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  • @JulienHimself
    @JulienHimself  Рік тому +10

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  • @robertandersson3824
    @robertandersson3824 Рік тому +68

    It's sooooooo freeing and relieving when you finally "stop caring"

  • @walteregana9489
    @walteregana9489 11 днів тому +3

    I have struggled to be myself for years, cant even remember the last time i felt really comfortable in my skin. It's been a struggle. It's amazing we are here now, thankz julien, you good

  • @Lone_Star86
    @Lone_Star86 Рік тому +60

    This video should be shown to kids in school so they never suffer like i did all my life people pleasing.

    • @skunkgucc
      @skunkgucc 7 місяців тому +8

      Schools really don’t care about preparing you for life 🤦🏾‍♂️

  • @Shleni
    @Shleni Рік тому +98

    Heyyy there !! Julien...I'm Shalini from a very small village of india...i have been watching your video for 17or 18 days and honestly man my mind is being so care free...and you won't believe that this is my first comment of my life I'm doing on...actually your made me do this .thank you man from the bottom of my heart❤

  • @MementoTurtle
    @MementoTurtle Рік тому +67

    Here is a summary of the key points from the video:
    1. Most people try to control how they come across to get approval from others. But this backfires - people see through it and it makes you appear less confident. Instead, stop betraying yourself and hiding parts of who you are.
    2. Don't worry so much about what others think or try to control their thoughts. You can't please everyone, so don't betray your true self to do so. Embrace freedom of speech and thought, even critiques of you.
    3. Life is not as serious as we make it out to be. Learn to laugh at yourself - have inside jokes, be willing to embarrass yourself and go into the cringe. This builds confidence.
    4. Underneath the need to control is a lack of trust in life and other people. Examine where this distrust comes from via introspection.
    5. Make being your true, authentic self the goal - not some supercharged external version of you. Harness all your emotions and moods, not just happy ones.
    6. Visualize yourself as the hero of your own life movie. Play, use imagination, create - don't just consume entertainment passively. Get bored sometimes rather than constantly distracting yourself.
    7. Let go of control, embrace unpredictability and chaos. See life as an action-packed video game you are immersed in. Make every year epic by living fully.
    8. Stop waiting for a magical perfect ending. There is no "happily ever after" - embrace the messiness of life. Collect as many bold memories as you can.
    9. Self-love comes from releasing self-hate, not surface level affirmations. Identify and resolve sources of distrust in yourself so you can unlock authentic confidence.
    Made with AI by taking the video transcript to chatgpt.

    • @zombiebean6191
      @zombiebean6191 2 місяці тому +3

      Love that you credit chatgpt 😂

    • @Darren-z5g
      @Darren-z5g 4 дні тому

      Yes mate that’s a great idea I love that . I asked chat to review a d j mix and in seconds gave me a very accurate assessment (of some mistakes 😉)I wonder if it could track I’d dance tracks from mixes 👍

  • @RZmovement
    @RZmovement Рік тому +14

    Those are the stuff kids should learn at school not the crap they are filled with it today,this is golden

  • @qwuantum
    @qwuantum Рік тому +46

    I am so much more confident by just one thing that you said: letring go. I stopped being focusing on having certain "confident" body language, I let go of neediness of people validation and I don't care that even my present friends will stop like me, I let go of trying talking with people who really don't care about me . Also I accepted being alone and myself and that helped me also

    • @mindsetmotivation9124
      @mindsetmotivation9124 Рік тому +2

      Good for you man. I agree, society paints it as high status body language and wanting to be approved of. It's ridiculous, why not just be who you naturally are and not care about fitting in.

    • @Miaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
      @Miaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Рік тому

      hey , do you have any tips to actually let go ? I've tried but cant actually do it

    • @mindsetmotivation9124
      @mindsetmotivation9124 Рік тому

      @@Miaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa imagine your gonna die every day and it's your last day on earth when you have those thoughts. Sounds silly but it works try it.

    • @ismahanttc6248
      @ismahanttc6248 2 місяці тому

      ​@@Miaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayou can try to do the opposite of what you want to be perceived as for example if you want to be perceived as smart next time you talk say something stupid on purpose , if you want to be perceived as beautiful next time go out trying to look your worst , don't even brush your hair . When you do that you ll discover that all your fears were lies and that will help a lot ,it s a good starting point but I know it s not the end ,I'm also on this journey

  • @RealStructure
    @RealStructure Рік тому +13

    I wish you THE BEST. These videos are ESSENTIAL for everyone not just for people pleasers or low confident people. just THANK YOU JULIEN.

  • @Bobi-kw5ec
    @Bobi-kw5ec 11 місяців тому +5

    Love him being bold, real, raw and honest and relatable

  • @TMCoachJonathan
    @TMCoachJonathan Рік тому +9

    Yes. And love the chainmail battle gloves. Battling the false beliefs that society, and we, put on ourselves

  • @liana7529
    @liana7529 Рік тому +72

    your videos are the main ones i have ever watched that ACTUALLY help me progress forward. I overcame a good amount of my social anxiety because of you, thank you Julien 🙏

  • @wesleycooper6775
    @wesleycooper6775 Рік тому +7

    Julian taught me so much in my self help journey. I think a common goal of mine would be to be happy; and knowing what that means. A lot of people use that counterproductive advice to “be happy”, but never follow up what that means. To me, to be happy is to do the things you love. Doing the things that ultimately give you joy; the gym, reading, yoga, etc. Doing these things continually made me see that the stuff I looked for acceptance, a girlfriend, a nice car and stable job, the less those needy distractions came to be when I was having a damn blast with my life. It made me question and ponder the idea of, if I’m genuine and happy with everything I’m doing, does anything else really matters much as it did???? Not really :) god bless

  • @arjan1569
    @arjan1569 Рік тому +11

    I've made a lot of progress on undoing a lot of conditioning with the help of these videos and others, but every few months or so I need a reminder and this video was that. Thank you as always Julien.

  • @logeshwaran5963
    @logeshwaran5963 Рік тому +6

    When someone body shaming us, anger should kick up actually. But instead emotions kicks up for me. How to let go of that resistance, Julien.

    • @G7x433
      @G7x433 Рік тому +4

      Anger kicks up only when you are out of sadness or apathy. Gotta let go of much supressed feelings first. And then your reaction will be naturally fitting

  • @strawboss9849
    @strawboss9849 Рік тому +7

    I have to say you are doing a lot of good for a lot of people. I lost my way maybe 25 years ago, and I’m starting to feel a little more myself these days. Keep up the outstanding work!

  • @arthurmurfitt7698
    @arthurmurfitt7698 Рік тому +7

    Guy in the front row gets a lesson in learning embarrassment is simply a reaction. Life ain’t so serious 😊

  • @jamiewilliams8107
    @jamiewilliams8107 11 місяців тому +12

    Never look for acceptance and approval as that's giving away your power

  • @ItIsWithin
    @ItIsWithin 10 місяців тому +3

    I found this channel like a week ago, this channel will have had 10+ million sub if people cared about their deep desire their life more than games and where to find the next dollar from

  • @jeremiahduke3602
    @jeremiahduke3602 Рік тому +5

    You are the GOAT!! Helping out so many people is a blessing for real. I feel fortunate to have found your UA-cam channel. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • @inplane9970
    @inplane9970 Рік тому +10

    I relate so much with the "mental numbing" part. People who work in retail and customer service often have to live like this for hours-on-end because customers don't like seeing the real people that employees are. Customers just want perfect service with a perfect smile and a perfect attitude. Until we can fix this issue as a society, there will always be people having to put on the mask daily because their entire career requires them to be fake.

  • @rishabhprajapati8423
    @rishabhprajapati8423 Рік тому +18

    Here's a nuance to "Who cares what other people think of you! No one can approve or disapprove you":
    - Logically I agree that you should not have any emotional charge ( or get triggered) whenever you feel threatened on what will other people think of you for the words you speak or the course of action/behaviour you just put out.
    - But it's also true that you have to be open for feedback because it's so easy to end up on either extremities (I listen to everybody AND I don't give a damn what other people think of me).
    It's like you should not care of what other people think of you but you should also be socially calibrated. Let's say in a social group, you have something to say that you found in a self-help book and you truly believe it's true and it makes sense to put it out there because of the context of conversation. Now most people who don't read self-help books, somewhere subconsciously believe that people who read self improvement books are somewhat losers. People reading those books can also feel that other people somewhere think that self-help readers are somewhat losers. Now if I alter what I'm about to say by dumbing it down and get rid of all self-help jargon so that it's easier for them to understand, am I socially calibrating myself or became a slave to other peoples opinion of myself?
    Also, second nuance is that: Sure you shouldn't care of what other people think of you. But if you keep telling yourself "I don't care what they think", even though deep down you care or say you have emotional charge or subconsciously care about what they think of you, it'll be just like working on an effect rather than cause. So the actual question is "Why do you care what other people think of you?" rather than forcing the right answer.

    • @enricooliveri3061
      @enricooliveri3061 Рік тому +1

      For the "dumbing it down so that people understand" part, you're clearly socially calibrating because otherwise you wouldn't have said it

    • @eddiew2325
      @eddiew2325 Рік тому +1

      @@enricooliveri3061 dude you think your sooop smart

    • @enricooliveri3061
      @enricooliveri3061 Рік тому

      @@eddiew2325 it was a genuine question

    • @mhaluuun93
      @mhaluuun93 Рік тому

      this is why self help is so dumb.

    • @gregh_777
      @gregh_777 Рік тому +2

      Just do what you want man. If people don't fuck with it, find people that do or just find enjoyment in being on your own and not having to deal with people's shit. It's that simple.

  • @Siyabonga.T.Mazibuko
    @Siyabonga.T.Mazibuko Рік тому +2

    You're my God, you're my father, you're my brother ,you're my mentor and you're my uncle😢😢😢❤❤❤

  • @phunkymind23
    @phunkymind23 Рік тому +4

    Ever since I was diagnosed with epilepsy, I've changed my mindset to go out and do the things that would've held me back every time before (primarily because of SUDEP). I've loved every choice I've made since because it gives me new places to go, new people to meet, and something to look back on. I always listen to people, no matter what they're talking about. Even if it's something I have no interest in, I can use that information to help me engage with others who are interested in that topic. Adopting just the art of listening and engaging will take you far.

    • @andremorales4848
      @andremorales4848 Рік тому

      Much respect for grabbing life by the balls… or the pussy, whichever you vibe with more lol… keeping up this attitude and behavior you’ll have many awesome stories to share with people making you the guy girls want to grab by the balls lol😂

  • @appuwa69
    @appuwa69 Рік тому +2

    Julien and Mark Manson. The duo world needs!

  • @arthurmurfitt7698
    @arthurmurfitt7698 Рік тому +5

    Holy crap that last line is so obvious yet so elusive. 🤯
    Thank you, Julien! 🤩

  • @bozgaming333
    @bozgaming333 Рік тому +9

    By far the best fucking ensemble julien has ever fucking worn. Although that blue wizard jacket with the stars does go hard.

  • @organichealthsovereignty5855

    “ Its not something u turn on. Its who u r
    Don’t change urself. Embrace urself”

  • @allgtg3
    @allgtg3 Рік тому +11

    You have your own battles and you choose to teach others and walk others through life. It’s inspiring. Thank you.

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  Рік тому +6

      Thank you! And you are so welcome... I'm glad my content resonates with you!

    • @NickKautz
      @NickKautz Рік тому +2

      One day we'll find out that Julien is actually an escaped mental patient and we've been listening to the unhinged ravings of a mad man..... yet benefitted more than he intended.

  • @jackrendall
    @jackrendall Рік тому +12

    Awesome video Julien! Appreciate your content bro it's helped turn my life around recently! Thanks man! Been watching your videos the last couple weeks and it's changed how I approach life already; sure there's still a lot of work to be done on my end but it's kickstarted something positive I didn't even realise I needed until I stumbled along your vids! Cheers man!

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  Рік тому +6

      Amazing to hear! Congrats on your progress so far! 🙏

  • @SouhailEntertainment
    @SouhailEntertainment 4 місяці тому

    Introduction: Controlling How You Come Off - 00:00
    Hiding Yourself Lowers Confidence - 00:19
    Why Caring About Judgments Is a Trap - 02:04
    The Importance of Authenticity - 03:12
    Letting Go of Control and Trusting Yourself - 04:33
    Self-Amusement and Laughing at Yourself - 06:55
    The Power of Inside Jokes and Lightness - 07:22
    Embracing Embarrassment and Pushing Boundaries - 09:37
    Breaking Out of Comfort Zones - 09:54
    Trusting Life and Letting Go of Control - 10:58
    Be the Hero of Your Own Movie - 16:36
    Living Life as an Adventure, Like a Video Game - 17:37
    The Dangers of Numbing Yourself to Life - 19:57
    Creating Core Memories Through Living Fully - 21:25
    Honoring Your Younger Self - 22:46
    Trusting Yourself and Practicing Self-Love - 26:44
    Stop Consuming and Start Creating - 28:18

  • @cstrongman
    @cstrongman Рік тому +1

    People have something to say about what you do, but they don't have to live with the consequences... You do. So be yourself, because you're the one who's going to have to live with yourself.

  • @ronschick8384
    @ronschick8384 7 місяців тому +1

    Wow this guy rocks!!What great common sense knowledge a real world advice!!Heis teachings should start in elementary schools to high school because kids need a lot more of this in life then social studies or home economics!!Live the advice

  • @G7x433
    @G7x433 Рік тому +1

    People forgot on an emotional level that life can be exciting and fun

  • @nikolastojanovic7629
    @nikolastojanovic7629 Рік тому +5

    Man..great,great great, im gonna finnish my first big documentary film because of you, and hopefully send it to you,to watch and enjoy ! you are awakening my innerchild in me.thanks!!

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  Рік тому +3

      Glad this video resonated with you! 🙌

    • @RoxanneRock
      @RoxanneRock 4 місяці тому

      How’s the documentary going?

  • @ThunderStormMalamute
    @ThunderStormMalamute Рік тому +10

    That was simply amazing. Great speech 🎉

  • @juscog
    @juscog Рік тому +6

    This was great bro. you speak with such honesty and come from a place of being grounded.

  • @bat-amgalanbat-erdene2621
    @bat-amgalanbat-erdene2621 10 місяців тому

    This is exactly how I thought back when I was 19 20 yo. Thanks for reminding me my life philosophy! Looking back I was making core memories almost every single week when I was at that age.

  • @zaki25shaikh
    @zaki25shaikh 10 місяців тому

    Thanks for the free therapy sesh as always Julien.

  • @GoodasCoffee
    @GoodasCoffee Рік тому +2

    17:34... Stellar explanation process!

  • @calvincruzada1016
    @calvincruzada1016 Рік тому +84

    "a little tight" ayyYYOO!

    • @popeboi172
      @popeboi172 Рік тому +4

      😂that sound crazzy

    • @eddiew2325
      @eddiew2325 Рік тому +2

      AYOO PAUSE

    • @Rliss99
      @Rliss99 Рік тому

      jajajaja 😂

    • @hiperego
      @hiperego Рік тому

      Not many people there understood it lol

    • @Cocopuffypuffs.
      @Cocopuffypuffs. Рік тому

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Good one Julien

  • @eromaniuk1086
    @eromaniuk1086 Рік тому +1

    This is totally a metaverse where you totally are the embodiment of Rick Sanchez ! Love it ! Nice cover Rick !

  • @hawwu7627
    @hawwu7627 Рік тому +1

    It is a big deal what people think of you if you're lonely.
    It's all fun and games until you realize you are not enough to satisfy your need for connection.

    • @G7x433
      @G7x433 Рік тому +1

      Loneliness is a feeling you can let go of. Actually the needyness. And afterwards you will be fine alone. And magically other people will feel your abundance and be drawn to you

  • @MysteryDoorStudio
    @MysteryDoorStudio Рік тому +3

    A new Julien skin has been unlocked! Noice.

  • @abenezer-w7z
    @abenezer-w7z Рік тому +2

    julien himself this is abenezer himself 🧐 from ethiopia and i thank you so much for making my life easier and for teaching me to be myself i mean himself 😄. i wish you good of everything.

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  Рік тому +1

      You're so welcome! Glad my content has been helpful! 🙏

  • @ggez5883
    @ggez5883 Рік тому +5

    Thank you for this much of valuable content . Im a young man trying to learn social skills and increase my social status, please give me some advice or something

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  Рік тому +2

      I'd suggest starting here: www.highvibecommunication.com/hvc 👌

  • @eytschmaen
    @eytschmaen 10 місяців тому +1

    True genius who looks like a fashion victim but I don't give a damn and neither does he. Just be real and don't forget to play. Thanks Julian!

  • @dudewat212
    @dudewat212 Рік тому +1

    Julien rockin’ that Teezo Touchdown fit.

  • @shayanbeyrooti9633
    @shayanbeyrooti9633 Рік тому

    It really is amazing how acting on your ideas and working on them have made my life much better! Thanks Julien

  • @icysurfer1
    @icysurfer1 Рік тому +3

    Lovely, as usual, Julien...

  • @dennis.kovács
    @dennis.kovács Рік тому +1

    Regardless of freedom of speech, I still don't think that we should simply dismiss the impact words can have on others. It shouldn't just become an excuse of saying whatever, having to put up with potentially hurtful behavior or even guilt-tripping people into believing that it's not okay to feel upset or bad about it. We still have certain degree of personal agency and it goes both ways. I think and feel a lot of stuff about random people too, but I don't just act upon fleeting and oftentimes deceptive emotions and judge people that I don't truly know.

  • @katorharry8699
    @katorharry8699 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for your videos. It has really helped me a lot overcoming anxiety and boosting my confidence and self esteem

  • @flyboy7981
    @flyboy7981 Рік тому

    Julien, just wanted to say thank you.

  • @justchillgee
    @justchillgee Рік тому +3

    Love the outfit❤

  • @queenjee8570
    @queenjee8570 Рік тому +1

    I needed this reminder Julien❤🙏🏾

  • @andremorales4848
    @andremorales4848 Рік тому

    I thought you were talking to me when you were pointing out someone touching themselves… and no it wasn’t because of your hair or your smile or the shape of your head but because of that outfit… seriously gave me a little woody.. I’ll definitely be hiring you for some fashion coaching 😂

  • @steppingrazor5081
    @steppingrazor5081 Рік тому +1

    Great video Julien. Can you put this audio on your podcast?

  • @Ms_3sam3
    @Ms_3sam3 Рік тому

    Wow, you’ve come so far julien

  • @arthurmurfitt7698
    @arthurmurfitt7698 Рік тому +1

    God, I love your seminars, Julien! ❤️💯😎

  • @Rliss99
    @Rliss99 Рік тому +3

    Julien's the best

  • @simondayan2737
    @simondayan2737 Рік тому

    Just fun helpful videos it's funny how insanity is same thing all over again vs being unpredictable funny and authentic is actually scarier.

  • @bozgaming333
    @bozgaming333 Рік тому +4

    Fuggin Julien lookin like a character out of world of warcraft. Those bracelets give him +10 defense. 😂 OMFG. He's wearing crocs. That is fucking unreal. LOL

  • @Aleks_Mechanics
    @Aleks_Mechanics Рік тому +1

    Notification SQUAD!! Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥

  • @pyru4208
    @pyru4208 Рік тому +3

    you do good job

  • @LASMONN
    @LASMONN Рік тому +2

    I hide my confidence to look charming and nice.
    But in reality i'm just a disgusting fake people pleaser..

  • @destroyraiden
    @destroyraiden Рік тому

    When trying to be uninvolved with others think of you it also moves into how the group around you thinks of you like for instance I told my sibling when I found their fancy special dishes in the dishwasher that they're hand wash only says so on the underside well later that day I over heard the sibling saying how this concern I showed for their fancy dishes was to their POV was me bitching about them washing their stuff wrong which in turn had their half of the family thinking I now bitch a fit if they hurt & destroy their own things.
    Lesson I'll let them destroy their own things if the sibling is so unaware as to put hand washed items into a machine they get the result that will result whatever it is. It sucks and was hurtful this sibling thinks this way & couldn't see the concern what they saw is complaining/bitching which seems to be their mindset on anything you tell them that isn't a compliment or a fun idea or invite to something.

  • @lucaberg8789
    @lucaberg8789 Рік тому +1

    omg. I asked myself so many times why youre wearing sunglasses. finally the big reveal.

  • @ericappreviews3989
    @ericappreviews3989 Рік тому +3

    I was there! 😎👊 I volunteered but looked too eager 😂

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  Рік тому +2

      Thanks for making it out in person!! 🔥👊

  • @armo9612
    @armo9612 Рік тому +1

    How dare you!!!
    My bad
    Just got me crazy 😂?😂?

  • @SocialDeviant_
    @SocialDeviant_ 3 місяці тому

    I have one question, where did you get those mittens, or are those sleeves?

  • @haanaja1691
    @haanaja1691 Рік тому

    Thank you thank you thank you 🙏

  • @jakline09
    @jakline09 Рік тому +4

    Hell yea 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @JaypeeJames
    @JaypeeJames Місяць тому

    Love this

  • @MynameisPadre
    @MynameisPadre Рік тому

    Is Julien coming to Dallas or did I just miss it?

  • @chummchumm-_-2920
    @chummchumm-_-2920 Рік тому +1

    Is having this,uncontrollable all day about everything ADHD? Or?

  • @xxulmi
    @xxulmi 3 місяці тому

    I love his crazy outfit it reminds me of me how I wear crazy outfits 😂

  • @eyjele
    @eyjele Рік тому +1

    I unironically love your outfits.

  • @KakashiHatake-sg8ym
    @KakashiHatake-sg8ym Рік тому

    I never commented under his videos until I heard baldurs gate 3. i love baldurs gate ahhhh

  • @datchhp9080
    @datchhp9080 Рік тому +1

    13:07

  • @lukeclaydon6670
    @lukeclaydon6670 10 місяців тому

    Great 👍

  • @ludsayuri3847
    @ludsayuri3847 5 місяців тому

    omg this look is giving
    ✨ Lady Gaga ✨ and I'm here fot it 💁💅
    I can even hear the ✨MOMOMOMO✨ 💁

  • @delroycemctreelint486
    @delroycemctreelint486 Рік тому +1

    baldurs gate is so freaking good

  • @crazy-caleb
    @crazy-caleb Рік тому

    Don’t play god with other people’s emotions or thoughts🎉

  • @creativemindloveworks
    @creativemindloveworks Рік тому +1

    What if you have a psycho parent who just steal your energy you need to grow and find the path

  • @MelodyKabue
    @MelodyKabue Рік тому +2

    My greatest inspiration❤️❤️❤️

  • @valttersaarikalle2599
    @valttersaarikalle2599 Рік тому +1

    This is fucking deep shit.
    But I think everyone who is prone for anxiety or overthinking should biohack hormones, neurotransmitters and micronutrients.

  • @asimmatoo92
    @asimmatoo92 Рік тому +2

    First one❤

  • @5thgrdrz
    @5thgrdrz Рік тому +2

    do you wear crazy outfits to defy social anxiety?

    • @psychologynerd7280
      @psychologynerd7280 Рік тому +1

      just to be himself

    • @Noor-sl5ep
      @Noor-sl5ep Рік тому +1

      I think the point is. He doesn't let things control him and make him reactive. So he does and wears stuff other people wouldn't

    • @sumgi1537
      @sumgi1537 Рік тому

      @@Noor-sl5epactually, going out of your way to wear a clown outfit to defy social norms is VERY reactive 💀

    • @jamesmccloud7535
      @jamesmccloud7535 Рік тому +1

      @@sumgi1537 You can look at it that way. But he might just be doing it here deliberately for educational purposes, to show as an example to others who care way too much about how they look

    • @Noor-sl5ep
      @Noor-sl5ep Рік тому +2

      @@sumgi1537
      I understand what you are trying to say but defying social norms isn't what he is after

  • @isayawhaat1634
    @isayawhaat1634 7 місяців тому

    broadly applicable does not always equal successful so why be a people pleaser?

  • @MikeTrysome
    @MikeTrysome Рік тому +1

    My zeisty teacher

  • @joshmuirhead1154
    @joshmuirhead1154 Рік тому +3

    Shiaaat everything you say makes sense, but dam I struggle so much letting go of the self hate, and caring about particular people’s opinions. Been doing this so long that my turtle shell has become hardened and constantly reacting in the same old way. When my crush talks to me my heart rate beats so fast that I become retarded.

    • @vasudevsarvam6912
      @vasudevsarvam6912 Рік тому

      😂😂😂

    • @G7x433
      @G7x433 Рік тому +1

      I can absolutely relate. When you start letting go you will feel how your hard shell will beginn to vanish. It needs time but it’s worth 💯

    • @joshmuirhead1154
      @joshmuirhead1154 Рік тому

      @@G7x433 ok, I’m gonna stick with it! You don’t feel like you fall back into your old (un)comfort zone?

    • @G7x433
      @G7x433 Рік тому

      Hey@@joshmuirhead1154
      absolutely not. you will just feel default different. Imagin a Situation where anxiety would come up. In my case even in the supermarket with other people. Now im walking through supermarket relaxed as at home thinking about what i need. You will be suprised how those feelings you let go just leave for ever. Im absolutely amazed. But it was a tough time for me to went through those feelings. i had a lot of supressed feelings. But it was the best thing ive ever done. And im very happy with results. i feel more and more like the kid i once was. carefree and light.
      i would recommend to check out sedona method course from 1991. its free and you can learn a lot. helped me really well

  • @עודאחד
    @עודאחד Рік тому +4

    the gloves stole the show cant even concentrate on the content

  • @rackyella
    @rackyella Рік тому

    is that crocss? 🙂

  • @Pluzoel_Dashmi
    @Pluzoel_Dashmi Рік тому +1

    4th one!!

    • @JulienHimself
      @JulienHimself  Рік тому +2

      🔥👊

    • @Pluzoel_Dashmi
      @Pluzoel_Dashmi Рік тому +1

      @@JulienHimself OMG u first time replied to my comment me so happy😭😭😭

  • @tasvvir
    @tasvvir Рік тому

    The Truth 🙏♑📿

  • @Spryte0-0
    @Spryte0-0 Рік тому

    He looks like a New York quidditch player

  • @Champidy
    @Champidy Рік тому

    Whats up

  • @GoodyOnYT
    @GoodyOnYT 10 місяців тому

    lol that apparel thoughXDXD

  • @josephisaround
    @josephisaround Рік тому

    Nice outfit tday

  • @Jules-740
    @Jules-740 Рік тому +1

    What IF there are legit reasons to care what people think? What IF you DON'T have a foundation of social norms and zero etiquette and manners? What if you grew up in a dysfunctional place where you don't even know how to interact? Exaple like if you dont't even know how to say hello or greet people?

    • @jimmyjasmine8801
      @jimmyjasmine8801 Рік тому

      You just answered your own question. Literally just say hello and 9/10 times they’ll say hello back and the rest is history. Not even trying to be a wise ass. Literally just say hi to everyone you come across. Learned this from his friend Owen cook. It works wonders.

    • @Jules-740
      @Jules-740 Рік тому

      @@jimmyjasmine8801 So use the word "hello" ok. This is a good start! 👍 btw this was just an example. But i always say hello to people and it just ends there.

    • @jimmyjasmine8801
      @jimmyjasmine8801 Рік тому

      @@Jules-740 maybe you’re energy levels are low and you’re forcing it . When I do it , I’m usually in a good mood and I’ll be like “hey how’s it going” and they’ll usually have a conversation with me. Try it out but come from a good vibration.

    • @Jules-740
      @Jules-740 Рік тому

      @jimmyjasmine8801 Yea it happens the same whether im in good or bad mood. I just need to keep learning. Thank you👍