displacing it into others and making them feel their pain. All in all stay the fuck away from them, you cannot help them and LSD is a great way to have an ego death if you yourself feel you care too much or have an inflated ego and feel very self absorbed. Hope that helps

  • @0xnpctim
    @0xnpctim 3 роки тому +5

    Bro from time to time I get into my head. This video is like a cup of cool water waking me up from a dream. My mind wants to play tricks on me. Thanks for clearing up my perspective.

  • @dimitrie17
    @dimitrie17 2 роки тому

    some priceless pieces of advice there.. shame only few people will get to this

  • @settingmypathoftruelife3713
    @settingmypathoftruelife3713 6 років тому +2

    Thank ya'll so much.

  • @williamwalkeratkinson2196
    @williamwalkeratkinson2196 4 роки тому +2

    Thanks great content
    I'm enjoying another day
    As I do everyday
    It's all good

  • @LifesGuideToExcellence
    @LifesGuideToExcellence 6 років тому +2

    Don't focus on other people's opinions and instead focus on what makes you happy.

  • @galdevina1224
    @galdevina1224 5 місяців тому

    Thank you Julien!

  • @natanelyosef8301
    @natanelyosef8301 6 років тому +2

    Wow the TMA clip is EPIC!
    And video is great as well of course

  • @thebelt24
    @thebelt24 4 роки тому +3

    9:23 So I don't usually watch RSD videos anymore since you guys deleted virtually all the old vids but I have to say this is so spot on. Today I had a manager/friend at work call me a white knight for criticizing his angry reaction to a girl (employee) who wasn't performing her required duties. White knighting is for r/niceguys and incels but I recognized him calling me a white knight was coming from a place of insecurity because I knew that my manager knew she was into me, and I know that it makes him envious. It annoyed me so much because I knew this perception was flawed as I'm not into her, but I didn't know how to explain this realization until I watched this video.

  • @sidneysmith3426
    @sidneysmith3426 6 років тому +2

    1. Believing that no one gives a shit about you is a hard mindset for certain people for example like you had mentioned if you’re a celebrity like Brad Pitt people are constantly on your ass and their living is based around what their fans think of them. So it is hard to just be yourself. And in certain culture like African culture is so much based on appearance. When I went there people would constantly make comments about how I dress and wouldn’t even accept me because of it sometimes

  • @forestpump3
    @forestpump3 6 років тому +3

    You have the best intro.

  • @d.j.6881
    @d.j.6881 6 років тому +1

    This is gold. Thanx Julien.

  • @thosetimes6625
    @thosetimes6625 Рік тому

    Thank you for the knowledge.

    • @eddiew2325
      @eddiew2325 11 місяців тому

      Your welcome my friend I love u so much

  • @apdo6028
    @apdo6028 5 років тому +3

    People don't think about you because they are busy thinking about themself.

  • @alexanderworkchannel
    @alexanderworkchannel 6 років тому +2

    Great info - Thanks

  • @bjaxstriker5245
    @bjaxstriker5245 6 років тому +5

    For tip 1 what if you have something that makes you visibly different? I'm blind and use a cane, and I get people watching me all the time. I know because people, on a regular basis, think it's within their rights to grab me without even speaking to me or shout directions to places I may or may not be going to. Guess just focus on the other 2 then?

    • @rohitdas1669
      @rohitdas1669 6 років тому

      But probably 1 minute after that interaction they probably have forgotten about your existence

    • @bjaxstriker5245
      @bjaxstriker5245 6 років тому

      Rohit Das Haha yeah or at least long term they would, this is true.

    • @greenli9551
      @greenli9551 6 років тому

      @@bjaxstriker5245 they would forget you in max 8 hours

    • @Lavidadeyari
      @Lavidadeyari 2 роки тому

      How could you typed this if you are blind ?

    • @bjaxstriker5245
      @bjaxstriker5245 2 роки тому

      @@Lavidadeyari Voiceover for iPhone. Under settings > accessibility. Or any screen reader on a computer. Edit: Also whatever the Voiceover equivalent is on Android; I don’t own one but plenty do.

  • @crazyqban
    @crazyqban 6 років тому +3

    This is G O L D

  • @davecirlclux
    @davecirlclux 6 років тому +4

    6:00 but not all people forget things. Especially not in GOT. After all
    *"The North remembers!!!"*

  • @lilteddyfragrancereviews7272
    @lilteddyfragrancereviews7272 6 років тому +1

    That Taxi cab James Bond bit was great!!

  • @TheMrprobadass
    @TheMrprobadass 6 років тому +5

    Read The Four Agreements

  • @kolos4650
    @kolos4650 6 років тому +4

    This simple frame is surprisingly powerful and liberating. #TaxiCabDriver29

  • @inombo
    @inombo 5 років тому

    Yes I am black, but I want you all to know that this guy is a real nigga nothing but 💯
    Listen to him. I watched few of his videos already

  • @mariusvasile6543
    @mariusvasile6543 6 років тому +3

    keep up the good work!

  • @ronakrathod9142
    @ronakrathod9142 5 років тому +1

    Sir you should surely write a book one day

  • @kareemmohammed5270
    @kareemmohammed5270 6 років тому +1

    healing words

  • @AA-hg5fk
    @AA-hg5fk Місяць тому

    I've spent so much time trying desperately to win the approval of others, the more I try to do it the more stupid I look. No longer will I crave the validation of others, it's desperate and completely unnecessary.

  • @killezan8347
    @killezan8347 5 років тому +2

    Haha now heres a fancy way to think about it thanks for helping me solve this problem

  • @Selfmades1im
    @Selfmades1im 5 років тому

    Thank you julien

  • @morominaolenmina
    @morominaolenmina 6 років тому +4

    Does meditation helps in this problem about caring what other people care? Meditatiom what i have heard it reprogram your brain defaulting your lizard brain fight or flight response what other people think what i am doing...

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  6 років тому +2

      Oh yeah! Check out the meditation I personally do here in TM Academy: transformationmasteryacademy.com

    • @AndyPoons
      @AndyPoons 6 років тому

      Yes. Meditation can fix just about anything within yourself

    • @husseinfaiz3397
      @husseinfaiz3397 5 років тому

      Its helps massively, but important you do it with the right mindset.

  • @heiker4442
    @heiker4442 4 роки тому +1

    2.- 7:19
    3.- 12:20

  • @visioncr5132
    @visioncr5132 5 років тому +4

    Now I will do that 5 pushups on street and report back!!

  • @OneRankHigher
    @OneRankHigher 6 років тому +4

    Does anyone know the name of the song used in the intro? Amazing

  • @danielwolfe7933
    @danielwolfe7933 6 років тому +6

    Whats cool is if you do 5 pushups in the middle of the street, you are making other people become more interesting simply because they now have an interesting topic to talk about to somebody else...at least...for 5 seconds max haha

    • @henrique-3d
      @henrique-3d 6 років тому

      true hahah... such a shitty life ppl have right?

  • @paulmocan7324
    @paulmocan7324 6 років тому +1

    ty Guru Julien,have a good day mr! :D

  • @DMandalini
    @DMandalini 6 років тому +1

    Nice video short and sweet big time advice

  • @10010011001100110101
    @10010011001100110101 6 років тому +11

    9:05 profound

  • @illegal_notes
    @illegal_notes 6 років тому

    Thanks Julien

  • @pililagorda9148
    @pililagorda9148 6 років тому +3

    Vamoos Rafa!

  • @EpureCristian7
    @EpureCristian7 6 років тому +2

    intro song ? sounds amazing

  • @royal.artz13
    @royal.artz13 6 років тому +3

    Yo man much respect for droppin that real shit!!!!

  • @Burnout300z
    @Burnout300z 6 років тому +3

    Sounds like the beginning of a fight club

  • @c.principal4797
    @c.principal4797 5 років тому

    YOU ARE A FUCKING GENIUS, SIR. SOCIAL GENIUS!

  • @MsFitVegan
    @MsFitVegan 6 років тому +3

    So good!!!!!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆✔️

  • @lucasj8948
    @lucasj8948 6 років тому +1

    Great content dude

  • @timeisntreal
    @timeisntreal 6 років тому +6

    Want to know the full proof way of not caring of what others think?!??!? You stop caring about what they think 🤯

  • @ashfaquehoque
    @ashfaquehoque 6 років тому +4

    Julien is a true scorpio!

  • @vincentburger516
    @vincentburger516 2 роки тому +2

    Haha I know Julien from being banned.. Amazing the content you make right, really impressed! You take all the self help advice out there (+ a lot of Jung) and really create it into something comprehensive. I salut you!

  • @GraphicsAwesome
    @GraphicsAwesome 6 років тому +5

    Julien rocking that gucci hoodie! Hoping for a great vid

  • @mocbellini
    @mocbellini 5 років тому

    I like that style

  • @bradc7002
    @bradc7002 4 роки тому +1

    That intro was gas

  • @d.radford273
    @d.radford273 5 років тому +3

    So EPIC!!!!!

  • @eliotglassier5848
    @eliotglassier5848 4 роки тому

    Thanks 🙏

  • @josephludwig1126
    @josephludwig1126 4 дні тому

    And some times, that person is actually worse than you thought.

  • @myon9431
    @myon9431 2 роки тому

    The first one really isn't true for everyone though...
    So this video doesn't really work for me.
    Some people have stalkers, most don't, but for those of us who do how should we feel?

  • @elmerwowop7983
    @elmerwowop7983 3 роки тому

    This is my fav clip

  • @konstantinosfekas624
    @konstantinosfekas624 6 років тому +26

    I like how you are dressed in expensive cloths ans you talk about spiritual and esoteric matters. Spiritual people can be succesful and rich too not in a cave meditating! Or that if it makes them happy

    • @bdizz19
      @bdizz19 6 років тому +2

      Guys don’t let Julians expensive ass prolly borrowed or old sweater get you distracted. We all know we would wear it if we had it too!

  • @10010011001100110101
    @10010011001100110101 6 років тому +2

    Great vid dad

  • @alf3071
    @alf3071 6 років тому +3

    Sick beard bro, you're becoming Tyler :))

  • @adiron9501
    @adiron9501 2 роки тому

    Liked the ad at the end of the video even more then the actual video 😂

  • @alf3071
    @alf3071 6 років тому +1

    Julien has his shit to the point

  • @traicyarciniega7824
    @traicyarciniega7824 2 місяці тому

    There's people who get obsessed with making your life a living a hell though. So what about how to stop caring about what sick individuals do to you?